Why daily routines make you poor & fragile [trigger warning]
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If you’re new to my channel, my name is Alex Hormozi. I’m the founder and managing partner of Acquisition.com. It’s a family office, which is just a formal way of saying we invest our own money into companies. Our 10 portfolio companies bring in over $250,000,000+ per year. Our ownership stake varies between 20% and 100% of them. Given this is a YT channel, and anyone can claim anything, I’ll give you some stuff you can google to verify below.
How I got here…
21: Graduated Vanderbilt in 3 years Magna Cum Laude, and took a fancy consulting job.
23 yrs old: Left my fancy consulting job to start a business (a gym).
24 yrs old: Opened 5 gym locations.
26 yrs old: Closed down 6th gym. Lost everything.
26 yrs old: Got back to launching gyms (launched 33). Then, lost everything for a 2nd time.
26 yrs old: In desperation, started licensing model as a hail mary. It worked.
27 yrs old: "Gym Launch" does $3M profit the next 6 months. Then $17M profit next 12 months.
28 yrs old: Started Prestige Labs. $20M the first year.
29 yrs old: Launched ALAN, a software company for agencies to work leads for customers. Scaled to $1.7mmo within 6 months.
31 yrs old: Sold 75% of UseAlan to a strategic buyer in an all stock deal.
31 yrs old: Sold 66% of Gym Launch & Prestige Labs at $46.2M valuation in all-cash deal to American Pacific Group. (you can google it)
31 yrs old: Started our family office Acquisition.com. We invest and scale companies using the $42M in distributions we had taken + the cash from the $46.2M exit.
32 yrs old: Started making free content showing how we grow companies to make real business education accessible to everyone (and) to attract business owners to invest or scale their businesses.
34 yrs old: I became co-owner of Skool.com to help the many people who want to start a business online do so.
Today: Our portfolio now does $200M/yr between 10 companies. The largest doing $100M/yr the smallest doing $5M per year. Our ownership varies between 20% and 100% ownership of the companies. Many of them we invested in early and helped grow (which is how we make our money - not youtube videos).
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You either get an epic outcome or an epic story. Both mean you win.
Keep crushing. May your desires be greater than your obstacles.
Never quit,
Alex
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"In order to grow, your identity must be whatever is required to grow"... that was gold.
Can you elaborate?
what about no identity? the hyperflexible one! like water
Also my favorite part!
A lot of people needs more structure but when they create one, it’s so rigid that it falls at the first blow of wind. Balance between structure and adaptability.
This is it right here. Balance between structure and adaptability. He also touches on dopamine fluctuations and tolerance build-up
@@alexcoe5303 on dopamine, I suggest Dr. Andrew Huberman podcast. Several of his episode is about dopamine and how it’s more of a vehicle more than a reward
Well said
Or you can say its so frozen, the probability of it breaking into pieces is high
Well spoken
"In order to grow, your identity must be what ever is required to make you grow"
I became so strict with my morning routines that I would neglect every other aspect of my life. I wouldn't do anything else throughout my day until I finished the routine. Human beings need variety, so I decided to make my routine way more flexible. I'm a lot happier now 👍
Love this. Hundreds of years ago we didn’t have people needing ice baths for their daily rituals, leaning on their social media presence as a litmus test for success, an insane stack of supplements and cutting edge gym for fitness. I really hang onto those things sometimes and make excuses as to why I’m not at the level I want to be but then I really think and I know for a fact that even today people are killing it without leaning into those things
You are speaking of identity mostly - The minute we put our identity into things, rituals, people, work, hobbies or substances we lose ourselves.
This is incredibly difficult to avoid. It is a part of the human condition. Good stuff.
Great TLDR(or in this case watch/listen) summary.
What profit is it for a man to gain the world but lose his soul?
oml i needed this comment
but then what do we put pur identity into? arent we what we do?
@@Naturallycurious64 an eternal question
The problem is not routines and habits. The problem is the addictive mentality, and yes, you can be addicted and obsessed with good(healthy) routines as well. To an extent where you stress over missing a workout in the gym or eating candy during your meal.
preach
Precisely.
Having a structure in your daily routine, let alone good habits at all, is far more of an asset than a risk.
True, any level of obsession makes even the 'best' habit a detriment.
But that applies to excess of _anything._
At 03:35 he says he thought he was bad at math...he missed that he is maybe less great at psychology that he thought 🤔🧐 He makes me think of someone who just discovered something important...just to see 🙈 when the camera stops, that you just acted blindly and lack an healthy amount of introspection.
You explained it better.
