...the description of how you feel inside just brought me to tears, because you could explain e-x-a-c-t-l-y what it feels like to me. I don't feel like a girl among girls, among lesbians. My gender identity is male, I've knew it for a long time now... You explained it so well I'm going to show this video to my family to help them understand how I feel. Thank you SO much !
Randomly stumbled onto your transformation video (it was linked from Marina Abramović e Ulay - MoMA 2010) and I just wanted to say thanks for sharing your very personal & interesting story. Just because I can't personally identify with your story doesn't mean it isn't powerful & there aren't a lot of people who are going through the same thing. Sharing your story will most likely save them some of the hardship you went through alone. Bravo.
2:44 I thought "so-called attraction to men" was just something I went through. I didn't really find anybody attractive until secondary school where I started developing attractions for girls. When I got to uni I thought I was bi because I assumed I was attracted to men, and I did have long-term relationships with several men before realising I was trans. But I'm becoming more convinced that I was "attracted" to them because I wanted to be like them, aka male. Now I'm with a female partner and am very happy with her. :) It also took me a long time to articulate that I was a man, even though I knew for a while that I wasn't a woman because for me it was an extra step. Even when I did kind of know I was scared about prejudice and surgery etc., but after coming to accept it even with all the baggage I have felt so much happier. Thanks for sharing your story, Dade.
I am MtF, and this is 95% the mirror image of my experience thus far. The attraction paralell that I experience was at one time for me, obsessive. I felt left out more than anything else and confused this with attraction as well. However I am attracted to women mostly, this is turning out to be a separate issue. Totally feeling ya here.. great vid post my trans brother..
Dude, you rock. :3 I'm so happy that you were able to become (physically) who you always knew you should be. I wish everyone could understand transgendered people and accept them as unique individuals who were essentially born into the wrong body (as I've heard it phrased). Stay strong!
This video has helped me immensely. I am beginning the path you were once on - research. At 31 years of age I am realizing I might be something other than the body I was born with. Thank you for posting this. Incredible insight.
Your story touched my heart and I can't even imagine how people out there like you have been gone through so many things mentally against general things that have given to them. thanks for sharing x
This guy is amazing. I love him. he is so real and so sensitive and lovely. He has looked at his life and changed it for the better. Not many people can say that they have done that. The only person who can make your life amazing is you. And now he is helping others to do the same. He looks amazing too.
Hi Dade! I just wanted to thank you for putting your story out there.. I think you are such an inspiration to so many people and your bravery and determination speak louder than anything.. I am transitioning myself and I thank God everyday for other trans brothers and sisters that set an example for the rest of us... Thank you ..xoxo Caro
This is a hard one for me to give you advice on man. I personally did not have success with my family. What I can tell you is that the people who love and support you - those people are your family, regardless of bloodlines. So even if you do not have your parents supports, the people that love you for you are the ones that matter. As a side note - parents have a way of coming around after the shock factor is gone:) Good luck my friend.
I understand what you are saying about my use of the word selfish. I used that term from what an outsider might consider a suicidal person to be. When I was in my dark time - I was told that I was being selfish. For the insider, it doesn't feel selfish at all... it feels necessary, because you literally cannot go on. In any case - I did not mean to say that suicide is selfishness, and I'm glad that you made it through your dark time! Happy Holidays my friend:)
Honestly Dade, this video is THE video I can relate to. What you say, I have felt. In my own circumstances and ways, of course, but it is close enough that I don't feel so alien anymore. I really look up to you, thanks for being there.
i came upon this video by accident but your view and your transition is truely moving. all that anybody wants is to be true to themselves and find love. i commend you for doing both .
Nice video Dade. Being in a position now where I could lose my family through my transition, it is very inspiring to hear your story and see your strength. Hope the rest of your journey goes well.
Thank you for this video... I'm starting my transition currently, and your words reinforced a lot the emotions I've been experiencing. So again, thank you!
I don't think the explanation you have given here has been more accurately given. Thank you for explaining as you have done in a way that makes total sense, is clear, and deeply real. I have been watching your transition closely as I have been going through my own. What you said on this video echoes much of what I too have gone through. You are truly inspiring to others even though you aren't the kind of guy who talks a lot to people :)
I'm just 17 and i know that i don't have force to start my transition, but i stay very very happy to see peoples that do it and know how deal with it. All the luck of the world for you and your family.
Very good video. Your candidness and reality speaks to many of us. I'm M2F, and was a Pentecostal for most of my life...I can relate. I came out 'gay' thinking that would 'fix' my problem..but soon found I didn't fit either. I finally came out trans a little over a year ago and now I 'fit' within my own mind. YOU are not only handsome, but have a good head on your shoulders. Keep up your happiness!
Thank you for this video. It feels good to see someone speaking the truth about what you went through. I went through the same feelings. It's hard but it feels good to see someone else talking about it.
