How to tell if an INTP likes you
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In this episode of Talking with Famous People, Host Zachary discusses how to tell in an INTP likes you.
I think Intps are pretty damned good at hiding their romantic feelings if they really want to. They have a lot of practice suppressing their feelings.
Yes, I can Feel something strong for someone but If I know it's not gonna work ( not the same way for our lives ) I will just hiding it for moving on after
Yup
Sooooo trueeee
Mah as well! Maybe if all intps meet we all be like a room full of really intelligent babooons
I mean I usually make it pretty obvious, I like it. Like generally I’ll make extra effort to talk to the girl, and try to spend more time with her.
"Usually I feel like I'm pretty detached in my environment." < The most INTP thing I can think of.
The culmination to the end of the video was great. "Just ask them." It made me laugh.
I remember when I was like 17 years old, I wrote an essey for school where I said that quite often I felt like my thoughts were more real than what I could percieve with my senses. I think my teacher though I was crazy.
I feel like that and I'm an INFP but maybe I'm thinking about this in a different way than INTPs would idk
That’s for sure
I think a common misconception is that if an INTP isn't actively friends with a person, they don't like them. I like almost everyone, it's very hard for me to find people I dislike, but I'm very selective about who I share my time with because the introvert in me values time alone more than time with others; so that time I DO spend with others (especially new people) can be very strained for me, even if I do like them.
+Tipsylou Spot on (for some, at least). I like seeing people...but I don't particularly want to speak with them.
Tipsylou ohh well I hate the human race
Tipsylou I've never related to anything as much as this comment right here.
I can’t agree with you more.
I'm an INTP female. Whenever I like someone I become SUPER awkward and tensed up and become even more quiet than I usually am and let them do all the talking, out of fear I will say something undesirable or annoying. But I also make direct eye contact and let them know I'm hanging on every word.
Idk, I'm the opposite. When I like someone I'm usually pretty direct and speak freely but only if it's us 2 talking. If other people are involved I become awkward and weird. idk why lol.
+Roi Flip lol same as you
+Flippy Roi I'm a girl intp and same
@@Maquisha1 I speak weird things. And can't look at them aat allllll!! But I hear everything they say. Actually now that I think I just ignore my emotions and think of them as any other person so that I don't behave awkwardly. I'm pretty cool when I don't like you.
Snacking Piece of Trash I'm a guy with some feminine characteristics and, word for word, exactly what you said.
I'm am INTP and I actually cannot act normally when forced into small talk no matter how hard I try, but if a total stranger just started talking to me about Christopher Hitchens or something, I would feel completely comfortable and not awkward or weird at all
So yeah, be direct
yeah i think small talks are stupid (or superficial?)
Nadeshda Ney agree 100%
Nadeshda Ney if someone opened with hitch to me my nipples would tingle
Nadeshda N i feel you. Being anonymous is such a liberating feeling. :) infj here
Im so awkward all the time to the point where if there's any pressure at all it sounds like im lying if im telling the truth
I think that my INTP Fe is strong enough that I'm pretty good at guessing what others are feeling, but it doesn't give me a clue on how I should react to that.
Me too, I don’t know how to react until recently I met this friend that we talk about this stuff and she guides on how to react to people’s emotions
@@zeddicuszulzorander1431 can I steal her for a weak or two so I finally can get the courage to finish my project to become human
Jakob Froberg unfortunately that was one year ago, now we barely talk if at all 😅
@@zeddicuszulzorander1431 is she available now? After 3 years you probably have learned enough and maybe I can borrow her?
As an INTP female, when I like someone, I research about them. I fangirl so hard on them and it can go worse without anyone even knowing how I really feel inside bc I keep on hiding it. I always wanted to delete my emotions, on whom I like bc it really destroys me. I get so obsessed about the person, and I keep overthinking about him, my brain just keeps on repeating scenes of our encounter and I think I overanalyze how my crush feels and what I did to make him think that way, if I am right about he is really thinking about that moment.
Kai Chiba I'm infp and I react identically.
Kai Chiba I thought i was the only one!
I am the same and It's happen To me actually. I am like a stalker on his Instagram or Snap or others things but no one know it. I am so good to make people think that I hate the guy but in fact between him and me it's really on an another level
When I am saying something to him I keep thinking about What he can answer or what I was supposed to say for make it in an other situation
Kai Chiba Yo I thought I was crazy, now I know for sure I’m not alone *sigh*
"it's nothing personal...unless, you want to identify those qualities as personal"
lol - INTP without a doubt. There's that relentless, stream-of-conscious precision rearing its head. Great video...been on a hunt for them after a friend sent me an email identifying me as an intp
Tomi Adewole Couldn't say it better myself. I myself picked up specifically on that statement as well. I really adore people that can bring light to the subjectivity of it all.
Cat Ram subtle distinctions reveal so much about things, eh? :-)
That statement alone got him a subscription from me, the rest was just gravy.
As much as our conscious mind can muster per time of course. Because we strongly believe in constantly shaping our world view with the more information we can gather to help us make sense of it all. Lol
INFJ: I can't ask! If he rejects me it'll be the first thing I remember when I can't fall asleep for YEARS.
YES
Im infj and im in the same situation right now, please tell me if you did it and what happened ?
@@sabrinasabrina3884 I did. I waited too long and it was awkward. He never replied. My conclusion was that I need to learn to respond better when they first approach me.
