Does anyone else watch these videos and feel like they connect with the symptoms but then tell themselves that they don’t have depression because they don’t have it as bad as others and that they don’t want to admit to it. This might have not made any sense but if it did let me know I’m not alone.
you're not alone. and it does make sense what you said. having just watched this video i emailed my psychotherapist a second ago including a link to this video and wrote her nearly exactly what you had said.
You are not alone - you don't have to have the worst case to need help. GET HELP. You deserve it. Be honest with yourself. Take care of yourself. Putting it off won't help you. This is your sign from the universe, please make things better for yourself in the days to come.
It's the exact same for me and I felt like this for about 10 years now. I finally decided to go to a doctor. By the way, I was encouraged to go by a good friend who suffers from depression herself
The worst part is when you suddenly feel positive and decide to actually change. Like cleaning your room,taking care of yourself,have a healthy routine,do something productive.But then you just end up in bed thinking of how depressed and incapable you are to do any of this. Im so tired of this cycle. EDIT: To all the people who find this relatable, im sorry. It sucks because its so easy to feel alone. We got this.
It’s just essentially constant for me. I mean sure it’s not like I’m always overly depressed but I know that it’s always there. I’m usually tired, stuck in my head, just don’t enjoy things like I know I should and overall have little hope bc of what I battle everyday. Sure, your environment plays a huge factor into your mood and you have to take care of yourself but it’s difficult when you don’t even have the energy to do basic things to get you through the day and build on things to make you feel better.
The 6 signs in summary: 1- avoiding social situations 2- feeling extra irritable 3- constantly tired 4- struggle to concentration 5- using unhealthy coping skills more and more 6- constant worry about past or future I literally have all these signs and symptoms for 5 years :)
1. avoiding social situations 2. extra irritable 3. constantly tired 4. struggle to concentrate, struggle to follow along 5. using unhealthy coping skills more and more 6. constant worry about past + future
@@IreneOrtega24 Definitely felt this way too. I worry it's just Munchausen syndrome! I've been assured this is part of the anxiety that goes with the depression, but I still worry that this is really some delusion on my part and that I'm just doing this to myself and I should be able to "just stop it" if I really wanted.
It feels like you're on fire and running on a treadmill. You have to keep going, even though you're in pain. And that's how I feel since almost 3 years.
Damn, I always said it's like swimming in the ocean, barely able to keep your head up and getting more and more tired. You cant see any land and you dont know why you keep swimming.
I was diagnosed with dysthymia many years ago by a therapist. I’ve tried everything like counseling and medication. Nothing worked except for exercising witch gave me some relief, but didn’t solve the situation altogether. 😢. Today I’ve mostly given up and accepted the simptoms described as simply part of me. Hope you all have better luck. Cheers….
I don't know if I have this but my symptoms are also feeling extremely tired/exhausted every day, no concentration at work, fake laughing at jokes but not finding anything even remotely funny, zoning out when watching videos/movies, I go to the store and buy hella sweets and chocolate and go home and eat all of it without even realizing what i"m doing... feeling empty all the time.. feeling like I failed in life whereas everyone else is getting their lives on track
That's exactly it. Most people don't realize anything is wrong or that they could feel differently. They think that's just the way it is. But doesn't have to be and you don't have to accept that. We are so fortunate to live in a time when we have modern medicine that can treat mental disorders. Medication has literally saved millions of lives. I talk from experience. (Please note that these medications are not "happy pills" . They are designed to correct the chemical imbalances that are creating the problem.) I urge you to ask your doctor to refer you to a psychiatrist who can properly diagnose you (I personally don't feel regular doctors should be doing that or prescribing meds.) It can change your life. It won't make it perfect, but it will make it wayyyyyy better and help you deal with anything that is difficult.
Im 25 and I a 100percent agree with you! But once u come out of it, in my case I mostly have or atleast thats what my prescriptions tell me, It’s like super saiyyan mode on! Like you just have all this great energy in general. My tip, MUSIC, WATER, WORKOUT!
Your not alone sweetie pleaseeeee pray to the most high and ask god to help you and guide you in your life! I too pray and talk to god however sometimes u just allow my inner thinking to take control!!!
I can relate. I hope you are able to find some peace of my mind and happiness. Depression is awful and I’ve been battling it a long time but don’t give up things can improve. Take time everyday to do things you enjoy, work on a hobby, listen to uplifting music. I also highly recommend any kind of art therapy, there are many great beginner art lessons on RUclips.
@@leahreena7045 great advice, the most merciful has given us a test; we must understand the temporary nature of this life and try our best regardless, as eternity exists and we will be compensated for trials and how we responded to them. 🙏
Reading this, a light bulb went off. You literally helped me make the connection that it’s been depression this whole time keeping me away from my love of reading and not just my disinterest in books!!!! I work in a library and have been really down on myself for the 5 years working there I’ve only been able to read 2 books. This makes so much sense.
I finally read a book this past week for the first time in months. It was a book of newspaper columns by a mother/daughter team - thought I'd ease back into it. Going to try fiction next. Trying to sleep right now but migraine keeping me awake.
Dont forget the TERRIBLE symptom of “brain cloud”-when you can barely form sentences and stutter alot. Sometimes i’ll forget what im saying while im saying it or i struggle to get the words out SMH
PrettyTiaF I’ve had that problem for months now, lol I’ve always had trouble finishing my sentences because I get distracted. But now Its so much worse and I’m constantly terrified that somethings genuinely wrong with my brain because I didn’t used to be that bad.
Its never happened to me before either till i kept getting older and seeing how sh*tty life is . When im talking to ppl i start feeling anxious, especially if i have to explain something and then I cant get the sentences out or my sentences need to be explained🤨🤨🤨😫😫😫😫
Oh God I totally understand I am 66 and have suffered since I was 19. Recently went into a major depression which has been a nightmare. I feel so hopeless like it will never end. I don't want to live but I don't want to die. I am trapped into a negative cycle of thinking 24 hours a day. I hospitalized myself a couple weeks ago because I didn't know what else to do. That was a mistake. They did nothing to help me. I started Ketamine therapy and have had two treatments. It relieved my depression for a short period of time. Hopefully it will last longer as the treatment goes on. I just want to get my appetite back and to have a little hope again. Thanks for your comments. I know how you feel. Much love.
Lose the prayer voodoo stuff, after half a century it's obviously not helping. Depression is difficult enough already, without the additional burden of superstition.
@@pterafirma some people believe in prayer and having faith can be rly helpful for many. if you feel like that, that's fine, but you dont need to come for her.
I’m a Christian and I found that it helps. My own depression was linked to unforgiveness. People truly wrong me and I asked God through Christ to help me forgive. I forgave myself and anyone who wronged me. My depression went away.
Hey you - yes, you reading this right now. I'm cheering for you because you are an amazing person. You were a thought in God's mind before the creation of the Universe, and that thought still makes Him incredibly happy. Never doubt your worth as a human being.
I'm 37 and I've felt like this my entire life. It's not depression for me, it's just my natural state. I've never known happiness so I don't know what I'm missing. Like a person who was born blind.
Hey james! I have an account on mental health, physical health, and holistic health if you want to check it out ! I am going to be doing a lot more videos on mindset/mental health
James Oakley the rope is fun, I might have given it a go if they hadn’t memed it into the ground and taken all the glory out of it. Great, I don’t even get an easy exit. Guess I’m dying the hard way, lung cancer or a stroke it is.
It truly is something nobody who hasn't had it understands. I've had this all my life. Constantly battling from a low depressed mood, and I'm exhausted all day every day, but I push myself, and everybody thinks I'm fine, or I open up with them, but they still wonder how you can be tired, and most people have very little empathy for it. I was physically bullied since the age of 4 to 15 by the same people. I was told I was ugly and stupid, and beated and sat on every day, nose broken, ankle sprained, ribs cracked etc. Then family life was unsettled, Dad had severe epilepsy, and now has dementia. I've had traumatic experiences which are too graphic to go into, and suffer with anxiety as well, but my PTSD is under control. I've had therapy, medication, you name it, but nothing works. My mood remains low all the time. I'm 38 now and it just doesn't go away. I tell people, my partner in particular that I'm exhausted, but he just doesn't understand, cant empathise and wants me to snap out of it. I end up just telling therapists that I feel a bit better when the therapy is nearing the end, because they've tried, and that's what they want to hear, but the truth is I dont. People who survive and push through this hell get zero credit for how hard this is, and how much they do to hide it, and the few times the mask slips they say something like "theres always something wrong with you". I'd like to see them try to deal with it. It's a nightmare.
me: **fits all criteria and relates to every point she makes** also me: “i’m probably just faking everything, i don’t deserve to call myself depressed i’m just a shitty person who wants a disorder-“
Your not alone bro i have that same exact thought everyday to every other day it. also doesn't help when your compared to your to your selfish asshole drug dealer of a father. #slowly dying inside
Is it bad that I can’t remember the last time I haven’t felt depressed? Like I’m happy sometimes but I always feel it in the back of my mind, it’s just always there. Edit: update Hey you guys! Thank you for the support and sharing your stories in the replies. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety and I went to therapy and took meds for a couple months before quitting it all together. I’m doing better but I think that’s because I’m under a lot less stress than before. I’m still working on getting better and my memory is still eh but I’m improving and that’s what’s important :)
I haven't felt genuinely happy (for more than a few minutes, at least) since I was a kid. I remember my life before depression and social anxiety. Happy, outgoing, dreams and goals in life, loved people and social life, full of energy and I almost never got tired. Then the negative stuff happened and I lost all will to live. Everything is so hard, I have no energy and all I want is to sleep in bed all day. I don't want anything to do with people, especially in groups. I don't want to end myself, but I don't mind if a landslide took my house and me with me into oblivion 😑
With dysthymia it’s like depression is just another part of your personality. You just don’t expect you’ll ever feel as you know you should and everyday just blends together and feels very bland.
Yes that's exactly it.. Occasionally I have a day I feel normal and dash around like superwoman completing loads of tasks then next day I flop! I can't take this anymore! I'm so tired all the time! I'm getting help tommorow👍
you're a bland, done nothing, know nothing, loser... cry to your mom to make you a snack, and maybe she'll cuddle you while you both watch Sponge Bob together.
Wow! I feel like I’ve been living like this since childhood. ❤️ I’m currently working on healing my inner child. Art, music, nature and journaling have been helping me. 🙏🏽
Does anyone kind of make up routines every day so you can be “perfect” and basically starve yourself, study and do exercise all day. But only do it for one day and then feel like shit for the rest of the week.
I relate to this so much!!! Like having a sudden "boost" of motivation and wanting to get better, so I set up this routine so I can be "perfect" but then I do it for only one day because it's too much work and I can't keep up and then I feel worthless again
I read fanfiction, sometimes for 8 hours a day, just to feel like the emotion the characters in the story feel. When I'm dealing with my own life I get anxious, hopeless. Tired all the time and hating myself for who I've become, for wasting previous time. I can never share my most inner thoughts because people will judge me for them.
I've done this same thing, and it got particularly worse when I went through a 2-3 month period of SUPER low moods, depression, and anxiety. This was my first year of college and it was during COVID, so not many social events were being done. And most were at a distance with masks on at all times. So I would wake up each morning and cry, go to class, get food, come back to my dorm and just read or watch YT for the rest of the day to distract myself from the constant horrible feelings. When I would do school work, I would only be driven by my anxiety that I would fail. I never learned a thing. And the only days I felt somewhat normal were when I would go home for the weekend, but even there I felt only partial relief (I have a narcissistic father). Then once I got back to college, I would cry all day and wish I was home. That was in the fall of 2020. But now? I still go through mental health struggles, but I've never been that bad ever again. I really think your environment and seeking support in your recovery is most important. If I never left that college, and if I never moved away from home for good? I'm not sure would have ever gotten to where I am today. And even getting a therapist for a bit helped me understand myself better. So...even though you may feel absolutely hopeless, try. Even if it's something small, like drinking adequate water each day, watching a movie that always makes you feel happy (any Barbie movie does this for me), or doing a craft kit. With these seemingly small things, you may see results. And, of course, as Kati said...always seek help. It may feel daunting - it was for me - but it is the single most important thing to have someone to vent to and affirm how I felt. I used to feel like was crazy, but professionals I've met always made me feel like I wasn't. Also - I would advise you delete the apps you read fanfiction on and refrain from visiting those sites for a week and see how you feel. You can never sort through your emotions if you constantly distract yourself, that only makes it worse. P.S. To reference one of the comments in this thread already, writing stories yourself really is a great form of therapy! It has helped me to better understand myself and others :)
@@nawdude4292 Going outside doesn't help. I've got the same exact problem, except I spend most of my time backpacking and camping. My dog was an amazing companion. It hasn't been the same since. I think I need to touch less grass and connect to actual people. but they make it so hard and unsatisfactory, unlike dogs.
