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As an INFJ who has "slammed the door" a number of times, I have to say that I am not comfortable with the term "door slam." "Slam" sounds like an act of hostility. For me, I've never felt like I was slamming a door. It's more like quietly walking away. I'd rather it be called "the walk-away."
Precisely. We got several doors which lead to our hearts. We'll send u to the beginning. You'll be lucky if u get us to open the first door. But the last door? Na. It's done. Never again.
We`re naturally dark psychologists. The door slam and treating them like nothing comes naturally to us. It causes the other person to ponder and seek our validation which we don`t give. It's quite satisfying. You should try it.
@@johnrobert385mmt's called our shadow. If you do not wish to feel like crap after we show you a reflection of yourself, feel free to do better for the rest of your life :) you can learn the easy way or the hard way. And everybody learns the hard way
Oh, man... Spot on! I'm a classic door-slammer. I would "un-slam" if the other party made a heroic effort to repair the broken trust, but that's never happened. So I'm happy to have just a few trusted people in the inner rungs around my heart.
I'm an INFJ. A few weeks ago, I found out my gf was and still is cheating on me and I was planning on doing a similar thing, and I've methodically arranging a full move out early next month while she works and cut all ties with her. I'm faking that everything is still ok, it hurts like hell keeping the pain inside, but I know it's for the better. Maybe she'll be happy with me out of her life, but if not, sadly I won't be there for her anymore, nevermore. Thanks for making me realized I'm right about all of this.
*COMPLICIT TO EVIL; HIGHLY CORRUPTIBLE PERSONALITY TYPES* ISFP and 'ESFP' (+ESFJ; Amber Heard) personality types are just as evil as narcissits! They are narcissit-friendly and have little control over their pointless mind - especially at the worst possible time! ESFP tend to be unapologetically stubborn-anything to avoid getting "upset" despite ALWAYS being 'emotionally-disturbed' (secretly; malicious-emotions is hidden just beneath the surface). They both unconsciously believe that other people exist to serve and be consumed by them-like a drug. All to balance the unstable chemicals in their brain responsible for emotions. The [ISFP] 'secrecy'/suspicious, introverted behaviour makes them try to remain convert - this manifests as a hidden [unintelligent] threat for other people later on (as when spotted and contacted by a narcissit, they will quickly comply as they have little emotional-resiliency and humanity). ISFP/ESFP embody what it means to be 'diabolically-unintelligent'! "Better you than me". A typical closet belief of the former. Worsened by ESFJ psychological-rape. Sad fact, Judas-Iscariot was definitely one of them (ISFP). His little humanity and small intelligence, resulted in the diabolical imbecile intentionally 'throwing Jesus under the bus' in a "moment of emotional vulnerability" (typical, whiney ISFP excuse) - only to end up regretting what he's done by the time he comes back to what little sanity he initially had. When I psychoanalyse this overgrown-fetus, I realize that he had a covert, malicious-jealousy complex, and was secretly emotionally-disturbed, and highly prone to 'oblivious-codependency' (look it up, that is classic ISFP psychology, which explains how r-tarded they really are. Education only helps them hide how intellectually-immature they really are). If your life was in danger, the more dire the situation is, you'd be better off making sure that the nearby ISFP/ESFP in the group is dead! This will maximize the likelihood of the group success/escape, as the ISFP cannot be trusted! They will likely do something r-tarded at the worst possible moment-getting themselves and everyone else killed (or the ISFP might panic and push a teammate under the bus as the ISFP feared getting sacrificed first- inexcusable, particularly since they ARE the threat, them and other narcissits _(ESFJ/ESFP are synonymous with cluster-b)._ These r-tards actually empower narcissits, especially during elections and for typically r-tarded reasons/motives). Anyway, ISFP/ESFP have little to no humanity (as an 'instinct'), and they are delusional [oblivious-codependent] and have difficulty understanding themselves (which says a lot about their intelligence), i.e. they have difficulty even recognizing their own emotions! Plus they often suppress it (too narcissitic to bother processing it). They really are walking, overgrown-fetuses- failed human beings! I bet Adam and especially Eve in the Bible were ISFP! They also typically have difficulty recognising evil and are often in relationships with narcissits! And then the ISFP will breed more victims into the toxic, tortuous relationship!
Agreed. Also... Please research 'narcissitic personality disorder' (NPD) / 'cluster-B'; and know that they are the 'root of all evil' (especially 'ESFJ/ESTJ-narcissits'; Myers-Briggs reference, look it up)! European 'ESFJ' are the worst personality type, and they are responsible for inventing 'racism' and colonization! It is in their neuro-psychology!! The are extremely 'manipulative' and often use 'looking pretty' to distract others from the witch's mind-games / mind-rape, e.g. gaslighting, playing the victim or damsel in distress, creating 'flying-monkeys', and paying others to attack (or at times kill) someone for her. When caught, she will use her minions as scapegoats. European ESFJ are notorious for this especially in a racist context, e.g. Elliott Till. ISFP (and ESFP) are the most complicit, narcissitic-enablers. ISFP also tend to be 'oblivious-codependants' (look up the definition). SUMMARY: Evil personality: ESFJ, ESTJ [Secretly] Evil and narcissit-friendly gunts/flying-monkey: ISFP, ESFP. ☝️All of them are secretly emotionally-disturbed, hence their need to create conflict (and at other people's expense, truly evil). Spread the word! Thank you. ___________ #Save_Soil
I'm an INFJ and I did exactly the same thing in the past... It will get better, and going no contact or "slam the door" was the best thing for me to heal faster, so I hope it will work for you too. Sending love and healing vibes
As a 60 year old INFJ male I can tell you that reopening a slammed door is almost always a guaranteed recipy for a nasty repeat. Unless it, as mentioned, concerns a family member. In that case it's wiser to reduce interaction as much as possible. It's very important to realize that most toxic and needy people already have a track record of being shunned. Especially people with personality disorders such as NPD and BPD can't resist to interpret the INFJ's empathy, attention and concern as a validation and justification for their warped sense of self. You cannot help them. In fact, the more you give them the worse they get. Unfortunately this is a trial in error dynamic. So, stay sceptical, use your intuition and common sense, and try not to waste your light on black holes. Never feel guilty for doorslamming. Just regret that you didn't do it sooner :-)
The only things that piss my off are disloyalty, betrayal, and treating animals poorly. Those are my top three. I can handle a lot of stuff, but betrayal really gets to me. It is extremely hard to forgive, but I have learned that forgiveness is not done for the other persons benefit, it is done for your own wellbeing. I hate the idea of cutting off all contact, but I will do it if necessary.
I tried to once, but ended up not being able to reopen like I thought I could. It is almost impossible to reopen. I tried, but it just wasn't possible.
INFJ's are born to be kings and queens... rulers. When there were less people on earth, they indeed were. Now we find ourselves in a terrible situation where the descendants(very apt word) of the original INFJ's , most of whom are less suited for such positions have inherited the wealth and power,. Now the INFJ lives in an intentional system made to keep them out of power. The narcissists have taken over and I don't know what to do about it. I have felt so frustrated for the longest time(grip stress). I wonder if anybody can grasp what I am saying.
When you can't fix: stupid, mean, selfish or ignorant, it's time to move on without them. Time never fixes those kinds of personality deficits, and that's why walking away is extremely necessary....for my own peace of mind and sanity.....
Once you know how to employ boundaries and you see how instantly it drains the shitty people away from your day to day life, you'll never wanna stop. Reduction is addictive, too.
For me the door slam is permanent. I do not know if I have ever let someone back in. No, I have and they got the door slammed back on them again because they were truly toxic. Sadly, I have even slammed the door on a Psychologist. They betrayed me and so cut them off and went somewhere else....lol. Sad, but true. I do not take betrayal....at all.
Once someone has betrayed me and or otherwise lost my trust and/or respect they have never gotten it back. Any and all trust and respect is gone, non retrievable. I have never regretted closing the door on someone, only not doing it sooner.
The first thing I've noticed about myself when someone has hurt me beyond repair is I forget their name, it's always the first to happen. It's not like I intend to do so it just happens, just was reflecting on myself and noticed the pattern.