Such a great vid Dade, thanks for sharing.Your story is my story, I had no idea transition was an option & once I found out I absolutely knew for the first time in my life what had been going on all these years. Youre right, you have to want it with all your heart.This last year, living as male, waiting for medical transition to start, has been the most painful thing Ive experienced, but because i know that I am finally becoming me, it makes the pain worth it. You are an inpiration my friend.
Thank you so much, Dade for sharing your story. My "son" is 10 1/2. Puberty has hit and we're trying to figure out the best way to move forward. Finding your channel is wonderful. It is mature, thought out and honest. I am subscribed so Liv and I can check in often. FYI...in our family Liv being transgender is a non-issue. As his mom, I want to do wha's best for him. Now that puberty has hit and he's changing schools next fall, decisions need to be made. Your thoughts are very welcome!
I'm from Spain, and my english is not very good but I feel the same.. I'm begginning to understand all and I'm afraid but happy because now I know who i am...Thanks!Your videos give me strengh!
I don't think it's too late for you or grannyspecs1. We are always going to be moving forward, no matter how old we get. We might as well be moving forward while being comfortable in our own skin. Thank you for watching my videos and for your support, my friend.
I can't even imagine what you must have gone through all your life, not understand why you were not fitting in, why there was something "wrong" with you... You are incredibly brave and I really appreciate you being so open about the way you felt and thought. People like you will change this world, slowly but steadily decreasing ignorance and transphobia. Your strength inspires me.:)
Thank you for sharing your story Dade! You are truly an inspiration. I am questioning my gender and like you, i have a cis gendered, lesbian identified wife. Yours and Tiff's videos are immeasurably helpful. My wife and i watch your videos together , and it is helping us both understand each others perspectives. Take care!
Thank you for this video. Growing up I felt 'wrong'. My mom called me her daughter and had me dressing in feminine clothing, and it felt wrong. I didn't know why, but when I came across your page and watched the videos, I realized I wasn't a girl, but a boy in a girl body, trapped. I told my mom this over a year ago,and she still sees me as a girl, no matter how much I correct her, but luckily I have a wife who supports me, just like you do. I just wanted to say thank you for making your channel. It has helped me greatly.
I glad you can relate to what I said in the video. Sometimes I wonder if what I say is something people will connect with. Good luck on your transition!
We really need to start teaching children in school about sexuality and being transgender, because of children who grew up like you, in religious households or just families who don't tell their children about these things. It would save a lot of children a lot of confusion and fear that is completely unnecessary. It would've made my life a hell of a lot easier.
When you're ready, the right path will become apparent. Not all stories end with losing your family - many families are very loving and understanding. Sending good wishes out to the universe that your family are that type.
I think the most inspiring thing, watching your videos, is seeing you and Tiff together. It is amazing the kind of marriage that you have that has sustained and grown and deepened while you are going through all these amazing changes (with hormones and surgeries, all). I've a deep respect for both of you that, despite it all, it is so easy to tell how much you love each other, how much respect and support there is between you. So, thanks for sharing.
Hey man! Thanx for what you are doing dude! I am 43 years old and realized in therapy that I spent the best part of my life with men, as their girlfriend, just to learn how to be one. Sorry guys, wasn't being true to myself and maybe broke a few hearts....so when I heard you talk about your "attraction" to boys, I felt for the first time in my life that I am not alone in this. I want to be seen and regarded as I feel inside. I am just beginning to reach out to other people experiencing this.
Hey there! We did a week on the PaganPerspective collab about transgender practitioners and male- or female-only groups. This video showed up at the end of one, as a suggested video. I saw the thumbnail and my first thought was DAMN that is one attractive man. When I saw the video title, I just had to come watch it and say hello lol. Great video, thanks so much for sharing.
I relate to a lot of what you said. Until I actually had a word to describe what I felt I just felt out of place and tried to ignore that feeling. Since I heard about being trans and what you can do about it, I haven't been able to shake it off again. Upside is I now know what might lie ahead so I can start coping. Downside is that it's becoming increasingly difficult to deal with since I'm not out "publicly" (only friends and family know), and have no idea when I can finally start transition.
Happy New year Bro..You have inspired me to have the courage to tell my mother once again that I am a " MALE ".well at least I do in my mind and on the inside. .I have already had a hysterectomy...and ..changed licences like I mentioned before. But all I knew is that I DID NOT WANT TO GO ANOTHER YEAR..avoiding saying and reminding my mother and friends that this entire process is going full throttle. .whether it be chest reconstruction and testosterone or both. Blessings, To u and fam in 201
Hi Dade, awesome transition, you are brave and truly committed to what's right for you. You speak with conviction and true comfort that is hard not to respect. I am a forensic genetic engineer amongst other things and came across ur blog by chance. What a joy to listen to u. From having worked in the field ur in I am truly proud of you. I'd love to hear from you.
What an amazing mother to have! Your son is very lucky. I can imagine it's hard to know exactly what to do in this situation. Many parents in your shoes chose against HRT right aways and instead opt for hormone blockers to put off puberty. This way, if either you or your son are not quite ready for full on HRT, at least he won't have to go through the agony (and irreversibility) of female puberty.
