I just want to take a moment to say thank you so much for all of your kind and heartfelt comments. I have read each and everyone of them but just don’t have time or energy to respond. I appreciate you all so much. ❤❤❤
You have got to be one of the strongest women I have seen. May everything work in your favor and may blessings be bestowed upon you. I hope joy and love find you and fulfill your life.
I am happily married and have been with my husband for almost 34 years. We have 2 wonderful children, 8 grandchildren, and a new great-grandson. I love my family with all my heart. They are very supportive of me and always there for me. But I have lived with ADHD (which I just found out I had about 5 years ago), depression, and anxiety all of my life. Even though I have a wonderful, loving family sometimes you can't control what your body does. I started using the "Happy Planner" about 8 years ago and decorating it. I have tried other planners but always go back to the "Happy Planner", it is the BEST!! Even after all the years of using it, I have learned so much from watching your videos. As well as how to use it more to help my ADHD better. So yes you are helping so many people!!!! I am so sorry about you and Mike!! You are right though you will be alright!! We are all here to listen and help along your journey, we love you!!!
So sorry about Michael. I've watched you when you lost your husband, when you were in a job you didn't enjoy, when you lost your son, and now this. You have been through so much. Sending prayers your way.
I am so sorry that this is happening. You have been been through some truly awful times and displayed nothing but grace and integrity. You are an amazing content creator and a lovely, funny person, I have depressive illness and you have helped me so much - from making me laugh to making me feel less alone. Sending you love, support (and thanks).
The fact that you’re still trying to help others while you’re struggling with this says so much about you. You are a kind soul Mary Ellen. And you WILL BE OK!🤗 Loved this video.❤
Your transparency and able to share the hard stuff is what makes me a big fan of your channel. I enjoy your creativity, tips and tricks also. I have to applaud both you and Michael for being adult enough and love each other enough to respect the reality and embrace the growth. It's hard and it sucks. I'm 53 and single and it is HARD. Praying for you and your healing - you have inspired me with your story. Much love and hugs!
I just wanted to say thank you so much for always being so vulnerable, open, and honest. Mental health is so important, and something that we should all be able to talk more openly about, without feeling like there is a stigma behind it, or behind having days when depression rears it's ugly head. You have no idea how much your heartfelt words touch those of us watching you, knowing that we are not alone. I hope that despite the trials that you have been through over the past few years, you know you are not alone as well.
I’m lost too at 55. I don’t know what to do next. Depression and self blame are taking over. I’m trying so hard to be ok. But watching your videos has really helped me. You’re so positive and strong.
Hi Mary Ellen. My name is Bethany. I bought a bunch of Happy Planner stuff about 8 years ago, (I actually forget but it was a while ago.) I tried several times to use it and I’ve WANTED to buy then fell off. I recently started again more consistently and also found your channel. I am a new subscriber but have binge watched so many of your videos. A lot of times I just listen to them sorta like a podcast at work and look at the spreads occasionally. I love your style and I love how you encourage others to find their own style because I also think that is so important. I especially love the journal type spreads because I’m using my planner as sort of a journal/ planner. I love how genuine you are; that is my favorite thing about you. We have a lot in common and I even used to live in your area but I live in Indiana now. I think we would get along super well-I have ADHD as well, I used to scrapbook and I’m also super creative. It’s actually funny sometimes when you talk I’m like “me too!”. Anyway, sorry I’m rambling. I have been going through a really hard time in my life as well and am really liking this self care page idea. I look forward to more ideas. All the ideas you shared make me feel better. I am also really getting into Bible journaling and also have been running which makes me feel better. I am hoping to stay more consistent with planning because I love the creative process and I’m so happy to have found your channel. I wish you the best I’m sorry you are going through a hard time.
At 51 I’ve come to realize that “I’m okay” doesn’t always mean you come out of it as happy as you once were, or found that magic reason they say stuff happens for. More often it just means you have learned to be at peace with where you are, and accept who you are right now. The best we can all do is be kind to ourselves and hopefully gain some solace in knowing we are never truly alone.Even strangers on the internet can empathize and give you invisible support
I switched from using happy planner to Hobonichi but I still watch your videos religiously because of YOU as a person and your inspiring and real words. You have helped me cope and grieve and adapt to life changes more than any planning techniques and I’m so grateful for you! ❤
We're the same age, I too have been through so much this lifetime! A therapist once told me I've been through what most women haven't been through their entire lifetime. (Note that didn't make me feel great, to say the very least). Yes we all go through so much. Plus being menopausal, you're emotional already. I'm sorry you're going through this hurt. I suffer from depression and PTSD. I'm sending you gentle hugs 🤗. Please don't forget to take special time for yourself. You are loved, important and valued. You're one of my favorite content creators btw. TFS as always ❤️🤗 sending prayers your way friend 🙏🏼
Just hearing those words can make a person at their lowest make a world of difference. I am depressed and do the same things you do. I binge watch movies and try to do certain things and I hate it bc I am now limited physically due to a cerebral aneurysm and 3 surgeries to get it stabilized. Unfortunately it takes 3years of rehabilitation per surgery. Them lost over 10 family members from covid including my mother. So there's a huge void in my heart and my mind is cluttered and your videos brings me peace just to watch you plan and decorate. With that being said I have ordered my planner and received and I'm going to give it a try. It may take a while to get started bc the stickers are expensive but I will start soon. I'm disabled now and lost. I pray I will be able to do it. I am truly an introvert and basically removed myself from everyone. Remember me and I will let you know if it helps me. I usually write on anything I pick up then lose it. So, here's🥂 to your uplifting words and videos. You are loved and appreciated❤, everyday the sun shines even on our cloudier days. Thank you so much😢😊
I have this video saved and always go back to it when I am having a really hard mental day!!! Thank you Mary Ellen for being vulnerable and making this... it HELPS SO MUCH!!!
