Great discussion Chase..Regret is a temporary mindset. When I am deep in it, I realize it's as though I " can't see the forest for the trees". When I have made a decision about something, I need to have the balls (forgive the reference) to be responsible for the consequences, and accept and love myself either way.
This is an excellent video, thanks for posting this. I really like your point around 2:50 - 3:20. These are some really helpful things to think about. Thanks!
thank you, this has been very insightful and very deep. It was very comforting to listen to your good sense and experience and helped give me more perspective on this decision. thank you so much, I really like this video.
I LUV WHO U ARE ;)Hello,I stumbled upon ur vids via youtube and TRULY lisetened to U driving along and eliquently discussing the many internal psychological/mental/spiritual and emotional hurdles WE go thru as WOMEN & MEN being trans and I was quite enamored. U relay with such intelligence and critical thinking that brings about A respect from me. I am drawn to intelligence and thinkers, you are very much the advocate that we need due to all the characters that social media puts A spotlight on that represents in such A negative fashion. I luv how well spoken U are, how U chose to better urself through education and making sure to be responsible about what U put out on display. I am A WOMAN who happens to be TS and have fought in the REAL world to make them see us as individuals to be respected whether they know or not, who has functioned in the REAL world so they know where not ALL under the same umbrella and that TRANSGENDER IS NOT ABOUT SEX IT IS ABOUT UNDERSTANDING THAT THE PHYSICAL BODY IS CLOTHING FOR THE SOUL, WE SIMPLY CHANGED CLOTHES TO EXIST IN OUR TRUTH AND NOTHING MORE! WE HAVE A RIGHT TO LIFE JUST AS THEY DO AND BEING THE STRONG MINDED, WILL FULL AND ASSERTIVE WOMAN I AM WILL NEVER VALITDATE MYSELF TO CONFORM TO THIS WARPED WORLD WE LIVE IN OF DISTOTRED RELIGION, CORRUPT POLITICS, AMORAL JUDICIAL SYSTEM AND BS TECHNICALITIES DESIGNED TO MAKE OUR EXISTENCE ABOUT EXPLANATION OF WHY, WHO & WHAT WE ARE.I LOOK FORWARD TO HEARING MORE FROM U! BTW, ur very attractive I might add ;)
i really appreciate you making this video. i've thought about this allot myself also. im transitioning and have had all these things to think about at one time or another. Its really nice to finally see the older peoples vids. no we aren't all the same but its nice to see both ends of other peoples experiences. thx for that. :j
nearly 4 years ago I saw this video while i was lamenting over whether or not I wanted to transition. This was the first time I'd heard someone talk so honestly and openly about those moments of regret and it was the last thing that pushed me into actually transitioning (I'd heard nothing but people talking about how much better everything got and all my friends were completely unwilling to admit any regret or talk about it and they may very well have not had any at all!) Knowing me I was going to end up regretting the decision at SOME point in time. And I also know that I could have gone on living a pretty miserable yet stable life as a woman too (Like you said, I'd done it for 20 years, I could do it again.) Honestly hearing this video had such an inspiring and lasting effect on me. I finally felt like it was okay to transition after seeing it. That it was okay to feel like all the stress that popped up in my life because of it didn't feel worth it sometimes. And you were right that it doesn't happen very often too! I am so so SO much happier in general now and do not regret transitioning at all, but I just really appreciated seeing this video when I did. Your words have been in the back of my head for years and I lost the link to this video a while back and only just now found it again. After having transitioned three years ago it is one hell of an experience seeing this again but it holds even more truth now that I've experienced what you're talking about (especially with the whole family members transitioning with you, and you knowing and being cool with your new self but other people needing time.) This is really long winded and confusing to read probably but i guess what i'm trying to say is this video specifically changed my life. And I'm not one for sentimental shit. It honest to god helped me make the biggest and most fulfilling decision of my life. So thank you so much for that.
+Dane Smith Thanks so much for the kind words. The point in sharing is always to help others. This video was the only one that really seemed to get so much attention for reasons I never really understood. Now I think I have a better understanding and I thank you. I am glad you are doing well and I wish you all the best going forward. I am at 6 years now, still struggling with employment and my professional life, but moving forward still. Like everything else in life, it is all temporary. :) Regards, Chase
Always love returning to this video. Resonates the same as it did four years ago just before starting T. It really gave me solace and I'm sure I've carried it's message with me for the last four years too.
