Denmo, I want to be able to do all the stuff you say in these videos, but I am 16 and need to wait like 6 months to get my drivers license to go anywhere. I live in a small town and all we have is fast food places and nothing else. Once I can drive I have a city about 20 minutes away, but I don't want to sit around and do nothing while I wait.
True. During the weekdays especially. Remember one time I was doing laundry at my apartment building and a cute girl walked by me as I was loading the machine. She looked at me smiled, and waved. I just smiled and nodded, and went back upstairs to my apartment. As I was showering, I thought, “wait, why didn’t I strike up a conversation? Wtf? She was actually cute!” And then I never saw her again, mostly cause I moved out the following month. I didn’t even think about it. It is like the social switch I have is off on the weekdays, and I only turn it on on the weekends. Need to duct tape that switch to be on the whole time
@@unholydiver1095 hehehhe. Happens to me aswell. My achilles heel is after school when I see my bus has arrived but will drive off in 5-10 mins. I almost always come up with the excuse "Not this time. Don't feel like it and my bus is already here..." Just have to do it I guess
You got this man! To be fair, I haven't approached any females in a while since I'm focusing a lot on my creative hobbies and working out, but you can do it man! 100% faith in you.
I don’t know that 90% of the reason the average guy goes to college is to get away from home, get laid, get drunk and party all the time. For me and most other guys I know, they were added bonuses but we cared about building a career and a life.
As someone going to college, all of that is a myth. Most of the students i know work one or two jobs to literally pay for college on top of the stuff they do for college. Very little of them party, drink and "get laid" all the time.
Exactly and I can’t blame em, most of us (like myself) loves getting away from home and college is like a party house and for me I go to college to not only get away from home but also I wanna build a career like u mentioned
I was yesterday taking pictures of cars in Switzerland and I saw a cute girl talk to her and I got her insta I usually don’t talk to a random girl like that But it was all thanks to you Denmo
A lot of dudes that complain about your content simply lack the discipline needed to change. They'll bitch and moan, blaming outside factors without holding themselves accountable for being the root cause of their own problems. Women can spot a simp bum in 4.6 seconds. These same dudes wear pajamas and crocs to the gym.
you really gotta put yourself out there. Ever since I started going to events (volunteering, sports etc...), I started getting like at least 3 promising dates with nice girls per month. Like if you don't put in the work, you won't get anything back
I needed to hear this. I've passed up so many opportunities recently to talk to girls. I'm so ashamed of myself. I haven't asked a girl for her number in forever. Thank you for this video, Denmo.
Boys, remember: if you are not physically attractive, you gotta go to the gym. One year of hard work and you'll thank yourself for one of the best decisions you've taken in your life.
So I went over to the mall today before it closed and did some cold approaching, didn't talked to women but did talk to both men and a 1 gal at mall. 1 was a random guy I saw wearing a Mario kart shirt and the others were mall workers. Did see one gal i wanted to approach but hesitanted because I felt like I was following her around too much lol without actually approaching but she was at this store and browsing through so I could have approach her there. So today was just me warming up to talking to random people and getting used to it. A minute ago, I was helping 2 women out at a train station when they were confused about getting off a train since you have to wait for another train to go southbound. I wanted to introduce myself to them but they had to go so but today wasn't too bad though. I felt nervous and anxious because I haven't done it before but afterwards I felt good because it was normal and not weird or strange. I do wish we as a society weren't so addicted to phone because I think that's why people have social anxiety and are scared to talk to people face to face and approaching strangers especially women. One cute and cool moment was when I was leaving the mall and I saw this guy playing soccer with a kid so I joined in and played with them for little bit and introduced myself to him and that moment was the highlight of my day so that was cool. So today I spoke to even if it was briefly to 5 new people today, all of whom I haven't met before. I consider that a win, my friend. I'm going to do more cold approaching but to women this time starting tomorrow to Saturday to build up consistency.
Denmo posted! Damn i wonder how many guys you have pushed to actually talk to the girls they got crush on and NOW they are together, it is even crazy to think about how many kids will be born because of you haha. Keep it up Denmo!
I'm 26 and have only gotten laid once in my entire life. Keep on feeling severely depressed, only eat once a day, and lay down most of the day doing nothing. I can't approach women because I just get laughed at over my looks and autism
@@sharendravarmanbalakrisnan2307hit gym practice delaying pleasure write how and why you feel, daily prayer or meditation and I promise you'll get someone
Bro honestly read your comment nicely, you feel sad and can't talk to girls due to your days consisting of jack squat,get of YT,expose yourself to uncomfortable situations and grow dont you wantbecome a man you'd want your daughter to marry
Even my collage is over now and i haven't approach snd talk to girls i missed so many things because of fear of talking to girl i feeling very frustated now . Now what can i do because my collage is finished and had no contact with girls 😢. Even i agree because of fear and excuses i dont havent approach girls what can i do now
8:10 to 8:30 I lost my fuckin marbles dude 🤣Love your content , i’ve put a good amount of your advice to use and it has helped me tremendously. Thank you Denmo you legend
I used to get hot girls. But lately I have been dating girls Im not even all that attracted to because my confidence has dwindled for several reasons (mainly finances). I am 51but I look like Im in my mid thirties. You would think I would be more confident due to this, but noooo! I have to make some changes and I need to quit settling for girls that I dont even find attractive. I have a lot of work to do. Mentally. It's weird. I want to be with a girl that is pretty AND that is genuinely a sweet person. Ive had that in the past, why cant I have that again???
