STORY TIME: I got Married at 18 in Somalia

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  • Опубликовано: 4 янв 2025

Комментарии • 181

  • @XUBI12345
    @XUBI12345 День назад +33

    My niece Maryam, I’m so proud of you for sharing your story with the world.
    I remember when you got married at 18 at that time, and believe me, this girl was incredibly strong even at such a young age. You never showed the pain you were carrying, you always looked happy and beautiful, as you still do. To everyone watching, I encourage you to subscribe and like this channel to hear more about how she healed, grew, and built a beautiful life with her three amazing daughters. Her journey is truly inspiring, and there’s so much we can all learn from her resilience Wlhi.
    Habo Anna halkaan ban kala socdaa, I can’t wait your vlogs with caruurta ayeeyada u ahay. ❤

  • @anisa5052
    @anisa5052 22 часа назад +15

    Somalia has changed a lot!! The first time I went was 2017 and saw so much corruption but 2024 I saw sooo many changes Alhamdullilah…my mom used to always say Somalia will get better, Somalia will get better. Never believed it until I went back in 2024

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  18 часов назад +1

      Wow I can’t wait to go back! ❤

    • @saabirmohamedjeylaani9084
      @saabirmohamedjeylaani9084 15 часов назад

      Yeah, sister that's wright. People have to look where we come from. There's a big difference so we have to thank to Allah who gave us that Alxamdullilah.

  • @zenmama2107
    @zenmama2107 2 часа назад +1

    We have so much in common I am 31 and got married in Sénégal at 19 with a lot of trauma as well. Make Allah SWT protect and heal you 🙏🏾 Amine

  • @AwkMind
    @AwkMind 11 часов назад +7

    Omg you just gave me the courage to speak about my experience..sudani sis here.. Thank you for sharing. I was there too, making decisions that did not serve me...Thank God for growth.

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  10 часов назад

      Yes it’s so prevalent in many communities I’m happy this pushed you to finally speak up ❤

  • @natoub9544
    @natoub9544 День назад +7

    Mental health is very important and you’re very strong.

  • @ademzh
    @ademzh День назад +9

    Thanks for sharing sis! There are many who have similar stories. May Allah protect you and your family.

  • @sahragouled737
    @sahragouled737 День назад +5

    You are a brave woman to share your story, and I hope it will help those who are going through the same difficulties that went through.

  • @hamdagarbo5839
    @hamdagarbo5839 День назад +10

    Masha Allah you are strong mother ❤
    To girls out there never marry if you see a man who pushes to marry quickly. If Someone wanting get married quickly is a big red flag 🚩 take your time and do your own research on them.

  • @Pearrlsdimondz
    @Pearrlsdimondz 2 дня назад +16

    Sis your story sounds almost identical to mine. From getting married at 18 to the silent treatment to the pressure to bring him over to the country.
    This is the first time ever that I feel like I related to someone. Alhamdulillah I was able to get out of that

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  2 дня назад +4

      @@Pearrlsdimondz alhamdulillah sis! I’m so proud of you. I would like to hear more about your story. Follow me on TikTok and message me xabiibti. I started this channel for someone like you. ❤️

  • @shukrimohamed8004
    @shukrimohamed8004 9 часов назад +2

    My beautiful sister. I am very proud of you so much. Keep going and don't let anyone or farah lugu istakiin dim your light.

  • @c.sar6242
    @c.sar6242 2 дня назад +4

    Just stumbled across this and I admire your strength and courage, may Allah bless you and your children❤ also to hear you managed to learn swedish and somali around the same age i am now was inspiring lol i thought it would be quite difficult to learn my language

  • @farahegeh7475
    @farahegeh7475 День назад +6

    Masha Allah sister, you are very smart and beautiful, keep going.
    Many Somali women's mental health and the mental health of their children gets destroyed because they stay in abusive marriages as they desperately try to avoid the Single Mother Label.
    I would love to remind my Somali sisters that a marriage supposed to be beneficial to all, spouses and children so if it's harmful to anyone involved, please don't overthink, just get out while you are able.

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  День назад

      @@farahegeh7475 wallahi you said so much in short words. Thank you sis and you’re so right. I agree with you xabiibti ❤️

  • @Palestinesos
    @Palestinesos День назад +4

    Keep going beautiful. Allah has a better life planned for you, insh'allah ❤❤❤

  • @Raumatijd
    @Raumatijd 2 дня назад +5

    Extremely courageous ❤

  • @jamiefooddreamer6381
    @jamiefooddreamer6381 11 часов назад +2

    You live and you learn sis. People marrying in their 30s have experienced this. Allways know your self worth and allways strive to be better. If you partner dont align with your values, its better to let them go. God bless you and yout family

  • @Loveabove-z4r
    @Loveabove-z4r 10 часов назад +2

    All blessings to you sisters.

