I went to a mental institution (Part 2) | Unpacked with Relebogile Mabotja - Episode 53 | Season 2
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- Опубликовано: 8 сен 2024
- 2 Guests share the experiences that led them into mental institutions and how they've coped since then
Studio Guests: Thandi Mavata & Mmatshepo Seoka
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Relebohile is so smart and understanding makes you feel like she is a person you been looking for your whole life❣️
Lebo definitely is the therapist we all seek but hardly find, right?
She’s absolutely wonderful, such an engaging and warm presence
Relationships will always reveal our childhood traumas indeed...
And now we must go back there and starting fixing things. Eewu.
@@boipelomofulatsi7518 Pelo botshelo ke ntwa!!!I think going back and fixing will help us do better with the next generation....
True. Sometimes we are so busy trying to live that we don't give ourselves time to deal with our demons. When you are older having time in your hands everything comes back. I relate with the story. I'm 64 but it's only last weekend a family funeral did I make peace with my long passed on father, who I had ber angry with for denying me when my Mom was pregnant with me( married mind you) . I only heard last week that he apologised and said he was confused by bigamy.
I have snatched a little piece of my happiness.
@@dorisfulela785 I'm sorry to hear that and I'm happy you're in a better place now 😊please take care of yourself my Queen
Statement of the year 👏🏾👏🏾
This episode really forces me to look right inside of me and have honest conversations with me.
Likewise with me.
I can't keep my eyes off Mmatsepos shoe ...so beautiful
Gorgeous shoes ☺
Me too
All she wanted was her father's love.she suffered badly for wanting one simple things _ her father.
..wish you peace and healing Matshepo.
Wow, it's scary how I can relate so much to this and how a person doesn't realize the seriousness of these emotions until you hear someone else say it. I'm so glad they brought up this absent father topic and I think we need to talk more about it, it's the only way to heal. To realize that we are not alone, we are not the problem, it's our fathers. Hai, I'm hurting for these two ladies, but I'm also glad that they're able to share their stories. Thank you. I pray for healing for all of us who are recovering from emotional turmoil.
I mean we were just going on with life until they brought this up and you realise, i still have a lot to deal with, i am a problem not the next pereon
Same here. I never realized until hearing them explaining what they were dealing with, that that is exactly what is and was happening to me. It’s different from someone saying oh you’re not alone many people have the same problem as you. To actually hearing someone articulate word for work what’s going on with you. I’m not happy to see other people suffer but I’m glad to know that I’m not alone
I can relate to ausi Thandie's brain, I am a perfectionist, if I can't do it perfectly it becomes hard for me to finish. I used to cry a lot when I fail just a test. but repeating almost all modules of my final year helped me a lot to be able to accept that I am also a human being.
I am picking up some borderline traits too though. Instability. Fear or rejection. And a false self-identity if one at all.. So sounds very borderline. And yes, you are Human... You're allowed human emotion without reducing yourself to anything
The implications of rejection and shame are far reaching.
True. Me and Thandie the same
Would also like to hear a black male perspective on this topic...
Same
Relebogile kindly tell us the truth for once, are you a qualified psychologist????? You are the best I love you so much❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I also feel like she's qualified in the field. Wa re shaya shaya!
Nna i feel like she qualify to be in every profession, few days ago she was handling the issue of bipolar like a qualified psychiatrist, she is good in everything. With all topics discussed in this show she has been good, she is one of a kind, intelligent, open minded, non judgmental and understanding.
❤️❤️❤️
@@kgathanaruth639 I agree.
She must confess, shes amazing😭❤
@@kgathanaruth639 😄🐻🤔
Defense mechanism after trauma is let me exit before you hurt me.
I went to see my psychiatrist to fetch antidepressants only for her to have me admitted to the hospital. I did not want to be there and I felt cheated. I cried for the whole night thinking I don't belong there, I'm not crazy. These crazy people are going to attack me.😭😭😭
Then the following day while I was busy continuing with my crying, one of the patients came to me and told me "the more you cry, the longer they are going to keep you here". I stopped crying immediately and the next session with my psychiatrist, I acted like I was fine, but she could see through me and kept promising that I will be discharged the following week. I believed her🤡
Spent 4 weeks inside and was only discharge once my mother was there. I had made so many friends, from the nurses to patients and security guards. The day I left I found out that I was so popular they threw a little goodbye party for me. My boyfriend used to tease me about it calling me a psychiatrist hospital celebrity. 😂
Either way, that stay was good for me.
