The one GOOD THING that comes out of a narcissistic relationship
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- Опубликовано: 10 сен 2024
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You don’t care what other people think. Taking care of yourself comes first
That's what a narcissists does lmao
Oh that post traumatic growth is such an amazing time. The best part of a narcissistic relationship is after you leave one and rediscover yourself
Thank you! It is so comforting to realize that you are not crazy having your basic rights.
Thank you Danielle. The road to learn to set boundaries takes practice. The more you do it, the easier it gets. One day you will learn and know that the narcissist’s feelings is Not your problem. That is called freedom.
Don't let ppl Psych you out of your Truth
Trust your gut while second guessing them 👀
"Love yourself first." Buddha.
Just like YES, NO is a powerful decision. Choose Wisely.
You learn that you're NOT controlling THEM, you're protecting YOURSELF. 🙏
You have to have reached your threshold and get to a place whereas you really don’t care anymore. I also was blinded by the “don’t give up on me.” And the “we’ll take care of each other.” I went through hell thinking this person was MY person and the absolute love of my life. She certainly wasn’t at all and although I went through almost two years of hell and trying to please her that I finally stopped caring anymore. Thank god I found the clarity to see things for what they are. There are good woman everywhere and you are playing yourself by even entertaining the narcissistic demands of a human does that doesn’t not reciprocate anything. I think a lot of us work extra hard thinking they will display some kind of reciprocating behavior or even acknowledge that you are always thinking about what’s in their best interest. They don’t care they just want everything and they can’t help but lie about everything. When I feel calm and relaxed and the phone rings or a text comes through from someone and it causes you anxiety, they are NOT the one for you.
My narc would have all this controlling behavior around like kitchen stuff. There were all kinds of rules. Do it this way or that. Criticism couched as little jokes about my way. Just little things around the house that involved my autonomy. Like when I took a shower. What clothes I chose to wear. Where I chose to put my shoes. Once she told me that her biggest complaint about the ensuing fights was my "insubordination." That was very revealing.
You should see her now in my divorce where we're stuck in the same house, and I've been isolating myself in the master bedroom. I want to shut and lock the door to keep her out. You should see how much of a war of the roses battleground this has turned into just to get her to respect the boundary of a closed door. Fascinating. Truly fascinating. If only I had been able to see the end from the beginning.
Saying no to any ridiculous demands made me a “narcissist”. 😭💀
“Because they test you immediately.” Girl you aren’t kidding. I been tested ever since I got out of the womb.
Now I finally understand why people have kids. Narcissistic supply.
No means no! It’s that easy!
Beautiful thing: the narcissist teaches you to never have any compassion for a narcissist, to not expend energy on a narcissist, to never try to work things out, encourage, support or expect anything of narcissists. Gorgeous! Finally, be innocent as a dove (got it), and shrewd as a serpent (getting it).
Excellent advice..just say no..
Excellent stuff....great and powerful to know .... 🌷
You're right.
Spot on!
So true!
no works for me. if that does not work, the door is option #2.
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