STORY TIME: I got Married at 18 in Somalia

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  • Опубликовано: 8 фев 2025

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  • @anisa5052
    @anisa5052 Месяц назад +72

    Somalia has changed a lot!! The first time I went was 2017 and saw so much corruption but 2024 I saw sooo many changes Alhamdullilah…my mom used to always say Somalia will get better, Somalia will get better. Never believed it until I went back in 2024

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад +11

      Wow I can’t wait to go back! ❤

    • @saabirmohamedjeylaani9084
      @saabirmohamedjeylaani9084 Месяц назад +2

      Yeah, sister that's wright. People have to look where we come from. There's a big difference so we have to thank to Allah who gave us that Alxamdullilah.

    • @naomixx177
      @naomixx177 22 дня назад +1

      No it didn’t. I live here. Stop lying.

    • @KenyaModo
      @KenyaModo 22 дня назад +2

      They might build new buildings but the people remain the same.

    • @jamivibes4395
      @jamivibes4395 10 дней назад

      Alhamdulillah ❤️

  • @zenmama2107
    @zenmama2107 Месяц назад +36

    We have so much in common I am 31 and got married in Sénégal at 19 with a lot of trauma as well. Make Allah SWT protect and heal you 🙏🏾 Amine

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад +4

      @@zenmama2107 Senegal! Welcome sister! Alhamdulillah it’s good that you found my channel xabiibti. We need a space where we can get information and learn as divorcees single mothers and young women who need guidance ❤️

  • @ademzh
    @ademzh Месяц назад +25

    Thanks for sharing sis! There are many who have similar stories. May Allah protect you and your family.

  • @sahragouled737
    @sahragouled737 Месяц назад +13

    You are a brave woman to share your story, and I hope it will help those who are going through the same difficulties that went through.

  • @natoub9544
    @natoub9544 Месяц назад +20

    Mental health is very important and you’re very strong.

  • @YoungMedicine1
    @YoungMedicine1 22 дня назад +5

    As a young somali men I’ve heard stories like this not only from Somalis women but also from Arabs. There are men out there whose behavior drives women to avoid Somali men-or men in general-altogether. I’ve heard similar concerns from my own sisters, and it seems the biggest issue is honesty. Somali men, especially when it comes to dating, often lie in ways I can’t even imagine. As someone from the diaspora, I’m genuinely amazed by the level of deception some use in relationships.
    Another common problem is that many of these men aren’t prepared for a serious relationship, yet they pretend to be. Personally, I couldn’t maintain that kind of pretense. Ultimately, the way some of them treat women reflects their own self-esteem. The lower their self-esteem, the worse they treat those they perceive as beneath them. As someone once said, you can judge a person by how they treat the most vulnerable. These traits-dishonesty, lack of preparedness, and poor treatment-are common, but if you pay attention, you can often see through the sweet talk and spot the "black sheep."
    Despite all this, I truly admire Somali women. They are incredibly resilient. Many of us were raised by strong single mothers. For instance, my mom did an amazing job raising me and my 13 siblings. I’m the youngest and now close to finishing medical school, thanks to her dedication. I hope to find a woman just as determined and beautiful to be my wife someday. More power to my Somali sisters. ❤

    • @Ysf4000
      @Ysf4000 13 дней назад

      Have u not seen Somali women nowadays they say that but then chase men worse than Somali men especially madows and they do worse things 😂😂

  • @jamiefooddreamer6381
    @jamiefooddreamer6381 Месяц назад +13

    You live and you learn sis. People marrying in their 30s have experienced this. Allways know your self worth and allways strive to be better. If you partner dont align with your values, its better to let them go. God bless you and yout family

  • @hamdagarbo5839
    @hamdagarbo5839 Месяц назад +24

    Masha Allah you are strong mother ❤
    To girls out there never marry if you see a man who pushes to marry quickly. If Someone wanting get married quickly is a big red flag 🚩 take your time and do your own research on them.

  • @momshavethistosaymedia
    @momshavethistosaymedia Месяц назад +5

    Your story is inspiring. Proud of you for making the decision to choose you and your children no matter the cost. Bravo! cheers to an amazing future.....

  • @kafiya_may
    @kafiya_may Месяц назад +17

    Unfortunately, this is very common in our community. I'm glad you survived it. Many young Somali women will appreciate you sharing your story!

  • @shabzix5659
    @shabzix5659 Месяц назад +7

    I can some how relate to the story as I had decided to get married to someone abroad.I immediately regreted it.The stress of getting their papers,the fact that they became dependent on me and did mot want to work took a toll on me.I was able to get the papers and stayed with him for 9 years .I should have ended it sooner.I lost my youth through my stupidity and my chance to a happy life.
    The only thing left is my son that I live for but I guess when he is grown,I will be left on my own.

