@pocketsandbowstv I agree with this lady above. I’m 36 and the same way. I focused on my career and becoming a doctor which was more important to me at the time. I agree what god has for you is for you. Don’t focus on anyone else season because yours is surely to come and keep praying for the things you want.
NikiJ08, I'm with you on that!! I'm in the same boat & I have focused on my career as well .... God has what he wants for us in his vision, we just have to follow ....
Came for the hair😘💞, left with a WORD hunny yasss 😉, I'm almost 40 no kids, no husband and I don't have any desire to have kids, my husband will find me one day 🙏🏽😊
I'm 32, single, no children, just bought my second home.... my immediate family doesn't give me any flak. Strangers, associates & distant family have a lot to say though. But I totally agree with you Brittany... worry about your own life & just block out what others think & say. I think those close to me don't give me a hard time, cause I have never been a "traditional" type of person. They know me & they know I'm walking in my truth.
I really enjoyed your commentary on this topic. I am 28 years old and I’ve been married for 2 years and I am constantly pummeled with questions about when we are having kids by my peers who have children (not my parents...they know what’s up lol). The fact that we don’t have children yet is by design, not happenstance lol. We are enjoying our freedom, each other, and the fruits of our labor.
I honestly don't understand why people can't let married folks be just that... married folks! It's sad that people don't realize that maybe you want to really get to know and enjoy your mate first.
Your hair looks beautiful and so natural! I’m 42 and married with an adult child and I absolutely agree with you, take your time and let things happen naturally. Enjoy your single years and your years with no kids! No stretched out body! No wife and mother responsibilities! One day you will remember those times so fondly. Let God take the wheel and enjoy every season of your life. Bask in your accomplishments, live life on your own terms! I love the message.
Same as you, having children isn’t a big deal but companionship/being married is so much more important to me. If children happen to come out of that union, so be it - it will be a blessing. Enjoyed this chat. I feel like I needed this as a personal reminder to really enjoy each phase of my life.
I love this video Brittany. Even tho I am married, I don't get married women who sort of marriage shame other women who are unmarried or who may not have kids. I'm 37 and my Husband and I lost both of our babies (stillborns) and honestly we are used to not having that additional responsibility now and likely won't have kids..if we do there is so much more I can offer children now that I would not have been able to offer them when we were expecting before (not even just material things but being whole and healed as a Mom). Before marriage I finished my education, started my career, and was a made woman in every sense and refused to marry unless the man could add value to my life. Proud of all the ladies taking their time and not letting society dictation if/when they should marry or if/when they should have kids. I'm still currently working on personal and professional development as well as ensuring that I keep my individuality so I won't get "lost" in my marriage that's another thing a lot of women forget. Keep doing what you do we love to see it!
Love this chit chat. I have 3 boys and I get the question all the time “how on earth do you do it?”. Especially when I join my zoom calls in a blazer and make up. I’m like what? Am I supposed to look like crap because I’m a mom? Umm no. I always answer the same “with Gods grace”. My plate is full yes (I work full time also) but my heart? Even fuller! They are my world! I agree with you, never rush things. And we all have to follow our own path. You are a great success story.
You gave the best advice to her!! I would add: When possible, move in silence. Everyone does not need to know what is going on in your life..family included. The unit is fabulous!
I swear you’re my friend in my head!!!! I’m in my early 30s, no kids, no man and my own house all to myself and I love it!! I especially LOVE that comment about wasting money on rent!! I’m currently paying mortgage and rent due to a cross country move and I’m trying to move back IMMEDIATELY!!!! This rent thing ain’t for me, it’s a waste of money!!
Overpriced.. I have 4 bedroom 2 bath 2 car garage mortgage/ rent 🤑 Under $500.. Live in Indiana. Mixed neighborhood more them but definitely changing. Bought my house ten years ago $56k. Older couple home husband died. Had to update it😪😕.. love my house. Never thought I would be home owner #40 yr
I actually have 2 kids, 10 and 2 year old. The vision that I had for my daughter was EVERYTHING your channel stands for... and her name is BRITNEY as well.
I watch my 30 yr old son told me he is being pressured by friends. His friend was homeless with kids and of course my son thinks he is crazy he can't take care if his kids. I told my son if it happens it will happen naturally. I had my son at 28 but had my first child at 15. So I talked to my son about having his self in a good space before considering having kids.
First off, kudos to you for not assuming that the asker wants kids. A lot of people don't, including me. Marriage would be nice, but I'm not pressed about it. Single life has been great for me. I am not having kids (I'm 34) and it was frustrating to realize that people don't necessarily care about me, but about the future human beings I might bring into the world. The facts are these: I love myself and I love my life. People who try to convince me that I'm incomplete for not having kids have been cut off completely or put on a low contact diet. I've been living my life on my own terms and that hasn't failed me yet. I'm glad to see another woman secure enough to share that same message. Great video.
There's also alot of jealous people because you are successful and focused on your careers and can travel and do what you want without taking care of a bunch of kids. I'm 35 and have 1 toddler and I'm done lol. Being a mom is the hardest thing I've ever done in my life. There is nothing wrong with waiting or even not have kids. There's to many parents that don't want that role and the kids grow up with a lot of problems
Kc Marie I'm there with you,I have 1 child in my early 40s and never been married. And I'm done ✔with having more..lol I'm living my life and for as a relationship what God has for me like others said .