Agreed. Also... Please research 'narcissitic personality disorder' (NPD) / 'cluster-B'; and know that they are the 'root of all evil' (especially 'ESFJ/ESTJ-narcissits'; Myers-Briggs reference, look it up)! European 'ESFJ' are the worst personality type, and they are responsible for inventing 'racism' and colonization! It is in their neuro-psychology!! The are extremely 'manipulative' and often use 'looking pretty' to distract others from the witch's mind-games / mind-rape, e.g. gaslighting, playing the victim or damsel in distress, creating 'flying-monkeys', and paying others to attack (or at times kill) someone for her. When caught, she will use her minions as scapegoats. European ESFJ are notorious for this especially in a racist context, e.g. Elliott Till. ISFP (and ESFP) are the most complicit, narcissitic-enablers. ISFP also tend to be 'oblivious-codependants' (look up the definition). SUMMARY: Evil personality: ESFJ, ESTJ [Secretly] Evil and narcissit-friendly gunts/flying-monkey: ISFP, ESFP. ☝️All of them are secretly emotionally-disturbed, hence their need to create conflict (and at other people's expense, truly evil). Spread the word! Thank you. ___________ #Save_Soil
*COMPLICIT TO EVIL; HIGHLY CORRUPTIBLE PERSONALITY TYPES* ISFP and 'ESFP' (+ESFJ; Amber Heard) personality types are just as evil as narcissits! They are narcissit-friendly and have little control over their pointless mind - especially at the worst possible time! ESFP tend to be unapologetically stubborn-anything to avoid getting "upset" despite ALWAYS being 'emotionally-disturbed' (secretly; malicious-emotions is hidden just beneath the surface). They both unconsciously believe that other people exist to serve and be consumed by them-like a drug. All to balance the unstable chemicals in their brain responsible for emotions. The [ISFP] 'secrecy'/suspicious, introverted behaviour makes them try to remain convert - this manifests as a hidden [unintelligent] threat for other people later on (as when spotted and contacted by a narcissit, they will quickly comply as they have little emotional-resiliency and humanity). ISFP/ESFP embody what it means to be 'diabolically-unintelligent'! "Better you than me". A typical closet belief of the former. Worsened by ESFJ psychological-rape. Sad fact, Judas-Iscariot was definitely one of them (ISFP). His little humanity and small intelligence, resulted in the diabolical imbecile intentionally 'throwing Jesus under the bus' in a "moment of emotional vulnerability" (typical, whiney ISFP excuse) - only to end up regretting what he's done by the time he comes back to what little sanity he initially had. When I psychoanalyse this overgrown-fetus, I realize that he had a covert, malicious-jealousy complex, and was secretly emotionally-disturbed, and highly prone to 'oblivious-codependency' (look it up, that is classic ISFP psychology, which explains how r-tarded they really are. Education only helps them hide how intellectually-immature they really are). If your life was in danger, the more dire the situation is, you'd be better off making sure that the nearby ISFP/ESFP in the group is dead! This will maximize the likelihood of the group success/escape, as the ISFP cannot be trusted! They will likely do something r-tarded at the worst possible moment-getting themselves and everyone else killed (or the ISFP might panic and push a teammate under the bus as the ISFP feared getting sacrificed first- inexcusable, particularly since they ARE the threat, them and other narcissits _(ESFJ/ESFP are synonymous with cluster-b)._ These r-tards actually empower narcissits, especially during elections and for typically r-tarded reasons/motives). Anyway, ISFP/ESFP have little to no humanity (as an 'instinct'), and they are delusional [oblivious-codependent] and have difficulty understanding themselves (which says a lot about their intelligence), i.e. they have difficulty even recognizing their own emotions! Plus they often suppress it (too narcissitic to bother processing it). They really are walking, overgrown-fetuses- failed human beings! I bet Adam and especially Eve in the Bible were ISFP! They also typically have difficulty recognising evil and are often in relationships with narcissits! And then the ISFP will breed more victims into the toxic, tortuous relationship!
The person becomes unimportant. Which they earned. No need to put anymore energy into that person, including erasing name from memory bank. Taking up valuable space.
It takes a lot to get me to slam the door, but as soon as the lock catches, it’s permanently locked. Once I’m done, I’m done - period, end of story, goodbye.
One thing which I have experienced myself, is that although we cut people off who have betrayed us, we still hold true to our obligations where possible. I have recently had to cut off two people, but still must fulfill my obligations to them. Once I have though, then the contact will be done. I wont have any desire to contact them again.
I door slammed someone once in my life. Although I wouldn't refer to it as a slam, a door slam sounds more like a spontaneous overreaction to me. I would say I quietly walked away without looking back. We don't do that easily. Once the "door" is closed, it won't open easily again. It's not like people ignoring or ghosting someone for a period of time. It is carefully considered. It isn't an abrupt decision but a result from someone pushing my boundaries a million times or deeply hurting me. I am actually thinking about door slamming my brother for months At the moment I just cut him off emotionally without him even realising it. I don't want to do it and I won't if it's not absolutely necessary. For now I am waiting. But I am sensing that it wouldn't take a lot from him anymore for the door to close.
So true. I have slammed quite a few doors in my time. I reversed two of them when under the influence of antidepressants which made me feel that they deserved a second chance. They didn't. One slammed the door back on me and the other didn't get further than being just a Facebook friend because things just didn't take off again. Antidepressants can give you a sense of faith and positivity in people that isn't real.
Sometimes it's very draining to see arguements in shades of grey. Slamming the door is when you stop investing all of that energy into trying to see all sides and emotions. it doesn't matter if you feel guilty or betrayed, you just want it to be over. I found myself saying I truly believed we could work through things at the start of the week where I door slammed my ex after 3 months of putting up with an emotionally draining relationship, and it happened because of an arguement that pushed me over the edge.
I make sure to warn people early on in the relationship and bring this topic up frequently, so when I do door slam them they can't say that I never warned them
As an INFJ, I did this door-slamming, too. She WAS a friend of mine. We sometimes bumped into each other at school but I’ll just look at her then walk away or pass by her like I don’t know her. I mean what’s the point of keeping her anyway?
I am an INFJ and after a 10 year intense relationship I had to 🤬 slam the door shut on a narcissist who cheated and betrayed me so badly. He since past away but the hurt and resentment is still with me. It’s now 15 years and I have still not given anyone an inch of space to get close to me again
Definitely not more frequent because it is the last resort and it is thought through thousands times before the door is slammed. If slammed, it's slammed for at least one life time. Doorslams cannot be frequent, that's just ghosting which all types do.
I disagree...doorslams can be frequent. If you've given many opportunities to many people , exhausted all forms and feel the need to cut those out of your life...doorslams can be as often as necessary. An Infj knows if that relationship has reached its limits or is beyond repair.Ghosting is a temporary leave of absence that leaves an opportunity open, door slams are permanent. I never ghost, I cut people completely out and I've done it often.
@@JT-gm4fk That is possible in theory but contradictory in reality. Doorslams can happen only to close relationships because only the close ones can hurt deep and push you to doorslam. And close relationships resulting from the level of energy spent by INFJs, especially when they are easily drained by socializing, means directly there would not be "many". The more relationships you manage, the less likely those relationships are close and the doorslam has the opportunity to take place. Doorslams are also done by immature INFJs who need to learn to set boundaries, because the lack of boundaries causes INFJs to bottle up too many grudges and forces the doorslam to be the last resort. If one had "many" doorslams, it may indicate extreme immaturity by not setting boundaries at all, or those relationships were superficial enough to easily "doorslam". I.e. either extreme immaturity or shallow relationships. You don't need to be an INFJ to have these.
dk why people use the term door slam when infj never slams anything in anyone's face, the word ghosting would be much more appropriate. Because they just disappeared & nvr came back..
Never reopen a door. It’s foolish to try and rebuild a betrayed trust. The true colors were shown. Leave kindly and calmly. Emotional outbursts are so unnecessary. I thanked my betrayer for being him, he had some good qualities, and then blocked the crap out of him. See Ya
A Sigma INFJ who is spiritual or who has a strong moral compass can identify swearing as one of the most toxic behaviors to be around. Causing an INFJ to become more isolated, because it's difficult to watch or listen to swearing in movies, be around people who use swear words as every other word in a sentence, and is especially difficult those who use swearing in the most light-minded manner. In other words, when listening to somebody swear, you're listening to shallowness, and when an INFJ has to listen to shallowness, it depletes the light within the INFJ, as well as a person who speaks with such shallowness. When people use a lot of swearing, it reveals the immaturity of that person, and it is most difficult to watch an adult who should be mature, reveal their true colors and shows their shallowness through their swearing. It's absolutely painful, not only visually, but emotionally, it's just cringy.