That really hit home when you explained losing friends and relationships as a result of not knowing what you did/what was going on. I've spent a lot of time and effort trying to fit in and get other people but I'm realizing I need to just pursue my own interests and keep only those who are able understand me enough to not cause friction around. Thanks for this video.
Umm🤚🤚🤚 intp female here and I know what someone is feeling without them even talking...🤔🤔
The only part of this I question (as an INTP) is the idea that if an INTP likes you romantically then they will be sure of it. Personally I find that it takes a pretty long time for me to distinguish whether I like someone romantically or platonically. Due to the strong platonic bonds we tend to form, it can feel pretty similar to a crush. So while there is often a spark and attachment fairly early on, it can take me another month or so to figure out what the hell I am actually feeling. And while I appreciate other people being up front, I would be unlikely to tell someone if they asked me directly if I liked them (depending of course on the nature of our relationship and how comfortable I feel with that person) because of that risk of being emotionally vulnerable. But the rest is very relatable.
INTP here.
Speaking from personally experience, if the person is attractive, doesn't have to be hot, just physically appealing, and I can engage in deep conversation with about anything, then that person can assume that I like her romantically. It is that simple. These people are hard to find. When there is one I think she is the special one.
Likewise for guys, if he is a deep thinker or witty kind, then a quick conversation would have planted the seed for friendship.
+Tizonwar8 I do have such a friend I'm interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with, too bad she's currently dating one of my good friends :(
+Tizonwar8 my brother is like that too!^^
"Ask us if we like you" how I wish they would do that
I am offended by social queues all the time. I can never tell if people are patronizing me or just being nice, especially when someone is trying to flirt. . . The innuendoes just fly way over my head only to be spontaneously understood at a much later hour .
+Vanessa Garcia Absolutely. I'm terrible at subtleties.
+Vanessa Garcia I wish I got to understand those cues an hour later. I've been told of people who apparently were flirting with me and never understood how what was being pointed constituted flirting.
I am an INTP female, and I can see a lot of myself in your thinking facial expressions. It's quite fascinating.
Nikooru Me too 😂😂😂
INTP here. I felt like this was spot on. Assuming that, just because I'm female, I'll be able to read social cues is bullsh*t. You have to tell me directly or ask me directly, otherwise I have no idea what's going on.
Deanna Nunley . Yes, it also frustrates me that the world keeps telling me how much easier I have it just for being female, I can have anyone I want easy (Hahaha!) and all I have to do is cry to have my way and I get out of trouble easy just for being weepy and fragile... and all I have to do is get married and have an easy life "You don't HAVE to work!"...
Yes, I have to. It's In my fiber.
- But you don't have to!
Yes.. I do have to for my mental health.
- If you can get married and society doesn't look down on you, you don't HAVE TO!
SOCIETY DOES LOOK DOWN ON ME! I'm female INTP! Most people don't want to come near me, let alone the very few I like.
- But you can still get a man to marry-
I would commit slow suicide by depression getting married to an incompatible person and stay home. That's not an easy life.
- You feminists are so blind to your privilege and man hating.
Bang head on desk. That's when I'm glad I didn't reveal I'm gay. HAHAHA.
I have an even simpler barometer for determining if an INTP likes you platonically and/or emotionally:
If we talk to you about something that interests us and ask for your opinion then it probably means we like you as an individual.
For me specifically, If I don't like you then I won't open up and I won't even talk to you, it would just be a waste of time.
This is the easiest way to understand them, if they give you time.
Im in love with an INTP but no idea how to talk to him cus I'm an INFP lmao so you guys suck at reading social cues and I suck at being direct so idk how I'm gonna go about this
stenpablo I’m on the same boat, it’s so frustrating! I’m like, c’mon dude, don’t keep me waiting, make a move!
aaaaaaa same
Being an infp is totally fine with intps, you just have to get used that they are not that talkative and they suck at emotions
I think intp's are good with emotions if the emotions are genuine. I know an infp woman and if she tells me about something she loves i feel genuinly happy like i can absorb her emotions.
INTP's do not expect emotions from a love interest. As a male INTP, I will expect that person to want spending time with me. I value my time with someone, and I will accept to spend time with someone ONLY if I have some interest in that person. A few years ago, this girl always invited me over to talk philosophy. Those were great times, when we would speak for hours about hypothetical questions. I had no romantic interest whatsoever, and I realized it was not reciprocal the third time I had our discussions in her bedroom, and then she wanted me to stay longer. This was the time I told her that there would be a point, very soon, when I would lose interest in these conversations, and would move on ending our friendship. She was dumbfounded and did not understand why. (There is just so much we can hypothesize with one person if philosophy is the only shared interest...) My point is, I will love spending time with someone I'm interested it, but my interest will grow only if the other person is independent (in thoughts and actions) from me.
I'm an INTP and I feel as though I fall for people very easily. It takes one look or a tiny inkling that someone might vaguely be interested and my mind will start creating this elaborate tapestry of our newfound relationship. But I will never make a move. Just daydream about it all the time and act awkward when the person is around, partly because of guilt. However, I can just as quickly snap out of it the person proves to not meet the standard after all.
R0YALT1 Ha, same!
R0YALT1 😆 thats sooo me
YES.
what would you say are some deal breakers for INTPs
@@danilles.4247 Liars
I "love it" when I say something that gets misinterpreted. When I realize their mistake in how they perceived what I said, as opposed to how they perceived it, I inform them of my actual intentions in making the statement. Once I make the correction, I'm emotionally incapable of being apologetic to any residual hurt feelings that person may be experiencing from their initial misinterpretation.
