How is nobody talking about how "Nicole" is the absolute worst person in the first story? I will say Mistress Sarah & OP's now ex-husband aren't blameless, but someone purposely inviting a homewrecker to a wedding to make a scene because they're a racist POS is another level of vile!
Reading this the first time, which is what rSlash always does, you'd never noticed Nicole's involvement here and seems to mainly be about OP, her husband and Sarah. Honestly, this story feels like this is all plotted by Nicole because she's against her being with her husband for obvious reasons and wants to break them up completely, and luckily for her, she has Sarah who's upset that her man picked OP over her, so what better way to break them up than by using her anger towards OP to ruin their wedding?
First story, there's still a couple more updates after Rslash recorded. First one was her confronting Josh about it all and it went as poorly as you'd expect. First, along with confessing he admitted it was closer to *6* years that he was cheating on OP, not 4. Second, he tried to claim that since it was in high school, it shouldn't 'affect her much'. Third, he tried to claim it isn't bad because he isn't cheating on her 'still'. Overall he was defending Sarah. OP has a lawyer, she's told her mom everything and is moving in with her, she's getting the marriage annulled and she's going to try and get what she can, but a lot of it including the house and cars are in his name along with him having access to her bank account and she's worried about her dog. Sarah and Nicole are also blowing up her phone as of that point. Latest update is the marriage has been successfully annulled, OP moved in with her mom, she was able to get one of the cars she was paying for along with her dog without a fight, and they had one last talk for closure, if OP is obviously still hurting. It also turns out that the reason Sarah and Nicole are trying to contact OP was to get on her about 'ruining Josh's reputation' because OP's been telling the truth about what happened. She's blocked them and her ex-in laws are still contacting her and are on her side. Otherwise seems like the end for now and OP is in recovery mode with her mom.
So her Ex-husband is a scumbag all along, wow Also the 'It was in Highschool' is bullshit, dude played two girls from different schools and is there a reason why he chose OP instead of Sarah? He had a job offer? Close to family? Because I highly doubt he loves OP And happy that the In-Laws are on OP's side
Good for OP on getting that marriage annulled, meanwhile Josh, Sarah and Nicole are pieces of sh**t. I wouldn't be surprised if Josh and Sarah get married or are in a relationship after that mess.
Story 1: This SOB not only let his mistress come to the wedding, but defended her when she ruined it? And I do not for one second believe he didn't know she was racist, he had the nerve to look you in the eye and make it seem like you did something wrong, can you prioritize his side piece over his own wife during their wedding. Imprints a real piece of human garbage to make cheating for 4 years not look like the absolute worst character tray about them. It's really hard to believe he ever treated you right giving everything you've talked about.
you seem to have misunderstood a few things Sarah (the mistress) wasn't actually racist (that we know of), nor did Josh invite her. both those aspects are on Nicole, the cousin
@@dragonriderabens9761 I know the cousin let her in, but even if he didn't know she was coming when he saw her he should have been mediately made her leave, not let her stay. The only reason OP let her stay was because she thought that was her husband's friend. And of course after she destroyed the wedding cake him still not wanting her to leave. Also I called a racist because she apparently didn't like OP because she was mixed race, although I guess you can hate inter-racial relationships but have no problem with any race.
What's even more mess up is that Sarah isn't even mad at Josh, she's mad at OP I think Josh lied about being single then dated her then ghost her Like OP Sarah talked to Nicole about Josh and Nicole told her about OP To think both Women consider the 'Other Woman' but never thought of getting mad AT the cheater?
I don't believe they aren't still seeing each other. There is literally no reason to let your mistress stay at a wedding she ruined. I wonder if he even wanted to get married.
Story 3: The funniest thing about this whole situation was that all OP did was just chill at home and explain why he wasn't invited, and it resulted in a major divide between adults and fights. The brother has nobody to blame but himself (and maybe his wife's family)
I can just picture op and his boyfriend at home just watching a film, while in the church there are just 2 large groups of people on both sides of the church yelling at the other group like it's a fucking court case.
Story 1: there were more updates. OP confronted cheating husband, and he admitted to the cheating but claimed it didn't matter because it happened in high school and at least he's not cheating on her anymore. OP got the marriage annulled, got her property (car that was in ex's name but she paid for, and her dog) with the help of a lawyer. Ex's parents have been kind to her about the situation, but Nicole and Sarah were furious at OP for ruining ex's reputation, because OP has told the truth to anyone who has asked. People at ex's work place know about it because somehow word got around. The last conversation OP had with ex was calm, he said he understood why she left him. OP is living at her mom's and looking for a place of her own, and sadly feels she can never trust love again. I hope she can rebuild her life and eventually find happiness again.
Dude... get a grip on real life. Everone makes shit decisions in high school and generally, not always learn from it but most do. What op did not trusting them was fair. What op did trying to ruin their life after was not. I am not a cheater. Cheating is shit. Op is a bigger dick bag all things considered.
One day when she's older, Lily's going to listen to these videos and get to hear for herself just how much you love her. Like you said, it's clear from your comtent what your general morals and opinions on things are, but there's one thing that's crystal clear: you absolutely love your wife and daughter. I think anybody would be honored to hear themselves spoken of the way you speak about them on a regular basis. 💜
Same here! I hope that future he sometimes imagines never comes to pass, and that someday he and his daughter sit down to watch some of his videos together. Maybe she'll be laughing, and him cringing. But i hope they'll be alive and together as a family.
Anyone else want to reach through the screen and hug rslash you really can tell he's a loving father your doing great @rslash keep on doing what your doing.
Yes, even if they don't show it most kids appreciate somebody who genuinely takes time out of their day for them. Frankly them actively avoiding their father prior to him dying was honestly really sad for me who.. well let's say hasn't had a very kind or supportive father..
RSlash, for the second story, that was kind of the dynamic of my family. My dad worked and was the provider while my mom stayed home with us 4 kids. The best thing you can do? Be there as much as you can. Rewards, concerts, anything they’re in. I’m 24 now and while I remember my dad not being there a lot, I also remember all the events he showed up for and how proud of me he was back then. And no matter what, no matter what fight you have, always tell your kids you love them no matter what. That goes further than you might expect. Edit: btw yes, I cried a little writing that and yes, I texted my dad to tell him I love him
@@jenniferann7212 It was probably selfish of his part, but he was on grief too and carrying that information alone would probably destroy him even more. And honestly, OP as the wife has the right to know what was her husband's emotions at his last breath. It's not about what to gain, but the right to know.
rSlash! I demand you take a break and spend some more time with your daughter RIGHT NOW. You're too good of a father for us to have your attention so much!
I think these are just the normal feelings of a full time working parent. On one end they want to provide for their family on the other end spend more time with them. You can't always have both. Even if he cuts down on hours, he'll still feel this way because his wife is there for Lily full time.
I'm guessing he's doing these vids to support his wife and daughter. He's the sole breadwinner so he needs to do this to pay bills for his lovely family ❤
I think it's a lovely thing that Lily has all these videos that you've made, just in the worst case scenario. I think you've been very good at showing your morals through all of them and I think that no matter if she has you in her life still, she'll still listen to your videos and find comfort and guidance through them
Yeah, even if you die at 93 your kids would still love having these. My grandparents lived in Spain for a while and grandpa would just record cassette tapes as letters, talking about what he was doing and then he'd mail them to the kids and they'd send things back. I found one after my mom died and it was the only time I actually really head my grandfather as I was really fond of him but he died when I was two. I'd push grandma out of the way to greet grandpa first and I'd sleep on him. Any recordings are great to have.
@@DullyDust i think at the time it was just a good solution to a problem. I expect phonecalls would be more expensive and they fully expected the tape to be recorded over in the reply but somehow this one got saved. You never know what ends up important. Especially as it was so casual, you can imagine him walking around with the recorder just turning it on when he thought of something to tell them.
I became widowed when I was 29 years old, my husband was 30 when he died of cancer. Our daughters were 1 and 3 years old at the time. He told me a few weeks before he passed that he was thankful that he was the one who was dying because he felt I would be the better parent to raise the girls. He was strong until his final day. I was a stay at home parent so the girls would naturally come to me first for everything. I make sure they knew what a great dad and provider he was for us. He asked me to find someone that would be a good husband and an amazing father for the girls. Two years later I found that man and we married a year later. We are still married and will be celebrating our 25th anniversary later this year. Oh, we had baby girl a year after we were married.
Honestly, Nicole is one of the worst human beings. She knew OP and her husband were together but because she "didn't like OP" she decided to introduce OP's husband to Sarah? What kind of person does that? I hope everyone knows what kind of person Nicole is too because I would not want to be affiliated with someone like that. OP's (ex) husband and Sarah are absolute trash and they can have each other. Why was Sarah even invited to the wedding? That's honestly an insult to BOTH of them. Edit: Thanks for making me cry on that second story. Please use your equipment to make a video for your daughter for like her 16th birthday or her 18th birthday, graduation, whatever. It doesn't matter if a plane has fallen out of the sky and taken you out or if you are still sitting right next to her that day. Make the video for her. Tell a story just for her.
Do you know why Nicole didn't like OP? It's because OP is mixed race. Yep, she's this racist and so against OP that she's willing to do anything to end the relationship and was basically using Sarah being mad at OP for 'stealing her man from her' to end the relationship. At least that's the feeling I got from her.
As someone who thoroughly enjoys it when R/ goes off on one about Nicole or Lily, I've always loved the idea that she one day has these videos to hear and listen to him telling stories, being proud of her milestones, and just making his love for his family a part of his internet footprint.
