Emily and I have Split Up. Please Give Me a Hand
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- Опубликовано: 16 сен 2024
- Some monthis ago Emily and I seperated. Life goes on.
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Sorry to hear you guys split up. Seems to be the way things usually go nowadays; most people I know have been through a breakup or divorce of one or more long-term relationships. My personal experience is that it takes me at least a year to get over it, so give yourself time and be kind to yourself. You aren't alone, and we're rooting for you!
I was hoping your title was clickbait, but alas...it wasn't. Sorry to hear; you two made an amazing channel. Look forward to whatever new content you bring us with life's change.
I was thinking/hoping the same thing, clickbait title. But they don't do that. This was a real shock to me to hear this.
Nine year relationships are not 'gotten over' in a few weeks or months! Strength to you (and her) for your new adventures! Be kind to yourself!
You already said it - "It's Clark on Temptress"
Yep. It possesses all the magic before, carrying on into the future.
I just Left this comment I think it's a good idea
Of all the names mentioned so far, I love “Clark’s Temptress”! It can go so many ways: 1) Literally, she’s your vessel; 2) Your future partner(s); 3) Your various entrepreneurial ideas/ventures.
Good luck landing on your feet again. I’ve always applied the “one year rule” to my personal traumatic events. That is, after the distance from a key event afforded by one year, one almost ALWAYS can look back and, with gratitude, understand exactly why that event was perfect for your future outcome. In my experience, this especially applies to break-ups. No matter how heartbroken I’ve been in the moment, there hasn’t been a single break-up I don’t see as a blessing, now. It’s opened doors to new relationships, new opportunities, and new happiness. It leaves no room for being a victim. I wish the same for you, Clark.
Don't rush into a new relationship.
Wise words from Steve
THIS!
@@VortexMotiveVision
Wrong. The sooner he finds someone new the sooner she’ll come running back.
@@auttiman5591 bad advice...you dont want someone running back out of jealousy, not the right reasons and he will be in same rut soon enough, be single travel and meet people
I went thru the same thing 6 yrs ago. Your're certainly not alone in this. I had good close friends and my (adult) kids to help me get past the first 6 months. After that I was pretty good. Moved permanently to Mexico. I date also, but tbh not much interested in a long-term relationship. I have discovered I love a drama free, single life. Honestly? I'd recommend you stay single for at least a year...get to know yourself. Lost my sailboat to the divorce...currently looking for another in Mexico.
Best of luck to you.
"Clark's Adventure" probably makes the most sense.
I work at a hotel and often make connections with guests. Sometimes they're just passing through, and sometimes they stay for a while. I get to hear lots of different life experiences and stories. Many people will just tell me what is going on in their life, kind of like a mini therapy session.
I can tell you this, wanting to be loved is universal. For a long time I felt ashamed for wanting to be loved and married, especially because I could not seem to find anyone who wanted that with me. Was I broken?
No, it just takes time and yes, it's absolutely hard to be alone sometimes. Sometimes being alone doesn't feel freeing, it feels... well, alone. For me, I let my mind spiral and can end up in some pretty low places.
Some thoughts for you:
- It's okay to have waves of grief
- It's okay to feel whatever feelings you feel
- I find a lot of solace in being out in the community, volunteering, going to lectures, hell sometimes I just walk around the grocery store to feel like I had some human contact.
- Be careful with your heart. You deserve to be loved well. Its hard to know how to protect your heart and allow someone in simultaneously...its something I'm still trying to figure out.
I'm a fan of Embark With Clark
Much love your way.
Sorry to hear this. To be honest I had also left your channel about 2 years ago. You originally said the channel was about sailing the world, then you got stuck in luperon for about 3-4 years it seems. Anyway, sad Emily is gone. Maybe now you’ll scrape the barnacles off your hull and get traveling again. You don’t need a woman to go exploring, you might meet her on your way. Drop the lines and go.
