Bro, how to get girls in places which are not open in dating culture? It's easier in places like US and Europe but, how do you do that in cultures which are not in this?
@@Donnie95k You didn't understand me at all. I'm not talking about you focusing on yourself. In some cultures, it's extremely hard to get girl where the dating culture isn't a normal thing.
I would give this small little advice to anyone who's struggling with getting girls. Don't think about the outcome. Don't focus on whether you have to get her number or not. Just approach her, introduce yourself, have a little conversation and if the chemistry fits, ask for a number. If she doesn't give you the number, so what bro? Do you really think no other girl will give you their number? Do you really think after having approached 10, or 100 or even 1000 girls, not a single girl, I repeat, not a single girl out of them would have given you their number? Are you even for real if you think like that? Don't make assumptions, but try. Try to approach a girl without thinking of the outcome. Repeat me, "I will approach a girl without thinking of the outcome" Repeat again, "I will approach a girl without thinking of the outcome" Once again, "I will approach a girl without thinking of the outcome" The outcome is not important, much more important is that you do it. Allright, I gotchu bro, now go and do it.
Oh man I've talked to so many women casually. But these talks hardly ever went deeper than the weather or the common activity. So there never was chemistry and I didn't ask for a number. You might say I'm boring. Anyway what I'm trying to say there's more involved than just "not thinking of an outcome".
@@HenriZwols Yeah you have to set the tone off rip. Flirt from the very beginning so she knows what's up. Otherwise you seem like just any old friendly person wanting a chat.
Yeah but when you finally get 4-5 numbers/instas after soo many approaches and then they ALL end up ghosting before even first date. Is disheartening, makes me can’t be bothered to try
as soon as the video ended i ran to the nearest female and tried making small talk with her. turns out she was 40 years old and married and i got slapped in the face. thanks denmo.
I'm a 35-year-old veteran going back to school post-military. I have a house (my only debt), 3 cars, a dog, never married, no kids, I'm in great shape, and all of my education is paid for by my military benefits. I'm basically the most eligible bachelor around (broke up with my gf a few months ago), but I'm like 10-15 years older than most of the women in my classes lol. It's still doable though. Today I exchanged numbers with a girl in my class who was shocked to learn than I am 15 years older than her (she and most think I'm like 25), but I just laughed it off saying obviously her exes more her age didn't work out and she'll never know until she tries. I've swapped contact info with 2 other girls this week. You really do just gotta get your head straight and go start talking to them. Denmo videos helped me get out of a funk over the holidays, and now I'm back in the game.
While I definitely think you're on the right path Denmo, I believe you might be overlooking an important part of this puzzle. No amount of socializing will make a difference if the internal self-image is not congruent with the qualities women find attractive in a man. Yes they might become a conversationalist 'par excellence', but that's as far as it will go.
Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it
there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.
@@teodortodorov1662 I'm already improving myself. My fitness is on top of the world, I work 2 jobs for combined 70hrs a week and still manage to go to the gym 4 to 5 times a week and I go out every day for about half an hour to ask people for the time or the way, what makes me move foreward but just not fast enough. So I'm actually improving just not really fast when it comes to social skills because I try to keep everything else in track as well.
Limiting beliefs: that’s the number one reason why we ain’t successful at getting girls. We say: oh that guy is rich, handsome, taller than me, why even try? We let these ideas run on the background and we never try to fight them off. It’s oneself who limits oneself not anyone else.
Honestly I get the point but I do feel like my lack of experience does not help me, I’ve been going to the gym for two years and I do feel better about my body but I’m really ashamed about not ever having a girlfriend. People are suprised when I tell them that and it makes me feel more shameful about it. Although ur right if I never try than I get no experience thanks for the vid 🙏
In my experience it is mostly looks that matter. Met this guy when I first started middle school, we clicked instantly and started hanging out, we became best friends after a while even. We were very similar character wise, he was even more quiet than me, would go into blank stare mode even around other people while he bit his mangled nails. Well, women loved him. He ended up dropping and working construction, asked me how to spell certain words and was all but eloquent, he still had a upper class foreign family girlfriend before I met him and was dating some cute nerdy girl while we were at school. My point is that we were very very similar in our awkwardness with me being slightly less yet women frequently overlooked his but not mine. If they like how you look nothing else matters, if they don't nothing you say or do will change that.
not true at all, you literally just noted how both of you were awkward and didnt initiate any conversations or have any kind of charisma whatsoever. It just so happens women approached him and you probably thought you could do the same thing as him but it didnt work. Hence why you must become a socializer. Look at stand up comedians, musicians, actors, CEO's... they all have status and fame. But why? Because they can use their mouth and social skills
Believe me man, it’s not. I’m more attractive now than when I was a teenager, but back then I had hot girls chasing me all the time. I never had to work for it until I graduated. I stopped getting laid or even communicating with women. Confidence is the true king. I see guys way less attractive than me and get a lot of hot girls. There’s even this one dude that acts and looks fruity as hell, and gets gets a lot of good looking women. It’s all about having confidence and not taking shit seriously. I consider myself more attractive than the average man, but way more awkward because I was spoiled back then and now I pretty much have to start over. When you’re physically good looking, women have higher expectations. So when you walk up to a girl she will usually expect you to act like a movie character, fuckboy or just like a very popular person. So when you’re more good looking it’s like a double edged sword. ⚔️ Because if you have game you will be unstoppable, but if you have no game women will think there is something very wrong with you.
Ngl bro, you're mad helpful. I had my third relationship last for 5 months and, sadly it didn't end well, but I wouldn't have gotten into it if it wasn't for you. God bless!
@@Denmosocial Brother you're ignoring some of our questions here which we are asking for months. How can we get girls in cultures where little to no dating culture exists?
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W video, haven't watched it, but W video Edit: The hat is fire!
Why is it so hard for you to just admit that looks/genetics matter when you’re trying to talk to or attract girls happened with me at school and even till this day. I literally am not akward at all and socialize with girls yet none of them want me or view me as just a friend and nothing more.
bill burr, joe rogan, stavros, katt williams, simon pegg, nick frost along with hundreds of musicians artists actors and CEOs have been able to achieve status, fame, and date whatever girls they want. What is your excuse?
