"They keep repeating and repeating..." *worked at a small business; watched be destroyed from the inside by a narcissist who hammered and hammered at everybody else's stamina; until one by one we gave in our two weeks. (edit, in hindsight getting a new job was the best thing for all of us, there was no beating this bugger - he wasn't going to move from his 'pasture' so we simply moved on with our lives, a new career latr i've no regrets :)
Ignoring the narcissist is actually very satisfying. Pretending they don’t exist and if you have to interact, grey rock their ass. They might look cool and calm on the outside if you glance out of the corner of your eye at them. But inside they are raging and losing their shit. You reap what you sow!
When ever I was happy even with small achievements she always found a way to put me down, compare me with others and make me feel worthless, they're horrible people.
No Contact feels great when Mrs. A finally understands the truth. I know my absence keeps him paranoid and wondering. It's a blow to his ego. Don't seek approval from a demon!!
Well said I know he didn't think I would ghost him for 2 years because he knew how much I was in love he hoover me a couple of months apart but his calls gets block I think he really can't believe I never unblocked him.hes block for life he's dead to me.
@@givegodthanks Same as my ex. We have to keep them dead to us for our own protection and sanity. They don't hoover for any good reason EVER. There is nothing to wonder about. Keep up the great work! ❤
@@adrianataffuri8507 You're very welcome! Please keep watching the RUclipss and learning as much as you can about narcissistic abuse. We can forget how terrible they are and feel like contacting them just to say hi. It just draws them back to use or hurt you. Not worth it. No Contact becomes so satisfying after we detox from all the misguided feelings for the narc.
After running into the narc the other day ,, I know it was the right decision to discard him last June!,, I looked at him with Pity ,, he is nothing to me !,,,,🕊🕊🕊🕊
My wife is definitely a narcissist, its so sad. This is the most sad thing to ever happen in my life. I can't believe people are actually like this, she's a psycopath😭
Block them on everything! You don’t need that negativity in your life ! The smartest thing I did was block and never looked back . Stay strong people, and god bless all going through this 🙏🏻 you will make it !!!!
5 months no contact from the Narcissist that I was with...SO THANKFUL I GOT AWAY!!! THANK YOU JESUS FOR WATCHING OVER ME, and showing me that there was someone else behind my back!!! SO BLESSED!!!
Right, don't let sadness overcome or overwhelm you to the examples point. It's okay to cry, pick yourself up, cry again a few days later, pick yourself up again and keep doing it until it does get better. Just don't give up. 🙏
@@1010QUEEN7 Not quite the direction that I was going. Humans cry. If you loved. You cry. But it also applies to anger, frustration, apathy, dissociation from the event...basically, replace "cry" with your emotion or feeling of choice. And same thing, go through your individual cycle. The point is, go through it until you don't anymore. But regardless, yes, he is the fool indeed. All of the narcs, are the most obtuse fools. God bless you sister in the Lord. Strength and confidence is beautiful. Most lose it along the narcs way.
@@1010QUEEN7 And you're honest. As we go to the throne, know that your tears were counted by the Most High. Your thoughts with Him always. God is with you...🙏
I'm super proud of doing the discard. I asked God in many tears, at his throne, literally on my knees to grant me the strength and courage to leave him. It wasnt many days longer and boom. It was done. He and his things packed. He was gone. He knew, he KNEW I was done and had researched about what is narcissism really. It was over. He made one call to his mom and she let him move in with her. THANK YOU GOD for answering that prayer.
We have the same case. I too had to fast and pray for 2 days b4 we had an aurgmement which lead me throwing him out. It's about 3 weeks now and am free. GLORY B TO GOD
Success and Happiness is the best punishment for narcissists! If you want them to burst of anger get it together, motivate yourself and start working on yourself, your happiness and successful life!
Ignoring the narcissist causes them to 01: Channel more time and effort towards securing new supply / 02: Re-integrate current orbiting sources of past supply / 03: Then attempt to flaunt their ability to efficiently have new supply / 04: Followed by a disordered and timeless rinse & repeat cycle that never ends.
It's like a computer that's been fed a perpetual loop of garbage data, where it keeps cycling itself through the computational results until the central processing unit burns out from overload, for not being able to find the solution in order to resolve the equation. It's a never ending stream/loop of garbage data.
That is so true. It’s exactly what my ex narc does, and is currently doing. No contact is probably driving him crazy....wondering why his attempts at trying to flaunt the new relationship and supply isn’t working on me this time. Once you learn what these people are and do, you realize how sick it all is, and for me, that’s all I see now....a disgusting, sorry excuse for a human being. Everything I ever found attractive about him, now turns my stomach! I’d rather live in a shoebox on the side of the road than to ever go back to that!
I wish there was a narc registry… Like a sex offender registry but for narcissists. That way when I decide to go on a date, or meet someone, I can check the registry first to see if they are a narc ... or how many narcissist live in my neighborhood… and what type and what level 😳🤪😬
All the narcs will use it to put all the empaths on it as part of the smear campaign. We don’t need a registry they pretty much show you who they are early on we just need to stop making stupid excuses for their disgusting behavior.
That’s sooo true. Mind told me I “should” end my life. And his girlfriend right after me died from an illness, and it did not even PHASE him! They were already in the devaluation stage, he was ready to move on, but they were still together at the time. I felt horrible for her knowing he’d abandoned her at the tail end. They have zero sympathy, empathy or remorse. Losing someone who they claim to love, means nothing! Pure evil operating in a human body suit!
@@bondeappetite703 ugh! So sorry! And yes they would! Just not them, and they do not matter! To suggest such a think is unimaginable! It totally blew me away! I saw straight through his eyes, and for a minute, I believe he was actually just saying what he was thinking “he” should do. Projecting....because they’re so miserable inside.
After having been taken on a crazy ride by a narcissist more than once, I can proudly call myself Mrs A for the very first time in my life! I don’t look at it as ignoring, or blocking or moving on from the narcissist and it’s not about making them regret or miss or feel hurt because we all know they are incapable of such human emotions. I see it as I’m finally honoring loving myself and giving myself the chance to be happy and free! Thanks to Dave I finally GOT IT! For anyone who is feeling hurt or sad abs can’t believe what just happened to them, pls try to let go of this pain ASAP and realize by letting this person go you are finally giving yourself the chance to be loved by a real human being full of real emotions. Love yourself enough to let go with a smile on your face! 🙌🏼❤️
A ”Tell-Tell” sign of a narcissist is how they react to the death of a close family member such as parents or grandparents. Instead of becoming sad, reflective or concerned with other loved ones sharing the lose, they become enraged! They are furious that that other person‘s death is happening TO them! They act as though someone is intentionally trying to cause them pain by dying. It’s as though they are being abandoned. Completely self-absorbed. It’s chilling to watch.