You are beautiful! I love your hair! I love this video, when I got pregnant it was 21 I was walking across the stage getting my Bachelors degree. I wanted to be an attorney but with a baby and my daughter is 9 years old now, I am now 31 I have accomplished getting my Master’s degree, I’ve started a business and I am currently in school to get my Doctorate. I absolutely LOVE being a MOTHER ❤️. I say all of this to say whenever you are ready to have a child have that child. But once you are a mother it will shape you into things you didn’t even know that you can do or handle. My advice to sis is never allow the pressure of PEOPLE to make you feel decisions for THEM are a factor. I can tell you from experience I will never want to be a single parent again. I am thankful because Gods grace and mercy has kept me here and able to take care of my daughter. Stay encourage and walk your path! Continue to write your story. ❤️
I love this video. I have always been indifferent about having kids. My focus has been on enjoying/building my dream life. I have zero regrets and I am so proud of what I have accomplished so far. More successes to come :)
Loved "Anytime I talk about me, God is involved" YES! I call him Jesus Christ 🤗 Girl, I'm in my early 30's, finishing up my PhD, zero kids, have a man and not looking to have kids for at least another 3 years. I'm ambitious and always have been. God knows he needs to keep this womb lively until then. Period. My advice, tell them to mind their business and live their own lives. You are responsible for you and every decision you make. They won't be in your home at 2am when the baby needs care. All in God's timing. Congratulations on your new home! 🎉
I loved your comment "God knows he needs to keep this womb lively until then. Period." I need to have this in mind. I am 32 and working as a lawyer, I need another 3 years too. Good luck with your PhD, I am sue it will all work out for all of us.
So gorgeous, Brittany! 😍💜 And you're so in point with the advice. I just turned 41. I'm not married, don't have kids, not even in a relationship right now. Though I desire those things. I use to feel some kind of way about it, especially when it comes to the pressures to live up to a certain 'standard'. If it's something you want, don't throw it away, if not, don't trip. There's nothing wrong with either choice one makes. I remember freaking out turning 30 and being in a certain situation, not even a significant other. I deal with chronic illness (a whole other topic), so it's never been easy for me to just get out there like that. I even consider myself a late bloomer. But I won't lose hope. 💜
Girl This was a Whole Word!! Yess keep it coming. I love the conversation of just do you! We put pressure on ourselves let alone what all othr ppl have to say. When you reach the point where you realize you dont have to explain yourself to no one, you really begin to live!
You are so right about people always seeking what’s next. I’m engaged now and the day I got engaged people started asking if we picked a wedding date and I was like 🥴🥴 I thought I would just enjoy this for a while.
Love the video. I’m over 40 not married no kids and i am happy living life. Sometimes i do think about it but i know God’s timing is best !! Happy Friday
Loved this conversation. I'm the same age as you Brit and I'm focused on becoming a renowned corporate and commercial Attorney. I just celebrated 5 years being called to the Bar and my career is not where I envisioned it as yet so that's my focus. I am very comfortable having a child in my forties because I want to enjoy my career, create generational wealth and enjoy life with my partner because a child is a life long commitment that I need to be ready for. When persons ask so when are you getting married or when are you having children, the answer is when I'm good and ready. Some persons are genuinely concerned and I would listen to their point of view based on their own experiences but at the end of the day, I have to live my life. And I am sure as hell happy that I dont have a child during this pandemic. So to each their own.
You preached in this video. I’m in my early 30s and people definitely ask about kids and marriage especially since my younger siblings have kids and married. I’m like this is my life let me live it.
I know this is a hair video ( hair lovely) however the message today hit home for me. I am 48...yes 48. I haven't quite mastered living in the present and acknowledging my accomplishments. Mother, MBA, Small business owner, etc...Always thinking, what do I do next? I need to make...by this time... Because society says I should've already done this or have that. Meanwhile, I am doing my best. Thank you, thank you for this video. You are wise beyond your years. Classy & gravitas comes to mind when I watch your videos. We need more like you on YT! ❤
Aww thank you so much!! There is so much freedom in living on your own terms! I want to see that for all women! Not that I don't feel any pressures of life, but even with the pressures I still just do me.
Sis this was a whole WORD! A WORD! I learned very quickly that i had NO desire to have kids in my 20s. I was just recently blessed with my first and I’m in my early 30s and I’m so glad i planned it. Like you said, you have a trajectory for your life and what you want things to go. Ppl need to stop acting like being single is a disease and having kids makes you full. Neither will if you’re not happy with YOURSELF. Love you for this conversation, you’re legit one of my good girlfriends in my head haha.
I needed to hear this Brittany you have no idea the pressure from external people about having kids its getting annoying. I am married for over a year now and I love it being the two of us. Yes we want kids but we are meeting career and purchasing a home goals before we have one.
BRITTANY!!! I did the same thing. For career day I came in with my moms suit (pinned in the back) and briefcase. I was a lawyer! I was 6 or 7. Thankfully my parents never pressured me about marriage or kids. I was always taught to be able to take care of me.
I absolutely LOVE this video! You spoke a WORD and looked beautiful in the process. As women in our 30’s we need to stop letting society ideals put us in a box. Everyone is different with different beliefs and interests. Like you said if you live the life you create for yourself and not worry about what other people think, happiness will be a given! Thank you for sharing your viewpoint I know this video will touch a lot of women of all age groups! ❤️❤️
You said this so graciously! I couldn't agree more, I'm 25 shaping the future I want for myself and at times people try to intrude asking why or when are you going to have kids etc also. And I'm like that isn't at the top of my radar. I live in my OWN bubble and not up to societies norm as well. I strive to be a strong independent woman and create the life I WANT and if God places these things in my life okay but if he doesn't also OK! Thank you for this great answer ❤️
Listen, Sis!!! I’m 40 married with kids... take your time!! Live your life and whatever God has planned for you will be! And Brittany is right people put their two cents on you as if it’s okay. Do you...it is great that your living life getting what you want. Look I take my hat off to you so let me just say... CONGRATULATIONS Sis!!! Keep going 💞💞💞
Thank you so much! I am grateful that I don't feel that pressure at least not yet! I'm really happy right now. Ask me again at 35 though LOL. We will see.
Great advice Brittany! Your purpose is far greater then you know. Keep in mind, everyone does not have a family that leads by example or are in a position to help if needed. Sometimes family and friends can be your biggest challengers in causing you to feel guilty (if you allow them) on what you've accomplished and/or that your missing out. Continue to keep God first and keep shining Sis.!
