I can't thank you guys enough for all your support, emails, messages, suggestions and love. I hardly struggle to find words, but you guys my community have left me short of words a few times. To buy me a coffee use link buymeacoffee.com/lulusdiaries thanks once more and please let me know if there is any specific topic on life in the diaspora or as a 40 year old you want me to share.
You look amazing for a 40 year old babe. I got married at 42, had my first baby at 44 and I’m so grateful to God for my life and loved ones. It’s never too late. It’s just timing and alignment and growing into the best version of ourselves.
When I was young it was everyone dream to get a UK visa. But now that I have been in UK for 30 years, I can see that everyone who stayed at home is generally better off than those who went abroad. Because most of us only considered the financial aspect. But so many other things make life in Africa better than in Europe.
No. They aren’t better off. Money is needed EVERYWHERE you go. But go and ask them there. They will disagree and are always asking for money. When you go there, you are living off British currency that’s why you think it’s better. Go there. Live on that currency. Then you will quickly remember why everyone wanted to come to the UK/ the west to begin with. It’s because you’ve now got it, that why you probably don’t appreciate it. On another note… I’m saying this as a British citizen who was born here (my mother got here through marriage to my father who is British). Im speaking from the lense of a citizen. I don’t know what it’s like for immigrants. Maybe it’s harder. Who knows.
@gailainsley6939No not true. I have lived there a few years too, they have a much better family and social orientation than we in the diaspora. Money isn’t everything.
Things new immigrants don’t realise about abroad The loneliness, lack of community, no relatives , no events or parties and difficulty finding a marriage mate because everyone is chasing pounds I now understand how some people actually die on their own in their house and nobody notices for months or years
@daliaa5294 I couldn't put it any better. Lease, of life and relationships, are a big part of being happy and productive. I have faced this loneliness enough times
The UK IS NOT AN EASY PLACE TO BE AT ALL, THE LONELINESS IS NOT EASY, PEOPLE DON'T CARE THEY ONLY CARE ABOUT £, AND THE MATERIAL THINGS THEY OWN GOD HAVE MERCY IT IS WELL MAYBE GOD HAVE A DIFFERENT PLAN FOR YOU
I am glad i left UK a week after writing my last exam, no regrets at all. Also 41 and no debt, built my houses from scratch, much much bigger than the houses I lived in UK. Managed to become self employed at 37.
I left after my dissertation. I am working now. I no longer get anxious about meeting up with bills. I am able to live a cheap life and pay into my Investment account. I'm able to start a business and own property. I will be financially free during my lifetime.
I am a uk trained nurse. Lived and worked as a slave for 30 years. I am 57 years. I relocated to Nigeria at exactly 50 years. My children school fees paid for in uk boarding schools. They attended best universities and MBAs were done. Two marriage breakdowns due to stress of life in uk. I was loosing myself despite i was making money in my job. In 2016, I packed my bags. I am the happiest living human in Nigeria. So happy i made the decision to relocate back home. No regrets at all. It wasn't all jolly at home, but with perseverance, you will be happier in the long run. Life is better and sweeter at home, if you can endure. Even, my children don't want to live in uk/USA ( my daughter lives in USA). They hate it . Please come home oooo. God will continue to help us. When I need a bit of foreign currency, I go and do some shifts and cone back to my country.
It be nice. .go back home and do self employment before you leave UK. If a place is not serving you happiness go back. Can you rent your house or lease it? You have sometime to think. Make sure you pray. Make sure you have a relationship with God. For Wisdom and Discernment.
I am a citizen but I took my eldest back to Africa for two years. Since I bought her back here, her mental health has declined. She misses the community style of living and the loneliness is overwhelming. The quality of life is so low here. I plan to move back for good this year. The UK is a place to survive not thrive.
Exactly. I'm British but travelled for work around the world UK is expensive and as an educated person, it pays poorly (I was a scientist). I went back for 2 years 6 years ago, and couldn't stand it. Poor quality of life. I'm now living in Africa and have built a house, with plenty land. Africa is a growing adolescent, UK is an infirm old man.
I ve learnt never to compare myself against anyone and society s standards. Life is material. We are not taking any of our possessions and or accolades with us when we pass on. Don t sweat the small stuff. Hugs❤
You have cracked the code. As much as I want and aspire for more, I don't compare myself with others. All fingers are NOT going to be ever equal for a reason. I have Christ and He provides and that's all that matters to me. Not judging her for wanting or aspiring for more. Each to their own. When you are on your death bed, none of these things would matter. Live your OWN life and be happy with what you currently have available ❤❤❤
@@maggien222absolutely correct 👍🏾 she is just comparing herself with the people back home and that will lead nowhere. People in Africa have their own problems and struggles like health and security and corruption
20 years in uk this year. Cleaned dishes at a restaurant in evenings and worked toilet attendant in a night club 3 nights a week for 3.5 years while studying and then sitting and passing some 14 tough accounting exams. No big regrets, did what i had to do and satisfied with where am.
Please I hope you see this message. I am also studying accounting and about to leave for my masters to Denmark. Can you PLEASE give me a pathway and an advice on what to do and how you excelled in the field.
@@god7418where are you currently? Accounting qualifications is super important. Find out what the qualifications recognised in that country. Also find out what the requirements to get a work visa.
I am second gen British but my parents went back home and my life is different. I have paid off my mortgage, our children are well brought up, we have four, no debts. Hope this encourages someone . It’s not all doom and gloom in England. I have other challenges that no one will want to take on, but England is not one of my problems. All the best, it gets better, to be fair those back home have issues as well. My parents never wanted to live here and my siblings are British but live in Nigeria. Our kids are well grounded and we have testimonies to that. They have the teachings of Christ and thank God they have kept to it. All the best.
Well said ,as Indian I too approve this comment,when we back home it is the same because people mind their own business not much socialising as earlier days in my experience.make sure you have PR here before think to move back ,sometimes it may not work out back home.so always have second plan❤
I totally agree with your comments. Going back home is alright if you are a home owner here, and you can sell up. However if you are a pensioner, living abroad, is not always easy, Health care, cost money abroad. The heat, the economy, the people you knew when you were young back home, are not the same. Crime in Jamaica is terrible. So please be mindful of your decision to rush back home. England isn't a bed of roses, but at least you know it. Think twice, and think again. Too many returned residents have been killed in Jamaica. 😢😮
Second génération will hardly have it as tough. Somebody paid the price. I am not saying there aren't positive first génération stories. Just highlighting the fact that this conversation is really about first génération immigrants and their struggles.
Take it from me, who is black British born. I would advise anyone who is foreign or black from another country to not move to the UK. The government is messed up, The cost of living is absolutely ridiculous, a lot of people have problems with "immigrants coming here and stealing their jobs". Plus Brexit, which has made things 3x more difficult. Since Britain is now out of the European Union.. They have a blue passport. So rules and regulations in terms of travel and staying in European countries, is a lot different compared to the other European countries that have the traditional maroon/red European Union passports. The rate the government is going through right now it will be a lot harder I think for immigration. Also the benefit system is very cutthroat. Universal credit should be renamed universal death credit. Because many people who are on benefits who have no choice because they are unemployed, find it very difficult. I used to claim benefits on universal credit, even if I were to become unemployed, I would be very apprehensive to claim universal credit. I hate the new system. The weather in the UK is absolutely shit. Especially in the winter, It can get as cold as -10.. most days it's just clouds and rain.. which will not help to mental health It will slowly make you feel miserable. You barely get sunshine. You can get decent days maybe from April to around September time. But the heat is the equivalent to being inside your house and having the heating on max. It's a very muggy heat, no breeze with it. The people depending where you live particularly if you go down south like london are miserable. But if you go up north, They are a lot more pleasant. Costs will just increase and increase. If you do a below national average job, It might be a struggle for you. And you would be living on the breadline month after month. In order to live comfortable, you want be on £2,000-£2,500 a month. Even if you're a single person.. but it can vary depending on location. Some properties are nice, But I don't think you get your money's worth, In the UK you pay more for less. Whilst in other more decent parts of Europe, You pay less for more. I would definitely advise for any immigrant that wants to migrate into Europe, avoid the UK.. and go for Spain or Portugal. At least you get sun, The cost of living is a bit more cheaper. And They are within the European Union. It's up to you what you do, But don't kid yourself in terms of having ambition of moving to the UK, Because it's not as cracked up as its advertised.
@Ma21L love all your points! In fact, it felt like I was reading my own comment. I'll love to have a chat with you off line, this is my email pls luludiaries83@gmail.com
What I do not understand is the terrible strategy that Africans have when they come to the UK, US, or Canada. My family did the same thing. They have been coming to these countries for years and they always have a terrible strategy. I knew an African immigrant that migrated to Canada and he had the right strategy. He built 4 houses in Uganda, saved money and will be returning to Africa in a couple of years. The strategy should always be to get in and get out. Not get in get a PHD, suffer and then kick the bucket broken and demoralized.
Happy New Year. Spot on with your analysis as I huddle in 6 layers, woollen scarf & blanket - INDOORS. Oh, & two hats. English hijab! It distresses me that Africans, whether Windrush or Johnny-Come-Lately, struggle economically in a country which was built on African blood, sweat, toil & resources. As for "migrants stealing our jobs" Complete tosh. The NHS has an 80% staff deficit, according to official figures. And what about agriculture, restauration, education, etc. Africans must "emancipate ourselves from mental slavery", to misquote Ahad Ha Am, Marcus Garvey & Bob Marley. We must all grow an entrepreneurial spirit, both on the continent & abroad.
This is an honest story from our wonderful lady. It's unfortunate that Africans especially Nigerians who God bless their lands will have to be trapped in what i call ' comfort prison' abroad. Yes there's comfort but no freedom. We all should join hands to build this God given beautiful continent.
This is the most honest, educative, insightful video I have ever watched on RUclips! Thank you for sharing. Please know that, you’re not alone in this! Most African immigrants are facing the same dilemma. My mantra is: Better be where your soul is at peace, than where you’re a slave, especially to a system. I’m packing my stuff now and ending this circus one and for all!
Thank you for this. This is confirmation for me. Literally quit my job last night after being here in the uk for 3 years. I Literally cannot go another month in this place. This is NOT life. This is NOT living. Thank you for making this video.
Moving abroad is never a walk in the park, it involves a lot of sacrifices and hardwork, if you’re not ready to pay the price then don’t leave Nigeria. Going back to Nigeria also needs you to make a out a plan, make sure you have something to fall back on to avoid any form of regret.
@@louisubebe9011 I am Nigerian, in my twenties and never knew my parents growing up. I own my business in the FCT and looking to hire more staff and expand to another bigger location. This 'abroad' you people speak about is a *scam* ! Been all lied to and sucked into a form of modern day servitude to a country that doesn't and would never acknowledge or accept you, while waste there. If I can put my leg in and say today I am happy, very happy in Nigeria and would never immigrate (even with the background I was born into) so can a majority of you who fall for the illusive scam. Give your best to your country in Africa, even if it means sacrifices.
I truly understand your concern and frustration. My advice would be not to dwell on it too much. Compare the two situations, but focus on living your life. Back home, the systems are dysfunctional. You educate your children, and then you still have to struggle to find jobs for them. Running a business is incredibly challenging, and even securing contracts often involves compromising principles just to build connections. Sadly, young girls are turning to modern-day prostitution for survival. That said, every part of the world has its own challenges these days. Treasure the time you have with your family and kids. Don’t let worry about the future consume you because, as human beings, our time is uncertain. Live in the present and cherish it.
I'd rather struggle at home around family. Build small in all the chaos we face in Africa. It has a better pay. Even if it takes time. I'd rather risk at home. Than abroad.
This is very interesting. I’m 31 and very intentional about what I want with my life. Ultimately I would move back home in about 5-7 years to become an executive in the business world. My sojourn in the west is to help me gain the advantage and experience I need. Which is why I came here to attend an Ivy League masters degree and work in world class institutions while I wait for my papers. But your video is a wake up call for me to focus on the long term while hustling so thanks
It takes alot of courage to be this vulnerable. Living in Germany ten years now, turning 40 this year and i can relate to how you feel from relocating with alot of ambition, getting a child and having no support, your children's home being this foreign land that you feel disconnected to. Longing for home but seeing no future there in the short time and and and..... A real dilemma
I've lived in America for over 20 years and I can relate to much of what you're saying. I've never really considered settling in my country Kenyan. Although I don't feel at home here, I don't want to return to a dysfunctional government, dysfunctional Healthcare system, corruption and watching so my people suffer since they can't find work. Until our countries change and become tolerable, I'm afraid our people will continue to look for a way out. Most of my siblings and my parents died because they couldn't get good Healthcare, even if they could afford it. The hospitals are understaffed, the medical professionals aren't given the right equipment and they're underpaid. No one can get good service under those conditions
You have a role to play in making Kenya a better place than you left it . America has a bad health care system compare to its European counterpart. Home remain the best. Bring back what you learnt in the 🇺🇸 and replicate it in Kenya thats how Kenya will grow .
