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I personally prefer a more introverted life. There's too much "noise" and unwelcome current news and events. Not that I'm totally oblivious to what's going on in the world, I just prefer to surround myself with peace and nature and the things that bring me joy and hope. Guess as I've gotten older I've become more picky about who and what I allow in my space. You are such a strong and wise young woman and the path you lead is so inspiring. Thank you for sharing it.
Exactly how i feel. Thank you.
My sentiments exactly! \🕶/
Same here. x
Exactly!
@@sweetstufff Yes... glad I'm not alone even though I appear to be. :-)
I go to my favorite coffee shop almost every day. Since my only child, Josh passed away in 2014, it has filled a certain void. I can share stories with younger employees, encourage them to pursue their dreams, and provide helpful books, and treats. This has allowed me to become a "Grandpa" in a manner that nature didn't provide. Many young people didn't grow up with much adult support and can still benefit from the knowledge you can convey to them. (And they can tell you what's wrong with your computer. Usually the operator!)
It is such a beautiful tribute to your son to help other young people. Thank you for choosing to do something so helpful. As a person who benefited greatly from 'grandpa & grandma figures' growing up, I know what a blessing you must be to so many.
I am very sorry for your loss. Your child would be proud of you sharing your knowledge and insight at the coffee shop.
What a wonderful thing to "grandpa" to those that may have missed out on having one. A supportive grandparent, by blood or of the heart, can give them such a gift in a way. And in turn they will pass on the knowledge and caring when they maybe become a grandparent. A wonderful circle.
@@pippas5808 Thank you, Pippa! You made a 74-year-old veteran feel good today.
@@lucyhuron8771 Thank you, Lucy! Yes, I think Josh would be very happy with the help I give to other people.
Every time I return a book to my local library, I always place a small slip of paper inside that I've painted with a flower (or the sorts) and written a little happy message. On the few occasions I have found something like this in a book, I feel a little rush of happiness and connection with another soul who must be similar to mine. Thank you Paola
That’s such a sweet thing to do, Dani! I have done the same thing on trains, to wish people a good day and a safe journey…
That is baautiful ....
Thank you for sharing this coziness!!
Cute idea! :)
Gonna start doing this
You’re lovely 🥰
I often press flowers 🌸 into books I give or loan out to bless the reader
I forgot to put an explanation in the video put at 8:40 I answered a couple more questions that pop up fairly often ❤️ also, labels to describe ones personality can be helpful, but of course always fail to encompass the person as a whole. They are limited, but I use them to attempt to share a little about myself. Thank you everyone! I hope you are all doing well and taking care of yourselves. Sending a big hug.
(Also, just to remind anyone that does not relate to my story, everyone is unique and I am not speaking for all people who consider themselves quiet, social, or anything else. This is just my own thoughts and experience. Best wishes.)
thank you so much for the lovely messages, really appreciate it💗 it motivates me more and inspire me to continue the channel I started 💗💗
You are such a beautiful person. How do I order your book and journal?
There’s not really a discrepancy between living an introverted life and sharing segments of your lifestyle via beautiful videos. You are alone (or mostly alone) while filming. Planning and editing videos provides a source of income but also serves as your personal artistic expression, a way to inspire others and give back to the world without disrupting the need for a quiet, nature-filled life. Thank you for inviting us to share a glimpse!
Yes thank you so much Paola!
Yes, beautifully put :)
So well said! Very true 💕
I was born in 1965, an introvert. Life was really different for us before the internet. We were often overlooked, treated as tho we were odd, or worse yet, considered people who needed to be fixed. Take a magazine quiz and read the attached article to help us 'overcome' our shyness. Weird murder case on the news? The perp was usually described as 'a loner with few friends', and the rest of us would be stared at by coworkers and neighbors for a few weeks after the news coverage. There used to be self help groups for shy people to meet, but they were mostly doomed to fail for obvious reasons, hahaha.
Thanks to the web, introverts are able to interact with others at a distance and share ourselves in our comfort zones. Plus we are able to see other introverts! O joy! There are so many of us, and we're normal! We don't eat people or dress our cats up for tea parties. Speaking of cats, that kitty has some fast paws.
That is a good comment!!!👏 I was born that same year & know EXACTLY what u are saying. SO true / good & funny!!! 👍😁 let's just be ourselves & ENJOY!!! ( I love being alone!!!!) ❤
Love this comment!! 🐈⬛
I see myself as an introvert. With not many interests. Id try things like fashion drawing or macrame when I was younger. I had a hard time finding something I liked. But now I sew bags and give them to people. They love it.
I used to be an introvert that tried being an extrovert... Today I'm just grateful to be an introvert. I live in a tiny home behind my daughter's home. I am content to only having her and my grandson's as daily company. Crowds ... I cannot handle. I enjoy my time alone. Thanks for sharing and I enjoy your tranquil vlogs.💗
I resonate with trying to be an etrovert. I like good conversation, but one-to-one. Sometimes it seems like extroversion but it's definitely different!
I really relate to this. As I am getting older I am finding more and more that my values don't align with the society I am living in. And that can be a very isolating feeling. I really appreciate you sharing your world. It reminds me that there are others out there like me, who would rather spend time in the woods, than in a crowded shopping mall. Thank you ♥️
As an introvert, you make me feel less awkward and more comfortable in my skin. I love being alone. It’s my happy place. ✨
I was also born a quiet and shy person. I was shocked when I was labeled stuck up by a few people. That is how it comes off to others sometimes.
