What to Consider When Hitting on Your Bartender
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- Опубликовано: 9 ноя 2016
- You sit down at the bar, have a few drinks, get to some chatting and you’ll be damned if you don’t think that there’s a real connection with the bartender serving you. They’re asking you questions! They’re laughing at your jokes! They’re really flirting here! So you start getting the bright idea that you should ask them out. Well, before you go through with it, make sure to watch this video. We gathered America’s best bartenders to find out how you should go about hitting on your bartender. Most importantly, they discuss the signals you should look for to make sure you don’t confuse flirting with them just doing their job well.
Bartenders, in order of appearance:
Killian Oliver, Lynnette Marrero, Charles Joly, Lisa Palmer, Eric Bugosh, C.J. Nielsen, Pam Wiznitzer, Karen Grill, Alex Day, Julia Momose, Gillian White, Sam Parrie, Bobby Heugel, Yael Vengroff, Sly Augustin and Erick Castro
Producer, Director & Writer: Jeremy Repanich
Directors of Photography: Jenna Morse and Lee Fritz
Coordinating Producer: Alyson Sheppard
Editor: Backlot Digital
Executive Producer: Brian Berkowitz
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I've definitely brought home a bartender and actually dated for awhile. Talk to who you want, feel the vibe, not that big of a deal. People are people.
💯
You’re probably normal and not insanely creepy / transient
I married my favorite bartender. I think the secret (because it worked for us) is to become friends first, find out a little about each other. Don't ruin a good bartender/regular customer relationship with something that could turn out to be embarrassing.
You’re probably normal and not insanely creepy / transient
When the bartender starts buying you shots, asks you to stay after closing and starts making out with you after you two clean up, it's safe to say you really don't need to pick up on the bartender when she will definitely pick up on you if she wants to
This will happen this weekend lmao! 😂😂😂
"shitcanned" is an interesting term for being drunk
watman I thought that meant fired from a job
I use it for both
Milkshake202 so you could be shitcanned for being shitcanned?
A quote from the Witcher books comes to mind: "The working girls tried to attract the rich guests while at the same time discourage and repel the poor ones."
Woah there let me squash the stripper myth with one step.
1) Cocaine
I think that particular 1-step guide is applicable to most things in life.
You know
Yes yes and yes. "You won't ever take the stripper home with you". Biggest myth ever. Money and coke talk. End of story
And you get pet crabs or the herpes...
Ecstasy works too.
The best way to know if a bartender is in to you is when you wake up in the morning and she's still there.
I grew up in New Orleans. At one point, all of my friends were bar tenders. Forget flirting. It was hard to even have a conversation while theyre working. I hated visiting friend's bars. Theyd be like "hey come hang out while I work". fuck that.
Let me redo this video in 3 seconds:
Don't. S/he is working.
nah
As if you never like to get hit on during work.
Thanks for saving my time. Let me tip you some iota!
2018
-can't hit on people at work
-can't hit on people on the street
-can't hit on ppl in coffee shops
@@samflynn97 Listen, bartending is a busy job. Yea it was funny the few first times when girls hit on you during your shift, but you don´t really have time to flirt. You are being paid to work, not chill and flirt and fuck. Get it?
False.. I have taken a stripper home. And true I did Regret it.
So have I. Didn't regret it. Dated one. Regretted that.
Preach!!!
i was going the say the same ! she lived in the house behind me lol
Taken a couple home...no regrets.
Do you mind telling us the story
Ive taken a stripper home before...granted it cost me like $300 or so but still I took one home, I've also taken a bartender home end of the night, but it was at a terrible dive bar and she defiantly was nothing to brag about (nor am I but I get lucky sometimes)
Joshua Pearce semantics
hegzia nope
Are talkin $300 worth of dances, or you got some dances then paid her $300 to go home with you? LolI've taken a couple home and didn't pay for anything outside of dances at the club.
Before or after alderaan?
The blasters were fully operational huh
I NEVER hit on someone while they're working. It's not even about me either. It's about not putting them in a position where they have to be super nice to you because they are working, but still shut you down. That's just an awkward position in which to put them.
Lord please help these women realize they ain’t all that. First off we drunk, second it’s dark in here, third we trying to get free drinks. Cheers an keep up the good work
😂😂😂
I asked out a waitress successfully once. I went in 4 or 5 times and was getting a very pleasant, attentive vibe from her, left my number on the receipt asking her for coffee, got a call an hour later.
Didn't last very long, but it was successful!
