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This is half truth only. Every coin has two faces. The so called independent girls these days earn, have bad attitude towards the inlaws, agreed she should have if they are bad but if not then??? Don't you think a mother who is a homemaker , cares for her children do you regard her as a laid back and old fashioned??? A homemaker is working. 24/7 for her family so she is no way less than an independent woman. Don't compare these two please ...and if possible show the full truth that how the real papa ki Paris destroy everyone's life these days....
A friendly suggestion To all those girls out there. Stay away from "Mumma's Boy" type men. They will behave nicely and confident/outspoken outside the house, but infront of their parents they will become a completely timid person. They will always take side of their parents even if they are wrong.
My mother didn't take a stand and ended up as a homemaker instead of continuing as a working woman. I could sense her unhappiness so when it was my turn to make a decision I chose to remain single.
Being a doctor myself, in one of jeevansathi match i talk to a doctor, he said even if u earn u have to cook everyday after marriage, i asked if he can he said shamelessly that he only knows how to eat. That was just speechless moment for me. How can u expect working doctor whose job 24×7 to cook each and everymeal beyond me, i said to him brother look for someone else.
@@bimugdhabiswas2812 boy and girl are both doctors. Boy expects girl to cook. Girl asks if boy knows to cook too. Boy says he only knows to eat. This is a classic example of misogyny. Yes, misogyny is shameless
@@zoeyanaqvi-zn7482 That is a generic statement you have provided about humanity care. But in reality people have started to ask women to take a stand and putting down men taking stand. Feminism is becoming equal to putting down men and their choices and their desires. That is what this youtube channel is also propagating if you look at it. In the name of women empowerment they are doing men hating and put down men. Some do it subtly like this channel and some do it directly like the vocal feminists.
Applaus for her mother. Not all parents understand their daughters. Even in today's world some parents just want their daughters to bow down to their in -laws even if their own daughters are right.
Being the only daughter, I needed this rn... I'll make sure to stay as strong as her and get married on my own terms, confront my in laws before hand and speak clearly
So true..... Make things clear before marriage talk with ur parents..... And that guy also.... I am always clear about this thing in life..... Thats why i feel blessed and whenever someone tell to me he is handsome u reject have reason for it i have no regret at all
I was the only support of my father and till his last breadth I supported him emotionally and financially My Mother and Sister died early in life and I am proud to say my Husband supported me and also jointly conducted my father's last rites All Men are not same I think it is necessary for Women to change and accept another women in son's Life
I think you are just luck that you found the person that suited you. There are good men & women, who's parents raised them with idea to never depend on their kids (not financially at least)... But if their partner does not go forward with similar philosophy... there will be conflict of interest. It's not necessary for women to change & accept another women, because that another women may not aways want best for the family. If a mother has dedicated her whole life on a family, why should she change herself to please someone who hasn't even accepted the family?
This had happened in my sister's life. Its a normal arranged marriage through matrimony. Firstly they agree for everything. They accept all ur conditions. They said she can work, they dont want dowry, they need a daughter, etc. Its bcoz they liked her a lot and horoscopes matched excellently. After marriage they literally did everything reverse of what they said. Harassed her mentally and physically too. But she was strong enough to leave that house. She got divorced after 7 years of struggle and now living independently and peacefully. Its common sense. No body wants to put a bad impression on themselves especially when they meet for a match. They act, pretend , show only their good side. Arranged marriages happen in months. So u don't get enough time to get to know the reality too. Divorce is a taboo. So girls and her parents will be compromised after marriage. Few shameless families take advantage of this and spoil girls lives. Tell them before hand that if any of ur conditions are not true , if u face any kind of violence, abuse and if things go till Divorce then u will not hesitate to file cases on them and take a huge amount as alimony.
Everything you mentioned is correct.. if any man behaves double standard after marriage. But why the girl will demand huge alimony which you mentioned last line?
@d.s.k.prasanthi3344 What u said is correct.. infact I'm facing these problems in my life.. As an MBA graduate I have now become a house maker for my husband's family.. I'm not financially independent so I can't help or support my family when they're in debt.. I took a break from my career.. after marriage I lost my job, health issues, pregnancy,body changes, mental stress harassment, violence who will handle those things?? even after divorce why do some ladies ask alimony?? Bcoz they lost their whole life believing that their marriage life will be better but the truth is they never get better until we get out of that.. the pain we undergo during delivery will be a nightmare for our life.. but any husband will help after delivery when their wife is suffering from postpartum depression.. bcoz of our children we compromise so many things.. after divorce women need some time to stand financially until they need some alimony to look after their children.. bcoz it's husband family fault who cover their lies with honey and spoil women's life.. in this generation also divorced men get easily married bt divorced women was easily judged by this society.. divorce is still taboo for women.. once the women open their mouth and say 'no'..divorce rate will be increase in India..
@@MrDipakDashin this case , she lost 7 years of her life. She is now earning 15k per month even though she is a double pg holder. All her oppurtunities were snatched. She went into depression and got a heart problem. Who is gonna pay for this ? She suffered in that home. She was not given the status of a wife. She has no children bcoz he was impotent. My parents have sold their land for marriage. Boys side must compensate for their wrong doings. Many families dont allow their DIL to work after marriage. And when divorce happens they don't compensate the loss she had for staying in such relationship. Im definitely not in favour of women who demand alimony without any reason, by filing false cases or to threaten the husband or who are capable of earning and still demand it. Im talking about women who innocently quit jobs after marriage for the sake of family and work hard as home makers without any pay. And these ppl are tortured and left on the roads after divorce. So they must take alimony.
