Addicted to the answer - anxiety in the age of information | Sheva Rajaee | TEDxUCLA

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  • Опубликовано: 3 окт 2024
  • Sheva knows the power of not knowing. Turns out, for centuries, we’ve done quite well not knowing, and actually thrived because of it. You all have phones near you, but can they help you answer the important questions, and how do we, in this digital age, work through what to know and what to wonder about.
    SHEVA RAJAEE, MFT, is a psychotherapist licensed in the State of California, and is currently working at the OCD Center of Los Angeles. Sheva specializes in the treatment of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and other related anxiety disorders. She attended the University of California Los Angeles (UCLA) for her undergraduate degree, and went on to receive her Masters Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from the University of Southern California (USC). Sheva was trained in behavioral therapy at the UCLA Semel Institute for Neuroscience and Human Behavior, and worked in the Early Childhood Partial Hospitalization Program serving children with Autism before moving on to do research at the UCLA Social Stigma and Social Interaction laboratory under Dr. Jenessa Shapiro. Sheva sees clients domestically and internationally in over 20 different countries.
    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

Комментарии • 110

  • @silviadamen8847
    @silviadamen8847 4 года назад +81

    I call this "Obsessive-Compulsive Research Disorder". I've had it for years! I had no idea others had it. Thanks for sharing!

    • @akshaykhanna9802
      @akshaykhanna9802 Год назад +2

      I found this video today. I’m glad it is recognised thing as an OCD.
      I call my short term rewarding behaviour (information or otherwise mood slavery) as ‘micro-controlling’. I tell myself ‘give up microcontrol for macrocontrol’ and it snaps me out of it.

    • @rah-bee811
      @rah-bee811 7 месяцев назад +1

      Im having this problem recently.

  • @DominiqueJeune
    @DominiqueJeune 5 лет назад +46

    that's why I've just spent hours watching TED(x) talks ... looking for answers to some questions...

  • @DustyinBFE
    @DustyinBFE 6 лет назад +53

    This is one of the best TED Talks I've seen and I 100% related. Thank you.

  • @katielintastic
    @katielintastic 6 лет назад +87

    I came across this video bc I have been almost addicted to hearing other peoples perspectives about anxiety disorders and overall mental heath issues. But the deeper I dive.. the more I relate, the more anxious I make myself, the more I self diagnose. I need to unplug for sure.

  • @urRAWRsoundsfunnyLOL
    @urRAWRsoundsfunnyLOL 7 лет назад +104

    And this is why I end up with 20+ tabs open on Chrome.

    • @alliemw
      @alliemw 5 лет назад +4

      @TheWalkingBrit I have over 100 tabs open in Chrome right now! This is all the time...

    • @am3342
      @am3342 4 года назад +2

      You need to install some kind of restriction or blocker to get over it initially.

    • @jibranzargar6889
      @jibranzargar6889 4 года назад +4

      @@alliemw my icon on Crome tabs has made this face " :D " rather than showing me the numbers itself 😅

    • @alliemw
      @alliemw 4 года назад +3

      @@jibranzargar6889 Mine too! I can't remember where in Settings (on Android) I ran across it, but somewhere it tells how many you have open. I have 2 phones and a laptop and I'm usually signed into all 3 at once. I assume (and hope) that the number it showed of over 1700 was a combination of all tabs open on the 3 devices!😱

    • @alliemw
      @alliemw 4 года назад +1

      @@am3342 I usually end up with so many open tabs from scrolling through news or blog stories that I dont have time to read right then. I tried Pocket and it works on my laptop but not so much on the phones.

  • @prashantkaul8151
    @prashantkaul8151 6 лет назад +16

    Absolutely bang on addiction to information and answers. Feeding anxiety

  • @Riri-hh1ue
    @Riri-hh1ue 5 лет назад +13

    “the more we use the more we need to use”
    this one really hit me

  • @FaunyOne
    @FaunyOne 3 года назад +11

    Just what I needed. Man she conveyed it all so beautifully.