  • @naimaabdalle5129
    @naimaabdalle5129 7 часов назад +1

    Hi sis
    You look amazing 😍
    I hope you well.
    I am soo proud of you.
    Keep going GIRL 🙌🙌🙌

  • @zahrasiman5369
    @zahrasiman5369 2 дня назад +5

    Habo, you're a young lady who is strong & intelligent ❤❤❤

  • @StoriesForKids-v8f
    @StoriesForKids-v8f 2 дня назад +5

    MashaAllah abaayo, may Allah make it easy for. I am around same age as you, also with 3kids.
    And as a married woman, I know that marriage is hard but in some cases not something one can bear or deal with. So more power to you and your journey 🌸

  • @Teleutibes10kko
    @Teleutibes10kko 17 часов назад +1

    So lovely and genuine girl, is such a pleasure listening to your story. You should be proud of yourself Masha Allah 💝💝

  • @monamagan9046
    @monamagan9046 День назад +2

    Walalu, I am very proud of you. You should keep your achievements to yourself. Our community may talk behind your back. Social media is evil. but good luck with whatever you do. The market for finding a good man is tough ❤❤❤❤

  • @misshawa8345
    @misshawa8345 3 дня назад +4

    Love all your videos sis

  • @free-thinker1046
    @free-thinker1046 День назад +2

    I like your story very interesting ❤ no insult no anger.

  • @adammoussa6114
    @adammoussa6114 День назад +3

    i wish i was maried at that age, it would have spare me from alot of stupidity

  • @kafiya_may
    @kafiya_may 2 дня назад +6

    Unfortunately, this is very common in our community. I'm glad you survived it. Many young Somali women will appreciate you sharing your story!

  • @R471rw
    @R471rw 16 часов назад +1

    You are young smart girl you are so beautiful mashallah,may Allah heal you and thank you for sharing your story. ❤❤

  • @NB-uh5fy
    @NB-uh5fy День назад +1

    Thank you so much for sharing your story ❤

  • @Withkawsar24
    @Withkawsar24 2 дня назад +11

    Alhamdulillah you have such a positive mentality and you have 2 beautiful girls may Allah protect you all.
    This was all destined by Allah (swt), that no good will come your way without the permission of Allah and no evil will come your way without the permission of Allah.

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  2 дня назад

      @@Withkawsar24 sis jazzakhallahu qeyran for this. You’re absolutely right, if it wasn’t for my faith, I don’t know what I would do. ❤️

  • @Sophiamor-b7n
    @Sophiamor-b7n 2 дня назад +8

    Girl you still look 18!!!!

  • @Nomad332
    @Nomad332 2 дня назад +6

    First off, your are so beautiful allahuma barik. I am glad I watched this video, you are so inspirational. I just wonder though, did this experience put you off Somali men in general? Would it have been better if the man you married was a Somali who grew up in the west?

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  2 дня назад +2

      @@Nomad332 jazzakhallahu qeyran sis. I don’t think it put me off Somali men but I am extremely cautious hence why I have chosen to be single and it’s over 8 years now. I love my culture and I love Somali people. I went through phases where I was angry and healed, attended therapy and prayed. My view is much more broad as a result. What about you?

    • @Nomad332
      @Nomad332 2 дня назад +2

      @@Diaryofasinglemother-s7d Alhamdulillah! To be honest I would love to marry a Somali man but I feel like I have been disrespected by them the most, just because I’m not your typical Somali girl I feel like non Somali men are more respectful, maybe cos Somali men are more comfortable around me and feel like they can treat me anyhow. Perhaps I’ve just not met the right type but to be honest it hasn’t put me off them completely.

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  2 дня назад +5

      @@Nomad332 sax abaayo I get you. One thing I always love by is: focus on your life and build a life and career you enjoy, open yourself up to new things. When the time is right, the right person will join your life, and if it doesn’t work out, it’s not the end of the world xabiibti. Have some to inf for yourself to fall back on and build your life then you have more choices. ❤️

    • @saabirmohamedjeylaani9084
      @saabirmohamedjeylaani9084 15 часов назад

      ​@@Nomad332sister I hope you one day to marry a good somali man.

