Self improvement is toxic

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  • Опубликовано: 19 ноя 2024

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  • @willyx7418
    @willyx7418 11 месяцев назад +110

    you’re def right bro. and trying to fix a problem you don’t have might just give you that exact problem itself.

  • @umutamca
    @umutamca 10 месяцев назад +7

    that’s exactly what I did for the past 2 years. isolating myself completly from friends and family and focused only on „self-improvement“. in fact I didn’t made an impactful change over the last 2 years. things just got worser and worser. falling into depression and all that bs. The last 2 years now feel like a waste of time, im 22 now. balance is so important. now im still focused on self-improvement but in a much easier and chill way and its so much more fun and easier and the progress comes more by only focusing on self-improvement. i was so obsessed with accomplishing so much in a day that I accomplished nothing. by watching all that motivational bs on youtube just made the things worse because I unconsciously comported myself to them and felt like that I’m far behind them and I have to „hustle“ to keep up with them. this video is an reflection of my last 2 years.

  • @jtheman405
    @jtheman405 11 месяцев назад +23

    I will always vouch for self improvement.
    I teach the self improvement that saved my life. It's self improvement mixed with spirituality and masculinity. The belief that we are worthy enough and deserving of love right now. That doesn't mean that we don't have goals and purposes and things we go after, but still, it's important to realize we are enough worthy and deserving of love before during and after that process. If it were not for this philosophy that I try my best to spread, I would have ended up in prison or dead. In my early teens I was a mental Ill, substance abusing, sociopathic gang member. It is my journey of self improvent, spirituality, and masculinity that saved my life. That is what I work to spread the word about. What I went through and the desire to improve, helped me heal my traumas, put my disorders on a choke hold, and finally get a good sense of self esteem. I do agree with most of what you said though. I see alot of self improvement youtubers preach and belittle people for not being in a certain place or being a certian way. Im agianst that myself, I believe people should be inspired and encouraged . Overall very solid points. New sub here

  • @thetrashguy6934
    @thetrashguy6934 10 месяцев назад +4

    "You're not a sickness, you're not cancer". That line almost made me shed a tear.

  • @vonknee
    @vonknee 11 месяцев назад +19

    i’m actually glad this video exists; i’m into self-improvement, but not INTO self-improvement if that makes sense . in the past i’ve tried the self-improvement rabbit hole and watching all the influencers without success, because my mindset wasn’t right and i hated myself deep down; i felt like i wasn’t enough. this time around i’ve learned to appreciate myself and give myself grace in my current state even though it’s not where i wanna be; because like you said, negativity would’ve been my fuel. i find myself doing better taking it a day at a time slowly and not consuming so much self-improvement content to where i actually look forward to my goals instead of doing them to spite myself-another thing that helped me is shifting my focus from the aesthetics of my body to actual long term fitness goals, being able to do certain things has a way better payoff than pure aesthetics

  • @pauljorgen
    @pauljorgen 11 месяцев назад +39

    After 5 months of self improvement, in the past few days i felt like I was losing, not only my friends, but also my true self, i completely changed my personality since i started this journey, i saw everybody be happy with themselves after going monk mode, so i decided to try it too, and after two days of doing it perfectly, i felt exhausted and burnt out, i was not thinking with my mind anymore, i was just doing what i thought i had to do to become "better" , after seeing this i understood that sometimes things are just good as they are without a need to fix them, and you just simply have to enjoy life.
    Thank you, Shimon.

    • @Sami-fo1jw
      @Sami-fo1jw 11 месяцев назад +4

      bro..i felt the same,my personality now is the personality of a guru,the toughts in my mind its like im hamza or something

    • @ladybird491
      @ladybird491 5 месяцев назад

      I invented monk mode, some years ago on this channel and people took it and didn't give me credit.