@@LinkEX true, I've avoided schedules all my life, but now I see the benefit of it. If you have to think every morning about what you should do, you are allowing yourself a way out, or just skip planning all together and winging it. You can be a lot more efficient if past you told future you exactly what to do so you don't lose momentum when you switch between tasks.
I would say, Alex has a point and I would just switch up my schedule every few weeks.
I quit caffeine, sugar, and weed.
I’ve found that I’m actually more productive and I feel better. All you need as a human to perform is food, water, sleep, and the desire to be best version of yourself. Awesome vid!
Luis ... I did the exact same thing just recently and I too found my productivity increased dramatically. You're not alone!
All sugar? You literally eat nothing that has sugar in it?
@@tomoates8568 he’s probably talking about added sugars
@@Mebble Lol, I know but it sounded silly so I had to comment
@@tomoates8568 carnivore diet.
That routine part really got to people. Got to me too. As a musician and teacher I'll say that the "practice habit" is one of the most powerful tools a musician can have. That and patience. I find that routine helps tremendously for both parents and kids. If a teacher of mine is out one week it's chaos for two more. Changing your normal day to a makeup day? 30% chance the parent remembers. Routine is a tool to combat chaotic lives. If I'm hearing Alex correctly he's simply saying to stop mythologizing those routines. And certainly don't use them as excuses. Love what Alex has to say. Good luck to you all.
I just REALLY needed to hear this today. Sometimes life throws things at you and you have to adapt. Perfectionism doesn't work. You just need to focus on what is important. Love this video!
I woke up to look for the ideal morning routine as an entrepreneur and I found this instead. Alex, you are a legend
I was taking my routine so seriously, and when it wouldn't go as planned I ended up take it out on the girl I was with, and in trying to be the best version of myself, I became the worst
Great self awareness brother.. resonate with this a lot
@@kadrianenyia_ Didn't even realize that I do this as well until someone else said it
Thanks for sharing your pitfall, I'll try to avoid it. Thanks man!
I get what you’re saying brother, but also to Alex’s point in this video, maybe your holding on to an overly critical opinion of yourself and how you were in a stressful situation?
Fuck if I know dude. Duality of life and all of that. Hope you can breathe easy now. Cheers 🍻
There was a vid i watched i believe over a year ago about how 'self improvement' was 'ruining your life' and how we tend to go overboard with "improving thy self" that we improve EVERYTHING about our lives all at once and when something "fails" it feels as though WE'VE failed when really the brain doesnt work like that
I really respect how careful you are when it comes to self talk and the “I am” statements. I’ve noticed I’ve been much more aware of them as well. I think that’s the first step to success is learning how to have that awareness and realize that when you say these things you are creating that reality for yourself whether they are limiting or growth beliefs.
Alex, of all the talented business gurus out there, you are a true teacher, You don't just talk, or walk around with a microphone. You provide visuals, diagrams, bullet point lists, graphs, charts, and true life stories for illustration. You go step by step, for each stage of the game. Why focus on making $100M when you haven't made one yet? I'm just getting started, myself. You actually say, "this is step one." Your channel is so helpful. I just have to tell you thank you and I'm grateful for you.
After 2 years, this podcast still holds true and will be for all coming up in life. Two Thumbs up
Love this closing quote: "You are source, NOT the reaction." Right on Alex! 🙌🏾
Love to see ma people in these streets of the interwebs. Ayyyeee!!!
Awesome.
Yes! Be the thermostat, not the thermometer
It's true only up to a point. Any fitness routine, any daily stretching or mindfulness routine will on average get you huge results. I agree with not beating yourself up if you break it, I also agree with being prepared to break it and tackle different challenges, but for the most part it helps more than going at it randomly.
I think he means. It is cool to have a routine. But it is in no way necessary to rising to any occasion. But is necessary if say it is. That is a limiting belief that is going to plague your concentration, when you miss a day or routine that “keeps you going.”
Routines are methods, not goals in themselves.
I agree-I totally get what he’s saying but I think the reason we all clicked was because he made it sound like he was going to tear apart the very act of “exercise” but he didn’t even touch on it in the whole video. Obviously using a routine as a crutch is bad
Alex is obviously on testosterone, now the question is it because he is worried about his imagine or cheating from exercise?
If a routine helps you right now then be a person who uses a routine to serve you. If you are in a different situation then be different. Don’t let external forces define you
Depends. When you implement a good routine, it can force you to do the things you know you have to do like gym, sleeping well, reading. The struggle is to be flexible within your routine because life is unpredictable .
