Best video ever Greta ! I struggle with emotional control and I’m learning how ‘not’ to react with your help and advice. Many thanks for all that you do, you are a diamond ! 💓
What a great advice, makes a lot of sense. I used to try to control my bf and get out of control with my emotions. Now I've been having more self-control and the difference is huge! So true "you can't control others but you can control yourself", that's always the best option. Thanks!
I finally found my answers!!!! My boyfriend and I dated for 6 months. He’s such a great chaser and shows a lot of his love affections towards me, sweeping off my feet and all of that. But he was trying to control me all the time. Complaining how I did my makeup, dressed and all of that. Though he said he love just the way I am. He doesn’t even let me wear makeup the way I used to when I met up with his parents. He’s a very jealous guy too. Now I think I finally found the answers to my questions of how to handle all of this situations. Thanks Greta ! 😭👍
Awesome video! Had an aha moment! My mother and father yelled, and it was drama in that regards. Makes sense now looking back how Ive recreated that pattern in my past romantic relationships. Learning to be better now, tho sometimes get it wrong as i am very emotional... 💕🌹
Yes, the thing is this not being bothered as you are busy doing your own thing cannot be faked. It has to be real. Or else he will pick up on it. So yes Greta you are perfectly correct and thank you for reminder - you MUST have your own life going on , dreams, ambitions, goals xx Greta you are reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeallly good at this, thank you
Thanks greta i loved this video is very good to listen real cases as examples and yes they love the little games, everything relies in our self control amd not giving them the reward of a reaction
I really need to get in contact with you. Not for a man but to better myself for myself. I need to learn to control my emotions and not leave people get under my skin
Exactly. Because I've been thinking about this and having to constantly argue and play power games means the relationship is NOT HEALTHY. You're just waiting for the other shoe to drop. I dont think you can build together with all these mind games cause you'll be busy playing. I would not feel safe marrying someone like that.
@@ak-47intelligence75 I don't see it so much as "games" as much as just being assertive when you need to be, so he doesn't walk all over you, as guys will, if you let them.
@@ak-47intelligence75 definitely not games it's relearning our nature 🤷🏾♀️ trust me in the beginning it's very very uncomfortable to accept but the more you coach yourself the more you'll understand.
If a man even attempts any of these games, he's gone. Never to be talked to again. If he doesn't respect me or care for my feelings and plays these games, then times up! He played himself.
Thank you for your help i love ur channel and feel very fortunate to find you l am going to start applying this knowledge and hopefully turn my life around for the better. Love from New Zealand ❤
That first story... he is so childish that I’d break up with him. He sounds emotional and I want a man...not a woman. There are women that deal with these games?? I’d have picked up my phone in his face, made plans for the evening with my girlfriends, and KEPT them. There would be no opportunity to salvage the date, much less the relationship. Self love avoids a lot of b.s. ❤️
I don’t want to control anyone. Much less the person I am dating. Just like I don’t want him to control me. If he does something nice for me, I want it to be because he wants to.
Like this woman has such great insight. I guess the part where men do a game is where I'm thinking they don't do it on purpose but I'm thinking women trying to get response from men of love or attention or compliments in a way are playing games... Yet they may not always be watching it. (i.e. wearing more make-up than normal unless they just started wanting to get more artsy..or draw more than necessary attention...but I think that's what is being said here: a man desires a woman who is in control of her mind and emotions so when women do try to stir up or manipulate that does mean she is desperate or trying to be someone she thinks he wants) I think it's like either way women need to know themselves, take care well and not drop it all to fit into what someone and especially a guy they are attracted to's life. Thank you!!! I'm so glad if these affirmations. Very strengthening!!! And thought provoking!
This was amazing! But one question, so when you get to guy to act like you want, for example the first story he brought her to dinner, then what? You just ignore the childish behavior and just go with the flow? That's so weird to me. Haha why should we allow sick behavior like that, when we are just acting 'normal'. I would love to get some feedback. Thanks in advance
Expressing your feelings to your partner in a healthy way is crucial for developing closeness and intimacy. It doesn't mean that you lost control, it means that you are vulnerable and open. Emotions are what makes us human!! Playing cool (so do the other thinks that you don't care, wtf?) and playing games to control someone only does harm to the relationship. Do you want love and a lasting relationship or do you want to win childish fights about the most stupid unimportant things? f you want the latter then you should definitely listen to these tips.