  • @yma9078
    @yma9078 2 дня назад +5

    People back home are different breed😭

  • @ss41697
    @ss41697 2 дня назад +54

    I can’t imagine marrying a Somali man let alone one back home. I am glad you survived sis. ❤

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  2 дня назад +3

      @@ss41697 awe thank you lovely. Maskiin do you have any reasons why you would never marry a Somali. I’m interested. ❤️

    • @ss41697
      @ss41697 2 дня назад +32

      @@Diaryofasinglemother-s7d yes sis I am scared to marry them because of my experience from my own father and the women around me. They don’t seem to be good fathers and they are not good husbands either. I don’t see them as romantic, nurturing etc. I can’t blame them too much though because I think it might be the cultural influence and maybe how their moms raise them. Unfortunately at this point sis due to all the negativity I feel towards them I don’t even feel attraction when I see them even if they are good looking. Of course at the end of the day it is all up to Allah but I want to live a peaceful and long lasting marriage and I don’t feel like they offer that.

    • @mufasaleebah3156
      @mufasaleebah3156 2 дня назад

      I promise you...try ajenabi and you will be traumatised 10 times more. Dont generelise everyone bec of your past experience. If you think the other side is green you will be dissappointed. Ajenabi will never treat as his own .As years go on a d we age in a mix race marriage everyone tends to be drawn back to his identity and culture...so man will Definitly want have relationship with his own kind hence divorce.
      Remember that. 90-95% of mix race relationship fail. Thats is just the statistics.

    • @MoA.-pw3so
      @MoA.-pw3so 2 дня назад +44

      As Somalia man, we aren't perfect but please don't generalize all the Men's,
      Sorry for the experience you had with your father, but Insha'Allah I wish you will find a good Somali men who will show you love,compassion and a good father to your future kids, stay blessed

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  2 дня назад

      @ ❤️

  • @somalialoves726
    @somalialoves726 11 часов назад +1

    Masha Allah Allahuma Barik so proud of you huno ❤ I have an amazing husband masha Allah but I would like to learn about the schema to raise my baby boy really healthy and happy ☺

  • @TheBloomfan123
    @TheBloomfan123 12 часов назад +2

    Hey, sis!
    You are a very beautiful woman. You don't need all these men lusting on you. From sister to sister, please cover yourself because you are a gem.
    Not just from men but from women too. Evil eye is real, my dear.

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  10 часов назад +2

      Okay abaayo in sha Allah thank you so much for your kind advice ❤

    • @TheBloomfan123
      @TheBloomfan123 9 часов назад +1

      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d Yes, I like your videos a lot! Ma Sha Allah, you have so much Imaan in your words and face. All you have to do is dress the part, my dear.

  • @ashaqaar7330
    @ashaqaar7330 2 дня назад +4

    Maansh ALLAAH habo I feel your pain I go tru something like that

  • @falishahusseinable
    @falishahusseinable День назад +1

    Hi girl!
    It's wonderful to see Somali sisters sharing their stories. I have a question because I've never been to Somalia, but my partner needs to go to Bosaso soon, inshallah, for about a year. I'm considering going with him, but we have young children, and I'm feeling anxious. I have a lot of thoughts, mainly about the healthcare system. What if we get sick? There are no GPs or NHS services with reliable doctors. I know I'm making assumptions, but I'm really worried.
    How easy was it for you to settle in? How hot is a HOT? Do you think it would be beneficial for us? Also, my Somali isn’t great, and I'm concerned about struggling with the dialect and accent.
    Thanks!

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  День назад +1

      @@falishahusseinable hey sis. Firstly thank you so much for your kind words and support. Before I answer this question I want to ask:
      How long are you and your kids staying there for? Where is it? Boss’s was HOT HOT. In terms of healthcare, get them vaccinated before you go and speak to your GP about this. Discuss with your husband.
      Please answer my question more in depth and I can provide my advice of what I think. ❤️

    • @falishahusseinable
      @falishahusseinable День назад

      @@Diaryofasinglemother-s7d Hey girl. So, I would be staying in Bosaso for 1 to 2 years. If I don’t like it then I could relocate to Xamar for the remaining time (that’s where my parents originate and by extension me). I think I also want to see Garowe, I’m strong believer of investing in my country rather then staying other African or Middle Eastern countries). We will be there for business but I’m hoping my son could benefit from starting Quran (he is six now). My girls are only 2 and 4 years old so for them it’s more about just learning some little Somali.

  • @fsheik1127
    @fsheik1127 3 дня назад +5

    The video is too short sis. Thank you for sharing

  • @umalaq1
    @umalaq1 День назад +3

    Hi sis did you make a mistake when you said 2012 because we are of similar age (32)and I was 18 2010 😅😅 and not 2012 (funny got also married when I was 18).