People really need to listen and heed your words. I have lived with this as long as I can remember and yet only heard of dysthymia about 15 years ago. I'm 63 and this has crippled me more than the diabetes that I have struggled with for 50 years. Please seek help as soon as possible. It only becomes harder with age.
Yup. And because it's been going on for so long and during your formative years, you no longer know where your true personality ends and the illness begins...
Sitting here with tears streaming down my face. I’ve felt this way since 8th grade. I’m almost 21 now. I don’t know how to ask for help. I don’t feel like I can be fixed.
Smooth Tommy Vermooth no. I stopped going to college after the first year. I used to love school and learning but something happened senior year and now I hate it.
@@RyleeCrazze229 The love of learning suddenly lost? Yeah I have that too. If sucks and it makes life impossible. If there is no motivation or joy in something you do you'll do it poorly. If that is school then you're jusr fucked ._.
Rylee MacKay I feel this so damn much. I would love to talk with you just so we can know we have the same thing going on... Instagram me: crazyredhead138
This showed up out of nowhere for me today. Not the dysthymia, but the video. I checked off almost every box on this and it explains a lot. I'm 67 and realize this has been my default setting since I was a teenager, for a variety of reasons. I have so many unhealthy coping mechanisms that I'm not sure where to start, but I have to start somewhere. Thank you for sending this bolt of lightening into my life. 🥰
me telling myself that I'm not depressed, just lazy, then beating myself up over it, having extreme mental breakdowns, anxiety attacks, all of it. yeah im totally fine.
I used to have anxiety attacks really bad last year, and I always blamed it on myself and I never told anyone about it. Not like I could tell anyone about it, most of my religious family would probably think I'm weird or "of the devil" and not wanna talk to me, and I only had one friend but I didn't wanna tell them because they might think differently of me or think I'm crazy or something, and even if they didn't, it was a very hard time for everybody last year, and I didn't wanna be a downer always talking about my problems and dumping them on other people, when there's already MANY more important things to be worrying about, so I just kept it to myself.
I always wonder if everyone feels tired all the time and feels a little nouseous (spelled correctly) and has headaches constantly :/ whenever I see a therapist I just stop because I feel like I’m normal but just whiny
Seriously!? Omg this has been my personality since 2015 !!! I nvr knew that this was an ACTUAL thing i thought i was seriously thinking im going insane , ive lost friends family boy friends because they say im completely 180 now like they dony know how to talk to me or hell me amd i cant talk to them i get a lump in my throat wen i try anyone el addict who has this PLEASE CONTACT ME
the physical parts including the fatigue and it being difficult to be with other people need to be addressed. You are judging against your self and stopping a process that could help you live a happier life. It is a process, and takes time, worth it.
Shit.. too close to home, I was thinking of calling suicide line or something, cus even the cheapest(and reasonably so since they study so many years) therapy is $60 per hour
I've got this issue. Tbh if I had the money I still wouldn't pay for it cuz I'm cheap when it comes to my health and well being. But I've notice talking to my pet, out loud to myself, and writing thoughts down really help me out
I am really glad I found this video. I have dealt with these symptoms for the last seven years. After I lost my leg I was told that I had PTSD and that I should join a support group. I quit going because it seemed like everyone there was feeling sorry for themselves or living vicariously through others. I have been prescribed several different meds The one thing that has helped me is nature. I love all animals helping them has really helped me.
Anyone with symptoms of mental health issues should check out the Andrew Cutler protocol. Google «andy cutler rebecca rust lee» for a great article explaining the protocol, and search for the success stories, and «what not to do» as there are things that you might be taking that is hurting you, like cilantro and chlorella. Wish you all the best
Nothing to be embarrassed for❤️ You’re not alone, and also think that this world is not always a happy place (quite the opposite)and we, as human beings, have emotions and feeling depressed is a normal reaction to some events in our life. On the other hand, depression can also occur due to chemical issues in our brains, without any specific trigger. It just happens. Never feel ashamed darling❤️ Depression can happen to anyone, at any age, during the course of our life. We’re all humans. No one has achieved “the perfect life” even if sometimes people try hard to present their “perfect lives” via social media for example🙏🏻❤️
@Austin Martín Hernández Yeah im also 21 and have a penis and my family thinks I overreact to everything. They think im too emotional for a guy. I want to hang out with my family more but I cant find enjoyment in it. I cant fake a fucking smile whenever they make a joke. And for the life of me I cant make a joke.
@Austin Martín Hernández yea been living with the same for 4 years now. It gets better and worse... You ever feel like you never know what exactly to say in social situations? And always overthink every response you should have and sometimes can't focus on what people are actually saying
Diagnosed when I was 9. To me it feels like always having homesickness, but never knowing what or where I’m homesick for or if it even if it exists. The other symptoms seem to stem from that constant feeling. It’s exhausting. Anyone reading this who is unsure as to whether to seek help, my advice is to absolutely give it a try! When you’re feeling hopeless, it might seem like nothing will help you, but the right combination of treatments is possible!
I would always cry in my bed wailing, "This isn't my home, I want to go home," even though this _is_ my home, and I _do_ live here. I had problems at home with siblings, my dad, and guilt. My mom treated my condition like it was ridiculous, but overtime, she changed her outlook. Nowadays, she's extremely supportive.
Oh my god, you put words to how I feel....constant homesickness - i always feel like I want to go home, then when I’m home and have to deal with my parents and stuff I have the same feeling again but I’m home already - homesick for nowhere basically
@@bradleymenezes6196 just remember crying is healthy sometimes, you cant bottle up your emotions or you get high/low blood pressure and then you feel sick or just pain and then your emotions just blow up and then you feel acwerd after. idk but for me i can only cry every cupple munths, i just cant in between its weird. So ig i do what i said is unhealthy. Whatever makes you feel better, i wont talk about anything else incase i say something stupid.
Any time that I've tried to talk about my depression, people always get angry and tell me my problems are nothing compared to theirs and I should just get over it.
I see that you've had 79 replies. I hope SOMEBODY pointed out that a lot of people just aren't good listeners, and don't realize they're being selfish. You are entitled to feel better than this. See if you can find some way to afford treatment. Are you eligible for medicaid? If not, does your county offer free or low cost counseling? If you are under 18 and your parents are doing this, how about a school guidance counselor? I hope you find something that works. I like your screen name and hope it isn't how your family is making you feel about yourself. I bet you are an excellent writer.
Don't tell those selfish people your problems see a therapist they'll listen to everything you have to say. And actually care enough to want to help you that's what they're there for don't talk to people that dismiss you and invalidate you I know what you're talkin about they only care about their self tune them out when they've got to tell you their problems to just tune them out
I felt this way for 2.5 years until my endocrinologist finally increased my thyroid medication, and these feelings finally went away. It was hell! The worst part was everyone kept telling me I'm fine and should just stop complaining.
xzonia1 I'm sorry the people around you didn't validate you. Sometimes just 1 person that says "I understand" can really make a difference. Take care of yourself, honey.
I had the exact same thing until i finally went to an endocrinologist and now im taking double the dosage of thyroxid medication i was taking before and Im feeling soo much better!!
iflymilly - That's terrible! I had to wait 3 months before the doctor I saw would treat me when I first had problems with my thyroid. I could hardly put one foot in front of the other by the time he finally gave me thyroid medicine because he said he wouldn't treat me until my thyroid was 100% dead (which it was after 3 months). You should definitely see an endocrinologist if it's a regular GP refusing to treat you; that was the mistake I made back then, seeing a regular doctor instead of a specialist. As for holistic measures, I never went that route, so I have no advice to give as far as what might work. (Sorry!) I hope you receive the medical help you need soon! I know how awful it is having to fight just to be treated.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.sporesss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
What we need is to live in a society that recognizes mental illness as something just as harmful and real as physical ailments, deserving of funding and support. Hopefully someday soon that will happen, so so many people suffer from this, too afraid to reach out or simply not able to afford treatment.
Trevor Gonson Stop ignoring it or stigmatizing it, and put funding towards therapy and the improvement of mental hospitals. Universal healthcare that includes access to free therapy would be a huge help.
I’ve learned the hard way to keep it bottle up and work it out yourself. No one I’ve ever told has helped me, they either rolled their eyes and said It’s all in my head or would just scold me for all my mistakes that I’ve apologized for over and over or I took accountability for. People truly just don’t care and are selfish enough to show you by action. For some people, we just have to accept we are in this alone and we have to be our biggest cheerleaders during low times. No one will get you up but you.
partly agree, but also not, bcuz there really are suitable personalities or characters in ppl out there who will be relatively supportive of you. The default or avg person is not, particuliarly in cultures i've been in and am from, i.e northern european orientated, etc. And even other euro cultures can be same and worse, depending exactly which and what types of ppl we're talking about. In times like the past decade in western societies, we either needed to find like-minded ppl or we were gonna get into a trap of being truly alone. If u are under 40ish, u have likely fallen into that trap. You must get out of it and be very fussy about who u associate with.
It’s kind of sad that I need RUclips to have someone to relate to when it comes to this. However, it’s still better than having nothing at all. Just sayin.
I'm at a stage now where I cant really feel sad anymore. I dont have any tears left to cry. Now I'm just numb, broken, empty. I dont care about anything anymore.
Yella fella, hang in there ,bud, at least you know youre not alone . It seems that, good, bad or ugly, things never stay the same, so this will change too soon...just try not to get in your own way, know what I mean? Nature always turns me around for the better. Time for a walk in nature, a hike in the hills, a ride down the river, a trip to the beach, or a bike ride around the neighborhood. Pick one and repeat each day until you can shake it. Dont give up, you got this !!
Opening up about depression is hard. Its hard to be like "yeah i need help" i mean, how do you even start a convo when you have no idea how the other person will respond. I cant even tell me my family as im affraid they will start worrying too much which will make me more anxious. I tried telling a close a friend "Im not happy" "What you got to be unhappy about" he says casually "....nothing, im just tired" It gets awkard and its stressing enough for me to even talk to people. Never mind open up. How do others open up?
James Oakley unfortunately I cant answer your question, but I can let you know that you’re not alone. I struggle immensely with being open with others. It’s miserable because there’s so much people like us have to say, but often just can’t. I suggest trying as hard as you can to find a friend to vent to. They don’t even have to be super close. I remember the one person I’ve opened up to was one of that last people I’d expect to see myself do so with! Keep hanging in there. Things get better. Keep your head up! It’s always okay to not be okay!
James Oakley I think it’s honestly who you are talking in order to open up to cause people just don’t know how to react in those situations. I personally tried one time and never talked about it again in but I wrote it down in a letter situation to my mom and sent it to her so she would actually have to pay attention to me and it helped me compartmentalize my thoughts. It worked for me and how to explain why and when. Idk if it helped my mom truly understand she’s not a very empathetic person
my family found out i was depressed and self harmed and wanted to die and got mad at me and threatened to send me away !! that moment fucked me up and ive only gotten worse since
I have had it all my life and it led to chronic alcoholism which almost killed me. I got help and have been sober for 10 years. I don't take medication or anything for it I have found that fellowship with others like myself (A.A. in my case) has been an enormous asset to me. I have re-wired my brain to perceive reality differently. The first few years were hell but it paid off.
depression is sometimes called "the dark passenger", you learn how to defuse the triggers and how to get back on your feet more efficiently, but it never goes away
And until you're able to see your therapist, exercise! It almost brings tears to my eyes thinking of the state I was in before I recently started a daily exercise routine and where I am now.
I’m thoroughly convinced that if someone says they’ve never been this depressed before, they have to be lying. It doesn’t make any sense to me that this is a mental disorder because it just feels so normal.