I simply cannot be remorseful for an intention which I never possessed or asserted. I perceive it as that person consciously refusing to accept that their entire premise for being upset with me was based on something they now know full well never existed.
In short, I come off as an asshole who believes that everyone should be able to intellectually combat negative emotive responses--even after that emotive response has begun.
Spot on! Sounds exactly like me. People are put off me very quickly for that reason
Thank You for verbalizing this so clearly! I too will never apologize or feel guilty for someone else's interpretation. Their interpretation is their responsibility not mine.
+c.a you likely don't intend that to be patronizing. It definitely is.
c.a I think a sense of emotional detachment can be very good in many situations. It's being able to figure out which situation requires such detachment that is the key to ensuring we are communicating effectively to people around us. That's just my 2 cents
c.a that you are responsible for your interpretations is a reality. I am curious as to why you project what is your responsibility as "a trait of the INTP"?
I suspect the direct communication thing is part of why ENTP and INTP get along well. We both hate it when people aren't clear and direct in what they are saying. Neither type has much tolerance for the parts of talking that are devoted to social coddling nonsense.
WHAT?! I HATE ENTPS. I am an INTP and there are two ENTPs in my life and i hate them both. They have this tendency of wanting the publíc to love them. They get desperate when it comes to the social food chain.
loza berhanu Well you should give this ENTP a chance then. If an ENTP has all those social needs met, all the time, one might posit that he becomes quite pleasant.
yh those are not yet mature entp, my close friend is one and trust me he can be quite a handful at times
zakariya mohamud There's no disputing that. The fully realized ENTP is vastly more than one handful.
I'm an INFP, and don't quite get along with anyone I know lol
I need more practically videos, like "How to find people you like?", "How to let a friendship grow?", "How to stay in contact?", "How to find love?", "How to deal with emotions?", "How to deal with lonelyness?". Stuff like that. Would be great if you share your experiences with any of the topics.
Ikem Krueger i fucking love yu on the same page your on
I'm dying here. That long pause before saying that we won't know if you like us unless you tell us. SPOT FUCKING ON. Thanks for that laugh.
neo120590 I’m literally dying of laughter. Felt this bag of weight just lift off me.
Platonic relationship: if they voluntarily talk to you, then INTP like you. They have a close social circle. INTP can't tread social & emotional cues.
6:18 How to tell if an INTP likes you romantically: will come across as awkward socially. They cannot tell if you like them unless you tell them. INTP will tell you if they like you if YOU ASK THEM.
Haha your such a INTP, taking pauses to use some logic. Reminds me of my INTP buddy.
Such an intp video.. 10 minutes to get the info that could've been summed up in 20 seconds. I do this all the time but typically talk fast and continuously for literally over an hour if uninterrupted. Lol
"How can you tell if an INTP like you... just fucking ask them." Truer words have never been spoken.
As an INTP I'll add my pennyworth: I can't really have long distance friendships/relationships. It's either you are physically here frequently enough to keep my interest up or you are not. I don't care about the lives of good friends that I've left in my home country a thousand miles away. I might have a small talk on Skype for the sake of good old times but other than that it your life, you live it, good luck. Otherwise I'm quite friendly :)
Also about identifying other's emotions, I seem to have this ability. If I know someone well enough I can instantly spot the change between the last time I've seen them and now. I think it's a pattern recognition. So perhaps this is a tip to all INTP's out there - consider other's emotions as patterns, and when they suddenly change simply enquire "what's happening?". They'll be impressed by your "eagle eye" (extra bonus). Then just keep your patience while they tell you. This way at the very least you won't look like a "Green-blooded hobgoblin" (McCoy about Spock).
Armuotas I’m Intp and I’ve no problem seeing/understanding emotions, except when those emotions are directed towards me. Generally I’ve a great understanding of people
the problem about asking is when there's a possibility of rejection
in my INTP opinion, a rejection is definite, therefore it is better to know rather than juggling Schrödinger's box for indefinite time.
INTPs like direct communication because they don’t possess that skill.
What do you mean by direct communication?
I really sympathize with your lack of eye contact
i like how you say," Just f****** asking me.." lol.
You guys probably don’t care but I love all you intps, you all are like the sense among this socially-dominated world and it’s such a pleasure to know you, I’m an infj
I agree that the best way to find if I'm romantically attracted is to first to confess their emotions to me, and then ask if I like them back. If someone just asks if I'm attracted to them, I'm just going to be suspicious it's some trick (unless the person asking is very shy). If I don't want the person I'm going to tell them as kindly as I can, regardless if they told they liked me or not.
“We have better things to think about” Legit. I felt this with my soul.
lol that ending was hilarious but true. I often think about how I can't go up to someone and say anything but if someone were to ask me I'd have no problem disclosing that information.
As an intp I would pretty much agree. In my experience if an intp likes you romantically one of two things will happen. Either one we will use that direct communication we like so much and just come right out and say it. This will happen because we really don't like not knowing how we stand with someone (as long as you are someone we give a crap about). Option two is exactly like is said in the video. We will act very nervous or shy around you. This in my experience only happens if we like someone (friend or romantic) because if we don't like you in some way then we don't care much what you think, the only reason to be nervous is if we really care how you feel about us. This is of course only my personal experience being an intp your mileage may very. I also couldn't agree more that if we have regular voluntary contact with you, then you are a friendly acquaintance at worse, and most likely we already consider you a friend. (unless I'm just more prone to pruning down my friend list to those few I truly like more then other intp's ... which I kinda doubt).
