INFP Insights: ISTJ Compatibility
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- Опубликовано: 18 окт 2024
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Thanks for this video, it is so interesting to sit down and listen to your thoughts (I’m an INFP too naturally). I think that I quite liked ISTJs when I was younger and, for the most part, I lost interest in that type completely by the time I reached my late twenties. Now in my later thirties I get on much better with ISTJs - I think I used to purposely aggravate them when I was younger with my chaos. But - yeah, I don’t really bother having them as more than acquaintances. I don’t think it would be good for either party. Thanks again, I love your channel. :)
Thanks for watching and commenting with your insights. At least you learned early on ISTJs don't make a good match which is good. Come to think about it, yes in a way it was fun (and easy) to aggravate them. Again, thanks for the kind comment.
I agree 100%. Istj's are great to have around to fix everything, and they love doing it
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Yes, I am an INFP and my husband is an ISTJ. We got married pretty young after dating only six months. Then we very quickly had our first son. The beginning was extremely difficult, but we stayed together. We’ve been married since 2011 and we have three sons now. He *has* been working the same job all these years, waking up at 4:00am 😨 LOL. He used to be extremely harsh with me, but I have learned to honor my own needs and take responsibility for them. We have learned a lot about each other and about ourselves. We still have a lot of misunderstandings, but we have learned to be patient and we understand each other better all the time! Love, patience, and forgiveness are what keep us together!
Thanks so much for sharing your story and congrats on the longevity of your relationship. It resonates.
Hmmm this does resinate. Im an INFP and im sure im dating an ISTJ. He has commented that we are in different timezones in the morning and we've laughed about it. Its comfortable with him because we are both introverts and we can sit together in silence and not feel we have to make conversation. He admires my kindness, and my commitment to my children (he never married). He is adventurous and weve been on cruises and vacations together.
I couple of things that make me question things is that he doesn't seem to have strong convictions about things like suffering, fairness etc. I see injustice and I want to scream. He has opinions but not really convictions. I also find him hard to read. Sometimes im unsure of his feelings towards me. I dont want to make a fool of myself by asking him. Am I Ms right or Ms right now?
I guess we'll see how it goes.
Thanks so much for watching and sharing. I resonated with your experiences. Yes my ISTP "friend" would put me in a seat on her couch whenever I visited and had me sit there in silence the entire time. Looking back I think maybe that's their way of connecting--or control--which to them might be connecting? Just a thought and thanks again for some insights.
Well, it has been 9 months since your post, so I don’t know if the two of you have made it or not but in my experience it can work. It really helps to have that Introvert component in common, as you can both have your alone time doing whatever recharges you. I imagine that if I was with an extrovert, especially if they also were more dependent, that it would be a hard maintaining a cohesive relationship. I watch this show called ‘Married at First Sight’ and I have yet to see them matching two independent introverted people together. It seems as though one of them always is more clingy and not understanding of the other persons need to have alone time and interests of their own. Then the introvert is matched with someone who desires a relationship where they are always together which makes the independent introvert feel smothered. I guess they purposefully do that for viewers that want to see a lot of drama.
@LindaCapra Well we're still together. It's actually a long distance relationship as he lives 800km from me, but we do get together often. He enjoys driving up to see me and we travel together often. I've also discovered that he's more of an ISTP, so we have that in common too.
You are right about Married at first sight. I'm sure they often put couples together who would clash for views. Let's face it, if they all fell in love and were compatible it would be boring and not have as many viewers. I'm in Australia, and last season, 2 who were matched with other people got together. It was so obvious that they were much more compatible.
@@caracalfashions6435 I enjoy mafs Australia more and wish they would change the format closer to it in the US. I also like that AU’s includes same sex couples.