I hate strip clubs and bars because faux pleasant-ness is just irritating to me. I hate people on a script no matter where I am. Even as a paramedic, I do have a few go-to jokes, but I make a strong point of having a personal conversation with every patient that wants one, and I never feign interest or just nod along (unless they're insane or intoxicated enough to need an ambulance.) I had a suicidal 15 year old girl today in my ambulance. I didn't give her a script, I told her about my experience with suicidal thoughts and depression and what I found that helped.
I do have the luxury of only having to deal with one person at a time, however, but I also hate crowds where I'm just one of a hundred meaningless human beings.
Tmi
Oh god. I’ve had my share of bartender blokes. They’re usually sober at the end of the night. So always a win.
I dated a bartender I met while she was working once. But it was not from hitting on her while she was working. It was after being a regular at the bar for a while, and hanging out in a group a couple times before she gave me her number and we dated a couple times.
How to hit on someone who's job practically guarantees they're hit on all night long? Don't. It's pretty obvious when a bartender is actually treating you differently. This is cringy like a freshman orientation video.
holy shit. the first chick gave me free frito pie one night!!
Don't mistake a customer flirting with you that you are getting a good tip. Don't take it personal.
Burst at "I got a numberrrrrr" hahahahahaa
They want your money "nicely."
If you're going to be a "regular" at a bar or pub, then there are a few rules to follow. 1) Be polite. 2) Tip well. 3) Don't hit on the waitstaff. The first two reasons are obvious. The third may be the most important. (If you want to come back.) That's because they already know you are interested because of body language and the conversation. And, if they are interested in you, you will know. There will be no doubt. So don't make a fool of yourself.
I write my bartender soft poems in calligraphy, I'm not trying to be flirty with the poems, just trying to be sweet, I know full well that she is showing my poems to all the poeple who work there.
Hate when the dude keeps bugging me. "let me buy you a drink" 😏 I'm the Bartender im working .. "then let's dance
Im working dude🤦
Okay I'll ask your boss to allow you to. 🤦😭pls don't
😂😂😂
Can I date you? I will be nice
@@Shadowwind4 😂😂😂 good for trying
@@stgeorge4559 thanks bro it be rough out here for us single guys
@@Shadowwind4 not for me but good luck
All great points, but there was a really cute bartender at a company event last night, and I will forever regret not trying. Sure she might be friendly to everyone, but life is short and she was pulling my attraction strings.
If you want to get the real entertainment out of the bar population you be that person that turned down the bartender.
I would say im a semi regular. Its been about a year since my crush bartender guy caught my attention. He is very flirty but ye is also really sweet. He goes out of his way to make u feel welcomed but yes, i noticed thats his stradegy. Recently, i wrote my number on my receipt and never got a text/call so I knew he just doesnt see me in that way. I was hurt amd didnt want to go back. I ended up last sunday there and i just didn't sit in his section. He saw me going to the bathroom and said hello with his usual happy to see me face. When i returned from the bathroom he called me over and told me i looked really good. I simply smiled and said thank you as i walked away. He is just a nice guy who sadly isnt into me. So im trying to not take it personal and move on.
Quite a few bartenders from New Orleans, haha wow never seen this before in any type of video. Shout out from the 504 haha
"You're never going to take the stripper home with you." I can personally guarantee that this statement is false, and it's also false about bartenders.
they chose "these" bartenders for this piece? mother of god..
Never hitting on a bartender again. Last time I hooked up with a bartender I got stuck with her for 4 years.
😪 when you’ve gone out multiple times with the bartender 😂😂😂
Go out with me?
This was so helpful .. Now I at least know what not to do .. Thanks guys
"shitcanned"
Sick profile picture
As a bartender - I'll tell you, I am getting annoyed by Bartenders thinking somebody's hitting on them .. make the drink, get them out, cut the line down... Now! the worst thing in the world is a slow bartender, even the worse, if you have to work with them behind the same bar
No kidding. Just like it's their job to be friendly, most customers will do the same thing because that's what humans do by default.
I'm not flirting, I'm being polite, and encouraging you to not spit in my food.
Bartender women are easy to pull, they are in a sht low income job so practically anyone is more successful than them.
1:57 grinch looking right there
If she’s hot, be a regular and be that one guy who doesn’t try to hit on her. Pretty soon she’ll wonder why you don’t want her like all the rest. Then she’ll begin to hit on you, women want what they can’t have.
this one knows whats up
Dats what I'm talkin bout thumbs up 4 dat 🤔😊
it might work but fuk chasing. be the boss
shrapnel I didn’t say chase that’s the whole point not chasing.
u said 'be a regular'. fuk that, u gonna become an alcoholic from a specific bar for months just to maybe get some pussy from a drink pourer? that is a shitty inefficient idea, plan, chase.
