I started listening to this guy today and have watched 3 of his podcasts already. I'm from Nigeria, lives in UK and now a very big fan. He should move on to an international stage. He's that good.
Benjamin is echoing what a married lady friend once told me. She said don't make your partner your therapist. Ladies are notorious of this. He is not your dumping basket, have confidantes outside marriage or the relationship. Joyce ..you killed it today with your attire. That blouse looks regale
I am guilty of not having wisdom & the foresight to not be too "open". I'll say this much I stumbled upon this message & have gone on to watch many more. Thank you @Joyce & @switchtv for this show & @Benjamin Zulu for the lessons.Such Wisdom. Application.
I respect how you feel now,,youve been too much of an open book,,,but i feel being frank with your close friend is very good,,,if you peee in bed,,,is you go crazy during cold weather,,,or any other that may come back after you,,,,,foolishness is relative.....just ask God for wisdom what to share...He is not a treakster....
Sarcasm can be really painful I agree with Benjamin. I cut off friendship with my sister in law because she was too sarcastic that I began to consider it disrespect
It's true that you don't have to tell your husband about your past he's not there to know about your past neither you to know about his past. If you want to keep your marriage only discuss about the future
I’m so impressed and inspired by watching your show. Mr Zulu is so articulate and very humorous in his discussion. Congrats to you Joyce and wishing you continued success. I will surely continuing viewing. Christina Duplessis from the beautiful island of St Lucia 🇱🇨🇱🇨🇱🇨🇱🇨in the Caribbean
Hey I love the show a great deal. However, as I am not a Swahili speaker some words escape me. Could the show please have on screen subtitles as RUclips subs really just don't do it. International audiences like I would really appreciate it.
Sorry girl, missed out on your notification, please let me know what you're flexible with, we can do it casually until you learn all the basics you need. Any ideas how we can start?
Wanted to tell my partiner about my past full of unfaithfullness felt guilty about it but nooo i wont say anymore..will just keep it in my heart!! Thank you Zulu for the advice!!
The danger of the untold is that it resurphases when you least expecting and destroys the trust you've been working on for ages It's very difficult to convince the other person then because they be thinking .,..how many other things have you been hiding from them
Shalom Themby Donga true , better lay your story and let them decide whether to stay or leave. Knowing that you’re hiding something from your partner must be haunting on its own, the curiosity of how he’d take it the day he knows. If it’s true love, he’ll love and accept you as you are.
Please, don’t tell your partner to ease the burden on yourself. Let wisdom be your guide in this instance. That was your past. Just do better moving forward.
@@crissoa if u are thinking of staying with your partner/ husband till death do you apart, my dear, you better air everything out. The longer u live with someone, conversation about different things creep out when you don’t expect them to. Like someone said , if it’s true love, no matter what you say about your past relationship/ relationships, they will still stay with you. Talking from experience. Been with my husband for 15yrs met him when I was 20yrs.We talk about our ex’s and how lucky we are to have each other.
I jt started to watch this show jt recently, and I found myself watching all the previous posts, I particularly like this guy Zulu, he's so talented and informed.. He inspires me in every show.
I am watching from America...I am going through a horrible divorce after 24 years with 2 adult daughters and an 8 yr old son. I am a victim of narcissist abuse and I filed for this divorce over a year now. My family is harshly fractured.
An ex told me one day he has already slept with around 15 girls, trying to impress me or bragging.while it was pure lie. But I knew i should immediately keep off him!!
My former girlfriend was xhosa she looked very much like you she stayed in kenya for a few years then left in 2018 i learnt afew xhosa words molo, njani, ndiyakukumbula, ndiyakuthanda, nunuza etc but she learnt alot of swahili words too, still miss her
I have had 3 miscarriages for my ex and out of sadness, emptiness I said you to him it look like you might have to go outside. Believe it or not. He did. And the funny thing is my last miscarriage, and the child outside would have shared the same age. Go figure.
God servant is really at work, thank you for your obedience. He said trust and mistrust are the same thing, faith and fear are the same, you have to believe in something you can't see, when you believe in cheating you are believing it without seeing it, when you believe I'm faithful you are believing it without seeing, that's how trust works.'
