There was a comment from someone initiating a conversation basically stating that it was fine for people to provide “constructive criticism” to people who are overweight. The author has deleted it, but unfortunately that means we lost our list of resources that people had shared. If you have good content creators for those who genuinely want to learn and be better regarding weight bias please share them here. I’ve seen a few videos by therapist Mickey Atkins that I appreciated.
I was writing my reply to her when it got deleted. Suddenly I couldn't post it. I think body positivity is amazing because being fat, a lot of the time you don't really like yourself. I was very healthy growing up chubby, kept eating myself from overweight to obese. When I dieted and lost weight, I did it a healthy way, changed my eating habits to have consistent good meal options s 6 times a day along with 2mile walk everyday. I lost 80 lbs in 10 months. Then I had gallbladder issues and had to gave surgery. This was directly related to the weightloss. Now my body is not as great as dealing with fats and cholesterol. While recovering from surgery and having difficulty eating, it masked my pregnancy symptoms. I was unable to get prenatal care and a preventable issue led to my first child dying. Huge depression hit me after that and slowly I got back to my original weight after about 6 years. I struggled emotionally with my subsequent pregnancies and the weight bother me more now than I did before. So yes, I was way happier and healthier before I lost weight.
I'm so glad you posted this, MDJ. I was replying to her when she deleted the thread. Everyone deserves to love their body no matter how closely or not it aligns to beauty standards (which is exactly what her logic implies). We only get one body in this life and it does fantastic things for us. No point of hating it!
I’m a pediatric nurse and I legitimately have used your quote of, “you can only do the best you can with the information that you had at the time.” It is so comforting to parents, especially first time parents when they are questioning things that veteran parents necessarily would feel comfortable with. I really appreciate that reminder in many of your videos.
“You can only do the best with the information you had at the time” has helped me deal with a lot of things. For example, going into treatment. I was living with my parents at the time, and they didn’t know how to help me because they didn’t have much information on my mental health.
i use that quote all the time! i had a customer rant to me about how they bought cigarettes bc they had some extra money but then their car broke down & they couldn’t afford to fix it bc they bought those cigarettes. and they said it made them feel way better when i told them not to be too hard on themselves bc they made the decision to buy cigarettes when their car worked just fine
@@misseselise3864 the cost of a pack of cigarettes isn't gonna do much for the price of most car repairs anyway so.. haha they still wouldn't have had the money to fix it
Another good quote from my main physician who leads a huge team of specialists trying to help me is "give yourself some grace". It is ok to rest, to cry occasionally, and to have worries - provided they don't over take your life. It is normal to need to rest if you've got a serious and life changing illness or permanent injury and it is OK to slow down your lifestyle to in my case, just elevate my leg and avoid causing acute ischemia in my limb & subsequent reperfusiom injury/vascular pain attacks!
You should watch one of the “I didn’t know I was pregnant…again” episodes. There are a few women who had it happen twice. Tawanda’s episode is especially interesting!
Things I've learned from these videos 1. If anyone says you can't get pregnant or can't get someone else pregnant- they lying 2. Take a pregnancy test - stub your toe? Take a pregnancy test 3. Don't blame yourself for the things you don't know.
That's ignorant. Some of us legitimately cannot get pregnant, and never do. These shows are the weird exceptions, not the reality of those who NEVER get to have babies.
First, I just want to say thank you Mama Doctor Jones. As a father to a three year old daughter, I am glad there is somewhere that I can get educated on the vast amount of info that was left out of Sex Ed when in school. Also, when my wife was pregnant with our daughter, she had zero morning sickness and actually lost weight. Her placenta had also attached toward the front so even when our little girl was kicking, my wife could barely feel it. I actually only felt her kick once. Thank goodness my wife knew to take a pregnancy test, or we could have ended up on this show! 🙂
I just want to say that it's always really wonderful to see guys taking it upon themselves to learn about women's health. You're doing an important and excellent thing and I thank you for making the world a better place. :)
When my mom was pregnant with me and my brother, she did not had pregnancy symptoms, but she check on pregnancy test for only to be one month pregnant with me and my sibling (in separate time). The year of my birth was 1996 and my brother's was 2002.
I moved to a foreign country alone, got an STI and lost a tube to an ectopic pregnancy. Twelve years later, at almost forty, I had my first daughter. You just never know.
I had a coworker who didn’t know she was pregnant. She went to the ER with bleeding and cramping and an hour later had a 9lb baby girl. To say she was shook is an understatement 😬
@@93cglNot the original commenter, but I could see that. My aunt was a larger woman and you couldn’t tell with any of her pregnancies by looking at her. It could also be just how she carried. I was about average size when I got pregnant but I never got that cute baby bump. I looked like a chunky pear, he laid high and across horizontally till 32 weeks then head down with his butt up under my ribs the rest of the pregnancy. He was long with a big head, 8 pounds 5 ounces but not chunky. I think that’s why I just looked like I’d gotten fat 😢😅.
I had a traumatic birth, with 37 hrs of labour, an epidural that didn't work (that they argued on the table WAS working, when it wasn't 🤦🏼♀️), and had to have a general anaesthetic, literally in seconds, ie. they pinned me down and shoved a mask on my face! When I woke up, really drowsy obviously, I could hear my hubby talking somewhere, and asked the nurse "where is he?" and she brought me my son. I wanted my hubby lol, and wasn't even thinking I'd had a baby 😂. I just wanted my hubby in that moment 😆. My BP was 60/35, so I give myself a pass on that. I didn't know what end of me was up tbh! 🙈
@@lindatannock I'd had an allergic reaction to something in the epidural so they turned it down before we went in. But when I could feel it (because at that point it was too low to work) they said eff it and ratcheted it back up and I started to hallucinate cartoon stars and unicorns. 🤣
Yes those drugs are something else. After i gave birth to our twins my husband looked at our daughter (we have one girl and one boy) for the first time and said "Aw my wubby is so beautiful". And me being as high as i was said "Wubby is the most beautiful name i ever heard". Her name is not wubby 😆. But she's 4 now and we still call her wubby.
Since having my 2 children, I've had severe gas pains that felt like baby kicks, so I can totally see a person who didn't know they were pregnant passing off some baby movements as gas pains. She was working a lot, getting used to being a new mom, getting used to her body again postpartum - yeah, I can see not knowing you are pregnant.
I agree that it would be very possible to not know you are pregnant especially during the first 2 trimesters. I think that knowing/believing you are pregnant makes you interpret certain signs as being signs of pregnancy, if you were sure you were not pregnant then a lot of pregnancy symptoms would be easy to explain away.
I have had gas pains or inexplicable flutters/thumps that felt like a baby kick, too! Glad to know I'm not the only one! I dont think I ever had anything that felt that way before any of my pregnancies, but I did after. The first time it happened I did a pregnancy test which came back negative.
I've had bad gas that felt like a baby kicking and thought I was pregnant. And this was about a year after I gave birth to my first child and my period hadn't returned yet. I can definitely see how some pregnancy symptoms can be mistaken for something else
I'm the kind of person who freaks out immediately when my boobs are hurting, when I have stomach pain or some other vague pregnancy symptom even though I'm not sexually active at that time, used contraceptives when I had sex and had my period every month. I have this fear because I'm not ready AT ALL to become a mom.
I’ve been experiencing this a lot lately, frequent bad gas and phantom kicks, it seriously makes me think I’m pregnant but I have taken multiple pregnancy tests and nothing. I can see how people may think the kicks are just gas pains
@@Teacupgirly this is so me .I experience little "flutter" movements and kicks and immediately run to grab lots of pregnancy tests and it always comes up negative. My first pregnancy resulted in a twin pregnancy and my babies are two years old now ,was informed by a nurse that I could have some problem with my abdomen still being separated or something
How about this for "I didn't know I was pregnant" I didn't know that my cat was pregnant!! When we adopted her she was recently spayed at 3 months old (that morning we picked her up,) and had the spay stitches on her side (easier for kittens as they are less likely to rip open the new stitches). We kept her as an inside cat for 1.5yrs. We noticed that she sprayed around the house, and after some talking deciding that she's obviously very anxious about other cats outside, so we let her out during the daytime 8am-6pm. About 2 months later, we wake up one morning and she's extremely anxious and doesn't like us leaving the bedroom, meowing and being quite insistent that we're not allowed to go anywhere. She also made a "nest" in my partner's Jean drawer and was extremely clingy. She also wasn't at all interested in going outside, as she normally would be. We also noticed some discharge and decided a vet visit was needed. (In hindsight is seemed it was the mucus plug) So I took her to the vet later that day, she was even more anxious - going so far as to be shaking in my arms. The vet didn't see anything unusual and decided a follow up was needed and we would investigate from there. The next day I was home from work and she was still quite clingy. As usual I let the dogs outside and spent some time hanging out with her and doing some housework. At about 5:30pm I was watching some TV and she was in her little box in the office (which is right across the hall) when all of a sudden I hear a tiny "mew". Eyes wide open I walk into the office and find my cat looking up at me quite tiredly and right there, is one gorgeous little kitten, happily feeding from mum and not a care in the world. Somehow she only had one in total, an x-ray confirmed that. It's safe to say that the vet was mortified, and so was the organisation that we adopted her from. Thankfully the kitten was healthy and alright. She's now 7 weeks old and a little firecracker in her own right
It can happen, particularly when cats are spayed before 6 months. The uterine horns in younger kittens are incredibly tiny--to call them stringy seems like an exaggeration because that makes them sound way thicker than they actually are. Plus, when you're doing surgery on kittens, you want to be quick because usually they come through just fine but when they crash and burn, it happens so fast. So, rarely, what happens is the vet gets hold of one uterine horn plus a fold of omentum, a flat tissue that lays on top of the internal organs but can look remarkably like a uterine horn and ovary if it is grabbed in a certain way by forceps. It does not harm the kitten to lose a little snip of omentum... but it's like only having one ovary removed, it does not leave the cat infertile.
@@GrainneDhu That's really interesting. I've assisted in dozens of spays, including ones when the queen is pregnant, and I've never heard of this. We never do spays before 6 months due to possible complications. Your explanation makes perfect sense to me. I'm going to bring it up to our vet and ask his opinion.
@@lissaylissean9940 this is why my old vet refused to do the ultra-early 7 week spays. There was a clinic in a town about half an hour away that did them and the shelter in that town required all kittens be spay/neutered before being released to their adoptive families but my vet saw too many complications to feel comfortable about doing it so early.
My daughter, an active addict at the time, was in complete denial telling me over the phone she could feel something moving in her stomach and there was sometimes a lump pressing against it. She could see my grandson moving against her still flat stomach. Everyone else: you're pregnant. Her: No, something is wrong. I had to buy her a pregnancy test. He's 7 now and lives with me.
Because of you. I thought my period was late due to me fracturing my ankle days before. When it didn’t come a week later, I took a test. We are expecting our 🥰 little girl in July 2022! I have pcos and my periods were NEVER NORMAL until last year, they started coming like clockwork. So when my period was late all I heard was your voice in the back of my mind saying just take one. Just in case.
Thanks to Mama Doctor Jones I scheduled a pre-conception check up with my GYN. I am so glad I did. She ordered a number of tests and was able to answer a lot of my questions. She also had me start pre-natal vitamins even though my husband and I aren't planning to try for a few months. Thank you Doctor Jones for even telling me this was a thing!
