Something I Want You To Know (Coming Out)
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- Опубликовано: 8 июн 2015
- We all deserve our best chance.
Here's a random, but meaningful assortment of things that have given me comfort on my path to acceptance. Think of them as a hug from me to you.
“Secret” by Angel Snow - • Angel Snow // Secret -...
“I’d rather go naked than wear the coat the world has made for me.”
- Dorothy Allison
Hedwig and the Angry Inch - A Broadway show and movie about accepting others and yourself. It’s beautiful. Hilarious. Heartbreaking. Wonderful. I’ve seen it five times and it just gets better and better.
“The Journey” by Mary Oliver
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These words by Christopher Poindexter p2T6r95TNVM/?t...
Other places you can find me:
Twitter: / ingridnilsen
Instagram: / ingridnilsen
Facebook: / heyingridnilsen
Snapchat: ingrid.nilsen
![Hayley Kiyoko - Girls Like Girls [Official Music Video]](/img/1.gif)
so, so, so proud of you, Ingrid.
YAS
Tyler Oakley Oeh yesh
We all are...such a beautiful person
I was waiting for you, Tyler :D ♥
And so you should be queen ly💕
"That's something is... I'm GAY! It feels so good to say that..."
My heart melted
Angelia Cbcb ikr
My eyes began to sweat....i did‘t come out yet...
U must have a small heart if ur heart melted
Angelia Cbcb mine too
Wait till you are cast into the lake of fire Rev 21-8 all of you will melt...
*insert Hayley Hiyoko dancing in a car*
Oh mY GOD
That's my favourite video
She was 26 when she filmed this. Coming out at any age can be scary. I’m very proud of her for giving herself her best chance!
why does her age matter?
It doesn’t, just a fun fact!
To all the people saying that it doesn't matter that she's gay or that no one cares: You don't know what it's like to come out. She did this for no one but herself. Coming out is like a weight off your shoulders, and she did it for HER, not for attention, not to jump on the "coming out bandwagon" as I saw someone say. Coming out is a big part of being lgbt+ for most people and it's a huge relief, something that you should not mock or dismiss.
Alonte Kortrw
Please stop..
alonte kortrw it isn't even about the versions, it's how you interpret the text. many people usually like to put the text to the historical context, which has a great influence on the meaning.
I completely agree with you. I'm a christian and I know the Bible says it's "wrong" (as it also says that being an alcoholic is wrong, and lying, etc) but we don't have any right on judging her and attacking her with the Bible because that's not what true christians do. People are judging her because she "sins" differently than we do. We're all sinners here and being straight doesn't make us any better than her. We can't call ourselves the normal ones because she is normal too, she's still human. Our job is to love not judge.
alonte kortrw How I weep for you, my brother Jonathan! Oh, how much I loved you! And your love for me was deep, deeper than the love of women! 2 Samuel 1:26 , Meri is correct its how you interpret the text..where you see Adam and Eve I see Jonathan making love too his brother..Incest? Homosexuality? What is this doing in the bible?
I dont know .. . I think she did this video for more publicity and views. After all, they get paid for their publicity.
Thank you. Not for coming OUT, but for letting us IN 💗
What an amazing way to put it
this is amazing
I love the way you said that I am actually in tears. #sorrygirlyhormoneallissuses
❤️❤️❤️❤️
This is an amazing way of putting it. I loved seeing this comment seeing how the rest are really mean.
Gay or straight Ingrid Nilsen is still amazing.
i watched this when i was about 12 years old when this video came out . i was like , SHES SO PRETTY . 4 years later i found out i’m a lesbian . watching this again makes me look back at myself , i love this woman . she is wonderful .
THIS WAS ONLY 4 YEARS AGO? It feels like forever.
RUclips was another world back then man
I really hate to be the bearer of bad news (read as: not really, bc I could give less of a shit.) but to all the people who are leaving negative messages on Ingrid's video, to those of you who say you're fans of hers, yet still left a homophobic comment. You're not really, and you were never truly a fan of hers to begin with, because a true fan of Ingrid's would support her.
It took her a lot of courage to come out, and I'm really happy for her.
Carsen Darling Just because you're a fan, doesn't mean you have to support everything someone does...Chris Brown had lots of fans but not many people agreed when he beat Rhianna...Chris Brown still has lots of fans.
+itsatwinthing1 Are you seriously going to compare a sociopath beating up his girlfriend with someone who is brave enough the talk About who she really is? Wow.. Pathetic...
Evy Bakker My thoughts exactly xD
Carsen Darling ignore stupid people and don't reply to there comments.
***** Not everyone believes in your God and not everyone wants to follow your religion's bullshit. Welcome to the real world. Not everything revolves around your Christian views.
now this is the true definition of a role model
love you x10000
YESS
💯💯😍😍😍👌
Definitely! I love ingrid and she is so brave. So much respect
This is so fake omg I know she's a fashionista but being gay isn't a trend hunny
“i’m gay , it feels so good to say that” i’m crying so hard rn 😭🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
100th like....
says a lot.
That always makes me cry. I felt that so hard. The worst is when you can’t even say it. Like you just say you like the same sex but you can’t even say the word “gay” out loud.
Why would you want us to know? Whats the point of telling us?
super jim him wow - ok? i was just leaving a comment you do n’t have to take out your negative energy on someone you don’t even know 😬
Forreal
I’m a straight girl/woman but I am here because I wanna learn and know what these people go through. Love is love no matter what 🌈
makeMeCry방탄 that’s really sweet💗☺️
Army!!!
I'm so proud of you
Thank you. If there were more people like you who listened instead of shouted in the world, we could achieve so much more peace and health as a society...
Go you ✨💖
Awww 😊 yess boo gotta get the homophobes
Heeeey we don't know each other personally, but we're RUclipsr's React fam so just stopping by to say you have my love and support!!!
