@@FlatEarthLuvr I don’t have a child with him. So your question doesn’t apply to me. If you have something to say or get off your chest, please feel free to leave your own comment. You don’t know everyone’s situation and I only speak for myself. I say what I mean and I mean what I say. Now Please be respectful of others.
The narcissist is Happy with the new supply as long as the old supply is suffering! Once the old supply pick themselves up and move along with their life. The new Supply has failed. That’s the cycle ! Then the new supply ! Becomes the old supply! Next !
I think the thing that keeps people stuck is all the betrayal and injustice. We just want to see them fail in the next relationship to validate ourselves.
All I know is that a narcissist is never happy and they always treat the next person worse. It's all pretense even if they seem happy. It's always pretense with the narcissist. I have better things to do than check the fake new marriage with the new supply. She will find out either way. The ex narc was never happy when he was with me, He was not happy with his job, his life. Just messed up person who wants to mess others up.
Yep! I played along to his ego, helped him maintain the image for the rest of the world and all it got me was making me look like the crazy one when I couldn't take it anymore. The pictures he painted (and I helped maintain) were so firmly in place that no one believes the reality
“Buckle up”, is the best quote. It is a wild ride watching your X in a new relationship. I’m not sure people are exactly narcissists, maybe it’s selfishness. I wasn’t the nicest person either. At 58, I’ve finally looked in the mirror and saw my contribution to a 16 year toxic relationship. It has been 7 months of me suffering & growing. So in the end, the self awareness is the silver lining. Also I’ve learned to take the good with the bad. We had some great times, though the bad times were WILD. Thank you for your words of wisdom.
The bottom line is focus on YOURSELF! Ultimately, it doesn't matter if they are "happy" or not because they intentionally made you miserable! You can only control yourself so that's ALL you need to be concerned about!
I couldn't care less who my exnarc has for supply. I was extremely good to him, forgiving, did so much for him, listened to him, etc. He was miserable so much of the time. It doesn't matter who it is because the narc is who they are and no one person can satisfy them.
So very true .. mine had two women at the same time he cheated on me with. Then he finally got a job, so could only do one at a time 😅 They are just evil 😢
I can't believe all this is just so real like. I didn't been through all of this and I'm just blessed that when you know the Lord he will get you out of this situation and just don't. Never look back I know it's hard. It has been hard for me but I have not been with this man in over a year. I gave in just this year and I feel like a fool but. You know what though do not think they can? Outsmart you because it will not happen. They are narcissist ex narcissist this is what they do. When you can't give them what they want and if you don't have a bank account. Big enough for them trust me yes they do move on. I feel like I should be the one that should be talking about on nurses trust me. I hadn't vent through so much it even has something to do with a pregnancies and all twins in all this man tried to leave me for dead no matter what I just got away from him when I got away from me. It took me 6 months to come back to my other Hometown. But you know what though we have a gid and don't you never forget that? The only thing that I asked gotta do and that was take them blinders off my eyes when you ask God to take them blinders off your eyes trust. Me he will and you will be sleeping peaceful at night. You won't have no stress your hair won't be falling out. You won't be losing weight When God tells you to close that door let him go let him go let him go let him go and go let him have him let her think that she. Went in honey trust me in the long run. She will apologize to you. That's if she has a heart and that's the heart that God gives you because he gives you your own conscience stay blessed if you need somebody to talk. To I am here. I love helping people get through this trust me. You will get through it never look back. I may never look back all they ever try to do is hurt you and hurt you over and over again. Tonight be the one that stays do not be the 1 that listens to the lies to seek. They are evil people if you start seeing a faces change their eyes turn black. That is nobody telling you to let go but god it's still hard for me but no matter what I love me enough to love myself to leave
Danielle Morse I'm so over him.. I feel like you I can care less who. Who they? Wanna be with? Who they want to marry who they want in a life who they don't care about as long as it aint me stay out my lane I. Can't stand this man this man just don't know. I had to pray to god so I would not heard him and now my life is so so much peaceful ❤🎉
I’m a Christian so what happened was is that it drew me closer to God closer to reading the Bible and every time I focus on him I have to redirect my mind to the things of God and what God says about me
Unfortunately, I can relate. Soo glad that chapter is closed.done.OVER. I have NO clue what’s happening in his life nor do I care; he’s blocked for a reason and my life has been AMAZING ever since I hit that block button. #ILOVEMEANDITSHOWS!
That's what just happened to me. My ex-husband cheated and lied to me and cheated on me, and then he left me for her. She was so happy to "take" him from me. Give it a few months, and he'll be abusing and cheating on her, too.
@@brandiseafler be happy that was 8 months ago I wrote that I’m in a different place mentally and emotionally and been working on myself guess who I saw the day before my birthday and when I saw him i don’t know what I saw in the freak . Work on yourself and trust me soon enough you’ll see thru his toxicity he never loved you and you’re going on to much better things he will be back to hoover I hope you’re strong enough to resist ❤️
I'm at the point now where I don't care what my ex is doing. Still bothered by the fact that she cheated on me with the new supply and I ignored the (in hindsight) *blatantly* obvious signs. So, a bit of anger at myself, at her, and the guy that "I shouldn't worry about." Frankly, he deserves the shitstorm that's coming his way. He was predatory and manipulative with her while we were together, so he's not innocent here either. Let them make each other miserable. They're not in my life anymore. The only person I gotta worry about now is *me.* 💪🏻
My ex narcissists new supply asked me….Why would you let such a great guy go….I tried to warn her but she just kept saying that was his past….But I know that she will find out eventually
I'm sure she's having a great time with her new supply, after all we had a great time in the beginning. Then life and reality kicked in and the stresses of a relationship entered the discussion and we fought and argued. In time she will with her new guy 🤣 I'll never know but i don't think he'll be as forgiving as I was 😊
“Is he happy with the new supply?” I think it’s about time I start focusing on my own happiness and for once stop making it all about him. I already know the stages before the Discard; I lived the movie. This is now the new supply’s turn to be Love Bombed. Same old movie. Same old script. Different actors. Is he happy? IDGAF. The question is: Am I?
