Great video! Level 3 is what I have experienced mostly in the workplace. As a k-12 teacher, I see level 3 in administrators, Principals, & other school leaders, which leads to teacher burnout. Society tends to think that teacher burnout is due to students, but that’s not the reason. Teacher burnout is sadly due to too many sociopaths working in education, in admin to be precise.
Leah....You are so right. I'm a former top ethical business owner. My industry is all smoke and mirrors. And I'm fed up being stopped by the so called "domestic abuse" useless programs who keep telling me there is nothing they can do for me to help my sister. She has been reduced to a parrot of her narc spouse that has legally stolen all her money, and much more. She is a total basket case now that her narc knows I just recently learned about narcissism. Shame on our politicians....many of whom are narcs that still allow narcs to steal huge money from their millions of unsuspecting spouses, and leave them in an impossible situation to start all over after years or even decades of legalized mental torture. These obscure videos were great when I finally them 30 years too late. Where's the mainstream news coverage about these legal demons?...Never saw one news telecast or newspaper article in over the last 30 years. People need to wake up and start realizing white collar corruption is getting mostly ignored. Society has been dummied down to the extreme. As logic proves, ignorance is bliss. Fact.
after watching your video I concluded the reason my son is narrcistic and despises me is because after 7 and half years of being my only child and having all of my attention all of the time ..I betrayed him by giving birth to his brother...by chance...not by choice..he is obsessively jealous of him to the point of meanness....one of the things he accused me of is never caring about him..which he knows isn't true.. I was the parent who has always been there for him. His father.. a narrcistic abusive alcoholic..was both physically and emotionally absent from his life.. I was the parent who hugged..kissed and told him I loved him..his father showed no affection or told him he loved him..he's spent his life attempting to get his Dad to tell him he loved and valued him to no avail..he called numerous times asking why his Dad never loved him..I tried to reassure him he did ..but some people never learn to give or accept love. My son didn't demonstrate his contempt for me until his Dad became ill and passed away...I feel since his Dads death he's transferred his anger and feelings of rejection onto me ..
@@mariankeller5852 I really sympathise with you with regards to your sons situation. But also try to look for other reasons why he could have become this way. How did you transition him into becoming someone’s big brother after being the centre of attention for almost a decade? These things can be very difficult on a child? I am a recovering narcissist. Like your son I was spoilt and I spent the first few years of my life thinking the world revolves around me. And then suddenly my mom had another child out of nowhere. I was extremely mean to my brother because I was upset that I wasn’t getting all my parents attention. I didn’t understand this and took it out on my sweet innocent baby brother. But looking back at my life (with a therapist) I realised that there are many things that happened which might have caused me to become narcissistic. For example, as soon as my mother gave birth, I was no longer a princess, I was now her assistant (my dad was also a butthole). I had to run around the house, do this do that, get yelled at if I was making noise (the baby is asleep) which wasn’t a problem before. I was no longer getting affection from either parent. They just cared that I did my homework and ate and not embarrass them in public. I had to share my birthday with my brother because he would get upset if I didn’t. So on my birthday he would get gifts too and we would have 2 birthday cakes and he would even get more attention cause he’s the baby and he’s so cute. When I told my mom I don’t want big birthday parties anymore I started to get cakes with ‘happy Valentine’s Day’ written on them because my birthday is the day after and it was too much work for her to get 2 cakes sometimes… Narcissism comes from somewhere and a lot of the time it’s the primary caregiver who causes the child to be like that. I am not saying this is the case with you but also look at some of your actions too instead of blaming the dad only. My dad is also narcissistic but I’m not as upset with him cause he wasn’t there most of the time… always working. But my mom cause A LOT of my trauma without even realising it. Always playing the victim, always guilting both me and my brother, being extremely controlling. Now both me and my brother have very messed up personalities. The only kid who isn’t a narcissist is my youngest sister who was lucky enough to get the princess treatment from birth till no because she is the last kid my parents had
Dr. Saad please continue your work. It is much appreciated. Your videos are providing a much-needed benefit for people such as myself. Please accept my warmest thanks.
@@christinebuckingham7334 .....Thanks for displaying the typical 'reply' of youboob comments. Now go 'punch in' on your time clock and be a good little soldier for your executive bosses. But hey!!!!.....ain't freedom of speech great?!.....bark like a dog suckers
@@jusayenso8186 Ohhh! Humm.. and what do we have here?.. Oh yes that's right... You're just another narcissist. Well good!! You happen to be in the right place then! Don't worry about others comments, just pay attention maybe you'll learn something. ✌️
I don't think malignant narcissist are rare at all. I dated one that really enjoyed seeing me suffer. I asked the Lord to help me get away and I did. I have since realized that I have been attracted to these psychopaths because I was raised by narcissists. Finally the this vicious cycle has been broken. I don't have to accept the toxic waste that they levy on me while simultaneously stealing my peace of mind.It is so sad to endure this and so sad to see others having to deal with People whom have chosen to lose their own Souls and then punish those who haven't.
Interesting! That was also one of my main thoughts when I saw this video, since I believe I have witnessed this. Also, I remember Richard Grannon has talked about that some narcissists can fluctuate between what is called overt (invulnerable) to covert (vulnerable) narcissism, depending on their success in gaining and/or securing supply. If I remember correctly, Grannon said that a narcissist with sufficent supply can show more overt tendencies, while the same person with a deficit in supply can show more covert tendencies. And from studying this disorder, this makes sense to me, since the supply is what drives them.
Narcissistic Recovery Healing for Empaths ya they can kind of move between these levels according to the situation and who is watching or who they are dealing with
Hi Narcissistic Recovery Healing for Empaths. I am having such a difficult time in my healing progress. There aren’t many resources where I live in Cali. It’s a deep, long, painful, story I have endured at the hands of this person. I refuse to bash or use harsh words towards him/them (its his entire family) as I cannot lower my humanity and heart purity on anyone. Can u offer any resources in my area which is near San Jose, Ca? I’d appreciate any help you may know of. Thank you
makes sense because it's PROGRESSIVE... once you've gotten to Level 3 you move between all 3... if you don't get to Level 3... you just do what you've got access to... Yes... I think this happens by the age of 6... then... overtime... through trial and error, things are learned (like having 'success' at lying about why you don't have your homework done). You 'embrace' this and then create a False Identity about your 'brilliance' because the adult (teacher) didn't call you on the lie... especially if it was so obvious ANYONE could see it -- this is a TODDLER lie... clear 'ice cream mustache', messy hands behind the back, kid saying NO NO NO I didn't eat sister's ice cream... and the adult allowing it. ADULTS SHOULD NEVER ALLOW THESE LITTLE LIES because, cute as they may be, give a child a larger sense of entitlement than their ego can handle... complicated stuff... IT'S IMPORTANT TO BE A PARENT. WE don't celebrate how hard it is to be a parent by not giving people sufficient time off in the US. Other countries do this BETTER. DONALD TRUMP... don't go there but REALLY... he's a classic textbook case of NPD comorbid Sociopathy.
be prepared to cry and to go into shock and to FEEL the pain... Watch Knowing The Narcissist RUclips Channel... simultaneously watch Sam Vaknin videos. Get a therapist. Look for FB support groups. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Narcissistic Abuse Survivors...