I know someone who didn't know. She has a host of health issues. Her mom was beginning to suspect when friend had to go to the hospital for a blood pressure issue, and came out a mom of a preemie. I never scoffed; just felt bad that she'd been helping move furniture 2 months earlier when I was recovering my own 2nd baby's birth. Lord knows most of my symptoms could've been explained away and I don't have that host of health issues. Our babies are now "big" kids in school
my mother took longer than normal to know she was pregnant with me! her periods were super irregular and were super light when she did have one. she had really really bad heartburn and thought she had an ulcer… nope, 12 weeks pregnant!
My mother didn't know she was pregnant with me until she was 6 months into the pregnancy. She was a little chubby so there was no noticeable weight gain, and she had no nausea at all in the beginning. She still got some what of her period every month, so things seemed to still be normal until she finally missed her period and saw her doctor for a test. Oh boy was she surprised, lol, but very happy she was having a girl. ☺ I miss her dearly, she passed when I was 9 and I'm now going on 29. She was such a blessing to this world. RIP mom, we love and miss you. 💜
When people ask "how did they not know the were pregnant?" I just think back to how it took a joking comment from a coworker about me peeing every 20 minutes and that maybe I was pregnant to make me start doing math and begin to even suspect that I COULD be. I was 13 weeks pregnant when I suspected it, and if it hadn't been for that joking comment, I probably wouldn't have realized it until much later. And it's a lucky thing that I did find out, because when I was induced and they broke my water (at 40 weeks and 6 days), there was meconium in my amniotic fluid. After 18 hours of labor with no epidural or pain management, I popped out a tiny little 6lb 9.3oz boy and he was sooo skinny! It was concerning because he was having trouble gaining weight, but eventually everything got on track and he's now almost 3. Like Mama Doctor Jones, I loved him and would die for him, but I didn't have that starry-eyed moment with him cuz beforehand, I'd never even wanted kids. I was content to just be the cool aunt to all my nieces and nephews. It took awhile before I had my moment of "He is mine and I made him" when looking at him. I also went through some pretty bad PPD, and since I was a single mom since before he was even born (jackass ghosted and blocked me when I told him I was pregnant) I didn't have a support system to help me through it because in my mind, I got myself into it and couldn't rely on my parents because I was a grown ass woman (23) and didn't want to bother them with it. My OBGYN was my ONLY saving grace and, even though it wasn't her job, she listened to my worries and troubles and reassured me that I was doing great and she set me up with resources that could help me. I GREATLY respect the OBGYNs that are understanding and helpful rather than condescending and judgemental (my sister in law's OBGYN was the worst). Mama Doctor Jones, you're one of the good ones and I love your content!
I had a similar experience with my daughter then when I got pregnant with my son I had a coworker who thought she couldn’t get pregnant told me after a lunch break she had thrown up in her car and I was like you’re pregnant which prompted her to take a test and she was a little further along then the rest of the pregnant people at our work place.
I only wonder how someone could not know they're pregnant when they're close to giving birth. I just don't know how someone never feels movement from the baby. With my first I had no idea I was pregnant until I was 11 weeks and the only reason I even found out then was because I had a doctors appointment for an unrelated issue. If I never went to the doctors I probably wouldn't have found out until my belly started to grow lol.
@@nicolecheyenne7937 sometimes the baby isn't very active, or the movements feel like gas. If you don't suspect you're pregnant, a lot of pregnancy symptoms can be written off as something else. Every woman and every pregnancy is different. One woman may feel movements, another may not. And a woman may feel movements in one pregnancy, but not in another. Pregnancy is so unpredictable, tbh. I personally have only had one kid, but my sister-in-law has had three and didn't know she was pregnant with the third until seven months in when she had her yearly checkup with her OBGYN. She didn't show at all and literally only gained like ten pounds, which she attributed to her not being as active as she used to be.
Is there a show out there called "I'm telling you I'm pregnant!", where multiple tests, including quantitative hCG, all come back negative for pregnancy. But it turns out you're right and you are!!!
Nah they want put a show out there like that that will go against everything the medical doctor and nurses tell you that you not pregnant if your test come back negative
I reeeaally need MDJ to react to Twins by Surprise. Not just as and ObGyn, but as a twin mom. And the episode of I didn't know I was Pregnant that was also twins.
I have a friend that didn’t know she was pregnant she went into a clinic looking to get help with a uti and ended up finding out she was giving birth and was rushed to the hospital with a premi baby.
Just here to say I just finished the videos about the Alaska school board and I've been fuming over it. I'm a mom to 3 young girls and it blows my mind that school board officials are running based on their opinions not based on facts or bringing people in with knowledge of the course material to make decisions. I have so much to say, but I'll really get to the point of saying thank you. Thank you for being a source I can use to educate myself about my own reproductive health that even as someone who has birthed children has a lot to learn because no one is out here teaching me this information, but you are. Thank you for being an accessible means of factual information that I can use to help my daughters receive what I didn't.
The medical model is male, which means they believe women are simply a variation on a theme, when in fact we are completely different (who wudda thunk). Women's health information is so important.
Well said Melanie! I’m so glad you brought that up. I’m thankful for Dr. Mama Jones because I share her videos with my Granddaughter. It’s so refreshing for the educational information not to be stale and boring. She’s 11 and at the age when she really needs it☺️
@@stephanieann8115 Who could have imagined that basic health information would be so controversial in this day and age. I have daughters whom I try to keep informed.
Same thing happened to my mother in the late 90s. They said one ovary taken out made her infertile and she became pregnant. Also late 2012 when she went to a new Dr when she had her insurance changed she was being denied birth control saying she couldnt have kids anymore. She showed my 12 year old brother's picture as proof lol and finally she was given birth control.
It does feel like forever when going through the surgical process. It may not be a ton of time, but it feels like forever. I have cried hysterically feeling abandoned in a hallway after being given the cool down “cocktail.” It feels so lonely, and like you are abandoned. Of course, then, they wake me up with what feels like too early. I just wanna sleep man. I think doctors need to understand how scared some of us are before surgery, needs to be addressed. You are busy, but we are consumed in the anxiety of what will happen. It feels like abandonment.
I’m so sorry about your experience. A lot of crap was bad around my childbirth (I’m left with emotional scars still) but I remember my anesthesiologist. He was so very kind. I can see his face, 12 years later. At one point I asked how much longer and he said not too much, are you feeling sick? Yes. He immediately had something ready to fix that. He held my hand. He talked me though everything. He made sure I was never left alone or scared. He was SO GOOD at small talk. There is NO REASON this shouldn’t be the standard of care. I get not everyone is naturally empathetic but it can at least be someone learned. If nothing else, docs could learn signs of discomfort or fear and have small tasks that can help that. If nothing else, patients should be told what to expect.
While I never had to have a c section I can 100% promise you if I had one (especially if my husband wasn’t with me) I would have been very scared. I had my first surgery at 40 years old and that was scary. Adding a baby and being so much younger, being a new mom, worrying about your baby, fearing pain, infection would ALL be very scary. HUGS to all the new moms who go through those feelings.
@@truckerdave8465 I've had several surgeries and without fail the anesthesiologists were the most kind and reassuring of everyone at all my different surgeries.
Schrodinger's Uterus: The period between conception and a positive pregnancy test where you are both pregnant and not pregnant. Leaving yourself asking "can I take this ibuprofen".
I've had birth control symptoms that felt like I was straight up pregnant. Like, my uterus was contracting and felt like baby kicks and everything (this was over a year ago so definitely not preggo) but i can see how someone would write stuff off as being something else.
The same thing happend to my husbands mother when she was 19. She did gain weight but she also said it was because of her grandmas cooking. She also had bleeding and did mistake that for her period. She did smoke the whole pregnancy, did not get prenatal care and drank heavy amounts of alcohol. And she did not know until she got the Baby... crazy to me: she gave birth while she was home alone, swaddled him, cut the cord and remembers nothing of that today. It seems like a miracle but: the baby and her were very healthy and still are!:)
Hey! I commented this before, but there is a RUclips video about a queer couple with a "Didn't know I was pregnant"-story that touches on a lot of important topics and I think it would be great to hear you react to it! I think their names are August and Syd.
This is why I always keep pregnancy tests in our bathroom. I have polycystic ovaries and a history of endometriosis (surgery a few years ago) so my cycle isn’t normal, definitely had a few scares but thankfully no babies Edit: yes we use birth control but I’m also on other medication so, better to be safe
Yeah, I also have endo which I manage using the pill, but I have other chronic illnesses too and one of the meds I need to get me through the day speeds up the absorbtion of the pill so it's (????times, they don't know exactly) less effective. Fucking nightmare haha
@@Rose-jz6sx I feel ya girl. I’m on medicine for epilepsy and I was told that the BC may increase my chance of seizures by itself but that the medication may decrease the effectiveness of BC so…🤙🏻
i haven’t had sex since oct 2020 and i still get a pregnancy test every time i go to the dr 🙄 plus i got into a really bad car wreck in dec 2020 and highly doubted that a fetus would’ve been able to survive it (i barely survived)
I didn’t know I was pregnant with my second child until I get the fluttering half way through. I had just moved to a new country, and I was super stressed. After that movement I took a test. And my birth control was still in place, or so I thought.
I had kind of the same thing happen... I was peeing one day and heard a little "tink" and it was my iud in the toilet. Called my doctor, went in a few days later and I not only found out I was pregnant with my first, but that I was roughly 5 months pregnant with a boy. Luckily I had really over scheduled myself at school that semester so I hardly had time to drink or do anything that could've been dangerous but I was still nervous until I had him. I was induced at 37 weeks and had a 6½lb perfectly healthy baby...
Didn’t know I was pregnant with my second until I was about 16 weeks. I have PCOS and had treatment to have my first. Didn’t think anything of the irregular/missed periods afterwards as it was normal to me. Felt those fluttery movements in bed one night, took a test and it was positive. Went to see the midwife the next week and she estimated me at about 16 weeks but two weeks later at the first scan, I was told I was 20 weeks with another boy. Couldn’t believe I was half way through the pregnancy already 😳
When talking about not having anything for the baby, I thought about my mom and grandmas who did the old, we don’t need a baby bed, we have a dresser drawer! 😂
As a woman who is 12 weeks along.. I am so jealous of these women who have zero or less severe first trimester symptoms. I have had the WORST nausea and so much more.
Just as an aside, I had terrible morning sickness with my girls but not my son. I mentioned that to another woman who said morning (or as both of us called it "ALL DAY sickness!") happened the opposite sexes! Just hope to cheer you a little that it might not happen for you every time. In fact, at first with my son, I didn't think it was pregnancy when I missed my period because I had had such horrible sickness right from the start with the girls! But I knew after the test. My husband even speculated that since I wasn't sick it might be a boy this time. I hope your sickness is past now, or I'm sure it will be very soon and the more fun part of having a baby can begin for you! :)
Just a note that this isn't always the case because you never know what health issues they have. I had bad heartburn a year before my pregnancy so I can definitely see it being reasonable for me explaining away 24/7 heartburn and nausea as a non-pregnancy symptom. Plus I have weird periods because of PCOS. If I wasn't someone who took pregnancy tests regularly because I'm paranoid, I would 100% be someone who finds out later in pregnancy. As it was I found out at 9 weeks 😅
Having had nausea throughout the first trimester I can relate. My go-to was peppermint tea and sipped slowly. I hope you have a good support system around you and it's good to talk to your medical practitioner(s) about the nausea to ensure you aren't dehydrated and are okay. Best wishes for your pregnancy!
