Things not to talk about with your Spouse

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  • Опубликовано: 28 ноя 2024

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  • @ekeasonye7189
    @ekeasonye7189 3 года назад +71

    I started listening to this guy today and have watched 3 of his podcasts already. I'm from Nigeria, lives in UK and now a very big fan. He should move on to an international stage. He's that good.

    • @teresai1877
      @teresai1877 3 года назад +4

      Fellow Nigerian here. :-) I completely agree my sister!

    • @kaguorawangarigreatthingst62
      @kaguorawangarigreatthingst62 3 года назад

      Wow bitter but the truth

    • @scooterlovya
      @scooterlovya 2 года назад

      You don't have to be 'international' to the good.

    • @christopherokwena3934
      @christopherokwena3934 2 года назад

      Where did you get his podcasts?

    • @chinneynz7861
      @chinneynz7861 Год назад

      He is absolutely good. I am Nigerian too and I watch him here in USA. He should collaborate with Phrankleen etc........he is that good.

  • @baratip
    @baratip 4 года назад +85

    Dont rush in to marriage. Better to be late and do things right. I Loved that!
    Watching from Botswana

  • @Whooooaaaa
    @Whooooaaaa 6 месяцев назад +7

    Who's watching in 2024?
    Much love from Ghana

  • @victoronuko8226
    @victoronuko8226 4 года назад +121

    Never approach a bull from the front, a donkey from behind or an idiot from any direction.... Waaaah yawah.

  • @stellahmarriswambuwah9919
    @stellahmarriswambuwah9919 4 года назад +10

    He is saying the truth, I thought i was being truthful only to be always being reminded every time we fight.thanks lesson learned 👍🏾

  • @adhiambogorrety3807
    @adhiambogorrety3807 3 года назад +4

    Am learning much....am happy with Benjamin coz he is relating the current issues with the bible,,,thumbs up Zulu and Joyce,,,

  • @fatmanasir6691
    @fatmanasir6691 4 года назад +6

    Benjamin is echoing what a married lady friend once told me. She said don't make your partner your therapist. Ladies are notorious of this. He is not your dumping basket, have confidantes outside marriage or the relationship. Joyce ..you killed it today with your attire. That blouse looks regale

  • @enablinggracebafo4621
    @enablinggracebafo4621 4 года назад +17

    This show is one of the best. Thank you for imparting us with knowledge. God bless. Love from Zimbabwe

  • @emmaluftie7688
    @emmaluftie7688 3 года назад +15

    There's a lot of other nationalities watching this show...Please add subtitles...We love the advice from here!... #from Zimbabwe

  • @victoriavictory8605
    @victoriavictory8605 4 года назад +25

    🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 Don't attack a fool from any direction

  • @primmycooks884
    @primmycooks884 3 года назад +7

    Botswana 🇧🇼 woman watching from Namibia 🇳🇦. I totally love this channel. Woow. Honestly we will never stop learning

    • @lettakyjoy
      @lettakyjoy 3 года назад +1

      Am watching from Windhoek Namibia too

  • @Murhulaem
    @Murhulaem 4 года назад +35

    Some truth, you hide them, and they come to resurface in the future unknowingly, then it breaks everything apart.

  • @therealone8628
    @therealone8628 4 года назад +15

    I am a fan. From Nigeria 🇳🇬

  • @EvaEva-ku3pl
    @EvaEva-ku3pl 4 года назад +33

    I just love the way he laughs😂😂😂😂

  • @annekariuki1544
    @annekariuki1544 4 года назад +20

    I am guilty of not having wisdom & the foresight to not be too "open". I'll say this much I stumbled upon this message & have gone on to watch many more. Thank you @Joyce & @switchtv for this show & @Benjamin Zulu for the lessons.Such Wisdom. Application.

    • @shikukim5428
      @shikukim5428 4 года назад +2

      Am guilty of been too open minded and out spoken sasa sijui what is best

    • @wanyamuthimookariuki2012
      @wanyamuthimookariuki2012 4 года назад +2

      I respect how you feel now,,youve been too much of an open book,,,but i feel being frank with your close friend is very good,,,if you peee in bed,,,is you go crazy during cold weather,,,or any other that may come back after you,,,,,foolishness is relative.....just ask God for wisdom what to share...He is not a treakster....

