I feel Ike telling a person “It’s not too tight, your just tender-headed” is such a huge red flag. It’s sign that your stylist is horrible at their job and they’re blaming the customer!
Some people are genuinely tender headed though... like me. I have a few small areas on my head that are absolute agony to style while the other areas don't hurt when styled in the slightest. The pain wears off after a few days so just gotta wait it out, otherwise I can't have any sort of pretty hairdo.
@@jamiejam9976 ah my mom doesn't braid people's hair professionally (though every once in a blue moon she'll get paid to do someone's hair) I just meant that she tells me this at home
Right they don’t care about nothing but the money. It’s a few good ones but they be book, I had locs n cut them I’m growing n started stying my own hair because this no it’s too tight
They don't put enough emphasis on hair care in cosmetology school. A lot of these stylists will play in your head and not care about the damage they do they get a certain look
The epidemic of alopecia in the black community is due to this along with using too many bundles during weaves are adding more weight than your follicles can handle among other things.
@@rrainnecross8065 yea they wanted braid NOT A LITERAL BREAK IN THEIR SCALP BECUZ THE "HAIRDRESSER" THINKS THEY NEED TO B LIKE THIS! ACCOUNTABILITY..... right?? like I know a lot of ppl who do fire braid work, n u ain't dealing with a literal splitting headache or some ish like that these aduring n after... ppl be doing the most when they need to just calm down.. they acting like they gotta survive a tornado or something...
Thanks you for this. Some braiders are just sadistic, especially the ones who have been told REPEATEDLY that they braid too 🤬 tight. They need to get off their “beauty is pain” BS. Especially when you do that to children.
Former braider here... Ab so freekin' luteleee!!!! It is my hope that you find the magical braider who has what the old folks lovingly refer to as growin hands... getchu all da way together with not a strand out of place, while being extremely gentle & quick too. After retiring from braiding, I found her & couldn't be happier. She's awesome & such a beautiful soul. I even referred my former clients to her once I stopped braiding. ❤❤❤
The biggest issue i have with these hairdressers who like to braid your hair too tight is, when you repeatedly tell them its too tight they continue to braid tight...smh
I got mine braided for the first time by 2 people pulling way too much simultaneously. I have a really high pain tolerance and they got my eyes watering.
& this is why I taught myself how to braid my daughters hair . I’ll never forget when she was like 2 I had my sister do it and it was way too tight to the point she had those little red bumps in the back of her head and was crying it hurts scalp red asf. Took all that shit out right then and there . She’s 7 now and NOBODY has touched her since .
@@kathygetsmewetter. If your scalp is bunched up or torn then it is too tight! End of story. Pain is a sign that damage is being done to your scalp/hair. It is NOT normal.
Let’s normalize the reality that not only do people have different pain tolerances, they have different skin elasticity. There’s a difference between tight and torture.
I agree! Especially when they see you have nice hair and/or long hair or just don’t like you for whatever reason! They’ll be jealous af doing your hair and have you wondering “why isn’t my hair growing anymore!? Why does my hair keep breaking!? Why do I have patches missing!? Is my hair thinning?!”
Me and you sis. Last time I got my hair braided by a "so called hairdresser" I went home and pulled every one out. And that was yeeeeears ago. I've been doing my own hair since
Seeing this reawakened a lot of buried childhood trauma. When I saw those photos I legit almost cried. I thought no one else understood. It felt like I was being tortured, and honestly I might as well have been.
Many years ago, a braider braided my hair tight like this. She said it would loosen a little the next day. I had a headache and scalp irritation all that day. I put Vaseline on it. Next day, I took them out. I NEVER let anyone else braid my hair. I learned how and did it myself whenever I wanted braids from then on. I hate seeing tight braids on little girls!
Literally had the Africans put 2 braids in my hair and I felt my skin burning down the middle. I didn’t see blood put it would burn when I put oil on the part. NEVER AGAIN! Ridiculous… they only lasted 10 days but the pain lasted 2 1/2 weeks. Thanks for the PSA
She forgot this one......if you sneeze and something rips!!! 😂😂😂 If your scalp is separating.....it's time to separate yourself from whoever braided your hair!
That last one had to be intentional. Why would you continue with that much tension after you see scalp puckering, instead of taking it out and starting over? Ain’t no way she could’ve done my entire head like that. Idk how the client even sat through that nightmare!
Some girls are ok with suffering for a style. My sis is the same way, and the damage she’s gotten from these ultra right styles is brutal. Red bumps on her scalp, edges are gone, etc. Just awful.
It was my first cousin that did me like that. Once I had a mirror view the next day of the back, then I understand the “non-compliments” I got like. “Ohhh she sure braided your hair huh”
I’ll never forget my neighbors sister braided my hair I had those bumps and took it out the same day. My mom was pissed and went off. That was the last time she touched my hair.
You just helped me understand my own mixed Native American and white scalp and my mind is blown! Why didn't my dermatologist explain this to me?! They put me on prescription shampoo and meds. I literally was wearing my ponytail too tight and it was pulling out my hair. I shaved my hair off and I'm regrowing from scratch so I can heal. Thank you!! 💚
My daughter is also White and Native American. She has my brown color but the native thickness and texture. I know it's hell trying to keep it in curly etc but I use Hair Food Products from Walmart on both our hair. Mine is almost to my butt thin strands but I have a lot of it and hers is thick strands and thick AF. Hope that helps ❤❤ Hair isn't just hair and I don't think a lot of people realize the significance of it in many cultures. www.google.com/search?q=hair+food+shampoo+and+conditioner&oq=hair+foo&gs_lcrp=EgZjaHJvbWUqCwgDELkBGIAEGO8EMgYIABBFGDkyDQgBEAAYgwEYsQMYgAQyEQgCELkBGIMBGLEDGIAEGO8EMgsIAxC5ARiABBjvBDILCAQQuQEYgAQY7wQyBwgFEAAYgAQyBwgGEAAYgAQyCwgHELkBGIAEGO8EMgsICBC5ARiABBjvBDIHCAkQABiABDIHCAoQABiABDIHCAsQABiABDIHCAwQABiABDIHCA0QABiABDIHCA4QABiABNIBCTIxNzUyajBqN6gCALACAA&client=ms-android-cricket-us-rvc3&sourceid=chrome-mobile&ie=UTF-8
exactly. i stopped pulling my hair into tight braids and ponytails when i saw chicks running around with the few edge strands they have left plastered down with half a jar of gel. no thanks!
