My jaw dropped and I had to pause and re-read that part where Lisa told OP's wife to abort the baby so it wouldn't be a specific zodiac sign. Lisa is beyond delusional. She has completely brainwashed OP's wife, and there is no saving her. It's time for a divorce.
Final story had an update awhile ago, I believe, first of all during a family dinner with Chris OP absolutely destroyed him, she pointed out how he was a manipulative sleaze who never had a real chance with her and that he was a petty, little man making that speech, and all Chris could do was hold his head in shame as he got reamed out in front of his family. OP then told off her husband for not defending her or their love and instead playing the 'woe is me' card when they're supposed to love each other, and husband admitted he's always felt like second best to Chris. OP and husband are good now and Chris was told to STFU in the future.
Glad someone commented this! OP absolutely wrecked Chris and from what I remember, FIL was absolutely onboard and prevented Chris from bailing before OP could have her say. I can't remember exactly but she said something to the effect of "If I had gotten to know you, I would have seen you for the terrible, pathetic person you are." Savage. Brilliant.
Good, because I was over here wondering what was wrong with me that I didn't think OP did anything wrong. She had a crush on a guy, realized what a d*ck he was, met an actually decent guy and fell for him, and the first guy was a thing of the past.
4th Story: There's fortunately no need to imagine reversing the genders for this sort of thing anymore, Dabney. The whole relatively recent scandal with that lady with the cringe ukulele apology (Y'all know who I'm talking about. I can't remember her name and frankly she doesn't deserve to have her name remembered.) getting cancelled for being a creepy with her fan base full of minors in many ugly ways proves positive that society has become receptive to the concept that women can be pedos too and should be punished equally. Good riddance to bad rubbish.
Wasn’t really an apology. She never really said sorry for what she did. She was mostly trying to make things seem less then how there were and make herself look like a victim instead. Also I really like your description of her lol!
@@rya3190 It’s a massive rabbit hole that’s worth diving into. Swoop has a good docuseries about it I’d recommend to get caught up (waiting on part 3/3 of her series currently).
Story 3; Yeah the friend is a sociopath. Manipulating a woman into getting a abortion for no good reason. Thats just evil. I really want an update to that story
I cannot wrap my head around aborting a planned pregnancy behind your husband's back because your friend told you to, because of a fucking zodiac sign. If I was OP there would be no coming back from that.
Story 2: doesn't op's wife and rslash know that you can have a friendship with someone of the opposite sex without it becoming a relationship even with all those compliments. Like I don't understand her anger and support over a homewreaker and a cheater
No, because Rslash is too busy doing mental gymnastics to try and simp to think logically AGAIN 3rd video he’s done this in the last week He’s gone full redditor brain Specifically the r/AITA version where, when in doubt, blame the man. Even when there isn’t doubt, still find a way to blame the man
Story 2: Dabney, no. You're starting to play white knight again. OP is just being a decent human being who doesn't condone cheating and is just listing out Ana's positive qualities like any good friend would. That doesn't mean he's cheating on his wife. He's being supportive. His wife condoning the cheating and turning her back on Ana makes HER the bad person, it's not OP's fault.
Life can change perspectives and opinions, we don't know why or where this white knighting behaviour actually comes from @Rslash I really hope you aren't in abusive marriage and that's what's causing this behavior. I hope it's more you have some other things going on. I know it's not a static bias towards women as you have called out women of a wide range of ages but I think they way you are acting shows signs that either you are in an open relationship which honestly you do you, or you or your wife is cheating, there is a possibility I could be extremely incorrect. I think addressing these claims may be a good idea.
Story 2: Op's wife: *Is incredibly passionate about ensuring that a homewrecker/cheater/manipulator/thief doesn’t get burned when they mistakenly ruin another woman's life for money that doesn't exist.* OP: *Compliments a woman who just had her life nuked and emphasizes that she didn't deserve it.* RSlash: "OP must be cheating." Edit: I don't think OP's wife is cheating. She's just eating up Maxine's story of having a hard-knock-life way too easily, and doesn't realize that Maxine would nuke her life if it meant a paycheck. I agree with OP, let Jack fall for Maxine's lie about loving him, and let Maxine fall for Jack's lie about having money.
Right???? He didn't see that as the wife projecting hard?! No, because OP said nice things about Ana it's OP that's in the wrong, not his wife who's more than willing to leave a friend high and dry and support the people that ruined said friends marriage. Like yo, what the hell RSlash?
How dare OP have sympathy for a woman who was cheated on and dumped by his best friend. And how dare he not be friendly to said best friend and his new homewrecking side piece? OP must be in love with Anna! RSlash's logic here is kind of confusing. Like... how dare OP have morals? How dare OP take the side of the partner who was cheated on? I bet if the genders were reversed and OP was the wife and her husband was getting angry at her for not supporting the cheater, we'd be hearing a very different tune.
I didn’t understand the logic here AT ALL. Like it made absolutely no sense. Why was OP’s wife so insistent on staying friends with them? Why support this horrid behavior? If anything, shouldn’t they be a rock for Ana in this case? Nowhere in that story did I get the OP having feelings for Ana vibe. OP is just being a decent person; what the wife is doing here is really weird.
He has a serious pattern of this over time (probably from his steadfast belief that the husband take the wife's side no matter what bias before considering reason) but man, that was hard to listen to. The way the wife defends the manipulator makes me think either: (Best Case Scenario) Wife also has that weird specific culture mentality of defend friends/loved ones no matter what regardless of morals/what they do. The whole "see past flaws even when they're clearly hurting others, just forgive and forget" thing seems to be a wife/mother thing in particular Wife has enough of that mentality to actually support what they're doing, has the potential to cheat and find it alright Wife is already cheating and projecting onto him Wife wants to cheat I'll hope for the first but hope OP is prepared to look out for the others.
Technically not what he said. He implied that OPs wife might think he's cheating because of the empathy he has. Mind you, that's still very dumb logic because then we can say the samething about r/Slash if empathy is a sign of cheating. But let's not put words I his mouth
Story 2: Or maybe OP is a decent human being , sees how a good person like her didn't deserve to be cheated on and is turned off by the fact that his own wife would be siding with a cheater. Cheaters support each other. Story 4: if OP was 14 she was 20, when he was 16 she was 22. OPs parents are complicit and disgusting, they failed their child. And OP is clearly still halfway stuck in the fog bc if he still not 100% sure that she's a predator after this realisation alone then idk what to tell you. He needs to divorce her ASAP and take their daughter with him.
I mean at some point they will both be in their 20s so it wouldn't be as weird anymore. It's too late to change the past, but they can talk about it and protect their children in the future if they desire to stay together. Divorce doesn't have to be the only answer.
Chris did that on purpose. No sane person would talk about their crush in a speech at the wedding of the crush and his brother. He's jealous that after he didn't do anything to get the girl she couldn't be bothered and found the obviously better man. Super sad it's come to this though. Hope they both get heough it and the guy sees what kind of prick his big bro is.
op should speak to her husband with the truth, she used to have a crush on his brother but he treated her like a second table, he would rather fuck with a random person than spend time to know her, and who is insane enough to still love someone like that? not her that for sure
Op should probably cheat and marry a goldigger after all wouldn't the wife be ok with that after all? Of course not because then she'd be a hypocrite as well as a butthole
Story 2: She is not being accepting, she's being a doormat. Allowing and supporting someone who participated in destroying a home does not mean you love them. If you love someone you need to put your foot down and not support their bs. I'd take your wife's actions as a red flag, she's supported a cheater and when one of the participants is going to get punished she attempts to defend them. Hopefully there will be an update.
4th story: I remember showing this to a friend when I was going through the subreddit, and she went on a whole ass rant saying it was fine and men don't get groomed/rape, my jaw drop, I ask if it was a 14 year old girl and a 20 year old man she said: "yes, because it's so hard to be a woman with men trying to steal *OUR* trauma and *OUR* struggles, plus he probably liked it anyways men always wanted to be SA by older women." Let's just say we aren't friends anymore. Plus, she one of those people who always wonder why men don't talk about their trauma.
Your ex-friend: Men can't experience sexual trauma, they're all pigs and sluts who want it! Also your ex-friend when men don't want to talk about their trauma: **surprised Pikachu face** And there's people who say misandry doesn't exist. Hell, I bet that POS is one of 'em.
Reminds me of that dumb woman on maury who Said "if I R***d you how did you get hard then" and the whole crowd cheered at that and I'm just sitting there thinkin "man I wish I could smack that whole crowd of morons"
I used to know someone like your ex-friend. She was a hard on feminist who spent hours of her life on Twitter talking trash about men. Needless to say that I want nothing to do with that hypocritical b*tch who thought SA can't occur on young boys
story 2: people can compliment someone, platonically. Without taking in the compliments, the wife is ok with cheating, meaning she could do it without a sliver of doubt.
I heard the 4th story some time ago and people in the comments under that video were arguing about how it wasn't grooming or predatory because "they were in love". Completely forgetting that predators groom their victims into thinking their relationship is ok and that It's "love". They also would say "well his parents approved of the relationship so obviously there's no problem!" Again completely forgetting that parents will allow their kid's to be sexually assaulted within cults or by family members and much worse just because. The situation was wrong and will forever be wrong. It's grooming. It's predatory. Also people really need to can the "but boys are different! They like being sexually assaulted and preyed on by adults!" Mentality. Almost every single boy who's been taken advantage of ends up struggling with depression, ptsd of some type, and suicidal ideation due to their trauma. It isn't a fucking joke. It isn't cool to let whole ass adult women to assault children.
Considering the OP is now at least 32, it’s perhaps time for him to discuss his issues with his wife. Perhaps therapy if needed. And above all, consider how they hid the relationship from everyone, how his own parents reacted, and use that information to help protect their daughter from facing the same.
I feel so bad for him, the betrayal when he was so young and vulnerable by the people he should have been able to trust to protect him... I hope he can get some therapy to work through some of this.
That wife’s BFF story is eerily similar to one RSlash read a while ago. The husband was having trouble with his wife’s best friend, who kept poisoning her mind and turning her on the husband, even convincing her that he was cheating. It got worse when she had a baby and the friend doubled down. If I remember correctly, the wife ended up slapping him and breaking his nose. They separated and she showed up one day demanding the kid. Then, she crashed her car and died. That is NOT a good friend. Or a good person. That guy needs to either sit down and show her that other story, get her to get rid of the friend, or run for the hills to avoid tragedy.
So story 2 is bugging me as well but not for the Rslash said. Why is OPs wife so invested in keeping the friendship between them? I understand that they are like brothers but even at the beginning he was ready to burn that bridge because he lied to his wife. Being a guy who’s parents cheated on each other, I saw a lot of people just end it right then and there with them. Then what happened to Anna. Does she not exist anymore? Honestly I’m more confused on this whole thing.
I think that it's because some people say "But they're your beeest frieeend!" the way some people say "But they're faaamily!" Because they're 'like brothers,' Pat probably feels that Jack should get more chances than he actually deserves. And given that she's so sympathetic to Max despite everything, she could just be very soft-hearted. Y'know, a little too eager to forgive and forget just because conflict is tough.
Story 3 reminds me a lot of the "Jesse" story. The one where Jesse convinced OP's wife that he was cheating on her, causing her to make herself not live anymore; and I got a sinking feeling that if that child had been born, we would've seen an almost exact repeat of the "Jesse" story.