This is a very good description of how a person progresses through the different stages and it describes the relationship with a narcissist perfectly. Unfortunately, he started to move out of the trickster stage into the 3rd stage, which worried me terribly, and once I saw this, I ended it. It's still raw as it was fairly recent but I was not prepared to let the situation worsen. It had got to the point he seemed almost deranged and he was losing touch with reality completely and I could see this as his games worsened in nature and started to become quite intimidating and scary. I just hope he can get help and find the peace within him that he needs.
Awesome stuff. I have narcissists in my family and this is a very clear and concise description of the disorder. The emotional manipulation is the scary part to me. Using victim mentalities and such to hold people emotionally or financially hostage. These are weak minded people who need to watch videos like this to understand themselves.
I agree they need to watch these videos, but they will not. In their opinion their partner needs to be fixed. I know, because I "tried to save my marriage" to the cover narcissist and after 46 years, I am complexity burned out. Desperately trying now to save myself, my life, but I have a long way to go. Just started educating myself on the subject of narcissism. The variety of marriage counselors were completely oblivious to our dysfunctional "dance" of an empath heading for codependency with the aging narcissist, sliding occasionally into sadistic behavior while witnessing signs of my aging.
Terrific work. You are a master therapist for sure & so clear & concise in your explanations. Perhaps when you have finished your narcissist series. You would consider doing a detailed empath series also. I found one of your videos on empaths particularly helpful as you didn't sugar coat the role empaths play in their relationships to others, particularly narcissists. This is particularly useful in not wasting time in victimhood but more in what empaths can do to stop the cycle of pleasing, appeasing & saving others. Thank you again for these enlightening videos.
This explains my x to the T. She is definitely operating at level 3. Taking advantage of my kindness and then taking pleasure in inflicting pain. So glad I'm over it all now and very much more knowledgeable due to videos like these. Great work!
This is a brilliant model: simple, clear and combining categorical and dimensional features. Thank you, Dr. Saad! It is interesting that at the trickster and tyrant level, a narcissist would not come across as overtly boastful (like at the level of aggrandizer): the superiority at these levels becomes a moral superiority, a quiet confidence in one's specialness that "the lesser beings" are not able to appreciate. Wow! It's a blessing to remain a neurotic...
Have seen and experienced someone who had the first two descriptions, and showed sadistic behaviour. Smooth and subtle... Took me a long time ,and some study, to understand what was going on with this person and what my role was in this relationship. Thank you, for giving us all a specific breakdown to this illness. Looking forward to your next lesson.
He’s missing the biggy-it’s their perception of victimization and their consequent blame that drives their sense of entitlement and desire to destroy another’s boundaries.
Debbie J. Yes!!! The other day I asked my husband (nicely) to clean out a pan when he was finished with it and it quickly went to “you’re such a nag. I hate you. You’re too lazy to do it yourself. You don’t need to say anything, just take care of it. You’re such a b**ch. I want a divorce.” It was unreal. The victim complex is real. And he always calls me controlling when I hold him accountable to his responsibilities to our children, work, me, WHATEVER. Because he’s sooo thoughtless of anyone but himself. He has everyone in the world convinced I’m incredibly controlling. Unfortunately, he’s like having another toddler to care for. Including the tantrums over NOTHING.
I have no idea where the narcissist in my life lies. He was getting worse and worse (was maybe at a level 2) in recent years. The cycles of emotional abuse were more evident than grandiose sense of self. The abuse and control became more intense and the cycles were tightening. He was completely rigid to all my attempts to work with him. Once I filed for divorce, he seemed to be sorry but is still cycling through various defense mechanisms. I was the main target of his sadism. Most people think he is a nice guy
Laughing Waters My ex would explain about how unique his fingernails are, a symbol of royalty. Now I have scars where he scratched me up very intentionally during an assault.
I feel like my country is experiencing a trend of collective narcissism and gaslighting abuse... It is sad because we used to be a beacon of hope for many people.
Experts at duplicity. Will make us as miserable as they possibly can, making excuses and denying any of their chicanery, but give 500% of their time, attention and "attention/love" to everybody but us. My community thinks my ex is all that and then some, while I've become the outcast.
Thank you for making everything so clear. Please keep up. I find more inner freedom each time I watch a new video from you, especially on this subject.
Thank you for a wonderful presentation. Finally after 10 years of personal research, I understand a person from my past. Almost sure they were finally operating at level 3. The other levels had been achieved. Including lies about their past achievements, exaggerated grandiose perseptions of their self and a malignant desire to control a personal relationship. Ultimately, when in the threshold of being exposed. He took his own life. The narsasistic ultimate revenge.
I have experienced people in my life at each of those levels. I was "friends" with someone on the first level for 7 years before the final discard. On the second level is someone who is currently in my life in an important role which I unfortunately cannot get out of at the moment. I worked for someone on the third level for 6 months before I was finally able to get away. That person truly made my work life a nightmare. The descriptions in the video are spot on.
1.my very good friend 2. My brother, my nephew 3. My father Oh boy no wonder I have issues and being an empath....it’s taken along time to get some boundaries
Wow... Completely amazing.. I lovvve how very exclusive the information you provide in your videos are. This information you cannot find easily on RUclips or the whole internet. Hope your channel grows more and your amazing message reaches more audience 🎤
Thank you SO much for this information. Now I know why my mother acts the way she does. I am just now seeing everything so clearly and I'm getting the answers. Thank you !
Absolutely brilliant. a detailed spectrum list - I see each one of these categories in my workplace in the leadership with psychopath at top, then manipulator the next level down and a level 1 in training in the lead. Very cookie cutter to your explanations above. Of recent I am coming out of denial on others in my life that are level 2's.
Like Gerard Baden-Clay. Have you read People of the Lie? Peck has an excellent description of narcissistic personality disorder - he says that narcissists experience ambulant schizophrenia when under extreme pressure.
In my experience with narcissists they move form level 1 to 3 all the time depending on how threatened they feel. They can get extremely sadistic if you allow them to (for eg if nobody would find about it).
PLEASE DO A VIDEO ON WHAT YOU DON'T WANT TO DO TO ATTRACT THIS TYPE OF INDIVIDUAL INTO YOUR LIFE! I already attracted a man that's a covert narcissist. You described him to perfection in this video! Needless to say it was a horrible experience. Please do a video on how not to attract another one, please and thank you!
Thank you for your work. I hope your channel explodes and goes completely viral. I can't believe I lived thru 20yrs of this with my exwife. Looking forward to the next video.
This is tremendously useful information for people like me who are trying to figure out if I have been majorly affected my narcissistic mother. The graduation in narcissists' efforts is something the victim can decide on for themselves instead of vacillating between whether they are a victim at all or not. In order to un-due abuse it is so important to understand exactly what was wrong with how you were treated or raised and the degree with which it was propagated. Thank you! I respect you in your role as a teacher of worthy and vital information. P.S. It is also useful when you tie in morality giving people another way to see how narcissists cross the line and are often hypocritical and violate morality that we all often assume upstanding members of the community have. I look forward to your next video.
I’ve experienced this all and been down the path. First you must leave situation. Hands down. Then cry, forgive and repeat cycle, you must let out toxic venom of unworthiness you feel. Build yourself up. Work on living your life the way you want to, with love but not acceptance for any and all behaviors. Set boundaries and stick to it...
It's funny, I immediately thought, when I first read the categories; "He's perfectly describing various degrees of internet troll!" and then you, basically, confirmed it.