I'm in tears, Dade. That journey must have been rough, and I am staring at the beginning of my journey at only age 15. I can't imagine coming out to my parents, who are very religious. I'm a gay FTM and I don't know how to say this, but thank you. Thank you for starting on your journey to help me start mine. -Dante
Way to be a voice for trans people out there! I hope your videos reach the ears and eyes of kids struggling with these types of identity issues and it helps them know they are not alone and that it's ok. :) Thank you!
it's so awesome, I admire all the efforts you made and are making, I guess that I'm lucky to not be trapped in a wrong body, but I'm sure most of the people who are lucky as I am wouldn't understand all those trails and difficulties you guys go through, through the videos you make, we can have a view to all these, thanks for sharing, this is really respectful and brave, and mostly, amazing!! :)
Thank you for this video.. All the steps you went through I find myself going through as well. Currently I am just stuck in the step of determining if I am 100% committed... For myself I want to do this but the social changes of having to explain things scare me the most. Your last statements really hit
Oh I love the affirmation in being attracted to guys because of wanting to be one. Seems like a strange thing to hear but that's my story too. Thanks for sharing. Great vid. Tiffany was right in that first vid when saying that you might help people.
Good treatment of a monumental subject. You got to know that all those questions are coming from folks that will hang on every word of this because they are experiencing uncertainty about what they might to be about to head into. If I were in your shoes, I don't know if I would have the fortitude to go through with it. Chin strap beard is looking mighty fine, Mr. Dade. Good haircut too, IMHO. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you, Tiffany, and cute little Zane! Cheers!
Nice job explaining everything! Sad to hear you felt you had to leave everyone...although I know the feeling. I grew up in the 50's and 60's where I never heard any labels that fit me either. I hated girls clothes, hated my breasts and body, and loved to play with trucks. I too took on the "lesbian" label, as many of us have. Good that you did what was best for you!! You deserve it! Thanks for letting us hear your story.
Thank you for that vid! You were telling my story, only I discovered the word at the age of 15 and became obsessed at the age of 25. I'm still currently pre everything.
Dade, I have to say that I really admire you as a person. I really love the way you're able to express yourself because you do come across in a very sincere way. I've watched all of your videos and your story is very inspiring. Yes, you've had your ups and downs but the way I see it you're a better person because of it and now with a beautiful family. Major kudos to your wife, she seems extremely supportive and open minded. Best wishes to you & your lovely family.Hope you're enjoying parenthood!
You are amazing as well as a great role model for people who are deciding to go through this life changing process. I watched your video of the year transformation and WOW. You were a beautiful woman and an even more handsome man. Your wife is truly lucky. I agree with the idea that the world is not black and white. I feel like you could do so much good in this world as someone to speak on the idea and topic and so thankful that youtube has allowed you this opportunity.
Thank you for bravely coming forth and posting this video. I cannot even say how old I am now, but have lived with this my entire life. I wish there had been something available to me when I was younger, or even the slightest support of any kind, from anyone. I'm a loner, and can say that this does not go away. Ever. If you who are watching, feel this way; get help; go to LGBT meetings somewhere. Get counselling; hormone therapy; surgery. The way you feel will not change this later in life.
It's hard to be sometimes... but it seems to work better then giving them what they want, which is to hurt people and piss them off. I also found that sometimes people will calm down and change their minds about the whole thing:)
Dade, Thanks for this. I'm happy for you. It is sooo sad when I hear that parents and family would shun their children in such a time. This is when you need them the most. I think that the peer pressure of the religious community is part of what makes it hard for members to support their own kids. They dont want to understand you, they want to save you. You have been set free in many ways. Rejoice in the FSM. Now look up what the FSM is)- It has something to do with spaghetti.
I think you are a very handsome man and I'm sure with all the things you have been through, it has helped you to be an excellent and supportive father. This is a great video and I think that you are very brave. Best of luck to you!
Dade, Let me just say Thank you. I am almost 19 and you are truly an inspiration to me. I feel the exact same way as you. I'm not out to my family and sometimes I feel so scared and depressed, But you're videos and seeing how far youve got in life is really an anchor for me. Thanks p.s. Im extremely jealous of your looks and voice :)
I feel the same way about my top surgery. I thought about it for 5 years before I did it. I never really knew if it was going to be the "right" decision until it was done. And even on the day I wasn't sure! As aribhearty said, sometimes you just gotta try it and see if it's going to be okay. Follow your gut/intuition! And talking to people is REAL GOOD for figuring things out. :)
Wow! Aside from your family situation (My mom was gay and very liberal, but the word transgender was an unknown for us, being older than you), my God, you're telling my story. I too didn't quite fit in with the lesbian community. In middle class groups, they were disgusted that I wanted to wear suits and ties. In the more working class groups, that was more acceptable, but intellectually I couldn't quite relate to the working class values. Only two of my girlfriends liked my ties and jackets and they were ultimate femmes. Being in the lesbian community, tho, allowed me to be more me than the straight world did, certainly, and there were plenty of lesbians who thought I was adorable, so it was a venue where I could actually find a gay woman. But most of my partners (two of them I'd been with for up to 13 years) did NOT approve of jackets and ties, so I had to restrain that desire. It was a big thing for me. As a kid, I joined the Brownies, ONLY because I got to wear a tie. Of course, the group bored me to tears, and I left soon after I started, but I also lost the tie. 🙁 I preferred playing with boys V's girls, unless I developed a crush on a girl. Lol. Thank you for sharing. You make this process easier to cope with. Thank you.
