I struggle with small talk even in my native language. For me it's 2 or 3. Great video! Thank you a lot, Hadar! So useful tips and the way you explained them - such a fun video! You are more and more creative.
Me too struggle with small talk when I talk in my mothertongue .ppl quickly find that I m terribly silent person. . It's not about language proficiency but something else which I could not understand. I keep on thinking but could not find the answer why I m quiet all the time
This is awesome. I’m not a native English speaker and you don’t know how much you’ve helped me to improve my fluency and self confidence when talking. You’re a great Teacher Hadar!!
You're a brilliant teacher. You are a adorable person. You have good speaking skill because you make people listen to you carefully so they can understand you. You are cool and fun
So that's a relief to realize that I am not the only one who started really enjoy talking to oneself during the quarantine (both versions of you are very beautiful and elegant, and the video is very useful as always)
Hadar, you are simply amazing! You have brought to life some of the most fundamental and troublesome areas in conversations that ESL speakers experience.
8. I like small talks. I think it is a good way to get to know new people. One thing that I use in small talks: I try to find commonalities or, if the person has a contrast opinion, I try to understand why they think differently. I liked the strategy about labeling, I'm definitely going to use that in my next small talk with a new person. Thanks for the video, I loooove your channel!
This video is on point. I'm in the same boat as a lot of people here. Small talks aren't my thing personally. Not that it doesn't exist in my own culture but it doesn't flow the same way as it does in western cultures. I had to take jobs where I'm forced to initiate small talk everytime just because I was so bad at it or just don't have the motivation or desire to engage at all.
Hi Hadar, I learned about you from Anna's channel and just fell in love with your way if teaching! I looked through many different channels, but yours is the best out there! Thank you so much for your hard work and fun and engaging lessons! In a month I already learned so much!!! Thank you, thank you, thank you!
It was so interesting! When having small talk, I usually smile. By the way, I also like the option of starting a conversation with mirroring. That was cool!
1. I don't like to speak, not only in English, but I love listening to interesting people. You add to your videos your acting skills, so you are being watched with the greatest pleasure.
Hi Hadar. You're very creative person and a master of a long or small talk (today just 14min.). It's in your genes! Fortunately, I'm not a teacher and an introvert often avoiding the small talks. Perhaps after seeing your ideas I will change a bit. Btw, I like your voice, it's penetrate through the air and captivate the attention of listeners. That's one of the reason I have subscribed to your channel.🐁
You’re such a delight! Brilliant! The way you present a topic is so clear, so enjoyable. And we got a glimpse into what a good actress you are. I laughed out loud at your little skits. Thank you! 💗💗
I really loved the labeling technique. And now I realize that some of the people I know used it when they told me smth like this, their assumptions about my personality. And it felt amazing, like, they're talking about me, they're interested! 😂 Totally gonna use it
By and large I used to be the kind of person that I'd much rather keep it to myself pretty much every occasion, however over time I realized that it's powerful to strike up a conversation because it boots your self-confidence when you put yourself out there and get to know people, surely it's easier said than done, I would say I've enhanced my small talk skills considerately, I'm always trying to be positive and If someone vents to be I try to empathize and share a similar experience or I even try to sum up my opinion on that topic.
it's challenging 3 10:00 mirroring, Labeling 11:56 13:15 What is the one thing you are going to take from this conversation and put it to use as of today the answer is mirroring. Acting, enthusiasm and engaging are the best combination
Rating 1 to 10 I would say probably 2 lol. By the way I love the video, it caught my attention from beginning to end, I liked the samples related each context, the effects on the video, it was very creative. Wow you really surprised me.
Great, as usual. I never use any conversational technics. It seems to me if my partner know about the technology it would create an awkward situation. I give talking to flow free.
Hi, ma'am, this is the first tine, I'm seeing your video and you shared about small talk pretty well. I really understood what are the value there and how to handle the small talks better, even I didn't like into a part of it. From my side, I love small talks but not interest to get along with for ages.