Yes we walk away… at least I do… if I have to “fight” and resolve the issue I would walk away and calm myself down and collect my thoughts before I go to “battle”…. The door slam I have done to a lot people… I keep my circle of friends and family tight and very close… I am happier this way… recently I have slammed a few doors on some family members who were seeping toxic vibes and they were hurting my parents emotionally… no one disrespects My parents… I’d be better off without them… toxicity amongst family members are the worst…😢
*COMPLICIT TO EVIL; HIGHLY CORRUPTIBLE PERSONALITY TYPES* ISFP and 'ESFP' (+ESFJ; Amber Heard) personality types are just as evil as narcissits! They are narcissit-friendly and have little control over their pointless mind - especially at the worst possible time! ESFP tend to be unapologetically stubborn-anything to avoid getting "upset" despite ALWAYS being 'emotionally-disturbed' (secretly; malicious-emotions is hidden just beneath the surface). They both unconsciously believe that other people exist to serve and be consumed by them-like a drug. All to balance the unstable chemicals in their brain responsible for emotions. The [ISFP] 'secrecy'/suspicious, introverted behaviour makes them try to remain convert - this manifests as a hidden [unintelligent] threat for other people later on (as when spotted and contacted by a narcissit, they will quickly comply as they have little emotional-resiliency and humanity). ISFP/ESFP embody what it means to be 'diabolically-unintelligent'! "Better you than me". A typical closet belief of the former. Worsened by ESFJ psychological-rape. Sad fact, Judas-Iscariot was definitely one of them (ISFP). His little humanity and small intelligence, resulted in the diabolical imbecile intentionally 'throwing Jesus under the bus' in a "moment of emotional vulnerability" (typical, whiney ISFP excuse) - only to end up regretting what he's done by the time he comes back to what little sanity he initially had. When I psychoanalyse this overgrown-fetus, I realize that he had a covert, malicious-jealousy complex, and was secretly emotionally-disturbed, and highly prone to 'oblivious-codependency' (look it up, that is classic ISFP psychology, which explains how r-tarded they really are. Education only helps them hide how intellectually-immature they really are). If your life was in danger, the more dire the situation is, you'd be better off making sure that the nearby ISFP/ESFP in the group is dead! This will maximize the likelihood of the group success/escape, as the ISFP cannot be trusted! They will likely do something r-tarded at the worst possible moment-getting themselves and everyone else killed (or the ISFP might panic and push a teammate under the bus as the ISFP feared getting sacrificed first- inexcusable, particularly since they ARE the threat, them and other narcissits _(ESFJ/ESFP are synonymous with cluster-b)._ These r-tards actually empower narcissits, especially during elections and for typically r-tarded reasons/motives). Anyway, ISFP/ESFP have little to no humanity (as an 'instinct'), and they are delusional [oblivious-codependent] and have difficulty understanding themselves (which says a lot about their intelligence), i.e. they have difficulty even recognizing their own emotions! Plus they often suppress it (too narcissitic to bother processing it). They really are walking, overgrown-fetuses- failed human beings! I bet Adam and especially Eve in the Bible were ISFP! They also typically have difficulty recognising evil and are often in relationships with narcissits! And then the ISFP will breed more victims into the toxic, tortuous relationship!
Agreed. Also... Please research 'narcissitic personality disorder' (NPD) / 'cluster-B'; and know that they are the 'root of all evil' (especially 'ESFJ/ESTJ-narcissits'; Myers-Briggs reference, look it up)! European 'ESFJ' are the worst personality type, and they are responsible for inventing 'racism' and colonization! It is in their neuro-psychology!! The are extremely 'manipulative' and often use 'looking pretty' to distract others from the witch's mind-games / mind-rape, e.g. gaslighting, playing the victim or damsel in distress, creating 'flying-monkeys', and paying others to attack (or at times kill) someone for her. When caught, she will use her minions as scapegoats. European ESFJ are notorious for this especially in a racist context, e.g. Elliott Till. ISFP (and ESFP) are the most complicit, narcissitic-enablers. ISFP also tend to be 'oblivious-codependants' (look up the definition). SUMMARY: Evil personality: ESFJ, ESTJ [Secretly] Evil and narcissit-friendly gunts/flying-monkey: ISFP, ESFP. ☝️All of them are secretly emotionally-disturbed, hence their need to create conflict (and at other people's expense, truly evil). Spread the word! Thank you. ___________ #Save_Soil
I'm an INFJ too and I don't see how an INFJ can be lonely??? We enjoy our own company the most....no drama, no manipulation, no emotional drainage it's just us appreciating our gifts in silence....why feel lonely????
You may not be an INFJ truly. One of the most important things to us is our inner world and our peace. We love being alone, and although we crave deep, meaningful connections with others, it’s still rare to find people that can entertain me more than I entertain myself. We enjoy our own company to the point where loneliness is usually never a problem!
Most unfortunately; I've had to cut off my daughter. My first born child. That hurts more than anything I've ever experienced. I put the blame squarely on the shoulders of the self righteous jerk she chose as a spouse. He corrupted her logical thought processes. My ex assaulted me, put me in the hospital, and it was an unwarranted physical assault. She was NOT defending herself. I'm not an initiator of violence. I abhor violence. I did not even see the attack coming. Fortunately, my son prevented further violence. But my daughter, who was not there; was influenced by the narcissistic personality that was responsible for my abuse. I've slammed the door. It will open again for her!, but for her spouse it is forever closed. I'm OK with the consequences.
me personally as an INFJ-T i take things vary seriously and i have done the "door slam" on 2 people known them for about 30 years they did something absolutely unforgivable and i unfortunatly have to talk to them occationally but any face with with them is literally impossible i have a strong control on my emotions but they make me want to lose control but i wont because well its pointless and i know of a better way to deal with them and its working perfectly the 2 people i have to deal with are 100% pure narcissist's and it makes them so mad im not talking to them because they know what they did and they think its no big deal and that it was completely ok to do so so i completely cut them out of my life and i have told my friends that know that unless they admit their wrong doing i don't want to see them till their on their death bed may sound harsh to many but to me its completely justifiable for what they did
Oh I'm slamming doors! For instance, after 20 years I walked out on my husband with all of our things while he was at work. Never to speak to him again. And I'll tell you he did not see it coming. He didn't see it coming because of my nature because it's something he could never believe I would do.
Storytime about door slamming my best friend: There's someone who I've known for twelve years (was my best friend until recently) that I door slammed about four months ago. I blocked her account from all of my accounts and I haven't had a conversation with her since. Legit we were so close it made people uncomfortable sometimes. That's what twelve years of friendship since childhood can do. But honestly, I'm unfazed by the door slam. As many INFJs say online, you don't hate them, you nothing them. What makes me angry though is that she's going to everyone around us (they tell me) asking what happened between us and saying she's so concerned about me. Yet we still have to see each other at least once a week, and when we do, she never address things with me. I tried addressing things before the door slam, but she got defensive. That's why I door slammed her. If she doesn't want to fix things and put in effort, I don't want this relationship. But now she's apparently concerned. Until she takes action herself and addresses the problem with me directly, the door shall stay slammed. Communication is key, everyone. p.s. I'm an INFJ and she's an INFP. So if ya'll have advice please let me know.
We associate pain with the person’s presence. We give a lot of chances to the point that we appear silly or stupid. We will also remove anything associated with them.
Also, an INFJ is very forgiving however, after while it becomes draining so an INFJ will nicely remove themselves from that toxic behavior. INFJ forgives other 98% of the time.
Admittedly, I’ve door slams more than a few times. I only regret one. I’m debating with myself right now about emotionally walking away from a long term relationship.
My infj man slammed the door on me because he was convinced I still had emotional ties and possibly physically intimate/romantic stuff going on with my ex. He blocked me for 2 months and I thought we were over. It left me hurt and confused. He did re open the door , but now I'm feeling insecure, I wish he could trust me. How can I built on trust with him?
A relationship without trust is a ticking time bomb. You shouldn’t feel like you’re walking on eggshells. If he’s not communicating or is unable to communicate exactly what he needs from you to make your ex is a non issue… then I would leave him alone. He’s either projecting (he had something going on with someone else) or manipulating (doesn’t want you but doesn’t want anyone to have you either) The way you’re describing the relationship, it seems as if he’s sitting back and expecting you to jump through invisible hoops to prove yourself. He has to be just as much of an active participant in the relationship as you are. You deserve better; it doesn’t matter what someone’s personality type is no one has the right to string someone along.