Just wanna say that I think its amazing. Please never regret the things you have done, you can only regret the things you havent done. Wish you and your family all the best and a beautiful life! dont care about haters... whatever..
It doesn't matter what genitalia you have or what gender you identify with (whether it's different than how you were born) or your orientation, all that matters is that you are truly happy and a great human being towards others. I love your videos, they have inspired me and I think you are absolutely gorgeous either way. Thank you for being so open and brave to tell the world about this.
There are options for bottom surgery, but I don't know if I'll go for it or not. As for being lucky... in some ways I feel very lucky, but on the other hand I have also worked extremely hard to get where I am. I have not taken my transition sitting down so to speak - I have worked to sculpt my body right along with the T. I started rather curvy... 34-26-36.
Understood. Darkness...necessary...can't go on otherwise.... Yup buddy, you've been there too, and I am glad you made it through your dark time as well! Such brightness all around...Happy Holidays to you and your family. EnJOY :) Same state, so maybe our families will cross paths soon!
Hi Dade, I stumbled on one of your videos a few days ago, and have watched some of them since. Just wanted to say that I admire you immensily for being true to yourself. You, your wife and daughter make a very loving family. I am hetero woman, old enough to comfortably be your mother, I'd be very proud of you if you were my son. And also allow me to say you are a very attractive man. But, above all, you are a wonderful human being.
i just wanted to say that i really appreciate this video and all the others you have posted. the person i'm in love with is transgender and i just wanted to gain more insight as to how he feels. some videos were pretty vague, while your videos make everything clearer. despite how much he told me, i couldn't quite understand; now i do. so, thanks :)
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I identity with every single thing you said. I feel like you were sharing MY story ha. So thank you. Thank you for being strong. Thank you for admitting that you are still struggling with things, because I feel like not enough trans guys are open about that. And that might not be the case for everybody, so that I understand, but it is so good to finally hear someone open up about it. Just hearing you say these things makes me feel so much less alone. :)
Dude! And I mean, Dude! You look amazing! I have no doubt that you are an inspiration to many young adults throughout the world! Thank you from all of them!
Age, family of origin, religion, community etc can very heavily color a persons entire life and access to the world. I call it being formerly illiterate, and I am beyond grateful to now have a language to use and continue learning to help me finally live my birth right. Great video, happy for you! I do have to say, though, that I believe saying being suicidal or having ideation is selfish is stigmatizing and actually false. Many are alive today b/c they went through a dark time, me included :)
I don't know how I came across your vids, but I've really been inspired by your story. I'm a straight guy but hearing your story gives me courage from your example to make changes in my life that I want to make, so thanks. If you and your family are ever travelling through Melbourne, pm me and we'll head out for a beer man. Cheers from Australia
I have recently realized I'm transgender. your videos, as well as your wife's videos have helped me a lot. Thank you so much Dade :). Best of luck with your family and the rest of your transition. Thank you again.
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...the description of how you feel inside just brought me to tears, because you could explain e-x-a-c-t-l-y what it feels like to me.
I don't feel like a girl among girls, among lesbians. My gender identity is male, I've knew it for a long time now...
You explained it so well I'm going to show this video to my family to help them understand how I feel.
Thank you SO much !
Randomly stumbled onto your transformation video (it was linked from Marina Abramović e Ulay - MoMA 2010) and I just wanted to say thanks for sharing your very personal & interesting story. Just because I can't personally identify with your story doesn't mean it isn't powerful & there aren't a lot of people who are going through the same thing. Sharing your story will most likely save them some of the hardship you went through alone. Bravo.
2:44 I thought "so-called attraction to men" was just something I went through. I didn't really find anybody attractive until secondary school where I started developing attractions for girls. When I got to uni I thought I was bi because I assumed I was attracted to men, and I did have long-term relationships with several men before realising I was trans. But I'm becoming more convinced that I was "attracted" to them because I wanted to be like them, aka male. Now I'm with a female partner and am very happy with her. :)
It also took me a long time to articulate that I was a man, even though I knew for a while that I wasn't a woman because for me it was an extra step. Even when I did kind of know I was scared about prejudice and surgery etc., but after coming to accept it even with all the baggage I have felt so much happier. Thanks for sharing your story, Dade.
I am MtF, and this is 95% the mirror image of my experience thus far. The attraction paralell that I experience was at one time for me, obsessive. I felt left out more than anything else and confused this with attraction as well. However I am attracted to women mostly, this is turning out to be a separate issue. Totally feeling ya here.. great vid post my trans brother..