Wife quit her job 😂😂😂 so that she needs to compensated, why because job is the alternative of the husband. She have to have one for survival. Delusional wife before marriage - hey future husband you must earn more than me so that I can choose n pick when to have ur replacement or not. But you must commit you won't look any other women. If the girls are so determined to take care, commit to take care for the life marry for love marry a broke he won't restrict you. Ask him to move in ur house... Oh you can't do that for complete life... but guy is lying and deceitful 😂😂😂😂 What a joke....
I had a love marriage. And had to face this after marriage and also a child as i was working in a different city. I took a stand for myself and my baby. I can relate with this so much. And its giving me a different strength as if this channel is also supporting me. Thank you.
Girl is very clear in thoughts, matured and responsible. She deserves better guy (being beautiful doesn't matter, its personality and financially stable that qualifies).
One thing I always found out is you can never change someone after marriage. It’s very hard. The girl is right. I am glad she did what was right for her. The boy will get a girl too I am sure but I hope she is okay with staying home. Forcing someone is where problem arises. Also I am glad the girl talked openly. People who talk both ways are really hard to manage. That’s the main issue. Telling something to you and something else to mom is a bad idea. He can never decide for himself
And the thing is why try to change someone. Rather find someone whose thoughts, goals and values align with yours than finding someone with a different outlook and then trying to change them.
@@jb3144 So true... Thats exactly on point. False promises never work. Find someone who shares and understands your value and who you understand too. Both your goals and values should be similar.
Even if it is the 21st century, this video reminds me that still many girls live under the shadow of societal pressure. From taking a stand for themselves to working hard to chase their dreams and make it a reality still seems like a herculean task. How I wished the boy would have altogether taken a different stand in the end rather than succumbing to his parent's wishes.....
Wow, typical double standard feminism screwed up brain. You are saying the girl is good for taking a stand. But the boy also took a stand to support his parents. But then he has suddenly become bad for doing the same thing as girl (which is taking a stand) and he is expected to do differently while the girl can do what she wants to do and she need not do differently. Wow, double standards.
Jhuthe logo k sath kya kare .. yaha to clear to bol Diya k unhe job karne vali ladki nai chahiye ... log to pehle bolte h haa job Karo Hume koi problem nai m.. fir mukaar jate h ... these people are way better
Most of the girls get fluked by the statement shaadi ke baad dekh lenge , things will be fine after marriage. Don't marry with assumptions every women has its own life should not be taken for granted. So marriage is not important being happy is be it single or any relationship status.
The sad part is that what the partners promise to each other and their expectation change dramatically once the marriage is solemnised. All the claims of undying love before marriage vanish into thin air.
Fine episode. Sadly, even in this modern era, many women are conservative and expect their daughter-in-law to be a home-maker. Some are greedy too, and expect their DIL to both have a career / job AND take care of household chores. Due to high cost of living and rising expenses, women are forced to work to add to family income. So, it's unfair to expect them to manage career / job and home all by themselves. Many men have started helping in household work, but it's still a tiny number. Women should always have the choice of how they want to lead their life, even after marriage. Liked Mehak standing her ground and saying that she will support her mom even after marriage. It's good that Mehak decided not to marry a wimp like Arjun who agreed to her terms in private but stayed silent in his parents' presence.
Everyone has their own preferences. if you want a DIL who should stay at home after marriage, then choose a girl who doesn't want to work. But stopping someone to work is rude. No one has the right to stop supporting our parents, irrespective of gender.
I am definitely such mother. I don't want to restrict about anything on my daughter. I will always trust her for everything. I will raise her in such a way that she becomes an independent smart and kind woman
The boy's parents wanted a stay at home bahu.. which would have been okay 10 years back.. even today it's a personal choice.. but standing on the current date and asking the girl's mother, who is all alone, what she would do after her daughter's marriage, is completely inhuman and gives the proof of their low mindset..marriage is a bonding between 2 families.. if the boy's parents are human beings and need care, so are the girl's parents.
@@anweshabhattacharya4947 they were never against she supporting her parents -watch the video again - that is managable even if she is housewife and husband can take care of her parents financially - my simple point is whatever their thoughts were, thy were clear upfront and thts very good part of it! Not judging their thoughts but conduct which I really appreciate!
It’s easy to take a stand when your family is supportive of it. Nevertheless, it’s important to take a stand. No matter how difficult it seems, how alone you feel at that time. One should always choose yourself over oppression of any kind. With time, things eventually fall in place.
Before 12 years, I was in the place of Mehek, and I can feel how tough it is to search a life partner who will support you in everything. 🤞 I got that one who supports and loves and cares me and my profession 😊
If only women around me give back up support. Bless you both for making this video to inspire women to support each other. This is unconditional Love support.
Thank you for such a wonderful video. It is very much required to make the society realise that girls are not bounded after marriage to follow their in-laws and husband. It is her personal choice to work , to cook or anything.
Keep telling these stories..our society and our women need to take the responsibilities ahead of household..and everyone must be responsible for household chores..
This is what people usually do they say we don't have any problem if the girl wants to work after marriage and after marriage they make such circumstances that she is not able to continue her job......atleast here they have cleared their intension before hand only
There will be no discussions after marriage. Every thing should be decided before itself. The samething happened to my friend and thankgod I told clearly about this to my husband and inlaws before marriage.
To all the girls if you are financially independent, you have your own house, then please take a stand in such situations. these rules that a girl should look after the family and all were all set because back then the girls were not educated and were not financially independent. now we as women should stand for ourselves and ask for equality because that is the thing that no one is going to give us. The other name for marriage is basically a full series of women's compromises. we are asked to change our surname even though we are no longer dependent on our husband's salary. the baby born is given the surname of the father even though the baby grows in the mother's womb for 9 months. also, she is equally contributing to his/her growth. We as a woman should ask these questions to ourselves that , why do always we need to compromise why not men.? we should bring a change which we want in the world. lets break the old age stereotype.