I got the same reaction from people in the past!
That’s the way people described me and it stings.
Yup, someone who became one of my best friends through teenage years told me how she noticed me in PE class and thought " I'm definitely not ever going to talk to her".
I understand and it is heartbreaking to hear that people think that of us quieter ones right off the bat without putting in any effort to get to know us.
We are a different loving breed❤
Same here. I am more on the introvert side. And though I like socialising its not like an extrovert. I too have been seen/ called stuck up or arrogant when all it is is keeping to myself and observing others.
I am an extreme extrovert but my daughter is very introverted. Your videos really help me understand my daughter more. I also find your videos so soothing. Being an extrovert can be exhausting. Keep doing what you are doing Paola. What a beautiful spirit you are ❤
I appreciate your sharing that being an extrovert is exhausting. I never thought of it this way because you guys always seem to have so much energy! ❤
As an introvert, I completely understand what you are saying. I have been taking care of my mother for the past few years which many would find to be a great burden. Instead, I appreciate the quietness, the solitary life, the daily attention to home and garden, and the necessary avoidance of social occasions. I build strength in solitude as do other introverts, and gratefully, I have the company of my son when I need companionship. Unfortunately, we live in a society where we feel we must apologize or awkwardly try to explain our natural temperament. I'm through with all that! Seek your happiness in the way that is right for you!
Yes very true! I Agree. 🙂 So nice you have that time with your mom, such a blessing. I'm having to deal with MS and hardly anyone understands why I can't keep up with them. Not many people slow down anymore. They all seem to be competing with each other. I love being alone & to crochet & just cuddle with my kitty. It is a blessing to have it peaceful & quiet. I love watching these videos. Take care & God bless. ❤
I am just beginning my journey of not apologizing for being an introvert - many decades of crumbling under being labelled as "anti-social" (which I am not) and apologizing for who I am is a challenging habit to break....this channel - and the people here - help support me to appreciate myself. Thank you all for your kindness :)
I have a deep seated need for peace and quiet so I don’t socialise much. Here where I live (the south of Denmark) it is normal to smile and say hi to people you pass on the street, even though you don’t know them. I remind myself that it maybe the only smile another person sees that day.❤️
lovely. I believe in sharing smiles, too.😊
Det er en smuk tanke, og man ved ikke hvor meget det kan hjælpe en anden person at smile til dem på gaden :)
I smile at people. An elderly man beamed back at me and told me I was the first person he had any human interaction in 2 weeks.You never know who you are smiling at and the difference it can make.Its best not to expect always getting a smile back tho!😊I found I was getting hurt by grumpy responses!So I give em away,no expectations!
I make a habit of telling people they look beautiful! Man or woman. I compliment them on their hair, outfit, or their children. I smile and tell them something they may not hear often. It only takes a second to make someone else smile!! 😊❤ (p.s. I never noticed your wonky finger...I'm too busy listening to your words or the nature around you.)!! 🌾🪴🌹🌷🌻🌼🌳
Me too, I find your voice mesmerizing! It quiets my mind and prepares me for a good nights sleep!🥰
I remember two years ago I was living alone in my apartment, feeling so depressed and having no one I felt that could understand my feelings. I was constantly crying, and the person I thought who loved me could not even fight for us. I was so devastated, and it went on for months. Then I came across your video, you just doing something so mundane in the kitchen. But it made me sob. I hadn't known it was I needed, finding joy even in the little things in life. And it really changed my perspective. Your life has been my dream life, and I know I am on my way to living it.
Dear Paola, just when I thought to myself - I would love to hear Paola‘s calming voice and beautiful thoughts the notification came out that you posted a video… thank you so much for sharing yourself with us, for being the way you are, and for your wonderful messages…it really means a lot ❤️
Aw!!! Thank you ❤️❤️❤️ I appreciate it very much
@@TheCottageFairy I feel so much calmer my hatred for humans and christ and my father vinshu it ceases this video calms my soul I thank you at the same time you irritate me kinda why are you so kind sending everyone your love you are just like him way too kind
@@TheCottageFairy war is approaching us I want you to hold me like baby and rock me back and forth to sleep sing me a song would you
@@AllShallOBEY stay safe
My Annishinabe Ojibwe "uncle" shared with me his thoughts on spiders years ago when I also had a week where 2 very large spiders made their way onto my body. Thankfully I wasn't bitten, but it freaked me out as I really didn't like spiders. So he shared with me the story of Grandmother Spider and her gift to the people of Dream Catchers which were patterned after her beautiful and Creative web. When she comes to us and gets so close, she is reminding us that we are creative beings and all we weave is connected to everything and everyone else. Often times her messages are to ask us what part of our life needs more creativity...or how are we affecting others. He told me that if she actually bites you...that means the message is really strong and you had been ignoring her more subtle messages. And when I prayed on it I did find areas of my life which needed more creativity...and not the areas you would usually think of as "creative" or artsy and I was thankful to start re-thinking them. So now whenever I see a spider I pause and reflect and honestly I can't remember the last time I was bitten...and like you I live remotely and in the mountains on a ranch...so spiders abound. I also invested in a Spider Catcher and when I find them in my house I make every effort to catch and release out doors. Thanks for all you share. :)
Thank you for sharing this, I was especially moved by your comment...