My doctor told me I couldn’t get pregnant because of PCOS annnnd I’m almost done with my first trimester 😅 the only reason I took a test was because my doctor told me to before she would prescribe me something for the random migraines I started getting
I hav pcos and was told when I was 16 that I would probably never b able to get pregnant because I started getting cysts when I was like 13/14ish. When I was 19 I was on birth control and I still got pregnant. A year later I had an iud and still got pregnant. I lost the baby really early because my iud came out, but then we started trying after that to get pregnant and I ended up having to do multiple rounds of clomid to get pregnant again😅
My doctor told me I would probably have a really hard time getting pregnant without help. My son was conceived the first month we started trying 😂 Hopefully doctors stop telling people this!
You're the sweetest person I've seen. There aren't many obgyns in my small South African city. I wish more doctors were like you, then I wouldn't be so scared to go to one.
1:03 I have three different cousins who were each told (for varying reasons) that they MIGHT have trouble getting pregnant. Each took this to mean that she couldn't get pregnant and thought she didn't need to use birth control. Needless to say, I have even more cousins now.
With my son, my 3rd and last pregnancy, I went to my 35 week check up appointment and the fluid was so low that they sent me straight to labor and delivery. It was terrifying. I couldn't imagine not knowing I was pregnant and then going straight into an emergency c section!!
My mom was over 3 months into her pregnancy with me when she found out she was pregnant. The only reason she even took a test was because my dad told her that she was pregnant & she was trying to prove him wrong
I just have to say how much I appreciate it every time MDJ talks about us doing the best we can with what we have. I had my son when I was 20 but didn't find out I was pregnant until I was 3 months along. I had already cut way down on smoking and fully quit when I found out, but I was working full time in a truck stop when you could still smoke inside. I also tried nursing for the first 4-5 weeks, but it just wasn't working and we ended up switching to formula. My son ended up getting bronchialitis at 2 months old and spent 2 weeks in the hospital, and there were so many people who either implied or told me straight out that it was my fault he got sick. I have dealt with the guilt of that for 20 years, even knowing it isn't true, so it's great to hear a medical professional trying to alleviate some of that mom guilt that so many people try to push. Love you MDJ!
My mom had two children before me, and got pregnant with me 9 years after her second child, and she didn't know until about 6 months. She was at work one day and she felt me turn and she immediately knew she had a baby in her belly, started freaking out because she was so scared, went to her boss crying to let her go to the doctor and all her coworkers were sweet trying to calm her down, and of course they didn't really believe her, but she called her doctor for an emergency appt (of course he didnt believe her at first either) and went in that afternoon, and the rest is history. I was small so they thought she was about 2.5 weeks behind to when she actually got pregnant (yes, she knows exactly when i was conceived) but i stayed in those extra two weeks, they did her c-section on a friday and she was back to work on monday. Love for all the mommas out there who brought us into this world and the people who helped them do it💖 i love when she tells me about her very lovely but very short doctor who climbed up onto the bed and practically into my mother to pull me out ( i was positioned far up, hadn't turned upside down, and was sitting criss cross facing outwards like i was watching the world from her belly she says) (and yes my siblings asked if they could bring me back after i got home 😂)
The nurse had to get up on the table with my 2nd C section! My Doc said push harder! I could hear fear in his voice! My sweet daughter was wedged up in there like you! All a very scary moment but turned out fine! She is 14 1/2 now!
@@Mrsjam96 I can't even imagine the terror of the moment, having someone literally jump up on the table during labor, but I'm so happy to hear you were both fine as well! It's one of the loveliest things in the world to be helped by people who know exactly what to do in the situation, especially during such an important and intense event. Sending good vibes to you, your daughter, and your loved ones for the new year!
Regarding "why didn't she feel the baby kick?" question that people ask, my daughter is almost 3 and to this day I feel weird phantom baby kick sensations that I've experienced the entire time since she was born. Weirdest thing, and its probably just digestion or whatever but I swear it feels similar to when I started feeling her kicking in my 2nd trimester. >< So yeah, maybe one of these days it won't be gas movement and I'll find myself on an episode of this show! Time to invest in pregnancy tests, I guess. :P
I never felt my son kick because of the way he was sat. He was small and breech and sat towards me and had his feet up. Id feel movement and he would push his bottom out but I never felt him kick. I did feel little flutters after he was born which someone told me was phantom kicks.
Could they have made the C-section scene any more terrifying?!? Like, jebus, no wonder I've been terrified of C-sections for all these years; I grew up watching this show, along with everything else on the discovery health Channel, all the time. It would seem that that particular trauma was so deep, I didn't even know it was there. 😅
My mum had one ovary removed had me then had half her remaining ovary removed and had my brother two years after I was born… when my mum was pregnant with me my mum went to the doctors because she had stopped feeling me kick and was told that the amniotic fluid was low I had stopped growing they told her “you don’t have to have her here but you have to have her today” so my mum had an emergency c-section… I was a premie
@@Fishouta As the daughter of the woman who went through the surgery, I'm pretty sure my mom isn't lying. Just because you haven't heard it before, doesn't mean it isn't real. Anyhow, enjoy your day!
@@debayeuxchats5607 my mom couldn't conceive, my parents were married for 3 years already. Like I mentioned this was over 4 decades ago. So she had a surgery and got one ovary removed and a big chunk of the one she stayed with. Few months after she was pregnant with my brother, we're Irish twins, we're just 10.5 apart and later my baby sister. I didn't know that was so rare. So I guess I haven't asked that many questions.
I had a torqued ovary at 16 and I distinctly remember the surgeon telling me it was good that I got to keep that ovary or it would be “nearly impossible” to get pregnant naturally. I remember being really confused about that because based on what I’d learned in my human anatomy classes it shouldn’t work that way. Frustrating but definitely validating that I wasn’t the only person being told this.
Had an ovary removed because of cancer...was separated from my husband for 2 years...we tried to reconcile and had sex once...while i was on the nuva ring...I now have a 2 year old as a result lol happy to say my husband and I are better than ever. But my baby boy was a surprise. I knew it was possible but the odds were astronomical! He also fought for his life during and after birth and is an incredibly bright and beautiful boy who happens to have cerebral palsy from birth injury. He's our light.
I was in the hospital for a few days this past October. While I was there, I started throwing up a few times a day. The doctor had done a pregnancy test when I was admitted to the hospital and it came back negative, so the doctor said that my vomiting was due to anxiety. They gave me nausea medication and ginger ale while I was there. I knew something wasn't right, so I begged them to redo the test. They refused. The day after I got home from the hospital I took a test and it was positive! Currently 15 weeks and 4 days with my little one!
With my third son I didn't know until about 5 months. I had had a full term stillborn daughter just 10 months before he was born and never got my period back. I didn't really notice, because I also have irregular periods and was on birth control due to PCOS. I had also lost a lot of weight due to stress. I went to the doctor for terrible heartburn, which I was also blaming on stress and found out I was pregnant. I could easily have just taken tums and ended up on this show. Lol.
@@connordaws8811 Yep. And she fell pregnant by being r4ped by a family member if I remember correctly. She was a severely early developer, already had a period, and was molested. And then I believe they raised her son telling him they were siblings, and it wasn't until adulthood where she confessed that she was really his mother.
I have a stomach issue so I'm often a bit bloated in my belly area. I've been asked on several occasions if I'm pregnant - one woman (a complete stranger) even had the audacity to touch my stomach while asking! One time, an elderly man asked if I was pregnant and when I said I wasn't, his response was: oh, just fat, then. At the time I weighed about 130lb (and I'm 5'8) - not exactly overweight. People can be incredibly rude - I would never dream of making such comments.
Confirmation bias is also super strong. Paying super close attention to your body knowing your pregnant and ascribing sensations to pregnancy that can also be literally anything (increased heart burn, kicking can feel like butterflies in your stomach etc.)
I stopped in to a place I used to work to purchase something and had an old co worker ask me how many kids I’d had. When I said none she said “well how do you explain…”and puffed out her cheeks and put her hands out around her stomach. I had worked at that store when I was 18/19, at that time I was then in my late 20s. I just told her I’m wasn’t a teenager anymore. I cried immediately when I got back into my car.
Doctors had told me even with help, I had less than a 5% chance of getting pregnant. It took 3 rounds of IUI to have my son. He is now 4 years old. A couple months ago I started feeling tired and sick. Thought of these videos and took a pregnancy test. Sure enough, without any doctor help, I was pregnant. I’m now 15 weeks along. Things can happen.
My aunt went through several rounds of fertility treatments unsuccessfully... then had both my cousins a couple years later without any help. Bodies are weird.
The dramatic music and screen jumps with the look on her face during the phone call made me imagine the Ghostface Killer's voice from Scream series, saying into the phone "What's your favorite scary movie?" 🤣😂
I had an ovary removed when I was 11 and was told I’d struggle to have kids. I had PCOS and endometriosis and had multiple miscarriages before having my son It’s such a trauma to be told that you cannot have children or would struggle
As an older first time mother, I’m struggling almost 2 years after my daughter’s birth to loose the weight. I definitely felt that nasty comment and resent rude people. I agree. Keep Your opinions to yourself.
Don't listen to them. Pregnancy and delivery are feats of endurance, patience and strength. You're a pro for making it through it all. Society has unrealistic expectations and it's hard to look like a supermodel while you are taking care of a small child 24/7. You got this!
I really appreciate you're saying that you do the best with the knowledge you have and to give yourself leeway for this. I had a major medical issue a few years back and, by the time I had my diagnosis, we were cutting it close. For quite a while, I've beat myself up over not acting earlier or having knowledge that I could not have possibly had. While my issue was not an unknown pregnancy, hearing this still helps me in recognizing I didn't do anything wrong.
You say you "ruin it with educational commentary" but I think you make it leagues better, especially when you correct inconsistencies or misleading info an episode may have 🥰🥰🥰
Ahah that whole rude comment thing .. Im fat, and when I worked at Walmart, I had a customer ask me how far long I was. I said I'm not, and this lady got so pissed off at me and yelled at me for tricking people into thinking I was pregnant. People are WEIRD about this stuff.
When I had my son I was 37 weeks. I had lost half of the fluid around him over about 4 days. I already had a scheduled C-section for 12/12/12 but they asked on 11/30 if I wanted to have him that day and I did not have any of my stuff with me, including my bag and spouse and we hadn't gotten food/supplies set up yet. We did an extra long non-stress test and be was ok. The perinatologist said I was ok to wait a couple days. I went home for the weekend on bed rest, came back on Monday 12/3 and nothing had improved fluid wise. They decided to do an emergency C-section that day. Thankfully he was born healthy and with no complications for him. 💜 I'm grateful for my perinatologist who got me through planning, conception, pregnancy and the surgery. She was so great. ❤️
On Call the Midwife, some babies were put in drawers in poorer families, to sleep. So yeah, although it's nice to have, a lot of furniture is for the parents' ease and can be done without in a pinch
I think it was quite common in poorer families in old days. Finland created The Baby Box in the 30s en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maternity_package The box itself could be used (and still can) as a first, temporary crib if needed.
I just love how you always say that we as people do the best with the information we know.This is definitely one of my life mottos. Thank you for being a ray of sunlight and knowledge!