The shag/boho/loose look is definitely in now that we're embracing our natural beauty more. I LOVE it! $25, 3 hours, and done! I can't understand why people pay $300+ to make their own hair fall out.
@@tashaysmith5640 Yep! But I can't let go of my afro yet. But I'll sholl throw some big parted crochet locks in it and call it a day for a few weeks! 😆
Watching because of tight braids….I’m about to rip these out. Funny it wasn’t tight when she was braiding it but now even 5 days later I feel scabs and I’m over it. $120 down the drain. 😢
I paid $180 for a short passion twist and I told the lady not to braid to tight. Now I have tension bumps which I rarely get. I’ve only had them in a week and I’m about to take them out
Same boat, it wasn’t too bad but it did cause some irratagion but I thought it was because I don’t get my hair braided anymore. On my edges, the 4 corners are some bumps. Imma take them out and re do the braids myself. They don’t have to be neat just t tucked away.
@@DreamingEdmond RUclips university has EXCELLENT tutorials on passion twists. If you have the time and the patience, you can do your own. I have been doing my own 10 inch twists for two years now. It’s my signature style. I use the rubber band method.
The (self explained) one left me with hearing loss. The “hairdresser” was discussing her break up. In the moments explaining to her colleague everything she went through with her man. I relived her anger & tumultuous fights she expressed whilst braiding my hair. At the end my scalp was literally pulsating.She ignored my pleas of being too tight. I regret not just walking out.
Thing is you gotta stand up for yourself and stop them where they start with them tight braids. Its your scalp/hair, you have every right to say uhuh thats too tight!
RIGHT!!!!!! I told my cousin immediately while she was putting a weave in my head and (mind you this is for HS Graduation) my mom told her not to worry over it and thought I was complaining over nothing and i'm like "No. It's too tight." Like my scalp felt like it was folding, and my cousin saw me flinching. But mom stayed silent after that. People should stand for themselves always cuz no one else will.
During quarantine, I learned how to braid my own hair with extension. Not only do they look good, but I have control of how tight or loose I make them.
I’m trying to get there by leaving the scissors alone 😂😂… I always chop it all off out of boredom… collar bone length and it’s been a little over a year wish me luck
@@zaramichelle4613 yes of course. honesty just patients, keeping your hair clean and moisturized. i stopped using fake hair and just started doing mini twist and braids with my real hair. i noticed that fake hair made my hair very dry so it would break off when i took them out plus they are soo heavy for me. finding products that works for your hair is very important products that work for someone might not work for your hair yk. lastly biotin
My mom let a woman braid my hair once. I patted an itchy part a couple hours later and it slide off my scalp. That night my mom got a refund and removed the braids. They were tight but didn’t hurt until after she had finished and my scalp became irritated. Since then only me, momma and sister touches my scalp and yes now has long locks
The I didn't feel the tightness of the braids until half my head was done. Felt bad to ask my mom to redo it so I just went through the pain. Later my scalp started separating and I took it out immediately. Not going through it again
I’m German and my mom does my braids. Can’t move my head with her French braids 😭 I’ll have tears going down my eyes and say ow once, she says “yeah it’s gonna hurt” and pulls tighter, she pulls my head back. I thought that was normal 😭 Imma start doing them myself from now on 💀
Oh gott, nein😑. Also mein französischer Zopf sieht viel besser aus wenn ich ihn selber flechte. Versuch auch mal so einen "twisted braid". Da hast du nur 2 Stränge die du miteinander verdrehst. Das ist einfach, geht schnell und sieht super aus❤
Boundaries. This article reminded me that my boundaries need to be checked in this area. A person should not experience pain and injuries from getting their hair styled especially when you let the stylist know it’s hurting. It’s like abuse; allowing someone to abuse you then you pay them. This has helped me tremendously! I’m done with it. I’ll do it myself or find a respectable stylist. Thank you for the reminder.
OUCH! I got a hair weave in 1985. It was so tight, I thought of going to the Emergency room to have it removed. I was up, all night, suffering. I've been growing my beautiful, dread's for almost 24 year's. Best relationship I've ever had with my hair.🕊
Glad you like your current hairstyle! I once got a weave too.........never again. It was for prom and i didn't know weave could hurt more than regular box braids. I ended up taking them out after graduation which was like a week after and it was so tight it pulled out my hair at the root. I had a huge bald spot in the back of my head and wore head wraps for a good 1.5 years during college. The fact that you were thinking about going to the emergency room is wild.
oh my god.. these are some of the worst ones i’ve seen! but we have to stand up for ourselves when someone braids too tight or understand ppl have different scalps!!! please braids are supposed to be a protective style not destructive! thank u for this video ❤
Thank you for doing this. So many young ladies are out her are causing self-inflicted alopecia or inflicted alopecia to their daughters. The rule should be, if it's too tight, it ain't right. Request for loser braids or loc retwist, if they can't....leave. Leave those rubberbands alone.
