Exactly 2 years ago the love of my life passed away, no warning, nothing. I am now 70 but know for sure, without my bike I would not have reached this age for absolute certain. We all feel lonely at times but biking just seems to make me feel so much better. Stop in the town centre and at least one person will stop to comment on the bike. You will have friends you don’t know about yet, remember that 👍
I know what you mean (sort of) i only have 1 biker friend and due to life commitments he rarely makes it out. I always do bike trips on my own but you are never on your own, i ALWAYS end up talking to people whever i go. On the bike is the same whether you are on your own or there is 10 of you. I just love biking!!
Such a true comment I can relate to, my partner passed away nearly 5 years ago of cancer she was only 47. I knew I needed to do something to cope with the grief so bought an ADV bike after years of riding dirtbikes. It's been a lifesaver for my mental state, just gets me out of my head and thinking about something else. I value the brief conversations with random people that happen on a bike, then back on the bike wrapped in nature. I now find I need to ride. All the best.
An older and wiser man once told me: "In the long run, it's healthier and happier to be on your own for the right reasons, than with someone for the wrong ones" The older I get, the more I realise how right he was. Chin up, keep on grooving mate 👍
Hit 60, next month ...work seems , all I've got these days...haven't been riding much this year...thinking about get another bike, soon....what are you riding, my brother?
@@mustbetrue1602 A lot of insecure men, it needs to stop quite honestly if all the value you have in yourself comes from a woman then there are far worse things at play. in context of the video he said that he left the family home so quite what "she's not yours, just your turn" means is irrelevant The video is about struggles of feeling lonely and isolated
@@shutinyanksyeah well my wife left me and my children. Said her turn for a life?.kids devastated. Don’t speak 8 yrs on do I feel sorry for someone leaving a family- no I dont
I have adjusted to being alone, and i wouldn't have it any other way now. Peace of mind, do whatever you want to do, no arguing. So keep your chin up👍👍
Appreciate you talking so openly and hang in there fella, things always get better. Relationship breakdowns can feel like the entire world has been destroyed but ride it out, it WILL get better 🙏
I have my wife, my daughter, and 3 friends who I am lucky if I see them once a year. I work from home so have no work friends. Everyday is just sort the baby>work/diy>sort the baby>sleep and there is no time for anything else. Outside of extended family I socialise maybe once every two to three months. Life is lonely and I personally couldn't care less. If anything, I'd prefer more time to be by myself. My advice would be to take it as it comes, before long your whole circumstance might have changed and you might be wishing for a bit more alone time again. **Edit** I'm obviously aware that I'm spending a lot of every day with the two most important people in the world. I'm not trying to compare my loneliness to others. My point is more that it's not about the quantity of friends or acquaintances that you have, but more about the quality of those relationships.
yes mate i understand what your your saying but i have left the family home and not local now to see my girls every day and where i live i know no one at all as in NO ONE thats the difference mate cheers for the comment though
Doesn’t this demonstrate that putting all your eggs in one basket can store up potential trouble for the future. I probably err towards @ianclose123 in how I live my life, but I realise that means if it goes all wrong I will be well and truly on The Broken Bus.
Not in the same situation thankfully but i do suffer with depression sometimes, not many mates , limited social life so my bike is my saviour a lot of the time. When i go out its just me in my helmet nobody else arguing, telling me what to do etc. so i do understand your loneliness. 👍
I've been there after nearly 30 years of marriage. Same situation, no blame, just grew apart. You will get through to the other side. The broken bus does get fixed and back on the road for new adventures. The bike was a great support for me. Respect for being so open.
I can also second that comment. After 40 odd years together, my wife and I also grew apart and agreed to separate. Again, no blame, no silly affaires or anything like that, just different takes on life etc. For both of us it has worked well. No animosity. We are still very much in contact and help each other if needed. Our 3 lovely children who have eventually come to terms with the situation, have been so supportive. As for friends, like you, I don’t have many and those I do have are mainly ex work colleagues who are scattered over the country so I don’t see them very often. Riding my bikes is for me my ‘therapy’ where I can loose myself and my troubles whilst concentrating on my riding. I think as bikers, we are all part of a big like minded family…. I suppose I am lucky as I am quite happy with my own company, but I can totally appreciate your loneliness…. Stay as strong as you can, talk if possible to people, and keep riding and I hope and pray that you will come out of this a stronger person… Very best wishes for your future, Chris
18 years ago my life fell apart took me 12 years too be in a better place, had a bike in the garage but wasn’t using it , sold it and the family home bought a smaller house, finished work with ill health, then I bought a new bike life as changed for the better from that time , I’m back in touch with several old school friends we’re all between 66 and 69, i’m 68 next birthday most are still biking, Keep plodding on , life will improve, I’m at home most of the week my children live in England two in Yorkshire live close together, one in Hereford, pop into town have a coffee I’ve meet several people just by doing it , gets me out of the house,Good luck from 🏴
It’s not quite the same situation you’re in but I’ve suffered with depression for 20 years. No particular reason for it. As you’ve heard probably a million times things will get better. It won’t be easy but will change. I’ve had times where I just wanna stay in a corner and be invisible. But making the effort to get out on the bike or even just a walk helps no end. Try not to dwell and fall into that black hole. Easier said than done I know. Been there done that lol. Take it easy pal.
Man, I get it! Just getting out for a walk can feel like a win some days. Thanks for sharing your story-it’s a reminder that we’ve all got our battles. Keep doing you!
yes i understand split up after 22.5 years 6yrs ago and i still feel lost , lonely, and sad , not all the time ,but it still gets me at times like now ,on the appraoch to xmas , i've not ha a decoration up in six years , no point when your by yourself really
Try and hang in there fella. As difficult as it might be try to make the best of your current situation. It’s horrid I know. We can only prey your situation will at some point improve. It doesn’t help matters with the festive season just around the corner. I dislike Christmas for that exact reason. 😊😊
Best wishes to you in the hope that you can find a way which works for you - life can be tough at times, but individual resilience grows the more one has time alone, and alone shouldn’t mean lonely, you can survive, possibly better, when you can just have yourself to please! 🙏🙏👍👍
Hiya mate.....i hear you, I have been there too, many of us have. a relationship breaks down for whatever reason and the friend you had years ago have gone their own ways, had kids, whatever. This vlog shows that you are reaching out, opening yourself to others, that's huge mate. You will make new mates, biking mates, you don't need loads just a select few that you can count on, maybe at a similar time of life to yourself, the biking community is great for helping each other out. Just give it time....join a local bike club. There must be a few in your part of the world. I live in the Highlands, my partner found somebody else and I was out, felt so alone in the world but you are at the bottom at that point and the only way is up and I am confident if you have a positive attitude, it WILL get better. Take care of yourself mate 👍
Thanks mate mean a lot to know other are or having in the same position in life It was just me talking openly in my helmet out load Didn’t think I’d have this response if I’m honest
@@thepeakybiker Following on from CavanHolden : the upside of meeting with other bikers is that generally they are a good humoured bunch. I had a break from bikes for close to two decades and have rediscovered the comradeship that exists. I thought it would be a thing of the past.
I joined my local IAM group a few years ago and met some great new like minded mates, travelled Europe on holidays and go out nearly every week in the summer for a run. Worth a try mate, good luck.
Sometimes you realize that you just have to let things go. You cannot change them. When you come to that point it is much easier. You take it as it is. Very honest video. Appreciate it mukka. Take care.
i have been there starting again is hard and to be honest my bike is the only thing that got me through it telling people how you feel is the first step the next step is up to you i tried not to concentrate on what was wrong but on what was right. just remember it takes two to stay in touch dont sit there thinking that you are alone reach out to the people you know even if its just for a chat but the most important tyhing i learnt was no matter how low you feel there are always the up days
Take it a day at a time - it will get better. Lost my nephew in Afghanistan and then my brother committed suicide. You can't replace them so you have to work with it. Having the bike helps - gives you escape but also helps to meet people. Got a local biker meeting place? Don't know where you are but try Andy's Man Club for support. Guys getting together to talk about mental health. Day at a time.
Time alone is truly precious. It took me years to learn this. But it is true, in my case. I don't mind the social stuff, or helping people out. But time on my own, to think, and do what I choose, is priceless.
Feel you pal. I’ve been working 2 jobs / 7 days a week for the last 6 yrs… I literally have zero friends and zero social life… One thing that has kept me together is exercising, running etc… I’m so glad I’ve found a new interest in biking… done my cbt last month. Passed my theory last week and start my DAC in 10 days… it’s kept my mind and emotions in a really positive place. Good luck and wish you the best. New subscriber
I know so many guys who are affected by loneliness. In my experience when relationships break down it's usually the guy who pays the price, financially, emotionally, and all too often the female keeps the 'joint' friends. Obviously not all the time, but as I say, it is most commonly guys who end up lonely.