I didn't find out til 14weeks. (Because of your videos) and I felt so guilty for everything I did before I found out. Baby boy is almost 3months and healthy and very happy 😊
I didn’t find out until 14 weeks with my first. Mostly because I wasn’t tracking my period and it didn’t even cross my mind. Would’ve gone even longer if my mom didn’t suggest a test
@@probably_notbob5794 through the rest of the pregnancy I always wondered at what point would it have clicked. I had irregular periods and was under so much stress at the time. I think it would've been around 27ish weeks when i could tell he was kicking instead of just feeling.
I had a OBGYN who simply told me that my PCOS made me infertile. I didn't bleed for several years, and then bled for 4 years straight. By the end of it, I was told I had endometrial hyperplasia and had *everything* removed. This turned out to be a hidden blessing because I was closeted trans for years.
Doctor Jones you are absolutely amazing! I have used your videos to help me in teaching my children (including my son) about sex, pregnancy and the female reproductive system.
I’ve heard women be bashed for not knowing they were pregnant or had their integrity questioned or saying there’s no way you just can’t know. But this video shows yes in some circumstances women can totally not know and not everyone’s period is normal and regular
In 2018 when I was 21, I didn't know I was pregnant. My periods were very irregular and I noticed I missed 3 periods in a row but I thought that was from exercising too much. Four days prior to having a miscarriage, I took.a test after my husband kept urging me and it was positive. Then, I lost the baby. It was actually just tissue in the anmiotic sac no baby really formed. But then in 2020, I had my rainbow baby, a daughter. Currently I am 35 weeks expecting a son in January 2022.
The thought popped in my head a while ago and now I can't stop thinking about it... Being pregnant during an apocalypse. Medication is basically nowhere, constantly running and moving around, limited food and water, no one to help. And delivery would be a nightmare alone and whatever creature is trying to kill you.
About the "packing it on there" comment, I grew up with people who said stuff like that for years, but didn't let me exercise, and rarely let me do sports to get rid of the fat. It sucked. :(
Back in the 70s, my mom stopped having her cycle. The doctors did a pregnancy test at the time, and it came back negative. The doctors attempted diagnostics but couldn’t figure out the cause. She had family history of ovarian cysts and other issues. Between that and family challenges, she was still struggling to get the issue resolved nearly 12 months later. Just before prepping her for something she referred to as “exploratory surgery”, they did another pregnancy test. My brother was born, full term, two months later.
As a mum of 3 I can say in all honesty that each pregnancy presents differently. In fact had I not listened to my gut instinct back in 2017 I wouldn't have known I was pregnant with my 3rd child until I was 20wks along, when I felt the first very light flutter, that didn't scream pregnancy to me, as I was nervous about my family liking their Christmas presents that I was busy wrapping at the last minute (it was December 24th). So backstory: My cycle has always been irregular, as in I can go up to 3months between a cycles before I get concerned as that has been my most normal pattern. My husband and I already had 2 son's born in 2014 and 2016. In 2017 we got pregnant again but I had a miscarriage. We then had sex while I was still lightly bleeding from a miscarriage, so we didn't think getting pregnant was a possibility. Turns out my body had ovulated and was ready to make another baby or have a period, our timing meant we made a baby. Although we found out we were pregnant in the 9th week, it was only because my gut instinct told me something was amiss with my body, but due to not having any obvious symptoms of pregnancy (unlike my previous pregnancies) I could have easily missed it had I not been one to follow my instinct. My previous three pregnancies I was missing my period from the get go and was sick almost immediately after conception right through to delivery, post delivery and loss respectively, I also only ever LOST WEIGHT during those pregnancies. I was in my 10th week of pregnancy before any bleeding stopped and I never once was sick (had a girl), and I only gained 2kg or 4.409lb, so not enough weight to scream "Your Pregnant" to anyone. So based on my previous symptoms we believe I get really bad morning sickness with boys and symptom free with girls, so with anterior placentas it is definitely possible for experienced mothers, with irregular cycles and little to no weight gain, can easily not realize they are pregnant.
When I had my 3rd child a woman came into the ER with pain. They were going to a boat access only camping site for the weekend. Hubby wanted it checked out before they went. The pain was her having a baby. She didn't know she was pregnant. She was the talk of the hospital. No one could believe it. I was always giant when I was pregnant.
Everytime mama Dr Jones sees the baby for the first time she smiles in a way that brings tears to her eyes and put her hand on her chest ❤ I can't wait to have a successful pregnancy
I am humbled that you think people are not that rude about weight, however, that is not the case. I had a family "friend" look at me after I got married and say "Are you looking to have kids soon?" When I answered "yes" she responded "Not with you at that weight you're not".
I'll NEVER forget this episode. It was the first time I'd ever heard the symptoms of PCOS and started me on my journey to both diagnosis and eventually after many many years remission. This baby basically changed my life.
I was 19 and on the depo shot got it every 3 months no issues but didn’t have a cycle with it which is normal. Needless to say I went to the hospital in severe pain one night and not only did I have 12 gullstones they said oh you didn’t mention your pregnant 🤰 I said excuse me 🧐🧐 she was like how did you not know your seven months. I had no idea my son was born a week later and then I had my gull bladder removed the next day. He was 8 weeks early went 3 minutes without oxygen and they told me he would have a lot of issues. He weighed 7.3 pounds and is now a amazing smart grown 23 year old 🥰🥰
Would you ever say “I recommend an emergency C section”? Like wouldn’t an emergency C section be… an emergency? Wouldn’t they be recommending an immediate C section?
From what I understand, and emergency c-section is decided and done in about ten minutes or less. Urgent c-sections give you some time to talk with the doctor, and get some things ready for after the birth.
This happened to me with the emergency c section. We went in for an appointment the MFM Doctor (high risk pregnancy) left the room and came back with a packet of paper saying you’re having a baby today. They never told what was going on except that blood flow had stopped. 23 hours of labor and a c section later we had a preemie baby stay in NICU for a little over a month. We later were informed by my gynecologist that the cord had wrapped around her neck and she had stopped moving and blood flow was cut off.
As somebody who works with the public, I feel like the doctor probably told her she was less likely to get pregnant, or it’ll be harder to get pregnant. And she misunderstood, because honestly it wouldn’t even make sense to not be able to get pregnant with one ovary still left.
Given the kids were that close together its very possible she was having phantom kicks still from the first child and didnt notice the difference as those slowly became real kicks and movements. I had fantom kicks for the first year after my son and its super weird.
I really love how she has a great deal of empathy and sympathy for the mothers who may have been misinformed or ignorant…and NONE for medical professionals who don’t share information or actively say incorrect things.
I knew I was pregnant because I did IVF to get there, but I had an easy pregnancy and until I was, like, 7 months along I can easily see how it could be missed. I didn’t get nausea, most of her kicks felt like gas bubbles, and I’ve always had a big tummy so I didn’t show all that much. For a long time my biggest pregnancy sign was the lack of bleeding.
I like that you said how rude it was to say packing on the pounds because im pregnant with twins and on Christmas someone said OMG YOURE HUGE! i was mortified and its bothered me ever since!
Imagine finding out you’re pregnant at 18 weeks. Seriously. I had 2 different doctors tell me I wasn’t pregnant when I really thought I was. Come to find out….they were wrong and I was right. Thank God he was ok. Because one of the doctors ok’d the nurse to give me a depo provera shot for birth control😵
@@dorabrooks76 both urine. One at Planned Parenthood then one at a regular GP. I was feeling movement and everything! The GP said I was just constipated. At that time I would have been around 16 weeks. Great doctor, huh?!
@@stephanieann8115 That's absolutely insane! Both the two false negatives (two!!! 😲), and the fact that your GP didn't take you seriously enough to look into things more closely. I mean, at least do a blood test if not an ultrasound! "Just constipated." Wow... I'm so sorry you went through all that. And I'm glad both you and your son are OK after such a lack of care!
@@wmdkitty he was fine. They had me see a perinatologist once. I guess the only thing it could do is make the hole one the end of his penis(forgive my lack of knowledge)be on the underside?! Thank God he was perfect💙
There was a comment from someone initiating a conversation basically stating that it was fine for people to provide “constructive criticism” to people who are overweight. The author has deleted it, but unfortunately that means we lost our list of resources that people had shared. If you have good content creators for those who genuinely want to learn and be better regarding weight bias please share them here. I’ve seen a few videos by therapist Mickey Atkins that I appreciated.
I was writing my reply to her when it got deleted. Suddenly I couldn't post it.
I think body positivity is amazing because being fat, a lot of the time you don't really like yourself. I was very healthy growing up chubby, kept eating myself from overweight to obese. When I dieted and lost weight, I did it a healthy way, changed my eating habits to have consistent good meal options s 6 times a day along with 2mile walk everyday. I lost 80 lbs in 10 months. Then I had gallbladder issues and had to gave surgery. This was directly related to the weightloss. Now my body is not as great as dealing with fats and cholesterol. While recovering from surgery and having difficulty eating, it masked my pregnancy symptoms. I was unable to get prenatal care and a preventable issue led to my first child dying. Huge depression hit me after that and slowly I got back to my original weight after about 6 years. I struggled emotionally with my subsequent pregnancies and the weight bother me more now than I did before. So yes, I was way happier and healthier before I lost weight.
@@mrs.lilymason sending you hugs
I wondered what had happened.. I went to reply and the comment was gone.. I guess they started an argument they were unwilling to backup..
I'm so glad you posted this, MDJ. I was replying to her when she deleted the thread. Everyone deserves to love their body no matter how closely or not it aligns to beauty standards (which is exactly what her logic implies). We only get one body in this life and it does fantastic things for us. No point of hating it!
I’m a pediatric nurse and I legitimately have used your quote of, “you can only do the best you can with the information that you had at the time.” It is so comforting to parents, especially first time parents when they are questioning things that veteran parents necessarily would feel comfortable with. I really appreciate that reminder in many of your videos.
It is really comforting in life in general.
“You can only do the best with the information you had at the time” has helped me deal with a lot of things. For example, going into treatment. I was living with my parents at the time, and they didn’t know how to help me because they didn’t have much information on my mental health.
i use that quote all the time! i had a customer rant to me about how they bought cigarettes bc they had some extra money but then their car broke down & they couldn’t afford to fix it bc they bought those cigarettes. and they said it made them feel way better when i told them not to be too hard on themselves bc they made the decision to buy cigarettes when their car worked just fine
@@misseselise3864 the cost of a pack of cigarettes isn't gonna do much for the price of most car repairs anyway so.. haha they still wouldn't have had the money to fix it
Another good quote from my main physician who leads a huge team of specialists trying to help me is "give yourself some grace". It is ok to rest, to cry occasionally, and to have worries - provided they don't over take your life. It is normal to need to rest if you've got a serious and life changing illness or permanent injury and it is OK to slow down your lifestyle to in my case, just elevate my leg and avoid causing acute ischemia in my limb & subsequent reperfusiom injury/vascular pain attacks!
You should watch one of the “I didn’t know I was pregnant…again” episodes. There are a few women who had it happen twice. Tawanda’s episode is especially interesting!
I didn't know this existed and I need to watch all of it immediately!!
If it happened twice, they just ignored the obvious systems.
@@kennedylehane6562 No, Tawandas episode she had completely different symptoms, even took a at home pregnancy test that came out negative
Omg, really? Gonna look it up again
Once I might believe. Twice makes them forking MORONIC.
Things I've learned from these videos
1. If anyone says you can't get pregnant or can't get someone else pregnant- they lying
2. Take a pregnancy test - stub your toe? Take a pregnancy test
3. Don't blame yourself for the things you don't know.
That's ignorant. Some of us legitimately cannot get pregnant, and never do. These shows are the weird exceptions, not the reality of those who NEVER get to have babies.