Timothy DeLaGhetto good guy
I'm right with you. I also just noticed that you and Ingrid are Thai.
Preach 😌🙏🏼
You're a great person and I love your vids
Timothy DeLaGhetto TIMOTHY!!
"I was in a prison built for me by the world and at some point I took over the construction and kept the building going... that was the phase" SO courageous and so beautifully said!! So proud lady!!
This is bi far one of my favourite videos
Sloth lovely pun
Lmao
*no pun intended just a typo*
@@phatboi813 Shhh...let us dream.
Booooo
Ingrid, Troye and Connor coming out were such important moments of mine and many other people's childhoods. as a young and foolish kid (11-12 yrs old) I held prejudices because i simply didn't know better, but their influence seriously was game changing for me and i'll never forget the kind of impact it had on my generation. There are so many other youtubers that had a similar impact that i haven't mentioned but this applies to them too ❤️
Ingrid, I am SO UNBELIEVABLY PROUD OF YOU! Your courage is something A LOT of people can learn from. You go girl!
***** I agree
I watch ur vids amazing
***** i support her all they way love watching both of your videos
***** omg i luv your ids
***** OMG NIKKIEEE
RUclipsrs coming out as gay is not a "trend." I think it's because they see the positive reactions from the community of the ones who are coming out. They realize that it's becoming more accepted and don't want to hide a big part of themselves from their subscribers anymore. So please be happy for Ingrid and don't think that it's for publicity. Spread love not hate because it's very courageous what ingrid did ❤
Yes I know right totally agree with you
Paige Meredith yes exactly! Those videos are just encouraging others, which is usually what people who make those videos want as well. Like many of them (like troye) has said how amazing it is to have their viewers say they were brave enough to come out because of those coming out videos. So it's not a different thing with youtubers.
So true! People are saying that it's for publicity and that it's becoming a trend but this is so false! If a youtuber is gay then obviously they're going to come out and tell their subscribers. I think ingrid is a brave and courageous girl and that everyone should support her and see her the same way as we did before this video. Being gay is a part of her, but that doesn't mean she can be funny and smart and everything else we love her for! X
2017: I’m bi
2018: I’m pan
2019: IM A FULL ON LESBIANNNN
Samee
SAMEEE
Same, but starting in 2014.
same, in that order
SAF ! dude i- that was literally my transition too lmao
im crying sjkssksjs i know this video was uploaded years ago, but im just so thankful i found your channel and watched this video. youre so inspirational and strong, ive only watched one video of you before this one, but i absolutely am proud of you and i love and admire you so much. i hope youre fully living your best life now. 💞
Girl, I'm so proud of you. I'm so sorry you've had to keep it a secret for so long, but now you are free!! :) Also, your true girlfriends will stick by you and love you and support you no matter whether you are straight, bi, or gay. Sexuality is irrelevant. YOU ARE AWESOME.
I totally agree with you
Taryn Southern Well put ... great words Taryn ... for all the guys that were in love with her .... tough luck
Good lord. The comments on RUclips are rather disturbing. Why do much hate? Anyway, good on you for finding the courage to speak your truth to the world. And good on you Taryn Southern for being a good human.
Taryn Southern YOU'RE BOTH PERFECT!!
Taryn Southern it so strange that many people got some reason to disrespect boys for being gay
but when it comes up to girls its ok....
You are amazing Ingrid. So proud of you for coming out!
Hi Mel! I love your videos
Mary Kay hey! thank you :)
Hi omg I'm your biggest fan!
You are my favourite RUclipsr!! :)
mel2able heyyyy mel!!
Having videos like this is so important. This is a fantastic coming out video. Everything was so eloquently said and explained. Having videos available like this for people who are struggling with coming to terms with their own sexually helps more than I think some people can imagine. I know when I first started to come to terms with my own sexuality, having videos like this to turn to helped me so much. I don’t watch this channel, I came here cause of Rowan Ellis, but thank you so much for being so open and bearing your soul to everyone. Just, thank you.
this is the one coming out video (and I’ve watched MANY) that really like touched me and changed me, brought me to tears and had me feeling A WHOLE KINDA WAY. I’ll remember watching this for the first time for the rest of my life
So I have been getting tweets and messages about a brave girl named Ingrid Nilsen coming out on RUclips and holy crap I am SO happy I came over to check you out! So honestly I have never watched you before this video, had no idea who you were and I haven't seen any of your prior videos before this one.... but I just want to say how happy I am for you! You are helping so many young kids by doing this; sharing your positivity and bravery with the world and showing that being gay isn't a bad thing! We need more people like you in the world. So again, congrats Ingrid! This is truly amazing and I'm glad I have another sister on my side of the fence ;)
Manny Mua oh and you're freaken beautiful... like damn haha lucky girls!
You guys are both incredible! So much positivity and acceptance you two are spreading. It's crazy to think about, but you guys are directly contributing to our generation being kinder and more acceptive of all people, no matter their differences. We need more of this!
Love is love!!! How could anyone say that to love someone,regardless of their sex,is wrong??!!
Manny Mua Ingrid *Nilsen. Doesn't change your message though, so beautiful
Manny Mua super wild! Just yeterday I hadn't heard about you, but had stumbled upon your instagram somehow. :) now I stumble upon your comment somehow too! Weird how things happen. And yes, Ingrid is amazing!!!
I'm not a subscriber or a fan, I just saw your clip on the #ProudToLove video from RUclips Spotlight so I just had to check on this video right away. Let me just tell you this, you are a BRAVE woman. It takes a lot of fucking courage to admit who you truly are. I've been there and done that, and it's not easy. Thank you for sharing this, you have inspired a lot of people out there, straight or gay, I respect you for who you are. Thank you, Ingrid.