Dude, you rock. :3 I'm so happy that you were able to become (physically) who you always knew you should be. I wish everyone could understand transgendered people and accept them as unique individuals who were essentially born into the wrong body (as I've heard it phrased). Stay strong!
This video has helped me immensely. I am beginning the path you were once on - research. At 31 years of age I am realizing I might be something other than the body I was born with. Thank you for posting this. Incredible insight.
Your story touched my heart and I can't even imagine how people out there like you have been gone through so many things mentally against general things that have given to them. thanks for sharing x
Very honest, very introspective. AMAZING. Thank you for sharing your journey.
This guy is amazing. I love him. he is so real and so sensitive and lovely. He has looked at his life and changed it for the better. Not many people can say that they have done that. The only person who can make your life amazing is you. And now he is helping others to do the same. He looks amazing too.
Hi Dade! I just wanted to thank you for putting your story out there.. I think you are such an inspiration to so many people and your bravery and determination speak louder than anything.. I am transitioning myself and I thank God everyday for other trans brothers and sisters that set an example for the rest of us... Thank you ..xoxo Caro
This is a hard one for me to give you advice on man. I personally did not have success with my family. What I can tell you is that the people who love and support you - those people are your family, regardless of bloodlines. So even if you do not have your parents supports, the people that love you for you are the ones that matter. As a side note - parents have a way of coming around after the shock factor is gone:) Good luck my friend.
I understand what you are saying about my use of the word selfish. I used that term from what an outsider might consider a suicidal person to be. When I was in my dark time - I was told that I was being selfish. For the insider, it doesn't feel selfish at all... it feels necessary, because you literally cannot go on. In any case - I did not mean to say that suicide is selfishness, and I'm glad that you made it through your dark time! Happy Holidays my friend:)
Honestly Dade, this video is THE video I can relate to. What you say, I have felt. In my own circumstances and ways, of course, but it is close enough that I don't feel so alien anymore. I really look up to you, thanks for being there.
i came upon this video by accident but your view and your transition is truely moving. all that anybody wants is to be true to themselves and find love. i commend you for doing both .
Nice video Dade. Being in a position now where I could lose my family through my transition, it is very inspiring to hear your story and see your strength. Hope the rest of your journey goes well.
Thank you for this video... I'm starting my transition currently, and your words reinforced a lot the emotions I've been experiencing. So again, thank you!
If I could give you a million thumbs up I would've cause your story is EXACTLY like my story.
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I don't think the explanation you have given here has been more accurately given. Thank you for explaining as you have done in a way that makes total sense, is clear, and deeply real. I have been watching your transition closely as I have been going through my own. What you said on this video echoes much of what I too have gone through. You are truly inspiring to others even though you aren't the kind of guy who talks a lot to people :)
Thank you for making this video. I know I want this in my whole heart. I’m ready to live my life.
Thank you for explaining how you discovered yourself. It amazes me how smart you are to find your journey.
Dude!!! Thanks for sharing your transition and videos. You are opening a lot of minds and taboos around the world. You are amazing.
I'm just 17 and i know that i don't have force to start my transition, but i stay very very happy to see peoples that do it and know how deal with it. All the luck of the world for you and your family.
Very good video. Your candidness and reality speaks to many of us. I'm M2F, and was a Pentecostal for most of my life...I can relate. I came out 'gay' thinking that would 'fix' my problem..but soon found I didn't fit either. I finally came out trans a little over a year ago and now I 'fit' within my own mind.
YOU are not only handsome, but have a good head on your shoulders. Keep up your happiness!
Thank you for your video. I think that you put it more clearly than I ever could. Stay strong brother.
I just found your your channel. Your talks are moving. Happy New Year as you discover every day about yourself.
Thank you for this video. It feels good to see someone speaking the truth about what you went through. I went through the same feelings. It's hard but it feels good to see someone else talking about it.
Such a great vid Dade, thanks for sharing.Your story is my story, I had no idea transition was an option & once I found out I absolutely knew for the first time in my life what had been going on all these years. Youre right, you have to want it with all your heart.This last year, living as male, waiting for medical transition to start, has been the most painful thing Ive experienced, but because i know that I am finally becoming me, it makes the pain worth it. You are an inpiration my friend.
Thank you so much, Dade for sharing your story. My "son" is 10 1/2. Puberty has hit and we're trying to figure out the best way to move forward. Finding your channel is wonderful. It is mature, thought out and honest. I am subscribed so Liv and I can check in often. FYI...in our family Liv being transgender is a non-issue. As his mom, I want to do wha's best for him. Now that puberty has hit and he's changing schools next fall, decisions need to be made. Your thoughts are very welcome!
I'm from Spain, and my english is not very good but I feel the same.. I'm begginning to understand all and I'm afraid but happy because now I know who i am...Thanks!Your videos give me strengh!