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад +2

      Abaayo, you may have lost so much time, but you gained experience and wisdom. So happy you left 💗

  • @hibahersi622
    @hibahersi622 Месяц назад +4

    Such incredible young lady. Proud of you sis 👏🏾🙌🏾🤩 and believe me Allah allowed divorce for a reason. Happy mother produce happy kids, you are a role model for your daughters and the young survivors out there 🙏🏾👏🏾👍🏾🤴🏾😍

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад +2

      Abaayo it’s so true. We need to put our safety and happiness first and show our children the importance of autonomy and self love and sometimes that looks like leaving a marriage 😊

  • @Pearrlsdimondz
    @Pearrlsdimondz Месяц назад +27

    Sis your story sounds almost identical to mine. From getting married at 18 to the silent treatment to the pressure to bring him over to the country.
    This is the first time ever that I feel like I related to someone. Alhamdulillah I was able to get out of that

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад +7

      @@Pearrlsdimondz alhamdulillah sis! I’m so proud of you. I would like to hear more about your story. Follow me on TikTok and message me xabiibti. I started this channel for someone like you. ❤️

  • @safiyatahlil2758
    @safiyatahlil2758 Месяц назад +4

    AMAZING STORY! Please more stories. Your sooo goood. Cant stop listening ❤❤❤

  • @ashmonbebe4life299
    @ashmonbebe4life299 Месяц назад +4

    Mashallah sis I'm so proud of you. You're so beautiful and strong. May Allah bless you and your daughters 😭💚

  • @yasminsaid1207
    @yasminsaid1207 26 дней назад +3

    Thank you very much Abaayo Macaan sharing your story ❤️

  • @farahegeh7475
    @farahegeh7475 Месяц назад +12

    Masha Allah sister, you are very smart and beautiful, keep going.
    Many Somali women's mental health and the mental health of their children gets destroyed because they stay in abusive marriages as they desperately try to avoid the Single Mother Label.
    I would love to remind my Somali sisters that a marriage supposed to be beneficial to all, spouses and children so if it's harmful to anyone involved, please don't overthink, just get out while you are able.

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад +2

      @@farahegeh7475 wallahi you said so much in short words. Thank you sis and you’re so right. I agree with you xabiibti ❤️

    • @Ysf4000
      @Ysf4000 25 дней назад

      That’s lie tho we divorce a lot lol

  • @ifrahfarah228
    @ifrahfarah228 Месяц назад +2

    Masha’allah, I am so happy to hear that you had the courage to leave all that toxicity for both for you and your children. They’re lucky to have a strong mama . Wishing you all the best sis with university and balancing mom life. Allah knows it’s not easy. May Allah bless you all. Sending you so many prayers your way sis. Amin🙏🏽🙏🏽💕💕

  • @shukrimohamed8004
    @shukrimohamed8004 Месяц назад +5

    My beautiful sister. I am very proud of you so much. Keep going and don't let anyone or farah lugu istakiin dim your light.

  • @Mindbodysoul2021
    @Mindbodysoul2021 26 дней назад +2

    We have a lot in common🥺Mashallah sis your smashing it, keep them coming. Loved the video ❤

  • @magoolomar1424
    @magoolomar1424 6 дней назад +1

    Masha allah, you're a brave girl

  • @zahrasiman5369
    @zahrasiman5369 Месяц назад +7

    Habo, you're a young lady who is strong & intelligent ❤❤❤

  • @Palestinesos
    @Palestinesos Месяц назад +6

    Keep going beautiful. Allah has a better life planned for you, insh'allah ❤❤❤

  • @c.sar6242
    @c.sar6242 Месяц назад +6

    Just stumbled across this and I admire your strength and courage, may Allah bless you and your children❤ also to hear you managed to learn swedish and somali around the same age i am now was inspiring lol i thought it would be quite difficult to learn my language

  • @Teleutibes10kko
    @Teleutibes10kko Месяц назад +3

    So lovely and genuine girl, is such a pleasure listening to your story. You should be proud of yourself Masha Allah 💝💝

  • @KhadraAdan-x9b
    @KhadraAdan-x9b 22 дня назад +1

    You are a wonderful person and I hope you get a good life and enjoy your daughter

  • @Raumatijd
    @Raumatijd Месяц назад +7

    Extremely courageous ❤

  • @StoriesForKids-v8f
    @StoriesForKids-v8f Месяц назад +7

    MashaAllah abaayo, may Allah make it easy for. I am around same age as you, also with 3kids.
    And as a married woman, I know that marriage is hard but in some cases not something one can bear or deal with. So more power to you and your journey 🌸

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад +1

      @@StoriesForKids-v8f ❤️❤️❤️

    • @catloverfurever00
      @catloverfurever00 17 дней назад +1

      @@Diaryofasinglemother-s7dmassive respect to you for not allowing anyone pressure you into a marriage again. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad for having the strength to walk away when the marriage didn’t serve you any good purpose. They don’t have the right to judge you or make assumptions about your life

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  17 дней назад +1

      @ ❤️❤️❤️

    • @catloverfurever00
      @catloverfurever00 14 дней назад +1

      @@Diaryofasinglemother-s7d it took more strength to leave and stay alone with your daughters than to rush into another situation again so give yourself the grace and praise that you deserve. Looking forward to watching more from you in the future ❤️

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  14 дней назад +1

      @ thank you my love.

  • @kassimismailvlogsetc425
    @kassimismailvlogsetc425 28 дней назад +3

    ASC? To all sisters… 18 and 19 years of age are adults, we have to understand it. I don’t understand why people call it a traumatic event in that age. You can say “NO”. And No body can force you.

