13 Signs You Should NOT Trust Someone
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- Опубликовано: 10 сен 2024
- Today, we will learn the signs that you can't trust someone. If someone has betrayed you in the past, should you trust them again? We will answer these questions.
Sources:
How Do You Know if You Can Really Trust Someone?
www.psychology...
Signs You’re Dating a Narcissist - and How to Get Out
www.healthline...
How to Tell if Your Relationships Are Genuine
www.psychology...
How Can You Tell Who to Trust?
www.psychology...
Chief Editor: Tristan Reed
Voice Over: Troy W. Hudson
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2:25 keeping big secrets
3:06 paranoid projection
3:39 the empathy gap
4:41 fudging the details
5:16 patterns of dishonesty
6:03 pushing your limits
6:42 misplaced validation
7:13 breaking the rules
7:47 buying your affection
8:31 two-faced behavior
9:09 rejecting their mistakes
9:41 narcissistic charm
10:27 instinctual anxiety
Interesting take on this information. Good thoughtful revision of how people are and how they can be.
Everyone has either seen this or maybe even played that role themselves. Some maybe for not so selfIsh reasons. Others - very intentionally.
Good to see that not all is what you think it might be. Just saying, says one with life experiences. 🧐🙃😝
Thanks for the summary.
Narcissistic behavior really got me because I knew someone didn’t understand what narcissistic behavior really was until I discovered that recently now someone I know is a narcissist without a doubt her behavior so extreme really toxic she is most of what this great video describes is her she gone now since I cut her out of my life it’s so better now without her!
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I really hate the question “what do you do for a living?” To me it’s them putting feelers out to gage how much or little respect they feel they should give you, and if they can get away with sh*tting on you. I avoid answering it, and I don’t care what they think of that.
Exactly...
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Yup it’s true-it’s always a trick question and when asked, the majority of the time their real intent, behind asking you that, is not in your best interest , especially when it’s asked early on dates
IT FEELS AS IF THEY GOLDDIGGERS ASKING ME THAT QUESTION! I KNOW HOW IT FEELS AGAIN SORRY YOU HAD PEOPLE ASKING YOU THAT QUESTION, BUT SEEMS YOU HANDLED IT WELL! AGAIN HAVE A FANTASTIC DAY.
I wouldn't mind if someone would ask me that. It only shows their interest. But, I would mind if someone would ask me if I make a lot of money at my current job.
If someone doesn't want to take responsibility or doesn't admit mistakes, it's hard to trust them. Usually, people like this often play-victim. "If they hurt you, they will make up their own story and won't listen to you, or even look down on what you say."
YEP! THERE'S A TRICK LIKE THIS AT MY JOB!!!
COMPLETE NARCISSIST WHO "NEEDS" PEOPLE TO PAY ATTENTION TO HER!
I KNOW I MUST REALLY PISS HER OFF BC I AVOID HER ASS LIKE THE PLAGUE!!!!!
I am very introverted in public. When approached by extroverts I tend to be distant and reserved. It gives me time and mind to listen and observe.
When money (doesn’t have to be a big sun) is involved, very few people are trustworthy. This is my observation.
Trust is not given, it's earned.
It actually should be unless someone gives you a reason not to
Slowest thing to earn and the fastest thing to lose
@@shwheat6315 nahh money is
So so true. When you share something so personal they take it and run with it. Workplaces are definitely one place to stay to yourself.
I do because I'm surrounded by people that are not fake and they are the one looking out for me to keep me from being a victim to them fake people
Anyone is capable of anything. I expect that people will eventually let me down. I can usually tell the difference between those who do it without a care, and those who truly regret their shortcomings. Gossip is an immediate strike out to me.
I agree. I would add, trust your gut instinct.
Expectation is the only prerequisite for disappointment. ...
I would say that you should not trust anyone in the workplace.
They all gossip and everyone will know your personal business.
Most people are untrustworthy. People in general do not have the ability to find healthy ways to deal with their suffering, flaws, and mistakes. Instead they do hedonistic activities that only help suppress their self hatred. These types of people get along with people of similar mentality. If anyone comes in with a different point of view, it distracts them from their hedonism, and that forces them to think about their guilty conscience. Instead of addressing their problems, they will try to reign them in again by blaming you for the way that they feel. Everything was "fine" until you came into the picture. If they can change your behavior, even if it scars you, as long as their pain goes away it will be worth it. The most dangerous people are the ones who do not have the ability to control their emotions.
