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I am a 16 year old boy who grew up mostly without a father. Seeing this makes me very happy and I can’t wait to be a father. God bless you and your family.
Make sure the woman is right! Getting kids is a huge responsibility, and a lot of people aren't ready for the sacrifices that have to be made, it would be wise to share that responsibility with a woman who you KNOW is going to do right by you. Overall just don't rush it, these things come with time and wisdom.
You can tell these two really have been married for 30+ years. They tell stories together, and finish each other’s sentences. They are in tune. From a guy who’s been happily married for 52 years.
Yep only a guy who is brave and has the courage to make a good it's a multitasking position and it's not for the spoiled hearted man it is not for selfish guy. Being a good wife is not for a spoiled girl... It's a mutual admiration society.. willing to carry each other's water..!?
Wow, that’s awesome! I hope someday to be able to say the last part of your sentence. It gets harder and harder as time moves on, but I’m trying to find that woman!
@13:26 "Women weren't created to do everything a man can do, women were created to everything a man can't do" That is really powerful, thank you for that perspective.
Old fashioned man here, married to an old fashioned woman for just over 40 years, nine wonderful children. Everything you both said is true. So, you celebrated 100k subscribers just one year ago, and now I see that has grown to 880k. Congratulations! I think it is because people seek real wisdom, no games.
❤️ I'm a 25 year old girl, getting married to a man who is as described in the video. When I decided I wanted to get married, I couldn't help but look internally and think, "I need to be the woman who my ideal man would find attractive and who would want to marry me." I have a long way to go, but thinking of my ideal man lit a fire under me that made me choose to be a better person and to be more lady-like and have self-respect. A real man wants a girl who respects herself. My fiancé and I met organically, thank God, in college. We were friends for 7 years before either of us thought romantically of the other. We decided to give it a shot, 3 months later, we decided we would get married. I can't wait to be his wife, make his meals, make a comfy home, be the mother to his children. He makes me want to be a better person, I trust him with my life. He is a good man, and he says what he means and means what he says. We are very different people, but our values and morals are in line. I have so much peace in my heart in the decision to marry him that I know this is the right thing. I am clear-headed, and my future looks sunny. Sorrow will come, but I know he and I can weather storms. We have already done so separately and together. Thanks for the video.
Good luck, you'll need it. Best to have your own goals and achievements to strive for, not depends on and derive your sense of self worth from another person. Then again, some women truly are happy just being slippers. Just like some people are happy discussing horse manure and the Bible, while other go into Hegelian dialectics etc.
As a Man in his 30s that comes from a Mexican American background and grew up mostly around gangs and farm workers in Northern California. To listen to this conversation and completely agree with everything is refreshing. A Man is a Man. Regardless of cultural differences. Protector, provider and stands firm in the pursuit of whats good.
@DYNASTY E.N.T. Explain what a man is that encompasses all men. It is completely cultural. People 200 years ago had a completely different view of what a man was compared to today. This idea that men have always had a certain role to play as well as women is a form of white-washing that doesn’t hold up with reality.
@@msr1116 I'm sorry to say this but your experience with 7 or 8 Latinas can hardly stand as a stereotype for latin Men or relationships. Thats like me saying because most of the white people who live in olivehurst California are meth addicts, that means white people have a problem with drugs. I know first hand that the vast majority of true healthy latino especially Mexican homes have a beautiful marriage with the same morals as any true Christian home. Of any race. Your comment was offensive and ignorant. But I don't hold any ill will. God bless.
@@thejamnasium6447 That is an insane exaggeration. In the US alone there is over 20 million girls from ages 15 to 24. To make a statement about millions of people when you've only witnessed the behavior of thousands is extremely ignorant.
@@justinofboulder if I see someone in need of help I will usually offer, if they turn down my assistance then I bid they good luck and I go on my way. Now normally I don't get rejected for my assistance but I live in the deep southeast of Louisiana and although crazy radicalism is present here it's very much in the minority....
@@thatkajunguy8029 I learned how to change tires myself. You know why? There's a lot of crazy people out there. Women are more likely to be the victims of violence than men. Sometimes for your own safety, you need to learn to take care of things yourself.
Oh my goodness!! I’m 6 years older than my wife! I was head chef and manager of a restaurant and hired my future wife. It WAS love at first sight for me. Now, 40 years later, still love at every sight!
"Love at every sight"....!! Incredible!! I envy you dude!! thanks for reaffirming real love still exists!!..ps...you should be writing!...just saying...
Greetings from Turkey.💗 As a foreign living in a very distant geography, what the western media told us about traditional American people like you was generally conveyed as redneck, racist, bigot, belligerent, enemy of civilization and America's biggest problem. I watched a few of your videos and realized that it was mistranslated to the rest of the world, and my respect for people like you has grown even more. My view is that you are a peaceful person who is fully committed to his family and values, but you are brave and fearless individuals who will never hesitate to defend themselves against attacks on you, your family and your values like a cowboy. I guess the prejudice of the Westerners stems from your brave, strong and seated personality. Also, despite the fact that your wife has given birth to 7 children and raised them successfully, she looks very young, healthy and strong. There is a proverb in the Turks "Working iron does not rust." you and your wife are like living proof of this proverb.😄
I fully approve your comment despite I am a Hungarian living on land that your nation had occupied for more than 150 years. Crazy right? People need to invest some effort to learn about the other. Cool man!
Marriage is hard, very hard. My husband and I are coming up on 25 years married (28 together) and we’ve been through sickness, infertility (that thankfully was resolved) many job changes, moving, family issues, and so much more. Divorced has crossed our lips but we worked through it. It took looking inward at ourselves when things were bad. Love, respect, patience, forgiveness, and introspection, and communication is so important to a good marriage. He once told me that even if we divorced he’d continue to take of me (and the kids of course). He’s a good man and deep down I’ve always known it.
Wow your story is very similar to ours. We have hurt each other in many ways, thought about walking out. Still working through some resentments but decided nothing was worth throwing away 26 years.
My wife and I met on an Arizona guest ranch. I was a wrangler, she was a waitress. Our first date was Christmas Eve to midnight mass. We’ve been married 39 years, have two kids and three grandkids. Best wishes for continued health and happiness.
In old fashion tradition, when things break, we were taught to fix them. Today, when things break, we are taught to replace them. We’re seeing this pattern of behavior embed itself into how we handle our friendships and relationships. I discovered Dry Creek on accident, but boy am I glad I did. Honored to be part of the first 100k subscribers and will surely be here to celebrate the next 100k. You are wonderful Dwayne, and Mama too! Thank you both for sharing your wisdom.
@@ez-g3090 No, it was the middle class that caused our problems. Very selfish people. Regardless, pretty sure wanting your own bank account is not what's causing our problems.
Recently my ex left me because our relationship was no longer desirable. I wanted to patch it up and she switched me with another guy. You’re not wrong with the assessment that the replacement mentality is all too common now.
I am a 33 years old syrian, who migrated to Europe at a young age because of war. After being away from my family for very long time, watching all your videos and especially this one, I feel I still belong. Family is the source of the society and you people are a wonderful example to look up to.
You are great couple !God bless you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🥹I wish you all the best it’s such a outstanding work that you’ve done to keep your family and have a seven children . You gave me a hope that there’s still might be a normal , traditional man out there for me have a family with thank you so much for your beautiful videos ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
As someone who's 26, this is a far cry from how young people meet anymore. Not even by choice, dating apps and social media just has such a stranglehold over dating now.
@@mrchihuahuaboy4306 not behind a phone screen, that’s for sure. You have to go outside, go to places, be engaged in the activity in the place you’re at, and go from there. You decide that. Your life is yours and only yours to live.
@@mrchihuahuaboy4306 So, when I was young I dated a girl who straight up could not read. The next girl I dated was not interested in history, truth, or anything deeper than whatever was happening in the pop culture. I determined then and there that I would only meet women at bookstores, libraries, or other vetted spaces. I would then subtly test them to see what they were about. I have been married for close to 20 years to a beautiful, intelligent, and stimulating woman. We met in the Army. The first date we had was to sit together and read old Chinese poetry. She was all about it. I invited her to play pool at a bar and she was just as comfortable. I wasn't wasting time trying to meet someone and then see if we had things in common. All that to say this, get out into the real world and enjoy the things you enjoy. When you have the chance to meet someone there, take it.
I am a stay at home Momma of a 9 month old and a wife to a husband with a heart of gold and hard working hands- he works his tail off for me to stay home with our babe and eventually homeschool - I’m eternally grateful to him. Our values reflect yours identically. The traditional life is a dying concept and stumbling across your page, especially this video, has revived my faith in knowing there are others out there like us! Something about this chat just calmed my soul in this chaotic world. Thank you🙏🏼
You're a lucky man. I am a 35 year old guy who thought he had found such a keeper himself three times already, and whenever times got a little tougher those women hit the road. I can't even find words to describe the pain these situations caused, especially in one case where said woman left me just because I experienced a period of grief: Some time ago I had to bury somebody really dear to me and naturally that threw me off the rails for a couple of months. Now picture spending half a decade with a woman you think is different to those thousands of shallow girls lacking commitment and dedication just to see her leave when you needed her the most. All just because to her, the grass she was on had a bunch of brown blades - so better go see if the grass might be greener elsewhere, right? Sometimes I think that my generation is the first generation that lost sight of what truly matters in life: Sticking with the ones you claim to love. I envy people like you two, you strike me as the type of folks who make it work because you truly want to. And I respect you for that, cause that trait makes great people. Thanks for all you shared on here & blessings to you!
@@ShinyFlakesShinyFlakes I’m 68 years old. I think that we were heading in this direction before the internet was a thing. The internet just sped it up IMO. Anything can be used for good or evil. A knife can save a life or take a life.
Women don't leave out of the blue just because times get tough for a little, that was already in her heart to do so but she wasn't sure. As time went on, she felt more and more that she wanted to leave, and unfortunately that time landed around the time your loved one passed. She left during that because she didn't want to deepen your connection and break your heart even longer by waiting until you felt a little better. It's better to tear the bandaid off quick. Think about it, would it have been better if she waited to break up with you? Of course, I could be wrong, as I don't know her lol not saying I'm right either though
Hit the nail on the head. Loneliness will be one of the biggest causes of death because of how we are treating each other and leaving families and not having babies. These generations are just soft, weak and little pussies. Next twenty years are gonna be a rollercoaster.