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  28 дней назад +5

      @@kassimismailvlogsetc425 you can still be traumatised through relationships even if you’re an adult.
      If you don’t understand ‘why’ adults can still call it a traumatic event: do some research on the psychological and mental physiological impact of abuse. Do some research in sha Allah and then you’re welcome to go and make your own platform to educate us on why we are wrong.
      The importance I’m highlighting is for others to be aware of it and know when to step out. If this is not the type of content you can resonate with, then it’s not for you at all.

    • @dfsx7934
      @dfsx7934 23 дня назад +3

      i strongly agree with you! I'm 20, and I remember witnessing my older cousins goingthrough similar situations to this kinda thing from as young as 6 and i still knew how wrong it was. I guess some people are just more naive or blinded by certain things than others but idk I can’t fully understand why. My mom went through a similar situation and i don’t get how she didn’t see the red flags from the start. I’ve had numerous arguments with her about it, especially when I think about how she went through the same painful cycle. My dad, for example, was lazy, had mental health issues, was abusive, and had a family that despised her.. yet she still chose to marry him… Surely you should’ve seen something… Then, after that marriage fell apart, she remarried twice more, both times to men who offered nothing and had no real prospects. One of them already has a whole ass family and 2 other wives. I just can’t wrap my head around why she kept marrying into families that were already struggling. It’s not that I don't respect her but i’ll never understand those life choices especially since it seemed like she kept putting herself in situations where she suffered. She always says it was "written by Allah," but I don’t see it that way. At the end of the day, those were her own decisions, and I struggle to reconcile that with her belief that it was all predestined. I also can’t help but feel resentment toward my dad in particular, not only for the way he treated her but also because I feel like his whole existence is a reminder of everything that went wrong in her life. I know it's harsh, but it's the truth!! I’m now a certified Man hater because of all this tbh

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  23 дня назад +2

      @ hey sis or habo whichever one. I’m so sorry you have been through this and absolutely every choice she made, she has to be accountable for and same with me. Saying “it was written” as a way to mask our faulty decisions is the wrong way to go only to make the same mistakes again.
      The reasons why I decided to not marry again going on 8 years now after my first marriage was because I don’t want my children to suffer through the same thing you went through. Thank you for sharing.
      I share my downfalls and bad choices so that people can watch and we can bring it to light. I absolutely understand why I did what I did at such a young age but I never had any guidance.

  • @FirdousDreamer
    @FirdousDreamer Месяц назад +7

    Somali’s have the most single moms and it’s not good usually it happens because they think the grass is greener on the other side but not really. Your problem was being married while being in separate countries and usually long distance relationships never work. You were basically a single mom while living separately.

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад +6

      @@FirdousDreamer absolutely correct in the fact that I was a single mum while I
      Was still with him. The part about greener grass on the other side, I’m on the other side. I have 3 beautiful healthy daughter who are academically achieving and we have our Lord.

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад

      @@FirdousDreamer it’s definitely a prominent issue in our community.

    • @Golden-ls1sb
      @Golden-ls1sb Месяц назад +5

      Not single mom most of the men are in multiple marriages even in the western because they marry in mosques. And the men some will neglect the feelings of their wives disapproval of Co -Wives.
      The men move on in less than months and wife someone else’s like they first wife meant nothing.
      I knew one who beat hell out of his wife and blew out her tooth. She narrated how he used her to pay his loans and she is in depts while he marry another. It’s many bad stories I heard. Another just dump his wife who bought him from somalia and marry another Somalia he saw stating she look better

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад +1

      @@Golden-ls1sb wow thank you for sharing these accounts. Unfortunately many men will look at my content and immediately think something negative or to attack. However, this issue regarding divorce, although it’s high, there’s stories like the ones you said now and I don’t believe any women should have to stay in a marriage unhappy or abused. So let’s keep sharing! 💪

    • @Ghs--173
      @Ghs--173 21 день назад +2

      The grass almost always greener when you are with a somali guy

  • @monamagan9046
    @monamagan9046 Месяц назад +2

    Walalu, I am very proud of you. You should keep your achievements to yourself. Our community may talk behind your back. Social media is evil. but good luck with whatever you do. The market for finding a good man is tough ❤❤❤❤

  • @Withkawsar24
    @Withkawsar24 Месяц назад +13

    Alhamdulillah you have such a positive mentality and you have 2 beautiful girls may Allah protect you all.
    This was all destined by Allah (swt), that no good will come your way without the permission of Allah and no evil will come your way without the permission of Allah.

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад +2

      @@Withkawsar24 sis jazzakhallahu qeyran for this. You’re absolutely right, if it wasn’t for my faith, I don’t know what I would do. ❤️

  • @naimaabdalle5129
    @naimaabdalle5129 Месяц назад +2

    Hi sis
    You look amazing 😍
    I hope you well.
    I am soo proud of you.
    Keep going GIRL 🙌🙌🙌

  • @fartunhassan9857
    @fartunhassan9857 22 дня назад +1

    Abayo masha allah your such, strong young lady allahuma baarik❤

  • @anisahussein2056
    @anisahussein2056 20 дней назад +1

    We ❤ U girl 🇸🇴🙏🏽

  • @maugad5201
    @maugad5201 Месяц назад +3

    Marian Sh Hussein
    A Somali Lady with very beautiful story telling, a very strong artistically Narrated .
    As film maker I would Mss.Marian call her our next documentary maker. Thank you for been able simple diary to deliver fabulously.
    I am a male .and you owned my ears to listen from now on all your future story telling. Keep the faith and never give up
    I see in you higher prospect in play film documentary. .