Good video. I know the problem with me was that I was always very lazy, really across the board with every area of my life. I think fear was part of it, learned helplessness, also watching way too many movies, tv shows, playing too many video games, hanging out with very nice, polite friends who never cared enough to hold me to account for anything. I was also autistic and disconnected enough from reality that I actually thought people working in customer service genuinely liked me. I basically trained myself to not really care about time or have any strong ambitions beyond music which I fulfilled to a certain degree but not to a point where I would describe it as showing real ambition. I was always passionate that being nice and a 'good' person should be enough for people to hold me in esteem. Essentially I was just a day dreamer who lived in my own internal world so much I didn't even realize how much I was doing it. It's not what you do occasionally or every now and then that counts it's your daily routine that really matters. The worst part was that I never developed a real work ethic, that alone destroyed so many opportunities I could've had a shot at. I don't know why, I always just had this weird, arrogant attitude, I was special and didn't have to work hard for anything. I kept fantasizing how 'easy' everything was gonna be. You know what they say: don't wish the game was easier, wish you were better!
Hey Denmo, using your advice, I've been trying my hand at rizzing up a girl who works at a local café. Once my work week ends Sunday, I plan to ask her out. Wish me luck!
you dont approach because of your instincts if youre brain has to fight whether or not you should approach theres a good reason it does that follow your gut feeling its always right
I agree with pretty much 95% of what you say man. But, as a fellow daygamer who's done maybe 200ish approaches - it's not laziness, it's FEAR. I've talked to buddies and really pushed them on this and what it comes down to is guys make excuses because they're scared of messing up, becoming the town creep, ruining their pull to strikeout ratio etc. Kinda like what you were saying towards the end of the video. Look at a club on any given night. 60% of dudes are on the wall. Not dancing. Not talking. Most men in life are pussies no buts about it. The reason women respect cold approach and even give you the time of day is because you're braver than 60% of dudes who just ogle her from the corner or slide in her DMs. If you're watching this and you're serious, here's what I suggest. Man the F up. Beat the excuses. Go make your heart race. Go make mistakes. Failure is the best teacher. Nothing bad will happen to you, I promise.
To respond to this and give a caveat. I'd say laziness could be a factor when youve done maybe 150ish approaches and the thought of approaching doesn't give you that visceral fear anymore. Which is probably only 5% of guys. Only then do some of those guys get lazy, use work as an excuse, etc. But I'd say the vast majority (95%) of PUA wannabes tap out between 0-10 cause they're terrified and then use laziness as an excuse .
@@Unknown21312 I struck out w a girl at work 4 months ago and still have to see her. Trust me, I get it. But think about it this way - once you find the woman of your dreams, you probably won't ever have to do it again. 1 year of kinda sucky rejections won't kill you right?
Thanks for posting this video as always.😊 I'll be honest, I'm never a lazy guy when it comes to trying to improve myself physically/mentally for the last couple of months, and will continue doing this forever. And I've never had any experience with having girlfriend before, which is okay. But in my perspective, I promise myself that I would never want to try to form a relationship with any good woman, or form a future family at all. If I allow myself to let love in no matter what, then I'm not a good man. I can impress women, but I never want anyone to share my life with. I would rather just spend time with good, like-minded male friends along the way as I succeed. I can handle life by myself. I mean, what's so important about having a romantic partner in life anyway? -Jacob ASD/OCD Age:23
Damn Denmo, you calling me out here lol. I guess one of the reasons why I haven't gotten any women in the past year is because I just don't try anymore. I use the excuses of work and focusing more on my creative projects instead of chasing women I suppose. Should I uh... feel bad about that?
Hey Denmo, today I asked out a girl who works at smoothie bar. Background on this situation is that basically every single wednesday ive been going to a smoothie bar at the exact same time and getting the same order and its also always the exact same employee (girl i talked to). Today after I paid for my drink, I said word for word "Excuse me, Ma'am. One other thing. I think you are really beautiful, and I was wanting to take you out for coffee or food this weekend. Would you be interested?" She waited for a split second, and then said she had a boyfriend and told me to have a good day. I totally understand that, its a rejection I have moved on. But I wanted to ask you or maybe others who know how to properly cold approach, can I literally just make a comment and then immediately ask, or is some small talk required (perhaps very informal introduction and/or passing conversation)?