I am going to be 42 on the 28th. Never been married, but I am currently engaged to a man that's 6 years younger than me. I heard the same thing about having kids from some family members, but it doesn't affect me. Whatever God has for me is for me and he will see fit if I am meant to be a mother. Other than that, I am loving my life because I am working on me.
Brittany!!! Honey, firstly, I cannot get enough of this hair!!!❤❤ Next, I am 33. Have no children, but desperately want at least 1 child(Fertility Issues). I'm not married though in a loving relationship for 12 years. Girlllllll, I've been told, " The fruit that bears no fruit, must be cut down", and " I'd like to have a grandbaby before I die" WAYYYYY too much. At this point, I ignore that talk completely. You definitley PREACHED on this one!!❤❤❤
First, this install was so effortless I forgot you even put a wig on! The hair is amazing. I'm in my thirties , married with kids and I agree others are always looking for next thing. I had my first child young and I was deliberate when it came to having a 2nd child and I was always questioned on when it was going to happen. Honey it's all fun and games until someone has to babysit 😂😏🤦🏽♀️.
I’m in my early 30’s and I’m always asked the question when am I going to have kids 🙄🤦🏾♀️ it’s annoying lol and I prefer to be married first personal preference. I was focused on my career in my 20’s and doing well for myself. I’m trusting God’s timing! Thank you for this word today ❤️
Hi brittany that was perfectly said her brother was soooooo wrong for telling her that this is not 1950 women do work and make a life for themselves and that unit is everything
Such a timely and relatable chat as at times i feel the pressure coming from myself and get somewhat anxious. I however have literally seen a girl child in my future and with God i am confident that it will happen. P.s. you slayed that wig!
I feel there’s so much pressure to get married and have kids (before such and such age). At the end of the day folks have to do what’s best for them. And not everyone wants that out of life! But ummm I’m on hair vivi’s site looking at a wig like I know how to properly apply one 😂🤗🤷🏽♀️
Great talk very inspirational, I am 48 with 1 child well he is 26 now but it was unplanned so I found myself in a situation where I had to put my dreams on hold. I am now finally enjoying the career that I chose instead of just trying to survive. I have never been married and have been beating myself up over it because of other peoples opinions like what happened to so and so he was nice and you need to stop being so picky and whatnot. But you know I have seen a lot and even though I am 48 I will live my best life until the right man can compliment my life in a positive way. I could say so much more but I love your chat about this. You even helped someone so much older than you understand life a little better. Thank you! ❤️❤️❤️
Aww thank you so much! I'm so glad you found this helpful! I love that you said that "until the right man can compliment my life in a positive way" that is so important! Sometimes we succumb to pressure and settle and we end up being so miserable. And when you think about it, you were better off alone!
I’m 29 and as I get older I’m not sure if I want children. I wish people would stop creating the narrative that you have to get married and have children at a certain age. Like you in my business...don’t do that!
And then there’s the married girls in their mid 30s who can’t really decide for sure if they (and their spouse) want children but you know the clock is ticking 😩🙋🏽♀️. I feel like if we don’t start trying by next year then realistically it may get to where it’s too late. But I’m not ready, sigh...
Enjoying your videos while servicing my car. As I’m 40+ this topic is great today. I have one grown child and wish I had had 2. Also, if a disclaimer can be added at the end of the videos to help our “sisters” who may be heading towards debt. Each video is like Christina’s time. This channel is addictive.🤩🥰
This girls advice topic was for me as well! I am 28 years old not married and no children! I had to cut off people that constantly ask me that and honestly talk about me because I say I rather focus on goals. I want to purchase a home not set myself up! I am glad you talked about this Brit I want to see more accomplishments than focus on a family right now
I appreciate this chat sis even as a woman of a certain age and a mother of four. I wish I had waited to have children but do I regret them no even though at times when they were yonger Wooo Chile! Lol But at the age I am now I'm learning to live my life for me and on my terms cause I've given so much of it away and lived on other people's terms and wants! And as for the younger adults my two youngest are 28 and 30 girl & boy who don't have any kids nor any desire to do so in a hurry but if it happens then they will accept that responsibility but until then if it's in God's Will! They're are living their lives working and striving to get to the next level ❤️
Great video sis! I am 36 no husband or children. I will admit i put a lot of pressure on myself to at least be married by 30, but it didn’t happen and in reality the lord saved me from heartbreak and heartache! When the time is right it will happen (just hoping happens a bit sooner then later😂🥴) and kids i am neutral on, however i knew I wouldn’t have kids unless in a solid marriage! I am glad you represent the black female that has her career, her own home, and own stuff because a lot more sisters need to aspire to have their own!
Love the hair. Love the topic. Thank you for the advice. I am 40yrs young I have a 19yr old and I've been asked when am I having a next child. I'm like I dont want no more kids, I'm contented and happy and working on accomplishing my dreams I had on hold while raising my son. Do you guys at your own pace and time. No one will be up while your baby's crying at nights or with that annoying man that just don't act right. Libra ⚖ in us.
Great video! My concern is how so many think validation is in having a man. Companionship is great but not something that happens just because others want it for you or even because you do. Who just wakes up and says "I want a relationship" and it just happens? No one! I've been asked the same thing. And regarding children, we have to stop assuming because a woman doesn't have children is simply because she doesn't want any. It's rude and insensitive because fertility issues are real, young or mature.