Second the person itself is distrustful due to the nature of higher feeling and perception of those closest. This leads to higher sensitivities and detection of emotions external and internal. If this person has any types of ptsd commonly caused by any form of abuse consistently/ constantly in the environment which if a male INFJ they will be in a constant fight between two very different selves. No excuses but I can see it if they get a memory that is too much and must be processed.
My suggestion is just endeavor to show them your true, authentic self. If it was a mistake you made that’s one thing- but if you intentionally hurt or betrayed them then it’s best just to move on. It’s most likely over for good, period.
That doesn't sound like an INFJ to be honest. INFJ has high moral value and dominant on the Ni function which process logic before their Fe. We tend to find out the truth with evidence before accusing someone of their actions. If you truly did something that betrayed an INFJ, the slammed door will never be open. If you didn't do it, the INFJ won't accuse you. Even if he did, his moral compass will make him feel guilty of doing that and apologise to you. Even if the INFJ has the worst day, their moral value compass will never allow them to act in such ways towards another person. You need to settle down with him and talk it out why is he experiencing it that way. Trust is built in yourself, do you trust yourself enough to not be treated this way in a relationship? What are the boundary and rule would you set to prevent such behavior from happening in the future? What would you do if it happens? You can create the trust within you without expecting someone to behave in a way that feel safe and trustworthy to engage in but to disassociate when he is not showing it.
Wow. This is so true. I will slam the door then bolt it down and block it to never open it until the person who hurt me gives me a detailed apology. A simple “I am sorry” won’t do it. I need an explanation of “I am sorry for” X,Y,Z.
Thank you! "I am sorry" won't cut it anymore! A detailed apology always gave me the feeling that the person is REALLY sorry and not just apologizing to get over a argument quickly
@@brainwatched You are you. Great to know that others are this way because most people say my standards are too high. In my mind it is the bare minimum. Anyone can say I am sorry, the real deal is, when someone can explain the pain they caused, that means they put some thought into it.
@@Alex-vc5dr Agreed. Also... Please research 'narcissitic personality disorder' (NPD) / 'cluster-B'; and know that they are the 'root of all evil' (especially 'ESFJ/ESTJ-narcissits'; Myers-Briggs reference, look it up)! European 'ESFJ' are the worst personality type, and they are responsible for inventing 'racism' and colonization! It is in their neuro-psychology!! The are extremely 'manipulative' and often use 'looking pretty' to distract others from the witch's mind-games / mind-rape, e.g. gaslighting, playing the victim or damsel in distress, creating 'flying-monkeys', and paying others to attack (or at times kill) someone for her. When caught, she will use her minions as scapegoats. European ESFJ are notorious for this especially in a racist context, e.g. Elliott Till. ISFP (and ESFP) are the most complicit, narcissitic-enablers. ISFP also tend to be 'oblivious-codependants' (look up the definition). SUMMARY: Evil personality: ESFJ, ESTJ [Secretly] Evil and narcissit-friendly gunts/flying-monkey: ISFP, ESFP. ☝️All of them are secretly emotionally-disturbed, hence their need to create conflict (and at other people's expense, truly evil). Spread the word! Thank you. ___________ #Save_Soil
@@Alex-vc5dr *COMPLICIT TO EVIL; HIGHLY CORRUPTIBLE PERSONALITY TYPES* ISFP and 'ESFP' (+ESFJ; Amber Heard) personality types are just as evil as narcissits! They are narcissit-friendly and have little control over their pointless mind - especially at the worst possible time! ESFP tend to be unapologetically stubborn-anything to avoid getting "upset" despite ALWAYS being 'emotionally-disturbed' (secretly; malicious-emotions is hidden just beneath the surface). They both unconsciously believe that other people exist to serve and be consumed by them-like a drug. All to balance the unstable chemicals in their brain responsible for emotions. The [ISFP] 'secrecy'/suspicious, introverted behaviour makes them try to remain convert - this manifests as a hidden [unintelligent] threat for other people later on (as when spotted and contacted by a narcissit, they will quickly comply as they have little emotional-resiliency and humanity). ISFP/ESFP embody what it means to be 'diabolically-unintelligent'! "Better you than me". A typical closet belief of the former. Worsened by ESFJ psychological-rape. Sad fact, Judas-Iscariot was definitely one of them (ISFP). His little humanity and small intelligence, resulted in the diabolical imbecile intentionally 'throwing Jesus under the bus' in a "moment of emotional vulnerability" (typical, whiney ISFP excuse) - only to end up regretting what he's done by the time he comes back to what little sanity he initially had. When I psychoanalyse this overgrown-fetus, I realize that he had a covert, malicious-jealousy complex, and was secretly emotionally-disturbed, and highly prone to 'oblivious-codependency' (look it up, that is classic ISFP psychology, which explains how r-tarded they really are. Education only helps them hide how intellectually-immature they really are). If your life was in danger, the more dire the situation is, you'd be better off making sure that the nearby ISFP/ESFP in the group is dead! This will maximize the likelihood of the group success/escape, as the ISFP cannot be trusted! They will likely do something r-tarded at the worst possible moment-getting themselves and everyone else killed (or the ISFP might panic and push a teammate under the bus as the ISFP feared getting sacrificed first- inexcusable, particularly since they ARE the threat, them and other narcissits _(ESFJ/ESFP are synonymous with cluster-b)._ These r-tards actually empower narcissits, especially during elections and for typically r-tarded reasons/motives). Anyway, ISFP/ESFP have little to no humanity (as an 'instinct'), and they are delusional [oblivious-codependent] and have difficulty understanding themselves (which says a lot about their intelligence), i.e. they have difficulty even recognizing their own emotions! Plus they often suppress it (too narcissitic to bother processing it). They really are walking, overgrown-fetuses- failed human beings! I bet Adam and especially Eve in the Bible were ISFP! They also typically have difficulty recognising evil and are often in relationships with narcissits! And then the ISFP will breed more victims into the toxic, tortuous relationship!
You are making trouble when there isn’t any I didn’t slam the door on anyone yes I have ghosted a couple beta minions but the game is cutthroat if someone betrays you they will get it back but not out of revenge but because no one is perfect and the journey is so much worth it so your opinion is invalid and false ask me first before you try and get me in pointless trouble I am savvy charismatic innovative and strategic I know what I am dealing with and it’s definitely not you
Matthew 16:18 King James Version 18 And I say also unto thee, That thou art Peter, and upon this rock I will build my church; and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it. Talk about an INFJ door slam? Wait for it. Evil people will feel the fire of the blade Piercing their hearts and minds. Turning from their wicked ways. Reverse door slam!
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As an INFJ who has "slammed the door" a number of times, I have to say that I am not comfortable with the term "door slam." "Slam" sounds like an act of hostility. For me, I've never felt like I was slamming a door. It's more like quietly walking away. I'd rather it be called "the walk-away."
That's true. It's not even about hatred. It's about breaking free from the emotional anguish and energy drain that we experience from such people.
Haha, much better
THAT DOES SOUND BETTER.. I LIKE TO SAY DAVID COPPERFIELD THEIR 🤬 .
NOW THEY SEE ME NOW THEY NOR I DO NOT EXSIT 😎
Prefer this one... Or the "memory flash" because when I "slam the door", the person no longer exists
Yes, I agree.
Yep, I'm an INFJ and have been very guilty of the door slam throughout my life. Once it's done, it's done. FOREVER.
A door slam is never fully reversed. You might be allowed in again, but not all the way in to the same extent.
Precisely. We got several doors which lead to our hearts. We'll send u to the beginning. You'll be lucky if u get us to open the first door. But the last door? Na. It's done. Never again.
Other people don’t understand how tremendously painful betrayal is.
I think everyone understands it to a certain degree, but no one feels it like we do. We do everything EXTRA. 😂😂
We`re naturally dark psychologists. The door slam and treating them like nothing comes naturally to us. It causes the other person to ponder and seek our validation which we don`t give. It's quite satisfying. You should try it.
omg I love this comment. I whole heartedly agree 😌
This more like narcisstic behaviour . Who tends to enjoy torturing people's soul and sanity . Defenitely not Infj .
@@johnrobert385mm Well, I`m INFJ either way so woopti doo
@@johnrobert385mmt's called our shadow. If you do not wish to feel like crap after we show you a reflection of yourself, feel free to do better for the rest of your life :) you can learn the easy way or the hard way. And everybody learns the hard way
@@jayluna620 i am laughing at your badass ness
Oh, man... Spot on! I'm a classic door-slammer. I would "un-slam" if the other party made a heroic effort to repair the broken trust, but that's never happened. So I'm happy to have just a few trusted people in the inner rungs around my heart.