There is much to be said about a truly gifted braids technician. My braid technician knows how to secure beautiful braids without damaging my edges, follicles, or my scalp. She knows how to tuck my hair when I want a crazy colored style. She knows how to measure out the hair extensions so that the braids are uniformly the same size and not too heavy for a natural fall weather I wear it loose or a pony tail or whatever. And I never haggle her price. Finding a great technician is as taxing as finding the right hair products to use on my hair. So, PAY WUT YOU OWE! Braiding takes more than talent. Skill and experience is what separate the good ones from the rest.
When I was a kid my aunt braided my hair it was her first and last time doing it. The whole time she was braiding it I cried, it hurt so bad and I was confused asf bc my mom braided my hair all the time and the most I did was cringe at some spots (esp the top of my head) only bc she pressed a lil hard. My aunt ignored my cries, even chastised me for wetting my pants bc it hurt THAT bad. I got home still in tears and my scalp was red and oozing blood in some spots. When I say my mama called and cussed her THEE FUCK out…An experience I’ll never forget.
I've never seen that before! My mother did hairdressing my entire childhood, and I never saw that. It truly speaks to my mother's skill, the way it shocked me that is.
I started braiding my own hair after a painful hairdo. It felt like my head was on fire. When I took the braids out the following day, a chuck of my own hair fell off. After 15 years, the bald spot is still present. Never again.
I stopped using those types of extensions for these very reasons. One time, my head hurt so bad I got up at 3 am to eat coz I wanted to take my mind off the pain. Some of these hairdressers get offended when you cry out in pain as they pull your hair like there is no freaking tomorrow. I am tenderheaded and can't deal with the pain that comes with having type 4C natural hair so I have locked my hair and I am free from these sadists.
I truly feel you on that, l cnt even have a tight ponytail ,when l get home l just open my hair its second nature l dnt even think about it, sometimes even in the car if its a wild bush l dnt care my scalp is too sensitive .
Oof, I don’t often get squeamish but that last one has me shaking my hands to get rid of the willies 😭😭 They’re willingly scalping themselves at that point!!
I put 8 faux locs in my hair yesterday and then changed my mind. I swear it took hours to remove just those 8 and I lost hair. I’m glad I didn’t do my whole head.
I don’t even let people play in my hair. My hair is so healthy all I do is wash it MOISTURIZE & leave it alone. I do braids but very rarely & NEVER so tight!
I used to have my braids done by Africans Braiders and boy oh boy, you cannot leave them in no matter how hard you try. I am 1000% done and I ever never go back to another African braider. I do my own hair most of the time. Feels better, looks better and hair grow when I do it.
Sometimes we ask the lady not to braid it too tight but they never listen. That's why I started doing my own hair. Coz the people who actually knows how to properly take care of my hair have very high prices that I can't afford rn
True , rather plait the hair with the childs natural hair, l dnt understand why the kids need long crazy hairstyles, even if her hair short ,just simple soft plaits that you can open at night, l cnt imagine what those children go through ,to sleep on those braids , and they dare not say they want the braids out ......
I had a lady who told me braiding it tight makes it last longer and on top of that I asked her not to braid my hair tight. I said yes I know I have mad thick hair but that doesn’t mean my scalp doesn’t hurt she giggled and combed my hair as if what I was saying to her was a joke. I stayed away from her for 5 months. I went back months later a bad mistake which I’ll never ever deal with her again
one doesn't necessarily need to wear weave to have this happen to them, people just have to speak up but also reputable stylists should know not do styles extremely tight
@@WolfHaley666 you’re absolutely right however we should still love the way God created us. Weave or any artificial things should not be a option for beauty.
My cousin used to do my hair all the time when I was in school. And I remember bawling my eyes out while she was braiding them, and after they were finished it was still painful. Thankfully my mom's doing it from now on, and she switched to a style that doesn't require scalp braids.
When i was little, a cousin did tiny cornrows on my hair, i kept telling her it was hurt but she wasn't listening. By the time i got home, i was having big blisters all around my head😢. I cried all night because i couldn't sleep. At 2 am, my mother took the hair down. Since then, i refuse to have just anybody do my hair😅
my whole childhood was full of this. feeling like i was going to pass out while getting braids. pain when i blinked. not being able to lay on a pillow. lots of follicles at the base of the braids🤦🏾♀️ me and my babies have locs because of this
I actually returned to a shop to show a braider stylist the result of what happened to my daughter's hair on the very first day she did them. The first braid at the top of her head had peeled away from her scalp and just fell on the floor at home.... way to tight - and all she said was "well what am I supposed to do?"😮
😳 I dont know what she is supposed to do, but you could have reported her to the State Board. Thats why they have to display their license in plain sight.
@Rita McBee Looking back on the situation now, there is a lot she could have done like apologizing, offering a partial or full refund, courtesy shampoo in the future, (because that's as far as she would have gotten on our heads again), etc....
I literally went got my hair braided and kept telling her they felt tight paid $250 went home couldn't lay on pillow felt my scalp was weaping fluid took out immediately at 10pm took 3hrs washed hair my scalp was red never again thankfully I took out right after so no damage to my hair follicles or scalp.
I know someone who did the same thing. She had a headache so bad it was driving her crazy. She couldnt put her head on a pillow either. After hours of crying she took them out. Money down the drain but at least she saved her scalp and her sanity.
Yes even as a young lady, a teen I knew tight braids were just not ok. I refused to spend the rest of my life bald. 👩🏾🦲 It’s one thing if, it just happened, but I knew I wasn’t going to be the cause of it.