@@thespider2566 that too, I kinda feel like the only way that relationship could become anything even resembling healthy, is if Lisa died in an "accident"
@@thespider2566 Lisa would tell her to abort the child if it were autistic too, she seems like THAT type of "person"...using the term loosely because those who think like that arre undeerving of the title of human being.
Do NOT follow rslash's advice at the very end. That could give off the idea of love bombing and make her husband only more suspicious about her now that she in his mind got caught. The best thing she can do is tell him her truth like she wrote on reddit and then leave him to his thoughts until he reaches out to her. That would show sincerity in her words. She'll likely have to wait for him to reach out to her again and if she can't stand the wait, she could try to speak to him once every week until he's ready. That's the best chance she has to have him believe and more importantly trust her again and that chance is still a 50/50... well unless she's lying on reddit too.
I had to actually go back and listen to dabney's advice and yeah, 100% agree. The husband needs space to process and come the wife needs to respect that. Trying to push or convince him of her love for him is likely to backfire and nothing else.
@@akl2k7 Absolutely not. Marriage counselors are typically always going to side with the woman regardless of the circumstances and make the guy out to be the problem. The guy doesn't need to hear how he needs to do better while he did nothing wrong. That's going to destroy the marriage at 10x the speed of light... they can have their therapies if they need it, but they would need to be individual and confidential.
@@davidjacobs7465 Good point. It probably depends on the marriage counselors, though (I've heard of some alway siding against the woman). She needs to assure him she's not interested in Chris, and just not interact with Chris at all.
You should go see the update where she screamed at her husband for daring to even be hurt about it, I think she's still in love with Chris and the brother needs to leave her if THATS her reaction
Second story had me wanting OP divorce his wife because her logic was MAJORLY flawed. You're telling me that Ana should get shafted because Jack was a long time friend and Max taking Jack from Ana is seen as a flex, which it's not. Also, Max had a tough upbringing, therefore, Max and Jack doing Ana dirty is somehow justified. There is nothing wrong with complimenting your friends especially highlighting how Ana is this amazing person that Jack screwed over for some booty. Furthermore, I don't know why Rslash read that much into OP's description of Ana because if OP's wife had some sort of negative feelings about Ana, I'd say it's time she let OP know because at the rate she's going, she's ruining her marriage quicker than Jack did his. Also, when OP said that his wife was the forgiving and considerate type, I knew she was going to take the long time friend side. Like I always tell my friends, friends don't let friends do stupid things. If they do and continuously, you'll see the back of my head and the dust from my feet.
4th story: REMEMBER PEOPLE WOMEN CAN BE PREDATORS,MEN CAN BE VICTIMS! This man is a victim of grooming i strongly believe this is so damn sad and disgusting. He needs help honestly and the fact that his PARENTS ARE OK WITH IT? Drop them and cut contact since their ok with predators. I hope we get a update because this man and his daughter needs to report her to the police and bounce fast after legal things happen. She deserves jail time she probably rped this poor man or sexually assaulted him multiple times in secret!
I would guess his parents were in a position where they were just happy to have someone take over financial responsibility for their child. That’s generally why parents were ok with older men and younger women. She’s definitely a predator though.
This depends on how strict of a definition you use for an adult or a child. An 18 year old adult is okay to be attracted to a 17 year old child. I do know what you mean though. An adult attracted to someone significantly younger than them is really bad.
@@Fenronin What do you mean by that? 12 year olds are children, so are 14 year olds. The woman was 20 dating a 14 year old. Don't tell me your a pedo coming to defend their kind 💀
Yeah. Like, man, it's one thing to be attracted to childlike cuteness, you can find that sort of energy even in adults, I know some people who are pretty petite and also just super full of life and it's adorable and I can't fault someone for wanting that in their life. But you know, they're still an adult. Worst-case, someone can healthily outlet that through fictional characters, never actually harming a real person-- But as soon as someone starts *actually* acting on that desire and *actually* messing with someone with an age gap that puts someone WAY below the age of consent nope no way that's dangerous as hell and should never be tolerated nor normalized.
I don't think you're allowed to say that on RUclips anymore without being demonetized. Apparently, RUclips thinks that if you say it, you're inciting it.
@@uselessinformation1988 This is hardly new. For years now, people haven't been able to say "atheist" or "LGBT+" half the time without getting demonetised at least partially. All they care about is their precious advertisers, and so it's your choice as a creator - end up using stupid euphemisms to get around the OTT rules or end up losing a good section of both your revenue and your reach.
@@JustAnotherBuckyLover I never knew that you couldn't say "atheist". That's why I'm never monetizing my videos with ads. I refuse to be bullied around in the name of "tolerance and acceptance".
Honestly never thought I'd see the day when a story about a woman p**o would be covered. Edit: i agree with rslash if the genders were reversed all hell would be unleashed kind of disgusting that female groomers aren't hated as much as male ones (yes it's rarer but it happens).
It's so weird to me that whenever female predators get called out it's usually men protecting the predators? Like encouraging the grooming,rpe,sexual assault and stuff. Just like when serial killers are jailed and etc it's usually women sending them letters,love notes,gifts and even getting their children involved. It's so fuckin gross
It's not rarer, they're just more skittish and careful and many don't end up as a statistic. I grew up around Peds and I knew many kids that got nailed by them, there are just as many fempeds as male ones, but a lot of the fems are content with being a naughty babysitter or sitting on a park bench and acting like a mom watching her kids play with a phone controlled vibe up inside them, so you rarely catch on to what they're up to.
@@Milk-ck1wvIt's because those men don't see that as grooming or being a predator. To them, what that women did was apart of their wildest sex dreams in their youth and they see it as the young men she prayed on "getting lucky at a young age". It's apart of their purity culture, where if a man did this to a little girl, she would be "broken". But when the roles are switched, they see it as a young man "getting lucky" it's disgusting and dismisses the child's feelings.
And that is a horrible stereotypes isn't it! If you actually ask the victims of female predators you realize that it's just as horrible for them as for girls. They suffer from the same trauma and mental issues afterwards, but for some reason people tell them they should feel lucky... 😫
@@fangirl3086 maybe in the past but in the current times I've seen it more so due to a mix of that and the push for the idea of "women can never be the bad guy"
RSlash….. you can compliment people without being attracted to them, you can even call someone attractive without being attracted to them either… weird take.
So we just gonna skip over the favt that OP's wife is defending a cheater, something R/slash has always admitted to not liking, simply because OP compliments and praises anna for being a wonderful person? Is that really the mental gymnastics we're gonna have R/Slash. Here's a secret bro, you can be passionate about other people's morals without it being a "I love you" situation. Not to mention, the wife's mental gymnastics showing how much of an awful person she is. "Let's invite YOUR cheating friend." Distancing herself and making OP the one that should maintain the relationship because it's HIS. "She grew up in a horrible situation!" Excusing her crappy behavior by tossing all the responsibility of her actions on the girls paat, which shockee doesn't make it okay. "It's okay for her to cheat but how dare you not tell her that she actually homewrecked into a situation where she has no money!" It's not OPs responsibility to tell this girl that he dumb actions got her into an even worse situation. That's the cheaters responsibility. But i mean, OP was saying nice things about Anna, So let's just pretend that OP's wife is not in the wrong and lets make up an accusation with no proof besides the fact that I like to question every man's morals by saying the may be engaging in infidelity
Story 2: OP believe me you can love someone and still be completely upset with their actions, if he's really really is like a brother to you then you should be able to call a mouth for all of the crappy put that poor woman through. Also your wife really likes the flip-flop her morals, she's mad at you for not telling her the truth but she didn't say anything either, and why should you have any sympathy for the gold-digging slut that that's spent the whole night trash talking your friend who did not deserve to be cheated on. A lot of people had a hard life but you don't see them going around hurting others, besides it's going to be a lot more fun to watch her disappointment when she finds out she's not getting what she wants, and the see your friends lies come crashing down on him. You were right the first time.
This reminded me of one of my classmates from primary school. She "dated" an 18-year-old guy when she was 12. She'd drink lots of alcohol and skip school because of him. I heard the guy ended up in prison and he wasn't allowed to be in contact with that girl, but they kept meeting up anyway. Back then, I wasn't aware of just how fucked up it was. I just thought it was weird, because I was also a stupid kid. I wonder if that girl is okay and what she's doing now.
@@michaeljenkins178it's a pretty bad update, she, rightfully, puts Chris in his place but then she goes full psycho and screams at her husband for daring to be hurt at all by it
Rslash, you're doing it AGAIN in story 2. You don't have to like someone romantically to compliment them. And for story 3.... i feel like Rslash read this before. Iirc the wife unalives herself, and the friend wants to be at the funeral... or some shit like that.
Story 3 was different. The wife had already given birth, and the "friend" was constantly accusing OP of cheating, likely because she was cheated on. The wife had at least one mental breakdown and got violent with OP.
@@andredunbar3773 Ignore the cherry picking troll. @everyone People, listen to stories before responding to them! Cherry pickers are those who post about stories without listening to them, then post retarded shit after being called out on it. Those people are almost as bad as pedophiles. Yes, I went there. If you don't know what that means, you shouldn't be on the Internet without a PCA. And I didn't defend his take on Story 2 at all (nor have I commented on it at all), more cherry picking by minus mind weasels. Cherry picking (aka gaslighting) is toxic behavior.
@@hectormarquez2402 Ignore them. It is a weird person who calls people "cherry picking troll" on most of the comments that call out rSlash or defend OP regarding story 2.
So the guy in story 2 gets shit on for….being a good person? His best friend cheats, ruins a relationship and OP knows that, then OPs wife sides with the cheater and the homewrecker, and OP is the asshole for what? RSlash, the wife and the 2 cheaters all suck in that story
Rslash, probably: “nope because the wife can do no wrong. She is giving people a second chance. Its just weird how OP is not doing so and seems to put his female friend on a pedestal”
story 2: rslash, go on another break. bc op is on ana's side bc she was CHEATED ON. shes HIS FRIEND. you can compliment friends in a way that lifts them. it doesnt mean anything weird , you're passing comment was weird, but i agree with you that max is the homewrecker
I don't understand why people just expect their partners to not have had any relationships before them and act like they got cheated on when they find out that they did, especially when they never asked. If OP actually did anything with Chris then I could see why they should've told their husband, but it was just a crush.
Yeah, like I think my best friend and his wife are both amazing people, and despite the fact that I'm bi, I don't want to jump in bed with either of them. Platonic relationships are a thing.
He sides with the woman 90% of the time unless physical abuse it occuring. It's sad. I think he is afraid of getting cancelled or something or he's really just that far gone from his own relationship where I assume his wife requires 100% support even if she is mid Karen freak-out.
I feel like it's getting worse and worse as the videos go on. I have to dip out on some vids where he goes into rants about sexism and stuff. Listening to older videos is night and day
That man in the third story... Heartbreaking. That "friend" is a PSYCHO. How literally evil do you have to be to manipulate an evidently mentally and morally weak/vulnerable woman into killing her and her husband's unborn child, BEHIND THE HUSBAND'S BACK??? Seventh layer of hell for that UTTER SOCIOPATH. And that (hopefully EX) wife needs HELP. Serious mental help. Poor husband/father.
It reminded me of that Best of Updated video he did, where OPs wife eventually killer herself because her BFF was egging her on, telling her OP was cheating on her. Some people are just energy vampires, taking someone's joy and certainties is fun for them;
Hold on a minute. How did RSlash read me a story and I understood it better than him?! How is OP the suspicious one in the story about his wife defending a cheater and a goldigger homewrecker?! He complemented their close friend but that’s somehow worse than OPs wife wanting to look out for an obvious affair relationship?