Me too but I know Ingrid she has a bf
Tin Enerio Ikr I love how she admits she is gay. ..... now other gays will do the same ...... less food consumption because gay people have no children = world better place :D
Tin Enerio Me too, but my sister and I watched a long time ago.
damcs fuck you everyone is allowed to be thereself
damcs wow. u really want to destroy the world from the inside out. Well, you just took one step towards it. It saddens me that you think this way. Go back to your crack den.
6 years since this uploaded and i still come back to it because it was honestly one of the first moments i could see that being gay is nothing to hide. my own journey with my sexuality has been rocky, so i truly appreciate these scraps of representation that I had to look up to when i was younger. course, there’s a whole lot more now with the community being accepted more!
My Bff’s ex called me gay and I said
“Sadly you are only partially right”
After that he just walked away
(I’m Bi)
I hope that one day people won't have to 'come out' if they are gay and we will just accept others for who they are and see this as a normality.
Rebecca Wood well only 1.6% of the population is gay, so people will still kind of assume someone is straight unless they come out. we should be *more accepting* of those who come out as gay, rather than just assuming they're either gay or straight.
***** Well, for one thing: to have grown in a homophobic environment would put homosexuality in a depression. So taking from her experiences(as she HAD grown in one), she'd want of course the acceptance from people close to her, (i.e. her friends, subscribers, etc...).
"We live in a world where [gay people] can hold hands in the streets and nobody will say anything to them." Are you sure? There are still a lot of places(and by places I mean communities) that shame the LGBT+ community; or not necessarily shame, but more like unaccepting of several sexualities(including genders).
***** what the hell is wrong with you show some fucking respect.
Yes!!
TOM10460 Its not a disease its natural but not normal.
Love you xxx
Tanya Burr I love her 2 and u as well
I am so proud of ingrid! Xx
I'm so proud 😭
😍
Ingrid, you are just the most amazing person
I still come back to this video sooo many times. I am in the middle of my own coming out experience right now and you were one of the people who inspired me so much.
Update: I came out a little over a year ago now and it was the best thing I ever did.
I remember watching this 7 years ago and not fully understanding why it affected me so much. But I was so in the cycle of suppression I didn’t even realise I was doing it. Now I’m 25 and out and rewatching this… 🏳️🌈
I'm gay too. Wait, no I'm human.
We are all human. Lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender. It doesn't matter. Live life as its meant to be.
This has to be one of my favourite comments on this video... So many people judge people for coming out online, I myself don't know how you guys feel to have to hold that in.. But in all honesty I think you guys are so strong to be able to handle this I respect you as humans because it shouldn't matter if you're gay or not!
I'm curious... How do you know what is the right way to live life?
Juno Irwin I love your comment, dude.
Jared Steege I'm curious... Who are you to question someone's way of living?
Juno Irwin life is sooo beautiful for all us!! and for the stupid "humans" who criticize others, I think they will never know who it's feels be free, in and outside, a shame!
You looked so nervous to tell us this and there's no reason to be! The ones who matter most will love you no matter what x
This is why I love you and your videos Hannah your so understanding xx
Loveyou Hannah totally supporting ingrid!!❤️❤️
Wise words! So happy you could get that off your chest Ingrid ❤️❤️❤️ you deserve to be happy ☺️
Hannah Renée Definitely!! I totally agree!! xx
Your so right!
thank you for reaching out to over 17 million people. for showing them its ok and being there for them even if you dont know it!
It's been four years and I still cry watching this video. And this video also helped me in so many ways. You are so amazing. Thank you so much for everything
All these people calling her out on her saying gay instead of lesbian, Saying she's crying for attention. No, she's crying because she is so happy that she can finally come out. Finally be herself, and not lie to keep people happy. I support her 100%.
ara ara nee-sama. You have a good point💛 you earned a subscriber😜
is this literal or serious? cuzz gay means happy and I'm really confused
Imasu Kirisawa seems like she doesn't give a shit actually and she could just do it without those emotions like "hello i'm gay...whatever"
+DiamondSky Then you're really stupid. I mean WOW
Michael Hilliard holy fuck you're gullible lol 😂😂
I hope now you'll feel like your true self Ingrid, and enjoy your new chapter of your life! I've been watching your videos for a very long time and didn't see this video ever popping up - so now is your time to be your true self! Be proud of who you are xxx. (And well done for being brave!)
Love you Cherry!
Aww💕
Love you Cherry💜
I agree
So true
Even after all these years I still get goosebumps and tears in my eyes watching you sit down and sigh and say it and tear up, it’s such a powerful moment
This is a video that changed my life I will nvr forget. The first fem I witnessed coming out at time in my life when I really needed it. Coming back and watching this 4 years later we have both come a long long way.
Thanks for sharing what a complicated and important thing this is and for being honest about your story. This was wonderful.
DFTBA Hank and Ingrid!!😘😘
Nicely said Hank☺️
I Cabrinha DFTBA to you all! :) x
This video made me sad, not because you're gay, but because we are still living in a society were people have repress their true selves this much. I congratulate you on coming out and hope you live a wonderful life with a beautiful girl that is everything you want in a partner.
Bless☝️🙌
Roberts Yes!!! and still people dont get why she is crying!
i’ve identified as a straight female my whole life. me and my family have always been very accepting of the lgbtq+ community. i’ve grown up liking boys and wanting a boyfriend. i never really thought about liking girls. recently, my older sister brought her friends to our house, we went on a drive together and ever since then i haven’t been able to stop thinking about her. it was weird to me because at first she was the only girl i thought was cute, so i was confused. but after taking time to really figure it out, i realize that i am into girls. even though my family would accept me, i’m very scared to come out as bi. i’m afraid of other loved ones like friends, who will treat me differently. watching these videos help me feel like i’m not alone.
Naomi Taylor thank you sweetheart. i hope you figure your story out ♥️
We kinda have the same story.