Wow....I survived a 3....who was teamed up with a 2. Made no sense at the time...but the information you provide is very helpful in making sense of it ALL
Wow ! I am subscribed ! What brilliant healthy healing info ! Dr. Saad I can't thank you enough. I have been with a man for 13 yrs have never understood what the problem really was. I am officially done trying to help him . I have left him ( luckily never married him and can financially take care of myself) Working on healing myself now watching your videos and getting counseling . Yippeeeee
When it comes to understand the fleshy nature of man, I give this man a thumbs up across the board. What I stay tuned for is the surprising reveal of his spiritual beliefs, which predictably will never happen. This is because it would be professional suicide to acknowledge that God is our Maker and has made us all with a conscience to begin with. What we do with that deposit has eternal consequences. Address that and I'll promote you far and wide. I do appreciate the excellent progress towards that end-point. God Bless.
I look back on the abuse - the main protagonist was at level 3 with two associates - one at level 2 and the other level 1. Working together they damaged me more than anything else I have ever experienced. Thank you for your help in my recovery!
Very interesting video, thank you. The narcissistic person I had the misfortune to know for 10 years displayed all three of these levels of narcissism. Sometimes alternating between them and sometimes showing all three almost simultaneously. The middle one, the trickster level was his main level of operating. Interestingly he referred to himself as "Tricky". This was a play on his actual name and he used Tricky as a nickname on social media. He seemed proud of being a trickster and had no regard for the feelings of others. He enjoyed causing intense embarrassment to others especially young people in public settings, such as young shop assistants. He was invariably pumped up and proud of making others feel humiliated. Hurting people was like a blood sport for him. He clearly enjoyed it immensely and would get a sadistic gleam in his eyes.
Thank you for highlighting these. I have witnessed these blend into Sociopathy, where the conscience lessens. These maladaptive behavioural personality traits tend to attach to emotionally anxious people as they themselves are emotional avoidant/detached. I see therapy for the recipient of such behaviour the only way to stop drawing these types into our lives. We then have a clear understanding of why together with a resolve to live a healthy adult life ensuring we identify and walk away from what can only be described as a toxic future.
This is fantastic! Very clear and distinct differences in the level of narcissistic behavior. Currently manage a level 1 and they are frustrating but not impossible. Just ended a friendship with a level 2. My narc father and ex are level 3. This video is very informative.
Really interesting video! My brother is a strange case in that he fits 90% of the description of grandiose narc, but goes through phases more inline with vulnerable narcissism.
My ex is #3 and he's misogynistic....no one else knows this except the string of women he left behind....broken, loss of success, and trying to regain footing. Men believe he is the best man in town to have and he is so nice and sweet that every single woman is a dud or crazy.
Sumiya 8888. Yes, their BS is bought so easily, has driven me crazy that no one bothers to question the narcs machinations or check in with me or anyone else that might know, to ask about the other side of things.
Sumiya 8888 every (male) narcissist I’ve known is a mysoginist and chauvinist. Funny, one guy who made a comment on these kinds of videos sounded like a bully himself. I looked at his profile and his videos and liked videos were all pornographic. Smh. Always look at what these people do, not what they say.
@@ohthelovelypoems they seem to be so mesmerized by them and before we realize what's happening, we have a bad reputation and we're already crazy beforehand.
I thank you for providing this information. I would also very much appreciate information for those of us who do not identify as narcissists, but are being exposed and living with these types. I would ask that you add to your very clear description a simultaneous aid to those of us who are not the Narcissist-self promoter-trickster and Tyrant. Would be so very grateful if you would please provide insight to us on "the other side" as it were of ways to effectively respond to this. There is a great deal of information describing these types, but not enough as far as I can see on how to heal and protect oneself. I ask for concrete strategies and I thank you.
Another really informative video, clarifying the different levels of development of a narcissistic personality structure. I like that, structure rather than disorder.
You are in amazing doctor the way you explain things it’s incredible I can actually tell you I know people in level 1, 2 and 3 and they were all victims of abuse as children... Now I know exactly what happened to them and how they became the narcissist that they are. You are seriously put on this earth for a purpose may God bless you.
Thank you for the video. I’ve witnessed my Narc dip into level 3 a few times for brief moments... usually when dealing with people he considered beneath him. He only showed me 1 initially, but the more he talked, the more he revealed 2 and bits of 3....
This is helpful. I can now relate as to how over time the narcs become worse n worse. In my 25 years of having been married to him and then cheated for a newer supply I can totally relate to the cv progression that took place over a period of time.I had no idea of NPD till after the divorce. Thanks for making this video and explanaing the various levels. Especially now I realize it was not me and this is a pattern with the NPD.
I experienced all these phases with my husband. Now he has transferred that same tactic onto our children especially my teenage daughter. They will stop at nothing and they don’t care who they destroy along the way.
I experienced all levels in one individual. I have not contact for years, but keep me to go to court to tell me that he has the power. What I do, it’s not to get in the game, ignore, laugh and pretend that nothing bothers me. Like I was an actor in a play representing a roll that deep down I don’t really care. That’s finally how to gane control myself over his control. That attitude infuriated him. It’s been 12 years since I left and he still pursuing me. Crazy!!!
Mr. Psychologist....I've watched over 200 videos. Read thousands of comments about victims lives turned upside down. Why is our politicians and news media doing nothing? I have yet to hear a thing about narcs on the ten o'clock news in decades. Same for newspapers. This should be an ongoing news topic every week.
It is all about one word,and it permeates society in my opinion although I seek the knowledge for research looking for my own reality. Let it be simple it too brings all of the emotional pain back like owning up to my own faulty traits does when what I have done is wrong it seems. I have to go through the pain and bear no grudge now as I freely gave my burden to my Lord and Saviour as the burden was more than I could bear. That said it is not over and I am weak to her charm as she can be so convincing with her charm. I believed blindly I was empowering my timid wife with the ability to carry on if something happened to me and care for our daughter. She made the home and I worked like gypsy on field construction jobs ,mostly outages 6 to 8 months a year. I missed too many things that only happen once in peoples lives. I would wish anyone in the search of self the better understanding to make better choices in the fewer mistakes one makes with eyes wide open and understanding we can learn what normal is. That is incumbent on everyone if this is going to happen withdraw from wicked game,find your reality and accept it if the truth is inconvienent or not. I just wish all concerned the fortitude and faith love hands out. The trust and yes peace needed in troubled times. These people who create these videos deserve all the credit for sharing their time so we can learn,and are in the act of selfless time and knowledge sharing are punished by trolls who have all the knowledge. Control: is a one word full definition these days and any ruthless weapon at hand used without remorse.
Great Video! Very educational. So much of this going on around us today. this is all stuff we need to be educated about, especially if it's going on in our politics and in our school systems exed.. so yeah.. thanks again!..
Brilliant video, so short and spot on. Yes, there is a spectrum of this disorder, and you have nailed it! I have not found this info anywhere else that is so short and to the point. Bless you sir and your work. May you have the protection of angels.
Again in this video I am getting clear, remembered, how deep seated the fear in these people is and therefore the uncapability to drop their behaviours. Seeing what levels of aggression and recklessness they are driven to, plus the absolute will ( cause of fear of showing their true self ) to succeed....it makes me fearful and sad. I think overcoming this epidemic rise of that psychologic state will take and need all sleeping ressources of humanity.