  • @kenada254
    @kenada254 4 года назад +15

    09:45 The power of attraction.. You attract what you think about

  • @lifeofanafricanteacherbee9218
    @lifeofanafricanteacherbee9218 3 года назад +5

    I love the presenter she is so calm.

  • @joycendanu2662
    @joycendanu2662 4 года назад +6

    To more grace Benjamin Zulu. You are an epitome of pure wisdom

  • @vinishagovender5767
    @vinishagovender5767 2 года назад +1

    Be honest but with wisdom. God is the source of all wisdom, let's seek the Lord. Love this show.

  • @fijiangirllearning
    @fijiangirllearning 4 года назад +8

    Watching from Fiji Island's in the South Pacific Ocean

  • @SpringTvalley77
    @SpringTvalley77 4 года назад +8

    Better be late and right!that hit home!💯💯💯😊👏

  • @winnynatasha4306
    @winnynatasha4306 4 года назад +12

    I've just watching this show today and I can't get enough of the previous posts too
    I love the show and I'm really learning alot

  • @elsieireri3866
    @elsieireri3866 4 года назад +16

    Benjamin is so real.keep inspiring me Benjamin.

  • @sadiaibrahimrumana518
    @sadiaibrahimrumana518 4 года назад +25

    It's true that you don't have to tell your husband about your past he's not there to know about your past neither you to know about his past. If you want to keep your marriage only discuss about the future

    • @namazziaisha2987
      @namazziaisha2987 4 года назад +1

      Childhood stories🤣🤣 are but relationship status are not good to tell

  • @christinaduplessis4332
    @christinaduplessis4332 4 года назад +15

    I’m so impressed and inspired by watching your show. Mr Zulu is so articulate and very humorous in his discussion. Congrats to you Joyce and wishing you continued success. I will surely continuing viewing. Christina Duplessis from the beautiful island of St Lucia 🇱🇨🇱🇨🇱🇨🇱🇨in the Caribbean

    • @sarahjustice526
      @sarahjustice526 4 года назад +1

      Zulu is a lawyer .Very educated man .I enjoy the duo,they are very funny

  • @fabriziammanuli1672
    @fabriziammanuli1672 4 года назад +9

    Weuweee! My pick up line, better be late and be right! I love it. Whaaaa? The bull, the donkey and an idiot hahahaha. Mungu saidia.

  • @tracysevolution
    @tracysevolution 4 года назад +140

    Hey I love the show a great deal. However, as I am not a Swahili speaker some words escape me. Could the show please have on screen subtitles as RUclips subs really just don't do it. International audiences like I would really appreciate it.

  • @naomisimei5217
    @naomisimei5217 5 лет назад +11

    This a a great message especially to ladies. Thanks much

  • @amazingmimi6682
    @amazingmimi6682 4 года назад +5

    Zulu Zulu Zulu...you nailed it..I love this show especially when Benjamin is there I laugh and laugh

  • @Flexximages
    @Flexximages 4 года назад +30

    Zulu is literally my therapist...you really build me up with the reality and advices..

  • @annegichanga4000
    @annegichanga4000 3 года назад +2

    This was so good and true. Measure your Man wengine cannot handle us(LADIES).

  • @bevss9222
    @bevss9222 3 года назад +3

    This is an eye-opener! I hope they did this video 4 years ago, the time before I entered a relationship.

  • @sinovuyombadlanyana8194
    @sinovuyombadlanyana8194 4 года назад +137

    I love this show. I am xhosa but i am learning a lot, some words I do not understand but 👌👌👌👌👌

    • @normanmoriasi49
      @normanmoriasi49 4 года назад +4

      Am here to translate, feel free... 😀

    • @lovefromtheotherside9632
      @lovefromtheotherside9632 4 года назад +12

      We really need subtitles, this content is too good

    • @BlackGypsyCharm
      @BlackGypsyCharm 4 года назад +23

      My former girlfriend was xhosa she looked very much like you she stayed in kenya for a few years then left in 2018 i learnt afew xhosa words molo, njani, ndiyakukumbula, ndiyakuthanda, nunuza etc but she learnt alot of swahili words too, still miss her

    • @nzambikiseko7694
      @nzambikiseko7694 4 года назад +1

      @@normanmoriasi49 0

    • @namhla8546
      @namhla8546 4 года назад +5

      Nam mntase 🌸

  • @kahindoglodievisombwere5333
    @kahindoglodievisombwere5333 4 года назад +6

    Wouuh i am still asking myself where i was to just discover this chanel today

  • @lizzyshayo209
    @lizzyshayo209 4 года назад +8

    Wanted to tell my partiner about my past full of unfaithfullness felt guilty about it but nooo i wont say anymore..will just keep it in my heart!! Thank you Zulu for the advice!!