@@GodwinOmmo I've invested in Kenya and the lives of many have been impacted because of my sacrificial giving. I know I couldn't have made such a difference if had stayed.
The issue is that us Africans view a job as the way to success. Unless you are a lawyer, doctor etc., a job isn’t the way - entrepreneurship is. The moment there is less demand for your skills, you will find a depression in wages and unemployment. Entrepreneurs are better equipped to adapt.
Thank you Girl. You have saved my life, I was about to enter the same trap. Thank God the scales have fallen from my eyes and I am going home. God bless you.
Been telling people this since 2014 . Everybody thought I was mad and because “Im English” “I don’t understand” i can see clearly where the wealth of this world is 🌍
You have great values and work ethic. I’m from London and feel the same as you and I was born here. Change mindset and be positive, god will look after you.
I'm born in the UK yet find your video very relatable. I had a highly successful business here until 3ovid & brexit destroyed everything. Now I'm 41 an feeling like a complete loser with zero motivation. I can wake up ready to take on the world but stepping outside into the grey,dull,wet & cold climate here is so depressing. Let alone the cost just to survive. I've just applied for a skilled work visa and will be finally leaving the UK in April. 🎉 Good luck with your next move. Great video ❤
@chinedunedosa8925 Not sure what you're confused about. After the closure of my retail business I returned to construction as I'm a Bricklayer by trade. There's multiple countries that are crying out for trades. An although the day rate / price is similar, I lose alot of days here due to the bad weather.
Hi Sister Thanks for sharing ur experience. Rest assured you are not alone and some like me are in even worst situation. Now am seriously thinking of selling my flat and giving the bank what I owe and take the equity left and RUN ASAP to start afresh and am 61 right now. GOD BLESS YOU
@geoffreyapenya551 sounds like a very good plan. Please just be mindful when you return home to ensure no one tries to take advantage. Please share your success story and outcome x
@LulusDiaries-b6i On returning home I think I will be a lot wiser as my kindness to my people played a part in my failure here. We need to accept that there're things we can't CHANGE and those you can ie MINDSET. Is like trying telling kids to avoid the mistakes you yourself made while growing up. They don't get it! My return will be about DAMAGE LIMITATION AND SURVIVAL . We CANNOT possibly continue like this surely...! It's criminal not to react... I will be in touch. God bless.
@geoffreya... Yes Run asap whilst still have LIFE in U! even if hav 2 Live in Tent! I'm born Enslaved (until UK Gov De-Naturalize Us All) U must hav sn Brit riots; how indigen ous Live?🤔Yr Expctatns Way Off. U livin@ perc cieved highr status alredy U Need sum Money most importnt is Healthymind know God🤴🏿&Fam🌅🏕!
@geoffreya... Yes Run asap whilst still have LIFE in U! even if hav 2 Live in Tent! I'm born Enslaved (until UK Gov De-Naturalize Us All) U must hav sn Brit riots; how indigen ous Live?🤔Yr Expctatns Way Off. U livin@ perc cieved highr status alredy U Need sum Money most importnt is Healthymind know God🤴🏿&Fam🌅🏕!
@geoffreya... Yes Run asap whilst still have LIFE in U! even if hav 2 Live in Tent! I'm born Enslaved (until UK Gov De-Naturalize Us All) U must hav sn Brit riots; how indigen ous Live?🤔Yr Expctatns Way Off. U livin@ perc cieved highr status alredy U Need sum Money most importnt is Healthymind know God🤴🏿&Fam🌅🏕!
As Africans, we've turned traveling abroad for work or study into a trend or status symbol. Initially, we left as economic migrants, which I view as a modern form of slavery designed to seem appealing but ultimately harmful in the long run. I'm really impressed with her for sharing her life experience. Many will gain valuable insights from her story, although some might believe it won't affect them the same way. Only time will tell. Honestly, after studying abroad, the ideal action is to return home, but making that decision is tough because so many back home aspire to be where you are. Only a few understand this and choose not to go abroad due to their fear of the unknown. Thank you for sharing your experience with us.
Sis, I really feel you. This resonate with me, I came to the UK at around the same time as you and my circumstances are just similar to yours at 43yrs of age feeling like a complete waste of my youth.
I understand what you’re saying as I’m in the same position. For me life is about choices and sacrifices. I’ve made decisions and sacrifices I can live with and I only focus on what I can control. As you said there’s a system to the UK and you must learn it as soon as possible and also teach your children it too. I share my highs and lows with my children so they understand the sacrifices being made. I also incorporate as much as possible my culture into my life and that of the children so they remember where they come from and don’t get lost in the system here. I work in a field that I believe is wide and you can easily transfer the skills to other fields. I purposely chose to do this having first went down a narrow career path. I regularly have this conversation with people about them choosing carefully what field you go down as if it’s too niche, and you then limit your future ability to pivot if needed. I have a few friends who have gone back home in their 50s having worked hard in the UK. You need to plan ahead and know what you want. Both of them had mortgages and children here. One person turned their mortgage to buy to let and rented out the house, their children are adults now so are doing their own thing. The other one does 6 months at home and 6 months in the UK. I plan to retire as early as I can (currently in my 40s) and move back to Africa or another country South of the Equator. My current ties to the UK will not hold me down as a slave, I will adapt and change as needed. You need to have a plan for your life but also enjoy your current life wherever you are in the world. E.g. Do you take time out to travel, go for a spa day, learn a new skill, have a hobby, volunteering etc. The more you experience different kinds of living the more you learn. It’s your life so get planning!
I couldn't agree with you more and I share your thoughts, like you say choices lead to consequences and sacrifices. I can work in most countries but it can only happen in a couple of years due to ties with my kids here in the UK. I travel a lot and try to enjoy my current life but it dawned on me recently that I need to do things intentionally for my future. Thanks once more let's stay in touch x
Travelling looks all good but it's the foundation of imprisoning yourself. The money you'll use for travels can help you buy properties in Nigeria or run other businesses. Have your business running so you never have to tie yourself to a country that you're regarded as immigrant and can take away your citizenship. Make money & travel for vacation there not as a home.
I want to move back to Nigeria with my children. The oldest is 15 years old. I have been taking to my children about relocation to. Nigeria. Initially they were resistant but now they are excited to move to Nigeria. We have started investing in Nigeria to build up wealth and to be be able to start a business so that we can give my children the standard of living in nigeria as in Uk. This is my 17 years in Europe and I believe that there is better quality of life in nigeria if you are in the middle class than in Europe. I have money but no enjoyments. I have got good clothes but no where to wear them to except church. But in Nigeria there is always parties man is a social being , I need to socialize and enjoy myself.
My sister nigeria is not it. Tinubu is destroying this place. No be social life you go use chop. Everyone is depressed, currency is bad and some places are dirty. I am not discouraging you but just giving you heads up . 1 pounds is 1900naira
Have you considered writing a book? If you, or any others reading this comment with similar experiences feel called to, please write about it. Not enough are writing their stories. As you may already know the classic book Second-Class Citizen by Buchi Emecheta. Your story and experiences are valuable. ❤️
Thanks for sharing. Your video is interesting and the fact that you mentioned "The Matrix" somewhere, I hope you will go down the rabbit hole. I'm not a New Age believer but all I can say is that what you are searching for lies within YOU. People may call what you just explained as "mid life crisis", but as an immigrant like you living in the UK, the issue of Identity crossed my mind a lot. I even wondered why can't I accept the reality and do what the Indians and Pakistanis do by bringing forth children and letting them live here then retire back home? What I’ve realized is that sometimes the next step isn’t outward, like moving to another country or finding an ‘escape plan,’ but inward, understanding who we are beyond the roles we’ve been playing: immigrant, worker, parent, etc. I used to tie my sense of worth to external success; career milestones, financial stabilit, a big house, a big car, etc but at some point, I started asking myself, "Who am I beyond all this?" It wasn’t easy, but reflecting on that question brought surprising clarity and, over time, a different kind of freedom. One thing that helped me was taking moments to pause and reflect, whether through journaling or just quiet time. I’d ask myself, "What do I truly want right now?" not what society expects, not what I think I should want, but what feels right for me in this moment. I've literally seen people pack their bags and go back home, only to return back to Europe after a couple of years, broke and then start playing hide and seek, not from the police but from their fellow compatriots. As Carl Jung put it, the Self can be really challenging especially if we haven't identintified our archetypes. Sometimes we think we know ourselves but until we unearth our deeper truths that are burried within our unconscious, we will continue battling with inadequacy, identity, worries, etc as our ego's and shadows consume us. Finally, I don’t have all the answers, but understanding myself better changed a lot for me, and maybe that’s something that could help you too.
I think you're right on the money there with looking inwards. The greatest thing the system robs us of is the energy to think clearly. You're too busy and stressed to really explore your mind and ask hard questions about the system itself. So you get caught in the rat race. We naturally follow the crowd, and that is exactly how the system gets us. I'm Ghanaian-British and live in Ghana with my dad, wife and child. We've decided to chart a different path even here because the values of the West are becoming very dominant here too. And it comes with similar side effects. So we're constantly reflecting on what is truly fulfilling and valuable outside this capitalist-consumerist cycle. So we live sustainably. We grow our own food (and trying to grow even more each season), harvest rainwater for all our water needs, subsidise our electric bills with solar, and are very mindful about spending. Not caring about all the new products and clothes, etc. So we keep our expenses low, have a simple lifestyle, and enjoy family, community, our garden and greenery, sunshine. And then we can save a bit on our relatively low or sporadic incomes and use that to feed back into our alternative lifestyle (because you can't completely escape the money system). And most importantly, we can think and breathe, because you're not griding and tired all the time! There's no chronic stress because we don't care what society's definition of success is. That's the first trap. Buying the dream. It's there to just enrich the few off of the hard work of the many.
The notion that life beings at 40 is just a myth,the key is to be content at whatever age we are and keep striving and doing our best with whatever we have on our plate.🙏🏾Mashalla --watch Leana Deeb on getting inspired!
I am a 40 year old female from Africa living abroad. I lived 20 years in Africa and it's been 20 years abroad. I have good job and love my life but I will say the dream for me is a remote job that's allows me to work from anywhere. Or runnable successful business where I can go solo so I can live 6 months back home, 6 months abroad. It doesnt have to be evenly split like that but just having the flexibility to be in either place whenever. To live back home I'd need a really good job because life back home is expensive, we use USD. Our economy is in shambles and the government cannot provide basic services like water and electricity so for sure I'd need a solar system, a generator, a borehole linked to the property's water pipes, wi-fi, cable and tight security.
I feel you , I’ve been in the uk for 4 years now and I know if I get a mortgage and start a family am stuck here so am renting and my plan is to go back home in 3 years because I’ve realised that’s where my heart is
There's nothing wrong in getting a mortgage, it's not a trap. You can rent out and use your rent to pay up your Mortgage,you can also even make extra money for yourself while it's on rent if you decide to relocate. As for Family, you can relocate with your family. It's not a trap
@@dubemezumba6365mind your business. Ppl are selling their homes all across the UK. It is not a wise time to buy a property in the UK due to a variety of reasons and there's no guarantee that renters will countinue paying high rent, especially as companies continue laying off staff. Also, mortgage prison (look it up) is a real thing. Do your due diligence before pouring money into thia system.
@@LulusDiaries-b6i dear sister don’t give up. See RUclips as an opportunity to make some money and if you have documents try by everything necessary to buy land and go build at least just 2 apartments of 2 rooms in your country. That is the best life insurance for your self and you and your family will never lack. Africa is our only hope, Europes economy is living on borrowed time 🕰️ trust me sister. It shall be well don’t give up, God bless you and your family
A lot of facts shared, I really don't believe there is right or wrong but staying abroad as an Afican as a retiree is so hard. I can't wait to hear success stories. Thanks again gorgeous
I have just watched a YT video, think it’s called ‘the introvert nook’, the lady was talking about retiring into loneliness. I can relate to facing a dilemma about relocating to Africa or staying here to bond with grandchildren!
Hi there, I just left Europe to start life again in Africa. I understand completely how you feel which is also why I moved back. There is still time left. Don't lose hope. The first step is realizing that you are not where you want to be (which you have done) and the following is to make steps towards where you would like to be. Focus and work towards what you know you want. And don't compare yourself to those back home...it does not help.