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  18 часов назад

      Yes I made a mistake, my apologies. It must have been 2010-11 because I have birth to my daughter in end of 2012 ❤

  • @FirdousDreamer
    @FirdousDreamer 9 часов назад +1

    Somali’s have the most single moms and it’s not good usually it happens because they think the grass is greener on the other side but not really. Your problem was being married while being in separate countries and usually long distance relationships never work. You were basically a single mom while living separately.

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  8 часов назад

      @@FirdousDreamer absolutely correct in the fact that I was a single mum while I
      Was still with him. The part about greener grass on the other side, I’m on the other side. I have 3 beautiful healthy daughter who are academically achieving and we have our Lord.

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  8 часов назад

      @@FirdousDreamer it’s definitely a prominent issue in our community.

  • @healingenergy5555
    @healingenergy5555 День назад +2

    Abayo I love your video. Just find a way to block the background noises. I'm just trying to help love 💗

  • @AyaanDahir-rk3bu
    @AyaanDahir-rk3bu 2 дня назад +6

    Gabadhan waa iska jechly❤

  • @Anisaabdi1111
    @Anisaabdi1111 День назад +3

    Wow sis your strong keep going and Yh I went to bosaaso with my 2 older brothers and cousin we stayed there 10 years honestly but alhamdulilah my elders brother looked after us he was in his early twenties I was there from the age of 7 to 17. one of my successful mashallah 32 year old bro went to a horrible famous boarding school for a year in Bosaso omg the manager was horrible but anyways, I had arranged marriage at the age of 14 to one relative auntie’s son. My mum was just super strict religious and just wanted me to get married. Didn’t work out It was a couple of months and I was just young and confused and never understood what was happening, anyways I got back to the Uk and education then I got married at 18. I had my son was married 5 years got divorced and single mother 4 years my boy is now 8 years old but yeah I enjoyed life with my family in the UK all my siblings came back went back to education got good jobs and kids and they are happily married but if I could look back and change things would be if I had a choice I would not want to be there from a young age back home for a very long time and not to be forced I am against arrange marriage totally it shouldn’t be allowed even in back home because your just a kid not mentally mature to decide what your doing or consequences it could have on you. I am a mother that is 27 today I would not wanna leave my child’s side or leave him but I guess back in the days it was difficult my mum was a single mother obviously working providing for us, we had an amazing childhood overall and always got what we wanted in life and I’m grateful to her always and we all appreciate hooyo regardless but it was just probably the only way she knew doing things but the impact it had on my mental health I can’t lie growing up from the age of 22 I was really depressed It took me years of therapy healing depressed it affected my mental health and yeah, I’m glad I’m better today.
    It was amazing watching your story time I enjoyed it to fullest. I’m looking forward to watch your other videos thank you so much sis 💕👑🙌

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  18 часов назад

      Wow thank you for sharing your story it’s crazy you got married at 14 maskiin. Alhamdullillah I’m so happy you’re doing better sis may Allah bless you ❤

  • @xalimox3525
    @xalimox3525 7 часов назад

    Alhamdulilah I married out. Faraxs nowadays r a pain. If you want to sign up to life of poverty and unhappiness, marry them. The good ones r super rare

  • @Moonlight-l1i
    @Moonlight-l1i 2 дня назад +4

    Beautiful story but this video is to short darling and keep going.

  • @Realistic9
    @Realistic9 2 дня назад +4

    ASLM Sister Maryam I love you for the sake of Allah. Sis I would love to see with Hijab on your next story. May Allah bless you Ameen

  • @zainababdi781
    @zainababdi781 2 часа назад

    As a haliima, I wouldn't do that to my daughter.

  • @beautifulworld8814
    @beautifulworld8814 11 часов назад +1

    I travelled to Somalia many times, i never saw people sitting on the floor in the plane.
    Were you in a plane or a small helicopter when you saw some people sitting on the floor?.

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  10 часов назад +1

      Abaayo it was Jubba Airways around 2011 I made a mistake by saying 2012 because my daughter was born late 2012 ❤. It was maddd

  • @Sally4life12
    @Sally4life12 3 дня назад +4

    Wow crazy 😮

  • @Hamda-w5z
    @Hamda-w5z 2 дня назад +5

    Keep it cominggggg but the sound behind ruined it

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  2 дня назад +3

      @@Hamda-w5z sorry xabiibti I have a mic on the way so soon the sound will be better. Thank you for watching ❤️

  • @mufasaleebah3156
    @mufasaleebah3156 2 дня назад +9

    Feel sorry for the children. Just make sure children have relationship with their father. The statistics regarding single parent children are not good. Google it.
    If you have girls protect them from your future potential husband. Keep your eyes wide open. Be a role model for your children and stay close to Allah. If you are in right frame both with regards mentally, spiritually ( salah) and physically you will find a good man - preferably divorced with children.