I can't still believe, how young and beautiful your wife looks like having raised 7 children. I'm 26 with no girlfriend, I stumbled upon your channel by chance. Maybe, someday, I will experience the blessing of meeting such a cooperative partner. Thank you for the wisdom and knowledge.
My jaw dropped. She is stunning. That jawline! 7 kids and she looks like that. As a 45-year-old woman, my hat is off to her. Just goes to show that being married to the right person and being happy keeps you young.
There are far better pursuits to spend your time, money and energy on my man. These olden day forever marriages are a thing of the past. The women of today are not his wife, your mother or your grandmother. They have been lied to, mislead, distorted and corrupted beyond marriage material. The values, morals, principles and scruples of yesteryear and the sanctity of marriage are dissolved unfortunately. Marriage is a joke these days and you a target in the sights of modern feemales my friend. They're out for blood and playing for keeps now.
As a 36 year old man who's been single most of his life, let me tell you: There is 100% a loving partner out there who is made for you. But as a man, you have to go get her. For the longest time I thought I would never find me a girl worth keeping. I'd had many relationships with wonderful women but I never once, truly, fell in love with any of them. After being single the last 6 years and getting to know myself better, I developed a confidence in the man I am. There's many things I don't like about myself, but I worked at finding peace and comfort in my own skin. That gave me the confidence to message a girl I've always admired. A girl who wasn't just attractive, she also made me laugh and she was so easy to be around. I told her that I truly believe I'm the man that is destined for her. She responded in disbelief. The entire time we'd known each other, she'd always thought of me too. From that moment on, we've never once found ourselves being anything but our truest, most genuine selves around each other. It is passionate love in its truest form. Gents, never underestimate the power of boldly and confidently telling a woman that you have passionate, loving feelings for them. You must be a gentleman about it, but still, say it boldly and say it with confidence. She's out there.
@@hankhill3417 Being a lady does by no way mean you don't get a voice, a woman is entitled to any opinion or contribution she may have on a conflict or idea particularly in a relationship. In which case find who is best at what, finances, work or raising kids and communicate which action is best if a woman in a relationship is better at say raising the kids yet is too agreeable then the decision by the man may not be the optimal one. Personally I would suggest being kind and communicative to a your spouse and recognise their strengths and show them yours I hope I don't come off as rude, i have no intention to be, please have a wonderful day :)
I am a 32 year old man, married for 12 years, we have 7 children, I just know that listening too these old timers, is always an inspiration, because they have already it all, so it’s just so encouraging. Thank you for your teaching, it makes me miss my grandpa😊
These two are the epitome of the traditional parents and Grandparents full of experience and life wisdom who freely share them with those who will listen and learn. I’m 68 years old and these two fill my heart with joy. God bless them both and their family.
I'm seeing this one year later and you already have 8 TIMES more subscribers!!! Your channel has obviously exploded, which means there's a great hunger for this kind of content. Congrats, and thanks for all you do.
I'm not a wrangler, just a broken down, ol' mountain man, living in a rural area in the Western Cascades. I try as much as possible to live in the old ways of the West, where I was born and raised. At nearly 70, I still tend my one acre, garden, hunt, fish, and cut my own wood to feed my 'iron monster' in the fall, winter, and early spring. I appreciate the good old fashioned common sense that I have heard on your channel, so I decided to become a subscriber. As far as men and women goes, I have had much younger women describe me as a " man's man", but I prefer the bachelor's life, to marriage. Tried it, and widowed.
Wise man. You are comfortable with yourself, that means you're good company so no one else required.👍🏻 Women only complicate and distort a free spirited man's life in my experience.
You have my respect sir. I'm a city boy born and raised but I'm working to earn some old fashioned self-sufficiency. It was years before I ever even chopped firewood, but when I did I realized I was missing a very important skill and outlook on life.
As a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in couples counseling, I agree with you 💯. Respect is the foundation of love for another, and you both modeled that in this video. Thank you for showing how it's done. God bless you.
Ever since I was pregnant with our first son my husband has called me "mom" or "mama" and I've called him "dad" or "daddy" and we still call each other that 21 years later. Although we still use our names from time to time, too.
Feminism was heavily supported by Rockefellers, why ? Because they couldnt tax women when they stayed home. Also it meant that children were now raised by the Government, and more workforce means more competition so thats better for corporations. The most important thing is to raise your children because thats the society of tomorrow. Control children (singers and actors also play a part as false idols to children and society), control society. I dont really want to get into it but just quick, we are ruled by the occult and the occult worships God as a woman like in the Roman-Catholic church which is behind the NWO (to be precise the female part of the devil. Lucifer can be male, female or both - Trans worship (Ying/Yang, male/female combined into one)) If interested because I dont want to write pages here look up Spencer Smith and the 3 part series "The Third Adam" or at least the 3rd part "Rise of the divine feminine" and it will explain alot. watch?v=_f8fotz5GUo God bless.
I have been married for 33 years and raised a boy and a girl with my loving wife. It is the most important job in my book. I did not want my kids in daycare and I was able to provide enough money so we did not have to. The tough part for me though was when they grew up and left the home.
A good man, good husband and father will appreciate a traditional good mother. They understand that without a great woman, a house can't be called a home.
I see the key to a successful marriage is two people who will work to make that marriage work and NOT keep divorce in the back of their mind. Divorce has gotten so common and easy today. My wife and I have been married for 52 years. We work together to make the marriage work. Nothing said here goes against that. My father died when I was 13, so I did not see a lot of what a father should be. But I did have a grandfather along with a grandmother and my mother as role models. Keep in mind why you get married and why you got married and work for that.
The way she looks at you when you speak is a look of respect and admiration and you can see she's actually interested in your opinions. In my view, that's such an important indicator of a good woman, and a very rare quality these days. You found yourself a gooden. Many blessings to you two and yours.
I have to agree, It has to be difficult to not follow and admire a man like him. He seems to have true leadership, he doesn’t try hard like many men do nowadays. It comes easily!
I think it's a reflection of a good man. Woman don't just just respect and admire men who have not earned it. So many men these days are entitled, or are not experienced enough or grown up enough yet, and are looking for validation from a woman only his mother should have given him when he was a child.
''We've been closer to divorce than anybody around us knows or will ever know but it's like you wake up the next morning and you're like no we're not quitting we're going to sit down and hammer this out and we're going to put in the work and we'll do what needs to be done and what you have to do is. I have to look at myself and say what am i contributing to this conflict that i can change, not what is she doing to make this marriage hard. I can't change her, stop trying to change your spouse. Change yourself. And a lot of times, eventually your spouse will see the change that you're making and maybe they'll meet you halfway and try to change themselves. But too many times trying to fix a marriage that's on the rocks is us trying to fix what we see in our spouse that's causing the trouble. Well it's a two-way street.'' Gold sir!
My husband and I were married when I was 70 and he was 76. We had a few glitches but when I determined to accept the way HE showed love, and stopped judging the marriage by the lack of what seemed like the ideal Husband should be, it became wonderful .And what was great, he in turn started more what I liked. Has he couldn't drive and had to slow down somewhat, I always tried to make him feel needed and wanted. He was a real man, in my eyes, and I emphasized that as much as I could. He just passed over a few months ago and I miss him so much!
I'm so sorry for your loss. I know you miss him so much, but remember those great times together. I was divorced at 29 & have never met the right person, but I raised my son & was happy. I'm 58 now & still alone. I have excepted the way it is & I'm happy & content with my fur babies. So I'm not really alone , I have my pets. God bless you, always.
My wife and I married at 21 and were 36 now with 4 kids. My wife stays home with the kids and homeschools. We strive to hold on to the same principles and values you guys do. Thank you for your content. You’re an inspiration to many. Much needed in today’s world.
"Stop tryin to change your spouse, change yourself." - Some true pearls of wisdom found in this beautiful couple. Thank you for all that you do, both of you. HalleluYAH
This channel is golden. If you’re intentions are too help young people, you are spot on. I’ve been married for 30 years too, and as a veteran, I’ve put my wife through hell moving her all over the country and disappearing for many months at a time. I met her at work and it was love at first site. She didn’t take crap and stood on her own. Like riding a green horse, we’ve both changed to become a team. You’re words are true, if you can’t respect each other, you’re not worth a hill of beans.
Everything should be a means to support our number 1 job which is our offspring. They owe us nothing. And we owe them every fighting chance we can give ‘em. I have a father who will give me very little monetary inheritance when he goes. He decided to give me a different kind of inheritance while he is living.
When I clicked on your notification and saw you both sitting there together, I thought this lady was someone other than Mama, and the real Mama was where she she normally was, behind the camera. And she is not only a lovely lady, but you’re right, Duane, she sure does look young enough to be your daughter.
If at any point you loved each other enough to get married, then you have the capacity to love each other enough to stay married. My wife and I have had our ups and downs, but never once has the thought of divorce crossed my mind. There have been days when I just couldn’t stand her because of something she did, but more often than not that is the fault in my own character, not hers. It’s something I need to fix, and our arguments are things we need to fix together. And we do; every single time. Marriage is a perfect union, even if the people are imperfect.
Exactly, a man is a man, and a woman is a woman. I love being a woman, I am secure in that, and I am very self-reliant I can survive, but I love having a real man in my life, someone to talk with and share thoughts and listen. To have the love and the passion and trusted friendship. We have laughter and nearing our 30th years together we always find the laughter. My husband keeps me grounded and I show him adventure. It's all good.
Fellas We must listen close to what he said starting at 07:17 “This is a girl who can hang” “This is a girl that could keep up with me” This type of women is what we need. She’s strong, faithful, respectful, beautiful, charming, and you can tell she absolutely loves this guy. Yeah I’m sure they’ve had tough times but the amount of ‘trust’ she displayed on the first date with him is all a man needs to make a crucial executive decision ‘She’s the one’ And ladies listen to what she said at 09:04 “He has the qualities that I NEEDED” -that’s the sauce, this dude wasn’t rich, wasn’t the tallest man on earth but she adored his energy and cherished his energy thus that was her specific missing puzzle piece Dude I am a loyal subscriber now. I can learn a lot from you my internet mentor 🙏🏾 -central FL
Marriage isn't 50/50 it's 100/100. Great video and hope to see more of momma. Looking forward to hearing more about your stories. Thanks for what you guys do.