This is such a great idea❣️ We all get down now and then. Those of us who suffer from depression know it is a daily struggle. I have a section in my planner I call “ My Happiness Project.” It has some of my goals categorized by Mind, Body and Spirit . It also is where I do my mood and gratitude tracking. I usually glue the monthly calendar pages together, but your spread here has given me inspiration. 🥰🤗
I love that you give me a place to visit where some of my emotions and feelings are acceptable; I feel that this is a place for me to where I can feel my real feelings ❤
Thank you so much Mary Ellen for this beautiful and helpful spread and for being vulnerable and understanding. I personally love to walk to a waterfall or a creek in the mountains and bathe in it and after that sit by it and breathe and do nothing for a while, just be grateful. Have a great day ❤
I’m 55 and just had a long term relationship end as well. Thank you for sharing your experience with others. I feel less alone. I know I’m a strong woman who will be just fine but there are different feelings and worries when you are our age…
You are a beautiful soul! I’m so glad I started watching your channel last year! You are an amazing woman! Thank you for coming on, even through the hard times!
Mary Ellen - I’m sorry you are going through this now - you are a ray of sunshine when I see you have a new video. I had a brain aneurysm May 2021 then lost my parents last year of cancer 4 months apart. I’m trying to take one day at a time and write what I’m grateful for. Thank you for keeping it real . Keeping you in prayers . God bless!!
Thank you for being transparent and vulnerable. You've shared some good ideas. I wish we could take your pain away, but please know you have this little corner of people cheering you on! I think sometimes people mistake the words "self care" as being selfish, but honestly, it's the exact opposite. Hugs Mary Ellen...if you want to take up cross stitch, let me know! It's a great soothing activity for me! :)
I am sorry for what you are going through. I try to be positive and share with others as you do. I lost my special needs granddaughter who I was raising last year on February 16th and I lost my mother in 17th of September 5 months earlier. I know grief is very difficult and losing people you love in any way is hard. I’m thinking of you as you go through this. 🙏🏻 I love your videos and have been following you since 2018. You and many others in the planner community have helped me as I went the tough things with my family since then. I appreciate you.
❤Thank You for sharing this- are you remaining friends with Mike? Your a strong lady, i can tell. This really hit home for me, long story short, i who have 1 child left at home, shes 16 was crafting about 'empty nester' around the corner...when out of the blue, my daughter who is 28 with 5 beautiful children ages 8 - 19 months, literally overnight changed from a loving caring mother whos every step was her children to an absent mom, running around with a tuff crowd and leaving her children for days on end with their dad. I know am a grandparent raising my 19 month old grandson Xavier. I love him and all my grandchildren- but i have dark days. Today, after listening to you - i don't feel so alone today- Its not easy when u are feeling your weakest to muster strength and try to be strong. Crafting is my 'Happy Time' Your videos are AMAZING 😊 ❤Sara
I've been watching you for , for a minute. I don't comment alot I just sit back and watch you do your thing but I feel compelled to say this. I too have suffered great losses in the past 6 years. Within 3 months I lost my dad..my hero. 3 months later my husband walked out and I never saw him again. That was 2016. 2019 I lost my oldest and closest sister. I lost a daughter many years ago so I know loss. I know that you are struggling , I know that you are very vulnerable right now but at the same time you are incredibly strong. To be able to still commit to doing all that you do whilst still going through all this in your personal life , I can't even imagine how difficult that is. But I want to commend you on making the right choice for you. I'm sure that it would have been easy to stay. Companionship, financial security, all those things but you're exactly right about compatibility. I loved my husband but we were not compatible. It was hard when he left and how he did it and moved on so easily but the fact is , I could not be myself with him and that truly does matter. In your good and bad times you need to be yourself and be accepted as the person you are. Take the time you need for you. Your daughter will be leaving soon , spend all the time you can with her. You're young still , you are truly beautiful, inside, outside. The right will find you. .I think you are an absolutely amazing woman and I love to hear you talk about you daughter and your animals and where you are in life. And , I'm sure that's a great release for you. You are going to be just fine , I have no doubt. I think you know by now the people outside your camera lense care about you and will support you , no matter what you decide. Much love and respect always , 🙏
Sending love and hugs all the way from Australia ❤🤗 You are an incredibly strong, generous individual. It is a credit to you that you’re still helping us when you’re going through such a difficult time. You have created a lovely, caring community and you are always so honest and transparent. Take time for yourself Mary Ellen. This spread is a brilliant idea. I hope it helps you to feel better. 😘
Your attitude is amazing!! I really needed to hear this! I've been so sad lately and feels like I'm alone but after listening to you I don't! Thank you!!!❤
I'm so sorry you're having to go through this horrible time. 2023 came in like a wrecking ball for me from December 31st when I had quite a bit of flooding and property damage due to the California Rains, I got strep a week later, and on January 26th I had to put my horse down. I had him for 26 years, since I was 11 and it has been horrible. But there are brighter days ahead and taking care of your mental health is paramount. I suffer from chronic major depression and and anxiety ( to the point I literally have a psychiatric service dog) I am really looking forward to utilizing a spread like this. Thank you for being transparent and sharing. It really means a lot to the people who need it in that moment.