Simple. Just ask. We won't lie.
(As an INTP) I have found the fact that my inability to interpret social cues has meant I've missed a lot of chances romantically because there have been no indicators (from my perspective) as to whether someone is interested. I've then subsequently learned they were, but from because of my situational ignorance I was unwilling to take the risk. I'm now with an INFJ who is demonstrative as fuck, no doubt that was a huge factor in us getting together
I'm in INFJ... and my person is an INTP and I see exactly what you mea
The answer is INTP doesn't like you. Period. Move on. LOL.
Ni Na fair enough
Ya know, it's funny how active INTP'S are when talking online. When we are in IRL situations, we stay to our dreams. But, when online is here, we act like goofballs.
sometimes I don't care if I'm insensitive because I know what I'm saying is so matter of fact, I feel like the "more honest you are the less friends you have" theory applies the most to my personal social life
Adrienne Boulet damn, that's the reason why I ain't that (extremely) perfectionistic anymore. It always turned out bad, so I tried to change myself. Now I'm thinking that it's more like the society doesn't want you to be so extreme in things, what I can understand, but at that moment I really thought it was good, because people say that honesty is good.
Flamen people...They want honesty as long as they can get offended when you’re honest.
I am soo INTP, I just realized that I don't know how to read social cues..... (at 54 years old......WTF)
I bet you're really interesting to be around :) I love INTP's. Keep being you!
Is it just me, or an INTP reached out to me first and initiated a relationship with me? I'm an INFJ.
How did he exactly reach out ?
Cause I feel like I was missing out my intp's hints ..
@@cocomademoiselle934 he directly messaged me on facebook, introducing himself after he added me, although he didn't message me right away since he was observing me first before hitting me a message XD
@@blancheb3533 we do that to people we really like or...he was drunk or buzzed. The only times I insinuated first was when I had alcohol or I was really into her like I see her as marriage material into her
@@lelelew2735 he saw me as marriage material and we are now engaged to be married
@@blancheb3533 congratulations 🎊!!😊
I don't think you are factoring in the ego risk involved for the girl saying, "excuse me sir, but are you sexually attracted to me?" I mean it depends on the girl, obviously, but that's a risky proposition. I mean from a guy's perspective - we're the ones who are supposed to move. But I agree. It's tough as hell for NTPs. ENTPs can drive themselves crazy interpreting signs, defaulting to Ne, and cycling through every possible interpretation of each piece of data. On a plus note, I have gotten better at reading people in general since getting into all this cognitive function, psychology stuff.
+Talking with Famous People Hm, as an NTP I'm relieved to hear that you've gotten better at reading people via this Jungian stuff. However, I'm kind of lousy at it still. I am better at reading into people's actions and mannerisms now though. How closely that relates to any truth about how they really are is still a mystery to me. Kinda drunk. Might affect the quality of this post, BUT it probably is the factor that made me comment at all...
Don't worry about how they really are. Worry about managing their behaviors by observing responses to your own behaviors, making mental note, and then trying a different approach. From a more proactive perspective, figure out where they get their juice. Which parts of themselves are they proud of. Give them juice indirectly. You have to be subtle. People want affirmation that's indirect because it seems more legitimate and less likely to be manipulative, and less socially uncomfortable to hear. For example I love praise-y comments, but praise spoken to me directly tends to make me feel uncomfortable. So don't praise them. Just ask them how to do stuff they know how to do. Find genuine areas in which you can learn stuff from them and ask them about it.
Another good way to engage is to find an ENTP and sort of ask his advice about anything, even stuff he knows nothing about. He's sure to appreciate the opportunity to tell you very convincing sounding answers!
I've slowly gotten better... I was so bad. Now after doing so much research I know how to do a lot of it but I over analyze it.
I agree. I like to be able to help and get asked to help, but I don't like verbal praise that much, especially if it's in a very general way or if I am not happy myself with what is being praised.
Speaking of being approached by women, have you actually had it happen? It's incredibly odd. Two instances come to mind:
Her: "You know they have these beer margaritas at every Thursday. They're really good, you should check them out tonight or next week after work"
Me: "Yeah those sound really good, I should do that. But I probably shouldn't because I have to drive an hour home and I can't have my license suspended. I'd probably have to be spending the night in town if I did."
(Another girl)
Her: "You really remind me of my ex, he was really kind and nice too. Yep. I sure do miss him. He's dead now..."
Me: "Uhhh... I'm... uh, sorry to hear that?" Thinking to myself that I must be a bad reminder, I excuse myself quickly.
I've gotten variants of the second one a couple times. It got to the point where I thought maybe there's clones of me running around out there or something. These queues are the ones that I picked up on (like hours later), I have no idea how many I might be missing most of the time.
Haha this is so awesome. Around 9 years ago when I finally met the right guy, an entj who is now my husband, it was so easy to communicate all of this crap. "Hey dude, I think you're cool. Let's be boyfriend and girlfriend." "Alright, sounds great."
All of the other times I tried to talk to guys, however, it was a total disaster. I'd try to pull that blunt frankness and it would scare them away, or I'd just get too shy and do the staring thing you were talking about. I was probably being totally obvious but absolutely not realizing it. It's like an "if I shut my eyes, you can't see me anymore" type of thing. If that makes sense.
Anyway, cool vid.