  • @NB-uh5fy
    @NB-uh5fy Месяц назад +1

    Thank you so much for sharing your story ❤

  • @jasminej6281
    @jasminej6281 Месяц назад +2

    Loved your story more please

  • @ss41697
    @ss41697 Месяц назад +118

    I can’t imagine marrying a Somali man let alone one back home. I am glad you survived sis. ❤

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад +9

      @@ss41697 awe thank you lovely. Maskiin do you have any reasons why you would never marry a Somali. I’m interested. ❤️

    • @ss41697
      @ss41697 Месяц назад +72

      @@Diaryofasinglemother-s7d yes sis I am scared to marry them because of my experience from my own father and the women around me. They don’t seem to be good fathers and they are not good husbands either. I don’t see them as romantic, nurturing etc. I can’t blame them too much though because I think it might be the cultural influence and maybe how their moms raise them. Unfortunately at this point sis due to all the negativity I feel towards them I don’t even feel attraction when I see them even if they are good looking. Of course at the end of the day it is all up to Allah but I want to live a peaceful and long lasting marriage and I don’t feel like they offer that.

    • @mufasaleebah3156
      @mufasaleebah3156 Месяц назад

      I promise you...try ajenabi and you will be traumatised 10 times more. Dont generelise everyone bec of your past experience. If you think the other side is green you will be dissappointed. Ajenabi will never treat as his own .As years go on a d we age in a mix race marriage everyone tends to be drawn back to his identity and culture...so man will Definitly want have relationship with his own kind hence divorce.
      Remember that. 90-95% of mix race relationship fail. Thats is just the statistics.

    • @MoA.-pw3so
      @MoA.-pw3so Месяц назад +75

      As Somalia man, we aren't perfect but please don't generalize all the Men's,
      Sorry for the experience you had with your father, but Insha'Allah I wish you will find a good Somali men who will show you love,compassion and a good father to your future kids, stay blessed

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад +1

      @ ❤️

  • @Anisaabdi1111
    @Anisaabdi1111 Месяц назад +6

    Wow sis your strong keep going and Yh I went to bosaaso with my 2 older brothers and cousin we stayed there 10 years honestly but alhamdulilah my elders brother looked after us he was in his early twenties I was there from the age of 7 to 17. one of my successful mashallah 32 year old bro went to a horrible famous boarding school for a year in Bosaso omg the manager was horrible but anyways, I had arranged marriage at the age of 14 to one relative auntie’s son. My mum was just super strict religious and just wanted me to get married. Didn’t work out It was a couple of months and I was just young and confused and never understood what was happening, anyways I got back to the Uk and education then I got married at 18. I had my son was married 5 years got divorced and single mother 4 years my boy is now 8 years old but yeah I enjoyed life with my family in the UK all my siblings came back went back to education got good jobs and kids and they are happily married but if I could look back and change things would be if I had a choice I would not want to be there from a young age back home for a very long time and not to be forced I am against arrange marriage totally it shouldn’t be allowed even in back home because your just a kid not mentally mature to decide what your doing or consequences it could have on you. I am a mother that is 27 today I would not wanna leave my child’s side or leave him but I guess back in the days it was difficult my mum was a single mother obviously working providing for us, we had an amazing childhood overall and always got what we wanted in life and I’m grateful to her always and we all appreciate hooyo regardless but it was just probably the only way she knew doing things but the impact it had on my mental health I can’t lie growing up from the age of 22 I was really depressed It took me years of therapy healing depressed it affected my mental health and yeah, I’m glad I’m better today.
    It was amazing watching your story time I enjoyed it to fullest. I’m looking forward to watch your other videos thank you so much sis 💕👑🙌

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад

      Wow thank you for sharing your story it’s crazy you got married at 14 maskiin. Alhamdullillah I’m so happy you’re doing better sis may Allah bless you ❤

  • @xalimox3525
    @xalimox3525 Месяц назад +2

    Alhamdulilah I married out. Faraxs nowadays r a pain. If you want to sign up to life of poverty and unhappiness, marry them. The good ones r super rare

    • @Ysf4000
      @Ysf4000 25 дней назад

      Mashaa Allah I plan to as well in 2 years. Halimos are just buuq and screaming even when u do everything correct. Not to mention majority are dhilos. The good ones r super rare

  • @Rose.a4
    @Rose.a4 Месяц назад +1

    You are young smart girl you are so beautiful mashallah,may Allah heal you and thank you for sharing your story. ❤❤

  • @Loveabove-z4r
    @Loveabove-z4r Месяц назад +2

    All blessings to you sisters.

  • @Nomad332
    @Nomad332 Месяц назад +8

    First off, your are so beautiful allahuma barik. I am glad I watched this video, you are so inspirational. I just wonder though, did this experience put you off Somali men in general? Would it have been better if the man you married was a Somali who grew up in the west?