A door slam will not be used unless it is necessary. If it is necessary it is like burning a bridge. It is gone and meant to be permanent.
I'm an INFJ. A few weeks ago, I found out my gf was and still is cheating on me and I was planning on doing a similar thing, and I've methodically arranging a full move out early next month while she works and cut all ties with her.
I'm faking that everything is still ok, it hurts like hell keeping the pain inside, but I know it's for the better. Maybe she'll be happy with me out of her life, but if not, sadly I won't be there for her anymore, nevermore.
Thanks for making me realized I'm right about all of this.
Hope you heal!!
*COMPLICIT TO EVIL; HIGHLY CORRUPTIBLE PERSONALITY TYPES*
ISFP and 'ESFP' (+ESFJ; Amber Heard) personality types are just as evil as narcissits! They are narcissit-friendly and have little control over their pointless mind - especially at the worst possible time! ESFP tend to be unapologetically stubborn-anything to avoid getting "upset" despite ALWAYS being 'emotionally-disturbed' (secretly; malicious-emotions is hidden just beneath the surface). They both unconsciously believe that other people exist to serve and be consumed by them-like a drug. All to balance the unstable chemicals in their brain responsible for emotions.
The [ISFP] 'secrecy'/suspicious, introverted behaviour makes them try to remain convert - this manifests as a hidden [unintelligent] threat for other people later on (as when spotted and contacted by a narcissit, they will quickly comply as they have little emotional-resiliency and humanity).
ISFP/ESFP embody what it means to be 'diabolically-unintelligent'! "Better you than me". A typical closet belief of the former. Worsened by ESFJ psychological-rape.
Sad fact, Judas-Iscariot was definitely one of them (ISFP). His little humanity and small intelligence, resulted in the diabolical imbecile intentionally 'throwing Jesus under the bus' in a "moment of emotional vulnerability" (typical, whiney ISFP excuse) - only to end up regretting what he's done by the time he comes back to what little sanity he initially had. When I psychoanalyse this overgrown-fetus, I realize that he had a covert, malicious-jealousy complex, and was secretly emotionally-disturbed, and highly prone to 'oblivious-codependency' (look it up, that is classic ISFP psychology, which explains how r-tarded they really are. Education only helps them hide how intellectually-immature they really are).
If your life was in danger, the more dire the situation is, you'd be better off making sure that the nearby ISFP/ESFP in the group is dead! This will maximize the likelihood of the group success/escape, as the ISFP cannot be trusted! They will likely do something r-tarded at the worst possible moment-getting themselves and everyone else killed (or the ISFP might panic and push a teammate under the bus as the ISFP feared getting sacrificed first- inexcusable, particularly since they ARE the threat, them and other narcissits _(ESFJ/ESFP are synonymous with cluster-b)._ These r-tards actually empower narcissits, especially during elections and for typically r-tarded reasons/motives).
Anyway, ISFP/ESFP have little to no humanity (as an 'instinct'), and they are delusional [oblivious-codependent] and have difficulty understanding themselves (which says a lot about their intelligence), i.e. they have difficulty even recognizing their own emotions! Plus they often suppress it (too narcissitic to bother processing it). They really are walking, overgrown-fetuses- failed human beings! I bet Adam and especially Eve in the Bible were ISFP!
They also typically have difficulty recognising evil and are often in relationships with narcissits! And then the ISFP will breed more victims into the toxic, tortuous relationship!
Agreed.
Also... Please research 'narcissitic personality disorder' (NPD) / 'cluster-B'; and know that they are the 'root of all evil' (especially 'ESFJ/ESTJ-narcissits'; Myers-Briggs reference, look it up)!
European 'ESFJ' are the worst personality type, and they are responsible for inventing 'racism' and colonization! It is in their neuro-psychology!!
The are extremely 'manipulative' and often use 'looking pretty' to distract others from the witch's mind-games / mind-rape, e.g. gaslighting, playing the victim or damsel in distress, creating 'flying-monkeys', and paying others to attack (or at times kill) someone for her. When caught, she will use her minions as scapegoats. European ESFJ are notorious for this especially in a racist context, e.g. Elliott Till.
ISFP (and ESFP) are the most complicit, narcissitic-enablers. ISFP also tend to be 'oblivious-codependants' (look up the definition).
SUMMARY:
Evil personality: ESFJ, ESTJ
[Secretly] Evil and narcissit-friendly gunts/flying-monkey: ISFP, ESFP.
☝️All of them are secretly emotionally-disturbed, hence their need to create conflict (and at other people's expense, truly evil).
Spread the word! Thank you.
___________
#Save_Soil
Then you are better off without her ! Why stay with a cheater , madness !
I'm an INFJ and I did exactly the same thing in the past... It will get better, and going no contact or "slam the door" was the best thing for me to heal faster, so I hope it will work for you too. Sending love and healing vibes
As a 60 year old INFJ male I can tell you that reopening a slammed door is almost always a guaranteed recipy for a nasty repeat. Unless it, as mentioned, concerns a family member. In that case it's wiser to reduce interaction as much as possible. It's very important to realize that most toxic and needy people already have a track record of being shunned. Especially people with personality disorders such as NPD and BPD can't resist to interpret the INFJ's empathy, attention and concern as a validation and justification for their warped sense of self. You cannot help them. In fact, the more you give them the worse they get. Unfortunately this is a trial in error dynamic. So, stay sceptical, use your intuition and common sense, and try not to waste your light on black holes. Never feel guilty for doorslamming. Just regret that you didn't do it sooner :-)
I'm an INFJ-A, I have never reversed a door slam. They are never sudden, they are always a long time coming too.
The only things that piss my off are disloyalty, betrayal, and treating animals poorly. Those are my top three. I can handle a lot of stuff, but betrayal really gets to me. It is extremely hard to forgive, but I have learned that forgiveness is not done for the other persons benefit, it is done for your own wellbeing. I hate the idea of cutting off all contact, but I will do it if necessary.
I tried to once, but ended up not being able to reopen like I thought I could. It is almost impossible to reopen. I tried, but it just wasn't possible.
INFJ's are born to be kings and queens... rulers. When there were less people on earth, they indeed were. Now we find ourselves in a terrible situation where the descendants(very apt word) of the original INFJ's , most of whom are less suited for such positions have inherited the wealth and power,. Now the INFJ lives in an intentional system made to keep them out of power. The narcissists have taken over and I don't know what to do about it. I have felt so frustrated for the longest time(grip stress). I wonder if anybody can grasp what I am saying.
Kind of, but I don't give my power away like that anymore. The narcs who cross me are all getting beheaded. I'm collecting skulls.
Yes that is the wider societal situation. WHERE IS MY LOST KINGDOM! Denaris lol
Yes this is a very obvious fact.
The like button is the i understand you button
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When you can't fix: stupid, mean, selfish or ignorant, it's time to move on without them. Time never fixes those kinds of personality deficits, and that's why walking away is extremely necessary....for my own peace of mind and sanity.....
Well said!
Once you know how to employ boundaries and you see how instantly it drains the shitty people away from your day to day life, you'll never wanna stop. Reduction is addictive, too.
For me the door slam is permanent. I do not know if I have ever let someone back in. No, I have and they got the door slammed back on them again because they were truly toxic. Sadly, I have even slammed the door on a Psychologist. They betrayed me and so cut them off and went somewhere else....lol. Sad, but true. I do not take betrayal....at all.
Once someone has betrayed me and or otherwise lost my trust and/or respect they have never gotten it back. Any and all trust and respect is gone, non retrievable. I have never regretted closing the door on someone, only not doing it sooner.
I've door slammed. You do cut your authentic inner world off from the person you door slammed.
The first thing I've noticed about myself when someone has hurt me beyond repair is I forget their name, it's always the first to happen. It's not like I intend to do so it just happens, just was reflecting on myself and noticed the pattern.
Agreed.
Also... Please research 'narcissitic personality disorder' (NPD) / 'cluster-B'; and know that they are the 'root of all evil' (especially 'ESFJ/ESTJ-narcissits'; Myers-Briggs reference, look it up)!
European 'ESFJ' are the worst personality type, and they are responsible for inventing 'racism' and colonization! It is in their neuro-psychology!!
The are extremely 'manipulative' and often use 'looking pretty' to distract others from the witch's mind-games / mind-rape, e.g. gaslighting, playing the victim or damsel in distress, creating 'flying-monkeys', and paying others to attack (or at times kill) someone for her. When caught, she will use her minions as scapegoats. European ESFJ are notorious for this especially in a racist context, e.g. Elliott Till.