Asked an intp if she likes me, she got frustrated and said she doesn’t understand why I need validation all the time 😅 #infj
I' m INTJ, and I've only known an INTP for a year but I really REALLY need her to like me (as a friend) as much as I like her. I feel like she's really the only friend I can actually connect to, since we're so similarly reserved and intellectual. It's funny, because I always knew I appear aloof and insensitive but she also acts that way. I'm probably such a hypocrite, but I'm getting so frustrated with her lack of signals that she has me as high on the friends list as I do. I can't tell, sometimes, how she prioritizes me because I oftentimes initiate the conversation. And that's saying a LOT. I never do that with others. She's amazing, but I just don't know how to impress her or even see where I stand. I usually give up on people who don't seem to give me a trade-off of loyalty/interest. I don't want to chase someone if they don't like me. HELP! What do I act like around her? How do I hang out with her outside of school! I'm so clueless in social situations, and she is too!
+Caroline Is Online Just vocalize your intentions toward her. If you want to engage in dialogue with her more let her know, ask her out to lunch just to chat. Engage her on her terms, inquire more about her hobbies and current interests.
I wouldn't worry too much if it doesn't end up working out. There isn't much you can do to make someone like you, regardless of type. Your best bet with INTPs is to engage on their terms and interests.
+Ziach Thanks for the advice!
Be direct. I'm an INTP and absolutely clueless when someone likes me. It's so bad, that even when someone gives me their number I wonder if they really want me to call. Say "I really like having you as a friend. We should hang out more" or something similar.
INTJ here. I have 2 INTP friends. Im pretty straight forward to my INTPs that 'I see them as a friend and really do enjoy their company, and that I was hoping that they see me in the same way too.' It was hard in away (straight forward approach) but we we're in the same page, so it went pretty well.
Though me and my INTP friends don't always talk/meet up alot, but when we do its like as if we picked up where our last conversation was and the time in between didnt matter. I love being friends with my INTPs, since we're both not that needy and respect each other's space.
I hope you and your INTP relationship will end up well. 😊
I got the 420 like. Too legit to quit.
In all seriousness though, just be straightforward with an INTP because we do not have the time, patience, or energy to coddle you. This is coming from a female I can only imagine how the men are. There are only 24 hours in a day and we would like to use them efficiently. Save everybody a whole lot of breath and just spit it out so we can move on to something more productive like trying to understand the connections between matter/antimatter.
Fin.
Itamari Laveaux
Amen, preach it sister.
Awesome post; I loved it when you said "Just f***ing ask them". So true. As an INTP, when asked a direct question, I will always answer bluntly and truthfully unless:
The other person is someone I am not well acquainted with and I
a. want to get out of a social invitation or avoid hurting their feelings (does this dress make me look fat etc). My friends and family members have often heard "No, I don't want to do that/go there but thank you for the invitation" as well as "I prefer you in vertical stripes, not horizontal" type comments from me haha.
b. want to avoid an emotionally-charged situation. (Hey guys, don't ask for the truth if you're going to cry or rage or passive-aggressive me for it).
Anyway, I'll actively and aggressively flirt but my flirting takes the form of:
a. Engaging in intellectual and philisophical discussions. I will often point out flaws in their theories and beliefs in a teasing kind of way (with a smile and a physical touch usually). This gets me further than you might imagine.
b. Actually inquiring about that person's life and past, hobbies, etc bc 99.9% of the time, I literally could not care less about these things. As with any conversation w a smart/interesting person, I'll still use my preferred method of asking awkward and direct questions and opening up taboo topics.
c. I'll very often immediately show that person my true personality in an almost exaggerated manner by disclosing my flaws and opinions
bc:
a. I feel comfortable w them.
b. I want them to have enough good data in order to make an informed decision as to whether or not they think we might be compatible.
If an INTP seems really into your conversations, seeks you out often or shares their interests and passions w you (esp in an excitable manner), they prob like you.
@jess that teasing kind way makes the other person feels insecure .. Intps scares me when they do that.. As if they are making you feel bad and expecting you to see it as flirting ?!
any intps here know where i can buy some weed?
Man...I’ve never had the experience of watching someone speak and feel as if they were like a “version of me”. Your thought process seems insanely similar to mine. The mannerisms and pauses, eye movements, even the kind of points and the way they are made.
Like if I stole and wore your skin for a video I doubt many people outside of those who know you well would catch on immediately that you were actually dead and it was me.
yeh the social queues can be a challenge. I remember finding out that this chick had been obsessed with me for that past year but I was completely oblivious to her. When I reflected on it I realized she had given me a fuk tonne of blatantly obvious cues
Right there with you buddy.
same
Also I think being INTP, when it comes to dating, I think our personality is not viewed as our best trait. Therefore I feel as an INTP I have to make up for it by improving on my physical attributes. It's not that I am abnoxious, it's just that the things I find interesting are either threatening or boring to others. So another way to tell if INTP likes you is that he/she would look their best out of the ordinary with their styling in front of you and open up to ask questions about you
I'm married to an INTP, and I have to say that the INTP personality is great. Ok, yes, an INTP may seem a bit boring at first and yes, he doesn't know how to handle other people's emotional reactions, but typically INTPs are the most loyal, steadfast people you will ever meet. Not to mention if they develop their reasoning skills they can be very good at business (and intelligence is definitely interesting... and sexy). If you are a younger INTP who is still a teenager/college student you may not many people who are interested in you in a romantic sense yet... But give everybody a bit of time to mature and soon everybody will be looking to settle down with a smart, loyal person. (oh, and work on your people skills in the meantime;)).
