"what i give to my 'brother,' I give to myself..." and also, in another video, "show them the empathy they probably never received to know how to give...." BLESSINGS TO YOU and YOUR TEAM
It is so empowering to have responses ready. I appreciate your videos! Last night I had to address someone with some unpleasant feedback (in writing) and I put it off, (just one more video) and the one that popped up was yours, it was about how to give unpleasant information! The first and last sentences are important! Thank you!
Thank you and I hope you do listen to my videos for hours :). And then I hope you share them. And then I hope you press the "join" button and become a member.
Another outstanding masterclass!!! One key theme I’ve learned from your over the years is the benefit of PREPARATION. Being prepared, and not being caught off guard is the key to interpersonal communication.
Absolutely, which is why I recommend that you find the techniques/words that will help with your current situation and then PRACTICE PRACTICE PRACTICE.
Hi Dan! Your teachings have been so helpful for me and I believe making me a better person too. Thank you so much. Do you have/would you make a video on how to respond when people are being condescending? In particular, when I was pregnant, one particular obgyn I met with almost every time acted like my questions were stupid ( I promise they weren’t) and a waste of her time and it bothered me but I had no idea what to do about it. I’d love your insight🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Say, Dan, I wanted to comment on your recent short about telling people you don't trust them. Based on the advice in that video, I believe you may have overlooked another common reason someone might consider telling someone they don't trust them. Another situation that happens to me is when another person is making an offer that I am uncomfortable with because I don't know the other person well enough to trust them in that particular way. Naturally, you STILL wouldn't tell them you don't trust them. I think the best approach would be to address it as a boundary. Do you agree? I would love it if you could do another short some time and address this.
@@TheWizardOfWords Let's say a colleague wants me to get into their car to go to lunch together and is kinda making a big deal out of it. While there's value in conversing with this colleague in a more casual environment than the office, I may have no reason to trust their driving skills. I have no knowledge of their skill level, and based on what I can see of their impulsive nature (pretend that's part of the issue), I'm not going to trust that they can offer safe transportation to and from lunch. But maybe the colleague knows I am into saving energy, and they are using that element to convince me to carpool to this lunch.
I don't think it's a boundary issue. I think it is simply a saying NO issue. If someone is asking you to do something you don't want to do (for whatever reason) you say "No, I'll provide my own transportation" if you choose to go or "No, thank you, I don't want to go to lunch" if you don't want to go to lunch. No matter WHAT THEY FOLLOW THAT UP WITH, you smile and say "that may be but, I'll be providing my own transportation" or "that may be but I don't want to go to lunch." It's call the "that may be but . . ." followed by the broken record. It is not being rude. It is being firm and the person will go away. It's neither a boundary nor a trust issue. It is a matter of your being able to tell people NO.
Love your comments, Raven. Of course nothing is static. We either transform our environment or we are transformed by it. There is no neutrality in the universe, but I think you know that. There is, however, a lot of negativity, and I think you know that too :)
how do you handle a spouse who thinks they know how to do everything better than you? They are constantly giving you instructions on mundane things, where instruction is not needed?
I would develop the mantra: "Honey, either you do this your way or I will do it my way." And if she gives one more instruction or observation, smile and say, "OK, I guess you've decided to do it. I will stay out of it and let you do it your way." Then don't YOU do it. If you repeat this often enough, and I mean STICK TO YOUR GUNS--I believe she may back off.
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I came across one of your videos earlier today and I’m HOOKED!! Thank you for providing this safe space for continued learning ❤
"what i give to my 'brother,' I give to myself..." and also, in another video, "show them the empathy they probably never received to know how to give...." BLESSINGS TO YOU and YOUR TEAM
It is better to be kind than to be right. That is great advice. It is also better to be happy than to be right . 🙄
It is so empowering to have responses ready. I appreciate your videos! Last night I had to address someone with some unpleasant feedback (in writing) and I put it off, (just one more video) and the one that popped up was yours, it was about how to give unpleasant information! The first and last sentences are important! Thank you!
You are so welcome!
I appreciate the active dialogue box on the side of the video for those with communication differences.
I could listen to you for hourssssssss 😊! Fabulous info as always 💯👌🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Thank you and I hope you do listen to my videos for hours :). And then I hope you share them. And then I hope you press the "join" button and become a member.