I agree with Brittany. I’m the mom of 4 and I don’t pressure my kids to have kids they all grown granted I have grandkids but who said I wanted to be a grandma...I am and I love my little monsters...but I’m 51 and now I wanna do me...so do you have fun with no regrets life is to short to worry about the small stuff if that’s what’s meant for you then it will happen
I am 40(phew finally said it out loud), in my head I'm 29 still. But I cant agree with you more. You get a degree and people ask when you're getting the next, you have kids and people ask when you're having another. I'm not married, in my life I thought I would be married by 26 and have 4 kids by now. Guess what none of that happened. I do have 1 but that's all I can handle! What is the rush for children. Being a good parent is so important and you have to be present for them. Spend some time to know yourself, travel, learn skills, do nothing, or do everything! You will never have that headspace again, once you have a baby it's like a 24/7 reel playing in the back of your mind and your headspace will never be the same. I can go on....
Excellent advice! I agree, folks need to mind their business. Everyone’s path isn’t the same. I’m in my late 40s and always get the ‘I’m surprised you’re not married’ from others. The key is not to allow others and society pressure you into their vision for you. They assume something is wrong... but they don’t realize we’re happy living our best lives, not settling to be in a relationship just for the sake of being in one. Relationships and children happen in due time, if it’s meant to be.
Loved this video so much Brittany! First off, the hair is bomb. Second, the word preached is on a whole 'nother level. I was looking for the collection plate to pass! I'm 30, homeowner, no kids or hubby (just BF). I would love to be a mama but I know God will put that in place when it's time. My mom bugs me from time to time about it but I'm good at ignoring LOL. Thank you for that!
I actually really needed this. I tend to want my moms approval. I love my mom and everything, but she can be controlling. I need to do better at thinking/doing for myself rather than.... What does my mom want me to do.
Girl you slayed that hair as always 🙌🏾. I think people are annoying and need to mind their business lol...I understand family being concerned or asking the question but not strangers. My Father always taught me to work hard and have your own so no man will think they own you. I bought my own house by myself for my 30th birthday. I also had a 5 year old at the time but I had planned on obtaining my own regardless. You are so right that what God has for you is for you and will def be in his time which is always the perfect time 💯. Great message Brittany!
Loved the advise. I experienced the same pressure in my early 20’s and in my 30’s family, friends, and acquaintances gave up on asking when I was going to get married and have kids. Now one relative had the nerve to assume that the reason I don’t have kids now that I am married , is that I couldn’t have any and I should consider adoption. I was in shock, not being able to have children was news to me. Since my Gyn never informed me. I just don’t have children yet. There is a such thing as protection🙄. But yes, people project their nonsense onto you and sometimes I feel like they want to put you down and make themselves feel better.
Girl, I am in the same boat as you... 32, will have my masters degree by the end of the year, looking to buy a home soon and just keep experiencing life on my terms. All of my friends have kids and I see how hard it can be. I am in no rush but am open to whatever God allows 🙏🏽
I am divorced and have 2 kids. I was able to by my first home for me and my boys this year now that I am divorced. My life is so much more full now than when I was married. You have to do things in God's timing and live your life.
Yes! It's a hard learn for many in my generation due to social media and this "entrepreneurship is the only way to be successful" craze that we are living in but it's so important not to get wrapped up in it so much that you don't recognize your own accomplishments.
Sis... I'm over 40, not married with no kids. I was focused on my career. No pressure, what God has for me it is for me
@pocketsandbowstv I agree with this lady above. I’m 36 and the same way. I focused on my career and becoming a doctor which was more important to me at the time. I agree what god has for you is for you. Don’t focus on anyone else season because yours is surely to come and keep praying for the things you want.
NikiJ08, I'm with you on that!! I'm in the same boat & I have focused on my career as well .... God has what he wants for us in his vision, we just have to follow ....
And you are beautiful, sis!! 🥰
Respect right there!! I am 28 and I’m always getting attacked from being single focusing on my goals and not following the married with kids “trend”
@@brittanydonnet7347 they probably hating. Probably don’t have much to stand on and see you trying to do something positive
It’s such a Beautiful thing to see women young, thriving and allowing God to live through them. ☺️💕 love your channel!
Thank you so much!!
@@PocketsandBowsTV 🤗🤗
Came for the hair😘💞, left with a WORD hunny yasss 😉, I'm almost 40 no kids, no husband and I don't have any desire to have kids, my husband will find me one day 🙏🏽😊
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Indeed...God bless you
@@honeywest39j95 Thank you sis, God bless you as well 🙏🏽🤗
I'm 32, single, no children, just bought my second home.... my immediate family doesn't give me any flak. Strangers, associates & distant family have a lot to say though. But I totally agree with you Brittany... worry about your own life & just block out what others think & say. I think those close to me don't give me a hard time, cause I have never been a "traditional" type of person. They know me & they know I'm walking in my truth.
Second house?! Sis, imma need you as a friend 😂
I really enjoyed your commentary on this topic. I am 28 years old and I’ve been married for 2 years and I am constantly pummeled with questions about when we are having kids by my peers who have children (not my parents...they know what’s up lol). The fact that we don’t have children yet is by design, not happenstance lol. We are enjoying our freedom, each other, and the fruits of our labor.
I honestly don't understand why people can't let married folks be just that... married folks! It's sad that people don't realize that maybe you want to really get to know and enjoy your mate first.
Your hair looks beautiful and so natural! I’m 42 and married with an adult child and I absolutely agree with you, take your time and let things happen naturally. Enjoy your single years and your years with no kids! No stretched out body! No wife and mother responsibilities! One day you will remember those times so fondly. Let God take the wheel and enjoy every season of your life. Bask in your accomplishments, live life on your own terms! I love the message.
Thank you so much!!
Same as you, having children isn’t a big deal but companionship/being married is so much more important to me. If children happen to come out of that union, so be it - it will be a blessing. Enjoyed this chat. I feel like I needed this as a personal reminder to really enjoy each phase of my life.