@@BibTheBoulderTheOriginalOne thankfully I’ve been quite lucky… don’t feel lonely (at least for now) the master skill is to be alone without being lonely ….
Separated from the love of my life just over a year ago and still reeling tbh. We were quite insular and I do have a small handful of close friends, but only one of those lives locally and it does get lonely, especially living and working alone (I think we might one day look back on remote working as a silent killer). Thanks for being candid about your situation - it does help to know that other people are having similar struggles, although I wouldn't wish those struggles on anybody, of course. Wishing you all the best. I recommend finding routes to incidental contact with people - just chit-chat - because it helps you to feel more human, even if you're not making bezzie mates with anyone. Stay strong, brother, and remember that you are worthy!
I feel for you, mate. Here are a few suggestions: 1. Join a local motorcycle club 2. Get a pet. 3. Consider going to bike meets or rally's, although the companionship there is often transient. Good luck!
Good video, shows a lot of character to open up to a load of strangers. I'm in a similar place with regards to friends, over time most have faded away but I don't feel lonely. But I do worry sometimes that will I feel the same way in the future. Problem is to make good friends you have to go though things with people, it takes a lot of time and effort to build a friendship and only a few months to lose it. After the amount of hours I work (and on nights) I just don't have the time to build these new connections. Subbed.
I get it! Friends can come and go, but it’s all about those real ones who stick around. Just keep doing you and who knows, maybe some connections will happen when you least expect it! Thanks for subbing!
Time heals everything. In life’s journey it hurts to be at the point departure, and there is always a beginning and new arrival afterwards. All the best.
Been watching for a little bit and you've helped me start riding and getting through my tests. Talking about this stuff is incredibly hard - to hear you speak it so candidly is a great inspiration! Keep on keeping on and thank you! Big man hugs mate
It's not easy mate when you go through a separation been there. You can find strength in being alone, I go camping on my bike it gets me out time will heal you take care
Bless you- stay strong- keep talking- we are here for you- the power of YT- you have connections- this too, will pass- the biker community is strong- thanks for your service to your country.
Sending massive Alby hugs for you buddy, stay strong my friend. Its never easy finding solace in what sometimes seem very difficult times, trust me, somehow through the dark times there is always light and even though things change us and the lives we once knew, we can learn to adapt to a different life that can have its own rewards and help us find a different kind of happiness so its ok to just be ok sometimes, you are a great guy and I know you'll get through this and I for one look forward to the day we meet again and chew the fat over a couple beers. Luv ya Pal.
Hi Brian, it was good to meet you today at the NEC, and i wish i had seen this video prior to seeing you today. I think you have more friends than you realise here on youtube, please never feel that you are alone, I know it's hard to see at the moment, but it's early days for this part of your life and it will get better.
Your not on the broken bus your just in for a service, I know it feels overwhelming, but this is a chance to rebuild. It might not seem like it now, but there’s a path forward. You have so much to offer the world, and the right people will see and value that. If you ever want to talk or vent, I’m here.
Eeeee, you’re not broken mucker…just going through it😊 (I’m ex 20yr mob too…so I get it when you say about not having civvi mates near by) I have moved around a lot since getting out; and the best way of meeting new mates as you get older and moving to a new area (although still such a kid at heart/mentally!) is find a good bike shop, ask the guys for off road contacts and get out and ride with them. Before you know it, you’ll find a bond and life gets easier. The more pressure you put on yourself to ‘make friends’ the harder it feels. Just be yourself, always look for the silver lining amongst the 💩 and remember that we are sooo lucky to have the days we have; not everyone gets to the age we get 🤗 The right people will find ya, I promise! Keep doing what you’re doing and if you fancy some different company on a ride out… give me a shout and I’ll dig out my GS and I’ll happily make ya ears bleed! Stay safe, keep smiling and keep doing what ya doing 🏍️👏🏻 You’ve got this…. Ps Well done on being open n honest. 👊🏻
the old internet can be a cesspit... but, There is the chance for people to support each other. Count your blessings, you have mobility! I'm isolated due to the DVLA messing up my license. But we have these videos, and I have a wonderful wife where I am. Hurts to not be able to drive / ride out to see loved ones... it's been years now. ❤
You would feel lonely in a room full of people after the end of a long term relationship . From limited experience it just takes time to mourn the relationship regardless of fault. Just keep doing what you do and the right people will find ya. You can’t ride a bike and have no mates, we all got you 👍
You are going through the hurt and you will heal, as my dad used to say time is a great healer, you’ll get through it and come out the other side, good luck and best wishes from up North, Cumbria.
Hi, first time watching you. Don't be so down on yourself, you are just having a blip of a bad time. You still have the right attitude. Very brave of you to be honest and open about your feelings and private life. You still have people to talk to whether it's video call or bike nights. It's less complicated that way. I lost all my friends when I started a family. I'd rather have no friends than fake friends. I still have my health, kids and bikes. I'm sure you will be feeling the love from your followers. All the best 👍
Cheers bro yea I still have my kids and friendly with my ex mrs but I’m not close enough to pop over and see kids and where I am I have no one at all that’s all I’m 48 and feel like it’s first day at school not knowing anyone
Sorry to hear you’re going through this pal. Whatever friends you do bring back into your life now. Keep your circle small❤ Not partner related but I’m too struggling with my mental health and signed off till the new year. I’m about to get the bike out and head to Barmouth from Wolves if you’re about 👍🏻
Mega respect to you for putting this vid out Brian. I bet there's plenty of fellas in our community in the same boat or have at some point in there lives, I certainly have. Keep your chin up mate, it takes time to adjust, and things do get better. Thinking of you mukka.
Thanks for sharing. Not easy to do. Hang in there and focus on the things you can control. Also, consider getting some mental health care. It can make a difference.
Keep going mate, turn the page, give it time and things will work out in the end. If you can still appreciate the sights when you ride, your looking for positives and that's a good sign. Keep making the effort to meet up with local bikers if there's a local club and the friendships will come in time. Loneliness is horrible but it will pass. Its like being in the middle of a forest climbing a tree to see where you are, and all you can see is trees cos your in a valley. You need to get to higher ground climb another tree then you will see your way out of the forest. That's how I sometimes think of Loneliness. Takes effort to get out of it and you will sort it. Keep enjoying the bike mate it's a good video. Thanks for posting it. Good man.
Cheer mate it was a video I wasn’t going to post but glad people look at this and see that other are feeling the same as them Thanks for your comment appreciate it
everyone has different circumstances, but it is very sad that in this modern era, couples don't work at relationships and give up on a life partner too soon. Relationships are seldom sweetness and light and need to be worked at, take the rough with the smooth. been with my wife 37 years and im 53 now, we have separated once when I was so wrapped up in my career but I saw the light and worked my way back and now 10 years on cannot imagine growing old alone. It's not perfect but no relationship is, it takes work and give and take... take a step back and have a good think about things. Bikes come and go, life partners are just that for life. Ride safe my friend.
I’ve been with my wife 33 years and it a mutual agreement We’ve been working at it for years so think that part of the comment isn’t right and you don’t know is mate But thanks for the comment
This sounds so familiar to my situation from about five years ago. I do think, however painful, it's important to know what real friendship looks like.....hang in there mate!
Thanks for sharing both your ride and your thoughts. I trust that having some space to do both helped clear your head. I know that riding and sharing both work for me. Stay safe bud.
I'm 61 yrso I've suffered with mild schizophrenia & psychosis for over 25 yrs but I don't let it rule or change my life in any way. Friends & family that walk out your life at your lowest, we're never friends & family in the first place you don't need them as I've found out quality far out ways quantity. I'm a lone wolf now & love it, but I have joined a motorcycle club yrs ago meeting like minded ppl plus find motorcycle cafe's. My motorcycle club & I are doing a santa run to local children's hospice taking Christmas presents for the kids. My advice from someone who knows heartache & heartbrake is to keep busy & functional don't let ppl have the privilege of seeing you fall to say I knew it I told you so?. Good luck sir don't let yourself or others drag you down.
Thank you for sharing your story! It’s inspiring to see how you’ve turned challenges into strength and are giving back to the community. Your resilience is admirable!
First off I think it's great that you have the courage to say something that a lot of people keep quiet about and suffer in silence. It seems harder to make friends as you get older, for me although I have some people that I see occasionally it seems like my interests are a tad niche. None of my local friends are into bikes and have busy lives, so we only go out once of twice a year for a hill walk, more life long friends have moved far away. I do find that the occasional trip to a local bike meet and bar be que helps and I've had some good interactions with fellow [older] bikers. Since then I've met people that I'm happy to go out for a ride with occasionally. Many years ago I lost my main friendship group after splitting up with my long term partner, people take sides and feel free to judge without knowing the background. If they knew the truth they wouldn't have been as judgemental - but that would have meant I would have had to dish the dirt. I decided to keep quiet as I thought "if you judge me without knowing the story then you're not really a friend".
