Dating, Marriage, and Sex Advice (Valentine's Day Special) w/ Cameron Fradd

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  • Опубликовано: 28 ноя 2024

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  • @pintswithaquinas
    @pintswithaquinas  Год назад +20

    🚨 Get exclusive content by supporting me on Locals: mattfradd.locals.com/support

    • @mattnieri1202
      @mattnieri1202 Год назад +1

      Cameron should try one of those triangular wedge pillows, if she hasn't. Helps a lot on nights when the stomach keeps you up.

  • @memymomalex
    @memymomalex Год назад +739

    I paid $30 to use Catholic Match for one month and connected with my husband, and then cancelled, lol. $30 for a husband wasn't bad.

    • @carlac33
      @carlac33 Год назад +36

      LOL. I met hubby on there too. He joined to message me but I had been on there for over a year. 😏 Was in my 20s and creeped out by some of the 40ish guys messaging tho

    • @YiriUbic3793
      @YiriUbic3793 Год назад

      @@carlac33 Men are men not matter what and everybody who call themself catholics doesn't mean they live a catholic life, some people who call themself catholic are only cultural catholics

    • @marypassalacqua2490
      @marypassalacqua2490 Год назад +12

      That’s how me and my husband met! We had both just joined and found each other.

    • @ADDM1531
      @ADDM1531 Год назад +9

      Glad for you. I have heard horror stories from women who used it and had guys mark that they believed in Catholic teachings like abstaining from sex before marriage then act the opposite. One guy was flirting with Orthodoxy. 😅

    • @theradioattheendoftheworld4251
      @theradioattheendoftheworld4251 Год назад +15

      My wife would probably say you overpaid LOL

  • @Maranatha-t9d
    @Maranatha-t9d Год назад +220

    I just got out of a 3 year relationship with a man I lived with for 2.5 years. Now he’s living with his new gf and I’m single and alone and have learned a huge lesson. Don’t live with your bf/gf just to see if it’ll work out. It won’t. Now I’m trying to get back into my faith and find a man who will love me enough to wait till marriage. I’m 44 and have had enough of the BS of the world’s version of relationships.

    • @pintswithaquinas
      @pintswithaquinas  Год назад +174

      God bless you, you beautiful woman. Remember, every saint has a past and ever sinner has a future.

    • @Maranatha-t9d
      @Maranatha-t9d Год назад +20

      @@pintswithaquinas thank you so much

    • @Maranatha-t9d
      @Maranatha-t9d Год назад +11

      @@pintswithaquinas for Cameron, I have the same issues with reflux and acid since starting a new diet. I tried a teaspoon of baking soda in 8 oz of hot water, a squeeze of half a lemon and a pinch of stevia for flavour and I’ve been cured. No more problems.

    • @MartinaStC
      @MartinaStC Год назад

      Pray to Our Lord and lean on Him. I wish I had had my faith when I got married then divorced but I didn't. Knowing Our Lord Jesus now after He blessed me with His Spirit, now I offer every tear to Him for His great use. Alone we can do nothing, with Him, He can do everything. Rejoice dear, and don't worry about this life, another awaits in His kingdom. If you feel sad, pm me or chat in here or CA Live, am not a theripist just a simple catholic child of God who is learning of His wonders every day, Hugs.

    • @strongjohn7078
      @strongjohn7078 Год назад

      Patients my dear. God will bring someone in your life one of these days🙏

  • @EdwardGraveline
    @EdwardGraveline Год назад +168

    I write a poem for my wife of 44 years. I do a poem for her for Christmas, her birthday, Valentine's Day, and our Anniversary in August Have done four a year for 43 years

    • @stacielara9856
      @stacielara9856 Год назад +5

      This is the sweetest thing ever. ❤

    • @csongorarpad4670
      @csongorarpad4670 Год назад +3

      God bless your marriage!

    • @dargosian
      @dargosian Год назад +2

      If I tried that, she'd get a total of two poems before she'd cancel the relationship for good.

    • @dsonyay
      @dsonyay 8 месяцев назад

      I can only write poems that begin with roses are red, violets are blue

  • @marievayda7527
    @marievayda7527 Год назад +65

    I met my husband end of May he asked me to marry him in August we were married in 13 months. We will be celebrating our 50th this year. I would do it over and over again.

  • @theresefrancis9283
    @theresefrancis9283 Год назад +150

    My husband and I dated and got married within a year. It's totally worth it. Once you've discerned...why wait? I get wanting "money" and "stability", but you can build that faster together than apart and waiting a really long time can actually be imprudent.

    • @AJanae.
      @AJanae. Год назад +18

      Yes! My husband and I waited so long to get married out of money and stability reasons and once we married we say “we should’ve got married sooner” !

    • @Jack-hd1zn
      @Jack-hd1zn Год назад +4

      Once you reach your 30s and the cares and concerns that plague people in their 20's are gone, dating is so much easier its silly!! Lol

    • @Thagomizer
      @Thagomizer Год назад

      Yes, but "together and unmarried" in my state means all of that plus free health insurance from Medicaid.

    • @lothara.schmal5092
      @lothara.schmal5092 Год назад +4

      @@Thagomizer Your immortal soul>free healthcare imo

  • @kurzantema
    @kurzantema Год назад +152

    Please do a homeschooling episode with Cameron and questions from the audience. It's do great to see you two together

    • @gentlecatholic
      @gentlecatholic Год назад

      Yes please!