Well, if you’re having sex with men that is.
Stub your toe, take a pregnancy test 🤣🤣🤣💜💜
Crap, I stubbed my toe this morning and forgot to take a test. 😅
@@UskInaTE i have sex with a man my partner but i KNOW i cant get pregnant should he not believe me.
First, I just want to say thank you Mama Doctor Jones. As a father to a three year old daughter, I am glad there is somewhere that I can get educated on the vast amount of info that was left out of Sex Ed when in school.
Also, when my wife was pregnant with our daughter, she had zero morning sickness and actually lost weight. Her placenta had also attached toward the front so even when our little girl was kicking, my wife could barely feel it. I actually only felt her kick once. Thank goodness my wife knew to take a pregnancy test, or we could have ended up on this show! 🙂
I had a similar experience to your wife of having no morning sickness and not gaining much weight.
I just want to say that it's always really wonderful to see guys taking it upon themselves to learn about women's health. You're doing an important and excellent thing and I thank you for making the world a better place. :)
When my mom was pregnant with me and my brother, she did not had pregnancy symptoms, but she check on pregnancy test for only to be one month pregnant with me and my sibling (in separate time). The year of my birth was 1996 and my brother's was 2002.
Placenta attached towards the front... @DrMamaJones Could this be the solution to the "why didn't they feel it kick" mystery? 🤔
After two miscarriages, getting endometriosis removed, and one ovary taken out, I conceived and birthed my son!
Congratulations for having your son :)! It must have been very difficult journey, emotionally and physically. You are a warrior!
I moved to a foreign country alone, got an STI and lost a tube to an ectopic pregnancy. Twelve years later, at almost forty, I had my first daughter. You just never know.
Congratulations!!
congrats🥳
Congtratulations!
I had a coworker who didn’t know she was pregnant. She went to the ER with bleeding and cramping and an hour later had a 9lb baby girl. To say she was shook is an understatement 😬
Wow 9 lbs!!!
Was she a larger woman? My baby was 6 pounds and I was obviously pregnant.
A friend of mine didn't know until she was 7 months along. Baby was born a month later.
@@93cglNot the original commenter, but I could see that. My aunt was a larger woman and you couldn’t tell with any of her pregnancies by looking at her. It could also be just how she carried. I was about average size when I got pregnant but I never got that cute baby bump. I looked like a chunky pear, he laid high and across horizontally till 32 weeks then head down with his butt up under my ribs the rest of the pregnancy. He was long with a big head, 8 pounds 5 ounces but not chunky. I think that’s why I just looked like I’d gotten fat 😢😅.
Wow hope she and babh are doing well ❤
When I had my son they asked me "What are you going name him"...I looked straight at the doctor and was like, Name who? I was SO high.
I had a traumatic birth, with 37 hrs of labour, an epidural that didn't work (that they argued on the table WAS working, when it wasn't 🤦🏼♀️), and had to have a general anaesthetic, literally in seconds, ie. they pinned me down and shoved a mask on my face!
When I woke up, really drowsy obviously, I could hear my hubby talking somewhere, and asked the nurse "where is he?" and she brought me my son. I wanted my hubby lol, and wasn't even thinking I'd had a baby 😂. I just wanted my hubby in that moment 😆.
My BP was 60/35, so I give myself a pass on that. I didn't know what end of me was up tbh! 🙈
@@lindatannock I'd had an allergic reaction to something in the epidural so they turned it down before we went in. But when I could feel it (because at that point it was too low to work) they said eff it and ratcheted it back up and I started to hallucinate cartoon stars and unicorns. 🤣
Yes those drugs are something else. After i gave birth to our twins my husband looked at our daughter (we have one girl and one boy) for the first time and said "Aw my wubby is so beautiful". And me being as high as i was said "Wubby is the most beautiful name i ever heard". Her name is not wubby 😆. But she's 4 now and we still call her wubby.
Since having my 2 children, I've had severe gas pains that felt like baby kicks, so I can totally see a person who didn't know they were pregnant passing off some baby movements as gas pains. She was working a lot, getting used to being a new mom, getting used to her body again postpartum - yeah, I can see not knowing you are pregnant.
I had phantom baby kicks after my 1st!
I've had those, and even the small flutters you feel. I KNOW I can't be pregnant because my Uterus and ovaries were removed.
I agree that it would be very possible to not know you are pregnant especially during the first 2 trimesters. I think that knowing/believing you are pregnant makes you interpret certain signs as being signs of pregnancy, if you were sure you were not pregnant then a lot of pregnancy symptoms would be easy to explain away.
@@BickyToya I had the same experience.
I have had gas pains or inexplicable flutters/thumps that felt like a baby kick, too! Glad to know I'm not the only one! I dont think I ever had anything that felt that way before any of my pregnancies, but I did after. The first time it happened I did a pregnancy test which came back negative.
I've had bad gas that felt like a baby kicking and thought I was pregnant. And this was about a year after I gave birth to my first child and my period hadn't returned yet. I can definitely see how some pregnancy symptoms can be mistaken for something else
But at least the thought of pregnancy crossed your mind. Other people are just like: Meh 🤷♀️
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I'm the kind of person who freaks out immediately when my boobs are hurting, when I have stomach pain or some other vague pregnancy symptom even though I'm not sexually active at that time, used contraceptives when I had sex and had my period every month. I have this fear because I'm not ready AT ALL to become a mom.
I’ve been experiencing this a lot lately, frequent bad gas and phantom kicks, it seriously makes me think I’m pregnant but I have taken multiple pregnancy tests and nothing. I can see how people may think the kicks are just gas pains
My youngest is a teenager, and I still have "phantom kicks". Even if I wasn't celebate, I'd still think they were just gas or whatever.
@@Teacupgirly this is so me .I experience little "flutter" movements and kicks and immediately run to grab lots of pregnancy tests and it always comes up negative.
My first pregnancy resulted in a twin pregnancy and my babies are two years old now ,was informed by a nurse that I could have some problem with my abdomen still being separated or something
How about this for "I didn't know I was pregnant"
I didn't know that my cat was pregnant!! When we adopted her she was recently spayed at 3 months old (that morning we picked her up,) and had the spay stitches on her side (easier for kittens as they are less likely to rip open the new stitches).
We kept her as an inside cat for 1.5yrs. We noticed that she sprayed around the house, and after some talking deciding that she's obviously very anxious about other cats outside, so we let her out during the daytime 8am-6pm.
About 2 months later, we wake up one morning and she's extremely anxious and doesn't like us leaving the bedroom, meowing and being quite insistent that we're not allowed to go anywhere. She also made a "nest" in my partner's Jean drawer and was extremely clingy. She also wasn't at all interested in going outside, as she normally would be. We also noticed some discharge and decided a vet visit was needed. (In hindsight is seemed it was the mucus plug)
So I took her to the vet later that day, she was even more anxious - going so far as to be shaking in my arms. The vet didn't see anything unusual and decided a follow up was needed and we would investigate from there.
The next day I was home from work and she was still quite clingy. As usual I let the dogs outside and spent some time hanging out with her and doing some housework.
At about 5:30pm I was watching some TV and she was in her little box in the office (which is right across the hall) when all of a sudden I hear a tiny "mew".
Eyes wide open I walk into the office and find my cat looking up at me quite tiredly and right there, is one gorgeous little kitten, happily feeding from mum and not a care in the world. Somehow she only had one in total, an x-ray confirmed that.
It's safe to say that the vet was mortified, and so was the organisation that we adopted her from.
Thankfully the kitten was healthy and alright. She's now 7 weeks old and a little firecracker in her own right
Ok that is wild! Please tell me you’re keeping the kitten
It can happen, particularly when cats are spayed before 6 months. The uterine horns in younger kittens are incredibly tiny--to call them stringy seems like an exaggeration because that makes them sound way thicker than they actually are. Plus, when you're doing surgery on kittens, you want to be quick because usually they come through just fine but when they crash and burn, it happens so fast.
So, rarely, what happens is the vet gets hold of one uterine horn plus a fold of omentum, a flat tissue that lays on top of the internal organs but can look remarkably like a uterine horn and ovary if it is grabbed in a certain way by forceps. It does not harm the kitten to lose a little snip of omentum... but it's like only having one ovary removed, it does not leave the cat infertile.
@@GrainneDhu That's really interesting. I've assisted in dozens of spays, including ones when the queen is pregnant, and I've never heard of this. We never do spays before 6 months due to possible complications. Your explanation makes perfect sense to me. I'm going to bring it up to our vet and ask his opinion.
@@lissaylissean9940 this is why my old vet refused to do the ultra-early 7 week spays. There was a clinic in a town about half an hour away that did them and the shelter in that town required all kittens be spay/neutered before being released to their adoptive families but my vet saw too many complications to feel comfortable about doing it so early.
So did they have to spay her again?
My daughter, an active addict at the time, was in complete denial telling me over the phone she could feel something moving in her stomach and there was sometimes a lump pressing against it. She could see my grandson moving against her still flat stomach. Everyone else: you're pregnant. Her: No, something is wrong. I had to buy her a pregnancy test. He's 7 now and lives with me.
Because of you.
I thought my period was late due to me fracturing my ankle days before. When it didn’t come a week later, I took a test. We are expecting our 🥰 little girl in July 2022!
I have pcos and my periods were NEVER NORMAL until last year, they started coming like clockwork. So when my period was late all I heard was your voice in the back of my mind saying just take one. Just in case.
Update please? Hope everything went well for you!
Thanks to Mama Doctor Jones I scheduled a pre-conception check up with my GYN. I am so glad I did. She ordered a number of tests and was able to answer a lot of my questions. She also had me start pre-natal vitamins even though my husband and I aren't planning to try for a few months.
Thank you Doctor Jones for even telling me this was a thing!
I know someone who didn't know. She has a host of health issues. Her mom was beginning to suspect when friend had to go to the hospital for a blood pressure issue, and came out a mom of a preemie. I never scoffed; just felt bad that she'd been helping move furniture 2 months earlier when I was recovering my own 2nd baby's birth. Lord knows most of my symptoms could've been explained away and I don't have that host of health issues. Our babies are now "big" kids in school
my mother took longer than normal to know she was pregnant with me! her periods were super irregular and were super light when she did have one. she had really really bad heartburn and thought she had an ulcer… nope, 12 weeks pregnant!
My mother didn't know she was pregnant with me until she was 6 months into the pregnancy. She was a little chubby so there was no noticeable weight gain, and she had no nausea at all in the beginning. She still got some what of her period every month, so things seemed to still be normal until she finally missed her period and saw her doctor for a test. Oh boy was she surprised, lol, but very happy she was having a girl. ☺ I miss her dearly, she passed when I was 9 and I'm now going on 29. She was such a blessing to this world. RIP mom, we love and miss you. 💜
I feel like finding out your pregnant is either scary or the best moment of your life
Sometimes both simultaneously lol
Sometimes both!
Sometimes both
Was both for me.
If you think you're dying because you didn't know you were pregnant, I'd think it was the best moment of your life
When people ask "how did they not know the were pregnant?" I just think back to how it took a joking comment from a coworker about me peeing every 20 minutes and that maybe I was pregnant to make me start doing math and begin to even suspect that I COULD be. I was 13 weeks pregnant when I suspected it, and if it hadn't been for that joking comment, I probably wouldn't have realized it until much later. And it's a lucky thing that I did find out, because when I was induced and they broke my water (at 40 weeks and 6 days), there was meconium in my amniotic fluid. After 18 hours of labor with no epidural or pain management, I popped out a tiny little 6lb 9.3oz boy and he was sooo skinny! It was concerning because he was having trouble gaining weight, but eventually everything got on track and he's now almost 3.