@@gennix404his takes have always been this bad, he has older videos where he continuously misunderstood stories and calls OPs a-holes. There were two stories where he ignored all the justifications for the posters in the story. Not giving the vegan friend vegan meals during outings despite her not having to go and being able to bring her own food and has been for a year. Or when OP warned his friends about the rain and urged them to get an umbrella while visiting Japan as it was going to rain heavily and OP didn't want to share an umbrella. He call both posters a-holes and ignored a lot of parts of the stories.
@@stellarkirbo I remember when he defended a wife who assaulted a random goth chick in a store because she was bullied by a goth person in school and gave the husband a non zero AH rating for "not standing by her". The video in question was titled "r/AmITheA**hole for Triggering My Wife's Abuse?". That was from 2 years ago and probably his worst take that I can remember.
@@kiracaroso I think I vaguely remember that, I gotta watch it again. But I genuinely think RSlash has been reading Reddit stories an comments for so long that he’s started to develop all of its worse qualities, cause he’s having a lot more bad takes then usual lately.
Same! I’m also pro choice, but the fact that she did this in secret, without talking about it with her husband, all because of what her “friend” said about zodiac signs! Da**!!
At 6:14 - I think OP is justified questioning his wife because if she thinks what Maxine did was fine, what’s stopping her from doing something similar?
Last story has a update she talked to her husband told him nothing happened between her and the brother then later saw the brother at a cook out and confronted him he tucked his tail and cried I think the mom defended the sun because she embarrassed him in front of family 😂 the irony of that lol also I think there was a part about his brother being a golden child and always taking his stuff.
18 = just became an adult. 12 = just hit puberty. Woman is a pedo (and belly rubbers, don't bother me with semantics about dictionary definitions, I'm using the LEGAL definition here), plain and simple.
I feel like rSlash's takes on stories r getting more and more...how to say...disagreeable?? The 2nd story: Why did you overlook the fact that the wife was defending the cheaters, aka HIS cheating friend, and didn't give a damn about HER hurt friend whose marriage was ruined by this man and his gf? She cared more about her husband's cheating friend and gf than her friend... I find it odd to see that it wasn't obvious to you that she was; a) projecting or b) cheating with the friend and/or his gf. Something is clearly wrong here with the wife, and the fact that OP complimented Anna (and gave context to the story) has nothing to do with the wife and her extremely concerning morals...
story 4: poor guy. i feel sorry for him. groomed from the age of 12 and he doesn't even realize that the 'love' he feels isn't real. he needs to get into therapy QUICK and get his child away from his abuser AND his abuser loving parents/family. each and every adult in this guy's life failed to protect him.
Love rslash but what was that take on story 2??? you completely overlooked the very very bright red flags the wife was displaying and chose to focus on... a compliment? I don't know about you, but I've given out my fair share of compliments without being attracted to the person I am complimenting.
Wife BFF story: OP should definitely divorce his wife, this is something you can't come back from, but he also should tell his wife's parents and siblings why and exactly what happened before she and Lisa spin a story about why OP is the bad guy. I thought about him also informing Lisa's parents, but that would be an overstep for him. Instead he should suggest his wife's parents do it after he tells them the full story.
Gotta give it to rSlash for trying to sh1t on an innocent man while covering 4 stories that have bad women in them..... (Referring to story 2, calling the OP a cheater, while his wife supports a cheater/homewrecker/gold digger...)
@@maapauu4282 OH YES----, the wife that supports those that cheat and are homewreckers, should 'logically' be angry that OP might've cheated.....🙃 Different song, but same dance for rSlash.
@@RedrumZombies I mean, would you support one of the cheaters getting cheated on? Although it isn't logical, if the wife does think that, she could think it's some comeuppance or something
Can't lie it made me uncomfortable when in story 2 Rslash changed Max to Maxine, as someone with a more traditionally masculine (but gender neutral) name, if someone changed my name from Luciel (not my real name) to Luciela or Lucia cause they think it's better or less confusing, that'd be extremely uncomfortable
Story 2 made his inner sexist gain full power once again, in which he bases all his opinions on clear gender distinctions alone... Thus it isn't able to handle gender neutrality~
He did it with OP’s wife too (Pat -> Patricia.) I specifically came to the comments to look for this sentiment because it rubbed me the wrong way as well.
3:30 "...we should accept people we love even with their flaws..." CHEATING ON YOUR PARTNER ISNT A FLAW. Its not something built into your DNA. Id be weary of OP's wife. Im not accusing her of cheating, however, with how accepting she is with everything, it makes me think shes more open to the idea of cheating on your partner. Edit : did the 'not a flaw' make sense to anyone else or was it just me? Re-reading my comment is making me feel like the way i put it, people are gonna think im cool with it 😱
Story 2: I think the wife wants Jack or has cheated on OP and is giving the new girl acceptance. Either way, her wanting to associate with cheaters is grounds for divorce or getting a PI, imo.
2nd Story: Op wife is a cheater protector which personally I'd find a red flag. "But he's like your brother" "you have to see pass the flaws" no! If you cheat we are no longer friends! That is not what friends do, what friends do are educate their friends when they are in the wrong you don't support them when they're in the wrong! Not gonna lie i think op wife cheated in the pass or she's cheating now or she's just way way too empathetic to be siding with a home wrecker just because she had a "sad pass". Op is a good man for being on anna side after what she's been through.
@@Batman-lg2zjShe seems like she would be since she wants to protect one! I can't see any other reason why you would be ok with a cheater cheating unless you have or want to cheat.
Second story: rSlash got everything wrong with his opinion. OP's wife is giving massive red flags by insisting that OP should've told that homewrecker Max that her gold-digging plan didn't worked out like she wanted. Also it's funny how she's so quickly to 'forgive' Jack and Max for ruining the life of Ana, who she said she considered a friend, but gets mad at OP for not alerting Max? Massive double standards on OP's wife part, and if she thinks OP is cheating on her with Ana, that has nothing to do with OP saying good things about Ana, but pure projection on her part; Also another point: Ana isn't even on their lifes anymore. Saw in the comments of the original post that OP felt it was better to not get involved, specially after Jack tried to ask him to be the bridge to get back with Ana. So yeah I see other two relationships ending: Jack and Max after she finds out he's not the rich guy she think he is because she's obviously on it just for the money, and OP and his wife because she's showing herself to be just as shallow and manipulative as Max.
For story 2, Just because you compliment someone doesn’t mean you’re romantically attracted/involved with them for f sakes when will people learn that. Rslash, is that really where you’re going with the story when the REAL thing that’s super mega obvious is that op’s wife is projecting hard ??? Why would she be so pressed on defending a cheater ???
Story 4: I was ready to defend her, as I’ve replied before, I was a freshman girl who dates a senior boy and as a grown woman I look back at that relationship as very safe. But I agree with your first point - we NEVER dated in secret, he NEVER made it seem like it needed to stay between us. I never felt an unbalanced power dynamic, he was never my advisor or senior buddy. Everything about that was creepy!
Second Story Why is Ops wife okay allowing a home wrecker who destroyed her friends marriage into her home???? That’s weirder than what Op thought about Ana which isn’t weird at all, it’s not bad to say when a friend is pretty no matter the gender. Also why does his wife want him to stay friends with a cheater anyways and accept that as a “flaw”????? Just sounds like the wife is cheating or did possibly with Jack.
rslash asked if Op complimented his wife that way, but OP literally called complimented her and said that she's the reason why he would let his cheating friend back into his life. How is that not a compliment?
Story 2: Jack is an idiot, the homewrecker is just as bad, and rslash going for crudest theory possible, if OP is praising his "friend" with compliments & her good points it boils down to "do you treat your wife the same way"... somehow painting a picture of a person's personality is a bad thing now.
That last story makes me so sad. She had a crush on a dude, he played "will they won't they" with her and lost to his own brother. I can't help but feel OP should have seen this coming at least a little, considering how little respect the dude had for OP. She said he got cold after she started dating his brother, so it should have been fairly obvious that he was hurt that OP moved on. At that point she should have told the brother what had gone on in the past between them, because that disclosure shows you care not only about that person's feelings, but also the relationships that you share. Communication will never stop being important, and lack of it breaks up more relationships than people realize.
Story 2: Rslash wondering if OP has a thing for Ana. Meanwhile, I listen to the story, and wonder if OP's wife has a thing for Jack. First, she wants to support Jack as a cheater, and "nurture" his new relationship. But as soon as she finds out the new girl is a gold-digger, she's eager to spill the beans that there is no gold? Almost like she wanted a reason to get Jack away from Ana, and now see's an easy way to get Jack completely single. Maybe to have him for herself?
First Story: I hope this story ends up on r/bestofredditorupdates because this needs to get an update. Second Story: This is weird, why is Pat on the side if a cheater and a homewrecker? OP shouldn’t be comfortable around neither Jack or Max. Jack is scum for cheating on his wife and then go back to the person he had an affair with. Max is scum for knowingly going after a married man, being basically a gold digger, and getting back with a man she ruined his marriage. Also, yeah OP's views on Ana is weird as hell too; why does OP have such a high view on her? This makes me think OP has feelings for her (this is just my theory and it could 100% be wrong) Third Story: Yikes, she aborted a child...over zodiac signs because of Lisa. Not going to lie, that is a massive deal breaker. OP wasn’t ok with the abortion but she still did it anyway behind OP's back because of Lisa's brainwashing. I wish OP the best of luck and hope the divorce goes well. I don’t blame OP because it seems like Kate is letting Lisa run her life Fourth Story: This right here is what grooming causes. OP's wife IS a predator and because of her grooming OP is both still in love with her but is also disgusted by her after realizing he don’t want that to happen to his daughter. OP's wife is a disgusting monster who preyed and groomed a child and OP's parents are failures for letting this happen Fifth Story: Chris is an absolute scumbag. He was leading OP on for all this time and the has the audacity to get piss that OP moved on? What makes him worse is the fact he decided to reveal all of this during OP and his brother's wedding day
@Milk-ck1wv because Jack is once a cheater always a cheater..so she thought she could sleep with him as well and op wouldn't have the stones to divorce her...
Your comments about the second story: I don’t see anything wrong with how OP feels about Ana. She was at the bad end of a bad situation, and OP propping her up makes sense since she needs to go back out and find someone better. And OP’s wife wanting to include Jack in her and OP’s life is super weird to me. That’s way more weird than any “feelings” that OP may have about Ana.
Story 2: I bet you if OP had told the truth about the financial situation, his wife would have yelled at him for "causing drama and ruining the dinner" and that he should have "minded his own business." And if she also knew about the finances, why didn't SHE tell Maxine? Anyway, being endlessly forgiving and kind is NOT virtue, all it does is cause you to reward bad behavior and make it clear that you don't see much wrong with people doing bad things. Keeping a good environment means keeping peace AND imposing consequences when necessary, NOT just smiling and nodding along with anything that happens. "If 9 people are seated with 1 Nazi, there are 10 Nazis" and all.
Yeah, exactly. Forgiveness should be given in case of a little thing called repentance. In other words, the person being forgiven needs to feel sorry for what they did, turn away from their wrong actions, and make as many amends as possible. Jack and Max have done none of those things.
Second story: Max does not deserve any sympathy, because, from her perspective, she took another women's man along with her stable living conditions to satisfy hers.