@@user-mu3bt8iv4q I never see any man changing his surname to his wife's name after marriage. can you please mention where you saw this miracle? also, I hope you are aware of female infanticide? if you don't know please google it and you will get to know that more than 10 million female fetuses may have been illegally aborted in India since the 1990s and 500,000 girls were being lost annually due to female foeticide. why do think female infanticide happens? and why not male infanticide? you know someone very rightly said that women are the biggest enemies of women. Despite being educated and knowing the fact we as women are not ready to take a stand for our rights which are our own and nobody has a right to take them away from us. female foeticide is damage that is caused due to passing only the father's surname to the child. Don't you think this is enough for us to take a stand? just imagine a world where both surnames are passed or any other equal laws and all these murders will automatically reduce. I urge you to support equality and take a stand for that because you do not know how much damage has already happened because of that and how much more can happen. because after knowing these facts if we don't support and take a stand for equality then we are equally responsible for all these murders in the womb because finally killing is killing no matter if you kill outside or inside the womb.
Woman is always doing compromises for her family and to keep her marriage alive. But there is no point in suffering. Cause people never understand it. So taking right decision at right time is very important for a girl. Kudos to the team for this excellent work
Brilliant.. And lucky mom support krragi... Mene to phli hi btaya tha k job krungi phir bhi unhone decide krlia nhi krne denge aur parents ne bhi kuch bhi bola.. Phir ghr se freelance work starrt kia to ismein bhi problem. THANKS TO God, jo mene un logon se peecha churalia...
Cant say that boys family were wrong either, butvI like the clarity from both sides. The girl shown went extra miles and understood in one sentence - Ye aaj tumhare liye stand nahi le sakta, Shadi ke baad kya lega...❤
I was from a rich family and had many servants, after marriage I came to America. The sad thing is that they think I am a bahu and Its only my job to do all house chores. There friends and family used to come almost every day for lunches and dinner. Even After forty years I feel bad and used, Once I asked my husband Would you like your daughter’s husband to treat her like you guy’s treated me? And he said big NO..
To the people in comment section who's saying- How badly we wished Arjun took her side infront of the parents! I am glad he didn't try to be the So called Supportive Guy on upfront. Bcz So many cases reflect that such boys n families agree before marriage just for the sake of saying it but later on they put mental pressure indirectly on girl of handling everything job , ghar, khaana, inlaws, bahar ka grocery, family needs and when they miss out on even one thing- they force her to leave the job by putting all the blame that She can't handle things properly and She's not treating that home n family of her own!! All of that puts the girl in extreme emotional stress n eventually physical sickness too. So i feel this was better To see the clear picture before marriage and no forceful compromises later!
If not her Arjun can get the right women as his wife who can take care of him and his family. Arjun got a clear picture of what could have happened if he married her. So her choice is good for him and his family. Always a man should marry a woman who will take care of him and his family.
Its a short video..but the matter is for long even the whole life... the earth will not become flat after marriage, its better to take a stand for yourself ... every girl should be enough independent that no one can dare to threaten in any way... it should be 50-50 from both side..no less no more..one can adjust with things but should never compromise ... very relevant topic..😊😊
I have not listened such thing infact I am facing it. Recently, my father has expired, Did all the rituals but when fixing the financial matter for my mother, my husband asked me how much time will it take to settle? As I was not in the house, his mother had to cook, my husband felt bad for his mother so he asked me to come fast leaving my mother. As I am not working woman so I had to come leaving my mother. I am against the society norms where boys mother will get all the priority and a girls mother will not get any rest.. Why such things still prevail in the society? I wish if I were matured enough during my marriage then such things would not happen with my mother.. I really feel sorry for my mother.
pls take care of u r mother . apne husband ko bolo ki jese unko mother se pyar h vese apko bhi apni mother s pyar h . vo kuch bhi bole dhyan mat do . apke father k jane k bad vo akele ho gai h unka khyal rakho pls. sare husband or INLAWS to society s conditioned hote h
Thank you everyone for your advice.. I will definitely try to take a stand against this and will also try to convince my i law's to take care of my mother
It's the same with me , mere papa ke baad mummy or me bas , and I can feel the character in this video , usne sahi decision liya shadi nhi hogi chalega lekin parents ko suffer karne de yeh nhi chalega....
Best decision.. He is mumma's boy and at least showed reality before marriage. Else once she is married to the guy their in laws will make her life hell.
Love this clip. A very pertinent and timely theme that is well presented. Cudos to the Production Team. Gender discrimination and double standards for men and women have plagued our society for way too long. Unless girls take a tough stance that their careers are just as important and that they have no less responsibilities towards their parents, nothing will change. Men also need to understand that marriage is a partnership, with both husband and wife having equal rights as well as responsibilities.
It is good that the girl denied Arjun in the very early stage. Or else poor Arjun would have suffered life long. For Arjun, if not that girl he can find an alternative who can take care of him and his family. Ofcourse it will take some time for Arjun to come out of it. If she is OK without him, he can also be OK without her. According to me, Arjun has lost nothing rather saved himself from getting into panic situation.
I don't know why it feels like sharing this here on comment section.... My father died three years ago and I'm the only child. Being a daughter it feels terrible to accept the fact that i have to leave my mother alone after marriage. Why women have to make such hard choices. The man whom I want to marry support me in everything but he fails to understand this situation of mine. I feel helpless
Dear Dipika..This is not the Fact..This is just the situation which you have accepted... Insaan single bhi reh sakta...Shadi karna jaruri nahi hai..Bahot soch samazkar karna shadi..Shadi Parents ke sath se jyada jaruri nahi hai..
@@nikitafernandes461 when we are financially independent then no one can teach us to adjust...This is the basic requirement women should understand for themselves..
This boy is very clever. He just try to manage both side. After marriage he is going to stop his wifes job for sure.. Every woman should awar from this type of people.