You’re missing the point. If you reaact you feed the games he’s playing. Don’t react and waste your emotions on games . Hello. Then leave obviously.... leave that kind of guy.
@@gabrielamartinyuk9894I'm not missing the point. I wouldn't even bother giving a childish man like that a second of my attention. Not to speak of a chance to date me. Besides, speaking your truth in a vulnerable way can't possibly feed his games.
@@rosenblau well in this world it doesn’t work how u want , u need to deal how it is and of course people try to manipulate u so they can control u and u need to know your staff to prevent yourself
Damn I knew the answer to the 2nd story. She basically obeyed his "orders". I've done the same thing. He touched my hair and said it lacked luster and I went to the salon and even changed the color. Of course he saw that. Damn damn damn !!!! xoxo
Tabula Rasa Wait. I would have done that too. Because it's like if a guy had dry skin. Sometimes guys are blunt... They talk to each other this way. Especially if he didn't break up with you after it means he is perhaps even saying take care honey... Like in a caring way or he had a day at work that was brutal and he's bothered about something totally different. It's tough with women's hair because we put different things in it or it's looking ok when we see it in mirror but it may not feel as good as when it's brand new fresh clean and product is not dry. I hope you are still together. If he said what color did you color your hair? Why that color? That's your taste? Why don't you do Brown like before? Or did you want your hair cut that short? I don't like it that short...(confidence in your choice of how you want your hair is part of your being and desire and like... So that is different... What you did is what women do allot of... Realize we may even have pride but then say you know he's right... My hair needs some attention and care... But your taste buds in how you want you to look.. That was you he wanted to go out with.. By now if he feels comfortable to say that he ought not... He is must likely trying to change you... And control... But we all want freedom or there is no longer a you and even a free "him"
Regarding the first story. I would have insisted on being taken home. His bad behavior would not have been rewarded with my presence. When games are involved, make the guy feel loss so the negative actions wouldn't be repeated again.
What to do if during the break, he went to ask another woman out, she said no, he came back to me and trying to get back together? Am I a back up in this case? I was behaving lv previously so he lost interest, took me for granted, which led to me proposing the break. Now I am learning and behaving hv. What should I do? Take him back or dump him?
Can someone pls answer me: Started talking to this guy every day and night for weeks. Last night he never called or texted tho... very unlike him. He has complained before tho... that i never initiate contact and i should call him more. Should i ask him where he disappeared to? He called at 7am today.. i have not answered or responded to texts. I was upset cos he disappeared🙁
I swear to god this works. I tried this this morning. The guy I’m seeing wanted a reaction from me for being out all night. When he texted this morning I said I hope he had a nice night and I’ll let him get back to trying to sleep. All said in a friendly happy tone. An hour later I received a very frustrated call asking why I was being weird and he was coming over 😂❤️
Hi dear Greta..tnx for your amazing video..sth is confusing for me..one of my friend has broke up recently...she's very hard-working, puts herself first..very ambitious, but her bf complaining why she's working so hard ..but she made time for being with him..but they were arguing all the time..I don't know what went wrong with them
those advices are very good but emotionally tiresome. Honestly that is the reason for me to break up with the guy I am not here to play games with beta male atitutes i am here to enjoy life
I agree, I’m sick of all these cat and mouse games with emotionally immature men who don’t know how to act men who play games aren’t even relationship material let alone husband material.
He is trying to make you jealous so you go after him telling him that you dont get him, nag, complain. Do not loose your cool. If you are not comfortable with his behavior, pull back from him. Maeby moove and be separate for some time. Make him feel insecure, dond you be the insecure. Thats at least what i come up with.