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад +4

      @@Nomad332 jazzakhallahu qeyran sis. I don’t think it put me off Somali men but I am extremely cautious hence why I have chosen to be single and it’s over 8 years now. I love my culture and I love Somali people. I went through phases where I was angry and healed, attended therapy and prayed. My view is much more broad as a result. What about you?

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад +7

      @@Nomad332 sax abaayo I get you. One thing I always love by is: focus on your life and build a life and career you enjoy, open yourself up to new things. When the time is right, the right person will join your life, and if it doesn’t work out, it’s not the end of the world xabiibti. Have some to inf for yourself to fall back on and build your life then you have more choices. ❤️

    • @saabirmohamedjeylaani9084
      @saabirmohamedjeylaani9084 Месяц назад

      ​@@Nomad332sister I hope you one day to marry a good somali man.

  • @magoolomar1424
    @magoolomar1424 6 дней назад +1

    So sorry, habo

  • @Caliya7
    @Caliya7 Месяц назад +3

    You are a beautiful girl, so May Allah (SWT) guide you in hijab and privacy and make you one who is always grateful to him

  • @tomatofeind2019
    @tomatofeind2019 Месяц назад +6

    I got married at 13 in yemen 😢

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад +1

      @@tomatofeind2019 subhanaAllah how did that happen? If you don’t mind, tell me more since you’re anonymous and your name is not on your profile. 💕

    • @tomatofeind2019
      @tomatofeind2019 Месяц назад +3

      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d sorry I'm not revealing my full name...why do you want my name? I was born there, its normal to marry young in the poor areas, I claimed asylum with my mum after. It's less common now though

    • @ummiebello4634
      @ummiebello4634 Месяц назад +4

      ​@tomatofeind2019 she wasn't asking for your name sister. Read what she said properly. She's asking fr your story if you're willing to share.

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад

      @ okay sis sorry if I offended you. Happy you’re good now.

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад

      @ spot on! 👌🏾

  • @Sophiamor-b7n
    @Sophiamor-b7n Месяц назад +12

    Girl you still look 18!!!!

  • @AbebeThomas-t3z
    @AbebeThomas-t3z 13 дней назад +1

    Hi Diaryofasinglemother, you're a beautiful Somalian single mother and I'm pray for you that Allah to give you an Ethiopian husband that who can meet your needs.

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  13 дней назад

      @@AbebeThomas-t3z thank you. And why Ethiopian? ✌🏾😄

    • @zebibaasani7131
      @zebibaasani7131 9 дней назад +1

      @@Diaryofasinglemother-s7d exactly that was my question too🤔

  • @free-thinker1046
    @free-thinker1046 Месяц назад +2

    I like your story very interesting ❤ no insult no anger.

  • @ThatgirlJawaheer
    @ThatgirlJawaheer 10 дней назад +1

  • @mizzhelloo
    @mizzhelloo Месяц назад +7

    Who is breathing behind the camera? I think you need to get a camera stand.

  • @ashaqaar7330
    @ashaqaar7330 Месяц назад +4

    Maansh ALLAAH habo I feel your pain I go tru something like that

  • @misshawa8345
    @misshawa8345 Месяц назад +4

    Love all your videos sis

  • @f2339
    @f2339 Месяц назад +3

    Wow this story is really interesting you never really hear the full stories of girls who go back home and get married willingly and what there experience is , could you do a video of what made you get married to him too ? Since you was so young and I’m assuming your Somali wasn’t perfect so how did it go about because I was in Somalia 10 years ago and I was a teenager and so many men would ask my family to marry me and I was so shocked and disgusted but it was all for the passport lol but I will also say Somalia has definitely changed and has become a lot more modern in great ways however smaller cities like bosaso and burco still have those really traditional olden mentality

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад

      Thank you sis, it’s true there aren’t many stories on women who have decided to get married in Somalia. These questions will be addressed in my next videos my love in sha Allah ❤

  • @Basra-said976
    @Basra-said976 17 дней назад +1

    2012 🤔 which ✈️ did you fly to

  • @Leadwithlove654
    @Leadwithlove654 Месяц назад +2

    Those planes are still hit you need an entire fan 😅

  • @justaminan
    @justaminan Месяц назад +3

    Love the story, please add some subtitles for the none English parts 😅

  • @somalialoves726
    @somalialoves726 Месяц назад +1

    Masha Allah Allahuma Barik so proud of you huno ❤ I have an amazing husband masha Allah but I would like to learn about the schema to raise my baby boy really healthy and happy ☺

  • @JUSTagirlwhoknowsathingortwo
    @JUSTagirlwhoknowsathingortwo Месяц назад +3

    Hey, sis!
    You are a very beautiful woman. You don't need all these men lusting on you. From sister to sister, please cover yourself because you are a gem.
    Not just from men but from women too. Evil eye is real, my dear.

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад +2

      Okay abaayo in sha Allah thank you so much for your kind advice ❤

    • @JUSTagirlwhoknowsathingortwo
      @JUSTagirlwhoknowsathingortwo Месяц назад +1

      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d Yes, I like your videos a lot! Ma Sha Allah, you have so much Imaan in your words and face. All you have to do is dress the part, my dear.

