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- Опубликовано: 18 авг 2024
- Sometimes what we think is an emergency, or what we think is life or death, is not that serious. Let's tall about rushing and pushing ourselves into anxiety and overwhelm.
I used to work at Amazon, and experienced severe depression because of the pressure to always be fast. My co-workers were great and supportive, but the nature of the job itself was life sucking.
This message is so timely for me because as I'm watching, I've received a call and a text from family demanding my attention for things they can handle themselves.
Pheeeew!!! This!!! Coming to this realization is so liberating. Rest. Choose yourself. Thank you so much 🫂🌻🌺💛 this gives so many of us permission to do the same!
"I don't want to rush through my life" - Alecia Renece.
🌻🌻🌻🌻 Thank you for this timely reminder
Girl, there VERY VERY VERY FEW things that are urgent. Thanks for this.
I absolutely love this,thank you so much. I am a 69 year old people pleaser and I hate it. I get no pleasure or satisfaction being this way. I am actually a introvert and a creative being, and I’m drained, I love the Lord and my family but I’m tired of trying to meet everyone else expectations.
Reading this comment was inspiring. It's great to hear other people are the same way as me and that we're not alone. Let's do our best to stop people pleasing!
Most things are NOT urgent.
@@nwatson2773 That's right 👍
Your videos on “Christianity taught me to hate myself”…. Just wow! That needs to be a whole series because that was healing on another level! I keep rewatching them. Thank you 🌹🔥
Agreed!
Yes! I recently said yes to a last minute group trip feeling like it was an urgent opportunity that I’ll never get again. It overwhelmed me mentally and financially so I had to drop out after buying the flight. I felt like I was disappointing my friend but she was fine with it and understood! I’m glad I put myself first in this case. I feel better and I can go another time.
Yeeeeeeeeeees! I've been there. It's no fun. I've learned that sometimes it's okay to miss out on things. I'd rather miss out on events than miss out on my peace, joy and well being. 💛💛💛🌻🫂
Also. I LOVE your screen name. "I buy my own roses." YES.
@@AleciaRenece thanks 😊 It’s my podcast name except I stopped uploading podcast episodes 😩
Yessss especially to the “somethings we don’t even have to do!”
THIS 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💛💛💛
I am much older than you but I am so happy to see someone from your generation speaking this type of truth! You get to save yourself before you fall apart physically, mentally and emotionally like many of us who had to learn it the hard way. You are amazing. Keep reminding us that we are to care for ourselves before we get old tired and worn wondering where our lives went like many of the older generations. ❤
I’m not sure how you do it but you are always right on time with your reminders and messages - I appreciate you!!!
Awwwww! Wow! Praise God. I'm so glad this was on time and I alignment. Much love and joy to you! 💛🌻🫂🌺
Exactly! Perfect timing!
Yes, I needed to hear this! I just worked a 56-hour work week and almost lost my mind…. All for what? Thank you for this message!
I'm taking a week off from my business for my birthday at the end of month and I have been feeling guilty about it. I had to tell myself I've been there for my clients consistently without a break in a long time and been a caregiver for my mom for over a year.
My sister, who lives out of town, is hosting my mom during the week of my birthday so I can have some 'me' time.
There is no reason I should be feeling guilty about taking some time for myself to recharge and relax.
This video came at the right time! Thank you.
Thats a lot of responsibility.
Be easy on yourself.. enjoy every bit of your self time, a good time seem to go by so quickly.
Bask in your good time and share your responsibilities at the capacity that you can.❤
@@yourstruly1984 Thank you so much for your response. I plan on it! Indeed, that's the best way to move forward.
@@kristopherevans6283 you're welcome 😊
I hope that you make a priority to take rest times like this more regularly. You are responsible AND other people can be responsible and wit it with you so that not all of it has to fall on you.
@@yourdreamstrategist Indeed. I plan to! Thank you for your response. I appreciate it.
Yes, I'm a recovering workaholic (overachiever) too! And I have to turn my phone on do not disturb and I have to tell even the people I love and want to serve NO or I can only help you at X times (because it's recurring help they need)
"Let me go slow, let me rest... What do I value (Does this support it?)" If not, this is not important.
Oooooo and you're getting into the TOXIC CHRISTIANITY! Oooweeee! Yess!