I remember when I first asked him to leave and I knew he had someone else my heart was hurting and so broken… that was a year ago… BUT ! Oh my good Lord, I am so thankful God allowed me to GET OUT! Who cares if they are happy, & if they are great , if they are not happy great!!! Just ask long as I’m gone!!! Good bye and Good riddance to bad rubbish!!! 😊👋🏽
Yes they're happy, just like when you fall in love and then eventually like all relationships goes stale. Don't focus on other people concentrate on yourself and heal. X
I don’t think they are happy with the new supply if the old supply doesn’t care.. I was the new supply and his ex didn’t care so he started to treat me like crap.
Mines would leave me and go with other females that he cheated on me with he would tell them I’m crazy I cheated all type of stuff but I can 100 percent confirm I’ve been apologized to by 6 of them saying he’s a nut . And he’s abusive . “ he likes to put his hands on u
Honestly, I stopped caring if he is happy with the next person. I won’t be able to live if I think about who is next and how he is treating her. Thank goodness we have no social media together, live 4 hours away from each other, and my favorite 😍 have no contact with each other. I’ve been living my best life which is all that matters 🥰🥰🥰🥰
@@melbeldanielle6845 i completely understand you. Wish it was so easy to move on like the people who have no children. The children are a DAILY reminder, and having to still hear the narcs voice time and time again is just triggering in itself.
My ex narc started to get mad because I studied him and his moves…how much lied to me and the other women…how he manipulated everyone to get what he wanted…but mostly he was upset because I brought everything to his attention and he hated that I had figured him out completely and he couldn’t get over on me anymore…so he started to pull away and talk to other women all while trying to reverse hoover me at the same time 😂 needless to say good luck to anyone who’s dealing with him now cause he hasn’t changed anything about himself
Sounds like me! I insulted his new supply choice; "I said you just f&*@ anything don't you?!" He thought he was doing it behind my back. Not only did I call him out; I insulted his choice which was my supposed "friend".
I careless if he's happy. I know he will never be happy. He won't change. All I care is to heal, stay away, and be free. I'm watching Narcissistic video because sadly I just dated and got out of another Narcissistic relationship. I can't believe I got love bomb again and feel for it. Smh, enough is enough. I believe action over words.
Somedays I care and somedays I feel sorry for them. I clearly am early in my healing journey. It is mostly frustrating that they get any happiness when you feel horrible and broken. Meanwhile someone is playing victim and moving on.
I feel what you're going through, seems like I've had one bad thing after another happen to me since I left 5 months ago ... i would call them roadblocks, but it feels more like cinder blocks being chucked at my head most days ... I was also completely unprepared for the amount of grieving I'm going through, what the heck is up with that ...
If you listen to everything that I just wrote. Trust me God got you and he will heal you if he could help me he could help anybody and if it could He old man that's talking to us mister lee didn't trust me you can hear it too
Honestly the new supply is no different than us. It’s a repeat and that’s all it is. Do I wish that my ex Narc some day gets into therapy, heal and find themselves someone who they can authentically love and be happy. Yes. It is what it is. The best lesson I got out of this was for me. I learned so much about myself with that relationship that I love myself first and left, blocked him and moved on. It’s a win for us. I refused to be treated inappropriately. That is a win folks. Vengeance is their thing and you shouldn’t become them. They’d be jealous and envious so you don’t need to become the same person you left. Taking and being on the high road is our win.
Oh my God you so nailed it when they tell you not to go back. Do not go back excuse me when God tell you to leave pharaoh. Please leave him trust me they will leave you dry. They will try to wipe everything from you to your bank account trust me. I've been with. This Man over 5 years it is not worth it. You're freedom you're respect the morals you have for yourself. They are so jealous of you you just don't know
Narcissistic people are childish. I dated one that tried to rub his new supply in my face. He wanted to hurt me on purpose. It's surprising how they act after being with you. This is the weirdest guy I've ever seen.
Uh just be glad the narcs gone get your strength up for when and if they decide to come back around. Educate yourself on this disorder please! Stay safe out here🙏🏿 keep it hot lee hammock 🔥💯
Even when they are doings these things for the new supply that was meant really for us, they secretly wished that new supply was you he doing it with. The mother-effer... Thank you for your videos and honesty your helping me so much ❤
My narc admitted to stalking my Facebook. Kinda scary but I find it hilarious because I'm happy and she is miserable... Misery loves company, so stay away.
Ok. more to say.... I watch your videos because they are 100% relatable. Not only do you understand what I might be going through, but you demonstrate to the letter everything about what I experienced in HIM. The exact behavior. And, being so massively insightful to a fault almost into people, I was on to almost all of this anyway. Every video is a complete and total validation for what I was already sensing about him. But even so....my trauma bonding was in full swing to the 100th degree. Ironically, he is studying to be a minister, and he leads conscious communication meet up groups. He is a MASTER as disguise. And what is so sad about this, is that on par with typical narcissists, they are massively unaligned from what they SAY and what they demonstrate and they are 100% completely lacking in self awareness around this. At least he was. It makes me sick because he used NVC as way to "never be wrong", to never ever take accountability for his actions because, he would say, "YOU have to take responsibility for your experience!!! I am not responsible for your experience!!!". This was a massive gaslight!!
I remember telling my ex husband that he let me down. He immediately spun it around on me and said that I was the one who let myself down. No accountability. No remorse. No self awareness. Always your fault. Massive gaslight indeed!
Found out about the new supply he got with one month after I ended things with him from a police report… and then saw all the “happy” pics and posts on the new supply’s social media. They can fool everyone else, but not me.