Mr. Zulu, Thank you so much one needs to be wise indeed of being foolish. I pray for that and I've been reading the book of Psalms just to ask for Wisdom from God.
so true be careful with what you say and how you say it cause once something said you can not take it back...used to date a guy who brought up all my past mistakes I had confided in him with to hurt me and get back at me....also his parents did not like me so each time I wanted to talk about serious stuff on anything he would tell me be grateful am with you my parents don't even like you...and each time he would tell me go back to your ex because what you are looking for is not in me maybe you are used to those kind of man..hhahahah glad he left me though it hurt but I know my worth now say anything to break me down boi bye I cant my emotional being and the person am building will not let anyone just come trash my yard.....the problem was me so ladies do not be desperate to overlook words especially when they are angry...
I always believe that if you are not a virgin any other man you will have a relationship with is always the second man. So another man is always the second man even if he is the tenth one
@@roseoningo8748 This young guys this days don't wanna work their bum sweety. They prefer to run after older women in the name of love. Desperate women on the other hand confuse that for true affection, and fall into the trap. By the time their eyes open the wallet is empty and heart broken.
Kenya shows are informative, so please , speak your language, I respect that, I please request you to accompany that with a translation to accommodate us, foreigners at home Africa. (I hope this find your kind heart)
Benjamin and Joyce, your programmes are awesome, but please, realise that you have an international audience and not just Kenyans. I am a Zambian and I don't understand Swahili. There are times when you drift into Swahili unconsciously and I get completely lost. Would you help me and the rest who don't understand Swahili? This is not a criticism but a cry from the heart.
Yes Victor I share your sentiments. I am a Jamaican far away in the Caribbean so you can imagine when I hear Swahili😂am hopeless, we in the Caribbean are descendants of slaves from africa but we were not afforded to keep our original tongue, at least you are still on the same Continent( 😁 laugh) . Can we get some captain when u guys drift off?😘
I started with my man at his father's house after we working together,i got him with my friends and we have 1kid.I decided to leave him.after some 2years he married dat lady and brought her at my home.what can i do????
What impresses me with zulu,he is a good critic of societal paradigms and figuring out the plausible,, we need to change our mindsets.. #benjaminzuluwisdom
There was a time my husband discredited a girl he cheated on me with by saying that she was bad in bed only for him to tell me that for him sex is just the same. And he just needs that part coz there is no difference and I have no idea why it hurt so badly. I hate dishonesty and I am not sure if that is why it broke me so badly.
I commend your efforts Ben Zulu, u are so exceptional in your analysis and your delivery, I enjoyed every part of this show thanks for educating and imparting knowledge in the area of relationships Thumbs up Ben 👍
I love the Kenyan language how it sounds .I don't understand it though What is it called.? I am South African.I speak isiXhosa.Great show by the way.I am in stiches all the time 😀😀.The best time of your life is to be single .No drama you can even hear the birds sing in the morning 😀
@@pumlajenn2162 I'm a ugandan living in SA and married to a Xhosa lady and I can tell you Swahili is so similar to isixhosa. It's also an international language spoken in many countries.
My ex used to threaten with breaking up every time we had a disagreement and I told her that one day I’ll just take it as Is till it happened again and sure enough I said okay. She got used to me coming a day after till the last time when I didn’t and she had the nerve to say that I’m breaking up with her. Legend has it that till today (5 years later) she’s still waiting for me to come and be the bigger person 😂😂😂😂
May the good Lord give this young widower who lost his wife, PEACE with our sovereign God. During this time of grief and healing may the Holy Spirit be is guide to minister to him in his darkest hour where no man will understand his loss. May God have mercy on him and his little son and buffer him from pain and loneliness so that he does not suffer more loss in the absence of his mother. What the enemy meant for evil, may God turn this around for good. May God give them both grace, increase faith and use this loss to minister strength to those who will also go through this path, as you see fit. At the end of the day, I pray that you will keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on the. God is His own Interpreter and He will make it plain. May you reward him another wife who will fill the void that is now left so that he and his son will give testimony of your goodness. It shall be well IN JESUS NAME!
