CPTSD Brain Fog How to End the Mental Confusion & Start LIVING Again
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- Опубликовано: 19 авг 2024
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Hello Thrivers!!! I wanted to encourage anyone that is still struggling to overcome the side effects of childhood trauma, narcissistic abuse or complex ptsd to NOT give up. When you have been 'stuck' in certain emotional and certain negative feeling states - our own thoughts turn against us. Thoughts like -It's too late for me / I'll never heal / This works for everyone else but me / Why bother trying .... those are thoughts that are the result of the trauma - they are NOT truth. Being healthy and happy was dangerous if you had toxic family members, so your brain actually thinks it's keeping you safe by deterring you from doing ANYTHING that can help you to heal. But it is possible to break out of these maladaptive coping skills, it is possible to live a calm, peaceful and happy life with reciprocal relationships!! The narcissist didn't want you to know that truth, and now in an effort to keep you in the 'familiar' your brain may try to get you to give up on that kind of a life..... I truly hope you don't! Life only gets better and better after you are free of toxic people - if anyone feels they can benefit from weekly live support and coaching, be sure to check out my new Thrivers School of Transformation - $79/month, here's the link if you want to see if it's a good fit for you: micheleleenieves.mykajabi.com/thrivers-school-of-transformation
Please talk more about this subject. Thanks
My pulse seems to have only changed in the force pumping. Much weaker exhaling but really pounds inhaling. Speed about same. Hmmm? 🤔
Have all these problems (and more 🤪) Brain fog involves memory, wow? I just recently finally got out of bed to begin the process of leaving and all is well so far except that I actually had to tell my kids how mom has a problem with long term memory, but I will recall whatever they ask me about but within a few hours of being reminded of it (when it's supposed to only take a second or two) And yes, I too have ALWAYS had an excellent memory! So this frightened me quite a bit. I was finally resigned, just this week, to this being age or idk?
So thanks for this and if you want to do more on this subject I would like it also!
Might be a mechanism or gateway for PTSD. Like the type that really either comes or goes.
All this physically shows on scans nowadays..!
@@djkreigline2760 Already volunteered DJ...
This (*helpful healing) lady has a seat 🙏
God Blessed America.
YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO REALLY UNDERSTAND THIS CRAZINESS
1. Calm your nervous system, 2. Focus on diaphragmmatic breathing, 3. Exercises and games focused on prefrontal cortex, and help heal amygdala overload, 4. Find things that make you genuinely laugh, 5. Listen to your negative thoughts, and separate confusion from logic.
yes, this is life, like remembering to breathe in and out every day. Thankyou for your comment. The only one that is realistic here.
I cant seperate logic and confusion when i get like that
@@julieprinsloo2232I would rephrase the last one as: differentiate who the narcissist says you are, and who you are in your own eyes. So whenever you get this little voice telling yourself for example "you're always so sloppy/lazy/selfish/etc" write that down in your column of the narcissist's eyes. And then from time to time, when you start to explore who you are again, you might find things about yourself for example "you like to put things in order" (=orderly?) or "you like to paint" (=artistic?) or "you get excited when you watch animal videos" (animallover?) write that down in your column of who you are in your own eyes.
Every time my malevolent mother got held accountable for her malice, she’d summon the tears and accuse others of making her walk on eggshells.
These narcissistic monsters know that they are the ones causing others to be on guard and delight in projecting.