I have spent the last couple days trying to figure out my husband’s type and your video has helped me confirm that he must be an ISTJ. I had him take the test and was flabbergasted that he came out as an INFP like me and all 3 of my daughters. When I told them that they laughed and said “No way”. His lack of empathy is the biggest give away that he is not an INFP. I resonated with most everything you said, except my husband of 33 years is attracted to both my quirkiness and smarts. I was first attracted to his own quirkiness and his work ethic, but I didn’t realize that he is unable to give the kind of support my daughters and I need. It is difficult for him to understand our emotional side. He wants to help and does the best he can by being a hard worker and being a good provider, but when it comes to the feeling side of things, he is clueless. He has always been an early riser but enjoys that being his alone time. Here though, my one adult daughter who still lives with us and I are constantly trying to get him to understand that with our horrible sleep patterns, we might need to sleep late and don’t want to be woken up by him for trivial questions or him starting noisy projects early in the morning. In many ways we are handier than he is. It all depends on what task is needed and he approaches projects differently. He is highly intelligent in some ways, but doesn’t seem to have common sense. He is great with anything involving computers, both hardware and software wise, but when it comes to being handy around the house, we actually have an easier time fixing some things. Once our kitchen sink drain was really clogged and he tried store boughten liquids and snaking it, but was ready to call the plumber. I had a couple weeks when I had health issues and missed work so I asked him if he would pay me if I ended up fixing it rather than getting a plumber or roter rooter type company. He agreed, but didn’t think I could do it. All I needed to do was go on RUclips and research what the best solution would be. I think he was just humoring me until I got it working after just a short time.
Thanks for sharing. Have him take a different test just to see and for fun. He doesn't sound like an ISTJ to me--feelings aside. The ones I've known can and love to go in and fix things. Quite easily and if not, will not resort to calling for help. That's the part that stuck out to me the most. A lot of feelers don't express or understand feelings and men aren't raised this way either so that may play a part. Thanks again. If he does take the test again, I'd be interested in the result.
@@olderinfpinsights The fixing thing aspect is the part that confused me the most, but I have theories on that. At first he wouldn’t dream of calling someone, but he has learned through the years that there are certain tasks that he is not good at and he did work on the clogged drain for 2 or three evenings before he suggested it. The primary two are plumbing and electric. Also, the last couple years there have been more problems with our house at the same time and it seems like it is getting too overwhelming for him. He much more enjoys building computers from scratch, woodworking, and making music on the computer. As long as he has an outlet he is happy. I will let you know if he retakes it and the results.
Good information and advice! Thanks!
Thanks for watching and the kind comment.
Much personal insight for me as a human being. I'm an ISTJ who has loved (cared for) an INFP man for more than half of my life. Even if the scenarios were more compatible, I do suppose and see now that perhaps we both would not be. I'm not fully ISTJ though... well, I mean, I love and appreciate the INFP man I know. (I met him when I was 13.) Not all friendships lead to or should lead to the team project of marriage, though. I wouldn't want to ruin the memories of great times we did have as like-friends. Should opposite genders develop such deep friendships if not going to be compatible in the long run? I suppose not. However, it happened. Sorta. Going forward though, I do hope and pray everything works out well for him. I do always care. We never were in an actually official relationship, but it was kind of a mock version of it all indeed. Anyway... Thankyou :)
Thanks for watching and commenting. All intuitives need sensors in our lives. Some of my best friends are the opposite gender so yes friendship only can and does happen for the long haul.
My sister is an ISTJ. She is a perfectionist and she thinks that her way is the only way. She is rigid and inflexible. I don't get along with her.
Thanks for your comment and insight. Yes I've found over the years that it's not a good match or at least a stressful one. ISTJs do tend to be perfectionists and we INFPs obviously are not. It must be hard to have a sibling or other family member with this personality type. On further thought, I believe my mother was one too.
Why does istj seem not empathetic? For them its all about structure.
You'll find more empaths who are intuitives and not sensing. It's down to being that simple. They have their empathic ways; however, INFPs feel so deep it doesn't seem so. That's what I learned the hard way just last year. They also tend to show how they feel by doing things for others. One of my closest ISTJs used to give me her old clothes. I was offended; however, I see that was the only way she could show empathy for me.
Have you met ESTJs?
Not that I'm aware. I try not to type those around me unless something really sticks out. I think one of my kids is an ESFJ. You have thoughts about ESTJ?
@@olderinfpinsights my mom is an estj.