I started listening to this guy today and have watched 3 of his podcasts already. I'm from Nigeria, lives in UK and now a very big fan. He should move on to an international stage. He's that good.
Fellow Nigerian here. :-) I completely agree my sister!
Wow bitter but the truth
You don't have to be 'international' to the good.
Where did you get his podcasts?
He is absolutely good. I am Nigerian too and I watch him here in USA. He should collaborate with Phrankleen etc........he is that good.
Who's watching in 2024?
Much love from Ghana
Dont rush in to marriage. Better to be late and do things right. I Loved that!
Watching from Botswana
Exactly
Or do bad by your self.
Great advice
He is saying the truth, I thought i was being truthful only to be always being reminded every time we fight.thanks lesson learned 👍🏾
I'm fighting the same too
Benjamin is echoing what a married lady friend once told me. She said don't make your partner your therapist. Ladies are notorious of this. He is not your dumping basket, have confidantes outside marriage or the relationship. Joyce ..you killed it today with your attire. That blouse looks regale
This show is one of the best. Thank you for imparting us with knowledge. God bless. Love from Zimbabwe
Botswana 🇧🇼 woman watching from Namibia 🇳🇦. I totally love this channel. Woow. Honestly we will never stop learning
Am watching from Windhoek Namibia too
Never approach a bull from the front, a donkey from behind or an idiot from any direction.... Waaaah yawah.
Aki hii imenibamba😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣
So what do we do about the idiots?, we shouldn't approach them at all haahaaaaa
@@Letusprayforamerica l
Am learning much....am happy with Benjamin coz he is relating the current issues with the bible,,,thumbs up Zulu and Joyce,,,
I am guilty of not having wisdom & the foresight to not be too "open". I'll say this much I stumbled upon this message & have gone on to watch many more. Thank you @Joyce & @switchtv for this show & @Benjamin Zulu for the lessons.Such Wisdom. Application.
Am guilty of been too open minded and out spoken sasa sijui what is best
I respect how you feel now,,youve been too much of an open book,,,but i feel being frank with your close friend is very good,,,if you peee in bed,,,is you go crazy during cold weather,,,or any other that may come back after you,,,,,foolishness is relative.....just ask God for wisdom what to share...He is not a treakster....
Some truth, you hide them, and they come to resurface in the future unknowingly, then it breaks everything apart.
Exerctly
There's a lot of other nationalities watching this show...Please add subtitles...We love the advice from here!... #from Zimbabwe
I've just watching this show today and I can't get enough of the previous posts too
I love the show and I'm really learning alot
I just love the way he laughs😂😂😂😂
Me too😀😀😀😀😀
I love the presenter she is so calm.
Benjamin is so real.keep inspiring me Benjamin.
Zulu is literally my therapist...you really build me up with the reality and advices..
Me too
Me too
Mine too
Yessss!
I am a fan. From Nigeria 🇳🇬
🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 Don't attack a fool from any direction
Sarcasm can be really painful I agree with Benjamin. I cut off friendship with my sister in law because she was too sarcastic that I began to consider it disrespect
09:45 The power of attraction.. You attract what you think about
It's true that you don't have to tell your husband about your past he's not there to know about your past neither you to know about his past. If you want to keep your marriage only discuss about the future
Childhood stories🤣🤣 are but relationship status are not good to tell
This is an eye-opener! I hope they did this video 4 years ago, the time before I entered a relationship.
Be honest but with wisdom. God is the source of all wisdom, let's seek the Lord. Love this show.
To more grace Benjamin Zulu. You are an epitome of pure wisdom
I’m so impressed and inspired by watching your show. Mr Zulu is so articulate and very humorous in his discussion. Congrats to you Joyce and wishing you continued success. I will surely continuing viewing. Christina Duplessis from the beautiful island of St Lucia 🇱🇨🇱🇨🇱🇨🇱🇨in the Caribbean
Zulu is a lawyer .Very educated man .I enjoy the duo,they are very funny
Weuweee! My pick up line, better be late and be right! I love it. Whaaaa? The bull, the donkey and an idiot hahahaha. Mungu saidia.
