Not the worse but worth mentioning. A guest keeps you at the door a long time when they are saying good bye so that you are leaving your other guest for longer than you should. The guest leaving should thank you for the invite and leave.
TIMESTAMPS When you have guests 1:03 When you are a guest 1:18 In a restaurant 1:42 Communication rules 2:37 Table manners 3:00 General rules 3:58 Public coatrooms 4:27 Car etiquette 5:05
Don't show up at someone's home without letting them know you're going to come over just because you're family or friends. You don't know if someone is not home or busy. Or simply not ready for company.
Delicate Damsel I took a screenshot of this. My moms bf is upset at her and I for taking the house keys because he felt like he could just pop over whenever he wanted like he owns the place
Here's 3 others....When at a restaurant, don't start eating unless everyone has their food. At sit down dinners at a host's home, don't start eating until THEY start eating. Also, elbows do not belong on the table.
As far as I know you only have to wait for the other person to be served if there is only 2 of you, e.g. on a date. When you are in a larger group, you don't have to wait until everyone is served as your food might turn cold...
Nowdays, what we consider as a "common sense" many people find it useless, annoying, etc. I came to this video to learn more about manners so I can make others feel less uncomfortable and maybe show them that being polite should an "of course".
These are very important tips which I think should have been taught during upbringing or at least during higher education. They help you to move through different classes of society easily. I am very happy that I learned a lot of these at a young age.
I am a girl turning 16 and I’ve noticed how awful my behavior is and I don’t know what to do when I’m outside. This video helped me to learn some etiquette. Thank you for uploading this!
I have millenial-aged step-children who absolutely refuse to follow this adage. It's just so rude to say 'hey, can you gimme the salt?' and then just continue on without a moment of gratitude... When I asked them why they refused to say please, the response was 'Why should I say please? They're gonna give it to me either way...".
I think these are great etiquette tips! In my opinion, it’s unfortunate that so many people associate manners and social grace with being robotic Or unoriginal. Whenever I meet someone with great manners, I’m always impressed and intrigued. Conversely, poor manners can be a turn-off sometimes... it’s never a bad idea to learn how to be polite and appropriate.
parvin pal that's their problem, they are manner less... If you think someone is taking advantage of your being nice, you gotta fight for it... But don't stop being polite or having manners
Look at it this way. Being mannerly these days is actually AGAINST the norm. How's that for "indviduality"? They're the robots. All programmed to be rude AF (please pardon my abbreviated "French" 🙂).
Thank you for this. I think manners are not only polite but also attractive. Whenever I see a woman wearing a skirt or dress and she sits down without crossing her legs but instead turns her knees slightly to the side and crosses her ankles I find that very cute and adorable. Not in a child like way but more like an lovely innocent kind of way.
This just a western mannered video, I think they did a video on manners of the world or, that might have been another video. It was very interesting, you might be able to still find it :)
Here in Brazil too. I did that in a party years ago and my friends were really mad. They still talk about it playfully: “Remember that day Gabi just disappeared without saying goodbye to anyone?”
I think it probably also depends on your relationship with the other people at the party. There are parties where you barely know some of the guests, and there are the ones with your friends and family.
Unfortunately rules of common courtesy do not seem to be taught anymore. One rule not mentioned was to give up your seat on a subway or bus if an older or infirm person gets on and you are able bodied yourself. A woman can be equal in society without being discourteous or slovenly. Of course there are also rules of etiquette that men should observe. Making life a little more pleasant for everyone is a good thing, not an affront to individualism or equality.
Women and men should act the same way. The term ladylike separates the genders. We're trying to get rid of the gender divide not increase it to the way it was in the 18th century it's the term ladylike that pisses people off because you shouldn't be trying to be different to be considered ladylike your already female which classifies you as a lady just be yourself
xXLOZZYXx if we want to be ladylike, we will be ladylike. I hope you know the definition of ladylike. There's a difference b/w lady and ladylike and a lot of us ladies want to be ladylike. Yeah there are a lot that don't but some of us do so please let us identify ourselves as ladylike. I mean if we use gentlemen, why not use ladylike?
In Msia (at least, I don’t know about other countries), rule #3 about not saying goodbye to the other guests differs for us. It is considered rude to depart without saying goodbye to everyone, even to those who aren’t in the same room. We have to say goodbye to everyone unless they’re too busy to acknowledge your goodbye e.g. they’re in the washroom 😬
Yup. Unless it's close family (e.g. grandparents, siblings, parents). And even then, it's polite to tell them how long you're thinking of staying, and to ask if that will work for them.
Bhilithinn/ it doesn't matter if close or not very close...sometimes is far more relaxing to have an good friend at home than your parents or mother-in-law as they will always critisize and go on with their advices...
This varies a lot from country to country. Before inviting someone or accepting an invitation from someone from another culture or country check on the differences and maybe make it clear how long they're invited for (or ask how long you're invited for). It may not seem very polite to say it outright but it's far better than misunderstanding each other!
In the Philippines, most often our guest brings nothing and they went home with something on their hands either fruits and vegetables, excess food, things, and money. How good was that to be?
Some people give their guests things to leave with, I suppose its only the kinder ones. This is based on more western manners so Im not sure who did what but the famous make the books so famous people might not give others things to leave with. In my family everyone gets cookies or some form of traditional Irish or Italian food and sometimes even old books and family made things like blankets.
i have ever invited people for my birthday party.i had even cooked for them.what pains me is that they came empty handed.they ate all my food and drinks and no one could even think of bringing me a birthday gift. its from there i noticed i had been having all the wrong friends all that time. i don't think i am going to hold such a party soon,in my house.did i mention they even left without helping with the dishes or something of the sort
Blowing their nose specially when other people are eating at the dinning table. They should go to the restroom so they can wash their hands afterwards.
The points with the serviettes, at least in western Europe, are wrong. You place the serviette on your lap as soon as you sit down however at formal event you wait till you‘re asked to sit down. When you stand up you ALWAYS place the serviette to the left of your plate, or if there is one, to the left of your bread plate.