    • @kurzantema
      @kurzantema Год назад +2

      Cameron just made a video on her channel called: Unschooling is not as crazy as I thought :)

  • @LordSenechal
    @LordSenechal Год назад +305

    This is so wholesome and made me laugh a lot. I can’t wait to get married in October! Pray for me! Cheers

    • @almacarminaa
      @almacarminaa Год назад +6

      Congratulations! Prayers for you and your future spouse!

    • @AJanae.
      @AJanae. Год назад +5

      Oh congrats!!! I got married last January… it’s a day you’ll always remember.. so very special and it only gets better ♥️♥️♥️

    • @cfradd
      @cfradd Год назад +4

      congratulations!!

    • @sleeplesshead602
      @sleeplesshead602 Год назад +2

      Congratulations! Praying happiness for both of you 💖

    • @matthewcunningham5382
      @matthewcunningham5382 Год назад +4

      That's awesome! I'm getting married in October as well so please pray for me and my future spouse as I pray for you and your future spouse as well

  • @nickproulx6650
    @nickproulx6650 Год назад +142

    Can’t wait - these episodes with Cameron are the best!

  • @IS-kf4nr
    @IS-kf4nr Год назад +70

    Excellent episode! To the Catholic Match point: one of the reasons why you have to pay is to weed out the creepy people who are on there for the wrong reasons. If you're paying for something there is less of a chance that you are on there for ulterior motives. That's also why they don't let you send social media handles, etc, without paying.
    You both are such a wonderful couple and what you said about basically, "not deciding is deciding" really struck a chord with me. Again, great job!

    • @Maranatha-t9d
      @Maranatha-t9d Год назад +7

      I’ve paid and have met a few creeps on that site unfortunately.

    • @mariemunzar6474
      @mariemunzar6474 4 месяца назад

      @@Maranatha-t9d yeah. Even creeps pay to use Catholic match. A lot of creeps out there want a Catholic woman....

  • @henrysharpe9976
    @henrysharpe9976 Год назад +56

    I don't think I've ever had so many laughs in one sitting as this episode got from me!!
    On a more serious note:
    In hearing two people in love, I can see the love of God in a different way.
    Thank you!
    May the Good Lord bless you and your family!

  • @anzot6903
    @anzot6903 Год назад +46

    Regarding dating/engagement length, certain personality disorders usually can be hidden for about six months before the facade becomes too much to maintain in a given relationship, so I generally advise friends to at least date that long. There are exceptions, of course. It's just one of those things to be cautious about.
    (Worked in a Tribunal. Saw lots of dysfunctional marriages and reason for breakdown.)

    • @Ste.Germaine
      @Ste.Germaine Год назад +7

      I agree! And I would say ideally date for a year and meet each other’s family of origin.

    • @byzantinebeauty
      @byzantinebeauty Год назад

      This is why I have that time parameter in dating because I have bpd. Albeit, i inform new partners and make active efforts to not allow it to be an issue in how I treat men

    • @l.elmo.di.scipio
      @l.elmo.di.scipio 3 месяца назад

      Now, that's a good piece of advice!

  • @Jack-hd1zn
    @Jack-hd1zn Год назад +111

    I met my wife on a secular dating app but with filters for only Catholic women. We met (we were not friends first, this is key.) We went on our first date, became exclusive, got engaged and married inside of 15 months. And my biggest take away is: all the advice given by chastity speakers and "purity culture" was either not helpful or wasn't true. And before anyone asks, me and my wife did save the marital embrace for marriage and lived out the church's call to faithful couples to the letter. And even so:
    - We didn't save our first kiss for the altar.
    - We weren't friends first.
    - We didn't meet through the church or a catholic dating site.
    - We didn't let our expectations cripple our relationship when we found a flaw in the other.
    Point is, Catholics are shooting themselves in the foot by buying all these weird pieces of advice with no grounding in scripture or tradition but that are born from a spirit of brokenness and desire to not get hurt again. But if you want to love, if you want to know the thrill of a beautiful, Christ-centered relationship, you have to put down the book or podcast or whatever, and take the risk to love with abandon and joy 😊

    • @Abigail-ly7fr
      @Abigail-ly7fr Год назад +9

      this is so beautiful and can be true for so many people! I know I've experienced bits of what you're saying here in my relationship (engaged to be married later this year!) - but I went through a serious episode of fear and anxiety (not from God) when I heard some of the things these chastity speakers were saying. Not to say what they preach isn't good! But sometimes they make sweeping generalizations that can hurt rather than enrich a relationship you're in. Trust in God, love much. If both people are desiring holiness and bring the best to the table each day, with the understanding that we are all human and will always fall but will strive for perfection... that is beautiful.

    • @Jack-hd1zn
      @Jack-hd1zn Год назад +3

      @Abigail Congrats on the Engagement, Abigail! Be assured of my prayers for you and your future husband!!
      Yeah and admittedly, some of the more "radical" chastity speakers aren't even Catholic, many are evangelical or Mormon actually. But a lot of these ideas catch fire and become THE only way to go about being chaste and its just not true.

    • @Abigail-ly7fr
      @Abigail-ly7fr Год назад +4

      @@Jack-hd1zn thank you very much! And I agree! We're all broken people and some of us are blessed to find another person who's just broken, yet striving to be better. Sainthood is a journey!

    • @laurenfluder537
      @laurenfluder537 Год назад +3

      My husband and I met on Catholic Match, both with the intention of meeting our spouse and discerning marriage. I'd definitely say we were 'friends' first. We lived 1,000miles apart and didn't have much ability to meet initially, but the friendship was strong, the conversation flowing and we loved talking. He's still my best friend, I am really grateful to be married to my best friend.