Umm rslash wtf was that bad take. The affair story OP likes one of his friends and praises her which isn't necessarily a red flag. The fact his wife is ok with cheating, approves of it, and sides with a home wrecker and gold digger. That to me feels like the wife has a history or cheating, is cheating, or wants to cheat but is trying to normalize it for OP.
I can't believe no one is talking about how that woman MURDERED OP'S CHILD AND HID IT FROM HIM??? Abortion affects BOTH sides. I don't care if she was manipulated into it, she still WENT OUT AND DID IT without saying ANYTHING to him. That shows she's just as effed up in the head as her girlfriend. To take even a chance at life away from something because some random, non medicinal person told you to?? And not to mention because you didn't like the time it would have been born?? Holy shit, that's some beyond psychopathic shit right there. I can't even imagine what op's going through. Having his child taken away before he even got to see it... And then having to deal with his wife boo hooing over herself and the fact he hates her now. Like, how the hell did she think this move would turn out? Sneak behind your husband's back because you explicitly know he did NOT want his child to be killed, kill it, and he'd be all "oh well try again later luv u"? For God's sake, TALK through your thoughts and plans like an adult, especially if it's this big of a decision! Divorce her scary insane ass and let her marry that bitch that's just as crazy. They'd be a great couple!
I thought patricia was okay with cheaters though! "We should accept people we love even with our flaws." 🥺 /s come on, dabney, you know why patricia was on jack and maxine's side and it isnt because OP is the one cheating.
I remember reading story 3 having a lot of updates a while ago. The long and short of it was that the wife ended up taking her own life due to Lisa dragging her down emotionally. She eventually spiraled up into a point where it just got too much for her. And then I recall Lisa had the gall to show up at the funeral even.
This 3 days after a now ex client of mine (im an online sex worker) admitted to being... into kids themselves, and claimed to have done it, only to claim "just kidding" when confronted. I just wish i had their address so i could report them to the police
If the rapist is a man, He's a rapist and should be put in jail, throw away the key (or worse?) If the rapist is a woman? It's not her fault/she's a MAP/she's just a victim/you're hateful for judging her/the kid is lucky he (or she) scored 🙄
For the love of God they aren't "MAPs" they are pedos. Call them what they are, by calling them that your doing exactly what they want, making it sound not as bad
what is with the rslash L takes recently like god forbid a man has empathy for a woman who was cheated on and led on only to find out a gold digger was bragging about winning her broke soon to be ex??? like what an INSANE take also HOW is the fourth op at fault for not telling bc the brother acted like an incel and framed himself as her hot ex. like he's just a loser PLEASE
An old coworker of mine is married to a lowkey predator. They got together when she was 14 and he 18, married when she turned 19. Disgusting and I hope she realizes the horrible situation soon.
Aborting a baby for the simple fact that you don’t like what zodiac sign they’d be is probably the best decision that vile woman could make. She doesn’t deserve to carry life or bring it into the world, she doesn’t deserve to have a baby, and she definitely doesn’t deserve to be a mother. Op deserves a better mate to bare his child, one who respects the life they created and the father they created it with. At least once the divorce is finalized, there will be nothing actually tying him to her.
Rslash told a story a few weeks ago (maybe months) about a teacher grooming the student, and he was outraged with disgust so much, the older woman here grooms and he goes well if if genders were reversed there would be pitchforks and that’s it, he shows no fury. It’s like that story with the guy who slept with his gfs mother when he was 19 and she was mid forties and yet he was enthusiastic saying the 19 year old was just getting his nut. Then I have called rslash out on it yet I am the bad guy…
Story 4 reminds me of the South Park episode where Ike’s kindergarten teacher was having an affair with him and Kyle tried to get the police involved but because it was a hot female teacher all they could say was “nice”
The friend in the 3rd story reminds me of that one story from a while back where the op's wife took her life because her best friend was manipulating her and making her think her husband was cheating so op should definitely get out while he can.
so I kinda disagree with the statement in the fourth story about how dating someone in secret means that they know its wrong. (I mean yes most likely that was why in this specific instance) I'm just coming at this from a queer perspective of having dated a handful of women who couldn't be safely out to their parents and so it was secret from her side, but not mine (I've been out since 15, I'm 22 now). Otherwise I guess I kinda see what you're saying there, and I assume you weren't intending to generalize but idk I felt like I needed to say something.
being gay and being a pedo are different as you said while being gay is more accepting, it's still seen as wrong to some people in society, thus people tend to hide it more in fear of being disowned. This is coming from a closeted (now out) Bisexual growing up thinking women needed to be attracted to men and vice versa. I've come to terms that not all people will accept how I am, people shouldn't need to fear others for judging them but society taught them that it's wrong and that's why they hide it, doesn't mean they ARE doing something wrong. It's just how it is shown.
That one story with the best friend whispering bad stuff into the op's wife's ear sounds like that other story with the same thing but the wife died in the end...
The husband isn’t all that decent of a person if he childishly gave her the cold shoulder. And in the update after she tore the brother, a new asshole, did the husband finally grow a spine?
Story 2: Orrrr maybe since Ana was the wife of his best friend from kindergarten whom he sees like a brother, he came to also see Ana like family, and so is having trouble accepting her replacement, especially since infidelity was involved. The only one being weird here is the wife. OP was acting totally normal considering the circumstances and there's nowhere near enough evidence to suspect otherwise.
I drewa completely different conclusion to that cheating story. The way I was thinking was that she was probably defending the cheater over her friend (because he did say she was HER friend) was because SHE was cheating as well, just seems to suspicious
5:50 true friends don't let their friends get away with bad behaviour. And good, upright life partners don't condone misbehaviour among their circle, either.
Wife's BFF story- best friend talks bad about op behind his back. Ops wife "yeah you're absolutely right" Op says the truth about the BFF. Ops wife "how dare you insult my friend"
Story 1: As a proponent of 50/50 parenting I gotta say, YOU GET THAT BAG KING! Story 2: Wow, I smell some fun stuff in this. Story 3: Holy shit! Lisa is fucked up! Whats wrong with being an Aquarius? Yeah, get out of that situation. Story 4: I wish I could say this was uncommon. You'd be shocked how many female predators of young boys exist. There is a big reason why shotacon and cougar culture exist. My old friend's kid brother was 13 years old when he was taken advantage of by a 29 year old woman and the woman got pregnant with his child. To say that his mother went ballistic about her was an understatement. And that was in the early 2000s. Story 5: That so-called brother is a dick.
@@sawyerjoyce8326 she did get arrested and had the baby. The 13 year old still has issues after years of therapy and has had very little contact with the child. What's mind-blowing is the fact said child is an adult now. Don't know what that child is up to.
3rd story is heartbreaking. OP needs to divorce his wife and cut her off completely. If his wife is ok with aborting a baby over a star sign, what else is she capable of doing?
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My jaw dropped and I had to pause and re-read that part where Lisa told OP's wife to abort the baby so it wouldn't be a specific zodiac sign. Lisa is beyond delusional. She has completely brainwashed OP's wife, and there is no saving her. It's time for a divorce.
Final story had an update awhile ago, I believe, first of all during a family dinner with Chris OP absolutely destroyed him, she pointed out how he was a manipulative sleaze who never had a real chance with her and that he was a petty, little man making that speech, and all Chris could do was hold his head in shame as he got reamed out in front of his family. OP then told off her husband for not defending her or their love and instead playing the 'woe is me' card when they're supposed to love each other, and husband admitted he's always felt like second best to Chris. OP and husband are good now and Chris was told to STFU in the future.
Thanks for mentioning this! The update was such a relief.
Glad someone commented this! OP absolutely wrecked Chris and from what I remember, FIL was absolutely onboard and prevented Chris from bailing before OP could have her say. I can't remember exactly but she said something to the effect of "If I had gotten to know you, I would have seen you for the terrible, pathetic person you are."
Savage. Brilliant.
Glad to hear it.
Good, because I was over here wondering what was wrong with me that I didn't think OP did anything wrong. She had a crush on a guy, realized what a d*ck he was, met an actually decent guy and fell for him, and the first guy was a thing of the past.
Wrong story.
Grooming is grooming regardless of gender.... I'm going to get my pitchfork now.
You have any extras? I don't have one.
@@MusketeerGweneth I'm getting the glock, I'll lend you a ak47 👍
@@MusketeerGweneth we will find something useful.
I'll get a bucket of boiling water.
I'll get my torch, my knife and my side arm. 🔫 You gotta suit up to properly deal with p***philes.
4th Story: There's fortunately no need to imagine reversing the genders for this sort of thing anymore, Dabney. The whole relatively recent scandal with that lady with the cringe ukulele apology (Y'all know who I'm talking about. I can't remember her name and frankly she doesn't deserve to have her name remembered.) getting cancelled for being a creepy with her fan base full of minors in many ugly ways proves positive that society has become receptive to the concept that women can be pedos too and should be punished equally. Good riddance to bad rubbish.
Legit replied to this twice and gotten both comments deleted. 🤣🤣🤣 Is this a conspiracy? 🧐
I may only know of her from Meatcanyon's video, lol. heard most didn't buy it, though.
Wasn’t really an apology. She never really said sorry for what she did. She was mostly trying to make things seem less then how there were and make herself look like a victim instead. Also I really like your description of her lol!
@CandaceDreamer it was the world's worst rugsweep attempt
@@rya3190 It’s a massive rabbit hole that’s worth diving into. Swoop has a good docuseries about it I’d recommend to get caught up (waiting on part 3/3 of her series currently).
Story 3; Yeah the friend is a sociopath. Manipulating a woman into getting a abortion for no good reason. Thats just evil. I really want an update to that story
Hopefully the update involves divorce
I cannot wrap my head around aborting a planned pregnancy behind your husband's back because your friend told you to, because of a fucking zodiac sign. If I was OP there would be no coming back from that.
Hopefully the update involves the "friend" getting her ass handed to her for the wrongs she caused.
fr she is crazy!
Yeah that was just heartbreaking :( OP is not in a good relationship. His wife is choosing Lisa over him every time.
Story 2: doesn't op's wife and rslash know that you can have a friendship with someone of the opposite sex without it becoming a relationship even with all those compliments. Like I don't understand her anger and support over a homewreaker and a cheater
Agreed. I thought it was a different story at first. Like calling a friend beautiful has nothing to do with someone of the opposite sex
@@MichaelHebbeexactly complements don't equal attraction
R/slash always does this. He doesn’t comment when women have guy friends but always suspects cheating when men have female friends.
No, because Rslash is too busy doing mental gymnastics to try and simp to think logically
AGAIN
3rd video he’s done this in the last week
He’s gone full redditor brain
Specifically the r/AITA version where, when in doubt, blame the man. Even when there isn’t doubt, still find a way to blame the man
@@dragonriderabens9761welcome to the morden world where men are the universes dumping ground for all the evils.
Story 2: Dabney, no. You're starting to play white knight again. OP is just being a decent human being who doesn't condone cheating and is just listing out Ana's positive qualities like any good friend would. That doesn't mean he's cheating on his wife. He's being supportive. His wife condoning the cheating and turning her back on Ana makes HER the bad person, it's not OP's fault.
I really like Dabney and his content, but he seems to have a blind spot when it comes to wife's. Maybe because he thinks so highly of his own.
Life can change perspectives and opinions, we don't know why or where this white knighting behaviour actually comes from @Rslash I really hope you aren't in abusive marriage and that's what's causing this behavior. I hope it's more you have some other things going on. I know it's not a static bias towards women as you have called out women of a wide range of ages but I think they way you are acting shows signs that either you are in an open relationship which honestly you do you, or you or your wife is cheating, there is a possibility I could be extremely incorrect. I think addressing these claims may be a good idea.