  • @michaelkruse3536
    @michaelkruse3536 6 лет назад +27

    Her experience with OCD in how it manifests in these thoughts of uncertainty that cause answer seeking that just leads to more uncertainty and anxiety is almost exactly what I experience. As a kid my OCD involved patterns and symmetry as well, but the predominant part was obsessing mentally over fears I had and anxiety of uncertainty. Things such as being terrified that my house would get broken into while my parents were gone, and I would have to check all the doors in the house to make sure they're locked...every 10 minutes (or any time I thought I heard something). Now its more like her experience of needing to be certain of things and exaggerating thoughts out of proportion in my head until I can get complete certainty of things - which of course you can never be 100% certain of something - creating a feedback look that just leads down a path of never ending anxiety about things that aren't even happening or have very little basis in reality. Its really hard to explain to people that I have OCD when they've known me for years and have viewed me as a normal person, as they are unaware of the constant thoughts of "what if" that run through my mind to the point that I don't like being alone with my thoughts, but I also don't want to be in social situations that trigger these intrusive thoughts in the first place, leaving me lost and alone in my mind.

    • @jonathankeen8836
      @jonathankeen8836 5 лет назад +4

      Im with you on that. I struggle with that ocd too. Started about 3 years ago. I used to compulsively research for answers on the internet about my particular intrusive thoughts. But it didnt solve anything. It made new labels for me. Right now I sometimes do it. But after this video I see what needs to be done. And that everyone of us who suffer from this addiction can overcome it with multiple strategies

    • @kaywalls8790
      @kaywalls8790 5 лет назад +2

      I have a son with OCD. I get it.

    • @salonibhatia6101
      @salonibhatia6101 5 лет назад +3

      I can relate to that ..suffered from health anxiety for 7 yrs due to a bad experience with a doctor , researched obsessively on internet and developed ocd.

    • @annmargaretmercier
      @annmargaretmercier 4 года назад +5

      @@jonathankeen8836 Have you ever read the book "Freedom from Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder: A Personalized Recovery Program for Living with Uncertainty" by Jonathan Grayson? It speaks exactly to what you've described. I'm making my way through it and have found it to be very illuminating. As Sheva Rajaee says, uncertainty and the need for 100% reassurance really are at the core of OCD.

    • @jonathankeen8836
      @jonathankeen8836 4 года назад +2

      @@annmargaretmercier I bought a book called "How to overcome unwanted intrusive thoughts" it helped me develop strategies on how to not react, identifying compulsions, etc. Thanks for the advice I'll take it into consideration (:

  • @am3342
    @am3342 4 года назад +19

    Jesus Christ, I wish I had known this when I was younger. I have spent so much time similarly and I still have to really resist the urge everyday. Being the first generation who had access to high speed internet surely messed up a bit

  • @sanjayatimilsina5799
    @sanjayatimilsina5799 4 года назад +7

    Very needed advice to all the new generation. Anxiety will run the world of future if the kids are not taught how to prepare for life.

  • @rick91443
    @rick91443 7 лет назад +27

    I feel better just watching this woman...Thank you Internet...rr

    • @BatFan123
      @BatFan123 7 лет назад +6

      That would be an understatement ! She is like an angel talking !!!!! I want her for president. Yes queen and lady Sheva for president !!! 🤣

  • @Jojoma449
    @Jojoma449 3 года назад +10

    The only problem with this story for me is that doctors create this anxiety by not providing answers. I had a mysterious condition appear and every doctor I went to kept pushing me away without answers and that led me to anxiety and research myself. I would gladly go to a doctor who can solve problems, but in my experience it is not often the case. Quick bandaid pill doesn’t solve the root cause. Yes if it is something minor, the doctor might be right but if it’s more complex they just take your money and push you to next appointment.

  • @erimozata5120
    @erimozata5120 2 года назад +2

    ''Addicted to the answer''. That's basically the definiton of what I've been going thru these last days

  • @enrichgrowth617
    @enrichgrowth617 Месяц назад

    this is the greatest answer to all my questions

  • @alliemw
    @alliemw 5 лет назад +19

    'Analysis Paralysis'. I can't even shop for groceries without throughly researching prices, coupons, ingredients, etc.