Thanks mate It’s difficult isn’t it no one is at fault in my relationship we just gew apart It’s hard to make new friends like you lost all my friends in one group
Hi mate, nice video. Nice day but freezing cold 🥶 Hang in there my friend, many people are going through the same experience. I have felt the same as well. Can recommend maybe going to some biker meets, gym classes, singles nights at the pub! It’s hard but gotta try and get out there to meet some people. Stay strong man, you are not alone. All the best to you 🙌
Thanks for being so open. I’ve had nearly 4 years of feeling the same way. Luckily I’ve got the dog for company and he has given me focus. Stay strong bro.
This video just showed up in my feed, now subscribed so you've another virtual pal. Well done for speaking out, it's all too easy to hide away. Hang in there man, even on the darkest days, remind yourself that better days are ahead. Though very different circumstances, I lost all my so-called friends when my health went to sh!t. Lost my career, any earning potential, things got real dark for a while. The darker days are behind me and I can count all of my friends on one thumb, still gets tough at times, but speaking out does help. Obviously we've never met but please feel free to reach out any time, I'm on here most days. And if you find yourself down south, there's a place at my table for ya. Looking at the amount of comments, you've got a decent community on here. Always remember that and stay strong brother, hope things improve soon. All the best, Tommy.
Hi mate thanks It’s amazing how people step up and help but so called friends shy away I’m ok mate the comments are amazing mate honestly it’s blown me away I’m only a small channel and just me sat on my bike chatting about my life didn’t think it would have this effect on people Thanks for the comment mate and I hope to see you in the future mukka Cheers 🍻
@@thepeakybiker No problem at all fella, glad you're doing ok. Surprising what speaking openly and honestly can do, resonates with a lot of folk out there who are dealing with their own crap in their own ways. Not something I'm great at, but it strikes a chord when I see others do it and wanted to show my support. I've recently got into the biker channels with the hopes of getting my licence next year. It's been a 25 year itch to have one, still not 100% sure it'll be possible but I'll be damned if I'm not going to try! It'd be a pleasure to have a ride with ya one day, offer will always be there. Stay safe mate, keep strong. Cheers pal 👍
Easy for me to say but the best thing is to talk about it ,never keep it bottled up or take to drink to cope alcohol is not a help,hope you get better bit by bit and try to do something every day even if it's just going out for a long walk,never been that down myself yes been pissed off but that's petty compared to what many go through,I ended up buying a cheap project bike and just took it to bits,gradually cleaning painting refitting never mad a penny but it kept me out the house all the best.
I don’t have any friends either, only “ associates “. I help others where and when I can, and occasionally receive help in return. Mostly I manage on my own. Meditating is of great value.
@@thepeakybiker after a decade, not really. I learned to accept my situation, what I can do and that what I can’t. Yes at times I still struggle, badly, but I remind myself I got through issues before and will so again. Take a few deep breaths, part of the meditation practice, then take the next step in whatever form that takes, reading, going for a walk, chores etc etc, watch RUclips, and riding of course. And most importantly, listening to music, that is truly enriching the soul.
Have a bro hug from me. Very open raw chat. Thx for sharing. It's definitely harder nowadays when you get to a certain age (and therefore less motivated to be arsed making new chums) coupled with the doshless times we are all living in and the depressing government we have injecting pessimism into our lives... It's bloody tough and I reckon most folk are feeling something similar but don't admit it. Keep your head high. I have a dog who helps me keep somewhat cheerful on the blue days.
My thinking is this, we all want friends and people who we can relate and rely on and trust ,however, my own way of thinking is,,,you need to like and believe in yourself, also value oneself, Love yourself, also when people see you happy with yourself they normally like to be with like minded people, be yourself and happiness follows 🙂↕️☀️🏍🙏 much happiness and love to you brother 👊🏍
I did the same life changes you have done, a year ago , you addapt, you cope day to day , thank god I have my bike , which helps me get away from the issues I've to deal with
Going through the same thing myself... I can relate fully to how you feel mate. I'm ex army also, never able to fully adapt to civvy street, relationship break up and forced to sell the house which I loved in Cannock Wood, Staffordshire, and now living in Nottingham, away from all my friends I have made over the years... I'm also a biker, which has helped in some way to keep me sane. I luckily have my little dog, which helps me to get out twice a day as he needs to go for walks so helping me get out for his sake... as to loneliness, yes, I'm 68 now, unlikely to meet anyone else at this stage of my life, and I get overwhelmed and close to tears sometimes, but as a soldier I 'make myself have it' and carry on... however, I do on occasion meet up with an army mate and his wife for a couple of drinks for an hour or so, which helps sometimes, but I never tell them how I really feel. So yes, you are not alone, but we are made of stronger stuff than most, and we will come through it... let's keep our chins up mate!
@@thepeakybiker I came across your post by accident, but knew straight away that I had to respond as it put into context my own situation... so thanks for making that post as it has made me sit down and put my own thoughts out there, and that is in some way a help to me, cheers!
Sorry you're going through this and totally understand what you mean about friends. My longest and closest friends are absolutely nowhere near, so I'm trying to build up my friendship group, but at 51 it's hard. Plus all the baggage that I have mentally doesn't help.
Hi Brian - Big “G” here - just wanted you to know I’m thinking about you as you deal with a body blow that life has thrown you - your a resilient and strong man - and I have no doubt that with this RUclips community and motorbikes you will get yourself to the other side . It’s amazing what can come along out the blue - but you have to go out and look for it - it won’t come and knock on your front door - as Bruce would say “keep on getting out there , when ever you can “ keep on , keeping on ! - Gordon… 🥃
Everyone is different on the way they deal with things so nobody can really help you with the way you feel right now, but when I found myself in the very same situation you are in, instead of feeling down and focusing on all the negative side of things, I decided to see it as an opportunity to make my life better than it was, this is only a very short insight to my situation but I rebuilt my life from the ground up doing it just for me, I now have lived alone for more than 20 years no close family or any friends, but I do have lots of interests to include motorbikes, I would love to have someone to chat to on a regular basis about anything and everything but it doesn't stop me from looking forward to every day, I can go for several months without any human contact or conversation, it really does take a lot of self discipline to stay positive and just enjoy doing whatever you feel like. People think there is this big motorcycle family waiting with open arms, it really doesn't exist, people have their own little groups which they mistake for a wider community, I've lived and ride my bike in my neighbourhood for more than 20 years and have never met any other bikers or made any friends, I have reached out to few online but they just aren't interested, which doesn't give you any faith in the mythical biker community.
Oh mate I’m so sorry, as soon as I have run my bike in I’ll come for a ride with you on my Enfield 350 classic but I don’t ride very quick because I’m retired. If it helps I’ve had depression all my life and only got one friend she is lovely but not a biker. I couldn’t go to the bike show because of the crowds . The farmer are supposed to clean it up but they don’t 👍🏍️
I think after lock down a lot of people have ended up in this position. I appreciate a break up with a partner can be very difficult but as people often say, as one door closes another door opens or slams in your face! Try and stay positive and look after yourself, I am sure over time things will improve and the ride outs on the bike can be great therapy.
been their mate still gets me even after 20 years then my dad passed away 2015 on medication still but like you said when with a family you lose contact with mates so when the time comes it feels like no one is their thats where i am now been so hard the last month with poor mood and depressed feelings meds working overtime no enjoyment any where not even on my bike got no where to go feel so lost so at the moment i am rock bottom to be honest getting support but slow it is if you need a new mate give me a message nottingham way try keep yourself good anytime i am here
Things will get better me easier in time once you get settled again. Your doing really well but it's hard. Much respect to you. I hope this video gets to many others that need to see this, you have a great community. One day at a time. We're all thinking about you nearly ALL the time. There are so many good times and people to meet ahead but you just don't know it yet. Where the fook would we be without our bikes to clear out heads 😮
Ehoa, yup been there, yes we also grew apart. Now 28 yrs later still living on my own, bike in my shed, doing things i love . Brave indeed you are in exposing your MAMAE , never been to a pub either. Im an Introvert so hhjj on living alone and riding whenever or wherever. Friends come and go ehea neh. Stay strong to your beliefs, life is just that, life. Kia Kaha Tane Toa, stay upright and somewhat on course. Oh yeah ,im a Kiwi ex SNCO 20yrs service. UBIQUE
I get where your coming from. Been on the broken bus 14 years, still find it hard to trust people. Lost a huge circle of friends who just stopped talking to me. But have a roof over my head and a bike in the shed. So plodding on doing what an when I want to do without any worries.