@@Denmosocial How does that have anything to do with what i said lmao These people you mentioned at least have good genetics, so they aren’t judged as much. whereas im 18 now but im 5’4 and my voice sounds too high
Yall aint getting it. Yes looks do matter, as well as height among other genetic traits. But thinking that girls only go for those superficial things make your chances of getting a girl slim to none. It does not help you at all being in that mental state. It only prevents you from trying. What can help you is, beginning to change your mindset and not be an incel blaming girls for your failure at dating. You see, our mind is a powerful tool. Our mind dictates how we perceive things and what we want to achieve. Develop social skills, be funny, charming, etc. Trust me, there are girls that really do not care about looks and height that much.
@@ConculusHydro It's ridiculous, @Denmosocial is saying, "Just be famous and rich bro", yeah, good advice for the 99% non famous nor rich men, ridiculous, he should get real and say looks/genetics matter the most and the fact that those people get girls just goes to show how superficial women are.
I am also early but this video is literally for me . I usually see whener you talking to camera you are not speaking to camera you are speaking to me . How i can stop my anxiety before approaching girl ?
Denmo, i'm feeling desperate, I can't be outside without getting mad when I see young couples, I can't get girls out of my head, I don't know if I can wait until 30 to start dating
Brother are you exercising and making above minimum wage? Start there. Then begin signing up for groups/classes and making friends and going out more. Then if you still need help, join socializer and I'll take care of ya personally. In the meantime delete dating apps/social media and dont consume nonsense
Next time you see a cute girl alone in a public setting, say hi to her, dont even approach her for a conversation, a simple hi works. Do this every time you go out and eventually youll be able to strike up an actual conversation. Whatever you do, dont expect anything from them, just have your friendly conversation and move on. Eventually, it'll get easier to talk to girls and share things about yourself. If you do this you will get a girl some day soon.
I tried to join your Discord server, but the link seems to have expired. On another note, I say this from experience. Its really the vibes you give off that depends on whether or not they will be attracted to you. If you talk, walk and compose yourself like you're stoned asf, then of course they're going to be creeped out by you. If they see you walking around in circles and talking to yourself, they are going to think something is wrong with you. If you are always so darn sensitive and can't take a joke - or just are bothered by everything, they're going to look at you as though you are insecure. Or if you are always ready to come to her rescue, defending her even when she is wrong or are easily agreeable, complimenting her every five minutes and telling her she looks good (as though she doesn't know that). That's not only pathetic, but it makes you look like a simp. How do I know that? Because those are things I used to do, and it upset a LOT of people around me, ESPECIALLY girls. As a result, I had hit rock bottom. But I have since been shedding those behaviors and have spoken to girls more often.
@@Denmosocial You should definitely do a video on that. I also failed to add these other factors. Just because you see a cute girl, doesn't always mean she wants to be approached. This is where picking your battles to fight comes in. Practice with only a few girls at a time. Also, don't just be following the girls you know on social media either. If her account is private and she's refusing to accept your follow request, she likely doesn't want to be bothered by you. Then there is the other thing you don't do; put her on a pedistal. I remember reading this Bluford High novel called Secrets In The Shadows. If you read the book, it'll automatically come to your mind not to be that guy. Don't be ready to spend hundreds of dollars on a girl you barely know, dude. That's also simp behavior. You do that once, she'll take advantage of that and then go for the guy she really is into. Us men are the product while "she" is the consumer. She's going for the better deal. That's why us as men need to do better. So we can be the better deal. There is also the one where you don't flirt with teen girls when you're 20 or over, which is common sense. So we won't even go there.
I struggle to build relationships, especially when trying to turn a friendship into something more. My impatience seems to push girls away after initial signs of interest. Any advice on how to handle this better?
@@filiptravnicek4791 Certainly, I tend to take things too seriously when I find a girl attractive, struggling to resist the urges. Creating a sexual spark also appears challenging for me. Any advice would be appreciated.
If you have absolutelly zero experience talking with people, especially women, I recommend you get a job in sells department. Not only will help you to talk with people (men and women) and learn how to talk, you eventually will gain charisma and, even (why not?) bussines skills. But for that, you need to turn off your phone and do the job! No excuses
Why would the guy who was in a relationship early on have much experience? Yes, experience with this one girl, but not with talking to girls in general. After my divorce I had a dry spell for almost a decade. I talked to hundreds of not thousands of women. These were friendly conversations, polite even. Not flirtatious, so nothing came of it.
Yeah man, I feel unmotivated right now, I have been rejected like 6 times in 2 weeks, I started cold approaching. I know is too soon, but i feel like giving up, like this shit of getting women and dates is not meant for me. I dont have any problem talking or approaching any girl, just they dont want to give me their number, probably cold approaching doesnt work anymore, anyways i dont have any social circle or live a social life so i dont have Many option really. I dont know what to do. Or if I should keep approaching girls, this rejections every time are bothering me a lottt
@@RexJacobus-bb1vwyeah i know, thats why i asked for help, im trying to improve that aspect and stop being afraid of rejection, but its hard, today i went out but couldnt approach anyone. Im gonna keep trying, I dont want to give up like I said in my previous comment, thats what losers do, and i dont want that. Do you have some tips to overcome this fear of rejection. I think whats holding me back is being scared of never finding a yes and get rejected forever, thats my fear
@@Manuel.Um-pierrez7549 Stop approaching women. That's the solution. Get a hobby, a side hustle, go to the gym and build up some muscle, hang out with friends, get involved in your community, chase your goals. Basically LIVE YOUR LIFE. You are missing life because you are obsessed with getting a woman. A woman isn't your god, GOD is. A woman is a helper. Meaning you have to be doing something worth getting help. And a woman will come and worship the ground you walk on when you are worried only with yourself and your goals. You men have made women your goal and God. That is why God is not repaying you with good fortune.
@@Manuel.Um-pierrez7549 Also go and get a job in sales. It's 99% rejection and you learn how to deal with the real world and how to interact with people.