R/Slash's little girl, if you are watching this someday in the future, whether your dad is still around or not, I want you to know that he loves you very much and that his videos made my and other people's lives better. I've started every day listening to his show and his wit, humor, and kindness fills me with hope for our specie's future. Also, he loves dogs - no more need be said!
I told my father just about every day that I loved him. He died in June ‘17 (just days after Father’s Day in fact). Even though family and friends have assured me otherwise I still have lingering doubts if he truly did know how much I loved him and how proud I am to be his daughter. That second story was really rough to hear.
Yea people are dumb. They don't cherish their parents when they are around, then when they die, the tears come out and they care like they've never have before. Pathetic. Laugh with them while they're here so you don't have to cry when they're gone
I was very close to my dad, and his death hit me extremely hard. It has been almost 3 years, and I can hardly go a few hours without thinking about how much I miss him. I recently had my best friend move in with my family, and I can't help but mention how much my dad would have adored him and would have tried to adopt him. Unfortunately, I now tend to slip into a deep depression in the days leading up to the anniversary of his death. 😭
First Story: Ok, OP's husband's reaction to this is insanely suspecious. Sarah is throwing a fit, ruined the cake, and wedding decorations and he wanted to keep Sarah??? He also gets mad at OP for having her kicked out? Something is going on between this man and Sarah. Yeah, I’m 100% convinced something is going on between him and Sarah; he is demanding OP apologize to Sarah when she was the problem? Wooow, ok Josh is scum, Nicole is racist scum, and Sarah is pure scum. That explains everything, Josh has been cheating on OP for 4 years and Nicole helped Sarah with her revenge; honestly OP needs to get rid of all of these people because they are the worst Second Story: Wow this is a very tragic story. OP's late husband felt like his kids didn’t love him enough and wouldn’t mourn his death but in reality, they are deeply grieving him and he will never know. Third Story: Honestly, in OP's situation I wouldn’t care. I can never respect anyone that will go to any lengths to appease homophobes. OP did nothing wrong and only told the truth, OP didn’t ruin anything.
if you don´t see that the problem here is op then you didn´t understand the story, the red flags were always there and she chose not see them, i will never understand why women are so willing to ignore that just to get a wedding
@@robertorojasbalarezolike another commenter said: love is blind. People tend to be blinded by love soooooo it seems like U don’t understand the story
@@robertorojasbalarezoI agree and disagree. The problem is absolutely the husband for being a cheating jerk. However, OP had HUGE red flags being waved right in her face and was too blinded by “love” to see them.
*First OP:* I remember this story. I think OP had her marriage annulled. Best of luck to OP, and I hope everyone else involved get the lives they deserve. *Second OP:* That's just heartbreaking. I also tend to gravitate toward my mom more so than my dad. I do tell my dad I love him and I always thank him for everything he's done for me. I hope he believes me. *Third OP:* OP respected his brother's and SIL's request to not attend their wedding. The aftermath is on them (and SIL's family). _Apparently,_ OP's brother didn't understand that actions have consequences.
As for the third, apparently consequences are not something bigots expect. Those who did not attend my wedding with my husband have been removed from our lives. When they ask for help, it's not forthcoming. When they ask for forgiveness without visible change, it's not granted.
Gosh, I couldn’t even imagine finding out that my husband cheated on me for so long. I KNOW he would never and he knows I wouldn’t but that would absolutely break me. Then again, I’ve never had anyone be so upfront about having feelings about my husband and he would have kicked someone out of I asked him to. That’s what you do for your significant other. This girl had some huge red flags from the beginning so I’m surprised that she’s surprised about how things turned out.
There was one story where a father knew he was dieing, and he made a cassette for every milestone he could think of for his child. Op cherished those recordings, and if I remember correctly was devastated when they finally stopped coming in. I think they had someone delivering them, but not sure it's been a dogs age since I heard it
I think that’s a very normal thing to think as a parent. It’s so clear how much you love your daughter and wife in every single one of your videos. Even though they’re not about your family, your love for your daughter and wife show in your work. You’re a wonderful Dad!
Story 1 : Get annulled quickly or you will continue to get hurt in this "marriage "... "How could I be so foolish" op love makes you do crazy things and ignore severe red flags that are the size of godzilla Story 2 : reminds me of me and my grandfather .. i never got the chance to tell him goodbye before he died rarely spent time with him when he was alive.. he passed 24 years ago today.. Story 3 : op brothers wife side of the family are horrible people and so is his brother and his sin in law.. bunch of losers..op you didnt ruin your disgusting brothers wedding he and his wife did by giving in to the homophobic jerks..
@@Batman-lg2zj Right? I don't know why people keep acting as if OP did something foolish here. She dated the guy from her freshman year, didn't know this other girl existed. Why then do people think she 'should have known'? Also, the husband apparently broke up with that person 5 YEARS ago. It's sketchy that the husband wasn't angry at Sarah or Nicole for ruining their wedding!
She got the marriage annulled, got her car, dog and bank account with the help of a lawyer and is now in the process of starting her life over. There were more updates.
I remember when I was little, my brother and I would get so excited seeing my dad bc I always saw my mom, but my dad always worked. so whenever he came home, we would run out to his parked car and fight eachother to see who could get to him first. I remember having my heart broken when I heard him say, "I miss seeing you guys run to my car, I know you won't do it forever, I just miss it".... I love you papá
RSlash, we know that you love your daughter so very much. You might not talk about her often but when you do the love that you have for her is evident.
I really hope it wouldn’t come down to this channel being your daughter’s only connection to you. That really made me tear up, this has brought on a whole deeper meaning to your content. I wish you and your family a long and fruitful life together, RSlash. 😭
k, wasnt expecting to cry on an rslash vid today but, yes this channel can be a time capsule but you have the equipment to make one video just for her every once in a while and just put it in a folder called just in case and maybe show them at her wedding one day if youre so lucky
*UDPATE ON 1ST STORY* Basically, she talked with her husband. She told him everything, that she knew about him and Sara and begged him to tell him it wasnt true. But he told her yes, he was dating Sara while dating OP but once it got real with OP ditched Sara. Thing is, this lasted for a long time. He told her that that happened a long time ago and shouldnt matter. She broke up with him, that she loves him but cant see him as the caring husband he was, that she was so in love with him she Didnt see what was happening. Afterwards, she hired a lawyer cause her things and bank acount were on his name, also try to null the marriage and went to live with her parents. In the other update, says that she broke up with him, nulled the marriage and got most of her things (car, bank account, whatnot and even the dogs) but not the house; both paid for it so theres nothing she can do for now. Her parents, his friends and ex's parents know and everyone is conforting OP. Sarah called saying she was a drama queen and that shes ruining her reputation. OP blocked her. For now, OP is rebuilding her life and moving forward, at 23yo She thanks everyone in reddit, tho she isnt planning on getting revenge.
@@Human-kb6xc I dont understand some people. How does one try to destroy a wedding after dating a known Cheater be so willing to call the victim a drama queen? I'd hate to know that girl as a friend, I have a feeling she carries a lot of Convenient knives
@@AdaireKrickets Sarah is probably salty because Josh will forever blame her for ruining his wedding with OP, and her chances of getting him are pretty much zero now.
@@DarkEinherjardoubtful, trash loves trash. The groom didn't wanna kick her out even after such a scene and continued defending her. They deserve nothing but each other.
Regarding the second story: My 5yo highly favors me over my husband, her dad. My husband works more than me and his job takes him out of town frequently. He comments that our child loves me more or doesn’t love him at all. It’s a tough situation and we try very hard to give him ways to give them time to bond. Rslash’s fears are absolutely valid and a real concern.
Story 1: OP's husband is acting very suspiciously, Sarah ruins the cake and decorations, and throws a fit, and OP's husband still wants to keep her? Damn, and he even got mad at OP for kicking her out? I got a theory that he and Sarah are having an affair. Or else why would he go above and beyond to defend her like that? I would be livid at her!
There are two more updates to the first story. Look up the username if you want to read them. Basically the marriage was annulled after the husband first tried begging and then threatening to keep her car etc. So not much drama in the updates, but it ended as well as it could have for OP.
its not dark. as a daughter who knows little of her living father as a Person and not a Dad, it makes my heart very happy to hear. your daughter will know how much you care about her because even if you can't always make the Time happen, your true feelings will be known as long as you can continue to express them through word and action. love ya rslash , you're a good dad
RSlash not only is thinking about these videos for your daughter sweet. Your message to her sweet, but the times you have talked about her and loving her and taking care of her and wanting and trying to be the best father, it will come through. Even if nothing tragic does happen if she just listens to these videos when she is older and you are still around.
RSlash, At the very least you love your wife and child. That is more than many many many children who grow up to be adults who hate and want nothing to do with their parents and family like a lot of the reddit stories. Do not fear the absence of love because you and your family are putting in the work and you are keeping it in mind.
Update to the first story: OP confronted her husband and he confessed to everything. He was cheating on OP for almost 6 years and ended things with Sarah after high school. According to him that made it alright somehow. OP had the marriage annulled and is staying with her mom until she figures everything out.
Hey RSlash, you have no idea how much this channel will mean to her. I have nothing left of my dad except the blanket he swore my step mom never made for him (admittedly, i cling to it like Lyness from Charlie Brown). I can barely remember the sound of his voice. My dad was very camera shy, so i also have very few pictures of him. Lily is so lucky to have a dad who's a RUclipsr because when you inevitably pass (hopefully from old age), she'll have this record to listen to and show her children.