Ohh my god IS IT THAT EASY??? you made it so easy for us 😅😅😅 I am a sucker at small talks but hopefully I will not be anymore THANK YOU♥️ YOU ARE AMAZING ♥️
I do talk about it a lot, but less on this video. Here it’s more about how to come up with good questions (tip- you don’t need to, just reflect on what they’ve said)
If two people have different backgrounds (one valuing small talk, the other maybe doesn't even know what it is), and they meet but the small talk does not work, they stay silent. Who is being rude in this situation? I understand that this channel is about teaching people how to speak, but assuming that everyone has to small talk because if they don't they have a problem, is a bit alienating and not particularly inclusive. But anyway kudos for great tips! As general rules they are awesome, thank you!
I hate small talk. If i make a scale from 1 to 10, it's gonna be 2 or 3. i'm not confidence and also don't know how to start conversation.Thanks a lot, you make this great content, i love it.
I must confess I had read the book of Chris Voss , but I hadn´t understood "mirroring" - up to now-. Your way of presentation and and the way of acting the diferents examples is super. Hollywood is losing a star ..... (ha ha) and we gain a great teacher. Thanks for everything
Beautiful videos, tanks you by your advices. I am learning English for my account but I understand more o less the English, the lenguage English is pretty because almost the world speak English.
Oh Hadar, yor videos and work are impressive and fun. I know you have the accents way course, but I am interested in taking a live class with you one day. But I know that there are so many students to help and you don't have time to join all of them. Keep working and until next video. Hugs
I hate small talk because it's in this moments when people realize or create a precipitated impression about our English. If we get bad in the first simple small talk, the face expression of the other part suggest the though "hmm... She is foreigner... And she doesn't speak English very well...". After this, is very difficult keep calm and we tend to confirm the bad expectation from other about our terrible English.
I experienced exactly the same Amanda M. People are judgemental. I hate small talk too. But this video is very helpful. Ask more questions about them and listen actively.
Actually iam not" small talk "kind , even in my native language, I feel like it's not necessary! But this video changed that idea remarkably 😊 now it seems to me that small talks are cool 👌😎
I suck at small talk, I dunno what to start. Then, I ostentatiously go with an "ahem- how are you?" Then they would be like "so, this was your contemplation for the past two minutes. I end up with a smile that seems like I had an instant compliment. So, number 1.
😭 I feel you my dear! But I think that the tip I share of being the leader, and just a sequence of following questions can help. And practice is important!!
@@hadar.shemesh yeah, thank you soo much. Curiosity is crucial like you told. If we listen, people talk and allow us to talk too (sometimes we get a compliment too) I will practice, I hope it will be better. It is easy when I speak after setting inspiration (or imitating). I will stick up with all your tips. 😊 it would help (because I had never prioritized on any small talks)
English is my native language, yet I feel English is not fitting. I mean it feels, to me, speaking English is not my original language. This is because, as an introvert with a talent for public speaking, English language makes for a lot of wasted space and time-in my humble opinion! Small talk, for example, feels a waste; like : "GET TO THE CRUX OR THE POINT" my head screams. ''What is the point here?" "Let us dive deep" , my mind thinks Or, let us talk about something of substance which will help us both, or the group at large, please! Small talk, however, allows room for diving deep. There are actually ❤️ loop holes in small talk where one can lead the other to a meaningful, purposeful, abundant conversation! I would not say it is manipulative, but I would say using "small talk" can be a strategy toward a particular goal, selfish or selfless. T Thank you, Hadar, my friend. I began today with prayers for help. I will say your video, Small Talk, is the third video of yours I have seen today. Much appreciations to you, Hadar, and many Blessings to you and your families! Tina Marie Gerald
I struggle with small talk even in my native language. For me it's 2 or 3. Great video! Thank you a lot, Hadar! So useful tips and the way you explained them - such a fun video! You are more and more creative.
Haha thank you so so much!!
Me too struggle with small talk when I talk in my mothertongue .ppl quickly find that I m terribly silent person. . It's not about language proficiency but something else which I could not understand. I keep on thinking but could not find the answer why I m quiet all the time
At the beginning, you are like 😆
Lol
you are so adorable like a kid when you are rushing down the downstairs. Lol 🤣
This is awesome. I’m not a native English speaker and you don’t know how much you’ve helped me to improve my fluency and self confidence when talking. You’re a great Teacher Hadar!!