So true...they cannot share sorrow with others, they get angry & let their "sadness & dissapointment" out on the one closest to them. It is scary & sick. One of his close friends told me - after all went down the drain with us - that he knew he was gonna spiral out after his best friend died. He had to lash out to the ones who actually loved him 'cos he could not handle his pain & frustration in a normal way. This way he lost us all along his path of selfdestruction. Too bad. Nothing more to be said & done. We all just have to let it go & have the universe spin its way. All we can do is to wish finding a healthier & happier way.
They also get enraged when it's your birthday....how could you live another day and how dare think about happiness. Life and death is a reality they can not cope with.
5 months clean. Blocked from all social media accounts. On the path of recovery and healing. Love your videos Dave. I like how you explain stuffs. You really helped me a lot. Keep up the good work
When I asked my ex narc why he kept contacting me, he said, "I'm not keeping you in my back pocket just in case". I exposed him & his lies then told him not to contact me again. He panicked & tried to call me 3 times but I ignored him. I'm now Mrs A.
I married my wife 8 years ago and filed for divorce this past year after learning about her being a Narcissist due to these shows. I am so very grateful for your shows Dave. This is my first comment on this that i have ever made. I put everything together this past year after being lied to, cheated on countless times, stolen from. Once i put it all together this past year everything fit. When i first went no contact she came pounding on my doors and windows screaming at me to let her in. I then called the police to get her out of here. The only way to stop them is to go no contact and never allow them back in. Without God and these shows to educate myself on these sick twisted people none of this would have been even possible for me. Every single thing you describe about Narcissist from the love bombing to the hovering i have been right there. You are funny at times to Dave and you hit it right on so thank you. Knowledge is power. Peace.
True. I really had a nervous breakdown. Was very ill. He packed his alcohol and went to Mozambique. I was just a inconvenience. He is toast now. Karma is a bitch.
My ex laughed when I tried to explain to her that I could physically feel my heart rippling into 2. She said some of the most disrespectful things I’ve ever heard in my life, yet still to this day hits me up wondering why I dont want anything to do with her.
Hello all! Yes. Ignore them. Even if you come across them face to face. Ignore. That’s what I will do. It because I’m looking forward to bumping into him but because I know it will happen. I haven’t seen him biking through here in months but who knows? It’s not like I leave my home actively looking for him. I’m living my life and waiting for this divorce to move forward in the court. 1.5 years of getting discarded. A total blessing. I was wreck but he didn’t care. I became responsible for a mortgage and maintenance and bills. Yes. I made it through by the Grace of God and the Power of the Holy Spirit. I was even able to get a new job. No kids. I am thankful for that and for this experience because I have peace and health. Yes I got covid but survived. Thank you Dave and stay strong guys. Pray and believe in the Power of Jesus our savior.
I crossed paths twice (1rst time was indirect Hoover didn’t expect it, I just looked at her and walked away and even hung out with her friends) Second time I crossed path she was stressed out, looking down etc even though she discarded me
@@billy4643 all fake. They would love for you to go up to them or shout out their names. Like please. Cross the street, go back inside your home, leave the restaurant. They know that you know what they are and they hate it when you don’t notice them even though they are walking by you. Like: keep it moving you stranger. I don’t know who you are today. The best is to never engage and act like a complete stranger because that’s what he is to me: a stranger. I would even go as far as saying: I’ve never seen this person in my life before. Yup. I’m thankful to be alive and out of that dark hole 🕳
I am currently experiencing major hoovering episodes by a covert/vulnerable spectrum narcissist after 6 years of No Contact! guess what I'm being hoovered with? Shakespeare love quotes 😂 it's desperate, sad and hilarious. Glad I can laugh about it ! this just shows you that these monsters don't give up, never change, never self-reflect and most of all never take accountability for their actions. They just want IN. they just want your reaction, knowing they affect you in any way. Once you realize how fucking sad is this life they're living, it's so hard to care about them ... at all.. ever. I hope everyone of you guys here recover from this, and thank you Dave for the videos. I don't watch them that much any longer because I don't need them. I have moved on (and the narcissists have a radar for you moving on, trust me!). I'm always here to support the NARC Channels 🙏
I’m guessing that this guy is no English professor, but that he just found some book somewhere because he couldn’t generate any decent words on his own...
I don't feel sad or sorry for them at all.Poor me,myself,& I, trick goes nowhere with me. I see right through their Fakeness.,Evil attempts to steal,kill & destroy. JUSTICE WILL FIND THEM IN THE END, FOR SURE.⌛
I’m done forever. We may have a child together. I’ve learned to be indifferent. I gray rock. You need to wake up and move on. You need to think and treat the situation just like they did. That’s what worked with me. I was ruminating for so long because I didn’t understand what was going on. Once I did, game over. I have mastered shutting him down. Living my best life. Elevating and soaring higher than I ever did.
The ex narc’s “high school sweetheart” took her life after almost 5 years of narc abuse. She poured her heart out to it and it told her to “not do anything stupid.” She took her life that night. It keeps a pic of her in its wallet.
Yes, I have seen this in TWO scenarios. My 8 year old Foster sister sat on the kitchen floor, shaking and crying with a knife threatening to kill herself because of all the abuse. My Malignant narcissistic adoptive mother chuckled and yelled at her challenging her saying "WELL THEN DO IT THEN!!!" I had to intervene and find some words of comfort at 16. What a horrible situation!!
@@lovelylinda8891 that’s terrible! I hope you and your sister are doing well. The soul tie of suicide almost took me out had God not intervened. I really didn’t know who I was for 6 weeks after I got the narc to leave. I’ve never felt that much pain. I also have never been so alive as I am today. May 6 makes 5 months since I began my healing and recovery journey. I feel so blessed and awake now!!
@@maureenw7553 no better way. They don’t act like human beings; they are entities used as pawns by satan to destroy the lives of good people. This experience is what I needed to AWAKEN!!