Never curse in front of children or use grotesque language of any kind in their company, neither tell horrific stories of a disturbing nature. A real lady should never swear but because swearing is so mainstream it ought to be mentioned even to ordinary girls that it is disrespectful, rude, undignified, idiotic, and selfish to swear infrought of children, a mother with a baby, in a church, in a classroom, in the company of a person who has expressed wishes not to hear such words, or to a person of significance. A girl who curses every other word is not a lady or a princess though her fancies may attempt to believe otherwise. Try to use correct English in every circumstance but never use big words in the presence of people who wouldn't understand them. Avoid chewing gum during conversation, if you enter a conversation with gum in your mouth excuse yourself to spit it out. Never speak with your mouth full, chew with your lips closed and take small bites. When in conversation with another person don't talk for a very long time, only speak one or two sentences or statements and let the next person speak. In conversation don't thouch your phone, do not have it in your hand, and better yet, put it out of sight. Don't have your phone at the dinner table unless looking up something relative to conversation or emergency. Follow the above guidelines even though your companions do not, these guidlines are based out of respect for the fellow person and following your friends' behavior will erode your character.
I was taught all of these rules and a lot more when I was young. My mother wanted 'royal' behavior to act like a lady. So there is still some desire to have these manners and etiquette prevail. I think it is an excellent idea for every young man and woman to learn etiquette and manners so they can be treated with respect and be respectful themselves. Regardless of the gender of the person.
I do not agree with putting lipstick on at the table, no matter who is at your table. It is not "lady like" to put lipstick on in public. It should be done in the privacy of the batbroom. -April T
wrong. Queen Elizabeth is ine of the most sophisticated lady in the world abd she re applied her lipstick in oublic all the time abd she even said it's ok.
Yes! And why would anyone put on lipstick during any part of a meal at all? There is no need for it to be applied before nor at the start of the meal, (this could send the wrong message about the chef's food! Would you really prefer the taste of your lipstick in your lunch or supper, and would you like to get it on your teeth?) And there is no need for lipstick application AT THE TABLE immediatelt *after* the meal, either, because you should retreat to the drawing room (via the lavatories to freshen up) immediately after the last course is served anyway. You should reapply lipstick in the cloak room or water closet. Never at the dining table.
Hate hearing peoples cell phone conversations in public.... Talking constantly...ugh. So unpleasant, and rude... Most of the time, what I've heard could wait.
Mic Lemos we should not ignore them. We should simply leave for sometime to attend that call and always try to return as early as possible. Well, an important call is never too long! Important call means that someone wants to TELL something important to us. And that doesn't takes so much of time, I guess.
I also heard, if you get a ride with a friend or someone you know, you never sit at the back, that gives the impression that he or she is your chauffer, which is not cool. You sit as "co-pilot". Well, if there is nobody else, that is
When in someone else's car, buckle your seat belt without having to be asked and, for God's sake, don't argue with them when they ask you to buckle it.
lilosweet24 I do not expect that from my guests, and myself do not do it. Why do we buy all those beautiful shoes? To change into somebody’s slippers outside? Shoes are part of an outfit and should be left on. If you invite people over, vacuum again when they leave.. or do not invite.
Grace Madejski you made a really good point , but I think this is for casual meetings , people not always come with clean shoes and its more helthier take it off inside .
I think, it would be useful to add: "1. Please, install your seatbelt without being specifically asked by the driver as the liability for your safety including fines and demerit points it is on him. So, be polite, pro-active and avoid tensionate moments between yourself and the host expecting you to buckle-on." "2. When on the passinger seat - please do not try to lecture the driver about how to drive safely and correctly. If you feel unsafe, ask to be move to a back seat." "3.Refrain to eat and drink in your host's car - unless specifically invited, to do so." "4. Do not horseplay or distract the driver in anyway. Let the driver lead and/or initiate a conversation, do not try to be the dominating entity in the car." Thanks, your VDO was truly impressive.
Some other ones could be: sit straight at a table (this is for health as well as good dinner etiquette); when you shake someone's hand upon greeting, use a firm grip and look them in the eyes (to show that they have your full attention, also by firm grip I don't mean squeezing); when you enter a home, take your shoes off, especially if they have carpeted floors, (this lessens the cleaning for your host later) unless otherwise specified, of course this may vary upon culture, and friends vs strangers
What countries/ regions are these appropriate in? Locations, times, age, religion & regions change the appropriateness of Etiquette, which varies depending on many factors. Some were covered but it left me with more questions. Honestly Bright Side, when I research what you post I find many of your facts incomplete or out of date. I still watch because you’re videos can be a great starting place for further research. I also appreciate that you’ve steadily improved your videos.
NinazHome Totally. Of course you should mention that you’re leaving early because of whatever...but one certainly doesn’t just sneak out without saying goodbye to people.
YOu run the risk of causing a mass exodus from the host's party, which is a valid point, as the host should be a priority over other guests when at their function. The host invited you. Pay them the honour of not disturbing their function.
If it's a function going on at a friend's house and you know everybody been going to say hey got to cut out early and you say goodbye to everyone to not offend your friends if it's people that you don't know you know it's like a mixed function then I think it would be okay in America to pull the hostess aside and tell her that you're headed out cuz other people don't know you they don't care if you're there or not there if you say goodbye to the group be sure you say that you are cutting out early so that the hostess doesn't end up with a complete Exodus of her event. I think if there's just a handful of people this is okay if it's a large group I think it makes you look like you want to be in the Limelight or center of attention if you announce your departure. If you have me contact with someone or connected to someone or someone that you've talked with the party that you have agree to get back later with about something then go to that person also and let them know that you're cutting out early but you will remember to do whatever it is that your guys have agreed to do.Does this make sense?
I agree, after speaking with your host[ess] you should say goodbye to everyone and apologize for having to leave early: that way you say a polite goodbye but don't make others feel pressured to leave as well.
Truthfully, I don't really like the words, "gender equality." In relationships, I don't want to be equal to the man. I deserve to be treated like a lady and be taken care of. I'm a GIRL, not a dude.
I see what you mean, it’s. It’s not about being treated like a guy though. I’m very feminine and am very much the lady in my relationship but we’re still equal. If you see what I mean?
