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Just in case my comment doesn't post. I've been really censored lately. I strongly agree with you and stick to your convictions. Do not even look into daycare. Daycares are terrible. They make you do you know what I'm not allowed to talk about, to the children. Also these people cannot take care of your child as well as you can. It's good for a child to stay with their mother. Even beyond the age of three. Of course a child should always have full communication skills before they are truly left in strangers hands. A lot of people don't realize that. Of course it's okay if a family members such as a mother cousin very close family member very close family friend member watching your child. But that is once in a blue moon. The baby belongs with the mother and I strongly agree. My dear, I hope I'm not overstepping my boundary but you were married. You were together with your husband for quite a while. He provided a certain lifestyle. He should be doing so with your child. Do you have a lawyer? If you're going through a divorce you need one. I love the fact that you can teach chinese. I would love to learn mandarin. You could do this professionally or you can offer a zoom class, charge a certain amount. Start from the basics. You could actually do videos. Where you start off with the very basics have them in chapters 1 to 10. People will be starting at different times at different levels. They can refer to the videos. And then communicate a one-on-one with you. Schedule that in. The whole class would cost a certain percentage and if you were joined in the class you would have one on one time you would charge separately. This will leave open time for you. Honestly my dear I've had homeschooling with some at home parent teachers. We all understand putting a baby in a sling, walking back and forth with the child at times you talk with them. Mother's understand this. That's why I feel if you don't take the professional route of this and just do an Open class yourself. My darling I do not fret about a mother that is cooing her child and showing him different things. That's extremely understandable. And many teachers that were at home teachers on our homeschooling online course that we all work together. Many of times they would have their children. You need to learn not to fret about this especially if you are going to make this work. Because you will exhaust yourself trying to save time in the evening when he is resting to catch up and work. Everyone should move at a different pace than their class. It's going to happen especially with a foreign language. In your course your first class, starting from the basics and also, questions that would arise within this. So you can have questions and answers and it will keep people from asking you very simple questions. People can even write in their questions. Once you have a collection of questions it's very easy to do a rebuttal back in video. You can use video as your tool. And like I said, if there are points that you have him and are wearing him and he's lightly cooing and talking. That's okay. And you can set the camera so it's not in his face my dear. Mothers understand that. With today's day and age I don't think that phone calls are that Worthy. Because you will find yourself attached to your phone. You do your classes on video. And also answer in video. You would have a teaching class one week, and your second week would be questions as well as guidance and homework. This way you are balancing your time. Darling we're not in the 80s. Or the '90s. Don't attach the phone to your ear. Trust me. Time will be best when you schedule the time. You schedule the time. When is your open freedom of your time. You could do two live sessions a week, for questions and answers but that way things bounce around. That's why it's good for others to write in their questions and for you to make a video back so that you can put the questions where they need to be. Because they'll be part of that lesson. That's why putting a phone number to schedule a time and questioning what time, you're setting yourself up for a difficult situation with the phone. You work out a lesson plan. Whether it's 10 classes or 20 classes. As well, videos. Once you have that established, people will purchase the availability to take the classes. People will be at different stages in these classes which they can refer to different videos at their leisure. As much as we would like to learn Mandarin. There are many Chinese, that need assistance with English. There are many things you can do being bilingual. You get your curriculum together and you set the pace. If someone buys into an online course they're going to do chapter by chapter every week and they will have tests they will have questions. I don't think you have enough time for that or mind that you don't want your child at all on video so then you make your own video platform.
Hopefully everything is going okay. I really wish I could support you more. I think you are amazingly talented and deserve some peace of mind. This way you can focus on your son. I understand how it is to be a new mommy. It is tough when it's your full time job. I suggest you can write down all your ideas and slowly try a few. See what works for your new life style. I messaged a video idea to you in Instagram. I hope you read it or any other ideas off of there. I think it's simple for you. Also you can pause it and resume on your time. Plus make as many videos on that idea. I hope you can find a good balance soon with an idea that comes up. Take care of yourself too Yumi! You need to for your son. He will be happy to see you 😊 smile! Everyday he is going to love seeing how you try your best.
Sorry to over step but the father should help care for his child and if can't or won't he should help financially. He played a part in having a child and should follow thru with the responsibility. I only say this because to be a single mom is difficult but there are also laws to protect and help. I really wish you and your child the best. Stay strong🙏🏻
She may want to break all ties with him...and if he pays child support, courts may favor him (for being a responsible, financially supportive father) if in the future he desires to take custody of their son. I'm only speculating that this may be the reason she is not wanting to ask for and/or accept child support from him.
@@ginette8540 no. Mother/fathers that aren't the custodial parent are required by law to pay child support. With or without visitation. And just because he were to pay child support doesn't give a court reason to give him the child. It doesn't work that way. They don't just take a child from the mother, unless the mother is unfit.
She can file a Child Support Order. With the child support order only forces the parent who refuses to contribute for child expenses to pay their portion. If I remember correctly Yumi actually wanted to get a job but her x-spouse didn’t wanted her to, saying he would always provide her needs (don’t remember which videos since she has a tons), but thanks to this she’s now in a difficult time. Yumi you are a strong and brave woman! I believe in you
my heart breaks for you Yumi. just sent you something to your PayPal for you and your son. may it be blessed and multiplied 100x over for you both. you're a great mother. you're on the right path. I've followed you for so long and you and your baby boy are meant to have an extraordinary life....don't ever forget that xo Trish
There are programs where you can apply as an online Chinese teacher! With you being a native speaker you have a great shot for a high paying position!!! I hope everything goes well!!
Maybe tutoring. When I took Chinese I really needed a tutor outside of class because I kept making mistakes. I tutor myself and its easier to set your own hours.And I use zoom or Google hangouts so it's much easier for me.
Have you considered selling patterns of cute clothing and accessories? A lot have suggested sewing your own, but I think it would be a lot for you to keep up with demand. You could sell digital patterns on Etsy for people to print themselves and try out. I want to suggest getting a call center job, where you can remain at home and help customers calling in, but with a baby he might need you during a call. Maybe something to look into when he gets a bit older. If you do consider selling anything ship wise try to see if you can schedule your packages to be picked up so you don’t have to go to the post office. I think it’s a very good idea you decided to raise your son without the help of daycare I know many parents have no choice, but the prices are really high and I’m sure you want him to remain healthy under your watch. I hope you get some good suggestions for ideas!!! Stay strong Yumi!!
I think your suggestions are great! Also, i agree about daycare. Many times people have to spend quite a bit of their paycheck on daycare, which seems to defeat the purpose of going to work at all.
Since you were willing to be a housewife to support your ex-husband and his career, you should get alimony payments on top of child support. (I know that might not be enough, and she may still have to work, but her ex should be supporting her and the baby!)
She has to be careful with that I don't know the full story and it's none of my business but she has the upper hand if he wants to take her to court he has a job and he is a US citizen and he's white. The court might favor him just because of stability she has to keep her evidence and constantly keep track of everything she provides and he does not and that can be overwhelming and hard especially since she's taking care of the child alone she most likely will have a hard time she would also have to get a half decent lawyer preferably female
@@viviawaag863 from what I’ve heard he probably cut off all ties because he has done this before with a previous women and left her completely with a child too
It would be incredible if you could teach Chinese, it is a difficult language, especially in pronunciation. I have watched your channel for many years and I have grown up with you. Love to you and your baby. ❤️
I would sign up to your Patreon to learn Chinese. That’s a cool idea. ... ..... *YOUR EX HUSBAND BETTER BE BE PAYING CHILD SUPPORT... You should not have to be doing this completely on your own!*
^ plus theyve only been separated for 6 months and i doubt the divorce is even fully finalized yet so it can take a whileto start getting child support
There are actually a lot of online organisations for teaching English as well and the fact that you could communicate with your students and explain a majority of the English would be beneficial. Most of these companies really only want someone to have a degree. They're usually not fussy about which one.
You dont need a college degree, but some of the sites want you to have a TEFL (teach English as a foreign language) certification, you can get it online and take the course in 1 week.
Also, I hope you are collecting child support. You are entitled to it and i know the legal system can be complicated but we would definitely help fund a lawyer for you who will guide you through the process.