Hey Chase, totally stumbled on this video. Watched every second. I'm in process of transitioning to female. On hormones for almost 10 months. And for the first time I'm thinking about surgery. I often think about regret, especially because transition is simply hard and has so many challenges. It doesn't matter which direction you are going in, everything about our journeys are the same, just opposite. And appreciate your perspective here, I doubt I'll make an about face either. thanks!
Wow. That's was great in site. I def look up to you for sharing. That's real talk. I'm just now transitioning. And your pain is helpin people. Cuz it sure as heck helped me. I am sorry you had those moments but it's good to know if I ever do I can look back on this. Thanks so much
I stopped my transition, the whole thing- changed my name back, took the whole trans-coming out back, at about 9 months on T, due to the type of moments you mentioned. I did not know how to deal with them. I spent a year plus, trying to go back to when things were normal. I've learned, that doubting myself caused more damage to my life, than transition ever could. In our hearts, the truth lies, and when that truth is compromised, we suffer more than external circumstances could ever affect us
Just watched your vid and thanks so much for your honesty...I am 3 weeks in to only admitting to myself at this point that I may be transgender and watching many of the video's has been amazing but 95% of them are under 30 (so it seems) and to hear from you that you lived as a female for 40 years and still transitioned and that while you are mostly very glad you did but the honesty of "there are MOMENTS of regret" do exist. I am in mid 40's. and your video is very important thanks
You look kind of like Hugh Laurie. it's a compliment. Hugh Laurie is awesome. This was pretty deep and intense... I appreciate your sharing it with the RUclips-a-verse.
That dichotomy you describe is perfectly accurate to me. In think it is important that despite what we perceive about cisgender men, they too suffer great insecurity , and rejection. Even, the most masculine of men may have a dark corridor in which there skeletons remind them of there fear that they aren't man enough. I don't believe there is any such perfect comfort in lone skin at all times.
He acknowleged my mum's request and had me brainscanned and genetically tested. I am male and am now confirming it. I spent decades as a journey (wo)man carpenter and roofer and toughed it out and there is me, still suicidal and regretting not transitioning when I was originally diagnosed 2 decades ago. You know what? I am glad I waited. My work bros wondered what took me so long, my family is even happy (!) I am an older trans man and all kiddos should see this video. W
I AM AN MTF. I have transitional regrets CONSTANTLY. I have transitioned 7 years ago (in 2005). I have dated several guys and had several jobs as a woman. The GREAT MAN SHORTAGE scares the hell out of me. Will I have someone when I get old? I realize that worrying is bad but I do it anyway. So, believe me. Being trans is very tough. Maybe we got it worse than you guys, I don't know!!!
I am a trans fellow who is older and essentially panromantic but quite asexual. We hit most of the spectrum. My doc finds me unique, and gives me my shots to check in. He is the only GP in the centre part of my pacific island who is kosher with trans patients and I found out by accident b/c he was my old granno's doctor.
The way you speak, your inflections, etc. are masculine enough to me. You look and come across as a completely 100% male person. I have a friend you completely remind me of... If you're happier the way you've become, aside all the stresses, then it seems worth it to me. This was a very good video. Driving and blogging... dangerous, sure, but at least its natural. I would like to speak with you sometime. (I am in a similar position). Send a youtube MSG if youre interested in speaking. later man.
I'm MtF, transitioning since January 2013. I don't think I have "periodic regret" so much as days when I wake up and say "WTF am I doing? This is insane!" But then I find that it's such a rush when I'm doing well, when I get called "ma'am" 99 times out of 100, it's worth dealing with the idiots who don't get it. Also, my mother's reaction got me down for a while, until she started trying to gaslight me into thinking that I was psychotic so that she could seize control of my life and stop me from transitioning. Any love I had for her died on my 30th birthday, when she pretty much proved to me that she's never going to stop hurting me and my only "regret" is in telling her 2 years ago that I would be willing to let her be a part of my life again.
