[Crying] Don't Delay Marriage by Mufti Menk
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- Опубликовано: 20 апр 2013
- Delaying marriage without a valid reason once the parties have agreed to marry leads to unnecessary sin. The marriage should be solemnized quickly in order to allow the newly weds to start their new life in the most pure manner. Many parents unknowingly encourage sin by making the couple to be, wait for a long period of time before they are allowed to marry. They shall bear an equal sin of any resultant wrongdoings.
i am new in Islam and i like the teachings. May Allah guide me!!
Ameen. Allaah keep you steadfast on the Deen.
ameen
Barbra Gondi are you married or not yet ?
Barbra Gondi Ameen
welcome to islam
Some times I wish parents could understand this and not make it difficult.
same here , even i start crying when see such kind of parents 😭😢
It’s too difficult to resist sexual desires. I can totally understand since I’m going through the same !
+Mustaquim Salam it's quite obvious and natural to have those feelings it's duty of the parents to understand and act upon it unnecessary delay can lead to haram acts.
I wish
Yes I wish too😢😢😢
Marry a Man Who Fears Allah So He Will Treat You Right Because Of His Fear Of Allah.
Im a honest guy and I fear Allah and last time I was rejcted by a muslim girl and I don't know why, if she knew that I will treat her right :/
meddeb khalil never give up in shaa Allah Allah will grant u someone better
meddeb khalil
inshallah I marry a man has fear in Allah who best in me
Casa Traders hi i got a person like u said
Every muslim parents should encourage their kids to get marriage age 20. I hate those parents that stop marriage.
Actually, parents don't stop their children's marriage. They do so if the children marry someone of their choosing.
+The op Noob nope
tom kim why 20..thays a yuong age..
tom kim why 20 its too late when a child is born u can marry him/her with opposite sex of newborn baby.
yaaaaaa its sarcastic at least use ur some brain ..20 really... kidding me this is kalyuga
right.
it is indeed crying. i feel sorry for all those who cant have their loved one in halal relation or marital relation.
may ALLAH never put anyone in that position where they have to strive so hard to get each other for halal ameen.
ameen
Ameen suma ameen
This is happening with me..
Ameen
i feel sorry for my self
Sending this to my mum!
Want to marry?
Sarina Sheikh 😂😂
Yup, I can help u
Did u send it?
Im in fear... Bt i want to
Ya Allah, please make it easy on me and all those going through this. Please change the minds of our parents and allow them to accept those we choose who You are pleased with. Ameen.
Alexis Lexie Summa Aameen
Alexis Lexie aameen
Aameen
Ameen
Ameen 🙏
I have cousins in Pakistan who are 30+ yrs old & unmarried. The unemployment rate is really high & a lot of young men wait around ages for jobs & end up delaying marriage.
They buy net cards & use up most of their internet time in an endless cycle of watching pornography & masturbating & often fall into Zina. It's disgusting, but it's their parents fault too to not realize that the youth is really sexually frustrated.
Rather than have one's kids desensitized to the jahil porn industry among other things, let them at least have a nikkah. They can delay walima until they find employment. اَلله will always help those who refrain from haram out of fear of Him.
I dua for my Ummah.
Mufti Menk's lectures are always on point MashaAllah.
bagshitass
Good point. I do not mean the parents are always to blame, I realize every situation is different. Parents want what is best for their children & sometimes they do not fully understand the scope of the problem. And I may be biased based on the current marriage situation based off of my family back home.
But to a certain extent, parents should realize that it is ridiculously unrealistic for them to have a kid sitting at home at 34 whom they expect not fall victim to the temptations of the opposite gender. Especially considering that the parents themselves were often married quite young & perhaps did not have the same obstacles & temptations that their offspring face.
proQurn You are correct. I agree with you that the society didn't have this much evil back at the time when our parents got married. The young generation is facing temptations that is really hard to resist. Pornography, free mixing are so easy and available that a person with a little weak faith will get tempted and end up committing sins. It is a very hard time and there is this pressure of getting established. 14 yr 15 yr old kids end up losing their virginity. So , parents are of course responsible to some level. But protecting ourselves from pornography, saving our chastity is also our individual duty. So, may Allah forgive us as well as our parents and make marriage easier for us.
Shahrukh Alam
Yes, good point.
Jazakallahu Khairan.
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Dude, that is not just Pakistan, that is most undeveloped nations.
And can you really judge whether an entire nation lacks "brotherhood" based off of what a few of your Pakistani 'brothers' say?