Zulu Zulu Zulu...you nailed it..I love this show especially when Benjamin is there I laugh and laugh
Hey I love the show a great deal. However, as I am not a Swahili speaker some words escape me. Could the show please have on screen subtitles as RUclips subs really just don't do it. International audiences like I would really appreciate it.
I agree!
I love the show and Mr Zulu so much I propose that a sign language interpreter. These good info should reach all.
Please I agree
I agree!
I second you on this.
So in love with this show. Can anyone suggest sites or ways that I learn Swahili? I'm showing love all the way from South Africa🇿🇦
Shows on africa magic
Can volunteer to teach you
@@my_keygaucho2257 Okay, thank you for letting me know. I'll keep an eye out.
@@nurumaseah5873Yeyy!! When do we start?
Sorry girl, missed out on your notification, please let me know what you're flexible with, we can do it casually until you learn all the basics you need. Any ideas how we can start?
Wanted to tell my partiner about my past full of unfaithfullness felt guilty about it but nooo i wont say anymore..will just keep it in my heart!! Thank you Zulu for the advice!!
The danger of the untold is that it resurphases when you least expecting and destroys the trust you've been working on for ages
It's very difficult to convince the other person then because they be thinking .,..how many other things have you been hiding from them
Shalom Themby Donga true , better lay your story and let them decide whether to stay or leave.
Knowing that you’re hiding something from your partner must be haunting on its own, the curiosity of how he’d take it the day he knows.
If it’s true love, he’ll love and accept you as you are.
Please, don’t tell your partner to ease the burden on yourself. Let wisdom be your guide in this instance. That was your past. Just do better moving forward.
@@crissoa if u are thinking of staying with your partner/ husband till death do you apart, my dear, you better air everything out. The longer u live with someone, conversation about different things creep out when you don’t expect them to. Like someone said , if it’s true love, no matter what you say about your past relationship/ relationships, they will still stay with you. Talking from experience. Been with my husband for 15yrs met him when I was 20yrs.We talk about our ex’s and how lucky we are to have each other.
Thanks sana Zulu. You always open a new phase of thinking in my Brain whenever I watch the show.
Watching from Fiji Island's in the South Pacific Ocean
Better be late and right!that hit home!💯💯💯😊👏
Benjamin Zulu, really cracks my ribs as much as he talks the truth as he guides us!
This was so good and true. Measure your Man wengine cannot handle us(LADIES).
Weeeeh “don’t let people feed on you and they don’t feed you”
Shout out from Jamaica. I discovered this show last week. Very informative. Please can u do captions for those who don't speak Swahili ?? Thank you
Really I also feel I want to know the Swahili part coz this man is gift from God
This show is fantastic, it gives relaxationship tips which really help. couples
I jt started to watch this show jt recently, and I found myself watching all the previous posts, I particularly like this guy Zulu, he's so talented and informed.. He inspires me in every show.
Me too I wish there was an English translation for the Kiswahili part.
same here 🤗
💯💯💯💪
@@clairethando you really do not miss much during those Swahili sessions the important points are in English.
I am watching from America...I am going through a horrible divorce after 24 years with 2 adult daughters and an 8 yr old son. I am a victim of narcissist abuse and I filed for this divorce over a year now. My family is harshly fractured.
Attack the problem 🤗 you're hurt but you still care🤭🤭🤭
This a a great message especially to ladies. Thanks much
Eti there is differennce between lying , openess, honesty and foolishness😅😅😅😅😅aaah mr. Zulu is the best
This guy is wise
An ex told me one day he has already slept with around 15 girls, trying to impress me or bragging.while it was pure lie. But I knew i should immediately keep off him!!