After me and my friends clock out from where we cook at, we often eat at a twin peaks near our restaurants. The other cooks are adamant in saying the women there favor me more than them in terms of service. I'm like no they don't. Then they want to mention things like remembering my name versus them, me getting free/discounted things they won't, or on my receipts I get a heart or a smiley face on it. My friends are like what am I doing to gain favor. I said I ain't doing shit aside conducting my business and they are thinking too hard on this.
This comments section is a symbolic representation of why none of you will go home with a bartender.
Babe you're on the fucking internet
As the adage goes, "The Internet is for Introverts"
Like of course introverts are going to want to know how to ask people out in a OVERWHELMINGLY social setting of a bar or a resort destination
(He says, quite drunk himself, on a resort destination, wanting to ask out a bartender)
My bartender would find us on the beach in Mallorca and come chat to us for like 10-15 mins which was really dope
Eh, I've had a friend who had a one night stand with a bartender. I get the concept of the video but generalizations don't really help anyone.
Generalizations help communicate what generally happens... We can assume that people are aware of there being exceptions to everything. We shouldn't have to include those exceptions every single time we inform people, that's exhausting and helps even less.
Duckman1616 bruh, I asked a bartender for coffee. We ended up having cocktails till closing on a Sunday. She invited me dancing and I had to fuck it up.
I really want to try again and just get to know this person better. Learn from me fuckers. Take it slow...
I once got a number written on a napkin from an older lady that was there with her bf and i was super confused atm
as a server alot of this transfers to restursnts as well 👌
Why are there three bottles of Hendricks Gin in the background?
1:21 that hot ass bartender with Red hair made me lmao her face saids it all 😂🤣
I've never had bartenders flirt with me but I used to get a lot of baristas at cafes flirt with me during the daytime though. I never flirted back. I figured they wanted a bigger tip and had no genuine interest in me. I am still single.
Watch when they want to hit on a customer,we'll be like,"no thanks you smell like booze,but wheres my drink" with no tip🍺
I tend on being a regular in my neighborhood bar, laundromat, restaurant and grocery store, generaly business. And I know if I make a move on a wrong girl, the whole hood knows who I am and where I live. I'm not going to be a victim of being a mistaken creep.
Well I went home to a bartender once. I was in a fantastic mood and spent about 8 hours at that particular bar and made friends with everyone behind the bar. Then when they were about to close and I was the last person there I kindly gave my number to the female bartender, she walked me to the door and we made out, a little while later once they were all wrapped up she texted me and invited me to her place. I had my mind blown several times over that night.
I had a math teacher in high school who told us he first met his wife at a bar she was bar tending at. So it’s not impossible, but definitely know whether or not your advances are welcome.
Everyone at my restaurant laughs whenever someone leaves a number lol. Especially the bartenders
Those female bartenders are rough... they reminds me of the bartenders up far north were I work
People must drink a lot where they work, LOL!
I was only very breifly conventionally handsome, but when I was I did notice how exasperated I became when everyone would chat me up and linger around me. There's a freedom in being partially invisible.
I learned a lot
I feel like as long as u follow the general guidlines of being a descent fucking human being and tipping well it's actually nice to get a little side not with a number on the receipt. Doesn't mean I'll follow through on that. But it's nice. Maybe it's just because I'm a single male bartender in LA.
What i found interesting about bar workers is that in The Mask Of Sanity it says that many are psychopaths or have psychopathic traits....maybe leave them at the bar.
Noooo my heart is broken!!!!!
Local Barter said business and regular flirting is the same thing and he said 'if your single and her too'.....??? what does that mean...... before this, he kept making fun of me in lepard scarf and gave me a plate of milk....he said bartenders reduce the tension for customers. confused about thiz...???
Yeah true!
Gillian is so my type 😉
Never understood why dudes leave their number on a crappy tip on a credit card and expect a call back. Has that ever worked?
Wow, Alex Day looks so young!
You had a video about how bar staff all hookup all the time yet caution patrons from hitting on them. Also, don't call me sweetie or hun/hunny.
I’ve taken both strippers and bartenders home 🤷🏻♂️
They worked at Hooters 🤣
I had a woman hitting on me at the bar i worked in, I was just standing there grinning like mad which she took as a green light......bad move my girlfreind at the time was standing right behind her getting more angry by the minute it did not end well for the woman flirting outrageously with me as my beloved dragged her out to the car park by her hair.