I applaud you for choosing your son as your priority. Growing up with Mom is very important for a healthy development (mind and body). I hope everything goes well for you and stay strong for the two of you, you and your kid deserve happiness. Much love from Arizona!
The father is required to provide financial support to the child. There are laws regarding that. Dont let him avoid that. Let him take responsibility with what he did. He had the part in making the child. Thats a baby, its very expensive having a baby. Baby necessities and stuffs are so expensive. Make the father be responsible. Im an illegitimate child but my father and his family provides financial support for me and my siblings even if its not enough, its still a big help when paying bills and any extra necessities.
Yumi, I say this with the purest of intentions but please do not become overdependent/overprotective of your child. I know it’s terrifying being a single mom but so often I see single parents subconsciously place so much burden and pressure on their kids, especially if they end up only having one. Do not feel guilty about working full time or having to use daycare. You should teach your son independence and ambition. I promise children are much more resilient than we give them credit for. Part time work sounds nice but you should really think about what you’ll be missing out on: coworkers, benefits, health care, retirement plan, stability, etc. Instead of taking whatever sounds like it would give you the most time with your son, you should pick a career path you are passionate about so that when your son is grown you don’t have empty nest syndrome.
Yeah, i noticed she's shooting down a lot of ideas because of her child to the point that it's a bit too much. "I can't package something and take it to the post office because i have a child and can't be up 24/7". Like what? Im totally not down playing that being a single parent is tough, but at the end of the day, you've got to work hard to provide for the child. Tons of people would love to stay home all day and spend time with their kids, but they can't. She seems to want to spend every waking moment with her son and anything that may interrupt that is just not doable
It's one year old. Not 12. The child literally needs almost 24/7 care because it literally cannot comprehend the world around it to the extent a 5, 7 or 10 year old or a teenager can and is still entirely dependent.
@@viiperbiite people are desensitized due to the normalization of daycare. it's NOT normal for a mother to be away from her child for so many hours a day at that age. yumi is just being a good, proper mom
i think that prerecording the videos and posting on patreon would be best & easiest for you. and costumers can pay a little extra for one on one phone calls
Be strong Yumi. You can do this. Same happened when my son was born, his father didn’t want to be in the picture… my son is 17 years old and never looked back. I stayed single to raise my son with no extra drama. Now I’m ready to be in a relationship lol. You are a great mom and I know you will be okay. I will be praying for you. ❤️🌺🦋
You can do a dayhome! and do Chinese immersion for people that want their children to learn Chinese! Its common in my area, and its popular for stay at home moms. you get to stay with your son as well as socialize him with other babies while teaching! in my area, depending on the size and what you offer, it ranges from $800-$1500 CAD/mo.
my neighbor here in Pennsylvania teaches English to Chinese students at 3:00 a.m. she loves it. she teaches them thru her computer Take care have a lovely day you & your son !
You might also consider translation work - especially things like contracts etc between American and Chinese companies. My friend did this for Japanese translation.
*Please make sure he is paying for child support, PLEASE* I hope everything goes well, I’m sorry that I couldn’t afford to donate some money :/ * I think Chinese class is very good but it’s better to find an online organisation (tuition centre) to hire u? I believe it is much more stable
@@rileyrainbow7611 yeah but u don't need to talk if its just collecting child support. It's necessary because she is struggling on her own to feed 2 people.
@@littlemissyyy Thats true. It can all be done electronically. She doesn't even need to speak a word to him. Take his ass to court, and make him provide support. You can cut ties with me, but not my son!
Te quiero mucho, desde hace años he visto tus vídeos, y he hecho mis prendas de ropa, mi mamá es costurera, y mi abuela paterna también lo fue, pero quién me inspiró a hacer ropa, fuiste tú, muchas gracias, siempre tendrás un espacio en mi corazón. ❤️🌹
@@AnyoneFox tengo entendido que su ex esposo quiso divorciarse pero no la quiere ayudar a mantener a su hijo por eso empezó a vender la ropa que ella misma hizo, accesorios e incluso cortinas y muebles para poderse sustentar gastos por que el sujeto no les quiere dar manutención
I'm so sorry you're going through this. PLEASE MAKE SURE HE'S PAYING CHILD SUPPORT AND LATER ALIMONY! I know in asian cultures, from my own experience, that there's shame in asking for help, but this is different. This isn't for you, your child deserves to be supported financially by his father. There are laws in place to protect you and your son from being financially screwed. Just because he was the only one with an office job, it does not mean it's his money alone (house care and childcare is REAL work.) Your son deserves the best in life and shouldn't be held back by a loser dad. We know you'll work hard and you can provide for yourself, but don't let him leave without any contributions. You are your son's voice and advocate. We all love and support you, you've got this!!!
Patreon Chinese classes sounds like a bad idea. Because you are limiting your pool of clients. Not everyone of your patreons or subscribers want to learn Chinese and become a patreon member. But there are already a lot of people out there who want to learn Chinese and are not your followers. Go to language learning websites that offer online classes and become a teacher there. You can set your own times, so for example when your baby is sleeping would be ideal. As for phone calls, you do not need to get another phone number. Usually classes are done with skype. If you wanted to go the extra way you could get a skype phone number. Also, is it a possibility for your mom or stepfather to take care of the baby just for a few hours every other day? Your son would have family bonding times along with your parents. The best thing would be to branch out (if you want to teach Chinese) and consider other places for it, not just patreon or youtube.
off topic but I just watched a video of yours from 3 years ago about talking about the differences in Chinese and English and your English has gotten so much better
Definitely register to be a Chinese teacher on different websites! Italki, preply, even thumbtack. Patreon could work but if you look to teach where people look to learn, you’ll reach a wider audience rather than just your already established RUclips platform. Good luck Yumi!
Hi Yumi 💕 I have tip If you sell clothes online, how to save time and not hve to drive to post office. If you download the USPS App, you can request pickup for post man to come to your house and pick up the package straight from your house. Just make sure the label already printed and paid for on it. I do it this way because I dont have a car and works for me :') goodluck whatever you do! I wish best happiness and health for you and your son 💜
Oh Yumi, you are such a good conscious loving mother. ❤️ It's so nice to learn that you've learned about the first 3 years for children, especially. I hope all the best for you and your son, that comfort and support finds you.
I stumbled across your channel after a long time and was surprised to see that you have a son, but also sad that you're going through a difficult time at the moment. I wish you all the best and hope you're able to find a good way to support yourself and your little one! x
You have a master's, correct? A lot of companies telecommute these days. Your husband owes you alimony ( 2 years) so that you can get on your feet. He also owes child support.
She has an American graphic design degree (bachelors) I believe, unsure about her degrees from China but she really hasn’t held a job at a professional company in the past few years and the industry is pretty exhausting to enter
there's italki that you can use! you could also organize classes of a few people in a group via zoom if you cant do one on one classes! that way you can teach efficiently bc u can teach more people at once but not too many at once!
Honestly, I got the impression he didn't want a child with Yumi but since she did he went along with it. During the pregnancy reveal video he didn't look as thrilled as her, if at all.
Goes to show, do not have a child with someone who at any point has said they don’t want children. If they have even an inkling of those feelings, do not have a kid with them
Oh bless ya, ya such a sweetheart and very loving mother. I never left my child, I raised her on my own. I sacrificed my career as I didn't want her to go in childcare. I agree the first 5 years of a child's life is very important, best place is with a loving parent. It will be ok Yumi sending love & hugs ♡♡♡♡
that takes soooo many years in america. It's literally more than two years in masters full time school. It isn't easy. My friend is working towards that and she barely has time to make ends meet,
You’re so strong Yumi. I hope you know that. Going through a divorce is hard enough but there is also a child involved which makes it 10x harder. You are doing a great job. I hope for the best outcome. Good luck to you and your son.
Continue with your youtube career. It allows you to work from home and be with your son. You are a great sewer. You can teach people how to make clothes and basic sewing classes.