As long as I can remember, I've had a spider phobia, so it was challenging for me to read your comment, but still: Very refreshing...
Even though I've had this phobia, I wish them nothing ill and I always feel so sad whenever someone kills a spider ... We don't have the right to do that just because we can!...
Thank you for sharing that you help them to come out... It is a healing message.
Such a beautiful story. Thank you for taking the time to share it.
Thank you for your deep and meaningful comment, I am really touched
I get what you mean about being introverted, but still wanting connection. I heard someone once summarize being introverted as “I like to be alone, but I don’t like to be lonely.” And I feel like that’s pretty accurate.
This describes me perfectly and I think many misunderstand that statement. For me I would rather just have my family or one to two people I can trust over a bunch of friends I never have time to truly connect with.
With your adorably mischievous kitten playing with the paint brush, you look just like a modern day Beatrix Potter 🌱💚 I loved your picture of the pansies, it was so calming to see how you drew them. You are such an inspiration to me, a 28 year old from England who is still figuring out life.
I couldn't see the spider bite but I can only imagine how horrifying that thought is. I got bit by a black widow on my leg once and the fact that I was asleep and spider bit me. Gives me the shivers.
Also as someone who was VERY quiet and reserved as a child, I used to get told in middle school and high school that I was a snob. It crushed me because I would have liked nothing more than to be outgoing and know what to say and when to say it, but I didn't. So then I was judged for being more reserved. Now that I am a middled aged woman, I have learned that I don't care as much about what others think and I surround myself with people that I love and in turn I am not as quiet. I love that you addressed being a quiet person but still filling your bucket with social things. Thank you for your lovely content, it always makes my day.
My love language is acts of service. Nothing makes me happier than cooking for someone or (as I get scolded by every friend) cleaning up after they have entertained or cooked a meal for me.
Thank you! You have no idea how this video has lifted my spirit!!!! ♥️
People just thought I was weird. I’ve always been on a singular path. Happily I’ve always had one ☝️ true friend along the way. That’s just fine with me. I’ve just been me. I’m okay 👌 with that now at 66. I’m still on that singular path. I embrace it. Lucky 🍀 me.
Paola since finding your RUclips channel I have started appreciating all the simple things in life and enjoy the beauty in all I see. I am now 71 and you have taught me that it is never too late ❤️. Thank you for your gift of story telling from your heart.
That’s lovely!
Thanks for your insight Paola. I'm a "quiet person" or used to be quiet for the first 26 years of my life. I don't really hear anyone referring to themselves as quiet or at least admitting to it. I think a lot of people have assumptions, judgements and negativity towards quiet people--at least that's been my personal life experience and I know that's not everyone's experience. Most people don't understand why people are "quiet" and there can be many reasons why. As an adult, I've even asked a few acquaintances what they think of quiet people and it wasn't favorable.
I personally think quiet people are unique and have a lot to say but they wait for people who they feel comfortable with and worthy of their energy before before they speak.
Writing is my way of communicating or connecting with folks or I just speak. I'm still learning to verbally communicate better and better each day even at my age. 😊
I understand ya! I feel so extroverted when typing something up on RUclips but in person I struggle! I have lots I wanna talk about just no one in person beside my immediate family that I would trust with my heart like that. It's frustrating but I know someday that friend will come along. It might even be the man I marry someday. Until then I will try to be patient with God's help. 💜💙
Amen
@@imaginationsmusic1985 I wish you the best. I think starting with thoughtful yet light and surface level conversations could help you break the ice. Like talking about a hobby, if you have one.
Hi Leah. Your comment reminded me of the book: "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking." It's a great read if you haven't heard of it. :)
@@shyamala.kishori thanks for sharing. I've heard of it. I've been meaning to buy it or borrow it from the library.
Whenever I feel anxious and overwhelmed and as though the world is too loud I just watch your videos I love how honest and at ease you are
This channel is so full of tranquillity in a crazy, loud, chaotic world. ❤️Thank you for sharing.💛
Beautifully put. It's a save space in this world but also in this internet. :)
This last year, my mental health was very low and I kinda closed myself to the outside world. I didn't wanted people who know me to see me in that state. But, because staying at home with almost no social interactions was very hard for me, I joined the book club of my library. Every first Saturday of the month, we talk about new book releases, or books written by an author, books with a similar theme, etc... I am definitely the youngest, all the other participants are lovely old ladies and I think, my favorite part is when each one of us is sharing about a book we have read during the month. Because we don't have the same taste in books, sometimes, it allows us to discover new authors. Even if I am starting to take care or my mental health since spring and that I am seeing friends again, I still enjoy visiting the book club every month
I love being connected to nature. I feel closer to God, because his creation is so wonderous. He provided everything we need, and I really appreciate how you have studied and discovered so many amazing edible plants in the land that surrounds you. Your calm presence and gentle spirit are a gift from God. Thank you for sharing your life, insight, wisdom, and art with the rest of us.
The book “Quiet” by Susan Cain helped me see how introversion is actually an important and valuable trait, just as extroversion is. We just haven’t seen it represented as much because… all the introverts keep to themselves 😆
I’m so thankful for the internet - it’s such a great way to find and connect with likeminded people, and then be able to turn it off, and retreat to hermit mode again when necessary hehe 🐸
That book empowered me as an introvert, as well.