It’s generally not the best move to make a comment like that and then ask. In my experience it’s been best to have a conversation with them maybe making a comment on something they’re wearing and telling them it’s cool, where they got it or something like that. Compliments like you are very beautiful put a lot of pressure on someone. Something better that you could say was that she caught your eye and you wanted to come say hi- but after you say that, you should ask a question or say something else as to not put pressure on them and make it awkward. Genuinely, just have a conversation and ask for their number and suggest an activity. No overt compliments. The fact you went up to them and are asking for their number and to hang out are extremely clear signs of interest already
That's totally wrong, if you want an attractive girl, just be ATTRACTIVE. It has nothing to do with lazy, hardworking bla bla bla. If you are attractive, you dont even have to lift finger. Lazy or hardworking doesn't matter at all.
Bzzzzzzt imma have to stop ya there, buddy. Ever seen 2/10 guys walking around with a 10/10 woman? It’s because you don’t have to be attractive, I mean it helps. But if you’re genuine, funny and put together, you can really pull almost any woman. Have confidence! Stop being so negative bro, you’re beautiful on the inside I just know it
Being ATTRACTIVE is hard work. No one gets born with a fucking sixpack and when someone has a fitting haircut and good style it's most certainly a result of learning about this kind of stuff. As well attractive for girls is different than attractive for guys. You gotta be confident, be a good talker and have impeccable social skills if you want to be super attractive for a girl. Social skills are hard work too and people without social skills are often the ones living in their moms basement. Never met a bartender or a comedian with bad social skills...
I left similar comment under your previous video but didn't get answer, hoping toget it here: Jack, help me out. I get friendzoned after 1-2 dates that I will get with women met online. I have dated a few dozens od them, literally. They will always say we can only be friends. When I ask them why, they will just give me a generic reply of "nothing is wrong with you, we are just not a right match". Idk what is wrong with me. Idk what should I work on. Thats been going on for years now. The only gf I had during this time was one I met by a cold approach, after only approaching maybe 7 women in less than a month. So much better stats than OLD for me. Was it just a pure fluke, coincidence, or is cold approach just better for me?
There’s no way anyone can answer this without knowing you or seeing you. I mean the only thing I would say is that if they tell you that they want to be friends don’t just go along with it. Tell them you don’t want to be their friend
Solid advice, I just pay when I’m feeling too lazy.. when you realize your paying for it one way or the other, plus it’s generally just your turn at the moment anyways, less likely to lose a lot more than just money…
Just be interesting funny and cool with strangers on the weekend bro it’s not that hard. You’re just being lazy bro, I know a guy 4’5, 300 lb who is absolutely slaying with the ladies all cause he’s confident and funny bro. 😎
Pisses me off how denmo tries to gaslight us into the oblivian into believing that is everything besides looks (non changable genetic factors [hight, face, race]) even tho he is 6'2 and 5 facialy white guy. Fcking brutal
To be fair mate, Denmo's content is about inspiring change from the heart. He's calling men out to make sure they get off their butt and actually approach females. As someone that doesn't do it too much, it's inspiring for me.
@@Denmosocial i was blessed genetically (5'10, 7 face, black guy) so i have a hot gf and sht but my brother is 6 inches shorter than me and gets no btches. The blck pll is real bro fr. The only thing he could do to get btches is to make money but even then they dont even like him they like his bank balance. Social skills, hobbies, physique and talent means fck all if you a 5'4 facially 5 bro fr. Truly brutal sht
Sorry but I'm not lazy. I'm just working my ass off to finish my PhD in Biochemistry while working on multiple side projects. I got priorities. Getting a girl into bed is not currently one of them. I don't settle for mundane affairs.
tbh, i do get girls or rather i would. But I'm often too lazy to plan all the dates so i self sabotage to the point the dates won't even happen. Idk man. I think I'm just lazy and scared.
When men are unable to succeed socially with men or women, they stop being incentivized to participate in society. Therefore they no longer contribute value. They suck resources out of the economy and make life less fun for everybody else. Making these videos helps men become functioning adults with fun lives. They provide value to others, which encourages others to provide value, and we get a healthy society.
@@Denmosocial So true, I stopped working 6 years ago (decade in analytics) and just coasted on my FU funds. My initial career was meant to be a more attractive mate, but over time I gave up and am just coasting on my FU fund that I built to retire early. I'm just studying computer science/AI now just to make more later so I can check out completely or at least passport bro it in Asia. I don't think it's entirely guys' fault, feminism, social media, and dating apps significantly worsened the dating field to the point where it's not worth it for many men. I don't think we can blame personality flaws, did you see The Hill article that talked about a study where it found 60% of young men are single but only 29% of young women were? Male virginity rates are 30% before 30, this never used to happen. Guys would do anything to get the girl they want, but the barrier to entry is far too high now, I think they realize their awful odds. I don't think it's a mass character flaw taking place, I think there are general social changes that have disincentivized dating and family formation, so our Western countries are going to tank economically, exacerbating our problems. Have you ever see the hoe_math channel? He explains it pretty well. I would say this is more of a female led issue, since they're making just as much as men or even more now, and they can't satiate their hypergamous urges, add to that the man-hating misandrist culture feminism brought about and you have the shit-stew we currently find ourselves in. Oh yeah, Morgan Stanley says 45% of women between 25-44 will be single and childless with 1.2% increase every year from 2030 (up to a certain point obviously).