Same situation in India
you can't marry without a permanent job in this society, every family looking for a man which is well settled,,,
I agree with u
I tooo
Indeed true statement
True 🤭
no not true at all
I am 30 I am single living in London UK with my parents, I have done MBA and MSC and my family is looking for a good pious girl and a decent family. I am a British Citizen therefore Visa is not a issue at all. I do not want to delay further I am fighting with Satan everyday. I do not drink do not gamble do not smoke. I am a very obedient Son and would like to live with my parents after marriage and this is the problem with most of the girls. Make a Dua for me my brother and sisters
Hi 6 years have passed now, are you married now
Sty blessed may u get a pious spouse
Hope you are already married now
@@abdurali9650 why isn't he replying 😓
With an MBA and MSC, do yourself a favor and maybe don’t live with your parents if you can afford to still take care of them or they are not really ill ? Putting yourself in a position to do something like that and you know it’s making it more difficult for you to get married when it’s not mandatory could open the path potentially for you to be tempted and haram. It is not mandatory in Islam that you do that and it could possibly spell problems. I am not hating on living with your in laws; I’m actually getting married and going to live with my in laws, InshaAllah. It’s my personal choice but I am also well aware many many women don’t want that and with good reason. It could spell many problems and she wouldn’t feel comfortable always speaking out because she may not feel like it is her home. Either way, may Allah give you what you’re looking for InshaAllah if he has not already! May Allah give you what is best for you, InshaAllah.
Mufti menk=my favorite speaker he always addresses issues in a scholarly manner and gives good advice
i am 23years old and my mother is doing same thing with me from last 4years. Even my proposal is from muslim family living in makkah mashAllah. i am in riyadh and my biggest wish is to live in makkah and madinah.
please pray for me..
How are you now?
How are you now
May ALLAH grant us protection .Ameen
Nasreen Yusuf ameen
ameen
If my son is 18 I'll rather let him marry then let him fall into zina. No reason why I can't help them further (like pay for college) after they're married.
Alhamdulilah. That is so so good thing to do. It is the need of the hour. All of us should go for it and also better is to give the knowledge of Religion to the children from start , so that they may know the concept of right and wrong .
soon as my daughter wants a boyfriend, i will suggest a husband lol (same for my son)
Fahrie mogispie Marshall
Nana Chant lucky them lol I want to get married, but I'm only 15, and my parents think that I have to wait until eternity and a half to find a wife xD no, in truth, I haven't brought it up, but maybe I will soon.
Fahrie mogispie that's a good idea not all mother's understand that true
If I marry someone who's ready to convert for me, my parents would be proud becuz if someone converts to Islam and you have anything to do with this specific person becoming a Muslim then Allah Azawajal will reward you with the best of things if not in this dunya the in the Akhira.
Ni Blue "Convert for me"- that is not right, but let him convert and become practicing and then when ur content that he values his religion and truly left his previous religion, then approach marriage, and of course don't stand him up and then say u can't marry him for whatever reasons, its betrayal which maybe is not provable by law but Allah is the most just and u could pay for the betrayal later in ur life.
mufti menk... I am a divorcee... I am wanting to get married.... I am looking for a good religious man... which follows deen first then duniya... pray for me... is m Reshma khan from India Mumbai jazak Allah khairun
i m converted but at present i m more interested in my career and i m young too.....sorry😁😂
+reshma khan the way of your thinking is best..
Yeah it's good, but after reverting he should be a pious and good Muslim , otherwise he will lead you to wrong way after a while
It's really hard to not to commit zina in this virtual enable world ...I bet not a single person is safe with eye zina in this world
zeeshan khan only weak persons.. strong muslim with good iman never make zina part of his life
Ma Sha allah... I love this man.. ya allah have him in jannah, keep him always guided in the right path and may Allah bless him and increase his knowledge more and more
Ameen
I am not muslim but I can agree with you man. So many people are engaged or in relationships and don't get married. Girl get pregnant and do termination. So many people who are like me catholic and supposed to have sex after marriage do it not even knowing of they really love that person and if they will be together.
Evelyn Black what’s stopping you to enter the fold of Islam? Consider this an invitation.
@@mustaquimsalam8116
Allah guides whom He wills,
You are absolutely right, Just like me I was born and raised in a Christian family but Allah chose the right way for me
@@mustaquimsalam8116 don't force it. Cmon
As. a Shia I respect and honor wallah I honor this Sheikhs wise words
+Ahmad Harajly ok.