Like Mama Doctor Jones, I loved him and would die for him, but I didn't have that starry-eyed moment with him cuz beforehand, I'd never even wanted kids. I was content to just be the cool aunt to all my nieces and nephews. It took awhile before I had my moment of "He is mine and I made him" when looking at him. I also went through some pretty bad PPD, and since I was a single mom since before he was even born (jackass ghosted and blocked me when I told him I was pregnant) I didn't have a support system to help me through it because in my mind, I got myself into it and couldn't rely on my parents because I was a grown ass woman (23) and didn't want to bother them with it. My OBGYN was my ONLY saving grace and, even though it wasn't her job, she listened to my worries and troubles and reassured me that I was doing great and she set me up with resources that could help me. I GREATLY respect the OBGYNs that are understanding and helpful rather than condescending and judgemental (my sister in law's OBGYN was the worst). Mama Doctor Jones, you're one of the good ones and I love your content!
I had a similar experience with my daughter then when I got pregnant with my son I had a coworker who thought she couldn’t get pregnant told me after a lunch break she had thrown up in her car and I was like you’re pregnant which prompted her to take a test and she was a little further along then the rest of the pregnant people at our work place.
I only wonder how someone could not know they're pregnant when they're close to giving birth. I just don't know how someone never feels movement from the baby. With my first I had no idea I was pregnant until I was 11 weeks and the only reason I even found out then was because I had a doctors appointment for an unrelated issue. If I never went to the doctors I probably wouldn't have found out until my belly started to grow lol.
@@nicolecheyenne7937 sometimes the baby isn't very active, or the movements feel like gas. If you don't suspect you're pregnant, a lot of pregnancy symptoms can be written off as something else. Every woman and every pregnancy is different. One woman may feel movements, another may not. And a woman may feel movements in one pregnancy, but not in another. Pregnancy is so unpredictable, tbh. I personally have only had one kid, but my sister-in-law has had three and didn't know she was pregnant with the third until seven months in when she had her yearly checkup with her OBGYN. She didn't show at all and literally only gained like ten pounds, which she attributed to her not being as active as she used to be.
Is there a show out there called "I'm telling you I'm pregnant!", where multiple tests, including quantitative hCG, all come back negative for pregnancy. But it turns out you're right and you are!!!
Amen this happened to me
Nah they want put a show out there like that that will go against everything the medical doctor and nurses tell you that you not pregnant if your test come back negative
The people on that Alaskan school board are just jealous that nobody will ever love them as much as MDJ loves that actor baby on sight.
Amen!
I reeeaally need MDJ to react to Twins by Surprise. Not just as and ObGyn, but as a twin mom. And the episode of I didn't know I was Pregnant that was also twins.
If you look under the “Reacts: I Didn’t Know I was Pregnant” playlist on her channel, you’ll find it. She reacted to it about 2 years ago.
I have a friend that didn’t know she was pregnant she went into a clinic looking to get help with a uti and ended up finding out she was giving birth and was rushed to the hospital with a premi baby.
Just here to say I just finished the videos about the Alaska school board and I've been fuming over it. I'm a mom to 3 young girls and it blows my mind that school board officials are running based on their opinions not based on facts or bringing people in with knowledge of the course material to make decisions.
I have so much to say, but I'll really get to the point of saying thank you. Thank you for being a source I can use to educate myself about my own reproductive health that even as someone who has birthed children has a lot to learn because no one is out here teaching me this information, but you are. Thank you for being an accessible means of factual information that I can use to help my daughters receive what I didn't.
The medical model is male, which means they believe women are simply a variation on a theme, when in fact we are completely different (who wudda thunk). Women's health information is so important.
Well said Melanie! I’m so glad you brought that up. I’m thankful for Dr. Mama Jones because I share her videos with my Granddaughter. It’s so refreshing for the educational information not to be stale and boring. She’s 11 and at the age when she really needs it☺️
@@melaniekeeling7462 Ironically, the true default state is FEMALE.
@@stephanieann8115 Who could have imagined that basic health information would be so controversial in this day and age. I have daughters whom I try to keep informed.
@@wmdkitty Interesting!
Same thing happened to my mother in the late 90s. They said one ovary taken out made her infertile and she became pregnant. Also late 2012 when she went to a new Dr when she had her insurance changed she was being denied birth control saying she couldnt have kids anymore. She showed my 12 year old brother's picture as proof lol and finally she was given birth control.
Doctors in front of a woman who has only one ovary: You have ZERO chances of having kids
The remaining ovary: Am I a joke to you?
@@escribopapelitos remaining ovary: "Hold my beer."
“Alexander shows no signs that he once was so still in his mothers womb” what do they expect him to be? A mime? A statue? Lol idk
Lmao 😂
He'd be great as one of those creepy people that dress up at bronze or silver statues and move super slowly!!
It does feel like forever when going through the surgical process. It may not be a ton of time, but it feels like forever. I have cried hysterically feeling abandoned in a hallway after being given the cool down “cocktail.” It feels so lonely, and like you are abandoned. Of course, then, they wake me up with what feels like too early. I just wanna sleep man. I think doctors need to understand how scared some of us are before surgery, needs to be addressed. You are busy, but we are consumed in the anxiety of what will happen. It feels like abandonment.
I’m so sorry about your experience. A lot of crap was bad around my childbirth (I’m left with emotional scars still) but I remember my anesthesiologist. He was so very kind. I can see his face, 12 years later. At one point I asked how much longer and he said not too much, are you feeling sick? Yes. He immediately had something ready to fix that. He held my hand. He talked me though everything. He made sure I was never left alone or scared. He was SO GOOD at small talk.
There is NO REASON this shouldn’t be the standard of care. I get not everyone is naturally empathetic but it can at least be someone learned. If nothing else, docs could learn signs of discomfort or fear and have small tasks that can help that. If nothing else, patients should be told what to expect.
While I never had to have a c section I can 100% promise you if I had one (especially if my husband wasn’t with me) I would have been very scared.
I had my first surgery at 40 years old and that was scary. Adding a baby and being so much younger, being a new mom, worrying about your baby, fearing pain, infection would ALL be very scary.
HUGS to all the new moms who go through those feelings.
@@truckerdave8465 I've had several surgeries and without fail the anesthesiologists were the most kind and reassuring of everyone at all my different surgeries.
Schrodinger's Uterus: The period between conception and a positive pregnancy test where you are both pregnant and not pregnant. Leaving yourself asking "can I take this ibuprofen".
😂
I'm in that state right now REALLY wishing I could take some cold medicine, but deciding on some warm decaf tea >.
And it is the longest couple of weeks of your life, every time!
I've had birth control symptoms that felt like I was straight up pregnant. Like, my uterus was contracting and felt like baby kicks and everything (this was over a year ago so definitely not preggo) but i can see how someone would write stuff off as being something else.
The same thing happend to my husbands mother when she was 19. She did gain weight but she also said it was because of her grandmas cooking. She also had bleeding and did mistake that for her period. She did smoke the whole pregnancy, did not get prenatal care and drank heavy amounts of alcohol. And she did not know until she got the Baby... crazy to me: she gave birth while she was home alone, swaddled him, cut the cord and remembers nothing of that today. It seems like a miracle but: the baby and her were very healthy and still are!:)
I’m glad the baby was healthy ❤️🙏🙏🙏
Hey! I commented this before, but there is a RUclips video about a queer couple with a "Didn't know I was pregnant"-story that touches on a lot of important topics and I think it would be great to hear you react to it! I think their names are August and Syd.
Upvoting so she sees this.
Can you link the video?
@@MamaDoctorJones ruclips.net/video/j43r8PbDmqA/видео.html
@@MamaDoctorJones I think this one is right, but definitely thank you for answering already!
Style like you?
This is why I always keep pregnancy tests in our bathroom. I have polycystic ovaries and a history of endometriosis (surgery a few years ago) so my cycle isn’t normal, definitely had a few scares but thankfully no babies
Edit: yes we use birth control but I’m also on other medication so, better to be safe
Yeah, I also have endo which I manage using the pill, but I have other chronic illnesses too and one of the meds I need to get me through the day speeds up the absorbtion of the pill so it's (????times, they don't know exactly) less effective. Fucking nightmare haha
@@Rose-jz6sx I feel ya girl. I’m on medicine for epilepsy and I was told that the BC may increase my chance of seizures by itself but that the medication may decrease the effectiveness of BC so…🤙🏻
i haven’t had sex since oct 2020 and i still get a pregnancy test every time i go to the dr 🙄 plus i got into a really bad car wreck in dec 2020 and highly doubted that a fetus would’ve been able to survive it (i barely survived)
I didn’t know I was pregnant with my second child until I get the fluttering half way through. I had just moved to a new country, and I was super stressed. After that movement I took a test. And my birth control was still in place, or so I thought.
This happened to my sister too!
I had kind of the same thing happen... I was peeing one day and heard a little "tink" and it was my iud in the toilet. Called my doctor, went in a few days later and I not only found out I was pregnant with my first, but that I was roughly 5 months pregnant with a boy. Luckily I had really over scheduled myself at school that semester so I hardly had time to drink or do anything that could've been dangerous but I was still nervous until I had him. I was induced at 37 weeks and had a 6½lb perfectly healthy baby...
I didn’t even know my IUD fell out. I felt nothing nor head anything. Think doc might have taken it out without my knowledge.
Didn’t know I was pregnant with my second until I was about 16 weeks. I have PCOS and had treatment to have my first. Didn’t think anything of the irregular/missed periods afterwards as it was normal to me. Felt those fluttery movements in bed one night, took a test and it was positive. Went to see the midwife the next week and she estimated me at about 16 weeks but two weeks later at the first scan, I was told I was 20 weeks with another boy. Couldn’t believe I was half way through the pregnancy already 😳
@@natashabenjamin4222 😵
When talking about not having anything for the baby, I thought about my mom and grandmas who did the old, we don’t need a baby bed, we have a dresser drawer! 😂
My grandparents couldnt afford two cots when they had my mum and her twin so my aunt slept in an old wooden orange crate padded out with blankets 🤣
As a woman who is 12 weeks along.. I am so jealous of these women who have zero or less severe first trimester symptoms. I have had the WORST nausea and so much more.
Diclegis was my bestie in my last pregnancy. I had 24/7 nausea starting 3 months before my pregnancy. It lasted all the way through delivery.
Just as an aside, I had terrible morning sickness with my girls but not my son. I mentioned that to another woman who said morning (or as both of us called it "ALL DAY sickness!") happened the opposite sexes! Just hope to cheer you a little that it might not happen for you every time. In fact, at first with my son, I didn't think it was pregnancy when I missed my period because I had had such horrible sickness right from the start with the girls! But I knew after the test. My husband even speculated that since I wasn't sick it might be a boy this time. I hope your sickness is past now, or I'm sure it will be very soon and the more fun part of having a baby can begin for you! :)
BTW, I used peppermint tea to ease the sickness. Don't know if it would work for you, but it does no harm to try.