We are only three daughters of my father. I am doing mbbs right now, i have this in my mind to take care of my parents after marriage. My father has alway worked hard and focused on our education. Just like sons take care of their parents. In my religion, there is no obligation on women to take care of inlaws and there is no obligation of them living together. But if she does that , its good. It is his husband's duty to take care of his parents and wife's duty to take care of her parents. But in our culture this is thought of something as not normal.
Exactly.... kya husband apni wife se puch k apne parents ka khayal rkhte hain? To yha pe agr ye single girl child h to problem kya hai support krne me, iske liye kisi ki bhi permission ki jrurt nhi hai i think.
Beautiful subject n very well presented! It's understood n should be accepted naturally n easily that the girl will b taking care of her parental home n parents after marriage too!! 🙏
Apart from women empowerment, in today's life it is very important to work both the partners due to the standard of living and inflation. It is really not possible only for a man to run the whole family with so many members when it is the case for only son.
This is so true. This exactly happened with me in the month of october. Guy was so demanding mere papa ke liye breakfast bana dena,ye fast karna dega ye ritual follow krna pdega kahi pe bhi he didnt mention his parents making adjustment for future daughter in law and he was completely emotionally immature. He has no house of his own, no masters degree,business is in loss and his max salary goes in paying emi's and he had the audacity to ask a girl to marry him. I am also a single girl child without dad and i ain't leaving my mother for such b***ard ever.
Very good movie. Basically, in India it is very difficult to discuss about matrimonial disputes and its complications. What I think is selection of a right life partner for marriage is very difficult task in India or may be in the world as both male and female are liars. Before marriage and after marriage both version are different. To select someone, you have 2 options 1. Either you ignore everything after marriage, 2. Or you have to speak truth about yourself each and every thing. Now if we speck 100% truth about our self then we know there are good chances of rejection so in general practice we speak lie about our self to be selected. Mere khayal se ladkine shaadi se mana karke thik hi kiya. Actually, khud keliye stand lena bahot badi baat hai, aur aisa wahi ladki kar sakti hai jo dependent ho. Otherwise aaj kal to shaadi keliye wahi ladka pasand kiya jaaa hai jiski salary handsome ho. Fir agar shaadi na bhi chali to koi baat nahi maintenance to mil hi jaayega. So, humare samaj me aisi ladkion ki zyada zaroorat hai jo independent, jo khud ke liye stand le sake.
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I don’t why but I really luv the character of mother in your videos
She always done justice
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This is half truth only. Every coin has two faces. The so called independent girls these days earn, have bad attitude towards the inlaws, agreed she should have if they are bad but if not then???
Don't you think a mother who is a homemaker , cares for her children do you regard her as a laid back and old fashioned??? A homemaker is working. 24/7 for her family so she is no way less than an independent woman. Don't compare these two please ...and if possible show the full truth that how the real papa ki Paris destroy everyone's life these days....
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A friendly suggestion To all those girls out there. Stay away from "Mumma's Boy" type men. They will behave nicely and confident/outspoken outside the house, but infront of their parents they will become a completely timid person. They will always take side of their parents even if they are wrong.
100%
Thank God atleast somebody spoke it👍
Correct....such people remain same throughout life, it's becomes difficult to adjust with them, suffocating hota h
@@kirtikhandelwal6822 Speak for your own cast, kind & gen.
Mumma's boy ye hain to hum bhi papa mumma's girl hee hain.. ye log bhool jaate hain😂
Hats off to girl’s mother!!
Society needs such mothers! ❤
My mother didn't take a stand and ended up as a homemaker instead of continuing as a working woman. I could sense her unhappiness so when it was my turn to make a decision I chose to remain single.
So true 💯 a girl should be independent first and make her own life and career then get married
For girls it's very Important to get independent and earning
Best decision ever taken. I really support you!!!
best decision
Whoever tell ‘shaadi ke baad fix ho jaathe hain’ - it cannot be. It’s worst maintaining both but still have to do. Here, mother is ❤ awesome.
Being a doctor myself, in one of jeevansathi match i talk to a doctor, he said even if u earn u have to cook everyday after marriage, i asked if he can he said shamelessly that he only knows how to eat.
That was just speechless moment for me. How can u expect working doctor whose job 24×7 to cook each and everymeal beyond me, i said to him brother look for someone else.
U made the right decision
U hv made da bst decision sis
Asking someone for cooking after marriage is a shameless thing?? Really, you are so mean..
@@bimugdhabiswas2812do u have any common sense at all?
@@bimugdhabiswas2812 boy and girl are both doctors. Boy expects girl to cook. Girl asks if boy knows to cook too. Boy says he only knows to eat. This is a classic example of misogyny. Yes, misogyny is shameless
Being the only daughter of a single mother I know what this stand means ❤......she just did great
True
Woman taking a stand is fine. But boy taking a stand to support his parents is wrong. Wow, what a double standard mind.
@@SureshKumar-gu9cu yes humanity- care and support is a must in every relation.
Exactly my life story...only daughter of my single mother
@@zoeyanaqvi-zn7482 That is a generic statement you have provided about humanity care. But in reality people have started to ask women to take a stand and putting down men taking stand. Feminism is becoming equal to putting down men and their choices and their desires. That is what this youtube channel is also propagating if you look at it. In the name of women empowerment they are doing men hating and put down men. Some do it subtly like this channel and some do it directly like the vocal feminists.
Applaus for her mother. Not all parents understand their daughters. Even in today's world some parents just want their daughters to bow down to their in -laws even if their own daughters are right.
Being the only daughter, I needed this rn...
I'll make sure to stay as strong as her and get married on my own terms, confront my in laws before hand and speak clearly
Don't get married to a loser!!!!!!! All men are one!!!