I don't think it's too late for you or grannyspecs1. We are always going to be moving forward, no matter how old we get. We might as well be moving forward while being comfortable in our own skin. Thank you for watching my videos and for your support, my friend.
I can't even imagine what you must have gone through all your life, not understand why you were not fitting in, why there was something "wrong" with you...
You are incredibly brave and I really appreciate you being so open about the way you felt and thought. People like you will change this world, slowly but steadily decreasing ignorance and transphobia.
Your strength inspires me.:)
Thank you for sharing your story Dade! You are truly an inspiration. I am questioning my gender and like you, i have a cis gendered, lesbian identified wife. Yours and Tiff's videos are immeasurably helpful. My wife and i watch your videos together , and it is helping us both understand each others perspectives. Take care!
Thank you for this video. Growing up I felt 'wrong'. My mom called me her daughter and had me dressing in feminine clothing, and it felt wrong. I didn't know why, but when I came across your page and watched the videos, I realized I wasn't a girl, but a boy in a girl body, trapped. I told my mom this over a year ago,and she still sees me as a girl, no matter how much I correct her, but luckily I have a wife who supports me, just like you do. I just wanted to say thank you for making your channel. It has helped me greatly.
I glad you can relate to what I said in the video. Sometimes I wonder if what I say is something people will connect with. Good luck on your transition!
What an amazing view on God and spirituality. Thank you.
This has helped me so much... Thank you for taking your time to share your experience!
We really need to start teaching children in school about sexuality and being transgender, because of children who grew up like you, in religious households or just families who don't tell their children about these things. It would save a lot of children a lot of confusion and fear that is completely unnecessary. It would've made my life a hell of a lot easier.
When you're ready, the right path will become apparent. Not all stories end with losing your family - many families are very loving and understanding. Sending good wishes out to the universe that your family are that type.
I think the most inspiring thing, watching your videos, is seeing you and Tiff together. It is amazing the kind of marriage that you have that has sustained and grown and deepened while you are going through all these amazing changes (with hormones and surgeries, all). I've a deep respect for both of you that, despite it all, it is so easy to tell how much you love each other, how much respect and support there is between you. So, thanks for sharing.
I'm so happy for you...you seem to have it all. you're comfortable in yourself & you have a beautiful family. It gives me hope to see you xxx
Hey man! Thanx for what you are doing dude! I am 43 years old and realized in therapy that I spent the best part of my life with men, as their girlfriend, just to learn how to be one. Sorry guys, wasn't being true to myself and maybe broke a few hearts....so when I heard you talk about your "attraction" to boys, I felt for the first time in my life that I am not alone in this. I want to be seen and regarded as I feel inside. I am just beginning to reach out to other people experiencing this.
Hey there! We did a week on the PaganPerspective collab about transgender practitioners and male- or female-only groups. This video showed up at the end of one, as a suggested video. I saw the thumbnail and my first thought was DAMN that is one attractive man. When I saw the video title, I just had to come watch it and say hello lol. Great video, thanks so much for sharing.
You are a total inspiration. I have shared your video on our facebook page. You detail your story amazingly well!
Stay strong!
xXx
I relate to a lot of what you said. Until I actually had a word to describe what I felt I just felt out of place and tried to ignore that feeling. Since I heard about being trans and what you can do about it, I haven't been able to shake it off again.
Upside is I now know what might lie ahead so I can start coping.
Downside is that it's becoming increasingly difficult to deal with since I'm not out "publicly" (only friends and family know), and have no idea when I can finally start transition.
I really do wish you the best on your own journey. I believe that whatever we want, if we really want it, can happen. Good luck to you!
You seem a well-adjusted young man and I wish you the best of luck in your transition and your life.
Happy New year Bro..You have inspired me to have the courage to tell my mother once again that I am a " MALE ".well at least I do in my mind and on the inside. .I have already had a hysterectomy...and ..changed licences like I mentioned before.
But all I knew is that I DID NOT WANT TO GO ANOTHER YEAR..avoiding saying and reminding my mother and friends that this entire process is going full throttle. .whether it be chest reconstruction and testosterone or both.
Blessings,
To u and fam in 201
Hi Dade, awesome transition, you are brave and truly committed to what's right for you. You speak with conviction and true comfort that is hard not to respect. I am a forensic genetic engineer amongst other things and came across ur blog by chance. What a joy to listen to u. From having worked in the field ur in I am truly proud of you. I'd love to hear from you.
I really hope that you and your wife continue to make these wonderful videos after this year.
What an amazing mother to have! Your son is very lucky. I can imagine it's hard to know exactly what to do in this situation. Many parents in your shoes chose against HRT right aways and instead opt for hormone blockers to put off puberty. This way, if either you or your son are not quite ready for full on HRT, at least he won't have to go through the agony (and irreversibility) of female puberty.
I'm in tears, Dade. That journey must have been rough, and I am staring at the beginning of my journey at only age 15. I can't imagine coming out to my parents, who are very religious. I'm a gay FTM and I don't know how to say this, but thank you. Thank you for starting on your journey to help me start mine. -Dante
Gosh I am so sorry that your environment, family, religion "forced" you to leave them. I mean, you are so wonderful!! Keep it up!!
