Being Single: The Greatest Gift Nobody Wants
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- Опубликовано: 19 авг 2024
- Freedom, Circumstances, Pain and Surrender are the four stages of singleness. We have to be aware of their importance so we can make the most out of it and move through the stages in a healthy way.
Its unfortunate that not much is spoken of about the gift of singleness. Personally Im happy being single, just means I spend more time with God and He with me 🙏❤️🕊️
The key to being truly single is to embrace yourself wholeheartedly. To be able to live happily free without the dependence of another is the greatest gift god can give us
A great point, however it must be said that the greatest gift is Christ crucified making salvation of my soul possible. The problem with our lives is not our marital status or lack thereof. It is our sin. Glory to God alone Who can save.
Yes that is true.... I'm 28 years old I never dated or slept with anyone I'm a male ginger redhead model from Texas. Now days it's hard to find love.
It makes me feel isolated and alone, I'm like an alien where I'm from, I'm probably the rarest person in Texas I'm a sexually pure single. But I do want to know what love feels like.
there is some truth and some not so much in your statement. Singleness for life for service to God is what celibacy is all about. Living for yourself (I do this so not criticizing anyone) is not what the gift is singleness is for. For those that don't want to do mission work, marriage is the obvious goal God has for them. Of course, many will never marry who don't have the gift as sin has ruined many things in our world and people like myself have walked away from the idea of marriage in my life.
One of best videos on being single and probably the shortest! I love when content is to the point!
Truth without love or empathy feels like someone kicking you in the gut and shaming you in the process for having the pain on the first place...
I am going to enjoy watching it. I have been single for years. Smh..
Singleness is the best life.
I'll never understand this fear of being unattached. I know people who, as soon as one relationship ends, within a week(or less) they're on Tinder looking for another. There is a fear of just being unattached, not looking. Where does it come from? If you truly are seeking God with all of your heart, you won't even think about being single, it won't be an issue. God is enough, he really is but so many people don't want to know this because they are driven by the fear of being single.
So true
I have never heard a teaching on singleness in any of the churches I've been involved with. Never...
@@hamilton9651 churches don't benefit from singles. They are a small number, usually don't tithe as their bills are all on them, don't get involved with groups, etc so churches quietly don't want them.
I want to ask God for the gift of singleness
0206. You don't have to ask God for the gift of singleness. If you want it it's probably already yours now!
Take mine then lmao
The only thing that comes close to the pain of long term singleness is the pain I get watching pastors talk about singleness. Sooner or later I always come back to the singleness videos hoping to maybe hear something new and encouraging but I always find myself disappointed. I guess at a certain age you have heard it all and know that suffering is part of this world. My question to this pastor is does God heal all physical pain? No ! He seems to be implying that if we simply give up our singleness to God then the pain will go away? Will it? Such well intentioned preaching seems to hurt me more than I already am.
I understand, I really do, I feel the same
Most of the pastors who tell how wonderful being single with are married!!!! Having no "help mate" sucks
@@strobx1 It's been extremely difficult for me l know what you mean.
I used to struggle with this idea of being single. It was only bc I looked at the world and allowed it and others around me to influence my mind about it. So many ppl want to wrapped up in someone else. I’m attracted to many men but I don’t burn with lust. If I’m single for the rest of my life I take it as a true calling to be completely focused on doing GOD’s work. That is the blessing of singleness. I don’t want to be concerned with my husband’s needs first but only GOD’s. Since I’ve been celibate for the last three years I’ve truly come to know that it is a gift from GOD that is not for every believer. I am blessed and I thank GOD for my ability to remain single and not burn with lust that I can focus wholly on what THE MOST HIGH has ordained me to do! Be blessed 🙏🏾
@@HereamI819 I think there are many lifelong singles who would love to be able to give up their desire for a spouse because it would make their lives so much easier but never discover that kind of freedom from something God placed in them to begin with.
I can't speak for the unbelievers, but for Christians I think the biggest fear of prolonged singleness is that you must remain celibate and abstinent. Lonliness is not that much of an issue if you have friends and a good church family. For me personally I am more comfortable with celibacy than if I had to deal with sexual intimacy. It's actually an impediment for the healing process of recovery I need to go through, so I am glad to be celibate!
After 22 years of marriage, I realize my vocation was to be single, but use my unconditional love and empathy for those who don't have family or friends to care for them. I always felt like my capacity for love extends beyond the institute of a family, I mean the entire world is Gods household and it needs people to be mothers for them as well.