Marco D . Don't be fearful, that's just what the devil wants. Social media has its place as a useful tool for many of us to learn & help others also. I love you tube for that reason. But many, many use social media for their own self aggrandizement, to promote lies & falsehoods, even to endanger others. Maybe they are not even aware of their love of self & what they are doing. I personally do not look at or post on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter. I have accounts on two due to pressure from others, but I don't care to use them. We have to tread cautiously, but fear? No. Otherwise you end up playing their game.
Doc, I'm not sure how to spell your name, so, from now, I'm going to refer to you as Doc I listen to your videos and am able to concur with your understanding. like wow. I thank you for the time you take to help others, like myself.!!! Your information blows my mind, as its done in a way of assertively respectful. I'm an empath, but have done a lot of work on myself, long way to go still. my spouse does number 2 and 3 as does his family
Thank you so much for your helpful videos. This one in particular helped me a lot in my understanding of the different levels as I have certainly attracted so many different narcissists that understanding the spectrum helps me understand them.
I KNOW a woman who is a Director of Nurses at a nursing home who is definitely a level 3. I came up against her, before I even knew what these people are. I just knew that what she was doing was Soooooo wrong!!! When I reported her to many US authorities, she came after me like a wild cat!!!! Just about destroyed me, and most definitely helped in the cause of my dad's death!!!! And once again, so very impossible to prove. Only thing I can say now is..... With all the needless, sadistic pain and suffering/harm my dad went through.... I can only hope God will grant him a place with him in heaven. Another point. I know that I can pretty well prove almost all of nothing that what she did,.... But I do KNOW THIS... 👉GOD👈👉 SEE'S ALL, AND KNOWS ALL.👈 AND THAT SHE CAN LIE, AND HIDE ALL THAT SHE HAS DONE, AND CONTINUES TO DO.... BUT ONE DAY, SHE'LL HAVE TO ANSWER TO GOD! As for me,.... I've been crying a lot. But the big thing for me is asking the Lord for forgiveness, due to my feelings of hate twords this woman and ALL her minions or Flying Monkeys.
Hello DR Saad. A very helpful video thanks so much. I am dealing with an online relationship (speaking of social media issues). This dimensional way of thinking has been a useful approach. Warm wishes for your work and God Bless you.
Excellent video! A great need exists in this area of study. A relationship with a narc, even a short term relationship, can and does, in my case anyway, lead to long-term consequences. Interesting in this video is that my Nex progressed through all of these three stages. Also interesting is you specifically mention a résumé. My Nex, in one of his first few of 1500 emails to me, sent me his résumé, supposedly, 4 pages long. I remember whilst I read his résumé thinking...no one in 5 lifetimes could possibly have all of these degrees and work for these many companies, and have such a varied skill set. When I questioned him about this...the rage episode began! Thank you for this video!
Wow! Wish I had this knowledge when I married at 19 and again at 49 when I had another devastating but brief involvement with a narcissist, but I am saved from this again because I started praying and asking God to help me in dealing with a childhood friend who suddenly came into my life like an emotional freight train that knocked me off balance for a while! I am wise to her now and totally cut her off after demeaning me on Facebook because I no longer wanted to hear her poison assaults on everyone from her past and even her own children and grandchildren! Thank you Dr.!
Superb explanation. I would put emphasis on this sentence: "Can it get any worse?". My personal answer, after having confronted more than 10 of such attackers, is: we general public have other jobs to carry out, we are not psychologist/psychiatrists that can help these individuals; these defective people should be locked up as they waste our precious energies and time. Not to mention that they create catastrophes at work too. Thus, given to them some basic food and a shelter waiting for them to wake up to their absurd reality and seek medical help, is already way too much the world should spare on such individuals. After having told some of them the infectious disease they are affected by, I have even personally offered 2 people in private life and 2 people at work my financial help to get them cured and they did not take it!
Very well explained - all the graduation and manifestation through the psyche and also as external behaviour according to each stage and where it goes deeper on the scale
I'm so happy to see this video. I have lived with a person on all levels for 19 years. I can almost tell when one stage transformed to the next level. Thank you for helping me understand that I'm not alone and I'm not crazy.
Thank you for this. This was superb. Probably the best breakdown I have come across. It is the first thing that finally answered for me why I find people so many qualities of narcissists, but not all the qualities. It was obvious to me that there are degrees, but now the qualities of the degrees make total sense. Thanks so much. God bless you.
Okay yesterday I was actually distracting myself so that I could bear the weight of social awareness. I'll rewatch it. Higher people are making fun of my sociopath and he's acting out. You are right they are shameless.
My narcissist is very much a covert narc, but in their interpersonal relationships with their offspring, they act like the 3rd level of a grandiose narc. She has definitely enjoyed tearing me to bits and pieces through out my life, and is emboldened and recharged when she can get people to engage in that behavior by triangulating people against me. At this point, I'm only on speaking terms with my own children because they are the only family members who also are no contact with her.
Very good! Thank you :) Examples of speak from my narc consistent with #1 and #2: #1 "they really like me", and #2 "oh, they don't mind..." -- If I had a dime for every time I've heard these words--uuuggghhhh
Great video! Level 3 is what I have experienced mostly in the workplace. As a k-12 teacher, I see level 3 in administrators, Principals, & other school leaders, which leads to teacher burnout. Society tends to think that teacher burnout is due to students, but that’s not the reason. Teacher burnout is sadly due to too many sociopaths working in education, in admin to be precise.
Leah Guillory Wow, how insightful and glad you said it. The issue has been covered pretty well for a long time.
... and when a school is dysfunctional a teacher is really on their own. have a feeling nursing is similar
Leah....You are so right. I'm a former top ethical business owner. My industry is all smoke and mirrors. And I'm fed up being stopped by the so called "domestic abuse" useless programs who keep telling me there is nothing they can do for me to help my sister. She has been reduced to a parrot of her narc spouse that has legally stolen all her money, and much more. She is a total basket case now that her narc knows I just recently learned about narcissism. Shame on our politicians....many of whom are narcs that still allow narcs to steal huge money from their millions of unsuspecting spouses, and leave them in an impossible situation to start all over after years or even decades of legalized mental torture. These obscure videos were great when I finally them 30 years too late. Where's the mainstream news coverage about these legal demons?...Never saw one news telecast or newspaper article in over the last 30 years. People need to wake up and start realizing white collar corruption is getting mostly ignored. Society has been dummied down to the extreme. As logic proves, ignorance is bliss. Fact.
This makes so much sense considering how schools are now brainwashing kids into becoming fragile victims
Think I know what you mean I know one of them
Those who get discarded by the narcissist are fortunate
Yes Kathy..they do you a huge favor
after watching your video I concluded the reason my son is narrcistic and despises me is because after 7 and half years of being my only child and having all of my attention all of the time ..I betrayed him by giving birth to his brother...by chance...not by choice..he is obsessively jealous of him to the point of meanness....one of the things he accused me of is never caring about him..which he knows isn't true.. I was the parent who has always been there for him.
His father.. a narrcistic abusive alcoholic..was both physically and emotionally absent from his life.. I was the parent who hugged..kissed and told him I loved him..his father showed no affection or told him he loved him..he's spent his life attempting to get his Dad to tell him he loved and valued him to no avail..he called numerous times asking why his Dad never loved him..I tried to reassure him he did ..but some people never learn to give or accept love. My son didn't demonstrate his contempt for me until his Dad became ill and passed away...I feel since his Dads death he's transferred his anger and feelings of rejection onto me ..