After marriage all problems will get resolve , this is the worst mistake we all do
So true..... Make things clear before marriage talk with ur parents..... And that guy also.... I am always clear about this thing in life..... Thats why i feel blessed and whenever someone tell to me he is handsome u reject have reason for it i have no regret at all
@nehagupta9267 so true after marriage nothing changes
It becomes a very hard time for girls to adjust
Why marry at all, anyway?
I was the only support of my father and till his last breadth I supported him emotionally and financially My Mother and Sister died early in life and I am proud to say my Husband supported me and also jointly conducted my father's last rites All Men are not same I think it is necessary for Women to change and accept another women in son's Life
I think you are just luck that you found the person that suited you.
There are good men & women, who's parents raised them with idea to never depend on their kids (not financially at least)... But if their partner does not go forward with similar philosophy... there will be conflict of interest.
It's not necessary for women to change & accept another women, because that another women may not aways want best for the family.
If a mother has dedicated her whole life on a family, why should she change herself to please someone who hasn't even accepted the family?
Breath. Not breadth.
Breath.
This had happened in my sister's life. Its a normal arranged marriage through matrimony. Firstly they agree for everything. They accept all ur conditions. They said she can work, they dont want dowry, they need a daughter, etc. Its bcoz they liked her a lot and horoscopes matched excellently. After marriage they literally did everything reverse of what they said. Harassed her mentally and physically too. But she was strong enough to leave that house. She got divorced after 7 years of struggle and now living independently and peacefully.
Its common sense. No body wants to put a bad impression on themselves especially when they meet for a match. They act, pretend , show only their good side. Arranged marriages happen in months. So u don't get enough time to get to know the reality too.
Divorce is a taboo. So girls and her parents will be compromised after marriage. Few shameless families take advantage of this and spoil girls lives.
Tell them before hand that if any of ur conditions are not true , if u face any kind of violence, abuse and if things go till Divorce then u will not hesitate to file cases on them and take a huge amount as alimony.
Everything you mentioned is correct.. if any man behaves double standard after marriage. But why the girl will demand huge alimony which you mentioned last line?
@d.s.k.prasanthi3344 What u said is correct.. infact I'm facing these problems in my life.. As an MBA graduate I have now become a house maker for my husband's family.. I'm not financially independent so I can't help or support my family when they're in debt.. I took a break from my career.. after marriage I lost my job, health issues, pregnancy,body changes, mental stress harassment, violence who will handle those things?? even after divorce why do some ladies ask alimony?? Bcoz they lost their whole life believing that their marriage life will be better but the truth is they never get better until we get out of that.. the pain we undergo during delivery will be a nightmare for our life.. but any husband will help after delivery when their wife is suffering from postpartum depression.. bcoz of our children we compromise so many things.. after divorce women need some time to stand financially until they need some alimony to look after their children.. bcoz it's husband family fault who cover their lies with honey and spoil women's life.. in this generation also divorced men get easily married bt divorced women was easily judged by this society.. divorce is still taboo for women.. once the women open their mouth and say 'no'..divorce rate will be increase in India..
@@MrDipakDashthat's a punishment for deceiving her and destroying 7 precious years of her life.
@@MrDipakDashin this case , she lost 7 years of her life. She is now earning 15k per month even though she is a double pg holder. All her oppurtunities were snatched. She went into depression and got a heart problem. Who is gonna pay for this ? She suffered in that home. She was not given the status of a wife. She has no children bcoz he was impotent. My parents have sold their land for marriage. Boys side must compensate for their wrong doings. Many families dont allow their DIL to work after marriage. And when divorce happens they don't compensate the loss she had for staying in such relationship.
Im definitely not in favour of women who demand alimony without any reason, by filing false cases or to threaten the husband or who are capable of earning and still demand it.
Im talking about women who innocently quit jobs after marriage for the sake of family and work hard as home makers without any pay. And these ppl are tortured and left on the roads after divorce. So they must take alimony.
Wife quit her job 😂😂😂 so that she needs to compensated, why because job is the alternative of the husband.
She have to have one for survival.
Delusional wife before marriage - hey future husband you must earn more than me so that I can choose n pick when to have ur replacement or not. But you must commit you won't look any other women.
If the girls are so determined to take care, commit to take care for the life marry for love marry a broke he won't restrict you.
Ask him to move in ur house...
Oh you can't do that for complete life... but guy is lying and deceitful 😂😂😂😂
What a joke....
I had a love marriage. And had to face this after marriage and also a child as i was working in a different city. I took a stand for myself and my baby. I can relate with this so much. And its giving me a different strength as if this channel is also supporting me.
Thank you.
Girl is very clear in thoughts, matured and responsible. She deserves better guy (being beautiful doesn't matter, its personality and financially stable that qualifies).
One thing I always found out is you can never change someone after marriage. It’s very hard. The girl is right. I am glad she did what was right for her. The boy will get a girl too I am sure but I hope she is okay with staying home. Forcing someone is where problem arises. Also I am glad the girl talked openly. People who talk both ways are really hard to manage. That’s the main issue. Telling something to you and something else to mom is a bad idea. He can never decide for himself
And the thing is why try to change someone. Rather find someone whose thoughts, goals and values align with yours than finding someone with a different outlook and then trying to change them.
@@jb3144 So true... Thats exactly on point. False promises never work. Find someone who shares and understands your value and who you understand too. Both your goals and values should be similar.
@@jb3144 agreed.....
Even if it is the 21st century, this video reminds me that still many girls live under the shadow of societal pressure. From taking a stand for themselves to working hard to chase their dreams and make it a reality still seems like a herculean task. How I wished the boy would have altogether taken a different stand in the end rather than succumbing to his parent's wishes.....