Hi Chase, I really enjoyed your video. You brught a lot of things to light that I have never thought of. Also you kind of look like a young Bob Dylan, which is a compliment because he is my favorite musician. Best of luck to you! Quinn
I totally understand this video...........I transitioned about 12 years ago and did have that "what the fuck did I do?" moment a few years back. It passed but still I never thought I would have had that experience.
But is easier better CG Jones? Think of all of the lessons you have learned since the start of your transition. Think of how much you have learned about yourself and how much you have grown as a person. I understand what you are saying about periodic transition regret. I am beginning to see glimpses of that within my own transition. Not every day, but when I know I don't land a job or when housing is difficult. Great video. Thank you for being honest.
I agree with a lot of your opinions. I'm a "younger" transitioner, and ever since I started HRT my life has become hellish. I've recently been wondering if it's all worth it? I haven't seen my family since 2011, and my current living conditions are less then favorable. I knew this was a possibility, but I still expected some kind of support. I guess I feel lost. If I had support it might be a different story.
this is an amazing video. thank you so much for making it i have actually never seen a video go into trans regret like this and how it feels and i have watched a looot of videos. im considering beginning transition and have the same doubts about eventually regretting the decision but this video is just great and honest so thank you for making it. (also you are incredibly attractive lemme just put that out there real quick.)
but then the question is do we let the world tell us who we are or do we have the courage to be who we are whether it is comfortable for us and others or not.
It's kind of a double edged sword. If you didn't transition and when you're old you may wish you did and regret not doing it. However like you said you do transition and you have days and moments when you do regret transitioning. Thanks for making this video. I have been thinking about transitioning since I was 12 but I needed to see the good and bad points about it.
I feel like it's very normal to feel that here and there because you experience both genders in your life. I feel like this in a sense this how cis-people sometimes wish they were the other gender to get better treatment in a situation. But your case you experienced both genders, so you know how men and women are treated in situations that benefit one or the other or both. I don't know if that's my take on it. You're just human.
This was a very interesting video, although I think making videos while driving might not be the safest thing to do. There may have been tons of reasons you did not get that job, many if not most having NOTHING to do with you transition status, which I am sure you actually know. I have one question, are you happier more of the time as a male than you were as a female?
You may be ex-witch, but you will never be ex-gay or ex-trans. You were born that way. It's who you are. You can deny in the name of religion all you want. But that will never change your true nature. It's how God made you.
so you regret not because you missed your life as female, but regret because people give you hard life for not accepting the new you? ok, I've been through it all my life, even when I'm not taking it. it is hard, man. I 27 now and have no job because I'm crossdresser. but I try to find my chance in art to get money, or online doings. there always a way if you try hard. good luck for your life.
Thank you. I do not regret anything. But sometimes we have momentary regret.I am very happy now though, even though I am also unemployed and continue to struggle with some things. :) Regards, Chase
That is to say that women do not suffer from inadequate sperm production. Anyway, I've learned that the limitations you feel, despite the fact that they feel emasculating, are part of the experience of being a man. For what it's worth. Take care.
That was a good video. I really enjoyed your candor. Have you been able to find a job? You're a lawyer? I would not like to have to tell people for the rest of my life that I changed genders. This has to be very difficult at times. At any rate, I applaud you for your bravery. You would have to be a very strong person to deal with all of the changes, mentally and physically and how others would treat you. Has it been particularly difficult? I wish you all of the best.
Oh, honey. I am so sad you feel this way about transitioning. I know this is a reality for some trans* women and men, but maybe a big part of your regret has something to do with your surroundings and society. America is the most transphobic place in the world. Even the Middle East is more tolerate of transsexuals than USA. texas is the worst place to live if you are trans*. I just want to give you a big hug and tell you things will get better for all of us. I wish you all the best.
Also, it might not be just related to transgerism. I mean there are people who cannot really make their minds or change it often. So my advice would be try and know your own personalty regardless of this transgender thing, and if you find out that you are not sure of yourself don't do something that you can't reverse. Second, regrets are an unecessary thing, whatever the regrets are about.