I love this video Brittany. Even tho I am married, I don't get married women who sort of marriage shame other women who are unmarried or who may not have kids. I'm 37 and my Husband and I lost both of our babies (stillborns) and honestly we are used to not having that additional responsibility now and likely won't have kids..if we do there is so much more I can offer children now that I would not have been able to offer them when we were expecting before (not even just material things but being whole and healed as a Mom). Before marriage I finished my education, started my career, and was a made woman in every sense and refused to marry unless the man could add value to my life. Proud of all the ladies taking their time and not letting society dictation if/when they should marry or if/when they should have kids. I'm still currently working on personal and professional development as well as ensuring that I keep my individuality so I won't get "lost" in my marriage that's another thing a lot of women forget. Keep doing what you do we love to see it!
Love this chit chat. I have 3 boys and I get the question all the time “how on earth do you do it?”. Especially when I join my zoom calls in a blazer and make up. I’m like what? Am I supposed to look like crap because I’m a mom? Umm no.
I always answer the same “with Gods grace”. My plate is full yes (I work full time also) but my heart? Even fuller! They are my world!
I agree with you, never rush things. And we all have to follow our own path. You are a great success story.
You gave the best advice to her!! I would add: When possible, move in silence. Everyone does not need to know what is going on in your life..family included. The unit is fabulous!
I swear you’re my friend in my head!!!! I’m in my early 30s, no kids, no man and my own house all to myself and I love it!! I especially LOVE that comment about wasting money on rent!! I’m currently paying mortgage and rent due to a cross country move and I’m trying to move back IMMEDIATELY!!!! This rent thing ain’t for me, it’s a waste of money!!
Overpriced.. I have 4 bedroom 2 bath 2 car garage mortgage/ rent 🤑
Under $500.. Live in Indiana. Mixed neighborhood more them but definitely changing. Bought my house ten years ago $56k. Older couple home husband died. Had to update it😪😕.. love my house. Never thought I would be home owner #40 yr
I actually have 2 kids, 10 and 2 year old. The vision that I had for my daughter was EVERYTHING your channel stands for... and her name is BRITNEY as well.
I watch my 30 yr old son told me he is being pressured by friends. His friend was homeless with kids and of course my son thinks he is crazy he can't take care if his kids. I told my son if it happens it will happen naturally. I had my son at 28 but had my first child at 15. So I talked to my son about having his self in a good space before considering having kids.
This is a word!! Needed this today!
First off, kudos to you for not assuming that the asker wants kids. A lot of people don't, including me. Marriage would be nice, but I'm not pressed about it. Single life has been great for me.
I am not having kids (I'm 34) and it was frustrating to realize that people don't necessarily care about me, but about the future human beings I might bring into the world. The facts are these: I love myself and I love my life. People who try to convince me that I'm incomplete for not having kids have been cut off completely or put on a low contact diet. I've been living my life on my own terms and that hasn't failed me yet. I'm glad to see another woman secure enough to share that same message. Great video.
There's also alot of jealous people because you are successful and focused on your careers and can travel and do what you want without taking care of a bunch of kids. I'm 35 and have 1 toddler and I'm done lol. Being a mom is the hardest thing I've ever done in my life. There is nothing wrong with waiting or even not have kids. There's to many parents that don't want that role and the kids grow up with a lot of problems
Kc Marie I'm there with you,I have 1 child in my early 40s and never been married. And I'm done ✔with having more..lol
I'm living my life and for as a relationship what God has for me like others said .
You are beautiful! I love your hair! I love this video, when I got pregnant it was 21 I was walking across the stage getting my Bachelors degree. I wanted to be an attorney but with a baby and my daughter is 9 years old now, I am now 31 I have accomplished getting my Master’s degree, I’ve started a business and I am currently in school to get my Doctorate. I absolutely LOVE being a MOTHER ❤️. I say all of this to say whenever you are ready to have a child have that child. But once you are a mother it will shape you into things you didn’t even know that you can do or handle.
My advice to sis is never allow the pressure of PEOPLE to make you feel decisions for THEM are a factor. I can tell you from experience I will never want to be a single parent again. I am thankful because Gods grace and mercy has kept me here and able to take care of my daughter. Stay encourage and walk your path! Continue to write your story. ❤️
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I love this video. I have always been indifferent about having kids. My focus has been on enjoying/building my dream life. I have zero regrets and I am so proud of what I have accomplished so far. More successes to come :)
Loved "Anytime I talk about me, God is involved" YES! I call him Jesus Christ 🤗
Girl, I'm in my early 30's, finishing up my PhD, zero kids, have a man and not looking to have kids for at least another 3 years. I'm ambitious and always have been. God knows he needs to keep this womb lively until then. Period.
My advice, tell them to mind their business and live their own lives. You are responsible for you and every decision you make. They won't be in your home at 2am when the baby needs care. All in God's timing. Congratulations on your new home! 🎉
I loved your comment "God knows he needs to keep this womb lively until then. Period." I need to have this in mind. I am 32 and working as a lawyer, I need another 3 years too. Good luck with your PhD, I am sue it will all work out for all of us.
@@HashtagAPI8 Thank you! Yes! It sure will work out for us.
The chocolate brown colour and the look of this wig is sumptuous...😍 Very inspirational and insightful talk Brittany, you are full of so much wisdom !
Thank you so much!!
So gorgeous, Brittany! 😍💜 And you're so in point with the advice. I just turned 41. I'm not married, don't have kids, not even in a relationship right now. Though I desire those things. I use to feel some kind of way about it, especially when it comes to the pressures to live up to a certain 'standard'. If it's something you want, don't throw it away, if not, don't trip. There's nothing wrong with either choice one makes. I remember freaking out turning 30 and being in a certain situation, not even a significant other. I deal with chronic illness (a whole other topic), so it's never been easy for me to just get out there like that. I even consider myself a late bloomer. But I won't lose hope. 💜
I needed this chit chat more than I am able to express!! This was sweeping right around my doorstep! Man, I needed to hear all that you had to say ❤️
Preach! I love how vocal you are about God’s role in your life
Thank you hun!