I never shit where I drink. That is a big no no no no, no matter how cute she was. God I got cut off by my bartender more times than I like too.
In Stockholm there's pretty much no female bartenders. Why that is I do no know.
who wants to hang out with someone who says "shit canned"
I’d have to be pretty blacked out to hit on any of these bartenders
Another video where the Bartenders mostly kinda suck. I'm a average, straight guy and I've dated plenty of women I met as bartenders or waitresses. Sometimes I ask, sometimes they do, sometimes they explain to me on a subsequent visit that they hoped I asked them out.
Best way to be is be straight with them say. Look love your cute but you are going around being nice to everyone including me inorder to get tips.
So considering that ill give you 20 dollars so thats out the way and ask for your number.
(Make sure you only going in for 1 or 2 drinks not to get wasted, also make sure the bartender is your primary focus not to get drunk)
Of course they are being nice to everyone. That's their job dude. To get as much money out of you as possible and being mean wont achieve that. The fact that you have to be rude and bribe a bartender for a phone number is really fucking sad.
Eric!
Yup
0:42 Her neck look like the Michelin Man
GainzFromGaming hHhahahahah but she's cute dough
She’s a babe though
Jure Plazonić Yeah Pillsbury Dough
Each ring = 15 years.
She's cute tho
dude, can you or someone add an english subtitle? english is not my first language
This is hilarious, honestly. "Can I buy you a drink?" Oh look, a shot of alcohol. Yay! SHE WORKS IN A BAR! She gets hit on all night, every night. What makes you think that this time, she's going to go home with you (After she's done with her shift?) What makes you think that she doesn't already have a boyfriend, a girlfriend, a boyfriend, and a girlfriend, or 15 booty calls on speed dial so she doesn't have to meet new people after 8 hours of meeting new people? Is it the alcohol? Because I think it's probably the alcohol.
Bartender dude for 4 years here, the amount of numbers I got written down on bills is nuts, we'd call them sometimes for the luls, guys, girls 9 times out of 10 they were super embarrassed anyway
Ain’t none of them girls getting hit on bruh 😂😂
"..You'll never take the stripper home with you" lol, I've taken strippers home and haven't spent a single $.
Liar 😭
I was upset about global warming until I saw this video
My mums friend, loud lady, was flirting with a Greek immigrant bartender at a Greek Restaurant. She asks what cheese and being paired with a drink.
Bartender: A Sheep cheese from Greece (his family made it)
Her: You’re givin’ us CHEAP CHEESE and charging an a and a leg!
Bartender: Sheep Cheese… (leaves the table, disgusted at his families cheese being called Cheap)
She turns bright red. Everyone laughed at her and the bartender was cold to her.
Not ever, doesn't always mean, never. It might work only one out of 50. Just means I keep asking, until I find that one.
Any bartenders or regulars here? A few months passed 21 and going to the bar, first time, this weekend. Are bartenders cool with, "surprise me?" Rum and coke is as far as my knowledge goes but i want to try some real cocktails. To me they make money, and enjoy, making a good drink. I just dont wanna come off as some douche at the counter.
Ain't non worth tipping!
I have also taken one home lol didnt pay her
Don’t shit where you eat especially if it’s your favorite bar
They shouldn't expect that they'd be hit on without the beer goggles FIRMLY in place. They all are in the exact right place and profession. Otherwise......nothing. SNS.
Ok, so your saying i should hammer drinks and hit on bartenders? I have to get the bar first.
I'll "go there"...if we're talking about any of the above ladies....It's the old "they think they're hotter than they actually are".
None of these rules apply in a podunk town where bartender is single with 3 kids
leave a number, slide it with your bill.
Do people call her Korean Grill?
Stop flirting with me and get my fucking drink.
It would be very easy to not hit on a bartender if they look like any of these in this video LOL Damn
First off, how about getting some cute bartenders
What if she kisses you after her shift when she got loaded...i never pick up on women or bartenders.But she came right up and kissed me.Twice.
But this is just individual opinions. Trust me Most bartenders that flirt with you will most likely sleep with you. It all depends on how attracted they really are to you and if they aren't well you can usually intrigue them by having enough $$$ if you know where I'm coming from. Everyone has a price especially in the event of a common one night stand mixed with enough alcohol.
nassssstaaaaayyyyyyyy
But did it have to come from some of the least interesting bar tenders on RUclips? Come on, "Playboy"...
I’ve taken home both a stripper and a bartender at the same time. Bar was next to a strip club. This was in vegas when I lived there.