I'm an INTP and I feel I can read social queues pretty well. But even so most of the times I choose not to act on them because honestly I don't care and that gives people the feeling that I cannot read the queues.
Cues. Queues means "lines." Ex: I'm going to snort some queues of meth right now. ;-)
This is me
i have a big brother who's an INTP and he said i'm probably one of his best friends!^^
he may be my brother but he is one of my dearest friends too and i told him so, because i knew if i don't tell him he'll never know (although i felt very awkward doing so, being an INTJ^^' but i felt he needed that because he opened up to me and told me that!)!
when my brother fell in love he didn't knew, he always told me about "this certain girl" whom he talked with about this and that and it was very interesting and thats generally interesting conversing with her! i already knew how he felt! but because he didn't tell me i thought maybe he doesn't want to tell anybody yet and when months went by i thought "just say it already!!", then that friendship stopped somehow and he was very sad about it and i told him i always knew that he fell in love with her and that i was sorry it ended like that!
..... he told me that he didn't knew until it was over... i was shocked! he told me, the next time i notice it he wants me to fill him in when it comes to that!... he was really frustrated with himself for not noticing! :-(
As an INTP I've always felt like we study behaviours, we don't participate.
damn bro this hits close to home 😂
How do you tell if and #INFJ likes you?
You will never know.
#pokerface
I’m an INFJ and although you can’t read my emotions (poker face) when I like someone a lot, I’m pretty forward.
The ability to read emotional cues does increase over time/decades. I’m 52 and even though I can still inadvertently offend others if not pretty often, I can usually tell immediately afterwards. Not always, though. I do still have difficulty knowing how people feel about me, unless they say or purposely show it. I agree completely about keeping most people neutral but when I want more, it’s best that I am not left to guess whether someone likes me or not. A brick needs to fall on my head, sometimes. It is interesting to see how we evolve over time because I see myself at your age in your videos and know where I’m at now in comparison. I believe your videos are useful examples of real vs stereotypical portrayal of a young INTP. Well done and thank you.
Anybody else lowkey watching so you know if you like someone?
i'm an INFP i don't want to ask!! lol
Did you ask?
Snudge Galbraith haha turns out he didn’t like me, go figure! I didn’t need to ask though, his actions were clear.
This is so accurate especially the staring part and becoming awkward 😂
So true. I'm shy as fuck if I like a girl, but I will be super direct if she reads my cues, and asks I'll be like duh. But I am kind of stalkerish if I'm into a girl and I don't know how to really talk to her. Hell talking to people in general is though. I want to get past the small talk and ask them about various concepts and theory's, and character motivation in media. It's hard to walk up to someone and ask "what's your opinion on free will, Freudian psychology, who was right at the end of Watchmen, Rorschach or Ozzy?" Sometimes It'll be so obvious I'm thinking that people will ask and I'll go on a long winded tangent about my opinion on the matter and either weird the person out, or if I'm talking to another NT type get a response which I can discuss at length.
INTP here, and I'm good at reading social queues due to my developed Fe. We're actually amazingly good at reading people, even though it's our inferior function. The reason it's our inferior function is because we're not good at dealing with our own emotions, nor responding to the emotions of others. But we can definitely see and sense emotions in others, probably much more clearly than we can register our own. The trick is in developing Fe as you experience relationships and grow. After a certain point you have no excuse.
There was a study done that said the marital partners of the INTP were the least satisfied, and I have a feeling that's male INTP dominated, because as a female INTP I will actively seek and read the emotional state of my loved one, and act to fix any dissatisfaction accordingly.
Also, I'm wondering if perhaps the host is slightly autistic? Not so much because he wouldn't make "eye contact" with the camera, but because he admits such a horrible knack for relating to other people. We're the warmest rational type... we CAN connect with people emotionally, we just have to trust them enough to let ourselves be vulnerable. I hate it when people promote this stereotype. Smh
I am an INTJ female, I asked my INTP male dater after almost 3 months, if he wanted to date exclusively. He wanted to keep his options open. We are not dating anymore.
As an INTP female I can relate to everything you said!! I'm social but don't really approach people because I like being alone. To top it of I'm kind of awkward and direct which often make other people uncomfortable.
The only way to see (without asking) if I like someone is if I make the time to meet up and so on. Always have a lot going on but sometimes someone comes by and It becomes a "project" to understand and get to know them...
Well that explains a lot! ENTP here, who likes an INTP. I have been dropping what I consider to be obvious hints. Such as sending links to love songs, and flirting. However, she is still, as far as I am aware, completely clueless to the fact that I like her. It is getting quite frustrating haha. I plan on going out with her a few times and deducing from there through body language whether or not she likes me.
Cool video. Just took a test and landed exactly on INTP, describes me to a T. I only associate with those that i feel can hold intelligent/interesting conversation, also bad at reading emo-cues.
“If you don’t tell me I upset you I wouldn’t fucking know”
I hate telling someone if I am attracted to them. For the most part, though, it is easier to go with the flow with people that know what they want. If I do not agree, I will say something
same
I agree with the emotion thing. It's on or off. I'm happy, mad, sad, or neutral (most of the time).
As for romance thing... I agree; I never know if anyone likes me. I've been learning about body languages to see if I could read the whole cue thing better. So far, not very. Still working on it.
Also, yeah. when guys I don't like romantically asks me if I like them, it's always "No," in an abrupt panicky fashion because I've not expected it at all. Just because I'm excited to talk to you doesn't mean I like you. No guys I've ever liked came up to ask me that, so I'm not sure if I would say "Yes, I like you," but I think I probably will, since my emotions show outside, and I know I can't hide it anyway. I'm not coy. Coyness comes to those who know what they're doing in this realm.