Had it since I was 21 .. 46 now and it’s so tiring, on ongoing battle which i won’t let beat me, I have felt suicidal many times but what would that gain???... I’m scared of dying and living, I’m stuck in between and worry constantly and am lonely in a crowd of friends, it’s horrible but I’m too mentally strong to be beaten, my sympathies and love to all other sufferers xxx
You are strong to persist, but might I suggest adjusting your energy. Instead of fighting against the world and yourself to defend yourself, why don't you take a good look inside and find out what you're REALLY afraid of. It shouldn't be death because you're not dying right now. I might assume that you afraid of the things we all are: being alone, not really living, being unhappy all your life, never "getting anywhere" - but as long as you choose to focus on your fear and fighting a war with it, you will always be in war. And prolonged war is never good for anyone - a country or a person. Find a way to make peace, the answers are inside yourself. Once you figure out the true source of your fear, face it, and begin making changes in your life for the better, you will begin paving your way upward - and you will find I think that if you can manage this great feat, more things will begin falling into place than you could imagine.
I feel the same way. I don’t even have friends. I have lost them over the years due to alcoholism. I’ve been sober now over a year. Even when I try to make new friendships they never last and I figure it’s just me and this is how life is going to be.
Natalie Gatto I wish you well and luck in staying sober, that’s a massive achievement!!, you will gradually get a new circle of friends as your confidence returns I bet you👍
Anyone with symptoms of mental health issues , autoimmune or other health issues should check out the Andrew Cutler protocol. And getting the right nutrients and a good diet for you is very important, often like a weston price style diet with good fats, protein and vegetables. Google «andy cutler rebecca rust lee» for a great article explaining the protocol, and search for the success stories, and «what not to do» as there are things that you might be taking that is hurting you, like cilantro and chlorella. Please join the Facebook group for incredible support Wish you all the best
To anyone reading this, I promise it gets better. I've been as depressed as anyone can be. I've been so depressed at times that even getting out of bed seemed pointless. I've been suicidal soo maaany days. I know how much the feeling that no one cares enough hurts. I know how you can be in a room full of people and still feel lonely. I know the feeling of being empty and numb to anything, literally not knowing what joy or happiness even feel like. I know the feeling of extreme heartbreak when you just love a person so fricking much, but they just don't feel the same or even acknowledge this feeling of yours. I know the feeling you get when your parents constantly let you down whenever you need them, simply passing by looking like they don't give a shit. I know the feeling we feel when everyone, and I mean everyone, feels fake. I know how much it hurts to feel like there is no end to this. I know the feeling that nothing seems to make sense. I know the feeling of wanting/needing to cry but you can't even do that. I know the feeling of constant pressure from everywhere. I know the feeling of being afraid. I know the feeling of not feeling safe, not even in your own bed. I know the feeling of being weak. I know tge feeling of giving it your best and its still not enough. I know the feeling of gradually losing interest in everything you once loved. I know the feeling not understanding how the world works anymore. I know the feeling when we are just hurting so bad, and are trying our very best buy just can't do it. We don't know how to do it. We don't even know what it is. All we know is that we are just hurting. I know the feeling of questioning ourselves. I know the feeling of needing just any kind of approval. I know the feeling of needing a friend, just one friend. I know the feeling of everything seeming like its a dream. Like your awake, but your just not you anymore, your just observing everything, even yourself at times, never truly feeling anything. I know the feeling of people counting on you so you try to help them because you know how it feels to hurt, hoping that someday someone might actually help you, but no one comes, not even the ones that seem to care about you, not even the ones that you helped and have always been there for. I know the feeling of questioning yourself. I know the feeling of trying to convince yourself that all of this is normal. I know the feeling of trying to remember the last time you felt anything, let alone happiness. I know the feeling no energy, no will. I know the feeling of hate towards everything and everyone. I know the feeling of guilt. I know the feeling of having to parent your parent. I know the feeling of trying to convince yourself that tomorrow will be better, but it just never is. I know the feeling finally feeling something but then your so afraid of it, so afraid of losing it, that you do. I know the feeling of finally starting to open up to someone just so they can leave after one mistake, or after you've said something they didn't want to hear. I know the feeling of being always tired of everything. I know the feeling of feeling that it can't get any worse but it does. I know the feeling of being empty, I know the feeling of relapsing. I know the feeling of being alone because no one gets if. I know the feeling of just wanting to stay in bed. I know the feeling being shook to your core. I know the feeling of sudden panic out of nowhere. I know the feeling of wanting to die. But I also know that it does get better, and this isn't some kind of false hope. It really does. It's slow as hell, but it does. I've suffered from borderline depression, severe anxiety, adhd (mild), and emotional abuse for several years, (and I still am) but I'm still here fighting. We need to know that we are not alone.✊ Even though you may not believe it, or might not even like it, but we are not alone. ✊ And please know that we need to stick together, its make it that much easier, to have a shoulder that you can lean on. So please if you are sad, if your are scared, if you are in need of someone, please know that I am too. Please just like this so others can see it. Like it if you wanna help me, like it if want to be helped. Reply with what YOU feel, or reply with a ✊if you want to help me and others. (P.S. I swear to you, i am not doing this for the likes, ((FUCK THE LIKES!)) I'm doing this because I need support, I need to prove to myself that someone cares just like I truly, honestly, genuinely, whole heartedly. care for you)
This is highly contributed by our current time where we work longer and harder just to meet multiple demands. Work is now a religion and it's driving people crazier
I think a natural life has very high ups, and very low downs and level in between, it is a flow, we arent guaranteed a wonderful stress free life with no problems or anxiety, and it is o.k to be a little depressed once in a while, you just have to be able to hang that coat up and go on with your life, obviously there are people who are in the extreme with this and do need help, but others that see and read this kind of stuff are not clinical, they are normal and just experiencing lifef but have others telling them "you are depressed, you need help" everything in your life does not need to have a label.
What an incredible video..... What makes it even harder when you reach out to your medical professional and they pass it off. That's on the same level when you have a "trusted" friend to tell you that you are ungrateful for all of the blessings in your life and just to get over it.
I think I have this bc I can force myself to get up to go to work but that's all I'm doing with my life. I wake up, go to work, come home, go to sleep. I don't want to hang out with friends. I don't want to leave the house on my days off.
Erwin Smith I’m exactly the same. But I’ve learned to accept myself like this, and simply indulge in what my mind and body want and need. There are naturally times when it feels like I’m wasting my life away, like should invest in putting time and effort into people. But it’s draining, and honestly, not always worth it.
Yeah. And often I wonder if this is what life is, what sense does it even make to be here. About to start therapy sometime soon though, shall see if it helps change something. Can't live my whole life like this.
rockinstrawberries just because someone is in a full-body cast doesn’t mean your “broken arm” doesn’t hurt. You have every right to reach out. Even if your life is seemingly “enough.” I hope this helps.
I can identify with this. But I try and remind myself that reaching out means I have strength, rather than mean I’m weak. Hugs. Let’s try to beat this together!
Thank you so much. This feels the most accurate to my life sitch. Social media's gone crazy today with everyone saying they're autistic, adhd, anxious and depressed. Dysthymia is something I've always been subconsciously aware and running from much of my adult life.
Wow this is totally me! I was diagnosed with clinical depression back in 2012, but I could still get out of bed and put on a happy face and "perform" when needed, so I was confused. Dysthymia fits perfectly. Completely drained 24/7 and it never ends.
Blazingbunny you’re probably not addressing me but I literally was on a week long vacation 2 weeks ago and I’m back to feeling drained and exhausted 24/7 now that I’m back at work. A vacation won’t cure you trust me lol
It was just a hunch after reading the first comment. Did you feel better during your vacation? Edit: it might not cure you, but maybe you got some hints? The last time I went on vacation it didn't matter. The exhaustion travels with me.
Same.I actually started to grow and getout of it.But some ppl put me back.As long as i can remember ppl around me supress my intuition and imagination,so maybe thats why i go back inside me to understand what i did wrong.
I watched this because I've noticed that since middle school my mental health had deteriorated and I was really hoping that I was overthinking everything but it almost all lined up too perfectly. Not going to diagnose myself though, but it's definitely a sign that something is wrong. I know I have a early childhood trauma but it just doesn't feel like that's the root of the problem since I feel like I've moved on.
Yeah, that happens with everyone for a lot of diseases.When you have an inkling that you have a problem ,you aren't thinking objectively and self affirming by looking at things selectively. There is a reason why actual medical professionals hate self diagnosis and the use of Internet by patients for their problems.
Betty Bane I can relate as well, but I pray you can feel better and maybe at some point be able to go to therapy if you feel it would be helpful. try to atleast once a day take time to yourself for something that relaxes you or that you enjoy. Hang in there, things can only get better 💜
And I hope you keep doing that. That’s all you can do for now and you’re so strong for that. Believe me, I understand how you feel. I really, really hope you get to feeling better soon.
yeah, that and for me, its day dreaming about the time when I finally get my shit together and start working on my health and hobbies, putting myself out there so that I finally have a chance of finding a partner who gives you hugs and comforts you.... instead of what I am currently doing... which is just doing the bare minimum so that I don't get fired and can still pay the rent next month
I used to crave hugs and comfort. Now, if anyone tried to hug me it pisses me off. I don't need it now. I needed it then and I didn't get it so ... guess I'm done.
Decades for me. I checked every box on her list. Luckily, I quit drinking alcohol 5 years ago. My insurance does not cover mental health and I work in health care. Mental health is just brushed aside too much.
Absolutely! Me too! 22 years now. I've been to counsellors and psychologists many times over the years and been on antidepressants (tried a number of different types, always under GP guidance) for 17 years now. I don't know if there's any other way for me to be. It's hard.
reading these comments has literally made me start crying, hi hope all who reads this (yes you there) reaches out to the people around you for the help you need and deserve. no one deserves to be kept in there own cell by themselves
It's lasted for 27 years but God has pulled me through the mud. I appreciate this video. Signs number 1,3,4,5,6 I had an opportunity as a child to fix it with therapy but I think I waited too long. It's lead to worse. God is keeping me through it though, somehow
funny those symptoms just describe me from the age of 14 to today. even if I had dysthymia, my mother would just get indignant and go "what do you have to be sad about." like it would be a burden for her, not me.
Shiirow a counselor can help create a more loving non toxic support system. My mother was zero help with this, unfortunately. Try to forgive them and create a new life for yourself. They can only do the best with the knowledge they have at the time. If you have never had it, you can never understand it. Plain and simple. Good luck on your journey, a fellow dysthymia sufferer.
exactly the same as my mother she also says if you clean the house and do chores you'd feel better and wouldn't think about thereby i told her i smoked she felt disgusted of me god knows with no health insurance low income and no job i don't know what to do and i'm thinking about smoking which is coming from anxiety every single day
I realized I didn't hate the cabinet door I hated my life my house my family my backyard my power mower nothing would ever change nothing new could ever be expected
Thank you, Kati. Thank you for vindicating the pain I'm going through. I have been at the receiving end of emotional and mental abuse from a narcissistic sociopath of a mother. After decades of having my relationships sabotaged and gaslit, I'm building boundaries and getting help from the VA. I don't think I would have considered reaching out for help because for so long, I've been told I'm just a terrible person. Again, Thank you for sharing your professional knowledge. No doubt, I'm not the only person you are helping with these videos.