    • @Jack-hd1zn
      @Jack-hd1zn Год назад

      @Lauren Fluder That's beautiful and I'm so overjoyed for your Faith-Filled love story! My wife is, and always will be, my best friend. She wasn't my friend before we became an exclusive, official couple dating and discerning marriage. Other couples are friends first and their marriages are as strong and lovely as those who go on a date before being friends. Again, my point is saying one path is better or "more prudent/pure" isn't fair and does a disservice to those who don't do it the way a Chastity Book says to.

  • @abigailsullivan3078
    @abigailsullivan3078 Год назад +27

    I feel like I’m just watching my parents express their love and it makes me so emotionally happy for you guys!!!

  • @IlluminosaImmortalis
    @IlluminosaImmortalis Год назад +15

    It's so nice to hear stories like my own! My husband and I got married after knowing each other nine months when his parents were losing their mind with how FAST it all was. I'm so glad we got married when we did. It was the best decision and we're so blessed.

  • @timrichardson4018
    @timrichardson4018 Год назад +9

    "Since discernment has become fashionable, no one has made a decision since."
    Wow! That rings true. It's hyperbolic, but there's definitely truth in it. Discern. Exercise wisdom. Seek council. Make sure there aren't red flags you're ignoring. But at some point, you have to decide, commit, and jump in with both feet.

  • @viviennedunbar3374
    @viviennedunbar3374 Год назад +74

    If you got married within 12 months ( or within 2 years) of meeting and are still married sign in here.
    Met my husband and we were friends for a few months, we started dating and within 3 weeks he asked me to marry him (we had been hanging out a lot as friends first). We met in April, started dating in July and were married by the next June. Happily married 26 yrs.

  • @tired_eyes49
    @tired_eyes49 Год назад +43

    Super excited! I just finished watching you and Cameron’s podcast on chronic pain, and I cannot WAIT for this one!

    • @pintswithaquinas
      @pintswithaquinas  Год назад +15

      Awesome! Thank you!

    • @FreedomandBaconHomestead
      @FreedomandBaconHomestead Год назад +2

      @@pintswithaquinas That conversation was excellent and I shared it with a friend who has chronic pain who appreciated the conversation, too!

    • @josephdemary4048
      @josephdemary4048 Год назад +3

      Yo, this is de Maris from Brian's server. Can't believe I found you here lol.

    • @cfradd
      @cfradd Год назад +2

      @@FreedomandBaconHomestead hope it helped!

    • @tired_eyes49
      @tired_eyes49 Год назад

      @@josephdemary4048 haha whoa!

  • @PopCultureCatechism
    @PopCultureCatechism Год назад +26

    Thanks for sharing so vulnerably. It’s not easy to be vulnerable and open on the internet.

  • @Cj-ou8jq
    @Cj-ou8jq Год назад +14

    In all honesty Matt, you and your wife need to do this more! #JackieAndBobbyPart2

  • @livymarie3573
    @livymarie3573 Год назад +10

    Happy Valentine's Day, Matt and Cameron!
    It's so life-giving to see such a beautiful couple such as yourselves. I can't wait to watch this after I finish classes today. Just had to hop on here and tell you that I love you, both!
    In Christ,
    Liv

  • @jenniferrogoff8459
    @jenniferrogoff8459 Год назад +9

    I love watching the 2 of you together! I think you are a great witness in that super realistic genuine way!! God bless you!!!

  • @dentellier
    @dentellier Год назад +16

    This is the sweetest convo ever. You guys are adorable. Makes me wish I were married.

  • @TheJmlew11
    @TheJmlew11 Год назад +36

    Discerned out of seminary last summer (was in for 5 years) and I must say that the Catholic dating scene is pretty tough to navigate.

    • @sebastienzarate9408
      @sebastienzarate9408 Год назад +13

      It hardly even exists to be honest.

    • @cfdcany
      @cfdcany Год назад +5

      Hang in there, brother. You'll find your woman.

    • @Ste.Germaine
      @Ste.Germaine Год назад +3

      I will pray for you! Find any Catholic young adult groups you can. Go to daily Mass at larger parishes. ❤

    • @TheJmlew11
      @TheJmlew11 Год назад

      @@cfdcany thanks for the encouragement!!

    • @TheJmlew11
      @TheJmlew11 Год назад +6

      @@Ste.Germaine thanks for your prayers! I have been, though surprisingly the population is overwhelming male. Those few single women seem to be comfortable being single.

  • @noahhastings6145
    @noahhastings6145 Год назад +12

    Cameron is the best guest

  • @Mobuku
    @Mobuku Год назад +6

    Tbh, if you think about it particularly in the context of history, $30 for Catholic Match isn't too bad compared to how much people paid in the past to find a spouse, e.g. dowries, mail-order brides, etc. Not just in the past too, but even some countries still do that with arranged marriages. They probably cost more than $30, so $30 isn't too bad.

  • @thebaremumma8739
    @thebaremumma8739 10 месяцев назад +1

    Just watching this - January 2024. This IS SO GOOD. I did NET Canada year ago and all the names you are mentioning are all so familiar. I just love hearing your story. It reminds me of my own. So wholesome. So good. Thank you for sharing.

  • @ceciliaaguirre2962
    @ceciliaaguirre2962 Год назад +10

    I love how much you all laugh together! 🥰

  • @cdeep4548
    @cdeep4548 Год назад +4

    I’ve been single for almost a year now. It took some time to get used to being single but I have to say I actually prefer it now. I have found it difficult to navigate dating in the Bay Area to say the least 😒. But if for some miracle I happen to get to meet someone, I hope my faith doesn’t get compromised with sin of impurity.

