Narcissist Will Go Crazy If You Do That
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And be prepared to lose friends and even family in the process, because the narcissist will go on a rampage trying to destroy your reputation. In some cases he’s going to succeed.
Yes. Agreed.
Oh yea, and after refusing to accept his entrapment I heard face to face, "I CAN'T STAND TO SEE YOU HAPPY" - then not willing to run away he tried to kill me before his Amber Turd impression put me in jail.
He must be twisting his nickers knowing I keep finding more to hold him for a long time. It's sunny with meatballs!
@@graceymiller6047 ?
My friends turned out to be narcissists , too .
Too sad to think about ...but glad to be free of the narcs that were part of my life .
What a hellish experience ...
@@susanazinger2525 Nomatter what the relationship (romantic/family/friend/boss, etc), a narc relationship always ends starts and ends the same.
Literally just stop giving them your time and energy. Dont even think about them and they have zero power over you
Correct 👍
Trauma bonded codependents end up using cognitive dissonance on themselves.
This is usually easier said than done
True
Exactly. After a year I finally realized that I had lost who I was and was done! Like DONE done. And broke up with him within the week. I was OVER AND FINISHED with his BS. I took MY life back for ME!! And I feel so free and able to relax and be happy with me, with who I am and how I want to live MY life.
It’s NOT THAT SIMPLE. ITS NOT BLACK SND WHITE. YOU ARE A FOOL IF YOU THINK SO.
I couldn't be happier I left my narcissistic family.
Ooooh so toxic.
Living my best life now!!
It’s a weird feeling once you’re free. It takes time to adapt. It’s a vulnerable time. If anyone asks for money just say… No!
Go to Therapy to HEAL from the wound that made you having a relationship with them
What is “ healing from a wound “?
Seriously…
Mic drop 🎤
@@angeld6811 here they refer to the wound as the trauma we had from our parents when we were kids, most of the Empaths have ( I think) one Narcissistic parent that did not allow the child to grow Emotionaly , he become co-dependant , so kind of the Empaths get married to their Narsistic Mother or vise versa ...
Absolutely true! Once I left for good and refuse to engage he has ramped up the love bombing. Fortunately I now understand the cycle. He is unable to pull me into shared fantasy anymore and has even stated he can see a difference in me now. He knows I do not care anymore and am very happy in my life now. He can't stand it!
Why is he even seeing a difference . There should be no contact. Very dangerous to even be around that person
@@hopeking37 Right ✅️
@@hopeking37yea when he saw a difference my friend tried to kill me with pills
Go to therapy. Do the work. Do the trauma work that caused you to put up with the narcissist. Emotionally healthy ppl don’t stay in these unhealthy relationships. And definitely work hard at learning to love yourself and know your worth. When you see the red flag - run. Don’t dismiss it.
Richard you are the one person that has described the best what it is to live with a narcissist 👏👏
Your right i like richard
Pretty sure mine is nuts right now bc no contact and I'm not being manipulated anymore. Life is so much calmer and happier
Way to go 🎉🎉🎉
Definitely true, I have been in this situation for long time.
Had no choice but to walk away from my entire family due to my Mother's scary controlling twisted narcissistic personality....never thought I could do but it's been 3yrs not aday of regret .....no flying monkeys either....the pain a narcissistic parent inflicts on their child is beyond damaging....
Therapy has been really healing ...
I'm not a monster for wanting to be happy and independent not to deal with the daily emotional beatings with poisonous hate and mind games that makes a person think death would be better.....
Im so relaxed now ,sleeping eating and living my life the way I choose.. my job is easier my reality is real.
The fear of the unknown was holding me back for many years...finally cutting that cord of blackmail and deception has been easier than I could have imagined.
I'm empowered.....
Lifes too short being a puppet for a damaged human who hasn't any chance of seeing or changing their behaviour..
To late, my brother is dead and my mother has become the martyr she's been trying to be for the last 20 years. Although I thought it would be me (bc that's what she told me for years, that i was gonna turn up in a ditch), I didn't see him(the golden child) losing his existence bc of all this. Although I always understood he was trapped just like I was, he just refused to see it. Not only in the end tho but even long before, he suffered far more than I ever did. It was easier for me to leave being the scapegoat, he never had a chance. There's a perfect Jordan Peterson video that portrays this exact scenario that played out with us and it's "stay here and you lose your soul" and he speaks about Michaelangelos Pieta
Poor kids can't escape when Family Court forces to spend too much time living with narc parent
Exactly!! And when they see this shift of you being independent without them being able to control you they then try come back doing the hoovering tactics and love bombing you hell no!! And act as if nothing happened don’t give a shit about the trauma that they have put you through with your kids.