Rslash I love you. I have been watching your videos since you were doing video games. I felt like I was there when you got married, your dog, and your daughter. I know I’m just a listener but you are a big part of my life. I literally can’t go a day without hearing your voice. You have helped me though some dark times. You are amazing and one of the few RUclipsrs that I follow that hasn’t changed. It might be sad but your the only consistency I’ve had since starting high school. Now I’m 21 and it’s crazy how much I’ve grown since finding your channel.
Dabney, every time you talk about your wife and daughter, my heart is absolutely struck by how loving you are and how deeply you care for the both of them. Your daughter will always love you. I'm sure of it. If my dad could actively neglect me & still have me adore him for 18 years, I have trouble seeing how a man so openly affectionate and caring would have to fight for his daughter's love.
Adding to the Lily thing. She'd get to see how we reacted to you as well! She'd get to see what a great job her dad had, what a funny guy he was when he does his entitled parent voices, and so on. She'd be able to laugh, cry, and even hear the dog too! It's not just a time capsule for you, but also for the dog as well. All the puppy bloopers!
As someone who lost both of her parents, yes, these videos are going to be a treasure for Lily. I wish I had more recordings of my parents voices than just their voicemail messages. Pictures are one thing, but the sound of a loved one's voice is incredibly comforting. When I have kids, I plan on making a bunch of recordings, digital, tape, every medium I have to insure they still have my voice when I die.
The worst part about losing someone is the fact that you'll forget the sound of their voice. You'll remember their face, but the sound of their will leave your memory fast.
Your daughter will definitely know how much you love her from these videos because you always talk about how much you love being a dad how you would fight for her and her mother. So don’t worry Dabney there wouldn’t be any doubt in Lilys mind that her daddy loves her ❤
Story 2: He *was* telling you how he felt. “Joking about it” is the closest men are told they can come to actually telling others about our problems without permission. Those “jokes” are how we learn to ask for permission to talk about ourselves. Because we can’t let ourselves be a burden.
Story 3.. when are people gonna realize that when LGBTQ go anywhere or do anything….THEY DO NOT END UP IN BED in front of you, or sleep in YOUR bed..when I see two men or two women standing in front of me I don’t usually think “oh they are gay” but if they are it don’t hurt me!!!!😢
Yeah like why are people so afraid of two men holding hands. How would they feel if a male toddler was holding their dad's hands? They wouldn't care, but the instant it's two adult men holding hands, they feel scared and for whatever reason have to belittle them because they don't follow the "societal norm".
@@bibianaguadalupeislasherre9880 I mean gay isn't an insult, heck i believe it's a fairly accepted term for gay people. It's not derogatory in any way btw.
Hey r/slash, I've been watching your videos for years and the amount you mention your daughter, how much your perspective changed when you became a dad, when she watches these videos it'll be impossible for her not to know how much you love her
Update to The Last Story, not going to type too much but basically the brother ended up being disinherited after the mom said point-blank, leave your homophobic ass wife or we're going to disinherit you, after he refused, they made it come true
DABNEY THAT MESSAGE, the one for your daughter!! I'm crying for real. I've been listening to you for YEARS AND YEARS, so I feel like you're kind of a part of my life, because listening to rslash has been a part of my daily routine since I'd say around late 2019, I've listened to so much about you, your opinions, your family, I remember you first saying you're even having a kid, so listening to that message to her just in case made me genuinely cry. I love you man, one of the best RUclipsrs out there and to be honest the only one I've even watched so consistently for so long❤
You going out of your way to tell Lily that you love her hit me in the chest. If it helps, my dad was active duty military post 9/11 and I barely saw him starting at age 8 bc he and my mother didn’t live together and he was constantly underway. He had the same worries you did, and I admit that I struggled a little in my teens, but I knew deep down that my daddy loved me because he said so all the time. I promise, Lily knows. Even when she’s mad at you and calls you “Dabney” instead of dad in like 12 years, even when she tosses out the first “you’re not my friend anymore” at age five or “I hate you” at age 15, even when she gives you the silent treatment bc she can’t go play or borrow the car. Just keep telling her. It’s sticking, I promise.
rslash. you are a good dad with reasonable concerns. if lily ever does have to live a life without you im glad that we all get to be part of her comfort. we all listen to your dad cause he is a constant we can rely on every day and he works hard for you and your mom. i hope that you love him as much as he loves or loved you.
11:22 Rslash, i know you read for your job, you read reddit stories to us everyday. But maybe the one thing that can be your thing with Lily (not sure of her spelling, forgive me if its wrong) is to read her bedtime stories, but maybe in a way like Adam Sandler in Bedtime Stories, make them up and make them fun for her. Daddy and Lily time. Ive been listening to you every day for 4 years and i dont like not starting my day without my favourite youtuber reading me other people’s problems or funny stories. Im sure she will absolutely love it.
I saw someone bring this up on another video, but after RSlash's chat about Lily, I think it's an even better idea than before. One day a week, Rslash should cover a wholesome sub and read positive stories. Wholesome Wednesday, or something. I think it would be a good idea for everyone's mental health and give Lily some happier videos to listen to when she's older
Story two : as someone who lost their father some time ago this is extremely relatable and I felt similar to the kid in this situation , I hope they can recover from this .
I really don’t consider your thought process dark, when talking about that type of outlook on life. It’s actually very sweet! Knowing that she can listen to you read your Reddit stories & simultaneously drop in little bits, thoughts, or memories you have of her while she’s young! Knowing that they will all be there for her to check out & listen to whenever she wants!! 💖💞
I think your thoughts on death and your channel are actually quite beautiful. It's so important to find joy and comfort in the smallest things in life, and what you expressed in this fall into that
Dude, your love for your kid is such a big reason I enjoy listening to you. When you talk about kids getting hurt, I can gen hear the upset and anger in your voice. I’m sure plenty tell you, but I’m sure you’re an amazing dad!
First story: its worse. He wasn't cheating for 4 years he was cheating for 6 YRS! I think OP mentioned in a follow up that she's divorcing/annulled her STBX.
rslash, what you said about your daughter listening to these when shes older was so beautiful and heartbreaking. not only would she be able to know the sound of her dad's voice but learn about your sense of right and wrong, laugh with you, cry with you, know how much you adore her and her mother (and Yugo obviously). if you were to die, she would still get to know you in a way.
The last story needs to be the start of a sitcom. Just OP and his boi chilling at home while absolute chaos erupts at the wedding party. Cutting between scenes of them relaxing, chit chatting, and I don't know, feeding each other grapes, and scenes of fisticuffs, screaming matches, and a food fight.
Last Story: Ok Op lets get something straight. YOU didn’t ruin the wedding, not at all. Your brother and his homophobic wife did. You KNOW they were going to tell everyone a story that paints YOU as the villain as to why you never showed up. You did nothing wrong but i dont see your relationship with your brother mending after this.
It's really his fault for not letting OP's parents know about it, perhaps he never said anything about them because he knew that if they ever found out why, they were going to go after his wife's family for being homophobics and him for agreeing to marry her knowing what her family is like. OP couldn't've known about any of this. This explains why he said that OP ruined the wedding, OP ruined the wedding simply by telling the parents the truth that he didn't want them to know.
It’s actually very cool for lily to be able to listen to all these videos. So much of your sense of humor and personality comes through and I bet she will enjoy listening to them when she’s older. My dad passed away when I was 5 and I would give literally anything to hear what his voice sounded like. It’s was in the 90’s and I have no recordings of his voice. I have no idea what it sounded like.
3rd story: Even if op brother and sister in law aren't homophobic they are enabling the homophobic family members which personally i see close to being just as bad as being homophobic.The sister in law family and op brother ruined the wedding not op. Just because your married doesn't mean you stick up for your partner wrongs. You let them know "your in the wrong" and you support them when their right! You don't support both.
Exactly! It’s like the saying that goes along the lines of “if there is a Nazi sitting at a table and 10 other people are sitting with them (and are not saying anything against the Nazi’s views or standing up for victims of the Nazi in any way), there are now 11 Nazis at the table”. Even if the brother and SIL won’t admit to being homophobic, they’re just as bad as the SIL’s family since they’re choosing to placate bigots instead of supporting someone the brother “supposedly” loves and cares about.
For the last story i like to imagine going back and forth between two scenes: Scene A: OP and his bf vibin quietly at home, nice, gay, and introverted, maybe cuddling. Scene B: the wedding on FIRE, the people divided into two groups with warpaint and spears, fighting over the injustice of not inviting OP 😂
I've always been closer to my mom. Look. My dad pushed me away. If u r there for ur daughter, comfort her when she comes to u. Help her when she asks for it. Don't push her away. My dad did (he was afraid his mental illness would badly affect me) push me away. What it did was tell me that I can't go to him for anything. Hell, he's the reason why I force myself to not cry and to automatically disassociate to stay ok
Oh please dont talk about u dying! Itd honestly make me really sad to hear that, your videos help me stay focus and calm. they got me through a really tough time during covid. i hope your daughter grows up and continues to have such a loving and thoughtful dad 😊
“They aren’t currently together” but he did invite her to the wedding? Yeah that’s a load of BS. Maybe he was hoping she would cause a scene before the vows so he could do some cringey rom-com s#!t and run off with his “true love” on his wedding day.
Your commentary on the second story was heartbreaking, but your fears and feelings are 100% valid. I hope Lily grows up to see what an amazing father you are, and I hope she shows you all the love that you deserve. I'm sending you a big virtual hug!
I have left each of my kids voice-mails saying just in case I pass away, please know how much I love you, then give them a compliment or tell a short story. My health has been poor most of my life, so I often think about ways to help them cope with my passing.