Amen to this
@@mariankeller5852 I really sympathise with you with regards to your sons situation. But also try to look for other reasons why he could have become this way. How did you transition him into becoming someone’s big brother after being the centre of attention for almost a decade? These things can be very difficult on a child?
I am a recovering narcissist. Like your son I was spoilt and I spent the first few years of my life thinking the world revolves around me. And then suddenly my mom had another child out of nowhere. I was extremely mean to my brother because I was upset that I wasn’t getting all my parents attention. I didn’t understand this and took it out on my sweet innocent baby brother.
But looking back at my life (with a therapist) I realised that there are many things that happened which might have caused me to become narcissistic. For example, as soon as my mother gave birth, I was no longer a princess, I was now her assistant (my dad was also a butthole). I had to run around the house, do this do that, get yelled at if I was making noise (the baby is asleep) which wasn’t a problem before. I was no longer getting affection from either parent. They just cared that I did my homework and ate and not embarrass them in public. I had to share my birthday with my brother because he would get upset if I didn’t. So on my birthday he would get gifts too and we would have 2 birthday cakes and he would even get more attention cause he’s the baby and he’s so cute.
When I told my mom I don’t want big birthday parties anymore I started to get cakes with ‘happy Valentine’s Day’ written on them because my birthday is the day after and it was too much work for her to get 2 cakes sometimes…
Narcissism comes from somewhere and a lot of the time it’s the primary caregiver who causes the child to be like that. I am not saying this is the case with you but also look at some of your actions too instead of blaming the dad only. My dad is also narcissistic but I’m not as upset with him cause he wasn’t there most of the time… always working. But my mom cause A LOT of my trauma without even realising it. Always playing the victim, always guilting both me and my brother, being extremely controlling. Now both me and my brother have very messed up personalities. The only kid who isn’t a narcissist is my youngest sister who was lucky enough to get the princess treatment from birth till no because she is the last kid my parents had
100% true! 🙏❤
This guy explains Narcissism better than most. Love his videos.
Dr. Saad please continue your work. It is much appreciated. Your videos are providing a much-needed benefit for people such as myself. Please accept my warmest thanks.
joejamescat Your cat photo is adorable! ♡
@@christinebuckingham7334 .....Thanks for displaying the typical 'reply' of youboob comments. Now go 'punch in' on your time clock and be a good little soldier for your executive bosses. But hey!!!!.....ain't freedom of speech great?!.....bark like a dog suckers
@@jusayenso8186 Ohhh! Humm.. and what do we have here?.. Oh yes that's right... You're just another narcissist. Well good!! You happen to be in the right place then! Don't worry about others comments, just pay attention maybe you'll learn something. ✌️
naughty by nature agreed! I was thinking the same thing... jusayen so is a very pitiful person.
This explains how they get worse in time...
Also happens as they age because so much slips beyond control
precisely
Listening to many psychologists gives the greatest spectrum of knowledge.
This gentleman, HD Tudor and Dr Ramani have been the most influential to me.
I don't think malignant narcissist are rare at all. I dated one that really enjoyed seeing me suffer.
I asked the Lord to help me get away and I did. I have since realized that I have been attracted to these psychopaths because I was raised by narcissists. Finally the this vicious cycle has been broken. I don't have to accept the toxic waste that they levy on me while simultaneously stealing my peace of mind.It is so sad to endure this and so sad to see others having to deal with People whom have chosen to lose their own Souls and then punish those who haven't.
Those are the scariest ones, at that point. Dont walk, run. They will stay stuck in their reality of perfection and may show themselves later on.
Great video. Sometimes, a narcissist can be all 3 at different points. Completely malignant.
Interesting! That was also one of my main thoughts when I saw this video, since I believe I have witnessed this. Also, I remember Richard Grannon has talked about that some narcissists can fluctuate between what is called overt (invulnerable) to covert (vulnerable) narcissism, depending on their success in gaining and/or securing supply. If I remember correctly, Grannon said that a narcissist with sufficent supply can show more overt tendencies, while the same person with a deficit in supply can show more covert tendencies. And from studying this disorder, this makes sense to me, since the supply is what drives them.
Narcissistic Recovery Healing for Empaths ya they can kind of move between these levels according to the situation and who is watching or who they are dealing with
Hi Narcissistic Recovery Healing for Empaths. I am having such a difficult time in my healing progress. There aren’t many resources where I live in Cali. It’s a deep, long, painful, story I have endured at the hands of this person. I refuse to bash or use harsh words towards him/them (its his entire family) as I cannot lower my humanity and heart purity on anyone. Can u offer any resources in my area which is near San Jose, Ca? I’d appreciate any help you may know of. Thank you
makes sense because it's PROGRESSIVE... once you've gotten to Level 3 you move between all 3... if you don't get to Level 3... you just do what you've got access to...
Yes... I think this happens by the age of 6...
then... overtime... through trial and error, things are learned (like having 'success' at lying about why you don't have your homework done). You 'embrace' this and then create a False Identity about your 'brilliance' because the adult (teacher) didn't call you on the lie... especially if it was so obvious ANYONE could see it -- this is a TODDLER lie... clear 'ice cream mustache', messy hands behind the back, kid saying NO NO NO I didn't eat sister's ice cream... and the adult allowing it. ADULTS SHOULD NEVER ALLOW THESE LITTLE LIES because, cute as they may be, give a child a larger sense of entitlement than their ego can handle...
complicated stuff...
IT'S IMPORTANT TO BE A PARENT.
WE don't celebrate how hard it is to be a parent by not giving people sufficient time off in the US. Other countries do this BETTER.
DONALD TRUMP... don't go there but REALLY... he's a classic textbook case of NPD comorbid Sociopathy.
be prepared to cry and to go into shock and to FEEL the pain... Watch Knowing The Narcissist RUclips Channel... simultaneously watch Sam Vaknin videos.
Get a therapist.
Look for FB support groups.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
Narcissistic Abuse Survivors...
This is a very good description of how a person progresses through the different stages and it describes the relationship with a narcissist perfectly. Unfortunately, he started to move out of the trickster stage into the 3rd stage, which worried me terribly, and once I saw this, I ended it. It's still raw as it was fairly recent but I was not prepared to let the situation worsen. It had got to the point he seemed almost deranged and he was losing touch with reality completely and I could see this as his games worsened in nature and started to become quite intimidating and scary. I just hope he can get help and find the peace within him that he needs.
My advise when you recognize that someone is narcissist, take off and never look back.
harder if the narcissist is a parent
@@heyman2429Or an employer.
Even harder when the narcissist is potus
@@carissahowell lol
It's ironic that society seems to reward this kind of grandiose narcissism, level 2 especially.
Level 3 is probably more common than we think.
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@@shekinahfire5936 pp
You van say that again!!
The best i have seen on the internet...excellent.
Joseph O Brien agreed. This guy is a gem. He and Dr. Grande are my favorites. Very clear and concise and allows for self-reflection.
Awesome stuff. I have narcissists in my family and this is a very clear and concise description of the disorder. The emotional manipulation is the scary part to me. Using victim mentalities and such to hold people emotionally or financially hostage. These are weak minded people who need to watch videos like this to understand themselves.