As an insecure infp who CANNOT JUST ASK, this didn't help hahaha😂. Thanks tho. You reminded me of him.
Why am I only finding this in 2021?
Agree on not exactly believing in outsiders and being neutral towards pretty much everyone.
social ques lmao i got transfered to another location job wise for thinking this female liked me and i was 100% wrong lmao
You'll get em next time, Tiger.
I'm an INTP, I like honesty because I don't care to spent time/effort working out mind games. Fake is obvious and will immediately make me stay clear.
Lol at oblivious to people liking me, I had someone dance down my back once...annoyed me thought they were barging into me dancing - and there was a someone who kept standing against me, figured they were smaller and maybe couldn't see the stage so I moved, 3 times then got annoyed.. without a wingman i'm hopeless.
I find confidence really attractive, I find confident people are usually direct and will ask or tell you they like you.
ENTP and INTP are a compatible match being a entp female I believe dat myself but most of the time we get a cold shoulder from the intps although they might actually reciprocate the liking; entps would understand where this is coming from but they wont have the patience or attention span enough for the intps to voluntarily respond
It's because both types are "sexual infantiles." Both types want the other to "be in charge of managing that business."
I think entps are quiet assertive in dat prospects but intps just do a lot of through thinking and get caught up in to dat so much dat they end up giving a dead signal though dat was not their intention
So, I'm an INTP but the way people move and react to certain things interests me a lot so I study it in detail so therefore I can see when things are directed towards me but most if the time if I do like you back it's hard to put it into sensible words and the very same if I don't so I try to avoid emotions on the whole because I don't understand it. If you come up to me and go, "hey, I like you." I'm going to freak the hell out because there isn't a logical reason to me (other than your overly confident which is another thing in people I don't understand) as to why someone would do that. Also I get bored quickly..... soooo I don't do romantic stuff..
Idk if this made sense..... it sounded so much better in my head
It made perfectly fine sense. I'm just a little slow on the replying to comments lately. Thanks so much for watching and taking the time to comment. --Host Eric
I can kind of empathize with the detached feelings. Although, I think I'm a little far gone. The only emotion that I know for sure anymore is annoyance.
Introverts need to party is what intp stands for?
I can read social cues just fine i just dont care about them and youre right its not us vs them we dont care enough about fitting in to even see it that way 😂 i am an intp aquarius my level of indifference towards most things is crazy
I LITERALLY loled at 1:20 "you're in at least a neutral position" omg.......... I feel exposed and dead at the same time.
Hahaha that ending was spot on.
I was at a friend's birthday party and I was feeling really lethargic. Two people were playing video games and passing around the controller. I was going through a spout of constant fatigue. I guess I didn't tell anyone, because at the party I told them If we could do something else because I was going to fall asleep. Apparently this was rude? Thinking back at it I still don't understand it as rude but I can see how it would be taken as rude in a way? I understand honesty without tact is cruelty, but when it comes to emotions I, being an INTP, don't have much tact....so...
I think you are bit too broad in your assertions about INTP inabilites to effectively decipher social cues, but that is probably partly a function of your age. Otherwise, not bad. -AN INTP
I agree. I like watching people and reading the situation, it's something of a hobby. It's great seeing how much you can pick about the people around you and it gives you a sense of power.
+Samantha Brian But how well do you perform when it is directed at you? I can watch people go through weird customary social rituals and then get confused about things when I'm supposed to be social. I once asked my mom if I was allowed to eat the cake at my graduation party because nobody else had. I just have no idea. Social people are a mystery to me. They understand people and can actually speak words out loud to them in a coherent, orderly fashion. They intuitively know how to utilize body language to their advantage whereas that is a learned skill at best for us.
As an INTP i understand all the thinking pauses, but as an INTP i want to learn quickly so 1.25x speed here we go
Yes! Direct communication, I love it.
If an INTP likes you, he will be facing you and engaging with you. You have his attention and he wants to know more about you. He will wait for you to approach because he respects your independence. You can tell he's emotionally invested when it gets awkward lol, when he starts stumbling and embarrassed. If he's not interested he'll smile and make lite conversation, but you'll see him staring off somewhere else that has his interest.
Thank you for this. I'm an INFP that's interested in an INTP, and you're right. I'm tired of waiting anyhow. The school year's drawing to a close and I'm going to ask on the last day. My only worry is that if the answer is a negative, the friendship (or what little of it there is) will crumble to dust. What are the chances of that happening and/or how does an INTP feel towards people they have rejected?
Incidentally, your video's hilarious and you look great in plaid :) (Am I doing this direct communication thing right? Also, not trying to be creepy. Sorry if I made you uncomfortable ^^)
+Nicole Liu Thank you for the compliment! Regarding rejection, I don't view people who I have rejected as any different than before, and I really appreciate their directness. I would just tell your INTP interest about your feelings. Let them know you want to build a romantic connection with them and want to know if they're willing to pursue that. If your feelings don't end up being reciprocated, the best thing to do is to just make it clear it's okay with you and you don't want them to feel obligated to reciprocate them. Let them know how much you appreciate them as a friend, and leave it at that.
Regardless, you should go for it Nicole. In the off-chance they aren't reciprocated, you can better direct your romantic attention toward other avenues and nothing changes much with your friendship if you still want to maintain it. The only other reality is that you would have an INTP lover! How exciting.