    • @shalomthembydonga1748
      @shalomthembydonga1748 4 года назад +3

      The danger of the untold is that it resurphases when you least expecting and destroys the trust you've been working on for ages
      It's very difficult to convince the other person then because they be thinking .,..how many other things have you been hiding from them

    • @nothandovilakazi5496
      @nothandovilakazi5496 4 года назад +3

      Shalom Themby Donga true , better lay your story and let them decide whether to stay or leave.
      Knowing that you’re hiding something from your partner must be haunting on its own, the curiosity of how he’d take it the day he knows.
      If it’s true love, he’ll love and accept you as you are.

    • @crissoa
      @crissoa 4 года назад

      Please, don’t tell your partner to ease the burden on yourself. Let wisdom be your guide in this instance. That was your past. Just do better moving forward.

    • @faridahfaddy6994
      @faridahfaddy6994 4 года назад

      @@crissoa if u are thinking of staying with your partner/ husband till death do you apart, my dear, you better air everything out. The longer u live with someone, conversation about different things creep out when you don’t expect them to. Like someone said , if it’s true love, no matter what you say about your past relationship/ relationships, they will still stay with you. Talking from experience. Been with my husband for 15yrs met him when I was 20yrs.We talk about our ex’s and how lucky we are to have each other.

  • @ajalahupfront
    @ajalahupfront 3 года назад +4

    Sarcasm can be really painful I agree with Benjamin. I cut off friendship with my sister in law because she was too sarcastic that I began to consider it disrespect

  • @linnetmwarashu6482
    @linnetmwarashu6482 4 года назад +5

    Wow! Love the show Joyce and Benjamin

  • @neattea6471
    @neattea6471 4 года назад +5

    Attack the problem 🤗 you're hurt but you still care🤭🤭🤭

  • @makah3342
    @makah3342 4 года назад +4

    so true be careful with what you say and how you say it cause once something said you can not take it back...used to date a guy who brought up all my past mistakes I had confided in him with to hurt me and get back at me....also his parents did not like me so each time I wanted to talk about serious stuff on anything he would tell me be grateful am with you my parents don't even like you...and each time he would tell me go back to your ex because what you are looking for is not in me maybe you are used to those kind of man..hhahahah glad he left me though it hurt but I know my worth now say anything to break me down boi bye I cant my emotional being and the person am building will not let anyone just come trash my yard.....the problem was me so ladies do not be desperate to overlook words especially when they are angry...

  • @kele6wele
    @kele6wele 2 года назад

    God servant is really at work, thank you for your obedience.
    He said trust and mistrust are the same thing, faith and fear are the same, you have to believe in something you can't see, when you believe in cheating you are believing it without seeing it, when you believe I'm faithful you are believing it without seeing, that's how trust works.'

  • @DevotionsWithSiwe
    @DevotionsWithSiwe 3 года назад +14

    So in love with this show. Can anyone suggest sites or ways that I learn Swahili? I'm showing love all the way from South Africa🇿🇦

    • @my_keygaucho2257
      @my_keygaucho2257 3 года назад

      Shows on africa magic

    • @nurumaseah5873
      @nurumaseah5873 3 года назад

      Can volunteer to teach you

    • @DevotionsWithSiwe
      @DevotionsWithSiwe 3 года назад

      @@my_keygaucho2257 Okay, thank you for letting me know. I'll keep an eye out.

    • @DevotionsWithSiwe
      @DevotionsWithSiwe 3 года назад +1

      @@nurumaseah5873Yeyy!! When do we start?