So true he left me for DEAD. Him and his harem can all ROT! His feeble attempts still calling my friends & family proclaiming his love and blaming me for what happened still doesn’t work he hopes it will upset me enough to actually reach out to him he is sadly mistaken because Idgaf what ANYONE thinks and have zero interest explaining myself to anybody. You have to stand strong and move on with your life period. I pray for anyone who has to deal with THE DEVIL.
Best thing to do is to ignore and go No Contact out of the blue without prior warning. Simply ghost them and blocking them from all ways of communicating with you is the best way to bruise their ego as well as hurt them. Never look back, move forward and erase them from your memories.
He came back as knew I was weak I ignored, he came back again week later I ignored, I’m so proud of myself as I can be weak, I will never answer again, he showed me who he was and I would be stupid if I even thought about it,,,,,, If you have seen who they are do t go back for more or worse because they don’t change,
This made me cry ....💔😔 its opened my eyes to so many truths i refused to see ...Thank you I truly needed this today I was ms B for a while then ended and blocked him 1000% Thank you
We have to remind ourselves, that greater is He who is in us than he who is in the Narc. God brings people to us, to bless us. The devil brings wicked people to us to destroy us. Focus on Jesus, and He will bring us peace and joy.
Mine didn't help my mental illness. He smiled when I was losing it because I was being torn apart on the inside because I did love him . I knew then he was evil at that moment ... A still small voice came threw the chaos ... It told me my worth and it told me that he was evil and I have a purpose a purpose to help others as much as possible to get away from the demonic creatures..
I nearly laughed when Dave referred to the Mrs. B’s getting married off to the narcissists on the date sites. Honest to God, in my last two years on date sites, narcissists are all I have encountered! Why do they all hang out there? I’ve just tried to meet one, decent guy to develop a serious relationship with. It’s not happening. I’m done with date sites.
I am a recent Mr. A and excited to be there. She is an aging narc so it should be tramatic for her. She has never been treated this way by anyone before.
Great video Dave as usual. Once I block a narcissist, they're blocked. To do otherwise is like asking the doctor to put back into your body, the cancerous tumor he just removed.
Not gonna lie, def get satisfaction being the one that’s doing all the ignoring and blocking now. But that doesn’t seem to stop him. The Hoover’s just keep coming. Best bet is to change your number altogether! I’m finally at the point now where I don’t want to even know if he’s trying to Hoover. Praise Jesus for getting me here ❤️🙏✝️
When ever I was happy even with small achievements she always found a way to put me down, compare me with others and make me feel worthless, they're horrible people.
Yep...Camp on Kodiak Island, or trek thru the Tundra, and see how well just ignoring Bears works. You must have soul-strength and knowledge with a plan, a battleplan strategy because this is spiritual warfare. Know that malignant narcissists are trouble... and trouble will find you.
I have ignored him so much he just showed up to my parents house to tell them I won't let him see his child. This was just a tactic for me to reach out to him. My parents don't even like him and know that he was lying. He does not ask to see our son ..he only send me stupid text like selfies of himself..no need to respond to that so I don't and he's mad he can't get a reaction from me.
I have a son with my Nex too... He hasn't asked about him or attempted to see him since I told him I would be fine with visitation as soon as he took a drug test... I know I'll never have to worry bc he will never be able to pass one but it still pisses me off that he abandoned his son. And he still goes around telling everyone I won't let him see the baby, conveniently forgetting to mention the drug test
This was absolutely sooo good! I appreciate you so much for spreading awareness... I never knew these Demons existed until I was 28 years old and had come in contact with one... I’m now 3 years no contact and the Narc can’t stand it that I blocked them... thank God for the power to move ON!!!!!!!!!!💨
The supply before me did kill herself. At the time I didn't realize it but she did it because of the narc. Of course the narc used her death for his own pity party.
Aaawe, is this really true? That sounds so comforting and I've heard people speak of this Divine love from God but I've yet to experience that consistently, deeply, and convincingly. I've had spurts of it! I really do wanna know Him and this feeling that all of you here in this thread are saying. Foster care, and child abuse at the hands of a MALIGNANT narcissistic adoptive mother still stays with you until adulthood.
@@lovelylinda8891 I understand and believe you for me it's a mentality set and a heart ❤condition. When I realized I need nothing.and I mean nothing for anyone or anything..I found a peace that surpasses understanding. If you only knew me and where I come from you probably be amazed..
So true! I tried to stay in it. Holy Spirit literally whispering in my ear every morning. Telling me he has no altruistic self. Telling me to get out. Holy Spirit brings the truth. Praise God. ✨♥️✨
Thank you! Appreciate your energy, even if you do not know them, they will create havoc. We all strive to be "A"s with the protection. Take yourself out of the equation perfectly stated. The narc still has the same anger with less people to spread it to, double helping to others after you ignore and they finally "get it"
Dave hi! Dave this video is just awesome and I praise God for giving you more and more of His Spirit to share with us. Thankyou for shining the Light into the dark places to set the captives free. The Lord bless you today Dave and this whole week. The comments on this video were so amazing and I send the Lord’s Love to everyone here. 💜✨🌿
6:04--"They don't have access for backup supply. They don't have choices. They need you to triangulate because they're always holding their breath from supply to supply, BECAUSE THEY'RE ALWAYS BURNING BRIDGES!" I used to think that they missed me or finally appreciated me. But at the end, it's just like Dave says. Reading between the lines, I always saw this too then. Those types have a way of letting you know with just enough plausible deniability. At the end of the day I saw myself as nothing but just some damage recovery plan. Of course they weren't telling me the full out details of it. But without reading into things, even I could tell that they were all but humble bragging about it again. Two months no contact now and I just can't put myself through this game anymore!
Listening to this one again TY Dave. Hope you had great Thanksgiving. My girls are grown now, so we had fresh served drama for dinner, lol. But it's all good. Jesus is in the house, as my pastor from Texas always said
Love the background matching your T-shirt! I will never ever go back..for what?? To go through more anxiety, depression, isolation, imprisonment, being financially ruined, have my life turned upside down, along with manipulation and all lies, all to be blocked again???? Lol yeah I think I am good right where I am taking care of me and sharing my time with those that deserve it! If you read my comment, read it over and over again. Nothing good comes from a relationshit with a narcissist! We are not like them...we will never be enough and the sooner a person is aware of this the happier and healthier they will be.