Another outstanding masterclass!!!
One key theme I’ve learned from your over the years is the benefit of PREPARATION.
Being prepared, and not being caught off guard is the key to interpersonal communication.
Absolutely, which is why I recommend that you find the techniques/words that will help with your current situation and then PRACTICE PRACTICE PRACTICE.
FABULOUS. THANK YOU. extremely helpful.
Glad it was helpful!
This is helpful, Cause my co workers see me as a leader.
Great; happy to help.
These tips are GREAT!!! THANK YOU!!!❤❤❤
You are so welcome!
I LOVE LOVE LOVE this!!! Thanks, Dan!!!!
You are so knowledgeable! Love it ❤
Hi Dan! Your teachings have been so helpful for me and I believe making me a better person too. Thank you so much.
Do you have/would you make a video on how to respond when people are being condescending?
In particular, when I was pregnant, one particular obgyn I met with almost every time acted like my questions were stupid ( I promise they weren’t) and a waste of her time and it bothered me but I had no idea what to do about it. I’d love your insight🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Check my playlists; I have more than one video on the topic of people being condescending.
LOL!! I love the broken clock analogy ! 🤣
Golden advice! Thank you! ❤
The introducers also establish your authority in the audience's eyes.
Thank you for sharing this content.
It's my pleasure
Dan you are so smart!!!!
WOW! What good advice that I can definitely implement immediately - in ALL areas of my life. Thank you. Barbara, Johannesburg. South Africa
Hi Barbara--you're welcome--from Mexico and the U.S. :)
Rusty should do a The Office style exit interview with this coworker - Who do you think you are? What gives you the right? LOL
Say, Dan, I wanted to comment on your recent short about telling people you don't trust them. Based on the advice in that video, I believe you may have overlooked another common reason someone might consider telling someone they don't trust them. Another situation that happens to me is when another person is making an offer that I am uncomfortable with because I don't know the other person well enough to trust them in that particular way. Naturally, you STILL wouldn't tell them you don't trust them. I think the best approach would be to address it as a boundary. Do you agree? I would love it if you could do another short some time and address this.
I would need an examply, Witty.
@@TheWizardOfWords Let's say a colleague wants me to get into their car to go to lunch together and is kinda making a big deal out of it. While there's value in conversing with this colleague in a more casual environment than the office, I may have no reason to trust their driving skills. I have no knowledge of their skill level, and based on what I can see of their impulsive nature (pretend that's part of the issue), I'm not going to trust that they can offer safe transportation to and from lunch. But maybe the colleague knows I am into saving energy, and they are using that element to convince me to carpool to this lunch.
I don't think it's a boundary issue. I think it is simply a saying NO issue. If someone is asking you to do something you don't want to do (for whatever reason) you say "No, I'll provide my own transportation" if you choose to go or "No, thank you, I don't want to go to lunch" if you don't want to go to lunch. No matter WHAT THEY FOLLOW THAT UP WITH, you smile and say "that may be but, I'll be providing my own transportation" or "that may be but I don't want to go to lunch." It's call the "that may be but . . ." followed by the broken record. It is not being rude. It is being firm and the person will go away. It's neither a boundary nor a trust issue. It is a matter of your being able to tell people NO.
@@TheWizardOfWords Thanks! I have not tried "that may be but...." in combination with the broken record. You are a true Wizard of Words!
this is older film, I think? but still valid
Bro I love your stuff but please get a better camera or use SquadCast.
Older video, Scott :)
How can u discretely let HR/management know about a covert narcissist type who is causing problems and who may have management “under their spell?”
I would never tell HR about anyone.
Dont ever think you can " transform " others
Love your comments, Raven. Of course nothing is static. We either transform our environment or we are transformed by it. There is no neutrality in the universe, but I think you know that. There is, however, a lot of negativity, and I think you know that too :)
how do you handle a spouse who thinks they know how to do everything better than you? They are constantly giving you instructions on mundane things, where instruction is not needed?
I would develop the mantra: "Honey, either you do this your way or I will do it my way." And if she gives one more instruction or observation, smile and say, "OK, I guess you've decided to do it. I will stay out of it and let you do it your way." Then don't YOU do it. If you repeat this often enough, and I mean STICK TO YOUR GUNS--I believe she may back off.