Hi Yumi, if you’re going to do phone calls, I would suggest you get a business phone number. Don’t use your personal number, some people might misuse your personal number .. it can be very easy to find more personal info about you once they have your personal number. The safest way is to just do online classes via zoom. Please stay safe, especially now you are living by yourself with your son. Don’t allow online strangers to get too much personal information. Take care!
I am very impressed by you and your strong love for your son. Why isn't his father supporting both of you? The best mothers are the ones who put their children first. You are a good mother.
Hey lovely I hope you dont leave youtube..Its been your passion and you really like and love making vidoes ..youre really good at making them and that you have 800k subs..I think its fine to get a part time job but when your youtube makes you a full time income sponsorships and selling your own clothes designs then you can leave your part time job and be with your son more ..You were a genius Yumi dont give up on your passion ..We got your back ...
I was thinking about this channel recently, it's been a while since I watched it. It's very sad to see what had happened. I wish her the best for her and her baby 🍼. Stay strong
Maybe start a mom blog I heard you can get paid from doing that, I believe in you you're a strong woman. I definitely understand I also have a 1 year old and I don't want to send him to daycare so I'm also looking for a home job.
Ooooooooh Mom blogs sounds really fun, sharing the stuff you learn about being a parent and maybe getting money by sharing your experience and teachings. People share their knowledge through books all the time anyways, so it shouldn't be that bad
Yumi I wish you the best in all of your future projects. Please remember to not overwork yourself either so you won't feel as overwhelmed. Take care of your mental health, that's also very important. Sending love from Mexico ❤️❤️❤️
As someone who sews its not easy to make a living doing that, fabric isnt cheap and most people dont want to pay for the actual time it time it takes an individual to make it in order for them to make a living wage. It takes me at least 1 week to completely finish a dress and to make that work the customer would need to pay you for the materials (thread, fabric, closures, trims), the custom work and pay enough to cover a weeks wages. It usually takes me 5 yards of fabric for a dress and fabric is usually at least $10 a yard, thats $50 in fabric alone.
I love you Yumi! I really think teaching your Chinese is a super amazing idea. I feel like doing 30 minutes- 1 hour classes for videos would be extremely helpful for people wanting to learn the language. I'm currently learning Japanese and it's definitely difficult and takes time, and I've heard Chinese is also extremely difficult. So the more time the better. I believe in you Yumi! I've been watching you for years now, and watched you grow and your channel grow. You're an amazing mother and I'm proud of you. I'm sorry you're going through such hard times... Sending love to you and your son! 💖 -Abel
I’m not sure about her state.. but where i live during a divorce you cannot take the child 100miles out of the county you are getting divorced in sadly :/
I know it's so hard to work full-time outside of home when your son is so little. Mandarin is a good idea, maybe you can teach an online class at your local college. You're a great cook too, maybe make some of your recipes when baby asleep. We all love Chinese foods & it'll be popular videos for your channel. Best of luck to you Yumi. You're a very good mother to your baby boy! Take care of yourself too.
@@ms.pirate Lmao your just joking right?? Mandarin is *the most widely spoken of the Chinese languages.* And when Yumi speaks Chinese in her videos, *shes speaking Mandarin...* so..
Hi Yumi, I am sorry to hear about your situation. Sending lots of good thoughts your way. I am a teacher and I wanted to let you know not to worry about your son going to day care. Teachers are very good at making children feel comfortable, even if it takes a little while. Children can build many skills such as making friends and becoming more independent, which are very important lifelong skills. He may be very young now, but he can do it! Plus it will give you so much more time for yourself. Start with just two days and trial it for month or so. Tell the teachers your worries and they will monitor him :) Where I live, children get 20 hours of day care (each week) for free - I wonder if you have anything like that? Talk to parents you know and see what they do. Even taking turns to look after each others' kids could be good.
A word of advice. I've worked teaching English and other languages as a second language before. If you're interested in teaching as a job, online teaching may sound good but the money is not as good... that's because there are MANY teachers doing online courses all around the world, so most of the time you'll either not earn as much or won't get enough people booking a lesson with you. On the other hand, private lessons does require your full attention with the other people across the screen... but if you're really into it, there's italki (an online teaching platform) and it's apparently very good, you can try checking once in a while whenever they start accepting tutors for Chinese again; it wouldn't be a bad idea for some extra income. Sadly most other platforms won't accept unless you're already a certified teacher or show proof of an extensive teaching career... Teaching online is very tough, that's all I want to say (I apologize if this isn't the teaching gig you were thinking of, though! I've always tought you'd be a wonderful teacher, so do try it if you want) But Yumi, just an idea here. You can sew, you can cook, you can apply makeup. I don't know if there are jobs like these where you live right now, but my mother has worked from home before sewing for a local clothing brand, she only had to own a sewing machine and meet deadlines... she also freelanced her way selling lunchboxes to some of our neighbors working office jobs or their children. These are just some "work from home" alternatives away from the other online gigs like teaching or taking calls (by the way, I took calls during my student years, it's not as bad as a job, the difficult part was mine required me to take a month of training face-to-face). Anyway, so sorry for this very very long comment... I'm wishing you the best!!
I, for one, was very concerned when you got into a relationship with your son's father because of the alternative lifestyle that he seemed to be interested in. I think he also became involved with you, Yumi, because you dressed like a young girl. Then once you were no longer the image of the young girl, got pregnant, etc., it seemed he lost interest. Now, just because he is into an alternative lifestyle does not mean that everyone that is in an alternative lifestyle thinks this way, but there can be some very deranged people within the BDSM community. There are many in the comments hoping you get child support, but I'm going to be one that tells you that you don't need child support. You are perfectly capable of taking care of your son on your own. When child support becomes involved, it can change parent's perceptions of what is right and wrong. It will be great if he supports his son on his own, but if he doesn't, then you can be the one that is the breadwinner. I raised 2 daughters on my own without any child support from my ex husband. In fact, my ex husband is in prison because he couldn't keep his hands off of young girls. I would rather know that I am supporting my children on my own without being beholding to anyone else, even if they have a responsibility to them. You are a beautiful person Yumi, you can do this.
This is a lovely comment. Congratulations on your successes as a mother, and for staying strong through all those struggles! What do you mean by her ex husband having an alternative lifestyle? I hadn't picked up on that in the videos.
I'm so confused. Are you saying that her husband was into BDSM? If so, how did you find that out because I never heard that discussed in any of her videos.
@@Mcgturtle3 Back in the beginning of when she met him, she was wearing a collar and made mention of their alternative relationship. It was also in how they interacted with each other. Daddy Dom/baby girl.
Shut up, don’t listen to her Yumi. Yes become independent and get a job and rise above but that man has a responsibility as a father to support his son. It’s child support, not Yumi’s allowance. You’re victim blaming Yumi, clearly she was brainwashed by this wierdo and pressured to act like a little girl it doesn’t take a scientist to figure that out. That man has a responsibility to pay for his son as well.
Yumi I wish you the best of luck, hope you can become a teacher! 💕💕💕 Love your responsibility and how you try to do what's best for you and your child 💖
As someone who is a full time college student I find it very hard to hold a job due to the classes and extra studying and just home life in general but I have found there are alot of websites that pay you certain amount per hour (depending on the task) to type out subtitles for videos I find that its a job that very easy money and super flexible time wise I do know that they pay alot more for translations also!
I disappear for a few years and come back and a lot has change. I loved your content before and i came back for some sewing inspo, happy to support, sending my prayers
I’m absolutely so proud of you for putting yourself and your son first I sent a donation to help you and your son You keep being as cute and loving as you have always been Yumi 💕💕💕
Can I recommend you looking into teaching at home with Outschool? We use this a lot for our children. You can make different types of classes that run when you want. It has many people who will see your classes. You can do 1 to 1, or as many as you want in a class. You can schedule a babysitter to come and stay at home with you while you work, or take your son a walk. Classes can be 45 minutes for kids, or any length you set. Have a wee look, I think it would suit your situation and skills well. Best of luck!