I grew up liking girls and wanting a girlfriend and soon I questioned myself why I looked at boys more than girls. I figured out I’m gay and accepted it ever since. I came out to my trusted friends and all were supportive
Just remember that you are not being forced to come out, you can come out anytime you want. Just make sure you feel that you are comfortable, confident and in a safe space. (Perhaps have a friend or sibling who support you near you when you come out (for support))
You are *not* alone
@@imthatextrakid8292 Same here I’m a lesbian and I’m 18 and I was scared to come out too but I’m out and I told my mom and my cousins and my brother they accepted me and I’m happy and I accept myself as a lesbian and I’m out and proud of it
People who want to be gay are just confused and lost people you got born into the Earth as a human you got the chance to grow up and live and you decide to be gay not only are you upsetting the balance of the world but you are also sinning yourself and your children just imagine waking up one day and your mother tells you that she's gay that shit is just seriously traumatizing people need to really just open their eyes I'm not saying I can stop someone from being gay like I have no problem being friends with a gay person but if that's how you want to live then you're just completely messing up your whole entire life permanently, believe it or not
When I first watched this video I was 14, full of doubt and most of all, terrified. I remember so clearly listening to Ingrid’s words and crying because I found myself in them, I was starting to understand that I couldn’t ignore it forever and I knew the implications it had. This video, although it hurt me at first, has helped me so much on my journey of self-understanding and acceptance. Today, as a 20 years old lesbian, I couldn’t be more proud and happy to be who I am. So this is a thank you, I guess.
I know I don't know you personally but I've watched your videos since the beginning. I've always looked up to you and this doesn't change that. You deserve to be happy and loved for who you are. You are beautiful inside and out. We all support you no matter what. So happy you can now have your "best chance!"
Well said girl! So proud of you, Ingrid! You've inspired and given hope to so many people today. 💜💜
I've been watching your videos for two years now! Your comment warms my heart, thanks for being an amazing person! :)♡
This made me tear up 😢 I'm so happy you can now live a free life and feel fully present of each moment. Everyone deserves it. It must have been extremely difficult to hold that all in. I really admire your bravery ❤️ Congrats Ingrid.
Ann love you !!!!!!
Youre comment was perfect 😘 and true and wise 😍
I love you Ann! And I completely agree with you. Ingrid is amazing, and she deserves nothing more than to be happy. :D
I love you Ann!! Yes i agree It must been so hard to do this but finally you did it. We are all weird and it's important to love ourselves.
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
👍👍
Hearing you talk about pushing women and girls away and not forming close friendships with them for fear of developing feelings is SO RELATABLE as someone who was denying their bisexuality for most of their life. Thinking back to all the girls I had strained relationships with in middle and high school… I absolutely had huge crushes on them that I refused to admit to myself and just avoided and got annoyed at them instead
I’m rewatching this now. I remember watching this for the first time and I’m so grateful for you. Thank you ❤️
Aww, why is she crying? It's not a bad thing! She's so sweet.... God loves EVERYONE..
Tears of joy❤️❤️
Yousif Alfuraiji Obvious troll is obvious
alaynagymstar04 Tears Of Fear
Because she fears people wouldn't accept it not because she thinks it's a bad thing and because she has had a hard time in the past when telling people about it . And because she is happy to finally let it out and it must be such a big thing for her
God does love everyone but on Judgement Day all gay people will be judged.... They will try to convince God to forgive them but God will send all of them to hell! Read the Bible people!!!!
Dear anyone who is saying; "why did you make this video? I'm not gonna make a video saying I'm straight, will I?" Stop comparing those things, because you will NEVER understand how differently you are treated in society for being open about who you are. Have you ever been scared to hold the hand of someone you love in a public place? No? Then sit the fuck down. This is a HUGE deal for her, and many other people, and belittling people that feel this way just makes you out to be an asshole. This isn't a cry for attention; you may not understand this, but this helps people. Saves LIVES, even. Calling this "unnecessary" doesn't make you sound supportive, it makes you sound so SO ignorant. We have all grown up in an extremely heteronormative society. Watching the disney princess always ending up with the prince made me feel abnormal, and out of place, along with every other little thing in this world. Videos like this helped me when I was closeted, and they help A LOT of people who still are.
Excellent comment!
"Watching the Disney princess always ending up with the prince made me feel abnormal". Same here.
Tapiokapuddin YES my thoughts exactly! Last night I went through these comments and everyone was saying crap like "no one cares that youre gay, you just made a big deal for attention" and a whole other shit like that and this comment summed up my thoughts on all those comments. People clearly just dont understand how she and other lgbt people feel and they go around acting like they do. Thank you so much for your comment :)
Accurate
Preach. 👐
i prefer not to label (at least as of now) because i think love is love and it doesn’t need to be limited to me. been confused for a long time and i always come back to watch this for advice. i love this and ur story ❤️❤️❤️🌈
My name is Crystal, I'm 13 years old and I'm lesbian. I've never said this before and I'm terrified of telling my parents but your video has inspired me to come out.
Hi I am 11 and want to no if we can be friends and I would like you to let me know how you made out with telling your parents.?????
I'm heterosexual but pagan and am scared too come out the "pagan broom closet".
Have you come out yet? If you haven't yet then we can talk. I'll support you
@@davidsmith7474 I haven't yet, my parents are totally against it. And if I come out to them before i turn 18 I'm scared of what there gonna do to me.
@@big_-guy102 I haven't, still terrified to tell them.
Your sexuality doesn't determine who you are, everyone is the same, everyone deserves to be happy. You are still a beautiful, amazing, kind and funny woman that we all know. You are still you, I believe you will be happier after opening up and please ignore any hate comments, you should be proud and happy with who you are. I still love you Ingrid ❤️
Ong hui min Except criminals...
Whitney Titus im one of those people in wheelchairs and I understand where you are coming from but I think the original comment was everyone is the same meaning we are all human and deserve respect and happiness. helping out someone with physical needs isn't in the same category as if you were to respect them and recognize them as being as human and as deserving of happiness as an able bodied person. In that area we should be treated the same way, but yes we as people with mobility challenges do need some different support sometimes, but we are all people with the same base human needs. love, security, acceptance.