That was a really poor judgement on Dabney's part, I feel
Who is dabney lol
@@ElectricGlowSkull rslash, the person
Story 2:
Op's wife: *Is incredibly passionate about ensuring that a homewrecker/cheater/manipulator/thief doesn’t get burned when they mistakenly ruin another woman's life for money that doesn't exist.*
OP: *Compliments a woman who just had her life nuked and emphasizes that she didn't deserve it.*
RSlash: "OP must be cheating."
Edit: I don't think OP's wife is cheating. She's just eating up Maxine's story of having a hard-knock-life way too easily, and doesn't realize that Maxine would nuke her life if it meant a paycheck.
I agree with OP, let Jack fall for Maxine's lie about loving him, and let Maxine fall for Jack's lie about having money.
Right???? He didn't see that as the wife projecting hard?! No, because OP said nice things about Ana it's OP that's in the wrong, not his wife who's more than willing to leave a friend high and dry and support the people that ruined said friends marriage. Like yo, what the hell RSlash?
How dare OP have sympathy for a woman who was cheated on and dumped by his best friend. And how dare he not be friendly to said best friend and his new homewrecking side piece? OP must be in love with Anna!
RSlash's logic here is kind of confusing. Like... how dare OP have morals? How dare OP take the side of the partner who was cheated on? I bet if the genders were reversed and OP was the wife and her husband was getting angry at her for not supporting the cheater, we'd be hearing a very different tune.
I didn’t understand the logic here AT ALL. Like it made absolutely no sense. Why was OP’s wife so insistent on staying friends with them? Why support this horrid behavior? If anything, shouldn’t they be a rock for Ana in this case? Nowhere in that story did I get the OP having feelings for Ana vibe. OP is just being a decent person; what the wife is doing here is really weird.
He has a serious pattern of this over time (probably from his steadfast belief that the husband take the wife's side no matter what bias before considering reason) but man, that was hard to listen to.
The way the wife defends the manipulator makes me think either: (Best Case Scenario)
Wife also has that weird specific culture mentality of defend friends/loved ones no matter what regardless of morals/what they do. The whole "see past flaws even when they're clearly hurting others, just forgive and forget" thing seems to be a wife/mother thing in particular
Wife has enough of that mentality to actually support what they're doing, has the potential to cheat and find it alright
Wife is already cheating and projecting onto him
Wife wants to cheat
I'll hope for the first but hope OP is prepared to look out for the others.
Technically not what he said. He implied that OPs wife might think he's cheating because of the empathy he has. Mind you, that's still very dumb logic because then we can say the samething about r/Slash if empathy is a sign of cheating. But let's not put words I his mouth
Story 2: Jack's gotta be cosmically stupid to cheat when the prenup leaves him with nothing in a potential divorce.
Story 2: Or maybe OP is a decent human being , sees how a good person like her didn't deserve to be cheated on and is turned off by the fact that his own wife would be siding with a cheater. Cheaters support each other.
Story 4: if OP was 14 she was 20, when he was 16 she was 22. OPs parents are complicit and disgusting, they failed their child. And OP is clearly still halfway stuck in the fog bc if he still not 100% sure that she's a predator after this realisation alone then idk what to tell you. He needs to divorce her ASAP and take their daughter with him.
I agree but I believe the ages are wrong. 12=18 so add 2 so 14=20. Dorry if this is rude
@@monkeybut oh yeah thanks, my bad
@@kespeth2 cherry pick? Or point out a serious problem? And I'm sure there are way more people who have the same problem with the story
I mean at some point they will both be in their 20s so it wouldn't be as weird anymore. It's too late to change the past, but they can talk about it and protect their children in the future if they desire to stay together. Divorce doesn't have to be the only answer.
@kespeth2 how are you gonna talk trash and then spell chomo wrong 😂
Chris did that on purpose. No sane person would talk about their crush in a speech at the wedding of the crush and his brother. He's jealous that after he didn't do anything to get the girl she couldn't be bothered and found the obviously better man. Super sad it's come to this though. Hope they both get heough it and the guy sees what kind of prick his big bro is.
op should speak to her husband with the truth, she used to have a crush on his brother but he treated her like a second table, he would rather fuck with a random person than spend time to know her, and who is insane enough to still love someone like that? not her that for sure
The wife showed who she is. She is cool with cheating and gold digging. That changes things.
Op should probably cheat and marry a goldigger after all wouldn't the wife be ok with that after all? Of course not because then she'd be a hypocrite as well as a butthole
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So... She is not a person, but a parasite?
You need to mention each story you are talking about, there are a lot of wifes in this story.
Story 2: She is not being accepting, she's being a doormat. Allowing and supporting someone who participated in destroying a home does not mean you love them. If you love someone you need to put your foot down and not support their bs. I'd take your wife's actions as a red flag, she's supported a cheater and when one of the participants is going to get punished she attempts to defend them. Hopefully there will be an update.
4th story: I remember showing this to a friend when I was going through the subreddit, and she went on a whole ass rant saying it was fine and men don't get groomed/rape, my jaw drop, I ask if it was a 14 year old girl and a 20 year old man she said: "yes, because it's so hard to be a woman with men trying to steal *OUR* trauma and *OUR* struggles, plus he probably liked it anyways men always wanted to be SA by older women." Let's just say we aren't friends anymore. Plus, she one of those people who always wonder why men don't talk about their trauma.
Your ex-friend is absolute trash. Full stop. No more needs to be said.
I hate people like that
Assault is assault no matter the gender
Your ex-friend: Men can't experience sexual trauma, they're all pigs and sluts who want it!
Also your ex-friend when men don't want to talk about their trauma: **surprised Pikachu face**
And there's people who say misandry doesn't exist. Hell, I bet that POS is one of 'em.
Reminds me of that dumb woman on maury who Said "if I R***d you how did you get hard then" and the whole crowd cheered at that and I'm just sitting there thinkin "man I wish I could smack that whole crowd of morons"
I used to know someone like your ex-friend. She was a hard on feminist who spent hours of her life on Twitter talking trash about men. Needless to say that I want nothing to do with that hypocritical b*tch who thought SA can't occur on young boys
story 2: people can compliment someone, platonically. Without taking in the compliments, the wife is ok with cheating, meaning she could do it without a sliver of doubt.
Oh absolutely
I wouldn't be surprised if it ended up that she'd been cheating on OP
Yeah the scary part of that story is how ok the wife is with it and the husband realizing she doesn’t have the character he thought she did.
I heard the 4th story some time ago and people in the comments under that video were arguing about how it wasn't grooming or predatory because "they were in love". Completely forgetting that predators groom their victims into thinking their relationship is ok and that It's "love". They also would say "well his parents approved of the relationship so obviously there's no problem!" Again completely forgetting that parents will allow their kid's to be sexually assaulted within cults or by family members and much worse just because. The situation was wrong and will forever be wrong. It's grooming. It's predatory.
Also people really need to can the "but boys are different! They like being sexually assaulted and preyed on by adults!" Mentality. Almost every single boy who's been taken advantage of ends up struggling with depression, ptsd of some type, and suicidal ideation due to their trauma. It isn't a fucking joke. It isn't cool to let whole ass adult women to assault children.
FYI, you mean the 4th story, 3rd story is the one with the psycho friend who convinced OP's wife to abort over a star sign.
@@myopinion69420 just changed it. Apologies, i was playing remnant 2 and zoned out during story 3 so i thought the fourth was the 3rd.
IKR! IT'S SO GROSS AND MAKES NO SENSE.
Considering the OP is now at least 32, it’s perhaps time for him to discuss his issues with his wife.
Perhaps therapy if needed.
And above all, consider how they hid the relationship from everyone, how his own parents reacted, and use that information to help protect their daughter from facing the same.
I feel so bad for him, the betrayal when he was so young and vulnerable by the people he should have been able to trust to protect him... I hope he can get some therapy to work through some of this.
That wife’s BFF story is eerily similar to one RSlash read a while ago. The husband was having trouble with his wife’s best friend, who kept poisoning her mind and turning her on the husband, even convincing her that he was cheating. It got worse when she had a baby and the friend doubled down. If I remember correctly, the wife ended up slapping him and breaking his nose. They separated and she showed up one day demanding the kid. Then, she crashed her car and died.
That is NOT a good friend. Or a good person. That guy needs to either sit down and show her that other story, get her to get rid of the friend, or run for the hills to avoid tragedy.
I remember that post! It was on one of his bestofredditorupdates videos!
I was thinking the same thing!
It's basically similar, only it seems like the friend is jealous and is willing to f**k up the relationship just to get something out of it.
Oh yeah, I remember that story. That guy really needs to get out of there before this story gets even worse
Yeah, I got that same vibe too.
So story 2 is bugging me as well but not for the Rslash said. Why is OPs wife so invested in keeping the friendship between them? I understand that they are like brothers but even at the beginning he was ready to burn that bridge because he lied to his wife. Being a guy who’s parents cheated on each other, I saw a lot of people just end it right then and there with them. Then what happened to Anna. Does she not exist anymore? Honestly I’m more confused on this whole thing.
Op wife Is obviously jealous of Ana that's why she defending Jack and maxine like crazy...
I think that it's because some people say "But they're your beeest frieeend!" the way some people say "But they're faaamily!" Because they're 'like brothers,' Pat probably feels that Jack should get more chances than he actually deserves. And given that she's so sympathetic to Max despite everything, she could just be very soft-hearted. Y'know, a little too eager to forgive and forget just because conflict is tough.
@@tully6648 that’s fair
@@tully6648I can see that
I was thinking the same thing tbh
Story 3 reminds me a lot of the "Jesse" story. The one where Jesse convinced OP's wife that he was cheating on her, causing her to make herself not live anymore; and I got a sinking feeling that if that child had been born, we would've seen an almost exact repeat of the "Jesse" story.
Story 3: The wife would jump off a 400 foot cliff if Lisa told her to.
She'd probably do it if an AI generated rendition of her master did it too (cause let's be honest here, she's a fucking mindless puppet)
Lisa would probably tell her to push her husband off the cliff...
@@thespider2566 that too, I kinda feel like the only way that relationship could become anything even resembling healthy, is if Lisa died in an "accident"
@@thespider2566 Lisa would tell her to abort the child if it were autistic too, she seems like THAT type of "person"...using the term loosely because those who think like that arre undeerving of the title of human being.
@@thespider2566 definitely
Do NOT follow rslash's advice at the very end. That could give off the idea of love bombing and make her husband only more suspicious about her now that she in his mind got caught. The best thing she can do is tell him her truth like she wrote on reddit and then leave him to his thoughts until he reaches out to her. That would show sincerity in her words. She'll likely have to wait for him to reach out to her again and if she can't stand the wait, she could try to speak to him once every week until he's ready. That's the best chance she has to have him believe and more importantly trust her again and that chance is still a 50/50... well unless she's lying on reddit too.
I had to actually go back and listen to dabney's advice and yeah, 100% agree. The husband needs space to process and come the wife needs to respect that. Trying to push or convince him of her love for him is likely to backfire and nothing else.
I'd say the best advice would be to get marriage counseling, despite how early it is in the marriage.