What to do if I’m 27 but looks 20-21 ? Everytime I speak to a girl my age she thinks I’m too young because my baby face and I’m tiny. But honestly I’ve always worked hard and I’m good with numbers so I do accounting / finance. I also workout often and try new skill. I have low social skill and very shy due autism but I keep going
practice social skills by talking to people daily, sign up for improv classes to work on banter, if you have money invest in a course or community like socializer and I can help you personally
@@fiat_ow7876 In my country it's legal for a 20-something year old guy to date a high school girl so if it's the same in your country, just come by your local high school 😂
Denmo, what would your advise be against the feeling of being burnt out by dating? I had girls, I had some relationships, I know girls who are/were interested in me, but the feeling of being burnt out dominates the need and wish of dating all the time for some years now. I'm not saying it's not worth it, but this emotional burnout just sucks up all the motivation. What would you do?
@@Denmosocial thank you mate for your answer, really appreciate it! I'm already doing that actually, I earn my main, big money as a lead engineer in the automotive industry in Europe and currently in the process of starting a side hustle that I now can fund thanks to my career. I did some backpacking in my early twenties for two consecutive years after a relationship painfully ended, have seen a lot of stuff, nice places and good people. Girls I know also tell me I can be quite charismatic and talk to complete strangers with confidence. But I still feel so socially burnt out that I rather hustle and keep to myself than starting something with a girl. I'm advancing to my thirties now, in my family the children in my generation all are starting to have kids now. And I'd love that too. But I feel so burnt out. Thank you again for answering Denmo, made my day! Take care bro, you're doing gods work radiating that brotherhood feeling.
Don't focus on girls, go to the gym and improve yourself and earn money by getting a part-time job during the summers or get an online business if you know how to, girls your age probably want 20-something year old perfect Gigachads anyway.
The reason i was unsuccessful with ladies is because the ones that are attractive, physically fit, and around 45 years old have an enormous amount of choice, and so guys like me are constantly overlooked. I could date women who are older/fat/less attractive, but who the hell wants to settle.
Last night we went to a night bar with some friends, they are completely awkward with girls. The one never approached a girl in his life but has women around him (he is from a village). He even was extremely anxious because it was his first time in that situation. As soon as we entered the bar i approached a table full of girls and said 'hey can we sit with you? there is no empty table' with full confidence etc , they said sure. I danced with them, spoke a lot, made jokes, etc but guess what happened. My 2 friends ended up geting them home and i went home and fapped. :P Having confidence , know how to talk , self esteem , being socially connected , have experience etc is some things that will help you but in each girls mind everything is different, it doesnt guarantee that they choose you overall. And i have a lot of stories to share about this topic , i ve been flirting a lot, i have a huge amount of experience. What i conclude is that looks are like a buff to you. They will do magic passively and make the proccess a lot easier. Its necessary to have all these traits in order to initiate all the action with the girl but not being as good looking (realisticaly , i m not talking about becoming shredded or jacked , just in your ideal weight,groomed and dressed properly) as you can , is the ultimate mistake. The effort to reward ratio changes radicaly just by improving your looks. If we scale it to 10 , i would say that its better to have : Skills 3/10 Looks 7/10 Rather than the opposite. I have 15 extra kilos and the amount of effort i have to put in order to get a date is insane. When i didnt have them (for a short period of time) girls would come to me! Now, i have to put effort in every message , ask a few times to get out , to use mirroring(if you know you know) . They WILL go on a date with me but they will be not sure if they should went. I see it clearly. Being good looking also is like buffing your every action because you are just not a confident guy , you are a confindent GOOD LOOKING guy. Your jokes matter more , your actions matter more etc. So guys dont make the same mistake as i did. Spend 3-6 months to maximize your looks (if you are overweight like me) or less , and then go the hell out and flirt with every girl you see and follow Denmo`s guide. This dude is 100% right, thats the way.
@@keifer7813 Go alone dude , meet friends there , open conversations , get to know people. Use your curiosity to drive you and be brave. My best nights were those i went out alone.
thanks for the comment men, I appreciate it. My experiences were very similar to yours. I have heard from many people (good-looking girls as well as friends and family) that I am funny, charismatic, self-confident and that I know how to talk with people. And I tend to think that about me too. The big problem is, that - to really have the success I want with women - I'm obviously just not pretty enough. I can feel it in many situations, but especially when people acknowledge their surprise about my personality after they actually conversed with me and didn't just look at me. For example, one of my best friends, who is very handsome, and I went to Copenhagen, and spoke to two girls (both pretty) I told them that I make rap songs, etc. and they were like "No way, we thought your friend was the rapper, he looks like it". When I asked them what I looked like, they didn't really have an answer. Another time, some girl told my friend, that she never thought that I'd be this funny (obv. based on my looks). So I absolutely agree with you. You can have great conversations, and great friends, make people laugh, and actively become the center of attention whenever you wish to. All that without looking good. But what you cannot get is girls actively smiling at you, giving you compliments, asking for your number, or girls telling your male friends that "I want to hook up with your friend, he is hot". This actually happened to several good friends in front of my eyes, and it was kinda hard to watch for me, even more so because I was the one who created the social situations in which my friends could connect with girls, girls that I would have loved to date. I have been self-improving for some time now, and I can confidently say that I have high social skills and an overall attractive personality. However, since I realized that this personality only gets you so far as long as it isn't matched by attractive looks, I just this year started to really work on my looks. It seems like that's the only way to really get where you wanna be.
There's experience and expertise. If you own a car for years and try to fix problems, you gain experience and when you study cars theoretically and PRACTICALLY, you'll become an expert
Dude, you don't know what makes of you a life lived in a place where there are not too many people and I'm 34 and never been through any of the experiences you described. If I would had those opportunities then of course I would have no issue at all... good video though.
10:40 🧢, if your really in the gym like that or if your just that guy or she sees you have a car that gets her tingly down there or if you just look like a somebody then women will most definitely come to you first, they may not directly ask for your number or you on a date but there will be a very obvious hint, back when I used to get laid in high school I played sports and was popular (I’m a loser now and haven’t got laid since I graduated in 2020) but I would literally be able to just hook up with a chick at a party just because she heard of who I was from other girls just listing out top guy dating prospects among each other it was to easy and half of them had boyfriends.