Exactly the same with my aged aunt. You can't say anything without reaction
Right? I thought my mom was "innocent" and a victim of my dad even when she was getting me into trouble with him (to get herself out) I thought she was doing it not out of mallice. I was shocked after I moved and I saw how she was able to manipulate me and others and change her tone accordingly, it TERRIFIED me and it was then I realised that she knew what she was doing all along and she knew it was harming others she did it anyway
@@Steffi5376 I had a similar situation, only that I think I took longer than you to realise what was going on. I feel stupid for not realising. And she went one step further in her abuse - When she saw that I was growing up and she will be losing control she came up with a story of all nasty things that she said will definitely happen in my life and installed it in my head. I have been obeying her through belief in it and making the story happen thinking I had no choice until very recently. I woke up to the reality of things feeling the horror of what happened and wondering how I could be so stupid not to see it all this time even when she was trying her best to get me into trouble, manipulating me and others and doing pure evil things to people. I have to stop blaming myself - it's all the falls tears, the superb acting that went with it that deceived me. I even heard people say that she was mentally badly ill, jealous and wicked but still didn't see through it. She knew it was all wrong but she did it anyway. The only time she broke down was when she was throughly establishing that story in my head and pretended to cry for all my misery, I naively started to console her saying I will not let those happen, she stopped, tried to shake her head that I will not be able to, then got confused and gave in - There was the child whose future she had planned to ruin by brainwashing, consoling the mother was acting it out that she will change the false story that the mother had made up. But some of her wicked efforts did go into my mind and I was unconsciously doing them, following the story thinking I had no choice until I awakened to the truth about her and saw through that and everything else she did to me and other people.
Yep. Very sad AND true.
I have experienced the same and agree on the manipulation. Also I want to point out that their drive is their inner loneliness, fear of separation (and then jjealousy); I believe we should be respectful of anyone suffering from disorders, it is not a choice to become this way.
Yet it is our choice and wake up call to start setting boundaries and becoming in tune with our authentic selves.
I realise by seeing this film and more videos from Michelle that the abuse has had a detrimental effect on my life, from a young age experiencing brain fog.
It has been decades that I did not understand what was wrong with me.
Be gentle with yourself. And also others; from what I know only hurt people hurt people. It can never become a witch hunt, they are lost within their own illness and unaware of why they are this way.
Just some thoughts ☯️ alle the best to everyone watching and thank you Michelle for all the profound information you are providing, helping others. 💛👍
Diaphragmatic breathing: when you’re taught to sing or speak on stage you’re taught to breathe from your diaphragm. A song is 2.5-5 min long, typically. Singing one song is 2-5 min of controlled diaphragmatic breathing. Maybe this is why it feels so good to sing! It’s a fun way to regulate your nervous system!
Great tips for healing, Michele‼️💯
Thank you!!
1) Memorizing scripture, poems, sentences
2) Play Logic games that strengthen the prefrontal cortex of the brain
3) Find things that make you laugh...a lot!
4) Start listening to what I'm saying inside my mind. Listen to the SMART things that I am; NOT the things the toxic person said I was! Tell myself who I REALLY am!
Only slightly! Its been 8 years and I am finally relaxing until I am around my family.
Brain fog was really critical when leaving a narc husband and starting a new job, my anxiety was at its peak. Twice prior I had false starts because I simply couldn't cope, trying to keep a high stress job for the money to escape the narc, I just imploded. Looking back I see the blessing, I needed more than money, I needed to heal on a much deeper level to get rid of the narc and defend against future ones.
Gardening helped me. It helped to relax and to be present. Ruminating is not good. My brain always thinking something to fix and gardening helped to put brakes on constant thinking.
Playing and writing Music has been my savior that clears the fog.
You're the best. My former MSW, LCSW therapist laughed at my notion about re-learning math, and physics. Thank you! I'm going to do some statistics!
Thank you for explaining what I lived through. You said, “war zone.” This is what I felt like I was constantly trying not to detonate the psychological land mines of emotional and verbal abuse. It was as if you never knew when they would be neutralized or when they were charged to explode. When he finally left, I lost 30 pounds in about three months. It fell off and over time I was able to begin sleeping all night again and with no snoring. I understand now that my nervous system had been in the parasympathetic state for a long time. I am myself again, happy, joyful, and able to find humor in life again.
I loved this video. It's healing to just be able to name brain fog. That alone keeps me from feeling like I was crazy. I also liked the tip of writing the two columns of who I was told that I was, and who I know myself to be.