Hi honey thinking of you I hope you're living your best life and I thank you so much for helping so many people because you speak the truth no chaser and I can't thank you enough for that be true to you
Thanks lee I really appreciate how you come out to help us understand about the narcissist I am 1 that keep going back because I love him an he help me financially cause I don't have a job I deal with anxiety and ibs it is hard but I know he don't love me I pray that I overcome him an move on with God grace an mercy
Trust me you will Stop giving them your energy stop giving them your energy and stop giving them your power life jus stopit They will suck all your energy out of you and they will suck nothing. But energy straight energy do not give them none of it anymore
Idk if they have one or not. Probably so but I realize that woman is who I was. Of course their happy. We were happy in the beginning too. The mask is up again but as with me it started to come off within 2.5 -3 months. Hopefully he is better to them and learned something but if not then the new woman will start to see the same and get out as I did by month 5. Hopefully it will be quicker for the new woman. That’s reality. Until the person doesn’t get into serious therapy they will never be ok. The biggest thing for us is to look forward and be realistic. Stay on reality even if sometimes you wished it would of worked out and wished they weren’t the way they are. Refocus and remember this is about your health. When I have been tempted to get info or pass by his place, lol I catch myself and quickly tell myself that it not worth it because it wasn’t real. He’s not real.
Everything I'm hearing says block them. Because simply ignoring, well, they don't know that. You are keeping the clown show going by not blocking. They're loving it.
Just so you know, those stickers I bought....I LOVE them!!!! One is on my water bottle so I see it all day every day, and the other is on my computer. There it is...all the time I LOVE ME!!! YES!! I LOVE ME!! They won't let me forget that! And my tank is on the way. That one says I'm FREE! I can't wait to wear it and have people ask me about it.
I cared for awhile, because they kept shoving it in my face how happy they are. Now, I truely don't care what happens to them in any kind of way. So if they are happy, ok. If not, ok. Im just glad I'm not caught in that craziness anymore.
I'm aware that I can't speak for anyone else.... with that being said...👀 I find it almost impossible to fathom how anyone who has been with a true narcissist could ever...EVERRRR remotely care to any degree what's going on in their ex narc's life 🤔. To be set free from the sunken place to me would seem to be reward enough.. 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️. Maybe it's some sort of unhealed trauma-bond... for which I have grace for! I just really pray that all those who are no longer entangled with a narcissist realizes the blessing that has been given them... and not continue to self-inflict by concerning themselves in the least the goings and comings of that demonic spirit. 😓 as long as it ain't coming yo way no mo!!!!!!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Well if you understand what a trauma bond is, you wouldn’t have any of these questions. The results from experience of that other people have in their own lives, goes far beyond the things only YOU can fathom. The reason you can’t fathom, is because it wasn’t YOUR experiece. But there are TONS of other experiences out here, and the way people experience their narc CAN leave them in a state of confusion, even after the abuse cycle physically ends. Do a little research this is actually, NOT uncommon.
@@lelo46 happy Sunday! I'll start with this: I didn't intend for my sentiments to trigger anyone. I actually do understand what a trauma-bond is...I think the people who don't understand itwould likely not even know it as a term to use. Let me reiterate that I have GRACE for those who are still at the point in their healing/ self love to where they are using fruitless energy to keep an eye on their ex narc's affairs with his/her new supply. My prayer is that God will expedite their healing and give them the awareness and wisdom to utilize that same amount of energy into pouring into their own healing. Yes, I am aware of the state of paralyzed mental confusion a narc can leave you in...as I know myself first hand, believe it or not. We all have choices after that. My prayer is that people will realize that after they have been set free, God has given them a second chance to CHOOSE. .... but understand... you STILL have a choice! We can choose to use our energy WISELY. Or (God forbid) remain in the sunken place, stay unhealed, and have a high probability of repeating the SAME choice in attracting the same narc with a different face. Is it easy? No. Is it worth it? Absolutely.
I wouldn't take him back if he was the last richest person on earth. Good luck to the next supply and or victim. Hopefully they'll learn quicker than me 🤣🤣 My kids and I are the happiest we've ever been. It's so lovely to be able to be yourself in your own home!!! Winning 🤎🙌🏾💪🏾
Exactly. We was chilling with my momma, talking and laughing with her as soon as we left he was mad bc we were running a little late and completely changed in the car and smacked the sh*t out of me. Smh
If a someone lays hands on me I'm a knock them back. I never hit my attacker until I just snapped! bad boy got it. And, I said "What have I become?" I hated myself. I knew then I've got to go. This is an emergency to get out of this horrible situation.
I don’t really watch the new supply because pretty much at one time I was the new supplies so I know basically the new supply is getting the same treatment and getting used the same way that I did
I love your content. I can learn easily with your teaching style and REAL LIFE examples. Please keep it coming 😊 Thank you so very much for giving us the information to make the best decisions.
Ty Lee🙏🏼🌹 every word you speak confirms for me why I fell for it allllll.😔 I forgive myself, I see how effective their strategy really is. I was truly defenses down in the beginning. Now we are both Free to Be✨🌹💖 your Honesty is Beautiful
If you are a survivor you should not be entertaining a relationship at all. Why take all that baggage into a new relationship? Heal and allow that person to get the evolved you, rather than start another vicious cycle of a toxic situationship. When you are powerful alone, imagine what type of power you will be bringing to your new journey. Love you God first and love yourself as well.
I still care. I just realized there's no point in sharing that with them. I still have weak moments when I text but I have him and new supply blocked so they would have to call me for it to show up auto-blocked.
Unfortunately when i was in the relationship i had no idea my ex was a narcissist. I can across articles and realised when we had split up after 10 years And trying to co parent our child who was 8 at the time. It was a nightmare. My daughter is 20 now I will have no dealings with him and never will again.
If there's someone who can inspire and support my ex narc to change, I'd definitely would be happy. Deep inside me still hurt, knowing how messy himself inside. How weak and vulnerable even to maintain his anger he's no capability at all.
I think it depends on what happened with the old supply. If the narcissist left the old supply then probably. But if the old supply left then probably not.
Absolutely did not think about how happy he is with her. I think about how horrible he was with me. I had him and he caused so much distressed, he is her problem now. Absolutely they look happy she don't know what she is getting and he hit the jackpot yes he is happy, she clueless. When the honeymoon is over and/or he get bored the real him will come out & he will be planning with the next one. She has no clue he is using her to help him with finances. He called me and told me he needs help financiall because he is behind on his rent. I didn't offer an assistance because he will never squeezing a penny out of me. I blocked him 100% and I have a child with him. He calls his son directly. I do not want to hear any words out of his mouth because when it is moving, he is lying.