Oh this made my day!! Thank you!!
I love this video, it gives me the strength I need to start a conversation with a person who speaks English.
That is why I like you. You are The best English teacher of the world. From Brazil
You're a brilliant teacher. You are a adorable person. You have good speaking skill because you make people listen to you carefully so they can understand you. You are cool and fun
So that's a relief to realize that I am not the only one who started really enjoy talking to oneself during the quarantine
(both versions of you are very beautiful and elegant, and the video is very useful as always)
Hadar, you are simply amazing! You have brought to life some of the most fundamental and troublesome areas in conversations that ESL speakers experience.
8. I like small talks. I think it is a good way to get to know new people. One thing that I use in small talks: I try to find commonalities or, if the person has a contrast opinion, I try to understand why they think differently. I liked the strategy about labeling, I'm definitely going to use that in my next small talk with a new person. Thanks for the video, I loooove your channel!
This video is on point. I'm in the same boat as a lot of people here. Small talks aren't my thing personally. Not that it doesn't exist in my own culture but it doesn't flow the same way as it does in western cultures. I had to take jobs where I'm forced to initiate small talk everytime just because I was so bad at it or just don't have the motivation or desire to engage at all.
I like the small talks because that way you practice the english
This channel deserves billions of subscribers, I mean it!
Thank you, Hadar! It's incredible useful lesson! Have a beautiful week you too!!!
This is gold! Bye bye social anxiety at the gym! Thanks Hadar, you're better than therapy!
Can we have conversation
Thank you for another useful tip.
My take away is small talk can be started and prolonged if it is made "about them".
One day my English is going to be like yours. Love your videos! You are an amazing English teacher and actress 👍🏽
Hi Hadar, I learned about you from Anna's channel and just fell in love with your way if teaching! I looked through many different channels, but yours is the best out there! Thank you so much for your hard work and fun and engaging lessons! In a month I already learned so much!!! Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Thank you so much!! And welcome!!
I like small talk because this help me to start talking, I’m very afraid., but I need to continue.
Mirroring, lebeling on emotion
I love your Conversation. 👍👍❤
I love the way you explain everything
Thanks for sharin these tips, Hadar. I loved the mirroring technique..
I guess I'm half way to master this hard skill. I'd say 4 and still in progress. Love your pieces of advice. Thanks!👍
It was so interesting! When having small talk, I usually smile. By the way, I also like the option of starting a conversation with mirroring. That was cool!
1. I don't like to speak, not only in English, but I love listening to interesting people. You add to your videos your acting skills,
so you are being watched with the greatest pleasure.
Oh what a sweet comment thank you so much
Hi Hadar. You're very creative person and a master of a long or small talk (today just 14min.). It's in your genes! Fortunately, I'm not a teacher and an introvert often avoiding the small talks. Perhaps after seeing your ideas I will change a bit. Btw, I like your voice, it's penetrate through the air and captivate the attention of listeners. That's one of the reason I have subscribed to your channel.🐁
Excellent course. Thank you. :)
You’re such a delight! Brilliant! The way you present a topic is so clear, so enjoyable. And we got a glimpse into what a good actress you are. I laughed out loud at your little skits. Thank you! 💗💗
I loved your Chanel, i am brazilian and i've been learning speak english by myself and thanks for your helping ,this is by far ter best chanel😊
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I’ve watched this video here on RUclips and Facebook too, it’s very appreciated!!! Your content deserves ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ I like the way you teach 😊🤩
I really loved the labeling technique. And now I realize that some of the people I know used it when they told me smth like this, their assumptions about my personality. And it felt amazing, like, they're talking about me, they're interested! 😂 Totally gonna use it
By and large I used to be the kind of person that I'd much rather keep it to myself pretty much every occasion, however over time I realized that it's powerful to strike up a conversation because it boots your self-confidence when you put yourself out there and get to know people, surely it's easier said than done, I would say I've enhanced my small talk skills considerately, I'm always trying to be positive and If someone vents to be I try to empathize and share a similar experience or I even try to sum up my opinion on that topic.