Toh aise ladko se shaadi hi mat karo problem solved
Wow, typical double standard feminism screwed up brain. You are saying the girl is good for taking a stand. But the boy also took a stand to support his parents. But then he has suddenly become bad for doing the same thing as girl (which is taking a stand) and he is expected to do differently while the girl can do what she wants to do and she need not do differently. Wow, double standards.
@@scintillatingconquistador28good
Jhuthe logo k sath kya kare .. yaha to clear to bol Diya k unhe job karne vali ladki nai chahiye ... log to pehle bolte h haa job Karo Hume koi problem nai m.. fir mukaar jate h ... these people are way better
He represents a vast majority, 😄
Most of the girls get fluked by the statement shaadi ke baad dekh lenge , things will be fine after marriage. Don't marry with assumptions every women has its own life should not be taken for granted. So marriage is not important being happy is be it single or any relationship status.
Definitely. If you can't stand for yourself, who else will stand for you
Every girl should be independent in their lives.. Career first then other....
I loved this video... Good lessons for society ❤❤❤❤
The sad part is that what the partners promise to each other and their expectation change dramatically once the marriage is solemnised. All the claims of undying love before marriage vanish into thin air.
Fine episode. Sadly, even in this modern era, many women are conservative and expect their daughter-in-law to be a home-maker. Some are greedy too, and expect their DIL to both have a career / job AND take care of household chores. Due to high cost of living and rising expenses, women are forced to work to add to family income. So, it's unfair to expect them to manage career / job and home all by themselves. Many men have started helping in household work, but it's still a tiny number. Women should always have the choice of how they want to lead their life, even after marriage. Liked Mehak standing her ground and saying that she will support her mom even after marriage. It's good that Mehak decided not to marry a wimp like Arjun who agreed to her terms in private but stayed silent in his parents' presence.
The girl made the right decision. Proud of her. 👍
आप सब का बहोत बहोत धन्यवाद ऐसे टॉपिक पे फिल्म निकालने के लिये...बहोत जरुरत है ऐसे विषय को highlight करने की..❤❤
That's the stand I want from today's girl. Be Powerful.
True. One should take a stand. I regret not taking one. And I still suffer because of that. I wish I had taken my stand…😕😕
Everyone has their own preferences. if you want a DIL who should stay at home after marriage, then choose a girl who doesn't want to work. But stopping someone to work is rude. No one has the right to stop supporting our parents, irrespective of gender.
Stay in live-in don't marry.
@@hrishant100 why to even be in live in relationship ?? Those are even worse than marriage !
@@neetusingh-kt2no everyone is free to choose what they want to do. No restriction...
Very good decision and clear discussion before wedding... wish I had done the same 24yrs back... May be I would have led more peaceful life
I wish I too had done this 13 years back.. 😞
I am definitely such mother. I don't want to restrict about anything on my daughter. I will always trust her for everything. I will raise her in such a way that she becomes an independent smart and kind woman
Excellent. The girl did the right thing. The boy as well as his parents are shameless people who wanted a maid and not a loved one for their family.
Correct
Completely disagree atleast for parents, atleast thy were clear beforehand, agree for boy, he manipulated and no doubt he was shameless
The boy's parents wanted a stay at home bahu.. which would have been okay 10 years back.. even today it's a personal choice.. but standing on the current date and asking the girl's mother, who is all alone, what she would do after her daughter's marriage, is completely inhuman and gives the proof of their low mindset..marriage is a bonding between 2 families.. if the boy's parents are human beings and need care, so are the girl's parents.
I also agree with this.
@@anweshabhattacharya4947 they were never against she supporting her parents -watch the video again - that is managable even if she is housewife and husband can take care of her parents financially - my simple point is whatever their thoughts were, thy were clear upfront and thts very good part of it! Not judging their thoughts but conduct which I really appreciate!
It’s easy to take a stand when your family is supportive of it. Nevertheless, it’s important to take a stand. No matter how difficult it seems, how alone you feel at that time. One should always choose yourself over oppression of any kind. With time, things eventually fall in place.
Before 12 years, I was in the place of Mehek, and I can feel how tough it is to search a life partner who will support you in everything.
🤞 I got that one who supports and loves and cares me and my profession 😊
True
If only women around me give back up support. Bless you both for making this video to inspire women to support each other. This is unconditional Love support.
Very well done girl,perfect decision And her mother was absolutely right that he's not supporting you now, what will he do later.
Thank you for such a wonderful video. It is very much required to make the society realise that girls are not bounded after marriage to follow their in-laws and husband. It is her personal choice to work , to cook or anything.
Keep telling these stories..our society and our women need to take the responsibilities ahead of household..and everyone must be responsible for household chores..
Your last sentence is especially to be noted and brought into practice in every house with working woman
Story of Indian daughters in the most subtle manner 😊
Girls mom is amazing👍😍😍 liked the concept❤❤
This is what people usually do they say we don't have any problem if the girl wants to work after marriage and after marriage they make such circumstances that she is not able to continue her job......atleast here they have cleared their intension before hand only
Mehak did the right thing women can take both responsibility house and job ...they can manage both things simultaneously
Yes!
There will be no discussions after marriage. Every thing should be decided before itself. The samething happened to my friend and thankgod I told clearly about this to my husband and inlaws before marriage.
Girl’s mom - Nirupamaji amazing as always!
To all the girls if you are financially independent, you have your own house, then please take a stand in such situations. these rules that a girl should look after the family and all were all set because back then the girls were not educated and were not financially independent. now we as women should stand for ourselves and ask for equality because that is the thing that no one is going to give us.
The other name for marriage is basically a full series of women's compromises. we are asked to change our surname even though we are no longer dependent on our husband's salary. the baby born is given the surname of the father even though the baby grows in the mother's womb for 9 months. also, she is equally contributing to his/her growth.