Story about OP’s husband dying: honestly, the kids are assholes. No! The dad didn’t know how much his kids loved him because they didn’t bother to show it in any capacity. Like not posting something for Father’s Day but doing it for Mother’s Day is a dick move, especially when the dad is legitimately trying and isn’t an abusive jerk. That post got me sobbing in my car on the way to work. I couldn’t imagine if my dad said that about me and my siblings. I show my love and appreciation for my dad whenever I can. He’s 73 (although you would never know by looking at him) so I know I probably don’t have much time left with him. He’s the most selfless person you’d ever meet and has quite literally given me his last $5 when I needed it; that’s what you do for your kids and I’d do the same for my son. Ok need to stop crying and get to my office.
Growing up my mom was a stay at home mom and my dad worked all the time to support his family. Growing up I didn't see a lot of him but he made sure that when he was home he spent quality time with his kids. He would read a bedtime story to us every night and every Sunday he would make us breakfast. Growing up I never loved my dad any less than my mom and we still have a good relationship now that I'm an adult. As long as you spend time with your daughter, I'm sure she'll love you just as much as her mom and will probably even get excited when you finish work because now she gets her father's attention. I know insecurities don't just go away but hopefully my message helps make them a little easier to bear.
Dammit Dabney... I'm not supposed to be crying from these kind of videos and I'm at work listening to this in between calls. I really hope Lilly knows how much you love her when she's older. I don't know you personally but I know you are great father and husband because you gush over them so much❤❤
I’ve been listening for years and never commented but I wanted to share about you’re dad concerns. I came from Spotify just to track this video down and leave a comment. My mom was stay at home. And now, as an adult; I do know more about her than my dad. I’m better at giving her Mother’s Day and birthday gifts as well. But the memories with my dad are more specific and special. They are vivid memories because I was excited to see him. I love my mom but I cherish the memories of my dad as equally deeply. And now, as an adult I see how happy it makes him when I share memories with him. Memories that were seemingly inconsequential to him at the moment but are ingrained in me forever. It’s not quantity of time, it’s quality of time. I love them both equally. And i may not have known as much about my dad when I was a kid, but now I get to enjoy even more stories as an adult. Your relationship isn’t finite. It’s forever growing as you get to watch them grow up.
The thing about having your voice for your daughter really hit hard. My dad recently passed from a freak accident . It destroyed everyone once we realized we have no audio of his voice. He hated videos but you don’t think it’ll matter until it does. I regret every day that I don’t even have a 2-3 second clip of his voice
Second story, I am so sorry for your loss. Same situation same questions. 10 weeks from diagnosis to sudden passing. My daughter forgot to say goodbye to my husband when we went out quickly. He also had cancer. He passed away while we dropped the dog of at the vet. She blames herself. She was 13 and rebelious, she didn't spend that much time with him. She has so many regrets. My son didn't want to spend Christmas with him, he went to his inlaws instead,. Same issue. We healed by focusssing on all our good moments and keeping his memories alive. You deal and cope in the moment with the knowledge you have, the feelings of denial, which leads to less visits. Even if love was not tangible, it is still there. May your husband RIP, and you and your children have peace in your mind and hearts.
Dabney, you forgot one important thing. All your subscribers being here with you and cheering you on being a good father. She's gonna see that too. She's going to see your legacy.
Short story for Dabney(Dabny? The father of Lily. Lilly?) When I was moving out, my grandmother had a big cry, she was essentially my mom. The one who cared for me, helped me though anything, drove with me across the country to my new home state. I knew she loved me because she always tried to bring me with her on vacations, to the store, to spend time with me. My grandfather on the other hand was very “professional” with me. Always trying to have me shake his hand, very quiet when we were together, the only real time he sat me down to have talks was the odd time we were both awake at midnight while he was drinking. When I was setting out, 7 in the morning with my car loaded up, he came out to see me off. I was already appreciative of that, since he normally couldn’t be woken up from his sleep even if the fire alarm was blaring next to his head. He had woken up 4 hours early just to see me off. I went to shake his hand and he grabbed it and pulled me in for a hug while I heard him crying, wishing me good luck and to know he loves me. That was the moment that I knew my grandfather really did love me just as much as my grandma, even if he didn’t always know how to show it. So Mister rSlash, just know that even if you aren’t spending as much time as you can with Lilllly, just make sure that you show her as much love as you can during the time you do spend together. She will see it and will appreciate it, and I know this won’t get rid of the fear you have in your heart, but I hope my message can help to lessen it, for you and anyone who is afraid their love isn’t enough
Hey rslash, I know I'm on the opposite side of this, but my son has gravitated more towards me and due to my mentality, I am leaving a bunch of welding notes for his future so I can still be there for him. Your message hit home for me and just know you are loved even if your child doesn't show it.
Second Story: My mom wasn't a stay at home mom, but she was the next closest thing (she taught at the school I attended, and I always had to hang out in her classroom after school). My dad worked in emergency medicine. He missed a lot of extracurriculars and holidays because he was working. We would always try to reschedule around him, but it wasn't always possible. Anyway. I love my dad. I post about him for father's day. I remember his birthday. We have a trip planned together to a museum in a neighboring city in a few weeks. Some of my fondest memories of childhood were the simple times with him. The days where he was on call, so we couldn't go anywhere and he would play with me. The times where he would have a golden weekend, and we would go camping. Him reading to me from a medical textbook because he needed to study for his recertification and I needed a bed time story. It's the little things, Rslash. If you make time for the little things, the relationship will grow.
RSLASH, you’re a phenomenal dad and your daughter knows you adore her. Start taking her out for Daddy/Daughter dates now! Our daughters, 23 & 25, still go out on dates with my husband. It’s either dinner, lunch, the range, bowling…fun stuff! When they were wee ones, they’d get all dressed up and have me do their hair “special”! ❤❤
I’m crying so hard at the second story and to RSlash talking to his daughter like that. I want to hug him though the screen and hug the family in the story.
Hey man. You helped me be a stay at home dad 3 years running. I struggle with building up my SO to be a superhero in my minions mind because that's what parents are. You're a superhero bro
Rslash, should something horrible happen, lily will absolutely be able to hear how much you love her in your channel. My favourite parts of your videos are the part you talk about your family, you can hear that love you have for them. It’s beautiful. And I can tell you from experience, it’ll be wonderful to have.
First Story have further updates; she successfully had her marriage annulled after her ex-husband admitted to his acts. Thankfully he was decent enough to give back things she owned without the need to go to court, and as it stands everything is over, and she can move on with her life. He's also not trying to win her back or trying to guilt-trip her into staying, which is unusual for Reddit. She's also cut contact with Nicole and Sarah, and apparently her ex-husband has _also_ cut contact with Sarah. Probably the cleanest annulment I've read on Reddit. I'm very happy for OP for that because it's not normally that clean. It's also refreshing for an ex to act somewhat normally in an annulment; I'm so used to seeing the Karens and Chads in these cases.
How is nobody talking about how "Nicole" is the absolute worst person in the first story? I will say Mistress Sarah & OP's now ex-husband aren't blameless, but someone purposely inviting a homewrecker to a wedding to make a scene because they're a racist POS is another level of vile!
Reading this the first time, which is what rSlash always does, you'd never noticed Nicole's involvement here and seems to mainly be about OP, her husband and Sarah. Honestly, this story feels like this is all plotted by Nicole because she's against her being with her husband for obvious reasons and wants to break them up completely, and luckily for her, she has Sarah who's upset that her man picked OP over her, so what better way to break them up than by using her anger towards OP to ruin their wedding?
please
yes, I noticed as well how despicable Nicole is and how that went completely under Dabney's radar
He said Nicole was a terrible person tho
In a twisted way, nicoles vile character and involvement in the wedding was the best thing for OP.
That "I knew it- I KNEW IT" always gets me, its so fun to hear, even though in most cases. It only comes out with cheaters and asshats
I love it, too! It always makes me giddy.
That , and when he says "Ah Ha!!!"
Is always humorous 😅
He think he's such a detective but it was so obvious
@@blahbleh5671let the little guy have his fun >:(
I was just thinking that lmao
First story, there's still a couple more updates after Rslash recorded. First one was her confronting Josh about it all and it went as poorly as you'd expect. First, along with confessing he admitted it was closer to *6* years that he was cheating on OP, not 4. Second, he tried to claim that since it was in high school, it shouldn't 'affect her much'. Third, he tried to claim it isn't bad because he isn't cheating on her 'still'. Overall he was defending Sarah. OP has a lawyer, she's told her mom everything and is moving in with her, she's getting the marriage annulled and she's going to try and get what she can, but a lot of it including the house and cars are in his name along with him having access to her bank account and she's worried about her dog. Sarah and Nicole are also blowing up her phone as of that point.
Latest update is the marriage has been successfully annulled, OP moved in with her mom, she was able to get one of the cars she was paying for along with her dog without a fight, and they had one last talk for closure, if OP is obviously still hurting. It also turns out that the reason Sarah and Nicole are trying to contact OP was to get on her about 'ruining Josh's reputation' because OP's been telling the truth about what happened. She's blocked them and her ex-in laws are still contacting her and are on her side. Otherwise seems like the end for now and OP is in recovery mode with her mom.
Thanks for these updates.
@@Tustin2121 her ex in-laws are on her side? Awesome!
So her Ex-husband is a scumbag all along, wow
Also the 'It was in Highschool' is bullshit, dude played two girls from different schools and is there a reason why he chose OP instead of Sarah? He had a job offer? Close to family? Because I highly doubt he loves OP
And happy that the In-Laws are on OP's side
Good for OP on getting that marriage annulled, meanwhile Josh, Sarah and Nicole are pieces of sh**t. I wouldn't be surprised if Josh and Sarah get married or are in a relationship after that mess.
