How To: Have a Biblical View of Singleness
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- Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024
- Dr. Christopher Yuan offers encouragement and practical ways for singles to intentionally integrate into their churches and communities, as well as ways for married couples to invite singles into their lives and families.
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Thank you so much for this. FINALLY, a talk on singleness from someone who IS SINGLE. 51, single, not by choice. I'm tired of hearing how wonderful singleness is, especially hearing it from married people. Some days, the only thing that keeps me going is remembering that Jesus was single.
I Agree With You TOTALLY!!
REAL
Beautiful video. I'm nearly 40 and single. It used to be a nightmare until I realized what the man in this video points to : the Bible doesn't say a single bad word about singleness. The world does, church fell for it. I chose to end a few relationships, knowing where it would lead. Singleness wasn't my choice but it is the result of my choices. I'm at peace with my decisions. I do have rough days but 70% of the time I'm content with my life.
To single Christians out there, you'll hear MANY voices, arguments, positions and strategies to "find the one". I just heard from a Christian podcast, that singles are single because we are selfish. Funny enough, most people are. There are very selfish married ppl and selfless singles. Focus on what the Lord is telling you through YOUR LIFE and circumstances and HIS WORD. God ALLOWED this singleness in your life thus far for a reason. Some of us fought for years to get married, to no avail. So many times we fight things that God took control over. Is it gonna be permanent or not for you? Only He knows.
Trust in Him and only Him. Not on some Joe who has zero idea about your life telling you to "be more social and less selfish".
Well Said! We are definitely looked down on Especially woman because if we were worth it some man would have validated us by marriage. There have been times I have never felt bad about being single until I went to church or out with friends saying marriage is the ultimate state of happiness. All I can say is you only have to look at the divorce rate even in church to know that’s probably not accurate the way people live it out.
Great video, Brother! What nobody wants to address is that singles (especially older singles) are treated like second class citizens by the married people in the church. These same people that tell us how wonderful singleness is are all married …and often were married young. I’m 62, have been serving the Lord loyally since my mid-20’s, & praying for a Godly spouse for close to four DECADES …all to no avail. Life has passed me by. I do not want to be unequally yoked, but sometimes wonder if that might be better than being single. I would not wish singleness on my worst enemy.
Try fasting?
DD816...are you he or she?
When you say "life has passed me by" what exactly do you mean there?
Long term singleness as a Christian is a very peculiar form of suffering. I’m in my 50s and never married and I often feel there is nowhere to turn. The nonbelievers can’t be spoken to because they believe in doing whatever you please but the average Christian also can’t be spoken to because of a very dismissive attitude toward you and singleness after a certain age. I will never understand why the church doesn’t want to help more single people get married and marry well. I truly wish I could say what a wonderful experience it is to live the free single Christian life but the reality for someone that never feels a calling to such a life is that you will carry that burden the rest of your life alone and you will face the very negative consequences alone. Yes it is important to try and distract yourself with activities but it will never really be enough.
I feel the same as you.
Question. What did you do in your younger years that caused you to be single and unmarried in your 50s?
Were you focused on your career?
Were you waiting for the perfect one and thought you would still have the same options in your later years as you did in your youth?
I’m curious as to how and why?
@@sayetazonen6607 Good questions! When I was in my late teens early twenties I remember only church teachings that stressed remaining sexually pure which is fine but only stressing that message leads some young Christians to avoid dating and focus on other things such as one's career. No young Christian person should ever be fed the purity message without being certain they understand that they have to seek out that person they will marry. Of course once you reach a certain age and you are still single now the church message becomes maybe you aren't meant to be married or marriage isn't for everyone or singleness is good too. I can't help but think at my age that singleness is one issue well meaning Christians have done a lot of harm with over many years. I believe I was and many others were mislead in our youth into thinking that getting married would eventually be a naturally sent by God blessing if I would just stay "pure". I don't know if you can understand what I'm saying or not it's kind of like the prosperity gospel where you're taught that if you tithe enough you'll be healed or get that thing you always wanted. Some are well meaning people and others are snakes in the church but the hurtful results are often the same. I don't know what else to say since this is one of those situations in life where once the harm has been done it's done and there is nothing you can do about it and very few ministries show any empathy toward the suffering single.
@@jwow19 wow! Thank you so much for responding to my question! Everything you said made sense. I am so sorry this was your case, my heart sympathizes with you and many others.
*To me it sounds like you need to change your mindset surrounding relationships. You need to pray and ask God to replace all your subconscious beliefs and reprogram it for success.*
Have faith and take action. Do not make the same mistakes you did when you were younger, do not carry the same belief system. Learn from your mistakes and try again.
Get cute and go out by yourself. You never know who you’ll meet.
_Put forth the effort_ into meeting someone and let God do the rest.
Psalm 37: 4: Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.
@@sayetazonen6607 Thank you for your questions I'm always happy when someone takes interest in this subject.
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This is an encouraging and biblical teaching in Singleness.
This videos needs millions of more views
I have been single for most of my life. I learned that it's due to emotional wounds and trauma inflicted on me as a child. I am finally in recovery, but that process guarantees that I will never experience any further sexual intimacy! Ok so be it!
I really appreciated the point on spiritual family and how single people can still, in Christ, fulfill the command based in creation to "be fruitful and multiply" by producing spiritual children. Like Paul did with Timothy. However I do think it's a bit of a stretch to say that it supersedes the commandment based in creation.
If it really did supercede the God-ordained blessing of marriage and family, then we wouldn't teach marriage but would instead teach to be single like Christ and to be single as Paul was single, to better serve God. We would have to primarily find all of our procreation through sharing the gospel, in the regeneration of other souls, not our own children. But blessed is he who finds a wife, he has found a good thing. Children are a gift of God, the fruit of the womb is a reward, and blessed is the man who's quiver is full of them.
Should the church let all of the world have babies and marriage? No, it is God's and we are God's. We should be better at it, exemplify and proclaim it. The Church should have the most marriage and the most children.
Thank you!! How is your still single??? You speak so well and your spirit is so soft and gentle ❤
Great video. Thanks for this! Not to mention that Paul calls being single a gift and calling from God!
i agree leaving the gay and transgender lifestyle being single is ok