This show is my favorite insightful one. Educational and so raw. I love every single episode because it challenges my mind and is so human and real 💛
I think what is clear in all of Lebo's episodes is that we overproritize men in our society
It's completely ridiculous. I think it's the nature of this beast we're in - it has a patriacal framework
legit need a friend that can listen to understand the way Relebogile does 🥺😭
U can see a therapist
I never thought i could actually come across such relating story yet with different scenario, and its only i realize i have a mental problem in my case it all happen after i lost my daughter who was just 9 months when she passed and after several miscarriages i have experienced when i finally fell pregnant and gave birth to her was one of the best thing that has happened to me so her passing really hurt me so badly and i used my Fiance as my punching bag and all along i thought am okay until i washed this episode Thank you Relebogile for an eye opening because i thought i love my Fiance by being so controlling, overeating every time we have miss understand i would always tell him am breaking up with him until it got to a point that he is tired to stop me every time i pack my bags and that would break my heart to the core but now i know better and am about to start dealing with my mental issues
I am sorry for what you have been through. No one should have to go through that pain... I commend you for the direction you are today... All the best sisi 🥰
*taking
It has been more than 5 years of my Aunt being depressed. I really want to help her but she is an adult and everytime I come too strong to help her. We end up in an argument. She would promise me that we would go for counselling but will change 2 hours before. As a family we thought she was bewitched and lost her mind but as time went by we could tell that there is more to that. My grand mother has been saving some money for my aunt to go a psychiatrist hospital but she died 2 months back. I know feel like I am failing my Aunt as I am the only one she can talk to. But I do not know how to help. I have tried local clinics to have a nurse or social worker coming by maybe to assess her or something but no help.
All I wish is for her to be well and have a chance to narrate to me what was going on in her head.
I am soo glad that these ladies are fighting for their lives and can actually tell their stories.
Askiesi Sisi. I hope auntie gets better and a solution comes your way, it must be hard for you all❤❤
Your shows are addictive and I will sign up for the Positive addiction anytime,because when I am done watching I take something with me all the time, never a dull moment.
Matshepo and Thandi thank you so much for sharing your stories for me I found myself in the both of you. 😊
The pain of not knowing or being able to build a relationship with fathers really cuts deep 😭😭😭💔
I am seeing it now
I related so much with this episode..."rejecting people before they reject you."💔
All I can say is : THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SHARING. ❤️🙌🏾
I love topics around mental health because these are the less talked about topics in our society, my heart bleeds for those who's cases were not attended to and they are now severely mentally and still no one is paying attention to them; it is now normal to have someone picking up papers on the streets. May we have more of these talks, may we have more people concur mental anomalies.
Stumbled across this channel yesterday and fell in love. Been binge watching all night long. Absolutely love your work Relebogile. Keep up the good work African’s own Oprah Winfrey.❤️💎
YHOOO They were talking about me sis Thandi story is just mine. Thank you Lebo
Thank you for sharing your stories ladies 🥺❤️🙏🏽... Your stories are helping us to learn, self reflect and to have empowering us. ❤️🙏🏽
Don't tell kids they're ugly. It's malicious
I am also like Thandi, I believe if I can't take care of my kids no one will..
I really appreciate these interviews on people’s personalities, mentality/mental health, physiology and how it affects them because it answers my prayer on “Lord teach me not to judge anyone by how I see them or how they act.”
I have personally come to learn not to use the word crazy to describe a behaviour like we grew up using it. As in saying “Keng ka o? Wa hlanya?(What’s wrong with this one is he/she crazy.) No one is crazy. We just all different mental challenges and our brains have different capabilities to deal with the challenges.
I hope parents can learn from Thandi’s experience as a child of the words her grandmother said to her.
Matshepo sending you love and light my Queen ❤❤
Thank you so much Mme ❤️
I relate a lot to Thandys story .its really a painful journey but u learn to eventually live with it because u learn that parents don't really apologise .I'm happy she prays a lot ,very good.
Great interview once again job well done .thank you for uploading
Most women see themselves in the "Diary of a mad black woman" lucky are those that never experienced any form of abuse from their partners.
Most of us have mental issues took me a while to admit and accept that I needed help and that led me to starting therapy last year.
It's misleading to say "Parents did the best they could, with what they have". Many parents chose not to do good. They love you now because they're financially needy.
Sad truth 😭😭
The truth!!!!