  • @looyhooy4556
    @looyhooy4556 11 месяцев назад +9

    "If it aint broke, dont fix it."- Motto by NF

  • @Worldsapart410
    @Worldsapart410 10 месяцев назад +2

    Amen. So many self improvement videos are about how to be “that student”. They say they will show you how to get a girlfriend or boyfriend, be super popular, get good grades, and be well liked. Now, these things are good, yet it is more about changing how other people view you, not about actually being a good person. Grades don’t mean everything. Sometimes people are going through life and they don’t have the right environment or time to achieve good grades. Maybe they don’t even want a career that requires good grades. Not everyone has have a partner, in fact you don’t need one. And you don’t even need friends either. If you try your best and nobody likes you or wants to be your friend, that's okay. It’s not the end of the world to eat lunch alone. And as for being well liked, it doesn't matter what other people think of you. Jesus was the son of god and yet he was mocked and spit on. My point is that saying that these arbitrary things is “self improvement” is awful. You don’t need these things to be the best version of yourself you can be. Intent is everything. These videos are all about boosting your ego and giving you a toxic mindset. The only way that these videos could actually be self improvement is, if it had a good intent. Let’s say I wanted to work on my social skills and I wanted to be better at communicating with others. In that case, yes it would be best to learn to make friends better. Or, let’s say, I wanted to make my parents, happier and be a good kid for them. In that case, yes it would be good to get my grades up. I could also wanna go to good college to accomplish my dreams. That is also another example of how this could be self improvement. Intent is truly everything and these self proclaimed self improvement videos lead people down a bad path. Focus on what self improvement was originally all about. Becoming a better more fulfilled person. You can do that without grades or any superficial ideas people have put in your head. That said, you can also have self improvement with these ideas, as long as your intent is good.

  • @Quickmf56
    @Quickmf56 11 месяцев назад +11

    Holy shit bro like 3 of your videos were recommended to me like 5 vids apart. I never even get a channel twice in my recommended, and three of yours in high concentration is insane!

    • @AskShimon
      @AskShimon  11 месяцев назад +2

      WE ON THE RISE

  • @edwardhill7297
    @edwardhill7297 11 месяцев назад +10

    Man I've found your channel at the perfect time. I used to be a self improvement junkie - it started off good and healthy, I got results, I became more confident it was great. Ive now been burnt out for the better part of the year; Ive got bad body dysmorphia, Im massively withdrawn and my girlfriend has shown me that I'm not myself at the moment. Your videos are so motivating for me to get back on the horse, do things right, for me to live healthy and improve. Many thanks man, you're an inspiration

  • @Yawntin100
    @Yawntin100 10 месяцев назад +3

    This was most likely the exact reason my self improvement journey was at flat, every time I was trying to workout or meditate, I would beat myself down for skipping or missing something and it would just make me skip more things and it just kept spiraling down, thank you for showing me ways to be a better person much love ❤

  • @racegrubb2152
    @racegrubb2152 11 месяцев назад +5

    This is the 1st video I have seen of yours. I just turned 40. Great video young man. This is very true. Don't see many people talking about this. Like telling people they are losers because they only make 60k a year. They aren't you and you are not them. Yeah more money is nice but everyone's situation and strengths are different. Just try to be a slightly better version of yourself than the day before. You remind me of one of the young Jr techs we got. Bout time someone brings this up. 👍✌️

    • @AskShimon
      @AskShimon  11 месяцев назад +2

      I appreciate you🤝

  • @cicholasnage
    @cicholasnage 11 месяцев назад +3

    bro this is exactly what i thought. thanks for covering this topic. Absolutely love your literacy in speaking out your points. Yea, there's also this common problem among some of the more younger ones, teenagers, they tend to interpret the videos, the informations, wrongly. They would get absorbed and be this edgy 'lone wolf'. They take "focus on yourself" way too literally and neglect those around him, even those that cares about em. They would have this unhealthy view of people, like the ones on self-improvement are the top 1% of people and all the others are losers that are stuck in mediocracy and in the 'rat race'. It borderline drives them to be selfish and self-important. What makes it worse is the echo chamber they're in, affirming that their behavior is the right way, like on discords, or tiktok.

  • @bonzomcdrumcat4989
    @bonzomcdrumcat4989 11 месяцев назад +4

    I don't usually comment but I just found this channel and I love it. You do a really good job of helping people become themselves without being condescending and accusing you of not being good enough. I like the gentle encouragement. I'm 16 and I'm in the middle of a confidence crisis. I've been forcing myself to become a wise old man and I can't keep up with it. I'm feeling worthless for not having the answers to things I've never experienced before. And its's exhausting. It's nice to hear the gentle encouragement I need instead of the constant max pressure coming from my head to be mature and wise right now

  • @ryandandurand2625
    @ryandandurand2625 11 месяцев назад +3

    This was good bro, mainly the end related to me and the balance part with school sports, work and a relationship it reminded me to compare myself less but continue to work on the stuff I am doing even tho I would like to still find some time for the gym and continue to get good sleep

  • @factualredactual
    @factualredactual 10 месяцев назад +3

    The tall people die faster affirmation is crazy lol

  • @PowerfulChanges
    @PowerfulChanges 10 месяцев назад +1

    I feel like if you start from a place of I’m not worthy of happiness or love that’s the wrong way to go about it for many reasons, starting from okay I accept this about myself doesn’t change how I feel but let’s try doing things differently or picking up new habits and see if it improves my life.
    Much more healthy frame than starting from I’m not good enough let me master A and I will be