Here is a quote that changed my mindset and perspective. The quote is "either get bitter or get better". Do you think that quote applies to men only? The reason why I like to think that quote applies to men only is because women simply by default are good with men for simply just being born or simply just existing because for all time they're the ones that get approached and pursued or hit on or get advances made on them or have men making passes at them and when you are in that position it means that you always have offers so because of that it means you are simply by default attractive to the other sex
I think the only solution is to get off porn, dating apps and start working on your career and your physic. That would definitely attract women. Just be spontaneous and dont give a damn about how she feels about you. I live in middle east btw😅
I’m good looking. I’ve been in a few relationships and hookups in the past. I’m now 28 and have been single for 4 years. I have money and a good career. I doesn’t matter because modern women are superficial and have crazy high standards. I’d rather be alone.
I love how you are superior on most aspects of life and still no women approaches you, that's how delusional they are, the only way to change their 4 billion neocortical neurons less than men brain is to sit them down like in those podcast videos in the platform and tell them, you are inferior to many aspects and you are asking for the sky and beyond from a man, you should be more realistic and realize you don't have much to bring to the table aside from looks, it's not cutting it anymore for men, and she would tell you that she is special and unique (for no real reason), and you would have to tell her that she isn't special nor unique, and that she should behave like a normal person and don't pretend that she is a queen (like men do)
Just talk to the girl. I did that for 2 years in a row with multiple girls at different contexts. Never managed to go on a date or hook up. It's not that easy.
Man I'm just focusing on my self first dude girls will come later in life it's just like you said work hard now have fun later so I think when I'm 25 I'll start conversations with girls
This isn’t important at all, just an FYI Messi has been with the same woman since his teenage years and they have 3 kids. It’s a beautiful love story But yeah, he could totally get any girl in the world if he wanted
Video failed off the bat. It is looks guys. It is great that this guy is trying to positive and i get it. However it will always boil down to looks. Experience and money are factors but looks carry it all and enhances. Invest your time into looks and you will see it will get you experience and money. A positive feedback loop. If you invest time in experience without the looks you will just get rejected over and over again. Just get the looks
I remember that my best experiences with women came when I overcame the fear of talking to them. My first (and only) gf I've had so far was when I approavhed her after 5 days I expended thinking how to talk to her.
As a young 25 year old that gets a lot of women easily it’s overrated. I know it’s easy for me to say but trust me, most of what I come across are overly sexualized or overly traumatized women. Sometimes you just want to be offered a hot meal other than sex. Take your time fellas.
agreed but guys wont learn that until they achieve some success with girls, so they continue to procrastinate more meaningful things in life because they're distracted by poon.
Too many guys in your comments feeling sorry for themselves. They need some andrew tate david goggins jocko willock in their lives. Feeling sorry for yourself is a weak beta trait.
Gain experience, gain knowledge, gain momentum, gain booty. 2024 is the year of the gains boys we all gonna make it
Bro, how to get girls in places which are not open in dating culture? It's easier in places like US and Europe but, how do you do that in cultures which are not in this?
@@gamerdude4465 I just clicked this video in hopes it would answer a question I had in my head, focus on yourself, then go for girls
youre amazing denmo, Thnaks 4 everything
Denmo you're a king 👑
I Love your advice so much!
It's like you're the inspiring older brother I never had. ❤😎
@@Donnie95k
You didn't understand me at all. I'm not talking about you focusing on yourself.
In some cultures, it's extremely hard to get girl where the dating culture isn't a normal thing.
I would give this small little advice to anyone who's struggling with getting girls.
Don't think about the outcome.
Don't focus on whether you have to get her number or not.
Just approach her, introduce yourself, have a little conversation and if the chemistry fits, ask for a number.
If she doesn't give you the number, so what bro?
Do you really think no other girl will give you their number?
Do you really think after having approached 10, or 100 or even 1000 girls, not a single girl, I repeat, not a single girl out of them would have given you their number?
Are you even for real if you think like that?
Don't make assumptions, but try.
Try to approach a girl without thinking of the outcome.
Repeat me, "I will approach a girl without thinking of the outcome"
Repeat again, "I will approach a girl without thinking of the outcome"
Once again, "I will approach a girl without thinking of the outcome"
The outcome is not important, much more important is that you do it.
Allright, I gotchu bro, now go and do it.
This was good bro, thanks a lot, I needed to read this 🙌
Oh man I've talked to so many women casually. But these talks hardly ever went deeper than the weather or the common activity. So there never was chemistry and I didn't ask for a number. You might say I'm boring. Anyway what I'm trying to say there's more involved than just "not thinking of an outcome".
@@HenriZwols Yeah you have to set the tone off rip. Flirt from the very beginning so she knows what's up. Otherwise you seem like just any old friendly person wanting a chat.
LoL yeah way too much effort
Yeah but when you finally get 4-5 numbers/instas after soo many approaches and then they ALL end up ghosting before even first date. Is disheartening, makes me can’t be bothered to try
as soon as the video ended i ran to the nearest female and tried making small talk with her. turns out she was 40 years old and married and i got slapped in the face. thanks denmo.
LMFAO! Did this really happen? 😂
@@ChadsYTLife_ yes and it was all thanks to daddy denmos advice 🙏🏻
lmao take that slap with pride brother
I'm a 35-year-old veteran going back to school post-military. I have a house (my only debt), 3 cars, a dog, never married, no kids, I'm in great shape, and all of my education is paid for by my military benefits. I'm basically the most eligible bachelor around (broke up with my gf a few months ago), but I'm like 10-15 years older than most of the women in my classes lol. It's still doable though. Today I exchanged numbers with a girl in my class who was shocked to learn than I am 15 years older than her (she and most think I'm like 25), but I just laughed it off saying obviously her exes more her age didn't work out and she'll never know until she tries. I've swapped contact info with 2 other girls this week. You really do just gotta get your head straight and go start talking to them. Denmo videos helped me get out of a funk over the holidays, and now I'm back in the game.
While I definitely think you're on the right path Denmo, I believe you might be overlooking an important part of this puzzle. No amount of socializing will make a difference if the internal self-image is not congruent with the qualities women find attractive in a man. Yes they might become a conversationalist 'par excellence', but that's as far as it will go.