I feel Ike telling a person “It’s not too tight, your just tender-headed” is such a huge red flag. It’s sign that your stylist is horrible at their job and they’re blaming the customer!
Is it a red flag that my mom tells me the same thing 🧍🏿♀️
@@fnafenthusiast23 mine too
Some people are genuinely tender headed though... like me. I have a few small areas on my head that are absolute agony to style while the other areas don't hurt when styled in the slightest. The pain wears off after a few days so just gotta wait it out, otherwise I can't have any sort of pretty hairdo.
@@fnafenthusiast23how unprofessional of her
@@jamiejam9976 ah my mom doesn't braid people's hair professionally (though every once in a blue moon she'll get paid to do someone's hair) I just meant that she tells me this at home
I’ve always taught my daughter if a hairstyle hurts, take it out. No matter the style. If it hurts it’s too tight. Take it out.
you real for that
After paying $350 💔
@@nilabila6757 right? 😞 At least it’s an expensive lesson to find a new stylist and not progressive balding. Still tho.. 💔
My mama the same way bc she don’t care if it’s the same day fr, she will take the shit OUT 😭😂
@@honeyyydriiipperiod!
“If your scalp is separating, it’s time to let them go.”
It’s been time for a long time sis 😭
LET IT GO LET IT GOOOOO CANT HOLD IT BACK ANYMOREEEEE
Yes! This happened to me when I was around 12. I learned to do my hair so fast and I’ve never been back to a stylist since!
the way i didn’t even know that was possible 🗿
I'd it's hurting in general 🤣
I just hate that SOME stylists don’t care about your real hair and how much they’re damaging it to achieve aesthetics.
Right they don’t care about nothing but the money. It’s a few good ones but they be book, I had locs n cut them I’m growing n started stying my own hair because this no it’s too tight
There’s absolutely nothing aestheticly pleasing to see here
I dont think most peo0le care about their real hair . The should tho
Facts or their to
Lazy to do
Repairs or uneducated on how to repair even tho that’s their profession
They don't put enough emphasis on hair care in cosmetology school. A lot of these stylists will play in your head and not care about the damage they do they get a certain look
The epidemic of alopecia in the black community is due to this along with using too many bundles during weaves are adding more weight than your follicles can handle among other things.
Some of these hair dressers should be arrested.
Why?? These ladies chose to do this to themselves. Accountability.
@@rrainnecross8065 wanting braids done right and getting them done wrong isn't what they paid for
if u can even call them "hairdressers"
@@rrainnecross8065 yea they wanted braid NOT A LITERAL BREAK IN THEIR SCALP BECUZ THE "HAIRDRESSER" THINKS THEY NEED TO B LIKE THIS! ACCOUNTABILITY..... right?? like I know a lot of ppl who do fire braid work, n u ain't dealing with a literal splitting headache or some ish like that these aduring n after... ppl be doing the most when they need to just calm down.. they acting like they gotta survive a tornado or something...
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That last one is ridiculous "girl take them damn braids out"!!!! Lol
That and the one that looked like sausages. Must be the same braider.
I can't believe she paid for that 😮😢
🎵 Let it go🎶 🎵 Let it goooo🎶
Got damn, let it go 🎵
That mess looks excruciating!!!
I started cracking up when I read this 😂 but unfortunately many women will leave it in simply because they just got it done smh insanity!
last one is my new fear unlocked wtf
Lord have mercy! Seriously
Fr it hurt my stomach smh
Yes. I never even knew that happened. My stomach turned. 😢
i did that same hairstyle 5 years ago,it was finer than this but mine also bled. Lost some hair in the middle and there was some serious bleeding.
That’s how I be feeling fr
Thanks you for this. Some braiders are just sadistic, especially the ones who have been told REPEATEDLY that they braid too 🤬 tight. They need to get off their “beauty is pain” BS. Especially when you do that to children.
Right. Everybody can’t be tender headed. They keep dismissing black
women and girls’, pain. .
Former braider here... Ab so freekin' luteleee!!!! It is my hope that you find the magical braider who has what the old folks lovingly refer to as growin hands... getchu all da way together with not a strand out of place, while being extremely gentle & quick too. After retiring from braiding, I found her & couldn't be happier. She's awesome & such a beautiful soul. I even referred my former clients to her once I stopped braiding. ❤❤❤
If it hurts to move your head, or you can feel your heartbeat in your brain, take em’ out.
Definitely
@trashbag I’m a white girl who did dance for 17 years and NO that is NOT NORMAL!! For any hair type that feeling is dangerous for your hair
@@Joureyoffaith555 I can only feel my pulse in my scalp when I’m wearing a durag is that normal?
@@renew6405 that’s too tight
Right away! Don’t wait another second
The biggest issue i have with these hairdressers who like to braid your hair too tight is, when you repeatedly tell them its too tight they continue to braid tight...smh
Fr like they always say in there mind “I know ow what I’m doing bitch”
"It's gotta be tight else they'll fall out/be ugly"
@@Liliththelizard😂 how ironic
I got mine braided for the first time by 2 people pulling way too much simultaneously. I have a really high pain tolerance and they got my eyes watering.
See I'm the type Imma get TF up cause No Bih, that ain't cute and unhealthy
If your scalp is separating, it’s time to let it go🥴😭
I just... eekwjfje. NO NO NO NO
That's just an epidermal part
Does it still grow
“If your scalp is separating”
New fear unlocked
& this is why I taught myself how to braid my daughters hair . I’ll never forget when she was like 2 I had my sister do it and it was way too tight to the point she had those little red bumps in the back of her head and was crying it hurts scalp red asf. Took all that shit out right then and there . She’s 7 now and NOBODY has touched her since .