At 72 it is hard to believe I have never heard it put like that and I KNOW that you are 100% right. I see no way a marriage could fail if a couple love each other enough to marry and both put 100% in to it.
My husband and I also discussed how we saw a marriage relationship, how we each saw our roles and goals. What our ideas were as far as money and budgets. Most importantly, how we saw our roles, responsibilities and disciplining as parents. 31 years later, ups and downs, still 100 percent committed. It brings a tear to my eye at all the folks gathered "around your fire". I am seeing a huge shift in just the last year. I feel such Hope for our collective futures. Thank you for your contributions❣️
I’m a grown man, but had to stop at 2:20 to have a cry. That intro with you both was so genuine, the look on her face during those compliments could melt any cold heart. Sending much love from the farm in upstate New York. ❤️🇺🇸
I have always said if a hubby just gave a wife a pat on the head everyday, small or large, notice a new hairdo, good dinner, notices a new blouse she will shine and pay back ten foil. Hubby and I were best friends and married for 65 years and he wouldn't pass until we had our 65th. Ann., then he passed 3 years ago and my life has changed without my love and best friend.
"...communication, you should be friends, you should like each other, not just love each other..." This is absolute truth. You absolutely nailed the roadmap to a long term, quality relationship. "Stop trying to change your spouse, change yourself." Again, so much truth in coming from this conversation. Amazing to hear a couple speaking about deep morals and values.
Was thinking about what he said (paraphrasing) "he was all the man that he needed, he needed a woman and not a man". Myself personally, at 38, I've only just started working on being more disciplined, getting more self-esteem and feeling more secure. One thing that attracted me to my wife was her independence. She grew up on a ranch in Mexico, and she's been able to step up and get stuff done that I wasn't willing to do myself. We've been together 13 years now, married for 9 of them and we have 2 kids. It occurs to me that for whatever reason, there's lots of men like myself, who've been or are weak-minded for whatever reason, and a woman who's more independent or masculine in this way can complement them and make for a good couple.
This by far was one of the most beautiful COUPLE advice... . Hearing you both speak on your masculinity and femininity is so grounding and feels safe in knowing that in each gender there is strength and beauty; and from that can blossom mutual respect. I love the "we completed each other" line. God bless you both.
Just got married in May to a woman 6 yrs older than me, I'm 30, almost 31. She's the most amazing, beautiful, and responsible woman I've ever met. We've already had a few tiffs, but like you guys we made a vow to never get divorced, and we work thru stuff as they come. We're both Christians, and I highly recommend trusting in Jesus. He's made a huge impact on both our lives for the better and changed them in so many incredible ways. :)
Congrats man! My girlfriend is 7 years older. I never found a life partner from any of the younger women I dated. We find balance and stability in each other where neither of us found in anyone else before.
Better off not getting married if she truly wants to be with you she would be there with out the official marriage ,,,keep the state and the divorce cooperation out of your life
@@jj-eo7bj This doesn't work for christians, you're not wrong about the risks of being married, but Christians respect God more than the state. Additionally common law marriage undermines your point in many places.
Hey buddy, my fiance is 6 years older than me. I am 29. I truly believe that God sent her to me as an angel. I am so blessed and I also want to say CONGRATULATIONS to you two. Wishing y'all happiness and strength.
Probably one of the greatest talks on gender roles. I also like the conversation on the reality of marriage. This was a treat for us all. Thank you guys so much for taking the time to do this video
“It’s a journey. And you’ll never get to the end of the journey, if you quit the journey when the journey gets hard.” Good stuff. Thank you both for sharing your wisdom.
The lack of what this couple has, is why this country is in the shape it is. They are a breath of fresh air. A much needed breath of fresh air. Bless you forever.
I’m a 27 year old man. It feels so good hearing y’all talk and knowing there’s some levelheadedness and wisdom in this upside down world. Y’all’s page is a good and comfortable place for me where I learn a lot and I really appreciate y’all. 👏🏽
@@Doingmybest700 maybe, i do dislike how dating apps are but i don't think there's anything wrong with having sex with multiple partners before you settle down
@@bobbirdsong6825There is, because it can prevent pair bonding. If you're having loads if meanless sex with people you don't care about, you're gonna struggle to feel satisfied with just one person's attention.
@@WillHoward2002 I disagree. Most people aren't having orgies with 12 people at the same time, they just have sex with a few people over a long period of time. According to the anthropologists, that's how we did it for most of human's existence
@@dante1109 36. It's full time but enjoyable. By the time the 4th or 5th comes along the older ones help out so really can't have them fast enough to be overwhelmed. Past couple of years food cost has really increased and that is definitely noticable.
lLove how you talked it out prior to getting married. I wanted to be a wife & mother as well. There was so much pressure from outside forces for me to want to get a job. I felt blessed to be able to enjoy every second of my childrens' childhood. Even then, there were still family members that wanted me to get a 'real' job when I was already doing a job that would mean more to me than anything else I had done in my life. When my children were almost grown, my father became sick with dementia. I had the priviledge of caring for my Dad for 6 yrs. We lived together for 9 yrs. Family members who had not seen my Dad in years were quick to offer their opinion noting that I should get a 'real' job and my Dad should be put in an 'oldfolks' home. I have made many mistakes in my life, but caring for my children & my father are decisions I am proud of & choices I very much wanted to make. I have never doubted my decisions in this regard. I have often felt isolated & minimized for making these choices. I am so happy to see a woman who wanted what I wanted, & still want.
I did the same for my father after receiving a phone talking to my parents and my Dad telling me that he had congestive heart Failure. I told my parents to move back to Hawaii , and I would have them live with me , built a full on addition to my home at the time. So they had a nice comfortable place. I looked after them until they both passed away 7--8 years ago. And I was the Black sheep of the family and I was the one that ended up taking care of Mom & Dad. But I was lucky they were both good loving parents. I miss them both greatly.
My boyfriend (who is absolutely my life partner) and I speak about roles, this day and age, and our future often, and it always breaks my heart how people treat women, mothers, and wives - especially those who stay at home. I don’t yearn to be an 80 hour a week lawyer or surgeon or CEO (like I used to tell myself I HAD to be). I want to be a mommy and a wife and a homemaker. I take it damn seriously and want to give my 100% focus and attention to my role. It comes very very naturally to me and suits me well and there is zero shame in that. I also work in womens health - I’m a personal trainer and pre/post natal trainer, it is vital the way we treat mamas, babies, and women without shame and doubt for whatever their choices are. Anyway that’s my two scents. Loved this video!
Stay-at-home Momma myself! I had a hard time letting go of the idea of worldly accomplishments at first, even though raising children was something I wanted dearly. I met a wonderful man who was willing to provide the opportunity for me to be home with our kids, so I dropped the fantasy of "making an impact" on the world at large and have since discovered the joy in *being the world* to my family. It certainly is not the ideal that we have been sold, but being here myself, I personally think this IS the ideal for most women - they are just being shamed out of their deepest desires.
All those jobs..let me say they are horsepucky. Here is the thing with Doctor. You will take care of as many evil as good people. You might save a persons life who then goes on to molest 3 kids. Save a lawyer who bankrupts your town. Its all just a job. The money is good but it takes 10 years to pay the stupid loans. Take children though. Their entire life is in YOUR hands. You can have all the power to know down deep you supported them until they became good prosperous people. YOU did that. It could have been some other mother and the children were terrible and immoral but it was YOU so your efforts were never wasted. You might feel even as a Doctor or Nurse some form of meaninglessness. People will never listen to you, always get fatter and more unhealthy, just beg for drugs. With children its ALL soul, its all hopefully a big reward that pays you off later. Like when they are taking care of you in your old age. I think mother is the best job you can do as long as father is not an idiot and supports you to the fullest. I think doctor is very overrated but I mean I dunno CEO/Senator might be worth being childless for the millions of bucks but you'll never know that you'll be one unless you know you're in that Elite of Society Lane. Also it helps having kids when you run for Senate because it makes you look more normal and trustworthy so. Go off Queen :D
Although I understand it might not always come across that way, feminism at its core is about not pressuring women or men to conform to anyone else's idea of what a woman or man should be. If you feel being a homemaker is your calling, then you should be allowed to do that without anyone (alleged feminist or otherwise) telling you it's wrong. Just like the woman who would rather work and not have children should be allowed to do that.
@@woutertron Which wave are you referring to exactly? This potential fourth wave we are seeing? Feminism has really never been about redefining "man" or "woman". It started as an equal rights movement that lost it's way during the sexual revolution and has since devolved into a flat, self-righteous and self-aggrandizing hedonistic ideology of screeching harpies.
A good marriage is much like two work horses hitched together. Pulling together, in the same direction, helping each other to achieve a shared goal. This has been my experience for 42 years now. I appreciate your conversation here.
My ex wife was raised to believe that I'm the work horse or rather the actual plow. And didn't have to do anything. 25 years wasted. I tried to make what your talking about happen, but she wouldn't. I should have left a long time ago, but I made a vow. She left for a guy half our age and left me to raise the children. Thank you feminists. Thanks alot.
My wife and I have been married 35 years this March. We dated for 5 years before we got married, so we've been together for quite awhile! Marriage is a partnership. It takes common values, first and foremost. Communication is the main skill to master that will allow you to go through life together and learn as you go. You figure it out together. There is mutual respect and honor for each others experience. Over time both of us developed solid emotional intelligence which allowed us to make it for decades. Save the drama for the stage. We keep it polite and use our manners everyday. We are kind and loving. Marriage is fantastic with the right person!
We just celebrated our 37th wedding anniversary. I love being the woman, Mommy and wife. He holds the door for me, compliments me, my sons hold the door (always have and do so for all women & elderly). I appreciate my hubby and sons helping Mom lift, carry and move things. They spoil me. I am a head strong, educated woman and was the family disciplinarian. Now we are grandparents and our roles are still the same. I’m still a Grizzly Bear when it comes to my cubs but a teddy bear otherwise.
My husband and I recently celebrated 34 years of marriage. You both are correct, it's a marathon - not a sprint! We've stayed together through thick and thin because we love each other and we took a vow. Plus, we're just too darn stubborn!
Been married 41 years with of course ups and downs. The one thing all need to know is to treat your loved ones with extra kindness and to go the extra mile for them and you’ll be rewarded 10 fold.