Omg, how are you so calm and respectful about this? I admire you U_U
I agree 100%. Im glad i saw your videos. Best wishes to you and your family. You are a great inspiration to all of us out here.
Wow...I'm sorry you went through all that pain growing up. The good thing, you're young and have your life ahead of you. Good luck to you :)
I'm glad you can relate to that. It's hard to admit things like that sometimes.
Way to be a voice for trans people out there! I hope your videos reach the ears and eyes of kids struggling with these types of identity issues and it helps them know they are not alone and that it's ok. :) Thank you!
it's so awesome, I admire all the efforts you made and are making, I guess that I'm lucky to not be trapped in a wrong body, but I'm sure most of the people who are lucky as I am wouldn't understand all those trails and difficulties you guys go through, through the videos you make, we can have a view to all these, thanks for sharing, this is really respectful and brave, and mostly, amazing!! :)
Thank you for this video.. All the steps you went through I find myself going through as well. Currently I am just stuck in the step of determining if I am 100% committed... For myself I want to do this but the social changes of having to explain things scare me the most. Your last statements really hit
Oh I love the affirmation in being attracted to guys because of wanting to be one. Seems like a strange thing to hear but that's my story too. Thanks for sharing. Great vid. Tiffany was right in that first vid when saying that you might help people.
This make so many sense to me..... I identify myself with your story a lot..... thank you!
Good treatment of a monumental subject. You got to know that all those questions are coming from folks that will hang on every word of this because they are experiencing uncertainty about what they might to be about to head into. If I were in your shoes, I don't know if I would have the fortitude to go through with it.
Chin strap beard is looking mighty fine, Mr. Dade. Good haircut too, IMHO.
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you, Tiffany, and cute little Zane! Cheers!
I enjoyed your videos very much! I wish I was as brave as you, able to leave your hometown and start a new life. You are truly my new inspiration.
Your story is very empowering. Thank you for sharing it with the world. You are so brave.
Nice job explaining everything! Sad to hear you felt you had to leave everyone...although I know the feeling. I grew up in the 50's and 60's where I never heard any labels that fit me either. I hated girls clothes, hated my breasts and body, and loved to play with trucks. I too took on the "lesbian" label, as many of us have. Good that you did what was best for you!! You deserve it! Thanks for letting us hear your story.
Thank you for that vid! You were telling my story, only I discovered the word at the age of 15 and became obsessed at the age of 25. I'm still currently pre everything.
Dade, I have to say that I really admire you as a person. I really love the way you're able to express yourself because you do come across in a very sincere way. I've watched all of your videos and your story is very inspiring. Yes, you've had your ups and downs but the way I see it you're a better person because of it and now with a beautiful family. Major kudos to your wife, she seems extremely supportive and open minded. Best wishes to you & your lovely family.Hope you're enjoying parenthood!
You are amazing as well as a great role model for people who are deciding to go through this life changing process. I watched your video of the year transformation and WOW. You were a beautiful woman and an even more handsome man. Your wife is truly lucky. I agree with the idea that the world is not black and white. I feel like you could do so much good in this world as someone to speak on the idea and topic and so thankful that youtube has allowed you this opportunity.
Thank you for bravely coming forth and posting this video. I cannot even say how old I am now, but have lived with this my entire life. I wish there had been something available to me when I was younger, or even the slightest support of any kind, from anyone. I'm a loner, and can say that this does not go away. Ever. If you who are watching, feel this way; get help; go to LGBT meetings somewhere. Get counselling; hormone therapy; surgery. The way you feel will not change this later in life.
Thank you very much for setting an example. I know you're not perfect, since no one is, but I'm inspired by you.
It's hard to be sometimes... but it seems to work better then giving them what they want, which is to hurt people and piss them off. I also found that sometimes people will calm down and change their minds about the whole thing:)
Dade, Thanks for this. I'm happy for you. It is sooo sad when I hear that parents and family would shun their children in such a time. This is when you need them the most.
I think that the peer pressure of the religious community is part of what makes it hard for members to support their own kids. They dont want to understand you, they want to save you. You have been set free in many ways. Rejoice in the FSM. Now look up what the FSM is)- It has something to do with spaghetti.
I think you are a very handsome man and I'm sure with all the things you have been through, it has helped you to be an excellent and supportive father. This is a great video and I think that you are very brave. Best of luck to you!
Dade, Let me just say Thank you.
I am almost 19 and you are truly an inspiration to me.
I feel the exact same way as you.
I'm not out to my family and sometimes I feel so scared and depressed, But you're videos and seeing how far youve got in life is really an anchor for me.
Thanks
p.s. Im extremely jealous of your looks and voice :)
Man, I just want to say how much I respect you and admire you. Lots of love.
I feel the same way about my top surgery. I thought about it for 5 years before I did it. I never really knew if it was going to be the "right" decision until it was done. And even on the day I wasn't sure! As aribhearty said, sometimes you just gotta try it and see if it's going to be okay. Follow your gut/intuition! And talking to people is REAL GOOD for figuring things out.