    • @nurumaseah5873
      @nurumaseah5873 3 года назад

      Sorry girl, missed out on your notification, please let me know what you're flexible with, we can do it casually until you learn all the basics you need. Any ideas how we can start?

  • @faithkaponda5076
    @faithkaponda5076 3 года назад +1

    Joices lough is contagious ❤️❤️❤️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

  • @julietkatumo1132
    @julietkatumo1132 4 года назад +3

    Thanks sana Zulu. You always open a new phase of thinking in my Brain whenever I watch the show.

  • @danielmunene5667
    @danielmunene5667 4 года назад +17

    This show is fantastic, it gives relaxationship tips which really help. couples

  • @xolanihlongwa2438
    @xolanihlongwa2438 4 года назад +69

    Too many south africans here.Sanibonani😀

  • @chiomaaneke3278
    @chiomaaneke3278 4 года назад +3

    I like the wisdom you are giving out

  • @marycatherine3857
    @marycatherine3857 4 года назад +3

    Super inspiring wowww😂🤣💉🔥

  • @tracykimani3021
    @tracykimani3021 4 года назад +20

    Weeeeh “don’t let people feed on you and they don’t feed you”

  • @josephmwanzia4768
    @josephmwanzia4768 4 года назад +39

    I jt started to watch this show jt recently, and I found myself watching all the previous posts, I particularly like this guy Zulu, he's so talented and informed.. He inspires me in every show.

    • @clairethando
      @clairethando 4 года назад

      Me too I wish there was an English translation for the Kiswahili part.

    • @poshandpoise6609
      @poshandpoise6609 4 года назад

      same here 🤗

    • @ruthnkatha9522
      @ruthnkatha9522 4 года назад

      💯💯💯💪

    • @margaretwarorua1041
      @margaretwarorua1041 4 года назад

      @@clairethando you really do not miss much during those Swahili sessions the important points are in English.

    • @meccayahofzion2479
      @meccayahofzion2479 3 года назад

      I am watching from America...I am going through a horrible divorce after 24 years with 2 adult daughters and an 8 yr old son. I am a victim of narcissist abuse and I filed for this divorce over a year now. My family is harshly fractured.

  • @jantnyamawigodhelpourcount9698
    @jantnyamawigodhelpourcount9698 5 лет назад +6

    Wow! Enjoying the conversation

  • @pearlynina7597
    @pearlynina7597 4 года назад +12

    This guy is wise

  • @elliotemmanuelnogo1632
    @elliotemmanuelnogo1632 3 года назад +1

    This man is talking truth ✊✊🤞

  • @ericmuange3739
    @ericmuange3739 2 года назад +1

    What impresses me with zulu,he is a good critic of societal paradigms and figuring out the plausible,, we need to change our mindsets.. #benjaminzuluwisdom

  • @peterperisofficial
    @peterperisofficial 4 года назад +13

    Eti there is differennce between lying , openess, honesty and foolishness😅😅😅😅😅aaah mr. Zulu is the best

  • @wisdomlife
    @wisdomlife 4 года назад +7

    Benjamin Zulu, really cracks my ribs as much as he talks the truth as he guides us!

  • @flominahmucheke6087
    @flominahmucheke6087 4 года назад +12

    Zulu and Joyce opening my eyes

  • @cindymahlangu2271
    @cindymahlangu2271 4 года назад +2

    Mr. Zulu, Thank you so much one needs to be wise indeed of being foolish. I pray for that and I've been reading the book of Psalms just to ask for Wisdom from God.

  • @Mindful_Mm
    @Mindful_Mm 4 года назад +5

    An ex told me one day he has already slept with around 15 girls, trying to impress me or bragging.while it was pure lie. But I knew i should immediately keep off him!!

  • @immaculatearach9664
    @immaculatearach9664 3 года назад +1

    I love the show, Zulu you're really a blessing and thanks Joyce.

  • @jenniferhall540
    @jenniferhall540 4 года назад +6

    Shout out from Jamaica. I discovered this show last week. Very informative. Please can u do captions for those who don't speak Swahili ?? Thank you

    • @namubirushirat6472
      @namubirushirat6472 Год назад

      Really I also feel I want to know the Swahili part coz this man is gift from God

  • @denisecox8857
    @denisecox8857 3 года назад +4

    I have had 3 miscarriages for my ex and out of sadness, emptiness I said you to him it look like you might have to go outside. Believe it or not. He did. And the funny thing is my last miscarriage, and the child outside would have shared the same age. Go figure.