Whitney Titus I agree, lots of pc bs is in the disabled community, but I think the problem arises when the deformity or colour or sexual orientation is first, but completely ignoring that huge part of how they interact with the world is wrong too you're totally accurate that it is disrespectful.
I've noticed people get bent out of shape when they're put into categories based solely on that one aspect of who they are. ex. that person is in a wheelchair so they must not be able to drive" or "that person is blind so they won't be able to enjoy a movie" or "that person can't be gay.. she doesn't have short hair or wear men's clothing"
the gripe for most disabled people comes in when people see the wheelchair (or other impairment) and have an automatic assumption of what they can or can't do based on just the fact that they are in a wheelchair. but it shouldn't be ignored altogether either. each person should be seen holistically.. embracing each part of who they are, including disability, or race or whatever. but not let that one thing define them.
Ong hui min Well said. :)
So proud of you Ingrid ❤️
Awe❤
I love it when you guys support each other
Love you Eva ❤️
MyLifeAsEva agreed Ingrid if this makes you feel happy, then do it! Being happy is whn you are happyy with yourself and now you will be happy!
Love you Eva and Ingrid you two are queens👑👑
This is the video I watched when I was coming out to myself three years ago. This video confirmed what I had been battling for so long. Thank you Ingrid.
I’ve been watching you for years and you have always been one of my favorite youtubers! I don’t really go on RUclips as much as I did before but I just came across your account and I find it so inspiring that you have came out! I came out a little over a year ago and it makes me so happy to see your sense of relief to come out :) I’m so late but I’m so happy for you!
I honestly don't see how anyone could dislike this video. It warms my heart to know that Ingrid can finally live the life she's always deserved. This video is going to inspire so many people out there who are still living in the closet about their sexuality. Why is there the need to hate on this video? This is incredible. It takes a lot to post something like this on the Internet for millions of people to see. Please just all support her rather than bring her down ❤️❤️
I love you so much❤️❤️❤️
Selena Lim I was disgusted when I saw how many people disliked this video. And I completely agree with what you said. I am so incredibly proud of Ingrid. :)
True couldn't have said it eney
better
Coming out is not a "trend", people just feel safer to come out right now because when one lgbt+ person sees another lgbt+ person coming out and getting so much support from their audience, they feel much safer to come out themselves. It's disgusting that some people actually see it as a "trend".
I'm so glad someone finally said it!
Exactly! It should make people happy to see so many people being themselves finally.
hira s in the words of the great Tyler Oakley "coming out isn't a trend. Being authentically yourself is. AND THANK GOD"
100% agree
yaynova Maybe you should look up the word trend
13:28 she’s right, it’s not fair. It’s not fair to anybody. it’s not fair to her. It’s not fair to a person that she’s in a relationship with. They do deserve a full life. She deserves a full life.
I posted your video today although I saw it when you originally posted it four years ago. This video gave my daughter, who was 17 at the time the courage to come out to me. I thank you for that. I’m so happy that you’re living your life out loud and on your terms. We all deserve that. Happy Pride ❤️🌈
Scroll down looking for homophobic comments, only finds comments complaining about homophobic comments.
Aiden Harris Partially because of people taking time to report seriously inappropriate posts (truly nasty, bullying, hateful, harassing ~ whatever). People should take the trouble to do that sometimes, to try to clean up the digital landscape (and, no, I don't mean reporting something because it happens to disagree with my ideas, or someone thinks it might be hurtful; I'm talking about comments that are definitely inappropriate, regardless of from whom they come).
AvalonMorley Should't we let those comments to stay?
Agathe Ionnadisis
No, not the kind of comments to which I'm referring. Spams, scams, harassing, bullying and other inappropriate comments shouldn't stay. As I said, I DON'T mean things with which I disagree, or that are rude; people have their rights to disagree (even with me!) and to be rude, if they're inclined to be that dumb. But violent threats and such? No, we don't need those things.
AvalonMorley Well Thank you for being the spokesperson for RUclips Mr. Super "EGO" person...lol
RUclips decides what comments are appropriate or not regardless of what you think by reporting comments that you disagree with.
And going through all the comments, I see no threatening comments or any bullying that you mentioned...
You just seem like a butt hurt person that will report any comment that you disagree with, which is petty and childish.
tom11zz884
I'm only stating my own opinions. But you mention, "reporting comments that you disagree with," and say "You just seem like a butt hurt person that will report any comment that you disagree with, which is petty and childish." As I said before, that is categorically what I do NOT do. (And, to be clear, I VERY rarely report posts as inappropriate; when I do, they're usually plain old spam. Do you want comment threads filled up with spam ads? I expect you're like most reasonable folks, who don't.)
A quote from my first reply: "I don't mean reporting something because it happens to disagree with my ideas, or someone thinks it might be hurtful." In other words, being in disagreement with me, or even possibly insensitive, is NOT a reason for reporting to RUclips administrators, in my opinion. The couple of posts I DID report to admin were the kind you failed to find, as you mentioned: "And going through all the comments, I see no threatening comments or any bullying that you mentioned..." I'm glad you didn't find any such, and I didn't find much of that either. There were only two posts I happened on, that expressed extremely violent, explicit, threatening intentions. The fact that they employed vulgar language was NOT why I felt they merited reporting, nor was the obvious negative response to what this video expressed. Negative responses are just part of the conversation.
You write, "RUclips decides what comments are appropriate or not regardless of what you think...." That is true, and RUclips has a reporting mechanism in place, which is what I used (and use very rarely). The two posts I reported were immediately taken down, so you didn't see them. If the powers at RUclips determined that those posts were actually fine, they can put them right back up, as they probably do with many objections, from people who do what you mistakenly accused me of doing. I value and enjoy robust conversation and even arguments, so have no wish to eliminate things because they disagree with me. I especially enjoy when someone is able to educate me, or convince or persuade me on some issue. You are correct in that I sometimes experience pain in my gluteal muscles.