ISFP (and ESFP) are the most complicit, narcissitic-enablers. ISFP also tend to be 'oblivious-codependants' (look up the definition).
SUMMARY:
Evil personality: ESFJ, ESTJ
[Secretly] Evil and narcissit-friendly gunts/flying-monkey: ISFP, ESFP.
☝️All of them are secretly emotionally-disturbed, hence their need to create conflict (and at other people's expense, truly evil).
Spread the word! Thank you.
___________
#Save_Soil
*COMPLICIT TO EVIL; HIGHLY CORRUPTIBLE PERSONALITY TYPES*
ISFP and 'ESFP' (+ESFJ; Amber Heard) personality types are just as evil as narcissits! They are narcissit-friendly and have little control over their pointless mind - especially at the worst possible time! ESFP tend to be unapologetically stubborn-anything to avoid getting "upset" despite ALWAYS being 'emotionally-disturbed' (secretly; malicious-emotions is hidden just beneath the surface). They both unconsciously believe that other people exist to serve and be consumed by them-like a drug. All to balance the unstable chemicals in their brain responsible for emotions.
The [ISFP] 'secrecy'/suspicious, introverted behaviour makes them try to remain convert - this manifests as a hidden [unintelligent] threat for other people later on (as when spotted and contacted by a narcissit, they will quickly comply as they have little emotional-resiliency and humanity).
ISFP/ESFP embody what it means to be 'diabolically-unintelligent'! "Better you than me". A typical closet belief of the former. Worsened by ESFJ psychological-rape.
Sad fact, Judas-Iscariot was definitely one of them (ISFP). His little humanity and small intelligence, resulted in the diabolical imbecile intentionally 'throwing Jesus under the bus' in a "moment of emotional vulnerability" (typical, whiney ISFP excuse) - only to end up regretting what he's done by the time he comes back to what little sanity he initially had. When I psychoanalyse this overgrown-fetus, I realize that he had a covert, malicious-jealousy complex, and was secretly emotionally-disturbed, and highly prone to 'oblivious-codependency' (look it up, that is classic ISFP psychology, which explains how r-tarded they really are. Education only helps them hide how intellectually-immature they really are).
If your life was in danger, the more dire the situation is, you'd be better off making sure that the nearby ISFP/ESFP in the group is dead! This will maximize the likelihood of the group success/escape, as the ISFP cannot be trusted! They will likely do something r-tarded at the worst possible moment-getting themselves and everyone else killed (or the ISFP might panic and push a teammate under the bus as the ISFP feared getting sacrificed first- inexcusable, particularly since they ARE the threat, them and other narcissits _(ESFJ/ESFP are synonymous with cluster-b)._ These r-tards actually empower narcissits, especially during elections and for typically r-tarded reasons/motives).
Anyway, ISFP/ESFP have little to no humanity (as an 'instinct'), and they are delusional [oblivious-codependent] and have difficulty understanding themselves (which says a lot about their intelligence), i.e. they have difficulty even recognizing their own emotions! Plus they often suppress it (too narcissitic to bother processing it). They really are walking, overgrown-fetuses- failed human beings! I bet Adam and especially Eve in the Bible were ISFP!
They also typically have difficulty recognising evil and are often in relationships with narcissits! And then the ISFP will breed more victims into the toxic, tortuous relationship!
Ha! same 😅
The person becomes unimportant. Which they earned. No need to put anymore energy into that person, including erasing name from memory bank. Taking up valuable space.
The door slams for a reason.... It's locked
It takes a lot to get me to slam the door, but as soon as the lock catches, it’s permanently locked. Once I’m done, I’m done - period, end of story, goodbye.
One thing which I have experienced myself, is that although we cut people off who have betrayed us, we still hold true to our obligations where possible. I have recently had to cut off two people, but still must fulfill my obligations to them. Once I have though, then the contact will be done. I wont have any desire to contact them again.
I door slammed someone once in my life. Although I wouldn't refer to it as a slam, a door slam sounds more like a spontaneous overreaction to me. I would say I quietly walked away without looking back. We don't do that easily. Once the "door" is closed, it won't open easily again. It's not like people ignoring or ghosting someone for a period of time. It is carefully considered. It isn't an abrupt decision but a result from someone pushing my boundaries a million times or deeply hurting me. I am actually thinking about door slamming my brother for months
At the moment I just cut him off emotionally without him even realising it. I don't want to do it and I won't if it's not absolutely necessary. For now I am waiting. But I am sensing that it wouldn't take a lot from him anymore for the door to close.
My brother drained me financially while treating me like dog$***. It's been 13 years. I answer "NO" when people ask if I have family.
So true. I have slammed quite a few doors in my time. I reversed two of them when under the influence of antidepressants which made me feel that they deserved a second chance. They didn't. One slammed the door back on me and the other didn't get further than being just a Facebook friend because things just didn't take off again. Antidepressants can give you a sense of faith and positivity in people that isn't real.
That's why I quit the anti-depressants.
@@kahlodiego5299 yep, never again.
@@helenayamez At least while my life was going to shit I was helping support big pharma! God bless capitalism.
I agree. They crush your creativity and erase your boundaries. They have some serious work to do on those crappy antidepressants!
@@patriciagootgeld9273 yes! They should only be used for a short period to help people when in crisis before they start talking therapies.
Sometimes it's very draining to see arguements in shades of grey. Slamming the door is when you stop investing all of that energy into trying to see all sides and emotions. it doesn't matter if you feel guilty or betrayed, you just want it to be over. I found myself saying I truly believed we could work through things at the start of the week where I door slammed my ex after 3 months of putting up with an emotionally draining relationship, and it happened because of an arguement that pushed me over the edge.
I make sure to warn people early on in the relationship and bring this topic up frequently, so when I do door slam them they can't say that I never warned them
As an INFJ, I did this door-slamming, too. She WAS a friend of mine. We sometimes bumped into each other at school but I’ll just look at her then walk away or pass by her like I don’t know her. I mean what’s the point of keeping her anyway?
I am an INFJ and after a 10 year intense relationship I had to 🤬 slam the door shut on a narcissist who cheated and betrayed me so badly. He since past away but the hurt and resentment is still with me. It’s now 15 years and I have still not given anyone an inch of space to get close to me again
Same here. I ever dreamt of the dead person but my whole body and mind wished him dead and questioned why he came back alive. Lucky it was a dream.
Definitely not more frequent because it is the last resort and it is thought through thousands times before the door is slammed. If slammed, it's slammed for at least one life time. Doorslams cannot be frequent, that's just ghosting which all types do.
I disagree...doorslams can be frequent. If you've given many opportunities to many people , exhausted all forms and feel the need to cut those out of your life...doorslams can be as often as necessary. An Infj knows if that relationship has reached its limits or is beyond repair.Ghosting is a temporary leave of absence that leaves an opportunity open, door slams are permanent. I never ghost, I cut people completely out and I've done it often.
@@JT-gm4fk That is possible in theory but contradictory in reality. Doorslams can happen only to close relationships because only the close ones can hurt deep and push you to doorslam. And close relationships resulting from the level of energy spent by INFJs, especially when they are easily drained by socializing, means directly there would not be "many". The more relationships you manage, the less likely those relationships are close and the doorslam has the opportunity to take place.
Doorslams are also done by immature INFJs who need to learn to set boundaries, because the lack of boundaries causes INFJs to bottle up too many grudges and forces the doorslam to be the last resort.
If one had "many" doorslams, it may indicate extreme immaturity by not setting boundaries at all, or those relationships were superficial enough to easily "doorslam". I.e. either extreme immaturity or shallow relationships. You don't need to be an INFJ to have these.
dk why people use the term door slam when infj never slams anything in anyone's face, the word ghosting would be much more appropriate. Because they just disappeared & nvr came back..
The door slam, I didn't know this about infj. I remember throwing away everything I bought while dating my ex. Deleted photos and texts.
The sense of “I” can be only found alone…
Just had to door slam someone recently 😅
Never reopen a door. It’s foolish to try and rebuild a betrayed trust. The true colors were shown. Leave kindly and calmly. Emotional outbursts are so unnecessary. I thanked my betrayer for being him, he had some good qualities, and then blocked the crap out of him. See Ya
A Sigma INFJ who is spiritual or who has a strong moral compass can identify swearing as one of the most toxic behaviors to be around. Causing an INFJ to become more isolated, because it's difficult to watch or listen to swearing in movies, be around people who use swear words as every other word in a sentence, and is especially difficult those who use swearing in the most light-minded manner. In other words, when listening to somebody swear, you're listening to shallowness, and when an INFJ has to listen to shallowness, it depletes the light within the INFJ, as well as a person who speaks with such shallowness.