They don't braid your hair, they be braiding your thoughts...🤣🤣 smh.
Braiding your thoughts has me screaming
Braiding your thoughts is crazy
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
ainsi que le corps une tresseuse me la fait j'ai défais les cheveux deux jours après je ne peux me tuer à cause des tresses 😂😂
😅😅😅crazy what we go through
How they braid so tight the extra head meat scrunched up
“head meat” LMAOOO
Both y’all hell 😂😂😂😂😂
That why they have spray to loosen it if it t change o tight
I'm glad you explained that Got Damn I assumed but never seen no sh!+ Like that in my life😮
"head meat"😭😭
i hate when your scalp looks like this and they say u tender headed, its not tight.
Ugh. Yuh.
Gaslighting a person like that ain't cool.
You’re right!!! 😖
I am actually tender headed and my scalp looks something like that and the hair don’t be tight sometimes
@@kathygetsmewetter. If your scalp is bunched up or torn then it is too tight! End of story. Pain is a sign that damage is being done to your scalp/hair. It is NOT normal.
This is why I learned how to braid my own hair, I refuse to lose hair and edges for a hair style
Let’s normalize the reality that not only do people have different pain tolerances, they have different skin elasticity. There’s a difference between tight and torture.
Amen.
And that’s why I do my own hair, I’m convinced a lot of these hairstylist do stuff like that on purpose
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I agree! Especially when they see you have nice hair and/or long hair or just don’t like you for whatever reason! They’ll be jealous af doing your hair and have you wondering “why isn’t my hair growing anymore!? Why does my hair keep breaking!? Why do I have patches missing!? Is my hair thinning?!”
Me and you sis. Last time I got my hair braided by a "so called hairdresser" I went home and pulled every one out. And that was yeeeeears ago. I've been doing my own hair since
I do too like why dont you want me to have edges
This! Some of these stylists are very scissor happy too.
Seeing this reawakened a lot of buried childhood trauma. When I saw those photos I legit almost cried. I thought no one else understood. It felt like I was being tortured, and honestly I might as well have been.
I feel the same way it was so not needed!😮
As a fellow tender-head, I am so sorry you had to go through that. Truly.
@@SpicyMcChimken Thank you so much, nobodys ever said that to me before. ❤
I can not imagine that pain! Even when my hair is in a semi tight ponytail it kills me! I’m sorry:(
@@haleyt3754 thank you so much! 🩷🥲🩷
Many years ago, a braider braided my hair tight like this. She said it would loosen a little the next day. I had a headache and scalp irritation all that day. I put Vaseline on it. Next day, I took them out. I NEVER let anyone else braid my hair. I learned how and did it myself whenever I wanted braids from then on. I hate seeing tight braids on little girls!
Your scalp thank U
And those tons of beads press on the scalp when they sleep. Can't be good
The last pic sent shivers down my spine😢
Literally had the Africans put 2 braids in my hair and I felt my skin burning down the middle. I didn’t see blood put it would burn when I put oil on the part. NEVER AGAIN! Ridiculous… they only lasted 10 days but the pain lasted 2 1/2 weeks. Thanks for the PSA
She forgot this one......if you sneeze and something rips!!! 😂😂😂 If your scalp is separating.....it's time to separate yourself from whoever braided your hair!
Lol
Omg did that actually happen to someone😮
@@Lynette85974 yes, it had happened unfortunately 😟
@@LChism-wx3qy no way, that literally sounds like soemthing out of a horror movie wtf
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That last one had to be intentional. Why would you continue with that much tension after you see scalp puckering, instead of taking it out and starting over? Ain’t no way she could’ve done my entire head like that. Idk how the client even sat through that nightmare!
Some girls are ok with suffering for a style. My sis is the same way, and the damage she’s gotten from these ultra right styles is brutal. Red bumps on her scalp, edges are gone, etc. Just awful.
@@tiahnarodriguez3809 Yeah I hate the saying "pretty hurts" because you shouldn't have to go through pain to be pretty!
It was my first cousin that did me like that. Once I had a mirror view the next day of the back, then I understand the “non-compliments” I got like. “Ohhh she sure braided your hair huh”
*I'm sure most of those customers didnt pay a lot of money for that shiiittt. so u get what u pay for*
*and inexperienced braiders who charge cheap. stop being cheap everybody*
I’ll never forget my neighbors sister braided my hair I had those bumps and took it out the same day. My mom was pissed and went off. That was the last time she touched my hair.
Your mom was mad at you or the braider?
@@Serenityblu23 the braider prolly
I just subscribed, finally found someone that's telling the truth about women getting their hair braided too tight good job.👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👍🏽💯😊🙏🏽
You just helped me understand my own mixed Native American and white scalp and my mind is blown! Why didn't my dermatologist explain this to me?! They put me on prescription shampoo and meds. I literally was wearing my ponytail too tight and it was pulling out my hair. I shaved my hair off and I'm regrowing from scratch so I can heal. Thank you!! 💚
My daughter is also White and Native American. She has my brown color but the native thickness and texture. I know it's hell trying to keep it in curly etc but I use Hair Food Products from Walmart on both our hair. Mine is almost to my butt thin strands but I have a lot of it and hers is thick strands and thick AF. Hope that helps ❤❤ Hair isn't just hair and I don't think a lot of people realize the significance of it in many cultures.
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See this is why i do my own hair, it might not be as "neat" but at least it's protective
exactly. i stopped pulling my hair into tight braids and ponytails when i saw chicks running around with the few edge strands they have left plastered down with half a jar of gel. no thanks!
The shag/boho/loose look is definitely in now that we're embracing our natural beauty more. I LOVE it! $25, 3 hours, and done! I can't understand why people pay $300+ to make their own hair fall out.