I will never do daycare, good call mama. Ive seen and been through some crazy things with it before with my nephews, spending time with your child is best for both parties
Pre-recorded classes would be great. Maybe basic short videos for RUclips and in-depth types for Patreon. Phone calls may not be a good idea when starting out because you do need time to get a hand of things and feel comfortable. Plus you won't be able to keep fixed calling hours since your son is still too small and will need your attention at any hour of the day. Pre recorded videos allows you to film in parts and then combine into one video. 1 video in 2 weeks will be a good start till you get a hang of it. Then if possible you could do 1 a week. That way you can film whenever he is asleep and edit when he is awake. Don't give out your personal number because there are weird people out there. Keep a separate business number for your work. Love you Yumi!
You’re incredibly strong … as someone who’s parents divorced as i lived with my mother …it’s always hard making that shift. There are tons of online schooling programs for language classes… and i feel like you would be a great teacher!! However I wouldn’t recommend patreon … it can be unreliable… You’re amazing, Yumi!!!!!
if you need more time to work maybe if you live close to your parents you could have your parents look after your son for a small amount of time when you work so he wouldn't be with a stranger. stay strong I know you are a strong and independent women! :3
@@kitty1256x in one of her videos a long time ago (when she was still married) she said Chinese parent/s do not approve of divorce and or moving back to home (especially after giving birth) they consider it a shame to themselves. But seeing as how Yumi's stepdad is American, I was wondering that too.... many Chinese children dont want to be a burden to their parents after marriage/divorce/children. So maybe Yumi is trying her best to stand on her own 2 feet and pick herself up rather than falling back onto her parents... not sure. But I do hope the best for her...
Hey Yumi!!! I hope you find a better situation! Your son is lucky to have a mom so loving! I think a beginner weekly recorded lesson would be good with advanced writing/speaking critique
I can see you modeling Yumi . You're beautiful and I adore you . And I have a son too I know it's hard being alone and doing it alone. You can do Patreon for teaching Chinese . Or show us how to sew certain clothes ? Maybe even do some teaching how to write Chinese too . I will be praying for you and your son Yumi. We love you❤️
I think you would be a wonderful teacher! I hope you are able to find an accessible job soon! We all wish the best for you and will continue supporting you wherever we can 💕💕💕
Looking forward to it if you decide to make a Chinese class!! I've always been interested in learning another language >< wish you and your son all the best 👍 ❤
I've been watching your videos for along time. Since you met him. I've seen alot of him degrading you since day one. I also saw iit got worse. I think if you want to work from home and care for him. Do more videos with him in them. Alot of people would love to see how he's doing and what a great mom you are.. I would love to see his face and watch him grow up. Im sure everyone following you would too!!!! Just a suggestion.
Hello Yumi! I have been your fan since the early days like 2015! I’m really disappointed and upset to hear what you are going through, you are a really strong women! I am praying for your situation to get better, do continue to stay strong and I pray that you would receive all the help you need because you really deserved the best! Your videos has always brighten up my days and it inspired me to learn to sew too! Even though I am not financially strong to support you, I will still support you by watching your videos! All the best and stay strong, you are really a wonderful women! Things will be hard right now, but I am sure things will definitely change for the better soon!!❤️❤️ 姐姐，要继续加油哦，不要放弃，一切多会变得美好的！希望您和您儿子天天开心，天天幸福，您是一个很坚强的女人和妈妈，不要放弃！！！❤️❤️
I think a patreon language class is a great idea! Also people who just suggest getting daycare have no clue how hard it is to afford daycare. Very few jobs offer daycare for employees as well. Either way, soon he will be in school so cherish the time you have. 💖 we just had #2 and the oldest is in school, otherwise we could not afford daycare for 2, and I’d have to stay home. Good luck 💕
You can also do tutoring for people who are taking Chinese in college or through other classes. Tutorers can make a lot of money depending on what they charge
Would you be able to pay for a babysitter just for the times you do classes or other work at home? Your son would be in the home with you and he would become accustomed to his babysitter over time! And if you only need a couple hours a day it might not be as expensive as daycare. Edited to add: Also you might be able to qualify to work as a nanny for a family and bring your son along for less pay! I personally haven't had luck with this option, but I have heard a lot of mother's saying this is what they do for a living and get paid $20/hour.
I wish you and you're son the best of luck. The both of you guys are very strong for keeping on, keeping on. You got this Queen we're rooting for you!!!!! 👑💕
I only tell You this, because now I can: I've watched You many years but since Your relationship with that guy started...I didn't watch that often...He seemed very odd to me. Kinda gaslightning You on any occasion. I had feeling( when camera was turned off )like he treated You someone lower, dumber, beneath him. I stopped watching videos You with him bc I get weird vibes from him. I only watched videos where You alone or with baby. I really wanted to be wrong with all that impression. It is really breaks my heart fact that You are going thru something like this... I had many toxic relationship and I can say only one thing: fight. Fight for money on kid from him or apartament or anything else. Maybe You are overwhelmed by all this but few years after You will regret that You didn't do it. He can't have any control over You even with money. Because You deserve it. Look for lawyer with cases like You maybe someone who work pro bono or give You advice. Don't give up on Yourself. You are smart, talented young mom, you are raising a baby. You deserve great life. Best life. Much love from Poland ❤
It was the same with me. When Yumi started showing videos with him I started getting VERY weird vibes from him, like he liked this very childish thing from her,... I..do not know, I remember he once lifted her up like a baby or something. But Somehow I always felt he was taking advantage from her, like, maybe from thinking she was way too innocent or something. Kind of remember me from a predator or something but that does not sound good tho, I know. And since the first time I saw him interact with her, I did not like it at all and stopped watching videos where he would be seen, he made me very uncomfortable.
Yumi, you are already working so, so hard. It isn’t fair that you have to do so much. A baby is a lot of work enough without a job. We will support you in any way we can. You deserve all of the good in the world.
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Just in case my comment doesn't post. I've been really censored lately. I strongly agree with you and stick to your convictions. Do not even look into daycare. Daycares are terrible. They make you do you know what I'm not allowed to talk about, to the children. Also these people cannot take care of your child as well as you can. It's good for a child to stay with their mother. Even beyond the age of three. Of course a child should always have full communication skills before they are truly left in strangers hands. A lot of people don't realize that. Of course it's okay if a family members such as a mother cousin very close family member very close family friend member watching your child. But that is once in a blue moon.
The baby belongs with the mother and I strongly agree. My dear, I hope I'm not overstepping my boundary but you were married. You were together with your husband for quite a while. He provided a certain lifestyle. He should be doing so with your child. Do you have a lawyer? If you're going through a divorce you need one.
I love the fact that you can teach chinese. I would love to learn mandarin. You could do this professionally or you can offer a zoom class, charge a certain amount. Start from the basics.
You could actually do videos. Where you start off with the very basics have them in chapters 1 to 10. People will be starting at different times at different levels. They can refer to the videos. And then communicate a one-on-one with you. Schedule that in. The whole class would cost a certain percentage and if you were joined in the class you would have one on one time you would charge separately.
This will leave open time for you.
Honestly my dear I've had homeschooling with some at home parent teachers. We all understand putting a baby in a sling, walking back and forth with the child at times you talk with them. Mother's understand this. That's why I feel if you don't take the professional route of this and just do an Open class yourself. My darling I do not fret about a mother that is cooing her child and showing him different things. That's extremely understandable. And many teachers that were at home teachers on our homeschooling online course that we all work together. Many of times they would have their children. You need to learn not to fret about this especially if you are going to make this work. Because you will exhaust yourself trying to save time in the evening when he is resting to catch up and work.
Everyone should move at a different pace than their class. It's going to happen especially with a foreign language. In your course your first class, starting from the basics and also, questions that would arise within this. So you can have questions and answers and it will keep people from asking you very simple questions.
People can even write in their questions. Once you have a collection of questions it's very easy to do a rebuttal back in video. You can use video as your tool. And like I said, if there are points that you have him and are wearing him and he's lightly cooing and talking. That's okay. And you can set the camera so it's not in his face my dear. Mothers understand that.
With today's day and age I don't think that phone calls are that Worthy. Because you will find yourself attached to your phone. You do your classes on video. And also answer in video. You would have a teaching class one week, and your second week would be questions as well as guidance and homework. This way you are balancing your time. Darling we're not in the 80s. Or the '90s. Don't attach the phone to your ear. Trust me. Time will be best when you schedule the time.