  • @tshegofatsolentsoana6242
    @tshegofatsolentsoana6242 3 года назад +1

    Re nyantšhe matutu a thuto Mna. Benjamin Zulu 🙌🏾👏🏾❤👌🏾

  • @likunda1967
    @likunda1967 4 года назад +8

    The words just flow , use your talent to bless many, i and my family will soon contact you

  • @amazingmimi6682
    @amazingmimi6682 4 года назад +4

    Reconcile , connect,love and forgive yourself

  • @janemkade3488
    @janemkade3488 4 года назад +2

    It's such 🔥🔥🔥🔥 thanks for honestly opening your heart to pour wisdom
    Benjamin ur ablessing live looooong 👌👌👌👌👌👌👌

  • @petronillajosephat2655
    @petronillajosephat2655 3 года назад +4

    true Benjamin girls value weddings than marriage.

  • @pumlajenn2162
    @pumlajenn2162 4 года назад +18

    I love the Kenyan language how it sounds .I don't understand it though What is it called.? I am South African.I speak isiXhosa.Great show by the way.I am in stiches all the time 😀😀.The best time of your life is to be single .No drama you can even hear the birds sing in the morning 😀

    • @SololoMutai
      @SololoMutai 4 года назад +1

      This is Swahili language.

    • @pumlajenn2162
      @pumlajenn2162 4 года назад +1

      Oh thank you for the info

    • @CharlieDmus
      @CharlieDmus 4 года назад +2

      @@pumlajenn2162 I'm a ugandan living in SA and married to a Xhosa lady and I can tell you Swahili is so similar to isixhosa. It's also an international language spoken in many countries.

    • @rehemamiriam588
      @rehemamiriam588 4 года назад

      @@CharlieDmus correct

  • @quibianca6628
    @quibianca6628 4 года назад +1

    Wow thanks for sharing dat knowledge

  • @sylviahmbithi4683
    @sylviahmbithi4683 5 лет назад +4

    waoh....good lesson

  • @EnchantedStringsToronto
    @EnchantedStringsToronto 4 года назад +5

    She is gorgeous 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

  • @thabsilemagagula3757
    @thabsilemagagula3757 4 года назад +37

    Joyce please do a session on age gape with Benjamin , man dating older women, prons and cons

    • @zipwangui
      @zipwangui 4 года назад +1

      Ben 10 manenos 🤣🤣

    • @roseoningo8748
      @roseoningo8748 4 года назад

      @@zipwangui 😂😂😂😂why though?

    • @zipwangui
      @zipwangui 4 года назад +6

      @@roseoningo8748 This young guys this days don't wanna work their bum sweety. They prefer to run after older women in the name of love. Desperate women on the other hand confuse that for true affection, and fall into the trap. By the time their eyes open the wallet is empty and heart broken.

    • @roseoningo8748
      @roseoningo8748 4 года назад +1

      You're right but it cuts across both genders ...tusugar babies tuko pia😂

    • @zipwangui
      @zipwangui 4 года назад +1

      @@roseoningo8748 Very true indeed!

  • @tmk08
    @tmk08 4 года назад +1

    Never approach a bull from the front, a donkey from behind or an idiot from any direction
    .. Benjamin 🤣wisdom is tops

  • @bigfish327
    @bigfish327 3 года назад +1

    Thanks a lot for the show....😊 Watching frm Uganda

  • @gloriatoo22
    @gloriatoo22 3 года назад

    I love the show ...benjamin is very wise

  • @pendoonyango6676
    @pendoonyango6676 4 года назад +10

    I must subscribe coz I need a healthy happy relationship

    • @wildahmwanza9969
      @wildahmwanza9969 4 года назад

      I love the show I will subcribe too Learnt alot

  • @onekahicken8114
    @onekahicken8114 4 года назад +1

    I love these discussions Joyce.