I like smiling face
this is a great comment!!!
She has a new one out called Bittersweet. Looking fwd to getting my hands on it soon.
❤️
There is much to be said about a quiet life. There is a wonderful sound in the quiet, a sound of its own.
Me: hmm what calming song would I like to listen to this morning? … OOO Paola!
I am a social introvert. People get confused a lot about that. Introvert does not mean you have no interest in sharing the wonderful things in your life with others. Thank you again for a beautiful video. You’ve made my morning ❤️
Also… Kitty!! 😂
Yesss I hear you, I'm the same.
Your videos calm me down. I don't know why I want to cry. Something in your videos deeply remind me of my childhood. The innocence and simplicity. I can just look at how peaceful and breezy the wind is while you're gardening. Life's simple pleasures. I'm so happy for you. 🌱🦋🙏
I am a quiet, introvert, most of the time but I do enjoy some interaction with people. I know my boundaries. Also, don't let social media fool you into believing everyone is so social and out living life with all these "friends." You might be surprised if you saw the truth.
Thank you for sharing your story with us. I have found that I am a "Highly Sensitive Person (HSP", a term coined by Elaine Aron). Elaine Aron's book on the subject changed my life. I was finally able to understand why I felt so different from everyone else and the difference, I found, was not because I was doing something wrong. I highly recommend her book as well as Ilse Sand's book "Highly Sensitive People". Us HSP's need to stick together.
Also a HSP and think of it as a superpower to be so aware Especially to others that have needs.
hsp! here here
Hello! As an introvert, a simple way I make human connection is to to look another person square in the eye (which at times can feel painful and really uncomfortable!) and smile warmly and genuinely. Listening deeply is one of my greatest strengths and requires no words on my part... offering a gentle touch on the arm or shoulder of the person who is sharing also helps me feel connected. Often, simply being AMONG people and quietly observing satisfies my need for socialization. Others may not get it, but I am hugely self content and do not need active dialogue to feel included. Most times my inclination is to bolt from interaction, preferring the gentle rhythm of solitude, but being aware of my breath in the moment and feeling my feet planted firmly on the earth helps me stay grounded and not get overwhelmed with another's energy, as I am highly empathic in addition to being introverted!
Kerry, same here. Everything you said. Nice to know there are others out there being true to themselves. Blessings :)
You sound like such a sweet and nice person to be around!
Seems people who are here are truly nice to be around and be friend with 🙂. Hope we could have a facebook account with all these wonderful people here. You all inspired me. Thank you Paula! ❤
To me, your RUclips videos are just another form of art. You’re an artist and it makes sense that you want to share the way you see and experience life. ❤
I support many local animal charities. I don’t really have any close friends, but enjoy smiling and saying hello to about everyone I meet.
I am retired. I have always liked the natural world. I’ve spent a good many years not really being on “the same page” with most others.
Now I have dedicated myself to being compassionate. I try to listen well because I know what it is like to not be heard.
I love your delicate work.
Hello Paola, I pre-ordered your book and can't wait to get it. It will be shipped from USA all the way to Jordan, very exciting. I discovered that many people placed the pre-order from Jordan as well, you are very popular here. I also want to say that your voice is very calm, soothing and beautiful, I strongly suggest you record an audio version of the book. Good luck ❤️
An audio book sounds like a great idea! I too love Paola’s soothing voice.
An audiobook is an excellent suggestion!!!
That's a wonderful idea!!
I love and prefer audio books so what a perfect way to bring this book to an even wider audience. The voice is truly one of the most effective ways of communicating this philosophy.
I do hope to make an audiobook version! I am in the early stages of figuring that out - thank you so so much for the order ❤️ I deeply appreciate it. Wishing you a beautiful day
Paola…
It’s so funny how you mentioned planting a forest because my partner and I are teachers and at the end of each school year we donate $100 to the Arbor Day Foundation to plant 100 trees in honor of our students and to offset the amount of paper we use during the academic year. It’s an easy way to
Help reforest our country. We encourage everyone to donate what they can to this amazing organization.
That’s a bargain ! Good idea
I would not dream of asking you that question! As a slighty- more extrovert than introvert, (yes, I think it's a spectrum!) I have always been drawn to introverts. What I sense is a quiet strength that is admirable. The world is a rather wreckless place and true artists can be trampled, like petals, by those who don't value them. 👍😎🇨🇦🌿💘
Absolutely!!! Omg .... guess it takes all kinds! Im still in shock here!
Your pansy art is stunning!
Yes totally agree!!
Oh Paola, if I only had your wisdom and maturity when I was your age. I am an introvert who enjoys a small circle of friends and often needs time alone. I was a teacher for forty-five years until retiring two years ago. At the time, I am not sure why I chose teaching, but upon reflection, given my personality, it turned out to be a poor decision. For forty-five years I wore a ‘social mask’ and in short, I did not live as my true self.
I had a reasonably successful career though not being my true self for all these years. This ultimately came at a significant cost to both my physical and mental health, and to my family. It was an insidious situation because the damage silently kept accumulating. I am now living a very different, quiet and simple life in the mountains. As a result, I have much to thank you for. I came across your videos some time ago and thanks to your courage in going on-line, you have supplied me with many ideas that I have now incorporated into my life. You are on the right track, and I can only hope you are able to keep producing this wonderful resource you have started. God bless.