@@babiijean11omm this how I like my braids with the old shaggy look lol fr might as well get dreads huh 😂😂
@@tashaysmith5640 Yep! But I can't let go of my afro yet. But I'll sholl throw some big parted crochet locks in it and call it a day for a few weeks! 😆
@@n.ayisha right? this is why i rarely wear tight ponytails anymore, the way my scalp hurts when i take them out can't be good
Finally someone’s talking about this, excellent video.
It's giving traction alopecia. If your head is too itchy, go ahead and take it out.
Any braider worth their license will apologize and help you.
This just happened to me had red bumps at my neck bald spot told the hairstylist she said she not apologizing and that’s what I wanted
@@porshawooden6814😂😂😂. I hope you cussed her out good and left a bad review because that audacity of hers is entirely to audacious!
All for the sake of a hair style! So many are willing to endure the pain, then hair loss.
Ladies you don't deserve to put yourselves in so much pain. You know you're beautiful and can rock anything. ❤
I come back from school bummed out and your videos give me the laughter I need, Keep goin bro please.
That’s why I braid my own hair!
I can’t braid my own hair, but, I did this one time and that was it for me. I saved my self.
Yes..same
Same! It’s taken me a couple of years to really perfect it but it was seriously worth it😌and honestly really fun!
Yep.
This video makes me want to learn how to braid/passion twist my own hair.
Watching because of tight braids….I’m about to rip these out. Funny it wasn’t tight when she was braiding it but now even 5 days later I feel scabs and I’m over it. $120 down the drain. 😢
I paid $180 for a short passion twist and I told the lady not to braid to tight. Now I have tension bumps which I rarely get. I’ve only had them in a week and I’m about to take them out
@ Tracy Austin Better $120 down the drain than your hair! 👴
Same boat, it wasn’t too bad but it did cause some irratagion but I thought it was because I don’t get my hair braided anymore. On my edges, the 4 corners are some bumps. Imma take them out and re do the braids myself. They don’t have to be neat just t tucked away.
@@DreamingEdmond RUclips university has EXCELLENT tutorials on passion twists. If you have the time and the patience, you can do your own. I have been doing my own 10 inch twists for two years now. It’s my signature style. I use the rubber band method.
I know some pain comes with beauty but after a few days that pain is 😫 and hair loss is never worth the "beauty"
The (self explained) one left me with hearing loss. The “hairdresser” was discussing her break up. In the moments explaining to her colleague everything she went through with her man. I relived her anger & tumultuous fights she expressed whilst braiding my hair. At the end my scalp was literally pulsating.She ignored my pleas of being too tight. I regret not just walking out.
Tragic😢
*shiiiitttt!!!!!*
I'm so sorry thay happened, I never thought about a hairdresser ever doing this. I hope you're doing better now!
I had this happen as well. Not to this extent though but she was irritated about something and she braided my hair rougher than she notmally does.
Sue her
Loll "if your scalp is separating, it's time to let it go"
THATS REAL ❤
I also love box braids❤
The last line left me laughing "if the scalp is separating it's time to let it go"😂😂😂
Thing is you gotta stand up for yourself and stop them where they start with them tight braids. Its your scalp/hair, you have every right to say uhuh thats too tight!
RIGHT!!!!!!
I told my cousin immediately while she was putting a weave in my head and (mind you this is for HS Graduation) my mom told her not to worry over it and thought I was complaining over nothing and i'm like "No. It's too tight." Like my scalp felt like it was folding, and my cousin saw me flinching. But mom stayed silent after that.
People should stand for themselves always cuz no one else will.
During quarantine, I learned how to braid my own hair with extension. Not only do they look good, but I have control of how tight or loose I make them.
the reason i don’t let anyone touch my hair and as a result my hair is waist length is beautiful
I’m trying to get there by leaving the scissors alone 😂😂… I always chop it all off out of boredom… collar bone length and it’s been a little over a year wish me luck
Do you have any tips, please?
@@zaramichelle4613 yes of course. honesty just patients, keeping your hair clean and moisturized. i stopped using fake hair and just started doing mini twist and braids with my real hair. i noticed that fake hair made my hair very dry so it would break off when i took them out plus they are soo heavy for me. finding products that works for your hair is very important products that work for someone might not work for your hair yk. lastly biotin
My mom let a woman braid my hair once. I patted an itchy part a couple hours later and it slide off my scalp. That night my mom got a refund and removed the braids. They were tight but didn’t hurt until after she had finished and my scalp became irritated. Since then only me, momma and sister touches my scalp and yes now has long locks
❣🖤❣🖤❣
Ok, this was super helpful. I have saw this happening with my friend Kayla, she said it would go away though… THXX
That last one was straight up pulling her skin apart 😭
How do people sit through that after the first braid I’m either crying or ready to fight
The I didn't feel the tightness of the braids until half my head was done. Felt bad to ask my mom to redo it so I just went through the pain. Later my scalp started separating and I took it out immediately. Not going through it again
@@wronglife5565 I know that's right
Im not tender headed
@@wronglife5565 I don't think your mom likes you too much. I mean that's a whole different type of pain.
THIS! Hell no 😢
This is why I braid my own hair now. Lots of growth and I give it way more love.
I’m German and my mom does my braids. Can’t move my head with her French braids 😭 I’ll have tears going down my eyes and say ow once, she says “yeah it’s gonna hurt” and pulls tighter, she pulls my head back. I thought that was normal 😭 Imma start doing them myself from now on 💀
Your mom might be a sadist 😬
Oh gott, nein😑. Also mein französischer Zopf sieht viel besser aus wenn ich ihn selber flechte. Versuch auch mal so einen "twisted braid". Da hast du nur 2 Stränge die du miteinander verdrehst. Das ist einfach, geht schnell und sieht super aus❤
OK! Das werde ich versuchen. Ich schaffe es fast nie richtig! Danke schön!