Did you say Shrewsbury? Theres a place called Bannatynes, near Sainsburys. There a re quite a few guys in similar situation there and quite a few bikers. Many ae retired and enjoy to do a little gentle exercise, sauna, swim and so on. A friendly bunch.
Good on you for sharing, mate. I'm sure a lot can relate to some extent. Hope you get through it. Looks like you've got a lot of support in this virtual space at least. 👍
Your just mirror imaged my current situation. Me and wife decided to part ways mutually like you described. Stay strong and positive, life is short and look at it as new chapter in your life.💪
All my mates moved away, one of the reasons i passed my bike licence a month or so ago is so i can go to meets and try meet new people. Its hard, but on the other hand things can always be worse.
Hang in there pal, reach out to those you can and never feel like a burden. Everyone is busy with their own lives but will also help if you need it. Alcohol is not a good answer so definitely stick with putting fuel in the bike. Look for things you are passionate about about and maybe some volunteer roles that can help pass time and build new friendships of people like minded. You will hopefully become more comfortable in your own company. Keep busy where you can ❤
i think at this time of year loneliness is even harder with the perception that families / relationships are perceived as normal all i can say is hang in there dont turn to alchol as it wont be your friend saying that book a christmass meal at your local if you have one try to be positive
I feel like I'm the driver of the broken bus. Lost my son to a drunk driver 14 months ago when he drove into ben f17 on his 125cc. Shropshire is my home and was born in the same village. I totally agree with your thoughts.
Fuel is definitely a better purchase than grog. Back in the 90”s, I dug myself into a deep hole. It was a few phone calls from a few proper friends that kept me from checking out. A series of fandom events and chance meetings with strangers made me wake up to myself. I still get the lack dog a lot. It’s crap. It’s difficult and it can be lonely. Ride on mate. Ride on.
I feel for you Brian. We all have our cross to bear. I've been struggling to work something out in my mind. 😢over the past few years. I have good days and bad days. Wouldn't it be good if we could all get together and chat these things through with each other. We are not alone. Be strong mate, the world as you view it from your rides are still great and worth seeing. The bike helps this happen. It's the glue that bonds us riders together. All the best wishes.
Keep plodding mate. Winter blues are terrible at times. Worst I felt was actually abroad on a bike tour in sunny France, felt alone and homesick. I find the gym is a great place to find friendly people - made probably a dozen friends there. Motorcycle groups too. You can go to the pub and not drink!
I know how you feel mate. I broke up with my ex in 2015, had no mates, suffered from anxiety and depression, had to move back in with my parents because I had nowhere else to go and couldn't figure my s**t out (still trying to after all these years) 33 and still at home with mummy and daddy haha 😅 but it would be nice to just have a small group of friends (no drama) but it's difficult to make friends when you're an adult, especially considering people have there own thing going on, they may not have common interests with you and it's even more difficult when you rarely ever drink. I don't go out to clubs, rarely ever go to pubs. But honestly, after all these years it just gets easier having no friends, I am content, but as I said, it would be nice to have a small group of friends I can count on and don't bring bs and drama into my life, humans are social creatures after all. On the upside I recently done my CBT back in August and bought myself a brand new GSX-R125 (24 Reg) but I always wanted to travel and do some wild camping so my long term plan is basically to pass my test, then eventually do my test for an A2 License and buy something like a Honda CB500X 👍 Hit the road, maybe go abroad and just see where the road takes me...maybe meet some good people along the way. 😇 Anyway, for anyone else that's alone, chin up, you don't know what the future holds for you even if things look bleak right now. Just find something to do that will take your mind off things until you figure your s**t out. Although it's nice to have friends there is more to life than just that and you're living it! So go and do what you want to do! The world is a big place and there is much to see and do. Stay strong and stay grounded. 👍❤️
hope you pass your A2 licence mate and get out and enjoy it while your at your mom and dads save some coin to travel wish that whatci would have done mukka
@@thepeakybiker Thanks mate I appreciate it. Yeah living at home with the parents has its pros and cons but it would be nice to have my own space again tbh. I'll get there eventually. 😇 I hope things work out for you, stay strong brother 😇👍
Thoughts and sincere good wishes to you.. Life can be incredibly cruel and difficult. And well done in expressing your feelings and thoughts.. Us guys tend to hide them but that is not good..
Hi mate, i hope your well. Your video popped up and first video I've watched of yours so not sure what reg you were in ect. You should look up your local association or go to local legion they will hold a meeting once a week. Hope this helps mate gets you out of the house and chatting.
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Exactly 2 years ago the love of my life passed away, no warning, nothing. I am now 70 but know for sure, without my bike I would not have reached this age for absolute certain. We all feel lonely at times but biking just seems to make me feel so much better. Stop in the town centre and at least one person will stop to comment on the bike. You will have friends you don’t know about yet, remember that 👍
Happy to hear you're getting through it somehow.
I’m sorry for you loss mate
I know what you mean (sort of) i only have 1 biker friend and due to life commitments he rarely makes it out. I always do bike trips on my own but you are never on your own, i ALWAYS end up talking to people whever i go. On the bike is the same whether you are on your own or there is 10 of you. I just love biking!!
@ it’s brilliant ay it mukka I do love biking wish I could just go away on my bike and travel
Such a true comment I can relate to, my partner passed away nearly 5 years ago of cancer she was only 47. I knew I needed to do something to cope with the grief so bought an ADV bike after years of riding dirtbikes. It's been a lifesaver for my mental state, just gets me out of my head and thinking about something else. I value the brief conversations with random people that happen on a bike, then back on the bike wrapped in nature. I now find I need to ride. All the best.
An older and wiser man once told me: "In the long run, it's healthier and happier to be on your own for the right reasons, than with someone for the wrong ones"
The older I get, the more I realise how right he was.
Chin up, keep on grooving mate 👍
great words ill remember those
I too am a rider who is extremely lonely at age 55. Every day I feel lonely. The bike helps but not the same. Hang in there, brother. ❤
Cheer mate if does help yes but agree not the same mukka
Hit 60, next month ...work seems , all I've got these days...haven't been riding much this year...thinking about get another bike, soon....what are you riding, my brother?
Very brave of you being so honest. Big respect to you. Take care of yourself
Thanks mate
No wife. No girlfriend. A calm life. No sadness from having expectations attached to other people.
She's not yours...just your turn.
You got that from an instagram post
@shutinyanks no I just wrote it. Thanks.
@@mustbetrue1602 A lot of insecure men, it needs to stop quite honestly if all the value you have in yourself comes from a woman then there are far worse things at play. in context of the video he said that he left the family home so quite what "she's not yours, just your turn" means is irrelevant
The video is about struggles of feeling lonely and isolated
@@shutinyanksyeah well my wife left me and my children. Said her turn for a life?.kids devastated. Don’t speak 8 yrs on do I feel sorry for someone leaving a family- no I dont
@@volt8684 Well, that's different. Usually it is men leaving the wife and kids, often for their affair partner.
I have adjusted to being alone, and i wouldn't have it any other way now. Peace of mind, do whatever you want to do, no arguing. So keep your chin up👍👍
cheers mukka
Your not the only one mate. Been there before and back there again. It will get better, don't rush it and good luck
Cheers bro 👊🏻 first time for me
Appreciate you talking so openly and hang in there fella, things always get better. Relationship breakdowns can feel like the entire world has been destroyed but ride it out, it WILL get better 🙏
cheers bro its just raw at the min
I have my wife, my daughter, and 3 friends who I am lucky if I see them once a year. I work from home so have no work friends. Everyday is just sort the baby>work/diy>sort the baby>sleep and there is no time for anything else. Outside of extended family I socialise maybe once every two to three months.
Life is lonely and I personally couldn't care less. If anything, I'd prefer more time to be by myself. My advice would be to take it as it comes, before long your whole circumstance might have changed and you might be wishing for a bit more alone time again.
**Edit** I'm obviously aware that I'm spending a lot of every day with the two most important people in the world. I'm not trying to compare my loneliness to others. My point is more that it's not about the quantity of friends or acquaintances that you have, but more about the quality of those relationships.
yes mate i understand what your your saying but i have left the family home and not local now to see my girls every day and where i live i know no one at all as in NO ONE
thats the difference mate
cheers for the comment though
Doesn’t this demonstrate that putting all your eggs in one basket can store up potential trouble for the future. I probably err towards @ianclose123 in how I live my life, but I realise that means if it goes all wrong I will be well and truly on The Broken Bus.
Hang in there mate. This too will pass, like everything else in life.
Not in the same situation thankfully but i do suffer with depression sometimes, not many mates , limited social life so my bike is my saviour a lot of the time. When i go out its just me in my helmet nobody else arguing, telling me what to do etc. so i do understand your loneliness. 👍
yea have this alot also mate never right but never wrong
This just came up on my feed. You’re incredibly brave to share your thoughts. That’s a good first step. Hopefully you’ll find someone soon.