The pursuit of women is the textbook definition of hedonism. Aint no different from playing videogames, self improvement, or getting addicted to drugs. The whole point of life i suppose is that you write your own story. The problem with men feeling bad about not having girls is not because they are lonely but rather that it is one of the few ways to fit in with the rest of society. We feel the pain of being shamed by others for not having a girlfriend and the feeling of emptiness from the self imposed lack of purpose. A relationship can get boring the same way as videogames and it was a huge epiphany that came to the surface before my very eyes. I realize that hedonism doesnt last forever and may not keep our best interests at mind. But rather that our own beliefs about life changes the way we feel about things. You can have the best cars and all the women you desire but still be broken on the inside. This realization is why i dont go for relationships. I just dont find much meaning in something like that. I like to be alone most of the time and i socially feel fulfilled by just showing up at work. Attraction to women makes me think that love is the biggest miracle in life but its not. The biggest miracle in life is the relationship i have with myself. After listening to the song "hey ya" by outkast over and over again, I learned that relationships are just as bad if not worse than being single
Everyone has their league. You might not be a super model, but unless you're the elephant man, confidence and personality is enough to land you a nice girl. Don't spend your life depressed that you don't look like a Greek God, pluck up the courage to breathe happiness no matter what you look like, and people will want to be around you. There are plenty of "unattractive" people out there completely killing it. You know what's truly unattractive? Fear.
I'm a 25 year old guy that has never approached any girl in his entire life... So many girls approached me but every time I rejected them just because of that one thing... I was lazy and fought with self confidence.
Man, don't feel bad. I haven't approached any females in like a year just because I was focusing more on my creative hobbies and working out. Maybe that's a bad thing if you just do those things lol.
@@thelifewithnate I do spend my time on creative stuff. I'm in a bloody self growth process, that's the one of the main reasons why I haven't gotten any wet pussy lol.
@@thelifewithnate I make money, study, learn languages etc. I'm pretty sure that I would easily attract any hot girl if I wanted to but I wasn't focused primarily on that, just delaying that from day to day, and after a lot of years that have passed I haven't approached any female LOL
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Denmo, I want to be able to do all the stuff you say in these videos, but I am 16 and need to wait like 6 months to get my drivers license to go anywhere. I live in a small town and all we have is fast food places and nothing else. Once I can drive I have a city about 20 minutes away, but I don't want to sit around and do nothing while I wait.
title sums me up perfectly. sometimes i see a cute girl and i'm like "nah i don't feel like it"
exactly
Applies to me at times as well. Gotta work on that
Me too bruh..
True. During the weekdays especially. Remember one time I was doing laundry at my apartment building and a cute girl walked by me as I was loading the machine. She looked at me smiled, and waved. I just smiled and nodded, and went back upstairs to my apartment. As I was showering, I thought, “wait, why didn’t I strike up a conversation? Wtf? She was actually cute!” And then I never saw her again, mostly cause I moved out the following month. I didn’t even think about it. It is like the social switch I have is off on the weekdays, and I only turn it on on the weekends. Need to duct tape that switch to be on the whole time
@@unholydiver1095 hehehhe. Happens to me aswell. My achilles heel is after school when I see my bus has arrived but will drive off in 5-10 mins. I almost always come up with the excuse "Not this time. Don't feel like it and my bus is already here..." Just have to do it I guess
I am 23 and I have never dated. Your videos have helped me a lot to at least build conversations with women. I need to do a lot more though.
I don't get any girls, but 1 I seriously support your content and message, and 2 when I get the girl I will let you know, keep the content bro.
You got this man! To be fair, I haven't approached any females in a while since I'm focusing a lot on my creative hobbies and working out, but you can do it man! 100% faith in you.
@@thelifewithnate Relatable AF...focusing on my singing / physical goals, however starting to working on approaching. Baby steps, babyyyyyyyyyy
@@thelifewithnate What's stopping you from hitting on girls in the gym?
@@thelifewithnate thanks bro, that's so kind of you, wish you more
Awsome video Denmo!
I don’t know that 90% of the reason the average guy goes to college is to get away from home, get laid, get drunk and party all the time. For me and most other guys I know, they were added bonuses but we cared about building a career and a life.
As someone going to college, all of that is a myth. Most of the students i know work one or two jobs to literally pay for college on top of the stuff they do for college. Very little of them party, drink and "get laid" all the time.
Exactly and I can’t blame em, most of us (like myself) loves getting away from home and college is like a party house and for me I go to college to not only get away from home but also I wanna build a career like u mentioned
Durpa doo im building a career even though research says 75% of us don't use this and get into major debt
I was yesterday taking pictures of cars in Switzerland and I saw a cute girl talk to her and I got her insta I usually don’t talk to a random girl like that
But it was all thanks to you Denmo
Denmo the type of guy to dump his girlfriend for not complimenting his socializer school in bed.
😂😂 "Call me your socializer daddy! SAY IT B! SAY IT!!!" 😂😂
Dude, dis video really trippy, man !