I agree, I'll do videos on self-image in the future
Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it
there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.
this is helpful, I will look her up. I hope this works for me too, I really miss her.
If you look up Shelly Renee White online, you will find all the information you need. Thank you.
Bro, I'm in my early 20s and I literally have no experience with girls not even kissed a girl, I feel so behind in life
Aim lower
Don`t type comments like this on RUclips or you will be like that for the rest of your life. Improve yourself.
@@teodortodorov1662 I'm already improving myself. My fitness is on top of the world, I work 2 jobs for combined 70hrs a week and still manage to go to the gym 4 to 5 times a week and I go out every day for about half an hour to ask people for the time or the way, what makes me move foreward but just not fast enough.
So I'm actually improving just not really fast when it comes to social skills because I try to keep everything else in track as well.
Same bro, I’m 22 lol, but we gotta improve, we can’t stay behind
Social skills are where its at, even my Wifi got better social connections than me
lmaooo
Especially the new WiFi 7 technology
Limiting beliefs: that’s the number one reason why we ain’t successful at getting girls. We say: oh that guy is rich, handsome, taller than me, why even try? We let these ideas run on the background and we never try to fight them off. It’s oneself who limits oneself not anyone else.
So, I can go and actually have a girlfriend even though I don't have a bussiness and I have a job?
Honestly I get the point but I do feel like my lack of experience does not help me, I’ve been going to the gym for two years and I do feel better about my body but I’m really ashamed about not ever having a girlfriend. People are suprised when I tell them that and it makes me feel more shameful about it. Although ur right if I never try than I get no experience thanks for the vid 🙏
Even try talk to girls in gym
In my experience it is mostly looks that matter. Met this guy when I first started middle school, we clicked instantly and started hanging out, we became best friends after a while even. We were very similar character wise, he was even more quiet than me, would go into blank stare mode even around other people while he bit his mangled nails. Well, women loved him. He ended up dropping and working construction, asked me how to spell certain words and was all but eloquent, he still had a upper class foreign family girlfriend before I met him and was dating some cute nerdy girl while we were at school. My point is that we were very very similar in our awkwardness with me being slightly less yet women frequently overlooked his but not mine. If they like how you look nothing else matters, if they don't nothing you say or do will change that.
not true at all, you literally just noted how both of you were awkward and didnt initiate any conversations or have any kind of charisma whatsoever. It just so happens women approached him and you probably thought you could do the same thing as him but it didnt work. Hence why you must become a socializer. Look at stand up comedians, musicians, actors, CEO's... they all have status and fame. But why? Because they can use their mouth and social skills
@@Denmosocial none of that matters if you ain’t important
Believe me man, it’s not. I’m more attractive now than when I was a teenager, but back then I had hot girls chasing me all the time. I never had to work for it until I graduated. I stopped getting laid or even communicating with women.
Confidence is the true king. I see guys way less attractive than me and get a lot of hot girls. There’s even this one dude that acts and looks fruity as hell, and gets gets a lot of good looking women. It’s all about having confidence and not taking shit seriously.
I consider myself more attractive than the average man, but way more awkward because I was spoiled back then and now I pretty much have to start over.
When you’re physically good looking, women have higher expectations. So when you walk up to a girl she will usually expect you to act like a movie character, fuckboy or just like a very popular person. So when you’re more good looking it’s like a double edged sword. ⚔️ Because if you have game you will be unstoppable, but if you have no game women will think there is something very wrong with you.
so become important. what kind of idiotic kind of comment is that 😂
@@Denmosocial yes I’m just gonna wake up tomorrow and be important thank you for your wisdom
Three reasons: weight problems, lack of confidence and ultimately not trying or caring enough to find a female our age.
The Ushanka (your hat) is awesome, I wear mine daily too 😅
Ngl bro, you're mad helpful. I had my third relationship last for 5 months and, sadly it didn't end well, but I wouldn't have gotten into it if it wasn't for you. God bless!
amazing brother, send me an email telling me your story thats a W
@@Denmosocial forgive me for my ignorance, but can you give me your email? I'll need it
@@Denmosocial
Brother you're ignoring some of our questions here which we are asking for months. How can we get girls in cultures where little to no dating culture exists?
W video, haven't watched it, but W video
Edit: The hat is fire!
Nice hat! It fits your head well.
Yo that is a badass hat! If I had that hat Id be unstoppable! 😂
Very cool hat!
thanks man
It's basically unfixable at this point
Yep. And I could not give a shit anymore.
It's alright brothers. We're all gonna make it
this is the attitude of someone who contributes nothing to society. Don't be like this guy.
@@Denmosocialthe society that is now a mere shadow of what it has been before deserves adequate contribution
@@antigloboshlomo Look around, other people have made it happen. Nonsense
Why is it so hard for you to just admit that looks/genetics matter when you’re trying to talk to or attract girls
happened with me at school and even till this day. I literally am not akward at all and socialize with girls yet none of them want me or view me as just a friend and nothing more.
bill burr, joe rogan, stavros, katt williams, simon pegg, nick frost along with hundreds of musicians artists actors and CEOs have been able to achieve status, fame, and date whatever girls they want. What is your excuse?
@@Denmosocial How does that have anything to do with what i said lmao
These people you mentioned at least have good genetics, so they aren’t judged as much. whereas im 18 now but im 5’4 and my voice sounds too high
@@Denmosocial
Literally 99% of them are white.
Genetics again..
Yall aint getting it. Yes looks do matter, as well as height among other genetic traits. But thinking that girls only go for those superficial things make your chances of getting a girl slim to none. It does not help you at all being in that mental state. It only prevents you from trying. What can help you is, beginning to change your mindset and not be an incel blaming girls for your failure at dating. You see, our mind is a powerful tool. Our mind dictates how we perceive things and what we want to achieve. Develop social skills, be funny, charming, etc. Trust me, there are girls that really do not care about looks and height that much.