Just a note that this isn't always the case because you never know what health issues they have. I had bad heartburn a year before my pregnancy so I can definitely see it being reasonable for me explaining away 24/7 heartburn and nausea as a non-pregnancy symptom. Plus I have weird periods because of PCOS. If I wasn't someone who took pregnancy tests regularly because I'm paranoid, I would 100% be someone who finds out later in pregnancy. As it was I found out at 9 weeks 😅
Having had nausea throughout the first trimester I can relate. My go-to was peppermint tea and sipped slowly. I hope you have a good support system around you and it's good to talk to your medical practitioner(s) about the nausea to ensure you aren't dehydrated and are okay. Best wishes for your pregnancy!
My doctor told me I couldn’t get pregnant because of PCOS annnnd I’m almost done with my first trimester 😅 the only reason I took a test was because my doctor told me to before she would prescribe me something for the random migraines I started getting
I hav pcos and was told when I was 16 that I would probably never b able to get pregnant because I started getting cysts when I was like 13/14ish. When I was 19 I was on birth control and I still got pregnant. A year later I had an iud and still got pregnant. I lost the baby really early because my iud came out, but then we started trying after that to get pregnant and I ended up having to do multiple rounds of clomid to get pregnant again😅
My grandmother had 6, my SIL had 3, 1 w/o fertility treatments. Your doc needs fired.
My doctor told me I would probably have a really hard time getting pregnant without help. My son was conceived the first month we started trying 😂 Hopefully doctors stop telling people this!
@@splendidpursuits lol, he lost his license actually, he was just the obgyn my mom took me to, as soon as I turned 18 I chose a different obgyn.
@@lissifajen185 I'm glad he's not practicing medicine anymore.
You're the sweetest person I've seen. There aren't many obgyns in my small South African city. I wish more doctors were like you, then I wouldn't be so scared to go to one.
1:03 I have three different cousins who were each told (for varying reasons) that they MIGHT have trouble getting pregnant. Each took this to mean that she couldn't get pregnant and thought she didn't need to use birth control. Needless to say, I have even more cousins now.
🤣😂😆
Even the absolute *worst* of days are made better by Mama Doctor Jones uploading one of these bad boys
I remember when TLC was actually about LEARNING! They had a show called “The Operation” which included video of actual surgical procedures.
With my son, my 3rd and last pregnancy, I went to my 35 week check up appointment and the fluid was so low that they sent me straight to labor and delivery. It was terrifying. I couldn't imagine not knowing I was pregnant and then going straight into an emergency c section!!
My mom was over 3 months into her pregnancy with me when she found out she was pregnant. The only reason she even took a test was because my dad told her that she was pregnant & she was trying to prove him wrong
I just have to say how much I appreciate it every time MDJ talks about us doing the best we can with what we have. I had my son when I was 20 but didn't find out I was pregnant until I was 3 months along. I had already cut way down on smoking and fully quit when I found out, but I was working full time in a truck stop when you could still smoke inside. I also tried nursing for the first 4-5 weeks, but it just wasn't working and we ended up switching to formula. My son ended up getting bronchialitis at 2 months old and spent 2 weeks in the hospital, and there were so many people who either implied or told me straight out that it was my fault he got sick. I have dealt with the guilt of that for 20 years, even knowing it isn't true, so it's great to hear a medical professional trying to alleviate some of that mom guilt that so many people try to push. Love you MDJ!
My mom had two children before me, and got pregnant with me 9 years after her second child, and she didn't know until about 6 months. She was at work one day and she felt me turn and she immediately knew she had a baby in her belly, started freaking out because she was so scared, went to her boss crying to let her go to the doctor and all her coworkers were sweet trying to calm her down, and of course they didn't really believe her, but she called her doctor for an emergency appt (of course he didnt believe her at first either) and went in that afternoon, and the rest is history. I was small so they thought she was about 2.5 weeks behind to when she actually got pregnant (yes, she knows exactly when i was conceived) but i stayed in those extra two weeks, they did her c-section on a friday and she was back to work on monday. Love for all the mommas out there who brought us into this world and the people who helped them do it💖 i love when she tells me about her very lovely but very short doctor who climbed up onto the bed and practically into my mother to pull me out ( i was positioned far up, hadn't turned upside down, and was sitting criss cross facing outwards like i was watching the world from her belly she says) (and yes my siblings asked if they could bring me back after i got home 😂)
The nurse had to get up on the table with my 2nd C section! My Doc said push harder! I could hear fear in his voice! My sweet daughter was wedged up in there like you! All a very scary moment but turned out fine! She is 14 1/2 now!
@@Mrsjam96 I can't even imagine the terror of the moment, having someone literally jump up on the table during labor, but I'm so happy to hear you were both fine as well! It's one of the loveliest things in the world to be helped by people who know exactly what to do in the situation, especially during such an important and intense event. Sending good vibes to you, your daughter, and your loved ones for the new year!
Regarding "why didn't she feel the baby kick?" question that people ask, my daughter is almost 3 and to this day I feel weird phantom baby kick sensations that I've experienced the entire time since she was born. Weirdest thing, and its probably just digestion or whatever but I swear it feels similar to when I started feeling her kicking in my 2nd trimester. >< So yeah, maybe one of these days it won't be gas movement and I'll find myself on an episode of this show! Time to invest in pregnancy tests, I guess. :P
I never felt my son kick because of the way he was sat. He was small and breech and sat towards me and had his feet up. Id feel movement and he would push his bottom out but I never felt him kick. I did feel little flutters after he was born which someone told me was phantom kicks.
I've had a hysterectomy and I still have those same sensations. It's just digestion and gas. I swear it feels like baby is kicking me though.
Could they have made the C-section scene any more terrifying?!? Like, jebus, no wonder I've been terrified of C-sections for all these years; I grew up watching this show, along with everything else on the discovery health Channel, all the time. It would seem that that particular trauma was so deep, I didn't even know it was there. 😅
My mum had one ovary removed had me then had half her remaining ovary removed and had my brother two years after I was born… when my mum was pregnant with me my mum went to the doctors because she had stopped feeling me kick and was told that the amniotic fluid was low I had stopped growing they told her “you don’t have to have her here but you have to have her today” so my mum had an emergency c-section… I was a premie
My mom had 3 children with only less of a half of an ovary, with a surgery that happened over 4 decades ago! Let that sink in!
That's a real "life, uh, finds a way" story!
How would someone have half an ovary? I have never heard of only part of an ovary removed.
@@Fishouta As the daughter of the woman who went through the surgery, I'm pretty sure my mom isn't lying. Just because you haven't heard it before, doesn't mean it isn't real. Anyhow, enjoy your day!
I didn't realize that partial oophorectomy was a thing! :0 Do you know/feel comfortable sharing what your mom had the surgery for?
@@debayeuxchats5607 my mom couldn't conceive, my parents were married for 3 years already. Like I mentioned this was over 4 decades ago. So she had a surgery and got one ovary removed and a big chunk of the one she stayed with. Few months after she was pregnant with my brother, we're Irish twins, we're just 10.5 apart and later my baby sister. I didn't know that was so rare. So I guess I haven't asked that many questions.
I had a torqued ovary at 16 and I distinctly remember the surgeon telling me it was good that I got to keep that ovary or it would be “nearly impossible” to get pregnant naturally. I remember being really confused about that because based on what I’d learned in my human anatomy classes it shouldn’t work that way. Frustrating but definitely validating that I wasn’t the only person being told this.
Right? Doctors seem to forget that ovaries take turns releasing eggs and that the body makes adjustments to keep up with change
Had an ovary removed because of cancer...was separated from my husband for 2 years...we tried to reconcile and had sex once...while i was on the nuva ring...I now have a 2 year old as a result lol happy to say my husband and I are better than ever. But my baby boy was a surprise. I knew it was possible but the odds were astronomical! He also fought for his life during and after birth and is an incredibly bright and beautiful boy who happens to have cerebral palsy from birth injury. He's our light.
I was in the hospital for a few days this past October. While I was there, I started throwing up a few times a day. The doctor had done a pregnancy test when I was admitted to the hospital and it came back negative, so the doctor said that my vomiting was due to anxiety. They gave me nausea medication and ginger ale while I was there. I knew something wasn't right, so I begged them to redo the test. They refused. The day after I got home from the hospital I took a test and it was positive! Currently 15 weeks and 4 days with my little one!
Recently found you and I'm just binging your "I didn't know I was pregnant" series! So great!
With my third son I didn't know until about 5 months. I had had a full term stillborn daughter just 10 months before he was born and never got my period back. I didn't really notice, because I also have irregular periods and was on birth control due to PCOS. I had also lost a lot of weight due to stress. I went to the doctor for terrible heartburn, which I was also blaming on stress and found out I was pregnant. I could easily have just taken tums and ended up on this show. Lol.
Interesting fact:
The oldest recorded woman to have a baby was 66 years old
Interesting
I have so many questions and concerns...
and want the youngest person to have a baby 5
@@clueless_cutie If I remember correctly, she carried the baby for her daughter
@@connordaws8811 Yep. And she fell pregnant by being r4ped by a family member if I remember correctly. She was a severely early developer, already had a period, and was molested. And then I believe they raised her son telling him they were siblings, and it wasn't until adulthood where she confessed that she was really his mother.
I have a stomach issue so I'm often a bit bloated in my belly area. I've been asked on several occasions if I'm pregnant - one woman (a complete stranger) even had the audacity to touch my stomach while asking! One time, an elderly man asked if I was pregnant and when I said I wasn't, his response was: oh, just fat, then. At the time I weighed about 130lb (and I'm 5'8) - not exactly overweight. People can be incredibly rude - I would never dream of making such comments.
Poor you, people are mean
When you said "better than that other time of the month" that hit because it *is* that time of the month for me
I had even more rude things said to me while I was pregnant. I don't know why, even strangers, feel that it's ok to say REALLY rude things.
Confirmation bias is also super strong.
Paying super close attention to your body knowing your pregnant and ascribing sensations to pregnancy that can also be literally anything (increased heart burn, kicking can feel like butterflies in your stomach etc.)
And those types of symptoms are easy to shove off when you believe you can't get pregnant
I stopped in to a place I used to work to purchase something and had an old co worker ask me how many kids I’d had. When I said none she said “well how do you explain…”and puffed out her cheeks and put her hands out around her stomach. I had worked at that store when I was 18/19, at that time I was then in my late 20s. I just told her I’m wasn’t a teenager anymore.
I cried immediately when I got back into my car.
Doctors had told me even with help, I had less than a 5% chance of getting pregnant. It took 3 rounds of IUI to have my son. He is now 4 years old. A couple months ago I started feeling tired and sick. Thought of these videos and took a pregnancy test. Sure enough, without any doctor help, I was pregnant. I’m now 15 weeks along. Things can happen.
My aunt went through several rounds of fertility treatments unsuccessfully... then had both my cousins a couple years later without any help. Bodies are weird.
The dramatic music and screen jumps with the look on her face during the phone call made me imagine the Ghostface Killer's voice from Scream series, saying into the phone "What's your favorite scary movie?" 🤣😂
I had an ovary removed when I was 11 and was told I’d struggle to have kids. I had PCOS and endometriosis and had multiple miscarriages before having my son
It’s such a trauma to be told that you cannot have children or would struggle
You make these episodes easier to watch. As a person who is highly pregnancy avoidant to the point of phobia
Your commentary helps a lot
As an older first time mother, I’m struggling almost 2 years after my daughter’s birth to loose the weight. I definitely felt that nasty comment and resent rude people. I agree. Keep
Your opinions to yourself.