+Ahmad Harajly come to the haqq (sunni)
Khalas, that is the Haqq. I am a Muslim and I follow the Prophet and the Salaf.
Ahmad Harajly
Ali001 haqq you say may Allah guide you to the correct path study the religion of Islam rather than saying what is right n not
Very true, parents don't deserve to be cursed. May Allah make them understand today's situation and make marriage easy for their children. Ameen
Well Said! Abaraka Sheikh Mufti Menk! Powerful Message! SubhanAllah!
Am a muslim from Indonesia , and i'm gree with Mufti Menk. And may Allah find a man who best in me , ameen
Thanks muft menk may Allah grant you Janna t firdaus and live long life so as to continue teach us to become a perfect Muslim
This man has so much knowledge, we need more men like him to correct the corrupted society.
Wow this is so true subhanallah
Chimmy Q well you can make it true and you can challenge it and make it false, you control yourself , your thoughts, desires
early marriage is not the solution but it's you
keep calm and do yoga
Wallahi, my relationship is halal no haram and insha Allah we can get married.
In Sha Allah sis :)
May Allah swt bless your marriage
You are very right. Certainly it's sad that people will only listen but never practice it.
May Allah give this man a long and blessed life, so that we can benefit !!
May the Almighty guide us to the straight path inshallah
This is an 8 year old lecture! Surprising! Maa sha Allah
Behold my brothers! the backbone of faith is knowledge!
Thank you so much for enlightening the world with your words.
In Islam there is happiness and True Facts of Life..
Zeeshan Tahir So why would Muslim men need 4 wives?
Gulsen Bello the Qur'an (ISLAM) stipulates that a man is responsible for the maintenance of his wife or wives. If a man has more than one wife, he has to provide separate living accommodation for each of his wives. Multiple marriages are a heavy responsibility on the male. It is not a pleasure trip as some people may assume. Some even imagine all kinds of sexual exploits involving a man and his wives altogether. However, such activity is not permissible in Islam. A man must divide his time equally among his wives. He may, for example, spend one night with each wife on a rotating schedule. If a man cannot maintain justice in the treatment of his wives, the Qur'an stipulates that he is to have no more than one wife.
Gulsen Bello in easy way if some body fulfill the rights of his wives equally can marry up to four wives.
There are some situations in which it is advantageous to society to have men marry multiple wives, and for this reason polygyny is practiced by many religions and cultures. polygon is permitted in the Bible too. Here we will see that the Qur'an permits only a restricted and limited form of that practice. Only 2% of Muslim marriages are of this nature.
Gulsen Bello only if you can maintain all of your wives. With money. Love and respect. there are more woman on earth then man. its only allowed if you love them all qually and Thats almost impossible but its not forbidden. If u know what it takes to have more wives then 1. Its a big responsible job and its not for everyone. Thats why the most muslims just have one wive. And rather a man have two wives then that he cheats while he is married. And again its not for everyone. But i understand why some people choose polygamy. Its their own choice if not. Its not islam. Quran says : let there be no compulsion in believe. So there is no forcing in islam. Other wise its not islam its a own perpective on islam and thats forbidden ( thats why i hate isis and taliban.. they use believe for power. Just like kkk. Its forcing while islam is against forcing believe
Zeeshan Tahir Why can't a Muslim woman take 4 husbands? Is it true that Prophet Muhammad married his own daughter in law (Zeynab) ? How could a benevolent Allah permit this? How many children did Prophet produce?
I understand you brother. In Shaa Allah, it'll work out for the best in the end.
im glad this video exist and this scholar has made it clear and especially the fact that he is saying among the RIGHT AUDIENCE who happens to be heading in wrong direction. jazakallah khair to entire team
You are absolutely right Menk Sahab...!
May Allah protect us all...!
I seriously with all my heart make dua for you that Allah makes it easy for you. May He give you the best of the best in this life and the next, Ameen.
it is difficult to find good pious spouse today
R u pious, if u r then there is someone pious too for u if not then u should have this desire.
Salam. I am happy to know that a traditional scholar speaks about modern hypersexuality in an informed way.
Jazak Allahu khaira for this beautiful msg
Ive just seen this and Alhamdulillah i thank you Mufti menk for your practical reasoning... all u have said is immensely true ..most of our parents make decissions for their children not even considering that we belong to Allah before we were given to them. I pray that Allah makes t easy for all those who want to marry ..so that they get good partners who are passionate about Allah ... sometimes u may not know but you may be the reason someone enters janah and accepts islam. Many pipo always look at situations plainly and not give thought or pray for Allahz guidance.