Just yesterday I had a lot of brain fog and it frustrated me that I was unable to engage. Almost as if I was a ghost and were existing but not engaging in the world around me. It frustrated me because though I understood what was being said from my friend in his car, I couldn't get myself to engage the way I wanted to, or even stay interested in messaging back my other friends on my phone. It was hard to even commit to engaging in activities of basic minimal effort. It's frustrating. Your video helped me understand that understanding what happened to me isn't enough to heal. Continuously,actively getting my nervous system & psyche back on track is something I have to keep doing. I thought accomplishing things were enough but it's not. Getting myself to have a mental stamina of sorts will be difficult, but with a better diet and immune system, actively beginning involved in life, I think it'll help my thoughts. Hints my quality of life. I really appreciate all the time and effort you put into this. Not a moment of this video was wasted. Thanks greatly. You're helping SOOO many people who are just like me. Big heart feels.
Checks pulse...“I’m dead” 😂😂 cracked me up lol this was helpful. Thank you ♥️
I couldn't feel my pulse either when doing this exercise. lol! This was a very helpful video, though.
Your comment gave me a revelation about myself. I didn’t think about the fact that it was funny until you mentioned it. Before marrying the narc I would have laughed too. I knew I had lost my laughter during the marriage, but since I can laugh at comedies now I thought it had returned. I realized it only partly has. I have more healing to do. Thank you
I might be a little dead as well haha.
@@eph2vv89only1way my sense of humor has not returned fully either.
@@TheLordsbattleaxe It’s sad. I hope it does for both of us
Guided meditations helped me a lot to clear the brain fogs. The guided meditations I did were: guided meditations for healing after narc abuse, meditation for letting go of the ex narc, guided meditations for cutting ties with the ex narc. I did all of these until the brain fogs were cleared, my trauma bond healed and and i gradually forget about my anxiety, depression, trauma and the resentment that I had in my heart. I have forgiven myself but sometimes when im triggered I do guided meditations on forgiveness and self love. I deliberately view comedies just to help.myself laugh and doing some mind twister games in the computer. Doing regular zumba, eating healthy and frequenting the beach or nature also helps.
A couple things I should've done was record them, so the courts can see what I deal with, and not give the courts an opportunity to believe her lies. I should've never let her separate me from my family & friends, leaving me with no support system when things got rough. And last but not least, never fall for the bait. I hope this helps someone.
I am very fair but firm !! I lived so far a life that has had its ups and downs ! Now I'm in isolation for the past 5 years due to the pain of losing my best friend ,my Dad ! I am taking much care going to my Doctors and visiting my Wonderful Mother ! Life cannot be any better in prayer and relaxation ! One thing is true , I am very analytical ! I can tell you have made many mistakes in your love life ! But found this opportunity to show the world how experienced you are and this is your passion in my eyes ! Thank you for all the classes but I love MissP from the Glow Up ! She knows me very well without ever having any communication ! She is my angel🕊🐤🙏💎❤💐🤗🕊
This was sooo amazing
I feel anger because after decades, now I hear this and there is a lot to do. I see all my lost possibilities, my lost life, lost opportunities - everything lost. I was 22 years old when I realised this all - but there was no internet, no information: I was just alone crazy, fool and stupid and invalid and did everything wrong all the time, whatever it was.There was something wrong with me and it had to be fixed. I was wrong because I wanted my own life and to be me. It was a terrible mistake that the mistake called me was born and she had to be punished.
Now, at the age of 56 years old, I listen to these things and I see that actually, I was not wrong, but I was damaged, misused, and gaslighted and whatever. Yes, I AM angry about it. And I grieve the lost life.
I’m angry for you Sanna. I’m 18 and just discovering this. 4 years of inexplicable psychological symptoms, stuck with the label of OCD, magically disappeared when I went away for a semester. I am very tenuously planning my escape. If I do get out of here, it’ll be for all of us, especially those of us who weren’t vindicated until mid-life. Mid-life is difficult enough without having to realize that your prime was wrenched from you. I pray for you. You are strong, stronger than they were, still. Please, be angry, but live your life to the limit. The world will be better for it. Sing a new song, Sanna.
Michele, your advise has been very helpful over the last year. Working the logic center of your mind is critical to repairing the damage that has already occurred. That is why I write at least one hour a day, seven days a week. Doing that daily has focused my mind, and restored my ability to think, and write much more effectively. Decades of damage can't be repaired in a day. Thank you Michele for your wonderful advise.