Your friends will look at you and say the same thing. Having lived on both sides, I'd say the grass is always greener on the other side. If I have any advice for people who still have the chance in the diaspora, start a business and don't rely on your job. It opens up your options.
This is exactly what I’ve been talking about for years. I’ve been in the states for almost 16 years after leaving Italy with my family. My family look at me crazy when I tell them I’m leaving the states to move back home.
Learning to count our blessings makes us thankful and less complaining. You have a husband, 4 children, roof over your head, good health,a career infact you are better off than 80% of your pairs. You should be grateful.
Literally. She comes off as so ungrateful. She has everything so many people want. Im 25 and want to start a family so badly, I would love to have a family and house like she has and be finished university ! It’s like when celebrities complain about their lives because “everyone has it hard in their own way” my god just be grateful
You guys are missing it....she isn't ungrateful but in a situation she regrets which is not living in her mother land. You won't understand until you are in her shoes. So please quit judging
@@sylviculture you assumed that I’ve never been in her shoes and you know nothing about me. I’m currently in the uk, I left my home country as well so you can zip it
I think I like your point. Not being judgemental, but can this lady also tell us how many of her so called mates that she is comparing herself with that have departed this earth? How many are way lower than her? How can she tell that one of those times she was ill in the UK and she was given the right treatment, she would have survived it in Nigeria? Also one thing I think is a bit deceptive for people who have gotten their indefinite leave to remain and talk about being better off if they had been in Nigeria, they are not the same as those they are trying to lecture/ hailing them, if this lady does go back and for example there is war, pandemic etc, she is not on the same level as other people hailing her. The UK government will send a plane to take all her citizens, including her. Let's learn to count our blessings. What structure did she have when she was here? Who were her advisors? There are many success stories here, from nothing to owning business empires, so every ones line is different, like I said most importantly, who were her advisors?
Not sure why RUclips recommended this video. I watched through and no doubt your heartfelt experiences what I can say is that in all that is said are gems of opportunities it all depends on attitude and mindset. I wish you all the best as you navigate those challenges.
This resonates with me as a Nigerian living abroad. Came to the U.S. 21 years ago with a lot of passion and ambition. Went to college. Got married, became a citizen Had a very nice job in the banking industry until I lost it as a result of employees being compelled to go back to the office after COVID. Couldn't go back fulltime to the office due to issues with childcare (taking kids to school, picking them up, helping with their homework). It dawned on me during COVID lockdown that I had to find an exist out of the 9-5 gig, and, perhaps, out of the western world. Glad I found an option in the stock market. Please don't beat yourself down. Remember: difficult roads lead to beautiful destinations.
After careful planning, we will soon JAPADA back to 9ja from the United States for semi retirement. Any Pesin wei work for 2 or 3 decades abroad & return to home country, simply means that individual or family are SMART-get Wayo. Enjoying in 9ja while getting Pension, Social Security, 401K and income from investments from abroad na ginger. For us work is going to be 💯% optional. Can do volunteer work! Right now 90% of prep is done & looking forward to it. Will always return for visit❤
Very true. Only a few people succeed in this country. I’ve been here for over 23 years and when I go back home it seems I’ve been in slumberland like the legendary giant who slept almost his whole life, only waking up to see how far gone civilisation was and how far behind he was! Back home most people I know live their best lives, they have renovated their houses, drive the latest SUVs, their children have moved into lush suburbs! Everything seems new and above all, they are happy!
The system is not designed to make you 😂 successful in our African Style. It is designed to keep you working and contributing. Socialism! That's why you have all those rules to prevent you from jumping from one class to another. Immigrant class is a thing. No lies there...
Very good vlog! Could have would have is always on our minds. And it's best never look back as it's mostly pain regrets and tears. You've achieved what millions can only dream off. Cherish what you have and be thankful for what you have, and you'll have a peaceful life. Good luck 🤞
There no sweet spot.... I moved back home ...... U need to get a pen& biro , calculate ur life abroad( income & expenses).... do the same for back home for a managable life. I was a cemap mortgage qualified adviser in the Uk at 27 in year 2005....so i could see how much clients would pay in the long run. I had some famly issues around the credit crunch period so moved home as an only son.... I must admit i miss my potential UK income.....but i dont miss that cold gloomy weather. I manage a small biz and live on a budget.. Moved into mycompleted house 2 years ago, its not in the choicest area but if my funds permit. I will try and build another in a fancy area😂.. I wish i was into something like I.T where u can work from anywhere but im not. Im 46 now...we all have issues tho some people wont tell u. Thanks for sharing your content
@tigerlanzo8641 thanks for sharing your journey so far. I picked on something you said, wishing you were in tech (it's not too late to switch). 46 is young, all the best
I am 50 and as an adult have worked professional jobs and started businesses both in the US, and in africa at different times of my life, so take this advise from me -No one has it all figured out not even the ones who seem to have everything working perfectly in their favor. Life is a continuous journey, and as humans, we must keep moving forward, no matter the challenges. Celebrate your achievements, no matter how small, and take pride in how far you've come. At the same time, keep striving for more, knowing that growth is a process. The key is to balance gratitude for what you've accomplished with the drive to keep pushing toward your goals.Nowhere is perfect, and life remains a mystery. Some thrive back home, while others find success abroad. No matter where you are, the reality is that bills still need to be paid. Over time, I've come to the realization that the key is to do your best wherever you find yourself. If things don't work out, don't be afraid to pivot and try something else. It's far better to try, stumble, and rise again than to live with the heavy weight of regret for never trying at all. Life is about learning, adapting, and making the most of every opportunity-one step at a time. Love and light
The worst thing is most of the kids we sacrifice for don’t even make any better lives ..just a few become better,most of them turn to rappers and smokers 😂…my son doesn’t want to work,he wants to play basketball and he is almost 30, my daughter has become somthing I can’t recognise ,already with two kids at 23 ,with an idiot boyfriend.. and when I travel back home and see my brothers kids ,doctors ,lawyers etc ,I cry ..don’t ever say you are here for your kids,don’t ever say that,the best you can give to your kids is good values not uk passports, the destiny of the kids are not in our hands .. my father used to tell me to find money and come back home some 30years ago and I didn’t listen .. I stayed here because of my kids,and today I regret it, because these kids are no better I’m sorry Daddy 😢..RIP
A ugandan in USA here..We indeed share similar challenges in the diaspora.Their systems are like jail,they trap you and once trapped it is hard to get out.Stay strong sister.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and fears. It draws my mind to the same unanswered questions and thoughts. For me, my government failed some of us who would have loved to return to our country.
Oh keep waiting for the government 😂 You go wait tire. God forbid me letting criminal politicians determine my destiny. Literally planting me where I don't want to be because of their failures. No, I can't give anyone control over my life.
I know how you feel, I have been in the UK for 21 years, i managed to build a very good house back home with some landed properties and very good business. But still here in the UK. I can't wait to go back home, although i would like to spend some time here during summer.
Life is a mystery! Life is spiritual! People that succeed in life in most part will attribute their success to their efforts. When I look back on my personal decisions over these years, I think I made the right decisions but the income is not proportional to those decisions. Life is not always “ garbage in, garbage out”. Life is a mystery and spiritual. After living in the US for 16 years now I can attest to this that there are so many variables we can’t account for.
Anyone thinking of starting a business in Africa, please plan very very well. Remember that the purchasing power of Africans here is very low. Please keep that in mind.
I feel your struggle sis. I'm in the same boat as you. I was never interested in emigrating from my home country Nigeria in my early life till late 20s when life in Nigeria became difficult and hopeless. Decided to travel out 12years ago, moved to UAE then to Canada 10 years ago. Worked hard, became Canadian citizen and fairly successful. But, there's always that feeling that I don't belong here for various reasons including the cold climate, high cost of living and discrimination. So I'm stuck in this bubble of life for now. In regards to your mortgage, do you know you can always sell your house? It can be difficult to do but it's possible.
The GOD of heaven will guide you and fill every void in your heart and life in JESUS name. You will not be stuck in JESUS name. Be bold and do what is necessary for your peace and progress. Shalom!
i hear you .. i dey canada .. me to commot niaja back in 91 .. ( i moved because my papa get job as professor for here ) i went back to naija for the first time back in nov 2024 .. and i was really feeling and resonating with wetin our sister talk for this video .. we left paradise.. to come live in this god forsaken cold places.. the food no good, weather is nonsense .. and dem even dey under-pay us and racial abuse us and our pikins with impunity .. we need to collectively do what we can to make our homeland better.. so we can stay .. i am planing my exiit .. I don tire for oyinbo land .. i will rather be home anyday .. and i am moving back as soon as possible.. Also we need to tell the truth about the realities of japa life .. Most folks lie and gloss over the hardships // and also i find that many folks back home dont want to hear that things are hard here.. they think we are lying to them. so we can keep all the money and gold to ourselves.. lol meanwhile i see so many foreign folks. moving to niaja to make a good life and live better than they could live in their own countries. in our soil .. we are like a fine girl or boy in school .. who is also brilliant .. but somehow a bully has convinced us that we are ugly and no get sense .. there is nothing.. i repeat nothing.. that any of us should be doing outside of our homeland .. We have everything .. but we have been brainwashed to believe that paradise is in oyinbo land .. people wey no go do simple jobs for niaja. wey go pay descent money .. go gleefully come clean knash for oyinbo land ..
I came to USA on student visa. Call me crazy but after 18 years, i am moving back. I am a naturalized US citizen and so is my family. I work in a bank in IT sector and make a good living. Bought a house and raised family. So i am living an American dream. But happiness was back home. I am glad i could make that decision. I could not live my life just grinding and paying bills.
I can relate to how you feel. It’s hard to stay motivated when you aren’t happy in the current environment, even if I loved my job I still wouldn’t be happy in this country.
I am Ghanaian living in the US. I will be retired from my work next year 2026 after 20 years of employment. I will be 50 years old. My monthly retirement and other compensation estimated at $6500 for life. I want to move back to Africa but I have two children in school that I am not sure if I should wait and let them finish college then move back home. They 14 and 7 year old. That is a long time for me to wait till they done with college so I am also currently trap.
awww i'm 22, and studying in Germany- also as an international student and this might not mean anything but please don't feel so low of yourself. You are not a Loser! sometimes you might feel you haven't done much with your life, but if you look back you've come quite far. the grass always seems greener on the other side, but like someone else in the comments said, there is no sweet spot.
Yes, absolutely very wise statement from a 22 year old. I am so proud of you. But son/ daughter, she's wasn't saying she's a loser in terms of economic and material things. She got it all but she isn't happy and fulfilled in the system she's living.
Thank you for the video - first and foremost you are NOT a Loser.This has been your journey!Ive been in the Diaspora 30yrs we all have our struggles but Id like to encourage you to focus on on your achievements.Life can end anytime anywhere,simply enjoy your life as best as you can do not look at others!Take art!
Very brave of you to put this out there but I agree with you 100% and I hope many, many Africans coming to Europe could watch this. Mos of us Africans have been conditioned to think that the only good place to live is Europe but the truth is, those days are gone. In Europe you have to fight and bleed for every penny, just to see it all go out of your bank account on bills. I'm in my early 30s and came here with wild dreams as well and after uni I stayed, the sad part is... people who looked up to me, people I wrote assignments for, people I tutored went back home after uni and like you said, the life they live is a life I can dream of. At the moment, the ONLY thing keeping me in this place is pride, but I am working on accepting my choices and gathering up the courage to go back and start from scratch. I made a modest life in LDN, no kids or mortgage yet, surely I can build from zero back home! Good luck to us. 2025 is our time.
Coming back home means getting off the high horse you got on in the west. Fact is that we all fai to remember that colonial powers had slave labour to build the foundation for the "good life" we enjoy while out there. This "good life" is still bait thst gets us to volunteer as modern day slaves. We don't want to put in the work required and we don't have access to slave labour. Folks get reach off us by feeding off our perceived need for stuff we really don't need. I think you have to examine yourself to determine what's important to you. Sometimes we need to strip ourselves of the "keeping up with the neighbor" syndrome to find our individual paces in life. My needs include a roof over my head, good education for my kids (good quality doesn't necessarily mean expensive), a vocation I can live on with my family and find fulfillment in. Any other thing is secondary. Visit the average village in Africa and you'll see how many people live on much less than you'd consider "worthy" of you.
Couldnt have said it any better. You hit it right on the nail. This is the real problem Africans especially have. they forget these basics. Life at your own pace. Dignity for your humanity.