Heyy Greta, it would be great if you could make videos about 1. Self-reflection I know a few women whom I showed your videos and facebook high-value-women group and had several conversations with about what you teach. Now they think they behave high value, but are either nagging & complaining to and about their partner all day, talk to them about how others treat them badly or endure rude & controlling behavior towards them (and allow demeaning and disrespectful language and behavior towards their older children) and then show that their feelings are hurt. So their self-reflection is incredibly poor. They watch your videos, seem to understand, still act low value but are more “confident” in their negative behavior because they can’t recognize what they do or allow. 2. How to apply the high value behavior when you are living together and have young children (babies & toddlers). -example: She doesn’t work, so she can take care of the baby and toddler. He works. The family budget is not high but enough if one doesn’t spend it for “extras”. Now he spends more money than fits their budget, so because of that the money is tight. For example he gets another tattoo for 500€. She has 95% of the work with the children but since she doesn’t earn money he is strict about her spending of money. Since it’s “his”. So she has to justify even small expenses. -another example: He often goes to concerts with either short or no notice, so she won’t even know why he is not coming home or when to expect him back, while she is with the baby/toddler (and feels like a single mom because of the lack of support). With these young kids she can’t really be “as high value” because she can’t leave, disturb the daily routine the children need and so forth. It would be amazing if you could give tips on how to behave high value in these cases and also in general when you share a home and young children with someone. Because it’s so much harder to actually be able to put oneself first, when -because of babies/toddlers- you are limited in how you can act. Because waiting for years until the children are older, only strengthens and worsens the mistreatment from the man. xxx
Yes, my man loves to games unfortunately🤦♀️ for example he does such a stupid thing and observe my reactions which luckily im introvert and extrovert person. Therefore sometimes my shyness works to such a stupid thing i mean i can have a poker face and say that guy what does he i dont like it but without shouting him and etc. Or i ignore him basically
i actually don't do the controlling thing exept for trying to find away to open up to me what he really is from deeper down into his heart vide aura area expertise nature and his soul in shapes forms and sizes from the inside and out but me and my king that sure loves playing any types of the innocent games.and from him would find out more about my perfectionist ways and so that my darth Vader would see how i could show him my perfectionistism is done but he maybe be very glad about me and i also have ways to get him where i want him to be like as in to get to come and get it me or even the showing off to get him to come after me or for him ending up trying to seek my attention or from him treating me as his queen in the very loving ways like from him that knows how to make me very safe and secure very happy very special important and very unique and more though so
I don’t want to control. I want equality and harmony in a relationship. Love is give and take, it does not have to be who’s the boss and who’s the underdog.
Then you should be a lebian and be with another woman if you wanr equality. Or be with a very feminine guy who can give you that, but honey nature is different, just look at animals. Sure there is give and take and of course you can have Harmony but women and men will never be equal.
Stacy Telefo Do whatever you want. I don’t care your choices in your life. You want to be an underdog and servant to your man or a boss? It’s up to you! For me, equality means RESPECT. A relationship which bass on control, who’s who will never succeed. But a relationship which has RESPECT on each other is sure to succeed. And EQUALITY comes with RESPECT. Respecting each other is the key to a loving and successful relationship. Control game like who is who is a culprit in a relationship. No relationship will last if one of you seeks control and be the boss!
I am Rainbow love, it'd be really healthy for you if you learnt more about what it is to be a High Value woman, and that's what Greta's teaching us. By becoming a HV woman, there is no "underdog" or "boss" or a "dominant type" etc, by being HV you'll automatically create the perfect balance between you and the guy, and he'll love it! Being a doormat is NOT a healthy relationship!
Stacy Telefo You know what? Your comment is totally confusing. You seem in and out of your argument. Anyways, Fyi, I am a HIgH Value woman, this is the reason why I don’t allow myself to be a boss or a doormat in a relationship. Because for me, a high value women is so secure of herself, confident, and knows how to respect a man but don’t treat a man like her underdog but also does not allow her man to let her treat like a doormat. A high value women knows how to treat people around her with respect. You cannot be a high value women if you are conceited or self absorb nor a underdog. You have to be balance. And balance is synonymous to equality. So if you let your man dominate you and don’t treat you as his equal partner then that is not balance and healthy. You choose to be submissive because you are afraid that your man will leave you, it is up to you. But for me, as a high value woman myself. I want a man who treats me as his equal partner not his underdog. My man and I should treat each other equally. Respect is a must in a relationship to be able to succeed.