You schedule the time. When is your open freedom of your time. You could do two live sessions a week, for questions and answers but that way things bounce around. That's why it's good for others to write in their questions and for you to make a video back so that you can put the questions where they need to be. Because they'll be part of that lesson. That's why putting a phone number to schedule a time and questioning what time, you're setting yourself up for a difficult situation with the phone.
You work out a lesson plan. Whether it's 10 classes or 20 classes. As well, videos. Once you have that established, people will purchase the availability to take the classes. People will be at different stages in these classes which they can refer to different videos at their leisure.
As much as we would like to learn Mandarin. There are many Chinese, that need assistance with English. There are many things you can do being bilingual.
You get your curriculum together and you set the pace. If someone buys into an online course they're going to do chapter by chapter every week and they will have tests they will have questions. I don't think you have enough time for that or mind that you don't want your child at all on video so then you make your own video platform.
Hopefully everything is going okay. I really wish I could support you more. I think you are amazingly talented and deserve some peace of mind. This way you can focus on your son. I understand how it is to be a new mommy. It is tough when it's your full time job.
I suggest you can write down all your ideas and slowly try a few. See what works for your new life style.
I messaged a video idea to you in Instagram. I hope you read it or any other ideas off of there. I think it's simple for you. Also you can pause it and resume on your time. Plus make as many videos on that idea. I hope you can find a good balance soon with an idea that comes up.
Take care of yourself too Yumi! You need to for your son. He will be happy to see you 😊 smile! Everyday he is going to love seeing how you try your best.
if you do phone calls please get a google voice number (it's an app) safety first !
Yumi, I used to watch your diy video in 2017, you are strong 💪, going through a separation myself. It's the worst ❤️🙏💯
Sorry to over step but the father should help care for his child and if can't or won't he should help financially. He played a part in having a child and should follow thru with the responsibility. I only say this because to be a single mom is difficult but there are also laws to protect and help. I really wish you and your child the best. Stay strong🙏🏻
She may want to break all ties with him...and if he pays child support, courts may favor him (for being a responsible, financially supportive father) if in the future he desires to take custody of their son. I'm only speculating that this may be the reason she is not wanting to ask for and/or accept child support from him.
@@ginette8540 no. Mother/fathers that aren't the custodial parent are required by law to pay child support. With or without visitation. And just because he were to pay child support doesn't give a court reason to give him the child. It doesn't work that way. They don't just take a child from the mother, unless the mother is unfit.
What about government assistance
She can file a Child Support Order. With the child support order only forces the parent who refuses to contribute for child expenses to pay their portion. If I remember correctly Yumi actually wanted to get a job but her x-spouse didn’t wanted her to, saying he would always provide her needs (don’t remember which videos since she has a tons), but thanks to this she’s now in a difficult time. Yumi you are a strong and brave woman! I believe in you
I’m sorry but I wouldn’t want anything to do with someone who abused me ._.
my heart breaks for you Yumi. just sent you something to your PayPal for you and your son. may it be blessed and multiplied 100x over for you both. you're a great mother. you're on the right path. I've followed you for so long and you and your baby boy are meant to have an extraordinary life....don't ever forget that xo Trish
Omg Trish, you're so sweet ❤️
Ohhh myyy god Trisha
TRISHA UR AMAZING
At the end of the day your a kind soul
Trisha?!
There are programs where you can apply as an online Chinese teacher! With you being a native speaker you have a great shot for a high paying position!!! I hope everything goes well!!
I agree!
Maybe tutoring. When I took Chinese I really needed a tutor outside of class because I kept making mistakes. I tutor myself and its easier to set your own hours.And I use zoom or Google hangouts so it's much easier for me.
that sounds like an amazing idea!
Have you considered selling patterns of cute clothing and accessories?
A lot have suggested sewing your own, but I think it would be a lot for you to keep up with demand. You could sell digital patterns on Etsy for people to print themselves and try out. I want to suggest getting a call center job, where you can remain at home and help customers calling in, but with a baby he might need you during a call. Maybe something to look into when he gets a bit older.
If you do consider selling anything ship wise try to see if you can schedule your packages to be picked up so you don’t have to go to the post office. I think it’s a very good idea you decided to raise your son without the help of daycare I know many parents have no choice, but the prices are really high and I’m sure you want him to remain healthy under your watch. I hope you get some good suggestions for ideas!!! Stay strong Yumi!!
Suggested the same thing. patterns are more affordable to consumers, less time for her, + maybe have accessories ( easy to drop ship etc )
Selling patterns is a great idea. Or even DIY kits.
I think your suggestions are great! Also, i agree about daycare. Many times people have to spend quite a bit of their paycheck on daycare, which seems to defeat the purpose of going to work at all.
This, so much.
I suggested the same thing on her previous video
Since you were willing to be a housewife to support your ex-husband and his career, you should get alimony payments on top of child support. (I know that might not be enough, and she may still have to work, but her ex should be supporting her and the baby!)
She has to be careful with that I don't know the full story and it's none of my business but she has the upper hand if he wants to take her to court he has a job and he is a US citizen and he's white. The court might favor him just because of stability she has to keep her evidence and constantly keep track of everything she provides and he does not and that can be overwhelming and hard especially since she's taking care of the child alone she most likely will have a hard time she would also have to get a half decent lawyer preferably female
How do you know that he isn't? Her ex might be supporting the way he can. We don't know.
@@viviawaag863 from what I’ve heard he probably cut off all ties because he has done this before with a previous women and left her completely with a child too
@@pinky4044 You’ve heard? A rumor, or did Yumi say it?
@@viviawaag863 it’s from what I’ve heard and I’m not sure but based on what’s happening it’s pretty easy to tell that he probably isn’t helping her
It would be incredible if you could teach Chinese, it is a difficult language, especially in pronunciation. I have watched your channel for many years and I have grown up with you. Love to you and your baby. ❤️
I would literally pay for online classes for that. Yes indeed. Mandarin
I would sign up to your Patreon to learn Chinese. That’s a cool idea.
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*YOUR EX HUSBAND BETTER BE BE PAYING CHILD SUPPORT... You should not have to be doing this completely on your own!*
Fathers are only required to pay 15% of their income unless of course they went to before a judge and also spousal pay
^ plus theyve only been separated for 6 months and i doubt the divorce is even fully finalized yet so it can take a whileto start getting child support
There are actually a lot of online organisations for teaching English as well and the fact that you could communicate with your students and explain a majority of the English would be beneficial. Most of these companies really only want someone to have a degree. They're usually not fussy about which one.
You dont need a college degree, but some of the sites want you to have a TEFL (teach English as a foreign language) certification, you can get it online and take the course in 1 week.
Also, I hope you are collecting child support. You are entitled to it and i know the legal system can be complicated but we would definitely help fund a lawyer for you who will guide you through the process.
I applaud you for choosing your son as your priority. Growing up with Mom is very important for a healthy development (mind and body). I hope everything goes well for you and stay strong for the two of you, you and your kid deserve happiness. Much love from Arizona!
The father is required to provide financial support to the child. There are laws regarding that. Dont let him avoid that. Let him take responsibility with what he did. He had the part in making the child. Thats a baby, its very expensive having a baby. Baby necessities and stuffs are so expensive. Make the father be responsible.
Im an illegitimate child but my father and his family provides financial support for me and my siblings even if its not enough, its still a big help when paying bills and any extra necessities.
Yumi, I say this with the purest of intentions but please do not become overdependent/overprotective of your child. I know it’s terrifying being a single mom but so often I see single parents subconsciously place so much burden and pressure on their kids, especially if they end up only having one. Do not feel guilty about working full time or having to use daycare. You should teach your son independence and ambition. I promise children are much more resilient than we give them credit for.
Part time work sounds nice but you should really think about what you’ll be missing out on: coworkers, benefits, health care, retirement plan, stability, etc. Instead of taking whatever sounds like it would give you the most time with your son, you should pick a career path you are passionate about so that when your son is grown you don’t have empty nest syndrome.
Yeah, i noticed she's shooting down a lot of ideas because of her child to the point that it's a bit too much. "I can't package something and take it to the post office because i have a child and can't be up 24/7".