Im 45 years old, living in USA 🇺🇸, i came to this country 22 years ago and I don’t have anything 😔, 18 years I worked 7 days included holidays, no day off , also I don’t do drugs , drink , prostitution, gamble …. And again i have nothing, my family in my country is doing better than me , all these is just a lie, a scam , I trying to change this and go back to my country, hopefully you can too
I think you need a plan before you even go and work abroad. Many of us go and then end up in the matrix. No exit plan and continue on the treadmill till old, tired and washed up. Yes you can make money but people never take into account that you need somewhere to live, food transportation electricity, water etc. So many expenses that eat into the wages that you get. Hopefully you can get out soon. Good luck
I came here as a kid with parents and never feel at home snd wanting to leave ever since. Relationships, job opportunities and even thinking about getting a home are not worth it here.
I appreciate your advice and was wondering the same. Without you’re advice, I would be going blind into the future. I will put even more effort into my exit strategy
Life is a struggle, and until the day you die, you will struggle wherever you are. There are advantages staying in Nigeria, especially with family support. Reality is . can change in Africa. The Naria value has dropped massively. Inflation has gone up by between 300 to 500%. You get older, and the health care is non-existent. I have friends who stayed in Nigeria and in their 60s want to come abroad to hussle. My feeling is that you are trapped in the UK. Just get on with it. The grass is always greener no matter where you are.
People only see negativity to justify their self deceit. If you live decades in abroad, you should have some sort of health insurance in that country you could be going back yearly for routine test, imaging and receiving treatment.
You poked my catch 22 dilemma living here in the World Wide West(WWW) for now 20+ years! Your content tapped exactly what my mind has always been worrying about. Am on my way to 5th floor and my mind keep lying to me that time stopped moving when I left Africa 21 years ago and I will pick up where I left when I return back.
Your Dairy moved me to tears as it truly depicts the harsh reality most of us face and are afraid to discuss or share .Home is where we belong as the end game.No two way about it.
It was a good video, but a friend said she wished she had what you achieved because she is in her over 40s, came here in her 20 for studies, she achieved her masters but still now she have not received at status in UK still waiting for approval, she has not married yet, just experience betrayal and no children's yet. Sometimes what you have someelse is wishing to have what you have. That's why in life we just have to be grateful what we have
I love how you referred to moving back home as a "bold step". I know it can be hard in Nigeria but You see, studying in the UK equips you with a unique perspective that can make you very successful in Nigeria where the opportunities are just as endless as the problems.
Thank you for sharing . I'm an immigrant now a us citizen living in USA but I'm planning to back home. and I came to realise the fact that 99% of immigrant are facing the same situation. Some try to hide it on social media but they complaining behind door. Getting away is possible but it will required ressources and sacrfice . I know many couples who sold their cars and houses with morgage and they went back to africa with their kids to launch a local business. The only thing that belong to immigrant is the knowledge and skills they have learned in school.
I FEEL THE SAME WAY. I HAVE BEEN IN AMERICA FOR 27 YRS. I GOT MY EDUCATION , A HUSBAND & 2 KIDS(15&16YRS OLD). I WILL BE GOING BACK TO ZIMBABWE SOON. I AM EXTREMELY EXHAUSTED MENTALLY & PHYSICALLY.I NEED TO REST.
I think sob stories like this also go viral hence why i saw it, i dislike the weather here, the rest is good living although our fellow immigrants have turned some of the country into a shithole, go to Eastham in London, every train has fare dodgers, hopefully the money being saved is being reinvested back home properly and not just embezzled by relatives, you can build a good mansion back home, set up some rental properties and retire back home at 60 with pension and rental income, am 33 and will be somewhere sunny when am 60 hopefully healthy enough and comfortable, i will hopefully have only one child or 2 atmost So Help me god, ive been in a position without papers and still wouldnt go back to the dysfunctional country i came from
@jakelister5152 I think our countries have a major part to play in the immigrant struggles wanting to relocate abroad in search of so called greener pastures
Thanks for sharing. Your story hit back home. I can related well, but the difference is that, I have a lot of skills but it can be challenging working using those skills simultenously to create a business or businesses.
@@LulusDiaries-b6i At least I am following your channel. I will reach out to you in the future about a project if I don't forget and if you would be up for it.
There is but also don't forget that these videos are not only a reflection of my status but of several immigrants and they should start the thought process on what we should expect should we choose to stay abroad x
@@LulusDiaries-b6ias a white European woman I've been here in the UK for the last 23 years, and I don't have one single English friend male or female. The immigrants that are accepted into the English set of friends or into English families for friendship and support are in my experience the ones that get married to an English man or of if male to an English woman. This is from my personal experience and what I've observed while living here.
@@LulusDiaries-b6iWe should avoid being negative.We should be positive,focus and purposeful.The reason many immigrants face a lot of problem in diaspora, is due to lack of planning and purpose.We need to understand how the system works.Whether being abroad or at home is relative to an individual person.We need to be at the right place at the right time and maximise opportunities available to us.
False positivity is not helpful. Suppressing the real emotions - specific the negative emotions - leads to mental issues and stress. It’s important to be real - and this includes feeling the positive AND negative emotions
Comparison is truly the robber of joy and the grass is always greener on the other side. Happiness is internal, not external. There will always be pros and cons, no matter where you are. For me, the most important thing is access to good healthcare. I lost four loved ones due to poor healthcare back in Africa. When friends back home have to have fundraisers to collect hundreds of thousands of dollars to pay for life-saving operations abroad for their kids, I am thankful, that through the health insurance contributions I pay, I can access the best healthcare. I am thankful for that.
Just saw your video from the recommended section. I think Africans in the diaspora who want to return should have some entrepreneural drive to them because such qualities are rewarded in many African countries. I couldn't help but notice how you kept mentioning the need to look for a job once you return? Why not create something with the pounds/dollars/Euros made that side? I say this because the biggest reason many leave the continent is to seek better work opportunities abroad. I many also be naive on this because I'm self employed and am always looking for ways to make money. The ease at which it is to hustle here suits my style better. As corrupt and inefficient as many of our governments are, the fact that I can just start a business today and get it going is something I love about living in Africa. My currency is not as powerful as western countries and I have to apply for visas to visit there, but I live in a big house and can afford to have someone else come and clean it, take care of my pool and garden, etc. Something that is a luxury in western countries.
I'm a Brirish citizen. The UK has some amazing places to visit and live, but the 6 month winters where it gets dark at 4pm kill me! I'm also 32 and have no house. Probably would never be able to buy one on my salary independently. IDK where my life is going tbh 😂 but I feel you ❤❤❤❤❤
@LulusDiaries-b6i whatever that is bothering you In terms of how u planned ur life , pls pray to God Almighty, he will take charge and change ur situation ..As human beings my dear we only pray and leave the rest to God .NO matter what u face or see u are still a million times better than others. Sometimes life itself is kind difficult cos every one has a story to tell
Let us not be the victims of our circumstances please, we have control. Good plan is the key and never give up. Where there’s a will there’s a way. It’s possible it is possible, think outside the box
I can't thank you guys enough for all your support, emails, messages, suggestions and love. I hardly struggle to find words, but you guys my community have left me short of words a few times.
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thanks once more and please let me know if there is any specific topic on life in the diaspora or as a 40 year old you want me to share.
You look amazing for a 40 year old babe. I got married at 42, had my first baby at 44 and I’m so grateful to God for my life and loved ones. It’s never too late. It’s just timing and alignment and growing into the best version of ourselves.
@lamlat24 thanks babe, very encouraging and yes life is no sprint ❤️
Was gonna say. She’s not losing in the looks department. She looks nowhere near 41.
When I was young it was everyone dream to get a UK visa. But now that I have been in UK for 30 years, I can see that everyone who stayed at home is generally better off than those who went abroad. Because most of us only considered the financial aspect. But so many other things make life in Africa better than in Europe.
No. They aren’t better off. Money is needed EVERYWHERE you go. But go and ask them there. They will disagree and are always asking for money. When you go there, you are living off British currency that’s why you think it’s better. Go there. Live on that currency. Then you will quickly remember why everyone wanted to come to the UK/ the west to begin with. It’s because you’ve now got it, that why you probably don’t appreciate it. On another note… I’m saying this as a British citizen who was born here (my mother got here through marriage to my father who is British). Im speaking from the lense of a citizen. I don’t know what it’s like for immigrants. Maybe it’s harder. Who knows.
@gani2an1 you are right that lots of people back home are better off than those who move abroad. Same thing in the caribbean
@gailainsley6939No not true. I have lived there a few years too, they have a much better family and social orientation than we in the diaspora. Money isn’t everything.
@gailainsley6939It's because you didn't have to struggle like immigrant immigrants face a lot to survive
The ones I know that move back to Nigeria from United States are doing well. I am joining them
Pretty soon❤
Things new immigrants don’t realise about abroad
The loneliness, lack of community, no relatives , no events or parties and difficulty finding a marriage mate because everyone is chasing pounds
I now understand how some people actually die on their own in their house and nobody notices for months or years
@daliaa5294 I couldn't put it any better. Lease, of life and relationships, are a big part of being happy and productive. I have faced this loneliness enough times
Absolutely 💯 well said.
Terrifying.
This is very true 👍
@@ritzrn630Lucky you
The UK IS NOT AN EASY PLACE TO BE AT ALL, THE LONELINESS IS NOT EASY, PEOPLE DON'T CARE THEY ONLY CARE ABOUT £, AND THE MATERIAL THINGS THEY OWN GOD HAVE MERCY IT IS WELL MAYBE GOD HAVE A DIFFERENT PLAN FOR YOU
I am glad i left UK a week after writing my last exam, no regrets at all. Also 41 and no debt, built my houses from scratch, much much bigger than the houses I lived in UK. Managed to become self employed at 37.
I left after my dissertation. I am working now. I no longer get anxious about meeting up with bills. I am able to live a cheap life and pay into my Investment account. I'm able to start a business and own property. I will be financially free during my lifetime.
You've done well. I relocated 15 months ago- no regrets. Loving it.
@josh3221ify wonderful! That's glad to hear. What is your business in, if you don't mind me asking? Love the fact you went back x
@@shieyawe3691 inspiring
where did you relocate to?
I am a uk trained nurse. Lived and worked as a slave for 30 years. I am 57 years. I relocated to Nigeria at exactly 50 years. My children school fees paid for in uk boarding schools. They attended
best universities and MBAs were done. Two marriage breakdowns due to stress of life in uk. I was loosing myself despite i was making money in my job.
In 2016, I packed my bags. I am the happiest living human in Nigeria. So happy i made the decision to relocate back home. No regrets at all. It wasn't all jolly at home, but with perseverance, you will be happier in the long run.
Life is better and sweeter at home, if you can endure.
Even, my children don't want to live in uk/USA ( my daughter lives in USA). They hate it .
Please come home oooo. God will continue to help us.
When I need a bit of foreign currency, I go and do some shifts and cone back to my country.
Mama tha Mama, I like your vibes 😅
I like your plan, maybe we can chat more 😉
WOW! Please start a coaching business. Many need your counsel.
It be nice. .go back home and do self employment before you leave UK. If a place is not serving you happiness go back. Can you rent your house or lease it? You have sometime to think. Make sure you pray. Make sure you have a relationship with God. For Wisdom and Discernment.
😂 your energy sweet!
I am a citizen but I took my eldest back to Africa for two years. Since I bought her back here, her mental health has declined. She misses the community style of living and the loneliness is overwhelming. The quality of life is so low here. I plan to move back for good this year. The UK is a place to survive not thrive.
@yvie9627 indeed a place to survive not thrive. Good luck and hope your daughter feels happy once you go back.
Welcome 😊😊
Exactly. I'm British but travelled for work around the world UK is expensive and as an educated person, it pays poorly (I was a scientist). I went back for 2 years 6 years ago, and couldn't stand it. Poor quality of life. I'm now living in Africa and have built a house, with plenty land. Africa is a growing adolescent, UK is an infirm old man.
So true!
Ya because they have high taxes, you didn't think the welfare system, health care, schools and police, legal system, roads are actually free did you??
I ve learnt never to compare myself against anyone and society s standards. Life is material. We are not taking any of our possessions and or accolades with us when we pass on. Don t sweat the small stuff. Hugs❤
You have cracked the code.
As much as I want and aspire for more, I don't compare myself with others.
All fingers are NOT going to be ever equal for a reason.
I have Christ and He provides and that's all that matters to me.
Not judging her for wanting or aspiring for more.
Each to their own.
When you are on your death bed, none of these things would matter.