My mom (1942) are dad (1927) were 15 years apart. It was the best thing for me, learning from two different generations. I thank God everyday for this blessing.
It's so refreshing to hear common sense in a time of uncommon sense. Thanks for sharing the campfire - maybe that's a new venture? Have people out to talk philosophy an mentor the young. With every positive story, it's just as insightful to share the events that taught the tough lessons. I am really happy I found DCWS.
Being in my mid-20's, it is refreshing to hear your story. I have thoroughly enjoyed this channel for some time, and I thank the both of you for all you have taught me, even if it is just a reminder. A lot you have shared is similar to what my Dad has taught me. I think a lot of people also rush into relationships (long term) without knowing what they are looking for.
So true. Makes you think about how so many young people have never even seen a long lasting marriage like this. It's a sad thing to look around and see the majority of teens/early 20s are interested in nothing but casual sex and wouldn't even know how to find a long lasting relationship.
@@MrFredstt wow that's some very one dimensional young ppl you've encountered. I personally think it's a lot on which circle or bubble you are in and there are plenty of young people that do no think like that about dating. R u from a big city? I imagine it gets hard there
‘Just wanted to drop this thought. I’m 64, & find your content very uplifting. Many of our young folks need your advice &knowledge. They need to understand that life isn’t a rut to stay in. When the trail gets too deep, climb to higher ground. Always look for the life that keeps you on the bubble. If one isn’t level, life will always be a struggle. Congratulations to you & Momma for making it through the hard times. Though my days of youth are past, I find that my degree of happiness is in my own hands. In my younger days, we raised Quarter Horses & Appaloosas. The lifestyle was so good, & the stress reliever wasn’t picked up at the local pharmacy, it was called horseback riding.. Keep bringing the words of wisdom to the world. Though I can’t go out, saddle up & ride now, I find comfort in watching your channel. I get my coffee & a good cigar, only to take a a ride & never leave the farm. Bottom line is; We have very similar mindsets. Your delivery calms me, to affirm that helping others may be one of the most important thing we can do in life. Many thanks, Dan
My wife and I have been together for 13 years. She had a rough upbringing and me in the Navy Seabees, I had my way of things. Watching this video is like my wife and I. The Navy Chaplin said even if your mad with each other, always sleep in the same bed. When we get up in the morning we say I Love You and we'll talk later. It has helped us immensely. Great Video!
This couple is somewhat rare these days, and they approached their marriage with great maturity and level-headedness. One of the important ones was clarifying each other's roles before marriage, including assessing each other's gifts and talents as well as discussing child rearing. Again, all of it BEFORE marriage. If more couples worked out their differences, roles and expectations before getting married, there would likely not have been as many divorces as we've seen here in the U.S. Marriage is not a 50/50 proposal, but one that is 100/100. It requires all of the person, and it is servant in nature too. Thus, when both persons love, serve and are committed to each other, their marriage will be a glorious one. Granted, there will still be problems at times, differences, and arguments, but the likelihood of divorce is minimal at best. And yet it's astonishing how in probably the most important decision couples will ever make - namely, marriage - there is little preparation, discussion, and planning among most couples as to their roles, expectations, and of first ironing out any religious, political, and philosophical differences before walking down the aisle.
This is nice to hear. My wife and I homeschool, have done home births, and she stays home and manages everything. Many people don't understand why we do things that way and it's great to hear your story and see the success you've had. Very encouraging in a world that thinks traditional roles and values are so absurd.
I know I'm late to the comments, but I wanted to thank both of you for this video. Coming from a family where my mother was abusive and my parents had a disastrous marriage, it's a comfort to see a couple this committed, that has traditional values, and where the woman actually wanted to be a mother and love her children from the get go. It gives me hope that maybe not everything is lost and there are still good people out there.
I grew up the same way as you. It took me a while to recover my femininity because my mother made me think it was an awful thing to be a wife & mother. What a shame and how wrong she was. With God's help I've (mostly) healed and I'm a wife & mother now with a great life and a family where I belong and have support. I pray that you find healing ❤ and find that special someone to build your family with ❤
I met my wife of all ways through the groveling and begging of a girl I worked with to go out with her friend on a blind date. It took 5 months of her doing so before I agreed. She was what I needed. A sweet, kind, caring, loving woman. Something I didn't think existed anymore. It hardly does. She's not just that. She's now a wonderful mother, one of the best problem solvers I know, and my very best friend on earth. It has not always been easy, but we worked through all of our issues and got stronger because of it.
The more I listen to you, the more I feel I'm getting to know you personally. You connect to people on a personal level that is unmatched. There is so much material on the internet, and I don't know of many that does that for a person. You guys are like a well trimmed fruit tree, all the junk removed, what you see is what you get, and what you get is a sincere, honest, straight talking person, purified by fire. I see the light in you, it is there, unquenchable, unmistakable, true.
What an inspiration are for our current society. I am a Catholic priest and I use many of your videos to speak especially with young men. Also, I really enjoy your comments about the cigars you smoke. This video is particularly good to use for marriage preparation. Keep up the good work on sharing your wisdom and experiences with others. Blessings.
It’s was so nice to see you guys today. And am so happy for you. My husband and I were married for 31 years. He passed 2 years ago, this year. We were best friends. It got us through difficult times. He really was a amazing man. He taught me so much. A kid at heart. Everyday I thank God that He gave me Dan. And now when I think of him. I see him fishing with his dad and brother in heaven. Given each other crap - big smiles on their faces. It fills my heart with happiness for him.
Just stumbled on your vids. Watched like 5 in a row before was spending too much time on device. Thank you so very much for this. Too many of us fatherless men have yearned for this kind of lessons and spoken so well and clear. Again very thankful for what your doing.
Thank you both for your wisdom! ❤ I dated other women for 10 years but now I've found a man, a real man. He's a farmer, and a gentleman. And I've found my place in feeling feminine again and it's a really nice new dynamic. 😊 34 and I'm ready for my lifetime of growing alongside someone.
I am a 16 year old boy who grew up mostly without a father. Seeing this makes me very happy and I can’t wait to be a father. God bless you and your family.
Please wait until the time is right.
Make sure the woman is right! Getting kids is a huge responsibility, and a lot of people aren't ready for the sacrifices that have to be made, it would be wise to share that responsibility with a woman who you KNOW is going to do right by you. Overall just don't rush it, these things come with time and wisdom.
Take time and grow into being good at being a man and being a good man. Your wife and children REQUIRE that from you.
You'll never be a father because you are unlovable
You’re a young man.
He calls her "Momma" as a sign of respect. That's a real man right there.
“ stop trying to change your spouse , change your self “ powerful
You can tell these two really have been married for 30+ years. They tell stories together, and finish each other’s sentences. They are in tune.
From a guy who’s been happily married for 52 years.
Yep only a guy who is brave and has the courage to make a good it's a multitasking position and it's not for the spoiled hearted man it is not for selfish guy. Being a good wife is not for a spoiled girl... It's a mutual admiration society.. willing to carry each other's water..!?
Wow, that’s awesome! I hope someday to be able to say the last part of your sentence. It gets harder and harder as time moves on, but I’m trying to find that woman!
Weird nickname for someone "who's been happily married for 52 years"
@@earthrider23 - Interesting. Exactly which part is weird to you?
@@dejavu666wampas9 The number of the beast, and the name of a weird "animal"
@13:26 "Women weren't created to do everything a man can do, women were created to everything a man can't do" That is really powerful, thank you for that perspective.
Mama looks GREAT for having 7 kids!
Both of you deserve medals! 👍
She looks great, period. :D
@@alexmaracinaru lets not do this
She is quite beautiful.
What do women who have seven children typically look like?
@ladyagnescampbell whales
Old fashioned man here, married to an old fashioned woman for just over 40 years, nine wonderful children. Everything you both said is true. So, you celebrated 100k subscribers just one year ago, and now I see that has grown to 880k. Congratulations! I think it is because people seek real wisdom, no games.
❤️ I'm a 25 year old girl, getting married to a man who is as described in the video. When I decided I wanted to get married, I couldn't help but look internally and think, "I need to be the woman who my ideal man would find attractive and who would want to marry me." I have a long way to go, but thinking of my ideal man lit a fire under me that made me choose to be a better person and to be more lady-like and have self-respect. A real man wants a girl who respects herself. My fiancé and I met organically, thank God, in college. We were friends for 7 years before either of us thought romantically of the other. We decided to give it a shot, 3 months later, we decided we would get married. I can't wait to be his wife, make his meals, make a comfy home, be the mother to his children. He makes me want to be a better person, I trust him with my life. He is a good man, and he says what he means and means what he says. We are very different people, but our values and morals are in line. I have so much peace in my heart in the decision to marry him that I know this is the right thing. I am clear-headed, and my future looks sunny. Sorrow will come, but I know he and I can weather storms. We have already done so separately and together.
Thanks for the video.
BRUHHHHHH THIS GAVE ME GOOSE PUMPS WTF
Best of luck to you and your family
YAH bless you and your family.
What a beautiful comment God bless :)
Good luck, you'll need it. Best to have your own goals and achievements to strive for, not depends on and derive your sense of self worth from another person. Then again, some women truly are happy just being slippers. Just like some people are happy discussing horse manure and the Bible, while other go into Hegelian dialectics etc.
As a Man in his 30s that comes from a Mexican American background and grew up mostly around gangs and farm workers in Northern California. To listen to this conversation and completely agree with everything is refreshing. A Man is a Man. Regardless of cultural differences. Protector, provider and stands firm in the pursuit of whats good.
@DYNASTY E.N.T. Explain what a man is that encompasses all men. It is completely cultural. People 200 years ago had a completely different view of what a man was compared to today. This idea that men have always had a certain role to play as well as women is a form of white-washing that doesn’t hold up with reality.
It's another kind of vibe
It reminded mi of my family in Mexico ❤️ I love all countries
@@msr1116 I'm sorry to say this but your experience with 7 or 8 Latinas can hardly stand as a stereotype for latin Men or relationships. Thats like me saying because most of the white people who live in olivehurst California are meth addicts, that means white people have a problem with drugs.
I know first hand that the vast majority of true healthy latino especially Mexican homes have a beautiful marriage with the same morals as any true Christian home. Of any race.
Your comment was offensive and ignorant. But I don't hold any ill will. God bless.
