I forgot to mention generational patterns or curses when it comes to this topic which mine was heavily related to, however, this all falls under deliverance! And thank you to those who provided some scriptures with why self-hatred is a sin, and to love ourselves! I did not prepare scriptures for this video like I would have liked to so thank you for sharing them!
Wow, what a timely message! I've been dealing with self-hatred and anxiety for the past week.. it's been difficult for me to even leave my house 😔 I'm naturally an introvert but during this time I've been wanting to hide and retreat from the world more than ever. I know it has stemmed from being so fixated on myself (the way I look or feel) rather than focusing on Jesus and others. Thank you for being so vulnerable and transparent with us. Praying for you Sarah 🙏🏼❤️
The enemy attacks us early on with shame! It is his main tactic. I read this quote from a healing prayer book: "Self hatred is the traitor within when temptation arises." The enemy knows shame and self-hatred will only lead us to sin and bondage.
Thank you Sarah, for this video. Self-hatred is a sin. As it is written in Isaiah 45:9-10 What sorrow awaits those who argue with their Creator. Does a clay pot argue with its maker? Does the clay dispute with the one who shapes it, saying, "stop, you're doing wrong!" Does the pot exclaim, "how clumsy can you be?" How terrible it would be if a newborn baby said to its father, "why was I born?", or if it said to its mother, "why did you make me this way?"
Thank you so much for sharing your journey. So many of us didn't/don't feel beautiful and want to change our bodies. It's refreshing to hear a Christian speaking about this xxx
Thank you for this powerful message Sarah! I can totally relate to body dysmorphia and using food and exercise as a weapon to manipulate my body. I've always been on the physically bigger side, so since I was in high school I was restricting food and over exercising to become thinner. Last year I actually severely injured my spine due to over exercising. Months later I am still healing and wow, what a huge wake up call it was! I have repented and asked God for forgiveness for abusing my body and not treating it with the love, care and acceptance it deserves. Being in pain for months has brought me a whole new perspective: for the first time in my life, I truly love and accept my body exactly as it is and I'm so grateful for it keeping me alive and healthy for 30 years now. I don't care about my physical appearance anymore, I simply desire to have enough energy and health to live daily life, to walk, to sit, to work, etc. I am forever changed by this experience and will never go back to those bad habits. I deserve to eat enough and move my body out of love instead of hatred. Also, these months of resting and healing have brought me so much closer to the Lord. As painful as it has been, God has brought so much good out of this situation and I feel like a new person; the woman God meant for me to be. Thanks Sarah
This is something God has been revealing to me all month. I really never saw it as a huge problem, but He’s showing me how it affects the way I love those around me, including God. Thank you God for this word, and Sarah for speaking it. Hearing what you went through is actually a lot of what I went through as well, and hearing you say that God can heal you from this completely is the encouragement I really needed. So thankful for your channel ❤️
Thank you for this message Sarah❤️ I’m in tears because of your story of self rejection especially in high school. Something I deeply relate to. The constant comparison and wanting someone else’s life😢💔 May God bless you 😊
Wow! I literally have felt and gone through all this as well! It’s so cool to listen to someone else that has gone through the same things. I also remember feeling that way as young as I can remember and just always hated myself and how I looked and would struggle with that and always wanted to be someone else. Literally every single thing you listed I have felt as well and I’m only 8 minutes in! So good! Thank you girl for sharing ❤❤❤
This video...couldn't be more relevant. Months ago I expressed my deep care for a woman I knew. I did this only after I had made certain it was alright with God. Honestly Sarah, some of you and Adam's testimony gave me the bravery to do so. But...she didn't take it very well and...I lost her forever. I've hated myself for causing her any amount if discomfort ever since. It's been months. I can't sleep or find any peace. The guilt I feel has been...debilitating. Mourning this loss has been...agonizing.
I'm so sorry this happened. You are not at fault for deeply caring about someone! That is never wrong. Your feelings are valid and beautiful, regardless of how they are perceived.
Me! I can very much relate!! I hated myself when I was younger…I always talked about getting various surgeries done to my face. I wanted to gain weight because I was and still am naturally skinny…but when I truly found God he changed me and how I felt about myself. I feel so beautiful now….❤️ thank you for this video Sarah….I’ve became very interested in you and your husband’s messages for us Christians….so you’ll see me commenting very often on your videos now….I keep telling myself this…but I truly believe God sent me to your channel to allow me to see what a true Godly woman is….and that he also sent me to your husband’s channel to show me what kind of Godly man I need to be saving myself for….thank you GOD. As an 18 year old I would rather spend my days in the house with God than partying.
Amen! I feel like the definition of success is, walking in God's perfect will. The world will tell you that success is, "as long as you are happy, that's all that matters!" Or, "When you have this and that, then you are successful." The world's version of success will always leave one chronically unsatisfied.
If you’ve had Covid, that’s probably where the extreme fatigue is coming from. Many of us who had COVID have this weird type of exhaustion that doctors aren’t sure when or if it will ever go away.
Honestly Sarah, because of how early these struggles began in your life, and also their intensity, I am partial to believing that they are a general curse that should be tackled through deliverance. Speaking and meditating on the word can also lead to self deliverance, but I think you might benefit from seeking a believer who is skilled with deliverance and can help you. Repenting of partnering with the thoughts of the evil spirit, and declaring and internalizing the Word of God ( as you mentioned) is also a vital part of the process. Blessings from Trinidad❤
Thank you I forgot to mention generational patterns that was on my list - yes a lot of them were! And like I said in my video I have worked through many of them which is when I’ve received many deliverance sessions 🥰 but thanks for bringing that up I will pin a comment about this because I meant to mention generational!