Oh Mary Ellen, I am so sorry you are having to make such a painful decision. It takes a lot of wisdom and courage to realize this difficult path of change is the best in the long run. If it is any consolation, your willingness to share gives others much needed strength to face up to painful decisions. You are an important part of our planning community and are deeply appreciated.
I am truly sad that you are going through this. I am glad you came to the realization about your relationship sooner rather than later. I applaud you for your bravery and courage. You are much appreciated.
So proud of you Mary Ellen, hope you soon find a new hobby that you get really excited for.. Even if Wallace ends up eating it, I think you should buy yourself more flowers...
Wow, how did I miss this video! Total GAME CHANGER for me. I never use my monthly in my MANY MANY planners that I used. I will have to see how I am going to incorporate this idea in my planners and see how it works. But I look forward to seeing more MH related videos. TFS Be Blessed.
Mary Ellen, I'm so sorry. You are such a strong person!! You're an inspiration truly. I'm sending you love and strength and healing for this time and journey ahead.
I am sorry you are dealing with yet another loss. Want you to know that you are helping by sharing. I am hoping that the good that is coming your way comes quickly. You deserve it. 🥰 On a side note, I think you need to have merch that says "and that's okay". 🤣
Mary Ellen - Thank you for being you. You don't know how much your words resonate with so many of us. Your vulnerability is supported by all of us who love your work and your soul. Kudos to you for deciding to protect your peace. Full stop!
Well I started a new antidepressant..hoping..I started volunteering for Home Del. Meals program...love it, I am walking at least a mile daily..feels so good to be out in the sun, trying to at least couple times month to eat out with friends..hard for me, church-regularly, gratitude daily..3 things...I'm trying so hard. I have so much to be happy about and yet I feel so depressed and low...but I'm not giving up...I will persevere!! You will too, your a strong woman. We will get better and feel better physically and mentally again. Thank you for this video...I'm sorry I've written so much.
I am so sorry for your difficult time, you are very gracious to share it with us. You’ve shown how planning can play a big part in how we deal with things. I’m going to make a self-care page right now!
I am your age, I truly am sorry that you are going through these hard experiences, I can put myself in your shoes.... Thank you for sharing, that is courageous and brave. I know you have helped a lot of people by sharing.
I'm so sorry for all that you are and have gone through. Brought tears to my eyes and I immediately noticed the lack of ring. Your vulnerability is so touching. I lost my husband to suicide when I was 32 years old with 2 young kids, 38 years ago. I say this not to bring attention to myself but to let you know that yes hard things happen to us and we DO get through. We are STRONG women and YOU are a STRONG woman. Time for you to concentrate on yourself and heal. I can't imagine going through all you have gone through and still have to be "ON' with all the social media you have to deal with. It must be exhausting and your are so appreciated and loved and supported.
My heart is going out to you! I feel you. I left a 20 year relationship this past year. I was with him since I was a kid. I had to learn and change, and risk, and sacrifice so much to leave. It was really hard. And the emotions are so big. I am sending love over to you. Good luck with your healing journey.
Thank you so much for creating this video. This video will help a lot people because everyone goes thru tuff times in live. You are an inspiration. 🙏🙏❤️❤️
This is such a good idea Maryann - after just losing my husband a few months ago, I am gutted...it is hard some days just to even get out of bed...I'm not okay...but I'm trying. Hoping I can make a self care page for myself this weekend and hoping it motivates me. I really appreciate that you are always so open. Grief is so not easy...and you're right you're going to be okay.
Just one more comment- podcast recommendation. I love Missed in History Class. I’ve been listening to them for maybe 10 years now? Always so interesting. 😊
Hi Mary Ellen. I know I am rather new to your channel, but I've now watched a ton of your videos. I noticed your ring was gone before you said anything and I was hoped I was wrong. Like everyone here I too am sorry about your news. I thought I would take a second and tell you how in just a short time you and your videos have helped me to find a new hobby as well as helped me to get back the ability to write. I too am a perfectionist and not being able to write very well has been very hard on my mental health. Thanks to you I've decided I need to keep pushing through what was put onto me last May and remember each day is a step towards my goal. On to my next thought. I don't know if you've ever watched the movie The Family Stone, but if you need a great movie about a family that loves each other no matter what and you need a good cry then I highly recommend. Take care of yourself and give Bumble a hug for me. Lisa
I am so sorry to hear this. Even though these things can be tough, I believe people come into our lives in different ways for different reasons. You both were there for the time you was for a purpose.
So sorry to hear about you & Mike. You've been through some rough times in the last few years. Can hear the sadness in your voice, I hope you find some peace at some stage ❤️
Thanks, me too. I am confident that that will happen but it’s going to take quite a while. I think. I have a lot of work to do because I have grief piled on top of grief piled on top of more grief at this point.
Some lesser known music for you (not all uplifting but beautiful): Ani Difranco The National Roo Paynes The Barr Brothers Damien Rice Encanto soundtrack always makes me smile!