Sounds like you would have had a law suit. You need to find pride on what you have accomplished. Are you less because your trans...or are you better. I chose to think that I am better and have never regretted my transition. Felt like a man in womens cloths and someone pushed me into the world and locked the door behind me!! I had to get out!!! Amyway my cis gendered community consider me no less a male, if anything they admire me. Its all in how you want to feel about yourself and with a personal pride, inside of your own head, people will follow and respect you.
7:41. You said your mother transitioned. What did you mean by that? Was her "transition" the process of acceptance of her daughter turning into her son? Or did she transition with her own body, i.e. she took T and transitioned into becoming a man herself?
I don't know why you are not accepted CG Jones because before you knew you were a transgender I thought you were a man. I can understand people are not confortable with people that look like they pretend to be male were they are not, but this is not your case. If you have changed your identity then there should not be any problem to get the job unless you don't get the job for another reason. Now I am talking about society, getting a mal job, external things, but and what is inside you is something deferent ...
So do you feel like a man or a woman or in-between? Is it because only of the fact that it is hard for you to get a job or maybe being a man isn't right for you?
The truth is that a person cannot and will never forget that they where born the way God made them . You cut it off and sew it on, the lie of the devil. Put on the armor of God.
Great discussion Chase..Regret is a temporary mindset. When I am deep in it, I realize it's as though I " can't see the forest for the trees". When I have made a decision about something, I need to have the balls (forgive the reference) to be responsible for the consequences, and accept and love myself either way.
Long video but your good advice makes it worth watching all the way through!
This is an excellent video, thanks for posting this.
I really like your point around 2:50 - 3:20.
These are some really helpful things to think about. Thanks!
thank you, this has been very insightful and very deep. It was very comforting to listen to your good sense and experience and helped give me more perspective on this decision. thank you so much, I really like this video.
These thoughts go through my mind on a daily basis...
so much truth, honesty, and insight in this video. thank you for sharing.
you are one "together" man. O how I wish we lived near one another.
I find your videos enormously helpful. Thank you for making them.
I LUV WHO U ARE ;)Hello,I stumbled upon ur vids via youtube and TRULY lisetened to U driving along and eliquently discussing the many internal psychological/mental/spiritual and emotional hurdles WE go thru as WOMEN & MEN being trans and I was quite enamored. U relay with such intelligence and critical thinking that brings about A respect from me. I am drawn to intelligence and thinkers, you are very much the advocate that we need due to all the characters that social media puts A spotlight on that represents in such A negative fashion. I luv how well spoken U are, how U chose to better urself through education and making sure to be responsible about what U put out on display. I am A WOMAN who happens to be TS and have fought in the REAL world to make them see us as individuals to be respected whether they know or not, who has functioned in the REAL world so they know where not ALL under the same umbrella and that TRANSGENDER IS NOT ABOUT SEX IT IS ABOUT UNDERSTANDING THAT THE PHYSICAL BODY IS CLOTHING FOR THE SOUL, WE SIMPLY CHANGED CLOTHES TO EXIST IN OUR TRUTH AND NOTHING MORE! WE HAVE A RIGHT TO LIFE JUST AS THEY DO AND BEING THE STRONG MINDED, WILL FULL AND ASSERTIVE WOMAN I AM WILL NEVER VALITDATE MYSELF TO CONFORM TO THIS WARPED WORLD WE LIVE IN OF DISTOTRED RELIGION, CORRUPT POLITICS, AMORAL JUDICIAL SYSTEM AND BS TECHNICALITIES DESIGNED TO MAKE OUR EXISTENCE ABOUT EXPLANATION OF WHY, WHO & WHAT WE ARE.I LOOK FORWARD TO HEARING MORE FROM U! BTW, ur very attractive I might add ;)
Thank you :) You are most kind.
Huh... I'm really glad I found this video.
i really appreciate you making this video. i've thought about this allot myself also. im transitioning and have had all these things to think about at one time or another. Its really nice to finally see the older peoples vids. no we aren't all the same but its nice to see both ends of other peoples experiences. thx for that. :j
nearly 4 years ago I saw this video while i was lamenting over whether or not I wanted to transition. This was the first time I'd heard someone talk so honestly and openly about those moments of regret and it was the last thing that pushed me into actually transitioning (I'd heard nothing but people talking about how much better everything got and all my friends were completely unwilling to admit any regret or talk about it and they may very well have not had any at all!) Knowing me I was going to end up regretting the decision at SOME point in time. And I also know that I could have gone on living a pretty miserable yet stable life as a woman too (Like you said, I'd done it for 20 years, I could do it again.)