Live your OWN life and be happy with what you currently have available ❤❤❤
Soooo True!!!!!❤
Comparison is the thief of joy,and the main cause of depression and stress.I remind myself of this every day.
@@maggien222absolutely correct 👍🏾 she is just comparing herself with the people back home and that will lead nowhere. People in Africa have their own problems and struggles like health and security and corruption
You are not a loser my sister…
20 years in uk this year. Cleaned dishes at a restaurant in evenings and worked toilet attendant in a night club 3 nights a week for 3.5 years while studying and then sitting and passing some 14 tough accounting exams. No big regrets, did what i had to do and satisfied with where am.
@OG-dp1kx own your story! I love your dedication in acquiring your accounting exams.
Please I hope you see this message.
I am also studying accounting and about to leave for my masters to Denmark. Can you PLEASE give me a pathway and an advice on what to do and how you excelled in the field.
@@god7418where are you currently? Accounting qualifications is super important. Find out what the qualifications recognised in that country. Also find out what the requirements to get a work visa.
Let me know if you want to talk about it. I am an accountant myself but not in Denmark
@@odunadeyt I recently just completed my residence and work permit as a student application and would be leaving this month ending
I'm an American living in Lagos, Nigeria. It's a much better life here in so many ways.
Awww very nice to hear. I am so glad you find home in Lagos 🎉
Enjoy!
How about safety?
It's my wish to visit lagos someday
@@TropicalLatitude glad to hear, care to pls send me an email so we can discuss further on your perspective? luludiaries83@gmail.com
I am second gen British but my parents went back home and my life is different. I have paid off my mortgage, our children are well brought up, we have four, no debts. Hope this encourages someone . It’s not all doom and gloom in England. I have other challenges that no one will want to take on, but England is not one of my problems. All the best, it gets better, to be fair those back home have issues as well. My parents never wanted to live here and my siblings are British but live in Nigeria. Our kids are well grounded and we have testimonies to that. They have the teachings of Christ and thank God they have kept to it. All the best.
@deelawyer6638 well done, your foundations were built very solid with the right orientation 👏🏿
Well said ,as Indian I too approve this comment,when we back home it is the same because people mind their own business not much socialising as earlier days in my experience.make sure you have PR here before think to move back ,sometimes it may not work out back home.so always have second plan❤
I totally agree with your comments. Going back home is alright if you are a home owner here, and you can sell up. However if you are a pensioner, living abroad, is not always easy, Health care, cost money abroad. The heat, the economy, the people you knew when you were young back home, are not the same. Crime in Jamaica is terrible. So please be mindful of your decision to rush back home. England isn't a bed of roses, but at least you know it. Think twice, and think again. Too many returned residents have been killed in Jamaica. 😢😮
Second génération will hardly have it as tough. Somebody paid the price. I am not saying there aren't positive first génération stories. Just highlighting the fact that this conversation is really about first génération immigrants and their struggles.
@@ofirazhub2468 Agreed 100% 2nd gen s will only know that as their true home…because it is.
Take it from me, who is black British born.
I would advise anyone who is foreign or black from another country to not move to the UK.
The government is messed up, The cost of living is absolutely ridiculous, a lot of people have problems with "immigrants coming here and stealing their jobs". Plus Brexit, which has made things 3x more difficult. Since Britain is now out of the European Union.. They have a blue passport. So rules and regulations in terms of travel and staying in European countries, is a lot different compared to the other European countries that have the traditional maroon/red European Union passports.
The rate the government is going through right now it will be a lot harder I think for immigration. Also the benefit system is very cutthroat. Universal credit should be renamed universal death credit. Because many people who are on benefits who have no choice because they are unemployed, find it very difficult. I used to claim benefits on universal credit, even if I were to become unemployed, I would be very apprehensive to claim universal credit. I hate the new system.
The weather in the UK is absolutely shit. Especially in the winter, It can get as cold as -10.. most days it's just clouds and rain.. which will not help to mental health It will slowly make you feel miserable.
You barely get sunshine. You can get decent days maybe from April to around September time. But the heat is the equivalent to being inside your house and having the heating on max. It's a very muggy heat, no breeze with it.
The people depending where you live particularly if you go down south like london are miserable. But if you go up north, They are a lot more pleasant.
Costs will just increase and increase. If you do a below national average job, It might be a struggle for you. And you would be living on the breadline month after month.
In order to live comfortable, you want be on £2,000-£2,500 a month. Even if you're a single person.. but it can vary depending on location.
Some properties are nice, But I don't think you get your money's worth, In the UK you pay more for less. Whilst in other more decent parts of Europe, You pay less for more.
I would definitely advise for any immigrant that wants to migrate into Europe, avoid the UK.. and go for Spain or Portugal. At least you get sun, The cost of living is a bit more cheaper. And They are within the European Union.
It's up to you what you do, But don't kid yourself in terms of having ambition of moving to the UK, Because it's not as cracked up as its advertised.
@Ma21L love all your points! In fact, it felt like I was reading my own comment. I'll love to have a chat with you off line, this is my email pls luludiaries83@gmail.com
@@LulusDiaries-b6i yes of course. That'll be great 👍🏾
I'll pop you an email later on
Smart Africans build a retirement or even middle age, in Africa.
What I do not understand is the terrible strategy that Africans have when they come to the UK, US, or Canada. My family did the same thing. They have been coming to these countries for years and they always have a terrible strategy.
I knew an African immigrant that migrated to Canada and he had the right strategy. He built 4 houses in Uganda, saved money and will be returning to Africa in a couple of years.
The strategy should always be to get in and get out. Not get in get a PHD, suffer and then kick the bucket broken and demoralized.
Happy New Year. Spot on with your analysis as I huddle in 6 layers, woollen scarf & blanket - INDOORS. Oh, & two hats.
English hijab! It distresses me that Africans, whether Windrush or Johnny-Come-Lately, struggle economically in a country which was built on African blood, sweat, toil & resources. As for "migrants stealing our jobs" Complete tosh. The NHS has an 80% staff deficit, according to official figures. And what about agriculture, restauration, education, etc.
Africans must "emancipate ourselves from mental slavery", to misquote Ahad Ha Am, Marcus Garvey & Bob Marley. We must all grow an entrepreneurial spirit, both on the continent & abroad.
This is an honest story from our wonderful lady. It's unfortunate that Africans especially Nigerians who God bless their lands will have to be trapped in what i call ' comfort prison' abroad. Yes there's comfort but no freedom. We all should join hands to build this God given beautiful continent.
@@bolasalak7360 agreed 👍🏿
Have you tried farming in Nigeria? @@LulusDiaries-b6i
This is the most honest, educative, insightful video I have ever watched on RUclips! Thank you for sharing. Please know that, you’re not alone in this! Most African immigrants are facing the same dilemma. My mantra is: Better be where your soul is at peace, than where you’re a slave, especially to a system. I’m packing my stuff now and ending this circus one and for all!
Good decision.
Well said.....all the best in your return journey!!
@@johnaxe4real wow all the best with your return pursuits. Please don't forget to share with us 🙏🏾
God, you've saved yourself from further mental health damages in this crazy place.
Thank you for this. This is confirmation for me. Literally quit my job last night after being here in the uk for 3 years. I Literally cannot go another month in this place. This is NOT life. This is NOT living. Thank you for making this video.
@@momonaturale awww good on you for making such a brave move. Please share your progress with us on your new life
You have to pay your dues, before the next stage. I hope you are not lazying out.
Fix up & get yourself together.
And don't emotionally quit.
For me as well. 5 years in Canada. I feel like i’ve been scammed. I planning to leave as soon as possible.
Moving abroad is never a walk in the park, it involves a lot of sacrifices and hardwork, if you’re not ready to pay the price then don’t leave Nigeria. Going back to Nigeria also needs you to make a out a plan, make sure you have something to fall back on to avoid any form of regret.
@@louisubebe9011 I am Nigerian, in my twenties and never knew my parents growing up. I own my business in the FCT and looking to hire more staff and expand to another bigger location.
This 'abroad' you people speak about is a *scam* ! Been all lied to and sucked into a form of modern day servitude to a country that doesn't and would never acknowledge or accept you, while waste there.
If I can put my leg in and say today I am happy, very happy in Nigeria and would never immigrate (even with the background I was born into) so can a majority of you who fall for the illusive scam.
Give your best to your country in Africa, even if it means sacrifices.
I truly understand your concern and frustration. My advice would be not to dwell on it too much. Compare the two situations, but focus on living your life. Back home, the systems are dysfunctional. You educate your children, and then you still have to struggle to find jobs for them. Running a business is incredibly challenging, and even securing contracts often involves compromising principles just to build connections. Sadly, young girls are turning to modern-day prostitution for survival.
That said, every part of the world has its own challenges these days. Treasure the time you have with your family and kids. Don’t let worry about the future consume you because, as human beings, our time is uncertain. Live in the present and cherish it.
@@HakimWalugembe-ss8gh I love how you present the facts and reality of life's uncertainty
I'd rather struggle at home around family. Build small in all the chaos we face in Africa. It has a better pay. Even if it takes time. I'd rather risk at home. Than abroad.
I went back home after 7 years of UK. I have never looked back. Best decision ever.
Good decision
This is very interesting. I’m 31 and very intentional about what I want with my life. Ultimately I would move back home in about 5-7 years to become an executive in the business world. My sojourn in the west is to help me gain the advantage and experience I need. Which is why I came here to attend an Ivy League masters degree and work in world class institutions while I wait for my papers. But your video is a wake up call for me to focus on the long term while hustling so thanks
You sound already very intentional about your long and short term plans here. I wish you the best
It takes alot of courage to be this vulnerable. Living in Germany ten years now, turning 40 this year and i can relate to how you feel from relocating with alot of ambition, getting a child and having no support, your children's home being this foreign land that you feel disconnected to. Longing for home but seeing no future there in the short time and and and..... A real dilemma
@@deotio2768 absolutely 💯 all hope is not lost
I've lived in America for over 20 years and I can relate to much of what you're saying. I've never really considered settling in my country Kenyan. Although I don't feel at home here, I don't want to return to a dysfunctional government, dysfunctional Healthcare system, corruption and watching so my people suffer since they can't find work. Until our countries change and become tolerable, I'm afraid our people will continue to look for a way out. Most of my siblings and my parents died because they couldn't get good Healthcare, even if they could afford it. The hospitals are understaffed, the medical professionals aren't given the right equipment and they're underpaid. No one can get good service under those conditions
@@mercyk2672 I believe your concerns are legit and shared by many
You have a role to play in making Kenya a better place than you left it . America has a bad health care system compare to its European counterpart. Home remain the best. Bring back what you learnt in the 🇺🇸 and replicate it in Kenya thats how Kenya will grow .
@@GodwinOmmothank you
You also need to participate in changing your country. Running away is not solving anything.
@@GodwinOmmo I've invested in Kenya and the lives of many have been impacted because of my sacrificial giving. I know I couldn't have made such a difference if had stayed.
The issue is that us Africans view a job as the way to success. Unless you are a lawyer, doctor etc., a job isn’t the way - entrepreneurship is. The moment there is less demand for your skills, you will find a depression in wages and unemployment. Entrepreneurs are better equipped to adapt.
@AJ_GH very true, we need to raise children with entrepreneurship in mind
As an african born lawyer- there is no money there either
Not everyone is born to be an entrepreneur though.
@@KamuSaladi yes maybe... but you dont depend on your boss to hire you, or the discriminations that most suffer...
Thank you Girl. You have saved my life, I was about to enter the same trap. Thank God the scales have fallen from my eyes and I am going home. God bless you.
❤❤❤❤ all the best dear
Been telling people this since 2014 . Everybody thought I was mad and because “Im English” “I don’t understand” i can see clearly where the wealth of this world is 🌍
@@JoelleSelway 👍🏿
Your not a loser,as fas as there is life,there is hope😢, sometimes we feel lost, for real 😥
You have great values and work ethic. I’m from London and feel the same as you and I was born here. Change mindset and be positive, god will look after you.
@@Desi_Gosi thanks loads, very appreciated x
I'm born in the UK yet find your video very relatable. I had a highly successful business here until 3ovid & brexit destroyed everything. Now I'm 41 an feeling like a complete loser with zero motivation.
I can wake up ready to take on the world but stepping outside into the grey,dull,wet & cold climate here is so depressing. Let alone the cost just to survive.
I've just applied for a skilled work visa and will be finally leaving the UK in April. 🎉
Good luck with your next move. Great video ❤
So sorry :( please keep going! I pray things get better!
@Jamie-lu2of wow so relatable our stories. Thanks for watching and good luck with your next move!