    • @Jojoma449
      @Jojoma449 3 года назад +2

      Me too... I need to research everything and Eliminate everything before I make a decision . It makes me anxious and paralyzed . I hate online shopping but sadly everything is going online . I miss walking in the store and just buying stuff what I need and getting new ideas

    • @alliemw
      @alliemw 3 года назад +2

      @@Jojoma449 I'm trying to be better about it but lately I've gotten into finding something I think I may want to buy, right clicking on the image and selecting Google Lens, just to see if I can find it cheaper anywhere else 🤓

    • @Glim246
      @Glim246 Год назад +2

      I know your comment is old but thank you! I have never heard that term but it so fits me. I always have a million tabs open on the computer because I am researching something or trying to find the "best" of something. I never finish the research because there is no end and I don't pull the trigger on purchases because there are always more options. Time to talk to my therapist about this😃 Hoping that you have found some relief from your issues and have more peace🤗

  • @mojsharhappy
    @mojsharhappy 2 года назад +1

    I think having unlimited internet deals we get on our phones and home internet has magnified the problem immensely!

  • @gracieanne7809
    @gracieanne7809 10 месяцев назад

    I’m so glad that someone is talking about this

  • @zakiyakhan1014
    @zakiyakhan1014 6 лет назад +7

    I have gone through the same issue..feel so better listening to this😍 thankyou

  • @carolinehan2073
    @carolinehan2073 7 лет назад +6

    Thank you, Sheva. For everything.

  • @howtoberandom
    @howtoberandom 5 лет назад +2

    The more we use, the more we need to use! So insightful!

  • @shivbodhiramesh4860
    @shivbodhiramesh4860 5 лет назад +1

    Dear Sheva Rajaee..it reaches my heart.

  • @BatFan123
    @BatFan123 7 лет назад +1

    Bravo !!!! Spoken like and with the voice of an angel. What a beautiful human being, person and woman. Loved it. 🙂

  • @premsaran6107
    @premsaran6107 5 лет назад +3

    This video is absolutely amazing, solving lots of my problems

  • @am3342
    @am3342 4 года назад +1

    This video made me realise i have ocd, thanks to you!

  • @zameelvisharathodi7859
    @zameelvisharathodi7859 3 года назад +1

    Minutes into this, I can already relate to this.

  • @fayemiran3708
    @fayemiran3708 7 лет назад +4

    This is so true!!Excellent!!

  • @stevesalt2921
    @stevesalt2921 6 лет назад +2

    Excellent talk! Smart lady - spot on. 👍🤘✌. Time to make a change people.

  • @sarahallouche
    @sarahallouche 7 лет назад +5

    Amazing thank you so much! This really helped me!

  • @xxluaxx6
    @xxluaxx6 2 года назад +2

    This is OCD. This is what I did and it’s not commonly thought of as OCD but it actually is. 6 months of ERP and my OCD is cured.

    • @Lisa-cp5xl
      @Lisa-cp5xl 2 года назад

      what is ERP?

    • @altoic1
      @altoic1 2 года назад

      @@Lisa-cp5xl Exposure and response prevention.

    • @Lisa-cp5xl
      @Lisa-cp5xl 2 года назад

      @@altoic1 Thank you :) !

  • @ethanmernin5929
    @ethanmernin5929 2 года назад +1

    Thank you for this

  • @WeeLin
    @WeeLin 4 года назад +1

    Okay, I'm closing my laptop for a while and getting a cup of tea and a book!

  • @mohsenj6471
    @mohsenj6471 3 года назад +1

    You absoloutly right

  • @seelight6569
    @seelight6569 4 года назад +4

    Just because we can doesn't mean we should

  • @Ayesha_F
    @Ayesha_F 2 года назад

    Beautifully articulated 💙

  • @nahidahalabi7263
    @nahidahalabi7263 6 лет назад +1

    she is amazing.

  • @darzelizam8404
    @darzelizam8404 4 года назад +1

    Wonderfull and important video !