Some help? I love doing my morning routine it makes me really fresh and even more productive. I hate when I miss one. I think that I should get up every day and do my routine after that - no matter if it is productive or not - so I can be better in everything through my the day. Honestly I feel more energetic and productive after my morning routine. Should I stress out if I miss two or three morning routines through the week. I miss them usually because of my girlfriend who wants to me stay up late at night with her. In fact that breaks my other routine which is going to bed at least at 23:00. So I often get angry on my girlfriend because she breaks these two routines that I want to keep up doing. The routines make me feel better though. So I don’t know what should I do. Should I tell her to go to bed with me earlier or I just accept the things and if happens happens and continue doing my day with the thoughts that I can be productive even without my two routines.
Yep. I know two billionaires that stick to their routines. It’s really a state of mind and discipline.
@@anatta467 I love my routines it hard to do them if you stay up late at night every night because one of your favourite person wants to see you more
@@Das0000 Bro you should tell your girlfriend to be healthier with you, not the other way around. But I'm just a stranger on the internet. At the end of your day you should decide how to approach it. Good luck :)
@@pa_blo4220 appreciate it! Thank you a nice stranger on the internet 👍
Ive known about limiting speech and self talk for a while now but never have I heard it described in this way and it just makes so much sense. Thank you for making this!
Totally agree that the words we use affect how we react to certain situations. From my own experience, when I hear myself saying "I'm not good enough ...", I stop for a bit and think of a moment when I was good. We tend to use "always", "never", "all the time" to talk about ourselves, and one of the ways to break this circle is to find one tiny moment that makes the statement invalid.
Exactly what I needed to hear. Kept saying "I am scared off / not comfortable on sales calls". Dangerous thing to keep telling yourself. Thanks!
"I am" is the most powerful statement in your vocabulary. What comes after these words will form your life. Great post Alex.
I could never understand the hype about routines, I always cycle them from time to time according to weather and how much I can do in a day to take maximum benefit. I thought I was crazy and lazy for doing this because no one spoke about this. I really needed this. Thanks for sharing this and keeping it raw. You are doing us a service.
It's structure really and a psychological kickstart..certain routines do benefit you..for instance, having meals at the specific time every day, this is scientifically proven for your health..but there are also routines that help kick you into a certain mindset.
It ain't about filling your life with routines just for the sake of them, it's about being efficient of your time and what you do in life. Don't waste your life in your personal, social or corporate life..you aren't immortal
@@rudra7615 I 100% agree with this.
@@rudra7615 I 100% agree with this, too.
Wow powerful. Really hit me in the face. Thank you for pointing this out for me Alex.
Great info and video.
I struggled with this my whole life I'm 30 and have only just discovered how my self deception and defeatist attitude was protecting my egoic needs, since I've started being mindful of my attitude and thoughts that don't serve me not only to I feel happier but so much damn stronger, I will become unstoppable.
He speaks about negative routines but there are positive routines that do benefit the individual. Not disagreeing with what he said at all. Positive routines can make you more effective in reaching your goals. It's the mentality and structure of the person to decide how those routines impact one's life. Good video . Thank you for sharing your knowledge! Subscribed .
He's also speaking about positive routines too that many people attach overly negative outcomes to if they fail the positive routines. And too much of a positive routine may actually be... too much.
Example: You go to bed regularly at night and get up regularly in the morning, but if you ever miss these times, you've convinced yourself that you get brain fog. The sad thing is you ACTUALLY get brain fog because you've convinced yourself this is what happens. Here the person has become a victim to their own positive routine. Meanwhile normal people who can vary their sleep and wake times by 1-2 hours don't experience any negative effects because they haven't taught themselves these negative effects and artificial limits.
The reason he's so passionate here is he used to struggle with this himself, so it's kind of a self reminder.
Psychology students we love em hahah
You’re a hell of a leader and incredible teacher. At 33 I will be a father for the first time and bring in close to 200k as a fiberglass pool builder. However, this is just my current vehicle that’s driving me to the launchpad. I’ve been an introvert my whole life and this is the year that changes. Building and restoring relationships with family and friends comes first and then networking.
The people that choose to share their knowledge like yourself are the real heros IMO. I’m learning things now that I should have learned as a child and it’s sad how industrial our school system is and that most of our parents weren’t taught these important life lessons.
Thank you🙏🏼
Nice video with a ton of truth. The argument that 'people 100 years ago did sleep well, so you don't need *** now' Is like saying 'people 100 years ago can see well, why are you wearing glasses'? And, true if you get your identity from your routines, then they are bad. But a routine does not have to be novel to be useful and don't necessarily have to change.
Love this. I tried living a super basic life for almost 2 year and it taught me a lot. I've had every crutch at a certain point: meditation, coffee, weed, Yoga, exercise, even writing. Humans are a stream of creativity, don't need all that, appreciate them for what they are.