  • @beautifulworld8814
    @beautifulworld8814 Месяц назад +4

    I travelled to Somalia many times, i never saw people sitting on the floor in the plane.
    Were you in a plane or a small helicopter when you saw some people sitting on the floor?.

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад +1

      Abaayo it was Jubba Airways around 2011 I made a mistake by saying 2012 because my daughter was born late 2012 ❤. It was maddd

    • @nimomohamoud5552
      @nimomohamoud5552 Месяц назад

      Beautiful, I was thinking the same. Our people love to put sugar to the story.

  • @laadarlaadar6814
    @laadarlaadar6814 Месяц назад +1

    Believe it or not from somalia and you are Somali. It’s our culture to get marry young age so we don’t sin..

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад

      Yes. I know abaayo I understand it completely.

    • @saadiasheikh5744
      @saadiasheikh5744 25 дней назад +4

      But time has changed if you are going to have children you have to have income so education is very important.Marriage doesn’t solve the problems for women. Women need to have the income so they can be independent.

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  25 дней назад

      @ wallahi this is so important.

  • @falishahusseinable
    @falishahusseinable Месяц назад +1

    Hi girl!
    It's wonderful to see Somali sisters sharing their stories. I have a question because I've never been to Somalia, but my partner needs to go to Bosaso soon, inshallah, for about a year. I'm considering going with him, but we have young children, and I'm feeling anxious. I have a lot of thoughts, mainly about the healthcare system. What if we get sick? There are no GPs or NHS services with reliable doctors. I know I'm making assumptions, but I'm really worried.
    How easy was it for you to settle in? How hot is a HOT? Do you think it would be beneficial for us? Also, my Somali isn’t great, and I'm concerned about struggling with the dialect and accent.
    Thanks!

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад +1

      @@falishahusseinable hey sis. Firstly thank you so much for your kind words and support. Before I answer this question I want to ask:
      How long are you and your kids staying there for? Where is it? Boss’s was HOT HOT. In terms of healthcare, get them vaccinated before you go and speak to your GP about this. Discuss with your husband.
      Please answer my question more in depth and I can provide my advice of what I think. ❤️

    • @falishahusseinable
      @falishahusseinable Месяц назад

      @@Diaryofasinglemother-s7d Hey girl. So, I would be staying in Bosaso for 1 to 2 years. If I don’t like it then I could relocate to Xamar for the remaining time (that’s where my parents originate and by extension me). I think I also want to see Garowe, I’m strong believer of investing in my country rather then staying other African or Middle Eastern countries). We will be there for business but I’m hoping my son could benefit from starting Quran (he is six now). My girls are only 2 and 4 years old so for them it’s more about just learning some little Somali.

  • @baladomar7798
    @baladomar7798 27 дней назад +3

    Xili ku haboon bad guursatayay
    Ee hada ma kaligaa baad seexataa mid xalaal ah ilaah ha kuu sahlo wll

  • @Glock-Guy
    @Glock-Guy 11 дней назад

    Complaining about hardships of your own people and advocating to be a 304 is crazy and beyond clout chasing… Privilege is invisible to those who have it!

  • @healingenergy5555
    @healingenergy5555 Месяц назад +2

    Abayo I love your video. Just find a way to block the background noises. I'm just trying to help love 💗

  • @fsheik1127
    @fsheik1127 Месяц назад +5

    The video is too short sis. Thank you for sharing

  • @Realistic9
    @Realistic9 Месяц назад +7

    ASLM Sister Maryam I love you for the sake of Allah. Sis I would love to see with Hijab on your next story. May Allah bless you Ameen

    • @saadiasheikh5744
      @saadiasheikh5744 25 дней назад

      Why?

    • @Realistic9
      @Realistic9 22 дня назад

      @@saadiasheikh5744 Surah al-Ahzab (33:59):
      "O Prophet, tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to bring down over themselves [part] of their outer garments. That is more suitable that they will be known and not be abused. And ever is Allah Forgiving and Merciful."
      This verse establishes the obligation of hijab for Muslim women who have reached the age of puberty.

  • @umalaq1
    @umalaq1 Месяц назад +4

    Hi sis did you make a mistake when you said 2012 because we are of similar age (32)and I was 18 2010 😅😅 and not 2012 (funny got also married when I was 18).

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад

      Yes I made a mistake, my apologies. It must have been 2010-11 because I have birth to my daughter in end of 2012 ❤

  • @AyaanDahir-rk3bu
    @AyaanDahir-rk3bu Месяц назад +6

    Gabadhan waa iska jechly❤

  • @kenedidhadi8701
    @kenedidhadi8701 Месяц назад +2

    😮

  • @sahromohamed-wk2tz
    @sahromohamed-wk2tz Месяц назад +2

    😮it's ok to marry Somali man if you're a Somali what is wrong with that

  • @yma9078
    @yma9078 Месяц назад +8

    People back home are different breed😭

  • @Moonlight-l1i
    @Moonlight-l1i Месяц назад +4

    Beautiful story but this video is to short darling and keep going.