Hi Paola. I’m older, but I SO relate to you! I have always been an introverted quiet person in a more extroverted world. I LOVE being by myself, I’ve never needed people around me. High school was hard, people treated me like a leper because they just didn’t understand the needs of an introverted person. I now accept myself for who I am, but it has taken years & years! Love you and your videos!!! ❤️
I too love the peace and quiet that comes from living on my small farm. Once a week I make myself go out and about. I chat with folks at the store and post office and then I’m all set for another week. My horse, goats, chickens, dogs, and cats are perfect company. 🌺
Paola! Haven't commented in a while, but you might find this useful. As a biologist, one of my favorite things is animal migration. Your spider encounters may be due to hanggliding arachnids! A number of smaller species move about over distance by producing a filament of web, unfixed to structure. As this parachute lengthens it floats to the degree that the spider can jump free. Instant flight to where ever the breeze takes it. They're pretty small, and can be fairly unobtrusive. Should they land on a large organic resting place, defense mechanisms kick in...a bite results. Who would have thought! The beauty and strangeness of nature.
I'm also a quiet heart.
Social media is a perfect way to share my journey and encourage others.
Quiet hearts have things to share too. We may simply write letters, text or blog.
We need and thrive on our solitude, and we connect in ways that suit our own true self.
Quote from St. Therese of Liseux “ I understood that every flower created by Him is beautiful, that the brilliance of the rose and the whiteness of the lily do not lessen the perfume of the violet or the sweet simplicity of the daisy. I understood that if all the lowly flowers wished to be roses, nature would no longer be enamelled with lovely hues. And so it is in the world of souls, Our lord's living garden.”
Thank you for this. It is a beautiful quote 😊
Thank you for this tender quote
As an introvert, it gives me so much joy and comfort to play your videos in the background and simply soak in the moments as if it’s me experiencing it ✨
Hey Paola! You're beautiful inside out! Your videos always soothe my soul! May god bless you with health and happiness!
Love from India 🇮🇳
❤️ sending much love, thank you!
You are bringing respectability to the word introvert! Watching you enjoy your walks through nature, filming beautiful vignettes both outside and inside is satisfying to the soul of all of those you share it with. Your baking, painting, gardening, writing, filming, and speaking are things that very, very few people have the time or privilege to enjoy, and would make most of us WANT the life of an introvert.. Thank you for sharing it with us! Oh, and I agree wholeheartedly with your explanation of being an introvert but still sharing your life via the internet. You framed it perfectly by saying that while you like your own quiet time, you still like the connection that internet allows. You are doing a great service to others to share this kind of life that was actually commonplace well over 50-100 years ago but has since vanished with the past. We get to relive a time gone by though you! ❤️
Spider is letting you know you've been 'cleaning out the cobwebs' and moving forward with courage (two is a double blessing) and confirming you handle yourself with grace and are a true teacher at heart. It's showing you that you've been weaving past & present energies to manifest beauty and love in the present moment. Well done dear Paola! I see kitty is growing quickly with such a loving environment... 🕷️🌼💖
Naturally introverted, introspective, and anxious when around too much hustle and bustle I can become emotionally, mentally, and physically exhausted. Even more so, spiritually my light will begin to dim and I literally become drained. Balancing time with others and being "on", with time to recharge is something I am learning. I do purposeful practices of going to town, spending time with others, and giving back, with days of quiet purposeful activities for myself. Having multiple medical challenges I can easily get lost in the comfortability of being alone. It is important that when I connect with others I push my inner-self to meet their gaze with soft eyes and an easy smile. Bringing a small positive moment to their day. This helps me for being vulnerable to others diminishes the negative noise that all people are bad and scary that come from multiple directions today. This is a personal process that works for me. 🙏🧘♀️
Paola, you have inspired me to try a different genre of interaction with people using my talents to make a difference. So scary!
Thank You & Blessings, 🙏😀
From a small beach side town in Washington.
Even as a child, I preferred the company of introverts. Extroverts seemed to have no substance and just too interested in " unimportant, silly" things. My cousin reminded me that while she had multiple movie idols, as a preteen, I was absorbed with Ralph Nader. We are who we are and it just takes too much energy to attempt anything else. You are great. I wish there were more like you.
.... I think there is easy judgement on 'both' sides... what introverts think that extroverts are...and vice versa... Acceptance of each other is Key!... and being at Peace as to which one we are! and not assuming that one is stuck up/snob.... or silly and shallow.