Thanks for yet another great video. I don't see too many people care about etiquette these days but how you publicly behave, the way you talk, walk, sit, eat and even smile tells a lot about your upbringing. I prefer not talking on the mobile in a car for too long...I try to end it asap because it makes other people awkward.
1) Always use proper set of spoon to have meal. 2) At public place or wherever, always pull up chair for the lady first. 3) Small stutt like holding the door for others counts as decent act. 3)
*Charm School Curriculum* ... "Class is never out of style." *"A girl should be 2 things: Classy and Fabulous"* - Coco Chanel It truly pleases me to see this Post and to observe the number of views - There is hope of a Most Benevolent Outcome for our Society and the overall behavior of the society in This Era. It shows ones *"Respect for Self and Respect for Others"* 🎩💄💫
While I agree with some of these, a lot of them feel outdated/unnecessary. Emily Post once said that the point of etiquette is to make people feel comfortable in your presence. Etiquette is about being considerate, it's NOT about the "correct" way to hold your coffee cup.
Emily Lynn I disagree, sorry. Etiquette and hospitality are not mutually exclusive. Your post from Emily Post refers to gracious hospitality. Etiquette is about rules.
Those hosting a public event should always know where the restroom is in case anyone asks. Guests should not lose themselves looking for the restroom. Hosts should inquire in advance if anyone has allergies and then coordinate with caterers, etc. to ensure that there are no allergy-related mishaps.
If we want men to behave like a gentlemen, we should behvae like ladies. Both of us should be polite respectful and try not to make others uncomfortable.
A hostess rule I know is to have a set place for hostess gifts so that you don’t have to leave your guests to store them as well as keep vases on hand for flowers for the same reason.
Alison Jones yes they do lol I know a girl a year older than me who used to spit on the floor INSIDE buildings and burp and lift her skirt up in public just because
One of my personal etiquette rules which I learned as a toddler was that outside shoes do not walk on the interior of the home. Too many infants crawling on the carpet with their face on the ground to risk of contamination from chicken, Horse, dog or cat feces. At the home where I do not have formal occasions, only children under seven years of age and a very few elite clients. I always have A box of sterile medical booties at the entrances. If at any time the parents come over without shoes I immediately start boiling pots of water and pour 99% bacterial bleach and Lysol on the floors. I do not allow anyone to walk on the carpets. The minute they walk out the door I pour boiling hot water over the gallons of bleach and Lysol and then I run to the garage to get the heavy duty machine which sucks up all of the germs. In my entire lifetime I've not had to ever go to the doctor for an illness as a result of infection from my own home. Even yesterday the four-year-old who lives around the corner walked in sat down on the carpet took off her boots and said; "I remember I have to take off my shoes because I don't want to get germs in your house and I have to show you how clean my feet are! After I wash my hands can I have some coffee ice cream?" Even law enforcement personnel remove their shoes or wear three sets of medical booties over their shoes. An old podiatrist boyfriend of mine would not even let me walk barefoot on the carpet or the tile because he said that the feet have oil's which will damage his carpets which is why he insisted everyone wear bleached white socks unless they were in the shower. When I go walking at night I step on about 50 cockroaches per hour and about six scorpions and my shoes are covered in stickers and smashed insects. I want to be positive that when I pick up the infant off the ground that her hands that she is placing on my face are clean. One thing I noticed Over the last 55 years is that the super Uber wealthy high class super educated individuals always required OUTDOOR shoes left in the foyer. My mom cleaned house for all of the Hollywood elite and they all had signs at the front door. I don't think I've ever met anyone with smelly feet or diseased warted feet but I can guarantee you that just 10 minutes of walking on my bleached floors and you will be disease-free! If you ever sleep at my house you can find your shoes in my high-powered wash machine on sanitary cycle! 🤗 I have about 10 pair of SUPER SEXY LEATHER BORN CROWN shoes that have been in my wash machine on sanitary cycle at least 50+ times and they still look brand new! I even washed all of my ballroom dance shoes with crystals and chrome diopside in the wash machine on gentle cycle inside of a pillow case so it doesn't scratch my wash machine drum. Stress (as in illness) on the body is accumulative and shortens the length of your telomeres which is why cleanliness is next to godliness!
Married men not wearing their wedding rings and hitting on single women is a huge pet peeve. Children running around in restaurants and jumping on seats. Bringing young children or babies in movie theaters so they act up and scream/cry. Men burping at the table in public loudly. People talking too loud or being obnoxious at restaurants. It's not like we can get up and move our plate..women fighting in public places throwing drinks.
it is interesting to know that those etiquettes are just known and applied in Europe currently, as a savoir vivre, a kind of polite , elegant manners in my generation. Princess Grace Kelly of Monaco used to put her lipstick in public from time to time. It was very feminin, charming, graceful to look at.
I learned some of these in primary school and from my mom. Now they are a part of who I am but people in my country say that I am "high soci," a local expression that means high maintenance or from high society or some have said "she feels she is better than people." None of this is true but that is what etiquette gets you in my country these days.
When at any restaurant that serves soup, the soup will be served in a bowl on a plate. The spoon goes on the side of the plate, never in the bowl. It is not kept in the bowl because if somebody bumps the spoon, soup can go flying everywhere. The plate also allows the server to handle the soup bowl without burning their hands and dropping the contents on either themselves or you. If you for some reason are served soup without a plate under the bowl, simply ask your server for a plate. You are not being rude. You are paying to eat there and most probably putting out a tip as well. You are entitled to a soup bowl plate.
Kindly publish two separate two separate videos on dinning rules regarding eating And serving anyone sitting in a living room rather than a dinning table.
The only thing I struggle with is not crossing the legs when I'm seated. For a short time I can sit up straight, away from the back of the chair and position my legs properly. But if it's going to be for a longer period of time, I'm too short to rest my back against the back of the chair without tippy-toeing my left foot and crossing my legs. Then switch legs to relax the calf that's been contracted. And I can't tippy-toe both feet in the proper position because the calves get no break and get cramp-y and sore.
That's the problem, feminists are trying to be like men. Feminists always thought that being like men meant being total slobs and scratching their fannies. Stop trying. Being feminine is ULTIMATE POWER. Your man is your tool through which you do your work. Men are ultimately weaker.