  • @ELAZA
    @ELAZA 4 года назад

    Wonderful! Great speaker!

  • @ashwiniparmar4907
    @ashwiniparmar4907 4 года назад +1

    Thank you for sharing your story with us. :)

  • @datz2105
    @datz2105 2 года назад +4

    ‘I was convinced I was dying’ “crowd laughs” but it’s not funny Is it. She’s being serious. Health anxiety is so debilitating.

  • @patriciavasara1051
    @patriciavasara1051 5 лет назад +1

    Great speech.

  • @sandwich675
    @sandwich675 Год назад

    Great presenting skills.

  • @codenamerishi
    @codenamerishi 7 лет назад +2

    Great video!!! I know someone who compulsively Wikipedia everything...

  • @shanavasm5815
    @shanavasm5815 3 года назад +1

    Good speech

  • @drinaciofernandes
    @drinaciofernandes 4 года назад

    Thank you for this

  • @rouguy1972
    @rouguy1972 5 лет назад +1

    Excellent!

  • @Jojoma449
    @Jojoma449 3 года назад +1

    I can’t have a day without my phone it would be torture :)

  • @everydayeasyrecipes2650
    @everydayeasyrecipes2650 4 года назад +1

    Good speaker

  • @eduardoroca1991
    @eduardoroca1991 6 лет назад +4

    What's the point of sanity when the system is insane or inhumane to it's very foundation.

  • @michaellawlor5625
    @michaellawlor5625 4 года назад +1

    Core, she is gorgeous. 😍

  • @tekelel3987
    @tekelel3987 2 года назад

    Finally i found a video that describe entirely myself having the dame paranoides

  • @rupidm
    @rupidm Год назад

    a good talk

  • @tulippurple8336
    @tulippurple8336 7 лет назад

    Really brilliant.

  • @kirkv2262
    @kirkv2262 7 лет назад +6

    Great clip! I hate Facebook!

    • @BatFan123
      @BatFan123 7 лет назад

      Dude ... I want Facebook to disappear !!!! May all of our eyes be opened and the one that created Facebook and the ones running it end up doing jail time. So sorry if this sounds a bit too harsh but I can't help it. 🙂

  • @janna_creator
    @janna_creator 3 года назад +1

    girl..... u smart

  • @marcc1179
    @marcc1179 3 года назад +1

    Her experience is very similar to mine. :(

  • @adnankittous6562
    @adnankittous6562 4 года назад +2

    Well yeah I'm here after the KUWTK show ksksksksks

  • @Habeeba_musthafa
    @Habeeba_musthafa 3 года назад +1

    I dont know any of these website...
    only some google and etc :)

  • @mariianicababaPT
    @mariianicababaPT 5 лет назад +2

    This is me

  • @Jennifer.villezcas
    @Jennifer.villezcas 5 лет назад +2

    This is so me :( I hate it.

  • @RanginTehrani
    @RanginTehrani 5 месяцев назад

    She’s Iranian

  • @wardhamuneeb4393
    @wardhamuneeb4393 4 года назад

    Woww

  • @harrycovill1878
    @harrycovill1878 5 лет назад +1

    The noise gate on this is really annoying

  • @Laura-ij6fm
    @Laura-ij6fm 3 года назад

    me

  • @sachikawaii
    @sachikawaii 7 лет назад +2

    Second

  • @vasweeb
    @vasweeb 7 лет назад +1

    First

  • @11warlen
    @11warlen 7 лет назад

    I think that I'm the fourth...

  • @voidLogicx
    @voidLogicx Год назад

    she is a puppet for those she speaks against with that final delivery. smh.

  • @nilamp860
    @nilamp860 3 года назад +1

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  • @jibranzargar6889
    @jibranzargar6889 4 года назад

    Who came here after watching Robert kiyoskai's interview on London real

  • @PlantparenthooD1
    @PlantparenthooD1 Год назад

    Leonardo.. date asian?

  • @AndreiMargeloiu
    @AndreiMargeloiu 4 года назад +1

    This speech has no actionable information for you as an individual.