What a brilliant woman, another video in my survival/healing videos list. I get the same exact BPM when I exhale right now. And days I just can't function and I have a depressive episode it's like I don't need to breathe for 30 seconds + but my heart keeps pounding at the same bpm.
Omg I tried that pulse testing and I felt no difference at all. I am in the process of ending an abusive marriage with a sociopath, I was also raised by a physically abusive narcissist dad who was supported by my other family members.
This test confirmed I am still in the fight or flight mode
Being a vet is my best therapy
You are knocking down negative walls for me. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and history. God bless you from South Dakota. 🙏
So sad that i can only put one like for this video . Bless you Michele !!
Thank you Michele You are a light to behold through all this fog and gloom
My brain has been thru so much. I had no change. I overdosed in addition to the abuse and wiped most memory and function. I noticed i am always holding my breath and try to breathe more but I almost hold myself off the bed unconsciously and wake up on a dime. I've never not experience narc abuse. Just got to no contact with the group of them and trying to breathe and finally heal. The fog hurts. I can feel when i shift out but wasn't sure why it was so intense. I thought it was physical damage and far underestimated the damage left by "loved ones"
Thank you for these practicable steps on eliminating the f.o.g.
FINALLY, someone who attacks the problem with the correct solution!! You are the bomb Michele, great work here!! Thank you so much!! :)
Wow, Michele. This would explain why, after being raised by a narc mom, I wake up often in the middle of the night with my heart racing as if I had been running a marathon. When you talked about the accelerated breathing at night I immediately thought of this. I had been wanting to heal from this but not really knowing how to get to the bottom of it. I related to so much of this video.
Thanks Michele its really helpful GOD bless you
Laughing is a recovery skill I’ve always had, I fear my NPD person uses that to attack me more! The moment I try to be happy and laugh, game over for me!
You’re making more sense of this than any therapist I’ve ever seen. Describing an anxiety attack is pretty close.
Thank you fod all your work. Finally...after many many years you and others have been able to five this whole situation a description a voice a label a wat to identify and put into words something i could've not ever been able to explain to a counselor or anybody else exactly what in the heck i was dealing with and what i have survived just barely my whole life has been devastating sad and tragic with no closure but this clearly explains what i went thru and now must heal from. I have 2 dead family members as a result of this type of abuse that i just couldn't figure out a big part of me is glad it stopped but the aftermath is what I'm dealing with now. I will co.ntinue on the recovery journey to break this curse cycle to the gut level best i can
This channel has been such a large part of my recovery process that I actually had a dream about Michele the other day. Nothing inappropriate but I was bummed when I woke up and realized it was only a dream lol
I'm 90% bedridden, I have Myalgic Encephalomyelitsis quite a few other things. I just had a narcissistic attack from my sis n law outta nowhere! The covert..heartbreaking!
Love the tips to strengthen the prefrontal cortex. I’ve never been good at memorizing because it immediately puts me into the fear mode 🤕 But I do love learning new things and playing memory game apps on my phone...altho sometimes I have to take a break because I get too competitive and hyper focused on improving my score. 🤕
So stuck in this brain fog... I really need to have laugh therapy in this trauma therapy
I used to laugh so much before I met my husband! My children have hardly ever seen me laugh. :-( My husband says I don’t have a sense of humour.
The brain fog/cognitive dissonance/confusion etc, is extremely difficult to understand on a personal level and move past, especially after covert emotional abuse. We're stuck trying to figure out what was really going on and who that person really was since they showed many sides of them. That's been my issue, trying to understand if she was really that meek, helpless person, or the other person who did not care much at all about anything that has to do with me, and only showed certain things, and gave certain things when there was something she needed from me. The back and forth is extremely damaging, and leaves us stuck in a seemingly perpetual cycle of trying to figure out what was real.