I know that you are trying to help women which is sweet of you, but you really don't understand men. Even my boyfriend said that. You think that men intentionally play games. Men don't play games, only boys do. Men sometimes do test your boundaries to see what kind of woman you are and what your values are, but so do we test them to see if we are compatible. That doesn't include name-calling and playing mind-games, ever!! Why would you be with someone immature and abusive like that? Your tips are based on how to train a dog or raise a child and will not help women to keep their man attracted in the long term. He is not your pet nor your son and if you treat him like that, you will not keep him for long. I know, because I've been there. :)
@@evademetris6393 Why would a high value woman bother with a man who's not matching her level or not trying to rise to meet her standards? Oh wait, maybe because she's a low value woman. Create your own reality, dear. One in which you don't even notice childish players. And you'll pull good men closer like a magnet!
do you seriously encourage girls to stay with guys who are manipulative and play " games"?? Instead of learning how to have a poker face, and playing their "game" why not find a guy who *truly* loves you and adores you so much and wouldnt even DREAM about playing games with you... - now THAT to me is a high value women
chicken lips yes I hate the control as well and most of us -- but she is teaching how to control yourself to take control of the situation because you cannot control others and you shouldn’t. It’s like when you are driving a car and have control of the steering if you lose control you get into and accident and hurt yourself .
I'm thinking we all desire LOVE to be in control. And loving yourself to never play second fiddle... Never allowing any human being to control you. May love control you. Love yourself to sense when his actions or inactions are affecting you to a unloving place. Always be happy with you... Have back up plans always in case he's not there. Men have advice for men do that unloving women don't maneuver them... Or play games. The pouting and emotional women are what men warn men about or the controlling women trying to get him and his whatever he has, owns, acquired and even his name because they are non-queen mentality women. But you are a QUEEN. you are being encouraged to take care more and more so you can give LOVE into the relationship. For both of you to benefit.
Overall I agree, it's healthy to express our emotions, but there are some exceptions. If someone is testing you, it's best to just stay cool. If we are feeling insecure, we can talk about it with our girl friends.
Best video ever Greta ! I struggle with emotional control and I’m learning how ‘not’ to react with your help and advice. Many thanks for all that you do, you are a diamond ! 💓
Thank you x
Rebekah Campbell i agree-best one ever.
What a great advice, makes a lot of sense. I used to try to control my bf and get out of control with my emotions. Now I've been having more self-control and the difference is huge! So true "you can't control others but you can control yourself", that's always the best option. Thanks!
This is super challenging! Dang! Thank you for showing that self control has a positive impact on others.
I finally found my answers!!!!
My boyfriend and I dated for 6 months. He’s such a great chaser and shows a lot of his love affections towards me, sweeping off my feet and all of that. But he was trying to control me all the time. Complaining how I did my makeup, dressed and all of that. Though he said he love just the way I am. He doesn’t even let me wear makeup the way I used to when I met up with his parents. He’s a very jealous guy too. Now I think I finally found the answers to my questions of how to handle all of this situations. Thanks Greta ! 😭👍
The value of self-control always raises your value as well.
Awesome video! Had an aha moment! My mother and father yelled, and it was drama in that regards. Makes sense now looking back how Ive recreated that pattern in my past romantic relationships. Learning to be better now, tho sometimes get it wrong as i am very emotional... 💕🌹
That was awesome, Greta. Thank you.
Thank you x
This info is gold. Thanks girl!
Love long videos with these great real life examples!
Thank you x
Greta, you´re a genius...very insightful, I agree with what you say as I look back on all my situations with guys and can relate. Kisses!!
Yes, the thing is this not being bothered as you are busy doing your own thing cannot be faked. It has to be real. Or else he will pick up on it. So yes Greta you are perfectly correct and thank you for reminder - you MUST have your own life going on , dreams, ambitions, goals xx Greta you are reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeallly good at this, thank you
You are one of the best dating coaches out there ;)
Thanks greta i loved this video is very good to listen real cases as examples and yes they love the little games, everything relies in our self control amd not giving them the reward of a reaction
I love these stories! Such good illustrations!
I really need to get in contact with you. Not for a man but to better myself for myself. I need to learn to control my emotions and not leave people get under my skin
As a couple, always playing game like this is tiring
Exactly.
Because I've been thinking about this and having to constantly argue and play power games means the relationship is NOT HEALTHY.
You're just waiting for the other shoe to drop. I dont think you can build together with all these mind games cause you'll be busy playing. I would not feel safe marrying someone like that.