You are a lovely, lovely Person, a great artist and you have a great sense of humour! Sitting after work on my sofa with a big cup of coffee and watching your soothing video. Thank you so much for your work XX
I'm a wheelchair user with Ehlers-Danlos type 3, and I call myself an outdoor introvert. I am most at home near water, and surrounded by flowers and trees in the woods. But also enjoy making glass suncatchers, I love to give away. Several on the way to you at the bookstore, to share with friends. spiders ❤️ me, too!🕷. (2 books ordered from Lake Geneva, Wisconsin)
This is one of a very few RUclips channels I subscribe to. And it took a long time to find it and I so enjoy it. Very peaceful and soothing. Stay well and only do what you 💘 love. Pat
I've always thought of myself as an introverted person (which my children laugh at), because while I do enjoy social contact, I enjoy it most with my close circle of friends and family and in small doses. I drive for Uber in my town and the surrounding area--not a huge city, but a busy one. I enjoy interacting with my riders, which gives me little snippets of conversation and the ability to help people in a small way. I always try to leave them with a smile, and that is often reciprocated. And then I come home from many miles, and it's great to see when you have a new video up, because it is always calming, interesting, and gently, deeply philosophical. And I've enjoyed receiving and sharing some of the items purchased from your etsy shop, especially the last package which held some surprising and beautiful dried flowers in the wonderful packaging. Thank you!
🦋 Like the precious butterflies dancing in your wonderland, your videos always make my heart flutter with happiness. Thank you Paola, every creation of yours is full of dream dust and I adored this one very much! 🧚🏻♀️
I think you’re doing great work. And it felt almost mean for that person to ask that about why you are sharing your life with the world. You’re making a sweet calm and gentle difference in this world. Thank you for sharing your life. It’s incredibly calming. 🙏
I couldn't agree with you more 💙💚🖤
I am a definite extrovert and that is why being a stay at home mom has been such a challenge. I had to learn how to reach out to others in creative ways. Marco Polo saved me through Covid. I like being able to check in with friends throughout the day on my time. I also love smiling at others, talking to people at the grocery store and trying to look how to help those struggling.
However as I’ve grown and my children have grown I’ve found I’ve needed more time alone. Maybe I’m changing into a bit of an introvert? 😄 During the afternoons I like to slow down and watch your channel. It reminds me to look at things differently and to be mindful when it is so easy to be swallowed in the chaos of raising a family. It also reminds me to take time for my heart even when I’m convinced I don’t have time. Thank you for reminding me of how to slow down and see the beauty. I might not be in a beautiful forest valley but I find beauty in brushing my little girl’s hair, or giving my baby a bath, or making my girls’ cookies in the kitchen. Thank you for showing me how to appreciate these little things again.
Paola have you ever considered doing a cook book? That soup and those honey glazed muffins looked spectacular. You’ve left me wanting them!!! I love your videos and you’ve made me realize I love slow living. Thank you!
I was thinking the same!!
Yes, please create a cookbook with all the yummy things you make...
your art is beautiful. Thank you for sharing.
I love your videos Paula, they give me so much peace keep it up ❤️
I agree
As a girl and young adult I had only a very small sphere of friends and still do. I too, often wondered if there was something wrong in this until I had a conversation with my best friend (since second grade) and she said the same. I too, am an introvert that needs time to herself. Developing a rich, vibrant and imaginative interior world is an introvert’s superpower. And depending on her or his inclination that world can be shared, in a discerning way with other’s in ways that feel right and sustainable. I feel the way you share your world and insights is so powerful in affirming others that are introverted and can encourage their own ”way of being” in the world. Sending you much love!
Loved what you said about introvert's super power
Dear Paola, thank you so much for another wonderful little video. So nice to see your garden coming along. I've also been harvesting roses, elderflower, and all these goodies from the earth! Big hugs from Sweden. ❣️
These videos are very dear to me I lay back in my recliner and a real peace washes over my soul. No matter what any one says we love you and really ENJOY the time with you.
God bless you❣️🗽🇺🇲
Have a happy and blessed 4th.......
I’m always amazed at how people focus on such minutiae as the red spot on your face or a bump on your finger. I never see these things and I am extremely observant. I guess I’m escaping things in my world when I watch you, and I’m much more focused on the things you are saying. I imagine it’s simply one of the costs of putting yourself out into the world via social media.
Loved your water coloring the pansies. Also watching you dip the spoon into the huge jar of honey was so satisfying, I could smell the honey!
Abba bless you.
Exactly. I haven't seen anything until she pointed it out.
I just looked to see how many subscribers you have and I am amazed at how fast your channel has grown! It is more than 10 times as many as when I started watching. Goes to show that you are sharing what people need and want. Thank you, Fairy.
So sad we can't get your mail here in Australia at the moment as I'd love some of your beautiful artworks, though i hope the gift i sent arrives safely in reverse. You've inspired me to learn to paint such beautiful flowers and try to make impressions of our Aussie eucalypts and others. Thank you for your piece of calm in this corner of the web, its a valuable connection for this introvert too. ❤
I love it that you paint. I paint at time too. Our flora is so special and I think many Australians don’t truly appreciate it as quite gorgeous. It isn’t always as showy as introduced plants and that what makes it so charming.
Why can't we get her mail in Australia?
@@anireseegam6128 i tried buying from etsy store earlier this year, but there were issues with the US postal service and getting things on planes i believe. It may have improved now borders open but I'm happy to wait for a while. You do you and give it a go if you want.