Those are tools that can help you, especially meditation and exercise. But I agree if you are deriving identity or personality from them then it becomes unhealthy.
people be casting spells on themselves and don't even know they are doing it
Sometimes they will try to Group you into their Views, and I quickly say it out loud or in my mind that's not me...
this has been a strong mindf**k for me since I was able to see it in myself
Now this vid really serves me. I've always felt I got to get so many hours sleep or wake at 4.30, get this routine started. It was a constant battle and felt robotic.
Now that little splinter wedged in my mind is now gone. Great vid.
This reminds me of being out of work during the RONA times. All my friends were playing video games or drinking or whatever. I did that for a few weeks and thought, this is an AWFUL waste of all of this free time. So i just started working on anything, everything that interested me. Reading books I thought I never had the time to read, videos, writing a book (kinda), studying markets, crypto, charts, hell I started my first business during that time off. Having that freedom of mind was EYEOPENING. I need to get back to that state of mind. Stop holding myself back bc I think I NEED to be in bed by 11pm. Thanks bud, great video my man!!!
Dude, this is straight fire. Thank you. I've been trying to build a routine and it's been fucking me up because I have a very variable schedule making it hard to stick to a daily routine. Thank you. This will make a valuable addition to my mindset.
I was thinking about how I don't stick to the routines I set myself, and that there must be a different approach to the idea of routines, and Alex man, you just speak the clarity that is behind the blurriness in my thoughts. One of the best videos I have ever seen! EVER.
I know the vid is 2 years old but this is something I needed. Love this vid!!!
I didn’t know what to expect clicking on this video, but I knew it would it provide me value. After watching it, I honestly feel like I just got a straight talk to my soul. Currently going for a walk listening to this video again, analyzing all of the things I tell myself, and diagnosing them as my ‘self-imposed limiting beliefs’ that I will actively begin working out of my mind starting today. Thank you again, Alex!
Spot on! In my humble opinion - I do think a lot of people need to establish high levels of organization, healthy rituals, and habits ESPECIALLY if they have zero to begin with. After you master that part of you… The next level would be to eliminate your vices, contend with varying conflicts, and being high in adaptability for sure. Finally, making the two dance; structure and challenge.
And fully agree on all the limiting beliefs and “forever” or “that’s just how I am” verbiage people tell themselves. Gross lol
How would you master that part of you? Say I take a walk every morning and without it I feel depressed. I’m not sure what I would do to master that
@@tarabendre1825 You do it one step at a time. If you feel depressed without a walk along a particular route, first you change up the route, then change up and do your walk in the afternoon, then maybe try a bike ride instead, etc. I don't think it's possible to completely eliminate all rituals but it's important to change them up frequently so they don't become completely necessary. Also I think you're demonstrating Alex's "I am" statement by saying you're depressed without taking a walk.
@@Sashinator0 I think also there's brain chemistry that's a certain way in the morning. It affects your mood directly.. You can maybe replace a morning walk with some kind of a meditation, but you can't just will your state into something else or 'train' your brain out of functioning a certain way after sleep and at a specific time of day. Our brain has a natural rythm that shouldn't be messed with, but rather worked with.
The passion and reality behind this video is intense. RUclips needs far more of this.
If you are a new RUclipsr like me, remember that it's not going to be easy for a start, but keep posting that content, it must not be perfect, tiny changes remarkable results later in the future.
Really needed to hear this today. Love the perspective. Our languaging is so important.
One of the most powerful things he said was literally in the last 2 seconds. “You are source, not reaction.” 🔥🔥🔥
This is absolutely amazing! My ex always would whine and complain that his routine got knocked off and then use that for why he’s not accomplishing his goals. Such a baby. I’m so glad someone finally says it
maybe your toxic behaviour is why he’s your ex 🤷♂️
@@Dextalabs hahaha...if you knew him and if you knew me you would be really embarrassed right now. LMAO!!!!!
@@lbeschrich Sounds like homeboy was a whole mess lol
@@TheSoulCrisis you have no idea! 16 years of complete craziness 🤣🤣
@@lbeschrich Poor gal........you had the patience of a goddess jeez that's some time put in! lol
Well......wishing you much love and success for your next steps!
"You are SOURCE, not REACTION." great title for a book! You are in the flow brotha. I am on the successful path.
Even though I'm autistic (yes, that identity serves me), I push back against routine because I grew up in such a traumatic environment and routines felt unsafe.
When I finally escaped at 17, having a routine would have decidedly meant capture (and death) because routine = predictability = being found.