@@ak-47intelligence75 I don't see it so much as "games" as much as just being assertive when you need to be, so he doesn't walk all over you, as guys will, if you let them.
@@ak-47intelligence75 definitely not games it's relearning our nature 🤷🏾♀️ trust me in the beginning it's very very uncomfortable to accept but the more you coach yourself the more you'll understand.
If a man even attempts any of these games, he's gone. Never to be talked to again. If he doesn't respect me or care for my feelings and plays these games, then times up! He played himself.
So we’re just going to ignore how drop dead gorgeous this woman is and her accent 😍💕💕💕!! Thanks for the tips.. new subbie 😃
Thanks Greta, I applied the knowledge I learned from this video and it was so effective.
Amsterdam, Netherlands 🇳🇱 ❤ My beautiful Country! Great video Ma'am!✊🏽
Greta keep these videos coming! Always amazing advice 💖
Your voice is so clear I love it Greata❣️❣️❣️
Thanks for all these controlled messages and advice 👍🏻👍🏻
You deserve so much more subscribers!
Thank you for your help i love ur channel and feel very fortunate to find you l am going to start applying this knowledge and hopefully turn my life around for the better. Love from New Zealand ❤
I love your bangs and your hair.💕
Just discovered you yesterday. You are incredibly helpful! Thank you so much! I subbed♥️
Gerta, you look absolutely gorgeous! Thank you for all of your videos. They’re a great help.
Greta is the best coach ever. ❤️
This is so powerful and empowering
Very good lessons , Greta . Thank you
Awesome advice Greta as usual! :) and the analogy is perfect! 😊 love your videos, plz keep them coming! :)
Love I loved this. I've subscribed and you are amazing
Brilliant, Greta!💎👑🌈🌠👑💎
Thank you x
So needed to here this, thank you!
That first story... he is so childish that I’d break up with him. He sounds emotional and I want a man...not a woman. There are women that deal with these games?? I’d have picked up my phone in his face, made plans for the evening with my girlfriends, and KEPT them. There would be no opportunity to salvage the date, much less the relationship. Self love avoids a lot of b.s. ❤️
I was thinking the same! You wanna drop me off, then drop me off! 😂
Very useful advice. Thank you
Amazing video 👍🏼❤️ Thank you Greta 😊🥰
Love all of your videos.. Very helpful!!!! 😍😘😍😘😍
Thank you so much. This is the video I needed!!
These are great. Thanks. Give us more
I don’t want to control anyone. Much less the person I am dating. Just like I don’t want him to control me. If he does something nice for me, I want it to be because he wants to.
Like this woman has such great insight. I guess the part where men do a game is where I'm thinking they don't do it on purpose but I'm thinking women trying to get response from men of love or attention or compliments in a way are playing games... Yet they may not always be watching it. (i.e. wearing more make-up than normal unless they just started wanting to get more artsy..or draw more than necessary attention...but I think that's what is being said here: a man desires a woman who is in control of her mind and emotions so when women do try to stir up or manipulate that does mean she is desperate or trying to be someone she thinks he wants) I think it's like either way women need to know themselves, take care well and not drop it all to fit into what someone and especially a guy they are attracted to's life. Thank you!!! I'm so glad if these affirmations. Very strengthening!!! And thought provoking!
Ouhhh I can tell I’m gonna love this by the title 😂
hahaha
and it certainly lives up to it brilliant stuff Greta !✌
Nice :)
woman you are love.
mir taqi mir 💖
Best ever video advice.
This was amazing! But one question, so when you get to guy to act like you want, for example the first story he brought her to dinner, then what? You just ignore the childish behavior and just go with the flow? That's so weird to me. Haha why should we allow sick behavior like that, when we are just acting 'normal'. I would love to get some feedback. Thanks in advance
Expressing your feelings to your partner in a healthy way is crucial for developing closeness and intimacy. It doesn't mean that you lost control, it means that you are vulnerable and open. Emotions are what makes us human!! Playing cool (so do the other thinks that you don't care, wtf?) and playing games to control someone only does harm to the relationship. Do you want love and a lasting relationship or do you want to win childish fights about the most stupid unimportant things? f you want the latter then you should definitely listen to these tips.
You’re missing the point. If you reaact you feed the games he’s playing. Don’t react and waste your emotions on games . Hello. Then leave obviously.... leave that kind of guy.