I finally reached my limit and blocked my Narc ex I feel relieved and lighter overal energy more positive and listening to gospel music is helping me soo much 🙏
Your videos really are a lifesaver I almost took my life and I also survived over dosing.God saved me .He made me suffer so bad. The cheating and lying and neglect mindgames and manipulation. I left him after three years.this is week one of breakup no contact for life.Thank you for your videos!God bless you
My ex wife always stated in the end that "she would be the one who got away" and "I would never find anyone better than her". After I was discarded I blocked her and all the followers. This is spot on information, it is sickening how they are all drinking the same kool-aid.
Jesus declared He spoke to them in parables . So when He declares depart from me i never knew you ? Never knew him , nor did they care to . Our Father , by the blood . Have we experienced , or will we experience anything He himself hasnt ? No ! How many have used Him ? Never knew Him , or cared to . How many have prospered using His name , or created a false image of Him , a idol , How many take His grace for granted , how many malign , mock , persecute Him . How many sought to destroy Him ? How many hate Him . How many want Him dead ? Is there anything we have been through He cant understand ? No !
After dating so many, I don’t trust anymore. It’s sad. Sometimes I think he’s turned me into him. Unable to trust or love. Mine was a great actor and sometimes he could fake vulnerability. They come in so many disguise that I keep picking them because they seem so “different” than the last one. I’m finally ok to be alone 💕💕
As hard as it may be. The best thing you can do is show the narcissist your complete and total absence and silence both for your self first and them second. I've been in this position for half a year now and dont regret it. If you're newly separated and just now beginning to go thru the motions, I promise you that the best thing you can do it cut off all communication as soon as possible. It will hurt for a long time. Healing will take what seems like forever but you will without a doubt regret any attempt to repair or reconcile with z narcissist. Let them go, release your self and put all your energy into moving forward without them.
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"They keep repeating and repeating..."
*worked at a small business; watched be destroyed from the inside by a narcissist who hammered and hammered at everybody else's stamina; until one by one we gave in our two weeks. (edit, in hindsight getting a new job was the best thing for all of us, there was no beating this bugger - he wasn't going to move from his 'pasture' so we simply moved on with our lives, a new career latr i've no regrets :)
@@siliconbong9386 typical small business owner
Pp😅😅
Don't ever look back people. Don't concern yourself with them. Be thankful for the lesson and for having dodged a bullet.
YES. I GOT SHOT BY THE BULLET. I HEALED AND EDUCATED MYSELF. I AM ALIVE AND STRONGER.
@@treelover1050 good for you! I wish you the best.
More like dodging a toxic waste.
Yes!!!
Thank you! Live for now and yourself!
Ignoring the narc is like starving them and you know, a hungry man is a angry man.
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Ha ha ha lmao
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Excellent... absolutely right
Ignoring the narcissist is actually very satisfying. Pretending they don’t exist and if you have to interact, grey rock their ass. They might look cool and calm on the outside if you glance out of the corner of your eye at them. But inside they are raging and losing their shit. You reap what you sow!
Sow
@@sarahwagland1559 thanks I edited it
Facts
Stay no contact!!! Don't ever think you need them , all they will do is bring you down again. Stay strong!
And, they’ll bring u down WORSE, each x!!!!🥵🤯
1000% Correct.
AMEN
When ever I was happy even with small achievements she always found a way to put me down, compare me with others and make me feel worthless, they're horrible people.
@@beavis4763 that's their job to put us under their feet but the devil is a liar 👹
No Contact feels great when Mrs. A finally understands the truth. I know my absence keeps him paranoid and wondering. It's a blow to his ego.
Don't seek approval from a demon!!
Well said I know he didn't think I would ghost him for 2 years because he knew how much I was in love he hoover me a couple of months apart but his calls gets block I think he really can't believe I never unblocked him.hes block for life he's dead to me.
Love that!!Why seek approval from a demon!! Aha moment !!! Thanks so much for that!! You made me see the light!!!
@@givegodthanks Same as my ex. We have to keep them dead to us for our own protection and sanity. They don't hoover for any good reason EVER. There is nothing to wonder about. Keep up the great work! ❤
@@adrianataffuri8507 You're very welcome! Please keep watching the RUclipss and learning as much as you can about narcissistic abuse. We can forget how terrible they are and feel like contacting them just to say hi. It just draws them back to use or hurt you. Not worth it. No Contact becomes so satisfying after we detox from all the misguided feelings for the narc.
@@missj2045 thanks same to you 🙏❤️
I'll never go back. Mrs A all the way 🙌🏽. Bless you Dave and your wonderful content 💜
Thank You Michelle
👌👌👌...wellsaid and done, stay strong, stay away and be free from these toxic clowns for life...
Hallelujah 👍👍
Amen 💫🙏🏻
After running into the narc the other day ,, I know it was the right decision to discard him last June!,, I looked at him with Pity ,, he is nothing to me !,,,,🕊🕊🕊🕊
😜 Well done!
Ignoring them will start putting yourself first to be able to move on in life.......the best place to be!!!
@@christianpulisic7784 thank you 😊
My wife is definitely a narcissist, its so sad. This is the most sad thing to ever happen in my life. I can't believe people are actually like this, she's a psycopath😭
I am so sorry 😪
Pray that you have left.
OMG I thought being related to a narcissist was hard. However I can not imagine the hell of being married to an ADHD Narcissist. 😆
Get out if you already haven't.
Same. They get worse bro.
It seems unreal
Stay no contact an do great in life. Be successful live well. That's the only way.
It is sooooo hard cause you feel like you’re under a spell or codependency. Tough. But be strong.
Block them on everything! You don’t need that negativity in your life ! The smartest thing I did was block and never looked back . Stay strong people, and god bless all going through this 🙏🏻 you will make it !!!!
@Narc ology unscripted ?
@@hhblab10 THAT'S A FAKE ACCOUNT. DON'T ANSWER IT.
@@treelover1050 thank you but I kinda figured it was
5 months no contact from the Narcissist that I was with...SO THANKFUL I GOT AWAY!!! THANK YOU JESUS FOR WATCHING OVER ME, and showing me that there was someone else behind my back!!! SO BLESSED!!!