Wow Thanks for sharing this I was going through the same. Thing after 19 yrs of marriage me n husband broke up it was so hard am 68 at that time I felt loss at this in 2023 I feel happy I feel free now I live in Texas with my younger son but I truly appreciate you sharing jus remember you are not alone I felt your pain Takecare enjoy life. Life is beautiful you are still young The best is yet to come
Oh no.....sweet girl my heart's broken for you. Absolutely broken. I wish you days filled with joy and laughter and the truest of friends. You deserve all the happiness. You will get it. I promise. Big hugs from Napa Ca
I just recently found you on Insta and RUclips and feel like I know you! I wanted to let you know that I appreciate your honesty, your creativeness and your talks! You are helping me SO much in all that I am struggling with! I will take this idea and make a spread like this in the coming week! Thank you!!
You are one of the strongest women I have ever known. ❤️ Like you said, youve been thru hell, and come through with grace and growth. I'm excited to watch as you rebuild. But it does suck that you will lose your dream craft room. 😒 You can just build another one!!
MaryEllen! So sorry for this latest heartache! Just one step at a time my friend! Know that you r such a blessing to us. Your authenticity and transparency with us is a gift! Never expected and always held with gentle hands and prayers! Your sharing your life with us makes us feel connected, less isolated and alone in this post COVID world of remote work. Please know we all care about u and support you. You are resilient and a great ex to us. Thank you!
Hi, Mary Ellen! Thank you for this video and the beautiful layout you created, it was inspirational to me, thank you! Also, the JOY of your nail color! That was such a pretty, uplifting color, what is it? I love that you picked it, and at this time, maybe it's the little things, it is for me, just seeing pretty color helps sometimes to lift us up (many times, actually 😉) -- thank you again, and for being present, here with us, in the ups and downs, you are much loved.❤
Again Mary Ellen, you are just so incredibly loved and supported on this channel. Ending a relationship with someone you truly care about because it is no longer healthy can be agonizing. We have your back. And you have our love and support 100%❤
I'm really sorry to hear about the break-up. You guys really gave it all you had before you decided to end it. I'm also admittedly a little sad that you won't have that incredible custom craft room that you built in his basement! That's a real shame - here's hoping you get a place where you can recreate that space for yourself.
I stopped watching this video even before you finished explaining because I felt like I wanted to give you a big hug. You don't know me but I don't have to know someone to understand their pain. I don't know your whole story, only parts of it, and what part I do know would cause any normal human being a great deal of pain. My heart goes out to you, and like you said - you will be OK - eventually. I know it doesn't feel this way right now, but it was better to break it off now than later after you had gotten married. I love the fact that you know when to call it a day and move on, because the path to healing starts where that path of unhappiness ended. Now excuse me I have to go back to watching your video. I truly thank you for sharing your world. 😊
I'm so sorry. I really hope the best for you. Your focus on helping others even when you're going through really tough times is just...a very rare quality. Thanks for hanging out with us on the internet. You help a lot of people and you deserve to focus on yourself and heal.
I'm so sorry, Mary Ellen. It's shocking when you think you know what your life will be like and then that future is erased. You've been through that too many times over the last few years. Thanks for everything you do.
My heart goes out to you. Sharing your heartbreak with others is difficult. I know how it is. I lost my infant son several years ago to SIDS, my husband died suddenly of a heart attack about eight years ago. Going through these experiences just makes me realize how strong we really are even though we are hurting like heck inside . Sending you hugs.
Oh that is so sad! I feel for you. I started dating my husband when I was almost 42 so I went through several breakups before that and I know how hard it is. Wishing you much comfort. One thing I can say in hindsight is that although the breakups were hard at the time, looking back I am glad that they happened. I hope that you find the guy that is perfect for you.
Life occasionally does not go as planned but it sure does make it easier when we take time to do the little things for ourselves. I can’t believe how many of the things you listed are my go-to activities to “brighten” my mood. They do help…
Instead of hallmark movies I do KDramas! Most of the rom com ones are exactly like hallmark movies - as in they all have the same sort of formula! 😂❤❤❤ I love them!
I just want to take a moment to say thank you so much for all of your kind and heartfelt comments. I have read each and everyone of them but just don’t have time or energy to respond. I appreciate you all so much. ❤❤❤
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
Psalm 147:3 ESV
Praying for you
You have got to be one of the strongest women I have seen. May everything work in your favor and may blessings be bestowed upon you. I hope joy and love find you and fulfill your life.
I am happily married and have been with my husband for almost 34 years. We have 2 wonderful children, 8 grandchildren, and a new great-grandson. I love my family with all my heart. They are very supportive of me and always there for me. But I have lived with ADHD (which I just found out I had about 5 years ago), depression, and anxiety all of my life. Even though I have a wonderful, loving family sometimes you can't control what your body does. I started using the "Happy Planner" about 8 years ago and decorating it. I have tried other planners but always go back to the "Happy Planner", it is the BEST!! Even after all the years of using it, I have learned so much from watching your videos. As well as how to use it more to help my ADHD better. So yes you are helping so many people!!!! I am so sorry about you and Mike!! You are right though you will be alright!! We are all here to listen and help along your journey, we love you!!!
So sorry about Michael. I've watched you when you lost your husband, when you were in a job you didn't enjoy, when you lost your son, and now this. You have been through so much. Sending prayers your way.
I am so sorry that this is happening. You have been been through some truly awful times and displayed nothing but grace and integrity. You are an amazing content creator and a lovely, funny person, I have depressive illness and you have helped me so much - from making me laugh to making me feel less alone. Sending you love, support (and thanks).
I feel the same.