LOVE LOVE LOVE YOU!
JoeyGraceffa love you joey
Joey
And I 💕 u and you make my day
love you💓
JoeyGraceffa SOOOO proud to be in a community like this! :D
When you come out, it’s not enough to have the courage to do it. Having just one friend who supports you and will be there for you makes all the difference! If one of your parents like your dad is a great ally, it will make all the difference!
this video changed my life permanently back in the day
Im so happy for you. This video is going to help a lot of people out x
awe alfie 💕
hello alfie
alfie love you
Awww
I love the support! RUclips is amazing.
What is really important and amazing to me is that Ingrid is somewhat representing a huge issue in the lesbian community, and that is feminine invisibility. Ingrid is a huge influential person that I believe will help shed light on feminine lesbians like myself, and change the social perspective of a "typical lesbian". Being feminine and gay can be really hard and I think its very brave and amazing that Ingrid found the courage to finally express her sexuality! Saying someone doesn't look gay is extremely offensive because there is no one look! Be open to the possibility and reality that a girl can be feminine and gay! Congratulations Ingrid!
Lyndsey Newton Wish I could thumbs-up this to the top. Being feminine and gay (And being into feminine women) is a weird concept to a lot of people for some reason.... I'm a girl, I want to be like a girl, and I like girls, because they're like girls. Shocking I know...!
Lyndsey Newton I think by feminine you simply mean a woman who does makeup and has long hair.
Gay people look gay due to bone structure and how they dress and do their hair. Most lesbians who are scared of "looking" like lesbians such as this girl, have naturally long hair and are too scared to cut it off and some eventually do.
I think she looks like Ellen Page and I think Ellen Page looks like a boy, and she doesn't look very "feminine" because her lips aren't bright pink like this girls, who is wearing a MASK to try to cover her natural traits that probably make her look like a lesbian (such as her larger face and jawline). And she is quite likely doing it FOR THAT REASON.
You must be blind if you can''t spot them or their similarities. NOBODY is surprised that Kirsten Stewart is dating a woman for example. Similarly, nobody would be surprised if or maybe WHEN the guy came out. ALSO, his freaking new girlfriend looks like a full on lesbian! Maybe it's to cover for him...
ranoutofeyeballs What. Bone structure? Gay girls are just girls... Some prefer to be / look boyish, that's fine. Some of us don't. Just because some high-profile examples as you made are easy to "spot" doesn't mean all are. You've probably walked right past or looked at various gay people and never known.
Sounds to me like you have a need to justify something to yourself.... Leave that to yourself, no need to preach to others.
As a gay woman myself, I dress and look like any other average woman. Because that's what I am.
ranoutofeyeballs know what where the hell did you get that information. just because you are lesbian does not mean that you automatically want to look "lesbian" or boyish. there is NO way to look lesbian. lesbian is your sexual identity, it has nothing to do with bone structure or how you do your hair. sure some lesbians do that, but there are lesbians who look girly or feminine like ingrid. educate yourself dude.
Er, if you read my post again I think you'll find that I clearly stated I was NOT a lesbian. I went out of my way to make sure people knew whether I was speaking from that point of view or not.
I also did not say they wanted to. I said of those who do. Generally, please just learn to read. I said that most lesbians HAPPEN TO LOOK boyish from BONE STRUCTURE. It doesn't matter if they want it or not. I am also fully aware of what you call girly lesbians, but sorry, I am not a lesbian and I wear no makeup... what does that make me? Are you saying that I look like a boy because I don't wear makeup?
When I came out/ told my friend that I had a crush on a girl her first reaction was that she was jealous that I didn’t have a crush on her and that I had a crush on somebody else😂😂😂
Ok thats super funny
God coming back to this so many years later has me emotional. 2015 was a landmark year for so many of us.
*for once the catchy thumbnail & title of a YT video actually meant what it said.*
indeed!
Lol that's exactly what I thought! I seriously didn't expect it to be real when I clicked on the video.
ErinLuxe Couldn't agree more. For a second, I thought Ingrid had fallen on a really low level and just wanted attention, but that fear was gone pretty fast :) I follow her for quite a while now, and really havent expected this, haha :D
simplysimple yees! i thought it was a weird prank video but then I thought " why would she make fun of something like this?" And she didn't
I NEVER comment on your videos... This may be my first time. But Ingrid, I've been a fan of your videos for all 6 years you've been on youtube. I'm 20 now.. So since I was 14 years old! You were one of the reasons I had started my beauty channel many years ago when I wanted to give it a go (it is a graveyard now but that's irrelevant - haha!)
I just want you to know how incredible it was to see you come out and tell your story in one of the most polite and beautiful ways possible. The respect you will gain from your online friends has just gone through the roof. The acceptance we all have for you shouldn't even have to be vocalized but because the internet can be an ugly place I'm saying it anyway..
Be you - as it is truly the best form of yourself. And as the hate comments begin roll in, remember how much the 3 million subscribers you've built in half a decade just adore you. Including myself!
Much love Ingrid.
I agree girl 🙏💯
Well said!
Well said and so true!
And i subscribed to your channel few weeks ago and i think your channel is great :) I love how you inspire and motivate many people to start to workout and start a healthylifestyle. Thank you for that! We almost have same name by the way haha
Jazmine Garcia whoah! hi there
***** oh hey :D
this was the first coming out video i had ever seen. 11 year old me was very happy for you. 15 year old me is even happier.
one of the best videos on the internet. what a beautiful piece of the human experience. it has really left its mark ❤
everyone is like "wow i would have never guessed," bruh, do you think all lesbians look like or act the same way, they are just people
***** To this statement I say, take a look at Bruce Jenner. He was living a secret life. There's a ton of people that have had long term relationships. Especially when you look back decades ago. People have lived secret lives due to being discriminated against, fear of being rejected, harmed, etc.
also, youtubers don't put all of themselves on youtube or in the social media sphere, there is a lot that fans wouldn't know, and she says that a lot of her close friends were like 'yeah, i sort of knew'
TOMANDJERRYRAN2GETHE Caitlyn/Bruce likes women though
noooo... practically none of us knew here. not everyone thinks that. so when someone says, " i never wouldve guessed", that means the exact same thing as, "i didnt know". but not all of us just assumed she was straight.