Thanks it’s not a girlfriend I want just friends local to me 🤣🤣🤣
I've been there after nearly 30 years of marriage. Same situation, no blame, just grew apart. You will get through to the other side. The broken bus does get fixed and back on the road for new adventures. The bike was a great support for me. Respect for being so open.
I'm truly grateful for your kind words and support. It's encouraging to hear that you've navigated similar challenges
I can also second that comment. After 40 odd years together, my wife and I also grew apart and agreed to separate. Again, no blame, no silly affaires or anything like that, just different takes on life etc. For both of us it has worked well. No animosity. We are still very much in contact and help each other if needed. Our 3 lovely children who have eventually come to terms with the situation, have been so supportive. As for friends, like you, I don’t have many and those I do have are mainly ex work colleagues who are scattered over the country so I don’t see them very often. Riding my bikes is for me my ‘therapy’ where I can loose myself and my troubles whilst concentrating on my riding. I think as bikers, we are all part of a big like minded family…. I suppose I am lucky as I am quite happy with my own company, but I can totally appreciate your loneliness….
Stay as strong as you can, talk if possible to people, and keep riding and I hope and pray that you will come out of this a stronger person…
Very best wishes for your future,
Chris
@chrisbailey600 thanks for opening up on your comment it’s really hard times when at this stage
18 years ago my life fell apart took me 12 years too be in a better place, had a bike in the garage but wasn’t using it , sold it and the family home bought a smaller house, finished work with ill health, then I bought a new bike life as changed for the better from that time , I’m back in touch with several old school friends we’re all between 66 and 69, i’m 68 next birthday most are still biking,
Keep plodding on , life will improve, I’m at home most of the week my children live in England two in Yorkshire live close together, one in Hereford, pop into town have a coffee I’ve meet several people just by doing it , gets me out of the house,Good luck from 🏴
Sorry it took so long to get back to your self but at least now your there and happy that’s the main thing
It’s not quite the same situation you’re in but I’ve suffered with depression for 20 years.
No particular reason for it.
As you’ve heard probably a million times things will get better.
It won’t be easy but will change.
I’ve had times where I just wanna stay in a corner and be invisible.
But making the effort to get out on the bike or even just a walk helps no end.
Try not to dwell and fall into that black hole. Easier said than done I know. Been there done that lol.
Take it easy pal.
Man, I get it! Just getting out for a walk can feel like a win some days. Thanks for sharing your story-it’s a reminder that we’ve all got our battles. Keep doing you!
yes i understand split up after 22.5 years 6yrs ago and i still feel lost , lonely, and sad , not all the time ,but it still gets me at times like now ,on the appraoch to xmas , i've not ha a decoration up in six years , no point when your by yourself really
Arrrr man sorry to hear this mate
Hope you find some happyness
Try and hang in there fella. As difficult as it might be try to make the best of your current situation.
It’s horrid I know. We can only prey your situation will at some point improve. It doesn’t help matters with the festive season just around the corner. I dislike Christmas for that exact reason. 😊😊
I hear you! Christmas can be a real Grinch sometimes. Maybe we should start a "Bah Humbug Club" for those of us who aren’t feeling the holiday cheer!
Been on my own for 10 years now and love it. Wouldn't be able to put up with anyone's bullshit. On the bike cruising, no worries.😊
No you sound happy with that hahahaaha FairPlay I’ll get there
Best wishes to you in the hope that you can find a way which works for you - life can be tough at times, but individual resilience grows the more one has time alone, and alone shouldn’t mean lonely, you can survive, possibly better, when you can just have yourself to please! 🙏🙏👍👍
Cheers I believe in time it does
Enjoy the peace n quiet ! Get out and about ! Enjoy the biking . I love my missus but I love my own company just as much as.
Hiya mate.....i hear you, I have been there too, many of us have. a relationship breaks down for whatever reason and the friend you had years ago have gone their own ways, had kids, whatever. This vlog shows that you are reaching out, opening yourself to others, that's huge mate.
You will make new mates, biking mates, you don't need loads just a select few that you can count on, maybe at a similar time of life to yourself, the biking community is great for helping each other out. Just give it time....join a local bike club. There must be a few in your part of the world.
I live in the Highlands, my partner found somebody else and I was out, felt so alone in the world but you are at the bottom at that point and the only way is up and I am confident if you have a positive attitude, it WILL get better.
Take care of yourself mate 👍
Thanks mate mean a lot to know other are or having in the same position in life
It was just me talking openly in my helmet out load
Didn’t think I’d have this response if I’m honest
@@thepeakybiker Following on from CavanHolden : the upside of meeting with other bikers is that generally they are a good humoured bunch. I had a break from bikes for close to two decades and have rediscovered the comradeship that exists. I thought it would be a thing of the past.
Being alone and being lonely are two different things. It's such a revelation when you realize it.
Yes your right
I joined my local IAM group a few years ago and met some great new like minded mates, travelled Europe on holidays and go out nearly every week in the summer for a run. Worth a try mate, good luck.
I’ll have alook into it
Sometimes you realize that you just have to let things go. You cannot change them. When you come to that point it is much easier. You take it as it is. Very honest video. Appreciate it mukka. Take care.
Letting go is like trying to hold onto a wet bar of soap-sometimes you just gotta drop it and hope for the best! 😂
@@thepeakybiker Yes, true bro.
I wish you all the very best , stay safe on the bike , and i hope things improve for you 👍
Thank you I appreciate this comment
i have been there starting again is hard and to be honest my bike is the only thing that got me through it telling people how you feel is the first step the next step is up to you i tried not to concentrate on what was wrong but on what was right.
just remember it takes two to stay in touch dont sit there thinking that you are alone reach out to the people you know even if its just for a chat
but the most important tyhing i learnt was no matter how low you feel there are always the up days
great word there and advice thank you i appreciate it mate
Take it a day at a time - it will get better. Lost my nephew in Afghanistan and then my
brother committed suicide. You can't replace them so you have to work with it. Having the bike helps - gives you escape but also helps to meet people. Got a local biker meeting place? Don't know where you are but try Andy's Man Club for support. Guys getting together to talk about mental health. Day at a time.
Time alone is truly precious. It took me years to learn this. But it is true, in my case. I don't mind the social stuff, or helping people out. But time on my own, to think, and do what I choose, is priceless.
Great word here and you know what’s good for you that’s priceless
Feel you pal. I’ve been working 2 jobs / 7 days a week for the last 6 yrs… I literally have zero friends and zero social life…
One thing that has kept me together is exercising, running etc…
I’m so glad I’ve found a new interest in biking… done my cbt last month. Passed my theory last week and start my DAC in 10 days… it’s kept my mind and emotions in a really positive place.
Good luck and wish you the best.
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I know so many guys who are affected by loneliness. In my experience when relationships break down it's usually the guy who pays the price, financially, emotionally, and all too often the female keeps the 'joint' friends. Obviously not all the time, but as I say, it is most commonly guys who end up lonely.
@@BibTheBoulderTheOriginalOne thankfully I’ve been quite lucky… don’t feel lonely (at least for now) the master skill is to be alone without being lonely ….
yea mate the bikes an old friend but a new one at the same time now
Separated from the love of my life just over a year ago and still reeling tbh. We were quite insular and I do have a small handful of close friends, but only one of those lives locally and it does get lonely, especially living and working alone (I think we might one day look back on remote working as a silent killer). Thanks for being candid about your situation - it does help to know that other people are having similar struggles, although I wouldn't wish those struggles on anybody, of course. Wishing you all the best. I recommend finding routes to incidental contact with people - just chit-chat - because it helps you to feel more human, even if you're not making bezzie mates with anyone. Stay strong, brother, and remember that you are worthy!
Thanks bro 👊🏻
Appreciate this comment
You know it’s difficult being alone as I am also a lone worker and suffer from PTSD from my military service so
Thanks bro 👊🏻
Appreciate this comment
You know it’s difficult being alone as I am also a lone worker and suffer from PTSD from my military service
Thanks bro 👊🏻
Appreciate this comment
You know it’s difficult being alone as I am also a lone worker and suffer from PTSD from my military service
I feel for you, mate. Here are a few suggestions:
1. Join a local motorcycle club
2. Get a pet.
3. Consider going to bike meets or rally's, although the companionship there is often transient.
Good luck!
Thanks for the tips!
Good video, shows a lot of character to open up to a load of strangers. I'm in a similar place with regards to friends, over time most have faded away but I don't feel lonely. But I do worry sometimes that will I feel the same way in the future. Problem is to make good friends you have to go though things with people, it takes a lot of time and effort to build a friendship and only a few months to lose it. After the amount of hours I work (and on nights) I just don't have the time to build these new connections. Subbed.