As a faith-based health Coach, I really appreciated the segment when you talked about really identifying whether one does exercise as a form of punishment to oneself vs out of love for one’s body. Also, praying over our body as whole/specific parts that we may have overtly or subconsciously rejected is key.
Ive tried to watch this video five times now. Every time i get scared and just press pause. I know I need to hear this video. Because i know im deep in this emotion right now. Im doing thing that prove that to me every day. But its so hard to get out of. Please pray for me if you can.. I really need it. 💜
After every social interaction, I beat myself up about how I messed up that conversation, how blundering I must seem. The words that we receive from others can be so damaging and it echoes even into today, but I didn't realize that the way I was speaking death over myself is quite literally, reaping death. Going to go pray over my gangliness and my nose, haha. But also for Lord to help me accept my very personality. For so so so long I wished I could not exist as I am and that another person should have been born into my body, and into my life. That my mind and spirit was stupid and dumb. I really have had so many "I hate you" thoughts. I am starting to feel sad over how I've treated myself for so long. Thank you Jesus that you can deliver me from this. I am working on understanding my identity, it is helpful to be pointed back that it's not all about me discovering MY identity first, but who God is first. THANK YOU so much for your videos. You speak without doing it for your own gain or popularity, and each sentence you share is informative. This is so good, "God I want to know you and see the consistency in your character. Help me know you."
I just wanted to say your channel is blessing me so much and God is using you in ways beyond your imagination!! thank you for your obedience and perseverance Xx
I've also been working through that this past year. Thank you for sharing and for the prayer! (Self hatred is disobedience to the second commandment written in Matthew 22:39 "And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’" so I guess we could call it a sin :) )
From a young age I've hated myself. It's deeply entrenched. I grew up in the Church. I was struggling with all sorts of things, and in 2020 I got a chronic illness out of nowhere. No one knows what caused it. But now, I'm just now learning how to fight in the Spirit. It's so hard...the warfare has been unbelievable lately; the worst I've ever experienced. I have voices speaking death over me, and my sleep has been attacked by nightmares, insomnia, and some unexplainable experiences. I love Jesus, I want to serve Him, and I believe in Him with all my heart. But I worry about what is happening to me sometimes. It sounds crazy, but I've felt dark presences behind me in the middle of the day. Is the Holy Spirit still with me? If I can experience much more dark things than I do the Holy Spirit, what am I doing wrong? I read my Bible every morning, I repent, I ask God to speak to me through His word, and He does, so why am I experiencing such evil presences? It may be I need deliverance. It's super hard to do this currently surrounded by family who don't believe Christian's can be oppressed by demons. And to be honest, I still have trouble admitting it myself.
Hi please try to partner in prayer with deliverance ministries. I was helped through prophet TB Joshua's ministry called Synagogue Church of All Nations in Nigeria its Emmanuel TV on youtube. The thing with demonic stronghold is that you need a person with a higher anointing to help you as you do the self deliverance. There is also the deliverance podcast on youtube by one of Prophet TB Joshua's disciples. TB Joshua transitioned to heaven but if you watch his videos the anointing is still very powerful. May God bless you on your journey to total freedom in Jesus Christ
Hi, I would recommend to change that profile pick, because the pentagram is of the enemy, and clean your home from all ungodly things (symbolism, ungodly books, movies, songs, statues, pictures etc. and renounce those things in Jesus name).
I asked the Lord for help in facing this part of myself that for the longest time brought me so much shame. It came to a point in which I honestly did not know if I was more powerful than the intrusive thoughts and lack of self-worth and esteem. But deep down I always knew that if the Lord had over and over renewed the hearts of others and done miracles in the darkest places, He would also help me face this and overcome it. Your video came in such a timely moment for me, thank you for your bravery in sharing your story. People don’t realize how strong one has to be to put themselves out there with such vulnerability. I appreciate you so much and pray that the Lord will continue to guide your path and deliver you from any remnants of this inner battle. 🙏🏽💕
Thank you Sarah. God is helping me where this Identity thing is concerned and i can relate so much to this topic. God gave me a scripture about my identity, its in Acts 17 vs 28 and i believe he led me to read it in The Passion translation. The scripture says "In him we live and function and have our identity". I am learning to understand that my identity isn't found in the lies the enemy told me as a child, it isn't found in the things i do not like about my body, its isn't found in the good or bad opinion of men. My identity is found in the Christ, in the one who loves me and gave himself for me.
I can resonate with you a lot, never truly knew I had some hate towards myself, I used buying clothes and substance to distract myself. I always wondered why I was so sensitive and I hated that, still kinda do tbh but im thankful watching this its showing me a perspective I never deeply looked into. im good enough and im perfect the way I am even through imperfections, thats how god created me. but one thing you did mentioned that triggered me is I do need to repent, thanks for the content. god bless you!
Hi Sarah, Thank you for sharing your story and being brave enough to do so when its hard to share. I resonate with a lot of what you shared. I'm looking to heal and seek deliverance from this with the Lord. God Bless you in your journey of healing.
Wow so beautiful thank you so true we need to depend on the fathers love and how Jesus sees us . I too look back and see this started very young feeling of self rejection and hatred.God bless you and your husband xox 🕊️
Thank you so much Sarah. May God continue to bless you for your vulnerability and obedience to Him. He's truly using you to reach our hearts. This has been a hard truth to realise and accept but I'm glad I finally did because the truth will set me free.
I'm going through this right now. I'm getting to the point where I'm really tired of the self hate that's been going on since I was little. It's been such a part of me that I've been able to function alright with it but it's becoming intolerable and I'm crying every day and finally seeking God's help about it now. I just want to thank you for your courage and for sharing this. I've been feeling so alone. Thank you for talking about this from a faith-centred perspective.