We live in a society full of narcissists! Once you learn about true narcissism, you see it everywhere!
Time will tell who will you trust. You need to spend time to know the person.
This was hard to swallow,although I have ignored my own intuition, dismissed red flags.and friends bringing things to light for 7yrs....I don't believe I'll be trusting anyone anytime soon.💔
@stacybradshaw4818 I’m sorry you’re going through heartbreak. All you can do is learn from your situation and learn to love yourself. Positive Vibes
I completely understand! The woman I thought was my best friend for 20+ years most definitely was not. I found out that she had lied to me about most everything that mattered. Such as why she got divorced, that she had purposely tried keeping me from becoming friends with friends of hers, & talking badly about me with those friends. She was often making little remarks about the way I did things and trying to make me feel less than but I would always excuse it and think that she couldn’t possibly do those things or mean them in that manner because she was my best friend. In reality she was just trying to keep me right where she needed me to be. She even accused my daughter of just not wanting to go to school and playing me when she developed SEVERE anxiety after being bullied and 2 major deaths in the family that all happened within a little over a year!! She also didn’t believe that I was sick when I had adenomyosis and developed pelvic floor dysfunction on top of issues I already had. I almost died after surgery and that’s when she changed her mind and attitude. It was too late for me and I worked her right out of my life. That was in 2019 and to this day she still questions what happened! Since then she has told lies about me to family members of hers and tried to paint me in a bad light. She never apologizes for things she’s done and basically thinks she does no wrong. It’s really just so sad. There have been other friends to do horrible things as well since then and it leaves me feeling like I cannot trust anyone as well. I sincerely hope that you find people who enrich your life and give you all of the love, support, and happiness you deserve 🙏💛
It's the best you can do , the older we get the lesser supposed friend we will have
I understand you.
It takes a long time to trust people.
I met my highschool girlfriend on Facebook in 2022.
I've broken up with her 6 times since March 2022.
The kicker is I had a crush on her in highschool, and we only dated for like a year.
I was 17 and she was 14.
Now I'm 58 and she is 56.
I am in love with her.
I guess my point is.
To take things slow, of Wich I have never done in my life.
Give yourself time to heal and you'll be alright.😊
Excatly the truth the whole truth and nothing but the truth
I think I was familiar with a lot of this stuff, and I almost didn't bother watching the video, but I think it's never good to assume you can't learn something new. Even if you already think you know it, it helps to see it clearly defined like in this video! Thumbs up! Would recommend!
Don't trust ANYONE Because they are all mean.
There are 100s of videos on how to spot a narcissist. Everybody should know what to look for because: usually, by the time you start to feel trapped, it's too late.
It's an incurable personality disorder often missed because, in the beginning, they are charming, generous, great at sex, attentive, etc.
Next you know they are in your bank account and everything is your fault.
You are about to create all that you will look back on someday. You have the power to choose.
The next time you’re faced with worry, breathe in. Choose to be present. Choose to be curious. The next time you notice yourself postponing joy, simply tell yourself, “I’m allowed to enjoy this.”
Do that enough times, and you may just find it will add up to a life well-lived.
I just want to say, focus on building trust. Your paranoia will make others paranoid. Manage your fears as much as you can and find joys in simple things, so even if people turn their backs on you or stabs you, you will have the resources to try again. I too am trying to build trust.
Today he's a trusted friend tomorrow he's your bitter enemy .😅😅
The worst one is when a person you trust turn against you on every point you make in a conversation in a group, They seem like they fit in, you dont. They use your ideas and tell you they found it in another place. They give you things and ask it back as if it was on loan. They invite your confidence and then tell you later they get tired of hearing you complain. They give advice which you only realize later, after doing it, benefits only them. They bring up embarrassing things from the past in conversation that makes you look bad in the present. They expect gratitude for old, dirty or broken items they give you, once it is fixed, cleaned and valuable they tell others they gave it to you. I can go on and on.... then you still love them because its your sister.
My older sister treats me in some of these exact ways. It's heartbreaking
Quickest way test someone for trust is tell them something false about yourself and wait to see which of your friends tell you etc..
Having quite a few trust issues myself with someone and actually watching this video helped a wee bit.
Trust is earned.I TRUST NOBODY IN OR OUT OF WORK AND LIFE till they earn it.same goes the other way around.❤
no disrespect but if you feel like you can't trust them then you PROBABLY can't
The problem with knowing is that they know you know and lie to the point were they have wasted 6 years of someone's life..