Girl This was a Whole Word!! Yess keep it coming. I love the conversation of just do you! We put pressure on ourselves let alone what all othr ppl have to say. When you reach the point where you realize you dont have to explain yourself to no one, you really begin to live!
You are so right about people always seeking what’s next. I’m engaged now and the day I got engaged people started asking if we picked a wedding date and I was like 🥴🥴 I thought I would just enjoy this for a while.
LOL exactly!!! It's always what's next...my response "A nap!" LOL
Congratulations and enjoy!
@@Dani-qh6ho Thank you!
Hunteee I I have to HIGH FIVE and FIST BUMP you on this one! Well said... take TIME to BASK !!! Amen to that!
Love the video. I’m over 40 not married no kids and i am happy living life. Sometimes i do think about it but i know God’s timing is best !! Happy Friday
Loved this conversation. I'm the same age as you Brit and I'm focused on becoming a renowned corporate and commercial Attorney. I just celebrated 5 years being called to the Bar and my career is not where I envisioned it as yet so that's my focus. I am very comfortable having a child in my forties because I want to enjoy my career, create generational wealth and enjoy life with my partner because a child is a life long commitment that I need to be ready for.
When persons ask so when are you getting married or when are you having children, the answer is when I'm good and ready. Some persons are genuinely concerned and I would listen to their point of view based on their own experiences but at the end of the day, I have to live my life. And I am sure as hell happy that I dont have a child during this pandemic. So to each their own.
Yes, sis! You gave us a word today! Do not live your life on someone else's terms! Thank you for this!!!
You are so welcome!!
You preached in this video. I’m in my early 30s and people definitely ask about kids and marriage especially since my younger siblings have kids and married. I’m like this is my life let me live it.
Girl!! Everything you said and touched on was on point!!
I love these Girl Chat videos! It’s good to listen to different perspectives ❤️
Thank you boo! I enjoy hearing yall's responses too!
this hair is stunning! i need this unit!
Thank you! It will look so good on you!
I know this is a hair video ( hair lovely) however the message today hit home for me. I am 48...yes 48. I haven't quite mastered living in the present and acknowledging my accomplishments. Mother, MBA, Small business owner, etc...Always thinking, what do I do next? I need to make...by this time... Because society says I should've already done this or have that. Meanwhile, I am doing my best. Thank you, thank you for this video. You are wise beyond your years. Classy & gravitas comes to mind when I watch your videos. We need more like you on YT! ❤
Aww thank you so much!! There is so much freedom in living on your own terms! I want to see that for all women! Not that I don't feel any pressures of life, but even with the pressures I still just do me.
@@PocketsandBowsTV Thank you.
When you watering your OWN grass...whew that’s a word. Loved this Britt!
Thank you!!
Sis this was a whole WORD! A WORD! I learned very quickly that i had NO desire to have kids in my 20s. I was just recently blessed with my first and I’m in my early 30s and I’m so glad i planned it. Like you said, you have a trajectory for your life and what you want things to go. Ppl need to stop acting like being single is a disease and having kids makes you full. Neither will if you’re not happy with YOURSELF.
Love you for this conversation, you’re legit one of my good girlfriends in my head haha.
I needed to hear this Brittany you have no idea the pressure from external people about having kids its getting annoying. I am married for over a year now and I love it being the two of us. Yes we want kids but we are meeting career and purchasing a home goals before we have one.
BRITTANY!!! I did the same thing. For career day I came in with my moms suit (pinned in the back) and briefcase. I was a lawyer! I was 6 or 7. Thankfully my parents never pressured me about marriage or kids. I was always taught to be able to take care of me.
I absolutely LOVE this video! You spoke a WORD and looked beautiful in the process. As women in our 30’s we need to stop letting society ideals put us in a box. Everyone is different with different beliefs and interests. Like you said if you live the life you create for yourself and not worry about what other people think, happiness will be a given! Thank you for sharing your viewpoint I know this video will touch a lot of women of all age groups! ❤️❤️
Thank you so much! I couldn't agree more!
Loved the hair and the talk! Thanx for reviving my dreams!! 🙌🏾
You said this so graciously! I couldn't agree more, I'm 25 shaping the future I want for myself and at times people try to intrude asking why or when are you going to have kids etc also. And I'm like that isn't at the top of my radar. I live in my OWN bubble and not up to societies norm as well. I strive to be a strong independent woman and create the life I WANT and if God places these things in my life okay but if he doesn't also OK! Thank you for this great answer ❤️
Amazing hair and so much truth spoken ... loved everything about this video ♥️♥️
Thank you so much!!
Listen, Sis!!! I’m 40 married with kids... take your time!! Live your life and whatever God has planned for you will be! And Brittany is right people put their two cents on you as if it’s okay. Do you...it is great that your living life getting what you want. Look I take my hat off to you so let me just say... CONGRATULATIONS Sis!!! Keep going 💞💞💞
Thank you so much! I am grateful that I don't feel that pressure at least not yet! I'm really happy right now. Ask me again at 35 though LOL. We will see.
@@PocketsandBowsTV Lol!!
Great advice Brittany! Your purpose is far greater then you know. Keep in mind, everyone does not have a family that leads by example or are in a position to help if needed. Sometimes family and friends can be your biggest challengers in causing you to feel guilty (if you allow them) on what you've accomplished and/or that your missing out. Continue to keep God first and keep shining Sis.!
I am going to be 42 on the 28th. Never been married, but I am currently engaged to a man that's 6 years younger than me. I heard the same thing about having kids from some family members, but it doesn't affect me. Whatever God has for me is for me and he will see fit if I am meant to be a mother. Other than that, I am loving my life because I am working on me.