A lot of dudes that complain about your content simply lack the discipline needed to change. They'll bitch and moan, blaming outside factors without holding themselves accountable for being the root cause of their own problems. Women can spot a simp bum in 4.6 seconds. These same dudes wear pajamas and crocs to the gym.
What do you wear to the gym ? A dress ?
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Okay, right now I'm going to jump in my car and head to town to do some approaches. Wish me luck!
you really gotta put yourself out there. Ever since I started going to events (volunteering, sports etc...), I started getting like at least 3 promising dates with nice girls per month. Like if you don't put in the work, you won't get anything back
Have you gotten a gf?
@@Unknown21312 I haven‘t committed to one of them yet, too soon. And a lot of them are not a good fit for me
@@TheeMostDangerousOnebro just say you dont get any
Bro makes money off this
I needed to hear this. I've passed up so many opportunities recently to talk to girls. I'm so ashamed of myself. I haven't asked a girl for her number in forever. Thank you for this video, Denmo.
Christ almighty Denmo that term “armchair hero” pierced my soul!
Dude I've followed your advice and now I'm heartbroken cause she lives too far 😭😭
Boys, remember: if you are not physically attractive, you gotta go to the gym. One year of hard work and you'll thank yourself for one of the best decisions you've taken in your life.
bros actually a landscaping engineer
So I went over to the mall today before it closed and did some cold approaching, didn't talked to women but did talk to both men and a 1 gal at mall. 1 was a random guy I saw wearing a Mario kart shirt and the others were mall workers. Did see one gal i wanted to approach but hesitanted because I felt like I was following her around too much lol without actually approaching but she was at this store and browsing through so I could have approach her there. So today was just me warming up to talking to random people and getting used to it. A minute ago, I was helping 2 women out at a train station when they were confused about getting off a train since you have to wait for another train to go southbound. I wanted to introduce myself to them but they had to go so but today wasn't too bad though. I felt nervous and anxious because I haven't done it before but afterwards I felt good because it was normal and not weird or strange. I do wish we as a society weren't so addicted to phone because I think that's why people have social anxiety and are scared to talk to people face to face and approaching strangers especially women. One cute and cool moment was when I was leaving the mall and I saw this guy playing soccer with a kid so I joined in and played with them for little bit and introduced myself to him and that moment was the highlight of my day so that was cool. So today I spoke to even if it was briefly to 5 new people today, all of whom I haven't met before. I consider that a win, my friend. I'm going to do more cold approaching but to women this time starting tomorrow to Saturday to build up consistency.
Denmo posted! Damn i wonder how many guys you have pushed to actually talk to the girls they got crush on and NOW they are together, it is even crazy to think about how many kids will be born because of you haha. Keep it up Denmo!
Denmo single-handedly boosting human population levels lol. All jokes aside, I've always had a problem talking to my crushes lol.
what’s that song at :55? someone tell me!!! I cried my eyes out to that song after my crush rejected me at 16
I'm 26 and have only gotten laid once in my entire life. Keep on feeling severely depressed, only eat once a day, and lay down most of the day doing nothing. I can't approach women because I just get laughed at over my looks and autism
Stay strong my friend!!
How to overcome?
@@sharendravarmanbalakrisnan2307hit gym practice delaying pleasure write how and why you feel, daily prayer or meditation and I promise you'll get someone
Bro honestly read your comment nicely, you feel sad and can't talk to girls due to your days consisting of jack squat,get of YT,expose yourself to uncomfortable situations and grow dont you wantbecome a man you'd want your daughter to marry
I see girls all the time but I don’t talk to them because I know they’re going to reject me
Even my collage is over now and i haven't approach snd talk to girls i missed so many things because of fear of talking to girl i feeling very frustated now . Now what can i do because my collage is finished and had no contact with girls 😢. Even i agree because of fear and excuses i dont havent approach girls what can i do now
8:10 to 8:30 I lost my fuckin marbles dude 🤣Love your
content , i’ve put a good amount of your advice to use and it has helped me tremendously.
Thank you Denmo you legend
I used to get hot girls. But lately I have been dating girls Im not even all that attracted to because my confidence has dwindled for several reasons (mainly finances). I am 51but I look like Im in my mid thirties. You would think I would be more confident due to this, but noooo! I have to make some changes and I need to quit settling for girls that I dont even find attractive. I have a lot of work to do. Mentally. It's weird. I want to be with a girl that is pretty AND that is genuinely a sweet person. Ive had that in the past, why cant I have that again???