A history of lying to other ppl should be a huge red flag. If they lie to others they will eventually lie to you.
Dont trust no one.
My bumper sticker.....Trust No one.
The pandemic made me not trust pretty much most, if not all, people. =P
Indeed some became very nasty n polarized, very revealing time that still continues
After watching this i remembered everything that i been through when i encounter fake people i am actually now not even looking to be with someone im going to just move on live my life and do all my favorite activities to be happy
I learned to give everybody the benefit of the doubt if you trustworthy, you will never mess up you're not gonna lie deceive you gonna always do the right thing. If there's some type of game it's gonna show cause you're gonna fail the test, one time and one time only that's all you need because people doing good and trying to do the right thing. they will never fuck the test. If it's a agenda, awesome premeditation or deceitfulness they gonna mess up. It never fails the first time you lie you gonna lie again and again so far it works for me.
Maybe is wrong, but at the moment I feel like it's easier to trust even the most dangerous animal than any human being.
sometimes id agree with you
People change . Jesus Christ is the same yesterday ; today ; and forever . I don't trust anyone else - not even myself ! Trust Him for your future ( John 6 , verse 37 ) . He never breaks His promises .
Amen!
Truth shall set you free
I have paranoid ideation from BPD, Othello Syndrome and CPTSD from narcissistic abuse. I'm 100% against cheating. I can't help but always feel like my partner, current and old were cheating on me. My ex wife cheated on me for almost 15 years. I suffer from betrayal trauma.
Go with your gut feeling.
TRUST YOUR GUT❤
Do not trust anyone whom is slamming others you do not even know. Most likely they were always the oroblem!!! True story.😊
This helps so much I know someone who she was always troubled she can’t be trusted she gossips and cheats and steals everything talked about on this described her she is so untrustworthy I cut her out of my life it was a one sided friendship and number 12 hit the nail on the head she a total toxic narcissist this is the big reason why I cut her out of my life people like this exist and get rid of them immediately don’t tolerate there toxic behavior!❌
One is trust no one.
If the person is breathing, do not trust that person.
Depends on the person whether I tell where I live or work…
I learned a long time ago that I can't trust my own sister. She betrayed my trust twice about very personal issues. Never again. I don't tell her anything that I don't want the rest of our family to know.
Paranoya and suspecion, could also have it's origins in past experiences of broken trust
I trust no one outside my family.
Can you do a next video of 13 signs? You should trust someone?
Gust listen to your intuition it's always true
This is very good. Thanks.
Trust is earned so trust but verify.
I learned once that trust is broken. It can never be like it was from the beginning. Trust ready people is going to always be trustworthy and if they don't understand something or feel like that, they might make the wrong choice or decision. They'll talk to you about it so they won't accidentally deceive you or hurt you in anyway.
Trust God 💯 only
02:25. Starts the list
Trust is always blind, if it’s not blind it’s a deal not trust.
The story makers, and gossips also devastate lives
Some of these are not necessarily true. It depends on the person and whether or not they have more than one or two of these characteristics. I helped people out and bought or given them things with no hidden agenda. I was just hoping it would make their lives a bit easier or relieve some anxiety over needing an item or two they couldn’t afford at the time or possibly just something they had wanted for years. One thing that has always been true in my experience is if someone is telling you secrets or talking badly about someone, more than likely they are discussing you in that manner with someone else.
I agree. Just because you give or receive an expensive gift doesn't make you untrustworthy. It might very well be that what is normal for you to give and receive is expensive for someone else. I don't like people who can't handle an expensive gift. A gift is a gift not a business transaction. If you receive it, simply be happy and grateful.Making presents is an art.Some people are better at it than others. If you don't have the resourses to reciprocate the gift, write a letter, in which you thank the generous person, aknowliging what you have received and thanking them. And leave out the" it wasn't necessary part". No, it wasn't necessary. It's a gift. A sign of sympathy, friendship and appriciation. Not more, not less.
@@charlottepeukert9095lovely comment.
Thanks for sharing this educative advice.
Have a red line trust stop given to anyone and observe their worthy overtime and still have that red line on forever. And that include your family member. My brother steal my most expensive liquor (2 bottles) instead of one. The level of selfishness is another level. Makes me depressed for so long till now, I was hoping he promised he return but broke up a family relationship with me as a sister brother relationship, dissappear and changed his handphone. Completely gone from my life. I distance my oldest friend when my childhood friend never trust me with a solid wood figurine craft he wouldn't help me over the airport immigration despite I was so full with my hands can't carry. I was very disappointed.