Thank you for the video! I love seeing you evolve in your journey. You seem to have grown so much in confidence and knowledge and experience (and all that feels like you are so much more mature. Not that you were immature before but more like seeing a tree growing and growing every month and getting more and more mature every day). And that's amazing to see, how God is involved in your life and transforming/refining you. So thank you again for this video and to have shared about this subject. May God bless you abundantly!
I also hated my face, but my idea was to move somewhere where no one knew me and hide myself. I mean this in a nice way, but I would never change myself to be accepted by others, they're not worth it
Thank you so much for this video 😭❤ not that it’s good that we go through things like this but… it’s so comforting to know that other believers have the same battles as me. I’ve also battled with self-hatred since I was a teenager. He has been showing me the connection between the self-hatred and the fear of man and the spirit of fear. I have moderate to severe social anxiety and panic attacks when I find myself meeting new people, or situations where I have to be the “center of attention”. For some reason I don’t like being in the spotlight, but at the same time I’ve based my whole life on gaining approval from other people and people-pleasing. He’s been showing me that I do need deliverance and that I need to meditate on who He says that I am. Since I was saved at a really young age, I never read my Bible enough to know how much He truly loves me. It was like, I knew that He died on the cross for the whole world, but me personally? Nah, I just didn’t feel like I was included in that for a long time. I couldn’t accept it because I hated myself. If you believe the lie that you are not loved personally by your Creator, please repent and COME TO JESUS because He loves you SO MUCH that He gave His life for you to be redeemed and set free from condemnation! It brings so much healing just to realize that everything you once believed is not the truth! To know that I am more than able in Christ Jesus to live a life that is HOLY and RIGHTEOUS is going to break the chains! Also one more thing, if you are struggling with self-hatred, read Romans 8 and Ephesians! God says through Paul that we were PREDESTINED to be conformed to the image of His Son {Romans 8:29!} To me, that sounds matter of fact! Set in stone, sisters and brothers 🤗 He who began a good work in you WILL bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ {Philippians 1:6!} AMEN. The Holy Spirit does all the work through us, all we have to do is seek Him with all of our hearts {Matthew 6:33; Jeremiah 29:13!} And praise God that because of Jesus… the Father sees us clothed in robes of righteousness. We are loved by the Father just as Jesus is. What a blessing ❤
thank you sooo much for this video Sarah. I really appreciate your vulnerability and you sharing some practical ways on how to overcome these issues and your experience with them. Honestly, its so nice to see another Christian woman being candid about her experience with self hatred because I don't see this often and its so needed. May God continue to bless you, ps I'm deffo subscribing !
Can you share counseling + deliverance sources that have helped you, whether online or in person? I’ve been praying for healing and was literally praying about hating his creation in me last night. Asking Him to let us all see ourselves and each other the way He does and to let go of all shame , trauma and self rejection🙏🤍 also the Bible recap is such a confirmation, I’ve been debating on buying the book for a while and had no idea this was a podcast!
Hey Krystal! My deliverance has come from my spiritual director and through local churches that I’ve gone to, it can be hard to find someone to help with inner healing and deliverance though it shouldn’t be because I believe all churches should offer it! If you’re part of a church I would start by checking with them first and or looking online to see if there’s someone near you who can minister to you! There are deliverance “maps” as well to find people to help. Sometimes others will travel to other churches if it’s not offered at there’s! It’s been a process and I find I’ve gotten a little bit of freedom from each experience! Most importantly pray for the Lord to led you to the right person 🙏
I relate to this too! I sometimes start by asking when God wants to bring people in to help you heal and when you should focus on His help mainly. I'm sure He is already showing you different options ❤️ 2 Timothy 1:7 might help. I'm sorry your struggling with this. I'll try keep you in my prayers, that you will heal in Christ alone ❤️ (this is just an opinion and it might not be right for you but atleat know you are not alone)
Sarah, I am desperately asking for prayers please.. I have been going through debilitating anxiety since January last year after I had a massive terrifying anxiety attack. Since then I have been punched left right and centre with symptoms and was told it’s all anxiety but a few things have popped up now.. the doctor still says I’m for the most part ok but I’m so scared of everything I feel .. I am not Christian but have been seeking for a long time and begging God for help or to give me some peace.. like you I have been so so fatigued all the time and it scares me… I don’t have much support in my life at all, my partner is sick of hearing me cry and talk about my fear and symptoms all the time.. but I feel worse when people lose their temper at me… I just want Gods help… but I worry He doesn’t want me.. or to help me… I’m so sick of this suffering all the time… please God give me some help. I don’t want to live in such fear any more …
Ask God to make himself real to you because He really wants too. God can’t help unless you let Him in. Start reading the gospels to soften your heart. I’m praying for you to truly know God🙏🏾
I've struggled with similar issues. Crippling social anxiety, self-hate and depression. I thought God wouldn't love me, but He does. Open your heart to Him sincerely and He will show Himself to you and heal you! Jeremiah 29:11-13 "For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.
I have been asking God to reveal himself to me for years.. some things have happened here and there with coincidences but nothing solid or that helps me… I am so alone. I beg cry out to God, I try to repent for all that I can but things are getting worse.. my partner of 12 years is on the edge of leaving me because he says I’m ruining his life.. I have had a very stressful life.. my anxiety started when I was 10 from bullying.. then other awful things happened. This is why I’m worried God doesn’t want me … the amount of things that happened in my life last year were so overwhelming for me. One night I prayed sincerely from my heart last year, and woke suddenly in the middle of the night to a very large frame in my room shaking and banging so loud it went through my whole house, scared my partner awake so much that he screamed out of shock for a minute and he was dreaming that his life was flashing before his eyes. All these weird and difficult things have been happening. My heart is so broken and I’m worried God doesn’t love everyone.. I’m so sorry to say that what I’m fearing…
I have also been reading the Bible when I can for about a year as well.. not consistently because sometimes that causes me to fear Him so much as well..
