very informative and i'm very grateful for the treatments and strategies. I've noticed how detrimental my correcting, rigidity and perfectionism has impacted my romantic relationships, friendships, and ability to work with others and I really want to work on being more understanding and less judgemental and irritable. I LOVE how you explained one of the differences between OCD and OCPD in terms of how it FEELS for the person. I definitely experience irritability more than anxiety, especially when it comes to others not doing things "my way."
So very thank you for all your help and for all the explaining and information on RUclips about OCPD I found your videos the most informative and almost perfectly describing someone I know to an exact science! You video has helped me immensely 🙏🏼
Thank you for the info although I just can't envision myself using any of the strategies without feeling very uncomfortable since my thoughts are so rigid and seemingly hardwired in my brain 😢
This was very helpful thank you. What recommendations would you give to the spouse of someone with OCPD? Have you done/could you do any content on that?
What if they aren't "doing it right" evidenced by the fact that you are constantly fixing things up afterwards??? eg.......the dishwasher is not "loaded right" and the dishes need to be re-washed!!.......😕
My reply is long but I like the topic, and would love to discuss! I used my own example, rather than the dishwasher but I feel it’s still appropriate… I interpret it as follows: Partner A asks Partner B to organize condiments in the fridge. Partner B removes condiments that have expired, that are empty or nearly empty. Partner A complains that the labels are not facing out, therefore Partner B “did it wrong.” Moving forward, Partner B ensures the labels are out. Now, Partner A mentions they did not organize the condiments smallest to largest or most used to least, again says Partner B “did it wrong.” Moving forward…etc., etc. Partner A then complains that each condiment does not have one finger width distance between. Partner A no longer asks Partner B to help organize the fridge, as they cannot seem to “do it right.” Partner B did not see an issue with how they did it in the first place. Partner A does it this way, automatically. They cannot understand how Partner B doesn’t see it the same way… It’s not that Partner B is wrong, even if Partner A believes their system makes condiment use more efficient, aesthetically pleasing, etc… Idk I could have interpreted that differently, or “wrong” but it was fun for me to analyze this point and explain my view! Thank you so much for the opportunity. I hope you experience something pleasant within the next week, you’re doing great (in case no one’s told you today!)
Why would they need to be re-washed? Because they weren’t loaded exactly right? If you take them out, do they look clean? Other people can do things, even if they don’t do it just like you.
How do you explain to a client they have OCPD? Have to put in a diagnosis for insurance purposes but client thinks he has anxiety and burnout from overworking. Would it be harmful to just tell him that or just quietly tailor the treatment plan on addressing the issues like perfectionism, b n w thinking, rigidity, etc? For some reason I think I am insulting or hurting them by giving them this diagnosis.
I am wondering if hoarding can also be part of the OCPD symptom list. The persons I know who display the set of OCPD symptoms (especially ego-syntonic rigidity) I’ve read in DSM also cannot throw anything out until it is completely used up, read thoroughly, completely falling apart, rusted through, etc., so they always have an enormous mess around them, look a mess, wear ragged clothing and carry many bags anywhere they go.
very informative and i'm very grateful for the treatments and strategies. I've noticed how detrimental my correcting, rigidity and perfectionism has impacted my romantic relationships, friendships, and ability to work with others and I really want to work on being more understanding and less judgemental and irritable. I LOVE how you explained one of the differences between OCD and OCPD in terms of how it FEELS for the person. I definitely experience irritability more than anxiety, especially when it comes to others not doing things "my way."
Thank you 🙏
So very thank you for all your help and for all the explaining and information on RUclips about OCPD I found your videos the most informative and almost perfectly describing someone I know to an exact science! You video has helped me immensely 🙏🏼
Thank you for the info although I just can't envision myself using any of the strategies without feeling very uncomfortable since my thoughts are so rigid and seemingly hardwired in my brain 😢
I hope therapy is an option for you 😢
Very helpful ... extremely insightful . Thank you so much for providing valuable content on RUclips .
thanks Amy - that was a good tutorial. will try the experimenting - i hope i can stay with it.
This was very helpful thank you. What recommendations would you give to the spouse of someone with OCPD? Have you done/could you do any content on that?
What if they aren't "doing it right" evidenced by the fact that you are constantly fixing things up afterwards??? eg.......the dishwasher is not "loaded right" and the dishes need to be re-washed!!.......😕
How important is “doing it right”compared to the other persons dignity?
My reply is long but I like the topic, and would love to discuss!
I used my own example, rather than the dishwasher but I feel it’s still appropriate…
I interpret it as follows:
Partner A asks Partner B to organize condiments in the fridge.
Partner B removes condiments that have expired, that are empty or nearly empty.
Partner A complains that the labels are not facing out, therefore Partner B “did it wrong.”
Moving forward, Partner B ensures the labels are out. Now, Partner A mentions they did not organize the condiments smallest to largest or most used to least, again says Partner B “did it wrong.”
Moving forward…etc., etc.
Partner A then complains that each condiment does not have one finger width distance between. Partner A no longer asks Partner B to help organize the fridge, as they cannot seem to “do it right.”
Partner B did not see an issue with how they did it in the first place. Partner A does it this way, automatically. They cannot understand how Partner B doesn’t see it the same way…
It’s not that Partner B is wrong, even if Partner A believes their system makes condiment use more efficient, aesthetically pleasing, etc…
Idk I could have interpreted that differently, or “wrong” but it was fun for me to analyze this point and explain my view!
Thank you so much for the opportunity.
I hope you experience something pleasant within the next week, you’re doing great (in case no one’s told you today!)
Why would they need to be re-washed? Because they weren’t loaded exactly right? If you take them out, do they look clean? Other people can do things, even if they don’t do it just like you.
How do you explain to a client they have OCPD? Have to put in a diagnosis for insurance purposes but client thinks he has anxiety and burnout from overworking. Would it be harmful to just tell him that or just quietly tailor the treatment plan on addressing the issues like perfectionism, b n w thinking, rigidity, etc? For some reason I think I am insulting or hurting them by giving them this diagnosis.
I am wondering if hoarding can also be part of the OCPD symptom list. The persons I know who display the set of OCPD symptoms (especially ego-syntonic rigidity) I’ve read in DSM also cannot throw anything out until it is completely used up, read thoroughly, completely falling apart, rusted through, etc., so they always have an enormous mess around them, look a mess, wear ragged clothing and carry many bags anywhere they go.
Yes…and if it’s not perfect it’s painful for them
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