Sorry to hear this news Clark. I have been following your channel for a while (discovered you through your amazing life-changing finance videos) and really enjoy seeing your updates. I think Clark's Adventure is a great name! Or what about "Embark with Clark" so we can join along? Can't wait to see your Greece videos 😊
Gotta give you props for your 2nd help request being so public. Wish I was able to do that. I'm a bit like you, I love going places, but it seems like a joy multiplier to have someone along with.
Here are a few suggestion for the name. I am in the camp that you need to maintain some form up historical familiarity rather than a totally new brand: (1) Clark & Temptress's Adventure (2) The New Clark and Temptress Travels (3) SV Temptress and YOU (4) Clark's Journey with Temptress Continues.
Here is what Gemini suggested:
Keeping the Adventure Theme
Clark's Adventures: (Straightforward and maintains the core brand identity.)
Solo Adventures with Clark: (Clearly indicates a solo venture while keeping the adventure theme.)
The Next Chapter with Clark: (Suggests a new beginning while referencing the past.)
Building on the Existing Brand
Clark's World: (Implies a broader scope of adventures.)
From Emily & Clark to Clark Alone: (Acknowledges the past while emphasizing the new direction.)
Clark's Journey: (Simple, yet effective in conveying the idea of a personal exploration.)
Creating a New Identity
Clark Unleashed: (Implies a new sense of freedom and exploration.)
No Limits with Clark: (Suggests a fearless approach to adventures.)
Clark's Wild Ride: (Conveys a sense of excitement and unpredictability.)
I’m so sorry Clark to hear you two split up. While we love Temptress (such an awesome boat) the channel has never been just about Temptress, it’s been about you, your life and your adventures as well as your generous sharing of your valuable knowledge. “Sailing Temptress” as the channel name in my opinion doesn’t do it justice. As others have said, you said it in the beginning of every video “Clark on Temptress” is the most fitting I think. However “Clarks Adventures” works too. But I think it’s important to be “Clarks”.
I’m really looking forward to the coming Greece adventure. It’s been a bucket list place to sail for me!
I was about to post "Stop the click bait"
Sadly, it wasn't.
It is hard to separate from someone who has been an integral part of one's life.
Wishing you both healing and to find happiness again.
I’m sorry to hear that Clark. As someone that’s been where you are now I feel your pain. I’m wanting your AC system for my camper. PLEASE keep us informed.
The teak deck did it. I knew it would. I think "The Log of the Temptress" or "S.V. Temptress" - something along that line. "Clark on Temptress" is something you've said in videos dozens of times, and might be good. Sadly, sailing itself is nowhere near the eye-draw that maintenance is, but instruction is always good, so maybe sail to Greece - get the boat ready for an offshore passage - make a log day by day - problems, ups, downs, etc. Then arrive in Greece and show your viewers what you see. Best of luck.
I'm sorry you going through this but it will pass as they say. I know it's strange to say but thank you for the title not being clickbait. There are so many other sailing channels that do that. You are refreshing and honest and appreciated.
I like the channel name, "Clark on Temptress".
I knew something was up but didn't know what. I thought it was odd you two stayed put that long in one place. Hopefully we can get back to sailing and adventuring. That's how I found you, that's why I subscribed.
Either way, women come and go. Most go. Usually their idea. That's just how it works.
you're free! enjoy it. lots of people are leaving at this time, also lots of partnerships ending. keep the faith and know that everything is perfect. "don't cry cause its over, smile because it was", took me a year to get that after my partner left me. good luck!
Clark's Temptress
Keep being positive Clark! We love your videos, keep them coming.
Hey Clark, happy to hear you have projects and looking forward to your adventures - a change of scenery will surely do you good. Hold fast!
Hi Clark,
I'm sorry to hear about your break up. I met you and Emily in early 2018 in the Bahamas. Now it seems we have more in common. My significant relationship ended about 2 years ago and I'm trying to move on. It's not easy, but you're doing the right thing. Have fun and you will meet the right person.
After thinking about it for a while I feel like your strength is in meeting people and fixing their problems, like "This Ol House" for boats. You show up on oyur dingy with a bag of tools and you tell the story of helping people fix their problems with their boat.