Honestly hearing this video had such an inspiring and lasting effect on me. I finally felt like it was okay to transition after seeing it. That it was okay to feel like all the stress that popped up in my life because of it didn't feel worth it sometimes. And you were right that it doesn't happen very often too! I am so so SO much happier in general now and do not regret transitioning at all, but I just really appreciated seeing this video when I did. Your words have been in the back of my head for years and I lost the link to this video a while back and only just now found it again. After having transitioned three years ago it is one hell of an experience seeing this again but it holds even more truth now that I've experienced what you're talking about (especially with the whole family members transitioning with you, and you knowing and being cool with your new self but other people needing time.)
This is really long winded and confusing to read probably but i guess what i'm trying to say is this video specifically changed my life. And I'm not one for sentimental shit. It honest to god helped me make the biggest and most fulfilling decision of my life. So thank you so much for that.
+Dane Smith Thanks so much for the kind words. The point in sharing is always to help others. This video was the only one that really seemed to get so much attention for reasons I never really understood. Now I think I have a better understanding and I thank you. I am glad you are doing well and I wish you all the best going forward.
I am at 6 years now, still struggling with employment and my professional life, but moving forward still. Like everything else in life, it is all temporary. :)
Regards,
Chase
Dane Smith it was the first vid I saw and it had the exact same effect on me. Just taking a trip down memory lane to watch it again.
Same - still come back to watch it at times just as a reminder of where I was at 11 years ago
Always love returning to this video. Resonates the same as it did four years ago just before starting T. It really gave me solace and I'm sure I've carried it's message with me for the last four years too.
Hey Chase, totally stumbled on this video. Watched every second. I'm in process of transitioning to female. On hormones for almost 10 months. And for the first time I'm thinking about surgery. I often think about regret, especially because transition is simply hard and has so many challenges. It doesn't matter which direction you are going in, everything about our journeys are the same, just opposite. And appreciate your perspective here, I doubt I'll make an about face either. thanks!
i love your honesty and plus you are very handsome
OMG, you're right! I couldn't put my finger on it, but now that you say it, that must be it
Wow. That's was great in site. I def look up to you for sharing. That's real talk. I'm just now transitioning. And your pain is helpin people. Cuz it sure as heck helped me. I am sorry you had those moments but it's good to know if I ever do I can look back on this. Thanks so much
I stopped my transition, the whole thing- changed my name back, took the whole trans-coming out back, at about 9 months on T, due to the type of moments you mentioned. I did not know how to deal with them. I spent a year plus, trying to go back to when things were normal. I've learned, that doubting myself caused more damage to my life, than transition ever could. In our hearts, the truth lies, and when that truth is compromised, we suffer more than external circumstances could ever affect us
Just came across your video. Thanks for the insight. I'm just about to start T @38 and cautiously excited.
Thank you :) x
Just watched your vid and thanks so much for your honesty...I am 3 weeks in to only admitting to myself at this point that I may be transgender and watching many of the video's has been amazing but 95% of them are under 30 (so it seems) and to hear from you that you lived as a female for 40 years and still transitioned and that while you are mostly very glad you did but the honesty of "there are MOMENTS of regret" do exist. I am in mid 40's. and your video is very important thanks
You look kind of like Hugh Laurie. it's a compliment. Hugh Laurie is awesome. This was pretty deep and intense... I appreciate your sharing it with the RUclips-a-verse.
You are definitely the smartest person who has ever uploaded a video on RUclips.
Thank you for sharing, this was a really thoughtful video.
That dichotomy you describe is perfectly accurate to me. In think it is important that despite what we perceive about cisgender men, they too suffer great insecurity , and rejection. Even, the most masculine of men may have a dark corridor in which there skeletons remind them of there fear that they aren't man enough. I don't believe there is any such perfect comfort in lone skin at all times.