51 and you look like me? That's cap bro. Cap less and you will do better
Good video. I know the problem with me was that I was always very lazy, really across the board with every area of my life. I think fear was part of it, learned helplessness, also watching way too many movies, tv shows, playing too many video games, hanging out with very nice, polite friends who never cared enough to hold me to account for anything. I was also autistic and disconnected enough from reality that I actually thought people working in customer service genuinely liked me. I basically trained myself to not really care about time or have any strong ambitions beyond music which I fulfilled to a certain degree but not to a point where I would describe it as showing real ambition. I was always passionate that being nice and a 'good' person should be enough for people to hold me in esteem. Essentially I was just a day dreamer who lived in my own internal world so much I didn't even realize how much I was doing it. It's not what you do occasionally or every now and then that counts it's your daily routine that really matters. The worst part was that I never developed a real work ethic, that alone destroyed so many opportunities I could've had a shot at. I don't know why, I always just had this weird, arrogant attitude, I was special and didn't have to work hard for anything. I kept fantasizing how 'easy' everything was gonna be. You know what they say: don't wish the game was easier, wish you were better!
Yo bro, I know that place, leave some for me 🤣
I’m totally lazy, I’m in my soft guy era drizzle drizzle
You could go for a 50 yr old woman that'll take care of ya.
Pretty innovation idea, I love it
hey bro, love the videos. Just wondering where you get the sick movie posters you got in the background?
I’m did year go, but I don’t do it now
video is not 1 hour long? what happened?
Hey Denmo, using your advice, I've been trying my hand at rizzing up a girl who works at a local café. Once my work week ends Sunday, I plan to ask her out. Wish me luck!
Yeah I can DEFINITELY relate to being lazy. I hate being out my comfort zone.
“Comfort is a Slow Death”
I’d kill to go back in time. In highschool and college I put in 0 effort. There were so many opportunities back then lol
8:23 AYO LMAO
HAHAHAHA!! 🤣🤣💀
true it was a lot easier back then and i was average looking
now its over for me
hypergamy really effects us average looking guys
@@user-ec4yw5hj3r I just don’t encounter girls in public when I go out so I can’t attempt
@@michaelcdarby i dont approach unless i get stares and i never do
@@user-ec4yw5hj3r even if you get stares idk if that would be the indicator to approach
Maybe science will extend our lives really long, so we have a shit ton of time to do everything we want
33 years old can’t approach, suicidal
Ok bro I don’t be approaching but I will definitely do it way before ever killing myself which I wouldn’t.
Maybe start by making small talk with strangers
you dont approach because of your instincts
if youre brain has to fight whether or not you should approach theres a good reason it does that
follow your gut feeling its always right
I wish someone told me high school was the last real chance to get a women that isn't ill
I agree with pretty much 95% of what you say man. But, as a fellow daygamer who's done maybe 200ish approaches - it's not laziness, it's FEAR.
I've talked to buddies and really pushed them on this and what it comes down to is guys make excuses because they're scared of messing up, becoming the town creep, ruining their pull to strikeout ratio etc. Kinda like what you were saying towards the end of the video.
Look at a club on any given night. 60% of dudes are on the wall. Not dancing. Not talking. Most men in life are pussies no buts about it. The reason women respect cold approach and even give you the time of day is because you're braver than 60% of dudes who just ogle her from the corner or slide in her DMs.
If you're watching this and you're serious, here's what I suggest. Man the F up. Beat the excuses. Go make your heart race. Go make mistakes. Failure is the best teacher. Nothing bad will happen to you, I promise.
Best advice right here. Definitely will keep this in mind. Thank you 🙌
Fear blaming on laziness. That is me, I can hold a conversation, the rejection is what puts me off tbh. Getting rejected does not feel nice.
To respond to this and give a caveat. I'd say laziness could be a factor when youve done maybe 150ish approaches and the thought of approaching doesn't give you that visceral fear anymore. Which is probably only 5% of guys. Only then do some of those guys get lazy, use work as an excuse, etc.
But I'd say the vast majority (95%) of PUA wannabes tap out between 0-10 cause they're terrified and then use laziness as an excuse .
@@Unknown21312 I struck out w a girl at work 4 months ago and still have to see her. Trust me, I get it. But think about it this way - once you find the woman of your dreams, you probably won't ever have to do it again. 1 year of kinda sucky rejections won't kill you right?
Denmo wearing the incel turtle neck to connect deeper with his audience
😂😂😂, he missing the fedora
@@mario125ww that'll be in the next video as he spirals further 🤣
Thanks for posting this video as always.😊
I'll be honest, I'm never a lazy guy when it comes to trying to improve myself physically/mentally for the last couple of months, and will continue doing this forever. And I've never had any experience with having girlfriend before, which is okay.
But in my perspective, I promise myself that I would never want to try to form a relationship with any good woman, or form a future family at all. If I allow myself to let love in no matter what, then I'm not a good man. I can impress women, but I never want anyone to share my life with. I would rather just spend time with good, like-minded male friends along the way as I succeed.
I can handle life by myself. I mean, what's so important about having a romantic partner in life anyway?
-Jacob
ASD/OCD
Age:23
What if I am an attractive man but every girl that give me signals is only doing it for validation and not because she wants me?
Happens to me too
Life has too many problems right now to care about woman lol, i can use this later down the line though
Felt😂
the trade nut though
I suck at everything, cause i'm a pathetic piece of shit
Don’t act like that bruh…
I went to the park today in my city and talked with one girl. I’m 19 and seriously struggling
Damn Denmo, you calling me out here lol. I guess one of the reasons why I haven't gotten any women in the past year is because I just don't try anymore.