15 years later, I'm not trying to outrun the men + my mom who sold me, but I still equate "routine" with complacency and dependence, and I still see those as threats.
But this conversation is very nuanced because sometimes we do need things, and that's ok.
Tell a diabetic that they shouldn't take insulin every day or tell someone who's needs glasses that it's ok to drive without them. It's not going to end well.
And while I'm sure he's not directly saying these things, the coaching industry (in particular the spiritual coaching industry) has a way of taking practical info like this and turning it around on people to blame them (ahem gaslight them) for what they experience.
The danger, I believe, is that we shouldn't do something for its own sake and adhere so strictly to something (usually an impossible standard) to where we lose the purpose of WHY we're doing it --- or lose the ability to be flexible when we don't have those things.
PS The caffeine hits harder when you take a break anyway. 😌
^^ This comment here. Adding thjs so more people will see it.
@@imagurd+1
100% well said.
never try modafinil, caffeine is not okay but its good you arent doing modafinil for success!
Wow, thank you for this comment. Should be up top 🙏
This is so true! I always tell people that say 'I can't do this', to change their language to 'I am bad at this'.
Because the first type of 'I can't' assumes that you can't do it and never will. The second type of 'I am bad at' assumes that you acknowledge your limitation, but know that you can improve it and get better. World of difference.
Agree about the "I am" statements. Reminds me of Brene Brown's work on shame and the crippling nature of statements towards the "self". However in regards to routines, I think there are people who have personalities that can just get it done regardless of the environment, but others recognise that they can optimise their efficiency through good habits, making it naturally easier for them to operate in the way that they feel serves them best.
I find that meditation makes me more resilient…do I HAVE to do it everyday? No but I feel more centered and grounded when I do. I usually fully agree with you ❤️🙏
I think his right..you should cycle your routine
The danger with that line of thinking is lets say you found the perfect meditation technique that works very well for you. You don't have to do it every day but by it working perfectly for you so it's something that you do every day, inevitably there will come a time where it's unavailable and you miss a day which will make you more irritable that day than a more flexible routine of intermittent/varried meditation.
@@Sashinator0 The thing with meditating though is eventually that state lasts throughout the day and even in work or annoying external circumstances you can remain present and peaceful and be meditative and so its not something you have to do everyday in the morning, it's always with you , and can be accessed at any time if you're more experienced, its like a match that gets the fire going then you dont need the match anymore.
So it's not a crutch it's your true nature as consciousness or presence is what you realize . That fire was already within you but clouded by constant thoughts. Thoughts come and go but what has always been consistent in your life? Your awareness, even if its sometimes clouded by thoughts and feels like it's in the background it's still there .
@@Sashinator0 "lets say you found the perfect meditation technique that works very well for you" It seems stupid to not do things that work very well for you. Meditation is different to something like drinking coffee. If anything, if you meditate semi-regularly, you're more resilient on the days you don't meditate than if you never meditated at all.
@@OtimObita and what if you meditate and your day still goes bad?
This is spot on.
I was an internationally competitive track athlete and I never had 'superstitions' because of this same reason. Some of my competitors would be a mental mess if they lost their socks or chain broke or whatever.
Some people have ADHD tho
@@lanrebloom7030 What has ADHD to superstitions? Autism yes, abd plenty of ADHD people are on the spectrum, but there is nothing I can think of in ADHD symptoms specifically that would fit it.
Absolutely love the directness! Straightforward, 0 fluff attitude! Love it!
I love this! A solid reminder of what I know to be true as well. I used to beat myself up over never being able to stick to "a routine" and a few year ago, I came to the conclusion that I need to do what makes me happy and what I feel when it strikes me. It didn't make sense to me to do the same exact thing every day "for happiness" when we have seasons for a reason. Things are constantly changing and in flux and so to try to stick to a solid routine actually goes against nature and our nature, but a lot of us try so hard to convince ourselves otherwise.
Wow. Mind blown.
A lot of folks (myself included) also use routines as a form of procrastination without realizing it. Or even necessary but less urgent tasks, to-do lists, etc. I only recently learned that's a thing. Self-deception can be quite sneaky sometimes.
I'm new to the channel but am loving the content so far. Thanks for sharing, Alex!
Insanely powerful, wasn't expecting to find this level of quality content on youtube. FOR FREE
I just came on to RUclips to find this one morning routine that seemed like one I could adapt aaaaaand then this was at the top of my feed.
Saved me again my friend. Ya saved me again.
"You are Source, not reaction."
Outstanding content, and that last line hit like a brick. We are mind, connected and a part of the Mind that preceded all matter. Mind is Source.
This is like that tennis player who had a facial tell for where he was going to serve and another tennis player who figured it out without giving it away.