@@gabrielamartinyuk9894I'm not missing the point. I wouldn't even bother giving a childish man like that a second of my attention. Not to speak of a chance to date me. Besides, speaking your truth in a vulnerable way can't possibly feed his games.
@@rosenblau well in this world it doesn’t work how u want , u need to deal how it is and of course people try to manipulate u so they can control u and u need to know your staff to prevent yourself
Damn I knew the answer to the 2nd story. She basically obeyed his "orders". I've done the same thing. He touched my hair and said it lacked luster and I went to the salon and even changed the color. Of course he saw that. Damn damn damn !!!! xoxo
omg....I need stories like this... i can make another video on this x
@@GretaBereisaite LOL I can tell you in IG if you want; It's hilarious now that I think about it, but back then I was clueless xo
Tabula Rasa Wait. I would have done that too. Because it's like if a guy had dry skin. Sometimes guys are blunt... They talk to each other this way. Especially if he didn't break up with you after it means he is perhaps even saying take care honey... Like in a caring way or he had a day at work that was brutal and he's bothered about something totally different. It's tough with women's hair because we put different things in it or it's looking ok when we see it in mirror but it may not feel as good as when it's brand new fresh clean and product is not dry. I hope you are still together. If he said what color did you color your hair? Why that color? That's your taste? Why don't you do Brown like before? Or did you want your hair cut that short? I don't like it that short...(confidence in your choice of how you want your hair is part of your being and desire and like... So that is different... What you did is what women do allot of... Realize we may even have pride but then say you know he's right... My hair needs some attention and care... But your taste buds in how you want you to look.. That was you he wanted to go out with.. By now if he feels comfortable to say that he ought not... He is must likely trying to change you... And control... But we all want freedom or there is no longer a you and even a free "him"
I would have get angry with him not liking my hair. But the best is to ignore. Because getting in a fight is also leting go of your emotions
Regarding the first story. I would have insisted on being taken home. His bad behavior would not have been rewarded with my presence. When games are involved, make the guy feel loss so the negative actions wouldn't be repeated again.
New subbie! Love your shirt!
Gretta is the best!!! 😎😎
Thanks queen 👑...
It’s grt u give examples, v can understand d point better.
Give more examples 👏 go on!
Thanks such a big help as alkways xxxxx
Thank you x
That first story is crazy no man is gonna do all that unless he’s super insecure and a woman would know he’s insecure and leave 😂🤷🏽♂️
When a man is playing like this.. just leave. Life isn’t a game.
I agree 100%
Good Video 😊👌
Thank you
I don't want to control anything but my weight 🙅
if it works for u carry on:)
Same
Ohhh where did you get your top! 😍
You are so right
What to do if during the break, he went to ask another woman out, she said no, he came back to me and trying to get back together? Am I a back up in this case? I was behaving lv previously so he lost interest, took me for granted, which led to me proposing the break. Now I am learning and behaving hv. What should I do? Take him back or dump him?
Brilliant. 💛
Can someone pls answer me:
Started talking to this guy every day and night for weeks.
Last night he never called or texted tho... very unlike him. He has complained before tho... that i never initiate contact and i should call him more.
Should i ask him where he disappeared to? He called at 7am today.. i have not answered or responded to texts. I was upset cos he disappeared🙁
Awesome !!!!!
Thank you x
I swear to god this works. I tried this this morning. The guy I’m seeing wanted a reaction from me for being out all night. When he texted this morning I said I hope he had a nice night and I’ll let him get back to trying to sleep. All said in a friendly happy tone. An hour later I received a very frustrated call asking why I was being weird and he was coming over 😂❤️
Love it 💖
Hi dear Greta..tnx for your amazing video..sth is confusing for me..one of my friend has broke up recently...she's very hard-working, puts herself first..very ambitious, but her bf complaining why she's working so hard ..but she made time for being with him..but they were arguing all the time..I don't know what went wrong with them
maybe he has low self esteem...she needs to ask what is REALLY BOTHERING HIM
those advices are very good but emotionally tiresome. Honestly that is the reason for me to break up with the guy I am not here to play games with beta male atitutes i am here to enjoy life
I agree, I’m sick of all these cat and mouse games with emotionally immature men who don’t know how to act men who play games aren’t even relationship material let alone husband material.