I use the excuses of work and focusing more on my creative projects instead of chasing women I suppose. Should I uh... feel bad about that?
Hey Denmo, today I asked out a girl who works at smoothie bar. Background on this situation is that basically every single wednesday ive been going to a smoothie bar at the exact same time and getting the same order and its also always the exact same employee (girl i talked to). Today after I paid for my drink, I said word for word "Excuse me, Ma'am. One other thing. I think you are really beautiful, and I was wanting to take you out for coffee or food this weekend. Would you be interested?" She waited for a split second, and then said she had a boyfriend and told me to have a good day. I totally understand that, its a rejection I have moved on. But I wanted to ask you or maybe others who know how to properly cold approach, can I literally just make a comment and then immediately ask, or is some small talk required (perhaps very informal introduction and/or passing conversation)?
It’s generally not the best move to make a comment like that and then ask. In my experience it’s been best to have a conversation with them maybe making a comment on something they’re wearing and telling them it’s cool, where they got it or something like that. Compliments like you are very beautiful put a lot of pressure on someone. Something better that you could say was that she caught your eye and you wanted to come say hi- but after you say that, you should ask a question or say something else as to not put pressure on them and make it awkward. Genuinely, just have a conversation and ask for their number and suggest an activity. No overt compliments. The fact you went up to them and are asking for their number and to hang out are extremely clear signs of interest already
That's totally wrong, if you want an attractive girl, just be ATTRACTIVE. It has nothing to do with lazy, hardworking bla bla bla. If you are attractive, you dont even have to lift finger. Lazy or hardworking doesn't matter at all.
A girl isn't just gonna get on her knees on you out of nowhere. You got to do the work
Bzzzzzzt imma have to stop ya there, buddy.
Ever seen 2/10 guys walking around with a 10/10 woman? It’s because you don’t have to be attractive, I mean it helps. But if you’re genuine, funny and put together, you can really pull almost any woman. Have confidence!
Stop being so negative bro, you’re beautiful on the inside I just know it
Exactly. It's like matching with fat girls of undesirable backgrounds. Any guy 6+ can do it, no work required
Gay
Being ATTRACTIVE is hard work. No one gets born with a fucking sixpack and when someone has a fitting haircut and good style it's most certainly a result of learning about this kind of stuff.
As well attractive for girls is different than attractive for guys. You gotta be confident, be a good talker and have impeccable social skills if you want to be super attractive for a girl. Social skills are hard work too and people without social skills are often the ones living in their moms basement. Never met a bartender or a comedian with bad social skills...
I left similar comment under your previous video but didn't get answer, hoping toget it here:
Jack, help me out. I get friendzoned after 1-2 dates that I will get with women met online. I have dated a few dozens od them, literally. They will always say we can only be friends. When I ask them why, they will just give me a generic reply of "nothing is wrong with you, we are just not a right match". Idk what is wrong with me. Idk what should I work on. Thats been going on for years now. The only gf I had during this time was one I met by a cold approach, after only approaching maybe 7 women in less than a month. So much better stats than OLD for me. Was it just a pure fluke, coincidence, or is cold approach just better for me?
There’s no way anyone can answer this without knowing you or seeing you. I mean the only thing I would say is that if they tell you that they want to be friends don’t just go along with it. Tell them you don’t want to be their friend
Solid advice, I just pay when I’m feeling too lazy.. when you realize your paying for it one way or the other, plus it’s generally just your turn at the moment anyways, less likely to lose a lot more than just money…
No matter how many videos you make like this one, 99% of dudes will find other ways to not do this … dudes are distracted
*dudes want an easy fix*
Just be interesting funny and cool with strangers on the weekend bro it’s not that hard. You’re just being lazy bro, I know a guy 4’5, 300 lb who is absolutely slaying with the ladies all cause he’s confident and funny bro. 😎
4’ 5 and 300 lb fr? How is he even able to move
Denmo is a good looking guy, but what if you have a giant wart(s) on your face? And the doctor's can't remove them. It's not so easy then. Trust me.
denmo drop the movie
pretty much
Pisses me off how denmo tries to gaslight us into the oblivian into believing that is everything besides looks (non changable genetic factors [hight, face, race]) even tho he is 6'2 and 5 facialy white guy. Fcking brutal
i bet you blame your lack of status, social skills, talents, hobbies and wealth on your looks too. How long until you grow up bro?
Being a man means taking responsibility for your own life, as long as you make excuses you'll be unhappy
@@Denmosocial Are you really 6' 2" ?
To be fair mate, Denmo's content is about inspiring change from the heart. He's calling men out to make sure they get off their butt and actually approach females.
As someone that doesn't do it too much, it's inspiring for me.
@@Denmosocial i was blessed genetically (5'10, 7 face, black guy) so i have a hot gf and sht but my brother is 6 inches shorter than me and gets no btches. The blck pll is real bro fr. The only thing he could do to get btches is to make money but even then they dont even like him they like his bank balance.