Like what? Im totally not down playing that being a single parent is tough, but at the end of the day, you've got to work hard to provide for the child. Tons of people would love to stay home all day and spend time with their kids, but they can't. She seems to want to spend every waking moment with her son and anything that may interrupt that is just not doable
It's one year old. Not 12. The child literally needs almost 24/7 care because it literally cannot comprehend the world around it to the extent a 5, 7 or 10 year old or a teenager can and is still entirely dependent.
@@viiperbiite people are desensitized due to the normalization of daycare. it's NOT normal for a mother to be away from her child for so many hours a day at that age. yumi is just being a good, proper mom
you’ll be okay, youre a strong woman we love you yumi!
i think that prerecording the videos and posting on patreon would be best & easiest for you. and costumers can pay a little extra for one on one phone calls
Yess!!
Be strong Yumi. You can do this. Same happened when my son was born, his father didn’t want to be in the picture… my son is 17 years old and never looked back. I stayed single to raise my son with no extra drama. Now I’m ready to be in a relationship lol. You are a great mom and I know you will be okay. I will be praying for you. ❤️🌺🦋
You can do a dayhome! and do Chinese immersion for people that want their children to learn Chinese! Its common in my area, and its popular for stay at home moms. you get to stay with your son as well as socialize him with other babies while teaching! in my area, depending on the size and what you offer, it ranges from $800-$1500 CAD/mo.
my neighbor here in Pennsylvania teaches English to Chinese students at 3:00 a.m. she loves it. she teaches them thru her computer Take care have a lovely day you & your son !
You might also consider translation work - especially things like contracts etc between American and Chinese companies. My friend did this for Japanese translation.
*Please make sure he is paying for child support, PLEASE*
I hope everything goes well, I’m sorry that I couldn’t afford to donate some money :/
* I think Chinese class is very good but it’s better to find an online organisation (tuition centre) to hire u? I believe it is much more stable
She prob wants to cut all ties he was really abusive to her that’s just keep giving her bad anxiety if connected
@@rileyrainbow7611 yeah but u don't need to talk if its just collecting child support. It's necessary because she is struggling on her own to feed 2 people.
@@littlemissyyy Thats true. It can all be done electronically. She doesn't even need to speak a word to him. Take his ass to court, and make him provide support. You can cut ties with me, but not my son!
Agree with the others, find an actual company that is hiring instead of Patreon!
Te quiero mucho, desde hace años he visto tus vídeos, y he hecho mis prendas de ropa, mi mamá es costurera, y mi abuela paterna también lo fue, pero quién me inspiró a hacer ropa, fuiste tú, muchas gracias, siempre tendrás un espacio en mi corazón. ❤️🌹
Sabes que dijo?
@@AnyoneFox tengo entendido que su ex esposo quiso divorciarse pero no la quiere ayudar a mantener a su hijo por eso empezó a vender la ropa que ella misma hizo, accesorios e incluso cortinas y muebles para poderse sustentar gastos por que el sujeto no les quiere dar manutención
@@AnyoneFox no soy quien comentó, pero puede querer mostrar su apoyo diciendo como le ha ayudado personalmente
Que moneeeeta
I'm so happy with everyone suggesting ideas to support her, you guys are gold. Hope things work out for you Yumi, you deserve the best 💗
I'm so sorry you're going through this.
PLEASE MAKE SURE HE'S PAYING CHILD SUPPORT AND LATER ALIMONY!
I know in asian cultures, from my own experience, that there's shame in asking for help, but this is different. This isn't for you, your child deserves to be supported financially by his father. There are laws in place to protect you and your son from being financially screwed. Just because he was the only one with an office job, it does not mean it's his money alone (house care and childcare is REAL work.) Your son deserves the best in life and shouldn't be held back by a loser dad. We know you'll work hard and you can provide for yourself, but don't let him leave without any contributions. You are your son's voice and advocate. We all love and support you, you've got this!!!
file for child support. he’s obligated to pay. don’t let him get away with anything.
Patreon Chinese classes sounds like a bad idea. Because you are limiting your pool of clients. Not everyone of your patreons or subscribers want to learn Chinese and become a patreon member. But there are already a lot of people out there who want to learn Chinese and are not your followers.
Go to language learning websites that offer online classes and become a teacher there. You can set your own times, so for example when your baby is sleeping would be ideal.
As for phone calls, you do not need to get another phone number. Usually classes are done with skype. If you wanted to go the extra way you could get a skype phone number.
Also, is it a possibility for your mom or stepfather to take care of the baby just for a few hours every other day? Your son would have family bonding times along with your parents.
The best thing would be to branch out (if you want to teach Chinese) and consider other places for it, not just patreon or youtube.
off topic but I just watched a video of yours from 3 years ago about talking about the differences in Chinese and English and your English has gotten so much better
Big hugs ❤️ we’ll support you however much we can. You’re such a lovely human 🥰
Definitely register to be a Chinese teacher on different websites! Italki, preply, even thumbtack. Patreon could work but if you look to teach where people look to learn, you’ll reach a wider audience rather than just your already established RUclips platform. Good luck Yumi!
Yesssssss!!
Yes, fiverr is great option too. ♥
Hi Yumi 💕
I have tip If you sell clothes online,
how to save time and not hve to drive to post office. If you download the USPS App, you can request pickup for post man to come to your house and pick up the package straight from your house. Just make sure the label already printed and paid for on it. I do it this way because I dont have a car and works for me :') goodluck whatever you do! I wish best happiness and health for you and your son 💜
Oh Yumi, you are such a good conscious loving mother. ❤️ It's so nice to learn that you've learned about the first 3 years for children, especially. I hope all the best for you and your son, that comfort and support finds you.
I stumbled across your channel after a long time and was surprised to see that you have a son, but also sad that you're going through a difficult time at the moment. I wish you all the best and hope you're able to find a good way to support yourself and your little one! x
Supporting you, Yumi! Happy to see you glowing :)! We love you!
Your DIY fashion videos brought me here years ago. Making content for young girls to make their own clothes is my idea.
You have a master's, correct? A lot of companies telecommute these days. Your husband owes you alimony ( 2 years) so that you can get on your feet. He also owes child support.
She has an American graphic design degree (bachelors) I believe, unsure about her degrees from China but she really hasn’t held a job at a professional company in the past few years and the industry is pretty exhausting to enter
I'm sorry about the divorce....ihope it all works out and you look amazing Yumi
there's italki that you can use! you could also organize classes of a few people in a group via zoom if you cant do one on one classes! that way you can teach efficiently bc u can teach more people at once but not too many at once!
Honestly, I got the impression he didn't want a child with Yumi but since she did he went along with it. During the pregnancy reveal video he didn't look as thrilled as her, if at all.
Goes to show, do not have a child with someone who at any point has said they don’t want children. If they have even an inkling of those feelings, do not have a kid with them
Oh bless ya, ya such a sweetheart and very loving mother. I never left my child, I raised her on my own. I sacrificed my career as I didn't want her to go in childcare. I agree the first 5 years of a child's life is very important, best place is with a loving parent.
It will be ok Yumi sending love & hugs ♡♡♡♡
Idea: When your son goes to kindergarden, you could enroll into teacher's college and become an elementary school teacher.
that takes soooo many years in america. It's literally more than two years in masters full time school. It isn't easy. My friend is working towards that and she barely has time to make ends meet,
You’re so strong Yumi. I hope you know that. Going through a divorce is hard enough but there is also a child involved which makes it 10x harder. You are doing a great job. I hope for the best outcome. Good luck to you and your son.
Continue with your youtube career. It allows you to work from home and be with your son. You are a great sewer. You can teach people how to make clothes and basic sewing classes.
Hi Yumi, if you’re going to do phone calls, I would suggest you get a business phone number. Don’t use your personal number, some people might misuse your personal number .. it can be very easy to find more personal info about you once they have your personal number. The safest way is to just do online classes via zoom. Please stay safe, especially now you are living by yourself with your son. Don’t allow online strangers to get too much personal information. Take care!
Google offers Google Voice that does call forwarding and even transcribes voicemails. A must for small businesses.