I get it! Friends can come and go, but it’s all about those real ones who stick around. Just keep doing you and who knows, maybe some connections will happen when you least expect it! Thanks for subbing!
Time heals everything. In life’s journey it hurts to be at the point departure, and there is always a beginning and new arrival afterwards. All the best.
Absolutely! Life is all about those cycles of endings and new beginnings. It’s comforting to know that time can help mend our hearts.
Been watching for a little bit and you've helped me start riding and getting through my tests. Talking about this stuff is incredibly hard - to hear you speak it so candidly is a great inspiration! Keep on keeping on and thank you! Big man hugs mate
Arrr Amman thanks mukka appreciate this
I do speak openly but also keep a lot
Well done on passing your test also mate
It's not easy mate when you go through a separation been there. You can find strength in being alone, I go camping on my bike it gets me out time will heal you take care
no mate first ever time for been with my ex wife from 15 years of age its a struggle
Bless you- stay strong- keep talking- we are here for you- the power of YT- you have connections- this too, will pass- the biker community is strong- thanks for your service to your country.
Thank you 🙏🏻 appreciate this mate
You sound like a good man i wish you well big time stay safe
Thank you 🙏🏻
And drinking is not the solution, it makes it worse.
It's about context - if you need it, you're right.
But a bottle of wine can be can be good company and de-stress and relax 👍
Sending massive Alby hugs for you buddy, stay strong my friend. Its never easy finding solace in what sometimes seem very difficult times, trust me, somehow through the dark times there is always light and even though things change us and the lives we once knew, we can learn to adapt to a different life that can have its own rewards and help us find a different kind of happiness so its ok to just be ok sometimes, you are a great guy and I know you'll get through this and I for one look forward to the day we meet again and chew the fat over a couple beers. Luv ya Pal.
Alby thanks mate
I’ll take the kinds words on board mate and gain some inspiration from you mukka
Hope your well and thanks for the comment
Hi Brian, it was good to meet you today at the NEC, and i wish i had seen this video prior to seeing you today. I think you have more friends than you realise here on youtube, please never feel that you are alone, I know it's hard to see at the moment, but it's early days for this part of your life and it will get better.
thanks was really nice to meet up and have a good chat to you guys and thanks for the comment
Your not on the broken bus your just in for a service, I know it feels overwhelming, but this is a chance to rebuild. It might not seem like it now, but there’s a path forward. You have so much to offer the world, and the right people will see and value that. If you ever want to talk or vent, I’m here.
Cheers bro
Eeeee, you’re not broken mucker…just going through it😊 (I’m ex 20yr mob too…so I get it when you say about not having civvi mates near by) I have moved around a lot since getting out; and the best way of meeting new mates as you get older and moving to a new area (although still such a kid at heart/mentally!) is find a good bike shop, ask the guys for off road contacts and get out and ride with them. Before you know it, you’ll find a bond and life gets easier.
The more pressure you put on yourself to ‘make friends’ the harder it feels. Just be yourself, always look for the silver lining amongst the 💩 and remember that we are sooo lucky to have the days we have; not everyone gets to the age we get 🤗 The right people will find ya, I promise!
Keep doing what you’re doing and if you fancy some different company on a ride out… give me a shout and I’ll dig out my GS and I’ll happily make ya ears bleed! Stay safe, keep smiling and keep doing what ya doing 🏍️👏🏻 You’ve got this…. Ps Well done on being open n honest. 👊🏻
Cheer bro means alot that I know other have felt the same and got through it mukka
Let’s meet up have a ride
@@thepeakybiker You’re on!
the old internet can be a cesspit... but,
There is the chance for people to support each other.
Count your blessings, you have mobility!
I'm isolated due to the DVLA messing up my license.
But we have these videos, and I have a wonderful wife where I am.
Hurts to not be able to drive / ride out to see loved ones... it's been years now. ❤
You have love and happiness with your wife feel blessed
You would feel lonely in a room full of people after the end of a long term relationship . From limited experience it just takes time to mourn the relationship regardless of fault. Just keep doing what you do and the right people will find ya. You can’t ride a bike and have no mates, we all got you 👍
Cheer mukka
You are going through the hurt and you will heal, as my dad used to say time is a great healer, you’ll get through it and come out the other side, good luck and best wishes from up North, Cumbria.
Time can also be the greatest destroyer when your kids disown you...
cheers bro
Hi, first time watching you. Don't be so down on yourself, you are just having a blip of a bad time. You still have the right attitude. Very brave of you to be honest and open about your feelings and private life. You still have people to talk to whether it's video call or bike nights. It's less complicated that way. I lost all my friends when I started a family. I'd rather have no friends than fake friends. I still have my health, kids and bikes. I'm sure you will be feeling the love from your followers. All the best 👍
Cheers bro yea I still have my kids and friendly with my ex mrs but I’m not close enough to pop over and see kids and where I am I have no one at all that’s all
I’m 48 and feel like it’s first day at school not knowing anyone
Sorry to hear you’re going through this pal. Whatever friends you do bring back into your life now. Keep your circle small❤
Not partner related but I’m too struggling with my mental health and signed off till the new year. I’m about to get the bike out and head to Barmouth from Wolves if you’re about 👍🏻
Drop me an email mukka swap numbers if ya want
Mega respect to you for putting this vid out Brian. I bet there's plenty of fellas in our community in the same boat or have at some point in there lives, I certainly have. Keep your chin up mate, it takes time to adjust, and things do get better. Thinking of you mukka.
cheers bro i just feek and say it how it is in my life mate and hope others can take a little bit from it that there are others in the same position
I’ve just watched your video this morning, I’m so so said to hear your news this morning.
hi carl hope your well i am ok mate just a little lost and lonely
Ayup Mucka, there's always a warm welcome at 2 Wheel Bikers HQ kettle and coffee machine always on standby 😘
Ride safe pal
Ian and Tracey 🏍🏍
Thanks for the warm welcome, Ian and Tracey! I’ll be sure to stop by for that coffee and good company. Ride safe!
@thepeakybiker
Top man 👍
Thanks for sharing. Not easy to do. Hang in there and focus on the things you can control. Also, consider getting some mental health care. It can make a difference.
cheers mate looked into this already as i have PTSD from my service within the Armed Forces
Keep going mate, turn the page, give it time and things will work out in the end. If you can still appreciate the sights when you ride, your looking for positives and that's a good sign. Keep making the effort to meet up with local bikers if there's a local club and the friendships will come in time.
Loneliness is horrible but it will pass. Its like being in the middle of a forest climbing a tree to see where you are, and all you can see is trees cos your in a valley. You need to get to higher ground climb another tree then you will see your way out of the forest. That's how I sometimes think of Loneliness.
Takes effort to get out of it and you will sort it. Keep enjoying the bike mate it's a good video. Thanks for posting it. Good man.
Cheer mate it was a video I wasn’t going to post but glad people look at this and see that other are feeling the same as them
Thanks for your comment appreciate it
I always have my special 2 friends, my CBR600F and CBR250R
Love this
So I need two bikes hahah
everyone has different circumstances, but it is very sad that in this modern era, couples don't work at relationships and give up on a life partner too soon. Relationships are seldom sweetness and light and need to be worked at, take the rough with the smooth. been with my wife 37 years and im 53 now, we have separated once when I was so wrapped up in my career but I saw the light and worked my way back and now 10 years on cannot imagine growing old alone. It's not perfect but no relationship is, it takes work and give and take... take a step back and have a good think about things. Bikes come and go, life partners are just that for life. Ride safe my friend.
I’ve been with my wife 33 years and it a mutual agreement
We’ve been working at it for years so think that part of the comment isn’t right and you don’t know is mate
But thanks for the comment
This sounds so familiar to my situation from about five years ago. I do think, however painful, it's important to know what real friendship looks like.....hang in there mate!
Cheers mate appreciate thisb
Thanks for sharing both your ride and your thoughts. I trust that having some space to do both helped clear your head.
I know that riding and sharing both work for me. Stay safe bud.
Thanks for the message mukka yea didn’t know the video would hit a nerve with people
I'm 61 yrso I've suffered with mild schizophrenia & psychosis for over 25 yrs but I don't let it rule or change my life in any way.
Friends & family that walk out your life at your lowest, we're never friends & family in the first place you don't need them as I've found out quality far out ways quantity.
I'm a lone wolf now & love it, but I have joined a motorcycle club yrs ago meeting like minded ppl plus find motorcycle cafe's.
My motorcycle club & I are doing a santa run to local children's hospice taking Christmas presents for the kids.
My advice from someone who knows heartache & heartbrake is to keep busy & functional don't let ppl have the privilege of seeing you fall to say I knew it I told you so?.
Good luck sir don't let yourself or others drag you down.