Truths and with therapy and work it doesn’t take long to see your so much happier! Once the veil is lifted on the reality of what WE have settled for! Wow! You will do the work to never and I mean NEVER allow another vulture into your life!
Yep…he use to always tell me…”go focus on you…go make yourself happy” bcuz that’s what he feared I would do the most.
🥰🥰🥰 absolutely!! Trying to stay humble, and having gratitude for everything around you,makes all the difference in the world, I also found. ❤💪
And then they try to kill you. They trash your reputation, destroy your business, wreck your friendships, steal your husband. And that was my mother.
I’m so sorry!🙏🏽
Me too
🙏🏻🙏🏼🙏🏾🙏🏽
This was me after nearly 20 year marriage. It's totally true 💚 It's really hard to do but it's worth it.
It’s crazy how much damage that being told you are a narcissist day in and day out when all you want is just happiness and peace can do to a person
I am very happy without the narc and life is much better without the narc and my mind is wayyyyy stronger.
This is exactly what I’m doing, and I’ve never been happier
The basic golden rule when dealing with a narcissist.
OMG! You just described it all. I am doing it for me, not for them.
If you are able to break free and live then that will shock them.
Yeah, and just saying to them, I am allowed to be happy, feels ruthless. Like it's the ultimate betrayal.
Harder to do when the narcissist is a parent.
It’s only hard because of social norms, once you realise and truly understand that you were not put on this planet to be abused by ANYONE it gets much easier to cut abusers out of your life -whatever their status to you.
Only if your a child or have young siblings...
F..spouses and parents..they can rot.
Sobriety got me out of my marriage. Therapy is helping me heal from the marriage. I highly recommend them both!! I miss having a partner and a family but the cost was too high. ❤
I'm going through the hoovering from him at the moment. I'm using the grey rock method when I have to answer a text. I'm writing in my journal. and I:m feeling happier and safer from my mind being in turmoil with a covert narcissist, or who has extremely strong traits of narcissism. Thank you Richard for you straight down the line explanations, and your encouragement.
Life Is Full Of Wonderful People.
Thank you so much for this powerful message
Everyone of your videos has been divine timing in my life. I ended it seven months ago and this particular message about sunshine and happiness is where I finally am.! They are still trying to contact me the last one stating “why are you punishing me ?” --as if I’m responsible for their misery. No response is the best response. 😊
You’re a lifesaver with your videos. I never knew what a narcissist was until I began watching your videos and had suffered endlessly. Understanding the abandonment issues blame, etc. was very detailed and helped me understand the dynamics, and how to handle them and be free!!! Thank you for the time you invest in service to others.❤
Ditto ....these videos and podcasts literally helped me through and taught me what I was dealing with was real and not all madness in my mind they had said ....
Good luck to you x
That video is great to just have it run on repeat 🔁 ... Over and over again 🙏🏼☺️
Thank you! Years ago you helped me to find out of a narcissistic marriage.
I was healed after many years of CBT but then I moved closer to my narc and boy I was almost eaten alive. For me, I will always need to have access to a good therapist otherwise I will forget the tools I use when a narcissist zeroes in on me!
Get a good theripist, mine was not good at all. All she could say is "You keep ruminating".
Hope you got outta there ...how can people that have not suffered at the hands of a narc possibly help us ? They don't understand there's a process narc survivors have to go thru ?
Lots of therapists / councilors have no business being in this line of work. Some are narcs themselves .
Stay away from ' therapists ' that just don't recognize that you're traumatized .They should go back to waitressing at Applebees ...or selling cars.
@@susanazinger2525 Is "waitressing at Applebees" being used in the slang sense for being a V-Tuber?
@@susanazinger2525 Yes.......they want their hourly pay 😂
@@TheMadVentriloquist
Any high - end restaurant will do .
Rumination is bad though.
That's not a bad therapist. Rumination is the polar opposite of mindfulness and mindfulness is healing.