The smoking one bugs me. My mom never respected the fact that I didn't want her smoking around me or in my car. The car I currently have is the only one she's never smoked in. I think the only reasons she didn't smoke in my current car is because it was brand new when I bought it and it has no ashtray. The other cars I had were used, my first was my grams car which she used before my gram gave it to me. Unless the person who's driving lights up, don't smoke in their car, it's not ok.
The Conversation part needs be revised. I am very polite but im also very spontanious around friends. Tips on controling ths conversation would of been great.
What do you think the most annoying etiquette mistake is? 🤔
BRIGHT SIDE first reply. Anyways when how the dineing party burps or coughs-sneezes And doesn’t do it in thy elbow
Not the worse but worth mentioning. A guest keeps you at the door a long time when they are saying good bye so that you are leaving your other guest for longer than you should. The guest leaving should thank you for the invite and leave.
A visitor assuming they can walk in your with their shoes on shoes 👠 on
BRIGHT SID
Wearing too much perfume/cologne and heavily-scented aftershave/body wash.
TIMESTAMPS
When you have guests 1:03
When you are a guest 1:18
In a restaurant 1:42
Communication rules 2:37
Table manners 3:00
General rules 3:58
Public coatrooms 4:27
Car etiquette 5:05
Don't show up at someone's home without letting them know you're going to come over just because you're family or friends. You don't know if someone is not home or busy. Or simply not ready for company.
Delicate Damsel I took a screenshot of this. My moms bf is upset at her and I for taking the house keys because he felt like he could just pop over whenever he wanted like he owns the place
I'm perfectly okay with people coming over without notice. I guess it might be different for home owners.
It's a joke I'm not homeless just a minor.
Here's 3 others....When at a restaurant, don't start eating unless everyone has their food. At sit down dinners at a host's home, don't start eating until THEY start eating. Also, elbows do not belong on the table.
doesn't that go for men and women?
MakeWayForCJ I heard that once you are served you can start eating.
Elbow are allowed on the table in between meals, while no one is eating. Oh, and men can’t wear hats indoors, but women can.
As far as I know you only have to wait for the other person to be served if there is only 2 of you, e.g. on a date. When you are in a larger group, you don't have to wait until everyone is served as your food might turn cold...
Well, you can actually rest them on the table IF there is no food there yet, but other than that, elbows don't belong on top of tables
I love the “Duchess Slant” and the “Cambridge Cross” those names sound beautifully elegant.
Yes
I always tried to do it but if failed
It is called that way because the duchess of Cambridge HRH Catherine sits like that
Most of these are just common sense or courtesy. The fact that such basic fundamentals are considered old-time etiquette is quite worrying.
Nothing "common" about Class! 🎩💫
Trust me it is not "common sense".
Some people were just never taught so how would they know
Nowdays, what we consider as a "common sense" many people find it useless, annoying, etc. I came to this video to learn more about manners so I can make others feel less uncomfortable and maybe show them that being polite should an "of course".
These are very important tips which I think should have been taught during upbringing or at least during higher education. They help you to move through different classes of society easily. I am very happy that I learned a lot of these at a young age.
Social stratification prevention of low class to learn, pose, or realize how the membership they weren't aware of was declined
Just curious, are you part of the Divine Nine?
@@vaildes410 no.
@@vaildes410 no.
make sure the toilette is clean after using it..
*toilet
Jeff Bezos Toilette is correct,
it’s just in French.
Nice, but its not effective in my place ._.
Lydia Jade and german haha
@@Pinkuchii-Pink same at mines. It's so inconsiderate and disgusting.
I am a girl turning 16 and I’ve noticed how awful my behavior is and I don’t know what to do when I’m outside. This video helped me to learn some etiquette. Thank you for uploading this!
This is old but whatever
Are you sophisticated at 19 ?😊
Meant in the spirit of curiosity.....
Not intended to offend
@@doolally14786
Always say please and thank you
I have millenial-aged step-children who absolutely refuse to follow this adage. It's just so rude to say 'hey, can you gimme the salt?' and then just continue on without a moment of gratitude...
When I asked them why they refused to say please, the response was 'Why should I say please? They're gonna give it to me either way...".
@@AineEithne
Respectfully,
how unfortunate.
you forgot one thing NEVER eat with your mouth open!
Besides through a feeding tube...the only way to eat is with your mouth open.
More correctly never chew with your mouth open
Im used to eating *properly*
That goes for everybody cuz it’s just gross
It's painful to eat with your mouth closed, especially if your mouth is as small as mines
I think these are great etiquette tips! In my opinion, it’s unfortunate that so many people associate manners and social grace with being robotic Or unoriginal.
Whenever I meet someone with great manners, I’m always impressed and intrigued. Conversely, poor manners can be a turn-off sometimes... it’s never a bad idea to learn how to be polite and appropriate.
Duct_Tape Heart finally I found a comment as same as my thoughts
parvin pal that's their problem, they are manner less... If you think someone is taking advantage of your being nice, you gotta fight for it... But don't stop being polite or having manners
Look at it this way. Being mannerly these days is actually AGAINST the norm. How's that for "indviduality"? They're the robots. All programmed to be rude AF (please pardon my abbreviated "French" 🙂).
Duct_Tape Heart agreed
Thank you for this. I think manners are not only polite but also attractive. Whenever I see a woman wearing a skirt or dress and she sits down without crossing her legs but instead turns her knees slightly to the side and crosses her ankles I find that very cute and adorable. Not in a child like way but more like an lovely innocent kind of way.
"It doesn't have to be expensive."
0.5 seconds later: "Try a bottle of wine."
Wine doesnt have to be expensive
Wine isn't expensive
She also gave you options.
A very cheap alternative is a box of homemade brownies
Hey you can give anything
In Hungary it would be rude not to say goodbye to all the other guests before you leave.
This just a western mannered video, I think they did a video on manners of the world or, that might have been another video. It was very interesting, you might be able to still find it :)
Here in Brazil too. I did that in a party years ago and my friends were really mad. They still talk about it playfully: “Remember that day Gabi just disappeared without saying goodbye to anyone?”