Brittany!!! Honey, firstly, I cannot get enough of this hair!!!❤❤ Next, I am 33. Have no children, but desperately want at least 1 child(Fertility Issues). I'm not married though in a loving relationship for 12 years. Girlllllll, I've been told, " The fruit that bears no fruit, must be cut down", and " I'd like to have a grandbaby before I die" WAYYYYY too much. At this point, I ignore that talk completely. You definitley PREACHED on this one!!❤❤❤
First, this install was so effortless I forgot you even put a wig on! The hair is amazing. I'm in my thirties , married with kids and I agree others are always looking for next thing. I had my first child young and I was deliberate when it came to having a 2nd child and I was always questioned on when it was going to happen. Honey it's all fun and games until someone has to babysit 😂😏🤦🏽♀️.
Thank you for posting this. This was so on time. God is so good to us!
You are so welcome!
I’m in my early 30’s and I’m always asked the question when am I going to have kids 🙄🤦🏾♀️ it’s annoying lol and I prefer to be married first personal preference. I was focused on my career in my 20’s and doing well for myself. I’m trusting God’s timing! Thank you for this word today ❤️
always asking about kids, never marriage. backwards shit.
Hi brittany that was perfectly said her brother was soooooo wrong for telling her that this is not 1950 women do work and make a life for themselves and that unit is everything
I didn't know how much I needed this video! So on point
So glad you enjoyed it!
This wig is absolutely gorgeous I’m only 23 but you’re such a role model🤎
Aww thank you so much!!
Such a timely and relatable chat as at times i feel the pressure coming from myself and get somewhat anxious. I however have literally seen a girl child in my future and with God i am confident that it will happen.
P.s. you slayed that wig!
Thank you sis! Everything will happen in the right time!
I feel there’s so much pressure to get married and have kids (before such and such age). At the end of the day folks have to do what’s best for them. And not everyone wants that out of life! But ummm I’m on hair vivi’s site looking at a wig like I know how to properly apply one 😂🤗🤷🏽♀️
Great talk very inspirational, I am 48 with 1 child well he is 26 now but it was unplanned so I found myself in a situation where I had to put my dreams on hold. I am now finally enjoying the career that I chose instead of just trying to survive. I have never been married and have been beating myself up over it because of other peoples opinions like what happened to so and so he was nice and you need to stop being so picky and whatnot. But you know I have seen a lot and even though I am 48 I will live my best life until the right man can compliment my life in a positive way. I could say so much more but I love your chat about this. You even helped someone so much older than you understand life a little better. Thank you! ❤️❤️❤️
Aww thank you so much! I'm so glad you found this helpful! I love that you said that "until the right man can compliment my life in a positive way" that is so important! Sometimes we succumb to pressure and settle and we end up being so miserable. And when you think about it, you were better off alone!
Preach Sis Brittany, love it “God is involved when it comes to talking about me.” Great advise overall, really enjoyed.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Britt, this was an awesome bonus! Omg great content and the wig is 💣. Gurlllll I can't wait to meet and greet when COVID-19 over...
Thank you so much!
I’m 29 and as I get older I’m not sure if I want children. I wish people would stop creating the narrative that you have to get married and have children at a certain age. Like you in my business...don’t do that!
And then there’s the married girls in their mid 30s who can’t really decide for sure if they (and their spouse) want children but you know the clock is ticking 😩🙋🏽♀️. I feel like if we don’t start trying by next year then realistically it may get to where it’s too late. But I’m not ready, sigh...
Enjoying your videos while servicing my car. As I’m 40+ this topic is great today. I have one grown child and wish I had had 2. Also, if a disclaimer can be added at the end of the videos to help our “sisters” who may be heading towards debt. Each video is like Christina’s time. This channel is addictive.🤩🥰
Thank you!!
Yess girl...i needed to hear this...praise God...i really enjoy your channel...truly.....thank you sweetie!!🤩🤩🤩🤩
You are so welcome! Thanks for watching!
Thank you for this video it really spoke to my spirit, and your hair looks amazing!
Thank you so much! So glad it was helpful!
Preach my Fellow libra sister !!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾 loved this video would like it a thousand times !!!!
Thank you so much!!
This girls advice topic was for me as well! I am 28 years old not married and no children! I had to cut off people that constantly ask me that and honestly talk about me because I say I rather focus on goals. I want to purchase a home not set myself up! I am glad you talked about this Brit I want to see more accomplishments than focus on a family right now
You better minister today! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
I appreciate this chat sis even as a woman of a certain age and a mother of four. I wish I had waited to have children but do I regret them no even though at times when they were yonger Wooo Chile! Lol But at the age I am now I'm learning to live my life for me and on my terms cause I've given so much of it away and lived on other people's terms and wants! And as for the younger adults my two youngest are 28 and 30 girl & boy who don't have any kids nor any desire to do so in a hurry but if it happens then they will accept that responsibility but until then if it's in God's Will! They're are living their lives working and striving to get to the next level ❤️
Seriously, it’s wonderful to see and hear women with a heart after God!
Thank you so much sis! I would be nothing without him!
That chocolate hair color is perfect on you!
Great video sis! I am 36 no husband or children. I will admit i put a lot of pressure on myself to at least be married by 30, but it didn’t happen and in reality the lord saved me from heartbreak and heartache! When the time is right it will happen (just hoping happens a bit sooner then later😂🥴) and kids i am neutral on, however i knew I wouldn’t have kids unless in a solid marriage! I am glad you represent the black female that has her career, her own home, and own stuff because a lot more sisters need to aspire to have their own!
Aww thank you!!
Whooo Chile!! This message was right on time for me 🙌🏽!!
So glad you enjoyed it!!!
Love the hair. Love the topic. Thank you for the advice. I am 40yrs young I have a 19yr old and I've been asked when am I having a next child. I'm like I dont want no more kids, I'm contented and happy and working on accomplishing my dreams I had on hold while raising my son. Do you guys at your own pace and time. No one will be up while your baby's crying at nights or with that annoying man that just don't act right.
Libra ⚖ in us.