Sorry to hear of the breakup! Thought you two were tight. Best of luck on your own and new adventures. I am done sailing. At 64, need new joints etc. selling my Tartan 34. Maybe won’t watch sailing RUclips anymore. I been married 33 years.
Clark and Emily, thank-you for sharing your experiences with us. Best wishes to you both!
I think sticking to Clark’s adventure would be better for you. Too many people give their channels or companies very niche or specific names and maybe they don’t want to be so specific. It just gives you an opportunity to include more without deviating from what people think is your original goal. Hopefully this makes some sense.
I like “Clark’s Adventure”. After all you aren’t always on Temptress. Like the road trip, and the upcoming Sweden and Greece trips.
I know change can feel uncomfortable as you are going through it...... but it's truly amazing how new situations bring Peace to previous experiences and memories. I hope you understand what I'm trying to communicate. Every day is a Grand new opportunity filled with potential !! Stoic philosophy recommends a little thought on the future and to primarily be focused on today and living your best present moments. Wishing you continuous health and happiness. Your friend, Jeff 🌞⛵🌴
"Clark's Adventures" isn't the most riveting name, but it does free you up for non-boat related stuff. I really have nothing to add, other than good luck on your future adventures.
My heart goes out to you Clark. So sorry to hear.
Sorry to hear about the split😕
I suggest “Clark’s Adventure on Temptress”. This captures all relevant keywords and tells us you’re still there.👍
Best of Luck! I’ll be watching😊
Sorry to hear about your and emily's break up. It's always sad to watch relationships end and wish you well in your new adventures.
I always thought your personalities were very different, so it's no surprise to me. You will find that woman who is more chill like you and wants to adventure life.
sorry to hear, a break up is hard to deal with
Since Emily has left and Clark is continuing the adventure with his boat "Tempress," it would be a good idea for Clark to rebrand his channel to reflect his personal journey and sailing lifestyle while still maintaining his established brand recognition. Here are a few ideas that keep the essence of his sailing adventures and his boat, Tempress:
1. Clark's Tempress Adventures
This name highlights Clark as the primary figure of the journey while incorporating the boat's name, Tempress, as a key part of the identity.
2. Sailing with Clark and Tempress
A straightforward rebranding that emphasizes both Clark and his boat Tempress as the new focus of the adventures.
3. Clark’s Nautical Odyssey
This evokes a sense of grand adventure while still keeping it personal to Clark and his journey.
4. Tempress Sailing Chronicles
Focusing more on the boat's name, this option suggests ongoing stories and adventures aboard Tempress, with Clark at the helm.
5. Tempress Voyages with Clark
A slightly more classic feel, focusing on the voyage aspect and the partnership between Clark and his boat.
6. Clark and the Tempress - Sail and Beyond
This gives a sense of future possibilities, highlighting that the journey is far from over and can evolve over time.
These suggestions maintain the core of Clark’s sailing brand while allowing for the departure of Emily without losing too much continuity. It's also important for Clark to update his channel description to reflect the change in crew while still focusing on the exciting and adventurous content his audience loves.
This reads like AI wrote it…
Enjoyed all of your previous videos. Way to be honest and put it all out there. Well done.
Clark on Temptress, you said it yourself. Hope things work out for you both. Keep doing your thing.
Wow, such a shock to hear this news. I remember meeting you and Emily in Florida in 2019 at that Thai restaurant and helping you with your dingy and visiting Temptress. I was so envious of your life together. Now a wonderful love and relationship has ended and a new chapter has started and I've been in that boat too.
Take time to do things that make you happy and enjoy the things that being single can only bring. You are an inspiring, educated and worthy of love man and you deserve the best in life and it will come. Some of the most wonderful memories I have are from when I was single. Embrace the moment! Remember you deserve the best! See it in your minds eye everyday!
As far as the name of the channel, we'll follow you no matter what, but I do like 'Clark on Temptress" or the continuing adventures of "Clark on Temptress". You have so many wonderful adventures ahead of you. I wish you the best and can't wait to see what comes next!