@Jamie-lu2of sis, im in the same situation. Im fighting hard
Born in UK? applied skilled worker visa? Leaving the UK? These don’t make sense
@chinedunedosa8925 Not sure what you're confused about. After the closure of my retail business I returned to construction as I'm a Bricklayer by trade. There's multiple countries that are crying out for trades. An although the day rate / price is similar, I lose alot of days here due to the bad weather.
Hi Sister
Thanks for sharing ur experience. Rest assured you are not alone and some like me are in even worst situation. Now am seriously thinking of selling my flat and giving the bank what I owe and take the equity left and RUN ASAP to start afresh and am 61 right now. GOD BLESS YOU
@geoffreyapenya551 sounds like a very good plan. Please just be mindful when you return home to ensure no one tries to take advantage. Please share your success story and outcome x
@LulusDiaries-b6i On returning home I think I will be a lot wiser as my kindness to my people played a part in my failure here. We need to accept that there're things we can't CHANGE and those you can ie MINDSET. Is like trying telling kids to avoid the mistakes you yourself made while growing up. They don't get it! My return will be about DAMAGE LIMITATION AND SURVIVAL . We CANNOT possibly continue like this surely...! It's criminal not to react... I will be in touch. God bless.
@geoffreya... Yes Run asap whilst still have LIFE in U! even if hav 2 Live in Tent! I'm born Enslaved (until UK Gov De-Naturalize Us All) U must hav sn Brit riots; how indigen ous Live?🤔Yr Expctatns Way Off. U livin@ perc cieved highr status alredy U Need sum Money most importnt is Healthymind know God🤴🏿&Fam🌅🏕!
@geoffreya... Yes Run asap whilst still have LIFE in U! even if hav 2 Live in Tent! I'm born Enslaved (until UK Gov De-Naturalize Us All) U must hav sn Brit riots; how indigen ous Live?🤔Yr Expctatns Way Off. U livin@ perc cieved highr status alredy U Need sum Money most importnt is Healthymind know God🤴🏿&Fam🌅🏕!
@geoffreya... Yes Run asap whilst still have LIFE in U! even if hav 2 Live in Tent! I'm born Enslaved (until UK Gov De-Naturalize Us All) U must hav sn Brit riots; how indigen ous Live?🤔Yr Expctatns Way Off. U livin@ perc cieved highr status alredy U Need sum Money most importnt is Healthymind know God🤴🏿&Fam🌅🏕!
As Africans, we've turned traveling abroad for work or study into a trend or status symbol. Initially, we left as economic migrants, which I view as a modern form of slavery designed to seem appealing but ultimately harmful in the long run. I'm really impressed with her for sharing her life experience. Many will gain valuable insights from her story, although some might believe it won't affect them the same way. Only time will tell. Honestly, after studying abroad, the ideal action is to return home, but making that decision is tough because so many back home aspire to be where you are. Only a few understand this and choose not to go abroad due to their fear of the unknown. Thank you for sharing your experience with us.
Thanks for watching and hopefully a few more understand the long term impact of choosing to study and stay
Thanks so much for sharing. This is the narrative of most of us. May God guide us to the right direction 🙏
@@paulineasumah3019 🙏🏾thanks for watching
Sis, I really feel you. This resonate with me, I came to the UK at around the same time as you and my circumstances are just similar to yours at 43yrs of age feeling like a complete waste of my youth.
We will find our paths
42 year old and relatively new immigrant in Canada here. Sister, I feel you in the deep of my soul. ❤
I don't believe you
I understand what you’re saying as I’m in the same position. For me life is about choices and sacrifices. I’ve made decisions and sacrifices I can live with and I only focus on what I can control.
As you said there’s a system to the UK and you must learn it as soon as possible and also teach your children it too. I share my highs and lows with my children so they understand the sacrifices being made. I also incorporate as much as possible my culture into my life and that of the children so they remember where they come from and don’t get lost in the system here.
I work in a field that I believe is wide and you can easily transfer the skills to other fields. I purposely chose to do this having first went down a narrow career path. I regularly have this conversation with people about them choosing carefully what field you go down as if it’s too niche, and you then limit your future ability to pivot if needed.
I have a few friends who have gone back home in their 50s having worked hard in the UK. You need to plan ahead and know what you want. Both of them had mortgages and children here. One person turned their mortgage to buy to let and rented out the house, their children are adults now so are doing their own thing. The other one does 6 months at home and 6 months in the UK. I plan to retire as early as I can (currently in my 40s) and move back to Africa or another country South of the Equator. My current ties to the UK will not hold me down as a slave, I will adapt and change as needed.
You need to have a plan for your life but also enjoy your current life wherever you are in the world. E.g. Do you take time out to travel, go for a spa day, learn a new skill, have a hobby, volunteering etc. The more you experience different kinds of living the more you learn. It’s your life so get planning!
Best comment 🎉
I couldn't agree with you more and I share your thoughts, like you say choices lead to consequences and sacrifices.
I can work in most countries but it can only happen in a couple of years due to ties with my kids here in the UK.
I travel a lot and try to enjoy my current life but it dawned on me recently that I need to do things intentionally for my future.
Thanks once more let's stay in touch x
Travelling looks all good but it's the foundation of imprisoning yourself. The money you'll use for travels can help you buy properties in Nigeria or run other businesses. Have your business running so you never have to tie yourself to a country that you're regarded as immigrant and can take away your citizenship.
Make money & travel for vacation there not as a home.
Which field/ area do you work in ?
I want to move back to Nigeria with my children. The oldest is 15 years old. I have been taking to my children about relocation to. Nigeria. Initially they were resistant but now they are excited to move to Nigeria. We have started investing in Nigeria to build up wealth and to be be able to start a business so that we can give my children the standard of living in nigeria as in Uk. This is my 17 years in Europe and I believe that there is better quality of life in nigeria if you are in the middle class than in Europe. I have money but no enjoyments. I have got good clothes but no where to wear them to except church. But in Nigeria there is always parties man is a social being , I need to socialize and enjoy myself.
Well said, Sis 👍 I am running 🏃♀️🏃♀️ as fast as I can to Abuja.
My sister nigeria is not it. Tinubu is destroying this place. No be social life you go use chop. Everyone is depressed, currency is bad and some places are dirty. I am not discouraging you but just giving you heads up . 1 pounds is 1900naira
So so true, can we reconnect further via email to get some insight into more info?
Your story touched me, almost brought tears to my eyes. It’s the unspoken hardship…But always keep a clean heart and you will win.
@yvonnedacosta599 Thanks, my dear
Have you considered writing a book? If you, or any others reading this comment with similar experiences feel called to, please write about it. Not enough are writing their stories. As you may already know the classic book Second-Class Citizen by Buchi Emecheta. Your story and experiences are valuable. ❤️
Thanks, haven't really thought about it but it does seem like a good suggestion, thank you x
Totally agree
Read it years ago! Thank you for the prompt & reminder. Write & record!
Thanks for sharing. Your video is interesting and the fact that you mentioned "The Matrix" somewhere, I hope you will go down the rabbit hole. I'm not a New Age believer but all I can say is that what you are searching for lies within YOU. People may call what you just explained as "mid life crisis", but as an immigrant like you living in the UK, the issue of Identity crossed my mind a lot. I even wondered why can't I accept the reality and do what the Indians and Pakistanis do by bringing forth children and letting them live here then retire back home?
What I’ve realized is that sometimes the next step isn’t outward, like moving to another country or finding an ‘escape plan,’ but inward, understanding who we are beyond the roles we’ve been playing: immigrant, worker, parent, etc.
I used to tie my sense of worth to external success; career milestones, financial stabilit, a big house, a big car, etc but at some point, I started asking myself, "Who am I beyond all this?" It wasn’t easy, but reflecting on that question brought surprising clarity and, over time, a different kind of freedom.
One thing that helped me was taking moments to pause and reflect, whether through journaling or just quiet time. I’d ask myself, "What do I truly want right now?" not what society expects, not what I think I should want, but what feels right for me in this moment. I've literally seen people pack their bags and go back home, only to return back to Europe after a couple of years, broke and then start playing hide and seek, not from the police but from their fellow compatriots.
As Carl Jung put it, the Self can be really challenging especially if we haven't identintified our archetypes. Sometimes we think we know ourselves but until we unearth our deeper truths that are burried within our unconscious, we will continue battling with inadequacy, identity, worries, etc as our ego's and shadows consume us.
Finally, I don’t have all the answers, but understanding myself better changed a lot for me, and maybe that’s something that could help you too.
I think you're right on the money there with looking inwards. The greatest thing the system robs us of is the energy to think clearly. You're too busy and stressed to really explore your mind and ask hard questions about the system itself. So you get caught in the rat race. We naturally follow the crowd, and that is exactly how the system gets us. I'm Ghanaian-British and live in Ghana with my dad, wife and child. We've decided to chart a different path even here because the values of the West are becoming very dominant here too. And it comes with similar side effects. So we're constantly reflecting on what is truly fulfilling and valuable outside this capitalist-consumerist cycle.
So we live sustainably. We grow our own food (and trying to grow even more each season), harvest rainwater for all our water needs, subsidise our electric bills with solar, and are very mindful about spending. Not caring about all the new products and clothes, etc. So we keep our expenses low, have a simple lifestyle, and enjoy family, community, our garden and greenery, sunshine. And then we can save a bit on our relatively low or sporadic incomes and use that to feed back into our alternative lifestyle (because you can't completely escape the money system). And most importantly, we can think and breathe, because you're not griding and tired all the time! There's no chronic stress because we don't care what society's definition of success is. That's the first trap. Buying the dream. It's there to just enrich the few off of the hard work of the many.
The notion that life beings at 40 is just a myth,the key is to be content at whatever age we are and keep striving and doing our best with whatever we have on our plate.🙏🏾Mashalla --watch Leana Deeb on getting inspired!
I am a 40 year old female from Africa living abroad. I lived 20 years in Africa and it's been 20 years abroad. I have good job and love my life but I will say the dream for me is a remote job that's allows me to work from anywhere. Or runnable successful business where I can go solo so I can live 6 months back home, 6 months abroad. It doesnt have to be evenly split like that but just having the flexibility to be in either place whenever.
To live back home I'd need a really good job because life back home is expensive, we use USD. Our economy is in shambles and the government cannot provide basic services like water and electricity so for sure I'd need a solar system, a generator, a borehole linked to the property's water pipes, wi-fi, cable and tight security.
You have just outlined my life plan by the special grace of God!!! 🙏🏾
Unfortunately it is hard to have it both way. One has got to choose. And I for one has chosen to stay in the west. At least until after retirement.
You must be from Zimbabwe or Nigeria
I like you path and mentality
Don't you lose that momentum!
@@newafricanforumYou are a quitter. Your comfort zone has won.
I feel you , I’ve been in the uk for 4 years now and I know if I get a mortgage and start a family am stuck here so am renting and my plan is to go back home in 3 years because I’ve realised that’s where my heart is
Very wise and interesting decision. What about your source of income or career after moving back?
There's nothing wrong in getting a mortgage, it's not a trap. You can rent out and use your rent to pay up your Mortgage,you can also even make extra money for yourself while it's on rent if you decide to relocate. As for Family, you can relocate with your family. It's not a trap
@@dubemezumba6365mind your business. Ppl are selling their homes all across the UK. It is not a wise time to buy a property in the UK due to a variety of reasons and there's no guarantee that renters will countinue paying high rent, especially as companies continue laying off staff. Also, mortgage prison (look it up) is a real thing. Do your due diligence before pouring money into thia system.
A very wise decision.
@@LulusDiaries-b6i dear sister don’t give up. See RUclips as an opportunity to make some money and if you have documents try by everything necessary to buy land and go build at least just 2 apartments of 2 rooms in your country. That is the best life insurance for your self and you and your family will never lack. Africa is our only hope, Europes economy is living on borrowed time 🕰️ trust me sister. It shall be well don’t give up, God bless you and your family
A lot of facts shared, I really don't believe there is right or wrong but staying abroad as an Afican as a retiree is so hard. I can't wait to hear success stories. Thanks again gorgeous
Interesting. Why is it hard?
I have just watched a YT video, think it’s called ‘the introvert nook’, the lady was talking about retiring into loneliness.
I can relate to facing a dilemma about relocating to Africa or staying here to bond with grandchildren!
@africanwomanvibes that's indeed a dilemma which hopefully one day we can crack the best way forward
Hi there, I just left Europe to start life again in Africa. I understand completely how you feel which is also why I moved back. There is still time left. Don't lose hope. The first step is realizing that you are not where you want to be (which you have done) and the following is to make steps towards where you would like to be. Focus and work towards what you know you want. And don't compare yourself to those back home...it does not help.