Social skills, hobbies, physique and talent means fck all if you a 5'4 facially 5 bro fr. Truly brutal sht
Screw this
Sorry but I'm not lazy. I'm just working my ass off to finish my PhD in Biochemistry while working on multiple side projects. I got priorities. Getting a girl into bed is not currently one of them. I don't settle for mundane affairs.
Cope
Good, then you're not the person this video was made for, so why are you here?
@@pa3io843 Algorithm and I like to watch some RUclips when I am eating my breakfast before jumping into my work
@@commodore6430 Is this some Gen Z lingo?
@lucianowillemse8244 it is. I'm not a zoomer but I like the term.
tbh, i do get girls or rather i would. But I'm often too lazy to plan all the dates so i self sabotage to the point the dates won't even happen. Idk man. I think I'm just lazy and scared.
Na leave us alone and go be with the bears ladies
Why do you still make these videos lol (no hate)
cuz it makes him money lol (no hate)
When men are unable to succeed socially with men or women, they stop being incentivized to participate in society. Therefore they no longer contribute value. They suck resources out of the economy and make life less fun for everybody else.
Making these videos helps men become functioning adults with fun lives. They provide value to others, which encourages others to provide value, and we get a healthy society.
@@Denmosocial Thanks
@@Denmosocial btw love your content, keep it up man
@@Denmosocial So true, I stopped working 6 years ago (decade in analytics) and just coasted on my FU funds. My initial career was meant to be a more attractive mate, but over time I gave up and am just coasting on my FU fund that I built to retire early. I'm just studying computer science/AI now just to make more later so I can check out completely or at least passport bro it in Asia.
I don't think it's entirely guys' fault, feminism, social media, and dating apps significantly worsened the dating field to the point where it's not worth it for many men. I don't think we can blame personality flaws, did you see The Hill article that talked about a study where it found 60% of young men are single but only 29% of young women were? Male virginity rates are 30% before 30, this never used to happen. Guys would do anything to get the girl they want, but the barrier to entry is far too high now, I think they realize their awful odds.
I don't think it's a mass character flaw taking place, I think there are general social changes that have disincentivized dating and family formation, so our Western countries are going to tank economically, exacerbating our problems. Have you ever see the hoe_math channel? He explains it pretty well. I would say this is more of a female led issue, since they're making just as much as men or even more now, and they can't satiate their hypergamous urges, add to that the man-hating misandrist culture feminism brought about and you have the shit-stew we currently find ourselves in. Oh yeah, Morgan Stanley says 45% of women between 25-44 will be single and childless with 1.2% increase every year from 2030 (up to a certain point obviously).
The pursuit of women is the textbook definition of hedonism. Aint no different from playing videogames, self improvement, or getting addicted to drugs. The whole point of life i suppose is that you write your own story. The problem with men feeling bad about not having girls is not because they are lonely but rather that it is one of the few ways to fit in with the rest of society. We feel the pain of being shamed by others for not having a girlfriend and the feeling of emptiness from the self imposed lack of purpose. A relationship can get boring the same way as videogames and it was a huge epiphany that came to the surface before my very eyes. I realize that hedonism doesnt last forever and may not keep our best interests at mind. But rather that our own beliefs about life changes the way we feel about things. You can have the best cars and all the women you desire but still be broken on the inside. This realization is why i dont go for relationships. I just dont find much meaning in something like that. I like to be alone most of the time and i socially feel fulfilled by just showing up at work. Attraction to women makes me think that love is the biggest miracle in life but its not. The biggest miracle in life is the relationship i have with myself. After listening to the song "hey ya" by outkast over and over again, I learned that relationships are just as bad if not worse than being single
Thank you for opening up my eyes man
the problem is no woman will ever be obsessed with us
and thats all i want
You're attractive, you can't relate lol.
Everyone has their league. You might not be a super model, but unless you're the elephant man, confidence and personality is enough to land you a nice girl. Don't spend your life depressed that you don't look like a Greek God, pluck up the courage to breathe happiness no matter what you look like, and people will want to be around you. There are plenty of "unattractive" people out there completely killing it. You know what's truly unattractive? Fear.
I'm a 25 year old guy that has never approached any girl in his entire life... So many girls approached me but every time I rejected them just because of that one thing... I was lazy and fought with self confidence.
Man, don't feel bad. I haven't approached any females in like a year just because I was focusing more on my creative hobbies and working out. Maybe that's a bad thing if you just do those things lol.
@@thelifewithnate I do spend my time on creative stuff. I'm in a bloody self growth process, that's the one of the main reasons why I haven't gotten any wet pussy lol.
@@thelifewithnate I make money, study, learn languages etc. I'm pretty sure that I would easily attract any hot girl if I wanted to but I wasn't focused primarily on that, just delaying that from day to day, and after a lot of years that have passed I haven't approached any female LOL
I’m also 25. I know how you feel man. Best of luck
I'm also 25, have been in a few but it always ends up in me being quiet and awkward, never had a relationship because of that
Do acid with PsychedSubstance again