Krm G so if by saying ‘feeling attacked’ she means feeling inadvertently singled out or labeled as result of the information divulged here, that I can understand
@@zeldolinsky6979 Exactly. I remember going through a particularly long and pretty dark battle. I knew that when friends would ask how I was doing or what seemed to be the matter, that they meant well. But I was just so tired of trying to explain what I couldn't understand, myself. So one day I was meeting with yet another counselor, and he asked the standard "So... What seems to be going on?" I sat for a bit trying to form a cohesive answer, and it just came to me! I looked up and said "I have cancer of the soul." Perfectly concise description of profound depression. It's especially helpful when you're talking to people who are either skeptical or simply have no frame of reference about mental illness. ☮️
I've lived with MDD most of my life and I don't know how I have never heard the term "Dysthymia" before. I've been trying to explain this feeling for years to my therapist (and doctors). Because I know the signs of depression, I know the feelings, I know and have experienced all aspects of it. It's not a deep depression (although it can be at times) but it's for sure noticeable. This was helpful. Thank you.
hello. my name is Ainsley. i have depression and anxiety. this started when I was 11 years old. when I was this age, I was scared to talk about it with my mom. my mom is super kind, and I love her, and she would except me no matter what. I was also scared to tell my dad. we where super close. he loves me and I love him too. my parents love me and I love them, but I was still scared to tell them. one night, I told my mom how i felt. however, I acted like I didn’t know what was going on. I told her I felt angry, bottled up, trapped in my own mind. she told me to listen to nice music, and to clear my mind. all I wanted was to talk to her. she didn’t get it. she was very smart, and trained to be a therapist, but what she told me to do made me angrier. every night, I was choking back tears, but I didn’t know why. I didn’t know why I was so sad. that’s when I first discovered I had depression. I later did get diagnosed with it. I was about 10 when I suspected anxiety. I use to be very outgoing not scared of anything, courage’s, talkative, and fun. around these anxious times is when I started doing a lot of dance. I got scared to go to dance and didn’t want to see anybody there cause I thought they would judge me. I also would lay in my bed for hours thinking about what I can do to make friends. I was stupid and made the decision to bottle up my emotions. soon, I got a journal. I wrote in it a lot. it’s was my way of therapy. I am much older now, and nobody know about it, but I got much better. I am still ‘too hard’ on myself, and yes, I still show symptoms of anxiety and depression. but I think it’s gone. The point of this was to tell you it DOES get better. And that you are to loved and too amazing to leave.♥️
Wow thanks a lot for your story. I always tell myself it’s going to get better and it does. I just try to think positive about things and remaining humble also helps me to know that I am grateful and thank you. It is a struggle tho when you have nobody in your corner. But yes the journals have helped me alot too. And sometimes all we need is to vent and get things off our chest that’s it !!
i don’t think i’d say I have depression, but for atleast the past year I make up excuses to friends so I can just stay at home. I much rather be in my room all weekend, even though I really like these people? I also find myself just waiting for it to be night time so I can just go to sleep. Some days I don’t want to get up at all. I don’t really know what it is, but this video was helpful.
Those feelings could be caused also by changes in hormones. By nature, you could be a Introvert, which is totally understandable to wish staying home, and kinda.isolate yourself for a bit, to recharge yourself,.coz we, introverts, spend our energy at most when socialising with people. By the end of the day, we might feel exhausted. But there's truly nothing wrong! Extroverts by nature require communication at most to get energized, while others opposite. Well look, when you feel these things r disturbing you in daily life, or you feel discomfort having these behaviors or whatever, you can always see a psychologist. You don't have to have a depression, or anxiety to talk to a therapist. In either way, there is nothing wrong with you :) wish you happy holidays and happy new year!
thank you kati for familiarizing non-scholars like us with the science of psyche and normalizing the conversation about it. you deserve way more credit than that nonsense you're getting. i also wanted to thank you for trusting shane and being kind to him. he's the constant source of light for millions of people and he doesn't even realize how deeply he heals many of our wounds. i love and respect you both so much.
The worst thing about depression is that more often when you try to tell someone you might have condition they will just shrug it off and tell you, "you're hungry" or "you just need some sleep" and that's what makes your condition worst..
The difference is often either severity or longevity. If eating or sleeping makes it all better, then maybe they are right. But...If it only helps a little or doesn't help at all... If you can't sleep or don't feel better no matter how much sleep you get... If you starve yourself or eat to excess because of your feelings... If you feel like either laughing in their face or screaming at them for even making such a suggestion... you need more than just a little pick-me-up solution. You need the kind of help best given by a professional.
Anyone with symptoms of mental health issues , autoimmune or other health issues should check out the Andrew Cutler protocol. And getting the right nutrients and a good diet for you is very important, often like a weston price style diet with good fats, protein and vegetables. Google «andy cutler rebecca rust lee» for a great article explaining the protocol, and search for the success stories, and «what not to do» as there are things that you might be taking that is hurting you, like cilantro and chlorella. Please join the Facebook group for incredible support Wish you all the best
Does anyone else watch these videos and feel like they connect with the symptoms but then tell themselves that they don’t have depression because they don’t have it as bad as others and that they don’t want to admit to it. This might have not made any sense but if it did let me know I’m not alone.
you're not alone. and it does make sense what you said. having just watched this video i emailed my psychotherapist a second ago including a link to this video and wrote her nearly exactly what you had said.
Don't worries to much sleep enough then you be OK..also don't over stress yourself... relex enjoy life thinks positive.....
You’re not alone.
You are not alone - you don't have to have the worst case to need help. GET HELP. You deserve it. Be honest with yourself. Take care of yourself. Putting it off won't help you. This is your sign from the universe, please make things better for yourself in the days to come.
It's the exact same for me and I felt like this for about 10 years now. I finally decided to go to a doctor. By the way, I was encouraged to go by a good friend who suffers from depression herself
The worst part is when you suddenly feel positive and decide to actually change. Like cleaning your room,taking care of yourself,have a healthy routine,do something productive.But then you just end up in bed thinking of how depressed and incapable you are to do any of this. Im so tired of this cycle.
EDIT: To all the people who find this relatable, im sorry. It sucks because its so easy to feel alone. We got this.
Too true, I actually felt like my life was getting much better 3 or 4 months ago and now I'm the lowest I have been ever.
Im so sorry about that , ur not alone.
It’s just essentially constant for me. I mean sure it’s not like I’m always overly depressed but I know that it’s always there. I’m usually tired, stuck in my head, just don’t enjoy things like I know I should and overall have little hope bc of what I battle everyday. Sure, your environment plays a huge factor into your mood and you have to take care of yourself but it’s difficult when you don’t even have the energy to do basic things to get you through the day and build on things to make you feel better.
hana burhaima that is exactly what I’m doing right now. I was ready to clean my room, but I’m in bed now.
Autumn C we're all in this together :( feel free to talk to me if u want
The 6 signs in summary:
1- avoiding social situations
2- feeling extra irritable
3- constantly tired
4- struggle to concentration
5- using unhealthy coping skills more and more
6- constant worry about past or future
I literally have all these signs and symptoms for 5 years :)
Same here... It hurts from the inside almost physically. I always feel like I'm receiving hits all over my body.
The fact that I have all these sign since I was thirteen
*has all of the symptoms*
Nah I don’t have depression
I’ve had these symptoms from a year
Oh no. Now what do we do
Sending all of my love and strength to each and all of those reading this right now.
thank you, i wish the same for everyone who reads this as well
1. avoiding social situations
2. extra irritable
3. constantly tired
4. struggle to concentrate, struggle to follow along
5. using unhealthy coping skills more and more
6. constant worry about past + future
Me in a nutshell.
I have depression. It seems my friend has the same symptoms as you
My friend doesn't call or text me back either
Facts bro 18 year and going. We have to just keep on going one day at a time
Damn yep that’s me 😢.
I thought this was just called being dead inside...
That's the clinical term :)
Lol no shit. Feel like this all the time.
Exactly.. that's what I thought haha
Ain’t that the truth
me af
I like how she was talking about concentration and I wasn’t paying attention and I had to repeat it
I just did the same thing 😂😂😂
Thought it was just me
you're a loser... did your mom bring you a snack yet?
I'm sorry but may I... For the love of God WHY
Bingo.. Me also
The fact I related to this video 6 years ago and just rewatched it feeling the same speaks a lot...
😢May God bless you. Keep fighting .
The whole “worrying about your past and future” thing really got me. I worry about my future every second of the day and I’m exhausting myself.
Me too but for me it’s because of my OCD more than my depression.
Vlasko60 sameeeee about replaying all my interactions ugh.
Omg me TOO
Bye Felicia same
Vlasko60 same
me: *has actually been diagnosed with depression*
also me: do i really have it tho
same
Well some therapists don't diagnose well.
Someitmes I'm like 'maybe im just faking it for attention' while also not telling anyone how I feel (?)
Irene Ortega me😭
@@IreneOrtega24 Definitely felt this way too. I worry it's just Munchausen syndrome! I've been assured this is part of the anxiety that goes with the depression, but I still worry that this is really some delusion on my part and that I'm just doing this to myself and I should be able to "just stop it" if I really wanted.
It feels like you're on fire and running on a treadmill. You have to keep going, even though you're in pain.
And that's how I feel since almost 3 years.
Yup.
Damn, I always said it's like swimming in the ocean, barely able to keep your head up and getting more and more tired. You cant see any land and you dont know why you keep swimming.
Aaaayyyy it's Seaaaaan!!!
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😰😨😭😭😭😭😭
I was diagnosed with dysthymia many years ago by a therapist. I’ve tried everything like counseling and medication. Nothing worked except for exercising witch gave me some relief, but didn’t solve the situation altogether. 😢. Today I’ve mostly given up and accepted the simptoms described as simply part of me. Hope you all have better luck. Cheers….
please read the Quran, it changed my life
Try talking to Jesus. Just ask Him if he is real and to reveal himself to you.
😂
You are not alone
I don't know if I have this but my symptoms are also feeling extremely tired/exhausted every day, no concentration at work, fake laughing at jokes but not finding anything even remotely funny, zoning out when watching videos/movies, I go to the store and buy hella sweets and chocolate and go home and eat all of it without even realizing what i"m doing... feeling empty all the time.. feeling like I failed in life whereas everyone else is getting their lives on track
I’m going to be honest when you said “ they might look completely fine but inside there exhausted and tired” I broke down
Me, too, Ciarra. Me, too.
Same
+1
Yep
You may think you’re exhausted and tired, really you just are self centered and egotistical
I'm almost 40 and I've experienced all these symptoms since middle school. I always figured that's just how life is.
That's exactly it. Most people don't realize anything is wrong or that they could feel differently. They think that's just the way it is. But doesn't have to be and you don't have to accept that. We are so fortunate to live in a time when we have modern medicine that can treat mental disorders. Medication has literally saved millions of lives. I talk from experience. (Please note that these medications are not "happy pills" . They are designed to correct the chemical imbalances that are creating the problem.) I urge you to ask your doctor to refer you to a psychiatrist who can properly diagnose you (I personally don't feel regular doctors should be doing that or prescribing meds.) It can change your life. It won't make it perfect, but it will make it wayyyyyy better and help you deal with anything that is difficult.
Im 25 and I a 100percent agree with you! But once u come out of it, in my case I mostly have or atleast thats what my prescriptions tell me, It’s like super saiyyan mode on! Like you just have all this great energy in general. My tip, MUSIC, WATER, WORKOUT!
Same for me except that i'm 33
i figured last month i have inattentive adhd and thats why school was shit... i feel you bro
Yep me too at least now we know it's not
At $180 per hour therapy isn't even an option for the majority of people.
Look into group therapy. It's often much cheaper and it's really reaffirming to know you're not alone in battling mental illness.
Try and find somewhere with counseling interns. Many of them offer free services (or a substantially lower rate than fully-licensed counselors)
Public mental health facilities.
Yes!! I can not afford mental health care. It is expensive.
A lot of them take insurance if you have it...
I'm so depressed that I don't even wanna treat it anymore. Just want it all to end
Please don’t say that, I too feel the same way however we can’t end over selves!!!
Your not alone sweetie pleaseeeee pray to the most high and ask god to help you and guide you in your life! I too pray and talk to god however sometimes u just allow my inner thinking to take control!!!
I can relate. I hope you are able to find some peace of my mind and happiness. Depression is awful and I’ve been battling it a long time but don’t give up things can improve. Take time everyday to do things you enjoy, work on a hobby, listen to uplifting music. I also highly recommend any kind of art therapy, there are many great beginner art lessons on RUclips.
@@leahreena7045 great advice, the most merciful has given us a test; we must understand the temporary nature of this life and try our best regardless, as eternity exists and we will be compensated for trials and how we responded to them. 🙏
@@wotizit absolutely 💯 ❤️🙏🏿
i can't even read books anymore when that was my most favorite thing to do.