I have been watching (and learning from) your videos for many years. Sorry to hear of your split up with Emily, but it has been a good run as they say. I wish you both happiness.
Clark’s Adventures is a good name for future videos- it’s been a good run with Temptress as well, but I get the vibe you are ready for whatever comes next in your adventure. Thank you for sharing so much knowledge- I’ll keep watching and routing for you, Clark!
Sorry to hear, and also welcome to Sweden / Finland :)
Its rare to find someone who wants the sailboat life full time, especially a lady. Everyone wants to go for a couple of weeks before returning to their normal life. Consider offering to let patreons cruise for a week or two before another one comes for a visit. You will get more patreons as people sign up for the "reality TV vacation" and you will get some help running the boat and a companion to impress with your travels. It can work until some lady comes along.
Clark's Adventures. All the best, to you both.
Sorry for you both, hoping you will retain some Good Memories, a loving companion is hard to find. Looking forward to the next journey you share.
seems like people change a lot over time and the differences in interests part our ways,
I feel you, man. Same thing happened to me in February. Good luck moving forward. If you end up in Croatia, hit me up. The sailing here is epic. So many islands, such nice people.
In case you wonder where in Croatia I am, I'm in Split. 😅 Great place for singles. lol
Oh Clark, that is tough news. I've struggled with much the same issue as I prefer to travel as well. Just purchased a 16' trailerable sailboat (so I can raise and lower the mast on my own) in addition to my Tartan 37 just for fun and to explore small lakes in the US. Sending positive thoughts your way. Your viids are a great education, honestly, I look to your playlist 1st. Be well.
I vote for "Clark on Temptress"...keep on moving forward, bright days ahead. I just retired and bought a Gozzard monohull. Looking forward to getting out there:)
Sorry to hear. On to the next chapter.
I’m very sorry to hear this.
As you know I have quite some experience from “splitting” and sometimes it’s just a long process.
S/V Temptress is a great name if you want to keep sailing (then it’s more easy to introduce new crew). If you plan to quit sailing - Clark’s Adventures might be a better choice.
Sorry to hear Clark. Hoping for you fabulous times ahead.
Sad to hear about your "Newest Adventure" and no sappy advice about one door closing. I wanted to express my thanks for your direction on testing my alternator last week, turns out the gauges aren't reading correctly, along with other gauges on the dash. Fixing that is the next step. Keep up with all your advice and inspiration.
That clip on amp meter in my Amazon store is my greatest debugging tool.
Thanks.
Tempting Clark.
Sorry to hear about the breakup. Good luck on life's next adventures.
Captain Clark Club. Goodbye Emily, thanks for the memories.
The good news is: You are wicked smart, you have regained your physical health, mental will be easy with each day you get up with a positive mental attitude, and your heart seeks adventure. With all those things going for you the future is so bright you are going need shades!
We found your videos so helpful! Saw Temptress here in Luperón and were disappointed to hear what happened. Best wishes to you both on your new adventures, wherever they take you!
Sorry to hear about Emily and your break up. I know that's hard and I feel for you both. Regarding renaming the channel, I like "Adventures of a Sailing Engineer"
Interesting
Sorry to hear Clark. You could call the new channel - Clark's further adventures.
All the best to you and Emily. You shared your nomadic magic with us and brightened our lives through your adventures. Glad you can remain friends and I am sure you will both flourish in new and as yet unknown ways. That’s what makes a well-lived life - highs and lows, pain and pleasure, light and dark. You are a great man. Looking forward to what’s ahead for you.
You said it, Clark on Temptress.
Sorry about the break up but such is life and a new door has opened up for both of you. Cheers
"Clark's Reboot". Sorry about the split and wish Emily well. If you find the right lady, you can reboot again. Good luck friend, I've followed you awhile now and thanks for sharing.
Clarks Temptress! Been watching since the beginning and can only say I feel ya. She’s always been a wildcat. Hope life becomes good for her. I am certain you will push through and come out of the darkness and be smiling again. Storms come and storms go. Be patient and get busy. This was the right video to put out. Be well!