Yaaaaaaassss. This. Sounds just like my mother. It has taken me years (7!) to accept her as a covert narc. She’s gone now but it was still a struggle. She could be so sweet, give kind thoughtful gifts, while also not caring one iota about me and being very cruel. It has been very hard to sift through it all and has affected all my relationships and friendships. I accept the unacceptable because sometimes they are ‘nice’ to me so all is forgiven. What a shit show. One foot forward at a time..
I don't have any fear and I've wondered why... makes more sense now. My amygdala just gave up...
It worked for me. The 9 to 5 life we have been conditioned to live in has left so many of us totally unaware of what truly matters in life and how to manage a healthy work life balance
I've heard breathing with the chest activates sympathetic, but breathing in with the belly (if that make sense - expanding the belly as the way of inhaling) is a more calming and para sympathetic activation. It feels calming to me.
Edit: Also I think the opposite can happen to how this is described - instead of being in the lower part of the brain/amygdala, you can end up being just in the cerebral cortex...and this is problematic as well. As you don't feel your feelings (because they are painful you stay in the cerebral cortext), you just intellectually process things. Probably some people get stuck in the emotions/amygdala, others get stuck in the intellect/cerebral cortex - I think the problem is emotions and intellect get split away from each other and don't integrate properly. I think integration is the natural healthy state of mental health. Where emotions, which are our core, are making decisions that are assisted and informed by intelligence.
Thank you for this! Learning something new is always on my list and trying to laugh a lot, but these past few days have been difficult. Brain fog for years. To think what can be achieved when the brain fog lifts!
Hi from the food poisoning it's ibs
Love listening to spiritual celestial music meditation great video 🙏
I learned exercise and remember eating right, what you put in your body is how your going to feel 😂 all these fast food places are just terrible, so think 🤔 about that also, good video Michelle 👍
You're so sweet ❤. You care about people. Thanks for this video 😊
ASMR Videos seem to help me.
Hi Michelle, I was wondering if you could make a video on body/face dysmorphia caused by narcissistic abuse and how to overcome it - there seems to be very little information on this topic on the internet. Thank you for all your wonderful videos ;)
Oh gosh, I've never heard anyone ever discuss this but as soon as I saw your post, I recognized immediately that I had that during and after the verbally abusive relationship for about 1 1/2 years afterward. As I kept healing/eating well/ exercising/doing and saying positive things, not having further stress, it gradually left. I mean, some of the change in my appearance was real as I became more healthy again without him around. But there was also an imaginary me that looked unrealistically awful and seems it was an indicator of what I would really become if I stayed with him.
Oh yes. I looked like a homeless person.
When I shopped in Whole Foods, I was taken aside and asked many questions.
This trauma is real.
What if you've been in fight/flight throughout your whole life? Now being only 51, (and always just wanting to help and heal others) and now I can't function.. And have turned Autoimmune.
Maybe 5 or 10 year's ago, I would have been able to heal, with the opportunity and now I stay in survival mode. I'm exhausted
@@duanesherwood2328 Truly, it is! It's also a living hell because no one living in the outside world who's never experienced Narc abuse and or lives with an invisible illness can understand
I'm so sorry to hear that - believe me I understand what it's like to be in survival for the majority of my life. But .... it is possible to experience a different way of being, 5 years ago I may have laughed mockingly if someone said that to me but.... I know now how life really can get better, we really can break out of these default systems toxic people shoved and conditioned onto us - but it does take some time, some effort, self-compassion as you change your mindset, thoughts, feeling states in the body - I guess what I'm hoping to encourage you with is to not let the thought 'I can never heal, it's too late for me' steal your present and future!!! Just a thought - sending a virtual hug your way!!! Hang in there!!
My mom was in a bad state most of her life (dissociation > fight/flight), up until 50-ish. She then picked up some self-help, psychology and the change is evident.
One day at a time. You are the captain of your ship.. the crewmen and the boat may be bad off, yet it floats. Through the storm you must anchor your will as you aim for the shore..
good luck fellow human. You made it this far, you stronk. Defeated chimp still chimp.. xd
My pulse was steady on both inhale and exhale! I know how I feel but it’s great to have an objective measure to let me know I’m not crazy. 😁
Wonderful, Thank you!
I see in pictures, too!!!