I listened to this yesterday and it resonated a little - just not as greatly as it did in the areas you discussed. Today as I spent time with the Lord, I focused on an area in my life which caused great pain. The Holy Spirit said gently, there are none so blind, who cannot see. We tooed and frowed, about what this meant. I confessed there were things I wasn't getting, that it is written, believers should get. Then the Spirit recalled this video - where you cited the need to repent of what you did to your body. I knew the Holy Spirit was directing me to search for my need of repentance. Surely, I had already repented in the area of my life which caused great pain? Had I not forgiven those people? But the spirit was asking me to revisit, and that's when it clicked with what you said about hating your body, God created. I had to repent of the body of people, God had allowed into my life, who caused me great pain. Because I was inadvertently hating God's provision through those difficult times. The body can be your physical body, or it can be the body of people around you - influencing you. The tares and the wheat stand together. While I did not recognise this, I was inadvertently hating God's provision through those particular struggles. I repented, as soon as I realised, and came straight here to share. The pandemic was a time, we started to hate the body of people around us - even if their actions towards others were worthy of disliking. We've now set a pattern in our heads that as long as we deserve to be outraged, we can ignore God's provision and plans might actually be part of that same struggle. The tares and the wheat, grow together because it causes the least amount of destruction to the harvest. The harvest is God's goodness, grace and mercy. His provision. How quickly we forget.
Thank you! This one is the Canon EOS M50 Mark II and I’m using a 24mm lens! Had to play around with the settings too by watching a RUclips video on it :)
i’m confused. i was taught you’re supposed to hate yourself. to hate your body because it’s your flesh. to want to hurt yourself because God hates our flesh. then how, are we supposed to love ourself? are we allowed to feel beautiful? are we allowed to feel happy as ourself? is that vanity? i want to feel good, to feel confident & look good, but everyone says it’s wrong. i want to feel pretty but everyone says it’s a sin.
Is any surgery ok, any external beauty treatments ok? Like in the book of Esther, she underwent internal and external treatments or is this an example of her insides being cleansed first with Myrtle and then the external changes through the Lord? I recently thought of the scripture about the husband honouring his own body, not hating it, nourishing it...and it made me think on the body issues...that Jesus is our husband and he called us not to hate our bodies but nourish them.
Isn't self-hatred kind of ego manifestation ( pride, not acceptance, self interest, no gratitude, comparaison...) I'll go further, think people who push others to self hatread is kind a killing...this the whole purpose of bullying or marketing based on people's tears and fears exploiting weaknesses of the ego. For me I fully understand this attitude in my self, kind a arrogance made of agression against God's plans, ungratefullness instead of love, trust, faith. May got help everyone to overcome that pain. Thank you for your wonderfull video
I think this would answer your question about self hatred being a sin: Matthew 22:36-38: “Teacher, which is the great commandment in the Law?” And the One said to him: “‘You shall love the Lord your God with your whole heart, and with your whole soul, and with your whole mind’ [Deut 6:5] - this is the great and foremost commandment. Matthew 22:39: And the second is like it, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself’ [Lev 19:18]. We ought to love others AS ourselves. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7: Love is patient. Love shows-kindness. Love does not envy, does not brag, is not puffed-up, does not behave-dishonorably, does not seek its own things, is not provoked, does not count the bad, does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices-with the truth, bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails. That would mean that we'd need to show that love for ourselves as well as others.
It is funny how beautiful girls (like you Sarah) hate yourself and girls who not look good or with poor selfcare are confident like a Miss World. Hope you will love yourself more! Wish you all the best! You are beautiful 😍
couple of things Sarah: a. when we hate ourselves we are bringing into our lives the spirit of hate…doesn’t matter if you hate someone else, hate something else, or hate yourself, either way you are “hating”. When you “hate” you are taking your spirit and rather than focusing it on God, you are focusing on it to hate, which of course only destroys it. Satan is quite clever. b. And then of course Christ teaches us the ultimate two things to be and do: Love God with all your heart mind and soul, and love your neighbor as yourself. When we hate ourselves, clearly we are not loving God with all our heart mind and soul, and clearly not able to love our neighbors as we cannot even love ourselves. Gain Satan is clever. So, what is the ultimate sin that hating yourself actually empowers: not loving God with all our heart mind and soul…and this of course your relationship with Him to come tumbling down.
I forgot to mention generational patterns or curses when it comes to this topic which mine was heavily related to, however, this all falls under deliverance! And thank you to those who provided some scriptures with why self-hatred is a sin, and to love ourselves! I did not prepare scriptures for this video like I would have liked to so thank you for sharing them!
Wow, what a timely message! I've been dealing with self-hatred and anxiety for the past week.. it's been difficult for me to even leave my house 😔 I'm naturally an introvert but during this time I've been wanting to hide and retreat from the world more than ever. I know it has stemmed from being so fixated on myself (the way I look or feel) rather than focusing on Jesus and others. Thank you for being so vulnerable and transparent with us. Praying for you Sarah 🙏🏼❤️
"Hate the sin, but separate yourself from the sin." Loved this.
The enemy attacks us early on with shame! It is his main tactic. I read this quote from a healing prayer book: "Self hatred is the traitor within when temptation arises." The enemy knows shame and self-hatred will only lead us to sin and bondage.
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Thank you Sarah, for this video. Self-hatred is a sin. As it is written in Isaiah 45:9-10 What sorrow awaits those who argue with their Creator. Does a clay pot argue with its maker? Does the clay dispute with the one who shapes it, saying, "stop, you're doing wrong!" Does the pot exclaim, "how clumsy can you be?" How terrible it would be if a newborn baby said to its father, "why was I born?", or if it said to its mother, "why did you make me this way?"