Exactly right👍turn it off!! Want to heal, strong boundary’s, few words with them, I’m angry I put up with so much, gave so much, when you are in grief , a sick person suck the life out of you. People like that are pawns of Satan. Nothing good in them. I’ve let mine know It’s over no more bullying, to go find a crazy …itch like him
Not really narcissistic if they believe they’re better… the narcissist manipulates them into believing that. Mine tried doing that to me he kept telling me how much better I was than his ex but I didn’t feel comfortable. I kept telling him stop comparing me to his ex BUT someone with low self esteem may believe the narc BS that they’re better than the ex which helps them drop their guard with the narcissist.
The love bombing is true and sometimes the person that was in it tried to teach out to you. It happened to me and i didn't listen to that person, instead he told don't let anyone get between us
I want to focus on me but he won’t let the divorce finalize. Praying for that day. He supports his new supply financially 100% while fighting me about supporting our kids. That’s what gets me mad. I wish I could avoid seeing and hearing this but have to look at it to prepare for my divorce hearings.
One good thing my Ex & I aren't connected on social media. Only think we have is email, text & phone calls. We don't even have the same friends Except for her family. But I'm not reaching out to them. Let them feel the Loss & pain if they are capable of that!! I treated her like a Queen. In a video she made and sent to me she said Mom Loves you & said You are a Keeper!! Her reply to Mom was Yes but I don't know how to Keep him. She was ALWAYS ALWAYS TRYING. TRYING TRYING! NEVER DOES/DID!!
Lee God is pleased wit yo narcissistic self Mr Handsome at that God truly appreciate you helping others and realizing that you were the narcissist thank you Lee hammock
Thank you this is so true I am really understanding this point that you're making you cannot be happy if you focusing on your ex and if you doing anything to still contact your ex
Lee, THANK YOU SO MUCH I LOVE YOUR SELF AWARNESS THERAPY IT WORKS FOR ME, GREAT JOB CONTINUEIT REALLY, is helping me get through , I AGRRE HE, TRYING THAT MESS NOW
nah I want my exs happy I forgive let go I want them to heal and become better in all ways in their lives but I will never go back I moved away so I can move forward without knowing fresh start
It’s not hard to meet a new supply if you have absolutely no standards. The only criteria is existing/being there and letting them into your life because they can’t be alone. It’s not a reflection on us of who they picked or if they seem happier, it’s all a facade anyways and not a reflection on the survivor. Anything they have is superficial and empty, they can’t even properly define their own emotions. Love is just a word to them, they don’t know what it actually feels like or what it takes and they can mistaken the superficial “rush of a new body” as love. Anyone with two brain cells knows that’s not love. They have the emotional maturity of a 6 year old. Treat them accordingly.
Yep he was dragging me through the mud and I posted pics of smiling after. I also exposed him to the new supply where he was talking about her and her friend but she still stayedddd in contact
I honestly don’t care how my ex is. I walked away and left the madness behind. You win when you heal and start living your life. Let go.
Yes yes
What if u have a kid with him
Well said!! 😊
@@FlatEarthLuvr I don’t have a child with him. So your question doesn’t apply to me. If you have something to say or get off your chest, please feel free to leave your own comment. You don’t know everyone’s situation and I only speak for myself. I say what I mean and I mean what I say. Now Please be respectful of others.
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The narcissist is Happy with the new supply as long as the old supply is suffering! Once the old supply pick themselves up and move along with their life. The new Supply has failed. That’s the cycle ! Then the new supply ! Becomes the old supply! Next !
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So true wow
So, basically it’s a game!!! Ego-maniac.
When the don’t get any supply from you then they begin to take it out on the NS too.
Yup you got that right 👏🏾👏🏾💯
How to know you are over a person is when you don’t even care. Move on these people are just a big waste of time.
The narrative needs to change .. instead getting over shit .. get through it, so you want have to go over or get over anything .. do you get it!
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yeah fr they don't deserve to even think about them
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I think the thing that keeps people stuck is all the betrayal and injustice. We just want to see them fail in the next relationship to validate ourselves.
All I know is that a narcissist is never happy and they always treat the next person worse. It's all pretense even if they seem happy. It's always pretense with the narcissist. I have better things to do than check the fake new marriage with the new supply. She will find out either way. The ex narc was never happy when he was with me, He was not happy with his job, his life. Just messed up person who wants to mess others up.
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Yep!
I played along to his ego, helped him maintain the image for the rest of the world and all it got me was making me look like the crazy one when I couldn't take it anymore. The pictures he painted (and I helped maintain) were so firmly in place that no one believes the reality
No one can ever devalue you unless you allow them not a narcissist or any person can ever devalue you. You know your own value.
“Buckle up”, is the best quote. It is a wild ride watching your X in a new relationship. I’m not sure people are exactly narcissists, maybe it’s selfishness. I wasn’t the nicest person either. At 58, I’ve finally looked in the mirror and saw my contribution to a 16 year toxic relationship. It has been 7 months of me suffering & growing. So in the end, the self awareness is the silver lining. Also I’ve learned to take the good with the bad. We had some great times, though the bad times were WILD.
Thank you for your words of wisdom.
U are 100% correct!!
The bottom line is focus on YOURSELF! Ultimately, it doesn't matter if they are "happy" or not because they intentionally made you miserable! You can only control yourself so that's ALL you need to be concerned about!
😢😢absolutely true!
They are happy until the “new” supply starts catching on. They will suffer MORE than the one before them.
I never understood that... I got worst than the supply before me... so it's not always the case
I couldn't care less who my exnarc has for supply. I was extremely good to him, forgiving, did so much for him, listened to him, etc. He was miserable so much of the time. It doesn't matter who it is because the narc is who they are and no one person can satisfy them.