I needed this. I keep telling my love ones I am in a fog and I don’t know why. Now, I know. Thank you.
Its great that you still have loved ones you can talk to!
That is really right on as I was recently just bombed with attacks of being a narcissist, totaly destroying everything in my path all my life and destructive to my children. Talk about devestated after the years of healing thru realizing the damages and destruction and attempt to kill me which I live with the covert and the reliving the childhood mental emotional and verbal angush has elevated the CPTSD but only Jesus and the Christian community of Angels and Saints , the sacraments and healings from the reconciliation and Eucharist are Help to us triple crown winners of being magnets, scapegoats and Catholics. God wouldn't have it any other way, He never stops working. God is love and God is a We, We are love.
Wow, this video basically explained how I felt in my childhood and as a young adult! I could never put words to it but this is so accurate from what I've experienced! Thank you so much Michele! Amazing video
I love learning languages . That could be a top tip for everyone 💝💖 thank you very much for this video. I need to concentrate 100% on me and no more why the car crashed me
Very slight increase. I was diagnosed with svt a few years after I broke off my relationship with the primary narcissist, after leaving of the ones I collected after leaving home. Really appreciate your work and it helps a lot as I am a pragmatist and it all makes sense. Bless and thank you. 💜🌀💜
This video is important, when you mentioned your own experience, rapid breathing during sleep, memory lose, walking on eggshells etc, I thought wow!. Did she realize any loss of empathy? while simultaneously finding yourself "snapping at others during the slightest disagreements? when you have time check out video (234 child depravation effects 1952 NYU Spitzer). they mention emotional disturbances in a child that were ABNORMAL ...it was NORMAL EMOTIONS in the child that was deemed a serious problem!
Thank you immensely! 🙏🏼
thanks michele
Thank you for helping me and those I love care for going through the same thing as me
I have no difference at all. I WANT MY LIFE BACK NOW! lol, it's a lot of work, and I'm continuing on.
Thank you so much Michele.
No decease... my pulse stayed steady right through the breath.😔
We found that physical exercise improved behavioral performance of the working memory task compared with the control condition. Moreover, NIRS analysis showed that physical exercise enhanced the prefrontal cortex activity, especially in the left hemisphere, during the working memory task.
Narcissistic abuse targets the other person’s neediness.
Michele. I owe my sanity to you. Thank you so much. I love you so much. You have given so much to help others.
Your a Saint. Or thats a likness of who you really are.
I'm so grateful to have found such a beautiful heart as yours.
You impress me so much.
Sorry.
I just hope you feel the gratitude you deserve.
Thanks so much.
I’m a male empath with a co-depend side, which I really, really struggled with my entire life. It’s not fun and sometimes I hate myself for it because I’m a super-strong magnet for toxic abusive people. It’s just after I discovered this channel that I started to try to accept it in a way. Funny thing is, I never attract soft, kindhearted people like you, it’s always the overt narcissistic (friends) and covert narcs (love relationships). I’m starting to ghost myself from life because of it ( and because I just come from a super brutal discard). I’m loosing faith in everything and these videos are a last straw attempt for me.
It can ' t be done without medication in some cases.
Time out from narcissists really works.
Good company like understanding children.
Cracking eggs. I think only Jamie Oliver knows this one as fact. It's definately worth making some large omelettes over. The gains are instant whether you churn the cream or not.
Musicianship helps and if not hi-fidelity can be a good substitute, quality tube amps in a well insulated room, even just the hiss on stand-by, the era of valve was shortly lived.
We all need various wavelengths, auditory stimulation is a must alot of people just skip over.
Work selection, repetitive no brainer tasks are very therapeutic, with aerobic bouts of activity, mine were regularly ten hours long, never felt better.
In touch with your own moods and feelings, having devoted time to share in them while also with others also.
Blending some of the old with the new (fashion/bricabrac/puzzles/historical pasts vs future predictions), co-association is a good stimulus for mental plasticity and discernment, abstract thinking.
Never be hard on oneself (the key rule for tolerence vs intolerence) unless there are solid contingency plans identified to resolve the issues if there are any issues.