Some parents are a bit old fashioned and yet most government hospitals domt explain im detail the ilness
I would say that is a bit judgmental. They too were going through their traumas. Maybe their parents were neglectful. We need to understand not to internalize other people's wrong doings.
#unpackedwithRelebogile thank you so much for bringing awareness regarding issues around mental health and mental illness. This is something affecting most of us but yet there is lack of information sharing around it. We tend to judge people dealing with mental illness without understanding what is it that they are going through, so for you to bring such topics to the public is amazing. Am looking forward to have people with schizophrenia, paranoid, hoarding and other disorders in this show to raise awareness. ❤️❤️❤️
The psychiatrist institutions in SA , in my opinion are very capable, effective and safe , safe in that it's like a this bubble where you get "used" to , sometimes you might not wanna go out because well "out" can be threatening .
But overall they're nice.
When to 3 , vista included ...I think I know a bit more 😁
I agree. I've also been institutionalized & it was so peaceful & safe; i didn't want to leave bc the outside world seemed so threatening & cold...
I love you ladies so much❤️ we can all relate and we appreciate your transparency ❤️
The lady in the floral is so graceful! I pray both of them get strength to handle everyday.
This is really good. The fact that these guests can share their experiences to help others out there. I feel it would have been good to invite men as well? This almost makes it feel or look like it's a "women's issue". I think a lot of men are going through this but they're perhaps ashamed to speak up? Relebogile, thank you for the amazing work you're doing. You're awesome!
Thank you Relebogile...you actually covered it at the end!
Sis Thandi is so me, I dump my partner almost every week🙈🙈
Thank you Relebohile for this empowering episode
Well done Mmatshepo & Sis Thandi 🙌🏾🙌🏾. Thank you for sharing your story
Thanks Relebogile, for always choosing the most relatable and appropriate topics and guests👏👏👏Depression is an invisible monster, that is why it takes years to finally break free! Reading Iyanla's 'Yesterday I Cried' was my turning point. Lots of therapy and prayer too. I pray this episode will be a trigger for those still trapped in depression, to take the first step towards seeking help and starting a journey towards healing🙏😘
So it is true that when there's unhealed trauma everything seems like an attack even if it's not....
Yes, especially if it not treated. There are also different kinds of traumas, I feel like they both suffer from what we call complex trauma.
I believe as human beings especially as black people, we must learn to empathize and be a supportive to another. We should stop judging and calling people crazy.
Mmatshepo keep up the good work on showing respect to everyone girl. I was listening to you every time addressing Thandi as ausi Thandi and because you realized she was older than. Your mom did good work in instiĺing those values.
My favorite show indeed
Thank you! 🙏🏾
SA must do more about mental health I deal with mental health patients every day . Simple all mental health matters people they are not seeking help because of fear to be judged. Families must have undying support. Overall please sick help . We need to monitor our love ones . One step at a time . I’m based in uk iis total different like u Thandi was meant to be sectioned if she had suicidal thoughts as well as harming her children for her own safety, her children and community I’m glad you both ladies survived everything. This road is challenging and long better with time . Thanks for sharing ladies 1❤️👊🏿👊🏿👊🏿
I am familia with Matshepo’s story from her channel. It teaches me so much as an aspiring psychologist and as a person who suffered from mental illnesses.
Thand’s story is mine and everyday is a fight and a battle. I share it on my channel, the abuse, low self esteem, the likes
Powerful show Relebogile & big up by Matshepo & Thandi 👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽
So informative and thanks to Kelebogile Mabotsa who is a media guru according to me
This is so eye-opening.
I'm glad I am watching this. I feel much better. I know it doesn't make sense but I know how the panic attacks are and how they can affect even your self esteem.
Indeed thank you to the ladies for being so generous and you being so great at getting the conversation going so well
Thanks for inviting ordinary people
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That's why I love the show. It's easy to relate to all guests....very authentic
I wish I could show this video to my therapist so dat xe can listen to sis Thandi explain my life so well ,I totally relate to her story so much😥
Same❤️
@Lebo M, do that. At least she'll have an idea of where to start. Sometimes it's hard explaining your feelings and what you are going through. You will be okay.
@jacky Jack tnk u will definitely do dt❤
Thank you so much for sharing ladies. ❤
I am both ladies 😭😭😭 I could not finish part 1 at 3am I cried till 6:00
I feel like booking myself in mental hospital just to deal with my issues
Maybe try therapy first?Remember to get booked into a hospital must come with some sort of recommendations
Please stay strong.....