Thanks ❤
Story 1: This SOB not only let his mistress come to the wedding, but defended her when she ruined it? And I do not for one second believe he didn't know she was racist, he had the nerve to look you in the eye and make it seem like you did something wrong, can you prioritize his side piece over his own wife during their wedding. Imprints a real piece of human garbage to make cheating for 4 years not look like the absolute worst character tray about them. It's really hard to believe he ever treated you right giving everything you've talked about.
you seem to have misunderstood a few things
Sarah (the mistress) wasn't actually racist (that we know of), nor did Josh invite her.
both those aspects are on Nicole, the cousin
Also the jackass cousin Nicole? The husband is apparently fine with what she did. OP needs to think long and hard about who she ACTUALLY married.
@@dragonriderabens9761 I know the cousin let her in, but even if he didn't know she was coming when he saw her he should have been mediately made her leave, not let her stay. The only reason OP let her stay was because she thought that was her husband's friend. And of course after she destroyed the wedding cake him still not wanting her to leave. Also I called a racist because she apparently didn't like OP because she was mixed race, although I guess you can hate inter-racial relationships but have no problem with any race.
What's even more mess up is that Sarah isn't even mad at Josh, she's mad at OP
I think Josh lied about being single then dated her then ghost her
Like OP Sarah talked to Nicole about Josh and Nicole told her about OP
To think both Women consider the 'Other Woman' but never thought of getting mad AT the cheater?
I don't believe they aren't still seeing each other. There is literally no reason to let your mistress stay at a wedding she ruined. I wonder if he even wanted to get married.
Story 3: The funniest thing about this whole situation was that all OP did was just chill at home and explain why he wasn't invited, and it resulted in a major divide between adults and fights. The brother has nobody to blame but himself (and maybe his wife's family)
True, especially when OP's SIL's family decided to escalate to harassment on social media, as detailed in the first update.
I can just picture op and his boyfriend at home just watching a film, while in the church there are just 2 large groups of people on both sides of the church yelling at the other group like it's a fucking court case.
What makes it even better is that he was asked not to attend so as not to cause an argument between the two families, but it totally backfired 😂
@@DarkStarCoreXI'm gay and if that happened to me and my partner, I'd just laugh so hard I'd cry. It's hilarious.
@@andredunbar3773 Link?
Story 1: there were more updates. OP confronted cheating husband, and he admitted to the cheating but claimed it didn't matter because it happened in high school and at least he's not cheating on her anymore. OP got the marriage annulled, got her property (car that was in ex's name but she paid for, and her dog) with the help of a lawyer. Ex's parents have been kind to her about the situation, but Nicole and Sarah were furious at OP for ruining ex's reputation, because OP has told the truth to anyone who has asked. People at ex's work place know about it because somehow word got around. The last conversation OP had with ex was calm, he said he understood why she left him. OP is living at her mom's and looking for a place of her own, and sadly feels she can never trust love again. I hope she can rebuild her life and eventually find happiness again.
Dude... get a grip on real life. Everone makes shit decisions in high school and generally, not always learn from it but most do. What op did not trusting them was fair. What op did trying to ruin their life after was not. I am not a cheater. Cheating is shit. Op is a bigger dick bag all things considered.
One day when she's older, Lily's going to listen to these videos and get to hear for herself just how much you love her. Like you said, it's clear from your comtent what your general morals and opinions on things are, but there's one thing that's crystal clear: you absolutely love your wife and daughter. I think anybody would be honored to hear themselves spoken of the way you speak about them on a regular basis. 💜
Not gonna lie, the message to Lily made me misty eyed.
Really? I immediately pictured the Ryan gosling meme, " hey girl"
Dabney took us all on a feels trip. 😭😭
Same here! I hope that future he sometimes imagines never comes to pass, and that someday he and his daughter sit down to watch some of his videos together. Maybe she'll be laughing, and him cringing. But i hope they'll be alive and together as a family.
same, with me thinking why couldn't have i had a father like that
I completely agree. As a lifelong Daddy's Girl, I wish that I had a recording of my father's voice before dementia took his mind.
Anyone else want to reach through the screen and hug rslash you really can tell he's a loving father your doing great @rslash keep on doing what your doing.
Him and OP and give OP's kids high fives. Man just listening to it....... man......
Yes, even if they don't show it most kids appreciate somebody who genuinely takes time out of their day for them. Frankly them actively avoiding their father prior to him dying was honestly really sad for me who.. well let's say hasn't had a very kind or supportive father..
Nope.
RSlash, for the second story, that was kind of the dynamic of my family. My dad worked and was the provider while my mom stayed home with us 4 kids. The best thing you can do? Be there as much as you can. Rewards, concerts, anything they’re in. I’m 24 now and while I remember my dad not being there a lot, I also remember all the events he showed up for and how proud of me he was back then. And no matter what, no matter what fight you have, always tell your kids you love them no matter what. That goes further than you might expect.
Edit: btw yes, I cried a little writing that and yes, I texted my dad to tell him I love him
This 💯
The BIL was a jerk for sharing that with OP. There was absolutely NOTHING to be gained from sharing that other than heartache.
@@jenniferann7212 It was probably selfish of his part, but he was on grief too and carrying that information alone would probably destroy him even more.
And honestly, OP as the wife has the right to know what was her husband's emotions at his last breath. It's not about what to gain, but the right to know.
rSlash! I demand you take a break and spend some more time with your daughter RIGHT NOW.
You're too good of a father for us to have your attention so much!
BuT oUr CoNtEnT!1! We DEMAND his CoNtEnT!1!
😅 Kidding aside, I agree.
And I hope you read what I wrote with his Karen voice. 😅
I think these are just the normal feelings of a full time working parent. On one end they want to provide for their family on the other end spend more time with them. You can't always have both. Even if he cuts down on hours, he'll still feel this way because his wife is there for Lily full time.
I will sue him and report him to reddit
I'm guessing he's doing these vids to support his wife and daughter. He's the sole breadwinner so he needs to do this to pay bills for his lovely family ❤
@TheEDFLegacy I cannot unhear the Karen voice reading this comment.
I think it's a lovely thing that Lily has all these videos that you've made, just in the worst case scenario. I think you've been very good at showing your morals through all of them and I think that no matter if she has you in her life still, she'll still listen to your videos and find comfort and guidance through them
And she'll hear how much he loves her, and that he talks about her all the time.
@@THEDubbleHelixx that too ^^
Yeah, even if you die at 93 your kids would still love having these. My grandparents lived in Spain for a while and grandpa would just record cassette tapes as letters, talking about what he was doing and then he'd mail them to the kids and they'd send things back. I found one after my mom died and it was the only time I actually really head my grandfather as I was really fond of him but he died when I was two. I'd push grandma out of the way to greet grandpa first and I'd sleep on him. Any recordings are great to have.
@@Iflie that is such a sweet thing your grandpa did, I totally understand why it's very precious to you ❤️
@@DullyDust i think at the time it was just a good solution to a problem. I expect phonecalls would be more expensive and they fully expected the tape to be recorded over in the reply but somehow this one got saved. You never know what ends up important. Especially as it was so casual, you can imagine him walking around with the recorder just turning it on when he thought of something to tell them.
I became widowed when I was 29 years old, my husband was 30 when he died of cancer. Our daughters were 1 and 3 years old at the time. He told me a few weeks before he passed that he was thankful that he was the one who was dying because he felt I would be the better parent to raise the girls. He was strong until his final day. I was a stay at home parent so the girls would naturally come to me first for everything. I make sure they knew what a great dad and provider he was for us. He asked me to find someone that would be a good husband and an amazing father for the girls. Two years later I found that man and we married a year later. We are still married and will be celebrating our 25th anniversary later this year. Oh, we had baby girl a year after we were married.
That's lovely, thank you for sharing.
Update on first story: She annulled marriage. She got car, dog and stuff back. She lost home, but there nothing she can do it about.
Honestly, Nicole is one of the worst human beings. She knew OP and her husband were together but because she "didn't like OP" she decided to introduce OP's husband to Sarah? What kind of person does that? I hope everyone knows what kind of person Nicole is too because I would not want to be affiliated with someone like that. OP's (ex) husband and Sarah are absolute trash and they can have each other. Why was Sarah even invited to the wedding? That's honestly an insult to BOTH of them.
Edit: Thanks for making me cry on that second story. Please use your equipment to make a video for your daughter for like her 16th birthday or her 18th birthday, graduation, whatever. It doesn't matter if a plane has fallen out of the sky and taken you out or if you are still sitting right next to her that day. Make the video for her. Tell a story just for her.
Do you know why Nicole didn't like OP? It's because OP is mixed race. Yep, she's this racist and so against OP that she's willing to do anything to end the relationship and was basically using Sarah being mad at OP for 'stealing her man from her' to end the relationship. At least that's the feeling I got from her.
As someone who thoroughly enjoys it when R/ goes off on one about Nicole or Lily, I've always loved the idea that she one day has these videos to hear and listen to him telling stories, being proud of her milestones, and just making his love for his family a part of his internet footprint.
R/Slash's little girl, if you are watching this someday in the future, whether your dad is still around or not, I want you to know that he loves you very much and that his videos made my and other people's lives better. I've started every day listening to his show and his wit, humor, and kindness fills me with hope for our specie's future. Also, he loves dogs - no more need be said!
Second Story: Most men feel this way, please don't be afraid to show your love to your husbands/fathers and not just assume they know.