...and expect them to seek revenge. HIDE your new life. Ask others not to mention you to the narcissist.
These are great, thank you for sharing. I try to translate them and share them with my mother who is in such a dark place. She believes she can't heal from those wounds, she doesn't want to let go and she refuses to start doing the necessary and actually helpful things.
They rule you with fear, she is in a chronological fight and flight mode.
Please try tapping with Brad Yates with her .
You pick the topic and do it together with her.
Good luck!💫
Yes, yes and yes! Victory in overcoming it all! 🏆
This is a Childess, Harassment of Intelligence, through ignorance and DISRESPECT. THANK YOU FOR SHARING.
Yes! That's exactly what to do!
2 years later I am still struggling with the damage that was done by him
You bring me so much peace when you do these videos and validate so many things that I’ve been trying to do and trying to make sense of for my whole life 🙌🏼thank you Mr. Richard!!!!
They will go insane by getting to big of an ego and arrogance it will bite them eventually when they meet their marker
You’re winning and living well when you don’t even look back.
LoL not only did I "go to therapy". I became the therapist and minister. Shining my light🕯️🤍🌹🤍🕊️🕯️
That's awesome 🤩👍
Every word you speak is golden ❤.
I agree. Richard you literally saved my life!
I've learned so much online thanks to professionals like you and Dr. Ramani and several others. I have left my narcissist spouse of 25 years and he is losing his mind. I have also scheduled my first therapy appointment to start my road to recovery & healing from narcissistic abuse. Thank you.
Completely agree! But if you make them feel they’ve accomplished their goal, they are far more likely to leave you alone. Just good for thought.
Very good advice, simple and healthy. Thank you !
Words of Absolute Truth.
I like you (and mind you am not affected by what Sam Vaknin says, and actually didn't expect him to behave that way!!)
I feel good that you seem happy, passionate etc
Love this message Richard 💪 You’ve got this. Keep being happy, optimistic and sunshiny ☀️ 💕 Best strategy ever 😊
Jolly jolly joy joy
These are the tools needed to break free of narcissists.
Too bad it does not make him completely disappear though 😕
The Narc disappears when you do...
@@kessajohnson2071That could be interpreted in two ways.
Wow, you are lookin ripped mr! It's been a year and a half free from the shackles and I am still in therapy, healing, happy and living my best life. I am so glad to watch your vids with a different heart today. Not wounded, but healed. Hits different. Love and light to all you warriors in here 💙
From personal experience, this is absolutely true.
It is the truth! Thank you Sir!
I'm a narcissist, and I approve of this message 👌
I can see where at times i become a narc too! Scary stuff.
'Go to therapy to heal the wounds that caused you to get into relationship with them'
That's the deepest message, not only to move on from them, but to find and compatible partner and live a better life in general
.. well said Richard.
Living well is truly the best revenge! ♥️
My narc mother made some sarcastic remark about my separation from my narc husband…. I song and had praise and worship all the way to her doctors appointment. She was pissed off🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I have listened to lots of narcissistic behavior analysts…..this guy completely nails it!
All very true! Be prepared for war! Never stop learning!! And continue to stay focussed on a healthy mentality life's to short.
Amen! Agreed. Thank you!
Genuine words of wisdom, as always.
Only God knows what you had been through ! Pray constantly!!
"God bless you, honey" ... what sweet words.
You seem to have a deep understanding of the personality type. Describes my dad pretty well.
Bingo. Did that. Moving on.
This is everything right here.
This is my experience with Narcissists to a T. their behavior is that of the evil paracite.
I like this concept because it leads them to think that they actually don't matter, and that does piss the narcs off.
As always grateful for your sharing❤️🙏
Yes, yes, yes! This absolutely worked for me. Walk out with the mindset of never going back. My ex fell from his own pedestal.
Daily listening status! Just say'n!!! Counteract the warped, distorted, f'd up messages and environment!!! Ty, ty, ty!!! 💯+
My favorite is how they try and flip the script and play the victim,
Absolutely ! “This is all your fault! 100% your fault!”
I'm going to show my therapist this video as it speaks for me! Finally after 20 years & a massive mountain of endless trouble I'm finally free of the malignant narcissist I married & I'm staying that way too. Healing slowly but healing & happy nonetheless 😊
He’s right I never felt this low 😢 I should’ve stayed gone
I did exactly that and now I'm so happy and doing amazing and it's killing him.