So very true .. mine had two women at the same time he cheated on me with. Then he finally got a job, so could only do one at a time 😅
They are just evil 😢
I can't believe all this is just so real like. I didn't been through all of this and I'm just blessed that when you know the Lord he will get you out of this situation and just don't. Never look back I know it's hard. It has been hard for me but I have not been with this man in over a year. I gave in just this year and I feel like a fool but. You know what though do not think they can? Outsmart you because it will not happen. They are narcissist ex narcissist this is what they do. When you can't give them what they want and if you don't have a bank account. Big enough for them trust me yes they do move on. I feel like I should be the one that should be talking about on nurses trust me. I hadn't vent through so much it even has something to do with a pregnancies and all twins in all this man tried to leave me for dead no matter what I just got away from him when I got away from me. It took me 6 months to come back to my other Hometown. But you know what though we have a gid and don't you never forget that? The only thing that I asked gotta do and that was take them blinders off my eyes when you ask God to take them blinders off your eyes trust. Me he will and you will be sleeping peaceful at night. You won't have no stress your hair won't be falling out. You won't be losing weight When God tells you to close that door let him go let him go let him go let him go and go let him have him let her think that she. Went in honey trust me in the long run. She will apologize to you. That's if she has a heart and that's the heart that God gives you because he gives you your own conscience stay blessed if you need somebody to talk. To I am here. I love helping people get through this trust me. You will get through it never look back. I may never look back all they ever try to do is hurt you and hurt you over and over again. Tonight be the one that stays do not be the 1 that listens to the lies to seek. They are evil people if you start seeing a faces change their eyes turn black. That is nobody telling you to let go but god it's still hard for me but no matter what I love me enough to love myself to leave
Danielle Morse I'm so over him.. I feel like you I can care less who. Who they? Wanna be with? Who they want to marry who they want in a life who they don't care about as long as it aint me stay out my lane I. Can't stand this man this man just don't know. I had to pray to god so I would not heard him and now my life is so so much peaceful ❤🎉
I’m a Christian so what happened was is that it drew me closer to God closer to reading the Bible and every time I focus on him I have to redirect my mind to the things of God and what God says about me
Thank you for this! Thank you for mentioning God!! I needed to see this
Same here best relationship in the world unlimited talk time and immaculate listening skills ❤
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Amen❤
Same right here. Praise the Lord for his grace. HE is the REDEEMER 🙏🏾
This is so true everyone saw us like a golden couple but behind closed doors there was pain. The new supply is his affair partner
Unfortunately, I can relate. Soo glad that chapter is closed.done.OVER. I have NO clue what’s happening in his life nor do I care; he’s blocked for a reason and my life has been AMAZING ever since I hit that block button. #ILOVEMEANDITSHOWS!
That's what just happened to me. My ex-husband cheated and lied to me and cheated on me, and then he left me for her. She was so happy to "take" him from me. Give it a few months, and he'll be abusing and cheating on her, too.
@@brandiseafler be happy that was 8 months ago I wrote that I’m in a different place mentally and emotionally and been working on myself guess who I saw the day before my birthday and when I saw him i don’t know what I saw in the freak . Work on yourself and trust me soon enough you’ll see thru his toxicity he never loved you and you’re going on to much better things he will be back to hoover I hope you’re strong enough to resist ❤️
Are these people using the same playbook?? This just happened to me as, I kid you not!❤😂
An x of his tried to warn me, while I was in the love bomb stage. I didn't want to hear it. We're friends now 😂
A kid is always happy when it gets a new toy. But it won’t be long before it needs newer toy. Never fulfilled.
I'm at the point now where I don't care what my ex is doing. Still bothered by the fact that she cheated on me with the new supply and I ignored the (in hindsight) *blatantly* obvious signs. So, a bit of anger at myself, at her, and the guy that "I shouldn't worry about."
Frankly, he deserves the shitstorm that's coming his way. He was predatory and manipulative with her while we were together, so he's not innocent here either. Let them make each other miserable. They're not in my life anymore.
The only person I gotta worry about now is *me.* 💪🏻
Mee to I'm so over that uhhhh
Stay strong bro 🦾🦾
My ex narcissists new supply asked me….Why would you let such a great guy go….I tried to warn her but she just kept saying that was his past….But I know that she will find out eventually
I'm sure she's having a great time with her new supply, after all we had a great time in the beginning. Then life and reality kicked in and the stresses of a relationship entered the discussion and we fought and argued. In time she will with her new guy 🤣 I'll never know but i don't think he'll be as forgiving as I was 😊
“Is he happy with the new supply?” I think it’s about time I start focusing on my own happiness and for once stop making it all about him. I already know the stages before the Discard; I lived the movie. This is now the new supply’s turn to be Love Bombed. Same old movie. Same old script. Different actors. Is he happy? IDGAF. The question is: Am I?
I remember when I first asked him to leave and I knew he had someone else my heart was hurting and so broken… that was a year ago… BUT ! Oh my good Lord, I am so thankful God allowed me to GET OUT! Who cares if they are happy, & if they are great , if they are not happy great!!! Just ask long as I’m gone!!!
Good bye and Good riddance to bad rubbish!!! 😊👋🏽
Yes they're happy, just like when you fall in love and then eventually like all relationships goes stale.
Don't focus on other people concentrate on yourself and heal. X
I don’t think they are happy with the new supply if the old supply doesn’t care.. I was the new supply and his ex didn’t care so he started to treat me like crap.
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Mines would leave me and go with other females that he cheated on me with he would tell them I’m crazy I cheated all type of stuff but I can 100 percent confirm I’ve been apologized to by 6 of them saying he’s a nut . And he’s abusive . “ he likes to put his hands on u
Honestly, I stopped caring if he is happy with the next person. I won’t be able to live if I think about who is next and how he is treating her. Thank goodness we have no social media together, live 4 hours away from each other, and my favorite 😍 have no contact with each other. I’ve been living my best life which is all that matters 🥰🥰🥰🥰
Lord I wish I had that lol. We share 4 kids :( he's always going to be the thorn inside my life no matter how much distance
@@melbeldanielle6845 i completely understand you. Wish it was so easy to move on like the people who have no children. The children are a DAILY reminder, and having to still hear the narcs voice time and time again is just triggering in itself.