Praise the Lord
@@dynastye.n.t.2095 only someone looking to be offended would be offended by his comment. Relax.
This is the kind of guy who stops and helps a young girl change her tire and doesn’t even make her feel uncomfortable…love this guy
@@thejamnasium6447 Yeah I realize that. They aren't going to be good wives. Discernment is a big red flag, or lack thereof.
@@thejamnasium6447 That is an insane exaggeration. In the US alone there is over 20 million girls from ages 15 to 24. To make a statement about millions of people when you've only witnessed the behavior of thousands is extremely ignorant.
@@thejamnasium6447 I totally agree, they are living in a social media fantasy world where everything is done with your phone.Everything.
@@justinofboulder if I see someone in need of help I will usually offer, if they turn down my assistance then I bid they good luck and I go on my way.
Now normally I don't get rejected for my assistance but I live in the deep southeast of Louisiana and although crazy radicalism is present here it's very much in the minority....
@@thatkajunguy8029 I learned how to change tires myself. You know why? There's a lot of crazy people out there. Women are more likely to be the victims of violence than men. Sometimes for your own safety, you need to learn to take care of things yourself.
I've never had a father so now I think of you as my RUclips dad. Thanks Dad.
Oh my goodness!! I’m 6 years older than my wife! I was head chef and manager of a restaurant and hired my future wife. It WAS love at first sight for me. Now, 40 years later, still love at every sight!
and lucky wife
"Love at every sight"....!! Incredible!! I envy you dude!! thanks for reaffirming real love still exists!!..ps...you should be writing!...just saying...
@@studybug2010 Thanks…writing?
@@wingdwolf56 yes as in poetry, memoir, love story fictions or otherwise...to publish. Hopefully you are at least journaling....lol
Many beloved blessings 🙌 to each other.
Greetings from Turkey.💗 As a foreign living in a very distant geography, what the western media told us about traditional American people like you was generally conveyed as redneck, racist, bigot, belligerent, enemy of civilization and America's biggest problem. I watched a few of your videos and realized that it was mistranslated to the rest of the world, and my respect for people like you has grown even more.
My view is that you are a peaceful person who is fully committed to his family and values, but you are brave and fearless individuals who will never hesitate to defend themselves against attacks on you, your family and your values like a cowboy. I guess the prejudice of the Westerners stems from your brave, strong and seated personality.
Also, despite the fact that your wife has given birth to 7 children and raised them successfully, she looks very young, healthy and strong. There is a proverb in the Turks "Working iron does not rust." you and your wife are like living proof of this proverb.😄
Wow this is a really interesting comment thank you for sharing. :) Much Love
Very well said. Thank you for sharing
the liberal left is nuts in this country... that's why you have the impression you do about americans. they are truly satan's aid.
I fully approve your comment despite I am a Hungarian living on land that your nation had occupied for more than 150 years. Crazy right? People need to invest some effort to learn about the other. Cool man!
Thank you for sharing
I see both of you talking about your lives together and I'm like "man, I want to have that." God bless you both.
Marriage is hard, very hard. My husband and I are coming up on 25 years married (28 together) and we’ve been through sickness, infertility (that thankfully was resolved) many job changes, moving, family issues, and so much more. Divorced has crossed our lips but we worked through it. It took looking inward at ourselves when things were bad. Love, respect, patience, forgiveness, and introspection, and communication is so important to a good marriage. He once told me that even if we divorced he’d continue to take of me (and the kids of course). He’s a good man and deep down I’ve always known it.
Bless you and your husband
Wow your story is very similar to ours. We have hurt each other in many ways, thought about walking out. Still working through some resentments but decided nothing was worth throwing away 26 years.
Marriage is hard? Try being a libshit singleton.
God Bless you ma'am!! that's the way it should be... unconditional love and work at it every day.. :-)
My wife and I met on an Arizona guest ranch. I was a wrangler, she was a waitress. Our first date was Christmas Eve to midnight mass. We’ve been married 39 years, have two kids and three grandkids. Best wishes for continued health and happiness.
That sounds like a Hallmark Christmas movie ❤
@@Kra-ri6fd kinda does, doesn’t it 😉
now that's the dream
First date is midnights mass! That’s so beautiful ❤
@Hyper Sane, might be! I actually do a bit of writing. It’s been an interesting life and horses have been an integral part of it.
In old fashion tradition, when things break, we were taught to fix them. Today, when things break, we are taught to replace them. We’re seeing this pattern of behavior embed itself into how we handle our friendships and relationships. I discovered Dry Creek on accident, but boy am I glad I did. Honored to be part of the first 100k subscribers and will surely be here to celebrate the next 100k. You are wonderful Dwayne, and Mama too! Thank you both for sharing your wisdom.
That is probably the most spot on explanation I've ever heard!
This is very deep and is one of the very rare words of wisdom
@@ez-g3090 No, it was the middle class that caused our problems. Very selfish people. Regardless, pretty sure wanting your own bank account is not what's causing our problems.
Recently my ex left me because our relationship was no longer desirable. I wanted to patch it up and she switched me with another guy. You’re not wrong with the assessment that the replacement mentality is all too common now.
It's not just in our relationships with people... But also the things we use in our everyday lives.
I am a 33 years old syrian, who migrated to Europe at a young age because of war. After being away from my family for very long time, watching all your videos and especially this one, I feel I still belong. Family is the source of the society and you people are a wonderful example to look up to.
Hugs
Blessings from Bolivia. Peace & love.
@@tatianahawaii13 🤗🌹
I hope we’ve welcomed you, and treated you like family.
I say “we” Europeans as a Brit, who is sad at the state of affairs in the UK.
Thank god you're posting content like this. Humanity is severely confused and I believe people like you two can help us find our way.
You are great couple !God bless you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🥹I wish you all the best it’s such a outstanding work that you’ve done to keep your family and have a seven children . You gave me a hope that there’s still might be a normal , traditional man out there for me have a family with thank you so much for your beautiful videos ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Unfortunately, no. America is overrun now with immigrants, they typically vote liberally, and they don’t agree with American lifestyles like this one
Nothing beats oldschool values and mentality. You just got a new subscriber
time beats it. old people die and earth keeps spinning
@@_sarpa but oldschool values that have lasted for several generations have lasted that long for a reason
@@_sarpa Wisdom beats time. Time is an illusion
@@uemi6207 yeah but they are getting phazed out now
@@Septicshites no, they'll come back. Nature only selects the better ideas
As someone who's 26, this is a far cry from how young people meet anymore. Not even by choice, dating apps and social media just has such a stranglehold over dating now.
Go where the type of women you want to marry would hang out. Talk to them irl, be real and confident and it will work out.
@@vbressner where’s that?
@@mrchihuahuaboy4306 not behind a phone screen, that’s for sure. You have to go outside, go to places, be engaged in the activity in the place you’re at, and go from there. You decide that. Your life is yours and only yours to live.
@@mrchihuahuaboy4306 So, when I was young I dated a girl who straight up could not read. The next girl I dated was not interested in history, truth, or anything deeper than whatever was happening in the pop culture. I determined then and there that I would only meet women at bookstores, libraries, or other vetted spaces. I would then subtly test them to see what they were about. I have been married for close to 20 years to a beautiful, intelligent, and stimulating woman. We met in the Army. The first date we had was to sit together and read old Chinese poetry. She was all about it. I invited her to play pool at a bar and she was just as comfortable. I wasn't wasting time trying to meet someone and then see if we had things in common.
All that to say this, get out into the real world and enjoy the things you enjoy. When you have the chance to meet someone there, take it.
@@vbressner i guess I’m just boring
I am a stay at home Momma of a 9 month old and a wife to a husband with a heart of gold and hard working hands- he works his tail off for me to stay home with our babe and eventually homeschool - I’m eternally grateful to him. Our values reflect yours identically. The traditional life is a dying concept and stumbling across your page, especially this video, has revived my faith in knowing there are others out there like us! Something about this chat just calmed my soul in this chaotic world. Thank you🙏🏼
You're a lucky man. I am a 35 year old guy who thought he had found such a keeper himself three times already, and whenever times got a little tougher those women hit the road. I can't even find words to describe the pain these situations caused, especially in one case where said woman left me just because I experienced a period of grief: Some time ago I had to bury somebody really dear to me and naturally that threw me off the rails for a couple of months. Now picture spending half a decade with a woman you think is different to those thousands of shallow girls lacking commitment and dedication just to see her leave when you needed her the most. All just because to her, the grass she was on had a bunch of brown blades - so better go see if the grass might be greener elsewhere, right?
Sometimes I think that my generation is the first generation that lost sight of what truly matters in life: Sticking with the ones you claim to love. I envy people like you two, you strike me as the type of folks who make it work because you truly want to. And I respect you for that, cause that trait makes great people.
Thanks for all you shared on here & blessings to you!
In your age and I agree about the generation. Lot of it has to do with the internetb
@@ShinyFlakesShinyFlakes I’m 68 years old. I think that we were heading in this direction before the internet was a thing. The internet just sped it up IMO. Anything can be used for good or evil. A knife can save a life or take a life.
Women don't leave out of the blue just because times get tough for a little, that was already in her heart to do so but she wasn't sure. As time went on, she felt more and more that she wanted to leave, and unfortunately that time landed around the time your loved one passed. She left during that because she didn't want to deepen your connection and break your heart even longer by waiting until you felt a little better. It's better to tear the bandaid off quick. Think about it, would it have been better if she waited to break up with you?
Of course, I could be wrong, as I don't know her lol not saying I'm right either though
@@captainplatipus typical female apologist
Hit the nail on the head. Loneliness will be one of the biggest causes of death because of how we are treating each other and leaving families and not having babies. These generations are just soft, weak and little pussies. Next twenty years are gonna be a rollercoaster.
I can't still believe, how young and beautiful your wife looks like having raised 7 children. I'm 26 with no girlfriend, I stumbled upon your channel by chance. Maybe, someday, I will experience the blessing of meeting such a cooperative partner. Thank you for the wisdom and knowledge.
My jaw dropped. She is stunning. That jawline! 7 kids and she looks like that. As a 45-year-old woman, my hat is off to her. Just goes to show that being married to the right person and being happy keeps you young.
Man work out and all you desire will be yours society bends to beauty
Yep I know the feeling. 32 and in the same boat. 😂
Best of luck fella, hope you find that special someone.