That's what I say to my mom when she hates for very few kilos...so sad
Ty soooo muchhhh!
Excellent Scripture to illustrate your point!
He said love other as yourself so of course he doesn’t want us to hate ourselves!!
Thank you so much for sharing your journey. So many of us didn't/don't feel beautiful and want to change our bodies. It's refreshing to hear a Christian speaking about this xxx
I enjoy the simplicity of your videos. It’s easy to connect with and understand.
Thank you for this powerful message Sarah! I can totally relate to body dysmorphia and using food and exercise as a weapon to manipulate my body. I've always been on the physically bigger side, so since I was in high school I was restricting food and over exercising to become thinner. Last year I actually severely injured my spine due to over exercising. Months later I am still healing and wow, what a huge wake up call it was! I have repented and asked God for forgiveness for abusing my body and not treating it with the love, care and acceptance it deserves. Being in pain for months has brought me a whole new perspective: for the first time in my life, I truly love and accept my body exactly as it is and I'm so grateful for it keeping me alive and healthy for 30 years now. I don't care about my physical appearance anymore, I simply desire to have enough energy and health to live daily life, to walk, to sit, to work, etc. I am forever changed by this experience and will never go back to those bad habits. I deserve to eat enough and move my body out of love instead of hatred. Also, these months of resting and healing have brought me so much closer to the Lord. As painful as it has been, God has brought so much good out of this situation and I feel like a new person; the woman God meant for me to be. Thanks Sarah
This is something God has been revealing to me all month. I really never saw it as a huge problem, but He’s showing me how it affects the way I love those around me, including God. Thank you God for this word, and Sarah for speaking it. Hearing what you went through is actually a lot of what I went through as well, and hearing you say that God can heal you from this completely is the encouragement I really needed. So thankful for your channel ❤️
Thank you for this message Sarah❤️
I’m in tears because of your story of self rejection especially in high school. Something I deeply relate to. The constant comparison and wanting someone else’s life😢💔
May God bless you 😊
Wow! I literally have felt and gone through all this as well! It’s so cool to listen to someone else that has gone through the same things. I also remember feeling that way as young as I can remember and just always hated myself and how I looked and would struggle with that and always wanted to be someone else. Literally every single thing you listed I have felt as well and I’m only 8 minutes in! So good! Thank you girl for sharing ❤❤❤
I like the change of scenery 🇨🇦🌨Thank you for the msg, Sarah.
This video...couldn't be more relevant. Months ago I expressed my deep care for a woman I knew. I did this only after I had made certain it was alright with God. Honestly Sarah, some of you and Adam's testimony gave me the bravery to do so. But...she didn't take it very well and...I lost her forever. I've hated myself for causing her any amount if discomfort ever since. It's been months. I can't sleep or find any peace. The guilt I feel has been...debilitating. Mourning this loss has been...agonizing.
Awww pls take heart and I hope your forgive yourself 🙏🏾💗
I'm so sorry this happened. You are not at fault for deeply caring about someone! That is never wrong. Your feelings are valid and beautiful, regardless of how they are perceived.
Sarah ❤
Such a timely message so needed
Your brave authentic vulnerability to share !
God bless ❤️🩹🙏
Me! I can very much relate!! I hated myself when I was younger…I always talked about getting various surgeries done to my face. I wanted to gain weight because I was and still am naturally skinny…but when I truly found God he changed me and how I felt about myself. I feel so beautiful now….❤️ thank you for this video Sarah….I’ve became very interested in you and your husband’s messages for us Christians….so you’ll see me commenting very often on your videos now….I keep telling myself this…but I truly believe God sent me to your channel to allow me to see what a true Godly woman is….and that he also sent me to your husband’s channel to show me what kind of Godly man I need to be saving myself for….thank you GOD. As an 18 year old I would rather spend my days in the house with God than partying.
God bless you love Jesus loves you so much, and your worth more then you realise I shall try to pray for you
Amen! I feel like the definition of success is, walking in God's perfect will. The world will tell you that success is, "as long as you are happy, that's all that matters!" Or, "When you have this and that, then you are successful." The world's version of success will always leave one chronically unsatisfied.
If you’ve had Covid, that’s probably where the extreme fatigue is coming from. Many of us who had COVID have this weird type of exhaustion that doctors aren’t sure when or if it will ever go away.
This is a wonderful video, Sarah. I literally prayed the same thing about asking God to help me see myself as He sees me. Wishing you the best.
You're beautiful!!! Very wonderful video be blessed!!!🕊🤍
amen
Honestly Sarah, because of how early these struggles began in your life, and also their intensity, I am partial to believing that they are a general curse that should be tackled through deliverance. Speaking and meditating on the word can also lead to self deliverance, but I think you might benefit from seeking a believer who is skilled with deliverance and can help you. Repenting of partnering with the thoughts of the evil spirit, and declaring and internalizing the Word of God ( as you mentioned) is also a vital part of the process. Blessings from Trinidad❤
Thank you I forgot to mention generational patterns that was on my list - yes a lot of them were! And like I said in my video I have worked through many of them which is when I’ve received many deliverance sessions 🥰 but thanks for bringing that up I will pin a comment about this because I meant to mention generational!
As a faith-based health Coach, I really appreciated the segment when you talked about really identifying whether one does exercise as a form of punishment to oneself vs out of love for one’s body. Also, praying over our body as whole/specific parts that we may have overtly or subconsciously rejected is key.
Ive tried to watch this video five times now. Every time i get scared and just press pause. I know I need to hear this video. Because i know im deep in this emotion right now. Im doing thing that prove that to me every day. But its so hard to get out of. Please pray for me if you can.. I really need it. 💜
After every social interaction, I beat myself up about how I messed up that conversation, how blundering I must seem.
