How I Stayed in a Relationship Through a Serious Diagnosis | Breast Cancer Survivor

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  • Опубликовано: 18 сен 2024
  • Over the years, I have gotten many questions about relationship advice for couples dealing with a serious diagnosis, so I decided to make a new video with more of my thoughts. Remember that my advice about breaking up is more for people who are dating and not in a marriage (because that was our situation at the time). I do think a lot of other things in this video can be helpful for people who are in more committed relationships though!
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Комментарии • 38

  • @SamanthaL
    @SamanthaL  2 года назад +1

    Other video (with Gray) about how cancer affected our relationship: ruclips.net/video/PrMnAKbZz0s/видео.html

  • @aliceschmid9697
    @aliceschmid9697 Год назад +2

    I thinkwhat makes you both so excellent is that 1. you are very smart, 2. Very verbal and very honest. That is a rare and unbeatable combination.

  • @wendycayless
    @wendycayless 2 года назад +6

    You two are both incredibly mature and sensitive humans.

  • @lindacraig5056
    @lindacraig5056 2 года назад +3

    You are really lucky to have a man like Gray that has stayed beside you through everything. I lost my husband to cancer 6 months before i was diagnosed. I know he would have done everything he could have done for me. These men are few and far between. Thanks for sharing Samantha

    • @SamanthaL
      @SamanthaL  2 года назад +1

      More lucky than I could've ever imagined! I'm sure you and your husband were a great team and would've helped each other through it too :)

    • @lindacraig5056
      @lindacraig5056 2 года назад

      @@SamanthaL Thank you Samatha.

  • @somersetflower
    @somersetflower 2 года назад +3

    Told you before you and Gray were made for each other ! 💏
    So glad he saw through the diagnosis to his lovely Samantha underneath and that you persevered with overcoming your doubts and fears.xx
    Been waiting for an update you look blooming !
    Love as always
    Jan x 🇬🇧

    • @SamanthaL
      @SamanthaL  2 года назад

      He is the best!

    • @somersetflower
      @somersetflower 2 года назад +1

      @@SamanthaL yep and he must also think the same about you!🤗

  • @cherylcampbell7495
    @cherylcampbell7495 2 года назад +3

    Good seeing you and you look great. Happy Gray stuck around. Why wouldn’t he, your adorable. Love your attitude and laugh.🙏👍💕

  • @barbaraduncan1813
    @barbaraduncan1813 2 года назад +2

    Very interesting video Samantha. Well said. It is a very different concept with your thinking of a relationship ending before treatment. I was diagnosed with cancer after 27 years of marriage. Our relationship had already gone through serious health issues and other life issues. No keeping my husband from being with me for treatment.We needed both of us during the journey.
    Have always thought that when a partner leaves during a crisis that they were possibly only in it for what they could get out of it for themselves. Only the good times.
    Yes during any partnership you both need to give and receive. Sometimes it’s all give or all take.
    Glad you and Gray went through together. You are showing your strength in your videos.
    Continued good health, shout out to Q😹😹😹😹

    • @SamanthaL
      @SamanthaL  2 года назад

      Definitely a completely different situation when you are already married. Thanks for sharing!

  • @brittanydaigle1634
    @brittanydaigle1634 2 года назад +1

    You're so well spoken! I love listening to these types of videos. You make me introspect on a lot of topics and I think I know more about myself because of that! So, thank you!

    • @SamanthaL
      @SamanthaL  2 года назад

      Aw thanks, so glad you like them!

  • @aliceschmid9697
    @aliceschmid9697 Год назад +1

    This is an extremely powerful video.

    • @SamanthaL
      @SamanthaL  Год назад

      Aw thank you for that. I really hope it helps someone

  • @deliahiggs1752
    @deliahiggs1752 2 года назад

    Your attitude you both have about life and issues that comes your way, also caring about each has made your faces journey both hard and easy at the same time. I think sometimes people in general likes to keep everything all to themselves and that can make a serious illness fight so much harder. Love your videos💗

    • @SamanthaL
      @SamanthaL  2 года назад +1

      I agree, thanks for the comment!

  • @auntielisalisabopeepsa
    @auntielisalisabopeepsa 2 года назад

    Very well said Samantha. Thank you 🙏🏼 for always being so transparent. I wish you, Gray and your baby all the best. Much love 💕🌹

  • @debras2845
    @debras2845 2 года назад

    You are so aware for someone your age. Great therapist and also great information in any type of relationship. Enjoyed and I am 72.

    • @SamanthaL
      @SamanthaL  2 года назад

      Thanks, I’m so glad you enjoyed!

  • @aliceschmid9697
    @aliceschmid9697 Год назад +1

    Yesterday I made a comment on how immature Gray was being about wwanting to go the final four thing with the band. i was wrong and I am sorry!

  • @danamariekendreth8425
    @danamariekendreth8425 8 месяцев назад

  • @renroxdis
    @renroxdis 2 года назад

    Meowww. So cute. So happy Ur happy . Xx

  • @kristenfuller9168
    @kristenfuller9168 2 года назад

    sometimes I feel it's hard to tell a boyfriend about cancer diagnosis. Cuz I wouldn't know how my boyfriend would react. I never had cancer before but. If cancer ever happened to me it'd be scary to tell my boyfriend cuz I don't want him to get depressed 😔 he sadly already lost both his parents do it. He lives alone. He's been living alone for a long time.

    • @SamanthaL
      @SamanthaL  2 года назад

      I think it's harder on the person that doesn't have the diagnosis honestly. I always worried about how it would affect him

  • @claritytruth445
    @claritytruth445 2 года назад

    :)

  • @aliceschmid9697
    @aliceschmid9697 2 года назад

    I love you Samantha and I love Gray too, but can't get over a feeling that maybe you are rushing things a bit. A stage 4 cancer is not cured at only 2 years post-diagnosis. Wouldn't it be better to slow down, make fewer huge changes, minimize all this stress?

    • @SamanthaL
      @SamanthaL  2 года назад +3

      Thank you for your concern. If there’s stress things are moving too fast, it’s on your end, not ours! Like I said, every relationship is different and we’re doing fine :)

    • @SamanthaL
      @SamanthaL  2 года назад

      PS I’m 3.5 years out right now