This was powerful! Needed to hear this. "You are source, NOT reaction." ❤🔥
Alex! Thank you, from the bottom of my heart! The last 2-3 years I have been diving into entrepreneurship and self help (law of attraction, law of assumption etc) and these were all things that I had heard before but never in a way that was directly incling that habits that are thought to be good should be left out if ones well being becomes dependent on them. I see you as the awesome cousin who is rough but only has your growth as a person and an entrepreneur in mind
Real talk and it got me thinking about my own routine in the morning. I think you are spot on about becoming dependent on them to the point you "need" to do them just to feel normal. Time to break with the routine and change things up.
What a brilliant talk. I am / I should. Very destructive thought processes. Eliminate these + try to excel in chaos (no routine). A powerful person will result.
The most inspireing video I have ever seen, acturely. It really describe a pattern I kinda know, but didn't have words for. Wauw!
Interesting new perspectives here. Remembering that you are not your thoughts, but you are the thing that watches your thoughts is quite revealing.
I wonder what those fitness influencers have to say about this… this is so powerful, I myself also believe that it is what I usually eat and drink in the morning that make me productive throughout the day. But sometimes switching up your routines does have a surprising effect.
There isn't much to disagree with or be upset about. You said from the beginning that you were talking to entrepreneurs. That is what you are and that is the path that led you to feel success and you are sharing with us your journey. I appreciate the insight.
You know what Alex, I never thought or knew how productive I would be, when I was stuck in Miami FL airport for a few days, waiting for my new job assignment, it wasn't about here I was, can I still get the job done, stay in gratitude and keep it moving! You don't know what you are made of, until your are against the wall, you will come out swinging or set there! I wouldn't change a thing, thanks for being the best, stay blessed and keep shining! Let's go! 💪💪💪💪💪💪💪
I am grateful you made this video, I know you sell a product but I don't feel hustled here, thanks for spending your time having these difficult conversations with us, we need it.
Very powerful.
I still have a morning routine of breathing exercise. But mentally noting knowing that if I can't do them on any day shouldn't be a cause for my day to ruin is true.
It's like choosing to adapt either way.
To all the dreamers out there, don't ever let the world's negativity disenchant you or your spirit. If you surround yourself with love and right people, ANYTHING is possible...
Beautiful
"if you surround yourself will yes-men, it will be better"
Sounds like copy pasta from some bullshit corporate LinkedIn post 😅
@@DjKryx na bro. sycophantic people will help you towards your own destruction
Create cognitive dissonance with the man you want to become. If you say it, even when it's not true, it eventually will become so
Can you elaborate on this further?
@Kyle K I am Dwayne Johnson
Fancy seeing you here! Love this perspective
@@zenanstarnes I am Dwayne Johnson
I totally understand what your saying, but I don't think that is what cognitive dissonance means. "Cognitive Dissonance Simplified
For example, you love the environment, but you still use plastic garbage bags. That feeling of mental discomfort about using plastic bags is an example of cognitive dissonance. This is because your beliefs are clashing with your actions or behavior."
So powerful and true. Thank you brother. I stopped going to AA everyday, but I'm still sober. I thought I needed those meetings, it's what they preach. I've never been superstitious, until I started listening to others.
I am a chameleon, and I am a shapeshifter that can adapt to any environment and circumstance.
Love it! Control can be hidden within routine, and when you lose that control you feel lost.
I agree that having a routine for a set time is perfect, then change it.
I love this damn channel 🙌🏽🔥
There is an advantage in having a routine: it reduces the effort in doing any remembering to do a lot of stuff. They also makes you feel that you are in charge in your life.
it's about keeping time in frames not remembering
having a piece of paper you don't need to remember
but not looking at paper and time it's the same as not remembering
our brains loves to automate
but stops thinking about it
it can good but it can be bad too
habit makes repeating it easier every time but also less conscious every time
This is solved by having an agenda. You don't need a routine to get things done nor does it help you get things done better.
@@livelovely4681 What if my agenda involves waking up every morning at 06:00 and taking vitamins?
Absolutely! The key is that certain routines can be incredibly beneficial. You just need to be creative enough to develop habits that aren't too uncomfortable. For instance, walking 6,000 steps a day and doing 50 push-ups is a great way to kickstart your health journey. If you can successfully integrate these activities into your daily routine, you'll gradually see improvements in your health.
I have been trying to be freed from my c-ptsd mind, and you gave me the tools. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
this is the first genuinely new concept I have heard on youtube in awhile. I really needed to hear it.