@Mr.Jackson no cap‼️ just can’t focus
Reading this, a light bulb went off. You literally helped me make the connection that it’s been depression this whole time keeping me away from my love of reading and not just my disinterest in books!!!! I work in a library and have been really down on myself for the 5 years working there I’ve only been able to read 2 books. This makes so much sense.
Me either! I have so many physical and Kindle books I haven't read. It's been months since I've read a book.
Same. It's like you can't even escape in fiction.😐
I finally read a book this past week for the first time in months. It was a book of newspaper columns by a mother/daughter team - thought I'd ease back into it. Going to try fiction next. Trying to sleep right now but migraine keeping me awake.
Dont forget the TERRIBLE symptom of “brain cloud”-when you can barely form sentences and stutter alot. Sometimes i’ll forget what im saying while im saying it or i struggle to get the words out SMH
PrettyTiaF I’ve had that problem for months now, lol I’ve always had trouble finishing my sentences because I get distracted. But now Its so much worse and I’m constantly terrified that somethings genuinely wrong with my brain because I didn’t used to be that bad.
Its never happened to me before either till i kept getting older and seeing how sh*tty life is . When im talking to ppl i start feeling anxious, especially if i have to explain something and then I cant get the sentences out or my sentences need to be explained🤨🤨🤨😫😫😫😫
Yes!!!!
I stutter and cant finish sentences or concentrate and the fact that i have ADHD dosent help
Forgetting words, stuttering and not forming sentences! Yup 👍🏻
I’ve suffered with this since I was 17....50 years come September. MAN I’m tired. I pray for all of you. Please pray for me 😢
Oh God I totally understand I am 66 and have suffered since I was 19. Recently went into a major depression which has been a nightmare. I feel so hopeless like it will never end. I don't want to live but I don't want to die. I am trapped into a negative cycle of thinking 24 hours a day. I hospitalized myself a couple weeks ago because I didn't know what else to do. That was a mistake. They did nothing to help me. I started Ketamine therapy and have had two treatments. It relieved my depression for a short period of time. Hopefully it will last longer as the treatment goes on. I just want to get my appetite back and to have a little hope again. Thanks for your comments. I know how you feel. Much love.
Lose the prayer voodoo stuff, after half a century it's obviously not helping. Depression is difficult enough already, without the additional burden of superstition.
@@pterafirma some people believe in prayer and having faith can be rly helpful for many. if you feel like that, that's fine, but you dont need to come for her.
Are you okay now? I'll pray for you. Hope you're okay 🍅🍅
I’m a Christian and I found that it helps. My own depression was linked to unforgiveness. People truly wrong me and I asked God through Christ to help me forgive. I forgave myself and anyone who wronged me. My depression went away.
Hey you - yes, you reading this right now. I'm cheering for you because you are an amazing person. You were a thought in God's mind before the creation of the Universe, and that thought still makes Him incredibly happy. Never doubt your worth as a human being.
I'm 37 and I've felt like this my entire life. It's not depression for me, it's just my natural state. I've never known happiness so I don't know what I'm missing. Like a person who was born blind.
...Something could have happened before long term memory was developed
Be happy
Happiness is temporary, Joy which is peace from God is forever. Once I found Christ it was easier to overcome despair and depression.
I can vibe with this… I’m sorry, I truly know the feeling.
I relate to this.
"If you have it for more than 2 years"
*me 15 years later* erm.
Hey james! I have an account on mental health, physical health, and holistic health if you want to check it out ! I am going to be doing a lot more videos on mindset/mental health
James Oakley the rope is fun, I might have given it a go if they hadn’t memed it into the ground and taken all the glory out of it.
Great, I don’t even get an easy exit. Guess I’m dying the hard way, lung cancer or a stroke it is.
I just feel so many things to do and worry and so I just lost motivation to anything.
Kimberly Clark hey man good job on the channel
It truly is something nobody who hasn't had it understands. I've had this all my life. Constantly battling from a low depressed mood, and I'm exhausted all day every day, but I push myself, and everybody thinks I'm fine, or I open up with them, but they still wonder how you can be tired, and most people have very little empathy for it. I was physically bullied since the age of 4 to 15 by the same people. I was told I was ugly and stupid, and beated and sat on every day, nose broken, ankle sprained, ribs cracked etc. Then family life was unsettled, Dad had severe epilepsy, and now has dementia. I've had traumatic experiences which are too graphic to go into, and suffer with anxiety as well, but my PTSD is under control. I've had therapy, medication, you name it, but nothing works. My mood remains low all the time. I'm 38 now and it just doesn't go away. I tell people, my partner in particular that I'm exhausted, but he just doesn't understand, cant empathise and wants me to snap out of it. I end up just telling therapists that I feel a bit better when the therapy is nearing the end, because they've tried, and that's what they want to hear, but the truth is I dont. People who survive and push through this hell get zero credit for how hard this is, and how much they do to hide it, and the few times the mask slips they say something like "theres always something wrong with you". I'd like to see them try to deal with it. It's a nightmare.
me: **fits all criteria and relates to every point she makes**
also me: “i’m probably just faking everything, i don’t deserve to call myself depressed i’m just a shitty person who wants a disorder-“
That sentence after "also me" is a symptom of dysthymia...
Me asf
My thoughts exactly. I don't even know nothing anymore
Your not alone bro i have that same exact thought everyday to every other day it. also doesn't help when your compared to your to your selfish asshole drug dealer of a father.
#slowly dying inside
Aweee :(
Wish there was a therapist like her she seems to be well educated and understanding to my situations
Is it bad that I can’t remember the last time I haven’t felt depressed? Like I’m happy sometimes but I always feel it in the back of my mind, it’s just always there.
Edit: update
Hey you guys! Thank you for the support and sharing your stories in the replies. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety and I went to therapy and took meds for a couple months before quitting it all together. I’m doing better but I think that’s because I’m under a lot less stress than before. I’m still working on getting better and my memory is still eh but I’m improving and that’s what’s important :)
Me too. I think you should tell someone you trust. Tell the truth about how you feel regardless of what someone else may think.
Me too. Just learned to live with it. I cannot afford therapy. I guess I will try even harder to succeed than others and one day will get therapy
Same, it’s like it’s become a lifestyle/constant state with an occasional slight variable either way
I haven't felt genuinely happy (for more than a few minutes, at least) since I was a kid.
I remember my life before depression and social anxiety. Happy, outgoing, dreams and goals in life, loved people and social life, full of energy and I almost never got tired. Then the negative stuff happened and I lost all will to live. Everything is so hard, I have no energy and all I want is to sleep in bed all day. I don't want anything to do with people, especially in groups. I don't want to end myself, but I don't mind if a landslide took my house and me with me into oblivion 😑
@@AgentSmith911 I feel you. The mind can be a dark and cancerous place. I try to help myself but the darkness only bites back harder in return
I added this to my watch layer playlist, forgot about it, and found it 2 years later, after ive been diagnosed with dysthymia.
Sara Rankins what is that?
Sara Rankins oh i see
@@morganj6330 what's that? I think I have it, I've been struggling with depression since 2017
Jardiel Wendson it’s basically severe depression i think
Did any of you people actually watch the video
With dysthymia it’s like depression is just another part of your personality. You just don’t expect you’ll ever feel as you know you should and everyday just blends together and feels very bland.
Omg YES,that's exactly how I feel
Yes, that's how I feel.
Yes that's exactly it.. Occasionally I have a day I feel normal and dash around like superwoman completing loads of tasks then next day I flop! I can't take this anymore! I'm so tired all the time! I'm getting help tommorow👍
you're a bland, done nothing, know nothing, loser... cry to your mom to make you a snack, and maybe she'll cuddle you while you both watch Sponge Bob together.
@@VisualAssault2011 did that make you feel better about yourself
Wow! I feel like I’ve been living like this since childhood. ❤️ I’m currently working on healing my inner child. Art, music, nature and journaling have been helping me. 🙏🏽
This is my recommended I think RUclips is trying to tell me something
Yoel Rekts ! Me to
They've seen your middle of the night cheese eating sessions
Your phone is always listening and watching
Same man
Me too!
Does anyone kind of make up routines every day so you can be “perfect” and basically starve yourself, study and do exercise all day. But only do it for one day and then feel like shit for the rest of the week.
Oh my gosh, yes!
Yes
Yep!
I relate to this so much!!! Like having a sudden "boost" of motivation and wanting to get better, so I set up this routine so I can be "perfect" but then I do it for only one day because it's too much work and I can't keep up and then I feel worthless again
Swazzz EXACTLY!!!
I read fanfiction, sometimes for 8 hours a day, just to feel like the emotion the characters in the story feel. When I'm dealing with my own life I get anxious, hopeless. Tired all the time and hating myself for who I've become, for wasting previous time. I can never share my most inner thoughts because people will judge me for them.
Write your own ❤️
Or create or own characters.. Write their stories..
I spend a good amount of absolutely every day writing.. It's healing❤️
Dude go outside
I've done this same thing, and it got particularly worse when I went through a 2-3 month period of SUPER low moods, depression, and anxiety. This was my first year of college and it was during COVID, so not many social events were being done. And most were at a distance with masks on at all times. So I would wake up each morning and cry, go to class, get food, come back to my dorm and just read or watch YT for the rest of the day to distract myself from the constant horrible feelings. When I would do school work, I would only be driven by my anxiety that I would fail. I never learned a thing. And the only days I felt somewhat normal were when I would go home for the weekend, but even there I felt only partial relief (I have a narcissistic father). Then once I got back to college, I would cry all day and wish I was home. That was in the fall of 2020. But now? I still go through mental health struggles, but I've never been that bad ever again. I really think your environment and seeking support in your recovery is most important. If I never left that college, and if I never moved away from home for good? I'm not sure would have ever gotten to where I am today. And even getting a therapist for a bit helped me understand myself better. So...even though you may feel absolutely hopeless, try. Even if it's something small, like drinking adequate water each day, watching a movie that always makes you feel happy (any Barbie movie does this for me), or doing a craft kit. With these seemingly small things, you may see results. And, of course, as Kati said...always seek help. It may feel daunting - it was for me - but it is the single most important thing to have someone to vent to and affirm how I felt. I used to feel like was crazy, but professionals I've met always made me feel like I wasn't. Also - I would advise you delete the apps you read fanfiction on and refrain from visiting those sites for a week and see how you feel. You can never sort through your emotions if you constantly distract yourself, that only makes it worse. P.S. To reference one of the comments in this thread already, writing stories yourself really is a great form of therapy! It has helped me to better understand myself and others :)
yep!! me too!!! catharsis 100%
@@nawdude4292 Going outside doesn't help. I've got the same exact problem, except I spend most of my time backpacking and camping. My dog was an amazing companion. It hasn't been the same since. I think I need to touch less grass and connect to actual people. but they make it so hard and unsatisfactory, unlike dogs.
People really need to listen and heed your words. I have lived with this as long as I can remember and yet only heard of dysthymia about 15 years ago. I'm 63 and this has crippled me more than the diabetes that I have struggled with for 50 years. Please seek help as soon as possible. It only becomes harder with age.
wow I thought all those symptoms were just my shitty personality..
P. Adolpha please forgive me, but that was pretty funny 😂
Same 😅
That made my night and your hot and bulimic just like the white girl in the video
Joel Morales it seems your phone auto-corrected
beautiful to bulimic, might wanna proofread next time 💋
@@p.adolpha7808 oh Damm your right my apologies!!! Ya I meant to say Beautiful your BF or Husband is a lucky guy
That moment when you've been depressed since you were 12 and you just learned to live with it throughout your teenage years.
THIS LOL
Lol same 😅
Yup. And because it's been going on for so long and during your formative years, you no longer know where your true personality ends and the illness begins...
I've been depressed since i was 11
And now iam 15 with the same situation
and now im 21.
Sitting here with tears streaming down my face. I’ve felt this way since 8th grade. I’m almost 21 now. I don’t know how to ask for help. I don’t feel like I can be fixed.
Smooth Tommy Vermooth no. I stopped going to college after the first year. I used to love school and learning but something happened senior year and now I hate it.
Please talk to your doctor and/or a counselor!
@@RyleeCrazze229 The love of learning suddenly lost? Yeah I have that too. If sucks and it makes life impossible. If there is no motivation or joy in something you do you'll do it poorly. If that is school then you're jusr fucked ._.