When people use a lot of swearing, it reveals the immaturity of that person, and it is most difficult to watch an adult who should be mature, reveal their true colors and shows their shallowness through their swearing. It's absolutely painful, not only visually, but emotionally, it's just cringy.
There's literally science behind swears helping you deal woth negative emotions and pain tolerance so 🤥
Yes we walk away… at least I do… if I have to “fight” and resolve the issue I would walk away and calm myself down and collect my thoughts before I go to “battle”…. The door slam I have done to a lot people… I keep my circle of friends and family tight and very close… I am happier this way… recently I have slammed a few doors on some family members who were seeping toxic vibes and they were hurting my parents emotionally… no one disrespects My parents… I’d be better off without them… toxicity amongst family members are the worst…😢
I understand! But I'm a lonely INFJ
I am too...but looking around and seeing so much superficiality i am happier on my own. Being out in Nature helps me a lot..
*COMPLICIT TO EVIL; HIGHLY CORRUPTIBLE PERSONALITY TYPES*
ISFP and 'ESFP' (+ESFJ; Amber Heard) personality types are just as evil as narcissits! They are narcissit-friendly and have little control over their pointless mind - especially at the worst possible time! ESFP tend to be unapologetically stubborn-anything to avoid getting "upset" despite ALWAYS being 'emotionally-disturbed' (secretly; malicious-emotions is hidden just beneath the surface). They both unconsciously believe that other people exist to serve and be consumed by them-like a drug. All to balance the unstable chemicals in their brain responsible for emotions.
The [ISFP] 'secrecy'/suspicious, introverted behaviour makes them try to remain convert - this manifests as a hidden [unintelligent] threat for other people later on (as when spotted and contacted by a narcissit, they will quickly comply as they have little emotional-resiliency and humanity).
ISFP/ESFP embody what it means to be 'diabolically-unintelligent'! "Better you than me". A typical closet belief of the former. Worsened by ESFJ psychological-rape.
Sad fact, Judas-Iscariot was definitely one of them (ISFP). His little humanity and small intelligence, resulted in the diabolical imbecile intentionally 'throwing Jesus under the bus' in a "moment of emotional vulnerability" (typical, whiney ISFP excuse) - only to end up regretting what he's done by the time he comes back to what little sanity he initially had. When I psychoanalyse this overgrown-fetus, I realize that he had a covert, malicious-jealousy complex, and was secretly emotionally-disturbed, and highly prone to 'oblivious-codependency' (look it up, that is classic ISFP psychology, which explains how r-tarded they really are. Education only helps them hide how intellectually-immature they really are).
If your life was in danger, the more dire the situation is, you'd be better off making sure that the nearby ISFP/ESFP in the group is dead! This will maximize the likelihood of the group success/escape, as the ISFP cannot be trusted! They will likely do something r-tarded at the worst possible moment-getting themselves and everyone else killed (or the ISFP might panic and push a teammate under the bus as the ISFP feared getting sacrificed first- inexcusable, particularly since they ARE the threat, them and other narcissits _(ESFJ/ESFP are synonymous with cluster-b)._ These r-tards actually empower narcissits, especially during elections and for typically r-tarded reasons/motives).
Anyway, ISFP/ESFP have little to no humanity (as an 'instinct'), and they are delusional [oblivious-codependent] and have difficulty understanding themselves (which says a lot about their intelligence), i.e. they have difficulty even recognizing their own emotions! Plus they often suppress it (too narcissitic to bother processing it). They really are walking, overgrown-fetuses- failed human beings! I bet Adam and especially Eve in the Bible were ISFP!
They also typically have difficulty recognising evil and are often in relationships with narcissits! And then the ISFP will breed more victims into the toxic, tortuous relationship!
Agreed.
Also... Please research 'narcissitic personality disorder' (NPD) / 'cluster-B'; and know that they are the 'root of all evil' (especially 'ESFJ/ESTJ-narcissits'; Myers-Briggs reference, look it up)!
European 'ESFJ' are the worst personality type, and they are responsible for inventing 'racism' and colonization! It is in their neuro-psychology!!
The are extremely 'manipulative' and often use 'looking pretty' to distract others from the witch's mind-games / mind-rape, e.g. gaslighting, playing the victim or damsel in distress, creating 'flying-monkeys', and paying others to attack (or at times kill) someone for her. When caught, she will use her minions as scapegoats. European ESFJ are notorious for this especially in a racist context, e.g. Elliott Till.
ISFP (and ESFP) are the most complicit, narcissitic-enablers. ISFP also tend to be 'oblivious-codependants' (look up the definition).
SUMMARY:
Evil personality: ESFJ, ESTJ
[Secretly] Evil and narcissit-friendly gunts/flying-monkey: ISFP, ESFP.
☝️All of them are secretly emotionally-disturbed, hence their need to create conflict (and at other people's expense, truly evil).
Spread the word! Thank you.
___________
#Save_Soil
I'm an INFJ too and I don't see how an INFJ can be lonely???
We enjoy our own company the most....no drama, no manipulation, no emotional drainage it's just us appreciating our gifts in silence....why feel lonely????
You may not be an INFJ truly. One of the most important things to us is our inner world and our peace. We love being alone, and although we crave deep, meaningful connections with others, it’s still rare to find people that can entertain me more than I entertain myself. We enjoy our own company to the point where loneliness is usually never a problem!
Most unfortunately; I've had to cut off my daughter. My first born child. That hurts more than anything I've ever experienced. I put the blame squarely on the shoulders of the self righteous jerk she chose as a spouse. He corrupted her logical thought processes.
My ex assaulted me, put me in the hospital, and it was an unwarranted physical assault. She was NOT defending herself. I'm not an initiator of violence. I abhor violence. I did not even see the attack coming. Fortunately, my son prevented further violence.
But my daughter, who was not there; was influenced by the narcissistic personality that was responsible for my abuse.
I've slammed the door. It will open again for her!, but for her spouse it is forever closed. I'm OK with the consequences.
me personally as an INFJ-T i take things vary seriously and i have done the "door slam" on 2 people known them for about 30 years they did something absolutely unforgivable and i unfortunatly have to talk to them occationally but any face with with them is literally impossible i have a strong control on my emotions but they make me want to lose control but i wont because well its pointless and i know of a better way to deal with them and its working perfectly
the 2 people i have to deal with are 100% pure narcissist's and it makes them so mad im not talking to them because they know what they did and they think its no big deal and that it was completely ok to do so
so i completely cut them out of my life and i have told my friends that know that unless they admit their wrong doing i don't want to see them till their on their death bed
may sound harsh to many but to me its completely justifiable for what they did
The most powerful word an infj can say is "NO".
AGREED, however I endeavor to explain to the individual why I can’t handle them any longer😂
Access revoked!!! Some ppl are so clueless that they don't even know it's happened!!!
yeah slammed it on my dad and most of my family
Oh I'm slamming doors! For instance, after 20 years I walked out on my husband with all of our things while he was at work. Never to speak to him again. And I'll tell you he did not see it coming. He didn't see it coming because of my nature because it's something he could never believe I would do.
Not 100% sure that I am one but I have definitely done this and it feels like this.
Storytime about door slamming my best friend:
There's someone who I've known for twelve years (was my best friend until recently) that I door slammed about four months ago. I blocked her account from all of my accounts and I haven't had a conversation with her since. Legit we were so close it made people uncomfortable sometimes. That's what twelve years of friendship since childhood can do. But honestly, I'm unfazed by the door slam. As many INFJs say online, you don't hate them, you nothing them. What makes me angry though is that she's going to everyone around us (they tell me) asking what happened between us and saying she's so concerned about me. Yet we still have to see each other at least once a week, and when we do, she never address things with me. I tried addressing things before the door slam, but she got defensive. That's why I door slammed her. If she doesn't want to fix things and put in effort, I don't want this relationship. But now she's apparently concerned. Until she takes action herself and addresses the problem with me directly, the door shall stay slammed.
Communication is key, everyone.
p.s. I'm an INFJ and she's an INFP. So if ya'll have advice please let me know.
She sounds like she is conducting a smear campaign against you….
Very accurate!
Thank you!
❤Thank you.
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We associate pain with the person’s presence. We give a lot of chances to the point that we appear silly or stupid. We will also remove anything associated with them.