Right, don't let sadness overcome or overwhelm you to the examples point. It's okay to cry, pick yourself up, cry again a few days later, pick yourself up again and keep doing it until it does get better. Just don't give up. 🙏
I'm not crying he is the only one looking like a fool he lost a good woman and he knows it
@@1010QUEEN7 Not quite the direction that I was going. Humans cry. If you loved. You cry. But it also applies to anger, frustration, apathy, dissociation from the event...basically, replace "cry" with your emotion or feeling of choice. And same thing, go through your individual cycle. The point is, go through it until you don't anymore. But regardless, yes, he is the fool indeed. All of the narcs, are the most obtuse fools. God bless you sister in the Lord. Strength and confidence is beautiful. Most lose it along the narcs way.
@@l.k.1111 I'm all cried out
@@1010QUEEN7 And you're honest. As we go to the throne, know that your tears were counted by the Most High. Your thoughts with Him always. God is with you...🙏
I'm super proud of doing the discard. I asked God in many tears, at his throne, literally on my knees to grant me the strength and courage to leave him. It wasnt many days longer and boom. It was done. He and his things packed. He was gone. He knew, he KNEW I was done and had researched about what is narcissism really. It was over. He made one call to his mom and she let him move in with her. THANK YOU GOD for answering that prayer.
👌👌👌...great and welldone
stay strong and stay away from these cowards toxics clowns with their promiscuous life. ..
We have the same case. I too had to fast and pray for 2 days b4 we had an aurgmement which lead me throwing him out. It's about 3 weeks now and am free. GLORY B TO GOD
Our faithful Lord 🙏🙏
@@DBadel ty! Yes they are empty shells.
@@alicejoshua3655 that is awesome!!! I'm so glad you got out like me!!! HUGS!!
Success and Happiness is the best punishment for narcissists! If you want them to burst of anger get it together, motivate yourself and start working on yourself, your happiness and successful life!
Ignoring the narcissist causes them to 01: Channel more time and effort towards securing new supply / 02: Re-integrate current orbiting sources of past supply / 03: Then attempt to flaunt their ability to efficiently have new supply / 04: Followed by a disordered and timeless rinse & repeat cycle that never ends.
It's like a computer that's been fed a perpetual loop of garbage data, where it keeps cycling itself through the computational results until the central processing unit burns out from overload, for not being able to find the solution in order to resolve the equation. It's a never ending stream/loop of garbage data.
So by ignoring them you divert the narc's attention to some other poor bastard. Nice.
On point
That is so true. It’s exactly what my ex narc does, and is currently doing. No contact is probably driving him crazy....wondering why his attempts at trying to flaunt the new relationship and supply isn’t working on me this time. Once you learn what these people are and do, you realize how sick it all is, and for me, that’s all I see now....a disgusting, sorry excuse for a human being. Everything I ever found attractive about him, now turns my stomach! I’d rather live in a shoebox on the side of the road than to ever go back to that!
@@emotown1 IGNORE THEM BECAUSE THEY ARE DESTRUCTIVE AND ONLY WANT TO USE US.
I started out as a mrs b I now am an A team member...
Amen Aaron!
I wish there was a narc registry… Like a sex offender registry but for narcissists. That way when I decide to go on a date, or meet someone, I can check the registry first to see if they are a narc ... or how many narcissist live in my neighborhood… and what type and what level 😳🤪😬
Thats a good point😆
That would be AMAZING!!
All the narcs will use it to put all the empaths on it as part of the smear campaign.
We don’t need a registry they pretty much show you who they are early on we just need to stop making stupid excuses for their disgusting behavior.
Narcissists are just like Venus flytrap. Shutting you in the moment you fall in love.
This is an awesome comment! So true! Supply =food in this analogy. 👍🏻
Literally!
Venus flytrap, yes, I agree
That’s sooo true. Mind told me I “should” end my life. And his girlfriend right after me died from an illness, and it did not even PHASE him! They were already in the devaluation stage, he was ready to move on, but they were still together at the time. I felt horrible for her knowing he’d abandoned her at the tail end. They have zero sympathy, empathy or remorse. Losing someone who they claim to love, means nothing! Pure evil operating in a human body suit!
So did mine on many occasions telling me no one will miss me
@@bondeappetite703 ugh! So sorry! And yes they would! Just not them, and they do not matter! To suggest such a think is unimaginable! It totally blew me away! I saw straight through his eyes, and for a minute, I believe he was actually just saying what he was thinking “he” should do. Projecting....because they’re so miserable inside.
@Ayan Mire Ugh! That’s frightening and disturbing! The information about these “people” just keeps getting better! 😳
@@Langolin1998 it's scary
@@bondeappetite703 that's called projecting! What he means is: no one will miss him...
I’m here for pt 2! Blocking the Narc is for self protection, not to hurt the Narc really
Amen Cathy
Good morning Dave from Australia 🇦🇺. No more Mrs B. Out of that harem 💯🙏
Amen
Hi again from your other Aussie friend. 😎🇦🇺
After having been taken on a crazy ride by a narcissist more than once, I can proudly call myself Mrs A for the very first time in my life! I don’t look at it as ignoring, or blocking or moving on from the narcissist and it’s not about making them regret or miss or feel hurt because we all know they are incapable of such human emotions. I see it as I’m finally honoring loving myself and giving myself the chance to be happy and free! Thanks to Dave I finally GOT IT! For anyone who is feeling hurt or sad abs can’t believe what just happened to them, pls try to let go of this pain ASAP and realize by letting this person go you are finally giving yourself the chance to be loved by a real human being full of real emotions. Love yourself enough to let go with a smile on your face! 🙌🏼❤️
A ”Tell-Tell” sign of a narcissist is how they react to the death of a close family member such as parents or grandparents. Instead of becoming sad, reflective or concerned with other loved ones sharing the lose, they become enraged! They are furious that that other person‘s death is happening TO them! They act as though someone is intentionally trying to cause them pain by dying. It’s as though they are being abandoned. Completely self-absorbed. It’s chilling to watch.
So true...they cannot share sorrow with others, they get angry & let their "sadness & dissapointment" out on the one closest to them. It is scary & sick. One of his close friends told me - after all went down the drain with us - that he knew he was gonna spiral out after his best friend died. He had to lash out to the ones who actually loved him 'cos he could not handle his pain & frustration in a normal way. This way he lost us all along his path of selfdestruction. Too bad. Nothing more to be said & done. We all just have to let it go & have the universe spin its way. All we can do is to wish finding a healthier & happier way.