I told my father just about every day that I loved him. He died in June ‘17 (just days after Father’s Day in fact). Even though family and friends have assured me otherwise I still have lingering doubts if he truly did know how much I loved him and how proud I am to be his daughter. That second story was really rough to hear.
The worst part is those “jokes” about how he felt, were probably cries for help. Speaking from experience, that’s what they are when I make them:
easier said than done, kid.
Yea people are dumb. They don't cherish their parents when they are around, then when they die, the tears come out and they care like they've never have before. Pathetic. Laugh with them while they're here so you don't have to cry when they're gone
I was very close to my dad, and his death hit me extremely hard. It has been almost 3 years, and I can hardly go a few hours without thinking about how much I miss him. I recently had my best friend move in with my family, and I can't help but mention how much my dad would have adored him and would have tried to adopt him. Unfortunately, I now tend to slip into a deep depression in the days leading up to the anniversary of his death. 😭
First Story: Ok, OP's husband's reaction to this is insanely suspecious. Sarah is throwing a fit, ruined the cake, and wedding decorations and he wanted to keep Sarah??? He also gets mad at OP for having her kicked out? Something is going on between this man and Sarah. Yeah, I’m 100% convinced something is going on between him and Sarah; he is demanding OP apologize to Sarah when she was the problem? Wooow, ok Josh is scum, Nicole is racist scum, and Sarah is pure scum. That explains everything, Josh has been cheating on OP for 4 years and Nicole helped Sarah with her revenge; honestly OP needs to get rid of all of these people because they are the worst
Second Story: Wow this is a very tragic story. OP's late husband felt like his kids didn’t love him enough and wouldn’t mourn his death but in reality, they are deeply grieving him and he will never know.
Third Story: Honestly, in OP's situation I wouldn’t care. I can never respect anyone that will go to any lengths to appease homophobes. OP did nothing wrong and only told the truth, OP didn’t ruin anything.
if you don´t see that the problem here is op then you didn´t understand the story, the red flags were always there and she chose not see them, i will never understand why women are so willing to ignore that just to get a wedding
@@robertorojasbalarezothey say love is blind for a reason
@@robertorojasbalarezolike another commenter said: love is blind. People tend to be blinded by love soooooo it seems like U don’t understand the story
@@robertorojasbalarezoI agree and disagree. The problem is absolutely the husband for being a cheating jerk. However, OP had HUGE red flags being waved right in her face and was too blinded by “love” to see them.
@@robertorojasbalarezowhat? Op was blinded by love, not everyone is self aware as you
*First OP:* I remember this story. I think OP had her marriage annulled. Best of luck to OP, and I hope everyone else involved get the lives they deserve.
*Second OP:* That's just heartbreaking. I also tend to gravitate toward my mom more so than my dad. I do tell my dad I love him and I always thank him for everything he's done for me. I hope he believes me.
*Third OP:* OP respected his brother's and SIL's request to not attend their wedding. The aftermath is on them (and SIL's family). _Apparently,_ OP's brother didn't understand that actions have consequences.
Good. She doesn't deserve that pos.
As for the third, apparently consequences are not something bigots expect. Those who did not attend my wedding with my husband have been removed from our lives. When they ask for help, it's not forthcoming. When they ask for forgiveness without visible change, it's not granted.
Gosh, I couldn’t even imagine finding out that my husband cheated on me for so long. I KNOW he would never and he knows I wouldn’t but that would absolutely break me. Then again, I’ve never had anyone be so upfront about having feelings about my husband and he would have kicked someone out of I asked him to. That’s what you do for your significant other. This girl had some huge red flags from the beginning so I’m surprised that she’s surprised about how things turned out.
There was one story where a father knew he was dieing, and he made a cassette for every milestone he could think of for his child. Op cherished those recordings, and if I remember correctly was devastated when they finally stopped coming in. I think they had someone delivering them, but not sure it's been a dogs age since I heard it
This reminds me of an episode of Violet Evergarden 😭😭😭 but in letters
I think that’s a very normal thing to think as a parent. It’s so clear how much you love your daughter and wife in every single one of your videos. Even though they’re not about your family, your love for your daughter and wife show in your work. You’re a wonderful Dad!
It isnt dark at all but actually a sweet thought you had there it sure is comforting to know that something of you would remain for your loved ones
Dabney you fucking made me cry. Lily is truly lucky to have a father like you, whether it’s for a long time or a short time.
Story 1 : Get annulled quickly or you will continue to get hurt in this "marriage "...
"How could I be so foolish" op love makes you do crazy things and ignore severe red flags that are the size of godzilla
Story 2 : reminds me of me and my grandfather .. i never got the chance to tell him goodbye before he died rarely spent time with him when he was alive.. he passed 24 years ago today..
Story 3 : op brothers wife side of the family are horrible people and so is his brother and his sin in law.. bunch of losers..op you didnt ruin your disgusting brothers wedding he and his wife did by giving in to the homophobic jerks..
She didn’t ignore any flags
@@Batman-lg2zj Right? I don't know why people keep acting as if OP did something foolish here. She dated the guy from her freshman year, didn't know this other girl existed. Why then do people think she 'should have known'? Also, the husband apparently broke up with that person 5 YEARS ago. It's sketchy that the husband wasn't angry at Sarah or Nicole for ruining their wedding!
She got the marriage annulled, got her car, dog and bank account with the help of a lawyer and is now in the process of starting her life over. There were more updates.
@annika5893 good.. I'm in the waiting room while listening so I'm getting little by little...
@@annika5893 Thanks for the update! I’m so glad she ditched that cheating scum.
I was already tearing up at the second story and the message to Lily turned it into full on crying! I hope she never doubts how much you love her.
My heart sank fro a moment when Rslash finished reading the second story and said "as I'm reading this, my wife..."
I remember when I was little, my brother and I would get so excited seeing my dad bc I always saw my mom, but my dad always worked. so whenever he came home, we would run out to his parked car and fight eachother to see who could get to him first. I remember having my heart broken when I heard him say, "I miss seeing you guys run to my car, I know you won't do it forever, I just miss it".... I love you papá
RSlash, we know that you love your daughter so very much. You might not talk about her often but when you do the love that you have for her is evident.
Rslash's monologue about his channel being a time capsule was beautiful.
I really hope it wouldn’t come down to this channel being your daughter’s only connection to you. That really made me tear up, this has brought on a whole deeper meaning to your content.
I wish you and your family a long and fruitful life together, RSlash. 😭
k, wasnt expecting to cry on an rslash vid today but, yes this channel can be a time capsule but you have the equipment to make one video just for her every once in a while and just put it in a folder called just in case and maybe show them at her wedding one day if youre so lucky
*UDPATE ON 1ST STORY*
Basically, she talked with her husband. She told him everything, that she knew about him and Sara and begged him to tell him it wasnt true. But he told her yes, he was dating Sara while dating OP but once it got real with OP ditched Sara. Thing is, this lasted for a long time. He told her that that happened a long time ago and shouldnt matter.
She broke up with him, that she loves him but cant see him as the caring husband he was, that she was so in love with him she Didnt see what was happening. Afterwards, she hired a lawyer cause her things and bank acount were on his name, also try to null the marriage and went to live with her parents.
In the other update, says that she broke up with him, nulled the marriage and got most of her things (car, bank account, whatnot and even the dogs) but not the house; both paid for it so theres nothing she can do for now.
Her parents, his friends and ex's parents know and everyone is conforting OP. Sarah called saying she was a drama queen and that shes ruining her reputation. OP blocked her.
For now, OP is rebuilding her life and moving forward, at 23yo
She thanks everyone in reddit, tho she isnt planning on getting revenge.
most important: she got the dog
The audacity of Sarah saying OP was being a drama queen when Sarah was the one who got trashed and caused a scene at OP's wedding!
@@Human-kb6xc
I dont understand some people.
How does one try to destroy a wedding after dating a known Cheater be so willing to call the victim a drama queen?
I'd hate to know that girl as a friend, I have a feeling she carries a lot of Convenient knives
@@AdaireKrickets Sarah is probably salty because Josh will forever blame her for ruining his wedding with OP, and her chances of getting him are pretty much zero now.
@@DarkEinherjardoubtful, trash loves trash. The groom didn't wanna kick her out even after such a scene and continued defending her. They deserve nothing but each other.
Regarding the second story: My 5yo highly favors me over my husband, her dad. My husband works more than me and his job takes him out of town frequently. He comments that our child loves me more or doesn’t love him at all. It’s a tough situation and we try very hard to give him ways to give them time to bond. Rslash’s fears are absolutely valid and a real concern.
Story 1: OP's husband is acting very suspiciously, Sarah ruins the cake and decorations, and throws a fit, and OP's husband still wants to keep her? Damn, and he even got mad at OP for kicking her out? I got a theory that he and Sarah are having an affair. Or else why would he go above and beyond to defend her like that? I would be livid at her!
There are some updates to the first story, OP had the marriage annulled, moved back with her mom, got one of the cars and her dog back.
There are two more updates to the first story. Look up the username if you want to read them.
Basically the marriage was annulled after the husband first tried begging and then threatening to keep her car etc.
So not much drama in the updates, but it ended as well as it could have for OP.
its not dark. as a daughter who knows little of her living father as a Person and not a Dad, it makes my heart very happy to hear. your daughter will know how much you care about her because even if you can't always make the Time happen, your true feelings will be known as long as you can continue to express them through word and action. love ya rslash , you're a good dad
RSlash not only is thinking about these videos for your daughter sweet. Your message to her sweet, but the times you have talked about her and loving her and taking care of her and wanting and trying to be the best father, it will come through. Even if nothing tragic does happen if she just listens to these videos when she is older and you are still around.