Thank you for sharing your story! It’s inspiring to see how you’ve turned challenges into strength and are giving back to the community. Your resilience is admirable!
Stay strong brother
cheers bro
First off I think it's great that you have the courage to say something that a lot of people keep quiet about and suffer in silence. It seems harder to make friends as you get older, for me although I have some people that I see occasionally it seems like my interests are a tad niche. None of my local friends are into bikes and have busy lives, so we only go out once of twice a year for a hill walk, more life long friends have moved far away. I do find that the occasional trip to a local bike meet and bar be que helps and I've had some good interactions with fellow [older] bikers. Since then I've met people that I'm happy to go out for a ride with occasionally. Many years ago I lost my main friendship group after splitting up with my long term partner, people take sides and feel free to judge without knowing the background. If they knew the truth they wouldn't have been as judgemental - but that would have meant I would have had to dish the dirt. I decided to keep quiet as I thought "if you judge me without knowing the story then you're not really a friend".
Thanks mate
It’s difficult isn’t it no one is at fault in my relationship we just gew apart
It’s hard to make new friends like you lost all my friends in one group
Your not alone bud, my house is not a happy one 😢 I'm a call away mate 👍
Cheers bro 👊🏻 just feels like everything is going against me
Keep your head up and keep going forward 😊
Hi mate, nice video. Nice day but freezing cold 🥶
Hang in there my friend, many people are going through the same experience. I have felt the same as well.
Can recommend maybe going to some biker meets, gym classes, singles nights at the pub! It’s hard but gotta try and get out there to meet some people.
Stay strong man, you are not alone. All the best to you 🙌
Thanks for the advice
I've messaged on fb. But just thanks sharing. Hopefully it gets better and stay positive when you can. You got this
Cheers mate appreciate the comment and the thought It will get better just hard at the min
Thanks for being so open. I’ve had nearly 4 years of feeling the same way. Luckily I’ve got the dog for company and he has given me focus. Stay strong bro.
i miss my dog alot too thanks for the comment mukka
@ No worries, I’m often around the Peaks, hopefully will bump into you guys sometime soon when I’m out on the bike.
@@PeteZZR yes mukka when i am that way usually with jay @crazylegsonabike
This video just showed up in my feed, now subscribed so you've another virtual pal. Well done for speaking out, it's all too easy to hide away. Hang in there man, even on the darkest days, remind yourself that better days are ahead.
Though very different circumstances, I lost all my so-called friends when my health went to sh!t. Lost my career, any earning potential, things got real dark for a while. The darker days are behind me and I can count all of my friends on one thumb, still gets tough at times, but speaking out does help. Obviously we've never met but please feel free to reach out any time, I'm on here most days. And if you find yourself down south, there's a place at my table for ya.
Looking at the amount of comments, you've got a decent community on here. Always remember that and stay strong brother, hope things improve soon. All the best, Tommy.
Hi mate thanks
It’s amazing how people step up and help but so called friends shy away I’m ok mate the comments are amazing mate honestly it’s blown me away I’m only a small channel and just me sat on my bike chatting about my life didn’t think it would have this effect on people
Thanks for the comment mate and I hope to see you in the future mukka
Cheers 🍻
@@thepeakybiker No problem at all fella, glad you're doing ok. Surprising what speaking openly and honestly can do, resonates with a lot of folk out there who are dealing with their own crap in their own ways. Not something I'm great at, but it strikes a chord when I see others do it and wanted to show my support.
I've recently got into the biker channels with the hopes of getting my licence next year. It's been a 25 year itch to have one, still not 100% sure it'll be possible but I'll be damned if I'm not going to try! It'd be a pleasure to have a ride with ya one day, offer will always be there. Stay safe mate, keep strong. Cheers pal 👍
Easy for me to say but the best thing is to talk about it ,never keep it bottled up or take to drink to cope alcohol is not a help,hope you get better bit by bit and try to do something every day even if it's just going out for a long walk,never been that down myself yes been pissed off but that's petty compared to what many go through,I ended up buying a cheap project bike and just took it to bits,gradually cleaning painting refitting never mad a penny but it kept me out the house all the best.
yea thats a good idea mate cheers
I don’t have any friends either, only “ associates “.
I help others where and when I can, and occasionally receive help in return.
Mostly I manage on my own.
Meditating is of great value.
Cheers mate you find it hard on your own still
@@thepeakybiker after a decade, not really.
I learned to accept my situation, what I can do and that what I can’t.
Yes at times I still struggle, badly, but I remind myself I got through issues before and will so again.
Take a few deep breaths, part of the meditation practice, then take the next step in whatever form that takes, reading, going for a walk, chores etc etc, watch RUclips, and riding of course.
And most importantly, listening to music, that is truly enriching the soul.
@Robert-xs2mv good advice I’ll take this on board
Have a bro hug from me. Very open raw chat. Thx for sharing. It's definitely harder nowadays when you get to a certain age (and therefore less motivated to be arsed making new chums) coupled with the doshless times we are all living in and the depressing government we have injecting pessimism into our lives... It's bloody tough and I reckon most folk are feeling something similar but don't admit it. Keep your head high. I have a dog who helps me keep somewhat cheerful on the blue days.
thanks mate i appreciate this
My thinking is this, we all want friends and people who we can relate and rely on and trust ,however, my own way of thinking is,,,you need to like and believe in yourself, also value oneself, Love yourself, also when people see you happy with yourself they normally like to be with like minded people, be yourself and happiness follows 🙂↕️☀️🏍🙏 much happiness and love to you brother 👊🏍
Arrrr thanks man great words to inspire me mate thanks again
We bought a water bed ,after that we just drifted apart.
🤣🤣🤣 I like that
What you focus on grows.
I did the same life changes you have done, a year ago , you addapt, you cope day to day , thank god I have my bike , which helps me get away from the issues I've to deal with
cheers mate its still very raw
Going through the same thing myself... I can relate fully to how you feel mate. I'm ex army also, never able to fully adapt to civvy street, relationship break up and forced to sell the house which I loved in Cannock Wood, Staffordshire, and now living in Nottingham, away from all my friends I have made over the years... I'm also a biker, which has helped in some way to keep me sane. I luckily have my little dog, which helps me to get out twice a day as he needs to go for walks so helping me get out for his sake... as to loneliness, yes, I'm 68 now, unlikely to meet anyone else at this stage of my life, and I get overwhelmed and close to tears sometimes, but as a soldier I 'make myself have it' and carry on... however, I do on occasion meet up with an army mate and his wife for a couple of drinks for an hour or so, which helps sometimes, but I never tell them how I really feel. So yes, you are not alone, but we are made of stronger stuff than most, and we will come through it... let's keep our chins up mate!
Ich dien brother
You know then the struggles
Cheers for reaching out bro
@@thepeakybiker I came across your post by accident, but knew straight away that I had to respond as it put into context my own situation... so thanks for making that post as it has made me sit down and put my own thoughts out there, and that is in some way a help to me, cheers!
@ appreciate this mate
I actually didn’t mean to post it out
Glad I did
Could meet up for a brew
Sorry you're going through this and totally understand what you mean about friends. My longest and closest friends are absolutely nowhere near, so I'm trying to build up my friendship group, but at 51 it's hard. Plus all the baggage that I have mentally doesn't help.
totally understand mukka
Hi Brian - Big “G” here - just wanted you to know I’m thinking about you as you deal with a body blow that life has thrown you - your a resilient and strong man - and I have no doubt that with this RUclips community and motorbikes you will get yourself to the other side . It’s amazing what can come along out the blue - but you have to go out and look for it - it won’t come and knock on your front door - as Bruce would say “keep on getting out there , when ever you can “ keep on , keeping on ! - Gordon… 🥃
BIG G cheers bro i feel a little lost at the min but i will get there
Jesus Christ 283 comments - There’s a lot of Love out there Brian - yer not alone buddy - that’s incredible 🎉
@mrwhiskym8818 amazing mate honestly didn’t really think this video would do this I’m just me talking to myself in my helmet
I totally get your feeling, I also love riding with people and meeting new people.💓
tarrr mate
@@thepeakybiker Have a nice day mate! keep going.
@@thepeakybiker Mate , I have massaged you, check please.