  • @jagody300
    @jagody300 11 месяцев назад +1

    I like these videos. I was also on this self improvement addiction and I would just watch these videos on and on, without actually applying the advice to my regular life. Your videos are awesome man

  • @Mari2Turnt.
    @Mari2Turnt. 11 месяцев назад +1

    I love your videos man❕To everyone else, as a young mind it’s much easier to fall for traps with out even noticing. Such as loving juice world and not realizing you feel sad and depressed every time you listen. But becoming addicted to that feeling without even noticing is the part you must be aware of or not even indulging in the first place.

  • @somewhereinbetween
    @somewhereinbetween 10 месяцев назад

    self improvement is a double edged sword, im a dude in my early 20's who wants to better my physique and health and ive really consumed the "im not x enough" mentality and now i am constantly battling a ruthless eating disorder and trying to undo years of damage but these videos of yours have helped me feel like its going to be okay i still have my relapses but im really trying to get out of this mess

  • @MJ.S_dr
    @MJ.S_dr 11 месяцев назад

    Sometimes I focus on something than Isn't my main goal at the time and I'll lost in a circle of loosing ... it's to sad . So be careful about your actions and don't focus on multiple goals ❤

  • @redskull1453
    @redskull1453 10 месяцев назад +1

    Best channel out here, love your content and mindset

  • @dannyaquino9083
    @dannyaquino9083 11 месяцев назад +1

    in my head, it’s not because there was anything impressionably wrong with myself. Learning to love yourself outside of society’s standards. But it is because I can be better and eventually reach my full potential is what pushes me everyday.

  • @thoughtswithisaiah
    @thoughtswithisaiah 11 месяцев назад +5

    Loving the videos bro this one spoke to me keep it up

    • @AskShimon
      @AskShimon  11 месяцев назад +1

      Glad to hear it

  • @bbangel6935
    @bbangel6935 4 месяца назад

    Hollywood has portrayed those ideas in the mind of some many people

  • @francescofulghieri9608
    @francescofulghieri9608 10 месяцев назад

    the worst time of my life were when I was obsessed with self improvement. it did initiate a ton of growth but honestly a lot of that growth was realizing how much I need other people. I don’t rely on them and I am still disciplined. No man is an island.

  • @Achieversclub_01
    @Achieversclub_01 11 месяцев назад

    real, I felt lost up until this video. I got lost in self improvement and realized everything was based on it. I felt like it was the only way to feel worthy.

  • @OfOurLife
    @OfOurLife 11 месяцев назад +1

    Wah pretty good talk bro you cover all the fundamentals and go deeper dont know where all this comes from . Very good bro. Although i think one instead of examining himself which might be the toughest thing and challenge for people, one should examine everything. I know that's even tougher but thats the truth man. Can start with yourself man but the world became wayyy to big to ignore.

  • @Fayvde
    @Fayvde 11 месяцев назад

    I don’t know what to respond under this video, because the facts are to real. Thank you Shimon for this video!!

    • @AskShimon
      @AskShimon  11 месяцев назад

      I appreciate you ❤️

  • @OrganicONGOD
    @OrganicONGOD 11 месяцев назад

    Came into my feed at the perfect time. I can’t lay in bed without any noise I start to think too much. Cheated on me then tried to spend 500 dollars of my money and my sister’s money. I can’t stop thinking I’m so pissed but hollow at the same time.

  • @Acrobatjej
    @Acrobatjej 11 месяцев назад

    I’m trying figure out who I am atm I think I’m attached to someone too much even though we aren’t dating I always look at their page and it makes me lonely all the time my head was flooding through negative thoughts to a point where it’s unhealthy I’ve been beatin myself for weeks this video gives me hope for self improvement

  • @wanaesthenix
    @wanaesthenix 11 месяцев назад

    Very true. Keep going man, love the content🤝

    • @AskShimon
      @AskShimon  11 месяцев назад

      MY GUY ! Muscle man himself, i appreciate you family and Roger that. You do the same to 🤝

  • @omuzchanoguzhanyani
    @omuzchanoguzhanyani 11 месяцев назад

    Hey man, I clicked your video with chance.I was working and listened you, because I like listening while working.Your speech and quality is really good, I thought you have 500k sub or something.Keep it going you will have more subs and reward.