Thanks
Your friends will look at you and say the same thing. Having lived on both sides, I'd say the grass is always greener on the other side. If I have any advice for people who still have the chance in the diaspora, start a business and don't rely on your job. It opens up your options.
Truth! 💯😊
This is exactly what I’ve been talking about for years. I’ve been in the states for almost 16 years after leaving Italy with my family. My family look at me crazy when I tell them I’m leaving the states to move back home.
Jeez😢
Hmmmm! GOD will help you. Please, do not break down. You are a fighter. So, fight for the life you want. A stranger in Nigeria loves you. Cheers.
@Adebuea I can imagine! The expectations from our dearest makes things even harder and we do things to please others
@@LulusDiaries-b6i I know right. Unrealistic expectations as if we ourselves don’t have a life.
Learning to count our blessings makes us thankful and less complaining.
You have a husband, 4 children, roof over your head, good health,a career infact you are better off than 80% of your pairs.
You should be grateful.
exactly
Literally. She comes off as so ungrateful. She has everything so many people want. Im 25 and want to start a family so badly, I would love to have a family and house like she has and be finished university ! It’s like when celebrities complain about their lives because “everyone has it hard in their own way” my god just be grateful
You guys are missing it....she isn't ungrateful but in a situation she regrets which is not living in her mother land. You won't understand until you are in her shoes. So please quit judging
@@sylviculture you assumed that I’ve never been in her shoes and you know nothing about me. I’m currently in the uk, I left my home country as well so you can zip it
I think I like your point. Not being judgemental, but can this lady also tell us how many of her so called mates that she is comparing herself with that have departed this earth?
How many are way lower than her?
How can she tell that one of those times she was ill in the UK and she was given the right treatment, she would have survived it in Nigeria?
Also one thing I think is a bit deceptive for people who have gotten their indefinite leave to remain and talk about being better off if they had been in Nigeria, they are not the same as those they are trying to lecture/ hailing them, if this lady does go back and for example there is war, pandemic etc, she is not on the same level as other people hailing her. The UK government will send a plane to take all her citizens, including her.
Let's learn to count our blessings.
What structure did she have when she was here?
Who were her advisors?
There are many success stories here, from nothing to owning business empires, so every ones line is different, like I said most importantly, who were her advisors?
Not sure why RUclips recommended this video. I watched through and no doubt your heartfelt experiences what I can say is that in all that is said are gems of opportunities it all depends on attitude and mindset. I wish you all the best as you navigate those challenges.
@StirUpYourPurpose thanks 🙏🏾
This resonates with me as a Nigerian living abroad. Came to the U.S. 21 years ago with a lot of passion and ambition. Went to college. Got married, became a citizen Had a very nice job in the banking industry until I lost it as a result of employees being compelled to go back to the office after COVID. Couldn't go back fulltime to the office due to issues with childcare (taking kids to school, picking them up, helping with their homework). It dawned on me during COVID lockdown that I had to find an exist out of the 9-5 gig, and, perhaps, out of the western world. Glad I found an option in the stock market. Please don't beat yourself down. Remember: difficult roads lead to beautiful destinations.
@adol7577 I love it!!! Good luck, seems you found a good sweet spot
After careful planning, we will soon JAPADA back to 9ja from the United States for semi retirement. Any Pesin wei work for 2 or 3 decades abroad & return to home country, simply means that individual or family are SMART-get Wayo. Enjoying in 9ja while getting Pension, Social Security, 401K and income from investments from abroad na ginger. For us work is going to be 💯% optional. Can do volunteer work! Right now 90% of prep is done & looking forward to it. Will always return for visit❤
@@abdulidi733 sounds like you cracked the code! Would really love to hear your story ..
Very true. Only a few people succeed in this country. I’ve been here for over 23 years and when I go back home it seems I’ve been in slumberland like the legendary giant who slept almost his whole life, only waking up to see how far gone civilisation was and how far behind he was! Back home most people I know live their best lives, they have renovated their houses, drive the latest SUVs, their children have moved into lush suburbs! Everything seems new and above all, they are happy!
So true
The system is not designed to make you 😂 successful in our African Style. It is designed to keep you working and contributing. Socialism! That's why you have all those rules to prevent you from jumping from one class to another. Immigrant class is a thing. No lies there...
Enlightening. Thank you.💯💖🙏
Thanks for watching x
Very good vlog! Could have would have is always on our minds. And it's best never look back as it's mostly pain regrets and tears. You've achieved what millions can only dream off. Cherish what you have and be thankful for what you have, and you'll have a peaceful life. Good luck 🤞
There no sweet spot....
I moved back home ......
U need to get a pen& biro , calculate ur life abroad( income & expenses).... do the same for back home for a managable life.
I was a cemap mortgage qualified adviser in the Uk at 27 in year 2005....so i could see how much clients would pay in the long run.
I had some famly issues around the credit crunch period so moved home as an only son....
I must admit i miss my potential UK income.....but i dont miss that cold gloomy weather. I manage a small biz and live on a budget..
Moved into mycompleted house 2 years ago, its not in the choicest area but if my funds permit. I will try and build another in a fancy area😂..
I wish i was into something like I.T where u can work from anywhere but im not.
Im 46 now...we all have issues tho some people wont tell u. Thanks for sharing your content
@tigerlanzo8641 thanks for sharing your journey so far. I picked on something you said, wishing you were in tech (it's not too late to switch). 46 is young, all the best
Hello, may I speak to you on the mortgage cemap qualifications
I am 50 and as an adult have worked professional jobs and started businesses both in the US, and in africa at different times of my life, so take this advise from me -No one has it all figured out not even the ones who seem to have everything working perfectly in their favor. Life is a continuous journey, and as humans, we must keep moving forward, no matter the challenges. Celebrate your achievements, no matter how small, and take pride in how far you've come. At the same time, keep striving for more, knowing that growth is a process. The key is to balance gratitude for what you've accomplished with the drive to keep pushing toward your goals.Nowhere is perfect, and life remains a mystery. Some thrive back home, while others find success abroad. No matter where you are, the reality is that bills still need to be paid. Over time, I've come to the realization that the key is to do your best wherever you find yourself. If things don't work out, don't be afraid to pivot and try something else. It's far better to try, stumble, and rise again than to live with the heavy weight of regret for never trying at all. Life is about learning, adapting, and making the most of every opportunity-one step at a time. Love and light
@@onlinemoneyhub8513 Howdy....
You can send ur whatsapp/ email?
@twcc9853 This is a Golden priceless summary from you.
Where r u based now pls & what part of africa have u tried/done biz?
The worst thing is most of the kids we sacrifice for don’t even make any better lives ..just a few become better,most of them turn to rappers and smokers 😂…my son doesn’t want to work,he wants to play basketball and he is almost 30, my daughter has become somthing I can’t recognise ,already with two kids at 23 ,with an idiot boyfriend.. and when I travel back home and see my brothers kids ,doctors ,lawyers etc ,I cry ..don’t ever say you are here for your kids,don’t ever say that,the best you can give to your kids is good values not uk passports, the destiny of the kids are not in our hands .. my father used to tell me to find money and come back home some 30years ago and I didn’t listen .. I stayed here because of my kids,and today I regret it, because these kids are no better I’m sorry Daddy 😢..RIP
@FICChurch5126 so sorry to hear 😢 this! You are so right. We need to prioritise our kids' future lives 🙏🏾
A ugandan in USA here..We indeed share similar challenges in the diaspora.Their systems are like jail,they trap you and once trapped it is hard to get out.Stay strong sister.
@@Wazabanga1 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and fears. It draws my mind to the same unanswered questions and thoughts.
For me, my government failed some of us who would have loved to return to our country.
I totally understand you. It seems to be an issue shared by most of us! I hope we can find a good compromise soonest x
Oh keep waiting for the government 😂 You go wait tire. God forbid me letting criminal politicians determine my destiny. Literally planting me where I don't want to be because of their failures.
No, I can't give anyone control over my life.
I know how you feel, I have been in the UK for 21 years, i managed to build a very good house back home with some landed properties and very good business. But still here in the UK. I can't wait to go back home, although i would like to spend some time here during summer.
Amazing well done 👏🏿 all the best
Life is a mystery! Life is spiritual! People that succeed in life in most part will attribute their success to their efforts. When I look back on my personal decisions over these years, I think I made the right decisions but the income is not proportional to those decisions. Life is not always “ garbage in, garbage out”. Life is a mystery and spiritual. After living in the US for 16 years now I can attest to this that there are so many variables we can’t account for.
True talk i agree! Good luck
Variables we can’t account for … so true
Hmmmmm! So many variables! But GOD is with you.
Girl, not to trivialise your struggle, but you're 41, but look 25. You're winning at life!
@@shesheshe22 you are way too kind ❤️
I love real talk. You're a real one. God bless you and increase your territory 🎉❤
Thanks 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Such a deep video 😢. Your vulnerability struck a nerve. Bless your heart ❤
@joyogbole7195 thanks dear 😘 💕
I don't see why you feel like a loser? You came, you saw, you worked, you lived. You have a beautiful life! You have a good life, be garateful.
Anyone thinking of starting a business in Africa, please plan very very well. Remember that the purchasing power of Africans here is very low. Please keep that in mind.
True
Thank you for being so open and honest about your lived experiences. Never give up Aunty ♥️ also aunty you are not 41. You aren’t a day over 27,28
@GokuKakarot-w4g aww so kind, my body feels different haha x
Don't say she isn't 41,looks are deceptive.
I look 28 as a man but 40 this year.
I feel your struggle sis. I'm in the same boat as you. I was never interested in emigrating from my home country Nigeria in my early life till late 20s when life in Nigeria became difficult and hopeless. Decided to travel out 12years ago, moved to UAE then to Canada 10 years ago. Worked hard, became Canadian citizen and fairly successful. But, there's always that feeling that I don't belong here for various reasons including the cold climate, high cost of living and discrimination. So I'm stuck in this bubble of life for now. In regards to your mortgage, do you know you can always sell your house? It can be difficult to do but it's possible.
Thanks for your input, well noted and hope you find your happy place too x
The GOD of heaven will guide you and fill every void in your heart and life in JESUS name. You will not be stuck in JESUS name. Be bold and do what is necessary for your peace and progress. Shalom!
i hear you .. i dey canada .. me to commot niaja back in 91 .. ( i moved because my papa get job as professor for here )
i went back to naija for the first time back in nov 2024 .. and i was really feeling and resonating with wetin our sister talk for this video ..
we left paradise.. to come live in this god forsaken cold places.. the food no good, weather is nonsense .. and dem even dey under-pay us and racial abuse us and our pikins with impunity ..
we need to collectively do what we can to make our homeland better.. so we can stay .. i am planing my exiit .. I don tire for oyinbo land ..
i will rather be home anyday .. and i am moving back as soon as possible..
Also we need to tell the truth about the realities of japa life .. Most folks lie and gloss over the hardships //
and also i find that many folks back home dont want to hear that things are hard here.. they think we are lying to them. so we can keep all the money and gold to ourselves.. lol
meanwhile i see so many foreign folks. moving to niaja to make a good life and live better than they could live in their own countries. in our soil ..
we are like a fine girl or boy in school .. who is also brilliant .. but somehow a bully has convinced us that we are ugly and no get sense ..
there is nothing.. i repeat nothing.. that any of us should be doing outside of our homeland .. We have everything .. but we have been brainwashed to believe that paradise is in oyinbo land ..
people wey no go do simple jobs for niaja. wey go pay descent money .. go gleefully come clean knash for oyinbo land ..
Can you share how some of the family and friends you left behind are faring on? I am sure you will have one or two who are better than you today.
I came to USA on student visa. Call me crazy but after 18 years, i am moving back. I am a naturalized US citizen and so is my family. I work in a bank in IT sector and make a good living. Bought a house and raised family. So i am living an American dream. But happiness was back home. I am glad i could make that decision. I could not live my life just grinding and paying bills.
@@Accord2007 wow amazing! Do you mind sharing with me via email how you have done the move?
I can relate to how you feel. It’s hard to stay motivated when you aren’t happy in the current environment, even if I loved my job I still wouldn’t be happy in this country.
@@justdoit.86yearsago feel you 💯
I am Ghanaian living in the US. I will be retired from my work next year 2026 after 20 years of employment. I will be 50 years old. My monthly retirement and other compensation estimated at $6500 for life. I want to move back to Africa but I have two children in school that I am not sure if I should wait and let them finish college then move back home. They 14 and 7 year old. That is a long time for me to wait till they done with college so I am also currently trap.