The words that we receive from others can be so damaging and it echoes even into today, but I didn't realize that the way I was speaking death over myself is quite literally, reaping death. Going to go pray over my gangliness and my nose, haha. But also for Lord to help me accept my very personality. For so so so long I wished I could not exist as I am and that another person should have been born into my body, and into my life. That my mind and spirit was stupid and dumb. I really have had so many "I hate you" thoughts. I am starting to feel sad over how I've treated myself for so long.
Thank you Jesus that you can deliver me from this. I am working on understanding my identity, it is helpful to be pointed back that it's not all about me discovering MY identity first, but who God is first. THANK YOU so much for your videos. You speak without doing it for your own gain or popularity, and each sentence you share is informative.
This is so good, "God I want to know you and see the consistency in your character. Help me know you."
YOUR VIDEOS ARE SO TIMELY, I struggle with this a lot and God bless you for shedding light on this issue I struggle with daily.
I just wanted to say your channel is blessing me so much and God is using you in ways beyond your imagination!! thank you for your obedience and perseverance Xx
I've also been working through that this past year. Thank you for sharing and for the prayer! (Self hatred is disobedience to the second commandment written in Matthew 22:39 "And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’" so I guess we could call it a sin :) )
From a young age I've hated myself. It's deeply entrenched. I grew up in the Church. I was struggling with all sorts of things, and in 2020 I got a chronic illness out of nowhere. No one knows what caused it. But now, I'm just now learning how to fight in the Spirit. It's so hard...the warfare has been unbelievable lately; the worst I've ever experienced. I have voices speaking death over me, and my sleep has been attacked by nightmares, insomnia, and some unexplainable experiences. I love Jesus, I want to serve Him, and I believe in Him with all my heart. But I worry about what is happening to me sometimes. It sounds crazy, but I've felt dark presences behind me in the middle of the day.
Is the Holy Spirit still with me? If I can experience much more dark things than I do the Holy Spirit, what am I doing wrong? I read my Bible every morning, I repent, I ask God to speak to me through His word, and He does, so why am I experiencing such evil presences?
It may be I need deliverance. It's super hard to do this currently surrounded by family who don't believe Christian's can be oppressed by demons. And to be honest, I still have trouble admitting it myself.
Hi please try to partner in prayer with deliverance ministries. I was helped through prophet TB Joshua's ministry called Synagogue Church of All Nations in Nigeria its Emmanuel TV on youtube. The thing with demonic stronghold is that you need a person with a higher anointing to help you as you do the self deliverance. There is also the deliverance podcast on youtube by one of Prophet TB Joshua's disciples. TB Joshua transitioned to heaven but if you watch his videos the anointing is still very powerful. May God bless you on your journey to total freedom in Jesus Christ
Hi, I would recommend to change that profile pick, because the pentagram is of the enemy, and clean your home from all ungodly things (symbolism, ungodly books, movies, songs, statues, pictures etc. and renounce those things in Jesus name).
I asked the Lord for help in facing this part of myself that for the longest time brought me so much shame. It came to a point in which I honestly did not know if I was more powerful than the intrusive thoughts and lack of self-worth and esteem. But deep down I always knew that if the Lord had over and over renewed the hearts of others and done miracles in the darkest places, He would also help me face this and overcome it. Your video came in such a timely moment for me, thank you for your bravery in sharing your story. People don’t realize how strong one has to be to put themselves out there with such vulnerability. I appreciate you so much and pray that the Lord will continue to guide your path and deliver you from any remnants of this inner battle. 🙏🏽💕
Thank you Sarah. God is helping me where this Identity thing is concerned and i can relate so much to this topic. God gave me a scripture about my identity, its in Acts 17 vs 28 and i believe he led me to read it in The Passion translation. The scripture says "In him we live and function and have our identity". I am learning to understand that my identity isn't found in the lies the enemy told me as a child, it isn't found in the things i do not like about my body, its isn't found in the good or bad opinion of men. My identity is found in the Christ, in the one who loves me and gave himself for me.
I can resonate with you a lot, never truly knew I had some hate towards myself, I used buying clothes and substance to distract myself. I always wondered why I was so sensitive and I hated that, still kinda do tbh but im thankful watching this its showing me a perspective I never deeply looked into. im good enough and im perfect the way I am even through imperfections, thats how god created me. but one thing you did mentioned that triggered me is I do need to repent, thanks for the content. god bless you!
Wonderful and very life giving! I've never heard a message on this! I especially like what you said about hating the sin but not yourself! Thank you!
Thank you.
Hi Sarah, Thank you for sharing your story and being brave enough to do so when its hard to share. I resonate with a lot of what you shared. I'm looking to heal and seek deliverance from this with the Lord. God Bless you in your journey of healing.
Appreciate your honesty and openness 🥰
Wow so beautiful thank you so true we need to depend on the fathers love and how Jesus sees us . I too look back and see this started very young feeling of self rejection and hatred.God bless you and your husband xox 🕊️
Thank you for this timely word. I relate to a lot of the internal dialogues you shared.
This message is such a blessing!
Thank you so much Sarah. May God continue to bless you for your vulnerability and obedience to Him. He's truly using you to reach our hearts. This has been a hard truth to realise and accept but I'm glad I finally did because the truth will set me free.
I'm going through this right now. I'm getting to the point where I'm really tired of the self hate that's been going on since I was little. It's been such a part of me that I've been able to function alright with it but it's becoming intolerable and I'm crying every day and finally seeking God's help about it now. I just want to thank you for your courage and for sharing this. I've been feeling so alone. Thank you for talking about this from a faith-centred perspective.