The fact that you’re still trying to help others while you’re struggling with this says so much about you. You are a kind soul Mary Ellen. And you WILL BE OK!🤗 Loved this video.❤
Your transparency and able to share the hard stuff is what makes me a big fan of your channel. I enjoy your creativity, tips and tricks also. I have to applaud both you and Michael for being adult enough and love each other enough to respect the reality and embrace the growth. It's hard and it sucks. I'm 53 and single and it is HARD.
Praying for you and your healing - you have inspired me with your story. Much love and hugs!
I just wanted to say thank you so much for always being so vulnerable, open, and honest. Mental health is so important, and something that we should all be able to talk more openly about, without feeling like there is a stigma behind it, or behind having days when depression rears it's ugly head. You have no idea how much your heartfelt words touch those of us watching you, knowing that we are not alone. I hope that despite the trials that you have been through over the past few years, you know you are not alone as well.
Thanks so much Kelly
Your ability to talk about hard things with grace and class is really special. I hope you find peace 💕
I’m lost too at 55. I don’t know what to do next. Depression and self blame are taking over. I’m trying so hard to be ok. But watching your videos has really helped me. You’re so positive and strong.
Hi Mary Ellen. My name is Bethany. I bought a bunch of Happy Planner stuff about 8 years ago, (I actually forget but it was a while ago.) I tried several times to use it and I’ve WANTED to buy then fell off. I recently started again more consistently and also found your channel. I am a new subscriber but have binge watched so many of your videos. A lot of times I just listen to them sorta like a podcast at work and look at the spreads occasionally. I love your style and I love how you encourage others to find their own style because I also think that is so important. I especially love the journal type spreads because I’m using my planner as sort of a journal/ planner. I love how genuine you are; that is my favorite thing about you. We have a lot in common and I even used to live in your area but I live in Indiana now. I think we would get along super well-I have ADHD as well, I used to scrapbook and I’m also super creative. It’s actually funny sometimes when you talk I’m like “me too!”.
Anyway, sorry I’m rambling. I have been going through a really hard time in my life as well and am really liking this self care page idea. I look forward to more ideas. All the ideas you shared make me feel better. I am also really getting into Bible journaling and also have been running which makes me feel better. I am hoping to stay more consistent with planning because I love the creative process and I’m so happy to have found your channel. I wish you the best I’m sorry you are going through a hard time.
At 51 I’ve come to realize that “I’m okay” doesn’t always mean you come out of it as happy as you once were, or found that magic reason they say stuff happens for. More often it just means you have learned to be at peace with where you are, and accept who you are right now. The best we can all do is be kind to ourselves and hopefully gain some solace in knowing we are never truly alone.Even strangers on the internet can empathize and give you invisible support
I switched from using happy planner to Hobonichi but I still watch your videos religiously because of YOU as a person and your inspiring and real words. You have helped me cope and grieve and adapt to life changes more than any planning techniques and I’m so grateful for you! ❤
We're the same age, I too have been through so much this lifetime! A therapist once told me I've been through what most women haven't been through their entire lifetime. (Note that didn't make me feel great, to say the very least). Yes we all go through so much. Plus being menopausal, you're emotional already. I'm sorry you're going through this hurt. I suffer from depression and PTSD. I'm sending you gentle hugs 🤗. Please don't forget to take special time for yourself. You are loved, important and valued. You're one of my favorite content creators btw. TFS as always ❤️🤗 sending prayers your way friend 🙏🏼
Thank you so much❤
You are not alone. We love you and care about you. We want to help you though everything. We need you as much as you need us.
Just hearing those words can make a person at their lowest make a world of difference.
I am depressed and do the same things you do. I binge watch movies and try to do certain things and I hate it bc I am now limited physically due to a cerebral aneurysm and 3 surgeries to get it stabilized. Unfortunately it takes 3years of rehabilitation per surgery. Them lost over 10 family members from covid including my mother. So there's a huge void in my heart and my mind is cluttered and your videos brings me peace just to watch you plan and decorate. With that being said I have ordered my planner and received and I'm going to give it a try. It may take a while to get started bc the stickers are expensive but I will start soon. I'm disabled now and lost. I pray I will be able to do it. I am truly an introvert and basically removed myself from everyone. Remember me and I will let you know if it helps me. I usually write on anything I pick up then lose it. So, here's🥂 to your uplifting words and videos. You are loved and appreciated❤, everyday the sun shines even on our cloudier days. Thank you so much😢😊
I have this video saved and always go back to it when I am having a really hard mental day!!! Thank you Mary Ellen for being vulnerable and making this... it HELPS SO MUCH!!!
We love you Mary Ellen and we’re praying for your healing. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽❤❤❤
This is such a great idea❣️ We all get down now and then. Those of us who suffer from depression know it is a daily struggle. I have a section in my planner I call “ My Happiness Project.” It has some of my goals categorized by Mind, Body and Spirit . It also is where I do my mood and gratitude tracking. I usually glue the monthly calendar pages together, but your spread here has given me inspiration. 🥰🤗
You got this. Even when you don't feel like you do. You do. You are going to be okay.