  • @maxamuudducaale928
    @maxamuudducaale928 21 день назад +1

    Iam sorry what happened to you it is experience for you walalo

  • @mufasaleebah3156
    @mufasaleebah3156 Месяц назад +10

    Feel sorry for the children. Just make sure children have relationship with their father. The statistics regarding single parent children are not good. Google it.
    If you have girls protect them from your future potential husband. Keep your eyes wide open. Be a role model for your children and stay close to Allah. If you are in right frame both with regards mentally, spiritually ( salah) and physically you will find a good man - preferably divorced with children.

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад +2

      @@mufasaleebah3156 in sha Aah thanks for sharing your advice, I appreciate it a lot and amiin!

    • @xalimox3525
      @xalimox3525 Месяц назад

      Y divorced with children lol farax fool farax

  • @Sally4life12
    @Sally4life12 Месяц назад +4

    Wow crazy 😮

  • @adammoussa6114
    @adammoussa6114 Месяц назад +4

    i wish i was maried at that age, it would have spare me from alot of stupidity

  • @truthhurtz19
    @truthhurtz19 Месяц назад +2

    People sitting on the floor of the plane😮

  • @Hamda-w5z
    @Hamda-w5z Месяц назад +5

    Keep it cominggggg but the sound behind ruined it

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад +3

      @@Hamda-w5z sorry xabiibti I have a mic on the way so soon the sound will be better. Thank you for watching ❤️

  • @Amalhirad320
    @Amalhirad320 22 дня назад +1

    Me too I married when I was 18 years old even I didn’t finish high school but Alxamdullah I have beautiful kids I love them ❤❤

  • @Ethiopiandream00
    @Ethiopiandream00 Месяц назад +2

    Are you Ethiopian? Why did you go to Somalia to marry?

  • @laadarlaadar6814
    @laadarlaadar6814 Месяц назад +1

    I listen first 2 minutes about complaining about hot water…on that region of the planet there’s no water straight three years no rain…thank god you got hot water instead no water

  • @fatimalove965
    @fatimalove965 Месяц назад +1

    ❤❤❤

  • @Muslimspledge
    @Muslimspledge Месяц назад +3

    your beautiful

  • @Xayati_i
    @Xayati_i Месяц назад +5

    Why don’t you put on hijab abaayo? This world is temporary and we will all meet with our creator one day.

    • @saadiasheikh5744
      @saadiasheikh5744 25 дней назад +2

      That is between her and God clothes doesn’t make a good person.

    • @Miraculous_Edits-k6c
      @Miraculous_Edits-k6c 13 дней назад

      Nothing wrong someone giving good advice

    • @saadiasheikh5744
      @saadiasheikh5744 13 дней назад

      @@Miraculous_Edits-k6c She didn’t asked for the advice and she is old enough to choose what is good for her.

  • @InnovationSKILLZ
    @InnovationSKILLZ Месяц назад +2

    Good woman are for good men, and Bad men are for bad woman. It's in the Quran.

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад +4

      Black and white thinking without context. Here it goes again…

    • @xalimox3525
      @xalimox3525 Месяц назад

      Fat men r for fat women

    • @Golden-ls1sb
      @Golden-ls1sb Месяц назад

      So meaning she is a bad woman? You never seen or heard of evil bad men always going for good women to enslave and oppress them? Evil men fear evil women and sought out for good women to oppress.

  • @zainababdi781
    @zainababdi781 Месяц назад +2

    As a haliima, I wouldn't do that to my daughter.

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад

      @@zainababdi781 it’s good that you would prevent anything and for your daughter and want the best for her. This is why I made this channel! Welcome.

  • @sahromohamed-wk2tz
    @sahromohamed-wk2tz Месяц назад +2

    Xijaab kaagi aaway

  • @Ghs--173
    @Ghs--173 21 день назад +1

    Walaalo say Somaliland not Somalia.

  • @Paradise-xy8
    @Paradise-xy8 Месяц назад +2

    I think you should learn more about your deen and make duas to Allah to guide you, you wear your head scarf as a Muslim and as a role model to your children. May Allah guide you. Ameen

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад

      May Allah guide you too

    • @butybuls
      @butybuls Месяц назад +2

      And I think u should that u should not judge other mums every one has there own way of learning and every one has there own guidelines OK so fix urs and leave others, alone OK ☺️🙄😒

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад

      @ ❤️❤️❤️

  • @prosl11
    @prosl11 Месяц назад +2

    Here we have another women with another drama story about marriage and divorce and how bad the somali.man was blah blah

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад +13

      Here we go another Somali man being triggered by my story. It is what it is, we need to share our stories to help others and make changes. Sending you positive energy.

    • @xalimox3525
      @xalimox3525 Месяц назад

      Y r u scared?

    • @butybuls
      @butybuls Месяц назад

      Of what
      ​@@xalimox3525

    • @catloverfurever00
      @catloverfurever00 17 дней назад +1

      Maybe the men need to do better, be better and adapt to living in a partnership with their wives instead of thinking they have bought a slave to run the household for them.