Greta I need to get with u I need coaching pleaseeeee
Hi Greta,luking damn beautiful❤❤❤
Thank you x
Those guys are childish.believe me a mature man won't play these childish games.
You’re looking gorgeous Greta 😍
I love the color of your lipstick, so gorgeous.
Girl!!! LOL!!!! At the amsterdam story
letting him continue the date also is control.
If he brings a girl to the house, knowing that it's a 50 50 chance for you to see the girl, how do you handle it, should you break up with him?
He is trying to make you jealous so you go after him telling him that you dont get him, nag, complain. Do not loose your cool. If you are not comfortable with his behavior, pull back from him. Maeby moove and be separate for some time. Make him feel insecure, dond you be the insecure. Thats at least what i come up with.
@@blueram3063 thanks alot
Hmmm my guy just stopped kissing g me and I’m calm etc and still hasn’t happened yet anything more I can do👀
Heyy Greta,
it would be great if you could make videos about
1. Self-reflection
I know a few women whom I showed your videos and facebook high-value-women group and had several conversations with about what you teach. Now they think they behave high value, but are either nagging & complaining to and about their partner all day, talk to them about how others treat them badly or endure rude & controlling behavior towards them (and allow demeaning and disrespectful language and behavior towards their older children) and then show that their feelings are hurt. So their self-reflection is incredibly poor. They watch your videos, seem to understand, still act low value but are more “confident” in their negative behavior because they can’t recognize what they do or allow.
2. How to apply the high value behavior when you are living together and have young children (babies & toddlers).
-example: She doesn’t work, so she can take care of the baby and toddler. He works. The family budget is not high but enough if one doesn’t spend it for “extras”. Now he spends more money than fits their budget, so because of that the money is tight. For example he gets another tattoo for 500€. She has 95% of the work with the children but since she doesn’t earn money he is strict about her spending of money. Since it’s “his”. So she has to justify even small expenses.
-another example: He often goes to concerts with either short or no notice, so she won’t even know why he is not coming home or when to expect him back, while she is with the baby/toddler (and feels like a single mom because of the lack of support). With these young kids she can’t really be “as high value” because she can’t leave, disturb the daily routine the children need and so forth.
It would be amazing if you could give tips on how to behave high value in these cases and also in general when you share a home and young children with someone. Because it’s so much harder to actually be able to put oneself first, when -because of babies/toddlers- you are limited in how you can act. Because waiting for years until the children are older, only strengthens and worsens the mistreatment from the man.
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This type of stuff is taught in My VIP's or one on one. x
he is selfish and inconsiderate...he acts like he is single...let him pay for child care and you go out to work to make your own money and power back
Yes, my man loves to games unfortunately🤦♀️ for example he does such a stupid thing and observe my reactions which luckily im introvert and extrovert person. Therefore sometimes my shyness works to such a stupid thing i mean i can have a poker face and say that guy what does he i dont like it but without shouting him and etc. Or i ignore him basically
i actually don't do the controlling thing exept for trying to find away to open up to me what he really is from deeper down into his heart vide aura area expertise nature and his soul in shapes forms and sizes from the inside and out but me and my king that sure loves playing any types of the innocent games.and from him would find out more about my perfectionist ways and so that my darth Vader would see how i could show him my perfectionistism is done but he maybe be very glad about me and i also have ways to get him where i want him to be like as in to get to come and get it me or even the showing off to get him to come after me or for him ending up trying to seek my attention or from him treating me as his queen in the very loving ways like from him that knows how to make me very safe and secure very happy very special important and very unique and more though so
I don’t want to control. I want equality and harmony in a relationship. Love is give and take, it does not have to be who’s the boss and who’s the underdog.
Then you should be a lebian and be with another woman if you wanr equality. Or be with a very feminine guy who can give you that, but honey nature is different, just look at animals. Sure there is give and take and of course you can have Harmony but women and men will never be equal.
@@tracyharyklia8883 power games, are between women too...Whos prettier whos smarter etc..
Stacy Telefo Do whatever you want. I don’t care your choices in your life. You want to be an underdog and servant to your man or a boss? It’s up to you! For me, equality means RESPECT. A relationship which bass on control, who’s who will never succeed. But a relationship which has RESPECT on each other is sure to succeed. And EQUALITY comes with RESPECT. Respecting each other is the key to a loving and successful relationship. Control game like who is who is a culprit in a relationship. No relationship will last if one of you seeks control and be the boss!