:)
Wow! Aside from your family situation (My mom was gay and very liberal, but the word transgender was an unknown for us, being older than you), my God, you're telling my story. I too didn't quite fit in with the lesbian community. In middle class groups, they were disgusted that I wanted to wear suits and ties. In the more working class groups, that was more acceptable, but intellectually I couldn't quite relate to the working class values. Only two of my girlfriends liked my ties and jackets and they were ultimate femmes. Being in the lesbian community, tho, allowed me to be more me than the straight world did, certainly, and there were plenty of lesbians who thought I was adorable, so it was a venue where I could actually find a gay woman. But most of my partners (two of them I'd been with for up to 13 years) did NOT approve of jackets and ties, so I had to restrain that desire. It was a big thing for me. As a kid, I joined the Brownies, ONLY because I got to wear a tie. Of course, the group bored me to tears, and I left soon after I started, but I also lost the tie. 🙁 I preferred playing with boys V's girls, unless I developed a crush on a girl. Lol. Thank you for sharing. You make this process easier to cope with. Thank you.
So many of us have the same story - it's amazing. Good luck on your journey.
Amazing, brother. Very nicely articulated. I share so much of this experience with you.
Just wanna say that I think its amazing. Please never regret the things you have done, you can only regret the things you havent done. Wish you and your family all the best and a beautiful life! dont care about haters... whatever..
Thank you Dade for pointing me to here Bro! This is helpful. I may have some other questions that I will send your way off the common area.
Wow, three and half years! That must be awesome man, congratulations! Thanks for being interested in other transmens journeys.
It doesn't matter what genitalia you have or what gender you identify with (whether it's different than how you were born) or your orientation, all that matters is that you are truly happy and a great human being towards others. I love your videos, they have inspired me and I think you are absolutely gorgeous either way. Thank you for being so open and brave to tell the world about this.
I'm glad that you are transitioning and that you found some of these videos helpful. Best wishes my friend!
There are options for bottom surgery, but I don't know if I'll go for it or not. As for being lucky... in some ways I feel very lucky, but on the other hand I have also worked extremely hard to get where I am. I have not taken my transition sitting down so to speak - I have worked to sculpt my body right along with the T. I started rather curvy... 34-26-36.
Understood. Darkness...necessary...can't go on otherwise.... Yup buddy, you've been there too, and I am glad you made it through your dark time as well! Such brightness all around...Happy Holidays to you and your family. EnJOY :) Same state, so maybe our families will cross paths soon!
Hi Dade,
I stumbled on one of your videos a few days ago, and have watched some of them since. Just wanted to say that I admire you immensily for being true to yourself. You, your wife and daughter make a very loving family. I am hetero woman, old enough to comfortably be your mother, I'd be very proud of you if you were my son. And also allow me to say you are a very attractive man. But, above all, you are a wonderful human being.
So proud of you, wish you always the best luck in life xo
i just wanted to say that i really appreciate this video and all the others you have posted. the person i'm in love with is transgender and i just wanted to gain more insight as to how he feels. some videos were pretty vague, while your videos make everything clearer. despite how much he told me, i couldn't quite understand; now i do. so, thanks :)
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I identity with every single thing you said. I feel like you were sharing MY story ha. So thank you. Thank you for being strong. Thank you for admitting that you are still struggling with things, because I feel like not enough trans guys are open about that. And that might not be the case for everybody, so that I understand, but it is so good to finally hear someone open up about it. Just hearing you say these things makes me feel so much less alone. :)
Dude! And I mean, Dude! You look amazing! I have no doubt that you are an inspiration to many young adults throughout the world! Thank you from all of them!
Age, family of origin, religion, community etc can very heavily color a persons entire life and access to the world. I call it being formerly illiterate, and I am beyond grateful to now have a language to use and continue learning to help me finally live my birth right. Great video, happy for you! I do have to say, though, that I believe saying being suicidal or having ideation is selfish is stigmatizing and actually false. Many are alive today b/c they went through a dark time, me included :)
excellent video! so refreshing to hear like-minded stories, makes me feel not so alone.
Oh, man I can feel this.
Merry Christmas to you as well, Don. Wishing you the best in the year to come!
I don't know how I came across your vids, but I've really been inspired by your story. I'm a straight guy but hearing your story gives me courage from your example to make changes in my life that I want to make, so thanks. If you and your family are ever travelling through Melbourne, pm me and we'll head out for a beer man. Cheers from Australia
I have recently realized I'm transgender. your videos, as well as your wife's videos have helped me a lot. Thank you so much Dade :). Best of luck with your family and the rest of your transition. Thank you again.
Great video Dade. Thanks for sharing your story, I've no doubt ur helping a lot of people stuff figure out .
Your personality is so similar to mine, it's crazy.
I hope the world will see this vids. Amazing and so natural, peaceful!
Great job man you are really cute!