He acknowleged my mum's request and had me brainscanned and genetically tested. I am male and am now confirming it. I spent decades as a journey (wo)man carpenter and roofer and toughed it out and there is me, still suicidal and regretting not transitioning when I was originally diagnosed 2 decades ago. You know what? I am glad I waited. My work bros wondered what took me so long, my family is even happy (!) I am an older trans man and all kiddos should see this video. W
I AM AN MTF. I have transitional regrets CONSTANTLY. I have transitioned 7 years ago
(in 2005). I have dated several guys and had several jobs as a woman. The GREAT MAN
SHORTAGE scares the hell out of me. Will I have someone when I get old?
I realize that worrying is bad but I do it anyway.
So, believe me. Being trans is very tough. Maybe we got it worse than you guys,
I don't know!!!
I am a trans fellow who is older and essentially panromantic but quite asexual. We hit most of the spectrum. My doc finds me unique, and gives me my shots to check in. He is the only GP in the centre part of my pacific island who is kosher with trans patients and I found out by accident b/c he was my old granno's doctor.
Thanks for this video.. :)
Wow dude. Thank you for that.
The way you speak, your inflections, etc. are masculine enough to me. You look and come across as a completely 100% male person. I have a friend you completely remind me of... If you're happier the way you've become, aside all the stresses, then it seems worth it to me. This was a very good video. Driving and blogging... dangerous, sure, but at least its natural. I would like to speak with you sometime. (I am in a similar position). Send a youtube MSG if youre interested in speaking. later man.
yes these are the issues that cause my ambivelance, woman do have an easier time of it!
I'm MtF, transitioning since January 2013. I don't think I have "periodic regret" so much as days when I wake up and say "WTF am I doing? This is insane!" But then I find that it's such a rush when I'm doing well, when I get called "ma'am" 99 times out of 100, it's worth dealing with the idiots who don't get it. Also, my mother's reaction got me down for a while, until she started trying to gaslight me into thinking that I was psychotic so that she could seize control of my life and stop me from transitioning. Any love I had for her died on my 30th birthday, when she pretty much proved to me that she's never going to stop hurting me and my only "regret" is in telling her 2 years ago that I would be willing to let her be a part of my life again.
i wish he wld just get to the fucking point!!!!!!
Thanks. I just had my second shot. i'm super excited!! But, I really appreciate this vid and I shared it on fb
Hi Chase, I really enjoyed your video. You brught a lot of things to light that I have never thought of. Also you kind of look like a young Bob Dylan, which is a compliment because he is my favorite musician. Best of luck to you! Quinn
I totally understand this video...........I transitioned about 12 years ago and did have that "what the fuck did I do?" moment a few years back. It passed but still I never thought I would have had that experience.
you pass very well. probably the best ive seen. you seem sincere and well spoken but don't come off as a gay man.
so handsome
But is easier better CG Jones? Think of all of the lessons you have learned since the start of your transition. Think of how much you have learned about yourself and how much you have grown as a person. I understand what you are saying about periodic transition regret. I am beginning to see glimpses of that within my own transition. Not every day, but when I know I don't land a job or when housing is difficult. Great video. Thank you for being honest.
I agree with a lot of your opinions. I'm a "younger" transitioner, and ever since I started HRT my life has become hellish. I've recently been wondering if it's all worth it? I haven't seen my family since 2011, and my current living conditions are less then favorable. I knew this was a possibility, but I still expected some kind of support. I guess I feel lost. If I had support it might be a different story.
Thank you...
this is an amazing video. thank you so much for making it i have actually never seen a video go into trans regret like this and how it feels and i have watched a looot of videos. im considering beginning transition and have the same doubts about eventually regretting the decision but this video is just great and honest so thank you for making it. (also you are incredibly attractive lemme just put that out there real quick.)
Great video! x x
but then the question is do we let the world tell us who we are or do we have the courage to be who we are whether it is comfortable for us and others or not.
It's kind of a double edged sword. If you didn't transition and when you're old you may wish you did and regret not doing it. However like you said you do transition and you have days and moments when you do regret transitioning. Thanks for making this video. I have been thinking about transitioning since I was 12 but I needed to see the good and bad points about it.