I am very impressed by you and your strong love for your son. Why isn't his father supporting both of you? The best mothers are the ones who put their children first. You are a good mother.
Just a suggestion (you don't have to if you dont want too). Maybe you should do pre recording chines classes on skill share. That would be cool
that would be a better move that's what I do as you get paid by minutes watched
@@Nothingbuttechyt yee excellent!!!
yea!
Hey lovely I hope you dont leave youtube..Its been your passion and you really like and love making vidoes ..youre really good at making them and that you have 800k subs..I think its fine to get a part time job but when your youtube makes you a full time income sponsorships and selling your own clothes designs then you can leave your part time job and be with your son more ..You were a genius Yumi dont give up on your passion ..We got your back ...
It's been a long time since i've watched your videos, i'm really sorry about your divorce :( i hope things will get better for you and your baby.
I think that the class idea is a really great idea!
I was thinking about this channel recently, it's been a while since I watched it. It's very sad to see what had happened. I wish her the best for her and her baby 🍼. Stay strong
Maybe start a mom blog I heard you can get paid from doing that, I believe in you you're a strong woman. I definitely understand I also have a 1 year old and I don't want to send him to daycare so I'm also looking for a home job.
Ooooooooh Mom blogs sounds really fun, sharing the stuff you learn about being a parent and maybe getting money by sharing your experience and teachings.
People share their knowledge through books all the time anyways, so it shouldn't be that bad
I thought family blogs have controversy around them
Yumi I wish you the best in all of your future projects. Please remember to not overwork yourself either so you won't feel as overwhelmed. Take care of your mental health, that's also very important. Sending love from Mexico ❤️❤️❤️
I remember watching you when i was younger make clothes, why not try to make your own business making clothes? or accessories?
As someone who sews its not easy to make a living doing that, fabric isnt cheap and most people dont want to pay for the actual time it time it takes an individual to make it in order for them to make a living wage. It takes me at least 1 week to completely finish a dress and to make that work the customer would need to pay you for the materials (thread, fabric, closures, trims), the custom work and pay enough to cover a weeks wages. It usually takes me 5 yards of fabric for a dress and fabric is usually at least $10 a yard, thats $50 in fabric alone.
Watching the ads till the end because our girl Yumi needs that ad money
I love you Yumi! I really think teaching your Chinese is a super amazing idea. I feel like doing 30 minutes- 1 hour classes for videos would be extremely helpful for people wanting to learn the language. I'm currently learning Japanese and it's definitely difficult and takes time, and I've heard Chinese is also extremely difficult. So the more time the better. I believe in you Yumi! I've been watching you for years now, and watched you grow and your channel grow. You're an amazing mother and I'm proud of you. I'm sorry you're going through such hard times... Sending love to you and your son! 💖 -Abel
You can also try to prerecord for skillshare. You can also teach DIY skills. I think a lot of people would enjoy learning how to customize clothing.
Yumi are you planning on going to live back to Washington near your family?
That's a good idea. If her ex husband won't support her and their son, she might as well be around her family who actually do love and support her.
I’m not sure about her state.. but where i live during a divorce you cannot take the child 100miles out of the county you are getting divorced in sadly :/
I know nothing about her family but her mother and her seemed close, she could some stay with Yumi and watch baby... That's what grandparents are for.
We love you Yumi
I know it's so hard to work full-time outside of home when your son is so little. Mandarin is a good idea, maybe you can teach an online class at your local college. You're a great cook too, maybe make some of your recipes when baby asleep. We all love Chinese foods & it'll be popular videos for your channel. Best of luck to you Yumi. You're a very good mother to your baby boy! Take care of yourself too.
She said Chinese, not Mandarin
@@ms.pirate mandarin is the native language of chinese people
@@ms.pirate Lmao your just joking right?? Mandarin is *the most widely spoken of the Chinese languages.* And when Yumi speaks Chinese in her videos, *shes speaking Mandarin...* so..
Hi Yumi,
I am sorry to hear about your situation. Sending lots of good thoughts your way.
I am a teacher and I wanted to let you know not to worry about your son going to day care. Teachers are very good at making children feel comfortable, even if it takes a little while. Children can build many skills such as making friends and becoming more independent, which are very important lifelong skills. He may be very young now, but he can do it! Plus it will give you so much more time for yourself. Start with just two days and trial it for month or so. Tell the teachers your worries and they will monitor him :)
Where I live, children get 20 hours of day care (each week) for free - I wonder if you have anything like that? Talk to parents you know and see what they do. Even taking turns to look after each others' kids could be good.
Love seeing how your son is your world and how you drop everything for him ❤
A word of advice. I've worked teaching English and other languages as a second language before. If you're interested in teaching as a job, online teaching may sound good but the money is not as good... that's because there are MANY teachers doing online courses all around the world, so most of the time you'll either not earn as much or won't get enough people booking a lesson with you. On the other hand, private lessons does require your full attention with the other people across the screen... but if you're really into it, there's italki (an online teaching platform) and it's apparently very good, you can try checking once in a while whenever they start accepting tutors for Chinese again; it wouldn't be a bad idea for some extra income. Sadly most other platforms won't accept unless you're already a certified teacher or show proof of an extensive teaching career... Teaching online is very tough, that's all I want to say (I apologize if this isn't the teaching gig you were thinking of, though! I've always tought you'd be a wonderful teacher, so do try it if you want)
But Yumi, just an idea here. You can sew, you can cook, you can apply makeup. I don't know if there are jobs like these where you live right now, but my mother has worked from home before sewing for a local clothing brand, she only had to own a sewing machine and meet deadlines... she also freelanced her way selling lunchboxes to some of our neighbors working office jobs or their children. These are just some "work from home" alternatives away from the other online gigs like teaching or taking calls (by the way, I took calls during my student years, it's not as bad as a job, the difficult part was mine required me to take a month of training face-to-face).
Anyway, so sorry for this very very long comment... I'm wishing you the best!!
I, for one, was very concerned when you got into a relationship with your son's father because of the alternative lifestyle that he seemed to be interested in. I think he also became involved with you, Yumi, because you dressed like a young girl. Then once you were no longer the image of the young girl, got pregnant, etc., it seemed he lost interest. Now, just because he is into an alternative lifestyle does not mean that everyone that is in an alternative lifestyle thinks this way, but there can be some very deranged people within the BDSM community. There are many in the comments hoping you get child support, but I'm going to be one that tells you that you don't need child support. You are perfectly capable of taking care of your son on your own. When child support becomes involved, it can change parent's perceptions of what is right and wrong. It will be great if he supports his son on his own, but if he doesn't, then you can be the one that is the breadwinner. I raised 2 daughters on my own without any child support from my ex husband. In fact, my ex husband is in prison because he couldn't keep his hands off of young girls. I would rather know that I am supporting my children on my own without being beholding to anyone else, even if they have a responsibility to them. You are a beautiful person Yumi, you can do this.
This is a lovely comment. Congratulations on your successes as a mother, and for staying strong through all those struggles! What do you mean by her ex husband having an alternative lifestyle? I hadn't picked up on that in the videos.
I'm so confused. Are you saying that her husband was into BDSM? If so, how did you find that out because I never heard that discussed in any of her videos.
How did you know he was into bdsm 😮 spill the tea
@@Mcgturtle3 Back in the beginning of when she met him, she was wearing a collar and made mention of their alternative relationship. It was also in how they interacted with each other. Daddy Dom/baby girl.
Shut up, don’t listen to her Yumi. Yes become independent and get a job and rise above but that man has a responsibility as a father to support his son. It’s child support, not Yumi’s allowance. You’re victim blaming Yumi, clearly she was brainwashed by this wierdo and pressured to act like a little girl it doesn’t take a scientist to figure that out. That man has a responsibility to pay for his son as well.
Yumi I wish you the best of luck, hope you can become a teacher! 💕💕💕 Love your responsibility and how you try to do what's best for you and your child 💖
You got this as a single women you are strong 💪🏽
i think if you just upload the classes to patreon for us all it would be the best option!