Everyone is different on the way they deal with things so nobody can really help you with the way you feel right now, but when I found myself in the very same situation you are in, instead of feeling down and focusing on all the negative side of things, I decided to see it as an opportunity to make my life better than it was, this is only a very short insight to my situation but I rebuilt my life from the ground up doing it just for me, I now have lived alone for more than 20 years no close family or any friends, but I do have lots of interests to include motorbikes, I would love to have someone to chat to on a regular basis about anything and everything but it doesn't stop me from looking forward to every day, I can go for several months without any human contact or conversation, it really does take a lot of self discipline to stay positive and just enjoy doing whatever you feel like. People think there is this big motorcycle family waiting with open arms, it really doesn't exist, people have their own little groups which they mistake for a wider community, I've lived and ride my bike in my neighbourhood for more than 20 years and have never met any other bikers or made any friends, I have reached out to few online but they just aren't interested, which doesn't give you any faith in the mythical biker community.
i hope this changes for you as you can read on these comments there are good people out there
Oh mate I’m so sorry, as soon as I have run my bike in I’ll come for a ride with you on my Enfield 350 classic but I don’t ride very quick because I’m retired. If it helps I’ve had depression all my life and only got one friend she is lovely but not a biker. I couldn’t go to the bike show because of the crowds . The farmer are supposed to clean it up but they don’t 👍🏍️
Thanks for the comment mate
Roads are horrible at the min with the mud
I think after lock down a lot of people have ended up in this position. I appreciate a break up with a partner can be very difficult but as people often say, as one door closes another door opens or slams in your face! Try and stay positive and look after yourself, I am sure over time things will improve and the ride outs on the bike can be great therapy.
Thanks for the kind words think lock down has a lot to answer for
Massive respect mate I feel your pain. Don't know how you managed it, tells me your in control of this grieving process. Stay strong and safe mate 👍❤
johno tarrr mukka
been their mate still gets me even after 20 years then my dad passed away 2015 on medication still but like you said when with a family you lose contact with mates so when the time comes it feels like no one is their thats where i am now been so hard the last month with poor mood and depressed feelings meds working overtime no enjoyment any where not even on my bike got no where to go feel so lost so at the moment i am rock bottom to be honest getting support but slow it is if you need a new mate give me a message nottingham way try keep yourself good anytime i am here
Cheers bro I’ll keep ya to that notts here I come hahah
Things will get better me easier in time once you get settled again.
Your doing really well but it's hard.
Much respect to you. I hope this video gets to many others that need to see this, you have a great community.
One day at a time.
We're all thinking about you nearly ALL the time.
There are so many good times and people to meet ahead but you just don't know it yet.
Where the fook would we be without our bikes to clear out heads 😮
cheers mukka thanks for the text aslo
Ehoa, yup been there, yes we also grew apart. Now 28 yrs later still living on my own, bike in my shed, doing things i love . Brave indeed you are in exposing your MAMAE , never been to a pub either. Im an Introvert so hhjj on living alone and riding whenever or wherever. Friends come and go ehea neh. Stay strong to your beliefs, life is just that, life. Kia Kaha Tane Toa, stay upright and somewhat on course. Oh yeah ,im a Kiwi ex SNCO 20yrs service. UBIQUE
Ich dien
Bro
👊🏻
Thanks mate appreciate this
I get where your coming from. Been on the broken bus 14 years, still find it hard to trust people. Lost a huge circle of friends who just stopped talking to me. But have a roof over my head and a bike in the shed. So plodding on doing what an when I want to do without any worries.
hope your ok mukka
Hang in there bud you'll be fine, try a date or 5 there's a plenty looking for companionship.
Did you say Shrewsbury? Theres a place called Bannatynes, near Sainsburys. There a re quite a few guys in similar situation there and quite a few bikers. Many ae retired and enjoy to do a little gentle exercise, sauna, swim and so on. A friendly bunch.
Oh nice! I didn’t know that! Sounds like a chill spot to hang out and meet some cool folks. Maybe I’ll check it out!
Good on you for sharing, mate. I'm sure a lot can relate to some extent. Hope you get through it. Looks like you've got a lot of support in this virtual space at least. 👍
Cheers mate just opening up thanks for the comment
Your just mirror imaged my current situation. Me and wife decided to part ways mutually like you described. Stay strong and positive, life is short and look at it as new chapter in your life.💪
Love that CHEERS YOU TO BRO
All my mates moved away, one of the reasons i passed my bike licence a month or so ago is so i can go to meets and try meet new people. Its hard, but on the other hand things can always be worse.
Agree with that mukka could always be worse
Cheers for the comment
Hang in there pal, reach out to those you can and never feel like a burden. Everyone is busy with their own lives but will also help if you need it. Alcohol is not a good answer so definitely stick with putting fuel in the bike. Look for things you are passionate about about and maybe some volunteer roles that can help pass time and build new friendships of people like minded. You will hopefully become more comfortable in your own company. Keep busy where you can ❤
Cheers bro 👊🏻
It’s all still very new and raw I’ll get there thanks for the comment and thing I can look to do with spare time
i think at this time of year loneliness is even harder with the perception that families / relationships are perceived as normal all i can say is hang in there dont turn to alchol as it wont be your friend saying that book a christmass meal at your local if you have one try to be positive
Cheers mate
It will
Appreciate the comment
I feel like I'm the driver of the broken bus. Lost my son to a drunk driver 14 months ago when he drove into ben f17 on his 125cc. Shropshire is my home and was born in the same village. I totally agree with your thoughts.
O my friend sorry for your loss
This is heart breaking to hear
@thepeakybiker please give me a shout if you fancy a coffee and chat sometime. I have dm on insta x
Always here for you mate.
Cheers mukka I know your a great friend to have
Fuel is definitely a better purchase than grog. Back in the 90”s, I dug myself into a deep hole. It was a few phone calls from a few proper friends that kept me from checking out.
A series of fandom events and chance meetings with strangers made me wake up to myself.
I still get the lack dog a lot. It’s crap. It’s difficult and it can be lonely. Ride on mate. Ride on.
I feel for you Brian. We all have our cross to bear. I've been struggling to work something out in my mind. 😢over the past few years. I have good days and bad days. Wouldn't it be good if we could all get together and chat these things through with each other. We are not alone. Be strong mate, the world as you view it from your rides are still great and worth seeing. The bike helps this happen. It's the glue that bonds us riders together. All the best wishes.
thanks mukka
I'm also army veteran, peak District, biker, with not many local close friends.
How ya finding it
@@thepeakybiker getting by alright but life's a constant battle isn't it. Not been out on the bike much this year with work/weather.
Just subscribed judging by your other comments there are other bikers who you can link up with
so don't despair the biker community is amazing
thanks for the sub i am just a normal bloke going through normal shite but happy to share thanks again bro
Keep plodding mate. Winter blues are terrible at times. Worst I felt was actually abroad on a bike tour in sunny France, felt alone and homesick. I find the gym is a great place to find friendly people - made probably a dozen friends there. Motorcycle groups too. You can go to the pub and not drink!
Cheers bro appreciate the comment
I know how you feel mate. I broke up with my ex in 2015, had no mates, suffered from anxiety and depression, had to move back in with my parents because I had nowhere else to go and couldn't figure my s**t out (still trying to after all these years) 33 and still at home with mummy and daddy haha 😅 but it would be nice to just have a small group of friends (no drama) but it's difficult to make friends when you're an adult, especially considering people have there own thing going on, they may not have common interests with you and it's even more difficult when you rarely ever drink. I don't go out to clubs, rarely ever go to pubs. But honestly, after all these years it just gets easier having no friends, I am content, but as I said, it would be nice to have a small group of friends I can count on and don't bring bs and drama into my life, humans are social creatures after all. On the upside I recently done my CBT back in August and bought myself a brand new GSX-R125 (24 Reg) but I always wanted to travel and do some wild camping so my long term plan is basically to pass my test, then eventually do my test for an A2 License and buy something like a Honda CB500X 👍 Hit the road, maybe go abroad and just see where the road takes me...maybe meet some good people along the way. 😇 Anyway, for anyone else that's alone, chin up, you don't know what the future holds for you even if things look bleak right now. Just find something to do that will take your mind off things until you figure your s**t out. Although it's nice to have friends there is more to life than just that and you're living it! So go and do what you want to do! The world is a big place and there is much to see and do. Stay strong and stay grounded. 👍❤️
hope you pass your A2 licence mate and get out and enjoy it while your at your mom and dads save some coin to travel wish that whatci would have done mukka
@@thepeakybiker Thanks mate I appreciate it. Yeah living at home with the parents has its pros and cons but it would be nice to have my own space again tbh. I'll get there eventually. 😇 I hope things work out for you, stay strong brother 😇👍
@@AMan-JCIL yea i know what ya mean mukka
Thoughts and sincere good wishes to you.. Life can be incredibly cruel and difficult. And well done in expressing your feelings and thoughts.. Us guys tend to hide them but that is not good..
yea didnt think this video would do this and steer up this emotion
Hi mate, i hope your well. Your video popped up and first video I've watched of yours so not sure what reg you were in ect. You should look up your local association or go to local legion they will hold a meeting once a week. Hope this helps mate gets you out of the house and chatting.
Thanks for the suggestions! It's always great to hear about local resources that can help connect with others. I appreciate your input!