  • @osinamelayomi6357
    @osinamelayomi6357 4 года назад +8

    Alot of us dont understand your language, please add subtitles. I could only understand the things said in English

  • @dianafearon4808
    @dianafearon4808 3 года назад +1

    I always believe that if you are not a virgin any other man you will have a relationship with is always the second man. So another man is always the second man even if he is the tenth one

  • @brendakendi5485
    @brendakendi5485 4 года назад +4

    Eti this not a rescue center 😳😳😂😂😂😂

  • @daisyrenewed7081
    @daisyrenewed7081 4 года назад +3

    This talk is so relatable

  • @mmatlhapitsheole8488
    @mmatlhapitsheole8488 3 года назад +2

    Kenya shows are informative, so please , speak your language, I respect that, I please request you to accompany that with a translation to accommodate us, foreigners at home Africa. (I hope this find your kind heart)

  • @vorsterouma7175
    @vorsterouma7175 4 года назад +3

    Very educative

  • @EnchantedStringsToronto
    @EnchantedStringsToronto 4 года назад +3

    And this guy is soooo wise

  • @misschululups
    @misschululups 4 года назад +8

    the games will stop when you stop playing!

  • @achieverwinifreddam6307
    @achieverwinifreddam6307 4 года назад

    Benjamin you are the best!

  • @uMsubathi
    @uMsubathi 3 года назад +2

    Watching from South Africa. Where did these two beautiful came from? 🙏🏾
    Thank you very much guys, to everyone, great show.

  • @onekahicken8114
    @onekahicken8114 4 года назад +1

    Very informative

  • @tshegofatsolentsoana6242
    @tshegofatsolentsoana6242 3 года назад

    Ba bantšhi ba re ba tšea maele eupša ge ba fetša go bogela ba ile go lebala ka matutu a thuto a go tšwa go Mna. Benjamin Zulu 🤞🏾

  • @oliverkaguna9234
    @oliverkaguna9234 4 года назад +2

    Zulu ur so amazing. U relieve my stress

  • @mercymungai812
    @mercymungai812 5 лет назад +12

    Very informative, learning a lot.

  • @deefarmtotheworld9856
    @deefarmtotheworld9856 4 года назад +6

    Wooow this conversation is so overwhelming

  • @shalomthembydonga1748
    @shalomthembydonga1748 4 года назад +6

    Sarcasm is My weakness
    Pointer taken☑

  • @gordonomboro761
    @gordonomboro761 3 года назад

    I love this show , is reality learning

  • @marywambua8795
    @marywambua8795 4 года назад +3

    There was a time my husband discredited a girl he cheated on me with by saying that she was bad in bed only for him to tell me that for him sex is just the same. And he just needs that part coz there is no difference and I have no idea why it hurt so badly. I hate dishonesty and I am not sure if that is why it broke me so badly.

  • @magreth7981
    @magreth7981 4 года назад +1

    Better be late and be right !✌👌

  • @victorchabala
    @victorchabala 4 года назад +24

    Benjamin and Joyce, your programmes are awesome, but please, realise that you have an international audience and not just Kenyans. I am a Zambian and I don't understand Swahili. There are times when you drift into Swahili unconsciously and I get completely lost. Would you help me and the rest who don't understand Swahili? This is not a criticism but a cry from the heart.

    • @jenniferhall540
      @jenniferhall540 4 года назад +3

      Yes Victor I share your sentiments. I am a Jamaican far away in the Caribbean so you can imagine when I hear Swahili😂am hopeless, we in the Caribbean are descendants of slaves from africa but we were not afforded to keep our original tongue, at least you are still on the same Continent( 😁 laugh) . Can we get some captain when u guys drift off?😘

    • @a.muchemi4360
      @a.muchemi4360 3 года назад +1

      I translate 4 u, how about that

  • @caramel9244
    @caramel9244 4 года назад +1

    Benjamin Zulu! 📢🗣🗣👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Asante sana. 🙏🏾

  • @rachelwaweru8479
    @rachelwaweru8479 4 года назад

    Ata mimi vile unaniona hapa,no, no, nooooo, i cant,Benjamin is a comedian,😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆😆.

  • @marycatherine3857
    @marycatherine3857 4 года назад +4

    This guy is so funny wueeeh🤣💉

  • @zipwangui
    @zipwangui 4 года назад +6

    How can i subscribe to this programme and follow Joyce without following switch TV?