Practice, repetition. Some people who are overconcientious have problems self regulating so another good reason for time away from the narcissist.
Excellent video. Thanks 🙏
Excellent advice💯Great video!
Hello I am new to your channel and I am just amazed at how much every single one of your videos help me. I finally have found the help I need!! Thank you so much for your work!!
Hi, Michele! I follow you often, so I have done for example writing down the big difference how narcissisys see me in comparison who I really am one in one side and one in another... It totally helps to clarify the mind! Also diaphragmatic breathing... However, I still have mind fog, so I will include laughing and memorizing... Many thanks!
Kim regards
Thanks a lot Michele yours videos helps me a lot ❤️
Thank you 💗
Definitely gunna try some logic/memory game exercises
Thank you for this 🙏
These videos are life changing, you’re the best.
Sometimes “brain fog” is not what (or who) it appears to be.
Thank you Michele
Thank you Michele!
For me the difference between inhale and exhale was of like 6 to 8 points.
Yeah! I've had this since childhood maybe since before I was 10. This screwed me up so much that I was walking and hitting my head off walls. Alcohol and Marijuana didn't do much help either to numb the pain. I now have two depressed fractures because of this condition thanks to my parents abuse.
Brilliant and timely as always! 😊👍
She is basically saying that it's one thing to "Know" and understand what is going on intellectually. And another to disconnect or disassociate from your wound in that same "intellectuality". I think it's called Intellectualization in psychology. It's a defense mechanism where we remove our emotions from a situation and get technical about the details and remove ourselves emotionally from it. Not healthy. That is why she encourages paying the wound some attention and not suppress.
Many thanks, Michele & All the best to you🌺🌼🌷
my narcissist said she was walking on eggshells because I asked her to not ablism at me because she knew deaf people growing up and I'm "only" hard of hearing
Thank you 🙏 love you 😍
Detox!!
Thank You Melanie 🙏🙏🙏.
Having all This info is very helpful.
All thy Blessings 🙏🙏💞💕
My heart rate variability was non-existent until I learned meditation. Now I still have low heart rate variability but it seems to be very slowly improving. It would be nice if this change happened a bit faster, it's been about 5-years in practicing but a small change is better than none. 1% is greater than 0%, one foot in front of the other. Although I still find my all my muscles tensing when I lose somatic awareness, which is actually pretty hard to maintain full time.
'The Body Keeps The Score' by Bessel van der Kolk was a game changer for me.
I'm scared because, I just realized a couple weeks ago that I have a lot of damage my system, so to speak. I was at a job agency, and I had to finish some paperwork (tax stuff etc), and while sitting at that computer, I felt like I was having so much anxiety, and tremors. I only get it if other people are around. Also, brain fog and not thinking clearly and quickly. This is probably happening because I am being targeted again, and I am starting to see that it must be triggering me, and it is messing me up I think maybe. I need brain therapy!
Agreed. I feel like I am reasonably educated on the various narcissistic personalities. Now what? Now how do I ensure that I can have a job and keep that job? That’s really all I want to know.
Great video! I didn't know your pulse is suppose to slow down when you exhale. When I'm triggered it feels like an electrical surge in my body. Especially when I try to sleep while triggered (which sometimes is impossible) I never connected it to my nervous system before. This is such helpful information to have. Is there any connection between trauma and Tinnitus??
Yea I'd like to know the tinnitus thing too.
Im in fight and flight this moment.
Thanks M Survor. This ties in with Intermittent Explosive Disorder, the chemical deficiency in this area of the mind.
Nice for you to spell things out with breathing patterns, can alter our behavioral function.
I'm convinced I expel 20% less air than I inhale.
Smokers get part of their exercise this way despite the I'll effects...
Same with the aromatherapist or florist, providing that they don't happen to be constantly in flight mode due to the rise of invading triffids from outer space lately. Some symptoms might by in the form of paranoia too, right?
,, should Google it ✌😏
Excuse me, correct; chemical transfer deficiency or maladaptation...
My pulse didn't change. I used to like crossword puzzles and Sudoku. Haven't done them lately, maybe will try it again...