Ameen Summa Ameen!🥺
I wish parents understand this may Allah help us to stay away from haram things
Note to self: I think I come to conclusion I’m letting go on love and relationship..Letting go doesn’t mean giving up ,but rather accepting that there are things that cannot be .
It’s a great freedom to let go love and relationship , and get on with everything else
❤IT IS WHAT I DO THAT MAKES MY SOUL= ONE THING I WILL NOT DO IS GIVING UP ON ME ❤
Love from a beautiful timeless bellissima lady full of class and elegance and grace and finesse ❤
Many thanks ❤️⭐️✨🌟❤️
Masha Allah I love you sheik mufti menk
am muslim but can u believe that our parents expect us not to have sexual desires at all? i mean what are we ? just because we are muslims doesnt mean we are not humans so lets put an end to this sufferin it should be okay to continue studying and still be married?? i mean why not!
It has more to do with your culture/tradition/parent views. But you are right. Its normal to be married and still studying. It just depends on your standards basically.
layla ali cultural stigma , and pride
The parents are just scared. But we just have to do it with the right person who respects you.And even better only with your husband. If all people would stick to their spouse. There would be no aids. No std's we made those stuff ourselfs.. and then we blame god that humanity is fucked up. He gave us a book to guide but its up to ourself. Thats the battle they call jihad (struggle) the greatest jihad is the one with ourselfs. Non muslims and muslims. We all have that struggle with our own mind sometimes
rockers0ul The generation gap is really unprecedented, considering there was no schools and collages of that sort, and also the advent of media and net redefined our choices and characteristics to look in a person, which can be dangerous most of the time and injustice to the ppl who don't fit in this description,
u can say for hundreds of yrs u had a similar routine but suddenly in late 20th and 21st century it has change dramatically, and the gap is yet to be closed, but might take few decades more, the hypocrisy is the parents that want their children to get married late themselves got hooked earlier, so they too are affected by this culture but there are irregularities and hard adaptations to be done, for example in western countries where they can get married late as they are engaged in fornication, and therefore they easily adapt to the framework as they are able to fulfill their desires,
now bringing this frame to eastern lands brings problems, coz intermixing is prevalent and naturally opposite genders are going to be attracted, the problamatic phase is parents sending kids to collage and universities and act as sahabas at the same time,well just to be practical and not utopian, ppl are going to develop feelings automatically and sometimes the image of certain students just will loop in the heads for many days, whether they want it or not,
So the best option that parents can adopt is marrying the kids when they are mature even if they are in their education and not restrict this act, or fornication will be prevalent, but of course have right to object if they bring colorful personalities with no religion or culture or financial standpoint, so there has to be compromise from both sides if our religion is to be saved coz when fornication becomes prevalent, religion is the first to fall like we see elsewhere.
Keep
Marshallah he speaks the truth May Allah bless him
it is a very good topic of advice, for many have little knowledge about marriage
May Allah give us good spouses..
Who are pious and righteous Ameen
Subhanallah mufti menk said this 7 years ago, look at the state today may allah project us all
This is so true :) very inspirational
Jazak Allah Khairun for the reminder.
ohh Brother you did this lecture in my country,i was not aware of this what a shame.what you said was 100% correct
Fathima Huzaira XXY
God bless the International MUFTI
This is such a GREAT and dire need of the time, May Allah guide the parents and ease marriage for all Muslims. Parents have no idea what a horrific misdeed is being committed due to their negligence and ignorance
What a true msha Allah mufti menk may Allah bless you love you shiekh for the seek of ALLAH swtc
جزاكم الله خيرا
May Almighty Allah Sub Han Watallah grant you and your family Janat-e-Ferdows. IN SHA ALLAH
"we are living with blinkers, and ignore what is happening!" Subhaan-Allah..
That is true that we are living in sodom and Gomorrah like situation. The holy marriage means nothing to the sex hungry people. Im scared for my future children.
It really sick this society we are in
May God bless u mufti menk
Finding the right partner is the hardest thing ever,, may Allah guide me and make it easy on me to find her
Big respect for mofti menk from Pakistan
it's a long journey to Jannah, may Allah SWT make our trials easy for us all in this Dunya and in the Akhiri, and may He guide us all to the Truth (Islam), AMEEN...