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  2 дня назад +2

      @@mufasaleebah3156 in sha Aah thanks for sharing your advice, I appreciate it a lot and amiin!

    • @xalimox3525
      @xalimox3525 7 часов назад

      Y divorced with children lol farax fool farax

  • @jazzychronicles
    @jazzychronicles 14 часов назад +2

    your beautiful

  • @fatimalove965
    @fatimalove965 2 дня назад +1

    ❤❤❤

  • @prosl11
    @prosl11 12 часов назад +1

    Here we have another women with another drama story about marriage and divorce and how bad the somali.man was blah blah

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  10 часов назад +3

      Here we go another Somali man being triggered by my story. It is what it is, we need to share our stories to help others and make changes. Sending you positive energy.

    • @xalimox3525
      @xalimox3525 7 часов назад

      Y r u scared?

  • @An86115
    @An86115 10 часов назад +1

    Assalam Aleikum wa Rahmatullah wa Barakathu Sister with all due respect there is no way plane can fly without air con on so please fear Allah and stop making stories Air conditioning packs are essential for managing these aspects of an aircraft's environmental control system. Allahu Almusta’an why are You making stuff up

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  10 часов назад +1

      @@An86115 I’m not. But I can’t change your assumption. 🤷🏾‍♀️

    • @An86115
      @An86115 10 часов назад

      @ it’s a fact sister come on stop being childish here you can’t fly a plane without AC Subhan Allah . Apart of that Habibti why are you showing yourself online ? Wallah it saddens me more than anything. I’m sure You love Allah but to love Allah you must know him spend time learning fgr deen Habibti young people are dying everyday you don’t wanna die and this channel being against You Allahu Almusta’an . May Allah guide me and You Ameen .

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  9 часов назад

      @ may Allah guide you too.

    • @An86115
      @An86115 9 часов назад

      @@Diaryofasinglemother-s7d Ameen . I’ve made duaa for myself first 🤍

    • @An86115
      @An86115 9 часов назад

      @@Diaryofasinglemother-s7d I care for you Ukhti you don’t have to seat and talk about this on You Tube Habibti You don’t have to do that . This dunya is a test Habibti think about it little patience and Allah will give us eternity of bliss don’t spoil it Habibti it’s not worth it. Allah said that dunya is worth wing of a mosquito 🦟

  • @shukriali6458
    @shukriali6458 День назад +1

    Biiyo kuleel hadaad caabi leheed waad catoowi leheey, gabadha yar aad sheeganeyso baad u ekaan leheeyd 😅

  • @burhanhassan524
    @burhanhassan524 2 дня назад +4

    first of all wear hijab 🧕 please if you are Muslim women and Somalia Muslim women

    • @selahmami
      @selahmami 2 дня назад +6

      No.

    • @Sara-gg1jy
      @Sara-gg1jy 2 дня назад +5

      Who are you as a random man to tell her to wear hijab? You should fear Allah and learn your deen before speaking. Islamically you don’t speak to non-mahram women about their hijab. The only right you have is talking to the women you have rights over-not her!

    • @burhanhassan524
      @burhanhassan524 2 дня назад +4

      To wear hijab is command from ALLAH
      to all muslin women and is the quran and Hadith this is the true and know your religion don’t be feminist come back to your religion

    • @Raumatijd
      @Raumatijd 2 дня назад +1

      Negative

  • @Healthupliftchannel-n3b
    @Healthupliftchannel-n3b 7 часов назад

    Cover your head sister

  • @mowlidid3636
    @mowlidid3636 День назад +1

    Good woman are for good men, and Bad men are for bad woman. It's in the Quran.

  • @gudbifariinta3958
    @gudbifariinta3958 13 часов назад

    All we have is single mother as a result. It is criminal to premeditate a divorce.

    • @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d  13 часов назад +4

      @@gudbifariinta3958 is it? Then hancuff me

    • @gudbifariinta3958
      @gudbifariinta3958 11 часов назад

      @Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
      I am a parole man and a Community liaison officer. You could not imagine the children held in the youth detention centres from around here. Study is strongly showing correlation between single mother and juvenile delinquency. It has to slow down or stopped one way or another.SM is child abuse period.

  • @puntview6026
    @puntview6026 2 дня назад +8

    Cover you head fear Allah,

    • @Raumatijd
      @Raumatijd 2 дня назад +14

      Cover your mind

    • @fartunyep4501
      @fartunyep4501 22 часа назад +1

      Lol this is all u people come to say. Go control ur children not a stranger

  • @shukrisharif890
    @shukrisharif890 День назад +2

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