Rylee MacKay I feel this so damn much. I would love to talk with you just so we can know we have the same thing going on... Instagram me: crazyredhead138
Rylee MacKay you’re not alone every single day I push away the bad thoughts and force myself to keep living even though I’m numb and careless.
This showed up out of nowhere for me today. Not the dysthymia, but the video. I checked off almost every box on this and it explains a lot. I'm 67 and realize this has been my default setting since I was a teenager, for a variety of reasons. I have so many unhealthy coping mechanisms that I'm not sure where to start, but I have to start somewhere. Thank you for sending this bolt of lightening into my life. 🥰
me telling myself that I'm not depressed, just lazy, then beating myself up over it, having extreme mental breakdowns, anxiety attacks, all of it. yeah im totally fine.
Well, at least you realize you might have it
Wow this is literally me
I used to have anxiety attacks really bad last year, and I always blamed it on myself and I never told anyone about it. Not like I could tell anyone about it, most of my religious family would probably think I'm weird or "of the devil" and not wanna talk to me, and I only had one friend but I didn't wanna tell them because they might think differently of me or think I'm crazy or something, and even if they didn't, it was a very hard time for everybody last year, and I didn't wanna be a downer always talking about my problems and dumping them on other people, when there's already MANY more important things to be worrying about, so I just kept it to myself.
Wow this is me too SMH
me too.
Another possible symptom: Frequently, "not feeling well." headaches, stomach, ect
Agreed!! xoxo
I feel like this one RUclips video has literally just explained my life 🙃
I always wonder if everyone feels tired all the time and feels a little nouseous (spelled correctly) and has headaches constantly :/ whenever I see a therapist I just stop because I feel like I’m normal but just whiny
Seriously!? Omg this has been my personality since 2015 !!! I nvr knew that this was an ACTUAL thing i thought i was seriously thinking im going insane , ive lost friends family boy friends because they say im completely 180 now like they dony know how to talk to me or hell me amd i cant talk to them i get a lump in my throat wen i try anyone el addict who has this PLEASE CONTACT ME
the physical parts including the fatigue and it being difficult to be with other people need to be addressed. You are judging against your self and stopping a process that could help you live a happier life. It is a process, and takes time, worth it.
Some of us want to go to therapy but can't afford it...
Sasha exactly my problem!! How can I get help??
I wish I had an answer
Shit.. too close to home, I was thinking of calling suicide line or something, cus even the cheapest(and reasonably so since they study so many years) therapy is $60 per hour
I've got this issue. Tbh if I had the money I still wouldn't pay for it cuz I'm cheap when it comes to my health and well being. But I've notice talking to my pet, out loud to myself, and writing thoughts down really help me out
Same...how are people supposed to get better when mental health services are really expensive.
I am really glad I found this video.
I have dealt with these symptoms for the last seven years. After I lost my leg I was told that I had PTSD and that I should join a support group. I quit going because it seemed like everyone there was feeling sorry for themselves or living vicariously through others. I have been prescribed several different meds
The one thing that has helped me is nature. I love all animals helping them has really helped me.
very sorry for your loss.
I will pray for you.
At least, now i'm function high at something :D
Anyone with symptoms of mental health issues should check out the Andrew Cutler protocol. Google «andy cutler rebecca rust lee» for a great article explaining the protocol, and search for the success stories, and «what not to do» as there are things that you might be taking that is hurting you, like cilantro and chlorella. Wish you all the best
haha this is great
That’s the spirit! :D
I just legit-laughed rather than snort-laugh.
Damn, I felt that in my soul! 😄😐😞😭
I feel embarrassed for being depressed.
I do sometimes too.
I never really thought about it though
Nothing to be embarrassed for❤️ You’re not alone, and also think that this world is not always a happy place (quite the opposite)and we, as human beings, have emotions and feeling depressed is a normal reaction to some events in our life. On the other hand, depression can also occur due to chemical issues in our brains, without any specific trigger. It just happens. Never feel ashamed darling❤️ Depression can happen to anyone, at any age, during the course of our life. We’re all humans. No one has achieved “the perfect life” even if sometimes people try hard to present their “perfect lives” via social media for example🙏🏻❤️
I feel extremely ashamed and angry about my anxiety, and I used to be constantly in denial about it.
@Austin Martín Hernández Yeah im also 21 and have a penis and my family thinks I overreact to everything. They think im too emotional for a guy. I want to hang out with my family more but I cant find enjoyment in it. I cant fake a fucking smile whenever they make a joke. And for the life of me I cant make a joke.
@Austin Martín Hernández yea been living with the same for 4 years now. It gets better and worse... You ever feel like you never know what exactly to say in social situations? And always overthink every response you should have and sometimes can't focus on what people are actually saying
Diagnosed when I was 9. To me it feels like always having homesickness, but never knowing what or where I’m homesick for or if it even if it exists. The other symptoms seem to stem from that constant feeling. It’s exhausting.
Anyone reading this who is unsure as to whether to seek help, my advice is to absolutely give it a try! When you’re feeling hopeless, it might seem like nothing will help you, but the right combination of treatments is possible!
Kirsten S. Yes! You put exactly how I feel into words.
I have that same feeling of homesickness but not feeling like anywhere is "home"
I would always cry in my bed wailing, "This isn't my home, I want to go home," even though this _is_ my home, and I _do_ live here. I had problems at home with siblings, my dad, and guilt. My mom treated my condition like it was ridiculous, but overtime, she changed her outlook. Nowadays, she's extremely supportive.
Oh my god, you put words to how I feel....constant homesickness - i always feel like I want to go home, then when I’m home and have to deal with my parents and stuff I have the same feeling again but I’m home already - homesick for nowhere basically
Lady youre telling me to trade one problem for another
Prayers for everyone dealing with this…you’re NOT alone!! Don’t Ever Give Up!!! You are worthy…WE ALL ARE!!🙏💜❤️🩹
Found myself crying as you mention the list of symptoms, idk why, but I felt understood for once.
Sending hugs x
Same here. Been feeling every one of these symptoms for over 5 years since my dad died. Keep our head up, or at least we try..
Hey, u r worth it. U r loved. We can fight this. Sending this message to all that has the signs, we will fight this
I honestly dont understand myself even
@@bradleymenezes6196 just remember crying is healthy sometimes, you cant bottle up your emotions or you get high/low blood pressure and then you feel sick or just pain and then your emotions just blow up and then you feel acwerd after. idk but for me i can only cry every cupple munths, i just cant in between its weird. So ig i do what i said is unhealthy. Whatever makes you feel better, i wont talk about anything else incase i say something stupid.
Any time that I've tried to talk about my depression, people always get angry and tell me my problems are nothing compared to theirs and I should just get over it.
Don’t talk to those people
Don't tell them anything because they don't care
I see that you've had 79 replies. I hope SOMEBODY pointed out that a lot of people just aren't good listeners, and don't realize they're being selfish. You are entitled to feel better than this. See if you can find some way to afford treatment. Are you eligible for medicaid? If not, does your county offer free or low cost counseling? If you are under 18 and your parents are doing this, how about a school guidance counselor? I hope you find something that works. I like your screen name and hope it isn't how your family is making you feel about yourself. I bet you are an excellent writer.
Don't tell those selfish people your problems see a therapist they'll listen to everything you have to say. And actually care enough to want to help you that's what they're there for don't talk to people that dismiss you and invalidate you I know what you're talkin about they only care about their self tune them out when they've got to tell you their problems to just tune them out
I feel that. Those people are not worth being in your life
I felt this way for 2.5 years until my endocrinologist finally increased my thyroid medication, and these feelings finally went away. It was hell! The worst part was everyone kept telling me I'm fine and should just stop complaining.
xzonia1 I'm sorry the people around you didn't validate you. Sometimes just 1 person that says "I understand" can really make a difference. Take care of yourself, honey.
Thanks Jen!
I had the exact same thing until i finally went to an endocrinologist and now im taking double the dosage of thyroxid medication i was taking before and Im feeling soo much better!!
That is the worst!!! Thank you for sharing your story.. I didn't even think to mention how our thyroid can cause these symptoms too. xoxo
iflymilly - That's terrible! I had to wait 3 months before the doctor I saw would treat me when I first had problems with my thyroid. I could hardly put one foot in front of the other by the time he finally gave me thyroid medicine because he said he wouldn't treat me until my thyroid was 100% dead (which it was after 3 months). You should definitely see an endocrinologist if it's a regular GP refusing to treat you; that was the mistake I made back then, seeing a regular doctor instead of a specialist.
As for holistic measures, I never went that route, so I have no advice to give as far as what might work. (Sorry!) I hope you receive the medical help you need soon! I know how awful it is having to fight just to be treated.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.sporesss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
When you zone out and can’t concentrate on a video about Dysthymia because you have Dysthymia
Me
YES!!
omg that literally happened to me while watching haha;;
Me
No. When you zone out and can’t concentrate on a video about Dysthymia because the video is shallow and a little repetitive.
Over sleeping is another possible symptom. It's my only escape
Ever think of living in a vr world? Would be more interesting than this sorry existence.
Barbara Cahn I over sleep because I’m so depressed I can’t sleep if that makes sense
I can sleep only not at night
same. and overconsuming youtube
Im with you. I sleep all weekend, every weekend
What we need is to live in a society that recognizes mental illness as something just as harmful and real as physical ailments, deserving of funding and support. Hopefully someday soon that will happen, so so many people suffer from this, too afraid to reach out or simply not able to afford treatment.
Trevor Gonson Stop ignoring it or stigmatizing it, and put funding towards therapy and the improvement of mental hospitals. Universal healthcare that includes access to free therapy would be a huge help.
Colin Harris exactly what's happening great post. Living in hell
I’ve learned the hard way to keep it bottle up and work it out yourself. No one I’ve ever told has helped me, they either rolled their eyes and said It’s all in my head or would just scold me for all my mistakes that I’ve apologized for over and over or I took accountability for. People truly just don’t care and are selfish enough to show you by action. For some people, we just have to accept we are in this alone and we have to be our biggest cheerleaders during low times. No one will get you up but you.
partly agree, but also not, bcuz there really are suitable personalities or characters in ppl out there who will be relatively supportive of you. The default or avg person is not, particuliarly in cultures i've been in and am from, i.e northern european orientated, etc. And even other euro cultures can be same and worse, depending exactly which and what types of ppl we're talking about. In times like the past decade in western societies, we either needed to find like-minded ppl or we were gonna get into a trap of being truly alone. If u are under 40ish, u have likely fallen into that trap. You must get out of it and be very fussy about who u associate with.
It’s kind of sad that I need RUclips to have someone to relate to when it comes to this. However, it’s still better than having nothing at all. Just sayin.
No it's not sad, it's a place to find out others feel the same.... & we can do something about it!
you're a loser.
@@VisualAssault2011 leave him alone. He's trying his best, stop being an insecure dickhead. You're a loser.
Me too daron, me too
Me too daron
I'm at a stage now where I cant really feel sad anymore. I dont have any tears left to cry. Now I'm just numb, broken, empty. I dont care about anything anymore.
Exactly, I have to try really hard to get emotional and actually cry these days, it's like all the emotion is just gone
Yep. Apathy is my main operating standard. Has been for many years. I just cannot climb out of that well.
I'm sorry you all feel this way ❤ I swear I have enough tears for all of us lol
I'm on the same page, but I refuse to go over the edge.
Yella fella, hang in there ,bud, at least you know youre not alone . It seems that, good, bad or ugly, things never stay the same, so this will change too soon...just try not to get in your own way, know what I mean? Nature always turns me around for the better. Time for a walk in nature, a hike in the hills, a ride down the river, a trip to the beach, or a bike ride around the neighborhood. Pick one and repeat each day until you can shake it. Dont give up, you got this !!
Opening up about depression is hard. Its hard to be like "yeah i need help" i mean, how do you even start a convo when you have no idea how the other person will respond. I cant even tell me my family as im affraid they will start worrying too much which will make me more anxious.
I tried telling a close a friend
"Im not happy"
"What you got to be unhappy about" he says casually
"....nothing, im just tired"
It gets awkard and its stressing enough for me to even talk to people. Never mind open up.
How do others open up?
