Divorced myself, I ve seen and heard so many opinions and advice. I'm not jewish, not relegious even, but what this Rabin says, is just so wright. What an incredible wisdom. Thank you for sharing this respectfull insight.
I like what he had to say about repair. Knowing that the other person cares and is invested enough to repair with you builds trust in the solidity of the relationship. Versus having a partner that expects (unrealistically) that there will be no conflict, which only squelches authenticity and causes resentment to build up.
I have a question Rabbi YY. Do you remember some years ago a Brooklyn woman whose husband died and she remarried with 10 children still in the home? I can remember thinking the man must have been a grossa tzadik. My question is, who now comes first, the 2nd husband or her children from her first marriage?
@amyjeanbelk7561 then you shouldn't remarry until the children are grown. Step-parents are not parents. Children deserve to be a priority, and they cannot be a priority if the step-parent comes first.
When we love G-d above all others, we love others as they should be loved, truly. It's a similar principle in marriage. When one spouse loves the other above all others, they can love their children as they should be loved.
I was a vegetarian before marriage. Never had beef or pork or unclean meats . Reason im saying is after marriage I let all my spiritual changed for my husband who is nonveg, he still didnt felt its fine. Anyway 😢
Disagree rabbi. My father treated my mother like royalty and she manipulated him and me and my brother she was a perpetual victim. If my father was a good man, he would of divorced her and put her in place, instead of her living her delusional lala land and supposedly being a victim since she was a woman. No doubt if he did not take her abuse not only would he have had a better life, but my brother and I as well. Some things are irreparable from childhood.
Divorced myself, I ve seen and heard so many opinions and advice. I'm not jewish, not relegious even, but what this Rabin says, is just so wright. What an incredible wisdom. Thank you for sharing this respectfull insight.
I like what he had to say about repair. Knowing that the other person cares and is invested enough to repair with you builds trust in the solidity of the relationship. Versus having a partner that expects (unrealistically) that there will be no conflict, which only squelches authenticity and causes resentment to build up.
It's good you brought this up. I have watched two marriages fall apart due to this.
Incredible advice 👏
I have a question Rabbi YY. Do you remember some years ago a Brooklyn woman whose husband died and she remarried with 10 children still in the home? I can remember thinking the man must have been a grossa tzadik. My question is, who now comes first, the 2nd husband or her children from her first marriage?
The spouse always comes first
@@amyjeanbelk7561 I like your confidence but what makes you an authority on the laws of Marriage & Yichud?
@amyjeanbelk7561 then you shouldn't remarry until the children are grown. Step-parents are not parents. Children deserve to be a priority, and they cannot be a priority if the step-parent comes first.
When we love G-d above all others, we love others as they should be loved, truly. It's a similar principle in marriage. When one spouse loves the other above all others, they can love their children as they should be loved.
I love and appreciate Jewish wisdom ✝️✝️❤️ Thank you 🙏🏻
I was a vegetarian before marriage. Never had beef or pork or unclean meats . Reason im saying is after marriage I let all my spiritual changed for my husband who is nonveg, he still didnt felt its fine. Anyway 😢
This goes to the wives:
We have more power than the angles themselves. Onlybifvwe fulfill the Torah
This Rabbi is in the dark ages. A wife can always be replaced but kids cannot be. Sorry Rabbi. I am glad your opinion does not influence my beliefs.
lol no. a wife cannot be replaced. that is the wrong attitude. good luck staying married if you think your wife is replaceable.
Disagree rabbi. My father treated my mother like royalty and she manipulated him and me and my brother she was a perpetual victim. If my father was a good man, he would of divorced her and put her in place, instead of her living her delusional lala land and supposedly being a victim since she was a woman. No doubt if he did not take her abuse not only would he have had a better life, but my brother and I as well. Some things are irreparable from childhood.