As someone who is a full time college student I find it very hard to hold a job due to the classes and extra studying and just home life in general but I have found there are alot of websites that pay you certain amount per hour (depending on the task) to type out subtitles for videos I find that its a job that very easy money and super flexible time wise I do know that they pay alot more for translations also!
You’re such a good mother Yumi! Keep up the good work. I’m rooting for you. Lots of love!!🥰🥰❤️❤️
I disappear for a few years and come back and a lot has change. I loved your content before and i came back for some sewing inspo, happy to support, sending my prayers
I’m absolutely so proud of you for putting yourself and your son first I sent a donation to help you and your son
You keep being as cute and loving as you have always been Yumi 💕💕💕
Post often on RUclips!!! I watch my favorite RUclipsrs every time they post.
Can I recommend you looking into teaching at home with Outschool? We use this a lot for our children. You can make different types of classes that run when you want. It has many people who will see your classes. You can do 1 to 1, or as many as you want in a class. You can schedule a babysitter to come and stay at home with you while you work, or take your son a walk. Classes can be 45 minutes for kids, or any length you set. Have a wee look, I think it would suit your situation and skills well. Best of luck!
I will never do daycare, good call mama. Ive seen and been through some crazy things with it before with my nephews, spending time with your child is best for both parties
Pre-recorded classes would be great. Maybe basic short videos for RUclips and in-depth types for Patreon. Phone calls may not be a good idea when starting out because you do need time to get a hand of things and feel comfortable. Plus you won't be able to keep fixed calling hours since your son is still too small and will need your attention at any hour of the day. Pre recorded videos allows you to film in parts and then combine into one video. 1 video in 2 weeks will be a good start till you get a hang of it. Then if possible you could do 1 a week. That way you can film whenever he is asleep and edit when he is awake. Don't give out your personal number because there are weird people out there. Keep a separate business number for your work. Love you Yumi!
And file for child support!!! Do not let this slip! He cannot just make a baby and then remove himself from the situation. Please!
You’re incredibly strong … as someone who’s parents divorced as i lived with my mother …it’s always hard making that shift. There are tons of online schooling programs for language classes… and i feel like you would be a great teacher!! However I wouldn’t recommend patreon … it can be unreliable… You’re amazing, Yumi!!!!!
我知道你可以度过所有的困难。 我永远支持你。 加油！ GOD BLESS YOU ALWAYS🙏
I've been watching your videos since I was very young. I still love your videos and will keep supporting you!
you can also tutor chinese kids english there are programs that do that specifically!
You should absolutely prioritize being with your son. Much better for him to be with mom than daycare workers.
I agree... and this is her 1st child, so of course she will be overly cautious of daycares.. especially with COVID and everything!
if you need more time to work maybe if you live close to your parents you could have your parents look after your son for a small amount of time when you work so he wouldn't be with a stranger. stay strong I know you are a strong and independent women! :3
Yes, I'm surprised that she didn't move back with her mom.
@@kitty1256x in one of her videos a long time ago (when she was still married) she said Chinese parent/s do not approve of divorce and or moving back to home (especially after giving birth) they consider it a shame to themselves. But seeing as how Yumi's stepdad is American, I was wondering that too.... many Chinese children dont want to be a burden to their parents after marriage/divorce/children. So maybe Yumi is trying her best to stand on her own 2 feet and pick herself up rather than falling back onto her parents... not sure. But I do hope the best for her...
Hey Yumi!!! I hope you find a better situation! Your son is lucky to have a mom so loving! I think a beginner weekly recorded lesson would be good with advanced writing/speaking critique
What about pursuing a career in your field of study? I remember you graduated from college a few years ago.
I can see you modeling Yumi . You're beautiful and I adore you . And I have a son too I know it's hard being alone and doing it alone. You can do Patreon for teaching Chinese . Or show us how to sew certain clothes ? Maybe even do some teaching how to write Chinese too . I will be praying for you and your son Yumi. We love you❤️
I think you would be a wonderful teacher! I hope you are able to find an accessible job soon! We all wish the best for you and will continue supporting you wherever we can 💕💕💕
Maybe prerecorded lectures and potential office hours to help clear misunderstandings
Looking forward to it if you decide to make a Chinese class!! I've always been interested in learning another language >< wish you and your son all the best 👍 ❤
I've been watching your videos for along time. Since you met him. I've seen alot of him degrading you since day one. I also saw iit got worse. I think if you want to work from home and care for him. Do more videos with him in them. Alot of people would love to see how he's doing and what a great mom you are.. I would love to see his face and watch him grow up. Im sure everyone following you would too!!!! Just a suggestion.
Hello Yumi! I have been your fan since the early days like 2015! I’m really disappointed and upset to hear what you are going through, you are a really strong women! I am praying for your situation to get better, do continue to stay strong and I pray that you would receive all the help you need because you really deserved the best! Your videos has always brighten up my days and it inspired me to learn to sew too! Even though I am not financially strong to support you, I will still support you by watching your videos! All the best and stay strong, you are really a wonderful women! Things will be hard right now, but I am sure things will definitely change for the better soon!!❤️❤️
姐姐，要继续加油哦，不要放弃，一切多会变得美好的！希望您和您儿子天天开心，天天幸福，您是一个很坚强的女人和妈妈，不要放弃！！！❤️❤️
I am learning chinese and i totally learn more from you!!! You would make a great Chinese teacher! 加油！
I think a patreon language class is a great idea! Also people who just suggest getting daycare have no clue how hard it is to afford daycare. Very few jobs offer daycare for employees as well. Either way, soon he will be in school so cherish the time you have. 💖 we just had #2 and the oldest is in school, otherwise we could not afford daycare for 2, and I’d have to stay home. Good luck 💕
You can also do tutoring for people who are taking Chinese in college or through other classes. Tutorers can make a lot of money depending on what they charge
So proud of you ❤ I hope things fall into place for you soon
Would you be able to pay for a babysitter just for the times you do classes or other work at home? Your son would be in the home with you and he would become accustomed to his babysitter over time! And if you only need a couple hours a day it might not be as expensive as daycare.
Edited to add: Also you might be able to qualify to work as a nanny for a family and bring your son along for less pay! I personally haven't had luck with this option, but I have heard a lot of mother's saying this is what they do for a living and get paid $20/hour.
I wish you and you're son the best of luck. The both of you guys are very strong for keeping on, keeping on. You got this Queen we're rooting for you!!!!! 👑💕
joining your patreon yumi. you have always made such lovely content and are such lovely person!
The first 3 years are the most time consuming and challenging i have found i am a full time stay at home mommy❤
I only tell You this, because now I can: I've watched You many years but since Your relationship with that guy started...I didn't watch that often...He seemed very odd to me. Kinda gaslightning You on any occasion. I had feeling( when camera was turned off )like he treated You someone lower, dumber, beneath him. I stopped watching videos You with him bc I get weird vibes from him. I only watched videos where You alone or with baby. I really wanted to be wrong with all that impression. It is really breaks my heart fact that You are going thru something like this... I had many toxic relationship and I can say only one thing: fight. Fight for money on kid from him or apartament or anything else. Maybe You are overwhelmed by all this but few years after You will regret that You didn't do it. He can't have any control over You even with money. Because You deserve it. Look for lawyer with cases like You maybe someone who work pro bono or give You advice. Don't give up on Yourself. You are smart, talented young mom, you are raising a baby. You deserve great life. Best life. Much love from Poland ❤
It was the same with me. When Yumi started showing videos with him I started getting VERY weird vibes from him, like he liked this very childish thing from her,... I..do not know, I remember he once lifted her up like a baby or something. But Somehow I always felt he was taking advantage from her, like, maybe from thinking she was way too innocent or something. Kind of remember me from a predator or something but that does not sound good tho, I know. And since the first time I saw him interact with her, I did not like it at all and stopped watching videos where he would be seen, he made me very uncomfortable.
Another feminist
You are so strong! Please look up Italki! You can teach your native language there
Yumi, you are already working so, so hard. It isn’t fair that you have to do so much. A baby is a lot of work enough without a job. We will support you in any way we can. You deserve all of the good in the world.
i can't really contribute with money, but i will re-subscribe and watch all yout videos with the ads.