Thank you so much for this advice. I REALLY needed to hear this. Be blessed.
You are so welcome!
Your videos are so calming
Aww thank you! I appreciate that!
Very powerful video! You're a very wise, classy and beautiful woman!! 💖
Thank you so much!
Great video! My concern is how so many think validation is in having a man. Companionship is great but not something that happens just because others want it for you or even because you do. Who just wakes up and says "I want a relationship" and it just happens? No one! I've been asked the same thing. And regarding children, we have to stop assuming because a woman doesn't have children is simply because she doesn't want any. It's rude and insensitive because fertility issues are real, young or mature.
Omg why am I cheesing so hard about your baby hairs and the hairline. That’s how I like it.
Lol!! Not too much!
This was really really good!
I agree with Brittany. I’m the mom of 4 and I don’t pressure my kids to have kids they all grown granted I have grandkids but who said I wanted to be a grandma...I am and I love my little monsters...but I’m 51 and now I wanna do me...so do you have fun with no regrets life is to short to worry about the small stuff if that’s what’s meant for you then it will happen
Ok i'm sorry but I just cackled at "but who said I wanted to be a grandma!" LOL so me!
@@PocketsandBowsTV That’s the Libra in me
I am 40(phew finally said it out loud), in my head I'm 29 still. But I cant agree with you more. You get a degree and people ask when you're getting the next, you have kids and people ask when you're having another. I'm not married, in my life I thought I would be married by 26 and have 4 kids by now. Guess what none of that happened. I do have 1 but that's all I can handle! What is the rush for children. Being a good parent is so important and you have to be present for them. Spend some time to know yourself, travel, learn skills, do nothing, or do everything! You will never have that headspace again, once you have a baby it's like a 24/7 reel playing in the back of your mind and your headspace will never be the same. I can go on....
Live your life, girl❤❤❤
Love it looks very beautiful makes you look even younger
You better preach!!!! I’m here for all of it. I share the same mindset🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Excellent advice! I agree, folks need to mind their business. Everyone’s path isn’t the same. I’m in my late 40s and always get the ‘I’m surprised you’re not married’ from others. The key is not to allow others and society pressure you into their vision for you. They assume something is wrong... but they don’t realize we’re happy living our best lives, not settling to be in a relationship just for the sake of being in one. Relationships and children happen in due time, if it’s meant to be.
Exactly! I couldn't agree more!
I thank God for your wisdom! Be Bless.
Loved this video so much Brittany! First off, the hair is bomb. Second, the word preached is on a whole 'nother level. I was looking for the collection plate to pass! I'm 30, homeowner, no kids or hubby (just BF). I would love to be a mama but I know God will put that in place when it's time. My mom bugs me from time to time about it but I'm good at ignoring LOL. Thank you for that!
Thank you so much boo!
I actually really needed this. I tend to want my moms approval. I love my mom and everything, but she can be controlling. I need to do better at thinking/doing for myself rather than.... What does my mom want me to do.
Beautiful this video is what I needed❤️
Aww so glad it was helpful!
Have a happy and peaceful Thanksgiving, peace and blessings to your family, friends and subbies. See you in the next video!!
Thank you so much! Happy Holidays to you as well!
Girl you slayed that hair as always 🙌🏾. I think people are annoying and need to mind their business lol...I understand family being concerned or asking the question but not strangers. My Father always taught me to work hard and have your own so no man will think they own you. I bought my own house by myself for my 30th birthday. I also had a 5 year old at the time but I had planned on obtaining my own regardless. You are so right that what God has for you is for you and will def be in his time which is always the perfect time 💯. Great message Brittany!
Thank you so much boo! I was always taught that too! My parents are true hustlers! I got the lazy gene because i'm a Libra but I still make it happen!
Preach Brittany!!!!! 😆Good teaching!
Thank you boo!
Love this ( the advice part ) ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you!
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾Friday food for thought. Greatly appreciated much needed. Thank you for your words of wisdom 🙏🏾
Glad it was helpful! Thanks for watching!
Loved the advise. I experienced the same pressure in my early 20’s and in my 30’s family, friends, and acquaintances gave up on asking when I was going to get married and have kids. Now one relative had the nerve to assume that the reason I don’t have kids now that I am married , is that I couldn’t have any and I should consider adoption. I was in shock, not being able to have children was news to me. Since my Gyn never informed me. I just don’t have children yet. There is a such thing as protection🙄. But yes, people project their nonsense onto you and sometimes I feel like they want to put you down and make themselves feel better.
See that's crazy! Now they putting fertility issues on you?! It's the projection for me! Whew!
Thank you, just ‘thank you’❤️❤️
You are so welcome! Living life on your own terms is true freedom! Remember that sis!
B R I T T A N Y!!! PREACH IT GIRL.
Thank you!!
Girl, I am in the same boat as you... 32, will have my masters degree by the end of the year, looking to buy a home soon and just keep experiencing life on my terms. All of my friends have kids and I see how hard it can be. I am in no rush but am open to whatever God allows 🙏🏽
Yes sis, neither am I! I really like to be on my own time! It would be a huge adjustment for me and I'm not in the mood for that right now lol
@@PocketsandBowsTV ‼️‼️‼️
Now, this is what I was waiting for. And, my job had the nerves to have me on a 2hr meeting call. Missing this (on time) 🤩
LOL girl!! They in the way!
Chile! Did I write this question?! .... Whew! Hits home!!
I am divorced and have 2 kids. I was able to by my first home for me and my boys this year now that I am divorced. My life is so much more full now than when I was married. You have to do things in God's timing and live your life.
Amen!! Congratulations!
You said some when you talked about celebrating yourself in the moment and not being so quick to move on to the next thing!!!!
Yes! It's a hard learn for many in my generation due to social media and this "entrepreneurship is the only way to be successful" craze that we are living in but it's so important not to get wrapped up in it so much that you don't recognize your own accomplishments.