  • @MrJDadBlack
    @MrJDadBlack Год назад +1

    Great episode!!! I thank you both for sharing your experiences with us on the ether! I pray our Immaculate Lady, the blessed Virgin Mary, will bless your family with many uplifting and wonderful Graces very soon!
    My wife and I have so many very similar stories as you guys; married 18 years and we were 22 and 21 years old, I got home from a year in Iraq in 2004 and we married 7 months later! I converted when we were pregnant with our first child, and dealt with (still dealing with them) the same fears Matt mentions… *sigh* I received a lot of positive take always and found myself feeling very comforted listening to other Catholic married couples share their struggles and joys. Thanks again Fradd’s!!

  • @mimi_j
    @mimi_j Год назад +18

    I looove these interviews with his wife 😂😂😂

  • @18Tonks
    @18Tonks Год назад +6

    Literally watching this as my Valentine evening activity and it’s fabulous 😂

  • @PipeDreamerJacques
    @PipeDreamerJacques Год назад +3

    This was an EXCELLENT episode. Thank you for being so honest in all these topics. I’ve shared this with my wife and I hope she listens.

  • @truegirl2anna
    @truegirl2anna Год назад +7

    Yayyyy!! Cameron!! Love it whenever these two hangout together on the show 🥳🥳🙏

    • @cfradd
      @cfradd Год назад +1

      Hahaha Thanks!

  • @eomerofrohan4399
    @eomerofrohan4399 Год назад +25

    I genuinely really enjoy Thursday on the show. He counterbalances Matt's grumpy old man energy

  • @thecathbrig
    @thecathbrig Год назад +5

    Great episode. However, I find that Thursday's interjections and rants take away from the awesome interaction between Matt and Cameron.

  • @ArlinAmelia
    @ArlinAmelia Год назад +1

    I could listen to Matt and Cameron all day! Really enjoyed this episode, God bless you both and your families and thank you for being so honest and helpful with us all!

  • @patty378
    @patty378 Год назад +14

    We need all the parenting advice!!! 3 kids 5 and under here and strong fertility -- I am scared of getting pregnant again lol and then getting too intense with my oldest when dealing with pregnancy challenges and postpartum and even just that whole first year with a baby is tough.

    • @patty378
      @patty378 Год назад +3

      "Our wounds are rubbing up against each other" is the best line...also Matt your vulnerability is heart-warming and touching. Thank you deeply for sharing that with us so that we can receive your vulnerability and gift it to our families as well.

    • @crusaderACR
      @crusaderACR Год назад +1

      Look into natural family planning (NFP)!

  • @terirusnak9675
    @terirusnak9675 Год назад +5

    Catholic Match is far from perfect. But it is one way of allowing God to work in your life and lead you to your vocation.
    I was on CM for FIFTEEN YEARS! I have no idea how much money I spent on subscriptions collectively over the years. Bad date, after (really) bad date. Then one day, a day before my subscription expired, my now-husband messaged me. We dated for 6 months, were engaged for the next 6, and now we are married. Those 15 years were awful, but the end result was worth it. You never know when God will step in and say, “Ok, now!” ❤️

  • @benbing3926
    @benbing3926 Год назад +1

    This is so beautiful. Thank you two for sharing so much and being so open: your stories and advice are so inspiring. May God Bless your marriage and family.

  • @TheTrump
    @TheTrump Год назад +1

    I love that you two did this. Such a great show and it's amazing how well you to communicate. ❤

  • @FreedomandBaconHomestead
    @FreedomandBaconHomestead Год назад +7

    "Matt.exe stopped working" made me LOL in real life. Great conversation and God bless you all!

  • @alexrolande
    @alexrolande Год назад +7

    On parenting I can’t recommend Lisa and Greg Popcak enough! Their book Parenting with Grace was life changing for me… definitely a couple I’d love to see @pints have on!!

  • @isap01
    @isap01 Год назад +6

    Wait you’re coming to Guatemala?! What for? That’s amazing! Loyal Catholic Guatemalan subscriber here 🙋‍♀️ I would love to know if you’re doing a speaking event or something of the sort so I can attend. Or if there’s any way you could do an event at my college. Sending lots of love and support! 🇬🇹🇬🇹🤍🤍

    • @jeremysmith7176
      @jeremysmith7176 Год назад +2

      Given Matt spoke of just getting back from SEEK which was early January at the beginning of the video and recording so they have a buffer of content, it is quite likely they have already finished their Guatemala trip.

  • @Seethi_C
    @Seethi_C Год назад +10

    The problem with Catholic Match isn’t the money. I paid for the full subscription and sent out hundreds of messages. Only got 2 dates out of it.
    They have to make money, so I don’t fault them. The biggest problem is that there is an imbalance between the number of men and women on the site.

    • @NaruIchiLuffy
      @NaruIchiLuffy Год назад

      More of which?