There are far better pursuits to spend your time, money and energy on my man. These olden day forever marriages are a thing of the past. The women of today are not his wife, your mother or your grandmother. They have been lied to, mislead, distorted and corrupted beyond marriage material. The values, morals, principles and scruples of yesteryear and the sanctity of marriage are dissolved unfortunately. Marriage is a joke these days and you a target in the sights of modern feemales my friend. They're out for blood and playing for keeps now.
As a 36 year old man who's been single most of his life, let me tell you: There is 100% a loving partner out there who is made for you. But as a man, you have to go get her. For the longest time I thought I would never find me a girl worth keeping. I'd had many relationships with wonderful women but I never once, truly, fell in love with any of them. After being single the last 6 years and getting to know myself better, I developed a confidence in the man I am. There's many things I don't like about myself, but I worked at finding peace and comfort in my own skin. That gave me the confidence to message a girl I've always admired. A girl who wasn't just attractive, she also made me laugh and she was so easy to be around. I told her that I truly believe I'm the man that is destined for her. She responded in disbelief. The entire time we'd known each other, she'd always thought of me too. From that moment on, we've never once found ourselves being anything but our truest, most genuine selves around each other. It is passionate love in its truest form. Gents, never underestimate the power of boldly and confidently telling a woman that you have passionate, loving feelings for them. You must be a gentleman about it, but still, say it boldly and say it with confidence. She's out there.
It’s a choice to get married and a choice to stay married!! Love your truthfulness
We’ve just celebrated 52 years and still going strong💞
Be feminine and agreeable
@@hankhill3417 No, be who you want to be and find someone who agrees.
@@hankhill3417 Being a lady does by no way mean you don't get a voice, a woman is entitled to any opinion or contribution she may have on a conflict or idea particularly in a relationship. In which case find who is best at what, finances, work or raising kids and communicate which action is best if a woman in a relationship is better at say raising the kids yet is too agreeable then the decision by the man may not be the optimal one.
Personally I would suggest being kind and communicative to a your spouse and recognise their strengths and show them yours
I hope I don't come off as rude, i have no intention to be, please have a wonderful day :)
@@Biggoose_ man has the last word in the home
@@hankhill3417 I'm afraid I disagree
I am a 32 year old man, married for 12 years, we have 7 children, I just know that listening too these old timers, is always an inspiration, because they have already it all, so it’s just so encouraging. Thank you for your teaching, it makes me miss my grandpa😊
This is a good channel.
These two are the epitome of the traditional parents and Grandparents full of experience and life wisdom who freely share them with those who will listen and learn. I’m 68 years old and these two fill my heart with joy. God bless them both and their family.
I'm seeing this one year later and you already have 8 TIMES more subscribers!!! Your channel has obviously exploded, which means there's a great hunger for this kind of content. Congrats, and thanks for all you do.
It's so refreshing to see normal, sane people in today's messed up culture.
I'm not a wrangler, just a broken down, ol' mountain man, living in a rural area in the Western Cascades. I try as much as possible to live in the old ways of the West, where I was born and raised.
At nearly 70, I still tend my one acre, garden, hunt, fish, and cut my own wood to feed my 'iron monster' in the fall, winter, and early spring.
I appreciate the good old fashioned common sense that I have heard on your channel, so I decided to become a subscriber.
As far as men and women goes, I have had much younger women describe me as a " man's man", but I prefer the bachelor's life, to marriage. Tried it, and widowed.
Wise man. You are comfortable with yourself, that means you're good company so no one else required.👍🏻 Women only complicate and distort a free spirited man's life in my experience.
@@phantomshtter Both of you sound like man's men, like, in the sense that maybe a man would be better for you to be with than a woman.
Wow I’m sorry for your loss. You must of loved your wife with all your heart. Thank you for sharing
You have my respect sir. I'm a city boy born and raised but I'm working to earn some old fashioned self-sufficiency. It was years before I ever even chopped firewood, but when I did I realized I was missing a very important skill and outlook on life.
@@scy77a I wasn't talking about for him. Read it again short bus then respect DEEZ NUTS.
As a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in couples counseling, I agree with you 💯. Respect is the foundation of love for another, and you both modeled that in this video. Thank you for showing how it's done. God bless you.
Ever since I was pregnant with our first son my husband has called me "mom" or "mama" and I've called him "dad" or "daddy" and we still call each other that 21 years later. Although we still use our names from time to time, too.
I was a stay at home mother. It took me years to accept this was my job and it was enough. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
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Feminism was heavily supported by Rockefellers, why ? Because they couldnt tax women when they stayed home. Also it meant that children were now raised by the Government, and more workforce means more competition so thats better for corporations. The most important thing is to raise your children because thats the society of tomorrow. Control children (singers and actors also play a part as false idols to children and society), control society.
I dont really want to get into it but just quick, we are ruled by the occult and the occult worships God as a woman like in the Roman-Catholic church which is behind the NWO (to be precise the female part of the devil. Lucifer can be male, female or both - Trans worship (Ying/Yang, male/female combined into one))
If interested because I dont want to write pages here look up Spencer Smith and the 3 part series "The Third Adam" or at least the 3rd part "Rise of the divine feminine" and it will explain alot.
watch?v=_f8fotz5GUo
God bless.
I have been married for 33 years and raised a boy and a girl with my loving wife. It is the most important job in my book. I did not want my kids in daycare and I was able to provide enough money so we did not have to. The tough part for me though was when they grew up and left the home.
A good man, good husband and father will appreciate a traditional good mother. They understand that without a great woman, a house can't be called a home.
Great balance of masculine and feminine energy. As a couple.
Absolutely
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Strictly as a couple
America needs more of this. You have a silky smooth way of tackling tough subjects and delivering common sense. You are an inspiration
I see the key to a successful marriage is two people who will work to make that marriage work and NOT keep divorce in the back of their mind. Divorce has gotten so common and easy today.
My wife and I have been married for 52 years. We work together to make the marriage work.
Nothing said here goes against that. My father died when I was 13, so I did not see a lot of what a father should be. But I did have a grandfather along with a grandmother and my mother as role models.
Keep in mind why you get married and why you got married and work for that.
"women were not created to do everything that man can do, women were created to do everything a man can not"
this sounds amazing
That really struck me too
It's sad many people don't seem to take pride in that anymore. Gives me hope for our country's future seeing the comments on here🌻
The way she looks at you when you speak is a look of respect and admiration and you can see she's actually interested in your opinions. In my view, that's such an important indicator of a good woman, and a very rare quality these days. You found yourself a gooden. Many blessings to you two and yours.
Agreed. That's respect & love in my book.
I have to agree, It has to be difficult to not follow and admire a man like him. He seems to have true leadership, he doesn’t try hard like many men do nowadays. It comes easily!
I agree- you guys; if you meet an attractive woman who is a poor listener- get the f… away- run! It’s called narcissism. And it will never last
I think it's a reflection of a good man. Woman don't just just respect and admire men who have not earned it. So many men these days are entitled, or are not experienced enough or grown up enough yet, and are looking for validation from a woman only his mother should have given him when he was a child.
Amen
''We've been closer to divorce than anybody around us knows or will ever know but it's like you wake up the next morning and you're like no we're not quitting we're going to sit down and hammer this out and we're going to put in the work and we'll do what needs to be done and what you have to do is. I have to look at myself and say what am i contributing to this conflict that i can change, not what is she doing to make this marriage hard. I can't change her, stop trying to change your spouse. Change yourself. And a lot of times, eventually your spouse will see the change that you're making and maybe they'll meet you halfway and try to change themselves. But too many times trying to fix a marriage that's on the rocks is us trying to fix what we see in our spouse that's causing the trouble. Well it's a two-way street.''
Gold sir!
Nice to meet Momma, thanks for presenting her, she's lovely; you definitively are a role model, thanks for sharing.
My husband and I were married when I was 70 and he was 76. We had a few glitches but when I determined to accept the way HE showed
love, and stopped judging the marriage by the lack of what seemed like the ideal Husband should be, it became wonderful .And what was great, he in turn started more what I liked. Has he couldn't drive and had to slow down somewhat, I always tried to make him feel needed and wanted. He was a real man, in my eyes, and I emphasized that as much as I could. He just passed over a few months ago and I miss him so much!
I'm so sorry for your loss. I know you miss him so much, but remember those great times together.
I was divorced at 29 & have never met the right person, but I raised my son & was happy. I'm 58 now & still alone. I have excepted the way it is & I'm happy & content with my fur babies. So I'm not really alone , I have my pets.
God bless you, always.
U were lucky t hve him as long as u did
My wife and I married at 21 and were 36 now with 4 kids. My wife stays home with the kids and homeschools. We strive to hold on to the same principles and values you guys do. Thank you for your content. You’re an inspiration to many. Much needed in today’s world.
"Stop tryin to change your spouse, change yourself." - Some true pearls of wisdom found in this beautiful couple. Thank you for all that you do, both of you. HalleluYAH
This channel is golden. If you’re intentions are too help young people, you are spot on. I’ve been married for 30 years too, and as a veteran, I’ve put my wife through hell moving her all over the country and disappearing for many months at a time. I met her at work and it was love at first site. She didn’t take crap and stood on her own. Like riding a green horse, we’ve both changed to become a team. You’re words are true, if you can’t respect each other, you’re not worth a hill of beans.
Being a mother IS a full time job. That’s a life worth living for me. It’s stressful but I wouldn’t change it for the world.
Everything should be a means to support our number 1 job which is our offspring. They owe us nothing. And we owe them every fighting chance we can give ‘em. I have a father who will give me very little monetary inheritance when he goes. He decided to give me a different kind of inheritance while he is living.
shame that mothers now have to take on 2 full time jobs now
I love being a mother truly the best gift of all
@@guadalupelomeli6463 umm….I think you have the wrong number. Should probably tell your man how thrilled you are with the gift….not us.
Thank God there are still women like you around
Wow. Mama is a beauty. I hope I look as good as her after 30 years of marriage. She looks so young.
There is some major truth being spoken here. Wow. Young people, listen to these two.
You are evidence that people are yearning for 'old fashioned' values... keep it up. You're changing the world! Thank you for being around.