Everyone is trustworthy, what they can be trusted for varies from person to person and isn't always positive. Some people you can trust to help you whilst someone else can be trusted to lie to you or steal from you. When someone says someone is trustworthy people automatically assume it's for something positive.
Trust yourself, motives of others are many
when your in love with a broken heart it stays broken for live
All of these things described just about everyone I know
I am already avoiding somebody because of exhibiting some signs as above. But how about if somebody with one of the signs above use another to reach me? Should I also not trust the other person who is used to reach out to me?
Keep your boundaries clear. We teach people how to treat us
If there is no money involved there is no trust
Scrolled down. Got the 13. Thank you
Talking about me behind my back story of my life
Sounds like what I'm dealing with!
Can't trust at all. I have to many burn holes.
Thanks top think helpful 😊❤️
Get to the point....1:33 in & you're still explaining what distrust is. Make your points & then make other videos. Here is the secret: Trust no one, trust is the first step to betrayal. Trust no one...... now, what else do you have?
NEVER TELL PEOPLE AT WORK YOUR PRIVATE LIFE.GOOD LORD.
That means love or luxury
Im watching this because i delt with with this so many faje people i met wanted money some i met they say there loves so much to where sounded like a habit and pretending to be someone else
I know a guy so he do not like to tell anyone about him he is selfish arrogant imprints etc trust run
Very nicely described
Nice video again
What you gotta do is say crazy shit, and really really act the part. Say something you know would be repeated by fake people. Do something that will get their attention. Then you fucking wait….. you’re gonna hear it repeated somewhere, and usually when you tell just one person something, that’s how you know who has repeated it. I’ve learned my “ friends “ so fucking well, that a simple tone of voice will indicate they’re lying to me lmao, that’s it. That’s all I need for just one of them. If you are near me. If we are talking. Know that I’m observing you. I don’t have a choice I need to test you , watch your body language, hear your voice/tone, watch your eyes, pay close attention to where your feet are facing, if you can hold eye contact, all of this comes together and it gives the truth. So while you’re lying, lol…. Your body is giving you away. Once you learn how to read body language and you get good at it, it’s extremely rare someone can get something passed you; and if they do…. It’s not for long. Everyone has a tell. No one can hide. Not you not me. Even trying to fucking keep your body under control gives you away lmao….i say it again. No one can hide.
Amen God thank you God Amen Jesus Amen amen amen amen
Thank you ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😇😇😇😇😇😇😇😇🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I don’t really trust or talk to people actually but that not the point, I never really trusted someone with my task
I trust absolutely no one now apart from two good feinds.
Most of those behavior are the definition of my parents
what divorced moms say about the Ex-husband.
good lord this guy is killing me
All 13 of them are Narcissistic
So 13 types of lies/half-truths.
I trust everyone blindly.😭
Wow can't believe i am first.
me myself I'll be waiting for somebody to mess up. I give everybody the opportunity I make it so easy I'll be the dumbest person in the world the easiest person in the world because no matter how easy you think I am if you know good, you gonna deceive me and I'm a see it I'm a be so so so nice, I'll make it very easy for you to mess up but if you trustworthy, you're not gonna mess up........
I would add
14) Types in ALL CAPS
Just dont trust anyone
Good vid, but you can skip the first two minutes.
Learning trust in my putting in my journal is for I the church youtube video getting ideas my name is Heather ha ha
Well very interasting vedio i share with my daughters they trusts lots....... 👍👍👍👍
FORGIVENESS and TRUST are not GIVEN,like candy or coupons , they are EARNED and DESERVED . By Amelia
Some people might be afraid of this video due to triskaidekaphobia.
If they are breathing you can’t trust them!!!!!
The only way to keep a secret between 3 ppl is if two of them are dead
you lost me on the first one. some people value their privacy.
❤CEOs vps realtors lawyers drs dentists etc.. sociopaths
God is the only one you can trust.
Too much introduction
I’m 2nd?
1. HUMAN
2. FEMALE WESTEN WOMAN
TRUST IS FOR FOOLS, ACTIONS AND BEHAVIOUR IS THE ONLY THING THAT COUNTS
1,2 & 9 arent necessarily true all the time.