They also get enraged when it's your birthday....how could you live another day and how dare think about happiness. Life and death is a reality they can not cope with.
Oh my gosh, this is so true....
@Narc ology unscripted Hi! I’ll WhatsApp soon! Thank you.
@@karmagal1796 don’t!! That’s a fake account! She doesn’t message people!!
Mrs A all the way. I will never look back. 9 months no contact and counting going strong.
5 months clean. Blocked from all social media accounts. On the path of recovery and healing. Love your videos Dave. I like how you explain stuffs. You really helped me a lot. Keep up the good work
Thank you sir
God bless you!🙏🏻🌟
Did they ever try another way to contact you?
When I asked my ex narc why he kept contacting me, he said, "I'm not keeping you in my back pocket just in case".
I exposed him & his lies then told him not to contact me again. He panicked & tried to call me 3 times but I ignored him. I'm now Mrs A.
I married my wife 8 years ago and filed for divorce this past year after learning about her being a Narcissist due to these shows. I am so very grateful for your shows Dave. This is my first comment on this that i have ever made. I put everything together this past year after being lied to, cheated on countless times, stolen from. Once i put it all together this past year everything fit. When i first went no contact she came pounding on my doors and windows screaming at me to let her in. I then called the police to get her out of here. The only way to stop them is to go no contact and never allow them back in. Without God and these shows to educate myself on these sick twisted people none of this would have been even possible for me. Every single thing you describe about Narcissist from the love bombing to the hovering i have been right there. You are funny at times to Dave and you hit it right on so thank you. Knowledge is power. Peace.
Pretty sure mine was laughing and smiling while I was having a mental breakdown. Downright evil. She's the one that caused it, too.
True. I really had a nervous breakdown. Was very ill. He packed his alcohol and went to Mozambique. I was just a inconvenience. He is toast now. Karma is a bitch.
Mine had a hard on while abusing me verbally locking me in the bathroom for two hours. That was it. My pain was his pleasure. I'm sick 🤮
Same.
My ex laughed when I tried to explain to her that I could physically feel my heart rippling into 2. She said some of the most disrespectful things I’ve ever heard in my life, yet still to this day hits me up wondering why I dont want anything to do with her.
Knowledge is power! It gives us the strength to walk away and let Jesus heal our wounds.. Thank you, Dave, your videos are a blessing ! 🙏🏻
You are very welcome
Sandy, 1000% Correct
Hello all! Yes. Ignore them. Even if you come across them face to face. Ignore. That’s what I will do. It because I’m looking forward to bumping into him but because I know it will happen. I haven’t seen him biking through here in months but who knows? It’s not like I leave my home actively looking for him. I’m living my life and waiting for this divorce to move forward in the court. 1.5 years of getting discarded. A total blessing. I was wreck but he didn’t care. I became responsible for a mortgage and maintenance and bills. Yes. I made it through by the Grace of God and the Power of the Holy Spirit. I was even able to get a new job. No kids. I am thankful for that and for this experience because I have peace and health. Yes I got covid but survived. Thank you Dave and stay strong guys. Pray and believe in the Power of Jesus our savior.
I crossed paths twice (1rst time was indirect Hoover didn’t expect it, I just looked at her and walked away and even hung out with her friends)
Second time I crossed path she was stressed out, looking down etc even though she discarded me
@@billy4643 all fake. They would love for you to go up to them or shout out their names. Like please. Cross the street, go back inside your home, leave the restaurant. They know that you know what they are and they hate it when you don’t notice them even though they are walking by you. Like: keep it moving you stranger. I don’t know who you are today. The best is to never engage and act like a complete stranger because that’s what he is to me: a stranger. I would even go as far as saying: I’ve never seen this person in my life before. Yup. I’m thankful to be alive and out of that dark hole 🕳
I am currently experiencing major hoovering episodes by a covert/vulnerable spectrum narcissist after 6 years of No Contact! guess what I'm being hoovered with? Shakespeare love quotes 😂 it's desperate, sad and hilarious. Glad I can laugh about it ! this just shows you that these monsters don't give up, never change, never self-reflect and most of all never take accountability for their actions. They just want IN. they just want your reaction, knowing they affect you in any way. Once you realize how fucking sad is this life they're living, it's so hard to care about them ... at all.. ever. I hope everyone of you guys here recover from this, and thank you Dave for the videos. I don't watch them that much any longer because I don't need them. I have moved on (and the narcissists have a radar for you moving on, trust me!). I'm always here to support the NARC Channels 🙏
I’m guessing that this guy is no English professor, but that he just found some book somewhere because he couldn’t generate any decent words on his own...
I don't feel sad or sorry for them at all.Poor me,myself,& I, trick goes nowhere with me. I see right through their Fakeness.,Evil attempts to steal,kill & destroy. JUSTICE WILL FIND THEM IN THE END, FOR SURE.⌛
@@ravenel2 yeah I don't expect any decent words from a narcissist, just fake ~hopeless romantic~ gibberish
@@vickipacheco9787 preach! 👏
Yea. It's called ENERGY! They feel when you're done😁💃🏾💪🏾🙏🏽
I’m done forever. We may have a child together. I’ve learned to be indifferent. I gray rock. You need to wake up and move on. You need to think and treat the situation just like they did. That’s what worked with me. I was ruminating for so long because I didn’t understand what was going on. Once I did, game over. I have mastered shutting him down. Living my best life. Elevating and soaring higher than I ever did.
How is your child u share w him
I ignored one, who's probably a psycho, and she lashed out violently at me 5 minutes later!!
The ex narc’s “high school sweetheart” took her life after almost 5 years of narc abuse. She poured her heart out to it and it told her to “not do anything stupid.” She took her life that night. It keeps a pic of her in its wallet.
Yes, I have seen this in TWO scenarios. My 8 year old Foster sister sat on the kitchen floor, shaking and crying with a knife threatening to kill herself because of all the abuse. My Malignant narcissistic adoptive mother chuckled and yelled at her challenging her saying "WELL THEN DO IT THEN!!!" I had to intervene and find some words of comfort at 16. What a horrible situation!!