Your hair looks great, Hadar!
Hahah thank you! Probably because I washed it. It happens once in a while 🤪😂
Excelent video as always! Keep it up Hadar! You're lessons are so engaging that I never get tired of watching them and learning from you. Thank you!
it's challenging 3 10:00 mirroring, Labeling 11:56
13:15 What is the one thing you are going to take from this conversation and put it to use as of today the answer is mirroring.
Acting, enthusiasm and engaging are the best combination
I love this! I'm also an English teacher, I would love to collaborate with you sometime 💞
Can u talk to me..
Loved the video, from beginning to end : clear direct to the point ! the idea of mirroring is super useful.
Thank you Hadar. You know exactly what we need.
Hadar you are Angel! Thank you!
🥰
Repeating what the interlocutor said is so good because it let us to gain time. I mean, if we are freezed, at least we can say something!! 😂
Rating 1 to 10 I would say probably 2 lol. By the way I love the video, it caught my attention from beginning to end, I liked the samples related each context, the effects on the video, it was very creative. Wow you really surprised me.
Thank you!! Wow I’m so happy to hear😌
You're a beautiful and talented person I watch your videos every single day. That helps me a lot to improve my English.
Greeting from DR
Hi Hadar,I love your lessons and the level of your confidence. My accent is terrible,I hope to improve.
I literally burst into laughter as soon as Hadar rushes out the door with her sunglasses on
😂😂😂
Thanks so much, Hadar!
Great, as usual. I never use any conversational technics. It seems to me if my partner know about the technology it would create an awkward situation. I give talking to flow free.
Hi, ma'am, this is the first tine, I'm seeing your video and you shared about small talk pretty well. I really understood what are the value there and how to handle the small talks better, even I didn't like into a part of it.
From my side, I love small talks but not interest to get along with for ages.
Up to 10) Small talks can be quite funny, informative and useful.
Specially liked the "mirroring" trick. Will try and see how it works. Thanks!
Really useful tips) given by teacher for a teacher)) thanks)
I like the way you explain
The advertisements are funny. I mean the jokes placed in the middle of the videos are hilarious. 😂
you're brilliant! Your job is amazing!!! I learn english in a different and wonderful way
Hi mam your accent it is is very clear I understand every word for you thanks once again
Ohh my god IS IT THAT EASY??? you made it so easy for us 😅😅😅 I am a sucker at small talks but hopefully I will not be anymore THANK YOU♥️
YOU ARE AMAZING ♥️
Yes yes yessss. Listen you have to try it, and come back to me and tell me how it went 😂😂😂
@@hadar.shemesh DEFINITELY ♥️♥️
Thanks for this excellent video
I really enjoy this video, thank you
I think you spoke about reflective or active listening. The way of speaking to people is to develop empathy if I understood.
I do talk about it a lot, but less on this video. Here it’s more about how to come up with good questions (tip- you don’t need to, just reflect on what they’ve said)
To be honest, I like your platform. We can feel the peace between people from all world.
Amazing!
You are an actress without any doubt
I usually talk even if I don't understand the answer lol
You are awesome, thanks for the tips
If two people have different backgrounds (one valuing small talk, the other maybe doesn't even know what it is), and they meet but the small talk does not work, they stay silent. Who is being rude in this situation? I understand that this channel is about teaching people how to speak, but assuming that everyone has to small talk because if they don't they have a problem, is a bit alienating and not particularly inclusive.
But anyway kudos for great tips! As general rules they are awesome, thank you!
I hate small talk. If i make a scale from 1 to 10, it's gonna be 2 or 3. i'm not confidence and also don't know how to start conversation.Thanks a lot, you make this great content, i love it.