Yeah, even in Australia that sounds odd
same for Pakistan , its more based on the idea of culture individually than what others just do
I think it probably also depends on your relationship with the other people at the party. There are parties where you barely know some of the guests, and there are the ones with your friends and family.
Unfortunately rules of common courtesy do not seem to be taught anymore. One rule not mentioned was to give up your seat on a subway or bus if an older or infirm person gets on and you are able bodied yourself. A woman can be equal in society without being discourteous or slovenly. Of course there are also rules of etiquette that men should observe. Making life a little more pleasant for everyone is a good thing, not an affront to individualism or equality.
I'm an older person living in Norway and here people always invariably offer me their seat or draw my attention to an empty one.
Totally agree with your POV. Entitlement overshadowing courtesy is the curse of our times.
So true
So very true. My son and husband still follow these rules. They must be gentlemen.
Yeah this is an important one everywhere in the world, surprised it's not mentioned in the video.
I want to be a gentleman to women
Well, Mikey, apparently your mothet brought you up to be a gentleman.Bravo.
Mikey Lejan so be it!👍🏻
Yas
Yankeez 99
😆
Got my respect for that!
I don’t know why people are complaining. This video is for women who want to be ladylike.
Julie Cramer Ikr?
Julie Cramer / did you never heard it at your home? from your mother or grandmother? Can not believe...
Julie Cramer What's wrong with that?
Women and men should act the same way. The term ladylike separates the genders. We're trying to get rid of the gender divide not increase it to the way it was in the 18th century it's the term ladylike that pisses people off because you shouldn't be trying to be different to be considered ladylike your already female which classifies you as a lady just be yourself
xXLOZZYXx if we want to be ladylike, we will be ladylike. I hope you know the definition of ladylike. There's a difference b/w lady and ladylike and a lot of us ladies want to be ladylike. Yeah there are a lot that don't but some of us do so please let us identify ourselves as ladylike. I mean if we use gentlemen, why not use ladylike?
Thanks for that refresher! It's always nice to be around considerate people. However good behavior isn't just for ladies.
Pam Fridell Yes!! So true
Yeah.Ive seen alot og guys who are Pigs!
In Msia (at least, I don’t know about other countries), rule #3 about not saying goodbye to the other guests differs for us. It is considered rude to depart without saying goodbye to everyone, even to those who aren’t in the same room. We have to say goodbye to everyone unless they’re too busy to acknowledge your goodbye e.g. they’re in the washroom 😬
Don't overstay your welcome ... 3 day max when visiting as houseguest!
Yup. Unless it's close family (e.g. grandparents, siblings, parents). And even then, it's polite to tell them how long you're thinking of staying, and to ask if that will work for them.
Jane / yes! Very important! Some people do not realise hiw much their " comfortable stay" might be so uncomfortable for host or hostess, especially!
Bhilithinn/ it doesn't matter if close or not very close...sometimes is far more relaxing to have an good friend at home than your parents or mother-in-law as they will always critisize and go on with their advices...
someone needs to tell my in-laws that
This varies a lot from country to country. Before inviting someone or accepting an invitation from someone from another culture or country check on the differences and maybe make it clear how long they're invited for (or ask how long you're invited for). It may not seem very polite to say it outright but it's far better than misunderstanding each other!
Im asian mum who lives in western country. Its good to know clearly so I can educate my children properly. Thank you!
In the Philippines, most often our guest brings nothing and they went home with something on their hands either fruits and vegetables, excess food, things, and money. How good was that to be?
Maybe it has something to do with our culture
Some people give their guests things to leave with, I suppose its only the kinder ones. This is based on more western manners so Im not sure who did what but the famous make the books so famous people might not give others things to leave with. In my family everyone gets cookies or some form of traditional Irish or Italian food and sometimes even old books and family made things like blankets.
i have ever invited people for my birthday party.i had even cooked for them.what pains me is that they came empty handed.they ate all my food and drinks and no one could even think of bringing me a birthday gift. its from there i noticed i had been having all the wrong friends all that time. i don't think i am going to hold such a party soon,in my house.did i mention they even left without helping with the dishes or something of the sort
Probably appropriate to do in your culture though, right? I think that's cool to make sure people leave with fruit or a gift. :)
@@cassiemillennial388 you need new friends!
Blowing their nose specially when other people are eating at the dinning table. They should go to the restroom so they can wash their hands afterwards.
Right. And blowing their nose into their napkin even worse. 😜
Jessica C. I’m shocked people do this. I cringe at the thought
Dont eat your Boogers at the table either.
The sad thing is i cant sit with my legs 'stick' together... my big thighs just cannot handle it, they'd start to hurt😂
Cross your ankles then.Looks classy.
Girl same
Reduce your thighs size. simple.
It's not that simple..
@@peabeam6231 what? Explain.
The points with the serviettes, at least in western Europe, are wrong. You place the serviette on your lap as soon as you sit down however at formal event you wait till you‘re asked to sit down. When you stand up you ALWAYS place the serviette to the left of your plate, or if there is one, to the left of your bread plate.
I m glad that my mum thought me all these etiquettes from my childhood only..❤️❤️ And so I m greeted greatly and appreciated for them always..😊
Please and Thank You .... use often.
Barbara Eyre I wholeheartedly agree.
Never curse in front of children or use grotesque language of any kind in their company, neither tell horrific stories of a disturbing nature. A real lady should never swear but because swearing is so mainstream it ought to be mentioned even to ordinary girls that it is disrespectful, rude, undignified, idiotic, and selfish to swear infrought of children, a mother with a baby, in a church, in a classroom, in the company of a person who has expressed wishes not to hear such words, or to a person of significance. A girl who curses every other word is not a lady or a princess though her fancies may attempt to believe otherwise. Try to use correct English in every circumstance but never use big words in the presence of people who wouldn't understand them. Avoid chewing gum during conversation, if you enter a conversation with gum in your mouth excuse yourself to spit it out. Never speak with your mouth full, chew with your lips closed and take small bites. When in conversation with another person don't talk for a very long time, only speak one or two sentences or statements and let the next person speak. In conversation don't thouch your phone, do not have it in your hand, and better yet, put it out of sight. Don't have your phone at the dinner table unless looking up something relative to conversation or emergency. Follow the above guidelines even though your companions do not, these guidlines are based out of respect for the fellow person and following your friends' behavior will erode your character.