True words…. But it is work getting the programming out of you. Especially with long term
You can do it though, just write down all the toxic things they said to you and when you think of going back remember why you left!
The thing that I remember is he literally tried to kill me after I left him the first time. I now realize that was a narcissistic injury and he had it out for me…
@@marciaparks807 🥰
@@JoyLady-1966 ya the N injury is something to behold ✌️💪
thanks I did just that 5 months ago. cold turkey non contact. a childhood friend of 48 yrs..now I've Never felt better.not around or exposed to such dark evil toxicity. yay hooray happy happy days everyday.
💯 💯 💯... yes.. . I'm doing it
This truth is bonkers good.
Yo Richard! There never was a relationship to begin with. Just two people interacting with each other sometimes.
Been thinking about therapy it’s been 2 1/2 years since I escaped…still not feeling who I am and always focused on work.. And every time I see a GMC pick up silver I can’t help myself but think about him and I don’t like that… Quite frankly there’s a lot of them up here on the roads in Canada even though I know he’s in the US right now
Indeed the greatest revenge is living well❤
The last lines hit right through my heart. Days ago I was so tired, sad, and ANGRY. I told myself to be a better person live a better life. But I'm tired. I don't want to fight with anything or anyone anymore. Then this epiphany came out of the blue. I talked to myself again,"If you're tired, it's okay. Stop fighting. Start from now on, live happily and peacefully. No more fighting wars. No more toxicity and drama. Stop worrying the future or dwelling in the past. Be happy, peaceful, serene, and receive every single abundance effortlessly. No more trying too hard. This time, just enjoy your life."
The fantasies and anger and sorrow started to vanish. Less nightmares about him. Less anxiety. Last night I was able to feel scared after watching horror contents without thinking about him at all.
Well we’ll soon see : no contact; bring it on !
Best message ever. When it's real
Since I parted completely from my former profession and life, I literally live nearly every day with a bright, happy smile. From time to time I have to deal with depressive mood, but that doesn't last more than a few days and occurs rarely enough to not be treated as problematic.
The best part: I don't even care if my happiness bothers them. I'm happy, they can kick grass.
They kill.
With your help.
I turned my back on her and the old best mate.
I chose to get on with my life.
I got professional help.
I never knew if she felt these sorts of guilty feelings.
I never looked back to find out.
They don't feel guilt. They feel betrayal from us. They POS and may they all rot in burning hell for eternity. No sympathy for the devil. And not the Rolling Stones song but my song.
You are my therapy as we speak 🗣️
I agree with this video 💯. If I could get away from it, anyone can do it.
It’s taken me 4 months out of the 6 since he left for me to realise I was in a trauma bond. The cognitive dissonance has been a challenge but I’m in therapy and committed to moving on! I didn’t feel joy or hope for the longest time and finally felt it genuinely in the last couple of weeks.
This is what I'm going through right now with my narc sociopath brother trying to go through probate with my narc mother is home. I love your messages Richard it really hits home you really make it easier to go through this hardship narc abuse.
Let me give you some advice, Richard. You cannot have a friendship with a known Narcissist and go unscathed.
Walked out in a narcissist 2 years ago never been so gas lighted and put down by anyone ever in my life
Never again
I m doing that. We don't need them.
Quoting my husband "leaving her was the best therapy ever!"
Love you, Richard!! As always- THANK YOU!
after 37 years of marriage i still believe that i love my vulnerable covert narcissistic husband (and this love gave me morbus crohn).
Morbus is a demon and i have had to fight him face to face. He is a principality and that's partly why my moniker is flaming sword. People truly do not know thw depths of darkness that we are encompassed by. I developed thryoid cancer and almost died because of it at the age of 37. I'm urging you to cut the cord. I had to run. My ex husband's demons almost literally killed me and they aim to kill you too.....
Tf is that
My marriage is 50 years. It’s tough. Very explosive at the drop of a hat. Walking on eggshells to avoid a meltdown. I hope you are coping better.
@@Edithlane
I did that for 20years 😢… I had to walk out . I am me !!😅 once more .
This is so interesting. Whenever something good happens to me and I have some fun stories to tell, he's completely uninterested and just straight up ignores me... Even on my birthday when I was happy because of a gift from my sister. Isn't that just great....