You look like the actor Callum Keith Rennie.
I feel like it's very normal to feel that here and there because you experience both genders in your life. I feel like this in a sense this how cis-people sometimes wish they were the other gender to get better treatment in a situation. But your case you experienced both genders, so you know how men and women are treated in situations that benefit one or the other or both. I don't know if that's my take on it. You're just human.
This was a very interesting video, although I think making videos while driving might not be the safest thing to do. There may have been tons of reasons you did not get that job, many if not most having NOTHING to do with you transition status, which I am sure you actually know. I have one question, are you happier more of the time as a male than you were as a female?
You may be ex-witch, but you will never be ex-gay or ex-trans. You were born that way. It's who you are. You can deny in the name of religion all you want. But that will never change your true nature. It's how God made you.
so you regret not because you missed your life as female, but regret because people give you hard life for not accepting the new you?
ok, I've been through it all my life, even when I'm not taking it. it is hard, man. I 27 now and have no job because I'm crossdresser. but I try to find my chance in art to get money, or online doings. there always a way if you try hard. good luck for your life.
Thank you. I do not regret anything. But sometimes we have momentary regret.I am very happy now though, even though I am also unemployed and continue to struggle with some things. :)
Regards,
Chase
Are you driving? IF so... you really are NOT paying attention to the road.
Some men NEVER learn.
kel
but what made or makes you feel this way?
That is to say that women do not suffer from inadequate sperm production. Anyway, I've learned that the limitations you feel, despite the fact that they feel emasculating, are part of the experience of being a man. For what it's worth.
Take care.
That was a good video. I really enjoyed your candor. Have you been able to find a job? You're a lawyer? I would not like to have to tell people for the rest of my life that I changed genders. This has to be very difficult at times. At any rate, I applaud you for your bravery. You would have to be a very strong person to deal with all of the changes, mentally and physically and how others would treat you. Has it been particularly difficult? I wish you all of the best.
Please, please please please don't think EVER, don't dream ever of
de-transitioning. You look and sound fine just as you are.
Oh, honey. I am so sad you feel this way about transitioning. I know this is a reality for some trans* women and men, but maybe a big part of your regret has something to do with your surroundings and society. America is the most transphobic place in the world. Even the Middle East is more tolerate of transsexuals than USA. texas is the worst place to live if you are trans*. I just want to give you a big hug and tell you things will get better for all of us. I wish you all the best.
Also, it might not be just related to transgerism. I mean there are people who cannot really make their minds or change it often. So my advice would be try and know your own personalty regardless of this transgender thing, and if you find out that you are not sure of yourself don't do something that you can't reverse. Second, regrets are an unecessary thing, whatever the regrets are about.
You look like some actor, & I can't for the life of me think of who it is. Do you ever get told you look like anyone famous?
Hugh Laurie? maybe :D
Sounds like you would have had a law suit. You need to find pride on what you have accomplished. Are you less because your trans...or are you better. I chose to think that I am better and have never regretted my transition. Felt like a man in womens cloths and someone pushed me into the world and locked the door behind me!! I had to get out!!! Amyway my cis gendered community consider me no less a male, if anything they admire me. Its all in how you want to feel about yourself and with a personal pride, inside of your own head, people will follow and respect you.
7:41. You said your mother transitioned. What did you mean by that? Was her "transition" the process of acceptance of her daughter turning into her son? Or did she transition with
her own body, i.e. she took T and transitioned into becoming a man herself?
I don't know why you are not accepted CG Jones because before you knew you were a transgender I thought you were a man. I can understand people are not confortable with people that look like they pretend to be male were they are not, but this is not your case. If you have changed your identity then there should not be any problem to get the job unless you don't get the job for another reason.
Now I am talking about society, getting a mal job, external things, but and what is inside you is something deferent ...
So do you feel like a man or a woman or in-between? Is it because only of the fact that it is hard for you to get a job or maybe being a man isn't right for you?
The truth is that a person cannot and will never forget that they where born the way God made them .
You cut it off and sew it on, the lie of the devil.
Put on the armor of God.