I love that you give me a place to visit where some of my emotions and feelings are acceptable; I feel that this is a place for me to where I can feel my real feelings ❤
I love this comment!! That’s the kind of place I’m hoping this can be for people. ❤️
Thank you so much Mary Ellen for this beautiful and helpful spread and for being vulnerable and understanding. I personally love to walk to a waterfall or a creek in the mountains and bathe in it and after that sit by it and breathe and do nothing for a while, just be grateful. Have a great day ❤
I’m 55 and just had a long term relationship end as well. Thank you for sharing your experience with others. I feel less alone. I know I’m a strong woman who will be just fine but there are different feelings and worries when you are our age…
Many hugs… your a great person and I pray for you to have strength and focus on yourself and family. Many hugs ❤🫶🏼
You are a beautiful soul! I’m so glad I started watching your channel last year! You are an amazing woman! Thank you for coming on, even through the hard times!
Mary Ellen - I’m sorry you are going through this now - you are a ray of sunshine when I see you have a new video. I had a brain aneurysm May 2021 then lost my parents last year of cancer 4 months apart. I’m trying to take one day at a time and write what I’m grateful for. Thank you for keeping it real . Keeping you in prayers . God bless!!
Thank you for being transparent and vulnerable. You've shared some good ideas. I wish we could take your pain away, but please know you have this little corner of people cheering you on! I think sometimes people mistake the words "self care" as being selfish, but honestly, it's the exact opposite. Hugs Mary Ellen...if you want to take up cross stitch, let me know! It's a great soothing activity for me! :)
I am sorry for what you are going through. I try to be positive and share with others as you do. I lost my special needs granddaughter who I was raising last year on February 16th and I lost my mother in 17th of September 5 months earlier. I know grief is very difficult and losing people you love in any way is hard. I’m thinking of you as you go through this. 🙏🏻
I love your videos and have been following you since 2018. You and many others in the planner community have helped me as I went the tough things with my family since then. I appreciate you.
Hugs to you. You are incredible and I hope you know how much you are cared for. ❤
❤Thank You for sharing this- are you remaining friends with Mike? Your a strong lady, i can tell. This really hit home for me, long story short, i who have 1 child left at home, shes 16 was crafting about 'empty nester' around the corner...when out of the blue, my daughter who is 28 with 5 beautiful children ages 8 - 19 months, literally overnight changed from a loving caring mother whos every step was her children to an absent mom, running around with a tuff crowd and leaving her children for days on end with their dad. I know am a grandparent raising my 19 month old grandson Xavier. I love him and all my grandchildren- but i have dark days.
Today, after listening to you - i don't feel so alone today-
Its not easy when u are feeling your weakest to muster strength and try to be strong.
Crafting is my 'Happy Time'
Your videos are AMAZING 😊
❤Sara
I've been watching you for , for a minute. I don't comment alot I just sit back and watch you do your thing but I feel compelled to say this.
I too have suffered great losses in the past 6 years. Within 3 months I lost my dad..my hero. 3 months later my husband walked out and I never saw him again. That was 2016. 2019 I lost my oldest and closest sister. I lost a daughter many years ago so I know loss. I know that you are struggling , I know that you are very vulnerable right now but at the same time you are incredibly strong.
To be able to still commit to doing all that you do whilst still going through all this in your personal life , I can't even imagine how difficult that is.
But I want to commend you on making the right choice for you. I'm sure that it would have been easy to stay. Companionship, financial security, all those things but you're exactly right about compatibility. I loved my husband but we were not compatible. It was hard when he left and how he did it and moved on so easily but the fact is , I could not be myself with him and that truly does matter. In your good and bad times you need to be yourself and be accepted as the person you are.
Take the time you need for you. Your daughter will be leaving soon , spend all the time you can with her. You're young still , you are truly beautiful, inside, outside. The right will find you. .I think you are an absolutely amazing woman and I love to hear you talk about you daughter and your animals and where you are in life. And , I'm sure that's a great release for you.
You are going to be just fine , I have no doubt. I think you know by now the people outside your camera lense care about you and will support you , no matter what you decide.
Much love and respect always , 🙏
Sending love and hugs all the way from Australia ❤🤗 You are an incredibly strong, generous individual. It is a credit to you that you’re still helping us when you’re going through such a difficult time. You have created a lovely, caring community and you are always so honest and transparent. Take time for yourself Mary Ellen. This spread is a brilliant idea. I hope it helps you to feel better. 😘
When I the pandemic hit, I found you on RUclips and turn to for a new friend. I hope I can be there for you. 😘
Found this video today for a reason, thanks Mary Ellen ☺️
Your attitude is amazing!! I really needed to hear this! I've been so sad lately and feels like I'm alone but after listening to you I don't! Thank you!!!❤
I'm so sorry you're having to go through this horrible time. 2023 came in like a wrecking ball for me from December 31st when I had quite a bit of flooding and property damage due to the California Rains, I got strep a week later, and on January 26th I had to put my horse down. I had him for 26 years, since I was 11 and it has been horrible. But there are brighter days ahead and taking care of your mental health is paramount. I suffer from chronic major depression and and anxiety ( to the point I literally have a psychiatric service dog) I am really looking forward to utilizing a spread like this. Thank you for being transparent and sharing. It really means a lot to the people who need it in that moment.
Oh Mary Ellen, I am so sorry you are having to make such a painful decision. It takes a lot of wisdom and courage to realize this difficult path of change is the best in the long run. If it is any consolation, your willingness to share gives others much needed strength to face up to painful decisions. You are an important part of our planning community and are deeply appreciated.
Thank you!! I needed to hear this!! I will be ok!!! And you will be ok and we are e both 55🥰🥰
I am truly sad that you are going through this. I am glad you came to the realization about your relationship sooner rather than later. I applaud you for your bravery and courage. You are much appreciated.
