Excellent insights Sirji for boys. I wish this video was available at our time . Adding one more red flag which I accidentally learnt from one of my relatives. We were kids and my young uncle was getting married via arranged marriage....a middle class family. Both parties said yes and my uncle even went twice to roam in the garden with his future wife to be. Just one day before sagai...mangni...at night another young man came and told my grandfather that please cancel this marriage since he and that girl both love each other but the girl was afraid to speak. We were happy that this got solved in time by cancellation. The lesson learnt here is to ask the girl if she is willing for marriage or has someone else in her mind. Irrespective of her answer , true or false, it would be better to hire a professional detective to find out about this part and also some other areas as and where required. Please share your views on this Sirji.
@samirbhalerao5579 Thank you so much for sharing these insights and for covering some more aspects regarding spouse selection...will be creating a dedicated video on this very soon..
@@UrbanLifeChannel If you are creating a dedicated video, would like to add another insight.... Intercaste marriage. A decade back I had helped an office friend to get married to a girl of different caste, which was a love marriage. There was very strong opposition for parents and relatives on both sides....both were Hindus...middle class families. For the initial four months things were very adverse and looked on the verge of breakage. They were mentally pressurized and almost cancelled this. But we friends supported them and clearly said it is better to live like a happy married couple instead of forcibly marrying someone else and wrecking at least four lives. Finally they decided to bounce back and after a few more months of struggle they got ok from both families and were finally married. They live a happy life and also have two kids and are also progressing in life in different areas.
@@swatipriya562 aur ladki ki side say "ladka kitna kamata hai?" Kuch cases may koi jobless ladki ko job ya business wala ladka accept karega shadi k liye. Pur kya koi jobwali ya business wali ladki kisi jobless ladke ko accept karegi?
@@samirbhalerao5579 wo toh sb puchte hi hai isme kya prblm hai , and puchna imp v hai , but cooking and ghar manage k liye ladke wale ye soch lete hai aata nhi toh sikh jyegi etc
The biggest revealing factor is her opinion about her father and the relationship between her father and mother. If she thinks her father is a loser, she will want you also to be a loser and herself the righteous disciplinarian. Run
You are wrong as per my understanding green flag for any Indian marriage according to men is women whom they can easily domesticate, other things don't matter
@@swatipriya562 Woman is follower, Man is SUPERIOR LEADER. That is why women demand SUPERIOR MEN : Taller, stronger, smarter, richer etc. So SUBMIT without a single murmur & be a good girl or die barren without marriage & dignity - barren women get Breast cancer too.
Please also cover the Green flags and also things boys think matters but they don't (like how much beauty matters, some think that girl must not have any past boyfriend etc.). it makes them very picky resulting in late marriages. All these are my own observations of genZ
A girls father recently called, shared the girls profile and said she's ok with my profile. Shared the number, but when I called her she said let's text. But even during texting after a while she stopped responding. Should I text her again? I experienced this only in dating apps. I asked her if she's interested in talking to me and she said yes also. How can I understand this kind of attitude?
Been In the same situation, it means she is not interested, just texting you to escape nudge from their parents for marriage I would suggest move on, don’t have hopes on her
@pxvgr so not a positive start for sure, as this is more of a girlfriend-boyfriend attitude, but you can give her the benefit of doubt once...so ideally marriage related conversations need to be in person, if not possible then phone...so you can ask her for the same...if no response, then she is not interested and you can save your time..
3:42 why a krantikari ladki will even think of marriage in first place , you explained every red flad but cooking , ghar k kaam wla angle toh bola hi nhi , indian marriage mai sbse 1st point yhi hota hai
@swatipriya562 ground reality as of 2024, especially in urban middle class, cooking, ghar ke kaam are done by the maids only and not a point for discussion during spouse selection..