If it hurts that means your hair is being damaged.
I'm African American and growing up I normally got my hair braided and it hurt like hell and they were a lot smaller. I feel u!
That's why I do my own...and sometimes it's STILL too tight...🤣🤣🤣
Boundaries. This article reminded me that my boundaries need to be checked in this area. A person should not experience pain and injuries from getting their hair styled especially when you let the stylist know it’s hurting. It’s like abuse; allowing someone to abuse you then you pay them. This has helped me tremendously! I’m done with it. I’ll do it myself or find a respectable stylist. Thank you for the reminder.
OUCH! I got a hair weave in 1985. It was so tight, I thought of going to the Emergency room to have it removed. I was up, all night, suffering. I've been growing my beautiful, dread's for almost 24 year's. Best relationship I've ever had with my hair.🕊
Glad you like your current hairstyle! I once got a weave too.........never again. It was for prom and i didn't know weave could hurt more than regular box braids. I ended up taking them out after graduation which was like a week after and it was so tight it pulled out my hair at the root. I had a huge bald spot in the back of my head and wore head wraps for a good 1.5 years during college. The fact that you were thinking about going to the emergency room is wild.
oh my god.. these are some of the worst ones i’ve seen! but we have to stand up for ourselves when someone braids too tight or understand ppl have different scalps!!! please braids are supposed to be a protective style not destructive! thank u for this video ❤
Thank you for doing this. So many young ladies are out her are causing self-inflicted alopecia or inflicted alopecia to their daughters. The rule should be, if it's too tight, it ain't right. Request for loser braids or loc retwist, if they can't....leave.
Leave those rubberbands alone.
There is much to be said about a truly gifted braids technician. My braid technician knows how to secure beautiful braids without damaging my edges, follicles, or my scalp. She knows how to tuck my hair when I want a crazy colored style. She knows how to measure out the hair extensions so that the braids are uniformly the same size and not too heavy for a natural fall weather I wear it loose or a pony tail or whatever.
And I never haggle her price. Finding a great technician is as taxing as finding the right hair products to use on my hair. So, PAY WUT YOU OWE! Braiding takes more than talent. Skill and experience is what separate the good ones from the rest.
The scalp separating is WILDDDD😂😂😂😂
This is why i will forever do and take care of my own hair
Amen to that 👏🏽👏🏽 I'm right there with you
Please do!! 🤗 👍🙏
same
When I was a kid my aunt braided my hair it was her first and last time doing it. The whole time she was braiding it I cried, it hurt so bad and I was confused asf bc my mom braided my hair all the time and the most I did was cringe at some spots (esp the top of my head) only bc she pressed a lil hard. My aunt ignored my cries, even chastised me for wetting my pants bc it hurt THAT bad. I got home still in tears and my scalp was red and oozing blood in some spots. When I say my mama called and cussed her THEE FUCK out…An experience I’ll never forget.
what the fuck how is your aunt a real person
Holy .....sh....
She's evil! Straight up evil!!!!
😂😂😂not cursed her Theee Fuckkk out 😭😭
For real, I think when braiders do that, they secretly hate the person or are jealous of their hair. I'm so sorry you went through that.
@@velmaw7474 maybe the auntie is jealous her sister has a beautiful daughter. Hurting someone's Schuldt is a way to hurt someone..so evil.
I've experienced this pain....it is unforgettable.
I've never seen that before! My mother did hairdressing my entire childhood, and I never saw that. It truly speaks to my mother's skill, the way it shocked me that is.
The casualness of the “if your scalp is separating, it’s time to let it go”
I started braiding my own hair after a painful hairdo.
It felt like my head was on fire. When I took the braids out the following day, a chuck of my own hair fell off. After 15 years, the bald spot is still present. Never again.
I stopped using those types of extensions for these very reasons. One time, my head hurt so bad I got up at 3 am to eat coz I wanted to take my mind off the pain. Some of these hairdressers get offended when you cry out in pain as they pull your hair like there is no freaking tomorrow. I am tenderheaded and can't deal with the pain that comes with having type 4C natural hair so I have locked my hair and I am free from these sadists.
I truly feel you on that, l cnt even have a tight ponytail ,when l get home l just open my hair its second nature l dnt even think about it, sometimes even in the car if its a wild bush l dnt care my scalp is too sensitive .
I have the same hair texture too
Why would a hairstylist do this? Advocate for your hair when you feel that 1st braid is too tight. If they don't listen, get out of the chair.
Ty for educating the masses!❤❤❤
Oof, I don’t often get squeamish but that last one has me shaking my hands to get rid of the willies 😭😭 They’re willingly scalping themselves at that point!!
I remember when I got my edges back after they left me for my lace front wig 😂😂😂 I’ll never ever disrespect my hair again!!!!! NEVA AGAIN!!!
I put 8 faux locs in my hair yesterday and then changed my mind. I swear it took hours to remove just those 8 and I lost hair. I’m glad I didn’t do my whole head.
I don’t even let people play in my hair. My hair is so healthy all I do is wash it MOISTURIZE & leave it alone. I do braids but very rarely & NEVER so tight!
Excellent advice!!! Ive seen these too tight braids. They're usually done under the guise of making the style last longer.
I wish I had known. Thank you for this knowledge. When you know better, you do better❤❤
I used to have my braids done by Africans Braiders and boy oh boy, you cannot leave them in no matter how hard you try. I am 1000% done and I ever never go back to another African braider.