Thank you for the video! I love seeing you evolve in your journey. You seem to have grown so much in confidence and knowledge and experience (and all that feels like you are so much more mature. Not that you were immature before but more like seeing a tree growing and growing every month and getting more and more mature every day). And that's amazing to see, how God is involved in your life and transforming/refining you.
So thank you again for this video and to have shared about this subject.
May God bless you abundantly!
thank you for this.
Thank you for sharing and for being so transparent.
love your content ! ♡ GOD BLESS YOU ALWAYS ! :)
I also hated my face, but my idea was to move somewhere where no one knew me and hide myself. I mean this in a nice way, but I would never change myself to be accepted by others, they're not worth it
Thank you for this video 💜 All your videos and everything you do helps me day to day. Thank you. And thank you God 💜
This was very helpful. It made me think a lot about how I treat myself and my body based on what certain people have said about me?
Thank you so much for this video 😭❤ not that it’s good that we go through things like this but… it’s so comforting to know that other believers have the same battles as me.
I’ve also battled with self-hatred since I was a teenager. He has been showing me the connection between the self-hatred and the fear of man and the spirit of fear. I have moderate to severe social anxiety and panic attacks when I find myself meeting new people, or situations where I have to be the “center of attention”. For some reason I don’t like being in the spotlight, but at the same time I’ve based my whole life on gaining approval from other people and people-pleasing. He’s been showing me that I do need deliverance and that I need to meditate on who He says that I am. Since I was saved at a really young age, I never read my Bible enough to know how much He truly loves me. It was like, I knew that He died on the cross for the whole world, but me personally? Nah, I just didn’t feel like I was included in that for a long time. I couldn’t accept it because I hated myself.
If you believe the lie that you are not loved personally by your Creator, please repent and COME TO JESUS because He loves you SO MUCH that He gave His life for you to be redeemed and set free from condemnation! It brings so much healing just to realize that everything you once believed is not the truth! To know that I am more than able in Christ Jesus to live a life that is HOLY and RIGHTEOUS is going to break the chains!
Also one more thing, if you are struggling with self-hatred, read Romans 8 and Ephesians! God says through Paul that we were PREDESTINED to be conformed to the image of His Son {Romans 8:29!} To me, that sounds matter of fact! Set in stone, sisters and brothers 🤗 He who began a good work in you WILL bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ {Philippians 1:6!} AMEN. The Holy Spirit does all the work through us, all we have to do is seek Him with all of our hearts {Matthew 6:33; Jeremiah 29:13!} And praise God that because of Jesus… the Father sees us clothed in robes of righteousness. We are loved by the Father just as Jesus is. What a blessing ❤
thank you so much for this. your candor is so inspiring and convicting, i am blessed to have come across your page.
thank you sooo much for this video Sarah. I really appreciate your vulnerability and you sharing some practical ways on how to overcome these issues and your experience with them. Honestly, its so nice to see another Christian woman being candid about her experience with self hatred because I don't see this often and its so needed. May God continue to bless you, ps I'm deffo subscribing !
Can you share counseling + deliverance sources that have helped you, whether online or in person? I’ve been praying for healing and was literally praying about hating his creation in me last night. Asking Him to let us all see ourselves and each other the way He does and to let go of all shame , trauma and self rejection🙏🤍 also the Bible recap is such a confirmation, I’ve been debating on buying the book for a while and had no idea this was a podcast!
Hey Krystal! My deliverance has come from my spiritual director and through local churches that I’ve gone to, it can be hard to find someone to help with inner healing and deliverance though it shouldn’t be because I believe all churches should offer it! If you’re part of a church I would start by checking with them first and or looking online to see if there’s someone near you who can minister to you! There are deliverance “maps” as well to find people to help. Sometimes others will travel to other churches if it’s not offered at there’s! It’s been a process and I find I’ve gotten a little bit of freedom from each experience! Most importantly pray for the Lord to led you to the right person 🙏
I relate to this too! I sometimes start by asking when God wants to bring people in to help you heal and when you should focus on His help mainly. I'm sure He is already showing you different options ❤️ 2 Timothy 1:7 might help. I'm sorry your struggling with this. I'll try keep you in my prayers, that you will heal in Christ alone ❤️ (this is just an opinion and it might not be right for you but atleat know you are not alone)
Thank you for sharing this! This is so helpful!
Sarah, I am desperately asking for prayers please.. I have been going through debilitating anxiety since January last year after I had a massive terrifying anxiety attack. Since then I have been punched left right and centre with symptoms and was told it’s all anxiety but a few things have popped up now.. the doctor still says I’m for the most part ok but I’m so scared of everything I feel .. I am not Christian but have been seeking for a long time and begging God for help or to give me some peace.. like you I have been so so fatigued all the time and it scares me… I don’t have much support in my life at all, my partner is sick of hearing me cry and talk about my fear and symptoms all the time.. but I feel worse when people lose their temper at me… I just want Gods help… but I worry He doesn’t want me.. or to help me… I’m so sick of this suffering all the time… please God give me some help. I don’t want to live in such fear any more …
Ask God to make himself real to you because He really wants too. God can’t help unless you let Him in. Start reading the gospels to soften your heart. I’m praying for you to truly know God🙏🏾
I've struggled with similar issues. Crippling social anxiety, self-hate and depression. I thought God wouldn't love me, but He does. Open your heart to Him sincerely and He will show Himself to you and heal you! Jeremiah 29:11-13 "For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.
I have been asking God to reveal himself to me for years.. some things have happened here and there with coincidences but nothing solid or that helps me… I am so alone. I beg cry out to God, I try to repent for all that I can but things are getting worse.. my partner of 12 years is on the edge of leaving me because he says I’m ruining his life.. I have had a very stressful life.. my anxiety started when I was 10 from bullying.. then other awful things happened. This is why I’m worried God doesn’t want me … the amount of things that happened in my life last year were so overwhelming for me. One night I prayed sincerely from my heart last year, and woke suddenly in the middle of the night to a very large frame in my room shaking and banging so loud it went through my whole house, scared my partner awake so much that he screamed out of shock for a minute and he was dreaming that his life was flashing before his eyes. All these weird and difficult things have been happening.