My all trivial matters will be in english mam thanks to recommendation
Thank u teacher...I love your videos! U are so funny😁
I must confess I had read the book of Chris Voss , but I hadn´t understood "mirroring" - up to now-. Your way of presentation and and the way of acting the diferents examples is super. Hollywood is losing a star ..... (ha ha) and we gain a great teacher. Thanks for everything
You're really an excellent actress 👏😄
These kind of videos are great!! Hollywood production and acting!
Hey Hadar, what is the software you use to edit this video to show two of you at the same time, please? Thanks!
mam i love your every word
Beautiful videos, tanks you by your advices.
I am learning English for my account but I understand more o less the English, the lenguage English is pretty because almost the world speak English.
Thanks
0:37 i can't stop laughing))))) You are amazing!
Thank you teacher, I'd learn a lot from you 😙😙
I love yours cless
Beauyfull, nice!
Oh Hadar, yor videos and work are impressive and fun. I know you have the accents way course, but I am interested in taking a live class with you one day. But I know that there are so many students to help and you don't have time to join all of them.
Keep working and until next video.
Hugs
Between 4 and 6
I hate small talk because it's in this moments when people realize or create a precipitated impression about our English. If we get bad in the first simple small talk, the face expression of the other part suggest the though "hmm... She is foreigner... And she doesn't speak English very well...". After this, is very difficult keep calm and we tend to confirm the bad expectation from other about our terrible English.
I experienced exactly the same Amanda M. People are judgemental. I hate small talk too. But this video is very helpful. Ask more questions about them and listen actively.
Actually iam not" small talk "kind , even in my native language, I feel like it's not necessary!
But this video changed that idea remarkably 😊 now it seems to me that small talks are cool 👌😎
Yes!!
I love you hardar my beautiful English teacher 😘
I enjoyed the different characters in this video 😂
1 or should i say 0,1?
Thanks beautiful lady for your effort
People feel great if you ask them their opinion about whatever.
Hi wish you have a good day
Easy peasy
I suck at small talk, I dunno what to start. Then, I ostentatiously go with an "ahem- how are you?" Then they would be like "so, this was your contemplation for the past two minutes. I end up with a smile that seems like I had an instant compliment. So, number 1.
😭 I feel you my dear! But I think that the tip I share of being the leader, and just a sequence of following questions can help. And practice is important!!
@@hadar.shemesh yeah, thank you soo much. Curiosity is crucial like you told. If we listen, people talk and allow us to talk too (sometimes we get a compliment too) I will practice, I hope it will be better. It is easy when I speak after setting inspiration (or imitating). I will stick up with all your tips. 😊 it would help (because I had never prioritized on any small talks)
Thanks for the tips. june 28th 12:52 Mexico.
10 !!
great video
Expert 💪💪💪💪💪
English is my native language, yet I feel English is not fitting. I mean it feels, to me, speaking English is not my original language. This is because, as an introvert with a talent for public speaking, English language makes for a lot of wasted space and time-in my humble opinion!
Small talk, for example, feels a waste; like : "GET TO THE CRUX OR THE POINT" my head screams. ''What is the point here?" "Let us dive deep" , my mind thinks
Or, let us talk about something of substance which will help us both, or the group at large, please!
Small talk, however, allows room for diving deep. There are actually ❤️ loop holes in small talk where one can lead the other to a meaningful, purposeful, abundant conversation! I would not say it is manipulative, but I would say using "small talk" can be a strategy toward a particular goal, selfish or selfless. T
Thank you, Hadar, my friend. I began today with prayers for help. I will say your video, Small Talk, is the third video of yours I have seen today.
Much appreciations to you, Hadar, and many Blessings to you and your families!
Tina Marie Gerald
Small talk n catch the last word to continue to talk
i love somehow but its challenging 3
"Are you a summer person or winter? " .. I love this line n I'm gonna use it in my conversation
For me I usually pretend to be busy ( having a fake call )
Small talk is casual in my country ( india).. 😊
India
Small talk is the toughest one.I'm always try to avoid even asif I had problem with them.Oh Lord help me with this
Hahahaha ❤️ I love that energy.
It's funny to me because i'm shy, but i've never had problem with that before. I can talk for hours in another language with a stranger person.