Anna Grace Hilton you are a LEGEND!
God bless you Sister! Thank you very much :)
Anna Grace Hilton ooo
i do everything you said in that sentence, i was brought up with basic manners, but im not a 'lady' im boyish, im far from a lady
Um.Ok Miss Manners.
I was taught all of these rules and a lot more when I was young. My mother wanted 'royal' behavior to act like a lady. So there is still some desire to have these manners and etiquette prevail. I think it is an excellent idea for every young man and woman to learn etiquette and manners so they can be treated with respect and be respectful themselves. Regardless of the gender of the person.
You are a gorgeous kitty.
For someone with social anxieties and chronic shyness, proper instruction on manners and etiquette would have benefited me greatly.
Agreed
I do not agree with putting lipstick on at the table, no matter who is at your table. It is not "lady like" to put lipstick on in public. It should be done in the privacy of the batbroom.
-April T
matt snead True
wrong. Queen Elizabeth is ine of the most sophisticated lady in the world abd she re applied her lipstick in oublic all the time abd she even said it's ok.
Yes! And why would anyone put on lipstick during any part of a meal at all? There is no need for it to be applied before nor at the start of the meal, (this could send the wrong message about the chef's food! Would you really prefer the taste of your lipstick in your lunch or supper, and would you like to get it on your teeth?) And there is no need for lipstick application AT THE TABLE immediatelt *after* the meal, either, because you should retreat to the drawing room (via the lavatories to freshen up) immediately after the last course is served anyway. You should reapply lipstick in the cloak room or water closet. Never at the dining table.
stvh B She didn't say "in public"; she said at the dinner table.
masakasama well put! Thank you
-April T
You left one more which applies to men too: do not replace “pardon?” or “come again?” with “huh?” or “HAH?”
Such a peeve.
Yes! But-depending on the tone with which it is said of course- I sometimes find “excuse me?” a tad confrontational. But it’s far better than “HAH?”
Blazing Kugelblitz I say “sorry?” too! 😂
Say What!
Hate hearing peoples cell phone conversations in public.... Talking constantly...ugh. So unpleasant, and rude... Most of the time, what I've heard could wait.
Belle s umm so we should ignore important calls. Like some work you knw?
Mic Lemos we should not ignore them. We should simply leave for sometime to attend that call and always try to return as early as possible. Well, an important call is never too long! Important call means that someone wants to TELL something important to us. And that doesn't takes so much of time, I guess.
and some cant even try and talk in low tones. they just speak so loudly and it disgusts a lot.
Agreed and it's as if they want everyone around them to hear their irrelevant conversation
Yes what I heard could really wait.
When entering someone's home for the first time as a guest, always ask if you should remove your shoes first.
I also heard, if you get a ride with a friend or someone you know, you never sit at the back, that gives the impression that he or she is your chauffer, which is not cool.
You sit as "co-pilot".
Well, if there is nobody else, that is
I think being a lady is very important
Raelyn Rainforth Ditto💗
How about being agentlemsn?
Me too.
Great video and great insight to make all ladies behave as a true lady!
When in someone else's car, buckle your seat belt without having to be asked and, for God's sake, don't argue with them when they ask you to buckle it.
You forgot to take your shoes off when you enter somebody's home,unless they tell you not to .
lilosweet24 that is a very culture specific rule that would be considered rude and uneducated in other countries
In Hawaii that's a given, all of your guest are required to take their shoes off.
Never have I ever agreed wholeheartedly to a YT comment as this.
lilosweet24 I do not expect that from my guests, and myself do not do it. Why do we buy all those beautiful shoes? To change into somebody’s slippers outside? Shoes are part of an outfit and should be left on. If you invite people over, vacuum again when they leave.. or do not invite.
Grace Madejski you made a really good point , but I think this is for casual meetings , people not always come with clean shoes and its more helthier take it off inside .
No elbows on the table...ever.
Taryn S how about no you little butch
Taryn S,
Agreed. Another etiquette rule for the table is to never chew with you mouth open.
Shmu10 Oh, definitely. That should NEVER be broken. Or for that fact, speak with your mouth full.
You can put elbows on a table when the meal is over, after or between courses when there is no food on the table.
Which confuses me. Why do we do business deals over dinner then?
I think, it would be useful to add:
"1. Please, install your seatbelt without being specifically asked by the driver as the liability for your safety including fines and demerit points it is on him. So, be polite, pro-active and avoid tensionate moments between yourself and the host expecting you to buckle-on."
"2. When on the passinger seat - please do not try to lecture the driver about how to drive safely and correctly. If you feel unsafe, ask to be move to a back seat."
"3.Refrain to eat and drink in your host's car - unless specifically invited, to do so."
"4. Do not horseplay or distract the driver in anyway. Let the driver lead and/or initiate a conversation, do not try to be the dominating entity in the car."
Thanks, your VDO was truly impressive.
The soup spoon goes on the scarcer underneath your bowl not on the table cloth nor the bowl
Some other ones could be: sit straight at a table (this is for health as well as good dinner etiquette); when you shake someone's hand upon greeting, use a firm grip and look them in the eyes (to show that they have your full attention, also by firm grip I don't mean squeezing); when you enter a home, take your shoes off, especially if they have carpeted floors, (this lessens the cleaning for your host later) unless otherwise specified, of course this may vary upon culture, and friends vs strangers
These videos give me hope... and life! Thank you! :)
I've learnt alot from this video. There are rules that I dint know before thanks alot.
26. Don't take a full minute from a 7 minute video to get to the first tip.
What countries/ regions are these appropriate in? Locations, times, age, religion & regions change the appropriateness of Etiquette, which varies depending on many factors. Some were covered but it left me with more questions. Honestly Bright Side, when I research what you post I find many of your facts incomplete or out of date. I still watch because you’re videos can be a great starting place for further research. I also appreciate that you’ve steadily improved your videos.
I dont get why we shouldn't say goodbye to other guests if we leave early! isn't this rude to just leave?