  • @AdanAbaka
    @AdanAbaka Месяц назад +1

    Hello

  • @ultimateenigma6038
    @ultimateenigma6038 Месяц назад +4

    Abaayo ,,Great job in letting the public know. The message is getting out. Mental health is key. To the people telling you to wear hijab, this is between you and Allah. Please ignore these useless judgemental people. Secondly, our culture needs to be studied, the good, bad and indifferent. Those of us who are 2nd and 3rd generation living in the West need to be schooled on the dangers of marrying men who are not equally yoked. The culture itself is not supportive of women and girls, we are 2nd class citizens in our own culture. Ladies, get your education, collect your passports and choose your husband( if you choose) wisely. Many men do not qualify to be anyone husbands, they are far to coddled and entitled. The grandmothers and mothers are all male centered and expect you to continue turning a blind eye. Go to university, live with girlfriends travel, and create your wealth. Choose you and choose the man that will give you the life you want. If he is not solving YOUR problems, he will become your biggest problem. Love from the States!!

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад +2

      @@ultimateenigma6038 thank you so much abaayo for this amazing message. It definitely needs to be studied, our culture. This is what people in particular men get triggered by, however it is for the good.
      I hold myself accountable for my choices and that is why I am able to share my story understanding that I may be under scrutiny. However l, we need to tell so other women are aware of the dangers and also aware of the reality of motherhood and marriage. We are not getting married to live a fairytale which is what we have been fed as the masses for decades through media… anyways you get my drift thanks xabiibti🌹

  • @shukriali6458
    @shukriali6458 Месяц назад +1

    Biiyo kuleel hadaad caabi leheed waad catoowi leheey, gabadha yar aad sheeganeyso baad u ekaan leheeyd 😅

    • @sumayabarud784
      @sumayabarud784 Месяц назад +1

      Wllo taladaada yaa ku weydistay?

    • @islamistherightpath2000
      @islamistherightpath2000 Месяц назад +2

      You are a woman yourself and shaming another woman? May Allah help you. It's giving pick me but nobody laughed.

    • @Msomale
      @Msomale 25 дней назад +2

      A woman hating on another do better pick me

  • @Healthupliftchannel-n3b
    @Healthupliftchannel-n3b Месяц назад +1

    Cover your head sister

  • @gudbifariinta3958
    @gudbifariinta3958 Месяц назад

    All we have here is a single mother as a result. It is criminal to premeditate a divorce.

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад +7

      @@gudbifariinta3958 is it? Then hancuff me

    • @gudbifariinta3958
      @gudbifariinta3958 Месяц назад

      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      I am a parole man and a Community liaison officer. You could not imagine the children held in the youth detention centres from around here. Study is strongly showing correlation between single mother and juvenile delinquency. It has to slow down or stopped one way or another.SM is child abuse period.

    • @catloverfurever00
      @catloverfurever00 17 дней назад +1

      @@gudbifariinta3958do you know what is worse than growing up in a household headed by a single mother? Growing up in a dysfunctional household with two parents arguing, one being irresponsible with money and not working. Ask me how I know!!!

    • @gudbifariinta3958
      @gudbifariinta3958 17 дней назад

      @catloverfurever00
      Respect comes before Love. People end up in situations because they lack respect to begin with.

  • @juniorroble9529
    @juniorroble9529 25 дней назад +1

    You are not even Somali stop tarnishing the names of Somali men

  • @maryam-cd3gt
    @maryam-cd3gt Месяц назад +1

    What is new. Somali girls at home marry young. At 14 they get married and many has successful marriages ma sha Allah

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  Месяц назад +11

      You can’t seriously believe 14 is a good or adequate age to get married?

    • @saadiasheikh5744
      @saadiasheikh5744 25 дней назад +3

      That is pedofilia.

    • @maryam-cd3gt
      @maryam-cd3gt 24 дня назад

      @@saadiasheikh5744 what do u call girls in the west having sex as young as 13?

    • @catloverfurever00
      @catloverfurever00 17 дней назад

      @@maryam-cd3gttwo wrongs don’t make a right.

    • @maryam-cd3gt
      @maryam-cd3gt 11 дней назад

      @ It is not wrong to marry at a young age with the support of the families involved

  • @burhanhassan524
    @burhanhassan524 Месяц назад +5

    first of all wear hijab 🧕 please if you are Muslim women and Somalia Muslim women

    • @selahmami
      @selahmami Месяц назад +15

      No.

    • @Sara-gg1jy
      @Sara-gg1jy Месяц назад +10

      Who are you as a random man to tell her to wear hijab? You should fear Allah and learn your deen before speaking. Islamically you don’t speak to non-mahram women about their hijab. The only right you have is talking to the women you have rights over-not her!

    • @burhanhassan524
      @burhanhassan524 Месяц назад +6

      To wear hijab is command from ALLAH
      to all muslin women and is the quran and Hadith this is the true and know your religion don’t be feminist come back to your religion

    • @Raumatijd
      @Raumatijd Месяц назад +3

      Negative

    • @Golden-ls1sb
      @Golden-ls1sb Месяц назад +1

      Evil men still treat the hijab wearing ones bad.Most High looks at the mind, hearts, behavior of the woman meaning a woman who doesn’t sleeps around. Hair coverings isn’t a rightsful way to prove to God of being a good woman. There is a reason the private parts of human is hidden between the legs but on the head is covering with full hair up on the body.There are some that cover hair and still men sleep with them at the backside just to protect their virginity. I support covering up the body but the head it’s your choice. Because God want women to dress modesty.