@@ConculusHydro
It's ridiculous, @Denmosocial is saying, "Just be famous and rich bro", yeah, good advice for the 99% non famous nor rich men, ridiculous, he should get real and say looks/genetics matter the most and the fact that those people get girls just goes to show how superficial women are.
6:00 yeah we just got to keep practicing. Experience and success are inevitable.
Great video, does your program also work for older guys?
absolutely we got a couple older dudes in here crushing it haha kinda epic
So , its experience! Great!
thats right brother
Nah, I’m fine mate
hat's nice, red color would be even better
The hat looks cool
I am also early but this video is literally for me . I usually see whener you talking to camera you are not speaking to camera you are speaking to me . How i can stop my anxiety before approaching girl ?
You look so sharp with your deer hat it almost looks like you when you had your long hair
thanks baby ill put it on more just for you
Thanks dad
Denmo, i'm feeling desperate, I can't be outside without getting mad when I see young couples, I can't get girls out of my head, I don't know if I can wait until 30 to start dating
You dont gotta wait until 30 brother just gain experience talking to woman to get confident then you'll easily start dating
How old are you ?
Brother are you exercising and making above minimum wage? Start there. Then begin signing up for groups/classes and making friends and going out more. Then if you still need help, join socializer and I'll take care of ya personally. In the meantime delete dating apps/social media and dont consume nonsense
Next time you see a cute girl alone in a public setting, say hi to her, dont even approach her for a conversation, a simple hi works. Do this every time you go out and eventually youll be able to strike up an actual conversation. Whatever you do, dont expect anything from them, just have your friendly conversation and move on. Eventually, it'll get easier to talk to girls and share things about yourself. If you do this you will get a girl some day soon.
simple explanation is tha i seem to care bout girls less and less and just coming to terms of being alone. and tbh been fellin pretty good about it🤣
Yeah same, it's like my mind is fine with being alone but my soul is begging for intimacy.
I tried to join your Discord server, but the link seems to have expired.
On another note, I say this from experience. Its really the vibes you give off that depends on whether or not they will be attracted to you. If you talk, walk and compose yourself like you're stoned asf, then of course they're going to be creeped out by you. If they see you walking around in circles and talking to yourself, they are going to think something is wrong with you. If you are always so darn sensitive and can't take a joke - or just are bothered by everything, they're going to look at you as though you are insecure. Or if you are always ready to come to her rescue, defending her even when she is wrong or are easily agreeable, complimenting her every five minutes and telling her she looks good (as though she doesn't know that). That's not only pathetic, but it makes you look like a simp. How do I know that? Because those are things I used to do, and it upset a LOT of people around me, ESPECIALLY girls. As a result, I had hit rock bottom. But I have since been shedding those behaviors and have spoken to girls more often.
Agreed brother. I thought these were common sense but maybe I should make a video on these
@@Denmosocial You should definitely do a video on that. I also failed to add these other factors. Just because you see a cute girl, doesn't always mean she wants to be approached. This is where picking your battles to fight comes in. Practice with only a few girls at a time. Also, don't just be following the girls you know on social media either. If her account is private and she's refusing to accept your follow request, she likely doesn't want to be bothered by you. Then there is the other thing you don't do; put her on a pedistal. I remember reading this Bluford High novel called Secrets In The Shadows. If you read the book, it'll automatically come to your mind not to be that guy. Don't be ready to spend hundreds of dollars on a girl you barely know, dude. That's also simp behavior. You do that once, she'll take advantage of that and then go for the guy she really is into. Us men are the product while "she" is the consumer. She's going for the better deal. That's why us as men need to do better. So we can be the better deal.
There is also the one where you don't flirt with teen girls when you're 20 or over, which is common sense. So we won't even go there.
I love the hat, I have one similar
my man
👒 looks really cool
Ayyy early asf
the hat is the key
I struggle to build relationships, especially when trying to turn a friendship into something more. My impatience seems to push girls away after initial signs of interest. Any advice on how to handle this better?
Just keep Calm And chill, dont take things too seriously, try to create sexual spark. Btw iam single
@@filiptravnicek4791 Certainly, I tend to take things too seriously when I find a girl attractive, struggling to resist the urges. Creating a sexual spark also appears challenging for me. Any advice would be appreciated.
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"They came from a big family... usually Italians or Middle Easter people." Lmao yup 😂
If you have absolutelly zero experience talking with people, especially women, I recommend you get a job in sells department.
Not only will help you to talk with people (men and women) and learn how to talk, you eventually will gain charisma and, even (why not?) bussines skills.
But for that, you need to turn off your phone and do the job! No excuses
Hat is 🔥🔥🔥
Why would the guy who was in a relationship early on have much experience? Yes, experience with this one girl, but not with talking to girls in general.
After my divorce I had a dry spell for almost a decade. I talked to hundreds of not thousands of women. These were friendly conversations, polite even. Not flirtatious, so nothing came of it.
Yeah man, I feel unmotivated right now, I have been rejected like 6 times in 2 weeks, I started cold approaching. I know is too soon, but i feel like giving up, like this shit of getting women and dates is not meant for me. I dont have any problem talking or approaching any girl, just they dont want to give me their number, probably cold approaching doesnt work anymore, anyways i dont have any social circle or live a social life so i dont have Many option really. I dont know what to do. Or if I should keep approaching girls, this rejections every time are bothering me a lottt
That's your problem. Learn how to deal with rejection first, then stop being so outcome dependent. Chicks can smell it on you
@@RexJacobus-bb1vwyeah i know, thats why i asked for help, im trying to improve that aspect and stop being afraid of rejection, but its hard, today i went out but couldnt approach anyone. Im gonna keep trying, I dont want to give up like I said in my previous comment, thats what losers do, and i dont want that. Do you have some tips to overcome this fear of rejection. I think whats holding me back is being scared of never finding a yes and get rejected forever, thats my fear
@@Manuel.Um-pierrez7549 Stop approaching women. That's the solution. Get a hobby, a side hustle, go to the gym and build up some muscle, hang out with friends, get involved in your community, chase your goals. Basically LIVE YOUR LIFE. You are missing life because you are obsessed with getting a woman. A woman isn't your god, GOD is. A woman is a helper. Meaning you have to be doing something worth getting help. And a woman will come and worship the ground you walk on when you are worried only with yourself and your goals. You men have made women your goal and God. That is why God is not repaying you with good fortune.