Also, an INFJ is very forgiving however, after while it becomes draining so an INFJ will nicely remove themselves from that toxic behavior. INFJ forgives other 98% of the time.
Don't fuck with Mr. Zero.
Admittedly, I’ve door slams more than a few times. I only regret one. I’m debating with myself right now about emotionally walking away from a long term relationship.
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Only when I try to communicate there's a problem and they make a joke of it.
My infj man slammed the door on me because he was convinced I still had emotional ties and possibly physically intimate/romantic stuff going on with my ex. He blocked me for 2 months and I thought we were over. It left me hurt and confused. He did re open the door , but now I'm feeling insecure, I wish he could trust me. How can I built on trust with him?
A relationship without trust is a ticking time bomb. You shouldn’t feel like you’re walking on eggshells. If he’s not communicating or is unable to communicate exactly what he needs from you to make your ex is a non issue… then I would leave him alone. He’s either projecting (he had something going on with someone else) or manipulating (doesn’t want you but doesn’t want anyone to have you either)
The way you’re describing the relationship, it seems as if he’s sitting back and expecting you to jump through invisible hoops to prove yourself. He has to be just as much of an active participant in the relationship as you are. You deserve better; it doesn’t matter what someone’s personality type is no one has the right to string someone along.
Second the person itself is distrustful due to the nature of higher feeling and perception of those closest. This leads to higher sensitivities and detection of emotions external and internal. If this person has any types of ptsd commonly caused by any form of abuse consistently/ constantly in the environment which if a male INFJ they will be in a constant fight between two very different selves. No excuses but I can see it if they get a memory that is too much and must be processed.
My suggestion is just endeavor to show them your true, authentic self. If it was a mistake you made that’s one thing- but if you intentionally hurt or betrayed them then it’s best just to move on. It’s most likely over for good, period.
That doesn't sound like an INFJ to be honest. INFJ has high moral value and dominant on the Ni function which process logic before their Fe.
We tend to find out the truth with evidence before accusing someone of their actions. If you truly did something that betrayed an INFJ, the slammed door will never be open. If you didn't do it, the INFJ won't accuse you. Even if he did, his moral compass will make him feel guilty of doing that and apologise to you.
Even if the INFJ has the worst day, their moral value compass will never allow them to act in such ways towards another person. You need to settle down with him and talk it out why is he experiencing it that way.
Trust is built in yourself, do you trust yourself enough to not be treated this way in a relationship? What are the boundary and rule would you set to prevent such behavior from happening in the future? What would you do if it happens? You can create the trust within you without expecting someone to behave in a way that feel safe and trustworthy to engage in but to disassociate when he is not showing it.
Yes, I have door slammed people that once were part of my life.
shocking how dead on these videos are regarding my feelings as an INFJ
As an INFJ, I think you are wrong. Once an INFJ has decided they are done....THEY ARE DONE!....no crossing that bridge ever again.
I do have a revenge side of me when im deep into betrayal from someone im also an infj
Wow. This is so true. I will slam the door then bolt it down and block it to never open it until the person who hurt me gives me a detailed apology. A simple “I am sorry” won’t do it. I need an explanation of “I am sorry for” X,Y,Z.
Thank you! "I am sorry" won't cut it anymore! A detailed apology always gave me the feeling that the person is REALLY sorry and not just apologizing to get over a argument quickly
@@brainwatched You are you. Great to know that others are this way because most people say my standards are too high. In my mind it is the bare minimum. Anyone can say I am sorry, the real deal is, when someone can explain the pain they caused, that means they put some thought into it.
@@Alex-vc5dr Agreed.
Also... Please research 'narcissitic personality disorder' (NPD) / 'cluster-B'; and know that they are the 'root of all evil' (especially 'ESFJ/ESTJ-narcissits'; Myers-Briggs reference, look it up)!
European 'ESFJ' are the worst personality type, and they are responsible for inventing 'racism' and colonization! It is in their neuro-psychology!!
The are extremely 'manipulative' and often use 'looking pretty' to distract others from the witch's mind-games / mind-rape, e.g. gaslighting, playing the victim or damsel in distress, creating 'flying-monkeys', and paying others to attack (or at times kill) someone for her. When caught, she will use her minions as scapegoats. European ESFJ are notorious for this especially in a racist context, e.g. Elliott Till.
ISFP (and ESFP) are the most complicit, narcissitic-enablers. ISFP also tend to be 'oblivious-codependants' (look up the definition).
SUMMARY:
Evil personality: ESFJ, ESTJ
[Secretly] Evil and narcissit-friendly gunts/flying-monkey: ISFP, ESFP.
☝️All of them are secretly emotionally-disturbed, hence their need to create conflict (and at other people's expense, truly evil).
Spread the word! Thank you.
___________
#Save_Soil
@@Alex-vc5dr *COMPLICIT TO EVIL; HIGHLY CORRUPTIBLE PERSONALITY TYPES*
ISFP and 'ESFP' (+ESFJ; Amber Heard) personality types are just as evil as narcissits! They are narcissit-friendly and have little control over their pointless mind - especially at the worst possible time! ESFP tend to be unapologetically stubborn-anything to avoid getting "upset" despite ALWAYS being 'emotionally-disturbed' (secretly; malicious-emotions is hidden just beneath the surface). They both unconsciously believe that other people exist to serve and be consumed by them-like a drug. All to balance the unstable chemicals in their brain responsible for emotions.
The [ISFP] 'secrecy'/suspicious, introverted behaviour makes them try to remain convert - this manifests as a hidden [unintelligent] threat for other people later on (as when spotted and contacted by a narcissit, they will quickly comply as they have little emotional-resiliency and humanity).
ISFP/ESFP embody what it means to be 'diabolically-unintelligent'! "Better you than me". A typical closet belief of the former. Worsened by ESFJ psychological-rape.
Sad fact, Judas-Iscariot was definitely one of them (ISFP). His little humanity and small intelligence, resulted in the diabolical imbecile intentionally 'throwing Jesus under the bus' in a "moment of emotional vulnerability" (typical, whiney ISFP excuse) - only to end up regretting what he's done by the time he comes back to what little sanity he initially had. When I psychoanalyse this overgrown-fetus, I realize that he had a covert, malicious-jealousy complex, and was secretly emotionally-disturbed, and highly prone to 'oblivious-codependency' (look it up, that is classic ISFP psychology, which explains how r-tarded they really are. Education only helps them hide how intellectually-immature they really are).
If your life was in danger, the more dire the situation is, you'd be better off making sure that the nearby ISFP/ESFP in the group is dead! This will maximize the likelihood of the group success/escape, as the ISFP cannot be trusted! They will likely do something r-tarded at the worst possible moment-getting themselves and everyone else killed (or the ISFP might panic and push a teammate under the bus as the ISFP feared getting sacrificed first- inexcusable, particularly since they ARE the threat, them and other narcissits _(ESFJ/ESFP are synonymous with cluster-b)._ These r-tards actually empower narcissits, especially during elections and for typically r-tarded reasons/motives).
Anyway, ISFP/ESFP have little to no humanity (as an 'instinct'), and they are delusional [oblivious-codependent] and have difficulty understanding themselves (which says a lot about their intelligence), i.e. they have difficulty even recognizing their own emotions! Plus they often suppress it (too narcissitic to bother processing it). They really are walking, overgrown-fetuses- failed human beings! I bet Adam and especially Eve in the Bible were ISFP!
They also typically have difficulty recognising evil and are often in relationships with narcissits! And then the ISFP will breed more victims into the toxic, tortuous relationship!
Exactly....when they can explain why they are sorry... this question can be answered right ONLY if he/she truly is sorry!
If you block them they will notice
Knock knock knock…
So true for me.
I have door slammed 3 people in my life.
I have a riddle for y'all, but the answer is NOT at all funny:
Q: What's the difference between an INFJ and a shoe scraper?
A: Nothing.
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You are making trouble when there isn’t any I didn’t slam the door on anyone yes I have ghosted a couple beta minions but the game is cutthroat if someone betrays you they will get it back but not out of revenge but because no one is perfect and the journey is so much worth it so your opinion is invalid and false ask me first before you try and get me in pointless trouble I am savvy charismatic innovative and strategic I know what I am dealing with and it’s definitely not you
Matthew 16:18 King James Version
18 And I say also unto thee, That thou art Peter, and upon this rock I will build my church; and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it.
Talk about an INFJ door slam? Wait for it. Evil people will feel the fire of the blade Piercing their hearts and minds. Turning from their wicked ways. Reverse door slam!