I agree they need to watch these videos, but they will not. In their opinion their partner needs to be fixed. I know, because I "tried to save my marriage" to the cover narcissist and after 46 years, I am complexity burned out. Desperately trying now to save myself, my life, but I have a long way to go. Just started educating myself on the subject of narcissism. The variety of marriage counselors were completely oblivious to our dysfunctional "dance" of an empath heading for codependency with the aging narcissist, sliding occasionally into sadistic behavior while witnessing signs of my aging.
Terrific work. You are a master therapist for sure & so clear & concise in your explanations. Perhaps when you have finished your narcissist series. You would consider doing a detailed empath series also. I found one of your videos on empaths particularly helpful as you didn't sugar coat the role empaths play in their relationships to others, particularly narcissists. This is particularly useful in not wasting time in victimhood but more in what empaths can do to stop the cycle of pleasing, appeasing & saving others. Thank you again for these enlightening videos.
He has done quite a few, I found them helpful and not championing the empath.
Yes! A series on empaths. Great minds think alike..
This explains my x to the T. She is definitely operating at level 3. Taking advantage of my kindness and then taking pleasure in inflicting pain. So glad I'm over it all now and very much more knowledgeable due to videos like these. Great work!
This is a brilliant model: simple, clear and combining categorical and dimensional features. Thank you, Dr. Saad! It is interesting that at the trickster and tyrant level, a narcissist would not come across as overtly boastful (like at the level of aggrandizer): the superiority at these levels becomes a moral superiority, a quiet confidence in one's specialness that "the lesser beings" are not able to appreciate. Wow! It's a blessing to remain a neurotic...
Have seen and experienced someone who had the first two descriptions, and showed sadistic behaviour. Smooth and subtle... Took me a long time ,and some study, to understand what was going on with this person and what my role was in this relationship. Thank you, for giving us all a specific breakdown to this illness. Looking forward to your next lesson.
Good grief! I chose for relationships with these types twice. Just wow! I can see how this played into my codependency. It is like a lock and a key.
He’s missing the biggy-it’s their perception of victimization and their consequent blame that drives their sense of entitlement and desire to destroy another’s boundaries.
even tho they have the advantages
freedommascot nailed it
yes..couldn't have said it better. My husband said "You are trying to control me" to everything I would bring up to him."
@Dom Quiles its ''The childhood origins of narcissism''
Debbie J. Yes!!! The other day I asked my husband (nicely) to clean out a pan when he was finished with it and it quickly went to “you’re such a nag. I hate you. You’re too lazy to do it yourself. You don’t need to say anything, just take care of it. You’re such a b**ch. I want a divorce.” It was unreal. The victim complex is real. And he always calls me controlling when I hold him accountable to his responsibilities to our children, work, me, WHATEVER. Because he’s sooo thoughtless of anyone but himself. He has everyone in the world convinced I’m incredibly controlling. Unfortunately, he’s like having another toddler to care for. Including the tantrums over NOTHING.
I have no idea where the narcissist in my life lies. He was getting worse and worse (was maybe at a level 2) in recent years. The cycles of emotional abuse were more evident than grandiose sense of self. The abuse and control became more intense and the cycles were tightening. He was completely rigid to all my attempts to work with him. Once I filed for divorce, he seemed to be sorry but is still cycling through various defense mechanisms. I was the main target of his sadism. Most people think he is a nice guy
Laughing Waters exactly what I went through.
Laughing Waters My ex would explain about how unique his fingernails are, a symbol of royalty. Now I have scars where he scratched me up very intentionally during an assault.
I feel like my country is experiencing a trend of collective narcissism and gaslighting abuse... It is sad because we used to be a beacon of hope for many people.
Frank Mcgregor it is.
Experts at duplicity. Will make us as miserable as they possibly can, making excuses and denying any of their chicanery, but give 500% of their time, attention and "attention/love" to everybody but us. My community thinks my ex is all that and then some, while I've become the outcast.
Wow! You are exceptionally good at explaining this issue. Thank you so much 👍🏾
This was so good! You're discussing issues and phenomena which are vitally important in the world today.
Another great video, thank you for all that you do.
Thank you for making everything so clear. Please keep up. I find more inner freedom each time I watch a new video from you, especially on this subject.
Thank you for a wonderful presentation. Finally after 10 years of personal research, I understand a person from my past. Almost sure they were finally operating at level 3. The other levels had been achieved. Including lies about their past achievements, exaggerated grandiose perseptions of their self and a malignant desire to control a personal relationship. Ultimately, when in the threshold of being exposed. He took his own life. The narsasistic ultimate revenge.
Very interesting; crystal clear in your explanations.
Thank you
I have experienced people in my life at each of those levels. I was "friends" with someone on the first level for 7 years before the final discard. On the second level is someone who is currently in my life in an important role which I unfortunately cannot get out of at the moment. I worked for someone on the third level for 6 months before I was finally able to get away. That person truly made my work life a nightmare. The descriptions in the video are spot on.
1.my very good friend
2. My brother, my nephew
3. My father
Oh boy no wonder I have issues and being an empath....it’s taken along time to get some boundaries
Exact the same for me!
1. Former best friend
2. My brother
3. My father
Wow... Completely amazing.. I lovvve how very exclusive the information you provide in your videos are. This information you cannot find easily on RUclips or the whole internet. Hope your channel grows more and your amazing message reaches more audience 🎤
Thank you SO much for this information. Now I know why my mother acts the way she does. I am just now seeing everything so clearly and I'm getting the answers. Thank you !
Absolutely brilliant. a detailed spectrum list - I see each one of these categories in my workplace in the leadership with psychopath at top, then manipulator the next level down and a level 1 in training in the lead. Very cookie cutter to your explanations above. Of recent I am coming out of denial on others in my life that are level 2's.
Like Gerard Baden-Clay.
Have you read People of the Lie? Peck has an excellent description of narcissistic personality disorder - he says that narcissists experience ambulant schizophrenia when under extreme pressure.
Yes, that is an excellent book.
In my experience with narcissists they move form level 1 to 3 all the time depending on how threatened they feel. They can get extremely sadistic if you allow them to (for eg if nobody would find about it).
PLEASE DO A VIDEO ON WHAT YOU DON'T WANT TO DO TO ATTRACT THIS TYPE OF INDIVIDUAL INTO YOUR LIFE! I already attracted a man that's a covert narcissist. You described him to perfection in this video! Needless to say it was a horrible experience. Please do a video on how not to attract another one, please and thank you!
Thank you so very much 🙏for difference between these three levels🙌🔑🔑🔑
Thank you for your work. I hope your channel explodes and goes completely viral.
I can't believe I lived thru 20yrs of this with my exwife.
Looking forward to the next video.
This is tremendously useful information for people like me who are trying to figure out if I have been majorly affected my narcissistic mother. The graduation in narcissists' efforts is something the victim can decide on for themselves instead of vacillating between whether they are a victim at all or not. In order to un-due abuse it is so important to understand exactly what was wrong with how you were treated or raised and the degree with which it was propagated. Thank you! I respect you in your role as a teacher of worthy and vital information. P.S. It is also useful when you tie in morality giving people another way to see how narcissists cross the line and are often hypocritical and violate morality that we all often assume upstanding members of the community have. I look forward to your next video.
I’ve experienced this all and been down the path. First you must leave situation. Hands down. Then cry, forgive and repeat cycle, you must let out toxic venom of unworthiness you feel. Build yourself up. Work on living your life the way you want to, with love but not acceptance for any and all behaviors. Set boundaries and stick to it...