I love this show. I am xhosa but i am learning a lot, some words I do not understand but 👌👌👌👌👌
Am here to translate, feel free... 😀
We really need subtitles, this content is too good
My former girlfriend was xhosa she looked very much like you she stayed in kenya for a few years then left in 2018 i learnt afew xhosa words molo, njani, ndiyakukumbula, ndiyakuthanda, nunuza etc but she learnt alot of swahili words too, still miss her
@@normanmoriasi49 0
Nam mntase 🌸
I have had 3 miscarriages for my ex and out of sadness, emptiness I said you to him it look like you might have to go outside. Believe it or not. He did. And the funny thing is my last miscarriage, and the child outside would have shared the same age. Go figure.
I love the show, Zulu you're really a blessing and thanks Joyce.
God servant is really at work, thank you for your obedience.
He said trust and mistrust are the same thing, faith and fear are the same, you have to believe in something you can't see, when you believe in cheating you are believing it without seeing it, when you believe I'm faithful you are believing it without seeing, that's how trust works.'
Mr. Zulu, Thank you so much one needs to be wise indeed of being foolish. I pray for that and I've been reading the book of Psalms just to ask for Wisdom from God.
I like the wisdom you are giving out
so true be careful with what you say and how you say it cause once something said you can not take it back...used to date a guy who brought up all my past mistakes I had confided in him with to hurt me and get back at me....also his parents did not like me so each time I wanted to talk about serious stuff on anything he would tell me be grateful am with you my parents don't even like you...and each time he would tell me go back to your ex because what you are looking for is not in me maybe you are used to those kind of man..hhahahah glad he left me though it hurt but I know my worth now say anything to break me down boi bye I cant my emotional being and the person am building will not let anyone just come trash my yard.....the problem was me so ladies do not be desperate to overlook words especially when they are angry...
Zulu and Joyce opening my eyes
I always believe that if you are not a virgin any other man you will have a relationship with is always the second man. So another man is always the second man even if he is the tenth one
Wow! Love the show Joyce and Benjamin
Joyce please do a session on age gape with Benjamin , man dating older women, prons and cons
Ben 10 manenos 🤣🤣
@@zipwangui 😂😂😂😂why though?
@@roseoningo8748 This young guys this days don't wanna work their bum sweety. They prefer to run after older women in the name of love. Desperate women on the other hand confuse that for true affection, and fall into the trap. By the time their eyes open the wallet is empty and heart broken.
You're right but it cuts across both genders ...tusugar babies tuko pia😂
@@roseoningo8748 Very true indeed!
Alot of us dont understand your language, please add subtitles. I could only understand the things said in English
Reconcile , connect,love and forgive yourself
The words just flow , use your talent to bless many, i and my family will soon contact you
Joices lough is contagious ❤️❤️❤️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
This man is talking truth ✊✊🤞
Never approach a bull from the front, a donkey from behind or an idiot from any direction
.. Benjamin 🤣wisdom is tops
Thanks a lot for the show....😊 Watching frm Uganda
And this guy is soooo wise
The wisdom 🔥🔥
Kenya shows are informative, so please , speak your language, I respect that, I please request you to accompany that with a translation to accommodate us, foreigners at home Africa. (I hope this find your kind heart)
I love these discussions Joyce.
Watching from South Africa. Where did these two beautiful came from? 🙏🏾
Thank you very much guys, to everyone, great show.
Kenyaaaa....
Too many south africans here.Sanibonani😀
Yebo💃😅
Yebo unjani?
Madume hle bana beso
I'm a neighbour to South Africa. Sawubona!
Thobela😂😂😂😂
This talk is so relatable
Benjamin and Joyce, your programmes are awesome, but please, realise that you have an international audience and not just Kenyans. I am a Zambian and I don't understand Swahili. There are times when you drift into Swahili unconsciously and I get completely lost. Would you help me and the rest who don't understand Swahili? This is not a criticism but a cry from the heart.
Yes Victor I share your sentiments. I am a Jamaican far away in the Caribbean so you can imagine when I hear Swahili😂am hopeless, we in the Caribbean are descendants of slaves from africa but we were not afforded to keep our original tongue, at least you are still on the same Continent( 😁 laugh) . Can we get some captain when u guys drift off?😘
I translate 4 u, how about that
How can i subscribe to this programme and follow Joyce without following switch TV?