@@anireseegam6128 Hi, At present, shipping world wide is very difficult, (due to Corona impacts on economy’s, (loss of staff, fuel prices soaring, truckies walking away from their business, especially in the United States due to long turn around times at wharfs.) Also geo political issues are creating hold up in areas usually free to move cargo between. Cargo sits for months unloaded, truckies can’t sit wait and waste time, days, weeks, months to unload. They have runs that their could be servicing in their country, but now they cannot access the goods as they cannot be unloaded. Often ships, (red tape, port congestion, unloaded containers sitting and blocking dock sites on the wharves.) Simply cannot get in to unload and so sit for weeks, months out in harbour. (Some countries have discouraged or even halted international shipping as it’s too hard.) All these combined issues have pushed ships per square foot shipping prices to a premium. Upwards of thousands of dollars per square metre. A small business still has to pay their share of that new inflated price for their shipping. Factured into this price is insurance on these goods, each small business is considered as owning their section of the space their goods take up in that container ship. So in effect each time a ship sails each business owner is responsible for the delivery of not only their goods for safe delivery but also all other business owners also taking up space in that cargo ship. It’s simply to expensive, the risk of undelivered goods is too high now. The need them to replace and reship items or refund monies has made it untenable for many small businesses to ship at this time. So they only post within their own borders. It won’t last but it’s a part of our current worldwide shipping situation. I know this is very involved but it is worth understanding!
I am an introvert. So I also agree with you, about the fact that society sometimes values people who are more active. Meanwhile, each one is a shining gem with the own characteristics.
I loved how she responded to the question...you can love nature and the quietness it brings and still love humans too!!!💖☺ I can relate to her!
I connect with a very specific group: struggling youth. They call me at all hours when stressed and we talk... mostly they talk and I listen.
I love when you show yourself doing your art. It is always so beautiful.
I'm a painter/poet and spend a lot of solitary time, especially in the mornings. In the afternoons, i cultivate connections at the places i frequent. Bakeries, markets and cafes are favorites. Far from being anti-social, I'm "deeply social" and love good one-on-one conversations. I prefer words like "contemplative,""reflective" or "inward," to introverted. Your artwork is so beautiful, Paola!!!!
With each video, you’re sending a little peace and tranquillity to a lot of us that live in chaotic spaces, and for that you are adding so much value. Your authenticity is inspiring and we love that about you!
I am introverted but have times felt very socially isolated when I didn’t actually want to. It helps me to get out to places where there are other people even if it’s just to interact with shop clerks, go to a cafe alone and sit among other humans, things like that to be surrounded by other people even if they aren’t people I am doing things “with”.
You or your video editor always finds the most perfect, soothing music to add an atmospheric backdrop to the beauty of your visuals. Your walks in the woods are like art in motion!
I agree!
You have a calming effect on me. Thank you for sharing. Be blessed !
I am an introvert and I very much enjoy watching introverted RUclips videos. The voice tone is more quiet and subdued. The music is always soothing. I have a hard time with loud videos with lots of chaos. Thank you for sharing. Very much appreciated.
These are some of the best things available on RUclips!
I am 58 years old, and I really enjoy your videos. You are so articulate, and you bring a peace to us all. Thank you.
You inspire my heart to know end... Thankyou for being so authentically and honestly true to yourself and encouraging everyone else to do so too ❤️
The message of this video is so important to spread… Christmast is near, and I love love love it. But also there are so many parties and I am a bit anxious because I don’t really want to go to them although I like to spend time with people around me (but not so much people, in crowded and noisy spaces). That makes me feel bad about myself and this video help me to understand myself better and feel a bit relieved. Thank you!! I love your channel, it is full os creativity and sensibility!!! Have a nice time!!
Hi Paola, your answer to the comment’s question is very helpful to let go of thoughts that can make one reluctant to share online. It also made me realise that, just as a musician shares the beauty of music harmony with others, the same share of beauty can happen online in so many wonderful forms. I think the way you share is an art form on itself. Thank you for being you and sharing it with us 🙏🏻
You have all the nature life, your cats, dog, rabbits, your Family, your husband, your house, your art and yourself❤❤❤❤
Love what you do, Paola! I live quietly in the country too and write piano music. If you'd ever like to use some, please let me know (you'd be very welcome to!)
Hi! I've met your music through one of Halidon's playlists and I find it very beautiful! I frequently listen to it in order to have a more inspired day
@@mabi_gamboa That's lovely to read, Maria! Thank you!
your videos make people feel relaxed and entertained keep going your videos are beautiful 💖🥰🍓♥️😍
My photography has evolved over the years, and currently I am getting lost in macro photography. There are things in nature that we pass by without a passing thought. Having "ventured" out into different styles, techniques (shooting and developing black & white); I currently shoot the smallest of the small that none of us even think about--the tiny, complex flower growing on the path, frost patterns on twigs, the luminescent beauty and patterns in a bird's feather. Your garden is growing and so is Kitten! I love your channel!!👍👩🌾💖😎
I recently came across the original definition of introverts, introduced by Carl Jung. He stated that introvertion and extrovertion does not relate to how one behaves or finds joys,but how one replenish energy. We introverts replenish energy staying with ourselves. I've found being alone grounds me and keeps me at balance, since I have a very socially intensive job (film industry). You don't have to explain yourself, it's never one or the other. I don't find it contradictory, I find it fascinating and healthy. Everyone here, dedicate some time to yourselves, your food and your plants 💜
That’s interesting because I believe I’m both an extrovert and an introvert, sometimes replenishing with people and other times happily alone. I’ve never come across that quote by Jung but do like it. Thank you for sharing. 😊
I had often wondered why I feel such joy and exhilaration when I'm out in nature and beholding all of the beauty around me and enjoying the quiet. I came across something that gave me the answer. The whole earth is full of His glory. It's the glory of God that is being displayed and God is inviting all of us to come to know Him and enjoy Him forever.