@@stellamooibedi9027 i am in denial like my two sisters were. I get triggered by so many things.
@@pointa2b388 I don't think you're in denial the fact that you feel like you need to book yourself in,I believe it's the first step of acceptance of needing help, be very gentle and patience with yourself.
When i had real anxiety that was leading to depression , i decided to pray more frequent than i was used to and God healed me...i looked for scriptures that deal with depression and anxiety..u can google that...and i used to confess them out loud and repeatedly everyday...and before i knew it my demons were gone
If u do believe in God ..try him.He is better than any tablet the dictors wuld give u
It so great and inspiring to have these conversations in a realistic and relatable ways.
This girl drags a story yoooooh!!! Thandie goes straight to the point
The first part of this episode best describes what TRAUMA is!!!
Wow Relebogile!!! Hands down, a sister one needs
Wow! Thank u guys so much. What an eye opener. Thank you beautiful ladies ♥️♥️♥️
Thank you. This story has been so eye opening and helpful.
I would really love to see and hear from man who've had mental issues aswell
I'm here❤️❤️❤️❤️😍
Thank you for this interview. 😊🥰
I resonated so much with ausi Thandie like damn...
I also do this a lot.. I'm constantly apologising. I suffer with major depression disorder and anxiety 😔
There is hope for me.
I relate so much to sisThandi
I relate so much.... I think I have depression too
Yoh, my sisters. I know what u have been through. I also felt or rather went the
Thank you for covering this topic.
Present 🙋♀️marking the register!!!
Thandie said it for me a lil fight it like we done, there's no coming back
The content on this show .
I can relate so much, with the lady talking about her father
Someone said if you find yourself blocking people, it means you should leave social media cause you too the famous word "EMOTIONAL" .
I found this so disturbing that people think having thick skin is actually healthy, its not, there's a breaking point and only you will suffer from it, someone provokes you and instead of using the Opportunity to block them for your peace bare watch them crash and humiliate you? Yoh.
Personally social media (YT) keeps me woke so to miss a chance in knowing what's interesting around me or what to learn about because of 1 person is a problem.
The power of prayer.
Thanks for the info
A Dr once told me we all depressed,sum need medication and sum can cope without.
Imagine those women who are deliberately denying their kids an opportunity to b with their fathers,forgetting that it's no longer about them but their children. I love u ladies😢❤️❤️. Jesus says you are the light of the world,(niyityuwa yehlabathi nina Matthew 5:13-16.I always say people are blessed when they start realizing their journey, and seeing their purpose at a young age.
I can relate to thandys story alot of ppl are going through that
Thandi❤
Am here for Thandi 💕
@@sharonseroka1122 something about her is beautiful I just can't put my finger on it, she seems like an amazing human being 😊
She is a wonderful person she has a doekonfleek event where they empower women That’s where I met her
@@sharonseroka1122 I love her energy thanks, I must find out more about the event.
After listening to ausi i think i need to visit a mental hospital
Very interesting topic! 😩❤️
Best day time show
But who dislikes this ? Could you give us reason🤷🏽♀️
Big ups to the ladies❤❤❤
I am early today, i am taking break from gym
This was amazing ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I am Thandie
I have a Thandi in me
We don't stop learning, especially listening skills and knowing how to talk and ask relevant questions without judging is the key. Let's educate ourselves especially when you don't understand certain topics because really we are blessed with technology. The truth will set us free and we will learn a lot because it affects us one way or another. Sometimes is not easy but God will see us through in Jesus s name, love you all
Tebello did she get to work her relationship her dad?
Is Matshepo's condition a type of Epilepsy?
Wow.. this is me
I’m not ok.
You will be okay one day
thought I was first 😂
Sorry sis😅😅😍❤️
@@nozizanelesithongam5521 😂😂😂😂
How do I get hold of Thandi
Which hospital did Thandi go to?
Thandi, that overeacting is so me, i end things, things look small, to me they are big
Hardest thing to live with ,me I just shut people out completely.
@@stellamooibedi9027 i wonder if i am a loner because of my traumas, i dont open up to people, my company is ok, i am a hardworker, i reject people before they do, eish
@@pointa2b388 trauma does that to people, at work I get along with everyone, but you will never see me hanging around with anyone so much that I eat from my desk.
@@stellamooibedi9027 you have just spoken about me, i get along with everyone but i have no friends
@@pointa2b388 I'm you and you are me and understand where you are at mentally.