I could never guess but you're not always supposed to :)
If it wasn't for America or religion, this would not have been a big deal at all.
Stefan Westermann How is it America's fault?
Stefan Westermann ok america is not the only country with citizens that are homophobic. if your saying if she grew up in a country which its citizens wouldn't think this was a big deal, ok. but your making it seem that its specifically america's fault.
What the hell are you talking about?
Darkerpink I know America isn't the only homophobic country. But if you look at other largely homophobic countries, you'll see that their reasons for being homophobic are largely influenced by the other factor I mentioned: religion.
For instance, ALL muslim countries are, to a large degree, and with some exceptions, very homophobic. This is because Sharia law punishes gays and gay rights all together. The same can be said for (some) Christian countries with high homophobia. It's caused by religion.
In America, however, we tend to see people using the "but hurr durr, homosex is unnatural. What is the next, are we gonna marry animals?"-kind of logic, which, AFAIK, is NOT always based on religious views, but more on sheer stupidity and misinformation. That's why I said American and religion. Not to say it's America's fault that homophobia exists, it's not, of course.
alright.
This was the sweetest most heartwarming and genuine and raw video ever. Thank you for putting this out there. I'm sure it has helped a lot of people.
Aw my heart melted as well! I Love when we can feel so comfortable being transparent and just ... OURSELVES! It’s beautiful!
I don't know why people fall in love with gender. They should fall in love with people.
+Remi Henri Royer wtf.
+Remi Henri Royer Right, because she got so much money out of this. And has so much to do with Grace. Fucking ridiculous.
+Remi Henri Royer lol you can't even read numbers? ingrid Nilsen is way much bigger that Hannah Hart or Grace Helbig in terms of views & subs. Also, she already has major deals w/ cosmetic firms etc. That's her career, nothing wrong with that... but that fact proves how fallacious, ridiculous and wrong your point is.
FYI people like her or Shane Dawson really didn't need that kind of "annoucement" to make money on YT. They already have their brand. So give us a break about your jalous delusions. Exit is right there...
*****
that's bullshit coming right from your ass, and so are your assumptions. Ingrid is already successful. Again, she doesn't need that + *she knew them for at least 2 years before that video*. This is me proving you wrong once again. 2-0.
you have as many proofs as she does.. this is a pointless discussion, let's talk about pandas instead.
How can anyone be dismissing this beautifully raw and honest video as some kind of stunt? This video is so important. Ingrid is so important. And nobody would voluntarily go through this. To see the genuine relief as she says the words she pushed down for years and years and to see how genuinely excited she is to be starting the life she deserves is both heartbreaking and heartwarming. She showed herself so incredibly vulnerable and I can only imagine how many lives she is changing because of it. Thank you for sharing this with us Ingrid.
Truth.
You can clearly see the emotion, and truth in this video.
LienLoo Her tears didn't seem genuine, i couldn't see emotion. Sorreh.
***** Generally, she is a positive female with a platform that she is using for good. For example, her "5 Minutes for Us" videos can serve very much like an older sister guiding her audience and the power of that shouldn't be underestimated. Young females looking up to her suddenly don't feel so alone with their thoughts anymore. But what she has done by sharing this video with us and being so honest and vulnerable in this video does so much more. This might be the video that gives someone struggling with their identity that last hope that they will get to a point where it gets better and that it's worth being excited for and fighting for. It might help someone understand something about themselves and spare them the long years of suppression that Ingrid experienced. There have been plenty coming out videos done by males that received a lot of media attention and buzz but this one is quite rare. Not many other previously closeted /female/ RUclipsrs coming out to an audience the size of Ingrid's come to mind. On top of that, she is a beauty guru, obviously with many feminine traits so this also helps fight the stereotype of lesbians only being "butch"/having more male traits, appearances and interests. The comments like "I never would have guessed!" are an example of this view. People often expect gay women to be or dress a certain way and Ingrid is now a clear example of that there are no requirements to be lesbian other than to fancy women. I've only been subscribed to her for maybe a year now so I haven't been here from the start but this is definitely what I have picked up on this past year. :)
***** I appreciate your respectfulness. Comment section conversations are usually not like this ;) It's neither, it's a nickname that doesn't mean anything. But I am female.
Oml Ingrid you inspired me to come out to my family! Ik this is an older video but I watched it today and was inspired. Thank you!!!
You are so strong to come out with this, which ever people should dare to do❤️love you!
Do whatever makes you happy Ingrid, don't feel forced to blend into the coating of the world
Bella LPS TV Preach it girl. Preach it. c:
Bella LPS TV slay
Right
Izzy Tv Petponydomo
Bella LPS TV ^u^
OMG Ingrid Congrats!! This is so amazing for you to do this! Welcome to the Family!!❤️🌈
😀😀
Ambers Closet LMFAO! "Welcome to the family" >>>>
Welcome to the Club.. Xx
Omg!!! Amber I love you
OMG AMBER
at 0:36 i felt so happy for her becuase im BISEXAUL and right after she started crying i cryed
chloe rubio * calls themself bisexual but doesn’t even know how to spell bisexual *
This is the best coming out video on RUclips! Someone had to have the courage to do this. We definitely need more people to come out publicly on RUclips because lgbt people need rolemodels. Especially lgbt people who are chicano, mixed-raced, etc. Once again, she is so courageous for doing this!