@@Manuel.Um-pierrez7549 Also go and get a job in sales. It's 99% rejection and you learn how to deal with the real world and how to interact with people.
What to do if I’m 27 but looks 20-21 ? Everytime I speak to a girl my age she thinks I’m too young because my baby face and I’m tiny. But honestly I’ve always worked hard and I’m good with numbers so I do accounting / finance. I also workout often and try new skill. I have low social skill and very shy due autism but I keep going
practice social skills by talking to people daily, sign up for improv classes to work on banter, if you have money invest in a course or community like socializer and I can help you personally
@@fiat_ow7876i look like 18 years old too, but dont worry, game can make diference
Get some muscles, and dress slightly older. The rest is how you carry yourself
@@fiat_ow7876 In my country it's legal for a 20-something year old guy to date a high school girl so if it's the same in your country, just come by your local high school 😂
@@Denmosociali have the opposite problem, they think I'm older
Denmo, what would your advise be against the feeling of being burnt out by dating?
I had girls, I had some relationships, I know girls who are/were interested in me, but the feeling of being burnt out dominates the need and wish of dating all the time for some years now.
I'm not saying it's not worth it, but this emotional burnout just sucks up all the motivation.
What would you do?
Use that energy and pain and redirect it to business. Make money then leave your city and go somewhere better and start fresh
@@Denmosocial thank you mate for your answer, really appreciate it!
I'm already doing that actually, I earn my main, big money as a lead engineer in the automotive industry in Europe and currently in the process of starting a side hustle that I now can fund thanks to my career.
I did some backpacking in my early twenties for two consecutive years after a relationship painfully ended, have seen a lot of stuff, nice places and good people.
Girls I know also tell me I can be quite charismatic and talk to complete strangers with confidence.
But I still feel so socially burnt out that I rather hustle and keep to myself than starting something with a girl.
I'm advancing to my thirties now, in my family the children in my generation all are starting to have kids now. And I'd love that too.
But I feel so burnt out.
Thank you again for answering Denmo, made my day! Take care bro, you're doing gods work radiating that brotherhood feeling.
No experience and constantly suicidal I need help
we got a free mens community in the description, and also there are free call lines in your country if you google :) Wishing you the best mate
It's because everyone comes at it from the wrong angle. It's not a game. It's two people choosing to partner to create art. It's a dance.
hey bro what can i do i'm 15 and i'm moving to a new school this year
Don't focus on girls, go to the gym and improve yourself and earn money by getting a part-time job during the summers or get an online business if you know how to, girls your age probably want 20-something year old perfect Gigachads anyway.
The reason i was unsuccessful with ladies is because the ones that are attractive, physically fit, and around 45 years old have an enormous amount of choice, and so guys like me are constantly overlooked. I could date women who are older/fat/less attractive, but who the hell wants to settle.
That's literally what those other women are saying about you
Last night we went to a night bar with some friends, they are completely awkward with girls.
The one never approached a girl in his life but has women around him (he is from a village). He even was extremely anxious because it was his first time in that situation.
As soon as we entered the bar i approached a table full of girls and said 'hey can we sit with you? there is no empty table' with full confidence etc , they said sure.
I danced with them, spoke a lot, made jokes, etc but guess what happened.
My 2 friends ended up geting them home and i went home and fapped. :P
Having confidence , know how to talk , self esteem , being socially connected , have experience etc is some things that will help you but in each girls mind everything is different, it doesnt guarantee that they choose you overall.
And i have a lot of stories to share about this topic , i ve been flirting a lot, i have a huge amount of experience.
What i conclude is that looks are like a buff to you. They will do magic passively and make the proccess a lot easier.
Its necessary to have all these traits in order to initiate all the action with the girl but not being as good looking (realisticaly , i m not talking about becoming shredded or jacked , just in your ideal weight,groomed and dressed properly) as you can , is the ultimate mistake.
The effort to reward ratio changes radicaly just by improving your looks.
If we scale it to 10 , i would say that its better to have :
Skills 3/10
Looks 7/10
Rather than the opposite.
I have 15 extra kilos and the amount of effort i have to put in order to get a date is insane.
When i didnt have them (for a short period of time) girls would come to me!
Now, i have to put effort in every message , ask a few times to get out , to use mirroring(if you know you know) .
They WILL go on a date with me but they will be not sure if they should went. I see it clearly.
Being good looking also is like buffing your every action because you are just not a confident guy , you are a confindent GOOD LOOKING guy. Your jokes matter more , your actions matter more etc.
So guys dont make the same mistake as i did. Spend 3-6 months to maximize your looks (if you are overweight like me) or less , and then go the hell out and flirt with every girl you see and follow Denmo`s guide. This dude is 100% right, thats the way.
I don't have friends to go places with so what do you suggest I do to meet women?
@@keifer7813 Go alone dude , meet friends there , open conversations , get to know people.
Use your curiosity to drive you and be brave.
My best nights were those i went out alone.
do u have any advice on flirting
thanks for the comment men, I appreciate it. My experiences were very similar to yours. I have heard from many people (good-looking girls as well as friends and family) that I am funny, charismatic, self-confident and that I know how to talk with people. And I tend to think that about me too. The big problem is, that - to really have the success I want with women - I'm obviously just not pretty enough. I can feel it in many situations, but especially when people acknowledge their surprise about my personality after they actually conversed with me and didn't just look at me. For example, one of my best friends, who is very handsome, and I went to Copenhagen, and spoke to two girls (both pretty) I told them that I make rap songs, etc. and they were like "No way, we thought your friend was the rapper, he looks like it". When I asked them what I looked like, they didn't really have an answer. Another time, some girl told my friend, that she never thought that I'd be this funny (obv. based on my looks). So I absolutely agree with you. You can have great conversations, and great friends, make people laugh, and actively become the center of attention whenever you wish to. All that without looking good. But what you cannot get is girls actively smiling at you, giving you compliments, asking for your number, or girls telling your male friends that "I want to hook up with your friend, he is hot". This actually happened to several good friends in front of my eyes, and it was kinda hard to watch for me, even more so because I was the one who created the social situations in which my friends could connect with girls, girls that I would have loved to date. I have been self-improving for some time now, and I can confidently say that I have high social skills and an overall attractive personality. However, since I realized that this personality only gets you so far as long as it isn't matched by attractive looks, I just this year started to really work on my looks. It seems like that's the only way to really get where you wanna be.