My ex narc started to get mad because I studied him and his moves…how much lied to me and the other women…how he manipulated everyone to get what he wanted…but mostly he was upset because I brought everything to his attention and he hated that I had figured him out completely and he couldn’t get over on me anymore…so he started to pull away and talk to other women all while trying to reverse hoover me at the same time 😂 needless to say good luck to anyone who’s dealing with him now cause he hasn’t changed anything about himself
Sounds like me! I insulted his new supply choice; "I said you just f&*@ anything don't you?!" He thought he was doing it behind my back. Not only did I call him out; I insulted his choice which was my supposed "friend".
I careless if he's happy. I know he will never be happy. He won't change. All I care is to heal, stay away, and be free. I'm watching Narcissistic video because sadly I just dated and got out of another Narcissistic relationship. I can't believe I got love bomb again and feel for it. Smh, enough is enough. I believe action over words.
If the narcissist is happy with the new person, God bless him. My wish him all the luck in the world
It’s true. I took a beautiful picture with my ex narcissist and literally 5 minutes before he had cursed me out for no reason. Facts!
No hes not happy because hes not a happy person
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Somedays I care and somedays I feel sorry for them. I clearly am early in my healing journey. It is mostly frustrating that they get any happiness when you feel horrible and broken. Meanwhile someone is playing victim and moving on.
I'm so sorry for everything you're going through. Same here. I hope everything goes your way from now on.
I feel what you're going through, seems like I've had one bad thing after another happen to me since I left 5 months ago ... i would call them roadblocks, but it feels more like cinder blocks being chucked at my head most days ... I was also completely unprepared for the amount of grieving I'm going through, what the heck is up with that ...
If you listen to everything that I just wrote. Trust me God got you and he will heal you if he could help me he could help anybody and if it could He old man that's talking to us mister lee didn't trust me you can hear it too
I don't care what the ex narc is doing or who he is with...I WALKED AWAY FROM HEARTACHE NEVER 2 RETURN AGAIN!!!!!
Trust me…they aren’t happy. How can they be happy when they are still begging to come back. It’s so crazy!
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Honestly the new supply is no different than us. It’s a repeat and that’s all it is. Do I wish that my ex Narc some day gets into therapy, heal and find themselves someone who they can authentically love and be happy. Yes. It is what it is. The best lesson I got out of this was for me. I learned so much about myself with that relationship that I love myself first and left, blocked him and moved on. It’s a win for us. I refused to be treated inappropriately. That is a win folks. Vengeance is their thing and you shouldn’t become them. They’d be jealous and envious so you don’t need to become the same person you left. Taking and being on the high road is our win.
Oh my God you so nailed it when they tell you not to go back. Do not go back excuse me when God tell you to leave pharaoh. Please leave him trust me they will leave you dry. They will try to wipe everything from you to your bank account trust me. I've been with. This Man over 5 years it is not worth it. You're freedom you're respect the morals you have for yourself. They are so jealous of you you just don't know
Watching the narc TV is like waiting for them to hit u up... get away from them
Narcissistic people are childish. I dated one that tried to rub his new supply in my face. He wanted to hurt me on purpose. It's surprising how they act after being with you. This is the weirdest guy I've ever seen.
I don't even watch television, so why would I want to watch that sh*t show?!!! 🤣🤣🤣
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Uh just be glad the narcs gone get your strength up for when and if they decide to come back around. Educate yourself on this disorder please! Stay safe out here🙏🏿 keep it hot lee hammock 🔥💯
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Even when they are doings these things for the new supply that was meant really for us, they secretly wished that new supply was you he doing it with.
The mother-effer...
Thank you for your videos and honesty your helping me so much ❤
My narc admitted to stalking my Facebook. Kinda scary but I find it hilarious because I'm happy and she is miserable... Misery loves company, so stay away.
Sooooooooo true Lee! Facade is reality for the narc.
They are happy with a new victim because they are excited for new benefits 😂
Yesss honey
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Ok. more to say.... I watch your videos because they are 100% relatable. Not only do you understand what I might be going through, but you demonstrate to the letter everything about what I experienced in HIM. The exact behavior. And, being so massively insightful to a fault almost into people, I was on to almost all of this anyway. Every video is a complete and total validation for what I was already sensing about him. But even so....my trauma bonding was in full swing to the 100th degree. Ironically, he is studying to be a minister, and he leads conscious communication meet up groups. He is a MASTER as disguise. And what is so sad about this, is that on par with typical narcissists, they are massively unaligned from what they SAY and what they demonstrate and they are 100% completely lacking in self awareness around this. At least he was. It makes me sick because he used NVC as way to "never be wrong", to never ever take accountability for his actions because, he would say, "YOU have to take responsibility for your experience!!! I am not responsible for your experience!!!". This was a massive gaslight!!
I remember telling my ex husband that he let me down. He immediately spun it around on me and said that I was the one who let myself down. No accountability. No remorse. No self awareness. Always your fault. Massive gaslight indeed!
Went from me to his new supply who is a nurse who was presvoisly married for 35 yrs in an abusive relationship. She is on for round 2
Found out about the new supply he got with one month after I ended things with him from a police report… and then saw all the “happy” pics and posts on the new supply’s social media. They can fool everyone else, but not me.
He has to be happy with himself first!!
Hi honey thinking of you I hope you're living your best life and I thank you so much for helping so many people because you speak the truth no chaser and I can't thank you enough for that be true to you
Thank u doing what u do. So true. Focus on u. I love me.
I go to a total different gym.I feel FREE. It feels very good.