When I clicked on your notification and saw you both sitting there together, I thought this lady was someone other than Mama, and the real Mama was where she she normally was, behind the camera. And she is not only a lovely lady, but you’re right, Duane, she sure does look young enough to be your daughter.
Exactly what happened to me
Beautifull lady
If at any point you loved each other enough to get married, then you have the capacity to love each other enough to stay married. My wife and I have had our ups and downs, but never once has the thought of divorce crossed my mind. There have been days when I just couldn’t stand her because of something she did, but more often than not that is the fault in my own character, not hers. It’s something I need to fix, and our arguments are things we need to fix together. And we do; every single time. Marriage is a perfect union, even if the people are imperfect.
Exactly, a man is a man, and a woman is a woman. I love being a woman, I am secure in that, and I am very self-reliant I can survive, but I love having a real man in my life, someone to talk with and share thoughts and listen. To have the love and the passion and trusted friendship. We have laughter and nearing our 30th years together we always find the laughter. My husband keeps me grounded and I show him adventure. It's all good.
I honestly initially thought that was your daughter. No joke. I can’t believe she’s birthed 7 kids. You two are a beautiful couple
Fellas
We must listen close to what he said starting at 07:17
“This is a girl who can hang”
“This is a girl that could keep up with me”
This type of women is what we need. She’s strong, faithful, respectful, beautiful, charming, and you can tell she absolutely loves this guy. Yeah I’m sure they’ve had tough times but the amount of ‘trust’ she displayed on the first date with him is all a man needs to make a crucial executive decision
‘She’s the one’
And ladies listen to what she said at 09:04
“He has the qualities that I NEEDED”
-that’s the sauce, this dude wasn’t rich, wasn’t the tallest man on earth but she adored his energy and cherished his energy thus that was her specific missing puzzle piece
Dude I am a loyal subscriber now. I can learn a lot from you my internet mentor 🙏🏾
-central FL
Marriage isn't 50/50 it's 100/100. Great video and hope to see more of momma. Looking forward to hearing more about your stories. Thanks for what you guys do.
At 72 it is hard to believe I have never heard it put like that and I KNOW that you are 100% right. I see no way a marriage could fail if a couple love each other enough to marry and both put 100% in to it.
100🎯
My husband and I also discussed how we saw a marriage relationship, how we each saw our roles and goals. What our ideas were as far as money and budgets. Most importantly, how we saw our roles, responsibilities and disciplining as parents. 31 years later, ups and downs, still 100 percent committed. It brings a tear to my eye at all the folks gathered "around your fire". I am seeing a huge shift in just the last year. I feel such Hope for our collective futures. Thank you for your contributions❣️
Thank you for showing a glimpse of country life. This is what I believe people travel for, and I love your insights. God bless you You are blessed
I’m a grown man, but had to stop at 2:20 to have a cry. That intro with you both was so genuine, the look on her face during those compliments could melt any cold heart. Sending much love from the farm in upstate New York. ❤️🇺🇸
I have always said if a hubby just gave a wife a pat on the head everyday, small or large, notice a new hairdo, good dinner, notices a new blouse she will shine and pay back ten foil. Hubby and I were best friends and married for 65 years and he wouldn't pass until we had our 65th. Ann., then he passed 3 years ago and my life has changed without my love and best friend.
@@BJFilbinI think you meant 'pay back tin foil'
"...communication, you should be friends, you should like each other, not just love each other..." This is absolute truth. You absolutely nailed the roadmap to a long term, quality relationship.
"Stop trying to change your spouse, change yourself." Again, so much truth in coming from this conversation. Amazing to hear a couple speaking about deep morals and values.
Was thinking about what he said (paraphrasing) "he was all the man that he needed, he needed a woman and not a man". Myself personally, at 38, I've only just started working on being more disciplined, getting more self-esteem and feeling more secure. One thing that attracted me to my wife was her independence. She grew up on a ranch in Mexico, and she's been able to step up and get stuff done that I wasn't willing to do myself. We've been together 13 years now, married for 9 of them and we have 2 kids.
It occurs to me that for whatever reason, there's lots of men like myself, who've been or are weak-minded for whatever reason, and a woman who's more independent or masculine in this way can complement them and make for a good couple.
This by far was one of the most beautiful COUPLE advice... . Hearing you both speak on your masculinity and femininity is so grounding and feels safe in knowing that in each gender there is strength and beauty; and from that can blossom mutual respect. I love the "we completed each other" line. God bless you both.
Just got married in May to a woman 6 yrs older than me, I'm 30, almost 31. She's the most amazing, beautiful, and responsible woman I've ever met. We've already had a few tiffs, but like you guys we made a vow to never get divorced, and we work thru stuff as they come. We're both Christians, and I highly recommend trusting in Jesus. He's made a huge impact on both our lives for the better and changed them in so many incredible ways. :)
Congrats man! My girlfriend is 7 years older. I never found a life partner from any of the younger women I dated. We find balance and stability in each other where neither of us found in anyone else before.
Better off not getting married if she truly wants to be with you she would be there with out the official marriage ,,,keep the state and the divorce cooperation out of your life
@@jj-eo7bj This doesn't work for christians, you're not wrong about the risks of being married, but Christians respect God more than the state. Additionally common law marriage undermines your point in many places.
@@justmeandmy good luck ...they are Christian when it suits their needs, not safe to even cohabitate w them ..cant trust them no more
Hey buddy, my fiance is 6 years older than me. I am 29. I truly believe that God sent her to me as an angel. I am so blessed and I also want to say CONGRATULATIONS to you two. Wishing y'all happiness and strength.
Probably one of the greatest talks on gender roles. I also like the conversation on the reality of marriage. This was a treat for us all. Thank you guys so much for taking the time to do this video
Especially in todays warped society. My wife agreed when she saw this vid with me.
I’m so happy that society progresses and your standards aren’t placed on young people✨
@Marqi Mauricio I think it is, we just have traditions that are incompatible with some people and that's fine.
@@Fiox789 VERY well said
@Marqi Mauricio "I don't like this so it must be wrong"
Yeah the world is changing, so what. You're stuck in the past.
“It’s a journey. And you’ll never get to the end of the journey, if you quit the journey when the journey gets hard.” Good stuff. Thank you both for sharing your wisdom.
The perfect marriage is two imperfect people not giving up on each other.
The lack of what this couple has, is why this country is in the shape it is.
They are a breath of fresh air. A much needed breath of fresh air. Bless you forever.
I’m a 27 year old man. It feels so good hearing y’all talk and knowing there’s some levelheadedness and wisdom in this upside down world. Y’all’s page is a good and comfortable place for me where I learn a lot and I really appreciate y’all. 👏🏽
The fact you both remember yalls first date made me cry, love is just beautiful
What a beautiful marriage. I love the old-fashioned ways so much more than what's going on nowadays..
just curious, what do you mean by what's going on nowadays?
@@bobbirdsong6825 probably referring to the hook up culture 😢
@@Doingmybest700 maybe, i do dislike how dating apps are but i don't think there's anything wrong with having sex with multiple partners before you settle down
@@bobbirdsong6825There is, because it can prevent pair bonding. If you're having loads if meanless sex with people you don't care about, you're gonna struggle to feel satisfied with just one person's attention.
@@WillHoward2002 I disagree. Most people aren't having orgies with 12 people at the same time, they just have sex with a few people over a long period of time. According to the anthropologists, that's how we did it for most of human's existence
This is great! My wife and I have 9 kids together. Unusual these days. Your common sense and wisdom is in demand today you deserve your subscribers.
9 kids? 🤯
Congrats to that! A rarity indeed in todays society
pure curiosity what do you do for work
@@theawfulgamer2247 master mechanic/millright
@@matthewketron1041 I never ever comment. But your struck me. Could I ask you how old are you, and how difficult is to raise 9 children
@@dante1109 36. It's full time but enjoyable. By the time the 4th or 5th comes along the older ones help out so really can't have them fast enough to be overwhelmed. Past couple of years food cost has really increased and that is definitely noticable.
What an absolute beauty and no doubt a once in a lifetime partner and friend. Here's to many more years together you two.
lLove how you talked it out prior to getting married. I wanted to be a wife & mother as well. There was so much pressure from outside forces for me to want to get a job. I felt blessed to be able to enjoy every second of my childrens' childhood. Even then, there were still family members that wanted me to get a 'real' job when I was already doing a job that would mean more to me than anything else I had done in my life. When my children were almost grown, my father became sick with dementia. I had the priviledge of caring for my Dad for 6 yrs. We lived together for 9 yrs. Family members who had not seen my Dad in years were quick to offer their opinion noting that I should get a 'real' job and my Dad should be put in an 'oldfolks' home. I have made many mistakes in my life, but caring for my children & my father are decisions I am proud of & choices I very much wanted to make. I have never doubted my decisions in this regard. I have often felt isolated & minimized for making these choices. I am so happy to see a woman who wanted what I wanted, & still want.
I did the same for my father after receiving a phone talking to my parents and my Dad telling me that he had congestive heart Failure. I told my parents to move back to Hawaii , and I would have them live with me , built a full on addition to my home at the time. So they had a nice comfortable place. I looked after them until they both passed away 7--8 years ago. And I was the Black sheep of the family and I was the one that ended up taking care of Mom & Dad. But I was lucky they were both good loving parents. I miss them both greatly.
A man who finds a wife finds a good thing, blessings 🙌🏿
My boyfriend (who is absolutely my life partner) and I speak about roles, this day and age, and our future often, and it always breaks my heart how people treat women, mothers, and wives - especially those who stay at home. I don’t yearn to be an 80 hour a week lawyer or surgeon or CEO (like I used to tell myself I HAD to be). I want to be a mommy and a wife and a homemaker. I take it damn seriously and want to give my 100% focus and attention to my role. It comes very very naturally to me and suits me well and there is zero shame in that. I also work in womens health - I’m a personal trainer and pre/post natal trainer, it is vital the way we treat mamas, babies, and women without shame and doubt for whatever their choices are. Anyway that’s my two scents. Loved this video!
Stay-at-home Momma myself! I had a hard time letting go of the idea of worldly accomplishments at first, even though raising children was something I wanted dearly. I met a wonderful man who was willing to provide the opportunity for me to be home with our kids, so I dropped the fantasy of "making an impact" on the world at large and have since discovered the joy in *being the world* to my family. It certainly is not the ideal that we have been sold, but being here myself, I personally think this IS the ideal for most women - they are just being shamed out of their deepest desires.