When I lack sleep it's harder for me to focus and stay clear-headed. That's a fact about the universe and because I've noticed it time and time again I've created a sleep routine that I do my best to adhere to. Sure maybe part of it is me telling myself a story that I'm tired, but part of it is also inescapable physiological reality. Over time I think it's important for a person to learn from their experiences and zero in on the habits and routines that make them more effective.
Amazing video, very accurate. I found myself thinking about how I think as a MIND FILTER. Meaning before I do something I prime my mind with thoughts and ideas that will benefit the outcomes I am looking for. Once my mind is primed for what I want then I end up taking steps and making decisions in alignment with that. It's crazy how it truly sets up instant feedback like that. Mental strength is the most important now.
I understand what you’re saying and you have a valid point, but structure is very important to set the tone. Otherwise, you’ll have a very chaotic life and randomness. There are particular activities or routines that may or may not be a crutch for one, but it’s up to that individual to determine if it is a crutch or a benefit. I think no two activities or routines are alike in terms of wellbeing and benefit. It’s entirely up to one to determine that. I enjoyed this video. Thank you!
Well said.
This is deep. Routines are supposed to give us energy and improve our well being. But over time you do become dependent on the routine; adapt and change things up
Some help? I love doing my morning routine it makes me really fresh and even more productive. I hate when I miss one. I think that I should get up every day and do my routine after that - no matter if it is productive or not - so I can be better in everything through my the day. Honestly I feel more energetic and productive after my morning routine. Should I stress out if I miss two or three morning routines through the week. I miss them usually because of my girlfriend who wants to me stay up late at night with her. In fact that breaks my other routine which is going to bed at least at 23:00. So I often get angry on my girlfriend because she breaks these two routines that I want to keep up doing. The routines make me feel better though. So I don’t know what should I do. Should I tell her to go to bed with me earlier or I just accept the things and if happens happens and continue doing my day with the thoughts that I can be productive even without my two routines.
Alex, I've only just found you man and I can not thank you enough for your time and words here!! The power, "I fuckin hate saying this shit but just as examples" man the power in this is so big!! So true!!! Thank you!!!
Beautifully said, this is the first time that I have began to love listening to videos where I learn from them and aren't simply entertained. I took three quotes away from this, and I'd love to share this one with you that I will take with me. "In order to grow, your identity must be whatever is required to grow." Thank you Alex.
Totally agree with you in theory, and in practice, but I feel it bears mentioning that chosen identity is not the only cause of character weaknesses. For example, it is possible to be more prone to anxiety due to something outside your control, like your nervous system becoming acclimated to a toxic home environment when you were a baby and then more prone to enter fight-or-flight at things that don't necessitate it. It's always a bad idea to say "I'm an anxious person", because then you compound the problem, but sometimes you need to acknowledge that something more than toughening up needs to be done to address an underlying problem.
We also don't live in the same circumstances as hunter-gatherers.... people use orange glasses to simulate that environment, not because they're weaker. (I don't use them, just saying)
I think it’s a balance of doing things hat help you become better, but not getting attached to them if you’re not able to do it.
Realize that you are the source of your success not your morning journaling etc.
Thank you so much for saying this
I am the type of person who lives off routines and I have been the type of person to say without my meditation in the morning I’m a different person. Until now I couldn’t see how much of a crutch it was for me. I’m definitely having mindset shift right now. Ready to explore this concept.
*You “tend” to live off routines
The thing with meditating though is eventually that state lasts throughout the day and even in work or annoying external circumstances you can remain present and peaceful and be meditative and so its not something you have to do everyday in the morning, it's always with you , and can be accessed at any time if you're more experienced, its like a match that gets the fire going then you dont need the match anymore.
So it's not a crutch it's your true nature as consciousness or presence is what you realize . That fire was already within you but clouded by constant thoughts. Thoughts come and go but what has always been consistent in your life? Your awareness , even if its sometimes clouded by thoughts and feels like it's in the background its still there.
@@MrClockw3rk nice catch
@@Kevin-sg3tb damn, so well explained, i appreciate this!
Dude, the clinging to routine stuff... have been through that and it messed me up quite a bit. That's a sub for sure.
I spend a ton of time trying to get down the perfect routine. Now I realize that when my morning is not perfect I give my self an excuse to not be productive. Thanks for the video so Helpful.
I have spent some time thinking about this video and the importance of having a routine. Personally, I believe we need routines as a way to avoid chaos in our lives. Just like following a recipe to make your favorite dish, once you have mastered that recipe you are free to change it in whatever way you want. So it is with routines, master a routine and then build upon it. Correct me if I’m wrong, even Alex Hormozi has routines that work for him, but he doesn’t let the routines limit him from doing or being more.