It's funny, I immediately thought, when I first read the categories; "He's perfectly describing various degrees of internet troll!" and then you, basically, confirmed it.
Wow....I survived a 3....who was teamed up with a 2. Made no sense at the time...but the information you provide is very helpful in making sense of it ALL
Wow ! I am subscribed ! What brilliant healthy healing info ! Dr. Saad I can't thank you enough. I have been with a man for 13 yrs have never understood what the problem really was. I am officially done trying to help him . I have left him ( luckily never married him and can financially take care of myself) Working on healing myself now watching your videos and getting counseling . Yippeeeee
When it comes to understand the fleshy nature of man, I give this man a thumbs up across the board. What I stay tuned for is the surprising reveal of his spiritual beliefs, which predictably will never happen. This is because it would be professional suicide to acknowledge that God is our Maker and has made us all with a conscience to begin with. What we do with that deposit has eternal consequences. Address that and I'll promote you far and wide. I do appreciate the excellent progress towards that end-point. God Bless.
This is the best description, have been looking for someone who explains especially the number one how advances in number two.Thank you
I look back on the abuse - the main protagonist was at level 3 with two associates - one at level 2 and the other level 1. Working together they damaged me more than anything else I have ever experienced. Thank you for your help in my recovery!
Very interesting video, thank you. The narcissistic person I had the misfortune to know for 10 years displayed all three of these levels of narcissism. Sometimes alternating between them and sometimes showing all three almost simultaneously. The middle one, the trickster level was his main level of operating. Interestingly he referred to himself as "Tricky". This was a play on his actual name and he used Tricky as a nickname on social media. He seemed proud of being a trickster and had no regard for the feelings of others. He enjoyed causing intense embarrassment to others especially young people in public settings, such as young shop assistants. He was invariably pumped up and proud of making others feel humiliated. Hurting people was like a blood sport for him. He clearly enjoyed it immensely and would get a sadistic gleam in his eyes.
Thank you for highlighting these. I have witnessed these blend into Sociopathy, where the conscience lessens.
These maladaptive behavioural personality traits tend to attach to emotionally anxious people as they themselves are emotional avoidant/detached.
I see therapy for the recipient of such behaviour the only way to stop drawing these types into our lives.
We then have a clear understanding of why together with a resolve to live a healthy adult life ensuring we identify and walk away from what can only be described as a toxic future.
great video very accurate account of symptoms across all three stages. Thank you
Thank u Dr blessing to u from a hurt human being who needed this. I wish u all the best. Peace n love to u all
This is fantastic! Very clear and distinct differences in the level of narcissistic behavior. Currently manage a level 1 and they are frustrating but not impossible.
Just ended a friendship with a level 2.
My narc father and ex are level 3.
This video is very informative.
like father like son eh?
I like the "hotbed for bubbling narcissistic pathologie" among other stuff of course, its enjoyable and instructing and merci beaucoup!
Thank you for your amazing work Dr. Abdul Saad
Really interesting video! My brother is a strange case in that he fits 90% of the description of grandiose narc, but goes through phases more inline with vulnerable narcissism.
Thank you for your content. Sam Vaknin has praised your work in case you were not aware!!
My ex is #3 and he's misogynistic....no one else knows this except the string of women he left behind....broken, loss of success, and trying to regain footing. Men believe he is the best man in town to have and he is so nice and sweet that every single woman is a dud or crazy.
Sumiya 8888. Yes, their BS is bought so easily, has driven me crazy that no one bothers to question the narcs machinations or check in with me or anyone else that might know, to ask about the other side of things.
Sumiya 8888 every (male) narcissist I’ve known is a mysoginist and chauvinist. Funny, one guy who made a comment on these kinds of videos sounded like a bully himself. I looked at his profile and his videos and liked videos were all pornographic. Smh. Always look at what these people do, not what they say.
Momma Bear I've seen that too.
@@mommabear5059 SMH, makes me not trust anyone. It seems as if I keep attracting these guys or they are all undercover !
@@ohthelovelypoems they seem to be so mesmerized by them and before we realize what's happening, we have a bad reputation and we're already crazy beforehand.
I thank you for providing this information. I would also very much appreciate information for those of us who do not identify as narcissists, but are being exposed and living with these types. I would ask that you add to your very clear description a simultaneous aid to those of us who are not the Narcissist-self promoter-trickster and Tyrant. Would be so very grateful if you would please provide insight to us on "the other side" as it were of ways to effectively respond to this. There is a great deal of information describing these types, but not enough as far as I can see on how to heal and protect oneself. I ask for concrete strategies and I thank you.
Very well presented thanks so much for your efforts.
Another really informative video, clarifying the different levels of development of a narcissistic personality structure. I like that, structure rather than disorder.
This is an excellent graphic of the progression of npd. Thank you for simplifying this so effectively- great work.
Thanks a lot for sharing this valuable information, now I understand better the 'Self Promoter' better.
You are in amazing doctor the way you explain things it’s incredible I can actually tell you I know people in level 1, 2 and 3 and they were all victims of abuse as children... Now I know exactly what happened to them and how they became the narcissist that they are. You are seriously put on this earth for a purpose may God bless you.
Thank you for the video. I’ve witnessed my Narc dip into level 3 a few times for brief moments... usually when dealing with people he considered beneath him. He only showed me 1 initially, but the more he talked, the more he revealed 2 and bits of 3....
This is helpful. I can now relate as to how over time the narcs become worse n worse. In my 25 years of having been married to him and then cheated for a newer supply I can totally relate to the cv progression that took place over a period of time.I had no idea of NPD till after the divorce. Thanks for making this video and explanaing the various levels. Especially now I realize it was not me and this is a pattern with the NPD.
Love your videos. Short, informative and to the point. Excellent.
Poignant ! Thank you for your excellent clinical presentation.
I experienced all these phases with my husband. Now he has transferred that same tactic onto our children especially my teenage daughter. They will stop at nothing and they don’t care who they destroy along the way.
Thank you Dr. Saad. I really appreciate your very informative video. Blessings.
I experienced all levels in one individual. I have not contact for years, but keep me to go to court to tell me that he has the power. What I do, it’s not to get in the game, ignore, laugh and pretend that nothing bothers me. Like I was an actor in a play representing a roll that deep down I don’t really care. That’s finally how to gane control myself over his control. That attitude infuriated him. It’s been 12 years since I left and he still pursuing me. Crazy!!!
biski - I'm sorry to hear that. Move to another country. Get out of his grip.
Mr. Psychologist....I've watched over 200 videos. Read thousands of comments about victims lives turned upside down. Why is our politicians and news media doing nothing? I have yet to hear a thing about narcs on the ten o'clock news in decades. Same for newspapers. This should be an ongoing news topic every week.
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It is all about one word,and it permeates society in my opinion although I seek the knowledge for research looking for my own reality. Let it be simple it too brings all of the emotional pain back like owning up to my own faulty traits does when what I have done is wrong it seems. I have to go through the pain and bear no grudge now as I freely gave my burden to my Lord and Saviour as the burden was more than I could bear. That said it is not over and I am weak to her charm as she can be so convincing with her charm. I believed blindly I was empowering my timid wife with the ability to carry on if something happened to me and care for our daughter. She made the home and I worked like gypsy on field construction jobs ,mostly outages 6 to 8 months a year. I missed too many things that only happen once in peoples lives. I would wish anyone in the search of self the better understanding to make better choices in the fewer mistakes one makes with eyes wide open and understanding we can learn what normal is. That is incumbent on everyone if this is going to happen withdraw from wicked game,find your reality and accept it if the truth is inconvienent or not. I just wish all concerned the fortitude and faith love hands out. The trust and yes peace needed in troubled times. These people who create these videos deserve all the credit for sharing their time so we can learn,and are in the act of selfless time and knowledge sharing are punished by trolls who have all the knowledge. Control: is a one word full definition these days and any ruthless weapon at hand used without remorse.