    • @Seethi_C
      @Seethi_C Год назад +8

      @@NaruIchiLuffy Much more men than women, as is true on all dating apps

    • @danstrikker6465
      @danstrikker6465 Год назад +5

      Welcome to modern dating. It sucks

  • @elizabellabethabell9003
    @elizabellabethabell9003 Год назад +8

    Do you think you could do an episode regarding the "marital debt?" That is, to what extent one is or is not obligated to engage sexually with one's spouse, and the complexities of the issue. Timothy Gordon just released a video on it in response to criticisms of his wife's book that talks about it, and I have to say, I found it shocking. I'm trying to educate myself more about it online, but frankly a lot of the people explaining it have a "trad" (the bad kind) way of talkng about it that brushes off all concerns with "well, too bad, do it anyway." It makes considerate love in matrimony sound optional, and from a young Catholic woman looking to marry, it's causing me some real anxiety. I'd love to have it explained in a thoughtful way. Love your show ❤️

    • @eamonnclark7360
      @eamonnclark7360 Год назад

      There is a very long juridical and moral tradition on marital debt which Gordon seems not to want to try to tackle - or is not even aware of.
      Two really good summaries can be found in McHugh and Callan's excellent morals textbook (#2614-6), and Prummer's classic handbook (the 1 volume version - #860-1). You can easily find both texts online. Older authorities go into more details (like those St. Alphonsus works with as authorities), but they don't always agree with each other, and they are not translated, so it's not so simple. Best method: consider how serious the request is, consider how reasonable the request is given various circumstances, use common sense and charity to figure it out, with good communication, and lean toward giving when in doubt.

    • @elizabellabethabell9003
      @elizabellabethabell9003 Год назад

      ​@@eamonnclark7360 Thank you for your response! That was more or less how I'd always looked at it, and since I'd never heard much to the contrary, I had never researched the topic much. At the very least, I'm thankful that Gordon's video made me think on this matter prior to marriage. I think he and his wife are good people, (and they seem very happy together) they just have a way of tackling things like this that is really unhelpful sometimes.

    • @viviennedunbar3374
      @viviennedunbar3374 Год назад

      Timothy Gordon is not Jesus. He has an opinion, a strong opinion and you are free to disagree with his opinion. He is very into macho posturing and (although I personally find him very good looking and sexy) it’s of a certain American Trad Bro kind which does not speak for the whole Church, all Catholics, all Catholic men or even all Catholic men in the USA. You can listen to his opinion and respect it but you have no obligation to hold the same opinion. There is no Catholic Dogma on this issue, every Catholic married couple are unique.

    • @RCGWho
      @RCGWho 6 месяцев назад

      My talk with my daughter: say you want it once a month when you are fertile and he wants it daily, who's right? Women seem to think they can and should say no for any and all reasons, thus the age old joke about "I have a headache." Biblically, she should make her self available, but he should love her enough to not ask if she's literally ill, has a true migraine, just got terrible news, or is on her period. Etc If she doesn't control the whole thing and live in avoidance for whatever reason, he'll be more patient with actual legit reasons to abstain.

  • @chirpyfernandes9866
    @chirpyfernandes9866 Год назад +20

    I actually met my husband at Catholic Match 😂 we both love the website as it really help us finding someone from the same faith..

  • @angrypotato_fz
    @angrypotato_fz Год назад +3

    1:05:20 A beautiful piece of advice! I never head it before, but it makes a lot of sense. It's better to speak with friends who try to understand the spouse and explain his/her behaviour than getting even more winded up and grow the anger and misunderstandings (even though the later is easier and might be relaxing a bit, but is harmful in a long way) Also great that you pointed out how pitiful it is to complain about the spouse to other people (in a mocking way, not a loving, vulnerable and respectful way).

  • @socialconservative6173
    @socialconservative6173 Год назад +7

    The actual problems with Catholic Match:
    1. There's no way to tell how recently a user has last logged in. So you have no clue whether the person you messaged has been inactive for a year or not, or even uses the site anymore. They USED to have filters for users that have logged in the last 24 hours, week, and so on, so you didn't have to waste your time messaging someone that barely touches the app. Not anymore. They just lump everyone together, to make it appear there are more active users than there are, to further entice people to keep using the app.
    2. Horrible UX/UI. They've reduced their search filters. Also, when you block a user, they blocked user gets a very harsh notification telling them something like "so and so has blocked you", which can be very upsetting, and can come across as uncharitable, even if that isn't the intent by the blocker.
    3. Appeals to "normie" Catholics and cultural Catholics. Why even be on a Catholic dating site if you don't agree with all the teachings of the Church? It's hard enough to find a devout Catholic spouse, but it's just as hard on Catholic Match. Even though you can filter for people who agree with all church teachings, many of those users actually don't, or they say they will, but put down that they attend mass once a month. Huh? It's not that hard to set up a flag where you can't put that you agree with all Church teachings but only attend mass once a month.
    4. Manipulative scrolling experience. So when you scroll through a search, the same profile will appear multiple times. This is to trick the end user into thinking there are more results than there are, and to keep people scrolling more, increasing their eyeballs on the app.
    And even if Cameron thinks, "Oh, it's just $30 for true love!", it's not. Especially for men, since we have to spend more time and effort before we get responses from women. And even more technologically-robust dating platforms like Hinge are comparable in price to CM, and they provide a vastly better experience. CM is garbage which makes money on tech-illiterate Boomers and cultural Catholics. They don't care about helping Catholics. And all of the problems I've listed aren't merely "nO gIrlZzZ mEsSaGe Me BaCk!!!!!11!!!!!!11!!!", they're completely fixable by Catholic Match, but they choose not to. Because money.

    • @lilaccatholic
      @lilaccatholic Год назад +2

      THIS!!!!! So much of the time my filters are flat-out ignored when they're showing me matches. If I can have a better experience on an app that I don't have to pay $30/month for, then why wouldn't I? Sometimes it feels like Catholic companies hide behind the label of "Catholic" to skirt past valid criticism.

    • @xty070
      @xty070 Год назад

      I’m a woman and I totally agree. They are just ripping people off.

    • @RCGWho
      @RCGWho 6 месяцев назад

      It sounds like they have about 12 members.