We as a woman should ask these questions to ourselves that , why do always we need to compromise why not men.?
we should bring a change which we want in the world. lets break the old age stereotype.
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@@user-mu3bt8iv4q I never see any man changing his surname to his wife's name after marriage. can you please mention where you saw this miracle?
also, I hope you are aware of female infanticide? if you don't know please google it and you will get to know that more than 10 million female fetuses may have been illegally aborted in India since the 1990s and 500,000 girls were being lost annually due to female foeticide.
why do think female infanticide happens? and why not male infanticide?
you know someone very rightly said that women are the biggest enemies of women.
Despite being educated and knowing the fact we as women are not ready to take a stand for our rights which are our own and nobody has a right to take them away from us.
female foeticide is damage that is caused due to passing only the father's surname to the child. Don't you think this is enough for us to take a stand? just imagine a world where both surnames are passed or any other equal laws and all these murders will automatically reduce.
I urge you to support equality and take a stand for that because you do not know how much damage has already happened because of that and how much more can happen. because after knowing these facts if we don't support and take a stand for equality then we are equally responsible for all these murders in the womb because finally killing is killing no matter if you kill outside or inside the womb.
Woman is always doing compromises for her family and to keep her marriage alive. But there is no point in suffering. Cause people never understand it. So taking right decision at right time is very important for a girl. Kudos to the team for this excellent work
Right decease
She is brave.
Every girl should be like this girl 😊
Brilliant.. And lucky mom support krragi... Mene to phli hi btaya tha k job krungi phir bhi unhone decide krlia nhi krne denge aur parents ne bhi kuch bhi bola.. Phir ghr se freelance work starrt kia to ismein bhi problem. THANKS TO God, jo mene un logon se peecha churalia...
Very supportive girl's mother, girl's decision awesome
Wow amazing video it’s about time women stood up for themselves
Cant say that boys family were wrong either, butvI like the clarity from both sides. The girl shown went extra miles and understood in one sentence - Ye aaj tumhare liye stand nahi le sakta, Shadi ke baad kya lega...❤
Excellent! Good decision by the daughter!
Excellent video - precise message portrayed fabulously in such short time 💯💯
I hope no one get married to a guy like Arjuna, who is just a mama's boy and wants someone to babysit him and his parents
I was from a rich family and had many servants, after marriage I came to America.
The sad thing is that they think I am a bahu and Its only my job to do all house chores.
There friends and family used to come almost every day for lunches and dinner.
Even After forty years I feel bad and used, Once I asked my husband
Would you like your daughter’s husband to treat her like you guy’s treated me?
And he said big NO..
To the people in comment section who's saying- How badly we wished Arjun took her side infront of the parents! I am glad he didn't try to be the So called Supportive Guy on upfront. Bcz So many cases reflect that such boys n families agree before marriage just for the sake of saying it but later on they put mental pressure indirectly on girl of handling everything job , ghar, khaana, inlaws, bahar ka grocery, family needs and when they miss out on even one thing- they force her to leave the job by putting all the blame that She can't handle things properly and She's not treating that home n family of her own!!
All of that puts the girl in extreme emotional stress n eventually physical sickness too.
So i feel this was better
To see the clear picture before marriage and no forceful compromises later!
If not her Arjun can get the right women as his wife who can take care of him and his family. Arjun got a clear picture of what could have happened if he married her. So her choice is good for him and his family. Always a man should marry a woman who will take care of him and his family.
Beautiful video👌. A very good message conveyed to the society 🙏
Its a short video..but the matter is for long even the whole life... the earth will not become flat after marriage, its better to take a stand for yourself ... every girl should be enough independent that no one can dare to threaten in any way... it should be 50-50 from both side..no less no more..one can adjust with things but should never compromise ... very relevant topic..😊😊
Loved the story.
All girls should be like Mehak.
I have not listened such thing infact I am facing it. Recently, my father has expired, Did all the rituals but when fixing the financial matter for my mother, my husband asked me how much time will it take to settle? As I was not in the house, his mother had to cook, my husband felt bad for his mother so he asked me to come fast leaving my mother. As I am not working woman so I had to come leaving my mother. I am against the society norms where boys mother will get all the priority and a girls mother will not get any rest.. Why such things still prevail in the society? I wish if I were matured enough during my marriage then such things would not happen with my mother.. I really feel sorry for my mother.
Not too late,take a stand.
@@cg5611what do you mean bro ?
@@anviraut9369 don't keep quiet, when you are aware of the right and wrong.
pls take care of u r mother . apne husband ko bolo ki jese unko mother se pyar h vese apko bhi apni mother s pyar h . vo kuch bhi bole dhyan mat do . apke father k jane k bad vo akele ho gai h unka khyal rakho pls. sare husband or INLAWS to society s conditioned hote h
Thank you everyone for your advice.. I will definitely try to take a stand against this and will also try to convince my i law's to take care of my mother
Same situation I m facing my mother also did same thing
Thx god for such supporting mother
Really it's nice nd every one do it confidentially ❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
It's the same with me , mere papa ke baad mummy or me bas , and I can feel the character in this video , usne sahi decision liya shadi nhi hogi chalega lekin parents ko suffer karne de yeh nhi chalega....
thank you so much for this video! I am glad u guys are raising this point.
Best decision.. He is mumma's boy and at least showed reality before marriage. Else once she is married to the guy their in laws will make her life hell.
Love this clip. A very pertinent and timely theme that is well presented. Cudos to the Production Team. Gender discrimination and double standards for men and women have plagued our society for way too long. Unless girls take a tough stance that their careers are just as important and that they have no less responsibilities towards their parents, nothing will change.
Men also need to understand that marriage is a partnership, with both husband and wife having equal rights as well as responsibilities.
Glad to have viewers like you!
True ❤ ❤
Absolutely Right in any relationship everything should be clear before marriage bcs After that They both hv to suffer.