Well said.
100% agree, thanks for sharing your insights. I believe we need routines in our life because from my own experience, I used to create plans over plans and when things became more difficult, instead of sticking to the routine, I preferred to change it. As you mentioned Michael, routines are good to a point, because they can also restrict and limit us. Now it's up to us to define that limit, and I also believe that limit should be different based on different other factors, such as situation, urgency, impact to name some.
Well said. This guy needs to take a chill
The key is to have routines that are the path to least resistance especially in carrying out your most important task afterward.
If you have some long ass routine where you gotta get an hour jog in the sun before you focus on your most important task, it becomes a crutch. You were far better off just brushing your teeth and doing your most important task
In essence he’s just saying to focus on your 20% (Pareto principle). Any routine needs to be minimal and have the least resistance to this 20% task/s.
@@jorgesanabria6484 this makes sense to me. Thank you for helping me see it from another perspective.
For most people, keeping routines is the real issue. So be careful when taking advice.
Embrace randomness breaking your routines if you can't escape.
First thing to consider is always whether you can bypass things that break things you commit to build routines/habits.
Otherwise everything could break your routines/habits.
So be good at identifying the random musts from random things.
So happy to hear this. I've always felt this way. Do away with the extra crap you don't really need. Thanks again for another video.
I believe that exercise, diet, and sobriety are key components for me to live a happy and fulfilled life. These things serve me through giving me health, control, and clarity. They point me towards my goals, and they drive me towards the life I envision for myself.
You rapidly becoming my favorite mentor. Thank you for your insights!
I needed this 💯💯
Damn you're bossing up on more things than just redpill content 🤣. 💯💯
The crutches are supposed to force us to develop good character traits. You're describing people who use the crutch and do not develop the character traits or use the crutch to cover up the poor character. You're right on about making the routine to constantly switch up the routine. If I get a three week boost from a new thing and do more work. I get to keep the work after I stop the thing.
People who rely on the crutch as if it’s the end all be all
I think there are some holes in this mindset that are more cut throat then self benefiting. Self care isn't weakness when it involves goals. It creates a structural bound for set individual to work in to improve upon. And as for someone who may struggle with a mental illness, I don't think that should be swept under the carpet when it comes to certain relationships unless you are speaking on business only in which case you may want to take care of your mental health first before becoming an entrepreneur. Or you can become part of the problem and be another psychotic CEO
Awesome advice. I think we are all guilty of saying “I am” or “I need” statements. Thank you sir. You have earned my subscription.
Wow, this really smacked me up in the face. I make the same, "I'm an all or nothing tupe of person" position statement,or as you better put it, "crutch and superstition" statements. Stopping saying it now. And, I will pay more attention to what I speak over myself. Thanks for this video. Needed to hear this.
That was the one thing I took away from my time in the mental hospital. Quit saying "i am bipolar" and instead say, "i struggle with bipolar". Ever since then, despite the struggles, I push hard for that. Now I want to build an epic dream and I know I can not just stay safe, I have to push. I am acknowledging my weakness, learning what can be changed, accepting what can not and finding way to bridge that gap. One of the best ways is listening to people like you and being around people like you. I am passionate. I am ready to tale the next step. I have no idea what that next step is. XD I think it is to findnmy mentor. Anyone got ties to Lucas or Henson? XD Roddenberry?
This is true to an extent. It really depends on the purpose of your routine (and that boils down to habits). If the so called crutch is treating a psychological or physical condition that is preventing you from reaching your full potential, then do you. If there is no other means of treatment that has less side effects then…. As someone who’s used cannabis in the past for mental health issues, I have seen the benefits first hand. It allowed me to be at a place now where I no longer need a crutch.
So if you take away the cannabis you still are dependent on it.. still a crutch
@@louisebegay5912 anything can be a crutch
Some routines are powerful my friends. Good habits make a great man. Everything in moderation though. Personally this routine I have is building me everyday. I hate to wake up like if it’s an accident it’s good to plan your day in advance
Love the way such informal style if expressing . You speak your mind right of the cuff in most authentic way . That's your quality
I thought you were going to say that morning routines are not necessary and a waste of time, which I was already onboard with because they generally have nothing to do with why (insert person) is successful. But you said something even more important, which is a concept that I’ve already started to utilize. I would encourage those who are nowhere NEAR success to try this method of reversing their loser statements about themselves and replace them with merely competent statements. Like “ I am (doing the thing that is difficult for me) every day”; “I prepare before every exam”, “I study every day”, “I walk in nature every day”, etc. Make as many as you want! State them in present tense. It’s not a waste of time! Good luck newbies.