  • @Karlaestefaniar
    @Karlaestefaniar Год назад +4

    I really love how realistic you are about these very normal things, Gos bless your marriage and family always ❤

  • @marek431
    @marek431 Год назад +4

    That was a great conversation! Thanks guys. ❤

  • @andya7012
    @andya7012 Год назад +6

    Currently engaged and I feel what Matt was saying about the fear of not being a good husband real hard right now! Must be normal lol

  • @PepiNo-jt3zd
    @PepiNo-jt3zd Год назад +1

    This was actually a beautiful episode, Cameron is radiant!!
    I stopped watching/listening to your show a while ago, and it seems I came back to check it at the right time. I needed to hear some of these things-
    Thanks for this little interview with your lovely wife, she seems so grounded and strong, things I aspire to be.
    Pray for me as I prepare myself to go into this dating thing, after being in a really long relationship that I thought would lead to marriage, feeling kinda lost right now!! The catholic environment I am in is full of beautiful people but none of them close to my age, so it's hard to find anyone to walk these paths with.
    Also Thursday seems like a hilarious guy too :) Good episode

    • @PalinaZ
      @PalinaZ 11 месяцев назад

      How is it going? (:

  • @katerinajoan257
    @katerinajoan257 Год назад +12

    Watching you both laugh about your children was the best part of this episode ❤😅

  • @victorialozano7033
    @victorialozano7033 Год назад +3

    I just love Cameron so much

  • @nitapalacios4968
    @nitapalacios4968 Год назад +8

    Love Matt and Cameron!❤But can we get a little less of the producer constantly interjecting? He totally cuts off Matt or Cameron mid speech more than once.

  • @viviennedunbar3374
    @viviennedunbar3374 Год назад +14

    I have never hit my children. Our rule is no one hits anyone else in our family, adults don’t hit each other, children don’t hit each other and adults don’t hit kids. I think if you can’t discipline your children without hitting them you have actually lost control. You need to teach your kids self-control, and you don’t do that by losing control yourself. I always had clear boundaries and consequences for breaking those boundaries. I had a very strong mom who could discipline us with a look (😂) so guess I learnt from the best. My kids weren’t ever frightened of me, but they knew I meant business. One great tip I got for discipline is if you ever are caught out in a situation where you are not sure how to discipline (especially if you feel furious), as long it’s a child old enough to understand (maybe 5+) you can say let them know they are in trouble but say “I am going to let you know what your consequences will be later”. Let them sweat while you figure out the best consequences, you don’t have to always give them consequences on the spot. Also, always apologize to your kids if it’s appropriate, model asking for forgiveness.

    • @bertryman773
      @bertryman773 Год назад +3

      I personally don't understand the position that hitting the children is alright because they don't have the ability to reason. This argument certainly wouldn't be used in the advocacy of striking the mentally ill, although the same logic applies. That's because we know it would be inhumane and barbaric. All the more so to strike a child who doesn't yet possess a developed brain and also does not possess the ability to reason out their actions. Not only are they not in a position to be liable for their actions because they don't have impulse control until around 4 years old, but that form of discipline creates negative implicit memories, raises stress levels, and changes cognitive function in a way that is harmful to the overall development of the child.

    • @mrs.t4382
      @mrs.t4382 Год назад +1

      There are times when corporal punishment is necessary. After all, doesn’t purgatory include physical suffering?

    • @bertryman773
      @bertryman773 Год назад

      @@mrs.t4382 Research on corporal punishment suggests otherwise. Harvard recently completed research on the long term negative effects of corporal punishment, even if that punishment is small. There are just much better methods. They might not be easier, but no one ever said being a parent is easy. In regards to purgatory, I suppose it depends on what you believe. But considering that the purpose of purgatory is to prepare the soul for Heaven through purification, I would propose that while there is suffering in Purgatory, it’s directly related to the need of the soul. For instance, if you had an issue with sloth before you died, your time in purgatory would put you through a kind of spiritual work to counteract the laziness. Or if you had a problem with speaking unkindly, the method of purification will likely involve suffering through the effects of your own unkindness. In this case I would actually view the purifications of purgatory to be of a natural spiritual consequence rather than a corporal punishment. It certainly makes more sense as well seeing as how the point is make the soul whole and perfect so that we can enter heaven. Simple being punished doesn’t correct behavior. At best it only stops it and represses the root cause.

    • @chdwck493
      @chdwck493 Год назад

      🙄

  • @volusian95
    @volusian95 Год назад +17

    Hate to be gloomy, but these discussions always make me melancholic. I'm getting close to 28, and have never really dated yet. Maybe I live in a bad area, but it just seems impossible. Especially if we're talking about at some sort of church event group etc, that sort of thing is non-existent in many places.
    Luckily there's a lot more to life, I don't let it turn me bitter etc, but sometimes there's that little sad voice that I have to drown out by praying and lifting heavier

    • @herlocksholmes9369
      @herlocksholmes9369 Год назад +16

      I know how you feel, brother, and I'm quite a bit older than you. I've had a few (non-Christian) girlfriends in the past. And though it was nice to have a girlfriend, there is not really anything fulfilling in it when the relationship never leads into marriage. Maybe you don't feel young at 28, but from my perspective you still are :) One thing I've only realised a few years ago is that the reason I haven't found my wife yet, might be because I actually haven't been ready for marriage and God wants me to grow in virtue first. So that is my main advice to you: to strife for virtue and to become a good man. Sure, there are other things we can do to improve our chances - depending on the person, it could be improving your social skills or simply attending social activities with other young people of faith. But the main thing is to become a good man of virtue.