  • @Gh3rkinz
    @Gh3rkinz 10 месяцев назад

    actual facts, ya wisdom is mad underrated i rekn :)

  • @Lozosan
    @Lozosan 10 месяцев назад

    The tribe is on the rise! 😌

  • @dnxiiee
    @dnxiiee 4 месяца назад

    this was so well said!

  • @slsmckozknkiwnm1822
    @slsmckozknkiwnm1822 9 месяцев назад

    Mucha razón, hubo un día en que simplemente caí, me sentí horrible porque perdí el equilibrio ridículo que me impuse, me sentía solo.

  • @TrillForTheWorld
    @TrillForTheWorld 11 месяцев назад

    Thank you for this.

  • @thedynamic3580
    @thedynamic3580 11 месяцев назад

    This is real motivation

  • @FleXGuy_7
    @FleXGuy_7 11 месяцев назад

    Thank you man!

  • @buggetv5329
    @buggetv5329 11 месяцев назад

    Great content bro! Keep doing what you doing

  • @berkesinnema6154
    @berkesinnema6154 8 месяцев назад

    Thanks friend

  • @ItsssMarkus
    @ItsssMarkus 11 месяцев назад +3

    Wow I don't know how you do it But Wow you are catching up with me

    • @AskShimon
      @AskShimon  11 месяцев назад

      The hard work is paying off bro … we are going to the top

  • @jayyz999
    @jayyz999 9 месяцев назад

    ,,Never change a running system"
    Whoever reads this i love you
    You matter ❤
    Keep that smile up!
    Brighter days are coming

  • @Ken20123
    @Ken20123 11 месяцев назад +4

    Speaking facts

  • @JayOnnaComeUp
    @JayOnnaComeUp 11 месяцев назад +1

    Just gained a new subscriber🤝🏽

    • @AskShimon
      @AskShimon  11 месяцев назад

      Appreciate it

  • @itskam06
    @itskam06 11 месяцев назад +2

    ur growing so fast omg

    • @AskShimon
      @AskShimon  11 месяцев назад

      It’s a beautiful thing

  • @frozengamer3030
    @frozengamer3030 11 месяцев назад +2

    Can you talk about how to control your urges, desires etc

    • @AskShimon
      @AskShimon  11 месяцев назад +2

      Yessir !

    • @bashkim765
      @bashkim765 11 месяцев назад

      Practice meditation, allow to let your thoughts come and go

    • @frozengamer3030
      @frozengamer3030 11 месяцев назад +1

      @@bashkim765 yes be like a bird

  • @alfredobaeza1280
    @alfredobaeza1280 11 месяцев назад

    Hey brotha, appreciate all the advice you’ve given me. I was wondering if there is any books you recommend reading that can help enlighten one’s self. Thanks and god bless❤

    • @AskShimon
      @AskShimon  11 месяцев назад

      I don’t read, that’s something I want to change

    • @alfredobaeza1280
      @alfredobaeza1280 11 месяцев назад

      @@AskShimon I’m also trying to start reading as well. I’ve read one book already and I think you should give it a read. Atomic Habitats by James Clear.

  • @TheSuperiorSapien
    @TheSuperiorSapien 11 месяцев назад +1

  • @WilliamJeff-rl1if
    @WilliamJeff-rl1if 4 месяца назад

    damnnn that hits hard

  • @RickyRodgers-t2b
    @RickyRodgers-t2b 10 месяцев назад

    💯

  • @ayindebankole1225
    @ayindebankole1225 10 месяцев назад

    👌🏾👌🏾

  • @_1.a1
    @_1.a1 11 месяцев назад +1

    agreed

  • @Tyreece869
    @Tyreece869 10 месяцев назад

    Hey what kinda camera do u use

  • @ostn4792
    @ostn4792 11 месяцев назад

    Facts

  • @MasterClick12
    @MasterClick12 10 месяцев назад

    true

  • @parmi1322
    @parmi1322 10 месяцев назад

    Good video bro. Just wanted to note that you forgot to cut the part where you butchered your intro in the first 30 seconds

    • @AskShimon
      @AskShimon  10 месяцев назад

      I left in there, we should see more mistakes💯no one is perfect

  • @MORDOS-fy6it
    @MORDOS-fy6it 8 месяцев назад

    balance:)

  • @bashkim765
    @bashkim765 11 месяцев назад

    Funny how this vid is first on my page

    • @AskShimon
      @AskShimon  11 месяцев назад +1

      We locked in

  • @AtibaVV
    @AtibaVV 11 месяцев назад +1

    Balance222

  • @Wearethelight-rh3tj
    @Wearethelight-rh3tj 11 месяцев назад

    賢者タイムNow

  • @justicemae478
    @justicemae478 11 месяцев назад