James Oakley unfortunately I cant answer your question, but I can let you know that you’re not alone. I struggle immensely with being open with others. It’s miserable because there’s so much people like us have to say, but often just can’t. I suggest trying as hard as you can to find a friend to vent to. They don’t even have to be super close. I remember the one person I’ve opened up to was one of that last people I’d expect to see myself do so with! Keep hanging in there. Things get better. Keep your head up! It’s always okay to not be okay!
I can't tell my fam they'll surely get angry
say something like “i need help”
“i’ve been feeling depressed lately”
i know it’s hard but it’s not just gonna go away if you keep ignoring it.
James Oakley I think it’s honestly who you are talking in order to open up to cause people just don’t know how to react in those situations. I personally tried one time and never talked about it again in but I wrote it down in a letter situation to my mom and sent it to her so she would actually have to pay attention to me and it helped me compartmentalize my thoughts. It worked for me and how to explain why and when. Idk if it helped my mom truly understand she’s not a very empathetic person
my family found out i was depressed and self harmed and wanted to die and got mad at me and threatened to send me away !! that moment fucked me up and ive only gotten worse since
I have had it all my life and it led to chronic alcoholism which almost killed me. I got help and have been sober for 10 years. I don't take medication or anything for it I have found that fellowship with others like myself (A.A. in my case) has been an enormous asset to me. I have re-wired my brain to perceive reality differently. The first few years were hell but it paid off.
Depression is like a shadow. It’s been a part of me my whole life.
Maybe it is not depression, but simple sadness because you live in this sick time.
Same here... at least the shade is nice...
@@theq6797 What's specially sick about these times ? .. Trump and polio have gone and silly religions are in decline..etc etc Rejoice !
depression is sometimes called "the dark passenger", you learn how to defuse the triggers and how to get back on your feet more efficiently, but it never goes away
@@SilverWolf3862 Can you say "dark passenger" in 2023 or will the bot pick you out ?
Feels like it's always going to go away tomorrow but never actually goes away so I just fall deeper into not caring about anything
Anyone: how are you?
Me: “immediately annoyed”
😂😂😂 relate!
Maybe you’re just an arse hole?
@@TheMCNemesisOnAmazonMusic naw its just we dont wanna talk to anyone
sAME omg. i fucking hate that question
Just tell the truth one time and you'll find that people don't ask you that question as much.
And until you're able to see your therapist, exercise!
It almost brings tears to my eyes thinking of the state I was in before I recently started a daily exercise routine and where I am now.
I’m thoroughly convinced that if someone says they’ve never been this depressed before, they have to be lying.
It doesn’t make any sense to me that this is a mental disorder because it just feels so normal.
Agree
Had it since I was 21 .. 46 now and it’s so tiring, on ongoing battle which i won’t let beat me, I have felt suicidal many times but what would that gain???... I’m scared of dying and living, I’m stuck in between and worry constantly and am lonely in a crowd of friends, it’s horrible but I’m too mentally strong to be beaten, my sympathies and love to all other sufferers xxx
You are strong to persist, but might I suggest adjusting your energy. Instead of fighting against the world and yourself to defend yourself, why don't you take a good look inside and find out what you're REALLY afraid of. It shouldn't be death because you're not dying right now. I might assume that you afraid of the things we all are: being alone, not really living, being unhappy all your life, never "getting anywhere" - but as long as you choose to focus on your fear and fighting a war with it, you will always be in war. And prolonged war is never good for anyone - a country or a person. Find a way to make peace, the answers are inside yourself. Once you figure out the true source of your fear, face it, and begin making changes in your life for the better, you will begin paving your way upward - and you will find I think that if you can manage this great feat, more things will begin falling into place than you could imagine.
I feel the same way. I don’t even have friends. I have lost them over the years due to alcoholism. I’ve been sober now over a year. Even when I try to make new friendships they never last and I figure it’s just me and this is how life is going to be.
Natalie Gatto I wish you well and luck in staying sober, that’s a massive achievement!!, you will gradually get a new circle of friends as your confidence returns I bet you👍
neil williams thank you. I wish you the best and stay strong.
Natalie Gatto you’re welcome
Sign 1: You clicked this video
Sign 2: You only watched this video for about 2 minutes, because you couldn't take any more of Kati Morton.
@@mpemberton7760 I saw your comment at 01.56.
@@count7340 ok
Anyone with symptoms of mental health issues , autoimmune or other health issues should check out the Andrew Cutler protocol. And getting the right nutrients and a good diet for you is very important, often like a weston price style diet with good fats, protein and vegetables. Google «andy cutler rebecca rust lee» for a great article explaining the protocol, and search for the success stories, and «what not to do» as there are things that you might be taking that is hurting you, like cilantro and chlorella. Please join the Facebook group for incredible support Wish you all the best
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Yes I all those symptoms have had Depression all my life. This narrows it down.
To anyone reading this, I promise it gets better. I've been as depressed as anyone can be. I've been so depressed at times that even getting out of bed seemed pointless. I've been suicidal soo maaany days. I know how much the feeling that no one cares enough hurts. I know how you can be in a room full of people and still feel lonely. I know the feeling of being empty and numb to anything, literally not knowing what joy or happiness even feel like. I know the feeling of extreme heartbreak when you just love a person so fricking much, but they just don't feel the same or even acknowledge this feeling of yours. I know the feeling you get when your parents constantly let you down whenever you need them, simply passing by looking like they don't give a shit. I know the feeling we feel when everyone, and I mean everyone, feels fake. I know how much it hurts to feel like there is no end to this. I know the feeling that nothing seems to make sense. I know the feeling of wanting/needing to cry but you can't even do that. I know the feeling of constant pressure from everywhere. I know the feeling of being afraid. I know the feeling of not feeling safe, not even in your own bed. I know the feeling of being weak. I know tge feeling of giving it your best and its still not enough. I know the feeling of gradually losing interest in everything you once loved. I know the feeling not understanding how the world works anymore. I know the feeling when we are just hurting so bad, and are trying our very best buy just can't do it. We don't know how to do it. We don't even know what it is. All we know is that we are just hurting. I know the feeling of questioning ourselves. I know the feeling of needing just any kind of approval. I know the feeling of needing a friend, just one friend. I know the feeling of everything seeming like its a dream. Like your awake, but your just not you anymore, your just observing everything, even yourself at times, never truly feeling anything. I know the feeling of people counting on you so you try to help them because you know how it feels to hurt, hoping that someday someone might actually help you, but no one comes, not even the ones that seem to care about you, not even the ones that you helped and have always been there for. I know the feeling of questioning yourself. I know the feeling of trying to convince yourself that all of this is normal. I know the feeling of trying to remember the last time you felt anything, let alone happiness. I know the feeling no energy, no will. I know the feeling of hate towards everything and everyone. I know the feeling of guilt. I know the feeling of having to parent your parent. I know the feeling of trying to convince yourself that tomorrow will be better, but it just never is. I know the feeling finally feeling something but then your so afraid of it, so afraid of losing it, that you do. I know the feeling of finally starting to open up to someone just so they can leave after one mistake, or after you've said something they didn't want to hear. I know the feeling of being always tired of everything. I know the feeling of feeling that it can't get any worse but it does. I know the feeling of being empty, I know the feeling of relapsing. I know the feeling of being alone because no one gets if. I know the feeling of just wanting to stay in bed. I know the feeling being shook to your core. I know the feeling of sudden panic out of nowhere. I know the feeling of wanting to die.
But I also know that it does get better, and this isn't some kind of false hope. It really does. It's slow as hell, but it does.
I've suffered from borderline depression, severe anxiety, adhd (mild), and emotional abuse for several years, (and I still am) but I'm still here fighting.
We need to know that we are not alone.✊ Even though you may not believe it, or might not even like it, but we are not alone. ✊
And please know that we need to stick together, its make it that much easier, to have a shoulder that you can lean on. So please if you are sad, if your are scared, if you are in need of someone, please know that I am too. Please just like this so others can see it. Like it if you wanna help me, like it if want to be helped.
Reply with what YOU feel, or reply with a ✊if you want to help me and others.
(P.S. I swear to you, i am not doing this for the likes, ((FUCK THE LIKES!)) I'm doing this because I need support, I need to prove to myself that someone cares just like I truly, honestly, genuinely, whole heartedly. care for you)
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Thank you
@@liyahsblackass7334 you really helped
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❤️❤️❤️ There will be light at the end of the tunnel, keeping this though even in the worst moments
This is literally the crisis of our culture.
And it should only expect to grow exponentially with time. Sadly.
Absolutely
This is highly contributed by our current time where we work longer and harder just to meet multiple demands. Work is now a religion and it's driving people crazier
This is how everyone feels right? Like, this is just life, no?
rite?
Not actually at all tbh
I was thinking the same thing as I was watching it because it’s been so long. BUT, there was a time I didn’t feel this way.
I think a natural life has very high ups, and very low downs and level in between, it is a flow, we arent guaranteed a wonderful stress free life with no problems or anxiety, and it is o.k to be a little depressed once in a while, you just have to be able to hang that coat up and go on with your life, obviously there are people who are in the extreme with this and do need help, but others that see and read this kind of stuff are not clinical, they are normal and just experiencing lifef but have others telling them "you are depressed, you need help" everything in your life does not need to have a label.
I thought the same thing before I got on meds. Now I’m so much better. I can’t believe I let myself feel like that for so long.
What an incredible video..... What makes it even harder when you reach out to your medical professional and they pass it off. That's on the same level when you have a "trusted" friend to tell you that you are ungrateful for all of the blessings in your life and just to get over it.
I think I have this bc I can force myself to get up to go to work but that's all I'm doing with my life. I wake up, go to work, come home, go to sleep. I don't want to hang out with friends. I don't want to leave the house on my days off.
Erwin Smith I’m exactly the same. But I’ve learned to accept myself like this, and simply indulge in what my mind and body want and need. There are naturally times when it feels like I’m wasting my life away, like should invest in putting time and effort into people. But it’s draining, and honestly, not always worth it.
Yeah. And often I wonder if this is what life is, what sense does it even make to be here. About to start therapy sometime soon though, shall see if it helps change something. Can't live my whole life like this.
Erwin Smith same kinda. I force wake up to go to school and force myself to stay awake though tired
Ooh an AOT fan.
@@19mirrah92 stay strong
The thought of "getting better" makes me feel guilty. I don't deserve to be better. I put myself here.
If u want better u deserve better, desire creates motivation, creates action, creates improvement, sometimes hah
I know this feeling it's the feeling of guilt
Now m feeling hopeless no hope for life
true
I don’t want to reach out. I feel like I’m just making a big deal out of nothing. My life is fine
rockinstrawberries just because someone is in a full-body cast doesn’t mean your “broken arm” doesn’t hurt. You have every right to reach out. Even if your life is seemingly “enough.” I hope this helps.
@@renewyou19 Thank you so much
I am glad to hear your issue isn't that big and that you are doing fine.
I can identify with this. But I try and remind myself that reaching out means I have strength, rather than mean I’m weak. Hugs. Let’s try to beat this together!
Me every time I consider reaching out
Thank you so much. This feels the most accurate to my life sitch. Social media's gone crazy today with everyone saying they're autistic, adhd, anxious and depressed. Dysthymia is something I've always been subconsciously aware and running from much of my adult life.
Telling everyone "I'm fine & faking a smile", so you don't have to discuss it.
You tell them that you're faking a smile? Interesting technique.
@@NovaPrima I should definitely try that lmao
Great now that this is in my head, I'll probably say it by accident. \_(•0•)_/
Dont tell them that...
Because you've discussed it 1000 times
Wow this is totally me! I was diagnosed with clinical depression back in 2012, but I could still get out of bed and put on a happy face and "perform" when needed, so I was confused. Dysthymia fits perfectly. Completely drained 24/7 and it never ends.
Eric Champlin same. I kept going through the list like yep that’s me. Check. Check. Check.
When's the last time you've gone on vacation?
Blazingbunny you’re probably not addressing me but I literally was on a week long vacation 2 weeks ago and I’m back to feeling drained and exhausted 24/7 now that I’m back at work. A vacation won’t cure you trust me lol
It was just a hunch after reading the first comment. Did you feel better during your vacation?