You know trees lose there leaves like relations but spring new ones in sprig! Boats are a blessing!
With out a vision people are likely to perish! You be just fine my man~ The Swede~
Thanks for the update. Glad to hear you’re coming back. You’ve been missed. Look forward to seeing what you got for us next. Hope to see you on the water one day!
I put out a video every week. You may have missed a few. Maybe you should check the channel page
@@EmilyAndClark Yes. I have seen a lot of your videos. I try to keep up and support the best I can. You’ve been a huge help to me as I have been learning to care for my boat.
I was really just referring to on the water. 😅
@@EmilyAndClark I have missed a few. 🤦♂️
Good for you man, that's tough. "It will take some looking" 👍
I'm very sorry to hear of the breakup! I hope you find "the one". This might be the best thing for you and you will find the partner that will be on these wild adventures with you. So, I guess you need to change the name of the channel.
Sorry to hear your news. But you are right - life goes on. Everything for a reason - take the moments to cherish and leave the not so good behind. Life is one big adventure. Enjoy it.
I was going to suggest a name change to Clark on Temptress (as that is your catch phrase).
However, if you are looking at various modes of traveling, such as sailing, cars, trains, planes, hiking, or whatever may be - perhaps 'Clark takes on the world'?
The fact that you continued to produce content (work) in the face of that shows character.
Channel Name obviously “Tempting Clark!” , sorry for your pain, II have been there, keep your eyes to the horizon, another gift is on the way!!
I strongly suggest you obtain a french 1 year visa. We went to the French Embassy in Miami, applied for it and no problem.
We did have to buy medical insurance, but for under $1500 we're both cleared for the EU.
Good option. Thanks
How about "Clark on Temptress". Sorry to hear about your split up.
Clark’s amazing adventures
I’m sorry to hear that! I’ve always admired the channel you’re on, which is why I reached out to see if you’d be interested in testing our marine radio. Anyway, take care and keep moving forward in your life!
Sorry to hear, but such is life. As far as the name of the channel goes, you've said it so often already... "Clark on Temptress" :)
Clark, I always enjoyed your videos. You are a natural teacher, sharing your knowledge and experience. I'll keep watching as long as you keep providing. Best wished for the next chapter in your life.
The poet Snoop Dog has a great many things to say about relationships in his earlier writtings. I suggest taking some time to meditate on these things and keep them close to heart as you seek a new partner. 😃 Seriously, breakups are hard. Take your time and dont get married.
clark's adventure is good. Find you a nice Thai lady, she will take good care of you.
So sad that you and Emily have broken up. But it also explains the clean shaven :-) why don’t you do a meet up whilst you’re in Florida ?
On another note why not just advertise for crew and do some actual sailing. You been in the DR for a long time. I wouldn’t push the dating thing just let it happen organically
Wow, I didn’t see that one coming. I remember when you guys were working the Georgetown Cruiser Net several years ago. Best if luck to you both!
No need for apologizes Clark, any viewers who feel it's required aren't worth paying attention to.
From experience, fortunately no kids involved, much easier to get over a long relationship without them, but still tough & emotional all the same.
I also held onto the "friendship" idea with the ex, wasn't healthy. Dated, searching to replace/rebound the companionship lost, met many still dealing with their own breakup emotions, lacking trust, plus others who were simply losers, wanting someone to take care of them, incl financially.
In the end like any habit, one day I just gave up, got over it, been on my own for nearly 20 years, & love it.
No one criticizing me, not cleaning up after anyone, do & watch what I like when I like, wouldn't have it any other way. But like anything, getting good at it comes with time. 💜
Somethings just end, not the way we ever thought it would end. Getting over it? I don't think anyone gets over a relationship that was a long term one. You move on, but you always take that glance behind you and wonder of what could have been. Women seem to handle it better in most cases, not sure why but they do. You are an excellent teacher in your video's, and I have learned plenty on subjects I thought I knew. Rest, regroup and take it slow. As the song goes, hold on loosely but don't let go. Be well, John
Clark’s Adventure. Stay closest to the name you’ve already branded.