Exactly. Don’t waste your time. Women don’t listen until they get hurt too. “They’re just jealous” is what they say
Im very happy that Im free! I know he s coming for me...but no matter what he does or says..IM DONE! Thanks so much for ur help..U saved me!!!❤❤
Thanks lee I really appreciate how you come out to help us understand about the narcissist I am 1 that keep going back because I love him an he help me financially cause I don't have a job I deal with anxiety and ibs it is hard but I know he don't love me I pray that I overcome him an move on with God grace an mercy
Trust me you will Stop giving them your energy stop giving them your energy and stop giving them your power life jus stopit They will suck all your energy out of you and they will suck nothing. But energy straight energy do not give them none of it anymore
Idk if they have one or not. Probably so but I realize that woman is who I was. Of course their happy. We were happy in the beginning too. The mask is up again but as with me it started to come off within 2.5 -3 months. Hopefully he is better to them and learned something but if not then the new woman will start to see the same and get out as I did by month 5. Hopefully it will be quicker for the new woman. That’s reality. Until the person doesn’t get into serious therapy they will never be ok. The biggest thing for us is to look forward and be realistic. Stay on reality even if sometimes you wished it would of worked out and wished they weren’t the way they are. Refocus and remember this is about your health. When I have been tempted to get info or pass by his place, lol I catch myself and quickly tell myself that it not worth it because it wasn’t real. He’s not real.
Lee is so funny. He said I can record all my videos now while waiting on the late client.
Everything I'm hearing says block them. Because simply ignoring, well, they don't know that. You are keeping the clown show going by not blocking. They're loving it.
Just so you know, those stickers I bought....I LOVE them!!!! One is on my water bottle so I see it all day every day, and the other is on my computer. There it is...all the time I LOVE ME!!! YES!! I LOVE ME!! They won't let me forget that! And my tank is on the way. That one says I'm FREE! I can't wait to wear it and have people ask me about it.
I cared for awhile, because they kept shoving it in my face how happy they are. Now, I truely don't care what happens to them in any kind of way. So if they are happy, ok. If not, ok. Im just glad I'm not caught in that craziness anymore.
I'm aware that I can't speak for anyone else.... with that being said...👀
I find it almost impossible to fathom how anyone who has been with a true narcissist could ever...EVERRRR remotely care to any degree what's going on in their ex narc's life 🤔. To be set free from the sunken place to me would seem to be reward enough.. 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️. Maybe it's some sort of unhealed trauma-bond... for which I have grace for! I just really pray that all those who are no longer entangled with a narcissist realizes the blessing that has been given them... and not continue to self-inflict by concerning themselves in the least the goings and comings of that demonic spirit. 😓 as long as it ain't coming yo way no mo!!!!!!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Amen and Amen again!! Lord I thank you for delivering me!!🙏🏾❤️💪🏾🙌🏾
Well if you understand what a trauma bond is, you wouldn’t have any of these questions. The results from experience of that other people have in their own lives, goes far beyond the things only YOU can fathom.
The reason you can’t fathom, is because it wasn’t YOUR experiece. But there are TONS of other experiences out here, and the way people experience their narc CAN leave them in a state of confusion, even after the abuse cycle physically ends. Do a little research this is actually, NOT uncommon.
@@lelo46 happy Sunday! I'll start with this: I didn't intend for my sentiments to trigger anyone. I actually do understand what a trauma-bond is...I think the people who don't understand itwould likely not even know it as a term to use. Let me reiterate that I have GRACE for those who are still at the point in their healing/ self love to where they are using fruitless energy to keep an eye on their ex narc's affairs with his/her new supply. My prayer is that God will expedite their healing and give them the awareness and wisdom to utilize that same amount of energy into pouring into their own healing. Yes, I am aware of the state of paralyzed mental confusion a narc can leave you in...as I know myself first hand, believe it or not. We all have choices after that. My prayer is that people will realize that after they have been set free, God has given them a second chance to CHOOSE. .... but understand... you STILL have a choice! We can choose to use our energy WISELY. Or (God forbid) remain in the sunken place, stay unhealed, and have a high probability of repeating the SAME choice in attracting the same narc with a different face. Is it easy? No. Is it worth it? Absolutely.
@@10ille99 love your explanation, Thank you for expounding. I absolutely agree.
@@lelo46 my pleasure! I pray for God's healing to continue on for both of us! 🙏🏽❤️
I wouldn't take him back if he was the last richest person on earth. Good luck to the next supply and or victim. Hopefully they'll learn quicker than me 🤣🤣
My kids and I are the happiest we've ever been. It's so lovely to be able to be yourself in your own home!!! Winning 🤎🙌🏾💪🏾
Exactly. We was chilling with my momma, talking and laughing with her as soon as we left he was mad bc we were running a little late and completely changed in the car and smacked the sh*t out of me. Smh
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If a someone lays hands on me I'm a knock them back. I never hit my attacker until I just snapped! bad boy got it. And, I said "What have I become?" I hated myself. I knew then I've got to go. This is an emergency to get out of this horrible situation.
I don’t really watch the new supply because pretty much at one time I was the new supplies so I know basically the new supply is getting the same treatment and getting used the same way that I did
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Thanks Lee I needed to here this it helps to hear encouragement like this to remind myself to not keep up with the narcissists lol 👏🏾💯
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It’s no need to tell them anything. They’ll find out. And that’s going to be the most convincing evidence…
Their own. 💯
Oh and they will say to you “why can’t you be happy???”
So narcissistic!
They’re treating you terribly and expect you to be happy.
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so weird.
So true
I love your content. I can learn easily with your teaching style and REAL LIFE examples. Please keep it coming 😊 Thank you so very much for giving us the information to make the best decisions.
Ty Lee🙏🏼🌹 every word you speak confirms for me why I fell for it allllll.😔 I forgive myself, I see how effective their strategy really is. I was truly defenses down in the beginning. Now we are both Free to Be✨🌹💖 your Honesty is Beautiful
Exactly dont look at his social media, block it and out of site ...out of mind..❤
WOW MY SON'S FIRST BIRTHDAY PARTY. PICTURES WAS BEAUTIFUL. ME STANDING UP FOR MYSELF WAS A PSYCHOTIC CHAOS.
I don't get how people torture themselves by watching an ex move forward.... hard can't.