Edit: it might not cure you, but maybe you got some hints? The last time I went on vacation it didn't matter. The exhaustion travels with me.
It has been a long time since I've had a good vacation. :/
Dysthymia kicked my creativity to the depths of darkness. It's like I never was.
Its made me really creative insteaf
What's that
oh my god... this. I used to draw everyday, all day. now i can't even sketch without feeling exhausted and sick of it
Same.I actually started to grow and getout of it.But some ppl put me back.As long as i can remember ppl around me supress my intuition and imagination,so maybe thats why i go back inside me to understand what i did wrong.
This comment literally brought me to tears i couldn't word it any better
I watched this because I've noticed that since middle school my mental health had deteriorated and I was really hoping that I was overthinking everything but it almost all lined up too perfectly. Not going to diagnose myself though, but it's definitely a sign that something is wrong. I know I have a early childhood trauma but it just doesn't feel like that's the root of the problem since I feel like I've moved on.
it’s actually scary how i relate to every single symptom...
Ditto
Yeah, that happens with everyone for a lot of diseases.When you have an inkling that you have a problem ,you aren't thinking objectively and self affirming by looking at things selectively.
There is a reason why actual medical professionals hate self diagnosis and the use of Internet by patients for their problems.
Mohammad Fahad definitely. self diagnosis is a dangerous thing. i recently got diagnosed, so my suspicions were correct unfortunately.
I’m tired of being dysthymic. I can’t remember the last time I felt ok. But I get up and keep going.
Betty Bane I can relate as well, but I pray you can feel better and maybe at some point be able to go to therapy if you feel it would be helpful. try to atleast once a day take time to yourself for something that relaxes you or that you enjoy. Hang in there, things can only get better 💜
After hearing the symptoms of Dysthymia, it just started after my wife turned lesbian... it’s getting worse by the day I feel.
Burn shit
Glad you get up and keep going. Nothing or no one should stop you from living your life.
And I hope you keep doing that. That’s all you can do for now and you’re so strong for that. Believe me, I understand how you feel. I really, really hope you get to feeling better soon.
This is so important because dysthymia gets hidden or overlooked all the time. Thank you kati
You are very welcome :) xoxo
I had almost 20 years of depression, now researching all of the reasons why, including CPTSD, PTSD, Dissasociation, etc
Something that plays a big part in my depression is feeling lonely and constantly wanting a hug or comfort
yeah, that and for me, its day dreaming about the time when I finally get my shit together and start working on my health and hobbies, putting myself out there so that I finally have a chance of finding a partner who gives you hugs and comforts you.... instead of what I am currently doing... which is just doing the bare minimum so that I don't get fired and can still pay the rent next month
Well here's a big Internet hug for you stranger!
I used to crave hugs and comfort. Now, if anyone tried to hug me it pisses me off. I don't need it now. I needed it then and I didn't get it so ... guess I'm done.
Here's another one. :)
Well then take ownership of the situation and build a relationship with someone who can you can have hug and comfort with.
Interesting, she described most of my life ever since adolescence. More than a decade ago.
Decades for me. I checked every box on her list. Luckily, I quit drinking alcohol 5 years ago. My insurance does not cover mental health and I work in health care. Mental health is just brushed aside too much.
Absolutely! Me too! 22 years now.
I've been to counsellors and psychologists many times over the years and been on antidepressants (tried a number of different types, always under GP guidance) for 17 years now. I don't know if there's any other way for me to be. It's hard.
reading these comments has literally made me start crying, hi hope all who reads this (yes you there) reaches out to the people around you for the help you need and deserve. no one deserves to be kept in there own cell by themselves
Thank you for your words. 🙏🏻
It's lasted for 27 years but God has pulled me through the mud. I appreciate this video. Signs number 1,3,4,5,6 I had an opportunity as a child to fix it with therapy but I think I waited too long. It's lead to worse. God is keeping me through it though, somehow
I’m not trying to self diagnose myself... but by 1:40 I was convinced
With this list, everybody can self diagnose themselves tbh
@@1996Pinocchio
You might want to reword that. Sounds like a dick move to everyone that actually have this and are just learning what they have.
I got all of them
Shit
hey what's up guys? Same🤦🏻♀️
same
funny those symptoms just describe me from the age of 14 to today. even if I had dysthymia, my mother would just get indignant and go "what do you have to be sad about." like it would be a burden for her, not me.
Shiirow a counselor can help create a more loving non toxic support system. My mother was zero help with this, unfortunately. Try to forgive them and create a new life for yourself. They can only do the best with the knowledge they have at the time. If you have never had it, you can never understand it. Plain and simple. Good luck on your journey, a fellow dysthymia sufferer.
Sounds like narcissism. Don't let someone else trying to squash your value impact whether you treat yourself as important x
Your mother sounds like my ex-wife.
Kayla Hall the counselor tells your parents, so like what’s the point.
exactly the same as my mother she also says if you clean the house and do chores you'd feel better and wouldn't think about thereby i told her i smoked she felt disgusted of me god knows with no health insurance low income
and no job i don't know what to do and i'm thinking about smoking which is coming from anxiety every single day
"And everyone around you just seems to be frustrating and annoying"
Hearing about it already makes me so annoyed-
I realized I didn't hate the cabinet door
I hated my life
my house
my family
my backyard
my power mower
nothing would ever change
nothing new could ever be expected
Thank you, Kati. Thank you for vindicating the pain I'm going through. I have been at the receiving end of emotional and mental abuse from a narcissistic sociopath of a mother. After decades of having my relationships sabotaged and gaslit, I'm building boundaries and getting help from the VA. I don't think I would have considered reaching out for help because for so long, I've been told I'm just a terrible person. Again, Thank you for sharing your professional knowledge. No doubt, I'm not the only person you are helping with these videos.
aight once she started listing the symptoms i felt increasingly attacked after each one
celestina you felt attacked? What do you mean by that
celestina exactly!!!! Me in a nutshell! Let me call my doc
It's just Way of talking / Expression
Krm G I still don’t get it. The woman here is simply describing the symptoms not laying claim
Krm G so if by saying ‘feeling attacked’ she means feeling inadvertently singled out or labeled as result of the information divulged here, that I can understand
Depression is Cancer of the Soul.
I 've sold to the devil for nothing
How true. People have much empathy for people who have Cancer. Depression or other MH problems not at all.
@@zeldolinsky6979 Exactly. I remember going through a particularly long and pretty dark battle. I knew that when friends would ask how I was doing or what seemed to be the matter, that they meant well. But I was just so tired of trying to explain what I couldn't understand, myself. So one day I was meeting with yet another counselor, and he asked the standard "So... What seems to be going on?" I sat for a bit trying to form a cohesive answer, and it just came to me! I looked up and said "I have cancer of the soul."
Perfectly concise description of profound depression. It's especially helpful when you're talking to people who are either skeptical or simply have no frame of reference about mental illness. ☮️
Torey W I hope it has helped you as best it can. My experience with therapists was never good and they abandoned me.
No. Cancer is the cancer of the soul.
The hard part is identifying most of these symptoms but not all and thinking "oh I dont experience it as bad as she describes so I must just be sad"
I've lived with MDD most of my life and I don't know how I have never heard the term "Dysthymia" before. I've been trying to explain this feeling for years to my therapist (and doctors). Because I know the signs of depression, I know the feelings, I know and have experienced all aspects of it. It's not a deep depression (although it can be at times) but it's for sure noticeable. This was helpful. Thank you.
hello. my name is Ainsley. i have depression and anxiety. this started when I was 11 years old. when I was this age, I was scared to talk about it with my mom. my mom is super kind, and I love her, and she would except me no matter what. I was also scared to tell my dad. we where super close. he loves me and I love him too. my parents love me and I love them, but I was still scared to tell them. one night, I told my mom how i felt. however, I acted like I didn’t know what was going on. I told her I felt angry, bottled up, trapped in my own mind. she told me to listen to nice music, and to clear my mind. all I wanted was to talk to her. she didn’t get it. she was very smart, and trained to be a therapist, but what she told me to do made me angrier. every night, I was choking back tears, but I didn’t know why. I didn’t know why I was so sad. that’s when I first discovered I had depression. I later did get diagnosed with it. I was about 10 when I suspected anxiety. I use to be very outgoing not scared of anything, courage’s, talkative, and fun. around these anxious times is when I started doing a lot of dance. I got scared to go to dance and didn’t want to see anybody there cause I thought they would judge me. I also would lay in my bed for hours thinking about what I can do to make friends. I was stupid and made the decision to bottle up my emotions. soon, I got a journal. I wrote in it a lot. it’s was my way of therapy. I am much older now, and nobody know about it, but I got much better. I am still ‘too hard’ on myself, and yes, I still show symptoms of anxiety and depression. but I think it’s gone. The point of this was to tell you it DOES get better. And that you are to loved and too amazing to leave.♥️
Thank you for sharing your story, much love to you
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Wow thanks a lot for your story. I always tell myself it’s going to get better and it does. I just try to think positive about things and remaining humble also helps me to know that I am grateful and thank you. It is a struggle tho when you have nobody in your corner. But yes the journals have helped me alot too. And sometimes all we need is to vent and get things off our chest that’s it !!
i don’t think i’d say I have depression, but for atleast the past year I make up excuses to friends so I can just stay at home. I much rather be in my room all weekend, even though I really like these people? I also find myself just waiting for it to be night time so I can just go to sleep. Some days I don’t want to get up at all. I don’t really know what it is, but this video was helpful.
Those feelings could be caused also by changes in hormones. By nature, you could be a Introvert, which is totally understandable to wish staying home, and kinda.isolate yourself for a bit, to recharge yourself,.coz we, introverts, spend our energy at most when socialising with people. By the end of the day, we might feel exhausted. But there's truly nothing wrong! Extroverts by nature require communication at most to get energized, while others opposite. Well look, when you feel these things r disturbing you in daily life, or you feel discomfort having these behaviors or whatever, you can always see a psychologist. You don't have to have a depression, or anxiety to talk to a therapist. In either way, there is nothing wrong with you :) wish you happy holidays and happy new year!
you literally just described mild depression
@@eleni7546 oh.....
Omg same
Same herr
When you've had all the symptoms listed for as long as you can remember and just assume you were just super moody by nature :l
I honestly cant stop crying im so relieved theres something that explains what ive gone through for at a minimum 8 years god its such a relief.
thank you kati for familiarizing non-scholars like us with the science of psyche and normalizing the conversation about it. you deserve way more credit than that nonsense you're getting. i also wanted to thank you for trusting shane and being kind to him. he's the constant source of light for millions of people and he doesn't even realize how deeply he heals many of our wounds. i love and respect you both so much.
A psyche is something different from psychology.
The worst thing about depression is that more often when you try to tell someone you might have condition they will just shrug it off and tell you, "you're hungry" or "you just need some sleep" and that's what makes your condition worst..
The difference is often either severity or longevity. If eating or sleeping makes it all better, then maybe they are right. But...If it only helps a little or doesn't help at all... If you can't sleep or don't feel better no matter how much sleep you get... If you starve yourself or eat to excess because of your feelings... If you feel like either laughing in their face or screaming at them for even making such a suggestion... you need more than just a little pick-me-up solution. You need the kind of help best given by a professional.
well since its quite likely they also suffer from depression or mental illness...
Or they'll just get aggressive and call you out and judge you or condemn you for your "unacceptable behavior".
They just mean "go away".
@@ThatOpalGuy what i was going to say. They can't cope with themselves so its too hard to cope with you .
Me minding my business:
RUclips: Hey remember you’re pretending you aren’t depressed? Here’s a video about that! 😙
this is such a mood lmfao... yikes XD
RUclips is troll
*@Bobby Brown* Here's a great website that will help you cure your depression: www.ZootSad. xyz
Anyone with symptoms of mental health issues , autoimmune or other health issues should check out the Andrew Cutler protocol. And getting the right nutrients and a good diet for you is very important, often like a weston price style diet with good fats, protein and vegetables. Google «andy cutler rebecca rust lee» for a great article explaining the protocol, and search for the success stories, and «what not to do» as there are things that you might be taking that is hurting you, like cilantro and chlorella. Please join the Facebook group for incredible support Wish you all the best
this hit home