@@akl2k7 Absolutely not. Marriage counselors are typically always going to side with the woman regardless of the circumstances and make the guy out to be the problem. The guy doesn't need to hear how he needs to do better while he did nothing wrong. That's going to destroy the marriage at 10x the speed of light... they can have their therapies if they need it, but they would need to be individual and confidential.
@@davidjacobs7465 Good point. It probably depends on the marriage counselors, though (I've heard of some alway siding against the woman). She needs to assure him she's not interested in Chris, and just not interact with Chris at all.
You should go see the update where she screamed at her husband for daring to even be hurt about it, I think she's still in love with Chris and the brother needs to leave her if THATS her reaction
Second story had me wanting OP divorce his wife because her logic was MAJORLY flawed. You're telling me that Ana should get shafted because Jack was a long time friend and Max taking Jack from Ana is seen as a flex, which it's not. Also, Max had a tough upbringing, therefore, Max and Jack doing Ana dirty is somehow justified. There is nothing wrong with complimenting your friends especially highlighting how Ana is this amazing person that Jack screwed over for some booty.
Furthermore, I don't know why Rslash read that much into OP's description of Ana because if OP's wife had some sort of negative feelings about Ana, I'd say it's time she let OP know because at the rate she's going, she's ruining her marriage quicker than Jack did his.
Also, when OP said that his wife was the forgiving and considerate type, I knew she was going to take the long time friend side. Like I always tell my friends, friends don't let friends do stupid things. If they do and continuously, you'll see the back of my head and the dust from my feet.
4th story: REMEMBER PEOPLE WOMEN CAN BE PREDATORS,MEN CAN BE VICTIMS! This man is a victim of grooming i strongly believe this is so damn sad and disgusting. He needs help honestly and the fact that his PARENTS ARE OK WITH IT? Drop them and cut contact since their ok with predators. I hope we get a update because this man and his daughter needs to report her to the police and bounce fast after legal things happen. She deserves jail time she probably rped this poor man or sexually assaulted him multiple times in secret!
I would guess his parents were in a position where they were just happy to have someone take over financial responsibility for their child. That’s generally why parents were ok with older men and younger women. She’s definitely a predator though.
3rd story: OP RUN. That girl is being manipulated by her crazy af bestfriend and she is far way too in.
any adult attracted to children are a danger
not a children tho
This depends on how strict of a definition you use for an adult or a child. An 18 year old adult is okay to be attracted to a 17 year old child. I do know what you mean though. An adult attracted to someone significantly younger than them is really bad.
@@Fenronin What do you mean by that? 12 year olds are children, so are 14 year olds. The woman was 20 dating a 14 year old.
Don't tell me your a pedo coming to defend their kind 💀
facts
Yeah. Like, man, it's one thing to be attracted to childlike cuteness, you can find that sort of energy even in adults, I know some people who are pretty petite and also just super full of life and it's adorable and I can't fault someone for wanting that in their life. But you know, they're still an adult.
Worst-case, someone can healthily outlet that through fictional characters, never actually harming a real person-- But as soon as someone starts *actually* acting on that desire and *actually* messing with someone with an age gap that puts someone WAY below the age of consent nope no way that's dangerous as hell and should never be tolerated nor normalized.
“My wife is attracted to kids” …that’s called a pedophile 😀
I don't think you're allowed to say that on RUclips anymore without being demonetized. Apparently, RUclips thinks that if you say it, you're inciting it.
@@uselessinformation1988 which in my opinion is going a bit to far overboard doing that.
@@vernonharden I agree.
@@uselessinformation1988 This is hardly new. For years now, people haven't been able to say "atheist" or "LGBT+" half the time without getting demonetised at least partially. All they care about is their precious advertisers, and so it's your choice as a creator - end up using stupid euphemisms to get around the OTT rules or end up losing a good section of both your revenue and your reach.
@@JustAnotherBuckyLover I never knew that you couldn't say "atheist". That's why I'm never monetizing my videos with ads. I refuse to be bullied around in the name of "tolerance and acceptance".
Honestly never thought I'd see the day when a story about a woman p**o would be covered.
Edit: i agree with rslash if the genders were reversed all hell would be unleashed kind of disgusting that female groomers aren't hated as much as male ones (yes it's rarer but it happens).
It's so weird to me that whenever female predators get called out it's usually men protecting the predators? Like encouraging the grooming,rpe,sexual assault and stuff. Just like when serial killers are jailed and etc it's usually women sending them letters,love notes,gifts and even getting their children involved. It's so fuckin gross
It's not rarer, they're just more skittish and careful and many don't end up as a statistic. I grew up around Peds and I knew many kids that got nailed by them, there are just as many fempeds as male ones, but a lot of the fems are content with being a naughty babysitter or sitting on a park bench and acting like a mom watching her kids play with a phone controlled vibe up inside them, so you rarely catch on to what they're up to.
@@Milk-ck1wvIt's because those men don't see that as grooming or being a predator. To them, what that women did was apart of their wildest sex dreams in their youth and they see it as the young men she prayed on "getting lucky at a young age". It's apart of their purity culture, where if a man did this to a little girl, she would be "broken". But when the roles are switched, they see it as a young man "getting lucky" it's disgusting and dismisses the child's feelings.
And that is a horrible stereotypes isn't it! If you actually ask the victims of female predators you realize that it's just as horrible for them as for girls. They suffer from the same trauma and mental issues afterwards, but for some reason people tell them they should feel lucky... 😫
@@fangirl3086 maybe in the past but in the current times I've seen it more so due to a mix of that and the push for the idea of "women can never be the bad guy"
RSlash….. you can compliment people without being attracted to them, you can even call someone attractive without being attracted to them either… weird take.
That's true. There, I said it. So those cherry picking asshats who tried to gaslight me are WRONG. I do NOT agree with rSlash's take there.
Story 3 reminds me of the story from months ago that a friend manipulated the wife that op was cheating and it eventually led up to her death
And also would’ve killed her daughter if OP didn’t keep her with him.
Does Rslash not understand that a male and female can just be friends
Judging from previous episodes he's made, no, he doesn't.
@TheLobsterCopter5000 lamoooo he also preaches about men getting paternity tests while he hasn't had one 😂
So we just gonna skip over the favt that OP's wife is defending a cheater, something R/slash has always admitted to not liking, simply because OP compliments and praises anna for being a wonderful person? Is that really the mental gymnastics we're gonna have R/Slash. Here's a secret bro, you can be passionate about other people's morals without it being a "I love you" situation. Not to mention, the wife's mental gymnastics showing how much of an awful person she is. "Let's invite YOUR cheating friend." Distancing herself and making OP the one that should maintain the relationship because it's HIS. "She grew up in a horrible situation!" Excusing her crappy behavior by tossing all the responsibility of her actions on the girls paat, which shockee doesn't make it okay. "It's okay for her to cheat but how dare you not tell her that she actually homewrecked into a situation where she has no money!" It's not OPs responsibility to tell this girl that he dumb actions got her into an even worse situation. That's the cheaters responsibility.
But i mean, OP was saying nice things about Anna, So let's just pretend that OP's wife is not in the wrong and lets make up an accusation with no proof besides the fact that I like to question every man's morals by saying the may be engaging in infidelity
Story 2: OP believe me you can love someone and still be completely upset with their actions, if he's really really is like a brother to you then you should be able to call a mouth for all of the crappy put that poor woman through. Also your wife really likes the flip-flop her morals, she's mad at you for not telling her the truth but she didn't say anything either, and why should you have any sympathy for the gold-digging slut that that's spent the whole night trash talking your friend who did not deserve to be cheated on. A lot of people had a hard life but you don't see them going around hurting others, besides it's going to be a lot more fun to watch her disappointment when she finds out she's not getting what she wants, and the see your friends lies come crashing down on him. You were right the first time.
If I found out a 20 year old man were dating a 14 year old girl, it would be straight to prison for me.
This reminded me of one of my classmates from primary school. She "dated" an 18-year-old guy when she was 12. She'd drink lots of alcohol and skip school because of him. I heard the guy ended up in prison and he wasn't allowed to be in contact with that girl, but they kept meeting up anyway. Back then, I wasn't aware of just how fucked up it was. I just thought it was weird, because I was also a stupid kid. I wonder if that girl is okay and what she's doing now.
He probably wouldn't go to prison tbh
@@dr_nuh-uhhe would almost definitely go to prison if he was prosecuted in most US states.
@@Janjones7735 I'd like to live in your world cause in the real world most sex offenders don't go to jail
someone in my family married a guy that was 22 while she was 16
There’s an update on the last story. Also, Rslash, please don’t give advice to love bomb a person, it never ends well.
Whats the update? I couldn't find it anywhere on reddit
@@michaeljenkins178I found it by looking up "Brother in law Chris crush speech"
@@michaeljenkins178it's a pretty bad update, she, rightfully, puts Chris in his place but then she goes full psycho and screams at her husband for daring to be hurt at all by it
@@gennix404 yikes. That sucks
Rslash, you're doing it AGAIN in story 2. You don't have to like someone romantically to compliment them.
And for story 3.... i feel like Rslash read this before. Iirc the wife unalives herself, and the friend wants to be at the funeral... or some shit like that.
Story 3 was different. The wife had already given birth, and the "friend" was constantly accusing OP of cheating, likely because she was cheated on. The wife had at least one mental breakdown and got violent with OP.
@@andredunbar3773 Ignore the cherry picking troll. @everyone People, listen to stories before responding to them! Cherry pickers are those who post about stories without listening to them, then post retarded shit after being called out on it. Those people are almost as bad as pedophiles. Yes, I went there. If you don't know what that means, you shouldn't be on the Internet without a PCA. And I didn't defend his take on Story 2 at all (nor have I commented on it at all), more cherry picking by minus mind weasels. Cherry picking (aka gaslighting) is toxic behavior.
@andredunbar3773 ah yeah, that's what it was. Damn, pretty wild this is more common than one would want.
@@kespeth2 which troll r u talking about
@@hectormarquez2402 Ignore them. It is a weird person who calls people "cherry picking troll" on most of the comments that call out rSlash or defend OP regarding story 2.
So the guy in story 2 gets shit on for….being a good person? His best friend cheats, ruins a relationship and OP knows that, then OPs wife sides with the cheater and the homewrecker, and OP is the asshole for what? RSlash, the wife and the 2 cheaters all suck in that story
Rslash, probably: “nope because the wife can do no wrong. She is giving people a second chance. Its just weird how OP is not doing so and seems to put his female friend on a pedestal”
The second story the husband is right to be turned off by his wives morals. The woman is vile
story 2: rslash, go on another break. bc op is on ana's side bc she was CHEATED ON. shes HIS FRIEND. you can compliment friends in a way that lifts them. it doesnt mean anything weird , you're passing comment was weird, but i agree with you that max is the homewrecker
I don't understand why people just expect their partners to not have had any relationships before them and act like they got cheated on when they find out that they did, especially when they never asked. If OP actually did anything with Chris then I could see why they should've told their husband, but it was just a crush.
Normally you'd be right but not WHEN ITS YOUR SIBLING
@@gennix404 Again, it was only a crush. Nothing happened between them
So, how long will it be for R/slash to get dog piled enough for him to cut out his take on the cheating husband story?
Rslash showing his simp tendencies again. Rslash, just because a guy complements a woman DOESN'T MEAN HE'S ATTRACTED TO HER!!!
Yeah, like I think my best friend and his wife are both amazing people, and despite the fact that I'm bi, I don't want to jump in bed with either of them. Platonic relationships are a thing.