It is good that the girl denied Arjun in the very early stage. Or else poor Arjun would have suffered life long. For Arjun, if not that girl he can find an alternative who can take care of him and his family. Ofcourse it will take some time for Arjun to come out of it. If she is OK without him, he can also be OK without her. According to me, Arjun has lost nothing rather saved himself from getting into panic situation.
nice decision, after marriage nothing changes 😊😊
I wish in society ppl will think for others the same way they think about themselves
I can't believe I am still watching this in 2023. When will the Indian society stop being regressive
I don't know why it feels like sharing this here on comment section.... My father died three years ago and I'm the only child. Being a daughter it feels terrible to accept the fact that i have to leave my mother alone after marriage. Why women have to make such hard choices. The man whom I want to marry support me in everything but he fails to understand this situation of mine. I feel helpless
I agree with you completely. And when it is in a different city, it makes it more difficult.
Dear Dipika..This is not the Fact..This is just the situation which you have accepted...
Insaan single bhi reh sakta...Shadi karna jaruri nahi hai..Bahot soch samazkar karna shadi..Shadi Parents ke sath se jyada jaruri nahi hai..
@@MissPayal0112 so true but nowadays girls are taught to adjust
@@nikitafernandes461 when we are financially independent then no one can teach us to adjust...This is the basic requirement women should understand for themselves..
Same story
Great job...the girl did the best thing...tat boy was hopeless
This boy is very clever. He just try to manage both side. After marriage he is going to stop his wifes job for sure..
Every woman should awar from this type of people.
We are only three daughters of my father. I am doing mbbs right now, i have this in my mind to take care of my parents after marriage. My father has alway worked hard and focused on our education. Just like sons take care of their parents. In my religion, there is no obligation on women to take care of inlaws and there is no obligation of them living together. But if she does that , its good. It is his husband's duty to take care of his parents and wife's duty to take care of her parents. But in our culture this is thought of something as not normal.
What is the need to even ask to take care of your parents financially. This itself is a shame to ask other person just because you are a girl
No need to ask obviously but society par ehi chalte aarahey so pehle se bata dena chahiye...
Exactly.... kya husband apni wife se puch k apne parents ka khayal rkhte hain? To yha pe agr ye single girl child h to problem kya hai support krne me, iske liye kisi ki bhi permission ki jrurt nhi hai i think.
Exactly
Very well said . Their shouldn't be a question about it . This will happen . That's it . EOD
Muje toh ek larke ne bhut sunnaya jab mn boli k mom ko support karna hn financially..
did I ask for any explanation? ❤❤Loved words of mom at end
Beautiful subject n very well presented!
It's understood n should be accepted naturally n easily that the girl will b taking care of her parental home n parents after marriage too!! 🙏
Superb
Sahi samey per sahi decision 👍🏻
Well said and done. Good decision.
Congrats Mehak, for NOT having this rishta pakka
Absolutely well said dis girl nd her Mother❤️❤️❤️well played
Everything was good but everytime khana bana itna issue kyo ho jata hai its a survival skill every single person should know. Sab mil baatt k karo 😀
Apart from women empowerment, in today's life it is very important to work both the partners due to the standard of living and inflation. It is really not possible only for a man to run the whole family with so many members when it is the case for only son.
So true 💯💯
The guy should work in kitchen side by side just like the wife who works both outside and in kitchen
Really loved the video.
Why does she need his permission? 😂😂 Parents are always first priority.❤❤
Vv good !!!! 👍👍
Superb story and at the same time very nice pair of Mehak and Arjun.Such a handsome and decent actor.,👍👍👍❤️❤️❤️
Thank you!🤗
Mammas boys will never change.
Very nice mam 👏👏👏👏
This is so true. This exactly happened with me in the month of october. Guy was so demanding mere papa ke liye breakfast bana dena,ye fast karna dega ye ritual follow krna pdega kahi pe bhi he didnt mention his parents making adjustment for future daughter in law and he was completely emotionally immature. He has no house of his own, no masters degree,business is in loss and his max salary goes in paying emi's and he had the audacity to ask a girl to marry him. I am also a single girl child without dad and i ain't leaving my mother for such b***ard ever.
Excellent story lady should stand for right
This video was revolutionary
Amazing video....and concept
Very good movie. Basically, in India it is very difficult to discuss about matrimonial disputes and its complications. What I think is selection of a right life partner for marriage is very difficult task in India or may be in the world as both male and female are liars. Before marriage and after marriage both version are different. To select someone, you have 2 options 1. Either you ignore everything after marriage, 2. Or you have to speak truth about yourself each and every thing. Now if we speck 100% truth about our self then we know there are good chances of rejection so in general practice we speak lie about our self to be selected. Mere khayal se ladkine shaadi se mana karke thik hi kiya. Actually, khud keliye stand lena bahot badi baat hai, aur aisa wahi ladki kar sakti hai jo dependent ho. Otherwise aaj kal to shaadi keliye wahi ladka pasand kiya jaaa hai jiski salary handsome ho. Fir agar shaadi na bhi chali to koi baat nahi maintenance to mil hi jaayega.
So, humare samaj me aisi ladkion ki zyada zaroorat hai jo independent, jo khud ke liye stand le sake.
You are giving lot of FOOD FOR THOUGHTS to the younger generation!
Loved the video
I have the same situation. Really no one can understand. Still I'm looking for the right one for me. Thanks for sharing the video of this concept 🙏🙏
Glad you liked the video!
Earner marry the broke and decides what life path should be followed... brokes wait for others to take decision
बहुत ही दमदार निर्णय लिया
Ek aur naye soch love this video❤
Too gud keep up the gud work... 🎉🎉
Very good & necessary ending
Inspirational & energetic 🍷✨🤩