Strange, male you tubers make these videos, everyone is supportive af
When female you tubers do so, half of the comment section is calling them attention seeking
+Blaze Shane Dawson isn't gay, he's bisexual, (if that's what you were saying), which comes with it's own list of struggles. The church doesn't just hate gay men but also gay women. Gay women don't have the same issues, you're right, because media and everyone like to just focus on gay MALES, and not mention gay women. But society likes to focus everything on men anyways, so why would they acknowledged females are gay also? People like to believe being female and gay (or bisexual for the matter) isn't a real thing. Which needs to change. Ingrid did an amazing job in this video, and it's probably one of the most popular coming out videos, so yay to her for being herself and increasing awareness that girls can also be gay.
PAOLa Lego Because that's a valid argument.
"half of the comment section is calling them attention seeking"
Funny, ive been saying this about the entire lgbt community.
12 mill views just for telling the world your gay? Oh fu* no, humanities finally lost its shi*.
+Isaac Clarke Agreed.
Hhhleigh
Just because his words are crude doesnt mean that hes wrong.
I'm tearing up, I can see in this video you've been holding onto this for a very long time. You've been one of the first youtubers I ever watched and you even inspired me to start making videos. It was you. You are also one of my biggest inspirations in life in general. I love you unconditionally and I'm incredibly proud of you. I'm sure this will help many young girls or boys also to not to be afraid of coming out. Once again - I'm so proud of you, Ingrid
Theresa Blueberry This is true, I'm glad there's also a girl who came out
Theresa Blueberry I subscribed to your channel 🙌🏻
Theresa Blueberry I love your videos!
She was the break through and leader for so many ppl who needed help
Watching this in 2019 :) I watched this video the first week it came out and I remember it having such a lasting impact on me. Now I’m out as a bi woman and this video has changed my life. Thank you Ingrid, for everything
When she started crying when she said "it feels so good to say that" i literally wanted to squeeze her and hug her so tight! I wanted to hand her tissues through my screen..
I know... I just wanted to reach through the screen and hug her and tell her its all right.
ashleygames Literall Tears.
ashleygames Me too omg
ashleygames tbh i started crying too bc she looked so happy and relieved
Connor or Joey coming out videos nearly got no hate. This just shows That gay guys is more accepted than lesbians, and that my friend is what's disgusting (I am I no way saying that gay guys have it easier than lesbians and I'm not trying to compare who has it worse. Just that here one the internet gay guys are seen as cute and "best gay friends" while lesbians are being extremely sexulised and their love is often being belittled)
A lot of the hate is from both men and women, as well. Why can't Ingrid receive the same support just because she's a woman coming out instead of a man?
Pakalu Papito not helping your case much buddy
Reading what you said took away from the meaning of this pose by trying to turn it into hate on men somehow
Pakalu Papito and that is point proven
That's so, sadly true. But I think it is bravery in itself for posting this video, and she should be incredibly proud of herself.
2017-Ew, i'm not gay
2018-I'm Bi
2019-I'm a full time gay
2020- Yasss queen
XD me too
I watch these videos in hopes that one day I can truly show who I am to the world and not have to hide it any more. (I sorta came out in school like most of my teachers know my real name but I’m still soo scared of the people that are close to me finding out because they would walk away from me it’s scary to be hated by someone you love because of shit you can’t control)
I really did not see that coming...
cosmodic Being Gay doesn't HAPPEN because of a traumatic event... it's the way you are. You're born it built into who you are, its not something that happens to you, its something that IS you.
Yes
Arianna G this is sarcastic rigth?
I was surprised too. But good for her, she gets to be who she really is
Right! It's not like it was in the title or anything.... -_-
I watched this when you first uploaded and didnt write a comment, but i want to congratulate you! Im so happy for you! We are all supporting you and love you just as much ever Ingrid!
I love you chloe! ☺
***** I want to congratulate you for being a n00b. Wrekt
Ingrid it takes a lot of COURAGE to explain who you are and HONESTLY it shouldn't because you are 100% correct you have the right to be WHO YOU ARE and not be ashamed, embarrassed or guilty live the life that was given to you as a gift a gift of LIFE be happy be you and be HAPPY life is wat to short to live with ANY REGRET we all LOVE YOU for you and who you are and what YOU bring to all of us and for that I thank you and support you a 100% because now you are truly giving us 100% and I know that wasn't easy but it should be .. INGRID WE LOVE YOU SO HAPPY FOR YOUR BRIGHT FUTURE.. 💋💋
I agree
***** ok
I didn`t know you or your channel until yesterday, but watching this video my heart melted. You`re a fantastic person. Kisses from Italy ❤
I watched this 2 years and a half ago when i was suicidal, sad and closeted. Now I'm back and out. People like her helped me a lot through my journey. If it wasn't for her and other gay youtubers i might have been dead by now. Litterally saved my life.🌈
I am so happy and proud of you Ingrid! This is so courageous and very inspiring :)
Me too.
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Love you Zoe xx
Zoe! I agree^^^
Zoella Me too Zoe!
You are a strong, beautiful woman!
awwxx
Quishaaaaaaa
I remember watching this when it released. I hadn’t realized I was gay yet; I knew I liked girls, but continued to date guys because “at least i’m not miserable!”
7 years later, so much of Ingrid’s story mirrors mine🏳️🌈
Same !
Same! I was so happy for her when she released this.
When I first saw this video, I made some comments that I have since deleted but I definitely don’t agree with them anymore! So
glad, I have grown and understand that love is love. I support y’all always🤍🤍🤍
A'Shiah Naomi i love love love seeing growth!!
aww we have no choice but to stan
i have no choice but to stan ❤
A'Shiah Naomi some adults are very mature when a child comes out. They can be mean and close-minded. Really, grow up and act your age and not your shoe size.
Edgar Mayorga are you speaking to me?