I feel like even if I did get a girl those memories of my ex will always hurt. Should of never dated her. 😕
Gotta let go of the soul ties
There's experience and expertise. If you own a car for years and try to fix problems, you gain experience and when you study cars theoretically and PRACTICALLY, you'll become an expert
Pretty nice hat
Why I'm worry that have 0 girls
Who care about that .
Work hard focus on your line
It's only matter of Time gentleman ⚡️
Haha I actually did know pneumoniultramicroscopicsilicovolcanoconiosis
Dude, you don't know what makes of you a life lived in a place where there are not too many people and I'm 34 and never been through any of the experiences you described. If I would had those opportunities then of course I would have no issue at all... good video though.
I got no experience so im done bye yall!❤
10:40 🧢, if your really in the gym like that or if your just that guy or she sees you have a car that gets her tingly down there or if you just look like a somebody then women will most definitely come to you first, they may not directly ask for your number or you on a date but there will be a very obvious hint, back when I used to get laid in high school I played sports and was popular (I’m a loser now and haven’t got laid since I graduated in 2020) but I would literally be able to just hook up with a chick at a party just because she heard of who I was from other girls just listing out top guy dating prospects among each other it was to easy and half of them had boyfriends.
Me personally i have zero women because im 5'5.. simplicity
Here is a quote that changed my mindset and perspective.
The quote is "either get bitter or get better".
Do you think that quote applies to men only?
The reason why I like to think that quote applies to men only is because women simply by default are good with men for simply just being born or simply just existing because for all time they're the ones that get approached and pursued or hit on or get advances made on them or have men making passes at them and when you are in that position it means that you always have offers so because of that it means you are simply by default attractive to the other sex
Approached a fuckiiinn baddie today boys! Got told she has a bf.. but i tried with a like 8 or 9 bro!
I'm ugly, fat, broke, black, old and can't initiate conversations 😌
I think the only solution is to get off porn, dating apps and start working on your career and your physic. That would definitely attract women. Just be spontaneous and dont give a damn about how she feels about you. I live in middle east btw😅
I’m good looking. I’ve been in a few relationships and hookups in the past. I’m now 28 and have been single for 4 years. I have money and a good career. I doesn’t matter because modern women are superficial and have crazy high standards. I’d rather be alone.
I love how you are superior on most aspects of life and still no women approaches you, that's how delusional they are, the only way to change their 4 billion neocortical neurons less than men brain is to sit them down like in those podcast videos in the platform and tell them, you are inferior to many aspects and you are asking for the sky and beyond from a man, you should be more realistic and realize you don't have much to bring to the table aside from looks, it's not cutting it anymore for men, and she would tell you that she is special and unique (for no real reason), and you would have to tell her that she isn't special nor unique, and that she should behave like a normal person and don't pretend that she is a queen (like men do)
Quantum rizz
10:54 the story of my life
Just talk to the girl. I did that for 2 years in a row with multiple girls at different contexts. Never managed to go on a date or hook up. It's not that easy.
Grim fandango... Ahh. What a joyride that game was.
Man I'm just focusing on my self first dude girls will come later in life it's just like you said work hard now have fun later so I think when I'm 25 I'll start conversations with girls
Try saying that as a brown guy.
Just lift bro
Went on my first date today. Went fucking horrible. Oh well, I guess it’s just more xp
This be lowkey funny when you’re watching as a girl💀
Whys it funny?
@@keifer7813 Probably because they think it's bullshit.
This isn’t important at all, just an FYI
Messi has been with the same woman since his teenage years and they have 3 kids. It’s a beautiful love story
But yeah, he could totally get any girl in the world if he wanted
wait you're telling me I need to participate in my own rescue and no one else will do it for me!?!?! ridiculous, unsubbed... ;p
Video failed off the bat. It is looks guys.
It is great that this guy is trying to positive and i get it. However it will always boil down to looks. Experience and money are factors but looks carry it all and enhances. Invest your time into looks and you will see it will get you experience and money. A positive feedback loop.
If you invest time in experience without the looks you will just get rejected over and over again.
Just get the looks
Maybe I'm looking in the wrong places?
Ngl dating a girl as 'practice' is some Machiavelli type shit 💀
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I remember that my best experiences with women came when I overcame the fear of talking to them. My first (and only) gf I've had so far was when I approavhed her after 5 days I expended thinking how to talk to her.
They are just people bro
Blah blah blah blah blah blah . . .
over and over again, the same titels and topics..... boring... DOWNWARDSTREND OF DOOM INCOMING
why you watching and commenting instead of socializing brother
@@DenmosocialBecause I own a bmw and you don’t
As a young 25 year old that gets a lot of women easily it’s overrated. I know it’s easy for me to say but trust me, most of what I come across are overly sexualized or overly traumatized women. Sometimes you just want to be offered a hot meal other than sex.
Take your time fellas.
agreed but guys wont learn that until they achieve some success with girls, so they continue to procrastinate more meaningful things in life because they're distracted by poon.
Oh poor you. Like a rich guy telling homeless people about how stressful it is to own and maintain 5 mansions
Wow this hits different
it honestly makes sense@@Denmosocial
@@keifer7813I'm seeing a chick who is a sex maniac. I'll take sex over argument and drama any day.
@@keifer7813😂😂
How to get girls = have lots $$$
And looks, which is more important than money.
@@gj9157 but it’s not true , cuz the chicks will go out with a raccoon if it has money to spend 😂
@@cruzcrstar
For all the wrong reasons, not because they actually find them fuckable(attractive)
Money can't buy good genetics.
W rizz 🔥
Too many guys in your comments feeling sorry for themselves. They need some andrew tate david goggins jocko willock in their lives. Feeling sorry for yourself is a weak beta trait.
Cool hat