Keep all the names the same and make a life-size scarecrow named Emily that you talked to on occasion.😂 Sorry to hear of your loss Clark. I think you're going about steering your life in the right direction in a good way. I wish you all the best. If I think of someone that would be a good fit for you, I won't hesitate to speak up.
Thanks
If you feel so strongly about needing a partner why search in florida, you might be better off finding someone in the islands..
I came here to heal.
"Clark's Temptress"? So sorry you guys are no more. I recommend properly getting over it, sounds like you have a plan. Hardest thing I've ever done.
Sorry to hear Clark! I always enjoyed your videos and the products you developed. BTW, you might want to look at the name change and the commercial impact it's going to have in the future. I'm quite interested in your AC system and I'll look at the website you mentioned in this video. Anyhow, best of luck!
Thought it was click bait as well. Sorry to hear this.
There is only so much travel related sailing content I can take but will watch a good technical channel all day long: Boat Geek
Your videos have been a great source of valuable information from a hands on guy which is great. Completely agree on the Clark on Temptress which is simple and straightforward. Hope you have a great time in Europe. If you come by a little town south of France on the Med called la Ciotat, I'll be glad to meet you and show you around. Thanks for your great help in all what you share with people loving boats and seas as much as you do!
You will meet “her” exactly when you quit “searching” 🤷♀️ honestly as a single woman I’m not interested in meeting a man who is still in the mood of “she left and now I need a new one” 😝 go enjoy life, get your sparkling eyes and your hair back (find yourself again) and let that past relationship kind of “disappear” in the past like “in my previous life” 😎 Have fun in Europe and stay free from “leaded areas” there 😉 “Clark’s Adventures” would suit you best in my opinion btw
Amen! Don't look. The opportunity will find you when you're ready. Not before.
All the best, G.
Many, many of the couples we met during our cruising years, are no longer together. Sadly it happened to us too. It seems to be probably a higher percentage than those living the land life. Wishing both of you the best on your individual journeys.
Clark around the world, Clarks sailing adventure, Sailing with Clark
Sailing in Sweden is amazing. The girls are super pretty too so have fun!
"Clark's Adventure" so you don't accidentally lose subscribers when they do the search for your youtube channel in the algorithm.
Keep up your good work just like all of those battery manufactures and fish in the sea. There’s many out there. I just found your videos about a week or two ago and I’ve been looking at the batteries and I found this one on Amazon. It’s called XRH new energy. and they seem like they’re pretty good and it said 280 W hour 24 V battery and I’m sure you’ll find whoever you’re looking for. And you being on the sailing boat, you can go wherever in the world to.👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
Mate so sorry to hear that.
Not my choice either… my partner and I split after 31 years.
Lot to be said for sailing with friends…
Greece is amazing.
Sorry to hear that. You need to get your butt over to S.E. Asia. The dating scene here is amazing in the Philippines, Cambodia and Vietnam! These women love the simple life like you do. When I was living in Cambodia so many of my roommates had babies with Cambodian and Vietnamese women. They are all so happy! I can't wait to start a family of my own! You can extend your visa forever in Cambodia. Philippines lasts 3 years. I was living on $500/month in Cambodia and my girlfriend was paying only $65/month for her apartment including water and electricity in Phnom Penh.
Sorry to hear that. Just remember: grief is a process. She is a splendid woman, just might have outgrown eachother. I hope to see some of your new adventures and hopefully you two can remain great friends.
I think 'Clark's Adventures' is a nice move since it has some brand recognition.
You sound philosophical about it Clark. And excellent points on the naming. I’d say Sailing Temptress or some version thereof is good.
sorry ti hear, a positive is that you guys are still friends, stay strong
"It's Clark on Temptress " is my vote
Clark, Been there, done that. Give it some time. Usually, the longer the relationship, the longer it takes to get over it.