My heart is so broken and I’m worried God doesn’t love everyone.. I’m so sorry to say that what I’m fearing…
I have also been reading the Bible when I can for about a year as well.. not consistently because sometimes that causes me to fear Him so much as well..
Im having terrible thoughts about stopping my life..
Thank you!!!!!
I listened to this yesterday and it resonated a little - just not as greatly as it did in the areas you discussed. Today as I spent time with the Lord, I focused on an area in my life which caused great pain. The Holy Spirit said gently, there are none so blind, who cannot see. We tooed and frowed, about what this meant. I confessed there were things I wasn't getting, that it is written, believers should get. Then the Spirit recalled this video - where you cited the need to repent of what you did to your body.
I knew the Holy Spirit was directing me to search for my need of repentance. Surely, I had already repented in the area of my life which caused great pain? Had I not forgiven those people? But the spirit was asking me to revisit, and that's when it clicked with what you said about hating your body, God created.
I had to repent of the body of people, God had allowed into my life, who caused me great pain. Because I was inadvertently hating God's provision through those difficult times. The body can be your physical body, or it can be the body of people around you - influencing you. The tares and the wheat stand together. While I did not recognise this, I was inadvertently hating God's provision through those particular struggles. I repented, as soon as I realised, and came straight here to share.
The pandemic was a time, we started to hate the body of people around us - even if their actions towards others were worthy of disliking. We've now set a pattern in our heads that as long as we deserve to be outraged, we can ignore God's provision and plans might actually be part of that same struggle. The tares and the wheat, grow together because it causes the least amount of destruction to the harvest. The harvest is God's goodness, grace and mercy. His provision. How quickly we forget.
Such an amazing message. Thank you so much ❤❤ blessings!
That was a great message and I ( and others! ) can really identify with what you shared. Ty.
Wow what a good video ! Wasn’t gna watch bc of the title - but sooooo good ! ❤
Thank you for making this video 💕
Thank you for your video
I didnt know that I was struggling with this.
Amen 💗
Such a timely video Sarah!! Any advice for when the self hatred and pride is alienating you from God?
This video was for me🙏🏾🤍thank you so much for sharing with us. 16:53 really resonated with me, God bless you sis🤍
Amen
101 comments 11k 1year ago 😍 I always bless the Lord when I see these numbers ❤️ bless you father God in the name of Jesus Christ Amen
Hey what camera are you using? Love your videos so much!
Thank you! This one is the Canon EOS M50 Mark II and I’m using a 24mm lens! Had to play around with the settings too by watching a RUclips video on it :)
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i’m confused. i was taught you’re supposed to hate yourself. to hate your body because it’s your flesh. to want to hurt yourself because God hates our flesh. then how, are we supposed to love ourself? are we allowed to feel beautiful? are we allowed to feel happy as ourself? is that vanity? i want to feel good, to feel confident & look good, but everyone says it’s wrong. i want to feel pretty but everyone says it’s a sin.
Is any surgery ok, any external beauty treatments ok? Like in the book of Esther, she underwent internal and external treatments or is this an example of her insides being cleansed first with Myrtle and then the external changes through the Lord?
I recently thought of the scripture about the husband honouring his own body, not hating it, nourishing it...and it made me think on the body issues...that Jesus is our husband and he called us not to hate our bodies but nourish them.
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Isn't self-hatred kind of ego manifestation ( pride, not acceptance, self interest, no gratitude, comparaison...) I'll go further, think people who push others to self hatread is kind a killing...this the whole purpose of bullying or marketing based on people's tears and fears exploiting weaknesses of the ego. For me I fully understand this attitude in my self, kind a arrogance made of agression against God's plans, ungratefullness instead of love, trust, faith. May got help everyone to overcome that pain. Thank you for your wonderfull video
I think this would answer your question about self hatred being a sin: Matthew 22:36-38: “Teacher, which is the great commandment in the Law?” And the One said to him: “‘You shall love the Lord your God with your whole heart, and with your whole soul, and with your whole mind’ [Deut 6:5] - this is the great and foremost commandment. Matthew 22:39: And the second is like it, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself’ [Lev 19:18].
We ought to love others AS ourselves.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7: Love is patient. Love shows-kindness. Love does not envy, does not brag, is not puffed-up, does not behave-dishonorably, does not seek its own things, is not provoked, does not count the bad, does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices-with the truth, bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails.
That would mean that we'd need to show that love for ourselves as well as others.
It is funny how beautiful girls (like you Sarah) hate yourself and girls who not look good or with poor selfcare are confident like a Miss World. Hope you will love yourself more! Wish you all the best! You are beautiful 😍
couple of things Sarah:
a. when we hate ourselves we are bringing into our lives the spirit of hate…doesn’t matter if you hate someone else, hate something else, or hate yourself, either way you are “hating”.
When you “hate” you are taking your spirit and rather than focusing it on God, you are focusing on it to hate, which of course only destroys it. Satan is quite clever.
b. And then of course Christ teaches us the ultimate two things to be and do:
Love God with all your heart mind and soul, and love your neighbor as yourself. When we hate ourselves, clearly we are not loving God with all our heart mind and soul, and clearly not able to love our neighbors as we cannot even love ourselves. Gain Satan is clever.
So, what is the ultimate sin that hating yourself actually empowers: not loving God with all our heart mind and soul…and this of course your relationship with Him to come tumbling down.
thank you so much for sharing all of this with us; this video was very powerful for me to listen to 🤍