So, the same expectations go for guys too, right ? He must not have any liabilities either, nor should any of his asset be in his parents name and he cannot take any responsibility of any of his family member Providing for people who took care of you, is now a cause of liability for a women but expecting her to take care of your parents and adjust to your family environment is ofcourse ordained, this entitled bullshit is why there are going to be issues because you are not even looking at them as a person, why do men especially in India act like they are the only ones allowed to have a personality She should earn but she should not help her parents who raised her but handover the money to me, to live my fantasies was the long and short of it All the best trying to make this arrangement work with any smart woman because she will question you Also the statement for women earning significantly more then there family income, same goes for guys they also have liabilities The self serving mindset is laughable
@SaritaSingh-dx8lv...maybe you watched only this video, if you watch more videos you will find these messages consistently: 1. Stay separately from parents after marriage (no need for the girl to get accustomed to anyone, or to take care of boy's parents) 2. both husband and wife should spend their earnings on their new family only, if they want a happy marriage 3. The wife should not give her earnings to the husband, take financial decisions together but don't hand over the money..
18:08 this is wrong because agar wo ladki apna studies complete kar rhi toh...fir shadi hui...but shadi k baad wo job kregi...kya galat h isme..maine bhi abhi recently apni studies complete ki..mere course m bhot time lag gya h..main job nhi karti abhi but shadi hogi toh job bilkul krungi...
Excellent insights Sirji for boys.
I wish this video was available at our time .
Adding one more red flag which I accidentally learnt from one of my relatives.
We were kids and my young uncle was getting married via arranged marriage....a middle class family.
Both parties said yes and my uncle even went twice to roam in the garden with his future wife to be.
Just one day before sagai...mangni...at night another young man came and told my grandfather that please cancel this marriage since he and that girl both love each other but the girl was afraid to speak.
We were happy that this got solved in time by cancellation.
The lesson learnt here is to ask the girl if she is willing for marriage or has someone else in her mind.
Irrespective of her answer , true or false, it would be better to hire a professional detective to find out about this part and also some other areas as and where required.
Please share your views on this Sirji.
@samirbhalerao5579 Thank you so much for sharing these insights and for covering some more aspects regarding spouse selection...will be creating a dedicated video on this very soon..
@@UrbanLifeChannel If you are creating a dedicated video, would like to add another insight.... Intercaste marriage.
A decade back I had helped an office friend to get married to a girl of different caste, which was a love marriage.
There was very strong opposition for parents and relatives on both sides....both were Hindus...middle class families.
For the initial four months things were very adverse and looked on the verge of breakage. They were mentally pressurized and almost cancelled this. But we friends supported them and clearly said it is better to live like a happy married couple instead of forcibly marrying someone else and wrecking at least four lives.
Finally they decided to bounce back and after a few more months of struggle they got ok from both families and were finally married.
They live a happy life and also have two kids and are also progressing in life in different areas.
And also cooking and managing home , ye toh sbse 1st criteria hai in any marriage, from man side
@@swatipriya562 aur ladki ki side say "ladka kitna kamata hai?"
Kuch cases may koi jobless ladki ko job ya business wala ladka accept karega shadi k liye. Pur kya koi jobwali ya business wali ladki kisi jobless ladke ko accept karegi?
@@samirbhalerao5579 wo toh sb puchte hi hai isme kya prblm hai , and puchna imp v hai , but cooking and ghar manage k liye ladke wale ye soch lete hai aata nhi toh sikh jyegi etc
So happy that I found ur channel 😮
@b4bllu999 thank you so much...gold comment !!
The biggest revealing factor is her opinion about her father and the relationship between her father and mother. If she thinks her father is a loser, she will want you also to be a loser and herself the righteous disciplinarian. Run
You are wrong as per my understanding green flag for any Indian marriage according to men is women whom they can easily domesticate, other things don't matter
What you are saying don't even exist when it comes Indian marriage coz women are supposed to worship their husband as a wife ,
@swatipriya562 yes, we love soft feminine agreeable women. We don't invite problems into our homes - they can stay on the streets.
@@swatipriya562 Woman is follower, Man is SUPERIOR LEADER.