Thank you! I truly enjoy watching you. Good information.
you’re welcome
If you are a survivor you should not be entertaining a relationship at all. Why take all that baggage into a new relationship? Heal and allow that person to get the evolved you, rather than start another vicious cycle of a toxic situationship. When you are powerful alone, imagine what type of power you will be bringing to your new journey. Love you God first and love yourself as well.
I still care. I just realized there's no point in sharing that with them. I still have weak moments when I text but I have him and new supply blocked so they would have to call me for it to show up auto-blocked.
Wish I would’ve seen this around this time last year !! 🥴 but better late than neverrr .
Unfortunately when i was in the relationship i had no idea my ex was a narcissist.
I can across articles and realised when we had split up after 10 years
And trying to co parent our child who was 8 at the time.
It was a nightmare.
My daughter is 20 now
I will have no dealings with him and never will again.
How was and is your relationship with your daughter? Mine is the same age rn.
If there's someone who can inspire and support my ex narc to change, I'd definitely would be happy. Deep inside me still hurt, knowing how messy himself inside. How weak and vulnerable even to maintain his anger he's no capability at all.
I think it depends on what happened with the old supply.
If the narcissist left the old supply then probably. But if the old supply left then probably not.
Went to back burner narc supply after I left and cheating with her the entire time trash 🗑️
Absolutely did not think about how happy he is with her. I think about how horrible he was with me. I had him and he caused so much distressed, he is her problem now.
Absolutely they look happy she don't know what she is getting and he hit the jackpot yes he is happy, she clueless. When the honeymoon is over and/or he get bored the real him will come out & he will be planning with the next one. She has no clue he is using her to help him with finances. He called me and told me he needs help financiall because he is behind on his rent. I didn't offer an assistance because he will never squeezing a penny out of me. I blocked him 100% and I have a child with him. He calls his son directly. I do not want to hear any words out of his mouth because when it is moving, he is lying.
Exactly right👍turn it off!! Want to heal, strong boundary’s, few words with them, I’m angry I put up with so much, gave so much, when you are in grief , a sick person suck the life out of you. People like that are pawns of Satan. Nothing good in them. I’ve let mine know It’s over no more bullying, to go find a crazy …itch like him
I hope so. As long as she forgets about me. I feel bad for him though. She will always be a liar, a cheater and in general a terrible person.
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Yes, heal first! Preach...
Most common thought of new supply. “But I’m different ie better.”
Hello, that’s kinda narcissistic
Not really narcissistic if they believe they’re better… the narcissist manipulates them into believing that. Mine tried doing that to me he kept telling me how much better I was than his ex but I didn’t feel comfortable. I kept telling him stop comparing me to his ex BUT someone with low self esteem may believe the narc BS that they’re better than the ex which helps them drop their guard with the narcissist.
The love bombing is true and sometimes the person that was in it tried to teach out to you. It happened to me and i didn't listen to that person, instead he told don't let anyone get between us
I want to focus on me but he won’t let the divorce finalize. Praying for that day. He supports his new supply financially 100% while fighting me about supporting our kids. That’s what gets me mad. I wish I could avoid seeing and hearing this but have to look at it to prepare for my divorce hearings.
Self love is the best love.
Yes!!
Me answering Lee Hammock’s Titles before I watch the video:
“NO”
Now, let me see what Lee has to say 👀
I don’t care about him and the new supply. I just pray that she keeps him happy until this divorce is finalized. After that I really don’t care.✌🏾
One good thing my Ex & I aren't connected on social media. Only think we have is email, text & phone calls. We don't even have the same friends Except for her family. But I'm not reaching out to them. Let them feel the Loss & pain if they are capable of that!! I treated her like a Queen. In a video she made and sent to me she said Mom Loves you & said You are a Keeper!! Her reply to Mom was Yes but I don't know how to Keep him. She was ALWAYS ALWAYS TRYING. TRYING TRYING! NEVER DOES/DID!!
Yea you are my fave self aware narcissist 💕
No!
At First!
But It Will Never Last.
I was really happy for like a 1 1/2....really, really happy. I kept on asking where is the person I had met, I want dat person bk.
Im watching the Lee TV instead😂 Much better.
Hi Lee ,much love as always from the uk 🥰 x
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Lee God is pleased wit yo narcissistic self Mr Handsome at that God truly appreciate you helping others and realizing that you were the narcissist thank you Lee hammock
Thank you this is so true I am really understanding this point that you're making you cannot be happy if you focusing on your ex and if you doing anything to still contact your ex
you’re welcome
Lee, THANK YOU SO MUCH I LOVE YOUR SELF AWARNESS THERAPY IT WORKS FOR ME, GREAT JOB CONTINUEIT REALLY, is helping me get through , I AGRRE HE, TRYING THAT MESS NOW
That would make for a good TV show
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Wow Lee, I Thank you!
STOP LOOKING..MOVE ON..THEY SHOWED YOU WHO THEY WERE...
nah I want my exs happy I forgive let go I want them to heal and become better in all ways in their lives but I will never go back I moved away so I can move forward without knowing fresh start
It’s not hard to meet a new supply if you have absolutely no standards. The only criteria is existing/being there and letting them into your life because they can’t be alone. It’s not a reflection on us of who they picked or if they seem happier, it’s all a facade anyways and not a reflection on the survivor. Anything they have is superficial and empty, they can’t even properly define their own emotions. Love is just a word to them, they don’t know what it actually feels like or what it takes and they can mistaken the superficial “rush of a new body” as love. Anyone with two brain cells knows that’s not love. They have the emotional maturity of a 6 year old. Treat them accordingly.
Showtime with Narcissists at the Apollo...😂😂😂😂
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Thank you man. Your God sent ❤.
I could careless… glad it’s not me…
I'm glad I don't even care to know lol.
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They was on the 1st floor but it doesn’t make it any better 😆🤣
Leeeeeeee😅🤣
Yep he was dragging me through the mud and I posted pics of smiling after. I also exposed him to the new supply where he was talking about her and her friend but she still stayedddd in contact
Lee u always calm my anxiety