All those jobs..let me say they are horsepucky. Here is the thing with Doctor. You will take care of as many evil as good people. You might save a persons life who then goes on to molest 3 kids. Save a lawyer who bankrupts your town. Its all just a job. The money is good but it takes 10 years to pay the stupid loans.
Take children though. Their entire life is in YOUR hands. You can have all the power to know down deep you supported them until they became good prosperous people. YOU did that. It could have been some other mother and the children were terrible and immoral but it was YOU so your efforts were never wasted.
You might feel even as a Doctor or Nurse some form of meaninglessness. People will never listen to you, always get fatter and more unhealthy, just beg for drugs. With children its ALL soul, its all hopefully a big reward that pays you off later. Like when they are taking care of you in your old age.
I think mother is the best job you can do as long as father is not an idiot and supports you to the fullest. I think doctor is very overrated but I mean I dunno CEO/Senator might be worth being childless for the millions of bucks but you'll never know that you'll be one unless you know you're in that Elite of Society Lane. Also it helps having kids when you run for Senate because it makes you look more normal and trustworthy so.
Go off Queen :D
Although I understand it might not always come across that way, feminism at its core is about not pressuring women or men to conform to anyone else's idea of what a woman or man should be. If you feel being a homemaker is your calling, then you should be allowed to do that without anyone (alleged feminist or otherwise) telling you it's wrong. Just like the woman who would rather work and not have children should be allowed to do that.
@@woutertron Which wave are you referring to exactly? This potential fourth wave we are seeing? Feminism has really never been about redefining "man" or "woman". It started as an equal rights movement that lost it's way during the sexual revolution and has since devolved into a flat, self-righteous and self-aggrandizing hedonistic ideology of screeching harpies.
@@woutertron modern feminism is nothing like classical
A good marriage is much like two work horses hitched together. Pulling together, in the same direction, helping each other to achieve a shared goal. This has been my experience for 42 years now. I appreciate your conversation here.
My ex wife was raised to believe that I'm the work horse or rather the actual plow. And didn't have to do anything. 25 years wasted. I tried to make what your talking about happen, but she wouldn't. I should have left a long time ago, but I made a vow. She left for a guy half our age and left me to raise the children. Thank you feminists. Thanks alot.
Oh my goodness the way you described her and the term “momma” that brought tears to my eyes!! Awww
My wife and I have been married 35 years this March. We dated for 5 years before we got married, so we've been together for quite awhile! Marriage is a partnership.
It takes common values, first and foremost. Communication is the main skill to master that will allow you to go through life together and learn as you go. You figure it out together. There is mutual respect and honor for each others experience. Over time both of us developed solid emotional intelligence which allowed us to make it for decades. Save the drama for the stage. We keep it polite and use our manners everyday. We are kind and loving.
Marriage is fantastic with the right person!
We just celebrated our 37th wedding anniversary. I love being the woman, Mommy and wife. He holds the door for me, compliments me, my sons hold the door (always have and do so for all women & elderly). I appreciate my hubby and sons helping Mom lift, carry and move things. They spoil me. I am a head strong, educated woman and was the family disciplinarian. Now we are grandparents and our roles are still the same. I’m still a Grizzly Bear when it comes to my cubs but a teddy bear otherwise.
My husband and I recently celebrated 34 years of marriage. You both are correct, it's a marathon - not a sprint! We've stayed together through thick and thin because we love each other and we took a vow. Plus, we're just too darn stubborn!
Been married 41 years with of course ups and downs. The one thing all need to know is to treat your loved ones with extra kindness and to go the extra mile for them and you’ll be rewarded 10 fold.
My mom (1942) are dad (1927) were 15 years apart. It was the best thing for me, learning from two different generations. I thank God everyday for this blessing.
this is the kind of conversation two matures persons have done throughout their lives. my respect to both of you.
Every young couple needs to see this many thanks.
It's so refreshing to hear common sense in a time of uncommon sense. Thanks for sharing the campfire - maybe that's a new venture? Have people out to talk philosophy an mentor the young. With every positive story, it's just as insightful to share the events that taught the tough lessons. I am really happy I found DCWS.
Being in my mid-20's, it is refreshing to hear your story. I have thoroughly enjoyed this channel for some time, and I thank the both of you for all you have taught me, even if it is just a reminder. A lot you have shared is similar to what my Dad has taught me. I think a lot of people also rush into relationships (long term) without knowing what they are looking for.
So true. Makes you think about how so many young people have never even seen a long lasting marriage like this. It's a sad thing to look around and see the majority of teens/early 20s are interested in nothing but casual sex and wouldn't even know how to find a long lasting relationship.
@@MrFredstt wow that's some very one dimensional young ppl you've encountered. I personally think it's a lot on which circle or bubble you are in and there are plenty of young people that do no think like that about dating. R u from a big city? I imagine it gets hard there
@@wawis231 Yeah I'm from a big city so I guess that's the reason. Maybe it's different in more rural areas
It makes me feel good to see a happy functional family like yall
‘Just wanted to drop this thought. I’m 64, & find your content very uplifting. Many of our young folks need your advice &knowledge. They need to understand that life isn’t a rut to stay in. When the trail gets too deep, climb to higher ground. Always look for the life that keeps you on the bubble. If one isn’t level, life will always be a struggle.
Congratulations to you & Momma for making it through the hard times.
Though my days of youth are past, I find that my degree of happiness is in my own hands.
In my younger days, we raised Quarter Horses & Appaloosas. The lifestyle was so good, & the stress reliever wasn’t picked up at the local pharmacy, it was called horseback riding..
Keep bringing the words of wisdom to the world. Though I can’t go out, saddle up & ride now, I find comfort in watching your channel.
I get my coffee & a good cigar, only to take a a ride & never leave the farm.
Bottom line is; We have very similar mindsets. Your delivery calms me, to affirm that helping others may be one of the most important thing we can do in life.
Many thanks,
Dan
My wife and I have been together for 13 years. She had a rough upbringing and me in the Navy Seabees, I had my way of things. Watching this video is like my wife and I. The Navy Chaplin said even if your mad with each other, always sleep in the same bed. When we get up in the morning we say I Love You and we'll talk later. It has helped us immensely. Great Video!
This couple is somewhat rare these days, and they approached their marriage with great maturity and level-headedness. One of the important ones was clarifying each other's roles before marriage, including assessing each other's gifts and talents as well as discussing child rearing. Again, all of it BEFORE marriage.
If more couples worked out their differences, roles and expectations before getting married, there would likely not have been as many divorces as we've seen here in the U.S. Marriage is not a 50/50 proposal, but one that is 100/100. It requires all of the person, and it is servant in nature too. Thus, when both persons love, serve and are committed to each other, their marriage will be a glorious one. Granted, there will still be problems at times, differences, and arguments, but the likelihood of divorce is minimal at best.
And yet it's astonishing how in probably the most important decision couples will ever make - namely, marriage - there is little preparation, discussion, and planning among most couples as to their roles, expectations, and of first ironing out any religious, political, and philosophical differences before walking down the aisle.
I adopted my daughter from China 24 years ago and she still calls me Mamma! ❤️
Great video! The ”It’s a choice” section is very helpful to hear for those of us earlier in marriage working through challenges.
This is nice to hear. My wife and I homeschool, have done home births, and she stays home and manages everything. Many people don't understand why we do things that way and it's great to hear your story and see the success you've had. Very encouraging in a world that thinks traditional roles and values are so absurd.
I know I'm late to the comments, but I wanted to thank both of you for this video. Coming from a family where my mother was abusive and my parents had a disastrous marriage, it's a comfort to see a couple this committed, that has traditional values, and where the woman actually wanted to be a mother and love her children from the get go. It gives me hope that maybe not everything is lost and there are still good people out there.
I grew up the same way as you. It took me a while to recover my femininity because my mother made me think it was an awful thing to be a wife & mother. What a shame and how wrong she was. With God's help I've (mostly) healed and I'm a wife & mother now with a great life and a family where I belong and have support. I pray that you find healing ❤ and find that special someone to build your family with ❤
I met my wife of all ways through the groveling and begging of a girl I worked with to go out with her friend on a blind date. It took 5 months of her doing so before I agreed. She was what I needed. A sweet, kind, caring, loving woman. Something I didn't think existed anymore. It hardly does. She's not just that. She's now a wonderful mother, one of the best problem solvers I know, and my very best friend on earth. It has not always been easy, but we worked through all of our issues and got stronger because of it.
The more I listen to you, the more I feel I'm getting to know you personally. You connect to people on a personal level that is unmatched. There is so much material on the internet, and I don't know of many that does that for a person. You guys are like a well trimmed fruit tree, all the junk removed, what you see is what you get, and what you get is a sincere, honest, straight talking person, purified by fire. I see the light in you, it is there, unquenchable, unmistakable, true.
This is one of the most beautiful compliments I have ever seen!
Parasocial.
What an inspiration are for our current society. I am a Catholic priest and I use many of your videos to speak especially with young men. Also, I really enjoy your comments about the cigars you smoke. This video is particularly good to use for marriage preparation. Keep up the good work on sharing your wisdom and experiences with others. Blessings.
pray for me father, my name is Viktor
It’s was so nice to see you guys today. And am so happy for you. My husband and I were married for 31 years. He passed 2 years ago, this year. We were best friends. It got us through difficult times. He really was a amazing man. He taught me so much. A kid at heart. Everyday I thank God that He gave me Dan. And now when I think of him. I see him fishing with his dad and brother in heaven. Given each other crap - big smiles on their faces. It fills my heart with happiness for him.
Just stumbled on your vids. Watched like 5 in a row before was spending too much time on device. Thank you so very much for this. Too many of us fatherless men have yearned for this kind of lessons and spoken so well and clear. Again very thankful for what your doing.
Thank you both for your wisdom! ❤ I dated other women for 10 years but now I've found a man, a real man. He's a farmer, and a gentleman. And I've found my place in feeling feminine again and it's a really nice new dynamic. 😊 34 and I'm ready for my lifetime of growing alongside someone.
You guys have a great and respectful way of describing marriage without offending anyone with different wants and needs. Thats not easy to do.
As an 18yo I am grateful that I can find such valuable and rich content on RUclips , thanks for this type of content and congratulations for the 100k