@@lovelylinda8891 that’s terrible! I hope you and your sister are doing well. The soul tie of suicide almost took me out had God not intervened. I really didn’t know who I was for 6 weeks after I got the narc to leave. I’ve never felt that much pain. I also have never been so alive as I am today. May 6 makes 5 months since I began my healing and recovery journey. I feel so blessed and awake now!!
Wow. I love how you refer to “it.”
@@maureenw7553 no better way. They don’t act like human beings; they are entities used as pawns by satan to destroy the lives of good people. This experience is what I needed to AWAKEN!!
@@dahliablack1024 I agree completely! 🙏🏻
So true he left me for DEAD. Him and his harem can all ROT! His feeble attempts still calling my friends & family proclaiming his love and blaming me for what happened still doesn’t work he hopes it will upset me enough to actually reach out to him he is sadly mistaken because Idgaf what ANYONE thinks and have zero interest explaining myself to anybody. You have to stand strong and move on with your life period. I pray for anyone who has to deal with THE DEVIL.
Best thing to do is to ignore and go No Contact out of the blue without prior warning. Simply ghost them and blocking them from all ways of communicating with you is the best way to bruise their ego as well as hurt them. Never look back, move forward and erase them from your memories.
He came back as knew I was weak I ignored, he came back again week later I ignored, I’m so proud of myself as I can be weak, I will never answer again, he showed me who he was and I would be stupid if I even thought about it,,,,,, If you have seen who they are do t go back for more or worse because they don’t change,
It's the Most High that led us through and He makes us Mrs .A's .Thank you Dave.
Walk👣 by faith and agree with Christ.
This made me cry ....💔😔 its opened my eyes to so many truths i refused to see ...Thank you I truly needed this today I was ms B for a while then ended and blocked him 1000%
Thank you
We have to remind ourselves, that greater is He who is in us than he who is in the Narc. God brings people to us, to bless us. The devil brings wicked people to us to destroy us. Focus on Jesus, and He will bring us peace and joy.
God bless you my friend, I've been watching your videos for over a year now, you have helped me heal from horrible narcissistic abuse, thank you
YES! YES! YES! I’m Ms A now!
Mine didn't help my mental illness. He smiled when I was losing it because I was being torn apart on the inside because I did love him . I knew then he was evil at that moment ... A still small voice came threw the chaos ... It told me my worth and it told me that he was evil and I have a purpose a purpose to help others as much as possible to get away from the demonic creatures..
I nearly laughed when Dave referred to the Mrs. B’s getting married off to the narcissists on the date sites. Honest to God, in my last two years on date sites, narcissists are all I have encountered! Why do they all hang out there? I’ve just tried to meet one, decent guy to develop a serious relationship with. It’s not happening. I’m done with date sites.
I am a recent Mr. A and excited to be there. She is an aging narc so it should be tramatic for her. She has never been treated this way by anyone before.
It sure does confuse them not getting what they want
Mike Jarmon how long were you together?
@@InterlineTravel may would have been married 11 years and togetjer almost 15
Great video Dave as usual. Once I block a narcissist, they're blocked. To do otherwise is like asking the doctor to put back into your body, the cancerous tumor he just removed.
Well said!
Very good analogy.
I was Mrs B. Mrs A is the only way. Thank you my Lord. Thank you Dave for your channels 🙏🙏🙏
You are very welcome
Not gonna lie, def get satisfaction being the one that’s doing all the ignoring and blocking now. But that doesn’t seem to stop him. The Hoover’s just keep coming. Best bet is to change your number altogether! I’m finally at the point now where I don’t want to even know if he’s trying to Hoover. Praise Jesus for getting me here ❤️🙏✝️
I will never look back thank you so much Dave for your help !! I feel so grateful to find your site :)
When ever I was happy even with small achievements she always found a way to put me down, compare me with others and make me feel worthless, they're horrible people.
I let the Narc back and she did the same thing to me all-over again. I should of kept watching your videos
Yep...Camp on Kodiak Island, or trek thru the Tundra, and see how well just ignoring Bears works. You must have soul-strength and knowledge with a plan, a battleplan strategy because this is spiritual warfare. Know that malignant narcissists are trouble... and trouble will find you.
I’m miss A I blocked him and never looked back
Tha's amazing
👌👌👌...welldone
stay strong and stay away from these cowards toxic clowns for life...
Yaaaas! And the award for most bold confident goes to...👏👏👏
@@DBadel cowardly, clownish, and toxic... yep that's about accurate. And don't forget PETTY!!
This is such a great video. I wish everyone alive could watch this right now. Educate the world on these monsters.
I think I am replacing the narc with your videos. Thanks so much for making me see the truth and getting me out of the twilight zone
I have ignored him so much he just showed up to my parents house to tell them I won't let him see his child. This was just a tactic for me to reach out to him. My parents don't even like him and know that he was lying. He does not ask to see our son ..he only send me stupid text like selfies of himself..no need to respond to that so I don't and he's mad he can't get a reaction from me.
I have a son with my Nex too... He hasn't asked about him or attempted to see him since I told him I would be fine with visitation as soon as he took a drug test... I know I'll never have to worry bc he will never be able to pass one but it still pisses me off that he abandoned his son. And he still goes around telling everyone I won't let him see the baby, conveniently forgetting to mention the drug test
Yes .. thank God for the Holy Spirit 🙏🙏🙏
Ms. A here. Thanks to you. Hugs Dave. 💕
You are so welcome Christina!
This was absolutely sooo good! I appreciate you so much for spreading awareness... I never knew these Demons existed until I was 28 years old and had come in contact with one... I’m now 3 years no contact and the Narc can’t stand it that I blocked them... thank God for the power to move ON!!!!!!!!!!💨
You are so welcome
The supply before me did kill herself. At the time I didn't realize it but she did it because of the narc. Of course the narc used her death for his own pity party.
This ppl are truly evil!
Similar with my story... :(
100 💯 healed couldn't have done it without your suffering thru it yourself and Jesus
Thank you Dave Happy Easter
My creator is the best husband EVER.all my needs are met so actually I lack nothing ever..try it
Amen
Amen! This is the truth! ThankYou Jesus!
In Jesus name!!!!