Let me guess …the speaker is married? LOL
I have waited to see someone in their 50s or 60s never married, no kids give a speech like this but it has yet to happen.
So true! Was thinking the same thing
I mean, Paul who wrote first Corinthians 7:7 was older and single, so it has already happened
Most likely. I find that to be hypocritical, too. It’s usually married people or pastors who speak on singleness and have no clue how painful it can be when it has been for years and years. 😢
Exactly
Me being single has become nothing but loneness.
what is missing is thhat that pastor does not remember what it is to be single
Wonderful insights. Thanks Pastor.
😴 😴 booooring . Love isn’t for everyone . We that have a good heart and good intentions , are the ones who get hurt and out down . So who needs love??? WHO CARES??????? It’s just all pain! It’s not worth it!! Just love between us, Jesus Christ, and others is all you need .
Ecclesiastes 9:5 and 1 Thessalonians 4:13-18 tells us that when we die, we rest in the grave until the great resurrection. We do not go to Heaven or hell after we die. @1:30-1:45
If the church would not make marriage an idol and feel like the end all be all and the true main blessing from God maybe single people could be content. When however single people are treated as second hand citizens it’s no wonder why no one would want this ‘gift’ singles just feel excluded and that we are not real and mature people until we are validated until we find ‘the one ‘ and if you do t you are just a person to be pitied.
I love this ❤️❤️❤️ single for life 🥰✌🏼💯
Yes single too! Very happy and content! No hassles, no games, and no sexual mess!
I want it
Amen, I pray earnestly to fully manifest this Gift.
I am a public health Specialist. I want to finish my course do some field training and then Join CDC to do a fellowship in Global Health to Serve God's Nation Israel.
Primary requirement for Celibacy is sexual Abstinence. I have deep desire for gift of celibacy but I fall short in Abstinence.
As a medical Dr I have read on surgeries that can completely remove the Apparatus for intercourse, in this case it would be impossible for me to have sex or for any one to have sex with me.
I want to go through this procedure, is it a SIN?????
But God said it is not good for man to be alone
I certainly don’t want it. I want a husband, intimacy, and 3 kids.
25F and never been in love.
OK hun that's OK it's not for everyone
Unfortunately it's not like going into a store and ordering a product.
I'll be 34 this month and in the same boat but that's been my choice given all the chaos surrounding this world.
Great message! But its hard for someone not brought up in church or faith, to all of a sudden start a proper relationship. Ive been looking everywhere in Houston area for a singles ministry or something... so i can have a good support group to teach me better ways... but it seems churches focus on folks who are already with a spouse... Kind of makes no sense that I should know how to START a proper relationship and then i should come into a church for late advice... Sigh..
Why this video has so less views?
lol...people hate singleness. They are watching happy couples videos.
@@misss7758 yep 😂. I wanna be single tho..
@@misss7758 I love singleness! I would probably be so stressed with a husband and trying to always meet his needs. I need NO distractions from what GOD has called me to do! Thank you Almighty Father for this gift that so many deem as a curse! This is truly a blessing! Hallelujah!
@@HereamI819 i been singel all my life for 42 years and im loving it and i wont ever date or get married or have kids i made that choice along time ago.
@@misss7758 I don't hate singleness. I am single because of reasons beyond my control. See Matthew 19:12-24. I am learning to surrender what I cannot have in the physical realm for the divine love Jesus gives to those who devote their life exclusively to him.
The last thing I'm going to do for God is give him what he wants when me gives me what I don't want. I also can't do whatever I want. So I'm not getting the fullness of this shit deal.
Singleness is a time period or a designation- not an identity and not a God-centered design. Soooooooo there's that. Singleness is not a biblical calling. Celibacy can be if we devote that time specifically to a lay or vocational ministry- and it's not required.
Being married doesn't mean that you don't devote time to a bonded relationship with God- indeed if you don't you WILL wreck your family. So singleness that is not by choice or calling is NOT a gift. That being said this clip seems to be leaning into James chapter 1:2-7. So in our unwanted (and undesigned) state of singleness we can choose to "count it all joy- lean into the opportunity to know and be known THROUGH an unwanted station or time period by God." And use the wisdom he lavishly gives upon our asking to persevere through a period of pain. He can then use us to bless others instead of wallowing in self-pity, denial or resentment.
You started off stating a bunch of opinions as if they are facts.
It isn't a gift if you don't want it. You are given it at birth and don't care about those things.
This the kind of copium that led me to leave organized religion for good. No one can honestly believe this bollocks.