I posted a comment before I read this. I basically stated the same idea--though, arguably less concisely:)
Thanks for the advice. So 13 days after my confession, he finally tells me that yes, he liked me. Although nothing significant in our relationship has changed, I just thought the least I could do was to not leave you hanging, especially with all the help you'd given me.
Thank you to everyone else for their advice as well ^^
sorry if this is late or kinda weird to be responding 8 months later but i was wondering how did it go
Nicole Liu I'd also like to know how it went as I'm in a very similar situation
Im so good at reading social queues and body language that i pretty well know what most people are going to say before they spit it out of there stupid mouth
Lmao yea
I’m an INTP and I read books on body language, if you’re an INTP like myself, I highly suggest it. Tho even if you’re not I still suggest books on body language. The more information you absorb the better.
This was less than 3 years ago?!?! Seems so much longer ago like a lifetime
This guy is cute :)
Really a very average looking guy.
8:58 INTP here. I have been thinking for so long how could any girl notice that I like her and I have come to the same conclusion hahahaha. There is no other way to know for sure.
Zachary...what do you dislike about ENTP's, if anything? Interested to hear an INTP perspective.
Oooh, I totally want an answer to this too.
Not Zachary but I'm an INTP too so here's my perspective: I know a bunch of ENTPs and surprisingly most of them don't really fit the stereotype I imagined at first. Here are the things I noticed that they have in common: Energetic in their own way but the ways they show energy isn't necessarily partying all night or hyperactive behaviour, creative, witty, quick-thinkers, knowledgeable (this is good but they tend to just accept things too quickly if it's like a random fact they saw online and then they get offended when I point out why it could be wrong), usually friends with everyone but tend to be a little too obviously (to me at least) fake, good sense of humor, tendency to steal ideas/opinions/sentences etc. for popularity, weird need for attention even though they seem to not like people all that much, some of them pretty much live for drama but I prefer that over being passive agressive to be honest, unreliable and sometimes unpredictable to a point where it stresses me out (that's what makes it fun though), difficult to figure out which is one of the biggest reasons why I like them, not oblivious to other's feelings but they just kinda don't care which is fine most of the time I don't really mind but it can make them selfish, some unwillingness to compromise even when it's important to, open-minded but at the same time too stubborn to change their minds and it's almost impossible to get them to just stop and admit they're wrong if the discussion is in public/open for others to see. Buuut these are all tiny bearable flaws (and not all of them are flaws anyway) that I don't mind all that much. That's why INTPS and ENTPs tend to get along. For example over sensitivity and conformity are also flaws (in my opinion) and they might seem minor to others but I can't stand them especially. You guys are still my favourite. My grammar is a mess here but shh.
+who haha most of this is spot on. Need for attention but contemptuous of people? Check. Fans not friends syndrome lol. Fake? Just social chameleons, a bit manipulative, depending on the individual whether that's good or bad. We like to play the game, INTP's often despise the game, and I envy their ability to genuinely not give a fuck what others think, and have little to prove...ENTP have EVERYTHING to prove. We often manipulate people into doing things they want to do but don't feel right about because of their misguided or arbitrary and inconsistent moral code, conditioned by others etc. I feel like the majority of people are full of shit whether they are being "authentic" or "true to themselves". Most don't think for themselves, and their sense of self is based on what they were conditioned to believe. But yeah, thx for the reply, I love INTP, they are just sometimes boring and take themselves too seriously, but among the most refreshing
The fans not friends behaviour is amusing more than anything really. By fake I meant like fake friendly maybe? They're often way too quick to directly tell me how much they like me (or others, I see this happening a lot) even though I can tell that they don't really like me that much. But I guess that's usually the default when it comes to making friends, who knows? I didn't mean fake as in a fake personality or fake ideas or anything. I like the game depending on my mood, most of the time I don't have the energy to put that much effort into getting people to like me and I envy it when others do. And it's not that we don't care, we secretly do sometimes (that damn Fe) but we don't let our feelings affect our judgement enough to change our behaviour. The moral code thing annoys me too, life's too short and meaningless to live by weird moral rules that often contradict each other. They make it really confusing to do the right thing if anything. I agree with all of that. We can be really boring and really pretentious sometimes, true, I'm working on those. Thank you for discussing.
I'm going to make a video on these comments.
eye contact if your an INTP
Shabee Gorgee elaborate please
"We won't know if you like us..."
nothing more accurate than this
Thank you very much. I can see the emotions on your face as you were recordiung this video. I'm an INTP also, and I can feel so dumb at these things happen, Thnk you for your bravery to record you and show this to the world. Is not an easy task to be an INTP in the romantic world.
If you surely see ur crush is an intp then you can ask him if he likes you or not directly simple.
And my ex-boyfriend used to tell me when his roommate got upset with me with something. my bf let me know about his friends feeling bad about what I said. And then I go talk to his roommate ask him if I made any mistakes for him and i apologies and tell him what Iwas exactly saying and there's nothing trying to teasing him. Oh wow... my bf knew me pretty well and kinda helpful.
"It's nothing personal unless you want to identify those qualities as personal." haha so INTP :D
Hi Host Zachary! I love your videos on this channel. Do you think you could ever make a video about INTP friendships? I've been going through a lot of problems regarding my friends, who are all very emotional and me, as an INTP, am very logical and straightforward and dont understand their feelings so well. I love listening to you speak on INTP issues and I would love to hear what you have to say about this. Keep it up!