Such a good scholar of Islam mashallah Alhamdulillah
Fatima Ashraf, him and Nouman Ali Khan are some of my favourite.
masha Allah
I like mufti menk lectures
Ismahan Abdulkader ma is guursana ????
May allah bless you Mufti for informing people
PinkGirlyGirl
Sir, you spoke out my heart... I wish parents were not living in the hoax of getting children married only according to social status, rather based on character, deen , and consent of the child 😭
I cant find partner who is in love with deen
Jazakumullahu khairan katsiran!!
May Allaah swt bless us all...and protect us from hell fire
Masha Allah ur just the best teacher Allah bless u
Ya Allah Make Us Pious And Grant Us Pious Spouse Who Helps Us In Increasing Our Imaan And Lead Us TO Jannat....
Aameen Summ Aameen
Insha Allah we all are guided
Mufti menk sahab May Allah bless u..... N me also. I want to follow the right path. May Allah help us
+88 01627943843.i need wife
very true.. Allah help and guide us All.... ameen
Married
Coming from a non Muslim I find everything this man says just common sense every religion preachers the same.
But the point is hardly anyone can't follow such simple actions. Generally in most cases, people make their own lives harder than it actually is because they give into their temptations quite easily without thinking about the consequences, which leads them to sin. Its funny how some advice are so basic and yet the majority cannot seem to follow it even in 2017. I'm starting to think some people like to create their own chaos or can't even help themselves.
@@RnBCutz nice
our parents demand that we complete not only college but university before we are even spoken to about marriage. by the time i finished, they informed me of the last proposal i had, i was 25 and felt stuck, mostly frustrated that they refused to inform me about the 20 or so good options that had passed because they had decided "i need to finish school first". im really stuck now, saying yes to a guy that doesnt even respect women. thanks mom and dad!
Hi Brother Mu'miniin... just want to encourage you with your situation and show my support. I know you might not need it. But I pray to Allah SWT that may your patience, your du'a and your effort to overcome with the condition Allah SWT has given you become your special stairways to heaven. No test given by Allah SWT to His follower unless he is able to manage and overcome... Life is beautiful... Salam
Allahuakkbar mufti islamil menk your speech is maashallah great
May Allah bless Menk to live long
Assalamu Alaikum Brother, Allah guides whom He wills, Just make dua for them constantly and only Allah can open their hearts and their eyes, I did with my mom after so many years at the age of 82 she took Shadah only because Allah wanted. May He guide them and us too ameen.
Pls come in india....😊
yes ,plzz
Jazakallah khair ya SHK AL hajj, mufti, lm UMAR MASAMULI from Uganda
Yes
May Allah make grant us spouses that are pleasing to Him (swt) and facilitate for us easy and blessed marriages. Ameen!
may Allah protect us from haram
Suhieb95 ameen
Ameen
You are right may Allah bless you
May Allah lead us on the straight path !!
Really guiding
I agree with this... very good...
Very important advice 👍
This is true to the core, whether Muslim or not....the reality of this is that we tend to put it aside, instead of dealing with it.
Hi
Said it sooo right! The most dirtiest time ever happened!
As salamuallikum brother amazing speech mashaallah 😘
I got married in the age of 17 . still I enjoy my life ❤. Alhamdhulilla.
I agree. If you already know what you want, why wait? And your parents aren't married to your partner. YOU are and you will have to live with your choice for better or worse!
Jazakillahu khair😊😊😊
Dreaming is the first step of a determination, when there is a determination there always be a way. As long as he keeps on seeking in the right way. Insya Allah, God will show the solution. :)
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته. .. everything you said it's true ... nobody want to followed quran and Sunnah and that's why we lose I have many brothers are looking to get married with good sisters but there's nobody went help them and that's why they go back and get married to English girls
UK RABBITS wa alikoum salam ..let me tell u sister a Muslim woman is better million of time of a non Muslim woman .I have seen many marying non Muslim woman but their children are actualy the once who suffer
true
Ya Allah, protect every young boys and girls from nafs
Wow..I agree. Great video mashallah.
v true...may allah grant us wisdom
My parents and his kept delaying because of finances, one day I had enough savings so I decided to do the nikah and pay, his family turned against me for apparently rushing the wedding when we were engaged for 2 years they diddent do anything , they told him he should have waited longer and they would have had a big wedding , even though I’m happy with my small wedding and not delaying it further , they now refuse to do a walima for me because they hate me. Mufti menk is right this generation is completely lost
It's so painful my sister, may Almighty Allah replace your patient and effort with jannatul pirdaus
Great lessons