@kwesiasante7752 similar trap with many! Good luck
awww i'm 22, and studying in Germany- also as an international student and this might not mean anything but please don't feel so low of yourself. You are not a Loser! sometimes you might feel you haven't done much with your life, but if you look back you've come quite far. the grass always seems greener on the other side, but like someone else in the comments said, there is no sweet spot.
@FeseMbile very wise words from a 22 year old. I wish you the best too x
Yes, absolutely very wise statement from a 22 year old. I am so proud of you.
But son/ daughter, she's wasn't saying she's a loser in terms of economic and material things.
She got it all but she isn't happy and fulfilled in the system she's living.
I think it will also be harder in Germany because of the language barriers..
Thank you for the video - first and foremost you are NOT a Loser.This has been your journey!Ive been in the Diaspora 30yrs we all have our struggles but Id like to encourage you to focus on on your achievements.Life can end anytime anywhere,simply enjoy your life as best as you can do not look at others!Take art!
Thanks
Very brave of you to put this out there but I agree with you 100% and I hope many, many Africans coming to Europe could watch this. Mos of us Africans have been conditioned to think that the only good place to live is Europe but the truth is, those days are gone. In Europe you have to fight and bleed for every penny, just to see it all go out of your bank account on bills. I'm in my early 30s and came here with wild dreams as well and after uni I stayed, the sad part is... people who looked up to me, people I wrote assignments for, people I tutored went back home after uni and like you said, the life they live is a life I can dream of. At the moment, the ONLY thing keeping me in this place is pride, but I am working on accepting my choices and gathering up the courage to go back and start from scratch. I made a modest life in LDN, no kids or mortgage yet, surely I can build from zero back home! Good luck to us. 2025 is our time.
Rooting for you! ❤
You have all it takes, good luck 👍🏿
Your courage to share this ❤ Its not just about ur UK story. I felt this on a midlife crisis level. And I'm 45 based in nigeria.
@@midastouch9858 oh really? How do you feel now? Do you think most people in their 40's feel like this?
Coming back home means getting off the high horse you got on in the west. Fact is that we all fai to remember that colonial powers had slave labour to build the foundation for the "good life" we enjoy while out there. This "good life" is still bait thst gets us to volunteer as modern day slaves. We don't want to put in the work required and we don't have access to slave labour. Folks get reach off us by feeding off our perceived need for stuff we really don't need. I think you have to examine yourself to determine what's important to you. Sometimes we need to strip ourselves of the "keeping up with the neighbor" syndrome to find our individual paces in life. My needs include a roof over my head, good education for my kids (good quality doesn't necessarily mean expensive), a vocation I can live on with my family and find fulfillment in. Any other thing is secondary. Visit the average village in Africa and you'll see how many people live on much less than you'd consider "worthy" of you.
Couldnt have said it any better. You hit it right on the nail. This is the real problem Africans especially have. they forget these basics. Life at your own pace. Dignity for your humanity.
@@akinwumiakindahunsi7254 very wise words indeed! I echo your thoughts
I agree with , the balance is to find what will fulfil you from within, not from societal norms
Thank you for starting this honest conversation. immigrants need a space to tell their honest stories.
Im 45 years old, living in USA 🇺🇸, i came to this country 22 years ago and I don’t have anything 😔, 18 years I worked 7 days included holidays, no day off , also I don’t do drugs , drink , prostitution, gamble …. And again i have nothing, my family in my country is doing better than me , all these is just a lie, a scam , I trying to change this and go back to my country, hopefully you can too
@picpis oh bless your heart, it's so sad 😞. I wish you the best
I think you need a plan before you even go and work abroad. Many of us go and then end up in the matrix. No exit plan and continue on the treadmill till old, tired and washed up. Yes you can make money but people never take into account that you need somewhere to live, food transportation electricity, water etc. So many expenses that eat into the wages that you get. Hopefully you can get out soon. Good luck
@brendafrancis894 thanks, so true! Hopefully we all find a positive exit soon
This hit differently! Thank you
Spot on. Thanks for sharing
Thanks for watching x
I'm turning 28 in 4 months and still haven't figured out what my goals are so for anyone reading just letting you know that your not alone. 🙏🏾
I came here as a kid with parents and never feel at home snd wanting to leave ever since. Relationships, job opportunities and even thinking about getting a home are not worth it here.
I appreciate your advice and was wondering the same. Without you’re advice, I would be going blind into the future. I will put even more effort into my exit strategy
I am glad it's helped
Life is a struggle, and until the day you die, you will struggle wherever you are. There are advantages staying in Nigeria,
especially with family support.
Reality is . can change in Africa. The Naria value has dropped massively. Inflation has gone up by between 300 to 500%. You get older, and the health care is non-existent.
I have friends who stayed in Nigeria and in their 60s want to come abroad to hussle.
My feeling is that you are trapped in the UK. Just get on with it. The grass is always greener no matter where you are.
Tough pill to swallow but sounds true unfortunately 😕
People only see negativity to justify their self deceit. If you live decades in abroad, you should have some sort of health insurance in that country you could be going back yearly for routine test, imaging and receiving treatment.
You poked my catch 22 dilemma living here in the World Wide West(WWW) for now 20+ years! Your content tapped exactly what my mind has always been worrying about. Am on my way to 5th floor and my mind keep lying to me that time stopped moving when I left Africa 21 years ago and I will pick up where I left when I return back.
I hope that every Immigrant that comes into this Country could watch this Video and Free themselves from the Matrix
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Your Dairy moved me to tears as it truly depicts the harsh reality most of us face and are afraid to discuss or share .Home is where we belong as the end game.No two way about it.
@jocelyneowili1247 awww virtual hugs 🫂 🤗 ❤️
Calling yourself a loser just because you’ve not achieved your goals yet is just wild to me.
Africa huzzle mentality.
Rich or die trying.
I don't feel that you're being empathetic here. Your comment is not nice.
@ Feel free to construct your own comment. You don’t get to dictate to me what words I should use. 🙄
She might be going through serious depression. Don’t blame her. The video might be a form of therapy for her
It was a good video, but a friend said she wished she had what you achieved because she is in her over 40s, came here in her 20 for studies, she achieved her masters but still now she have not received at status in UK still waiting for approval, she has not married yet, just experience betrayal and no children's yet. Sometimes what you have someelse is wishing to have what you have. That's why in life we just have to be grateful what we have
I love how you referred to moving back home as a "bold step". I know it can be hard in Nigeria but You see, studying in the UK equips you with a unique perspective that can make you very successful in Nigeria where the opportunities are just as endless as the problems.
@shieyawe3691 thanks for the encouragement
But who told you she's a Nigeria?
Firstly, you don’t look 41, you truly look like late 20s. Additionally, it’s not too late. There’s still a lot of life to live.
Thanks and embracing things
I can totally relate, currently feeling trapped in Europe, Italy too...bills, taxes...we will make it
@@OliviaDoreen absolutely, although we need an exit plan
Thank you for sharing . I'm an immigrant now a us citizen living in USA but I'm planning to back home. and I came to realise the fact that 99% of immigrant are facing the same situation. Some try to hide it on social media but they complaining behind door. Getting away is possible but it will required ressources and sacrfice . I know many couples who sold their cars and houses with morgage and they went back to africa with their kids to launch a local business. The only thing that belong to immigrant is the knowledge and skills they have learned in school.
@@wanamaker777 nice perspective
I FEEL THE SAME WAY. I HAVE BEEN IN AMERICA FOR 27 YRS. I GOT MY EDUCATION , A HUSBAND & 2 KIDS(15&16YRS OLD). I WILL BE GOING BACK TO ZIMBABWE SOON. I AM EXTREMELY EXHAUSTED MENTALLY & PHYSICALLY.I NEED TO REST.
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I think sob stories like this also go viral hence why i saw it, i dislike the weather here, the rest is good living although our fellow immigrants have turned some of the country into a shithole, go to Eastham in London, every train has fare dodgers, hopefully the money being saved is being reinvested back home properly and not just embezzled by relatives, you can build a good mansion back home, set up some rental properties and retire back home at 60 with pension and rental income, am 33 and will be somewhere sunny when am 60 hopefully healthy enough and comfortable, i will hopefully have only one child or 2 atmost So Help me god, ive been in a position without papers and still wouldnt go back to the dysfunctional country i came from
@jakelister5152 I think our countries have a major part to play in the immigrant struggles wanting to relocate abroad in search of so called greener pastures
You miss a part of her lament.. do you want to live this rigged immigrant life only to go and “enjoy” your 60s when you’re becoming frail?
Thanks for sharing. Your story hit back home. I can related well, but the difference is that, I have a lot of skills but it can be challenging working using those skills simultenously to create a business or businesses.
@@kudrah thanks for watching, I understand you x
@@LulusDiaries-b6i At least I am following your channel. I will reach out to you in the future about a project if I don't forget and if you would be up for it.
@@kudrahwhat project if you don't mind me asking?
Please avoid being so negative. Keep your mind on what is good and just take it one day at a time! There's alot to be grateful for.
There is but also don't forget that these videos are not only a reflection of my status but of several immigrants and they should start the thought process on what we should expect should we choose to stay abroad x
@@LulusDiaries-b6ias a white European woman I've been here in the UK for the last 23 years, and I don't have one single English friend male or female. The immigrants that are accepted into the English set of friends or into English families for friendship and support are in my experience the ones that get married to an English man or of if male to an English woman. This is from my personal experience and what I've observed while living here.
@@LulusDiaries-b6iWe should avoid being negative.We should be positive,focus and purposeful.The reason many immigrants face a lot of problem in diaspora, is due to lack of planning and purpose.We need to understand how the system works.Whether being abroad or at home is relative to an individual person.We need to be at the right place at the right time and maximise opportunities available to us.
False positivity is not helpful.
Suppressing the real emotions - specific the negative emotions - leads to mental issues and stress.
It’s important to be real - and this includes feeling the positive AND negative emotions
@@YambouSVG
Well said 👏
Comparison is truly the robber of joy and the grass is always greener on the other side. Happiness is internal, not external. There will always be pros and cons, no matter where you are. For me, the most important thing is access to good healthcare. I lost four loved ones due to poor healthcare back in Africa. When friends back home have to have fundraisers to collect hundreds of thousands of dollars to pay for life-saving operations abroad for their kids, I am thankful, that through the health insurance contributions I pay, I can access the best healthcare. I am thankful for that.
Just saw your video from the recommended section. I think Africans in the diaspora who want to return should have some entrepreneural drive to them because such qualities are rewarded in many African countries. I couldn't help but notice how you kept mentioning the need to look for a job once you return? Why not create something with the pounds/dollars/Euros made that side?
I say this because the biggest reason many leave the continent is to seek better work opportunities abroad. I many also be naive on this because I'm self employed and am always looking for ways to make money. The ease at which it is to hustle here suits my style better. As corrupt and inefficient as many of our governments are, the fact that I can just start a business today and get it going is something I love about living in Africa. My currency is not as powerful as western countries and I have to apply for visas to visit there, but I live in a big house and can afford to have someone else come and clean it, take care of my pool and garden, etc. Something that is a luxury in western countries.
So true
Wow! Fact! God bless you for this eye opening message!!
@@MikSal-fv3qj 🙏🏾🙏🏾
I'm a Brirish citizen. The UK has some amazing places to visit and live, but the 6 month winters where it gets dark at 4pm kill me! I'm also 32 and have no house. Probably would never be able to buy one on my salary independently. IDK where my life is going tbh 😂 but I feel you ❤❤❤❤❤
@koroshiya_1 bless you darling it's tough in the winter
Everywhere its not easy oo..Both abroad and back home..We can only pray for whats best for us in this life and leave d rest to God Almighty
@@aishayuguda very true
@LulusDiaries-b6i whatever that is bothering you In terms of how u planned ur life , pls pray to God Almighty, he will take charge and change ur situation ..As human beings my dear we only pray and leave the rest to God .NO matter what u face or see u are still a million times better than others. Sometimes life itself is kind difficult cos every one has a story to tell
Let us not be the victims of our circumstances please, we have control. Good plan is the key and never give up. Where there’s a will there’s a way. It’s possible it is possible, think outside the box
God bless you LULU for this eye opening advice.
@@addosamueladusei947 🙏🏾🙏🏾
What A TRUE and Very WISE video!! SOOO MUCH VALUABLE INFO!!! This SHOULD BE REQURED VIEWING FOR EVERYONE!!! NOT JUST IMMIGRANTS!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉😊
@Lyfs-Awsumm aww thanks for watching, and your encouragement. Please share with anyone who will find it helpful x