Thank you for sharing. I don't want to be loved just because I'm a martyr. I'm also realizing that maybe we (people in general who want community) confuse it with wanting a support group. Support groups are out there. I would like to look into this more (for myself) and even find some fun ones.
I LOVE thiiiiiiiiis. And yes! You don't have to be a martyr or suffer to be loved. You are worthy of love right now. Much love and joy to you, Beautiful 🫂💛🌻🌺
As somebody living with chronic condition, i have no other choice than to relax and step out of urgency. U start seeing the world with different eyes.
absolutely! And then they tell people who are patient/understanding that its their fault when cheaters/scammers price us out of stuff. Anywayyyy, i know what's real. I don't need to be two people for everybody else, i need to be one person for myself. ty for the reminder.
I like that. "I don't need to be two people for everyone else, just one person for me". That is DEEP.
Hey Alecia, I have somewhat of a ritual that I do once a year. I don't consume a lot of social media, but of that that I do view, I will delete all my followings. I give it a week or two and if my spirit misses it, or I feel the need to visit the site I reinstate it. I don't do well with a cluttered mind so i have to purge what is not useful or soothing to my soul. Take care and thanks!
Oh woooooooow! This is SO BEAUTIFUL!!!! I am going to adopt this practice (if you don't mind). 💛💛💛 Thank you so much for sharing this with us! That feels so good. Thanking and letting things go, and making room for more/different. Love. Love. Love. Thank you.
@@AleciaRenece 🙏
I am the type of person who always feels like they have to respond right away even when people get back to me weeks later or not at all. I've been doing better at respecting my own boundaries.
Yes, I adore you are getting the nuance of doing everything for everyone and calling that godly. The funny thing is that God is all about us doing Him and that means REST. Resting in Christ! We should not be marching to the orders of others, but marching to guidance of the Spirit. Thanks Sis. This video was everything
Right! Jesus is not encouraging me to be a workaholic! 😂 🤣
Under Capitalism everything is urgent especially when you are needed to purchase and consume things.
Yup! And it's anti human. It's evil. It's destructive and all consuming. It's really sad.
It's not that it's actually urgent. It's just that they've convinced us it is. But we have enough power to buck or opt out of thr system. We just have to get creative.
That part!! 💯 My energy is TOO sacred. Just being in my presence is a GIFT. I will block folks in a second. Thank you so much for this! 🤎🤎🤎
The instant gratification culture is strong, and exhausting.
Yassssssss to Allahhhdat Alecia. Thanks for the timely message and the gentle reminder. I'm so grateful to be on the journey of healing and the great remembering! Evolving into a more wholesome version of who I was conditioned to forget 💛✨
Yeeeeeeeeeees!!! "conditioned to forget" is exactly it. I'm on that journey with you. 🫂🌻🌺💛 Much love and joy to you!
Yes! My sister. Btw..I love that color teal on you Alecia🙂. As usual you are so on point with this message. Life is a journey not a race of competition and comparison's between each other. I do not allow this capitalistic greedy society to brainwash me anymore. God and the Universe did not create me to be used and burned out for the sake of making the one percent richer. I do what I want and what I can and see fit to do...and at my own pace. Being retired facilitates this philosophy a lot..but don't wait that long if possible. I love this part about aging. You will see much clearer about people's agenda's too. You are the most important part in this game called life. Love yourself first.
I needed this because I dislike being rushed.
I almost missed this message (that kept coming across my feed), because I didn't take time to view it. I finally viewed it and it was a message I needed to hear. I'm doing so much (that I wasn't even asked to do). I guess that's what happens when everything is URGENT. Thank you for this.
As an elder, I am happy to have recently discovered you. I am especially proud to say, "You, young woman Alecia... You get it." You get it.
So happy that you have awakened from the nightmare of the American Scream.
Less is more.
Thank you so much for sharing this. This is so encouraging and I'm blessed to have you here. I honor you for being an elder. 💛💛💛 We learn from you. All of this wisdom, we get from our elders. Bless you. Thank you so much. And "American Scream" is EXACTLY it!!! 🫂🌻🌺
Much Love and joy to you!