Just want to say, you can do this :)
@@rabbit__ thank you 😊
Don't listen to them. Pregnancy and delivery are feats of endurance, patience and strength. You're a pro for making it through it all. Society has unrealistic expectations and it's hard to look like a supermodel while you are taking care of a small child 24/7. You got this!
I really appreciate you're saying that you do the best with the knowledge you have and to give yourself leeway for this. I had a major medical issue a few years back and, by the time I had my diagnosis, we were cutting it close. For quite a while, I've beat myself up over not acting earlier or having knowledge that I could not have possibly had. While my issue was not an unknown pregnancy, hearing this still helps me in recognizing I didn't do anything wrong.
You say you "ruin it with educational commentary" but I think you make it leagues better, especially when you correct inconsistencies or misleading info an episode may have 🥰🥰🥰
Ahah that whole rude comment thing .. Im fat, and when I worked at Walmart, I had a customer ask me how far long I was. I said I'm not, and this lady got so pissed off at me and yelled at me for tricking people into thinking I was pregnant. People are WEIRD about this stuff.
When I had my son I was 37 weeks. I had lost half of the fluid around him over about 4 days. I already had a scheduled C-section for 12/12/12 but they asked on 11/30 if I wanted to have him that day and I did not have any of my stuff with me, including my bag and spouse and we hadn't gotten food/supplies set up yet. We did an extra long non-stress test and be was ok. The perinatologist said I was ok to wait a couple days. I went home for the weekend on bed rest, came back on Monday 12/3 and nothing had improved fluid wise. They decided to do an emergency C-section that day. Thankfully he was born healthy and with no complications for him. 💜 I'm grateful for my perinatologist who got me through planning, conception, pregnancy and the surgery. She was so great. ❤️
Congrats my nephew's baby was born December 1st
Even tho he was 3 & a half weeks early he was 6 lbs
@@shinyhunteralana2297 aww! I'm so glad your baby was ok! My son was 6 lbs 15 oz!
I HAVE SUCCEEDED! I HAVE SYNCED THIS TIME OF THE MONTH WITH THAT OTHER TIME OF THE MONTH !!!
On Call the Midwife, some babies were put in drawers in poorer families, to sleep. So yeah, although it's nice to have, a lot of furniture is for the parents' ease and can be done without in a pinch
I think it was quite common in poorer families in old days.
Finland created The Baby Box in the 30s
en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maternity_package
The box itself could be used (and still can) as a first, temporary crib if needed.
I just love how you always say that we as people do the best with the information we know.This is definitely one of my life mottos. Thank you for being a ray of sunlight and knowledge!
I didn't find out til 14weeks. (Because of your videos) and I felt so guilty for everything I did before I found out. Baby boy is almost 3months and healthy and very happy 😊
I didn’t find out until 14 weeks with my first. Mostly because I wasn’t tracking my period and it didn’t even cross my mind. Would’ve gone even longer if my mom didn’t suggest a test
@@probably_notbob5794 through the rest of the pregnancy I always wondered at what point would it have clicked. I had irregular periods and was under so much stress at the time. I think it would've been around 27ish weeks when i could tell he was kicking instead of just feeling.
I had a OBGYN who simply told me that my PCOS made me infertile. I didn't bleed for several years, and then bled for 4 years straight. By the end of it, I was told I had endometrial hyperplasia and had *everything* removed. This turned out to be a hidden blessing because I was closeted trans for years.
Doctor Jones you are absolutely amazing! I have used your videos to help me in teaching my children (including my son) about sex, pregnancy and the female reproductive system.
I’ve heard women be bashed for not knowing they were pregnant or had their integrity questioned or saying there’s no way you just can’t know.
But this video shows yes in some circumstances women can totally not know and not everyone’s period is normal and regular
In 2018 when I was 21, I didn't know I was pregnant. My periods were very irregular and I noticed I missed 3 periods in a row but I thought that was from exercising too much. Four days prior to having a miscarriage, I took.a test after my husband kept urging me and it was positive. Then, I lost the baby. It was actually just tissue in the anmiotic sac no baby really formed. But then in 2020, I had my rainbow baby, a daughter. Currently I am 35 weeks expecting a son in January 2022.
The thought popped in my head a while ago and now I can't stop thinking about it... Being pregnant during an apocalypse. Medication is basically nowhere, constantly running and moving around, limited food and water, no one to help. And delivery would be a nightmare alone and whatever creature is trying to kill you.
About the "packing it on there" comment, I grew up with people who said stuff like that for years, but didn't let me exercise, and rarely let me do sports to get rid of the fat. It sucked. :(
Back in the 70s, my mom stopped having her cycle. The doctors did a pregnancy test at the time, and it came back negative. The doctors attempted diagnostics but couldn’t figure out the cause.
She had family history of ovarian cysts and other issues. Between that and family challenges, she was still struggling to get the issue resolved nearly 12 months later. Just before prepping her for something she referred to as “exploratory surgery”, they did another pregnancy test. My brother was born, full term, two months later.
As a mum of 3 I can say in all honesty that each pregnancy presents differently. In fact had I not listened to my gut instinct back in 2017 I wouldn't have known I was pregnant with my 3rd child until I was 20wks along, when I felt the first very light flutter, that didn't scream pregnancy to me, as I was nervous about my family liking their Christmas presents that I was busy wrapping at the last minute (it was December 24th). So backstory: My cycle has always been irregular, as in I can go up to 3months between a cycles before I get concerned as that has been my most normal pattern. My husband and I already had 2 son's born in 2014 and 2016. In 2017 we got pregnant again but I had a miscarriage. We then had sex while I was still lightly bleeding from a miscarriage, so we didn't think getting pregnant was a possibility. Turns out my body had ovulated and was ready to make another baby or have a period, our timing meant we made a baby. Although we found out we were pregnant in the 9th week, it was only because my gut instinct told me something was amiss with my body, but due to not having any obvious symptoms of pregnancy (unlike my previous pregnancies) I could have easily missed it had I not been one to follow my instinct. My previous three pregnancies I was missing my period from the get go and was sick almost immediately after conception right through to delivery, post delivery and loss respectively, I also only ever LOST WEIGHT during those pregnancies. I was in my 10th week of pregnancy before any bleeding stopped and I never once was sick (had a girl), and I only gained 2kg or 4.409lb, so not enough weight to scream "Your Pregnant" to anyone. So based on my previous symptoms we believe I get really bad morning sickness with boys and symptom free with girls, so with anterior placentas it is definitely possible for experienced mothers, with irregular cycles and little to no weight gain, can easily not realize they are pregnant.
When I had my 3rd child a woman came into the ER with pain. They were going to a boat access only camping site for the weekend. Hubby wanted it checked out before they went. The pain was her having a baby. She didn't know she was pregnant. She was the talk of the hospital. No one could believe it. I was always giant when I was pregnant.
Your joy at the crazy editing makes it twice as fun for me.
Everytime mama Dr Jones sees the baby for the first time she smiles in a way that brings tears to her eyes and put her hand on her chest ❤ I can't wait to have a successful pregnancy
I am humbled that you think people are not that rude about weight, however, that is not the case. I had a family "friend" look at me after I got married and say "Are you looking to have kids soon?" When I answered "yes" she responded "Not with you at that weight you're not".
People are so helpful...
I'll NEVER forget this episode. It was the first time I'd ever heard the symptoms of PCOS and started me on my journey to both diagnosis and eventually after many many years remission. This baby basically changed my life.
Can I just give you a weird compliment - I love how fast you talk in your videos! I usually have to speed other videos up to 1.25 or 1.5x! Lol
Should have edited the school board meeting dramatic like that!
You should totally reach out to these people or TLC to interview some of the people from the show!
I was 19 and on the depo shot got it every 3 months no issues but didn’t have a cycle with it which is normal. Needless to say I went to the hospital in severe pain one night and not only did I have 12 gullstones they said oh you didn’t mention your pregnant 🤰 I said excuse me 🧐🧐 she was like how did you not know your seven months. I had no idea my son was born a week later and then I had my gull bladder removed the next day. He was 8 weeks early went 3 minutes without oxygen and they told me he would have a lot of issues. He weighed 7.3 pounds and is now a amazing smart grown 23 year old 🥰🥰
Would you ever say “I recommend an emergency C section”? Like wouldn’t an emergency C section be… an emergency? Wouldn’t they be recommending an immediate C section?
From what I understand, and emergency c-section is decided and done in about ten minutes or less.
Urgent c-sections give you some time to talk with the doctor, and get some things ready for after the birth.
I love how she gives a OBGYN Mom and women point of view lots of love and blessings to you and your family MDJ ❤❤
In my parent's culture, commenting on someone's weight/appearance is completely normal. Since I grew up in the States I am still shocked by this.
Omg your reactions to the editing had me rolling! Yessss please edit a video like that!
This happened to me with the emergency c section. We went in for an appointment the MFM Doctor (high risk pregnancy) left the room and came back with a packet of paper saying you’re having a baby today. They never told what was going on except that blood flow had stopped. 23 hours of labor and a c section later we had a preemie baby stay in NICU for a little over a month. We later were informed by my gynecologist that the cord had wrapped around her neck and she had stopped moving and blood flow was cut off.
As somebody who works with the public, I feel like the doctor probably told her she was less likely to get pregnant, or it’ll be harder to get pregnant. And she misunderstood, because honestly it wouldn’t even make sense to not be able to get pregnant with one ovary still left.
Given the kids were that close together its very possible she was having phantom kicks still from the first child and didnt notice the difference as those slowly became real kicks and movements. I had fantom kicks for the first year after my son and its super weird.
I really love how she has a great deal of empathy and sympathy for the mothers who may have been misinformed or ignorant…and NONE for medical professionals who don’t share information or actively say incorrect things.
I knew I was pregnant because I did IVF to get there, but I had an easy pregnancy and until I was, like, 7 months along I can easily see how it could be missed. I didn’t get nausea, most of her kicks felt like gas bubbles, and I’ve always had a big tummy so I didn’t show all that much. For a long time my biggest pregnancy sign was the lack of bleeding.
I like that you said how rude it was to say packing on the pounds because im pregnant with twins and on Christmas someone said OMG YOURE HUGE! i was mortified and its bothered me ever since!
Imagine finding out you’re pregnant at 18 weeks. Seriously. I had 2 different doctors tell me I wasn’t pregnant when I really thought I was. Come to find out….they were wrong and I was right. Thank God he was ok. Because one of the doctors ok’d the nurse to give me a depo provera shot for birth control😵
Jeez! So glad he made it through that! Did they do urine or blood tests that came back as false negatives or something? Scary thought...
@@dorabrooks76 both urine. One at Planned Parenthood then one at a regular GP. I was feeling movement and everything! The GP said I was just constipated. At that time I would have been around 16 weeks. Great doctor, huh?!
@@stephanieann8115 That's absolutely insane! Both the two false negatives (two!!! 😲), and the fact that your GP didn't take you seriously enough to look into things more closely. I mean, at least do a blood test if not an ultrasound! "Just constipated." Wow... I'm so sorry you went through all that. And I'm glad both you and your son are OK after such a lack of care!
Depo wouldn't have hurt the baby. It's progesterone.
@@wmdkitty he was fine. They had me see a perinatologist once. I guess the only thing it could do is make the hole one the end of his penis(forgive my lack of knowledge)be on the underside?! Thank God he was perfect💙
*needs an appointment with MDJ. Guess I'll move to NZ*