RSlash,
At the very least you love your wife and child. That is more than many many many children who grow up to be adults who hate and want nothing to do with their parents and family like a lot of the reddit stories.
Do not fear the absence of love because you and your family are putting in the work and you are keeping it in mind.
Update to the first story: OP confronted her husband and he confessed to everything. He was cheating on OP for almost 6 years and ended things with Sarah after high school. According to him that made it alright somehow. OP had the marriage annulled and is staying with her mom until she figures everything out.
rslash you are such a wholesome lovely guy. Your comfort over having this archive here for your daughter is actually so sweet.
Hey RSlash, you have no idea how much this channel will mean to her. I have nothing left of my dad except the blanket he swore my step mom never made for him (admittedly, i cling to it like Lyness from Charlie Brown). I can barely remember the sound of his voice. My dad was very camera shy, so i also have very few pictures of him. Lily is so lucky to have a dad who's a RUclipsr because when you inevitably pass (hopefully from old age), she'll have this record to listen to and show her children.
Rslash I love you. I have been watching your videos since you were doing video games. I felt like I was there when you got married, your dog, and your daughter. I know I’m just a listener but you are a big part of my life. I literally can’t go a day without hearing your voice.
You have helped me though some dark times. You are amazing and one of the few RUclipsrs that I follow that hasn’t changed.
It might be sad but your the only consistency I’ve had since starting high school. Now I’m 21 and it’s crazy how much I’ve grown since finding your channel.
Dabney, every time you talk about your wife and daughter, my heart is absolutely struck by how loving you are and how deeply you care for the both of them.
Your daughter will always love you. I'm sure of it.
If my dad could actively neglect me & still have me adore him for 18 years, I have trouble seeing how a man so openly affectionate and caring would have to fight for his daughter's love.
Adding to the Lily thing. She'd get to see how we reacted to you as well! She'd get to see what a great job her dad had, what a funny guy he was when he does his entitled parent voices, and so on. She'd be able to laugh, cry, and even hear the dog too! It's not just a time capsule for you, but also for the dog as well. All the puppy bloopers!
As someone who lost both of her parents, yes, these videos are going to be a treasure for Lily. I wish I had more recordings of my parents voices than just their voicemail messages. Pictures are one thing, but the sound of a loved one's voice is incredibly comforting. When I have kids, I plan on making a bunch of recordings, digital, tape, every medium I have to insure they still have my voice when I die.
The worst part about losing someone is the fact that you'll forget the sound of their voice. You'll remember their face, but the sound of their will leave your memory fast.
Your daughter will definitely know how much you love her from these videos because you always talk about how much you love being a dad how you would fight for her and her mother. So don’t worry Dabney there wouldn’t be any doubt in Lilys mind that her daddy loves her ❤
Story 2: He *was* telling you how he felt. “Joking about it” is the closest men are told they can come to actually telling others about our problems without permission. Those “jokes” are how we learn to ask for permission to talk about ourselves. Because we can’t let ourselves be a burden.
It's not dark, but it's incredibly sweet Dabney ❤❤❤ your daughter is a lucky girl ❤️ 🥰🥰 you're doing just fine
Story 3.. when are people gonna realize that when LGBTQ go anywhere or do anything….THEY DO NOT END UP IN BED in front of you, or sleep in YOUR bed..when I see two men or two women standing in front of me I don’t usually think “oh they are gay” but if they are it don’t hurt me!!!!😢
Yeah like why are people so afraid of two men holding hands. How would they feel if a male toddler was holding their dad's hands? They wouldn't care, but the instant it's two adult men holding hands, they feel scared and for whatever reason have to belittle them because they don't follow the "societal norm".
@@DarkStarCoreXOr they call that same sex couple holding hands the "G" word.
@@bibianaguadalupeislasherre9880 I mean gay isn't an insult, heck i believe it's a fairly accepted term for gay people. It's not derogatory in any way btw.
@@bibianaguadalupeislasherre9880 The word used to describe gay people in a derogatory way (the f slur) is the one I have a problem with though.
@@DarkStarCoreX Those are not the words I'm talking about, it's the one conservatives use it's called "Groomer".
Hey r/slash, I've been watching your videos for years and the amount you mention your daughter, how much your perspective changed when you became a dad, when she watches these videos it'll be impossible for her not to know how much you love her
Update to The Last Story, not going to type too much but basically the brother ended up being disinherited after the mom said point-blank, leave your homophobic ass wife or we're going to disinherit you, after he refused, they made it come true
DABNEY THAT MESSAGE, the one for your daughter!! I'm crying for real. I've been listening to you for YEARS AND YEARS, so I feel like you're kind of a part of my life, because listening to rslash has been a part of my daily routine since I'd say around late 2019, I've listened to so much about you, your opinions, your family, I remember you first saying you're even having a kid, so listening to that message to her just in case made me genuinely cry. I love you man, one of the best RUclipsrs out there and to be honest the only one I've even watched so consistently for so long❤
You going out of your way to tell Lily that you love her hit me in the chest.
If it helps, my dad was active duty military post 9/11 and I barely saw him starting at age 8 bc he and my mother didn’t live together and he was constantly underway.
He had the same worries you did, and I admit that I struggled a little in my teens, but I knew deep down that my daddy loved me because he said so all the time.
I promise, Lily knows. Even when she’s mad at you and calls you “Dabney” instead of dad in like 12 years, even when she tosses out the first “you’re not my friend anymore” at age five or “I hate you” at age 15, even when she gives you the silent treatment bc she can’t go play or borrow the car.
Just keep telling her. It’s sticking, I promise.
rslash. you are a good dad with reasonable concerns. if lily ever does have to live a life without you im glad that we all get to be part of her comfort. we all listen to your dad cause he is a constant we can rely on every day and he works hard for you and your mom. i hope that you love him as much as he loves or loved you.
11:22 Rslash, i know you read for your job, you read reddit stories to us everyday. But maybe the one thing that can be your thing with Lily (not sure of her spelling, forgive me if its wrong) is to read her bedtime stories, but maybe in a way like Adam Sandler in Bedtime Stories, make them up and make them fun for her. Daddy and Lily time. Ive been listening to you every day for 4 years and i dont like not starting my day without my favourite youtuber reading me other people’s problems or funny stories. Im sure she will absolutely love it.
I saw someone bring this up on another video, but after RSlash's chat about Lily, I think it's an even better idea than before. One day a week, Rslash should cover a wholesome sub and read positive stories. Wholesome Wednesday, or something. I think it would be a good idea for everyone's mental health and give Lily some happier videos to listen to when she's older
Story two : as someone who lost their father some time ago this is extremely relatable and I felt similar to the kid in this situation , I hope they can recover from this .
I really don’t consider your thought process dark, when talking about that type of outlook on life.
It’s actually very sweet! Knowing that she can listen to you read your Reddit stories & simultaneously drop in little bits, thoughts, or memories you have of her while she’s young! Knowing that they will all be there for her to check out & listen to whenever she wants!! 💖💞
I think your thoughts on death and your channel are actually quite beautiful. It's so important to find joy and comfort in the smallest things in life, and what you expressed in this fall into that
Dude, your love for your kid is such a big reason I enjoy listening to you. When you talk about kids getting hurt, I can gen hear the upset and anger in your voice. I’m sure plenty tell you, but I’m sure you’re an amazing dad!
First story: its worse. He wasn't cheating for 4 years he was cheating for 6 YRS! I think OP mentioned in a follow up that she's divorcing/annulled her STBX.
rslash, what you said about your daughter listening to these when shes older was so beautiful and heartbreaking. not only would she be able to know the sound of her dad's voice but learn about your sense of right and wrong, laugh with you, cry with you, know how much you adore her and her mother (and Yugo obviously). if you were to die, she would still get to know you in a way.
I hope that everyone is having a good Thursday!
Thanks, you too
Thank you!
i can't sleep
I hope you do too😌
Thanks bro, you too
The last story needs to be the start of a sitcom. Just OP and his boi chilling at home while absolute chaos erupts at the wedding party. Cutting between scenes of them relaxing, chit chatting, and I don't know, feeding each other grapes, and scenes of fisticuffs, screaming matches, and a food fight.
Last Story: Ok Op lets get something straight. YOU didn’t ruin the wedding, not at all. Your brother and his homophobic wife did. You KNOW they were going to tell everyone a story that paints YOU as the villain as to why you never showed up.
You did nothing wrong but i dont see your relationship with your brother mending after this.
It's really his fault for not letting OP's parents know about it, perhaps he never said anything about them because he knew that if they ever found out why, they were going to go after his wife's family for being homophobics and him for agreeing to marry her knowing what her family is like. OP couldn't've known about any of this. This explains why he said that OP ruined the wedding, OP ruined the wedding simply by telling the parents the truth that he didn't want them to know.
It’s actually very cool for lily to be able to listen to all these videos. So much of your sense of humor and personality comes through and I bet she will enjoy listening to them when she’s older. My dad passed away when I was 5 and I would give literally anything to hear what his voice sounded like. It’s was in the 90’s and I have no recordings of his voice. I have no idea what it sounded like.
When you selfreport not only as the side piece but as a trash human being 🤣🤣🤣
12:34 Your daughter, your wife, your grandkids. Hell, they might put on a playlist for your whole damn funeral.