He sides with the woman 90% of the time unless physical abuse it occuring. It's sad. I think he is afraid of getting cancelled or something or he's really just that far gone from his own relationship where I assume his wife requires 100% support even if she is mid Karen freak-out.
I feel like it's getting worse and worse as the videos go on. I have to dip out on some vids where he goes into rants about sexism and stuff. Listening to older videos is night and day
If the grooming story with the genders reversed we would have 5 minutes of how the man is disgusting (true) but here it was really glossed over again
Yeah bruh, I'm pan and I tell my best friend that she's gorgeous and amazing, I don't have any feelings for her at all :V
That man in the third story... Heartbreaking. That "friend" is a PSYCHO. How literally evil do you have to be to manipulate an evidently mentally and morally weak/vulnerable woman into killing her and her husband's unborn child, BEHIND THE HUSBAND'S BACK??? Seventh layer of hell for that UTTER SOCIOPATH. And that (hopefully EX) wife needs HELP. Serious mental help. Poor husband/father.
I mean it isn't killing but it is very disrespectful and dishonest for the reason she did abort. I hope he divorces
It reminded me of that Best of Updated video he did, where OPs wife eventually killer herself because her BFF was egging her on, telling her OP was cheating on her.
Some people are just energy vampires, taking someone's joy and certainties is fun for them;
@@Milk-ck1wvit would considered that since the baby was wanted and intentional
@Milk-ck1wv it technically is
@@aduckofsomesort This is the correct answer to the debate.
Hold on a minute. How did RSlash read me a story and I understood it better than him?! How is OP the suspicious one in the story about his wife defending a cheater and a goldigger homewrecker?! He complemented their close friend but that’s somehow worse than OPs wife wanting to look out for an obvious affair relationship?
That's how bad his takes have become lately, dude either needs a break or needs to quit thinking women can do no wrong
@@gennix404his takes have always been this bad, he has older videos where he continuously misunderstood stories and calls OPs a-holes. There were two stories where he ignored all the justifications for the posters in the story.
Not giving the vegan friend vegan meals during outings despite her not having to go and being able to bring her own food and has been for a year.
Or when OP warned his friends about the rain and urged them to get an umbrella while visiting Japan as it was going to rain heavily and OP didn't want to share an umbrella.
He call both posters a-holes and ignored a lot of parts of the stories.
@@stellarkirbo I remember when he defended a wife who assaulted a random goth chick in a store because she was bullied by a goth person in school and gave the husband a non zero AH rating for "not standing by her". The video in question was titled "r/AmITheA**hole for Triggering My Wife's Abuse?". That was from 2 years ago and probably his worst take that I can remember.
@@kiracaroso I think I vaguely remember that, I gotta watch it again. But I genuinely think RSlash has been reading Reddit stories an comments for so long that he’s started to develop all of its worse qualities, cause he’s having a lot more bad takes then usual lately.
I audibly gasped in the 3rd story for what the wife did. Oh my god! I’m pro choice but OHMYGOD!!!
Same! I’m also pro choice, but the fact that she did this in secret, without talking about it with her husband, all because of what her “friend” said about zodiac signs! Da**!!
At 6:14 - I think OP is justified questioning his wife because if she thinks what Maxine did was fine, what’s stopping her from doing something similar?
Last story has a update she talked to her husband told him nothing happened between her and the brother then later saw the brother at a cook out and confronted him he tucked his tail and cried I think the mom defended the sun because she embarrassed him in front of family 😂 the irony of that lol also I think there was a part about his brother being a golden child and always taking his stuff.
18 = just became an adult. 12 = just hit puberty. Woman is a pedo (and belly rubbers, don't bother me with semantics about dictionary definitions, I'm using the LEGAL definition here), plain and simple.
He said he didn't want to lead OP on, but now he's pissed that he wasn't living rent free in OP's mind. What a narcissistic psychopath.
I feel like rSlash's takes on stories r getting more and more...how to say...disagreeable??
The 2nd story: Why did you overlook the fact that the wife was defending the cheaters, aka HIS cheating friend, and didn't give a damn about HER hurt friend whose marriage was ruined by this man and his gf? She cared more about her husband's cheating friend and gf than her friend... I find it odd to see that it wasn't obvious to you that she was; a) projecting or b) cheating with the friend and/or his gf. Something is clearly wrong here with the wife, and the fact that OP complimented Anna (and gave context to the story) has nothing to do with the wife and her extremely concerning morals...
I MEAN NO HATE WITH THIS COMMENT!!!! Love you rSlash, keep up the good work!!
Because here lately rslash for some reason thinks women can do no wrong and it's becoming more and more obvious that he has a major bias
story 4: poor guy. i feel sorry for him. groomed from the age of 12 and he doesn't even realize that the 'love' he feels isn't real. he needs to get into therapy QUICK and get his child away from his abuser AND his abuser loving parents/family. each and every adult in this guy's life failed to protect him.
As an Aquarius myself, don't see what the issue is... We're not THAT bad.
As a fellow aquarius, I agree
Y’all are just making this shit up right? Because I refuse to believe that anyone actually thinks being an asparagus or whatever means anything
@Chubby_Runs I'll have you known I take my Astromonology very very VERY cereal. You're acting like a Tartar Sauce!
Love rslash but what was that take on story 2??? you completely overlooked the very very bright red flags the wife was displaying and chose to focus on... a compliment? I don't know about you, but I've given out my fair share of compliments without being attracted to the person I am complimenting.
Can’t wait for my daily dose of rSlash
Damnit i was gonna say that.
I'm here for my daily dose of disappointment in humanity
Good morning rslash. Deep ones today
@@dorothylloyd1804 good morning vieeetnaaam
Story 2: RSlash really needs to take those wife-guy blinders off.
Wife BFF story: OP should definitely divorce his wife, this is something you can't come back from, but he also should tell his wife's parents and siblings why and exactly what happened before she and Lisa spin a story about why OP is the bad guy. I thought about him also informing Lisa's parents, but that would be an overstep for him. Instead he should suggest his wife's parents do it after he tells them the full story.
Gotta give it to rSlash for trying to sh1t on an innocent man while covering 4 stories that have bad women in them.....
(Referring to story 2, calling the OP a cheater, while his wife supports a cheater/homewrecker/gold digger...)
Didn't he just say that the wife could've seen it that way?
@@maapauu4282 OH YES----, the wife that supports those that cheat and are homewreckers, should 'logically' be angry that OP might've cheated.....🙃
Different song, but same dance for rSlash.
@@RedrumZombies I mean, would you support one of the cheaters getting cheated on? Although it isn't logical, if the wife does think that, she could think it's some comeuppance or something
Can't lie it made me uncomfortable when in story 2 Rslash changed Max to Maxine, as someone with a more traditionally masculine (but gender neutral) name, if someone changed my name from Luciel (not my real name) to Luciela or Lucia cause they think it's better or less confusing, that'd be extremely uncomfortable
Story 2 made his inner sexist gain full power once again, in which he bases all his opinions on clear gender distinctions alone... Thus it isn't able to handle gender neutrality~
He did it with OP’s wife too (Pat -> Patricia.) I specifically came to the comments to look for this sentiment because it rubbed me the wrong way as well.
3:30 "...we should accept people we love even with their flaws..." CHEATING ON YOUR PARTNER ISNT A FLAW. Its not something built into your DNA. Id be weary of OP's wife. Im not accusing her of cheating, however, with how accepting she is with everything, it makes me think shes more open to the idea of cheating on your partner.
Edit : did the 'not a flaw' make sense to anyone else or was it just me? Re-reading my comment is making me feel like the way i put it, people are gonna think im cool with it 😱
The 4th story reminds me of the movie, "That's my Boy."
Also with the wife and bff story, seems like Lisa is in love with OPs wife.
Story 2: I think the wife wants Jack or has cheated on OP and is giving the new girl acceptance. Either way, her wanting to associate with cheaters is grounds for divorce or getting a PI, imo.
2nd Story: Op wife is a cheater protector which personally I'd find a red flag. "But he's like your brother" "you have to see pass the flaws" no! If you cheat we are no longer friends! That is not what friends do, what friends do are educate their friends when they are in the wrong you don't support them when they're in the wrong! Not gonna lie i think op wife cheated in the pass or she's cheating now or she's just way way too empathetic to be siding with a home wrecker just because she had a "sad pass". Op is a good man for being on anna side after what she's been through.
Op’s wife isn’t really a cheater .
@@Batman-lg2zjShe seems like she would be since she wants to protect one! I can't see any other reason why you would be ok with a cheater cheating unless you have or want to cheat.
@@Batman-lg2zjonly people okay with cheaters are cheaters are non-cheaters with other weird moral compasses
only thing worse than cheater protecter is a chomo protecter (anyone who defends the woman of Story 4)...
Second story: rSlash got everything wrong with his opinion. OP's wife is giving massive red flags by insisting that OP should've told that homewrecker Max that her gold-digging plan didn't worked out like she wanted. Also it's funny how she's so quickly to 'forgive' Jack and Max for ruining the life of Ana, who she said she considered a friend, but gets mad at OP for not alerting Max? Massive double standards on OP's wife part, and if she thinks OP is cheating on her with Ana, that has nothing to do with OP saying good things about Ana, but pure projection on her part;
Also another point: Ana isn't even on their lifes anymore. Saw in the comments of the original post that OP felt it was better to not get involved, specially after Jack tried to ask him to be the bridge to get back with Ana. So yeah I see other two relationships ending: Jack and Max after she finds out he's not the rich guy she think he is because she's obviously on it just for the money, and OP and his wife because she's showing herself to be just as shallow and manipulative as Max.
For story 2, Just because you compliment someone doesn’t mean you’re romantically attracted/involved with them for f sakes when will people learn that. Rslash, is that really where you’re going with the story when the REAL thing that’s super mega obvious is that op’s wife is projecting hard ??? Why would she be so pressed on defending a cheater ???
Story 4: I was ready to defend her, as I’ve replied before, I was a freshman girl who dates a senior boy and as a grown woman I look back at that relationship as very safe. But I agree with your first point - we NEVER dated in secret, he NEVER made it seem like it needed to stay between us. I never felt an unbalanced power dynamic, he was never my advisor or senior buddy. Everything about that was creepy!
Second Story
Why is Ops wife okay allowing a home wrecker who destroyed her friends marriage into her home???? That’s weirder than what Op thought about Ana which isn’t weird at all, it’s not bad to say when a friend is pretty no matter the gender. Also why does his wife want him to stay friends with a cheater anyways and accept that as a “flaw”????? Just sounds like the wife is cheating or did possibly with Jack.
rslash asked if Op complimented his wife that way, but OP literally called complimented her and said that she's the reason why he would let his cheating friend back into his life. How is that not a compliment?
@@justasentientmclarenp1879 Could you rephrase what you typed????
Third story: rSlash says the guy should leave his wife while I’m sitting here wondering if I would be spending the rest of my life in prison.
I think I would also be, that "friend" gotta pay
Story 2: Jack is an idiot, the homewrecker is just as bad, and rslash going for crudest theory possible, if OP is praising his "friend" with compliments & her good points it boils down to "do you treat your wife the same way"... somehow painting a picture of a person's personality is a bad thing now.
The guy who was 12 was groomed and he didn't realize it till this late.
That last story makes me so sad. She had a crush on a dude, he played "will they won't they" with her and lost to his own brother. I can't help but feel OP should have seen this coming at least a little, considering how little respect the dude had for OP. She said he got cold after she started dating his brother, so it should have been fairly obvious that he was hurt that OP moved on. At that point she should have told the brother what had gone on in the past between them, because that disclosure shows you care not only about that person's feelings, but also the relationships that you share. Communication will never stop being important, and lack of it breaks up more relationships than people realize.