Thank you, Beloved~🙏🏾💕
The whole time you were talking I was like.... dang she looks so darn good !!! Hair looks good skin looks good lol.
Yessss I'm not serving people. I am slowing down . Even with my husband and kids.... I am slowing down . Because I was drained and I was the overachiever while .... I was seeing other people underachieving and people excusing them . I realized oh wow ... because I do it so well I get burdened more ? Nah .
I'm not rushing and overdoing anything . I do say no . I do just say it with no excuse.
Love this post/ video. This is a great reminder to self. " You are not a machine. "
I DND every night and am proud to say I resisted the need to call someone back tonight, whatever it is they want to tell me, will have to wait until tomorrow!
thank you for the reminder!
Yasss! Me too! Tomorrow will come fast enough and whatever they needed wasn't that important.
Thank you for this message. Your soul is beautiful and we’re in this together 💕
3:01-3:09 saying no to some stuff makes room for the yeses that you want AND to breathe, relax, and do nothing! Amen. People are SCARED of not being productive ALL the time. But doing nothing except for being in the moment is also a good thing. I read about that in the book, "4000 Weeks."
im a teacher and ive worked summers for the past seven years--this summer im taking off for three months. there will be less money but i will save and do it. i want to slow down and just write poetry all summer and read bad romance. i just want to relax and move through the day very slowly. heading towards burn out and i need a break.
I work in collegiate hospitality and take of summers (the past 3 years) its very freeing! This is to encourage you to create a plan now and enjoy 3 months of poetry and bad romance 🤎
You're absolutely right, it's not. Thanks, I've been stressing myself. I'm still unlearning, I make so much 911.
Yeeeeeeeeeees. Have grace for yourself as you unlearn. You're doing amazing. 🫂💛🌻🌺
@@AleciaRenece 🥲 Thank you. 💜💙💚🧡💛❤️🤎🖤
Currently on do not disturb as I am determined to take care of me and make my needs and desires a priority. This video resonates with me so deeply as I have felt like I’m being pulled in so many different directions that leave me feeling drained and overwhelmed. My mental health right now must take center stage so I’m putting everything else on the back burner. I matter and my life matters, how I feel deep in my core matters and if that makes me selfish then so be it.
I needed this. I’m doing less things so I can do more stuff well!
That title stopped me because that's so where I am at now... I know how to put on the brakes now... People (aka my kids) get so frustrated with me... When I was younger, it was ingrained in me to anticipate needs and over deliver and multi-task... Not anymore...
If you did nothing today you're still valuable and worthy. 🎤
Thank you - wishing you infinite wellness
You're so kiiind!!! Thank you so much! I'm wishing thr same for you!!! Much love and joy to you! 🫂💛🌺🌻
I had a lady befriend me to try and get business for her skincare line. She gave me samples and asked me to leave a review on her facebook page. I tried it once and it worked great. I left a beaming review on her facebook. THEN.... came her true intention. In the mist of her "friendliness". She would call or text about something just to bait me and almost immediately ask me to leave a Google review for the same products. I had only used them once. I still had my personal things that I use and wasn't ready to retry her products yet. She got ridiculous and was borderline harassing me about it every other day. Fast forward a bit, I'd cut the "friendship" off. I don't like being used. I decided to go ahead and retry her products anyway. Figuring I would go ahead and leave that Google review because I still like to see people win. I used the products two days in a row. My face broke out in a rash for 2weeks. I was disappointed but happy I didn't put a review on Google. I trashed the samples and moved on.
My sister, I have been so very busy and I have not been online, but I miss you and I am very happy to see this video.
You always seem to give me exactly what I need. I love you. and Thank you so much.
This is so appropriate for me at the moment. Thank you for being obedient and making this video for us. ❤
I have found my people over here 😂❤. I’m not an urgent type of person… don’t get me wrong I get things done!!! I meet requirements for deadlines, but I do procrastinate to the last minute. I’m not proud of it, but that’s just how I operate, I take MY TIME 😂😂😂, but I get things done ✅ 😅
my phone STAYS on DND (do not disturb). I respond when I can, but I'm not going to be rushed by the "2 min ago" text notifications passive-aggressively reminding me that my loved ones have contacted me. I need to be at ease in every part of the day possible; everything else can wait.