Aaawe, is this really true? That sounds so comforting and I've heard people speak of this Divine love from God but I've yet to experience that consistently, deeply, and convincingly. I've had spurts of it! I really do wanna know Him and this feeling that all of you here in this thread are saying. Foster care, and child abuse at the hands of a MALIGNANT narcissistic adoptive mother still stays with you until adulthood.
@@lovelylinda8891 I understand and believe you for me it's a mentality set and a heart ❤condition. When I realized I need nothing.and I mean nothing for anyone or anything..I found a peace that surpasses understanding. If you only knew me and where I come from you probably be amazed..
That is sad to hear!! That is someone son, daughter and so on!! We are children of the king, Most high Heavenly Father and he loves us so!!
Mrs A all the way!!!! Never looked back you helped me so much I thank god for you 🙏❤️❤️🙏
Amen, Dave...every single thing you pointed out is truth. 🙏
So true! I tried to stay in it. Holy Spirit literally whispering in my ear every morning. Telling me he has no altruistic self. Telling me to get out. Holy Spirit brings the truth. Praise God. ✨♥️✨
I keep escaping and stumbling upon another one. I am recognizing it earlier in the dance though.
Not only did I dodge a bullet .... I got a get out of jail card.... win..win
Thank you! Appreciate your energy, even if you do not know them, they will create havoc. We all strive to be "A"s with the protection. Take yourself out of the equation perfectly stated. The narc still has the same anger with less people to spread it to, double helping to others after you ignore and they finally "get it"
I was Mrs B now very much a Mrs A ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
Congratulations!!! Life is so great narc free!! It will get better and better !!
Amen
THANK YOU
Amen...praise god...🤗🙏💙Dave
This was Excellent!!!!!!!👍👍👍👍👍
Yay, thank you!
They way I see it never take ur life because they win ur soul
You healing advise and voice put me to sleep mostly every night
You are a god sent
… yet again your words of wisdom resonates with my Soul ♥️🙏🏻♥️…. Blessed Be Dave, Blessed be.. Joanne from England 🏴♥️xx
I love your videos, they help me so much... 9 months Narc free after being Mrs. B for 5 years.
Dave hi! Dave this video is just awesome and I praise God for giving you more and more of His Spirit to share with us. Thankyou for shining the Light into the dark places to set the captives free. The Lord bless you today Dave and this whole week. The comments on this video were so amazing and I send the Lord’s Love to everyone here. 💜✨🌿
Thank you!
This video COULD NOT have appeared at a better time...Thanks!!!!!
Needed this. Thanks
Lol🤣🤣🤣..Dave said, "the Miss. B getting married off"...these ppl are crazy 🤪..the narcissist will marry miss B to see if will affect miss. A..🥺🥺🥺🤣🤣🤣
Yep!!! I gave him to her with my blessings they can spiral out together forever!
6:04--"They don't have access for backup supply. They don't have choices. They need you to triangulate because they're always holding their breath from supply to supply, BECAUSE THEY'RE ALWAYS BURNING BRIDGES!"
I used to think that they missed me or finally appreciated me. But at the end, it's just like Dave says. Reading between the lines, I always saw this too then. Those types have a way of letting you know with just enough plausible deniability.
At the end of the day I saw myself as nothing but just some damage recovery plan. Of course they weren't telling me the full out details of it. But without reading into things, even I could tell that they were all but humble bragging about it again. Two months no contact now and I just can't put myself through this game anymore!
So on point!
Lara Howard,Hope you are not with a narcissist!
Thank you so much..you are helping me heal and ignore my ex narc!!
The lovebomb comes with an obligation
Listening to this one again
TY Dave. Hope you had great Thanksgiving. My girls are grown now, so we had fresh served drama for dinner, lol. But it's all good. Jesus is in the house, as my pastor from Texas always said
Mrs A ALL DAY from here on in😆👍🏾💯💯
Love the background matching your T-shirt! I will never ever go back..for what?? To go through more anxiety, depression, isolation, imprisonment, being financially ruined, have my life turned upside down, along with manipulation and all lies, all to be blocked again???? Lol yeah I think I am good right where I am taking care of me and sharing my time with those that deserve it! If you read my comment, read it over and over again. Nothing good comes from a relationshit with a narcissist! We are not like them...we will never be enough and the sooner a person is aware of this the happier and healthier they will be.
self validate .. amen I recieve this .. Jesus always empowers us to self regulate .. 🙏🏼💫👑
I am very devastated but after watching this I know I cant go back
I finally reached my limit and blocked my Narc ex I feel relieved and lighter overal energy more positive and listening to gospel music is helping me soo much 🙏
Your videos really are a lifesaver I almost took my life and I also survived over dosing.God saved me .He made me suffer so bad. The cheating and lying and neglect mindgames and manipulation. I left him after three years.this is week one of breakup no contact for life.Thank you for your videos!God bless you
My ex wife always stated in the end that "she would be the one who got away" and "I would never find anyone better than her". After I was discarded I blocked her and all the followers. This is spot on information, it is sickening how they are all drinking the same kool-aid.
What a miserable life it must be to be a narcissist. No matter how bad it is it’s better than being a narcissist.
Jesus declared He spoke to them in parables . So when He declares depart from me i never knew you ? Never knew him , nor did they care to . Our Father , by the blood . Have we experienced , or will we experience anything He himself hasnt ? No ! How many have used Him ? Never knew Him , or cared to . How many have prospered using His name , or created a false image of Him , a idol , How many take His grace for granted , how many malign , mock , persecute Him . How many sought to destroy Him ? How many hate Him . How many want Him dead ? Is there anything we have been through He cant understand ? No !
Amen
Wow Randall, thankyou. Amen. I love Jesus so much.
After dating so many, I don’t trust anymore. It’s sad. Sometimes I think he’s turned me into him. Unable to trust or love. Mine was a great actor and sometimes he could fake vulnerability. They come in so many disguise that I keep picking them because they seem so “different” than the last one. I’m finally ok to be alone 💕💕
As hard as it may be. The best thing you can do is show the narcissist your complete and total absence and silence both for your self first and them second. I've been in this position for half a year now and dont regret it. If you're newly separated and just now beginning to go thru the motions, I promise you that the best thing you can do it cut off all communication as soon as possible. It will hurt for a long time. Healing will take what seems like forever but you will without a doubt regret any attempt to repair or reconcile with z narcissist. Let them go, release your self and put all your energy into moving forward without them.