    • @ohhello3234
      @ohhello3234 Год назад

      Take a look at Christian dating websites.

    • @kristinedeabreu2288
      @kristinedeabreu2288 Год назад +6

      Same situation. No church events for singles where I live and rarely any people my age actually practising.

    • @jonathanstensberg
      @jonathanstensberg Год назад +2

      You need to increase your socialization opportunities and connections. Start joining groups that do things together, and then start talking to those people. It sounds like you lift, so join a lifting group rather than doing it by yourself all the time--even if it is all male. Then find another activity that you enjoy, and find a group that does that. If Google doesn't help in searching for things, try asking a librarian or a bartender or whoever. Put in the work. If there is no church group, talk to the priest and be the person who starts one.

    • @ohhello3234
      @ohhello3234 Год назад +2

      Can't stress it enough. Online christian dating. Met my wife there from another state. 3 kids by now and counting.

  • @kimlennard1024
    @kimlennard1024 Год назад +5

    Not Catholic, no idea what you are talking about but love the interaction between a loving married couple.
    Matt mate you are sure punching above your weight! Cam is beautiful.

  • @MartinaStC
    @MartinaStC Год назад +1

    Brilliant! You two together give so much fruit! More please! Matt, we need your wife's voice more with your beautiful thoughts too with her. Treasure your moments together, she is God's and He might be missing her, dive deep in her and Him and flourish both of you, peace and blessings to you both and may God protect you and your family.

  • @bethanyb2244
    @bethanyb2244 Год назад +1

    I got something on Catholic Match for Thursday lol. I saw a post on a very traditional homeschooling Catholic moms Instagram about a work from home job for a Catholic company, turned out to be Catholic Match for a customer service position. I believe she does this same job part time from home with a bunch of kids. Awesome, I was interested. She connected me with someone who turned out to be one of the founders of the site and I had a video interview with him. We got to the part about the hours and schedule of the position and it turns out Sundays were required (I was quite surprised this mom would have advertised such a job with how traditional she is but turns out she didn’t know this was a requirement and she doesn’t work on Sundays which is why she didn’t give me this info originally). So the interview ended there because he had no intention of budging from this requirement. And I refuse to sin (plenty of other companies I could work for not on Sundays if I need to do this is not necessary for me) or take precious time from my Sunday with my family and Mass at my parish to work and was appalled that a company calling itself Catholic would require this. I also don’t think customer service tickets are so essential they can’t wait until Monday. So there’s my tea on Catholic Match.

  • @aadamy
    @aadamy Год назад +1

    This was such a treat. Thank you!

  • @morganwaites1420
    @morganwaites1420 Год назад +7

    “It’s NETs fault, they put us on a team together” I said the saaameee thing about my missionary organization. But we dated and then broke up

  • @KeepItBeastn
    @KeepItBeastn Год назад +2

    The whole Catholic Match thing is just Thursday gravely misunderstanding capitalism. People who do not run businesses often do not think about what running a business entails. Without profit, catholic match would not exist at all, and no matter how annoying it is to use, it not existing give you lees options than with it existing. And if one does not believe profit is required for the thing to exist in the first place, then simply ask yourself why you yourself have not done the thing.

  • @CatholicWithaBiblePodcast
    @CatholicWithaBiblePodcast Год назад +1

    Your chats with you wive are delightful and I think most people would be cool seeing even of this. Embrace that convenience.

  • @shaynasmits3551
    @shaynasmits3551 Год назад

    The plug of Steubenville is electric, especially at the end I laughed out loud. love y'all's podcast especially when Cameron is on!

  • @adapalacios6357
    @adapalacios6357 Год назад +3

    Not blaming the website but I used Catholic Match and ended up traveling to meet someone who turned out to not be a Catholic at all and completely lied about everything we chatted about for weeks! Never again

  • @AG-kr1my
    @AG-kr1my Год назад +3

    This was lovely and hilarious 💖

  • @andrewpearson1903
    @andrewpearson1903 Год назад +9

    45:40 This is probably the scariest prospective part of marriage for me too: being seen & understood by a spouse. Good to know that a Catholic man who turned out pretty well knows what this is like

  • @alejandracasey4482
    @alejandracasey4482 Год назад +1

    I love this episode. You two are great together 🎉❤. I joined Catholicchemistry after Matt Fradd pitched it on his show. Paid the monthly fee. I got so many fake account users hitting on me. I closed my account after two months. 😢

  • @markkristynichols845
    @markkristynichols845 Год назад

    I LOVED this😂😂😂 Married 32 years July ‘24 and cannot tell our first date for our boys (27&25) YET😂😂😂

  • @angrypotato_fz
    @angrypotato_fz Год назад +5

    Wow, Cameron looks stunning!

    • @LadyK007
      @LadyK007 Год назад

      She’s beautiful! Physically and spiritually😍

  • @JM-ms7wk
    @JM-ms7wk Год назад

    This is on top of my favourite episodes this year!!! Cheers 🍻 guys!!!

  • @SherooDeen
    @SherooDeen Год назад +3

    This episode was great! Thanks for the great content and laughs. My wife and I had our first kiss and it was so awkward that we sort of repress it from our memories.