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Totally. Of course you should mention that you’re leaving early because of whatever...but one certainly doesn’t just sneak out without saying goodbye to people.
Is Serbia is extremely rude if you don't say goodbye ... some of this don't apply in all parts of the world
YOu run the risk of causing a mass exodus from the host's party, which is a valid point, as the host should be a priority over other guests when at their function. The host invited you. Pay them the honour of not disturbing their function.
If it's a function going on at a friend's house and you know everybody been going to say hey got to cut out early and you say goodbye to everyone to not offend your friends if it's people that you don't know you know it's like a mixed function then I think it would be okay in America to pull the hostess aside and tell her that you're headed out cuz other people don't know you they don't care if you're there or not there if you say goodbye to the group be sure you say that you are cutting out early so that the hostess doesn't end up with a complete Exodus of her event. I think if there's just a handful of people this is okay if it's a large group I think it makes you look like you want to be in the Limelight or center of attention if you announce your departure. If you have me contact with someone or connected to someone or someone that you've talked with the party that you have agree to get back later with about something then go to that person also and let them know that you're cutting out early but you will remember to do whatever it is that your guys have agreed to do.Does this make sense?
I agree, after speaking with your host[ess] you should say goodbye to everyone and apologize for having to leave early: that way you say a polite goodbye but don't make others feel pressured to leave as well.
Really good we need this refresher course now & then 🍽🥢🍴🥄🍵🍺🍹🍸🍷
Truthfully, I don't really like the words, "gender equality." In relationships, I don't want to be equal to the man. I deserve to be treated like a lady and be taken care of. I'm a GIRL, not a dude.
Kitty Cat Sweetheart it's not about being treated as a man. It's being treated with the same amount of respect that would be given to a man
Exactly
Kitty Cat Sweetheart agree 100%
I see what you mean, it’s. It’s not about being treated like a guy though. I’m very feminine and am very much the lady in my relationship but we’re still equal. If you see what I mean?
Kitty Cat Sweetheart THANK YOU. Finally somebody normal.
Thanks for yet another great video. I don't see too many people care about etiquette these days but how you publicly behave, the way you talk, walk, sit, eat and even smile tells a lot about your upbringing. I prefer not talking on the mobile in a car for too long...I try to end it asap because it makes other people awkward.
1) Always use proper set of spoon to have meal.
2) At public place or wherever, always pull up chair for the lady first.
3) Small stutt like holding the door for others counts as decent act.
3)
Thank you for posting this video. It is all ways a good thing to have manners.
Very informative; very nice to know. Thanks!!
*Charm School Curriculum* ... "Class is never out of style."
*"A girl should be 2 things: Classy and Fabulous"*
- Coco Chanel
It truly pleases me to see this Post and to observe the number of views -
There is hope of a Most Benevolent Outcome for our Society and the overall behavior of the society in This Era.
It shows ones *"Respect for Self and Respect for Others"*
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Please make a video for husband and wife etiquettes and rules of life. Including sitting in a car with family
Thank You so much dearest 💐
You’re such an inspiration 🥰
Be Blissful Eternally 🙏😇
While I agree with some of these, a lot of them feel outdated/unnecessary. Emily Post once said that the point of etiquette is to make people feel comfortable in your presence. Etiquette is about being considerate, it's NOT about the "correct" way to hold your coffee cup.
Emily Lynn I disagree, sorry. Etiquette and hospitality are not mutually exclusive. Your post from Emily Post refers to gracious hospitality. Etiquette is about rules.
BINGO!
how is this only for women.. i think it goes both ways
Those hosting a public event should always know where the restroom is in case anyone asks. Guests should not lose themselves looking for the restroom. Hosts should inquire in advance if anyone has allergies and then coordinate with caterers, etc. to ensure that there are no allergy-related mishaps.
Or, just serve everybody Peanuts.
Make one for gentlemen .
I came here to comment this
For gentleman tips the channel Gentleman Gazette is really helpful. I watch his videos it's good. Or Teaching Men's Style.
After you receive an invitation, always rsvp promptly. After receiving a gift, always hand write a thank you note
We are missing ANY etiquett so bad these days :(
If we want men to behave like a gentlemen, we should behvae like ladies. Both of us should be polite respectful and try not to make others uncomfortable.
A hostess rule I know is to have a set place for hostess gifts so that you don’t have to leave your guests to store them as well as keep vases on hand for flowers for the same reason.
I always prefer comfort , i am here just for knowledge ❤ . sometime this may work for you .learn, learn, learn everything
You seem like a very sweet and kind person! I bet you're a delight to be around! ❤
I have a huge respect for your channel.
These manners should be part of the school curriculum
When someone says ‘thank you’ say ‘your welcome’. It’s common courtesy. I’ve had so many respond with ‘uh huh’ at my job. It’s insincere and rude.
I am a man. Can i become a lady if i follow these rules?
Jerome ...
Maybeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
Yes you can become a lady
yes
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Jerome haha 😂 only if you insist 😬
Do people really need to be told these things? We live in scary times! Rise of the Walmart Zombies.
Alison Jones yes they do lol I know a girl a year older than me who used to spit on the floor INSIDE buildings and burp and lift her skirt up in public just because
Alison Jones hahahahahaha
This is for women who want to be ladies
I was raised in a single parent home by my dad who worked full time.
I appreciate this Big-time
M sa .