Story 2: Rslash wondering if OP has a thing for Ana. Meanwhile, I listen to the story, and wonder if OP's wife has a thing for Jack. First, she wants to support Jack as a cheater, and "nurture" his new relationship. But as soon as she finds out the new girl is a gold-digger, she's eager to spill the beans that there is no gold? Almost like she wanted a reason to get Jack away from Ana, and now see's an easy way to get Jack completely single. Maybe to have him for herself?
First Story: I hope this story ends up on r/bestofredditorupdates because this needs to get an update.
Second Story: This is weird, why is Pat on the side if a cheater and a homewrecker? OP shouldn’t be comfortable around neither Jack or Max. Jack is scum for cheating on his wife and then go back to the person he had an affair with. Max is scum for knowingly going after a married man, being basically a gold digger, and getting back with a man she ruined his marriage. Also, yeah OP's views on Ana is weird as hell too; why does OP have such a high view on her? This makes me think OP has feelings for her (this is just my theory and it could 100% be wrong)
Third Story: Yikes, she aborted a child...over zodiac signs because of Lisa. Not going to lie, that is a massive deal breaker. OP wasn’t ok with the abortion but she still did it anyway behind OP's back because of Lisa's brainwashing. I wish OP the best of luck and hope the divorce goes well. I don’t blame OP because it seems like Kate is letting Lisa run her life
Fourth Story: This right here is what grooming causes. OP's wife IS a predator and because of her grooming OP is both still in love with her but is also disgusted by her after realizing he don’t want that to happen to his daughter. OP's wife is a disgusting monster who preyed and groomed a child and OP's parents are failures for letting this happen
Fifth Story: Chris is an absolute scumbag. He was leading OP on for all this time and the has the audacity to get piss that OP moved on? What makes him worse is the fact he decided to reveal all of this during OP and his brother's wedding day
my personal theory about story 2 is that the wife is probably attracted to the friend. the whole story gives off the vibes of some soap opera
@@thegameplayer125lmao I thought it was just me who got that vibe
@@thegameplayer125but if that's true why would she egg on the affair relationship?
@Milk-ck1wv because Jack is once a cheater always a cheater..so she thought she could sleep with him as well and op wouldn't have the stones to divorce her...
Your comments about the second story: I don’t see anything wrong with how OP feels about Ana. She was at the bad end of a bad situation, and OP propping her up makes sense since she needs to go back out and find someone better. And OP’s wife wanting to include Jack in her and OP’s life is super weird to me. That’s way more weird than any “feelings” that OP may have about Ana.
Story 2: I bet you if OP had told the truth about the financial situation, his wife would have yelled at him for "causing drama and ruining the dinner" and that he should have "minded his own business." And if she also knew about the finances, why didn't SHE tell Maxine? Anyway, being endlessly forgiving and kind is NOT virtue, all it does is cause you to reward bad behavior and make it clear that you don't see much wrong with people doing bad things. Keeping a good environment means keeping peace AND imposing consequences when necessary, NOT just smiling and nodding along with anything that happens. "If 9 people are seated with 1 Nazi, there are 10 Nazis" and all.
Yeah, exactly. Forgiveness should be given in case of a little thing called repentance. In other words, the person being forgiven needs to feel sorry for what they did, turn away from their wrong actions, and make as many amends as possible. Jack and Max have done none of those things.
Second story: Max does not deserve any sympathy, because, from her perspective, she took another women's man along with her stable living conditions to satisfy hers.
If your wife aborted your child without even Consulting you, you need to divorce. That's Unforgivable
Umm rslash wtf was that bad take. The affair story OP likes one of his friends and praises her which isn't necessarily a red flag. The fact his wife is ok with cheating, approves of it, and sides with a home wrecker and gold digger. That to me feels like the wife has a history or cheating, is cheating, or wants to cheat but is trying to normalize it for OP.
I can't believe no one is talking about how that woman MURDERED OP'S CHILD AND HID IT FROM HIM??? Abortion affects BOTH sides. I don't care if she was manipulated into it, she still WENT OUT AND DID IT without saying ANYTHING to him. That shows she's just as effed up in the head as her girlfriend. To take even a chance at life away from something because some random, non medicinal person told you to?? And not to mention because you didn't like the time it would have been born?? Holy shit, that's some beyond psychopathic shit right there.
I can't even imagine what op's going through. Having his child taken away before he even got to see it... And then having to deal with his wife boo hooing over herself and the fact he hates her now.
Like, how the hell did she think this move would turn out? Sneak behind your husband's back because you explicitly know he did NOT want his child to be killed, kill it, and he'd be all "oh well try again later luv u"? For God's sake, TALK through your thoughts and plans like an adult, especially if it's this big of a decision!
Divorce her scary insane ass and let her marry that bitch that's just as crazy. They'd be a great couple!
I thought patricia was okay with cheaters though! "We should accept people we love even with our flaws." 🥺 /s come on, dabney, you know why patricia was on jack and maxine's side and it isnt because OP is the one cheating.
Oh shit. Didnt even consider that.
I remember reading story 3 having a lot of updates a while ago. The long and short of it was that the wife ended up taking her own life due to Lisa dragging her down emotionally. She eventually spiraled up into a point where it just got too much for her. And then I recall Lisa had the gall to show up at the funeral even.
That was a different story
rslash, are you and your wife okay?
cause like, there is a lot of marriage posts in this video-
This 3 days after a now ex client of mine (im an online sex worker) admitted to being... into kids themselves, and claimed to have done it, only to claim "just kidding" when confronted. I just wish i had their address so i could report them to the police
My day, just ant right if i miss my rslash. I am out camping on an island in the georgian Bay in Ontario, Canada, and i still listen to you, man!
If the rapist is a man,
He's a rapist and should be put in jail, throw away the key (or worse?)
If the rapist is a woman?
It's not her fault/she's a MAP/she's just a victim/you're hateful for judging her/the kid is lucky he (or she) scored 🙄
Honestly, it's so gross
You forgot the "but men can't get raped!" argument. Yes, people still use that, and it's disgusting...
@@gabrielagorgonzol6394Right. Men can be tied up or drugged just like women can.
For the love of God they aren't "MAPs" they are pedos. Call them what they are, by calling them that your doing exactly what they want, making it sound not as bad
what is with the rslash L takes recently like god forbid a man has empathy for a woman who was cheated on and led on only to find out a gold digger was bragging about winning her broke soon to be ex??? like what an INSANE take
also HOW is the fourth op at fault for not telling bc the brother acted like an incel and framed himself as her hot ex. like he's just a loser PLEASE
An old coworker of mine is married to a lowkey predator. They got together when she was 14 and he 18, married when she turned 19. Disgusting and I hope she realizes the horrible situation soon.
Aborting a baby for the simple fact that you don’t like what zodiac sign they’d be is probably the best decision that vile woman could make. She doesn’t deserve to carry life or bring it into the world, she doesn’t deserve to have a baby, and she definitely doesn’t deserve to be a mother. Op deserves a better mate to bare his child, one who respects the life they created and the father they created it with. At least once the divorce is finalized, there will be nothing actually tying him to her.
Now im convinced Rslash is farming engagement with his take on the second one 😂
Stop I saw the time stops and I can't wait
Holy shit Lisa is so effed up like gods
Rslash told a story a few weeks ago (maybe months) about a teacher grooming the student, and he was outraged with disgust so much, the older woman here grooms and he goes well if if genders were reversed there would be pitchforks and that’s it, he shows no fury. It’s like that story with the guy who slept with his gfs mother when he was 19 and she was mid forties and yet he was enthusiastic saying the 19 year old was just getting his nut. Then I have called rslash out on it yet I am the bad guy…
Story 4 reminds me of the South Park episode where Ike’s kindergarten teacher was having an affair with him and Kyle tried to get the police involved but because it was a hot female teacher all they could say was “nice”
The friend in the 3rd story reminds me of that one story from a while back where the op's wife took her life because her best friend was manipulating her and making her think her husband was cheating so op should definitely get out while he can.
so I kinda disagree with the statement in the fourth story about how dating someone in secret means that they know its wrong. (I mean yes most likely that was why in this specific instance) I'm just coming at this from a queer perspective of having dated a handful of women who couldn't be safely out to their parents and so it was secret from her side, but not mine (I've been out since 15, I'm 22 now). Otherwise I guess I kinda see what you're saying there, and I assume you weren't intending to generalize but idk I felt like I needed to say something.
being gay and being a pedo are different as you said
while being gay is more accepting, it's still seen as wrong to some people in society, thus people tend to hide it more in fear of being disowned. This is coming from a closeted (now out) Bisexual growing up thinking women needed to be attracted to men and vice versa. I've come to terms that not all people will accept how I am, people shouldn't need to fear others for judging them but society taught them that it's wrong and that's why they hide it, doesn't mean they ARE doing something wrong. It's just how it is shown.
That one story with the best friend whispering bad stuff into the op's wife's ear sounds like that other story with the same thing but the wife died in the end...
The husband isn’t all that decent of a person if he childishly gave her the cold shoulder. And in the update after she tore the brother, a new asshole, did the husband finally grow a spine?
This comment "man bad for feeling rightfully hurt about being lied to"
Story 2: Orrrr maybe since Ana was the wife of his best friend from kindergarten whom he sees like a brother, he came to also see Ana like family, and so is having trouble accepting her replacement, especially since infidelity was involved. The only one being weird here is the wife. OP was acting totally normal considering the circumstances and there's nowhere near enough evidence to suspect otherwise.
the intro lowk caught me off guard
I drewa completely different conclusion to that cheating story.
The way I was thinking was that she was probably defending the cheater over her friend (because he did say she was HER friend) was because SHE was cheating as well, just seems to suspicious
Story 1 I hope there will be an update eventually.
5:50 true friends don't let their friends get away with bad behaviour. And good, upright life partners don't condone misbehaviour among their circle, either.
Wife's BFF story- best friend talks bad about op behind his back. Ops wife "yeah you're absolutely right"
Op says the truth about the BFF. Ops wife "how dare you insult my friend"
Story 1: As a proponent of 50/50 parenting I gotta say, YOU GET THAT BAG KING!
Story 2: Wow, I smell some fun stuff in this.
Story 3: Holy shit! Lisa is fucked up! Whats wrong with being an Aquarius? Yeah, get out of that situation.
Story 4: I wish I could say this was uncommon. You'd be shocked how many female predators of young boys exist. There is a big reason why shotacon and cougar culture exist. My old friend's kid brother was 13 years old when he was taken advantage of by a 29 year old woman and the woman got pregnant with his child. To say that his mother went ballistic about her was an understatement. And that was in the early 2000s.
Story 5: That so-called brother is a dick.
Did the 29 year old woman get arrested? What happened to the 13 year old? What happened to the baby?
@@sawyerjoyce8326 she did get arrested and had the baby. The 13 year old still has issues after years of therapy and has had very little contact with the child. What's mind-blowing is the fact said child is an adult now. Don't know what that child is up to.
5th story: So chris is mad at op for excepting and moving on cause, in his mind your just a backup plan if he have nothing better to do
3rd story is heartbreaking. OP needs to divorce his wife and cut her off completely.
If his wife is ok with aborting a baby over a star sign, what else is she capable of doing?