I started with my man at his father's house after we working together,i got him with my friends and we have 1kid.I decided to leave him.after some 2years he married dat lady and brought her at my home.what can i do????
What impresses me with zulu,he is a good critic of societal paradigms and figuring out the plausible,, we need to change our mindsets.. #benjaminzuluwisdom
true Benjamin girls value weddings than marriage.
Wow! Enjoying the conversation
It's such 🔥🔥🔥🔥 thanks for honestly opening your heart to pour wisdom
Benjamin ur ablessing live looooong 👌👌👌👌👌👌👌
Zulu ur so amazing. U relieve my stress
Super inspiring wowww😂🤣💉🔥
She is gorgeous 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
I must subscribe coz I need a healthy happy relationship
I love the show I will subcribe too Learnt alot
There was a time my husband discredited a girl he cheated on me with by saying that she was bad in bed only for him to tell me that for him sex is just the same. And he just needs that part coz there is no difference and I have no idea why it hurt so badly. I hate dishonesty and I am not sure if that is why it broke me so badly.
I commend your efforts Ben Zulu, u are so exceptional in your analysis and your delivery, I enjoyed every part of this show thanks for educating and imparting knowledge in the area of relationships
Thumbs up Ben 👍
Re nyantšhe matutu a thuto Mna. Benjamin Zulu 🙌🏾👏🏾❤👌🏾
But what happens when u have tried to talk things over with him and there’s no change. What do you do? Benny from California . Thanks Benjamin
I love the Kenyan language how it sounds .I don't understand it though What is it called.? I am South African.I speak isiXhosa.Great show by the way.I am in stiches all the time 😀😀.The best time of your life is to be single .No drama you can even hear the birds sing in the morning 😀
This is Swahili language.
Oh thank you for the info
@@pumlajenn2162 I'm a ugandan living in SA and married to a Xhosa lady and I can tell you Swahili is so similar to isixhosa. It's also an international language spoken in many countries.
@@CharlieDmus correct
Eti this not a rescue center 😳😳😂😂😂😂
People from Nigeria watch your videos. Subtitles please. Don't deny us the timless nuggets from Ben
My ex used to threaten with breaking up every time we had a disagreement and I told her that one day I’ll just take it as Is till it happened again and sure enough I said okay. She got used to me coming a day after till the last time when I didn’t and she had the nerve to say that I’m breaking up with her. Legend has it that till today (5 years later) she’s still waiting for me to come and be the bigger person 😂😂😂😂
It happens
Lol🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
May the good Lord give this young widower who lost his wife, PEACE with our sovereign God. During this time of grief and healing may the Holy Spirit be is guide to minister to him in his darkest hour where no man will understand his loss. May God have mercy on him and his little son and buffer him from pain and loneliness so that he does not suffer more loss in the absence of his mother. What the enemy meant for evil, may God turn this around for good. May God give them both grace, increase faith and use this loss to minister strength to those who will also go through this path, as you see fit. At the end of the day, I pray that you will keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on the. God is His own Interpreter and He will make it plain.
May you reward him another wife who will fill the void that is now left so that he and his son will give testimony of your goodness. It shall be well IN JESUS NAME!
Amen
I love the show ...benjamin is very wise
Why does swahili sound like zulu,sotho and something else at the same time, fascinating I cannot speak it but I fully understand what they are saying.
Hi I'm Leah from south africa, I really love ur show I learn a lot bt sometimes miss some information cos of ur mother tongue,thank u.
Very informative, learning a lot.
Please talk about men who request to sleep over at the ladies place while still dating. Or men who are not independent
If your dating Neve r tell Aman that you sleep alone . Thoes are the results
@@namazziaisha2987 thank u
@@sylviaachieng7299 welcm dia
Yeah.. waongelelee hizo ghasia
@@namazziaisha2987 thank you... that's so true
the games will stop when you stop playing!
Benjamin you are the best!
I love this channel
Sarcasm is My weakness
Pointer taken☑
Me too😅
Am worried am there too
Wow thanks for sharing dat knowledge
Wooow this conversation is so overwhelming