No arms on the table
One of my personal etiquette rules which I learned as a toddler was that outside shoes do not walk on the interior of the home. Too many infants crawling on the carpet with their face on the ground to risk of contamination from chicken, Horse, dog or cat feces. At the home where I do not have formal occasions, only children under seven years of age and a very few elite clients. I always have A box of sterile medical booties at the entrances. If at any time the parents come over without shoes I immediately start boiling pots of water and pour 99% bacterial bleach and Lysol on the floors. I do not allow anyone to walk on the carpets. The minute they walk out the door I pour boiling hot water over the gallons of bleach and Lysol and then I run to the garage to get the heavy duty machine which sucks up all of the germs. In my entire lifetime I've not had to ever go to the doctor for an illness as a result of infection from my own home. Even yesterday the four-year-old who lives around the corner walked in sat down on the carpet took off her boots and said; "I remember I have to take off my shoes because I don't want to get germs in your house and I have to show you how clean my feet are! After I wash my hands can I have some coffee ice cream?" Even law enforcement personnel remove their shoes or wear three sets of medical booties over their shoes. An old podiatrist boyfriend of mine would not even let me walk barefoot on the carpet or the tile because he said that the feet have oil's which will damage his carpets which is why he insisted everyone wear bleached white socks unless they were in the shower. When I go walking at night I step on about 50 cockroaches per hour and about six scorpions and my shoes are covered in stickers and smashed insects. I want to be positive that when I pick up the infant off the ground that her hands that she is placing on my face are clean. One thing I noticed Over the last 55 years is that the super Uber wealthy high class super educated individuals always required OUTDOOR shoes left in the foyer. My mom cleaned house for all of the Hollywood elite and they all had signs at the front door. I don't think I've ever met anyone with smelly feet or diseased warted feet but I can guarantee you that just 10 minutes of walking on my bleached floors and you will be disease-free! If you ever sleep at my house you can find your shoes in my high-powered wash machine on sanitary cycle! 🤗 I have about 10 pair of SUPER SEXY LEATHER BORN CROWN shoes that have been in my wash machine on sanitary cycle at least 50+ times and they still look brand new! I even washed all of my ballroom dance shoes with crystals and chrome diopside in the wash machine on gentle cycle inside of a pillow case so it doesn't scratch my wash machine drum. Stress (as in illness) on the body is accumulative and shortens the length of your telomeres which is why cleanliness is next to godliness!
I love etiquette. Thanks for sharing.
And by the way, these are rules that make everybody comfortable. I hope I conform to the things that make other people comfortable.
I was raised with all of these I never knew it made me a lady hahaha whatever 😁❤
Lucky!
I hope my daughter says the same thing :-)
great piece but unfortunately cannot be downloaded. thank you
Married men not wearing their wedding rings and hitting on single women is a huge pet peeve. Children running around in restaurants and jumping on seats. Bringing young children or babies in movie theaters so they act up and scream/cry. Men burping at the table in public loudly. People talking too loud or being obnoxious at restaurants. It's not like we can get up and move our plate..women fighting in public places throwing drinks.
Than You.
Thank you for the great tips!
Why do I feel more comfortable around people that have like zero etiquette skills?
Maybe you are not feeling judged if unconsciously lacking some etiquette skills because you would suggest they neither are aware of it.
@@jaira_7193 well as they say, ignorance is bliss 😂😂😂
it is interesting to know that those etiquettes are just known and applied in Europe currently, as a savoir vivre, a kind of polite , elegant manners in my generation. Princess Grace Kelly of Monaco used to put her lipstick in public from time to time. It was very feminin, charming, graceful to look at.
Half way into this video I lost interest, grabbed my hairbrush 🎤 and started to sing Pretty woman 🌹🎵🎶
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Ashley Little Fawn your funny
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You sound like a rude person.
@@Ad-Lo She sounds a human.
These are basics what's wrong with you?
I learned some of these in primary school and from my mom. Now they are a part of who I am but people in my country say that I am "high soci," a local expression that means high maintenance or from high society or some have said "she feels she is better than people." None of this is true but that is what etiquette gets you in my country these days.
can you please make a video on High School etiquette ? thankyou ~
it will help me!! I'm going to my friend's house tomorrow!!
Don't put ur feet up in a visitors car! HELLO!!!!!
Especialky bare feet.Ewwwwwww.
When at any restaurant that serves soup, the soup will be served in a bowl on a plate. The spoon goes on the side of the plate, never in the bowl. It is not kept in the bowl because if somebody bumps the spoon, soup can go flying everywhere. The plate also allows the server to handle the soup bowl without burning their hands and dropping the contents on either themselves or you. If you for some reason are served soup without a plate under the bowl, simply ask your server for a plate. You are not being rude. You are paying to eat there and most probably putting out a tip as well. You are entitled to a soup bowl plate.
On the topic of eating: My parents always told us it is rude to chew with your mouth open.
It is also offensive to be making loud sounds whilst chewing
Thanks Bright Side for sharing this video with some of us
"Doesn't have to be anything expensive, perhaps a bottle of wine..."
Me: *bruh*
but be sure you know that they would gladly accept - some do not want any strong drinks in their homes
Kindly publish two separate two separate videos on dinning rules regarding eating
And serving anyone sitting in a living room rather than a dinning table.
Well, most of those rules apply to men too, not only women. I usually see rude impolite men more than rude women around in my country.
Thank you so much, really helped me act like a lady more!
The 511 people who dislike this video don’t have no manner.😒
... and probably need it the most.
The only thing I struggle with is not crossing the legs when I'm seated. For a short time I can sit up straight, away from the back of the chair and position my legs properly. But if it's going to be for a longer period of time, I'm too short to rest my back against the back of the chair without tippy-toeing my left foot and crossing my legs. Then switch legs to relax the calf that's been contracted. And I can't tippy-toe both feet in the proper position because the calves get no break and get cramp-y and sore.
Thanks for the good education of social esthetic.
Empowering women to be feminists but still classy...I love it!
That's the problem, feminists are trying to be like men. Feminists always thought that being like men meant being total slobs and scratching their fannies. Stop trying. Being feminine is ULTIMATE POWER. Your man is your tool through which you do your work. Men are ultimately weaker.
Ummm....That's so not what this video is about. It has nothing to do with feminism......yeah uh....no way....NO WAY😞😞😞😞😞😞😞
The smoking one bugs me. My mom never respected the fact that I didn't want her smoking around me or in my car. The car I currently have is the only one she's never smoked in. I think the only reasons she didn't smoke in my current car is because it was brand new when I bought it and it has no ashtray. The other cars I had were used, my first was my grams car which she used before my gram gave it to me. Unless the person who's driving lights up, don't smoke in their car, it's not ok.
It sounds like you had raise yourself.
Very good video dear ❤️
The Conversation part needs be revised. I am very polite but im also very spontanious around friends. Tips on controling ths conversation would of been great.