So proud of you Mary Ellen, hope you soon find a new hobby that you get really excited for.. Even if Wallace ends up eating it, I think you should buy yourself more flowers...
Wow, how did I miss this video! Total GAME CHANGER for me. I never use my monthly in my MANY MANY planners that I used. I will have to see how I am going to incorporate this idea in my planners and see how it works. But I look forward to seeing more MH related videos. TFS Be Blessed.
I feel weird liking a video so personal. I hope you continue healing and focusing on yourself. Love and light❤
Mary Ellen, I'm so sorry. You are such a strong person!! You're an inspiration truly. I'm sending you love and strength and healing for this time and journey ahead.
I listen to classic rock...it always makes me happier and gets me up moving
Regarding hobbies, some of my favorites are crocheting, walking in the woods, making jewelry, and planning (which I'm new at)
Appreciate you saying your age and saying it’s ok to restart or be loss. Thank you. And of course warm hugs
I am sorry you are dealing with yet another loss. Want you to know that you are helping by sharing. I am hoping that the good that is coming your way comes quickly. You deserve it. 🥰 On a side note, I think you need to have merch that says "and that's okay". 🤣
Mary Ellen - Thank you for being you. You don't know how much your words resonate with so many of us. Your vulnerability is supported by all of us who love your work and your soul. Kudos to you for deciding to protect your peace. Full stop!
Well I started a new antidepressant..hoping..I started volunteering for Home Del. Meals program...love it, I am walking at least a mile daily..feels so good to be out in the sun, trying to at least couple times month to eat out with friends..hard for me, church-regularly, gratitude daily..3 things...I'm trying so hard. I have so much to be happy about and yet I feel so depressed and low...but I'm not giving up...I will persevere!! You will too, your a strong woman. We will get better and feel better physically and mentally again. Thank you for this video...I'm sorry I've written so much.
I am so sorry for your difficult time, you are very gracious to share it with us. You’ve shown how planning can play a big part in how we deal with things. I’m going to make a self-care page right now!
I am your age, I truly am sorry that you are going through these hard experiences, I can put myself in your shoes.... Thank you for sharing, that is courageous and brave. I know you have helped a lot of people by sharing.
I'm so sorry for all that you are and have gone through. Brought tears to my eyes and I immediately noticed the lack of ring. Your vulnerability is so touching. I lost my husband to suicide when I was 32 years old with 2 young kids, 38 years ago. I say this not to bring attention to myself but to let you know that yes hard things happen to us and we DO get through. We are STRONG women and YOU are a STRONG woman. Time for you to concentrate on yourself and heal. I can't imagine going through all you have gone through and still have to be "ON' with all the social media you have to deal with. It must be exhausting and your are so appreciated and loved and supported.
I am praying for you!! Thank you for being so Transparent with us. You are an awesome person♡
My heart is going out to you! I feel you. I left a 20 year relationship this past year. I was with him since I was a kid. I had to learn and change, and risk, and sacrifice so much to leave. It was really hard. And the emotions are so big. I am sending love over to you. Good luck with your healing journey.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on self-care. Love your planning videos!
Grief Uprooted is a podcast that I've found helpful.
I, too, love Hallmark movies
Thank you for sharing such raw emotion, reminding us all that we’re human. You’re a warrior! Keeping you in my prayers.
Thank you so much for creating this video. This video will help a lot people because everyone goes thru tuff times in live. You are an inspiration. 🙏🙏❤️❤️
This is such a good idea Maryann - after just losing my husband a few months ago, I am gutted...it is hard some days just to even get out of bed...I'm not okay...but I'm trying. Hoping I can make a self care page for myself this weekend and hoping it motivates me. I really appreciate that you are always so open. Grief is so not easy...and you're right you're going to be okay.
So sorry to hear this. Please know that your planner family is here for you.🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Oh Marry Ellen I’m so sorry for you. Love en Hugs from Holland🥰😘
Just one more comment- podcast recommendation. I love Missed in History Class. I’ve been listening to them for maybe 10 years now? Always so interesting. 😊
That sounds interesting!
Hi Mary Ellen. I know I am rather new to your channel, but I've now watched a ton of your videos. I noticed your ring was gone before you said anything and I was hoped I was wrong. Like everyone here I too am sorry about your news. I thought I would take a second and tell you how in just a short time you and your videos have helped me to find a new hobby as well as helped me to get back the ability to write. I too am a perfectionist and not being able to write very well has been very hard on my mental health. Thanks to you I've decided I need to keep pushing through what was put onto me last May and remember each day is a step towards my goal. On to my next thought. I don't know if you've ever watched the movie The Family Stone, but if you need a great movie about a family that loves each other no matter what and you need a good cry then I highly recommend. Take care of yourself and give Bumble a hug for me. Lisa
I am so sorry to hear this. Even though these things can be tough, I believe people come into our lives in different ways for different reasons. You both were there for the time you was for a purpose.
I just wanted to send love and appreciation. ❤❤
I like that you cut the washi at an angle
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So sorry to hear about you & Mike. You've been through some rough times in the last few years. Can hear the sadness in your voice, I hope you find some peace at some stage ❤️
Thanks, me too. I am confident that that will happen but it’s going to take quite a while. I think. I have a lot of work to do because I have grief piled on top of grief piled on top of more grief at this point.