  • @JimiReader
    @JimiReader Год назад +1

    Happy Valentine's Day everyone! :)

  • @anaclararodas4833
    @anaclararodas4833 Год назад

    Hey Matt and Cameron, I'm from Guatemala and hope you enjoyed your stay here! If you ever get the chance again I recommend you coming for Holy Week, the processions are amazing 💯

  • @agnesfaifua5617
    @agnesfaifua5617 Год назад +1

    Love this!!😅😅🥰Gorgeous, hilarious, sincere!! Keep on keeping it real!🥰❤️‍🔥🙏

  • @paulcollins8695
    @paulcollins8695 Год назад +3

    I enjoy this show--first time

  • @7uhv
    @7uhv Год назад +1

    The raw honesty is awesome and hilarious , God bless Thursday,l luv him perfect addition.

  • @erock5b
    @erock5b Год назад +3

    Steubenville... It's like "the hood" but with Catholics.

  • @veronicapagan4520
    @veronicapagan4520 Год назад

    This was my favorite ! Great job!

  • @paulcollins8695
    @paulcollins8695 Год назад +4

    What are your thoughts on someone who is Catholic who loves someone who is Buddhist and truly love each other?

    • @patty378
      @patty378 Год назад +2

      You may not be asking for my thoughts, but the Church supports it! A Catholic can marry a non-Catholic as long as the non-Catholic is willing to practice NFP (for you) to avoid pregnancy should you want to due to serious reason (named in the Catechism) and raise your children Catholic should you be blessed with them...and hopefully with your witness, prayer, fasting for her and God's grace...she will hopefully convert to Catholicism herself one day but even if she doesn't, the Church validates and supports your marriage to her.

    • @j2muw667
      @j2muw667 Год назад +2

      It will be more difficult because of juggling different faiths.
      But not impossible!

    • @djplexiglass
      @djplexiglass Год назад +9

      Don't be unequally yoked 👍

  • @mrscream2028
    @mrscream2028 Год назад +1

    Wholesome content

    • @mrscream2028
      @mrscream2028 Год назад

      Matt’s got balls of steel bringing his wife on the show 😅

  • @EnchantedStringsToronto
    @EnchantedStringsToronto Год назад +4

    We love a good love story🥰

  • @MALIA74897
    @MALIA74897 Год назад +6

    I wanted to see the pic of you guys as newlyweds

  • @CFLeonor
    @CFLeonor Год назад

    This was great! God bless your family

  • @courtneycallanan4099
    @courtneycallanan4099 Год назад +11

    Okay am I really the only person whose watched this video and would be interested in going on a date with Thursday?

  • @somethinggtwo
    @somethinggtwo 8 месяцев назад

    Oh man I really enjoyed this, cackled a few times through it

  • @Dandymancan
    @Dandymancan Год назад +6

    Okay so I’m in a pickle. There is a girl that I had no feelings for many years ago but she did like me. As I grew up (I’m 21 now) I have not been able to sleep for thinking about her. Yesterday before church started I called her over in the corner and didn’t say nothing except give me your hand, I ended up giving her my phone number. I’m afraid that I might have missed a chance and now I don’t know what to do.
    I’m not asking God to make her love me but if it is in Gods will I get to know her better then please just pray for Gods will go be done.
    But regardless please say a prayer for me that she will at least call or text me regardless if it’s to know me better or if I get friend zoned.
    I ask for this community’s prayers that Gods will be done.
    And also say a prayer for me dealing with this it has made me almost sick thinking I might have missed my chance.

    • @lynncrf
      @lynncrf Год назад +1

      Hey. Any update? Prayers for you.

    • @Dandymancan
      @Dandymancan Год назад

      @@lynncrf nope. I’m hopeful in prayer. But I am not going to be a nuisance to her if she is no longer interested.
      I’m more upset because she never got in contact with me, I mean a simple no I’m not Interested is better then nothing because I need to know if I need to move in with my life or if we can try to work something out.
      If I get friend zoned I’m not gonna boo boo and bawl I’m frustrated because here I was sitting up to 5 o’clock in the morning not knowing if she was going to text me and if she did I definitely didn’t want her to think I was ignoring it.
      Welp there’s an update Fer y’all

  • @CoatesPower
    @CoatesPower Год назад +3

    You two are adorable! ❤

  • @nicoleyoshihara4011
    @nicoleyoshihara4011 Год назад +1

    Love both of your conversations ❤💕💯

  • @arkansas99
    @arkansas99 Год назад +2

    27:55 Hearing my name but knowing I didn’t submit a question😂 Good question though, Noah!

  • @merseabless8305
    @merseabless8305 Год назад

    Love Cameron and Matt

  • @jeremysmith7176
    @jeremysmith7176 Год назад

    1:16:40 Thursday this advert for Stubenville needs to be clipped and uploaded as a short

  • @Apologeticocatolicos
    @Apologeticocatolicos Год назад +1

    Finally made it to a live video 🙌🏽 haha God bless!!

    • @shishsquared
      @shishsquared Год назад +1

      Pretty sure these are pre-recorded, what you saw was the premiere, basically a release watch party

  • @kellibuzzard9431
    @kellibuzzard9431 Год назад +3

    Cameron is awesome. And I miss Neil!

  • @cristalrose37
    @cristalrose37 Год назад

    Saw my husband and thought I never had a chance or that he would see me. Told God that if that man has to be in my life. I know he would do his work… well apparently my husband had to be in my life ❤ still absolutely happy 😊

  • @oxanalim8819
    @oxanalim8819 Год назад +1

    This was wonderful 😊

  • @l.elmo.di.scipio
    @l.elmo.di.scipio 3 месяца назад

    The moment you step down from the fog that is an overly long discernment/confusing phase, it feels like freedom.

  • @breemarierooney3011
    @breemarierooney3011 Год назад

    YOU GUYS ARE ABSOLUTELY ADORABLE 😍