Now they fight against AI that does things in 2 seconds
I just love your insights. It always bring me back to center. Thank you for letting yourself be a vessel and being real.
Liked on title alone! Girl! Everything is not urgent!😊🙌🙌! Now I'll watch the video lol
👏👏👏Alecia dropping gems as usual
Awwwwwwwwww! Yaaaaaaaaaaaay! I'm so glad that this was helpful 🫂💛🌻🌺 Much love and joy to you!!! Thank you for being so kind.
I love alignment. This is so reassuring. My phone LIVES on dnd and I have strict boundaries sometimes that fall into avoidance of emails and texts. I try to remind myself that luxuries and advancements like cell phones are just that and I won’t be a slave to them. People get real spicy with me when I don’t respond to an email within 5 days. You know what could happen to someone within a few hours time em ever mind a week that couple impact how they respond to expectations? I’ve been trying to train my mind for a few years on discerning urgent/important/priority and it’s really settled in for me the last few months and even more so this week with a lot of things coming to a head for me. I credit the “click” or “Aha moment” to kinda being sick and tired of being sick and tired, putting in “the work” observing the exhaustion as a side effect of general anxiety, lastly really getting in a good groove with boundaries mostly with self. Over doing & proving self really resonated. All of this has been unconscious but bc of a great therapist, mindfulness, reflecting & meditation I’m transitioning towards and intentional, peace filled, creative life. I remind myself as much as possible this situation that’s stressing me will not kill me! The anxiety feels literally like I’m fearful of death. I’m a person first and I will be guided and protected to what’s the next best step for me and usually it’s a deep breath, a nourishing meal, nap, stretch, 20 mins alone, nature etc. and the next necessary action is clear. Thanks for posting ❤
14:35 or so onward... YES. because the job I'm at now is definitely exploiting me. I'm the only employee out of 8 of us with morning availability, and I've been burnt out for months. we can't change the line cause there's "no one else" to do my part. if I quit (before they hire other people with morning availability), IT WILL FALL APART. spoiler alert: I put in my 2 weeks next week, and on the second week I already have a paid vacation approved. I'm putting me first.
So much wisdom had to watch again and shared with a friend
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Let your cellphone be your friend. Set timers; for responding, doing tasks, having conversations ( you might not necessarily want to have) and even resting. When the timer goes off .. stop. Just stop.
Yasss!!!! Preach Sis!🙌
Doing the most for conditional results and conditional love. NOPE.
You are the best. You’re such an inspiration 😊
Thank you for your transparency. A well needed reminder!!
This is a good video to help out our life into perspective. The list of urgent items is not that high. Once I prove it to myself...others are not that important. 😊😊😊
I love this message so much and I receive it, but I do wonder how to apply this wisdom as a woman with a husband and children and living in a space not our own? It's difficult to navigate.
You are so healing to me, thank you for your content
These last two weeks has literally been so taxing
I needed this❤
I'm SO glad this resonated with you!!! 💛💛💛🫂 Much love and joy to you!!!
Yes ,I stopped doing things I hate .
❤ thank you, i feel truly aligned with this video.
Thank you Alecia, the timing and the content of this video is perfect. Love from the UK❤
Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay! I'm so grateful this spoke to you and that it was on time. I thank God! Thank you so much for sharing such kindness with me and with all of us! Much love and joy to you from Maryland 🫂💛🌻🌺
Amen Sister!!❤🎉
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I say we are living hell on earth
Thank you for the reminder Queen🖤💚❤️🌺
Wow. Amazing 👏
Right👏🏾on👏🏾time👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Right on time
you are enough
I don't put my phone on do not disturb but i definitely turn the sound off when I don't want to be bothered.
I leave my phone on silent 24/7
Normal s a N-word🌻
THIS. THIS. THIS. 💛💛💛
and then sum
Yeeeeeeeeeees!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💛💛💛
Definitely giving slavery vibes
English PEZI
Awww❤Thanks for that. Use DND ASAP! Lol. When I set it, only calls and notifications from people on my favs list come through (my kids and my parents), everything else is muted. Say no and draw a line in the sand. Being available 24/7 is very much giving SLAVERY and ENTITLED...its destructive.🎯🗣️💯🌻💛🤝🏽🙏🏽🫂