Oh no! I pray that you find peace of mind and calm in your life. Sending positive thoughts and hugs.
Get some pretty stacking Brighton rings. You will.enjoy them 💕🙏🇨🇱
Some lesser known music for you (not all uplifting but beautiful):
Ani Difranco
The National
Roo Paynes
The Barr Brothers
Damien Rice
Encanto soundtrack always makes me smile!
This is such a great Inspiration!!! Thank you so much! ❤️🫂
Sending you Love and Hugs from Germany!
Thank you im 52 and life is hard this is a great idea
Wow Thanks for sharing this I was going through the same. Thing after 19 yrs of marriage me n husband broke up it was so hard am 68 at that time I felt loss at this in 2023 I feel happy I feel free now I live in Texas with my younger son but I truly appreciate you sharing jus remember you are not alone I felt your pain Takecare enjoy life. Life is beautiful you are still young The best is yet to come
Oh no.....sweet girl my heart's broken for you. Absolutely broken. I wish you days filled with joy and laughter and the truest of friends. You deserve all the happiness. You will get it. I promise. Big hugs from Napa Ca
100 hugs for you Mary Ellen.
Sorry to hear about your sad event. Thanks for sharing. Hugs.
I just recently found you on Insta and RUclips and feel like I know you! I wanted to let you know that I appreciate your honesty, your creativeness and your talks! You are helping me SO much in all that I am struggling with! I will take this idea and make a spread like this in the coming week! Thank you!!
❤ I really needed to see this & the Time Blocking videos today. I really, really did...
You are one of the strongest women I have ever known. ❤️ Like you said, youve been thru hell, and come through with grace and growth. I'm excited to watch as you rebuild. But it does suck that you will lose your dream craft room. 😒 You can just build another one!!
MaryEllen! So sorry for this latest heartache! Just one step at a time my friend! Know that you r such a blessing to us. Your authenticity and transparency with us is a gift! Never expected and always held with gentle hands and prayers! Your sharing your life with us makes us feel connected, less isolated and alone in this post COVID world of remote work. Please know we all care about u and support you. You are resilient and a great ex to us. Thank you!
Hi, Mary Ellen! Thank you for this video and the beautiful layout you created, it was inspirational to me, thank you! Also, the JOY of your nail color! That was such a pretty, uplifting color, what is it? I love that you picked it, and at this time, maybe it's the little things, it is for me, just seeing pretty color helps sometimes to lift us up (many times, actually 😉) -- thank you again, and for being present, here with us, in the ups and downs, you are much loved.❤
💗💗💗 virtual hug! 🤗
So sorry. Sharing your experience is blessing others! Keep on keeping on!
We love you Mary Ellen. Hugs.
Again Mary Ellen, you are just so incredibly loved and supported on this channel. Ending a relationship with someone you truly care about because it is no longer healthy can be agonizing. We have your back. And you have our love and support 100%❤
I'm really sorry to hear about the break-up. You guys really gave it all you had before you decided to end it. I'm also admittedly a little sad that you won't have that incredible custom craft room that you built in his basement! That's a real shame - here's hoping you get a place where you can recreate that space for yourself.
I'm so sorry for the sad news 😢. Take care of yourself!!
I stopped watching this video even before you finished explaining because I felt like I wanted to give you a big hug. You don't know me but I don't have to know someone to understand their pain. I don't know your whole story, only parts of it, and what part I do know would cause any normal human being a great deal of pain.
My heart goes out to you, and like you said - you will be OK - eventually. I know it doesn't feel this way right now, but it was better to break it off now than later after you had gotten married. I love the fact that you know when to call it a day and move on, because the path to healing starts where that path of unhappiness ended. Now excuse me I have to go back to watching your video. I truly thank you for sharing your world. 😊
I'm so sorry. I really hope the best for you. Your focus on helping others even when you're going through really tough times is just...a very rare quality. Thanks for hanging out with us on the internet. You help a lot of people and you deserve to focus on yourself and heal.
I’m so sorry you are going through this. Hugs and prayers for better days ahead.
Definitely praying for God to comfort you and heal your heart.
I'm so sorry, Mary Ellen. It's shocking when you think you know what your life will be like and then that future is erased. You've been through that too many times over the last few years. Thanks for everything you do.
My hubby passed away. I onow separation is hard. Just be positive take one day even one second at a time. Love your new hair cut.
I’m so sorry. You’ve been through a lot. Sending positive thoughts and love your way❤
My heart goes out to you. Sharing your heartbreak with others is difficult. I know how it is. I lost my infant son several years ago to SIDS, my husband died suddenly of a heart attack about eight years ago. Going through these experiences just makes me realize how strong we really are even though we are hurting like heck inside . Sending you hugs.
Everyone has said what we all feel so I’ll just say I’m sorry and you are so loved by all of us
Oh that is so sad! I feel for you. I started dating my husband when I was almost 42 so I went through several breakups before that and I know how hard it is. Wishing you much comfort. One thing I can say in hindsight is that although the breakups were hard at the time, looking back I am glad that they happened. I hope that you find the guy that is perfect for you.
Life occasionally does not go as planned but it sure does make it easier when we take time to do the little things for ourselves. I can’t believe how many of the things you listed are my go-to activities to “brighten” my mood. They do help…
Instead of hallmark movies I do KDramas! Most of the rom com ones are exactly like hallmark movies - as in they all have the same sort of formula! 😂❤❤❤
I love them!