I loved the bit at the end :D. Your kitten is so adorable.
I am an introvert and i love it, watching your video from the Caribbean, love them , stay true to yourself.
Hi Paola
When I retired from teaching 2 years ago, I needed social interaction still after finding myself on my own each day, which was so strange after a long busy career. I volunteer twice a week now in different places which has proved to be a blessing to me as well as, hopefully others, I've joined an art/craft group and really made an effort to make new friends. I still have my own time though which gives me some peace and quiet. Have a good week. Sue x
I bake cookies and sweet squares and pass them out to delivery folks, homeless folks, the postal person, neighbours, store clerks…everyone just as a way of sweetening their day a tiny bit. That’s plenty of pleasant interaction for me and I know that it creates a moment of smiles for others. Thank you so much for your beautiful channel. You create a sweet moment for me. 🥰
"There are many ways to practise love."
Those words are so hope-watering ... Thank you, Paola!
We have many contrasts and contradictions inside of us.
Just because you live quietly and have the need to be alone, doesn't automatically exlude another need! ... We are complex beings.
I often dream about being a hermit and at the same time I have the need to push myself to do social activities, because I know it is healthy for me.
One way for me to feel connected is to leave anonymous gifts for people here and there.
Take care and good luck with all your projects!! (I'm also going to preorder yoru book!)
You are always such an inspiration Paula!
Oh Paola , every time I watch a video of yours it becomes “my favorite”. I can’t tell you how seen I feel in your videos. My soul comes alive in knowing “my people” like yourself exist and thrive 🥰 You mentioned a condition you have, no need to share if it’s too personal, I’m just curious as I too do as well and felt so seen in how you expressed living with yours 🫶 Would love to hear more about how you do and maintain your soul life around it? Sending SO much love!! You’re such a gem sweet soul 💕🧚♂️
Aaah I think that all the time! This is my favourite! And then the next video I'm like: oh.. THIS is my favourite! She just keeps getting better and better at making us feel calm and entertained at the same time. :)
@@outdoorhannah yesss! So special to take part in this journey together ✨🤗
I just quit my job as I felt it forced me unnecessarily to go against my own normal quiet introverted personality. It was making me sick, AGAIN. I need to do fulfilling work that nourishes me. Also it was so beautiful watching you carefully pick the rose petals and leave the hip so that it can naturally go to seed for the rose plant.
I love that I can always count on your video's to bring me something. Whether it's just quiet reflection, or food for thought... it always helps me a little during my day.
I've been having a bit of a rough time. I miss being outdoors and the city that I'm in has some places but not enough. There's always people... and when I'm alone I'm not always in the mood for other people so I stay in but it's rather dark and I have little energy to entertain myself. My partner has a hard time going out in the summer so we walk less together (because he wears binders and tape for his dysforia... So I understand but also feel a little sorry for myself at times when I have to miss his company haha)
So I'm in this cycle. I know I need to go outside, but I really don't wanna see people, so I stay in and my energy drops even more. As an teacher I get al the social energy I need from my work so right now it's really hard to find that balance and break the cycle I'm in.
I think watching video's like yours in that way is my way of connecting to like-minded people who feel the same way. In that way I feel that needed alone-time and yet I'm connecting a little bit with nature and with you and the other viewers. Somehow that idea gives me a bit of like minded energy to do break the cycle and get my ass outside.
that's why these videos are so important.. they helped me, too, when I wasn't able to get out into nature. it's so good to have that little escape!
I totally ❤️❤️❤️❤️ the message in this video.
We all have our own unique language of connection for sure. Not all of us do it so beautifully, eloquently and bravely as you do.
I so love watching your videos.❤️ They always bring calm to the storm that I may have going on inside me and at the very least, I always feel more connected to nature or inspired to bake or create something because your videos depict so succinctly the beauty of nature and the joy in the simplicities of life.
I always look forward to seeing a new video message from you.
Your messages always inspire and provide comfort.
I wish I could paint flowers like you do. Did you teach yourself, or always have a bit of a natural flair?
Please continue with your unique style of connecting with people. Your messages and videos are a true blessing to those of us that watch them 🙏❤️🙌❤️
Your pansies turned out so beautiful! And everything you said resonated with me, as I, too, tend to be a bit more socially reserved.
It's so nice to hear and see how you balance your authentic introvertedness with the need for social connections.
You asked us to share how we manage our own needs in that department. I have a job that I love, driving people to medical appointments and to run various errands. It fills my need to be useful, helpful, and connected to the world outside myself, while still preserving my autonomy and inner sanctuary of space.
I really appreciate how calming and peaceful your videos are. You help me remember to slow down and normalise being more introverted. Thank you for sharing, and please keep making these wonderful videos.
This gives me more confidence because I am introverted and have hardly any real, true friends. I tend to make friends with the wrong people out of just pushing myself, appearing to be sociable. I tend to feel as if I am weird because I can't make good friends, even if I enjoy my own company most of the time. I do however, think that socializing is good, with the right people from time to time. Not through a screen, but face to face interaction.
People don’t really talk about how hard it is to find the right group of people. Keep trying! I have faith you will find your people :)