Great Video! Very educational. So much of this going on around us today. this is all stuff we need to be educated about, especially if it's going on in our politics and in our school systems exed.. so yeah.. thanks again!..
Brilliant video, so short and spot on. Yes, there is a spectrum of this disorder, and you have nailed it! I have not found this info anywhere else that is so short and to the point. Bless you sir and your work. May you have the protection of angels.
Again in this video I am getting clear, remembered, how deep seated the fear in these people is and therefore the uncapability to drop their behaviours. Seeing what levels of aggression and recklessness they are driven to, plus the absolute will ( cause of fear of showing their true self ) to succeed....it makes me fearful and sad. I think overcoming this epidemic rise of that psychologic state will take and need all sleeping ressources of humanity.
Marco D . Don't be fearful, that's just what the devil wants. Social media has its place as a useful tool for many of us to learn & help others also. I love you tube for that reason. But many, many use social media for their own self aggrandizement, to promote lies & falsehoods, even to endanger others. Maybe they are not even aware of their love of self & what they are doing. I personally do not look at or post on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter. I have accounts on two due to pressure from others, but I don't care to use them. We have to tread cautiously, but fear? No. Otherwise you end up playing their game.
Doc, I'm not sure how to spell your name, so, from now, I'm going to refer to you as Doc
I listen to your videos and am able to concur with your understanding. like wow. I thank you for the time you take to help others, like myself.!!!
Your information blows my mind, as its done in a way of assertively respectful. I'm an empath, but have done a lot of work on myself, long way to go still.
my spouse does number 2 and 3 as does his family
Thank you so much for your helpful videos. This one in particular helped me a lot in my understanding of the different levels as I have certainly attracted so many different narcissists that understanding the spectrum helps me understand them.
I KNOW a woman who is a Director of Nurses at a nursing home who is definitely a level 3.
I came up against her, before I even knew what these people are. I just knew that what she was doing was Soooooo wrong!!! When I reported her to many US authorities, she came after me like a wild cat!!!! Just about destroyed me, and most definitely helped in the cause of my dad's death!!!!
And once again, so very impossible to prove.
Only thing I can say now is..... With all the needless, sadistic pain and suffering/harm my dad went through.... I can only hope God will grant him a place with him in heaven.
Another point. I know that I can pretty well prove almost all of nothing that what she did,.... But I do KNOW THIS... 👉GOD👈👉 SEE'S ALL, AND KNOWS ALL.👈 AND THAT SHE CAN LIE, AND HIDE ALL THAT SHE HAS DONE, AND CONTINUES TO DO.... BUT ONE DAY, SHE'LL HAVE TO ANSWER TO GOD!
As for me,.... I've been crying a lot. But the big thing for me is asking the Lord for forgiveness, due to my feelings of hate twords this woman and ALL her minions or Flying Monkeys.
Love your videos. Packed with info, but short and sweet.
Thanks!!
Hello DR Saad. A very helpful video thanks so much. I am dealing with an online relationship (speaking of social media issues). This dimensional way of thinking has been a useful approach. Warm wishes for your work and God Bless you.
Excellent video! A great need exists in this area of study. A relationship with a narc, even a short term relationship, can and does, in my case anyway, lead to long-term consequences. Interesting in this video is that my Nex progressed through all of these three stages. Also interesting is you specifically mention a résumé. My Nex, in one of his first few of 1500 emails to me, sent me his résumé, supposedly, 4 pages long. I remember whilst I read his résumé thinking...no one in 5 lifetimes could possibly have all of these degrees and work for these many companies, and have such a varied skill set. When I questioned him about this...the rage episode began!
Thank you for this video!
Great video. Keep it up
Wow! Wish I had this knowledge when I married at 19 and again at 49 when I had another devastating but brief involvement with a narcissist, but I am saved from this again because I started praying and asking God to help me in dealing with a childhood friend who suddenly came into my life like an emotional freight train that knocked me off balance for a while! I am wise to her now and totally cut her off after demeaning me on Facebook because I no longer wanted to hear her poison assaults on everyone from her past and even her own children and grandchildren! Thank you Dr.!
Superb explanation. I would put emphasis on this sentence: "Can it get any worse?". My personal answer, after having confronted more than 10 of such attackers, is: we general public have other jobs to carry out, we are not psychologist/psychiatrists that can help these individuals; these defective people should be locked up as they waste our precious energies and time. Not to mention that they create catastrophes at work too. Thus, given to them some basic food and a shelter waiting for them to wake up to their absurd reality and seek medical help, is already way too much the world should spare on such individuals. After having told some of them the infectious disease they are affected by, I have even personally offered 2 people in private life and 2 people at work my financial help to get them cured and they did not take it!
Very well explained - all the graduation and manifestation through the psyche and also as external behaviour according to each stage and where it goes deeper on the scale
Again, amazing of you to share freely this vital information it has helped in ways I cannot put into words-much gratitude sir
Really enlightening, thank you. Now I know that My fear was valid since it turned out I was dealing with level 3.
Your expression of this topic is pretty fantastic.
I'm a surefire #1. Thank you, appreciate the insight.
I'm so happy to see this video. I have lived with a person on all levels for 19 years. I can almost tell when one stage transformed to the next level. Thank you for helping me understand that I'm not alone and I'm not crazy.
Thank you for this. This was superb. Probably the best breakdown I have come across.
It is the first thing that finally answered for me why I find people so many qualities of narcissists, but not all the qualities. It was obvious to me that there are degrees, but now the qualities of the degrees make total sense.
Thanks so much. God bless you.
Okay yesterday I was actually distracting myself so that I could bear the weight of social awareness. I'll rewatch it. Higher people are making fun of my sociopath and he's acting out. You are right they are shameless.
Excellent video Abdul. Very informative, helpful and fascinating- many thanks!
My narcissist is very much a covert narc, but in their interpersonal relationships with their offspring, they act like the 3rd level of a grandiose narc. She has definitely enjoyed tearing me to bits and pieces through out my life, and is emboldened and recharged when she can get people to engage in that behavior by triangulating people against me.
At this point, I'm only on speaking terms with my own children because they are the only family members who also are no contact with her.
My best friend was like this and she is a psychologist. It messed up my brain so badly. I don’t think I will ever recover.
Thank you for this distinction. This might sound silly, but Toy Story 3 illustrates this progression in the Lotso Bear character.
Abdul Saad I really appreciate the way you explain things.
Very good! Thank you :) Examples of speak from my narc consistent with #1 and #2: #1 "they really like me", and #2 "oh, they don't mind..." -- If I had a dime for every time I've heard these words--uuuggghhhh
Amazing! Thank you:)
Excellent video! Thank you so much and please continue to post your clear, concise lectures!
Thanks again Abdul.. love the way you explain this
Spot on información, very appreciated and needed.
I have met many Tyrant and Psychopathic Bully
Same here. I went to school with one and was bullied by him. If only I knew then what I know now.