I do my own hair most of the time.
Feels better, looks better and hair grow when I do it.
Sometimes we ask the lady not to braid it too tight but they never listen. That's why I started doing my own hair. Coz the people who actually knows how to properly take care of my hair have very high prices that I can't afford rn
Free to take care of your own hair
Exactly. All it costs is some time, but even that will take less the more you do it. @@ahamed6702
Thank you!!! Moms do this and wonder why kids hair won’t grow! Braids don’t make everyone’s hair grow
Braids pull my hair out
True , rather plait the hair with the childs natural hair, l dnt understand why the kids need long crazy hairstyles, even if her hair short ,just simple soft plaits that you can open at night, l cnt imagine what those children go through ,to sleep on those braids , and they dare not say they want the braids out ......
I don't know how people wear braids. I can't wear a normal pony tail without getting a headache. More power to y'all!!!
😱 the picture of the one with her scalp crunching up, I felt it in my soul 😢
Bro is saving my future when I get braids tysm😭🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I'm glad you are saying something about this! Who in their right mind thinks braids so tight until it bleeds is crazy!
That's why I tell them before they start braiding my hair don't do them tight
I swear but some of there definitions of loose or tight be way off
I let them know that each tight braid will be taken out by them and re -done on the spot! That works 💯 of the time
I had a lady who told me braiding it tight makes it last longer and on top of that I asked her not to braid my hair tight. I said yes I know I have mad thick hair but that doesn’t mean my scalp doesn’t hurt she giggled and combed my hair as if what I was saying to her was a joke. I stayed away from her for 5 months. I went back months later a bad mistake which I’ll never ever deal with her again
That's why I rather nourish and take care of my hair . Please no extension and avoid headache.
CRAAAAAAZZZZZYYYYYY! Why we gotta die for the style, like noooooooo😢
Like what ........😮I never thought about this that black women go through this🤧🤧🤧 a big Respect for them...
That’s one of the reasons why I don’t wear weave. We women need to learn how to love and take care of what God gave us.
AMEN AMEN,,Sister, Me either 🎉
I don't either and I totally agree.
one doesn't necessarily need to wear weave to have this happen to them, people just have to speak up but also reputable stylists should know not do styles extremely tight
@@WolfHaley666 you’re absolutely right however we should still love the way God created us. Weave or any artificial things should not be a option for beauty.
@@toyaonwu5069 i personally don’t believe in god, but i understand where you’re coming from 👍🏽
And this is why I do my own braids. I know my strength.
My goodness! One more reason I am learning to do my own braids 🤦🏾♀️
My cousin used to do my hair all the time when I was in school. And I remember bawling my eyes out while she was braiding them, and after they were finished it was still painful. Thankfully my mom's doing it from now on, and she switched to a style that doesn't require scalp braids.
That looks so painful - I can feel these photos 😢 😢 ouch
If anyone ever started my hair and it hurts I tell them never mind and walk out
Been there suffered that ... never went back!👍
When i was little, a cousin did tiny cornrows on my hair, i kept telling her it was hurt but she wasn't listening. By the time i got home, i was having big blisters all around my head😢. I cried all night because i couldn't sleep. At 2 am, my mother took the hair down. Since then, i refuse to have just anybody do my hair😅
Did it hurt when she was taking down the cornrows
my whole childhood was full of this. feeling like i was going to pass out while getting braids. pain when i blinked. not being able to lay on a pillow. lots of follicles at the base of the braids🤦🏾♀️ me and my babies have locs because of this
My beloved black ladies we love your natural hair. Just wanted to put it out there. Much love SA ❤
I actually returned to a shop to show a braider stylist the result of what happened to my daughter's hair on the very first day she did them. The first braid at the top of her head had peeled away from her scalp and just fell on the floor at home.... way to tight - and all she said was "well what am I supposed to do?"😮
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I dont know what she is supposed to do, but you could have reported her to the State Board. Thats why they have to display their license in plain sight.
@Rita McBee Looking back on the situation now, there is a lot she could have done like apologizing, offering a partial or full refund, courtesy shampoo in the future, (because that's as far as she would have gotten on our heads again), etc....
So helpful! I’ve often wondered when braids go from protective to damaging
I literally went got my hair braided and kept telling her they felt tight paid $250 went home couldn't lay on pillow felt my scalp was weaping fluid took out immediately at 10pm took 3hrs washed hair my scalp was red never again thankfully I took out right after so no damage to my hair follicles or scalp.
I know someone who did the same thing. She had a headache so bad it was driving her crazy. She couldnt put her head on a pillow either. After hours of crying she took them out. Money down the drain but at least she saved her scalp and her sanity.
Yes!!! Excellent PSA! I'm cringing looking at these braids, had to cover my eyes and peek through my fingers!!!
Bro, I feel like at one point you feel it when your braids are too tight. That last girl looked like a surgical procedure.
This is why I braids my own hair. Only I know how delicate I need to be with my hair❤
Exactly, you get it❤
this is why I stopped getting my hair done, and just decided to do my own natural hair bc I was tired of getting told I was "tender headed" :/
Me too! Just let hair be❤❤❤
Yes even as a young lady, a teen I knew tight braids were just not ok. I refused to spend the rest of my life bald. 👩🏾🦲 It’s one thing if, it just happened, but I knew I wasn’t going to be the cause of it.
The last one almost made me jump out the window😂
Roses are red violets are blue I like my comment, because only one person did (not trying to be a beggar)
I love braids... but not enough to have my scalp separate or have rolls appear on my head. Aye aye yae.😮 Thanks so much for that PSA it really helps