3rd story: Even if op brother and sister in law aren't homophobic they are enabling the homophobic family members which personally i see close to being just as bad as being homophobic.The sister in law family and op brother ruined the wedding not op. Just because your married doesn't mean you stick up for your partner wrongs. You let them know "your in the wrong" and you support them when their right! You don't support both.
Exactly! It’s like the saying that goes along the lines of “if there is a Nazi sitting at a table and 10 other people are sitting with them (and are not saying anything against the Nazi’s views or standing up for victims of the Nazi in any way), there are now 11 Nazis at the table”. Even if the brother and SIL won’t admit to being homophobic, they’re just as bad as the SIL’s family since they’re choosing to placate bigots instead of supporting someone the brother “supposedly” loves and cares about.
For the last story i like to imagine going back and forth between two scenes:
Scene A: OP and his bf vibin quietly at home, nice, gay, and introverted, maybe cuddling.
Scene B: the wedding on FIRE, the people divided into two groups with warpaint and spears, fighting over the injustice of not inviting OP 😂
I've always been closer to my mom.
Look. My dad pushed me away. If u r there for ur daughter, comfort her when she comes to u. Help her when she asks for it. Don't push her away. My dad did (he was afraid his mental illness would badly affect me) push me away. What it did was tell me that I can't go to him for anything. Hell, he's the reason why I force myself to not cry and to automatically disassociate to stay ok
Oh please dont talk about u dying! Itd honestly make me really sad to hear that, your videos help me stay focus and calm. they got me through a really tough time during covid. i hope your daughter grows up and continues to have such a loving and thoughtful dad 😊
“They aren’t currently together” but he did invite her to the wedding? Yeah that’s a load of BS. Maybe he was hoping she would cause a scene before the vows so he could do some cringey rom-com s#!t and run off with his “true love” on his wedding day.
He didn't invite her. Nicole brought her for the dramaz.
Another great video by rslash!
But Dabney, if you don’t mind I ask, what is your favourite subreddit to read off?
Your commentary on the second story was heartbreaking, but your fears and feelings are 100% valid. I hope Lily grows up to see what an amazing father you are, and I hope she shows you all the love that you deserve. I'm sending you a big virtual hug!
“I KNEW IT, III KNEW IT 😈😈”
I have left each of my kids voice-mails saying just in case I pass away, please know how much I love you, then give them a compliment or tell a short story. My health has been poor most of my life, so I often think about ways to help them cope with my passing.
Day 17 of asking Dabney to record gaming again!
We went from rSlash playing Sherlock Holmes on a story to him getting too real and expressing his fears to us. Very unique episode.
Story about OP’s husband dying: honestly, the kids are assholes. No! The dad didn’t know how much his kids loved him because they didn’t bother to show it in any capacity. Like not posting something for Father’s Day but doing it for Mother’s Day is a dick move, especially when the dad is legitimately trying and isn’t an abusive jerk.
That post got me sobbing in my car on the way to work. I couldn’t imagine if my dad said that about me and my siblings. I show my love and appreciation for my dad whenever I can. He’s 73 (although you would never know by looking at him) so I know I probably don’t have much time left with him. He’s the most selfless person you’d ever meet and has quite literally given me his last $5 when I needed it; that’s what you do for your kids and I’d do the same for my son. Ok need to stop crying and get to my office.
Growing up my mom was a stay at home mom and my dad worked all the time to support his family. Growing up I didn't see a lot of him but he made sure that when he was home he spent quality time with his kids. He would read a bedtime story to us every night and every Sunday he would make us breakfast. Growing up I never loved my dad any less than my mom and we still have a good relationship now that I'm an adult.
As long as you spend time with your daughter, I'm sure she'll love you just as much as her mom and will probably even get excited when you finish work because now she gets her father's attention. I know insecurities don't just go away but hopefully my message helps make them a little easier to bear.
Dammit Dabney... I'm not supposed to be crying from these kind of videos and I'm at work listening to this in between calls. I really hope Lilly knows how much you love her when she's older. I don't know you personally but I know you are great father and husband because you gush over them so much❤❤
I’ve been listening for years and never commented but I wanted to share about you’re dad concerns. I came from Spotify just to track this video down and leave a comment.
My mom was stay at home. And now, as an adult; I do know more about her than my dad. I’m better at giving her Mother’s Day and birthday gifts as well. But the memories with my dad are more specific and special. They are vivid memories because I was excited to see him. I love my mom but I cherish the memories of my dad as equally deeply. And now, as an adult I see how happy it makes him when I share memories with him. Memories that were seemingly inconsequential to him at the moment but are ingrained in me forever. It’s not quantity of time, it’s quality of time. I love them both equally. And i may not have known as much about my dad when I was a kid, but now I get to enjoy even more stories as an adult. Your relationship isn’t finite. It’s forever growing as you get to watch them grow up.
The thing about having your voice for your daughter really hit hard. My dad recently passed from a freak accident . It destroyed everyone once we realized we have no audio of his voice. He hated videos but you don’t think it’ll matter until it does.
I regret every day that I don’t even have a 2-3 second clip of his voice
Same.
Second story, I am so sorry for your loss. Same situation same questions. 10 weeks from diagnosis to sudden passing. My daughter forgot to say goodbye to my husband when we went out quickly. He also had cancer. He passed away while we dropped the dog of at the vet. She blames herself. She was 13 and rebelious, she didn't spend that much time with him. She has so many regrets. My son didn't want to spend Christmas with him, he went to his inlaws instead,. Same issue. We healed by focusssing on all our good moments and keeping his memories alive. You deal and cope in the moment with the knowledge you have, the feelings of denial, which leads to less visits. Even if love was not tangible, it is still there. May your husband RIP, and you and your children have peace in your mind and hearts.
Dabney, you forgot one important thing. All your subscribers being here with you and cheering you on being a good father. She's gonna see that too. She's going to see your legacy.
RSlash is literally the best Reddit channel. Bar none.
Short story for Dabney(Dabny? The father of Lily. Lilly?)
When I was moving out, my grandmother had a big cry, she was essentially my mom. The one who cared for me, helped me though anything, drove with me across the country to my new home state. I knew she loved me because she always tried to bring me with her on vacations, to the store, to spend time with me. My grandfather on the other hand was very “professional” with me. Always trying to have me shake his hand, very quiet when we were together, the only real time he sat me down to have talks was the odd time we were both awake at midnight while he was drinking. When I was setting out, 7 in the morning with my car loaded up, he came out to see me off. I was already appreciative of that, since he normally couldn’t be woken up from his sleep even if the fire alarm was blaring next to his head. He had woken up 4 hours early just to see me off. I went to shake his hand and he grabbed it and pulled me in for a hug while I heard him crying, wishing me good luck and to know he loves me. That was the moment that I knew my grandfather really did love me just as much as my grandma, even if he didn’t always know how to show it. So Mister rSlash, just know that even if you aren’t spending as much time as you can with Lilllly, just make sure that you show her as much love as you can during the time you do spend together. She will see it and will appreciate it, and I know this won’t get rid of the fear you have in your heart, but I hope my message can help to lessen it, for you and anyone who is afraid their love isn’t enough
Hey rslash, I know I'm on the opposite side of this, but my son has gravitated more towards me and due to my mentality, I am leaving a bunch of welding notes for his future so I can still be there for him. Your message hit home for me and just know you are loved even if your child doesn't show it.
Second Story:
My mom wasn't a stay at home mom, but she was the next closest thing (she taught at the school I attended, and I always had to hang out in her classroom after school). My dad worked in emergency medicine. He missed a lot of extracurriculars and holidays because he was working. We would always try to reschedule around him, but it wasn't always possible. Anyway. I love my dad. I post about him for father's day. I remember his birthday. We have a trip planned together to a museum in a neighboring city in a few weeks. Some of my fondest memories of childhood were the simple times with him. The days where he was on call, so we couldn't go anywhere and he would play with me. The times where he would have a golden weekend, and we would go camping. Him reading to me from a medical textbook because he needed to study for his recertification and I needed a bed time story.
It's the little things, Rslash. If you make time for the little things, the relationship will grow.
Last Story:
OP - Exists
Bride and her family - And I took that personally
RSLASH, you’re a phenomenal dad and your daughter knows you adore her. Start taking her out for Daddy/Daughter dates now! Our daughters, 23 & 25, still go out on dates with my husband. It’s either dinner, lunch, the range, bowling…fun stuff! When they were wee ones, they’d get all dressed up and have me do their hair “special”! ❤❤
I’m crying so hard at the second story and to RSlash talking to his daughter like that. I want to hug him though the screen and hug the family in the story.
Hey man. You helped me be a stay at home dad 3 years running. I struggle with building up my SO to be a superhero in my minions mind because that's what parents are. You're a superhero bro
Rslash making me cry more than my own dad. What tomfoolery is this. I love it
Rslash, should something horrible happen, lily will absolutely be able to hear how much you love her in your channel. My favourite parts of your videos are the part you talk about your family, you can hear that love you have for them. It’s beautiful. And I can tell you from experience, it’ll be wonderful to have.
First Story have further updates; she successfully had her marriage annulled after her ex-husband admitted to his acts.
Thankfully he was decent enough to give back things she owned without the need to go to court, and as it stands everything is over, and she can move on with her life. He's also not trying to win her back or trying to guilt-trip her into staying, which is unusual for Reddit.
She's also cut contact with Nicole and Sarah, and apparently her ex-husband has _also_ cut contact with Sarah.
Probably the cleanest annulment I've read on Reddit. I'm very happy for OP for that because it's not normally that clean. It's also refreshing for an ex to act somewhat normally in an annulment; I'm so used to seeing the Karens and Chads in these cases.