I am Rainbow love, it'd be really healthy for you if you learnt more about what it is to be a High Value woman, and that's what Greta's teaching us. By becoming a HV woman, there is no "underdog" or "boss" or a "dominant type" etc, by being HV you'll automatically create the perfect balance between you and the guy, and he'll love it! Being a doormat is NOT a healthy relationship!
Stacy Telefo You know what? Your comment is totally confusing. You seem in and out of your argument. Anyways, Fyi, I am a HIgH Value woman, this is the reason why I don’t allow myself to be a boss or a doormat in a relationship. Because for me, a high value women is so secure of herself, confident, and knows how to respect a man but don’t treat a man like her underdog but also does not allow her man to let her treat like a doormat. A high value women knows how to treat people around her with respect. You cannot be a high value women if you are conceited or self absorb nor a underdog. You have to be balance. And balance is synonymous to equality. So if you let your man dominate you and don’t treat you as his equal partner then that is not balance and healthy. You choose to be submissive because you are afraid that your man will leave you, it is up to you. But for me, as a high value woman myself. I want a man who treats me as his equal partner not his underdog. My man and I should treat each other equally. Respect is a must in a relationship to be able to succeed.
Sorry but Mature , high value men do not behave this way. These are insecure boys . End of story.
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I know that you are trying to help women which is sweet of you, but you really don't understand men. Even my boyfriend said that. You think that men intentionally play games. Men don't play games, only boys do. Men sometimes do test your boundaries to see what kind of woman you are and what your values are, but so do we test them to see if we are compatible. That doesn't include name-calling and playing mind-games, ever!! Why would you be with someone immature and abusive like that? Your tips are based on how to train a dog or raise a child and will not help women to keep their man attracted in the long term. He is not your pet nor your son and if you treat him like that, you will not keep him for long. I know, because I've been there. :)
if you find high value man you may not need these tips so much ….unfortunately reality is different
@@evademetris6393 Why would a high value woman bother with a man who's not matching her level or not trying to rise to meet her standards? Oh wait, maybe because she's a low value woman. Create your own reality, dear. One in which you don't even notice childish players. And you'll pull good men closer like a magnet!
you should not be trying to control anyone!
you cant possibly encourage your client to stay with such a manipulative person......??!
Lol 😂😂😂😂😂
do you seriously encourage girls to stay with guys who are manipulative and play " games"?? Instead of learning how to have a poker face, and playing their "game" why not find a guy who *truly* loves you and adores you so much and wouldnt even DREAM about playing games with you... - now THAT to me is a high value women
Poker face is not easy to do for me!
if you're looking for control in a relationship then you don't want a relationship. terrible!
chicken lips yes I hate the control as well and most of us -- but she is teaching how to control yourself to take control of the situation because you cannot control others and you shouldn’t.
It’s like when you are driving a car and have control of the steering if you lose control you get into and accident and hurt yourself .
@@seeya7610 luv this example x
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I'm thinking we all desire LOVE to be in control. And loving yourself to never play second fiddle... Never allowing any human being to control you. May love control you. Love yourself to sense when his actions or inactions are affecting you to a unloving place. Always be happy with you... Have back up plans always in case he's not there. Men have advice for men do that unloving women don't maneuver them... Or play games. The pouting and emotional women are what men warn men about or the controlling women trying to get him and his whatever he has, owns, acquired and even his name because they are non-queen mentality women. But you are a QUEEN. you are being encouraged to take care more and more so you can give LOVE into the relationship. For both of you to benefit.
Bruh all these “stories” are literally just people being stupid like your not talking about communication 🙄
Idc all this is too stressful school is better this all too much stuff u.u not even
Your men are NOT your children
Teaching control and suppression of own emotions - not authentic and very unhealthy.
I know right?
It's actually unhealthy and toxic to express every little emotion. Not all emotion we have needs to be expressed. It's important to have self control.
Overall I agree, it's healthy to express our emotions, but there are some exceptions. If someone is testing you, it's best to just stay cool. If we are feeling insecure, we can talk about it with our girl friends.
Thank you.