That is why women demand SUPERIOR MEN : Taller, stronger, smarter, richer etc.
So SUBMIT without a single murmur & be a good girl or die barren without marriage & dignity - barren women get Breast cancer too.
@doncorleone3901 very valid points..thanks for adding your thoughts here...
btw, big fan of don corleone here..
Please also cover the Green flags and also things boys think matters but they don't (like how much beauty matters, some think that girl must not have any past boyfriend etc.). it makes them very picky resulting in late marriages.
All these are my own observations of genZ
@vivekrana2003 thank you, these are really valid points...will try to cover them in an upcoming video..
When spouse is not available.... the question of red flag doesn't arise.....👉😎
A girls father recently called, shared the girls profile and said she's ok with my profile.
Shared the number, but when I called her she said let's text.
But even during texting after a while she stopped responding. Should I text her again?
I experienced this only in dating apps.
I asked her if she's interested in talking to me and she said yes also.
How can I understand this kind of attitude?
Been In the same situation, it means she is not interested, just texting you to escape nudge from their parents for marriage
I would suggest move on, don’t have hopes on her
She is not interested & is perhaps not a girl of character & purity as well. Texting females are almost 100% unchaste & impure.
@pxvgr so not a positive start for sure, as this is more of a girlfriend-boyfriend attitude, but you can give her the benefit of doubt once...so ideally marriage related conversations need to be in person, if not possible then phone...so you can ask her for the same...if no response, then she is not interested and you can save your time..
Sir ji working girl ka puchta hu to sab bolte h ladki ka kamaya khaega kya in mocking way.kya karein
Just do what is right for you...one cannot please all the people all the times..
A spouse is the biggest red flag Stick to Tinder
Very important talk.
@bhuplink thank you !!!
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@akshyapani thanks !!!
3:42 why a krantikari ladki will even think of marriage in first place , you explained every red flad but cooking , ghar k kaam wla angle toh bola hi nhi , indian marriage mai sbse 1st point yhi hota hai
@swatipriya562 ground reality as of 2024, especially in urban middle class, cooking, ghar ke kaam are done by the maids only and not a point for discussion during spouse selection..
@@UrbanLifeChannel urban middle class hmm I don't think so unless you are urban upper middle class , seems like your audience is limited
Love marraige is best , aapko pta hta hai ek ddsure ke bare mein
agreed..
ठिक से point to point video बनाना चाहीये
So, the same expectations go for guys too, right ? He must not have any liabilities either, nor should any of his asset be in his parents name and he cannot take any responsibility of any of his family member
Providing for people who took care of you, is now a cause of liability for a women but expecting her to take care of your parents and adjust to your family environment is ofcourse ordained, this entitled bullshit is why there are going to be issues because you are not even looking at them as a person, why do men especially in India act like they are the only ones allowed to have a personality
She should earn but she should not help her parents who raised her but handover the money to me, to live my fantasies was the long and short of it
All the best trying to make this arrangement work with any smart woman because she will question you
Also the statement for women earning significantly more then there family income, same goes for guys they also have liabilities
The self serving mindset is laughable
@SaritaSingh-dx8lv...maybe you watched only this video, if you watch more videos you will find these messages consistently:
1. Stay separately from parents after marriage (no need for the girl to get accustomed to anyone, or to take care of boy's parents)
2. both husband and wife should spend their earnings on their new family only, if they want a happy marriage
3. The wife should not give her earnings to the husband, take financial decisions together but don't hand over the money..
A working woman could cause a lot of problems in the marriage as well
A men with bad mentality causes disputes in marriage rather than working women because men can't even cook for himself
18:08 this is wrong because agar wo ladki apna studies complete kar rhi toh...fir shadi hui...but shadi k baad wo job kregi...kya galat h isme..maine bhi abhi recently apni studies complete ki..mere course m bhot time lag gya h..main job nhi karti abhi but shadi hogi toh job bilkul krungi...
Boy k red flag pr ek video pls
yes, coming today !!